REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 320. Q&AF： Paying Yourself, Instilling Mental Toughness In Your Child & Opportunities At Work

00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realists, say goodbye 0.99

00:00:20.640 to the lies, the thickness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking 0.99

00:00:25.220 reality guys. Today, we have Q and AF. That is where you submit your questions and I give 0.98

00:00:31.980 you the Andy Priscilla answer. All right. This is the personal development segment of

00:00:37.160 the show. This is the part where I share with you how to fucking win. Okay. Because at the 0.99

00:00:44.300 end of the day, all these problems that we see in the world, they all come down to us

00:00:48.000 raising our standards, becoming better and leaving a ripple effect in society that matters.

00:00:52.620 Okay. So this is the personal development format of the show. Then we have CTI sometimes

00:01:00.120 that stands for cruise the internet. That's where we put up three topics on the news. We

00:01:05.160 dissect the truth from them and we make fun of the people who write these articles. And

00:01:10.540 then we identify the problem and talk about the solution. And then, you know, then we have

00:01:15.040 Q and AF like today. So we have problem and solution for CTI. And then we have like in-depth

00:01:19.760 solution here for Q and AF. Then we have real talk. That's where I get on and I just bring

00:01:23.880 you some heat. Uh, if you used to listen to the MS CEO project, we used to call this Thursday

00:01:28.740 thunder. Um, I need to start doing those again because I actually enjoy those and it's like

00:01:32.880 therapy for me. Let's be real. Uh, then we have full length and full length is either where

00:01:37.820 I have, uh, my successful kick-ass, uh, bad-ass friends come on and talk about how you can be

00:01:43.840 bad-ass too, because there are normal humans just like you. Uh, and then we have 75 versus,

00:01:49.100 which is where, uh, people who have successfully completed the 75 hard program, come on and talk

00:01:55.120 about their journey, which I personally enjoy the most out of all the shows. So with that being

00:02:01.760 said, where can they submit their questions? Mr. DJ? Yeah. Oh, thank you. Uh, Mr. Andy and

00:02:06.820 hello children. Um, yeah guys, email, email those questions into ask Andy at Andy for seller.com and

00:02:12.580 they can be about anything. About what? What's anything? No life, no boxes of chocolate. Yeah.

00:02:19.620 Whatever you want. Yeah. All right. That's fine. That's how we do it. Um, let's see. There's a fee

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00:02:55.060 That's really why I don't do it. Um, so yeah, that's the show. Okay. So if you like the show,

00:03:00.020 if it brings you some value, if it teaches you some things that makes you laugh, um, which it will, 0.60

00:03:05.480 because we're funny as fuck, um, please share. All right. So Q and AF, huh? Yeah. Let's, 0.93

00:03:11.580 let's get into it. All right. What's going on? You got three good ones for me. I got some good

00:03:15.580 ones. Got some good ones for you. All right. Uh, Andy, question number one, uh, I've been growing

00:03:21.600 my business for the last four years. Um, and besides paying for the absolute necessities,

00:03:27.380 I've reinvested everything back into my business. We're finally in a comfortable spot. And I was curious

00:03:32.500 when would be an appropriate time for me to start paying myself more than the bare minimum?

00:03:38.520 You'll know when you know, um, if you care about your business and you care about the goals long

00:03:43.600 term and you care about what you're trying to do long term, it's going to become very obvious to

00:03:47.680 you when you should start paying yourself a little bit more. Now people come to this decision,

00:03:54.240 uh, with great anxiety because for me in the beginning of my business, you know, the first three

00:04:00.220 years, we didn't take any money. Um, I'm not saying we didn't take a dollar. Like we might've

00:04:04.800 went and bought McDonald's or something. Right. But it wasn't like we were getting paid. Right. Um,

00:04:10.780 then for the next, uh, seven years, we made $695 a month. Okay. For $58,000 total for the first 10

00:04:20.900 years. Um, and that sounds pretty bad, uh, because it was pretty bad and I was pretty bad. And you should

00:04:27.580 take this as an indicator that you were probably smarter than me. Um, and if I can do all this

00:04:33.020 crazy shit, this is kind of the premise of the whole fucking thing. Yeah. All right. I'm an idiot 1.00

00:04:36.400 and I figured it the fuck out. So I'm pretty confident that you could figure it out too. 1.00

00:04:40.660 Uh, but I could, I had a lot of anxiety that 11th year when I went to pay myself something that was

00:04:45.900 appropriate. And what people miss is during that year, five, six, seven, eight, nine,

00:04:52.320 nine, we could have paid ourselves, but we chose to reinvest. And so when I tell the story,

00:04:58.700 sometimes it sounds like, Oh, we were feeling so bad. Struggling for 10 years straight. And some,

00:05:04.180 you know, and just like everybody, uh, we like to make our story sound a little bit better.

00:05:08.880 And, you know, sometimes I forget to mention that, you know, in year six, seven, eight, nine,

00:05:13.560 10, we were reinvesting heavily and foregoing paying ourselves to get our business up and running.

00:05:20.540 And that's a very important detail that I need to be better about sharing because it's the truth.

00:05:24.640 Yeah. And, um, like knowing that you could have took more. Yes. And that's very important for

00:05:29.540 people to understand. Cause a lot of people will ask me, they're like, well, how'd you open 10

00:05:33.040 stores in 10 years if you didn't get paid? Well, that's how I did it. So, uh, so you have to

00:05:40.480 understand that, you know, any money that you take personally, um, is money that you're not investing

00:05:46.700 your business and it's growth that your competitor may possibly be getting over you. Um, with that

00:05:52.880 being said, there's a quality of life aspect to this, like how long and how willing are you to do

00:06:02.100 without to achieve your goal? I think that's the ultimate question here. Um, personally looking

00:06:08.660 back, um, I think, I mean, looking back from where I'm at now, because I've sort of achieved all my

00:06:16.380 financial goals that I ever really set for myself, um, at 42, which is weird, but anyhow, um,

00:06:25.260 when I look back and I look at like, you know, I look at all the cool things and I look at like

00:06:30.640 this company and I look at, uh, you know, the cool shit I've been able to experience the, the, 0.99

00:06:36.320 the properties that I've had, the cars have had and all, you know, all the shit you guys 0.99

00:06:40.220 think is the, the thing. That's not the thing at all. Um, the thing, the thing that ultimately is 0.96

00:06:46.920 for me, um, and has become for me is, is a finishing a project that I set out to do. Yeah. And, um,

00:06:54.860 when I walked through my garage and, and I noticed these material things, I mean, yes, I think they're

00:07:01.140 cool, but I could easily do without all of them. If I could still come to work every day,

00:07:06.320 and invest and put in. And so what I'm trying to get, get you to understand is don't be in a hurry

00:07:13.840 to go to the material shit because it's cool temporarily. And you, what, what will happen 0.87

00:07:20.360 is you'll come back to the project and you'll start to find motivation and inspiration in the

00:07:26.800 project. Like for me, my motivation and inspiration is to help build careers and amazing,

00:07:36.160 lives for people who have helped me build an amazing career in life. Right. And there's a lot

00:07:41.780 of people in this building. There's 400 people here on any given day, um, that I am obligated to,

00:07:48.060 to help create these paths. And I personally wouldn't, I would trade all my material shit 0.98

00:07:54.260 to be able to complete that project. And I guess what I'm trying to say in a very long winded way is 0.96

00:08:01.180 don't be in a hurry to take the most money that you can. And, and I think the longer that you can

00:08:06.860 live below your means, um, and be really, really happy and okay with that, uh, the more successful

00:08:13.000 you'll be in business. Yeah. That's real. Yeah. Because dude, look, um, the,

00:08:18.940 once you're past a certain point of being able to do certain things, all the rest of the shit is 0.99

00:08:29.420 diminishing returns. When I could go to dinner with my team and my friends or whoever and float 0.95

00:08:36.620 the bill and not like literally care, like if it was $800, I didn't give a fuck that everything above 0.97

00:08:42.960 that every car, every house, every fucking private jet, all the cool shit that I've been able to 0.98

00:08:49.120 experience. It's just cool shit, man. Like, and I can, it's not, it doesn't define me. So you have 1.00

00:08:56.040 to understand that if you can be the entrepreneur who lives below, and by the way, I still live way

00:09:02.540 below my means, um, believe it or not. Uh, and that's another thing I would set a rule,

00:09:09.060 like set your rule. You know, um, my rule has always been fun shit for me is 10% of my income. 0.95

00:09:16.760 That's the, that was going to be my followup. Okay. It's like, like, should we attach that 0.97

00:09:19.840 percentage? So, so I've always learned to live on 10% of my income. I still follow that rule.

00:09:26.320 Right. Okay. People think about like, well, how the fuck is that possible? Yeah. Well, I mean,

00:09:30.300 that's what happens when you're running a business that's, that gets to a certain skit. That's why

00:09:35.540 you want to continue to invest. Right. Because eventually you'll be able to live the amazing

00:09:39.940 life that you want on a, on a small percentage of your income. And you will be very comfortable

00:09:45.820 living that life and you're not stressing. You're not like, you don't feel like a fraud. You don't

00:09:50.060 feel like you're faking it. You don't feel like, you know, cause I felt like that before everybody

00:09:54.040 feels like that. You know what I'm saying? So if you, if you are responsible, it's just like

00:09:58.700 with 75 heart, when you do all the shit that you know, you're supposed to do, it makes you feel 0.89

00:10:02.500 good. Right. So when you're living below your means and you're investing in the things, 0.98

00:10:06.160 you know, um, that are going to pay off later, that's the right way to do it. And you can have

00:10:12.520 a lot of peace operating your business that way. Yeah. You know what I mean? It's just fucking

00:10:17.160 as genius. Cause you're not, you're not increasing the percentage for yourself. You're just increasing 0.98

00:10:21.240 the fucking pie. Well, yeah, but, but, but that's, there's two kinds of people. Yeah. There's 0.99

00:10:25.860 people who try to increase the percentage because they haven't grown the thing properly. And

00:10:31.020 eventually they get themselves in a bind because what happens is they start making decisions inside

00:10:35.820 their business to accommodate their needs for their income. Right. And that's when they're in

00:10:41.740 really deep shit. Right. Like they need, you know, they need 30 grand to pay the rest of their bills 1.00

00:10:47.240 off this month. So they run a sale on fucking the 29th of every month. Right. That is a trap you 0.98

00:10:53.040 cannot get out of. So don't start. And I think a lot of people allow themselves to be pressured,

00:10:58.100 especially with Instagram, um, you know, where you have all these younger kids who are 1.00

00:11:03.740 fucking, you know, lying about how much money they make and trying to act like they're big baller shit 1.00

00:11:09.640 at 22 years old. And it really fucks the younger generation's mind up because they make, they think 1.00

00:11:15.080 like they're wasting their time building something real. Right. Um, when in reality, those people will

00:11:22.260 expire. And if you're investing in a real business, even if you're going door to door to door,

00:11:28.000 right now, like I used to have to do, which is basically the way every business starts in 10, 1.00

00:11:32.760 15 years from now, those fucking people who were making you feel stupid aren't there. You won't 1.00

00:11:38.700 even remember their names. Right. You won't even remember who the fuck they were. Like I have,

00:11:42.440 I can remember so many people making fun of me when I was building my, when Chris, when it was just

00:11:49.060 Chris and I, and we were running the stores, making fun of me because we were, uh, you know,

00:11:54.880 we weren't making any money and we were doing it for five or six years. And people were like, bro,

00:11:59.320 when are you going to like, really like stop this as a fairy tale, you know, real job. Right. You

00:12:04.440 know? And, and dude, you know, those things to this day still drive me. Like I still am driven by

00:12:10.680 those things. So I'm glad they happen. And I hope they happen to you too. So that they continue to

00:12:15.440 drive you. Yeah. Um, and they will, because most people can't believe in anything before they see

00:12:20.600 the end product. Yeah. Like people still, people still, when I say, Hey, this is what we're going

00:12:25.060 to do. They still look at me and they're like, Oh, okay. It's like, all right, dude, well, what have

00:12:28.920 I not done that I said I was going to do? Right. Right. Right. Maybe, maybe it takes me a little

00:12:35.120 longer. Maybe it's not as pretty as I say, it's going to be to get there, but we're fucking getting 0.96

00:12:39.840 there. Yeah. You know? And that's the mentality you have to have. Yeah. So one final little follow up. 0.96

00:12:44.980 So what was that, what was that first like real payment to yourself? Like, because you said it,

00:12:50.180 like there was a sense of anxiety there. 12 years in, I bought a Lamborghini. Yeah. So first 10

00:12:55.400 years I made 58 grand 11th year. I made six figures 12th year. I made seven figures. I bought

00:13:01.380 a Lamborghini. Yeah. Fuck. Yeah. Yeah. That's awesome. Yeah. I figured that was an appropriate

00:13:07.880 reward for 10 years of no fucking pay for sure. Okay. For sure. Well, why do you, I'm sorry, 0.99

00:13:14.320 but why, where do you think the anxiety really comes from though? Like what? Well, because do you know,

00:13:19.420 you put like your fucking 12 years in, you know, you put the work in. Here's the other 0.99

00:13:22.260 thing for two years. I owned the fucking car. I didn't let anybody know I owned it because 1.00

00:13:28.380 I was embarrassed. Right. I come from a place in life of just regular people. Right. And

00:13:35.280 I know what regular people fucking say about, about that kind of shit. Like I know exactly 1.00

00:13:40.020 what they say. Cause I've been sitting there when other people drive by and that kind of shit. 0.99

00:13:44.340 And they're like, Oh, look at this fucking guy. And I'm sitting here thinking like, well, 0.99

00:13:47.520 that's going to be me, bitch. You know? And, uh, and you know, so, uh, I was very lucky to have 0.99

00:13:54.480 some really good employees. My, uh, Mike Taylor and Kyle Combs. Uh, I can remember we were sitting

00:14:00.500 at Helen's one night and they brought that we were sitting up at Helen Fitzgerald's and we were having

00:14:04.500 a couple of beers and this is like, you know, they were like, bro, I got it. There was a Lamborghini,

00:14:09.580 uh, right in front of me on the way here. And he showed me the video. I'm like, Oh, that's cool.

00:14:13.820 And I go, I got Lambo. And I finally, cause I had a couple of beers. I told him and they were like,

00:14:17.680 no fucking way. And I'm like, yeah. And bro, they loved it so much that it gave me permission. 0.99

00:14:23.660 It took an embarrassment feeling away. Yes. And what I re and then I had a conversation with my,

00:14:28.420 my business friend, um, who also drove, uh, he drove nice cars. And I said, Hey dude, like,

00:14:35.500 what do you do with employees that like hate on you for that shit? And he goes, 1.00

00:14:38.440 do you really want employees that hate success? And I'm like, no, I don't. Yeah. And it changed

00:14:44.760 my perspective. So, you know, there's a growing process there. Yeah. You know, now I know everywhere

00:14:50.360 I go, like if I'm driving one of my cars and I pull up somewhere, I know there's a percentage of

00:14:56.920 people who are inspired. And I know there's a percentage of people who are like, fuck that guy. 1.00

00:15:01.340 And you know what? I'm not here for the fuck that guy people. I'm here for the people that are 1.00

00:15:05.560 inspired. Fuck. Yeah. And I mean, that, that's very, very, uh, evident here, especially cause 1.00

00:15:10.340 you go in the parking lot here. We got a nice parking lot. It's a nice fucking parking lot.

00:15:13.480 Everybody here. Most of the people here, you know, like not because it's no longer just you 0.99

00:15:17.460 with your car, right? You know what's cool, bro? You know what's cool is a lot of those people with

00:15:21.340 those, you know, 70, 80, 90, a hundred thousand dollar vehicles sit on the fucking lot. They started 0.99

00:15:26.460 here at the fucking very beginning. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? And, and, you know, 0.99

00:15:30.420 we got guys here who are buying million dollar houses, like that shit in million, million 0.99

00:15:34.780 dollar houses, like 5 million in California. Right. That's a fucking house. Yeah. So I 0.99

00:15:38.900 mean like, you know, um, you know, I guess a million dollar house doesn't sound as cool

00:15:44.940 as it used to, but I mean, we throw in the Putin price. Huh? Yeah. But you guys get what

00:15:51.520 I'm saying. They're buying adult houses. Yeah. Like not fucking little crackerjack houses.

00:15:55.660 These are like nice ass fucking, I'm a grown adult, badass fucking places to live. Fuck 1.00

00:16:01.420 yeah. Yeah. We just happen to live in Missouri. Yeah. So where it's not, it's just cool to 1.00

00:16:05.980 see the ripple effect of inspiration, man. You know what I'm saying? It's cool shit to

00:16:09.660 see. Look, dude, I got respect for anybody that, that is willing to go and put themselves 0.99

00:16:15.260 through that period of time where everybody's laughing and everybody's criticizing and everybody's

00:16:20.860 questioning. Um, and everybody's making fun of you. And, and you know, a lot of you guys,

00:16:26.540 you don't understand where I come from when I get intense and I get angry and like, start

00:16:32.260 like talking about like, listen, that all, all that, that intensity that I have that first

00:16:38.840 of all, it comes from a place of love. I want you to fucking win. But second, it comes from 0.99

00:16:42.860 a place of reality because I know what it takes to win and it's really fucking hard. And it might 0.82

00:16:47.640 appear that like, for me, it might appear easy, but you got to understand I'm surrounded 0.98

00:16:51.520 by fucking, um, dude, everywhere I look 10 deep, I'm surrounded by hardworking winner 1.00

00:16:58.000 motherfuckers. Right. So the only reason it looks easy for me now is because I paid those 1.00

00:17:02.320 dues for 20 something years. Right. You know what I mean? And easy is still relative. Yeah.

00:17:07.420 And this, no, yeah, it's very, you know what I'm saying? That's right. The problems you,

00:17:10.480 you never get rid of your problems. They just change. Right. And, um, you know, I would rather

00:17:16.520 have the problems I have now than that. And bro, you're with me every day. You know,

00:17:20.160 like there's days where I fucking melt the fuck down, dude. And you know, I would love 0.98

00:17:25.120 to sit here and pretend like I'm one of these other guys that pretends like I'm all fucking 0.91

00:17:29.720 collected all the time and this and that. But like, dude, look, I'm a human. Like I lose 0.69

00:17:33.740 my temper sometimes. Sometimes I say shit that I don't mean. The one thing, the one good thing 0.99

00:17:38.580 about me is that I'll think about it for, for the next, however long it takes until I realize

00:17:43.380 if I was actually wrong or right. And you know what I do when I realized I was wrong?

00:17:46.900 I apologize. You know what I do when I realized I was right? I go and I say, Hey bro, look,

00:17:51.380 I went too hard on you. Um, but here's the point. We still got this. Yeah. And, and, and so dude,

00:17:56.660 you know, I'm working to be better every single day. Um, and it's hard. It's hard for anybody

00:18:01.600 that's working to be better in any, in any regard. But if you're out there trying to build a

00:18:04.920 business and you're at that beginning level and you're just starting to get paid,

00:18:08.760 um, I would proceed with caution. You know what I'm saying? Treat yourself a little bit,

00:18:14.180 maybe go on a trip. Maybe, maybe, um, you know, maybe you upgrade your car from, uh, you know,

00:18:21.440 your, your X payment to, you know, double that payment or something like, dude, but don't go 0.97

00:18:26.620 fucking crazy. You know what I'm saying? Like you, your equity and your big payoff in life is going to 0.96

00:18:33.040 be that those companies that you're building. So make sure that you're watering and nurturing and taking

00:18:38.320 care of those by investing properly in them. And that means that you get to go along with less.

00:18:43.780 Listen, dude, some of the best times of my life came from those times I'm talking about,

00:18:48.540 you know, the, the strongest bonds I have with people are with the people that were with me 0.98

00:18:53.880 during those first 15 fucking years. You know what I'm saying? And 10 years from now, 0.98

00:18:58.960 it'll be from the people that are around me now. Right. You see what I'm saying? Those things just

00:19:02.840 take time to happen, but they're worth the struggle. And so don't get caught up in the, uh,

00:19:08.320 and I got to have material. I love material shit. It's a great motivator. Okay. But don't get 0.99

00:19:13.440 caught up in trying to keep up with some other motherfucker who stretched himself in to appear 0.99

00:19:18.000 a certain way for other people. You see, proceed with caution. You'll know when you'll know. 0.99

00:19:24.260 That's real, man. All right. Question number two, Andy, uh, with all the shit going on,

00:19:29.300 uh, the attacks on our children, um, the question is how would you go about instilling mental 0.99

00:19:35.280 toughness and discipline in children in today's world? Well, you know, the power list is a great

00:19:43.340 tool that, uh, you guys can learn about on episode 16. It's called when the day, uh, and I also make

00:19:49.360 a little product for kids, uh, that's a kid's power list. Okay. And it's basically a way to teach

00:19:54.840 your kids how to attack goals. Um, I think that is an excellent way to start your kids, even when

00:20:03.320 they're young, because what kids fundamentally have to understand is that what you invest,

00:20:08.280 you will get out and put out. Yeah. Right. Input output. One plus one equals two. They're going

00:20:13.880 to go to school and they're going to go to high school and they're going to hear all these theories

00:20:18.200 about how the world's unfair and it is, but it's, it's, it's unfair. It's the most unfair,

00:20:25.200 fair place in the world. Yeah. It's not how they think it is. That's right. Is it unfair? Yes,

00:20:29.880 it is. If you do nothing, but if you put in, you will get out and that's a reality. All right.

00:20:35.380 And there's too many experiences, too many testimonies, too many examples to ever argue

00:20:41.540 that. Okay. I could sit here. You could, if you want to sit in this chair, anybody and tell me

00:20:47.480 about your victim story, I will be able to dissect and point out where you could have went differently.

00:20:52.080 All right. And where you could go differently from here. So I'm not a buyer of the victim

00:20:56.820 bullshit. All right. So the point is, I think the biggest thing parents need to do is they need to 0.99

00:21:04.140 take, uh, seriously the idea of investing in their children at the base concept that you could be

00:21:12.820 literally anything you want and you can accomplish anything you want. If you are willing to invest.

00:21:20.520 Okay. Into the inputs that produce the outputs. Yeah. And that's why I started writing children's

00:21:27.800 books. That's why I made the, uh, the children's powerless, uh, journal because these things matter

00:21:34.500 to instill into your children before they get into our school system. If you were still planning on

00:21:40.180 sending them to our school system. So if I were sending my kids to a public school system,

00:21:47.600 I would make sure that the fundamental truths that we hold in our family are understood and that that

00:21:56.540 child understands that when they go to school, they're going to hear this and this and this,

00:22:01.040 and those things may have some validity and they may not have some validity. All right. There's a lot

00:22:07.120 of freedom and gray area in the way our kids are taught right now, which is why you're seeing people 0.99

00:22:12.120 lose their shit about it. Right. But at the end of the day, it's up to the parents to teach the kids 0.99

00:22:17.020 the basic things. And so I think if you really want to take the output of your kids becoming

00:22:22.220 great people, seriously, you have to develop the base before they ever get into the school.

00:22:28.600 Yeah. And that's, that's on you. So that's what I would recommend, man. That's real. Yeah.

00:22:33.500 I also think parents need to start whooping their fucking kids' ass now. Well, you know, 1.00

00:22:36.960 I always say, you know, if I ever have kids, it's going to be just so I can beat them.

00:22:43.660 Write a letter to somebody. I don't give a fuck. 1.00

00:22:46.660 Dude, that's real. My mom told me when I was younger, man, she said, I whoop your ass so the 1.00

00:22:49.820 world don't have to. And like, I mean, it didn't really make sense until I got a lot older, but 0.98

00:22:53.880 it's real shit, man. Real shit. That's awesome. All right. Let's move on to our third and final 1.00

00:22:58.540 question. Question number three, Andy, I've been with my current employer for about three months now.

00:23:05.680 Some of my coworkers have a negative attitude and energy about management. They're constantly

00:23:12.340 complaining and making negative remarks. I don't want to be consumed by the negativity or contribute

00:23:17.880 to the problem. What's your advice on how to respond to these remarks since I'm new to the

00:23:22.540 company and don't have the same perspective as them? Well, you know, when you're new to the company

00:23:28.300 and you, I guess you're having like established employees, like be cancerous to them. A little bit.

00:23:33.120 Yeah. Is that what it is? I'm complaining about management, complaining about fucking.

00:23:37.640 Yeah. Well, you have to understand and be an adult that there's always going to be things 0.99

00:23:42.440 that people don't like about their job and people's propensity is to bitch. And in most 0.99

00:23:48.520 workplaces, uh, cancer goes unregulated and tolerated, which is why the culture of most

00:23:54.600 companies is terrible and why most companies don't produce. Yeah. Okay. So I would look at that

00:24:01.660 situation from two lenses. One, I would understand that there's going to be people even in the most

00:24:08.520 well-run organizations on the planet that are still like that. Okay. No one's ever going to be

00:24:14.700 pleased with every single aspect of what they have to do for a living. Yeah. Like there's things I have

00:24:20.140 to do every single day that I don't like. Okay. Um, there that's going to be reality, but the greater

00:24:26.040 good of, do I love my life or not is, is, you know, we're talking about, I got to do 5%, you know, 0.99

00:24:34.540 shit. I don't like to have 95% of the ultimate dream life. Exactly. And that's the reality for most 0.97

00:24:40.400 people. And most people amplify their negatives to a point where it's all they focus on and all they

00:24:47.440 hear. So they feel upset. And so you have to sort of understand human nature before you get riled up

00:24:54.240 about something like that. The second lens I would look through is like, Hey, there's an opportunity

00:24:58.960 here. Okay. Because, uh, the opportunity is these people don't like being here. They're not willing to

00:25:04.940 do what needs to be done here. I can do what needs to be done here. And if you're in the right place,

00:25:09.240 you'll be recognized for that. And you'll move along, uh, at a reasonable pace. Um, so if I'm new

00:25:16.640 and a new company and some people that come to me and they say this and this and this and this, 0.98

00:25:20.280 and this, I look at them, I'm like, okay, losers. Like, Oh, I'm going to go fucking win. 0.99

00:25:24.280 Right. And that's where I, that's how I operate. Like, I don't, I don't listen to people. I don't 0.99

00:25:30.320 take, I have to, this is good and bad, by the way, I don't listen to people and I have to learn the

00:25:35.040 hard way. Right. Um, or I don't listen to people and I have to find out for myself. Yeah. And sometimes

00:25:40.500 that's good. Sometimes that's bad, but I certainly am not going to adopt the mindset of some weak

00:25:46.440 minded people and some people who lack gratitude and appreciation for the best things in their life

00:25:51.720 and join them. Right. Like that doesn't make sense. Right. You know? So I would say, you know,

00:25:56.840 maybe don't entertain it. Just fucking keep the mouth shut when that shit comes to you and move 1.00

00:26:01.500 along. Definitely don't contribute to it. Then, uh, you know, if you're brand new, you might not want 1.00

00:26:06.000 to be abrasive and say, Hey, blah, blah, blah. But you know, if it continues, maybe you say, Hey,

00:26:09.620 look, dude, I'm here to win and they'll leave you alone. You won't hear it no more. Right. Like if you look

00:26:14.100 someone in the face who's complaining and say, Hey, look, dude, I don't care. I'm here to fucking 0.99

00:26:16.820 win. They will leave you alone. Yeah. Like it's that simple. Yeah. Like, dude, when people don't 1.00

00:26:22.380 bitch to me, you know why? Because I'm going to say that. Yep. I'm going to say, Hey, you know what? 1.00

00:26:27.780 I didn't like that a bird shit on my fucking car this morning, but I'm here to fucking win. 0.99

00:26:32.240 You know what I'm saying? Did you get your shit done? Yeah. So, so that's how we got to, you know, 1.00

00:26:37.200 we've got to, we've got to understand that people are going to cry. People are going to bitch. Uh, but sometimes 0.76

00:26:43.060 and especially, and I'll give this, you know, this is a really good point. I think for anybody

00:26:48.620 taking a new job, because a lot of people are doing so right now is that there is a lot of people who

00:26:55.800 are just not helpful in the workplace. And if you work, if you move into a company and you're brand

00:27:02.580 new and you can figure out how to be helpful very fast, you will, you will, you will come in hot.

00:27:08.940 Okay. And you will stand out. What you don't want to do when you're taking a new position

00:27:13.920 is to come in, do what everybody else does and get lost in the shuffle. Right. And then when you

00:27:20.780 finally figure out what's what, you know, you start to like say, okay, well, I'm going to work

00:27:25.480 a little harder. And then you stand out. Well, well, dude, people can get lost for two or three

00:27:29.380 years in the fucking shuffle. Right. You don't want to do that. So when you're new, you have an 1.00

00:27:34.700 opportunity to really stand out because you're new. And my advice to anybody who's new at any

00:27:40.900 position anywhere is to totally ignore people like that and do whatever the fuck it is that is 0.96

00:27:48.040 required of you the best you possibly can, because the management is probably aware of those people. 0.96

00:27:53.820 And if you can jump ahead of them by just making them look shitty, by outworking them,

00:27:58.780 that benefits you. Yeah. So that's the opportunity there. You want to move fast

00:28:03.080 and you want to utilize the natural recognition that you're going to have just from being new.

00:28:09.180 You want to leverage that to your benefit so that you can maybe jump two or three places

00:28:14.140 ahead very fast instead of getting caught in the riffraff because you're hanging with the riffraff.

00:28:20.900 Right. You know what I'm saying? Like I would definitely wouldn't eat lunch with those people.

00:28:24.280 No, I wouldn't sit with those people. I wouldn't hang around those people. I wouldn't be seen talking

00:28:28.380 to those people because, dude, the truth is the upper management fucking knows. Like, you know, 0.99

00:28:34.480 you know who the fucking people are. You know who the cancers are. You know who the who the 1.00

00:28:39.840 clicks are. The melancholy people are. You know who the enthusiastic people are. You know, you know,

00:28:45.640 as the owner, the owner knows unless he's like in Florida every fucking day. All right. But whoever's 0.99

00:28:50.760 on site running shit knows. So when you're a new employee and you make those people your friends, 0.99

00:28:58.380 you automatically get lumped in with those people. So the best way to navigate a new job

00:29:02.960 is that when people come and fucking complain to you about the shit when you're brand new and try 1.00

00:29:06.640 to suck you in, stay the fuck away from them. Like go the other way, even if it means you're doing 1.00

00:29:11.080 shit on your own. Yeah. Because the last thing you want to do is get lumped in with them. And then 0.99

00:29:15.260 the management see you as just a body as opposed to an asset. Yeah. Or he cleans houses. And

00:29:20.520 because you have no equity, you're gone. Well, whatever the fuck that meant. 0.98

00:29:25.340 What I'm saying? Like he fires the fucking little cancer cell. That was the most confusing 1.00

00:29:28.420 analogy ever. Hey, look, we just, whatever you meant there, I'm sure it made sense to you. But

00:29:34.520 like, no, if like the owner cleans, like if he fucking fires all those fucking people and 0.99

00:29:39.120 because you were lumped in that, you're gone now too. Yeah. You have no equity. You didn't put no value 0.99

00:29:43.160 in it. That's right. You know what I'm saying? So yeah, you're gone too. I thought you would die.

00:29:46.720 Guys, Andy, that's three, man. That's three. Go pay the fee. All right, guys. I'll see you later.

00:29:54.720 Yeah. Went from sleeping on the floor. Now my jewelry box froze. Fuck a pole. Fuck a stole. 1.00

00:30:00.680 Counted millions in the code. Bad bitch. Booted swole. Got her on bankroll. Can't fold. Doesn't know. 1.00

00:30:07.360 Headshot. Case closed.

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - June 27, 2022

320. Q&AF： Paying Yourself, Instilling Mental Toughness In Your Child & Opportunities At Work

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - June 27, 2022

320. Q&#x26;AF： Paying Yourself, Instilling Mental Toughness In Your Child &#x26; Opportunities At Work

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320. Q&AF： Paying Yourself, Instilling Mental Toughness In Your Child & Opportunities At Work