In this episode of the Real Talk Project, I talk about why you should not be jealous of other people's success and why you have to root for other people no matter who is getting it. It's not about trying to smash other people, it's about managing your own intentions through your feelings for others.
00:00:00.000What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realest, say goodbye to the lies, the thickness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality.
00:00:26.080Guys, today we are going to do something that I haven't done in a while. We're going to give you a real talk episode.
00:00:33.140If you listen to the MFCEO project, it's going to kind of remind you of Thursday Thunder. All right.
00:00:41.680Before I get into it, we have a fee for the show. If you like the show, share the show. That's it.
00:00:46.780That's that's all I'm going to say, because if you listen to show regular, you understand.
00:00:50.380If you don't, you should. And you'll figure out what the fee is.
00:00:53.800But I want to get into this because I think it's important. It's something that's on my heart and it's something that I think a lot of you younger people, especially in business, need to understand.
00:01:05.500And what it is, is it's managing your own intentions through your feelings for other people.
00:01:13.920OK, and what I mean by that is this, you know, every time I go speak, I spend, you know, lots of my years of my life public speaking.
00:01:23.160I don't do it as much anymore, but I do it occasionally still.
00:01:28.180And every time I get in a Q&A scenario, I always get these questions about haters or how to deal with haters.
00:01:36.560And I want you to understand something.
00:01:39.180I want you to understand that the reason that you feel like everybody hates you is because you hold resentment for other people and their success in your heart.
00:01:50.860That's it. OK, you look at other people and you feel a little bit jealous sometimes.
00:01:56.720And this is natural. I'm not criticizing.
00:01:58.580I want you to understand and be aware of this because it is counterproductive to your success.
00:02:03.700All right. When you look at someone and you say, man, that guy's got it all or that girl's got it all or they're killing it or they're this and that and this.
00:02:13.080And you feel jealous about it. That is a that is a feeling and that is an intent that will keep you from getting where it is you want to go.
00:02:22.200All right. It is extremely important for you to understand that how you feel about other people's success when you see it, whether these people are close to you, whether they're competitors of yours, whether they're friends of yours, whether they are mortal enemies of yours.
00:02:40.840It does not matter. If you want success in your life, you have to root for success, no matter who is getting it.
00:02:51.100OK, because the way the universe works and the way this world works is that it rewards your intent in your heart.
00:03:00.060So when I say to you, like I say often that if you want success, you have to wish success on other people.
00:03:08.380And that goes in the combination of having a good plan, working the plan, working hard for a long time.
00:03:15.320All the principles that I've talked about regarding success over the last decade, it involves all of those.
00:03:22.400But the one that you guys consistently screw up and cross your own feet up and trip yourself up on is this idea of haters and intent and the intent around other people's success.
00:03:36.040When you look at someone who's winning and you get jealous, even in your heart, even a little bitty bit, what you're telling the universe is I don't like winning.
00:03:47.360Listen, the universe doesn't know that that guy is your competitor. It doesn't know that that girl is your competitor.
00:03:53.460The universe doesn't know that you want to smash this person. OK, the universe just knows that when you look at them, you feel bad.
00:04:01.620All right. And when you look at them and you feel bad and you put the intent out in the world, the world returns that intent because what it what it hears from you is I don't like winning.
00:04:12.040I don't like success. I don't like kicking ass. OK, so you have to understand that business, while it is highly competitive, you have to understand that the way you keep it competitive in a healthy way is by looking at people who are doing the things that you want to do with the attitude of, well, that's great that they're able to do that.
00:04:37.300Now I know how to do it and I can also improve upon that. And then you take the actions in your own right, in your own company, in your own business plan to improve and move forward.
00:04:50.000This is how champions win. Champions do not win by trying to smash other people or trying to step on other people or trying to hold other people back.
00:05:00.660OK, that is a misconception that people get caught up in when they think about competition, because there are winners and there are losers when it comes to an exact battle.
00:05:12.140Like if there's a wrestling match, right, there's a person who wins and there's a person who loses that exact match.
00:05:18.300But each battle day by day by day, each match day by day by day are what cumulatively make up our overall wins in life.
00:05:28.580So this would be the equivalent of you going into a wrestling match and winning your match, but still being thankful and appreciative that that person who gave you a really hard match that they tested you and that they helped you improve and that they taught you how to be a better wrestler because they were so skilled themselves.
00:05:49.300And when you're in business and when you're in success, when you appreciate these qualities about people that you are in competition with, this is how you learn.
00:05:59.020This is how you improve. And this is also how you win without having a heavy heart or a heavy conscience.
00:06:06.200And this is very important. OK, there's a lot of people out there and a lot of you maybe that don't even fucking like me.
00:06:13.480You guys look at the life I have and you say, man, fuck that guy.
00:06:17.780Or you hear what I say in my opinions. You say, fuck that guy.
00:06:21.400That's fine. But you have to understand that in my heart and the way I am, I will sit down with you and I would help you fucking figure out the hardest problem in your life because I want you to win.
00:06:34.220Even if you were my worst enemy, even if you were someone who competed with me and you could ask the people I've competed with, because the people I compete with, when they call me up on the phone, I'm a friendly, helpful voice and they're confused by it a lot of times.
00:06:48.520And a lot of times they think I'm trying to manipulate them or get some. No, I understand very clearly that when I help other people win, no matter who they are, that more winnings come to me automatically.
00:07:00.400And this is the way the world works. And so a lot of you guys have to get out of your own way and your own insecurities when it comes to your intent for your competitors or for people that may be your rivals or people that, you know, you knew from back in the day or maybe, you know, you're caught up with competing with the Joneses or your neighbors.
00:07:20.120We all have that one or two people that we're a little bit jealous of because they're doing great and they're doing shit that we want to do.
00:07:28.240And we as humans, as higher level, higher thinking, higher enlightened humans have to understand how the game actually works and how the game actually works is that when you wish well for people, good things happen to you.
00:07:45.600When you do well for people, good things happen to you. When you help people win, good things happen to you.
00:07:52.240When you are able to forgive people for things they may have wronged you on, good things happen to you.
00:07:58.380OK, the universe is very black and white. When you do good, you get good. When you intend good, you get good.
00:08:04.820And while this may sound like a lot of like abstract hocus pocus shit, I'm telling you, and I am the most real practical motherfucker you will ever meet in your life.
00:08:15.500I'm telling you that from my experience, this is the way it is.
00:08:19.700And the benefit of working this way and the benefit of feeling this way and the benefit of doing life this way is this.
00:08:26.700Not only do you win, but your friends get to win and the people who you compete with become your friends and they become the people that you call upon.
00:08:35.180And then you create this little network of all these people that are helping each other win.
00:08:39.740And now you've got something that's great because not only are you not in the heavy cycle of anxiety and frustration and competition.
00:08:50.600OK, not only are you not feeling the heaviness of that, but you're also at peace because, you know, you're doing the right thing.
00:08:59.460And the right thing is this. If you know something, help someone else know something.
00:09:05.220If you know how to be better, help someone else be better. If you could pull someone up, do it.
00:09:10.580All of those things come back to us in the collective good. It doesn't work like this.
00:09:16.400Oh, I went out and I did this one thing and then nothing good happened today. That's not how it works.
00:09:21.960You have to think of it like a karmic bank account where you're making deposits all the time.
00:09:27.160OK, every time you do something good for someone, you're making deposits into these accounts.
00:09:31.960And then what happens is in your life, you get little withdrawals and these withdrawals collectively add up to a really great,
00:09:38.560a really fulfilling and a really special existence that most people never get to have.
00:09:44.180OK, so here's my recommendation for you. Audit yourself. Audit your intent.
00:09:50.460Audit how you feel when you see other people win.
00:09:52.520When you find yourself getting jealous, stop yourself and have a conversation and say, you know what, that's actually a great thing.
00:10:00.780And this is why, because I can do that, too. And I can do those things that that person is doing, too.
00:10:06.360And I actually am not jealous of that person. I'm happy for him.
00:10:09.520And what this does is this releases resentful energy that you might have inside and makes you feel lighter.
00:10:15.320And when you feel lighter and you feel better and you feel more positive, you're able to execute better and be a lot happier and less overwhelmed and less stressful.
00:10:24.960All right. Maybe you need to make some phone calls and make up with some people that you have resentment with.
00:10:31.780Maybe you need to, you know, reach out and clear up some of these misunderstandings that you have in your life.
00:10:38.680But removing this negative energy and making these things calm is not weakness.
00:10:43.720A lot of people think that burying the hatchet or removing karmic negativity is some sort of a weakness.
00:10:51.580No, that is the ultimate strength and the ultimate foundation that you can build upon.
00:10:56.500OK, for me, my door is always open. You guys know where to find me.
00:11:00.360If anyone has a problem with me, I am willing to sit down and talk about it.
00:11:04.200And not only will we sit down and talk about it, bro, I'll probably become one of your fucking solid friends because I help you win.
00:11:10.760All right. That's how you guys need to start being.
00:11:13.580The world is in enough distress as it is. We have enough negativity as it is.
00:11:18.300We on the ground level as entrepreneurs, as higher level thinkers, as entrepreneurs, as people who want to affect change and create new wins and big wins and bigger, bigger wins and legacy wins.
00:11:30.700We have to work together, even within your own little space.
00:11:35.920Some of my best friends are people that compete with me.
00:11:39.000Some of my best friends in the world that I have are people who own other companies in the spaces that I own companies.
00:11:45.340And we work together. We help each other.
00:11:48.960We tell each other the little things that, hey, man, you should maybe think about this or have you ever thought about that or you ever do this?
00:11:54.300And we work together, even in the fact of like actually doing business together.
00:11:59.720You know, my company, Supplement Superstores, the retail company, we carry almost everybody else's products and we sell a lot of them.
00:12:28.340And these are all things that we're in search of.
00:12:30.580And a lot of times we are just in our own way because we feel jealous or we feel negative or we imagine that somebody hates us when they actually don't because they don't.
00:12:43.240Most people are worried about their own shit.
00:12:46.020And if you can help them solve their shit, they will help you solve your shit.
00:13:44.340The businesses I'm in are all highly competitive and I have massive amounts of respect for the people that push me to be better every single day.
00:13:51.480The difference is that I'm not blinded by my resentment or my jealousy or my frustration for my competitors winning.
00:14:00.620I'm able to see how they won because I'm not emotional about it and I'm happy for them.
00:14:06.320And when I can see how they won and I'm not clouded by jealousy or frustration or anger, that gives me a logical path to move forward on my own.
00:14:17.060And a lot of times our emotions are what keep us from actually putting into play the things that are going to progress us forward.
00:14:23.800So think about these things, think about how you can more adopt these things, think about how you could be a better representation of these things because from what I can tell, and I don't have any secret book, I don't have a crystal ball, I don't have any special knowledge, all I do have is my experience.
00:14:40.240And what I can tell you is this, when I adopted this mentality versus the mentality of trying, and by the way, you can also want to crush people and still root for people.
00:14:54.160Those are two different thoughts that can coexist because you're not really wanting to crush them into nothing.
00:15:00.760You're just wanting to be better than them and that's okay.
00:15:14.800And then you go back and forth and back and forth and back and forth and ultimately everybody gets pushed forward into a successful position.
00:15:32.900If you have a problem with feeling angry all the time, ask yourself, are you rooting for other people when they win or are you getting angry when they win?
00:15:42.120Because if you're one of the people that gets angry when other people win, you will never win.