REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 322. Successverse

00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realest, say goodbye to the lies, the thickness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality. 0.91

00:00:26.080 Guys, today we are going to do something that I haven't done in a while. We're going to give you a real talk episode.

00:00:33.140 If you listen to the MFCEO project, it's going to kind of remind you of Thursday Thunder. All right.

00:00:41.680 Before I get into it, we have a fee for the show. If you like the show, share the show. That's it.

00:00:46.780 That's that's all I'm going to say, because if you listen to show regular, you understand.

00:00:50.380 If you don't, you should. And you'll figure out what the fee is.

00:00:53.800 But I want to get into this because I think it's important. It's something that's on my heart and it's something that I think a lot of you younger people, especially in business, need to understand.

00:01:05.500 And what it is, is it's managing your own intentions through your feelings for other people.

00:01:13.920 OK, and what I mean by that is this, you know, every time I go speak, I spend, you know, lots of my years of my life public speaking.

00:01:23.160 I don't do it as much anymore, but I do it occasionally still.

00:01:28.180 And every time I get in a Q&A scenario, I always get these questions about haters or how to deal with haters.

00:01:36.560 And I want you to understand something.

00:01:39.180 I want you to understand that the reason that you feel like everybody hates you is because you hold resentment for other people and their success in your heart.

00:01:50.860 That's it. OK, you look at other people and you feel a little bit jealous sometimes.

00:01:56.720 And this is natural. I'm not criticizing.

00:01:58.580 I want you to understand and be aware of this because it is counterproductive to your success.

00:02:03.700 All right. When you look at someone and you say, man, that guy's got it all or that girl's got it all or they're killing it or they're this and that and this.

00:02:13.080 And you feel jealous about it. That is a that is a feeling and that is an intent that will keep you from getting where it is you want to go.

00:02:22.200 All right. It is extremely important for you to understand that how you feel about other people's success when you see it, whether these people are close to you, whether they're competitors of yours, whether they're friends of yours, whether they are mortal enemies of yours.

00:02:40.840 It does not matter. If you want success in your life, you have to root for success, no matter who is getting it.

00:02:51.100 OK, because the way the universe works and the way this world works is that it rewards your intent in your heart.

00:03:00.060 So when I say to you, like I say often that if you want success, you have to wish success on other people.

00:03:08.380 And that goes in the combination of having a good plan, working the plan, working hard for a long time.

00:03:15.320 All the principles that I've talked about regarding success over the last decade, it involves all of those.

00:03:22.400 But the one that you guys consistently screw up and cross your own feet up and trip yourself up on is this idea of haters and intent and the intent around other people's success.

00:03:36.040 When you look at someone who's winning and you get jealous, even in your heart, even a little bitty bit, what you're telling the universe is I don't like winning.

00:03:47.360 Listen, the universe doesn't know that that guy is your competitor. It doesn't know that that girl is your competitor.

00:03:53.460 The universe doesn't know that you want to smash this person. OK, the universe just knows that when you look at them, you feel bad.

00:04:01.620 All right. And when you look at them and you feel bad and you put the intent out in the world, the world returns that intent because what it what it hears from you is I don't like winning.

00:04:12.040 I don't like success. I don't like kicking ass. OK, so you have to understand that business, while it is highly competitive, you have to understand that the way you keep it competitive in a healthy way is by looking at people who are doing the things that you want to do with the attitude of, well, that's great that they're able to do that. 0.99

00:04:37.300 Now I know how to do it and I can also improve upon that. And then you take the actions in your own right, in your own company, in your own business plan to improve and move forward.

00:04:50.000 This is how champions win. Champions do not win by trying to smash other people or trying to step on other people or trying to hold other people back.

00:05:00.660 OK, that is a misconception that people get caught up in when they think about competition, because there are winners and there are losers when it comes to an exact battle.

00:05:12.140 Like if there's a wrestling match, right, there's a person who wins and there's a person who loses that exact match.

00:05:18.300 But each battle day by day by day, each match day by day by day are what cumulatively make up our overall wins in life.

00:05:28.580 So this would be the equivalent of you going into a wrestling match and winning your match, but still being thankful and appreciative that that person who gave you a really hard match that they tested you and that they helped you improve and that they taught you how to be a better wrestler because they were so skilled themselves.

00:05:49.300 And when you're in business and when you're in success, when you appreciate these qualities about people that you are in competition with, this is how you learn.

00:05:59.020 This is how you improve. And this is also how you win without having a heavy heart or a heavy conscience.

00:06:06.200 And this is very important. OK, there's a lot of people out there and a lot of you maybe that don't even fucking like me. 0.97

00:06:13.480 You guys look at the life I have and you say, man, fuck that guy. 0.99

00:06:17.780 Or you hear what I say in my opinions. You say, fuck that guy. 1.00

00:06:21.400 That's fine. But you have to understand that in my heart and the way I am, I will sit down with you and I would help you fucking figure out the hardest problem in your life because I want you to win. 1.00

00:06:34.220 Even if you were my worst enemy, even if you were someone who competed with me and you could ask the people I've competed with, because the people I compete with, when they call me up on the phone, I'm a friendly, helpful voice and they're confused by it a lot of times.

00:06:48.520 And a lot of times they think I'm trying to manipulate them or get some. No, I understand very clearly that when I help other people win, no matter who they are, that more winnings come to me automatically.

00:07:00.400 And this is the way the world works. And so a lot of you guys have to get out of your own way and your own insecurities when it comes to your intent for your competitors or for people that may be your rivals or people that, you know, you knew from back in the day or maybe, you know, you're caught up with competing with the Joneses or your neighbors.

00:07:20.120 We all have that one or two people that we're a little bit jealous of because they're doing great and they're doing shit that we want to do.

00:07:28.240 And we as humans, as higher level, higher thinking, higher enlightened humans have to understand how the game actually works and how the game actually works is that when you wish well for people, good things happen to you.

00:07:45.600 When you do well for people, good things happen to you. When you help people win, good things happen to you.

00:07:52.240 When you are able to forgive people for things they may have wronged you on, good things happen to you.

00:07:58.380 OK, the universe is very black and white. When you do good, you get good. When you intend good, you get good.

00:08:04.820 And while this may sound like a lot of like abstract hocus pocus shit, I'm telling you, and I am the most real practical motherfucker you will ever meet in your life. 0.98

00:08:15.500 I'm telling you that from my experience, this is the way it is. 0.98

00:08:19.700 And the benefit of working this way and the benefit of feeling this way and the benefit of doing life this way is this.

00:08:26.700 Not only do you win, but your friends get to win and the people who you compete with become your friends and they become the people that you call upon.

00:08:35.180 And then you create this little network of all these people that are helping each other win.

00:08:39.740 And now you've got something that's great because not only are you not in the heavy cycle of anxiety and frustration and competition.

00:08:50.600 OK, not only are you not feeling the heaviness of that, but you're also at peace because, you know, you're doing the right thing.

00:08:59.460 And the right thing is this. If you know something, help someone else know something.

00:09:05.220 If you know how to be better, help someone else be better. If you could pull someone up, do it.

00:09:10.580 All of those things come back to us in the collective good. It doesn't work like this.

00:09:16.400 Oh, I went out and I did this one thing and then nothing good happened today. That's not how it works.

00:09:21.960 You have to think of it like a karmic bank account where you're making deposits all the time.

00:09:27.160 OK, every time you do something good for someone, you're making deposits into these accounts.

00:09:31.960 And then what happens is in your life, you get little withdrawals and these withdrawals collectively add up to a really great,

00:09:38.560 a really fulfilling and a really special existence that most people never get to have.

00:09:44.180 OK, so here's my recommendation for you. Audit yourself. Audit your intent.

00:09:50.460 Audit how you feel when you see other people win.

00:09:52.520 When you find yourself getting jealous, stop yourself and have a conversation and say, you know what, that's actually a great thing.

00:10:00.780 And this is why, because I can do that, too. And I can do those things that that person is doing, too.

00:10:06.360 And I actually am not jealous of that person. I'm happy for him.

00:10:09.520 And what this does is this releases resentful energy that you might have inside and makes you feel lighter.

00:10:15.320 And when you feel lighter and you feel better and you feel more positive, you're able to execute better and be a lot happier and less overwhelmed and less stressful.

00:10:24.960 All right. Maybe you need to make some phone calls and make up with some people that you have resentment with.

00:10:31.780 Maybe you need to, you know, reach out and clear up some of these misunderstandings that you have in your life.

00:10:38.680 But removing this negative energy and making these things calm is not weakness.

00:10:43.720 A lot of people think that burying the hatchet or removing karmic negativity is some sort of a weakness.

00:10:51.580 No, that is the ultimate strength and the ultimate foundation that you can build upon.

00:10:56.500 OK, for me, my door is always open. You guys know where to find me.

00:11:00.360 If anyone has a problem with me, I am willing to sit down and talk about it. 0.86

00:11:04.200 And not only will we sit down and talk about it, bro, I'll probably become one of your fucking solid friends because I help you win. 0.96

00:11:10.760 All right. That's how you guys need to start being. 0.95

00:11:13.580 The world is in enough distress as it is. We have enough negativity as it is.

00:11:18.300 We on the ground level as entrepreneurs, as higher level thinkers, as entrepreneurs, as people who want to affect change and create new wins and big wins and bigger, bigger wins and legacy wins.

00:11:30.700 We have to work together, even within your own little space.

00:11:35.920 Some of my best friends are people that compete with me.

00:11:39.000 Some of my best friends in the world that I have are people who own other companies in the spaces that I own companies.

00:11:45.340 And we work together. We help each other.

00:11:48.960 We tell each other the little things that, hey, man, you should maybe think about this or have you ever thought about that or you ever do this?

00:11:54.300 And we work together, even in the fact of like actually doing business together.

00:11:59.720 You know, my company, Supplement Superstores, the retail company, we carry almost everybody else's products and we sell a lot of them.

00:12:07.040 OK, that helps my competition, right?

00:12:09.720 Yeah, but it also helps me, too.

00:12:11.880 And we get to learn together. We get to build together.

00:12:14.320 I root for them. I think it's amazing.

00:12:17.000 And ever since I got to that point of maturity in my life where I understood that it works this way, I've had a much happier life.

00:12:24.140 I've had a much more successful life.

00:12:26.380 I've had a much more abundant life.

00:12:28.340 And these are all things that we're in search of.

00:12:30.580 And a lot of times we are just in our own way because we feel jealous or we feel negative or we imagine that somebody hates us when they actually don't because they don't. 0.99

00:12:43.240 Most people are worried about their own shit. 1.00

00:12:46.020 And if you can help them solve their shit, they will help you solve your shit. 1.00

00:12:51.220 That is just the way the world works. 1.00

00:12:53.600 So think about how you're living.

00:12:55.320 Think about the energy you're putting out.

00:12:57.300 Think about what you feel like when you see your biggest rival have a big win or live in a nice house or get a new car or see something.

00:13:05.000 How does that make you feel?

00:13:06.640 Does it make you feel anxious?

00:13:08.020 Does it make you feel behind?

00:13:09.240 Does it make you feel jealous?

00:13:11.380 And if it does, what actions are you taking to improve not only your mindset but your own actions to get to the point that they are at?

00:13:23.960 Okay?

00:13:24.280 Because that's what we do, right?

00:13:26.020 We look at other people.

00:13:27.140 We observe them.

00:13:28.260 We say, okay, that worked pretty good.

00:13:30.180 Now I'm going to try to do something like that except I'm going to do it a little bit this way.

00:13:33.240 And that's what competition does. 0.93

00:13:34.740 Healthy competition is a great fucking thing because it teaches us how to innovate. 0.94

00:13:39.900 It pushes us to our next potential. 0.98

00:13:42.380 And I got to tell you this.

00:13:44.340 The businesses I'm in are all highly competitive and I have massive amounts of respect for the people that push me to be better every single day.

00:13:51.480 The difference is that I'm not blinded by my resentment or my jealousy or my frustration for my competitors winning.

00:14:00.620 I'm able to see how they won because I'm not emotional about it and I'm happy for them.

00:14:06.320 And when I can see how they won and I'm not clouded by jealousy or frustration or anger, that gives me a logical path to move forward on my own.

00:14:16.720 Okay?

00:14:17.060 And a lot of times our emotions are what keep us from actually putting into play the things that are going to progress us forward.

00:14:23.800 So think about these things, think about how you can more adopt these things, think about how you could be a better representation of these things because from what I can tell, and I don't have any secret book, I don't have a crystal ball, I don't have any special knowledge, all I do have is my experience.

00:14:40.240 And what I can tell you is this, when I adopted this mentality versus the mentality of trying, and by the way, you can also want to crush people and still root for people.

00:14:54.160 Those are two different thoughts that can coexist because you're not really wanting to crush them into nothing.

00:15:00.760 You're just wanting to be better than them and that's okay.

00:15:04.380 But how can you be better than them? 0.84

00:15:06.260 You have to be better than them by observing, not getting frustrated, and then rooting and saying, man, that's fucking awesome.

00:15:12.500 You know what?

00:15:12.860 I could do this over here.

00:15:14.480 All right?

00:15:14.800 And then you go back and forth and back and forth and back and forth and ultimately everybody gets pushed forward into a successful position.

00:15:22.080 This is how it really works.

00:15:24.120 Okay?

00:15:24.560 So be thankful for your competitors. 1.00

00:15:26.600 If you have resentment with people or you have problems with people, pick up the fucking phone and solve it. 0.99

00:15:32.640 Okay? 0.99

00:15:32.900 If you have a problem with feeling angry all the time, ask yourself, are you rooting for other people when they win or are you getting angry when they win?

00:15:42.120 Because if you're one of the people that gets angry when other people win, you will never win.

00:15:45.980 Ever.

00:15:46.560 Ever.

00:15:47.240 No matter how good you do.

00:15:48.820 No matter how much you execute.

00:15:50.580 No matter how much you practice.

00:15:52.680 The universe will not allow you to win because what you're doing is an emotional way. 0.97

00:15:57.000 You're sending out the frequency that says, I don't fucking like winning. 0.80

00:16:00.780 And that's what's holding most of you back. 0.98

00:16:02.900 So think about it.

00:16:04.360 Make the adjustment.

00:16:05.700 Audit yourself.

00:16:06.640 And work towards this place.

00:16:08.320 Because this place that I'm speaking of is the place of prosperity.

00:16:12.540 It's the place of abundance.

00:16:13.520 And it's the place of peace without the frustration, the anxiety, and the negativity.

00:16:20.080 All right?

00:16:20.600 That's what we all want.

00:16:21.940 We all want to win.

00:16:23.140 And we also all want to feel good.

00:16:24.740 And there's a lot of people out there that grind out little wins.

00:16:28.200 And they get here and they get a little bit more successful.

00:16:31.480 And they even may talk about how they want to see people win.

00:16:34.420 But in their heart, they don't mean it.

00:16:37.500 And that's why they have a hard time seeing it through.

00:16:41.260 And guys, we spend so much time talking about what's going to make the world better.

00:16:45.480 We spend so much time talking about what's going to make America better.

00:16:49.240 This is what makes it better.

00:16:51.700 When you root for your fellow Americans.

00:16:53.900 When you root for your fellow competitors.

00:16:58.120 When you have camaraderie.

00:17:00.040 And you have respect.

00:17:01.560 And you have good intentions for your fellow citizen.

00:17:05.200 These are the things that will fix society.

00:17:07.800 These are the things that will help all of us win.

00:17:10.980 And be peaceful and prosperous together.

00:17:15.100 I want you to win.

00:17:16.960 I don't care if you hate my guts. 1.00

00:17:19.240 I don't care if you think I'm the biggest, cockiest, opinionated, big mouth piece of shit. 1.00

00:17:24.780 I've heard it all. 1.00

00:17:26.140 But I promise you in my heart. 0.99

00:17:28.080 I want you to fucking win. 0.99

00:17:30.400 You should want other people to win too. 0.99

00:17:33.160 Try that out.

00:17:34.320 Because I promise you it will change your life.

00:17:36.340 I love you guys.

00:17:37.080 I appreciate you guys.

00:17:38.280 And I'll talk to you next time.

00:17:39.160 Went from sleeping on the floor.

00:17:40.960 Now my jewelry box froze. 1.00

00:17:42.680 Fuck a pole. 1.00

00:17:43.460 Fuck a stove. 1.00

00:17:44.320 Counted millions in the cold. 1.00

00:17:46.000 Bad bitch. 1.00

00:17:46.840 Booted swole. 1.00

00:17:47.660 Got her on.

00:17:48.340 Bankroll.

00:17:49.300 Can't fold.

00:17:50.180 Doesn't know.

00:17:50.980 Headshot.

00:17:51.800 Case closed.

00:17:52.620 Closed.

00:17:52.940 gesetzed in the custodian secret.

00:17:56.840 Go to sleep.

00:17:57.220 And to follow the peace.

00:17:57.880 Walk for life.

00:17:58.580 Go to sleep.

00:17:59.220 Absolutely.

00:17:59.780 brat Ronanson who was on the ship.

00:18:02.540 Cette.

00:18:03.360 zusammen.

00:18:03.760 Put theoney.

00:18:03.840 Word.

00:18:03.960 come to sleep.

00:18:04.840 Come to sleep.

00:18:04.980 Walk for life.

00:18:05.400 All the nice of you can.

00:18:06.540 This way is happening.

00:18:07.640 What happened to me?

00:18:09.220 You canplate you.

00:18:09.780 Go to sleep.

00:18:10.220 Make yourself a future.

00:18:10.980 To live to sleep.

00:18:11.780 Make yourself a future.

00:18:11.980 Beiana.

00:18:12.400 Best ideas.

00:18:12.880 What happened to sleep.

00:18:13.540 You can't stop myself getting it right.

00:18:14.020 Whaengo Tisty. 0.99

00:18:14.760 Coin war.

00:18:15.080 Stay.

00:18:16.180 Amongst.

00:18:16.700 Sims.

00:18:17.420 Go to sleep.

00:18:17.680 people to sleep.

00:18:17.780 Who can take you?

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - June 29, 2022

322. Successverse

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