330. Misconceptions Of Humility： How To Become An Effective Young Entrepreneur
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In this episode of Real Talk, I talk about how important it is to take control of your life and stop letting other people run your life. I also talk about the importance of being a good leader and how to become one.
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What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realists, say goodbye
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to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking
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reality guys. Today we have a real talk episode, which is not something I have done consistently
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in the last year or so, but I'm getting more into it because I think it's valuable and I think you
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guys benefit from it. But if this is your first time listening, we have multiple formats on the
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show and it's not always real talk what you're going to hear today. Sometimes it's Q and AF where
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and we answer those questions live on the show. Then we have CTI where DJ and I and the crew here
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on real AF, we cruise the internet. That's what CTI stands for. Okay. And we put up headlines of the
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day. We dissect them. We try to deduce what little truth might be in them and then talk about the
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problem at the core. And that's kind of how it ties back into Q and AF and real talk because the truth
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is these problems in society all come from us. Okay. They all come from our lack of taking control,
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taking initiative, taking responsibility of our own lives. Okay. They fooled us into thinking that
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they're going to run our shit and guess what? They aren't. So it's up to us to fix that. And then
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sometimes we're going to have full length episodes, which is where I interview people. Most of the time,
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these are my successful friends. Sometimes they're people with totally opposite opinions where we can
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find out how much common ground we actually have. And I love those episodes too. But basically what
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we do is we break these episodes down. We talk about the great shit that these people do. And
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then we teach you how normal they actually are because the truth is all of us are capable of
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these things, guys. All of these people that you look up to, all these people that you admire,
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all these people that you wish you were like, you can be like if you adopt the life and the style
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of life that they adopt to get there. So that's what this show is about. It's about being fucking
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better and telling the truth. So today, like I said, we have real talk and there is a fee for
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this is value exchange. That's what I believe in. If we do good, you do good by me. If you do good
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by me, I do good by you. And that's how this world works. So with that being said, I want to talk about
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something that I don't know that I've ever really talked about. But it's something that is obvious to
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me as someone who's been in business for a long time and had to learn a lot of things. And quite
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honestly, for the first part of business, I didn't have the access to the tools that you all have.
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Okay. For my first 10 years in business, I started in 1999. The internet was very primitive and there
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wasn't like all these people out there sharing their information about how to win. If I wanted to
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learn how to win, I had to observe people. And a lot of times I had to observe people from afar.
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And that means I had to follow people. That means I had to take their lead. That means I had to become a
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good follower before I ever became an effective leader. And I like to think of myself as an
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effective leader. Okay. I've got 400 something employees here in house. Tens of thousands of
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people outside of this building that we lead on a common everyday basis. So I'm not trying to toot
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my horn. I got a long way to go. I can be much better. But the truth of the matter is I'm an effective
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leader. And the way I became an effective leader was by being humble enough to understand that I needed
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to learn from people who had been down the path before. And one of the things that I noticed about
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young entrepreneurs that I just wanted to address, and this isn't going to take all day, guys. I know
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it's Saturday. I know it's beautiful. I know you want to get out and do shit. But it's something that
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I want you to be mindful for, especially if you are just getting started in the game, you're young in
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the game. And when I say young in the game, I never mean like young in age, because some people don't
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start the success journey until they're in their forties or fifties or even sixties, man.
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One of the biggest success stories of all time is Colonel Sanders. He didn't start till he was in
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the sixties. Okay. So it's not too late. But the point that I think holds young people back when it
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comes to becoming an effective leader is that they have a hard time, especially when they're
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competitive, humbling themselves enough to follow someone else's lead. And that just doesn't make
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sense. And I see it kill a lot of young entrepreneurs or at the very least delay the
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success of a lot of young entrepreneurs because their ego gets in the way. All right. You have to
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understand humility when we talk about in a practical sense is very valuable to have. Okay. But humility
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in terms of what the public and society understands this to be is very inaccurate. All right. Running
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through life, thinking you're less than everybody, thinking it's a noble thing to be nothing, thinking
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it's okay to sit on your ass and like be quote unquote, what society thinks is humble is not
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something that you should aspire to be. All right. It's very easy to be humble when you don't have any
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fucking thing to show for it. When you are not achieving at a high level, humility doesn't count.
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Okay. Humility only counts when you're great. That's the truth. Okay. You have to remind yourself
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that you aren't as great as you think you are when you are great. And that takes discipline and that's
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a skill. And that's where humility comes into play because humility, when we do not have it does not
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allow us to learn and it doesn't allow us to follow and it doesn't allow us to observe the things that
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work or do not work. So you have to really understand the practical application of where
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humility fits into your psyche. Humility should not be what the average person will say, right? Like,
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oh, you know, I'm a humble guy. That guy, he's rich. He's not, he's a fucking, has nothing to do
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with that. Okay. Humble is about understanding that you are no better or no worse than any other
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person. It's about understanding that your capabilities are as great as everybody else
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or as limited as everybody else. Okay. But what it mostly means when it comes to a business sense
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is that you always recognize there's more to learn. You always recognize that you can get
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better and you always recognize that today is day motherfucking one. Okay. So when you think like
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that and you actually understand how humility applies to the success journey, it's actually a
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lot different than what other people think has nothing to do with being rich, has nothing to do with
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cars, has nothing to do with fucking what you show or the lifestyle you have to live. That's,
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that's, that's peasant thinking. Okay. People who think like that way will never be shit. That's
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the truth, but you still have to value humility when it comes to your ability to learn. And if you
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don't have humility in the terms that I'm talking about, okay, you are not going to be able to observe
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people who are maybe ahead of you in the game, right? Cause we're all competitive. We all want to win.
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We all want to do good. But a lot of us, because we're so competitive, we look at people who are ahead
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of us. And instead of us like saying, Hey, I can learn a lot from this person. I should build a
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relationship with this person. I should try to try to support this person. Um, they can help me.
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We think, fuck that person. We're going to fucking kill him. We're going to do this and that. And I
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thought about that. That's how I thought when I was younger too. And it held me back for a long time.
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So you have to understand that for you to gain the most, uh, versatile skillset that you possibly can,
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you have to be humble enough to learn from others. And that means you have to be a great follower
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before you can ever become an effective leader. All right. So when we think about this and we think
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about why it's so important for you to be a great follower before you're an effective leader,
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uh, you have to understand that, you know, the person who's five years down the road that you
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think is your competitor, they've already been through all the shit that you're struggling with.
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Okay. The person who's 20 years down the road that you are frustrated with because they're doing that
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much better than you and you don't think they deserve it. And that's bro. That's the person
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that you should be following. That's the person you should be observing. That's the person you
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should be learning from. That's the person you should be building relationships with. That's the
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person that you want to be close to, because those are the people that can show you how to get from
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where you are to where you want to be in the least amount of time with the least amount of
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fucking bullshit to be completely honest. Okay. So I could tell a lot when I look at young
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entrepreneurs, by how they look at the people ahead of them in the game, I can tell if they're
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going to make it by how they look at people ahead of them in the game. And if they look at them and
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be frustrated, for example, you hear me talk about Nike a lot of times. And while I don't agree with
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Nike and how they do things, uh, and that's a big driver for me. I want to do things right. I want to
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make American made products. I want to do the things the right way for this country because
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I'm a fucking patriot of this country. However, when I look at the big scope of Nike, I'm a great
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admirer of Nike. I'm a, I'm a person who has, who, who can look, I've read the book shoe dog. I
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fucking feel night. These people are visionary people. So I can't, I can't let my frustration
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about how they have chosen to do things, uh, keep me from learning lessons when I'm literally on the
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same fucking path that they're on just 30 years behind them. Okay. So that's my example. I have
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to push the frustration or push my competitive nature out of it. Uh, and I have to look at things
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for what they are and accept the good things they did. And then also say, okay, well, I wouldn't do
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these things that way. I would do them my way. And that's what actually creates the unique brand,
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the unique product, the unique authenticity that your company and your brand or whatever project it is
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you're working on. Um, that's what creates it, your ability to recognize the path, your ability
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to learn from the people who have done it. And then your ability to throw your own little sauce in
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here or there with the shit that you don't agree with how they do things. It's just, this is just how
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it's done. And so a lot of you guys, and, and you're probably wondering, well, why the fuck am I
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sharing this with you? Because dude, with the invent of social media and the invent of, of this
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There's so many people out there with overinflated egos that have no fucking idea just how bad they're
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hurting themselves by not acknowledging the people ahead of them and working to be friends with them
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and working with them instead of against them. And I could tell you this, all the people that I ever
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felt that way about, I am friends with now every fucking one of them. And you know what? Those people
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have taught me more about business than I could have learned in an extra 20 years of doing it myself.
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All right. So do I want to be competitive and I want to be right for those 20 years? And I,
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do I want to take every fucking knock right on the fucking face and spend my whole life in a
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fucking brutal struggle? Or do I want to collapse my own time scale 20 years by learning from these
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people? I mean, there's an intelligent answer there and it's the fucking ladder one. All right.
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And if you're going to take the first one, you're going to have a really hard time.
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And then here's the other thing that you got to think about is that once you get on someone's radar,
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who is that far ahead of you and you're a fucking dick, it's really easy for them to fuck with you
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and make it really fucking hard for you to win. Okay. So my overall overarching theme of this real
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talk, which I think needs to be said is for you motherfuckers out there who are just starting out,
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know where the fuck you are in the game. You're at the beginning. You should be humble. You should be
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paying attention to what everybody else is doing. You should be paying attention to what the person
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is doing that, where you want to be and lose this attitude of like, you don't see them or you don't
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watch them or you don't like them or you don't this because bro, that attitude is only going to show up
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in other people's eyes as jealousy. And it's only going to push people towards the person that you
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aren't your competitor, the exact people that you want to be like when you open your mouth and talk
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shit and it's clear to everybody else that you're trying to be just like them. You dilute your brand and you
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make a clown out of yourself. It's much easier and much less anxiety and much less frustrating
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to say, Hey, they're doing a great job. I really appreciate what they've done. They're setting this,
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this, this, this, this, and I'm learning this, this, this is this room. We can all work together.
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And that's how fucking business is done. And I see a lot of these younger people online starting
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these clothing brands or these fucking, you know, whatever brands. And you know, they come at it with
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the whole wrong attitude. They come at it with like, they're the bad-ass right out the gate, bro. No,
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you ain't. You're selling fucking nothing today. How the fuck are you? How are you so bad? Right?
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So let's be real. Let's be humble. Let's be honest and let's work together to build everybody together.
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Okay. So if you want to win, humble yourself. If you want to win, be a good follower. If you want to
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win, pay attention. If you want to win, add in the things that you think should be corrected
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based off the model that someone else is already setting for you. Okay. Those are the things that
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will collapse the timeframe for you to get from where you are to where you want to be in the
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shortest amount of time. And the reason I wanted to talk about this is because I see it becoming more
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and more of a problem. The more and more likes, the more and more shares, the more and more personal
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attention, the more and more ego. And that ego will fucking kill you. So be aware of it, pay attention,
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be, be appreciative and be thankful for the people that are paving the way for you to fucking exist
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and learn from them. If you are learning from someone from afar, you don't have to have a
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personal relationship from and you see them make a mistake. You should take whatever that mistake was
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and pretend like it's in your own little brand or your own little company or in your own little
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project and go fix that right now. Okay. Anytime I see another brand or a big company or someone make a
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mistake and do something wrong, I automatically turn around and audit my own shit based upon
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their mistake. All right. This is a way to collapse that timeframe I'm talking about. This is the way
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to gain an extra 10 or 20 years by paying attention to people who've come before you. All right. And by
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the way, being humble doesn't mean you can't be competitive. I'm as competitive as it fucking gets.
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All right. We get out on that playing field. I'm going to fucking eat your motherfucking eyeballs out.
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That's what the fuck I'm about. Okay. But the truth is at the end of the day and at the end of
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the game, we're going to shake hands. We're going to have a beer and we're going to fucking have a
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good time hanging out. And that's how it's supposed to be. And if we can all push each other and we can
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all push the boundaries together of what it means to get, to get better, we can all win. Only people
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to think that they, that, that they're going to be the only winner are people with scarcity mindsets
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and scarcity mindsets are cancerous to success. Okay. When you think that you're the only one that can
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win in your category or your line of business or whatever the fuck it is you do, you're sorely
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mistaken. And not only are you sorely mistaken, everybody else will come together to force you
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out. That's how it works. So a lot of you young bucks need to humble yourselves. You need to,
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you need to become a good follower. You need to pay attention. You need to learn the lessons
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that other people have already learned so that you can get where you want to be in a quicker amount of
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time. And who knows, maybe you even take that mission or that goal or that line of business
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into a whole entire new level because you're able to catch up because you're paying such good
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attention that you're learning from everybody else's mistakes. That's been a big key for my,
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my success. A huge key for my success has been watching other companies, not in my industry,
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in all industries. And when I see the mistake, I go fix it in my own shit. So take that,
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do what you will with it. Listen to me or don't listen to me, but I know a few things and I want you
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guys to win. All right. So humble yourselves, learn how to fucking learn from other people,
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be a good follower, and you'll become a great leader. That's the show. I'll share the show.
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Yeah. Went from sleeping on the floor. Now my jewelry box froze. Fuck a bowl. Fuck a stove.
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Counted millions in the cold. Bad bitch. Booty swole. Got her on bankroll. Can't fold. That's a no.