REAL AF with Andy Frisella - July 13, 2022


333. Q&AF： Healthy Comparisons For Growth, Taking Care Of Employees During Inflation & Redirecting When Working Towards Your Goals


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On this episode of The Realist, we have a Q&A with a very special guest. We talk about a recent police confrontation with a biker and how he handled it. Also, we talk about the recent shooting of a black man in the back of the head by a motorcycle club.

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00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Frisella and this is the show for the realist, say goodbye to
00:00:20.900 the lies, the fakes and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality.
00:00:26.200 Guys, today we have Q and AF, that is where you submit your Q's and I give you the AF's.
00:00:35.080 Where do they submit the Q's, DJ?
00:00:36.460 Guys, email those questions in to askandy at andyfrisella.com.
00:00:40.300 That's where you email them in, it could be about anything too, like whatever, if it's
00:00:44.840 a terrible question, I just want to answer it.
00:00:46.300 Must be not anything.
00:00:47.240 Yeah, I mean, it could be about anything, we just choose not to answer it, right?
00:00:50.780 Right, but anyhow, for those of you who this is your first time listening, the show grows
00:00:57.500 at a rapid pace, so I always like to give the lay of the land to start the show.
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00:03:43.060 All right.
00:03:43.900 With that being said, today we have Q&A F.
00:03:48.240 I got a Q for you, though.
00:03:49.780 Yeah.
00:03:50.300 Yeah.
00:03:50.680 So did you make it out of that police confrontation that you had yesterday?
00:03:56.340 Yeah, dude.
00:03:56.920 I'm so surprised.
00:03:58.000 I mean, they didn't shoot you?
00:04:00.940 Yeah, black dude, biker dude, got a gun on him, and I'm alive. 1.00
00:04:04.980 And they didn't, like, accuse you of stealing the bike?
00:04:07.060 Yeah, no, no, none of that.
00:04:08.140 Or they didn't just shoot you?
00:04:09.260 Didn't even get a ticket, bro.
00:04:10.700 You didn't even get a ticket?
00:04:11.880 Didn't even get a ticket, man.
00:04:13.100 Bro, now we know you're lying.
00:04:15.180 It's outliers, man.
00:04:16.040 Yeah, that's a lie.
00:04:17.300 It's crazy.
00:04:18.180 So you mean, like, you treated the cop with respect.
00:04:20.900 Yeah, I complied.
00:04:22.080 And he didn't shoot you?
00:04:23.420 I took responsibility, and I held myself accountable for my actions.
00:04:27.500 Well.
00:04:28.260 Yeah.
00:04:28.780 Dude, it blew my fucking mic.
00:04:30.820 Yeah, me too.
00:04:32.160 Now, granted, I mean, it did start off a little weird.
00:04:35.040 I did leave a little poop stain on the seat, because it was a little weird at first.
00:04:39.060 But again, like, you know.
00:04:40.260 Did you wipe it off?
00:04:41.060 Yeah, it's good now.
00:04:42.080 But yeah, no, I was coming on my way back up from-
00:04:44.060 Did the cop say anything about your poop stain?
00:04:45.780 No.
00:04:46.360 Did he smell it?
00:04:47.020 I didn't get off the bike, so yeah, it wasn't a problem.
00:04:48.580 So you had the smell trapped?
00:04:49.900 Yes.
00:04:50.380 Got it.
00:04:50.640 I hit it.
00:04:51.260 So if when you get up, it would have wafted it out, probably killed the cop, then you
00:04:54.800 would have been in jail for fucking ever. 0.97
00:04:56.480 There was assault.
00:04:57.100 Yeah, exactly.
00:04:58.260 Yeah.
00:04:58.460 Good thing you didn't move.
00:04:59.420 I was on my way back up from Memphis, just solo riding.
00:05:04.460 I'm cruising, listening to some System of a Down, right?
00:05:07.620 I'm fucking jamming.
00:05:09.420 And you know, like, on two lane highways, right?
00:05:11.240 Like, there's always this motherfucker who likes to fucking block the left lane, right? 0.82
00:05:15.300 And so I'm, like, I'm waiting for this guy to fucking part the Red Sea so I can, you
00:05:20.220 know, get back to my cruise, right?
00:05:21.400 I got, like, 20 miles left before I got to stop for gas.
00:05:23.620 And fucking parts. 0.99
00:05:26.000 And I fucking, I get going, right?
00:05:27.860 And get up, get back up to my cruise and speed.
00:05:30.400 And which was what?
00:05:32.260 I'm not going to, like, incriminate myself.
00:05:35.040 Did it have two digits or three digits?
00:05:37.280 It was three digits.
00:05:37.580 Okay.
00:05:37.920 It was three digits for sure.
00:05:39.420 So we have a black man on a stolen motorcycle driving three digits speed with shit on the 0.99
00:05:47.520 seat.
00:05:47.800 Yeah, right.
00:05:48.460 And you survived.
00:05:50.320 How'd you do it?
00:05:51.380 So, dude, no.
00:05:53.060 So as soon as, I mean, when I got going, he was coming the opposite direction, the other
00:05:57.980 side of the highway.
00:05:58.940 And I see the fucking truck.
00:06:00.780 And I see Highway Patrol, right?
00:06:03.680 And we had just passed, you know, the little, like, the medians where you can, like, you
00:06:07.940 know, change, switch sides, emergency office.
00:06:09.460 Yeah, a little ramp.
00:06:10.060 Yeah.
00:06:11.140 He fucking passes that up.
00:06:12.480 But I see him fucking slam on his brakes and pulls off to the side of the highway,
00:06:16.340 right?
00:06:16.980 In my mind, I'm like, yeah, no fucking way.
00:06:18.500 He can't catch me.
00:06:19.060 He's already passed a little fucking merger thing.
00:06:20.780 He just goes through the grass.
00:06:22.320 Dude, no, I mean, he had the cable thing, right?
00:06:24.700 Oh, got it, got it.
00:06:25.380 This motherfucker reverses on the wrong side to flip around. 1.00
00:06:29.040 And in my mind still, I'm like, there's no fucking way he can get me, right?
00:06:32.280 And so I'm watching, you know, the mirrors on the bike are pretty small, right?
00:06:34.800 So I'm looking in the fucking mirrors, right, the whole time.
00:06:37.400 I'm doing, like, 75 at this time.
00:06:40.200 That's your mistake.
00:06:41.300 Right, right.
00:06:42.020 I should have just kept going.
00:06:42.860 No.
00:06:43.420 The mistake is you go faster.
00:06:45.360 Right?
00:06:45.680 So, dude, I'm looking, looking at my mirrors, bro, and I'm seeing cars.
00:06:50.620 You know all kinds of interesting things for me.
00:06:52.760 Yeah, no shit.
00:06:53.800 I mean, it sounds like you got some experience in this.
00:06:55.300 I do.
00:06:55.400 But now, as I'm rolling and I see these fucking cars just parting the fucking red sea, I see
00:07:02.040 this little black dot.
00:07:03.220 Oh, man.
00:07:04.100 And I'm like, fuck, no, can't be, right?
00:07:07.260 And sure as shit, it's just fucking him.
00:07:08.960 I'm like, fuck, man.
00:07:10.000 Like, damn.
00:07:11.040 You know what I'm saying?
00:07:11.500 So we pull over.
00:07:12.140 Black man can't catch a break. 1.00
00:07:13.340 That's what I'm saying.
00:07:14.000 Like, just fucking depressing me.
00:07:15.800 You know what I'm saying?
00:07:16.940 And so I pull over.
00:07:18.820 And, you know, he didn't even pull up behind me like they normally do on traffic stops,
00:07:22.260 right?
00:07:22.500 He just ran you over.
00:07:23.580 He pulled, no, he pulls right in front of my fucking bike to block me, right?
00:07:27.380 Like, he's in the fucking, like, he's blocking traffic.
00:07:30.020 He pulls right in front of me, gets out.
00:07:31.180 Oh, he was pissed.
00:07:31.860 He's like, give me your keys.
00:07:33.400 And I'm like, well, I don't, the bike doesn't have a key, it has a five.
00:07:36.320 He's like, give me that.
00:07:36.820 I'm like, listen, man, I'm not going to go nowhere.
00:07:38.980 Like, he was like, no problem.
00:07:40.140 No problem.
00:07:40.660 I'm like, I'm going to get my key for you, give him a five.
00:07:42.780 He gets back in his truck.
00:07:43.660 And then he pulls back behind me like a normal traffic stop.
00:07:46.320 Yeah.
00:07:46.960 Gets out.
00:07:47.480 I'm like, hey, listen, sorry.
00:07:48.280 He's like, I know I fucked up.
00:07:50.820 You know what I'm saying?
00:07:51.520 You just told him that.
00:07:52.400 Yeah, I'm telling him.
00:07:52.940 He's like, well, how fast do you think you were going?
00:07:53.860 That's how you do it, dude.
00:07:54.720 Yeah, he's like, how fast do you think you were going?
00:07:56.480 I'm like, well, I'm going to be honest.
00:07:57.300 I got 90 plus or minus 10, maybe.
00:08:01.360 You know what I'm saying?
00:08:02.980 And he's like, yeah, 111.
00:08:05.420 I'm like, fuck.
00:08:06.700 I'm like, all right.
00:08:08.020 He's like, you got your ID?
00:08:09.080 And so we got to start going through all of that.
00:08:10.580 But again, it was respectful.
00:08:12.040 I accept the responsibility.
00:08:12.840 That's it, dude.
00:08:13.400 I told him I was armed, right?
00:08:14.840 He's like, all right, don't reach for it.
00:08:16.040 I'm like, don't plan on it.
00:08:17.060 You know what I'm saying?
00:08:18.420 And yeah, it was good.
00:08:21.000 We ended off with a handshake.
00:08:22.660 He told him, I was like, hey, well, there's probably a couple more down the road.
00:08:24.860 So I tell you to slow down.
00:08:26.280 I'm like, yeah, no problem.
00:08:27.200 And I did the speed limit the entire trip home.
00:08:31.240 Because there definitely were some more out there, man.
00:08:33.700 Well, it's crazy, dude, how when you just say, hey, I was in the wrong.
00:08:39.200 Yeah.
00:08:39.580 I shouldn't have been doing that.
00:08:41.580 I'm not going to lie.
00:08:42.300 Why are you pulling?
00:08:42.800 I'm not going to start all of that.
00:08:43.840 There's no point.
00:08:44.500 I know why you pulled me over.
00:08:45.700 I'm actually surprised that you caught me because I didn't think you were going to come.
00:08:49.200 I thought you were like, cool.
00:08:50.440 One time.
00:08:51.360 I told you this story before, but I've never told the story on the show.
00:08:55.020 One time I was driving at the old house.
00:08:59.860 You know, I have all those back roads to the old house.
00:09:01.520 They were like a little track.
00:09:02.980 Oh, yeah.
00:09:03.520 At least the roads, too.
00:09:04.540 Yeah.
00:09:04.860 I had a, I was driving Lamborghini and I was driving.
00:09:12.720 Two digits?
00:09:13.560 How I drive.
00:09:14.640 Yeah.
00:09:16.620 And I always have my fucking carry on the seat.
00:09:22.340 Yeah, on the passenger seat.
00:09:23.120 Yeah.
00:09:23.760 And fucking. 0.86
00:09:28.200 Woman cop pulls me over. 1.00
00:09:29.480 And she said, do you know why I pulled you over?
00:09:34.820 I said, yeah, because I let you.
00:09:39.580 I got a ticket.
00:09:42.420 You about to lose your job.
00:09:44.140 Yeah.
00:09:44.760 I got a ticket.
00:09:45.900 Yeah.
00:09:46.180 And you know what?
00:09:47.380 And I, my buddies were on the police force there in a, in the municipality I lived in.
00:09:53.820 And I'm like, hey man, is this, is this shit cool?
00:09:56.020 And they were like, no, absolutely not.
00:09:57.860 I'm like, I'm like.
00:09:59.860 All right.
00:10:00.340 And then, you know what's funny?
00:10:01.680 I actually saved that same lady like two weeks later from a fucking conversation. 1.00
00:10:05.360 Yeah.
00:10:06.160 So.
00:10:06.720 Yeah.
00:10:07.060 It was pretty funny.
00:10:07.980 Anyhow.
00:10:08.780 I mean, just being a good person.
00:10:09.700 It's neither here nor there.
00:10:10.700 Yeah.
00:10:11.300 But you're welcome.
00:10:12.340 Right.
00:10:13.560 You know what?
00:10:14.180 I'm happy.
00:10:14.840 I don't care if I, if you got a ticket for something I did, I'm fucking all right with
00:10:17.640 that.
00:10:17.740 If you got me, you got me.
00:10:18.640 That's it.
00:10:19.020 That's how I feel.
00:10:19.680 I was fully prepared for him to come back and give me a ticket.
00:10:22.320 I'm like, dude, if you, if you fucking got me, you got me.
00:10:25.620 That's it.
00:10:26.180 That's it.
00:10:26.560 I mean, I was hoping like, okay, maybe hopefully it works with me.
00:10:29.780 Don't write me fucking, you know, if we're going 40 over, I'm going to lose my license.
00:10:33.340 Right.
00:10:33.480 Like help me out.
00:10:34.460 But I'll take it.
00:10:35.340 I will take the.
00:10:36.320 Me and Jason got pulled over.
00:10:37.360 We were on a rally.
00:10:38.880 We were going across Texas.
00:10:40.480 Oh, BLM rally?
00:10:41.220 Uh, no.
00:10:42.240 Oh, yeah.
00:10:42.920 We were going to, we were going to BLM rally.
00:10:44.900 Gotcha.
00:10:45.400 Yeah.
00:10:45.660 Really fast across the state of Texas.
00:10:48.960 And, uh, and we may or may not have been, uh, extremely hung over.
00:10:53.520 Yeah.
00:10:54.120 And we got pulled over by a Texas state highway patrol.
00:10:57.500 Oh man.
00:10:58.120 And, uh, we were really fast, real fast.
00:11:02.040 Four digits.
00:11:02.660 Yes.
00:11:03.340 Four.
00:11:04.360 All the digits.
00:11:06.180 Uh, he wrote us for 90, but I was, I appreciated that.
00:11:09.660 Right.
00:11:10.000 He's like, I got to write this for 90.
00:11:11.760 Otherwise I got to take you to jail. 0.58
00:11:12.940 I'm like, I'll take it.
00:11:13.700 Yeah.
00:11:14.360 Yeah.
00:11:14.520 Give me two.
00:11:15.200 Yeah.
00:11:17.940 Anyhow.
00:11:19.440 Hey, we got Q and A.
00:11:20.520 Yeah.
00:11:21.020 I got, I got some good ones for you, bro.
00:11:22.320 Oh, you do?
00:11:22.840 Yeah.
00:11:23.000 I got some good ones for you, man.
00:11:24.860 Yeah.
00:11:25.280 So, uh, I'm just happy to still be alive.
00:11:27.480 Me too, man.
00:11:28.120 I'm glad.
00:11:28.800 I'm, you know, I said, I said, Andy, the, the, I took a picture.
00:11:32.260 Hopefully.
00:11:32.680 I mean, I was hoping that that didn't fucking get me fucked up, but I took a picture.
00:11:35.480 I like took a selfie.
00:11:36.720 I'm like, yo, we're all good though.
00:11:39.660 But yeah.
00:11:40.640 All right, man.
00:11:41.100 Well, I got some good ones for you.
00:11:43.020 Let's knock these out.
00:11:43.840 Andy question.
00:11:44.300 Number one, uh, I've been told my entire life that I should never compare myself to anyone
00:11:50.020 be authentic, be genuine, and don't worry about what other people are doing.
00:11:53.820 But in your experience, are there any benefits or healthy ways or reasons to compare yourself
00:11:58.600 to other people?
00:12:00.660 I think it's important to, I don't think that the idea of not compare.
00:12:07.880 People say comparison is the thief of joy, right?
00:12:11.100 And, and Ed, um, Ed Milet talks about this a lot, like zero comparison.
00:12:16.120 And, uh, generally I agree with that.
00:12:18.860 Like, I think it's a good idea.
00:12:19.880 I think that whenever you, um, you know, on day-to-day life, like people get caught up
00:12:25.580 and looking, especially in business, like you have your, your, you know, other businesses
00:12:29.820 that are at the same level you are and you're constantly like looking over there, looking
00:12:34.240 over here and looking over there and then looking over here again.
00:12:37.500 And like, it's just a very strong distraction.
00:12:40.340 You always feel like you're losing, uh, because you don't really know the real story of what's
00:12:44.280 going on anywhere else.
00:12:45.620 And I feel like in a lot of those contexts, you know, and even a personal context, like
00:12:51.200 when you look at someone's life from the outside, um, you know, you can't really know what's
00:12:57.600 going on.
00:12:58.200 You just see the results.
00:12:59.020 Yeah.
00:12:59.300 You see a fucking front that they put out.
00:13:03.060 Very few people present themselves as they truly are in the moment.
00:13:06.480 And it, that's not a fault on those people.
00:13:08.520 It's just not the reality of life.
00:13:10.220 Like nobody wakes up in the morning in a bad mood and then like dresses like they're in
00:13:13.700 a bad mood and then like goes and advertises it.
00:13:16.540 And, and you know what I'm saying?
00:13:18.020 Like some, some people, well, some people, yeah, but, but the point is, is that like,
00:13:22.620 that's not how we humans operate in the social construct.
00:13:26.500 Yeah.
00:13:26.980 Like how we operate is we fucking try to come to work, contribute, do our thing, live our
00:13:32.580 lives.
00:13:32.920 And we try to put on our best front and, and that's just the natural, uh, propensity I think
00:13:40.300 of humans on a daily basis.
00:13:42.380 And because of that, you know, certain people take that to an extreme to where they pretend like
00:13:46.360 their shit is perfect.
00:13:47.680 They have no problems.
00:13:49.100 They have no struggles.
00:13:50.180 They have no anxiety.
00:13:51.180 They're just a fucking machine of winning and all this shit.
00:13:54.340 And they don't, they don't realize that, you know, that's actually pretty harmful to,
00:13:59.960 to try and like present yourself that way because the people that look at you as a leader or
00:14:04.180 look at you and want to be like you makes them feel more, uh, on, on, makes it seem,
00:14:09.940 seem unattainable to get to where you are because it's the goal.
00:14:13.220 Yeah.
00:14:13.240 Because you're setting an unrealistic standard.
00:14:15.220 So yeah.
00:14:16.360 You know, I think when it comes to setting like a big goal, right?
00:14:22.040 Like what I want to do with my life or what I want my life to mean or what I want my company
00:14:26.820 to be like, or what, you know, comparison's a natural part of that.
00:14:32.140 You know, I, when I, when I, when I, I think comparison can be very useful to humble you when
00:14:37.540 you need it.
00:14:38.480 Um, you know, when I start thinking I'm really awesome, I look at people like Bezos or I look
00:14:42.740 at people like Musk.
00:14:43.680 Right.
00:14:44.260 Um, I, and I think, well, fuck bro, I'm not even a booger on their fucking nose. 0.93
00:14:48.200 You see what I'm saying?
00:14:49.160 Yeah.
00:14:49.280 So that can be helpful too.
00:14:51.380 Um, that can also be harmful if you don't have the right mindset for it.
00:14:54.920 So I really think it's important to be aware of proper comparisons versus, uh, just saying
00:15:00.360 no comparisons because the truth is, is like, dude, you can't really learn how to be better
00:15:05.240 if you're not comparing yourself in some way, shape or form.
00:15:08.440 Yeah.
00:15:08.960 Right.
00:15:09.620 So there's, there's a level of comparison.
00:15:13.000 And I think that's healthy.
00:15:14.020 And I think there's a level of comparison that is negative.
00:15:16.320 And I think it's important for the person to have an awareness of which is which, you
00:15:20.180 know, and, um, you know, that takes practice.
00:15:23.260 You know, if you catch yourself looking at your competitors or looking at people that
00:15:27.700 you admire and starting to hate them just because they're doing their daily shit, you
00:15:33.140 know, that means it's probably not a good thing for you to be comparing in those ways.
00:15:37.140 Um, if you compare yourself to someone, let's say like, uh, you know, um, I don't know,
00:15:44.920 like the rock, right?
00:15:46.040 Like a lot of people look at the rock and they're like, fuck, I want to, I want to look
00:15:49.080 like that.
00:15:49.420 I want to be like that.
00:15:50.720 Um, you know, you got to realize that like he's put in his whole life to get where he's
00:15:57.660 at.
00:15:58.020 Right.
00:15:58.320 Right.
00:15:58.560 And so like, while that might be a good long-term comparison for you, um, if you compare yourself
00:16:04.240 today to that, you're going to feel like a loser.
00:16:07.140 So like there's levels to how, how we compare and stack up against what it is we're trying
00:16:12.980 to create or achieve.
00:16:14.920 Right.
00:16:15.360 And so I think it's just important to have awareness.
00:16:17.340 I think it's important to, um, you know, if you're feeling bad when you compare yourself,
00:16:22.820 if you feel bad right now, look at what you're watching, look, pay attention to who you're
00:16:26.780 paying attention to and what information are you putting in your brain that's making you
00:16:29.760 feel that way.
00:16:30.880 Um, but I think comparison is very valuable whenever we look at it in a healthy way, you know, like
00:16:36.400 when you say, Hey, what kind of life do you want?
00:16:38.060 You say, I want a life like this person and this, and this, and this, and this, and this
00:16:41.500 that they all have.
00:16:42.680 Those are fucking great places to, to shoot for.
00:16:46.060 Um, when we say it all the time, like you have to see what's fucking for sure.
00:16:49.340 And I feel like when people hear no comparison whatsoever, they think that like, they shouldn't
00:16:56.540 even try to aspire because they, because they feel like there should be no comparison to be
00:17:01.780 equally as damaged.
00:17:02.540 So there's, there's, you know, there's different ways to look at this and it's not as simple
00:17:06.440 as some fucking internet buzz wine or a meme, right? 0.62
00:17:10.360 You know, uh, comparison isn't always the thief of joy.
00:17:13.580 Now it can be if you don't think about it.
00:17:15.440 Right.
00:17:16.100 But it also is very useful in certain other aspects, especially when you're trying to
00:17:19.540 live an exceptional life.
00:17:20.760 How do you even know what an exceptional life looks like if you can't find people that are
00:17:25.160 already living the exceptional life and then comparing your life against that and saying,
00:17:29.240 okay, this is where I need to work.
00:17:30.560 I need to work here.
00:17:31.340 I need to work here.
00:17:32.040 I need to work here.
00:17:32.920 And then going and doing that work in that regard, comparison is very constructive.
00:17:38.140 So, you know, there's multiple ways to look at that.
00:17:41.800 Um, I think the person who's asking this question, I think they're, they have a natural understanding
00:17:46.720 of what I just said by the nature of the question they asked.
00:17:49.340 You see what I'm saying?
00:17:50.080 Yeah.
00:17:50.760 Cause like, it doesn't resonate with them.
00:17:52.140 Right.
00:17:52.340 It's just not making sense.
00:17:53.120 They're like, what do you mean?
00:17:53.800 No comparison.
00:17:54.540 Right.
00:17:54.920 Like, fuck dude.
00:17:55.700 If you're a competitor, you're going to fucking compare.
00:17:58.020 Right.
00:17:58.340 You know, that's part of the, this whole no comparison.
00:18:02.640 Like this all comes from the idea of, oh, we're not competition.
00:18:06.680 Motherfucker. 0.99
00:18:07.120 We are in competition.
00:18:08.440 We are in competition with other fucking humans.
00:18:11.240 That's the reality.
00:18:12.040 You can, you can wash it with your fucking, uh, feel good emotions and make it sound sweet,
00:18:18.340 make it sound nice.
00:18:19.240 But at the end of the motherfucking day, there's winners and there's fucking losers.
00:18:22.320 That's is a, that is a fact of fucking nature.
00:18:25.220 If you don't believe me, go watch national geographic fucking channel.
00:18:28.920 Go watch a documentary on nature.
00:18:30.740 We are a part of nature.
00:18:32.540 Right.
00:18:32.820 Humans competition is a real thing.
00:18:35.760 Survival of the strongest is a real fucking thing.
00:18:38.440 No matter what they try to indoctrinate our culture and society with.
00:18:43.460 Have you ever thought about why they try to indoctrinate our culture, our society with fucking
00:18:47.820 the idea that there's no winners and losers and that everybody's the same and that nobody
00:18:51.540 should even try to win because it's unethical.
00:18:53.480 That's because it makes people fucking nothing and it's easy to control nothing.
00:18:57.900 Right.
00:18:59.020 So winning is great.
00:19:00.660 It's easy to win when nobody else is competing.
00:19:02.240 It's easy to keep people from taking over when they're not trying to win or be better.
00:19:07.440 Right.
00:19:07.700 So, you know, I, I question everything.
00:19:11.640 I question all the social narratives and movements.
00:19:13.920 I don't believe in the framework of society is set up for the prosperity of the natural
00:19:18.900 human being.
00:19:19.960 And I believe that, you know, there's a lot of things in, in that have been going on for
00:19:24.160 a long time that are designed to keep us from becoming who we could actually become.
00:19:28.220 And I think this is one of them shying away from competition, not keeping score, giving
00:19:32.620 out trophies for showing up.
00:19:34.140 These are bad things.
00:19:35.340 These are things that lead to what we're seeing in society right now.
00:19:38.140 And I've been talking about this for fucking years.
00:19:41.980 So, um, it's a part of reality.
00:19:45.520 You're going to have to compete.
00:19:46.700 You're going to have to compare.
00:19:48.000 Uh, can it get too much?
00:19:49.520 Absolutely.
00:19:50.180 But in general, like a big reason people become great is because they compare themselves
00:19:54.720 to the greatest people on the fucking planet.
00:19:57.060 That's real, man.
00:19:58.200 Love it.
00:19:59.580 Love it guys.
00:20:00.360 Question number two, Andy, as a small business owner, what's the best way to take care of your
00:20:05.280 people when you can't necessarily afford to pay them?
00:20:08.080 Well, due to the inflation, all the shit going on right now in the economy, I have a lot of
00:20:11.820 great employees.
00:20:12.900 I don't want to lose them or get rid of them.
00:20:15.420 What's the best course of action I can take right now?
00:20:18.180 Anything you can do to improve their lives.
00:20:20.380 Anything you can do to make their lives easier.
00:20:22.260 Um, you know, back in the day when we would, when we were in that position, you know, we
00:20:28.600 would all help each other.
00:20:29.580 We would help each other move.
00:20:30.600 We would help each other do things.
00:20:31.820 We would help each other with projects.
00:20:33.120 We would fucking, you know, it's about bringing that family in tight, dude, and doing what
00:20:37.320 you can do to help people in times when money's not an object.
00:20:40.740 You know, I didn't always have the ability to pay people well.
00:20:43.520 Yeah.
00:20:43.800 Um, about say inflation's every day if you're a small business, right?
00:20:46.440 Like, I mean, just getting started.
00:20:47.680 Yeah.
00:20:48.280 And it's a, it's a, it's a tough dynamic because, you know, um, when you're a small
00:20:55.080 business and you're in the beginning, cashflow is always limited.
00:20:58.760 So I understand and empathize with that, but you know, I've been through that a couple of
00:21:03.600 different times and you've just got to do whatever the fuck you can. 0.70
00:21:06.680 Um, you know, any, any type of way that you can make their life easier.
00:21:12.620 Uh, I think, you know, and I also think that your employees understand that times are hard.
00:21:16.860 Um, I think everybody understands that.
00:21:19.120 And I think sometimes, you know, small gestures that may not make a huge difference, um, make
00:21:24.380 a huge difference in everything.
00:21:25.700 Yeah.
00:21:26.120 Like, Hey, I'm aware that you're fucking shit.
00:21:28.180 That shit's fucked up.
00:21:29.060 Like, let us do this.
00:21:30.400 I know it's not a lot, but like those little things that you can do here or there make a
00:21:34.480 big difference to people.
00:21:35.320 In my opinion.
00:21:36.460 Um, that's been my experience.
00:21:38.520 You know what I mean?
00:21:39.920 Uh, that's a hard situation.
00:21:41.920 And unfortunately I think it's going to get a lot harder.
00:21:44.320 I think things are going to get really bad financially.
00:21:47.260 Um, and I think you guys need to prepare for it.
00:21:50.140 I think everybody out there with employees needs to really talk to their employees about
00:21:54.020 a plan.
00:21:54.460 If like emergency situations were to happen, like, what do we do?
00:21:58.160 How do we stick together?
00:21:59.120 How do we help each other?
00:22:00.060 I think those things are important because, um, I believe that we are truly in danger of
00:22:05.320 having our financial system collapse at some point in the near future, which means there's
00:22:09.780 going to be a time of time, a period of time where like there is no money.
00:22:17.620 You understand?
00:22:18.600 Yeah.
00:22:18.920 I mean, like it's going to be a really weird, different time and we're sliding into it.
00:22:22.840 We're already seeing it in other countries across Europe.
00:22:25.360 You know, uh, people in Europe right now, the poor people are not being able to survive.
00:22:30.640 We're, we're really close to that here.
00:22:32.940 So, I mean, um, you know, you guys got to stick together.
00:22:37.680 That's really what it comes to, that it comes to, you know, you're going to realize that
00:22:41.260 if you're the leader of a company, you're also the leader of these people.
00:22:44.480 And, you know, it's not just about your company.
00:22:46.900 It's not just about the financial wellbeing.
00:22:48.500 It's about everybody's lives and keeping everybody safe.
00:22:50.920 And I could tell you this, the leaders that step up and help their people get through this
00:22:57.600 tough time will get in return, massive reward when they get through it, because you'll
00:23:02.620 have a galvanized team.
00:23:03.680 You know, part of the reason people, people ask like how we develop what we have here
00:23:09.240 at our companies.
00:23:09.880 Well, a lot of the key people have been through really hard times together.
00:23:12.940 You know what I'm saying?
00:23:14.340 And so, you know, I would look at it as a chance to galvanize your team and, and make,
00:23:21.040 bring your team closer instead of just trying to pay them more money that you don't have
00:23:26.320 at that time.
00:23:27.200 So, uh, it's going to, it's going to get weird and it means you're going to have to get
00:23:31.000 creative.
00:23:31.460 So Andy guys, our third and final question, question number three, Andy, how do you correct
00:23:40.320 or redirect course when you're on a path to accomplishing a goal and you see that a change
00:23:46.060 in the game plan is needed?
00:23:48.140 How do you redirect if you're in the middle of that fucking play?
00:23:52.200 Well, do you, you pivot?
00:23:53.720 Yeah.
00:23:54.120 You, oh, fuck. 0.88
00:23:54.640 Yeah.
00:23:55.040 Yeah, bro.
00:23:55.720 Anytime you, the minute you recognize that what there's a nuance there, by the way, okay.
00:24:00.700 The more experience you have, the quicker you're going to be able to realize the less
00:24:05.120 experience you have, it's going to take you longer to realize, which means you're going
00:24:08.720 to get longer through the play, um, before you realize it's not going to work.
00:24:14.400 And here's the thing, this is a big problem with small business because this requires real
00:24:21.480 humility.
00:24:22.620 When you, when you are on a plan and you realize that it's not going to work and you know, it's
00:24:29.280 not going to work.
00:24:30.000 Most people don't have the courage to change it.
00:24:32.740 They will keep fucking writing it down because it was their plan.
00:24:35.600 Right.
00:24:36.720 And they think magically somehow it's going to turn around or it's going to flip or it's
00:24:41.000 going to create a positive and it's just not.
00:24:43.860 Um, so you have to have humility.
00:24:46.280 And then the other thing you have to have is experience because the quicker that you
00:24:49.620 can recognize when something's off course, um, the quicker you could pivot it into being
00:24:54.340 on course.
00:24:55.540 And, you know, it's really something that you have to learn through doing.
00:24:59.580 It's not something that can be explained.
00:25:01.020 Uh, but I know the most successful businesses are the most fluid.
00:25:05.040 They're the people who can adapt the quickest.
00:25:07.060 They're the people who, who can recognize where a pivot needs to be made and make it immediately
00:25:10.880 with no ego involved.
00:25:12.740 Like there's no like, oh man, I'm so sorry.
00:25:16.140 I was wrong.
00:25:16.760 Fuck it, dude.
00:25:17.240 This ain't the right play.
00:25:17.980 Let's run this play.
00:25:18.820 Right.
00:25:19.100 You know, that's how quick it has to be.
00:25:20.880 Yeah.
00:25:21.320 Right.
00:25:21.540 That's how quick it has to be.
00:25:22.880 There could be no ego.
00:25:23.840 There can be no emotion.
00:25:24.800 There can be no, this was my idea.
00:25:26.740 So it has to work.
00:25:28.100 And I think this reflects in society right now.
00:25:31.220 We see a lot of people who have made a mental investment and going along with the agenda
00:25:37.340 that's being propagated by our media, which has been clearly a fucking lie. 0.64
00:25:41.420 And they're still having trouble letting go of it because they bought into it two years
00:25:45.820 ago.
00:25:46.100 All right.
00:25:46.860 Those people will fail in fucking life and business because they can't fucking let their
00:25:51.720 ego go and make a pivot.
00:25:53.780 It's a, those things have to happen immediately.
00:25:56.140 Now, now there's an asterisk on this.
00:25:59.920 There's also a group of people who don't let their idea play out far enough before they
00:26:05.100 pivot.
00:26:05.580 And then they spend their whole time pivoting from one to the next, to the next, to the
00:26:09.460 next.
00:26:09.880 And you can't get ahead that way either.
00:26:11.820 So when I said there was nuance, you have to be able to honestly assess the scenario,
00:26:16.760 not hope.
00:26:18.760 I'm not hoping.
00:26:19.860 Right.
00:26:20.200 Right.
00:26:20.480 Right.
00:26:20.720 I'm not praying.
00:26:21.640 I'm not, I'm not like guessing.
00:26:23.000 I'm assessing like what is happening.
00:26:25.820 Oh, you're fucking people are getting their faces shot.
00:26:28.920 Who Steve and Tony and fucking, uh, Teresa got fucking their heads blown off.
00:26:33.880 Well, we probably shouldn't go that way anymore.
00:26:35.920 Right.
00:26:36.540 Right.
00:26:36.840 Right.
00:26:37.120 Like I don't, I don't send in three more and then three more and then three more.
00:26:40.460 Yeah.
00:26:40.900 That's how you fucking lose.
00:26:42.140 Right.
00:26:42.460 Right.
00:26:42.660 Right.
00:26:42.740 Right.
00:26:42.860 So when, you know, but let's say the scenario is, Oh, we sent these three people in and
00:26:49.360 they make, they, we've almost there.
00:26:50.980 Well then maybe you do send three more people in.
00:26:53.160 Right.
00:26:53.380 So there's all kinds of nuance, these scenarios that you have to be aware of.
00:26:59.140 But at the end of the day, this is about being a realist.
00:27:01.540 It's about assessing the facts.
00:27:02.820 It's about letting go of emotion.
00:27:04.480 It's about letting go of the need to be correct.
00:27:06.460 And it's about assessing what is in real life and making decisions quickly.
00:27:11.220 Um, or maybe not as quickly, uh, if you're, if you're a, a chronic pivoter, um, to make
00:27:20.220 things happen, you know?
00:27:21.660 And so there's nuance there and you just got to figure it out.
00:27:23.940 But I think most people, um, most people have not mastered the art of nuance when it
00:27:31.440 comes to this.
00:27:32.140 Yeah.
00:27:32.480 You know, they, they, they, they have a hard time seeing when the appropriate time is to
00:27:37.360 pivot, um, or they have a hard time seeing that they need to pivot or they have a hard
00:27:44.080 time not pivoting too soon.
00:27:45.960 Right.
00:27:46.340 So these are all things that you just need to be aware of because they're all true, um,
00:27:51.320 in different scenarios that could present themselves.
00:27:53.800 Yeah.
00:27:54.240 So how you think through these things and how you, uh, you know, understand these things,
00:27:58.540 it takes real thought.
00:28:00.260 Like you should sit down and draw this shit out on a fucking board.
00:28:04.080 If I do this, what will happen?
00:28:07.200 If I do this, what will happen?
00:28:08.800 If I do this, what will happen?
00:28:10.340 And if you have to sit down and draw that out on a board or on a piece of paper to get
00:28:14.440 your mind to think this way, um, it's worth it because you'll develop a skill and you'll
00:28:21.500 start to learn how this works.
00:28:23.380 And then in the future, you'll be better at making these kinds of decisions.
00:28:26.480 But I would say, you know, it depends.
00:28:29.460 That's the answer.
00:28:30.800 To follow up on the Andy, would you say that when, when, when scaling, right?
00:28:34.920 Like going from the 10 employees and you know, now you got thousands, right?
00:28:39.080 Like making those pivots, what, what's, what's like, what's the trickle down effect?
00:28:44.720 Because like you said, the more experience you have, the easier it is to make those pivots.
00:28:48.380 But like, what's the actual process like of those pivots being actually, you know, installed
00:28:53.360 and actually changed like from up top to, well, for me, you know, what I would do is I walk
00:28:58.720 in the room and I'll say, Hey, this isn't fucking working and there'll be a, and I'll
00:29:02.880 say, is it?
00:29:03.940 And they'll say, well, actually it's this, this, and this.
00:29:06.160 And sometimes when I get the real data and I look at it, I say, okay, actually it is
00:29:10.920 where it just doesn't look like it's working.
00:29:12.180 It just needs a little bit more time.
00:29:13.720 Okay.
00:29:14.140 Right.
00:29:14.420 I need to, I need to bake the cake for a little bit longer.
00:29:16.580 Right.
00:29:16.860 Right.
00:29:17.960 Um, sometimes, you know, I walk in, I said, this isn't fucking working.
00:29:23.260 And we look at the data and it's not working.
00:29:25.120 And then we say, okay, this is what we need to do.
00:29:26.960 And the decision is made.
00:29:28.260 We don't sit there and say, Oh, well you said this and this and this would work.
00:29:32.680 Or you, you know what?
00:29:33.680 He said this would work.
00:29:35.300 I don't care about that.
00:29:36.540 I care.
00:29:36.920 Is it working or is it not working?
00:29:38.940 And if it's not working, what do we need to do to make it work?
00:29:41.900 That's it.
00:29:42.820 And that's how the thought process should be.
00:29:44.660 There's too much ego involved in most companies.
00:29:46.880 You know, they want their plan to work or they want their play to run.
00:29:50.200 Dude, there's a famous saying out there.
00:29:51.460 It's amazing what you can accomplish when nobody cares about the credit.
00:29:53.980 And that's, that's the way to think about this.
00:29:56.360 Like, it doesn't matter if you came up with the best idea or the worst idea.
00:30:00.380 We're all on the same team.
00:30:01.960 Let's figure out how to get us on the best idea, no matter whose it is.
00:30:04.800 Yeah.
00:30:05.340 You know what I'm saying?
00:30:06.040 Yeah.
00:30:06.260 So like ego, ego in leadership is usually what fucks all that up.
00:30:11.500 Yeah.
00:30:11.780 It's the truth.
00:30:12.360 Like, you know, people get a leadership title or a leadership ego or some power or an office
00:30:19.260 and they think like, you know, you guys know what I'm talking about.
00:30:24.140 Yeah.
00:30:24.500 Yeah.
00:30:24.780 You know, people who just think that they got to have it their way.
00:30:27.080 No, you're right.
00:30:27.900 Yeah.
00:30:28.200 And that, that is a, that's a toxic leadership trait that will get you buried by someone
00:30:33.340 who doesn't think that way.
00:30:34.440 You can clearly see the options that are better.
00:30:36.840 So it's real, man.
00:30:39.040 Guys, Andy, that's three.
00:30:40.660 Yeah.
00:30:41.360 I'll pay the fee.
00:30:42.280 Let's go.
00:30:42.660 Yeah.