REAL AF with Andy Frisella - August 18, 2022


360. Q&AF： Instilling Drive In Your Employees, Asking For Help & Developing Business Skillsets

Topics
development and personal excellence vulnerability
Hosted by
Andy Frisella
Mentioned
Andy Priscilla Megan Kelly I. Yeah Headshot Cruise Karen Cindy Blah
359. Q&AF： Developing 'Kill Kill Kill' Mentality, Losing Weight While Operating Business & Becoming Successful As An Intrapreneur 361. Andy & DJ CTI： Allen Weisselberg Sentenced, Teachers' Union Firing White Teachers & New Special Agents Harassing Americans

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11

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347

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34

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In this episode of the Realist, we talk about how to become more interesting, how to run a business better, and how to be a better human being. We also talk about the importance of having a good sense of humor.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realist, say goodbye to 0.99
00:00:20.820 the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality. 0.90
00:00:25.740 Guys, today we have Q and AF, that is where you submit the Q's and I give you the A's 0.99
00:00:31.480 as fuck and if you're new here, when you tune in, we have multiple formats on the show, it's 0.79
00:00:40.840 not a normal interview show or conversation show, we kind of do a little bit of everything 0.99
00:00:45.460 but it's all geared towards helping make this world a better place in a very unique way.
00:00:50.880 But anyway, sometimes you will tune in, we'll have Q and AF like today and this is a personal
00:00:57.220 development episode, this is where you submit your questions, I answer them.
00:01:01.040 If you're not aware, I had one of the biggest entrepreneurial podcasts of all time called
00:01:04.780 the MFCEO Project and this is kind of an ode to that, all right?
00:01:11.180 So you can submit your questions to email those in guys to askandy at andyfricella.com and I'll
00:01:16.860 answer them, okay?
00:01:18.520 Sometimes when you tune in, we have CTI, which is Cruise the Internet, it's more of a current
00:01:23.140 events, news, comedy type...
00:01:27.420 Something.
00:01:29.760 I don't know.
00:01:30.220 Something.
00:01:31.020 Casserole.
00:01:32.060 All right, is that what it is?
00:01:33.260 Oh, you guys love your casseroles. 0.99
00:01:33.860 It's kind of like we throw all the shit in the show and then it turns out into something 0.99
00:01:38.140 maybe sometimes, okay? 0.98
00:01:40.020 But basically what we do is we talk about what's going on in the world, we talk about the underlying
00:01:45.200 issues and we talk about how we can be solutions to those underlying issues.
00:01:49.000 So you're going to get today, you know, the micro solutions, how you can be better as an
00:01:53.240 individual, how you can run a business better, how you can be more successful, how you can
00:01:57.760 be better at life.
00:01:58.700 And then on CTI, it's how we can use our own individuality and our own development to make
00:02:04.320 the world a better place.
00:02:05.340 That's ultimately the theme that we're trying to get across and we do it in our own unique
00:02:09.820 way.
00:02:10.180 Sometimes when you tune in, we'll have real talk.
00:02:12.200 Real talk is a short five to 20 minute episode.
00:02:15.420 A lot of you guys probably call it a rant.
00:02:17.460 I just call it the way it is.
00:02:19.980 And then sometimes we have full length and full length is where we go real deep with,
00:02:26.000 you know, a guest and, you know, we find out how they're, what are you laughing at?
00:02:32.100 I had the best joke.
00:02:34.380 Oh, you guys picked up on my pun.
00:02:37.840 All right.
00:02:38.740 DJ didn't get it though.
00:02:39.820 What's that tell you?
00:02:40.800 Yeah.
00:02:40.980 And I'll, yeah, well, anyway, full length goes real deep into the issues of, uh, how
00:02:52.040 you become successful, how you become interesting, how you become unique. 0.90
00:02:55.280 Once in a while, I get somebody on here that completely disagrees with everything I fucking 0.99
00:02:59.280 say. 0.98
00:02:59.800 And we show the world how similar we really are.
00:03:03.480 Um, but anyhow, that's the gist of the show.
00:03:06.500 Uh, so we always, you know, try to keep it real.
00:03:11.020 That's why it's called real AF and not ideal AF.
00:03:13.460 So, uh, yeah, that's what's going on.
00:03:16.820 What's up?
00:03:17.560 Not much.
00:03:17.960 I actually made a joke.
00:03:18.700 I think Joe heard me earlier.
00:03:20.440 It was off the mic.
00:03:21.360 No, you didn't get the joke.
00:03:22.440 Everybody else here.
00:03:23.340 So I laughed the hardest out of everybody.
00:03:24.960 I made one before that though.
00:03:26.620 Huh?
00:03:27.200 And you were like, you don't know what to call it.
00:03:28.560 It's like a casserole.
00:03:29.400 And I was like, yeah, you know, you know, you guys like your casseroles.
00:03:32.040 Oh, you guys.
00:03:33.120 What do you mean?
00:03:33.860 You guys, it's just my inherent racism.
00:03:35.820 So what do you mean?
00:03:36.720 You guys, what do you mean?
00:03:38.680 You people.
00:03:40.140 Oh man.
00:03:40.860 What's going on though, man?
00:03:41.940 I'm feeling oppressed.
00:03:44.900 What do you mean?
00:03:45.660 You guys, I got an idea. 0.99
00:03:46.920 You can go make like a, a, a, a long ass fucking casserole, casserole with no salt. 0.99
00:03:54.040 Add the raisins. 1.00
00:03:56.020 Add the raisins.
00:03:56.860 Add the raisins. 1.00
00:03:56.880 Add the raisins in that bitch. 1.00
00:03:57.500 Yeah, that's it. 1.00
00:03:58.240 Oh, fuck dude. 1.00
00:03:59.720 Maybe do some square dancing afterwards. 1.00
00:04:02.980 Punch a couple of drywalls, you know. 1.00
00:04:04.880 Oh, fuck. 1.00
00:04:05.580 That's only after I drink my first form energy. 1.00
00:04:07.600 There we go.
00:04:08.200 Yeah.
00:04:09.100 The green one.
00:04:10.900 Quick word from our sponsors.
00:04:13.020 There are no ads on the show.
00:04:14.680 First form energy.
00:04:15.960 Right. 1.00
00:04:18.200 Oh, fuck. 1.00
00:04:19.180 There's something wrong with all of us. 1.00
00:04:20.680 We just, we just don't lie about it.
00:04:22.320 Hey, that's it.
00:04:22.980 That's the truth.
00:04:23.940 I don't know what it is, dude.
00:04:24.860 Everybody out. 0.99
00:04:25.900 People, people, people try to fucking call me names and shit. 0.99
00:04:28.440 And they're like, oh, I'm like, yeah, bro. 0.99
00:04:29.760 I know. 1.00
00:04:32.220 I'm like, fuck it, dude. 1.00
00:04:33.440 Just found out. 1.00
00:04:34.320 Like, this is a regular fucking dude. 1.00
00:04:35.580 Try it out here to fucking swim, bro. 1.00
00:04:37.260 Like, anyway. 0.99
00:04:39.540 What's up, man?
00:04:40.480 I got some good ones for you.
00:04:41.760 No.
00:04:42.460 Yeah.
00:04:42.740 I know.
00:04:43.340 It's surprising.
00:04:44.400 You do?
00:04:44.800 Yeah.
00:04:45.360 I mean, I think they're pretty good.
00:04:48.460 I'm shocked.
00:04:49.680 My dad, are you shocked?
00:04:51.640 Super shocked.
00:04:52.660 Yeah.
00:04:52.840 Super shocked.
00:04:53.560 Yeah.
00:04:53.640 Listen to that personality over there.
00:04:55.660 I think it came with a haircut.
00:04:57.280 Yeah.
00:04:57.740 That's a good haircut.
00:04:58.800 No, it is clean.
00:04:59.760 Yeah.
00:04:59.920 What do they call that thing?
00:05:01.620 The dot.
00:05:02.920 Midlife crisis.
00:05:05.480 The what?
00:05:06.640 Midlife crisis.
00:05:08.460 He's not midlife yet.
00:05:09.800 No, he's not.
00:05:10.520 Bro, you don't even have hair.
00:05:12.120 Yeah.
00:05:12.680 I have hair.
00:05:13.440 Yeah, quit oppressing us.
00:05:14.780 I have way more hair.
00:05:16.620 Did you feel oppressed, too?
00:05:17.840 Yes.
00:05:18.240 Very oppressed.
00:05:18.620 Yeah. 0.99
00:05:18.820 You're not even fucking whining. 1.00
00:05:19.960 Who's our HR in this fucking room? 1.00
00:05:21.620 Your cousin? 1.00
00:05:23.260 No, she. 0.94
00:05:24.180 That's not.
00:05:25.360 Oh, this is a different company.
00:05:26.440 Okay.
00:05:26.880 Well, then that would be Emily.
00:05:28.280 Yeah.
00:05:28.680 That would be Emily.
00:05:29.260 I don't want to.
00:05:29.660 I don't want to.
00:05:30.440 Say it's HR. 0.99
00:05:32.020 I'm going to fucking tell Emily. 0.99
00:05:33.100 Hold on. 0.99
00:05:33.420 Please don't do that.
00:05:37.120 Every time I meet her, I feel like I'm getting fired, bro.
00:05:39.600 Like.
00:05:39.680 Hey.
00:05:40.240 She don't play. 1.00
00:05:40.940 No, she's.
00:05:41.680 No nonsense, bro.
00:05:42.640 She don't play, bro. 1.00
00:05:43.440 No nonsense.
00:05:45.000 No nonsense.
00:05:46.080 Yeah.
00:05:46.400 But no, I do got some good ones for you, though.
00:05:48.400 If you want them.
00:05:49.320 I do.
00:05:49.860 Let's do it.
00:05:50.620 Let's get into this.
00:05:52.560 Andy, question number one.
00:05:55.300 Not everyone working for you will have the same passion as drive as you.
00:05:59.560 So how do you work with and manage the people who have a lot of potential, but just don't
00:06:04.400 necessarily have the same desires to improve or is driven, but they're comfortable in their
00:06:09.900 current world?
00:06:10.340 How do you manage those employees?
00:06:12.180 Well, I think, first of all, from a leadership perspective, you have to realize that you're
00:06:16.860 going to have you.
00:06:17.940 This is the reality, bro.
00:06:19.600 You're going to have people who are going to do maybe what you consider less than their
00:06:26.500 potential for their whole lives.
00:06:29.960 You know, not everybody is built to live up to their own potential.
00:06:34.340 I believe that almost every human is is unlimited in potential.
00:06:39.180 And I also believe that almost every human is limited in potential by the environment they
00:06:45.720 were exposed to growing up. 0.94
00:06:48.220 So, you know, you have, I don't know, 25 years of fucking limitations built up in someone's 0.99
00:06:56.780 brain by the time they're 25 years old. 0.98
00:06:59.180 You know, that's a lot to work through if they came through the wrong environment.
00:07:02.260 That's why this indoctrination in the schools is such a big deal.
00:07:06.280 And that's why I'm so passionate about talking about it.
00:07:08.420 That's why I've written children's books.
00:07:09.600 Like, that's why I do these things, because I understand how hard it is to unwind, because
00:07:13.660 being in business, I have run across, you know, a lot of people who I know for sure had
00:07:18.780 a lot more potential than what they believed they actually had.
00:07:21.900 And it's very hard to get someone to do that.
00:07:25.400 And some people never will.
00:07:27.060 Some people will never.
00:07:28.420 And you have to understand, dude, some people have a different worldview of how their life
00:07:33.880 should look on a daily basis.
00:07:36.260 You know, as entrepreneurs, we become obsessed.
00:07:40.940 You know, we become obsessed with the mission.
00:07:44.740 And that's our role.
00:07:45.520 That's what we're supposed to do.
00:07:46.580 That's why there's so few of us.
00:07:49.860 But, you know, you can't expect everybody else when they don't own the company or they
00:07:54.800 don't have an equity position or they don't have a this or that to have that exact same
00:08:00.320 passion you have.
00:08:01.380 And that's why it's important to have a strong mission, because the mission of whatever it
00:08:07.400 is your company is trying to do is should ideally be what it is your people are passionate
00:08:12.580 about, right?
00:08:13.560 Whatever that problem is that you're solving as a company or organization or as a team,
00:08:17.980 that's what you want them to be passionate about.
00:08:20.600 Not so much the passionate about your company.
00:08:24.580 Okay.
00:08:25.000 So a lot of people like, you know, they confuse those two and it should be very close to the
00:08:30.680 same thing.
00:08:31.200 And it should be confusing, but it's not quite the same thing, right?
00:08:34.200 Being passionate about, you know, serving your customers the best possible way will automatically
00:08:40.580 overflow into the results for the company.
00:08:43.520 Right.
00:08:43.800 And that's what you ultimately want.
00:08:46.080 And so, you know, if you have a good mission and you're in, you're truly dedicated to that
00:08:50.680 mission, um, I believe that's the best way to get people to rise to their potential because
00:08:55.060 they're doing something that they believe in, that they believe is important, that they
00:08:59.280 believe is worthy of pursuing.
00:09:02.120 And they naturally want to do that better.
00:09:04.240 So they will, they will start to step into their own power in that way.
00:09:07.300 Um, so having a strong mission and being aligned with the mission in a very real way, uh, is,
00:09:13.800 is paramount to getting people to buy into their own potential.
00:09:17.600 The other things that you can do is encourage personal development, you know, show them where
00:09:21.760 to read, encourage them to read, uh, you know, encourage, encourage their own personal
00:09:27.120 development.
00:09:27.600 Like, you know, I tell everybody here, you know, I, I, you, your personal development on
00:09:33.880 your own time, that's, that's an investment in your future paycheck, you know?
00:09:39.160 And that's how people have to look at it.
00:09:40.580 Like a lot of people have the wrong idea. 0.99
00:09:42.820 You know, they go home at night, they, they fucking, you know, do a half-ass job for being 0.99
00:09:47.640 honest at work, they half-ass. 1.00
00:09:49.960 Okay. 0.98
00:09:50.560 And most companies will tolerate half-ass. 0.97
00:09:53.000 All right. 0.95
00:09:55.300 And then they go home and they do this over and over and over the same repetitive cycle
00:09:59.700 for years and years and years and years and years.
00:10:01.940 And then they get bitter because they haven't progressed to that next level.
00:10:06.240 Well, what they missed is they haven't done their part.
00:10:08.760 Right.
00:10:09.140 Right.
00:10:09.860 And their part is improving your skillset in your own time.
00:10:14.140 That's a reality of getting better, bro. 0.99
00:10:16.380 Like nobody owes you shit. 1.00
00:10:18.120 No company out there owes you shit. 1.00
00:10:20.080 No fucking entrepreneur that you have a job at owes you shit. 1.00
00:10:24.280 And if you really want shit, you have to become undeniably skilled to where you almost 1.00
00:10:30.440 leverage your employer into keeping you and paying you well, because you're too fucking 1.00
00:10:35.180 good. 0.98
00:10:35.900 And that's the game.
00:10:37.100 But people don't get that.
00:10:38.460 They've been taught with this like weak, you know, socialist mentality, communist mentality 1.00
00:10:45.160 that, you know, if I show up every day for 30 years and I do fucking bullshit work, I 1.00
00:10:50.180 deserve part of the company. 1.00
00:10:51.320 No, you fucking don't. 1.00
00:10:52.660 It doesn't fucking work that way. 0.99
00:10:53.980 It's never worked that way. 1.00
00:10:54.920 It ain't ever going to work that way because the motherfuckers that own the companies will just 1.00
00:10:58.780 go do some other shit. 1.00
00:11:00.800 Okay. 1.00
00:11:01.240 So you're never getting a free ride anywhere and everybody needs to fucking understand 0.98
00:11:05.220 that. 0.98
00:11:05.940 Okay. 1.00
00:11:06.340 If you don't fucking read and you don't put time into your fucking fitness and you don't 1.00
00:11:10.580 put time in developing your mental and you don't make more money, that's your fucking 1.00
00:11:15.020 fault. 1.00
00:11:15.380 That's not your company's fucking fault. 1.00
00:11:17.420 That's it. 0.99
00:11:18.460 It's your responsibility to get better. 0.98
00:11:20.500 If you can't get better, then you ain't going to get fucking paid. 0.98
00:11:24.200 That's reality. 0.99
00:11:25.320 So my ultimate fucking thing is, is letting them know the reality. 0.99
00:11:30.380 Like I've said, and these guys are all shaking their head in the studio. 0.99
00:11:33.660 They've heard me say a hundred times to my own company, your job is to get so fucking 0.98
00:11:38.820 good that when you come to me and ask for a raise, I cannot fucking say no because you're 0.98
00:11:43.100 too good. 0.98
00:11:43.900 Yeah.
00:11:46.960 That's, I say that to my own people.
00:11:50.200 You know how many of them do it?
00:11:51.460 A few, but I'm just saying like, that's the, that's the game everywhere.
00:11:57.920 That's the game everywhere. 0.99
00:11:59.580 Like no matter where the fuck you work, you have to be so good that they can't fucking 0.99
00:12:05.680 allow you to go. 0.99
00:12:06.460 And if they allow you to go, you're going to be fucking okay because there's going to 1.00
00:12:09.360 be people that pay you for your shit. 1.00
00:12:12.160 You know what I'm saying? 1.00
00:12:13.200 Yeah.
00:12:14.020 Yeah. 1.00
00:12:14.360 Well, worst case scenario, you're going to work for a fucking competitor. 1.00
00:12:16.740 Listen, man. 1.00
00:12:17.400 Kill the last business. 0.99
00:12:18.380 Bro, listen. 0.97
00:12:19.620 Yeah.
00:12:20.100 I mean, that's not a good thing to do.
00:12:21.480 That's never a good look because like, dude, that creates lawsuits and all kinds of legal 0.94
00:12:25.580 shit.
00:12:26.040 But the point is, you know, you, you should be taking your own development serious to a 0.99
00:12:34.920 point of the, the level, the level of obsession that the entrepreneur has in their own business.
00:12:40.680 Like if you can obsess over your own skillset, the way an entrepreneur, like somebody like 0.98
00:12:45.100 me obsesses over the fucking business, bro, you're going to fucking run a, that's how 0.98
00:12:50.120 you build the equivalent of a, of a fucking, you know, iconic brand out of your own human 1.00
00:12:55.640 self. 1.00
00:12:56.380 Like you're a brand, bro. 1.00
00:12:57.940 Like your body, your fucking mind, who you are, how you sound, what you talk. 1.00
00:13:01.920 That's a brand to everybody else. 1.00
00:13:04.600 That's how you got to fucking think about it. 0.97
00:13:06.480 So what do you want your brand to be? 1.00
00:13:07.980 Do you want your brand to be fucking, uh, uh, uh, underachieving, apathetic, lazy, unhealthy, 1.00
00:13:15.280 out of shape, uh, you know, weak, unintelligible, uh, you know, fucking piece of shit. 1.00
00:13:24.400 Or do you want your brand to, to stand for fucking excellence? 1.00
00:13:28.640 And do you want to go to sleep at night knowing that by you simply being alive because of the 0.98
00:13:34.100 standards that you live at the world's getting a better, becoming better.
00:13:38.120 Because they're able to watch you do what you do.
00:13:41.400 And that's a responsibility that we've lost here in America. 0.99
00:13:44.680 So like if you motherfuckers would just take it and understand how the way it really works, 0.99
00:13:50.180 which is you're in control. 1.00
00:13:51.780 Okay. 1.00
00:13:52.280 Even if the world's fucking raining down fire and brimstone on your motherfucking ass right 1.00
00:13:57.200 now, and it is the worst fucking time of your life and 30 to fucking 90 days, if you 1.00
00:14:03.380 fucking keep it moving and watch what you eat, drink water, read the right. 0.99
00:14:07.100 Keep it moving. 0.99
00:14:08.260 You're going to be 10 times better because dude, if you could get better in the times 0.98
00:14:12.760 that would destroy other people, how good can you do when times are fucking normal? 0.75
00:14:17.860 You know, so I mean, I'm a little off track here, but the point remains, you know, you guys 0.53
00:14:24.500 have to inspire people to pursue their own level of personal excellence inside your organization.
00:14:32.620 And you have to let them know that it's not just about them performing for your organization,
00:14:38.500 but also I also tell everybody here, and these guys are again, shaking their head.
00:14:43.560 Yes. 0.97
00:14:44.160 Uh, that learn as much as you fucking can here, because if you go somewhere else, it'll help 0.99
00:14:49.540 you fucking dominate. 0.98
00:14:50.620 So like, dude, my interest is in their development and what's best for them. 0.99
00:14:56.460 And if you make it like that inside your organization or your team, and then you, you build around 0.97
00:15:02.640 that, bro, you're going to fucking do really well. 1.00
00:15:05.380 Those people will rise, you know, like this idea of this fuck, like you, you know, most 1.00
00:15:11.240 companies are fucking a joke, dude. 1.00
00:15:12.980 Like it's a cubicle. 1.00
00:15:14.820 You walk through, it's somebody's fucking birthday. 0.99
00:15:17.940 Oh, it's Karen's birthday in the kitchen today. 1.00
00:15:20.920 We got cake.
00:15:21.660 We got cake.
00:15:22.840 Cake.
00:15:23.420 Cake.
00:15:24.860 Hey, Cindy, we got cake.
00:15:28.120 Aren't you coming? 1.00
00:15:29.980 Like that's fucking corporate America, bro. 0.99
00:15:32.360 I don't know. 1.00
00:15:32.980 I had my cheat meal yesterday.
00:15:34.540 Yeah, but I guess it's okay.
00:15:37.240 It's birthday.
00:15:38.100 It's birthday. 1.00
00:15:39.660 So like, dude, like this is the fucking, this is the life we're living. 0.98
00:15:43.840 And so like, dude, if you become a person of excellence and you're in that office, you're 0.98
00:15:47.820 like, Hey, no lady, uh, I ain't no cake. 1.00
00:15:50.500 Cause I don't want to look like shit. 0.99
00:15:51.860 And you keep it moving. 0.99
00:15:53.440 That's going to make people fucking say, think something, you know, you could change a rope. 0.98
00:15:58.840 Here's the real problem, dude. 0.97
00:16:00.640 And all of this is that people don't understand that you're, and I struggle with this too,
00:16:08.500 bro, you know, four or five years ago, three years ago, even before I started really getting 0.95
00:16:13.720 into my mental development, like what I, even when I was doing MFCEO, like I was a fucking 1.00
00:16:19.460 idiot. 1.00
00:16:20.340 Okay. 1.00
00:16:20.780 Like I thought I was way better than what the fuck I was. 0.95
00:16:23.240 You know, I, I, I, like my point is, is that even you guys who are seeing successful people 0.99
00:16:34.380 who are like, have their shit together and all this shit, there's still so much room for 0.95
00:16:39.820 development and so much room to progress. 0.99
00:16:42.140 And I didn't realize back then that like how important it was to set a good standard. 0.99
00:16:48.500 You know, that's why I was fucking fat. 0.99
00:16:51.080 That's why I, you know, that's why I talked a lot more shit and wasn't as careful with 1.00
00:16:55.800 my fucking language. 0.99
00:16:56.620 You know what I'm saying? 0.99
00:16:57.800 Um, not in curse words ways, but like, you know, maybe I was a little too hard on some
00:17:01.660 people.
00:17:01.940 Maybe, you know, maybe I wasn't, I don't know, but I know I handle things differently now
00:17:06.460 and it works better now.
00:17:07.560 And so, you know, we all mature and we all grow and we all make changes and develop and
00:17:13.600 become better.
00:17:14.240 And your people are no different.
00:17:16.400 The pre the reason they're not doing it is because you're not inspiring them or creating
00:17:20.140 a space for them to grow.
00:17:22.640 If people don't think they can grow, if they don't think they can progress, if they don't
00:17:25.900 think they could be a part of something cool that solves real problems, you have a problem
00:17:29.820 in your company.
00:17:30.780 Like, because dude, it's going to be a constant battle of hiring new people, training new people,
00:17:35.860 people leaving new people coming in and bro, that's, that's hard to run.
00:17:40.120 It's hard to gain ground when you have that kind of situation.
00:17:42.920 So you should be building your company into a company that inspires growth, inspires development,
00:17:49.960 inspires people to become better, knowing that they'll have a place still under the
00:17:55.780 same roof with a better title and a better salary and a bigger responsibilities and better
00:18:01.040 able to contribute.
00:18:03.340 You know, like the, they have to know that.
00:18:06.020 And if they know that bro, you'll be surprised how many people will get up and run towards 1.00
00:18:09.460 that shit. 1.00
00:18:10.100 Yeah. 1.00
00:18:10.460 You know what I'm saying?
00:18:11.160 That's real.
00:18:12.100 That's real.
00:18:12.760 Follow up on that though, Andy, because you touched a little bit like on the indoctrination
00:18:15.920 stuff.
00:18:16.420 And when we were talking about having younger employees, have, what would you say would
00:18:21.460 be like an average amount of time, just speaking to the other business owners that have these
00:18:26.820 younger employees that you've witnessed, like what's the average amount of time it takes
00:18:30.480 to get that indoctrination kind of just out?
00:18:33.260 So, you know, it depends. 0.99
00:18:34.740 Like if someone's had one of these fucking experiences that humbles the fuck out of them 0.99
00:18:38.720 and they're 20 years old and they realize that everything they've been told is a fucking 0.99
00:18:42.920 lie because they just got their fucking face stomped by the world, that person's usually 0.99
00:18:47.620 pretty receptive to hearing a different perspective. 1.00
00:18:50.420 You know what I'm saying?
00:18:51.120 Or someone who's 30 who just went through their first divorce, who just lost all their 0.99
00:18:55.500 shit and has to start over. 0.98
00:18:57.120 And you're saying, okay, well, you know, and they're see people with perspective of, of 0.99
00:19:02.800 how it isn't can recognize the new path more easily than someone without a perspective.
00:19:09.520 Meaning like if I bring someone into our building, who's 35 years old and having some life experience,
00:19:16.400 they actually appreciate what we do here more than the 20 year old.
00:19:20.840 That's never had a real job.
00:19:22.380 All right. 1.00
00:19:23.040 Cause unless that person's been through some real fucking shit. 1.00
00:19:26.140 Okay. 0.99
00:19:27.180 So you have to understand that people come to this place of readiness to, to improve
00:19:32.880 and develop at different times of life. 1.00
00:19:35.680 That's why when you guys say, well, you've told that story before, no shit motherfucker, 0.99
00:19:39.680 but there's people that need to fucking hear it now. 1.00
00:19:42.620 You see what I'm saying? 0.97
00:19:43.860 So we all come to it at different points of time.
00:19:46.100 So I wouldn't say there's an actual age for that or a time period that needs to unwind
00:19:50.800 it because the truth is what I've experienced in almost every scenario is that I've been
00:19:56.120 that someone, it takes someone really hitting rock bottom to be open to hearing a new path
00:20:02.480 because like our egos get in the way of us being able to recognize what we were actually
00:20:07.500 believing in or do. 0.99
00:20:08.480 It's kind of like what's going on with this bullshit in the world. 1.00
00:20:10.420 Yeah. 0.99
00:20:10.800 You know what I'm saying?
00:20:11.400 Like there's lots of people who have built their identity around. 0.98
00:20:14.420 I'm a fucking, you know, with the Democrats and this and that. 0.99
00:20:17.880 And now all of a sudden there's all this crazy shit going on and these people are riding 1.00
00:20:22.540 the wave into the fucking, you know, bottom of the abyss. 0.99
00:20:26.060 And, and, you know, privately they'll say, dude, I don't really believe in any of this 1.00
00:20:29.020 shit, but I can't go with them. 0.98
00:20:30.600 Well, why can't you go with them? 1.00
00:20:32.100 I already told Andy fuck off. 1.00
00:20:33.660 He's a fucking conspiracy. 1.00
00:20:34.740 Yeah. 1.00
00:20:34.760 But my point is, is dude, you don't want to be the person who allows their ego to ride 0.99
00:20:40.520 them to the bottom of the fucking barrel before you recognize that that's what's fucking 0.99
00:20:45.100 you up. 1.00
00:20:45.640 You know what I'm saying? 0.95
00:20:46.520 And that's why having humility, that's where humility is super fucking valuable. 0.80
00:20:51.800 Okay. 0.94
00:20:52.360 You're never as good as you think you are.
00:20:54.500 And you're never as bad as you think you are. 0.98
00:20:56.580 When the whole world's telling you that you're fucking amazing, you ain't, you're still that 1.00
00:21:00.840 same fat motherfucker that grew up on the gravel road, bro. 1.00
00:21:04.820 Get it? 1.00
00:21:05.500 Talking about myself.
00:21:06.480 Yeah. 1.00
00:21:06.940 You know, when the whole world's raining on me and saying, dude, you're a piece of shit. 1.00
00:21:10.500 You're a this, you're a that, you're a fucking blah, blah, blah, which happens 1.00
00:21:14.180 all the time because I speak out against the biggest fucking people on the fucking planet. 1.00
00:21:18.460 You know what I remember? 1.00
00:21:19.700 I think about all the fucking lives I've changed. 0.99
00:21:21.900 I think about all the good I've developed. 0.99
00:21:23.580 I think about fucking all the things I've done and accomplished. 1.00
00:21:26.920 And I realized, well, you know, fuck them. 0.99
00:21:29.500 So it's like, you know, you got to be, you got, you got to be real with yourself. 1.00
00:21:33.600 You know what I'm saying?
00:21:34.440 And that's why it's important to build yourself into somebody that you're proud of because
00:21:38.680 when, when your time comes, which it comes for everybody in this culture, right? 0.98
00:21:42.740 In this fucking cancel fucking hater culture where everybody wants to, you know, instead 0.99
00:21:48.260 of waiting for someone to succeed and watching someone fucking win and cheering for it, like, 1.00
00:21:53.280 like winners do, you know, the majority of the population is, is trained to watch people 0.98
00:21:58.460 stumble and fall.
00:21:59.580 Praying for them.
00:22:00.120 Yeah. 1.00
00:22:00.440 And it's fucking ridiculous, dude. 1.00
00:22:02.140 You know what I'm saying? 1.00
00:22:02.820 Like it's, it's, and then they wonder why their lives suck. 0.98
00:22:05.960 You know what I'm saying? 0.99
00:22:07.080 And I try to tell them for fucking how many years, how many years now, um, if you wish 0.97
00:22:12.140 for people to fail in your heart, if you, if you do that, if you, even if you don't 0.98
00:22:16.280 fucking type it, like, even if you see somebody hating on someone and you're like, bro, you're 0.65
00:22:21.960 going to get yours. 1.00
00:22:22.800 That's the way the fucking world works. 0.99
00:22:24.840 So that's real guys moving on to question number two, Andy, what have you found to be 0.99
00:22:30.980 the best way to ask for help without it peering, uh, to be coming from a place of weakness?
00:22:38.580 What difference does it make?
00:22:39.640 If it comes from a place of weakness, everybody's weakest.
00:22:44.020 Sometimes that's everybody's weak.
00:22:47.100 Sometimes we all go through periods of weakness.
00:22:49.120 We all go through periods of strength.
00:22:50.660 The idea is to build yourself into a strong person.
00:22:53.060 That doesn't mean you're immune from having weak moments.
00:22:56.660 So you shouldn't be ashamed of weakness.
00:22:58.600 We have too much shame in the world, bro. 0.99
00:23:00.200 You know, there's too much fucking pressure. 0.99
00:23:02.520 You know, everybody's moves on fucking online. 0.99
00:23:05.280 Everybody's picking everybody apart. 1.00
00:23:07.320 Everybody's shaming everybody for fucking every fucking decision they make. 1.00
00:23:10.500 It's fucking ridiculous. 1.00
00:23:11.980 That's not how humans are supposed to live. 0.99
00:23:13.800 And so unfortunately you're going to have to let it go because I don't think the whole
00:23:17.460 world's just going to flip a switch overnight.
00:23:19.300 Yeah.
00:23:19.520 I think there's a lot of low level, low awareness humans out there that are always going to be
00:23:23.480 the loudest and that's the reality. 0.99
00:23:25.360 So you have to not give a fuck whenever they, what they think is embarrassing or, 0.98
00:23:30.200 shameful or, you know, like, um, you know, people, people talk about men's mental health. 0.99
00:23:37.240 You know, it's a big topic right now. 1.00
00:23:38.820 And it's a real thing, man, because like, you know, men are the fucking, you know, they're 1.00
00:23:46.480 the fucking shit of the world right now. 1.00
00:23:48.420 And like, they don't have, you know, they're, they're expected to be strong and be this and 1.00
00:23:53.480 that. 0.98
00:23:53.640 And you fucking should be, but like, dude, it's okay to come to your homie and say, 0.99
00:23:57.800 Hey bro, I'm fucking struggling, dude. 0.99
00:23:59.760 Like, don't think that I don't have that. 0.98
00:24:01.620 Like I fucking have those times. 0.98
00:24:03.600 You know what I'm saying? 0.99
00:24:04.300 I don't fucking, I don't sit there and fucking strategize how I'm going to appear to be strong. 0.99
00:24:11.540 If I ain't strong. 0.99
00:24:12.900 Yeah.
00:24:13.300 You know what I'm saying?
00:24:13.980 Like, how do I, how do you do that?
00:24:16.580 Like, what's the point of that? 1.00
00:24:18.540 Like, that's just stupid ego shit, bro. 1.00
00:24:20.960 That you don't need in your life. 1.00
00:24:22.080 You know, like it's okay to be weak sometimes, but only if you intend to do something about
00:24:28.000 being weak, right.
00:24:29.640 And be stronger and improve and get through it and persevere and overcome it. 0.99
00:24:33.220 You know, I was on Megan Kelly's fucking show yesterday, which by the way, it was awesome. 0.98
00:24:36.720 Awesome. 0.99
00:24:37.160 And, um, she's amazing.
00:24:39.160 And, and, you know, I'm, I really tried to act like a normal human on the show and not 0.98
00:24:43.240 curse and interrupt her and get all the shit on her. 1.00
00:24:45.900 Yeah. 1.00
00:24:46.000 You can go fuck. 1.00
00:24:47.000 Yeah. 1.00
00:24:48.080 Look, man, I'm not trying to, I'm not, did you listen to it?
00:24:51.260 I listened to that.
00:24:52.300 Oh yeah.
00:24:52.880 Yeah.
00:24:53.180 Well, dude, look, man, like these, these are real media people, bro. 0.99
00:24:56.960 So like, I, you know, I don't know the fucking rules, man. 0.96
00:24:59.200 Those people usually stay away from me. 0.97
00:25:01.260 So, uh, so I was on the show and we got on the topic of, of the professional victims. 0.99
00:25:05.660 You know, she actually posted a clip of it on her fucking Instagram. 1.00
00:25:09.200 And, um, you know, it's, it's not just a problem that we see here on real AF and it's 1.00
00:25:16.260 not just Andy being an asshole. 0.98
00:25:17.820 Like there's a lot of people out there, a lot of you who continuously, uh, get attention 1.00
00:25:24.560 for your own weakness.
00:25:26.000 Okay.
00:25:26.520 You post your sad story.
00:25:28.340 You, you, you, you, you are, you, you write it under the flag of being vulnerable and being
00:25:33.200 real and being this and that.
00:25:35.020 And the reason you keep doing it is because people keep interacting with it because most 0.98
00:25:38.960 people have fucking good hearts. 0.93
00:25:40.280 But the truth of the matter is all those people that are saying, Oh, I'm so sorry. 0.99
00:25:44.760 Blah, blah, blah. 1.00
00:25:45.680 Half of them, half of those motherfuckers are happy. 1.00
00:25:48.300 It's happening to you. 1.00
00:25:49.400 Okay.
00:25:49.760 So that's the first thing.
00:25:51.220 All right.
00:25:51.880 So like when you do have a moment of weakness and you do have a moment of vulnerability, 0.98
00:25:56.020 in my opinion, I don't think it belongs on the fucking internet for attention. 0.96
00:26:00.540 No, you know, there's a lot of reasons why. 0.99
00:26:04.140 Also, you know, when, when your enemies see a fucking crack, they go hard in on that 0.99
00:26:08.940 crack. 1.00
00:26:09.480 You see what I'm saying?
00:26:10.840 So like, you should be confiding your friends, people that you trust, a significant other,
00:26:16.180 maybe a mentor figure, you know, like, but at the end of the day, dude, like no matter 0.95
00:26:20.620 what the fuck you're going through, no matter how hard it is, no matter how fucking vulnerable 0.94
00:26:25.040 you, you feel you need to be, um, everything's going to work out if you keep moving. 0.99
00:26:29.780 And so vulnerability to me only is cool. 0.58
00:26:33.080 If you're planning on fucking overcoming it and showing people like, Hey, this is what 0.94
00:26:37.760 I overcame, not what I sit and wallow in for the rest of my life. 0.99
00:26:41.800 Like, like, like, yeah, dude, it's just a, it's just a disgusting trend that's happened
00:26:46.960 over the last five years.
00:26:48.700 And, um, it needs to end because it, it, it creates an identity for people that they
00:26:54.600 cannot escape.
00:26:55.240 And because most, it's because most humans are not aware enough to understand the identity
00:26:59.900 that they're creating for themselves. 0.98
00:27:01.560 Like they don't like whatever you say about yourself, like, Oh, you know, everybody fucking 0.99
00:27:06.260 hates me. 1.00
00:27:06.700 Like you say that shit, your mind starts believing it. 1.00
00:27:09.220 And you build this little circle around you that like you can't escape from. 1.00
00:27:14.180 And it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
00:27:16.640 Yep.
00:27:17.000 Cause your mind has to justify it.
00:27:18.300 Yes.
00:27:18.620 So you start looking for all the people that disagree with you.
00:27:21.380 See, there it is.
00:27:22.320 Right.
00:27:22.440 Exactly, dude.
00:27:23.340 And like, everybody does this with certain elements.
00:27:26.540 You know, some people do it with being happy. 0.97
00:27:28.560 They pretend to be fucking happy all the time. 0.97
00:27:31.060 And you know, their brand is I'm the happy person. 1.00
00:27:33.940 And like, they, you know, like, and then they end up being like, fuck dude, I can't talk 0.99
00:27:38.020 to anybody because everybody depends on me to be happy. 1.00
00:27:41.680 Bullshit. 1.00
00:27:42.180 That's your ego talking. 1.00
00:27:43.660 Nobody really fucking gives a fuck. 0.99
00:27:45.380 Let's be real. 0.99
00:27:46.280 Everybody gets it.
00:27:47.220 And, and this idea of this idea out there that like, you know, there's these perfect 0.94
00:27:52.660 fucking people and like, like, isn't it weird how all the critics are always the most perfect? 0.98
00:27:58.080 You see what I'm saying? 1.00
00:27:59.060 Right. 0.84
00:27:59.400 Like, bro, it's hypocrisy. 1.00
00:28:00.620 It's stupid. 1.00
00:28:01.260 It's bad for culture. 1.00
00:28:02.180 It's bad for fucking development. 1.00
00:28:03.880 And it's really bad for young adults that don't have a sense of who the fuck they are 1.00
00:28:07.280 yet. 0.98
00:28:08.020 Guys, our third and final question, Andy, question number three.
00:28:11.760 I've always aspired to start my own business.
00:28:14.240 I'm a chiropractor and I'm coming out of school.
00:28:17.220 I'm nervous because I don't know much about business itself or being a doctor in the real
00:28:22.760 world for that matter.
00:28:23.840 I have the opportunity to work for another doctor for two to three years, receive mentorship
00:28:27.840 and hands-on training and getting paid while I'm doing it, et cetera.
00:28:31.160 Question is, am I setting myself back or building myself up?
00:28:35.900 Look, man, I think the fact, let me start with this.
00:28:39.040 The fact that you're aware that there are two elements, there's your professional skillset
00:28:44.440 and then there's your business skillset, is a massive advantage over most of these kind 0.84
00:28:50.180 of entrepreneurs.
00:28:51.100 Most doctors, most architects, most lawyers, most chiropractors, they don't ever think about
00:29:00.440 the business skillset that they need.
00:29:02.420 They only think about the skillset.
00:29:04.980 Okay.
00:29:05.260 Professional skillset.
00:29:06.000 Yes.
00:29:06.660 And, and dude, when you pick one of these professional professions, you have to understand
00:29:12.500 both if you're going to be successful.
00:29:14.440 So a lot of these people in the, in these fields that I just mentioned, these specialized
00:29:18.940 fields, um, they neglect the idea of being good at that forever until they need it.
00:29:26.460 And then by the time you need it, you're still 10 years away from having it.
00:29:29.520 So that's the fact that you're aware of it is an amazing sign that you're going to learn
00:29:33.640 and be okay.
00:29:34.600 Um, I would say that's the solution in itself.
00:29:37.840 Usually dude, if you're a go-getter, if you're a person who is, is ambitious, if you're someone
00:29:43.140 who wants to make it and you become aware of a problem, you, do you not usually find a
00:29:48.980 way to work with it or solve it?
00:29:50.840 And so recognize and have some peace in the understanding that when you become aware that
00:29:56.060 you need something, you're naturally going to seek it out.
00:29:59.520 So like that anxiety that this person feels about like, well, am I doing the right thing
00:30:03.620 or am I doing that? 1.00
00:30:04.440 No motherfucker. 1.00
00:30:05.160 The fact that you fucking even understand that you have to build these skills is a sign 1.00
00:30:09.620 that you're going to build these skills and be okay. 0.95
00:30:11.760 That's how you should see it. 0.99
00:30:13.260 Because most doctors, dude, you know how many fucking doctors try to talk to me about 1.00
00:30:17.060 fucking business? 1.00
00:30:17.920 Yeah. 0.99
00:30:18.520 And I'm like, bro, like I employ people like you, you know what I'm saying? 1.00
00:30:23.140 Like the fuck you talking about? 1.00
00:30:25.340 Right. 1.00
00:30:25.980 Right.
00:30:26.420 For real.
00:30:27.140 Right. 1.00
00:30:27.420 Because they went to some fucking school or they, you know, I went to school for 12 1.00
00:30:31.860 years. 1.00
00:30:32.200 Well, fuck, I didn't. 1.00
00:30:35.120 Cool. 1.00
00:30:35.600 Cool story, bro.
00:30:36.360 I got some letters behind my name.
00:30:37.560 Well, so do you.
00:30:38.420 Yeah.
00:30:38.580 So do I.
00:30:39.100 Yeah.
00:30:39.500 And the CEO.
00:30:40.360 Yeah.
00:30:40.520 Same for it.
00:30:41.320 Yeah. 0.99
00:30:41.840 No shit, bro. 0.95
00:30:43.100 But I'm just saying like, that's just, you know, and that's an example of previously 1.00
00:30:47.160 in the show where we talked about ego keeping you from being able to fucking move forward. 0.95
00:30:52.160 Yeah. 0.95
00:30:52.340 You know, if you're a professional dude, architect, chiropractor, doctor, if you're in school for
00:30:58.620 these things and you aren't equally invested in how to build a business around it, you're 0.99
00:31:03.620 going to fucking lose. 0.99
00:31:04.760 You know how many fucking guys I know that went to law school that aren't lawyers anymore? 1.00
00:31:08.240 A lot. 1.00
00:31:09.560 A fucking lot. 0.99
00:31:11.120 And you know why they aren't lawyers anymore? 0.99
00:31:12.840 Because they couldn't do the business side.
00:31:14.400 No, let's just focus on. 1.00
00:31:15.500 I'm a fucking lawyer. 1.00
00:31:16.440 Yeah. 1.00
00:31:17.020 So like, you have to know what you know and you have to know what you don't know. 0.98
00:31:19.920 And most of you doctors out there don't know shit when it comes to business. 1.00
00:31:23.420 Apparently, you don't know how to read fucking data either. 1.00
00:31:25.380 So that's another story for another time. 0.99
00:31:27.860 That's a moral show. 1.00
00:31:28.960 No shit. 0.99
00:31:30.680 But whatever, man. 0.99
00:31:32.460 My point is, is that, you know, know what you know, know what you don't know.
00:31:37.280 And the fact that you're aware that you need that skill set is going to, bro, this 0.99
00:31:40.880 motherfucker, you're listening to the show. 1.00
00:31:43.080 You're probably listening to two other shows to help you fucking move forward. 1.00
00:31:46.640 You know what I'm saying? 0.99
00:31:47.320 Yeah.
00:31:47.920 Like, that's great.
00:31:50.200 That means you're doing it.
00:31:51.520 Keep going.
00:31:52.100 Keep going.
00:31:52.900 That's it, man.
00:31:53.940 It's real.
00:31:55.060 Guys, Andy, that is three.
00:31:57.420 Go pay the fee.
00:31:58.280 Yeah, guys.
00:31:59.020 I appreciate you.
00:32:00.800 If you found value in the show, please share the show.
00:32:02.980 Yeah.
00:32:03.980 Went from sleeping on the floor.
00:32:05.940 Now my jewelry box froze. 1.00
00:32:07.640 Fuck a bowl. 1.00
00:32:08.440 Fuck a stove. 1.00
00:32:09.300 Counted millions in the cold. 1.00
00:32:10.960 Bad bitch. 1.00
00:32:11.800 Booty swole. 1.00
00:32:12.640 Got her on bankroll.
00:32:14.280 Can't fold.
00:32:15.160 That's a no.
00:32:15.940 Headshot.
00:32:16.800 Case closed.
00:32:17.500 Go.
00:32:17.680 Go.
00:32:17.840 Go.
00:32:18.040 Go.
00:32:18.340 Go.
00:32:18.360 Go.
00:32:26.400 Go.
00:32:26.600 Go.
00:32:26.760 Go.