360. Q&AF： Instilling Drive In Your Employees, Asking For Help & Developing Business Skillsets
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In this episode of the Realist, we talk about how to become more interesting, how to run a business better, and how to be a better human being. We also talk about the importance of having a good sense of humor.
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What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realist, say goodbye to
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the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality.
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Guys, today we have Q and AF, that is where you submit the Q's and I give you the A's
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as fuck and if you're new here, when you tune in, we have multiple formats on the show, it's
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not a normal interview show or conversation show, we kind of do a little bit of everything
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but it's all geared towards helping make this world a better place in a very unique way.
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But anyway, sometimes you will tune in, we'll have Q and AF like today and this is a personal
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development episode, this is where you submit your questions, I answer them.
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If you're not aware, I had one of the biggest entrepreneurial podcasts of all time called
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the MFCEO Project and this is kind of an ode to that, all right?
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So you can submit your questions to email those in guys to askandy at andyfricella.com and I'll
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Sometimes when you tune in, we have CTI, which is Cruise the Internet, it's more of a current
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It's kind of like we throw all the shit in the show and then it turns out into something
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But basically what we do is we talk about what's going on in the world, we talk about the underlying
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issues and we talk about how we can be solutions to those underlying issues.
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So you're going to get today, you know, the micro solutions, how you can be better as an
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individual, how you can run a business better, how you can be more successful, how you can
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And then on CTI, it's how we can use our own individuality and our own development to make
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That's ultimately the theme that we're trying to get across and we do it in our own unique
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Sometimes when you tune in, we'll have real talk.
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Real talk is a short five to 20 minute episode.
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And then sometimes we have full length and full length is where we go real deep with,
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you know, a guest and, you know, we find out how they're, what are you laughing at?
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And I'll, yeah, well, anyway, full length goes real deep into the issues of, uh, how
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you become successful, how you become interesting, how you become unique.
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Once in a while, I get somebody on here that completely disagrees with everything I fucking
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And we show the world how similar we really are.
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Uh, so we always, you know, try to keep it real.
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That's why it's called real AF and not ideal AF.
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And you were like, you don't know what to call it.
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And I was like, yeah, you know, you know, you guys like your casseroles.
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You can go make like a, a, a, a long ass fucking casserole, casserole with no salt.
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That's only after I drink my first form energy.
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People, people, people try to fucking call me names and shit.
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Every time I meet her, I feel like I'm getting fired, bro.
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But no, I do got some good ones for you, though.
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Not everyone working for you will have the same passion as drive as you.
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So how do you work with and manage the people who have a lot of potential, but just don't
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necessarily have the same desires to improve or is driven, but they're comfortable in their
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Well, I think, first of all, from a leadership perspective, you have to realize that you're
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You're going to have people who are going to do maybe what you consider less than their
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You know, not everybody is built to live up to their own potential.
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I believe that almost every human is is unlimited in potential.
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And I also believe that almost every human is limited in potential by the environment they
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So, you know, you have, I don't know, 25 years of fucking limitations built up in someone's
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You know, that's a lot to work through if they came through the wrong environment.
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That's why this indoctrination in the schools is such a big deal.
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And that's why I'm so passionate about talking about it.
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Like, that's why I do these things, because I understand how hard it is to unwind, because
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being in business, I have run across, you know, a lot of people who I know for sure had
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a lot more potential than what they believed they actually had.
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And you have to understand, dude, some people have a different worldview of how their life
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You know, as entrepreneurs, we become obsessed.
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But, you know, you can't expect everybody else when they don't own the company or they
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don't have an equity position or they don't have a this or that to have that exact same
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And that's why it's important to have a strong mission, because the mission of whatever it
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is your company is trying to do is should ideally be what it is your people are passionate
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Whatever that problem is that you're solving as a company or organization or as a team,
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that's what you want them to be passionate about.
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So a lot of people like, you know, they confuse those two and it should be very close to the
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And it should be confusing, but it's not quite the same thing, right?
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Being passionate about, you know, serving your customers the best possible way will automatically
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And so, you know, if you have a good mission and you're in, you're truly dedicated to that
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mission, um, I believe that's the best way to get people to rise to their potential because
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they're doing something that they believe in, that they believe is important, that they
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So they will, they will start to step into their own power in that way.
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Um, so having a strong mission and being aligned with the mission in a very real way, uh, is,
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is paramount to getting people to buy into their own potential.
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The other things that you can do is encourage personal development, you know, show them where
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to read, encourage them to read, uh, you know, encourage, encourage their own personal
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Like, you know, I tell everybody here, you know, I, I, you, your personal development on
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your own time, that's, that's an investment in your future paycheck, you know?
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You know, they go home at night, they, they fucking, you know, do a half-ass job for being
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And then they go home and they do this over and over and over the same repetitive cycle
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for years and years and years and years and years.
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And then they get bitter because they haven't progressed to that next level.
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Well, what they missed is they haven't done their part.
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And their part is improving your skillset in your own time.
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No fucking entrepreneur that you have a job at owes you shit.
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And if you really want shit, you have to become undeniably skilled to where you almost
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leverage your employer into keeping you and paying you well, because you're too fucking
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They've been taught with this like weak, you know, socialist mentality, communist mentality
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that, you know, if I show up every day for 30 years and I do fucking bullshit work, I
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It ain't ever going to work that way because the motherfuckers that own the companies will just
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So you're never getting a free ride anywhere and everybody needs to fucking understand
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If you don't fucking read and you don't put time into your fucking fitness and you don't
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put time in developing your mental and you don't make more money, that's your fucking
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If you can't get better, then you ain't going to get fucking paid.
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So my ultimate fucking thing is, is letting them know the reality.
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Like I've said, and these guys are all shaking their head in the studio.
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They've heard me say a hundred times to my own company, your job is to get so fucking
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good that when you come to me and ask for a raise, I cannot fucking say no because you're
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A few, but I'm just saying like, that's the, that's the game everywhere.
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Like no matter where the fuck you work, you have to be so good that they can't fucking
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And if they allow you to go, you're going to be fucking okay because there's going to
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Well, worst case scenario, you're going to work for a fucking competitor.
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That's never a good look because like, dude, that creates lawsuits and all kinds of legal
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But the point is, you know, you, you should be taking your own development serious to a
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point of the, the level, the level of obsession that the entrepreneur has in their own business.
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Like if you can obsess over your own skillset, the way an entrepreneur, like somebody like
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me obsesses over the fucking business, bro, you're going to fucking run a, that's how
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you build the equivalent of a, of a fucking, you know, iconic brand out of your own human
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Like your body, your fucking mind, who you are, how you sound, what you talk.
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Do you want your brand to be fucking, uh, uh, uh, underachieving, apathetic, lazy, unhealthy,
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out of shape, uh, you know, weak, unintelligible, uh, you know, fucking piece of shit.
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Or do you want your brand to, to stand for fucking excellence?
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And do you want to go to sleep at night knowing that by you simply being alive because of the
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standards that you live at the world's getting a better, becoming better.
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Because they're able to watch you do what you do.
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And that's a responsibility that we've lost here in America.
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So like if you motherfuckers would just take it and understand how the way it really works,
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Even if the world's fucking raining down fire and brimstone on your motherfucking ass right
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now, and it is the worst fucking time of your life and 30 to fucking 90 days, if you
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fucking keep it moving and watch what you eat, drink water, read the right.
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You're going to be 10 times better because dude, if you could get better in the times
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that would destroy other people, how good can you do when times are fucking normal?
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You know, so I mean, I'm a little off track here, but the point remains, you know, you guys
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have to inspire people to pursue their own level of personal excellence inside your organization.
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And you have to let them know that it's not just about them performing for your organization,
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but also I also tell everybody here, and these guys are again, shaking their head.
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Uh, that learn as much as you fucking can here, because if you go somewhere else, it'll help
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So like, dude, my interest is in their development and what's best for them.
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And if you make it like that inside your organization or your team, and then you, you build around
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that, bro, you're going to fucking do really well.
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Those people will rise, you know, like this idea of this fuck, like you, you know, most
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You walk through, it's somebody's fucking birthday.
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Oh, it's Karen's birthday in the kitchen today.
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So like, dude, like this is the fucking, this is the life we're living.
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And so like, dude, if you become a person of excellence and you're in that office, you're
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That's going to make people fucking say, think something, you know, you could change a rope.
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And all of this is that people don't understand that you're, and I struggle with this too,
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bro, you know, four or five years ago, three years ago, even before I started really getting
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into my mental development, like what I, even when I was doing MFCEO, like I was a fucking
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Like I thought I was way better than what the fuck I was.
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You know, I, I, I, like my point is, is that even you guys who are seeing successful people
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who are like, have their shit together and all this shit, there's still so much room for
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And I didn't realize back then that like how important it was to set a good standard.
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That's why I, you know, that's why I talked a lot more shit and wasn't as careful with
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Um, not in curse words ways, but like, you know, maybe I was a little too hard on some
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Maybe, you know, maybe I wasn't, I don't know, but I know I handle things differently now
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And so, you know, we all mature and we all grow and we all make changes and develop and
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The pre the reason they're not doing it is because you're not inspiring them or creating
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If people don't think they can grow, if they don't think they can progress, if they don't
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think they could be a part of something cool that solves real problems, you have a problem
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Like, because dude, it's going to be a constant battle of hiring new people, training new people,
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people leaving new people coming in and bro, that's, that's hard to run.
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It's hard to gain ground when you have that kind of situation.
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So you should be building your company into a company that inspires growth, inspires development,
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inspires people to become better, knowing that they'll have a place still under the
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same roof with a better title and a better salary and a bigger responsibilities and better
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And if they know that bro, you'll be surprised how many people will get up and run towards
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Follow up on that though, Andy, because you touched a little bit like on the indoctrination
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And when we were talking about having younger employees, have, what would you say would
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be like an average amount of time, just speaking to the other business owners that have these
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younger employees that you've witnessed, like what's the average amount of time it takes
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Like if someone's had one of these fucking experiences that humbles the fuck out of them
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and they're 20 years old and they realize that everything they've been told is a fucking
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lie because they just got their fucking face stomped by the world, that person's usually
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pretty receptive to hearing a different perspective.
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Or someone who's 30 who just went through their first divorce, who just lost all their
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And you're saying, okay, well, you know, and they're see people with perspective of, of
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how it isn't can recognize the new path more easily than someone without a perspective.
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Meaning like if I bring someone into our building, who's 35 years old and having some life experience,
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they actually appreciate what we do here more than the 20 year old.
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Cause unless that person's been through some real fucking shit.
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So you have to understand that people come to this place of readiness to, to improve
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That's why when you guys say, well, you've told that story before, no shit motherfucker,
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but there's people that need to fucking hear it now.
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So we all come to it at different points of time.
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So I wouldn't say there's an actual age for that or a time period that needs to unwind
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it because the truth is what I've experienced in almost every scenario is that I've been
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that someone, it takes someone really hitting rock bottom to be open to hearing a new path
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because like our egos get in the way of us being able to recognize what we were actually
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It's kind of like what's going on with this bullshit in the world.
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Like there's lots of people who have built their identity around.
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I'm a fucking, you know, with the Democrats and this and that.
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And now all of a sudden there's all this crazy shit going on and these people are riding
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the wave into the fucking, you know, bottom of the abyss.
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And, and, you know, privately they'll say, dude, I don't really believe in any of this
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But my point is, is dude, you don't want to be the person who allows their ego to ride
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them to the bottom of the fucking barrel before you recognize that that's what's fucking
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And that's why having humility, that's where humility is super fucking valuable.
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When the whole world's telling you that you're fucking amazing, you ain't, you're still that
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same fat motherfucker that grew up on the gravel road, bro.
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You know, when the whole world's raining on me and saying, dude, you're a piece of shit.
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You're a this, you're a that, you're a fucking blah, blah, blah, which happens
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all the time because I speak out against the biggest fucking people on the fucking planet.
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I think about all the fucking lives I've changed.
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I think about fucking all the things I've done and accomplished.
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So it's like, you know, you got to be, you got, you got to be real with yourself.
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And that's why it's important to build yourself into somebody that you're proud of because
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when, when your time comes, which it comes for everybody in this culture, right?
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In this fucking cancel fucking hater culture where everybody wants to, you know, instead
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of waiting for someone to succeed and watching someone fucking win and cheering for it, like,
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like winners do, you know, the majority of the population is, is trained to watch people
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Like it's, it's, and then they wonder why their lives suck.
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And I try to tell them for fucking how many years, how many years now, um, if you wish
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for people to fail in your heart, if you, if you do that, if you, even if you don't
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fucking type it, like, even if you see somebody hating on someone and you're like, bro, you're
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So that's real guys moving on to question number two, Andy, what have you found to be
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the best way to ask for help without it peering, uh, to be coming from a place of weakness?
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If it comes from a place of weakness, everybody's weakest.
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Sometimes we all go through periods of weakness.
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The idea is to build yourself into a strong person.
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That doesn't mean you're immune from having weak moments.
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Everybody's shaming everybody for fucking every fucking decision they make.
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And so unfortunately you're going to have to let it go because I don't think the whole
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I think there's a lot of low level, low awareness humans out there that are always going to be
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So you have to not give a fuck whenever they, what they think is embarrassing or,
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shameful or, you know, like, um, you know, people, people talk about men's mental health.
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And it's a real thing, man, because like, you know, men are the fucking, you know, they're
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And like, they don't have, you know, they're, they're expected to be strong and be this and
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And you fucking should be, but like, dude, it's okay to come to your homie and say,
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I don't fucking, I don't sit there and fucking strategize how I'm going to appear to be strong.
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You know, like it's okay to be weak sometimes, but only if you intend to do something about
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And be stronger and improve and get through it and persevere and overcome it.
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You know, I was on Megan Kelly's fucking show yesterday, which by the way, it was awesome.
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And, and, you know, I'm, I really tried to act like a normal human on the show and not
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curse and interrupt her and get all the shit on her.
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Look, man, I'm not trying to, I'm not, did you listen to it?
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Well, dude, look, man, like these, these are real media people, bro.
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So like, I, you know, I don't know the fucking rules, man.
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So, uh, so I was on the show and we got on the topic of, of the professional victims.
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You know, she actually posted a clip of it on her fucking Instagram.
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And, um, you know, it's, it's not just a problem that we see here on real AF and it's
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Like there's a lot of people out there, a lot of you who continuously, uh, get attention
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You, you, you, you, you are, you, you write it under the flag of being vulnerable and being
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And the reason you keep doing it is because people keep interacting with it because most
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But the truth of the matter is all those people that are saying, Oh, I'm so sorry.
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Half of them, half of those motherfuckers are happy.
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So like when you do have a moment of weakness and you do have a moment of vulnerability,
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in my opinion, I don't think it belongs on the fucking internet for attention.
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Also, you know, when, when your enemies see a fucking crack, they go hard in on that
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So like, you should be confiding your friends, people that you trust, a significant other,
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maybe a mentor figure, you know, like, but at the end of the day, dude, like no matter
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what the fuck you're going through, no matter how hard it is, no matter how fucking vulnerable
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you, you feel you need to be, um, everything's going to work out if you keep moving.
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If you're planning on fucking overcoming it and showing people like, Hey, this is what
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I overcame, not what I sit and wallow in for the rest of my life.
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Like, like, like, yeah, dude, it's just a, it's just a disgusting trend that's happened
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And, um, it needs to end because it, it, it creates an identity for people that they
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And because most, it's because most humans are not aware enough to understand the identity
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Like they don't like whatever you say about yourself, like, Oh, you know, everybody fucking
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Like you say that shit, your mind starts believing it.
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And you build this little circle around you that like you can't escape from.
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So you start looking for all the people that disagree with you.
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And like, everybody does this with certain elements.
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And you know, their brand is I'm the happy person.
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And like, they, you know, like, and then they end up being like, fuck dude, I can't talk
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to anybody because everybody depends on me to be happy.
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And, and this idea of this idea out there that like, you know, there's these perfect
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fucking people and like, like, isn't it weird how all the critics are always the most perfect?
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And it's really bad for young adults that don't have a sense of who the fuck they are
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Guys, our third and final question, Andy, question number three.
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I'm a chiropractor and I'm coming out of school.
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I'm nervous because I don't know much about business itself or being a doctor in the real
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I have the opportunity to work for another doctor for two to three years, receive mentorship
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and hands-on training and getting paid while I'm doing it, et cetera.
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Question is, am I setting myself back or building myself up?
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Look, man, I think the fact, let me start with this.
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The fact that you're aware that there are two elements, there's your professional skillset
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and then there's your business skillset, is a massive advantage over most of these kind
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Most doctors, most architects, most lawyers, most chiropractors, they don't ever think about
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And, and dude, when you pick one of these professional professions, you have to understand
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So a lot of these people in the, in these fields that I just mentioned, these specialized
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fields, um, they neglect the idea of being good at that forever until they need it.
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And then by the time you need it, you're still 10 years away from having it.
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So that's the fact that you're aware of it is an amazing sign that you're going to learn
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Usually dude, if you're a go-getter, if you're a person who is, is ambitious, if you're someone
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who wants to make it and you become aware of a problem, you, do you not usually find a
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And so recognize and have some peace in the understanding that when you become aware that
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you need something, you're naturally going to seek it out.
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So like that anxiety that this person feels about like, well, am I doing the right thing
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The fact that you fucking even understand that you have to build these skills is a sign
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that you're going to build these skills and be okay.
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Because most doctors, dude, you know how many fucking doctors try to talk to me about
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And I'm like, bro, like I employ people like you, you know what I'm saying?
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Because they went to some fucking school or they, you know, I went to school for 12
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But I'm just saying like, that's just, you know, and that's an example of previously
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in the show where we talked about ego keeping you from being able to fucking move forward.
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You know, if you're a professional dude, architect, chiropractor, doctor, if you're in school for
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these things and you aren't equally invested in how to build a business around it, you're
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You know how many fucking guys I know that went to law school that aren't lawyers anymore?
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So like, you have to know what you know and you have to know what you don't know.
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And most of you doctors out there don't know shit when it comes to business.
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Apparently, you don't know how to read fucking data either.
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My point is, is that, you know, know what you know, know what you don't know.
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And the fact that you're aware that you need that skill set is going to, bro, this
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You're probably listening to two other shows to help you fucking move forward.
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