365. Q&AF： Overcoming Stagnation, Gaining Connections Vs. Developing Skills & Dealing With Shadow Bans
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Summary
In this episode of The Realest, I sit down with my good friend and business partner, Andy, to talk about a variety of topics. We talk about how to deal with being broke and how to overcome it.
Transcript
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What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realest, say goodbye to
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the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality.
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Guys, today we have Q and AF, that's where you submit the Qs and I give you the AF.
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Sometimes when you tune in, we'll have other formats such as CTI, which is Cruise the
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That's where we throw up headlines on the screen and we talk about them.
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It's a short five to 20 minute piece of my mind, something I just think needs to be said.
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That's where I bring on my interesting guests, rich, successful, powerful, kicking ass, badass
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motherfuckers who tell you how regular they are and how you could be the same as them
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But yeah, today we got Q and AF and that's where you submit your questions and you can
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submit those to email those in guys to ask Andy at Andy for seller.com.
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They could be about, you know, personal development.
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It could be about what's going on in the world.
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No, I was going to say it's fucking beautiful outside, man.
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What are we doing in the back of a tractor trailer?
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You know the fucking rolls of the gym flooring?
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So those came in today for a special project we're working on.
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And one of the fucking pallets that they were sitting on had broke and it was blocking the
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You're going to count that for your 75 hard to you?
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You better have your shit on you with that shit.
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Leave me the fuck alone with these questions, dude.
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When it comes to 75 hard, if you got to ask, the answer is fucking no.
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Andy, I recently received a promotion that doubled my income.
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But with this recent promotion, I found myself a bit stagnant and comfortable.
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And if so, how do you go about dealing with it?
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I think this is the biggest thing that people have people struggle with is that, you know,
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they get to a place of comfort or they make an uncomfortable place comfortable and they
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You know, one of them is what I talk about with you guys all the time, a zero options
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You know, when you're broke and you don't have any choice, it's real easy to get up and
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But, you know, when you're living good, it's a different kind of thing, bro.
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You know, so it's important to understand the mentality of having zero options and to
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When I say zero options mentality, there's there's old podcasts.
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But I mean, that's going to be a a theme in anybody's continuous progression, because
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overcoming that comfort is is difficult when you're legitimately comfortable.
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You know, getting yourself in a place mentally where your back is against the wall, even though
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it really isn't like people are surprised when I like when they like when they come here,
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this is going to sound like I'm bragging, but I'm not.
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You know, when people come in here and they're like, holy shit, bro, like, how do you stay
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But the truth is, is that mentality of zero options is so ingrained in me.
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And anybody who knows me like in real life and around me, they know that I really mean
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that, you know, we were broke for so fucking long that I'm legitimately terrified.
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I'm going to go back to that just because of me getting comfortable.
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So while I am very comfortable in reality, I keep myself in a mental place of being uncomfortable
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So that's the that's a skill that you've got to master.
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You know, like sometimes when you when you get a little too much money coming in, you
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know, in the beginning, how you can really get yourself in that mentality, that that mentality
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Like if you're like if some guys or they get too much cash and they start to think, well,
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You know, and I'm not saying when I say spend, I mean, invest like when you're at this level,
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you should be taking, you know, part of that money that you have extra and putting it into
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And then you should take part of it and spend it on yourself so that you know what the fuck
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But the biggest thing, dude, is like to understand.
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And this is why this this idea of people are like, oh, comparison is the thief of joy.
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No comparison is actually a really good tool if you use it properly.
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It can fucking hurt your feelings a little bit.
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But it's a great tool because, you know, when I compare myself and what we've done in our
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companies, you know, when I when I look at the companies I'm involved in, even even the
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littler ones that people don't really know about yet.
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You know, I compare us to the biggest fucking companies in the space that ever existed.
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And like even with first form, which is, you know, among those companies in history, in
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reality, now I compare myself to companies that are outside of our industry who have
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So like when I really, truly compare like like in this sound, this might sound silly to you
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guys, like like because it's obvious I'm not anywhere near these motherfuckers, but
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like I legit compare myself to like the Bezos's or Elon's or these Phil Knight's or like like
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I, you know, I have to remind myself, you know, that I got a long way to go because I
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But the truth of the matter is, is like when I start feeling like I'm really cool, like,
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Like I feel fucking cool sometimes and that's OK.
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But when I start feeling like I'm a little too cool, I start to remind myself, well,
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dude, Phil Knight fucking made you look like an idiot.
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And, you know, so we can all humble ourselves real quickly by our perspective we choose to
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I think it's an important thing for most people to never really believe the good things and
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never really believe the bad things and just continue on the path.
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I try not to give too much attention to either, but we can all get caught up in our
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own our own wins when we get and that's what causes the comfort.
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So and then another thing that you could do, too, which I think is very valuable, is giving
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some of that money away to a cause that is, you know, not that is not necessarily like
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you're, you know, like like like, for example, like we give a lot of money away to this deal
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that we do at first form called 30 for the kids where everybody contributes.
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It's a big fitness thing and we do it for 30 days a few times a year.
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It generates a lot of money and then we match the money that was raised and we go build schools
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And then we also do things for the city here in St.
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Louis and, you know, part of what gets I know all of us here going, you know, when things
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are really good, because things are really good and they're continuing to be good because
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we have an amazing team and we, you know, I think we've got a really good thing, special
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Um, but like when you see that you can have a real impact on other people that maybe is
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just from you donating some of the money that you've earned, you know, that can be a major
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Like, dude, even if that's the whole thing, like, even if you, uh, even if you make a whole
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bunch of more money, you say, I don't need the money.
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Well then fucking do something good with it that matters to you.
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Like this idea that we're here for just us, that's not, we cannot just, first of all,
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most people aren't responsible for themselves, but being responsible for only yourself is not
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There has to be an obligation to our community, uh, to the future generations that are coming
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and also an obligation to honor the people who have laid the framework for us to even have
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So when you think about all of these things, you know, those are the things that, that,
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that I think can really move you out of being comfortable.
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Cause there, there's a, a quote, I can't remember who said it, but it goes something to the effect
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of if you shit, if you sit in shit long enough, it stops stinking.
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And you said, you said that like, you know, some people can be uncomfortable and then make it
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That's the whole goal of the, what's going on in the world right now.
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What's happening in America right now is they are trying to acclimate you to these crazy
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They're trying to acclimate you to not having, um, the selections of foods that you once had.
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They're trying to acclimate you to a lower, uh, level of existence as the baseline existence
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And, and they, they're going to put it in and they're going to let it ride until you
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So, you know, we have to remember what the fuck it was like, uh, in December of 2000 fucking
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19, uh, very clearly we were the best we'd ever been.
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And you can say whatever the fuck you want about Donald Trump.
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It's the, the truth of the matter is we need to get back there and then press way past that
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But I think even just in people's personal lives, like stop settling for fucking shit.
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They remove excellence out of the agenda to control the population.
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Like your biggest, the best motherfucking thing you could do for this country right now
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What did, uh, that, that, that means actually caring about your fitness, actually caring about
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making money in your career, actually caring about your family, actually caring about being
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There's not a, this cultural degradation that has been pressed upon society and the lowering
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of moral standard has affected everybody at some level.
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Every single one of you listening is guilty of some bullshit.
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And what we need to do as a society is collectively raise the bar to improve and be better than what
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It's, I was thinking about what, uh, Dave Portnoy said.
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Like, listen, dude, I think that's the thing too, though.
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And I remember like when, when I first met you, we, we talked about the fact that like,
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you know, sometimes it's just hard for people to, to, to see winning because they, or like
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to achieve success because they never really seen it.
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But the thing is, it's like, I mean, with technology, I can turn this phone on and I can
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It's still different than knowing somebody personally, like dude, to a lot of motherfuckers,
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Like I'm a fucking, I'm a cartoon to like a lot of people that with a, like I have a
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That's why when people meet me and they're like, holy shit, dude, you're exactly the
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Like that's what I've been trying to tell you motherfuckers.
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You guys are like, oh, why does he care so much?
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Because I'm a fucking product of how amazing it is.
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And where I could see from the experiences I've had, I could see it swirling around the
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So excuse me that I want you to experience some of the amazing shit that I have by, by
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just doing a few different things in your life.
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Guys, moving on to question number two, Andy, there's a famous saying, it's not what you
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My question is, should you put more emphasis on gaining connections and building relationships
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early on in your personal development journey or focus on building your skill sets and hope
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that opportunities come along to further your life, career, et cetera?
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Um, entrepreneurs are people who have to focus on different things that, you know, I
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think the big error that people make is that they lean far too much on who, you know, like
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the whole saying, it's, it's not what you know, it's who, you know that.
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But that there's an assumption there that you offer some sort of like baseline value and offer
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a great skill set, like that's assuming that you're great at what you do.
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Like that's like, so that's the prerequisite of that whole saying.
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So I could pull up any fucking person and give them a job of making $500,000 a year.
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That doesn't mean they're going to be able to do the fucking job well.
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And it's only going to be a matter of time before I'm like, Hey, fuck face, you're fucking
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You know how many amazing celebrity people I fucking know now, like, because I'm good
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Like I'm good at talking on the fucking microphone and I wasn't always good.
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And by the way, half y'all think I'm no good now.
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But the point is, is like, I got good enough to where people started recognizing and that's
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And then you start to know and meet and, and by the way, you know, there's tremendous
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I'm just saying that I'm speaking to the people who think that the net, they can network their
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But that's, that's, that's what people think it is.
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And it's not that, Hey man, put me on, do this.
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You know, look, bro, let me explain to you like this.
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I could take one of your story posts and put it into my fucking Instagram story.
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But, and lots of people that you don't know are going to see you, but unless all the rest
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of your shit captures their attention enough or you're great enough for them, it doesn't
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So like, you've got to do your part and then it's who, you know, so you should be simultaneously
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working to build your amazing skillset and meeting people who are also doing the same.
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That's why groups like Arte are so fucking valuable because you have people who are on
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the same path as you, who you can talk to, who have different ideas, who know different
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skillsets, who have different connections and they're more valuable to you than what
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I am to you because I've already been through what your, my connections aren't even as good
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at that level because I've already surpassed it.
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And people think that they can like get one shout out from Jake Paul and become a fucking,
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Maybe if your shits are been good for like the last fucking five years.
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So, you know, you have to be great to start and then you also have to be networked as well.
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And it takes both and you should intentionally be working on both.
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It says, as a transgender guy, I have been trying to speak out on social media against
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the insane madness that's been coming from the activists that claim to represent my demographic.
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The problem is on accounts that I speak out on, I am shadow banned, if not outright banned
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for speaking basic truths like trans men are not biological men or else we would not
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I'm starting to feel like there's no point in posting against the madness since no one is
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able to even see it due to the company suppressing my voice.
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I know you deal with being shadow banned quite often and having your voice suppressed as well.
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This is what happens when you don't swim with the river.
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I commend you for standing up for what you believe to be right.
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I also agree with you that that is 100% truth and so does fucking science.
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And I'm thankful that, you know, somebody like you who is trans hasn't labeled me as
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some sort of crazy shit like a lot of these other people have.
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I think the point of the question is the reason for why it's important for everybody to collectively
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speak out and stand up because what they're doing is they're trying to silence the big voices in
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such a way to make the smaller voices such as your own feel as if it's insignificant.
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This is why no matter what you think of Alex Jones, what they did when they find him $49 million.
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OK, and what he did was wrong, by the way, but it was also just shit he was saying.
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I think anybody that fucking takes Alex Jones show as some sort of like reality, like.
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It's a it's it's it's there's context to the fucking show.
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But the point is, the reason they deplatform these people, the reason they pull them off the
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internet is because they're leading other people to do the same.
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And if you quit, that plays into their strategy, which is the silence, the collective.
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This what you're experiencing is not exclusive to the trans community or the gay community
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or any of these other communities, this is a true communist ideology to suppress.
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Ideas that go against what they want, which is extremely dangerous to all of us.
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So whatever it is that you believe in, whether it's what I believe in or not, it's very important
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And I would encourage you to speak truth after you truly considered what could be propaganda
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and what isn't propaganda and what the true facts are.
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Because if anything, we've learned over the last couple of years that our entire system
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And if they weren't, we wouldn't be in a society where people would be censored.
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And also, they wouldn't censor these people if it wasn't fucking somewhat true.
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See, when you let all ideas flow in, it's very easy to see who's the clowns, who's telling
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the truth, who's telling mostly truth but a little full of shit, and who's completely
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full of shit, and who's completely telling the truth.
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Like, it's easy for the spectrum to be visible because the best ideas, the natural order of
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This is why these policies that the communists and the socialists believe in will never actually
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And it will resort in killing the people who resist it because they can't win in natural
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So that's why what these people are about always ends with things like genocide or things like
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war, because their ideas can't win and they need to oppress people for them to get the
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And the problem that's happening now in America is the 80 percent majority of people are being
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And not only are they being suppressed, the other side's being amplified and celebrated.
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And these people are unaware that there's 80 percent of the other people on the other side.
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So it's actually, do you understand what I'm saying?
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It's actually strategically dangerous to manipulate reality the way they've done it, because now you
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have a huge majority of people who are very angry and they're empowering this other very small
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And it's going to create a potential dangerous situation if everyone can't wrap their head
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around the idea that this has to be done peacefully.
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OK, it only takes one or two fucking idiots to do some dumb shit.
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So so the short answer is you have to speak up if you believe in what the fuck you believe,
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But if you don't want to be labeled in with the sexualization of children, you have to speak up.
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I've been saying this for literal, I mean, the last couple of years.
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You have to speak up if you are a gay person and you are in the gay community and you notice
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that kids are being sexualized because it will hurt the perception of of the whole community
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with the masses, because, dude, the masses are starting to believe like that is the whole
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So that's why it's important to speak up, dude.
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Like, you know, like whatever you choose is what you choose.
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But when you're fucking teaching five year old kids shit, that ain't good, man.
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And there's a lot of pedophilia crowd that's hiding in the LGBTQ community right now.
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And like, dude, that the community has to be stronger about it.
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I would say, too, because I've seen there's a new, like, I guess, movement going around.
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They're starting to shadow ban that page because they're getting attention.
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No, this is not a this is this is an issue of fucking right versus wrong.
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And regardless of how you feel about, you know, conservative people or whatever, like if you're in that LGBTQ community and you're not condemning the sexualization of children.
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I think the pendulum is swinging back very fucking fast and hard on that.
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And I don't know, man, like this idea, these people normalizing the trying to normalize pedophilia by calling it minor attractive persons and give these people like empathy and all that ain't going to fly.
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I think I think the simple fact that we have to try to call it the fact that they're calling it normalization.
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Look, dude, those people are going to get fucking killed.
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So parents will kill people over that, like lots of parents, like most parents, probably.
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So it's dangerous shit when you don't speak up.
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This is why I've been encouraging everybody to speak up for fucking years.
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You guys are fucking, you know, innumerable amounts.
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Yes, you're you're you're becoming someone different.
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But if you're not spreading the shit, it doesn't work.
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So it's not enough just to listen to the show and say, oh, this is why I say tell people about it.
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It's it's because we need the fucking shit to spread.
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And that that's conversations in real life with real people, dude.
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That means you being bold on your social media and saying some shit that not all of your fucking friends are going to agree with.
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I think just to add to that quickly, too, though, I think when you do that stuff to guys, you will realize that because so much time has passed, you won't have that many people to disagree.
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Tell them a story you were telling me about the party.
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I went to went to this day party yesterday and it was like, I mean, it was a black thing.
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Well, you know, did you guys credit score was too high.
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I might have to write a letter to HR on this one.
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And but no, so I went to this day party and it was cool.
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You know, it wasn't I was comfortable being there.
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Because I usually like anyway, long story short, you're about to say some racist shit.
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Well, I mean, I was going to say some honest shit, you know, but another time, another place.
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No, but I'm sitting there and one of my, I guess, friends, he came up to me and he had no idea that I was on the podcast.
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And he was like, like, dude, one of my guys just forwarded me this show the other day called Relay F, man.
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And I'm just thinking I automatically my racist inherent self.
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And then he, like, three more other guys come over and they're all listening to the show.
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And I was sitting there and one guy goes, he's like, hey, and tell Andy, I actually like cream soda.
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About to see your fucking vest stocks go insane right now.
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I hope the people over a vest appreciated my shout out.
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But dude, it just shows you like people look, man.
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We're all tired of the oppression by these fucking fucks who come here every three or four years
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and tell us they're going to fix all our shit and fuck us in the ass with it.
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Like, let's start by fixing that and then we can work on all the other shit.