376. Q&AF： Overcoming Getting Shot In The Face, Piss-Stained Mattress Phase & Remote Work Causing Depression
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In this episode of Q&A, I answer your questions and talk about some changes I'm making in my personal brand. I also talk about the MFCEO Project and why I'm no longer in the DMs.
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What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realest sake about the
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lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality
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guys today. We have Q and AF. That's where you submit the questions and I give you the answers.
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Sometimes when you tune in, we have CTI, that's cruise the internet. That's where we throw up
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some issues of the day. We talk about them. We talk about the problems that need to be solved
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and we make fun of all the bullshit that's out there. All right. Most of it's bullshit.
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Sometimes we have real talk. Real talk is five to 20 minutes of me just doing what you guys would
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call a rant. I just call it the way I talk. And I try to help you guys figure out how to win.
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All right. And then sometimes we have full length. Full length is where we bring on interesting,
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successful, kick-ass people. We break down how they became interesting, successful and kick-ass.
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And then we show you how you can also become interesting, successful and an ass kicker.
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With that being said, there is a fee for the show. The fee is very simple. You can Venmo me
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$1,000 or you could tell someone about the show. It's up to you. But one of those two
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things needs to happen. All right. If you like the show, if you don't like the show,
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fuck off. All right. With that being said, we got Q&A F. What's up, dude? What's going on,
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guys? And two, if you want to email, these are your questions. So submit those questions,
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email those questions in to ask Andy at Andy for something. Yeah, look, Q&A F, guys,
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is about personal development. All right. For those of you that don't know, I had a podcast
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called the MFCEO Project with Vaughn Kohler, who was a pastor, not only just a pastor,
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the pastor of disaster. All right. And the Q&A F is more of an ode to those days, you know,
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where we're out there trying to show you how to win. A lot of you guys think I'm here to coddle
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you. A lot of you guys think I'm here to help you feel good about yourself. I'm not. I'm here to
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show you how to fucking win. And through winning, you'll feel good about yourself. All right. I'm
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never going to make you feel good for fucking losing. So stop fucking trying to do that.
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All right. Another thing I want to address too, while we're on the topic, some changes are being
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made to my personal brand. One of those changes is I'm no longer going to be handling my Instagram
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or my DMs. I want to let you know that because, you know, over the last 10 years or so,
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I have been very involved in my DMs. And in fact, I spend a lot of my time interacting with you guys.
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And I've built some amazing friendships, some amazing relationships, um, through those DMs.
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And I wanted to take a minute and express gratitude for all those relationships and friendships that
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I've been able to make through those DMs. Um, and just let you guys know, like for me to do what I
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need to do, uh, in terms of putting content out, uh, I just can't do it. It's too much. It's too
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much of a time suck. I, you know, I think I'm probably the only guy at my level that's still
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in the DMs talking to people. And it's just, it's the reality of the growth. And, um, we have some
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amazing new projects coming up. Uh, I'm going to be posting every single episode that we do here on
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Real AF on YouTube as well. Uh, I'm firing up the MFCEO project. Once again, this is a huge
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announcement, uh, with Von Kohler. That's going to be a new show that's coming out soon. I also have
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a third show that's getting ready to come out, which will be a YouTube exclusive show, which I'll
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talk more about later. But the point is my message, I feel an obligation to get out. And to be completely
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honest with you guys, it's only, it's the only reason I do this. All right. I do this because I feel
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like, you know, and you guys might laugh at this, but I feel like, you know, in our little tribe
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of, uh, America. All right. I'm the elder, right? Like I'm the older brother. I'm the, I'm the uncle.
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I'm the guy who's done some things. And we have this whole generation of young people, uh, from,
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you know, 16 to 25 who are trying to figure out what to do in life and how to win. And it's an
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obligation for me to share those things and pass those things down. Uh, I know not everybody's
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going to resonate with, with what, what I see and how I, how, how I do things, but I'm going to,
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uh, deliver the things that I know. I'm going to share the things I know, and I'm going to do it
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at a big scale. And unfortunately, some of the things have to be cut out for me to be able to
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accomplish that. So I wanted to let you know that if you DM me and you don't get a reply, like you've
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been used to getting for years and years and years, that's why, um, I appreciate you guys. I
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fucking love all the support that you guys have shown. And it, it, it kind of breaks my heart not
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to be able to continue to do these things. But at the end of the day, man, something's got to give.
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And that's something, you know, is, is those DMS and that actual, uh, Instagram content. I'm going
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to let my team post, I'm going to let my team handle it. And, um, so don't think I'm just being
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an asshole and ignoring your shit. It's just not something that I can do anymore. So I'm going to
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focus all my energy on putting out content. I'm going to focus my energy on bringing the next
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generation up. I'm going to focus on these new projects that we have going on. And, um, it
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doesn't mean I feel any differently about you guys in the DMS. I would love to be able to have those
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conversations. And hopefully when I see you in person, we can have those conversations, but the
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reality is, uh, that's the direction that I'm going to go. And I just wanted to let you guys know
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before you like, think I'm just ignoring you in the DMS. Cause that's not the case. Um, yeah,
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with that being said, uh, I'm really excited about what we've gotten ready to do. Uh, I'm
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really excited about the progress that we've made here on the show. I'm really excited about
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bringing Vaughn back and getting that show going again. I think that was a, uh, a really
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amazing show. Both Vaughn and I have gone through a lot since we ended that show and we're going to
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do a once a week show just to continue that, that, uh, tradition. And we'll continue with the
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real AF. I really like doing this. And basically guys, I'm going to be, uh, pumping out as much
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content as you can get. And then the rest of the time I'm going to be living my life in the real
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world. Um, I'm not going to spend my whole life glued to this screen anymore. So, uh, tune in,
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get what you can get, take what you can get, uh, go win with it. And, um, you know, it'll be here
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for you. So yeah, it's gonna be good. Yeah. It's, it's fucking exciting. I'm excited for it. Yeah. I am
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too, dude. We're pretty fucking sweet. Yeah. I just, uh, you know, I know how people get, man,
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you know, some people get a little entitled with that, with that attention, you know, and guys,
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I've done my best, man. I've done my best to connect with you guys. I've done my best to be
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there and accommodate and, um, try to communicate. But you know, that doesn't mean like I can continue
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those things. Like I think nobody really prepares you for that shit either. What do you mean? I'm
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saying to like have, you know, 10,000 people waiting on a response from you. Yeah. This last
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weekend I wasn't able to get to DMS very much. And over the course of a day and a half, I had over a
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thousand and each one of those DMS then requires two or three extra DMS because when I reply,
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it's not just that. Yeah. Then you, there's a follow-up message, you know, and like, dude,
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I've done this for years where I've taken seven, eight hours a day to respond to all these people.
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And the truth of the matter is, is it's keeping me from getting the message fucking out there.
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And the truth and the ultimate truth is the message has to get the fuck out there.
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So like we all, you know, have to understand that. And you have to understand that,
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like I've done my best. It doesn't mean I think I'm bigger or better or too good for it anymore.
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Um, nobody at my size does this shit. So it's just a, it's just a casualty of the situation.
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I hope you guys will understand and appreciate it. Um, and you'll see that I'm about ready to
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go really fucking hard on a whole bunch of other shit. So, uh, I'm really excited about it. I think
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we're going to help a lot more people. And, uh, you know, it's a little bit sad. It's a little bit
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bittersweet, but at the end of the day, man, it's what has to happen to be able to do it.
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Yeah. I can't do it. I don't have so much time. That's real. So, so yeah, man, that's that.
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Um, what else? Did I miss something? I miss anything there? I think that's everything.
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Yeah. Yeah. All right. That's the show guys. Yeah. Yeah. We do have Q and a F. So I just
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wanted to bring that up. You know, I don't do much housekeeping stuff here. I didn't want
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people to think like, you know, um, you know, I'm just fucking ghosting them. Yeah. Like, like,
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bro, if you're not getting a reply in your DMS anymore, it's because like my team doesn't
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have the same relationship that, you know, they're not going to jump in and pretend to
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be me. Right. You get the double tap. It's not a lot of people do that shit. A lot of
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people will send their team into their Instagram. I'm not look, bro. I'm not going to pretend
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I'm not going to pretend that one of my guys is me and you're going to fucking talk to
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him. I'm just being upfront and real about it right now. So, uh, anyway, no, that's
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real. That's that. Well, uh, let's see if we can, uh, I got, I got some good ones
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for you. Hmm. Let's knock these shocking. Let's knock these out. Andy question. Number
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one, I was 75 hard going. I was going good. I just posted it. It's going really, really
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good. And like, I think there's an interesting viewpoint too, from it. It's like, you know,
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cause we talk all the time about the shit and it's like just actually executing on the
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stuff. Like it's been, this is a day nine. I haven't really had like, you know, a fucking
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chaos. Oh shit. Day yet. Yet. I say yet, because I know they come. Those are test days, but
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I'm looking forward to it. You know what I'm saying? So it's pretty cool. Uh, you
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know, I don't know if this is like TMI, but like, dude, my poops are changed. Oh yeah.
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Yeah. For good or for worse? No, it's great. Like they're not, they're not like my poops
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were sticky. Yeah. Well, I, you know what I'm saying? I don't know if that's good or bad.
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That makes sense. Sticky? Sticky poops. Yeah. Like they stick to the fucking toilet and
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you gotta, yeah. Yeah. Like that was a thing. My poops are not sticky no more. I don't
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know, man. I'm sure that has something to do with it. You know what I'm saying? Is
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that a real thing? I don't know about them fat boy diarrhea poop. Bro, that's a real
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thing. Yeah. That's a real thing. So when the poop is sticky is bad? I think so. Yeah.
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Like it's supposed to just be a nice, healthy, healthy poop. There's poop experts out here
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being like, I mean, these guys don't know anything about poop. The real thing. They're
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going to write a fucking review about it. These fucking idiots don't know what they're
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talking about. They said poop's not supposed to be sticky. It's supposed to be sticky
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at 87.2 degrees. Exactly. If the water temperature's right. Sorry, fucking professor poop. I didn't
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know the fucking details. Yeah, dude. Poudini. Poudini. Fuck, man. But yeah, no, everything's
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good though, man. Well, that's good. Yeah. You know, I think a big key to 75 hard is just
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getting your day organized ahead of time and getting out ahead. You know, one of the things
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about 75 hard, I think that most people fuck up is, you know, they learn real quick that
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you have to fucking start the minute you wake up, like start knocking off tasks. You know
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what I'm saying? It affects everything. I mean, it's a big fucking deal. Yeah, but it
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brings a good purpose. Yeah. It brings a good purpose. You know, we talk all the time about
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Well, you're more intentional with your shit. That's right. But that's purpose, bro. Like
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when you wake up and you don't have shit to do, no shit, you're going to feel depressed.
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You know what I'm saying? When you, when you, when you're walking around in a cloud and you
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don't have direction, you don't have purpose of any sort, even if it's basic things to
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do throughout the day, you're going to feel anxious. You're going to feel depressed. You're going
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to feel like you don't like you're not happy. And that's why we, you know, talk about all
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the time on the show, but you know, discipline plus purpose, plus gratitude. That's what makes
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you happy. And that discipline aspect, you know, for you to feel fulfilled for you, like
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a lot of people I think have the wrong, I know they have the wrong idea. You know, they're
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out there consuming all this idealistic content from all these people who think that, you know,
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it's okay to make people feel bad for being a fucking total failure and a plebe and a fucking
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lazy piece of shit. And they're reading these things, you know, on the internet, these memes
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and say, Oh, it's just, just accept yourself for who you are, bro. That's fucking bullshit.
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You will be eternally fucking miserable. If that's the attitude that you take, you have
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to set out with purpose every single day and winning over the course of the long haul is
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not complicated, dude. It's, it's about manufacturing wins on the days that you don't feel like winning
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and stacking enough wins in a row to where you become a winner. This is very simple shit.
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Yeah. And I'm just doing what you told yourself. That's it. It's real simple. And it's, it's
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frustrating for me to watch some of these other, you know, these, these spiritual guru type people
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out there, like filling people's mind with idealistic fucking bullshit that makes them feel okay about
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doing nothing, being nothing, contributing, nothing, creating, nothing, helping no one, and then tell
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them they should feel good about it. Yeah. Like guys, that's not that you will never feel good
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about that. It doesn't even like logically make sense. No sentence. No dude, you could stack
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a gazillion memes in a row and read them all. And they could all tell you similar shit that those
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things tell you at the end of the day, you're going to read all of them and you're not going
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to feel any better. Yeah. Like there's only one way to feel better and you got to work your way out
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of it, you know? So anyway, um, what do we got? Yeah. Let's see. Let's get into these. Uh,
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Andy question number one, Andy, I was shot in the head a few years ago and it left me with a large
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indent at the top of my forehead with a big scar across my hairline. Since then I've always worn
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hats and it's like a security blanket, uh, for me and my confidence is higher with it on. I don't
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want to wear, uh, and I don't want to wear hats forever. Um, and I was just curious if you had any
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advice on how to get over this insecurity. Well, yeah, man. I mean, like I was stabbed right in the
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fucking face, bro. Like you can't hide it. It's there. Yeah. Like it's, it's, there's no hiding
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it. So I get it. You know, I think the option, the way, the reason is probably easier for me to
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accept it is because it's, there's no way to hide it. Like had I been able to hide it, I probably
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wasn't there back then. Yeah. I, well, no, even with a COVID mask, I couldn't hide it. Yeah. Um,
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but you know, at the end of the day, man, it's really about perspective. You know, there's a story
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there. There's a lesson there. It's part of who you are. And I think it's important to embrace these
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things, um, for what they are, you know, and there's a, there, there's some sort, I don't
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know enough about this person's situation to know, but there's some sort of, of lesson
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there, um, that you will inspire people with by owning who the fuck you are. You know what
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I mean? Dude, look, man, bad shit happens. Interesting things happen. You know, that's
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an interesting story. I would like to hear how you got shot in the fucking head. Like, you
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know what I'm saying? Like when I tell people I got stabbed in the face, they always want
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to hear the fucking story. Uh, so it makes you more interesting. Yeah. Um, that's a
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good thing. It makes people remember you. That's a good thing. You know, one of the
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biggest things that got me through when I got stabbed, uh, was that I realized how
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much more memorable it made me. You know, I was in business and I was trying to build a
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business. And before that happened, it was very hard because we, we didn't have
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money. We didn't have, we weren't successful. We weren't smart. We weren't special. There
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was nothing about us that stood out. Um, everybody in our industry was the same
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kind of people. We were just dudes that wanted to train and lift weights and eat
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fucking tuna and be ripped. Right. You know what I'm saying? Uh, but once I got
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stabbed in the face, bro, people started remembering me, you know, before I would
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go to the trade shows and, and, and these national shows and I talked to people
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and, you know, I couldn't get a call back. Nobody would listen to me. Nobody would
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talk to me. Nobody would remember me. But after I got stabbed, all of that
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changed because people found it interesting and they're like, fuck bro.
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Tell me that story. Or, you know, uh, did you really get stabbed in the face?
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Is that, is that true? And what happened is people started remembering me. So
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like when I would go to these shows and meet these people who were much further
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along that I wanted to do business with and meet and connect with, um, now it
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wasn't, it wasn't, you know, who's, who's Andy and Chris. It was, dude, you know,
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Andy and Chris, you know, Andy, the fucking, he's the dude got stabbed in the
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face. Oh, good. Yeah. Yeah. Oh yeah, dude. I know that dude. Right. So like we
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have to start looking for the pluses in the tragedies that we face and there
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always are what, however many negatives there are equal positives. That's just
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the way net natural order works. We just have to identify them. And there's very
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few situations in life, um, where we can't also, you know, draw the positive side
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of the equation. If we're willing to be open to seeing it, you know, there's
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definitely some difficult situations, man. You know, like when someone loses a
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child, um, or, you know, when someone loses a, a, a husband or, uh, you know, at a
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young age, you know, um, there's all kinds of situations, uh, that it's very hard and
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difficult to see the positive and you may not be ready to see the positive, whatever
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you're going through, you know, I'm talking to anybody who's going through
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shit right now. But important thing for you to realize is that when you're ready
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to see the perspective of how to move forward, there is one. And for this guy
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here, you know, um, I think if you like, if you want to wear a hat, cool. But like,
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if you know, it's just, I think by you covering it, you're probably just building
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the insecurity to have more power over you. So I think the most powerful thing you
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can do is just like, like if you want to wear a hat, that's fine, but don't wear it
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because you're trying to hide, you know, wear it. Cause you like the hat.
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Right. You know what I'm saying? Right. Um, but I think, you know, just owning
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that bro and like being okay with it and accepting it as part of who you are
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from here on out. I think that's the best policy, man. And I think what you'll
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see, like, dude, most, most people that know me, like, I don't know that they
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even see those scars and you know, like, like when I meet someone new, they
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always ask. Yeah. But like, I mean, I don't know, like when I look in the
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mirror, dude, I don't really ever see him. You know what I mean?
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You yeah. Like it's just me. Yeah. Yeah. I don't, I don't see it as this thing
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anymore. This disfigurement, even though it, it, it is a disfigurement. Um, you
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know, like for those of you guys who have met me in person, you know, the one, one
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side of my face is completely nerve damaged. I don't smile on that side. Like
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my smile's crooked. Um, you know, the, the indent that is here on this side of my
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face, on my left side, that went all the way through into my gums. I had, I had
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stitches on the inside, stitches on the outside, stitches in my fucking
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gums. And, um, you know, it's pinched in now, right? Like I could go have that
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fix. Like, uh, my, one of my buddies is the best facial, facial plastic surgeon
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in the fucking planet. I could have a fix real easy, but like, dude, at this
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point in time, I've lived with it for almost 20 years, be 20 years next, next
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June. You've owned it. Yeah. And like, dude, it would be taking away a part
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of who I am. And how long ago did he say this happened? Uh, he just says a few
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years ago. Yeah. So, I mean, you might do it. It took me a couple of years to
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really fucking get comfortable. The first, the first year and a half, two years
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of me after I got stabbed were really fucking hard. Yeah. Um, the, the suicidal
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thoughts, fucking, you know, uh, and, and to be honest, dude, like I still carry
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like, and I'm not someone who exaggerates, you know, I hate how
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fucking exaggerated, like the word trauma is in society. Like everybody
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thinks they have fucking trauma when in reality, bro, like you don't have
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shit. Okay. But getting stabbed in the fucking face, that's fucking trauma
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getting shot in the fucking head. That's fucking trauma. Right. Okay. So
00:19:26.920
it's important to acknowledge that. And like, if you need to like work through
00:19:30.700
it, you know, talk to some people about it and try to work through that. Um,
00:19:34.580
you know, one thing I was just sharing with Emily at home, uh, actually last
00:19:39.700
night was like, dude, I never really addressed that ever. I never addressed
00:19:43.500
it. I just fucking ate it. You know, I'm just like, fuck it. I'm tough. And
00:19:46.720
like, dude, now I look back 20 years and there's, you know, there's a lot of
00:19:50.540
good things that have happened from it, but there's a lot of things that I
00:19:53.000
still really haven't gotten over. Like, uh, you know, like there was a
00:19:57.580
situation, uh, last week where I was walking in a locker room and one of the, one
00:20:01.820
of the girls was walking out who, who helps clean the locker room.
00:20:04.580
You were in there. And when I opened the door, she was like, Oh shit. And
00:20:08.500
bro, like that fucking wound me up for the next two hours. Like I was filled
00:20:13.860
with anxiety. I was fucking. And like, I even told her like right when she's
00:20:17.660
dead, I said, don't fucking do that. And yesterday she came up and apologized.
00:20:21.580
She's like, Hey, I'm sorry. You know, I said, look, dude, like I ain't right.
00:20:27.060
Still, you know what I'm saying? Like when you scream like that, like, cause it
00:20:31.040
was one of these overly exaggerated, like it's still the trigger, bro. Yeah. I
00:20:34.960
But like, it wasn't like, Oh, sorry. It was like, you, you know, it was like,
00:20:38.880
Oh shit. And like this overly exaggerated, like, bro, do not fucking do that around
00:20:44.160
me. You know what I'm saying? Like I, like my initial reaction was to like fucking go
00:20:52.880
Like, so there's real shit there. You know what I mean? Like you're saying, so if you
00:20:58.460
would have like maybe did therapy, no, what I'm saying is, is like, maybe it's important
00:21:01.960
for this guy to, to, to address this now and not do what I did and just try to fucking
00:21:06.600
own it, you know? Cause I'm still dealing with negative, like with, with bad parts of
00:21:10.860
it. You know, my temper is very short and I've gotten way fucking better, bro. Like, like
00:21:16.920
if you knew me three, four years ago compared to now it's night and day, I'm not the same
00:21:21.320
human, but like, it's still, it's still there, you know, and I have to try really hard to
00:21:26.120
get through it. And so like, what I'm trying to do is get people to understand, you know,
00:21:30.480
address these things sooner than later, you know, that's all. And, and I'm sure, you
00:21:35.460
know, it's still really hard for this dude. You know what I mean? It's fresh. So, but
00:21:40.000
like, dude, try to see the good things, try to see where it serves you. And, and you
00:21:44.840
know, if you need to work through some of that shit, work through some of that shit. But
00:21:47.680
at the end of the day, bro, I think at the, I think when you're, when this
00:21:50.680
person is at the end of their life, you know, uh, 40 years from now, a hundred
00:21:55.320
years, whatever, however fucking old they are. Um, you're going to figure out a way
00:21:59.740
to make that work for you. You know what I mean? Yeah. So just try to see it that
00:22:03.980
way. And for those of you guys going through other things, what are the things
00:22:07.560
that are good from what are the things like, no matter what they are, no matter
00:22:11.220
how fucked up it sounds, what'd you learn? How can you be better? How can you move
00:22:15.960
forward from here? You know, there's nothing wrong with talking about the
00:22:19.800
positives of a very tragic situation because sometimes those positives are all
00:22:24.540
that allow us to move through. And it might only be one. Yeah. And a lot of
00:22:27.520
people won't talk about them because they feel like they're not giving proper
00:22:30.580
credit to the tragedy that happened. Right. I think that's where the uniqueness
00:22:34.120
can, Oh, I'm just the only person with this is because you're not even talking
00:22:37.260
about it. There's other people that have the shit for sure. Yeah. And there's other
00:22:40.080
people that have similar shit or even different shit, but getting through things
00:22:43.320
like that, it's all the same. Yeah. You know, that's real. That's real.
00:22:47.940
Question number two, Andy, I'm currently at the piss stain mattress phase of my
00:22:53.160
business. Yeah. Everybody's, everybody's about one, one, everybody's, everybody, you
00:22:57.500
know, that you see on Instagram, first of all, 90% of the people are still in that
00:23:02.800
phase and the 10% that aren't, I'm just being real, dude. The 10% that aren't are
00:23:06.960
three steps away from being there. So we're all kind of there. Well, yeah. Yeah.
00:23:12.080
But he says, so I haven't paid myself and I'm almost out of personal savings. I
00:23:16.940
regularly sleep on the floor at my office and it's a lot harder and darker than
00:23:20.780
I'd imagined. What advice would you have given yourself if you can go back in
00:23:25.300
time and talk to yourself when you were in the back of your retail store on the
00:23:29.100
piss stain mattress? Honestly, I would have told myself to enjoy it, like to, to
00:23:34.840
enjoy it. Yeah. That's weird. That doesn't, yeah, I know. But dude, like some
00:23:38.420
of the most fun times I've had in my life were the times when I have fucking
00:23:42.300
nothing. Like, cause dude, when you have nothing, you got nothing to lose too. So
00:23:46.000
you can have some fun and shit. And, um, you know, people, people, you know, we
00:23:51.000
tell these stories, but dude, Chris and I used to have a good time, man. Like we
00:23:54.520
had, you know, we, we were young, we were, we were kids, you know, we'd have our
00:23:58.100
friends up to the back of the store, drink beer in the back of the store, talk
00:24:00.860
shit, talk about what we were going to do with the company, you know? Um,
00:24:04.840
you know, try to enjoy the suffering, you know what I'm saying? Try to like
00:24:09.220
find the, because it won't always be that way, dude. Like it just won't. If
00:24:14.120
you keep showing up and you keep working it, things will improve. Um, what I
00:24:19.820
would tell my younger self is like to relax, just keep showing up. You're
00:24:23.500
going to figure it the fuck out. I would tell myself the same shit. I tell you
00:24:26.320
all keep going, make mistakes. Every time you make a mistake, make a note of
00:24:31.080
it, figure out what lessons you learn and then don't make those mistakes
00:24:34.640
again. And if you operate with that, if you operate with that philosophy over
00:24:38.220
the course of time, it's literally impossible to lose. You can't fucking
00:24:41.440
lose. Can't, cannot. Okay. Because eventually you're going to run out of
00:24:48.460
mistakes to make because you made them all. Right. And now if you run out of
00:24:52.840
mistakes to make it, cause you made them all, you got all the tools. So if you got
00:24:57.500
all the tools and you keep showing up and you make less mistakes, you make
00:25:00.700
progress. That's, that's just how the fucking game works. So you, what you're
00:25:05.740
going through and the lessons you're learning and all these things, those are
00:25:09.180
necessary. And a big problem that people make when it comes to
00:25:12.540
entrepreneurship or building a business or building a career is they don't
00:25:16.420
want to make any mistakes. Well, if you don't make any mistakes, bro, how are you
00:25:19.040
going to learn any skills? Right. Right. And if you quit when you make a big
00:25:23.140
mistake and you don't learn what, what good is all the mistakes you made
00:25:26.680
before that. See, the minute you quit, you just threw out the years of
00:25:31.580
learning that you learned. Right. And you put, you take yourself off the
00:25:35.600
board, not, not someone else takes you off the board. That's why what I tell
00:25:39.000
you, you know, working through the storms, let everybody else quit and you
00:25:43.440
just keep going. That, that truly is the name of success. Like enough people
00:25:48.140
will quit. Every person that you see out there as a competitor, they will all
00:25:56.680
That's it. They should know they'll quit. They'll change lanes. They'll go
00:26:00.560
somewhere else. They'll sell a company. Eventually it'll be you and you'll be at
00:26:04.240
the fucking number one spot. All you have to do is keep moving. And that, that
00:26:09.500
might be, and luckily for you, you probably won't have to spend 20 years
00:26:12.860
doing it because the technology that's available now allows us to move at a much
00:26:16.260
greater rate. So my advice would be hang the fuck in there, learn what you're
00:26:21.180
learning, try to enjoy the time you have realized like that it won't always be
00:26:25.080
this way. And the truth is when you get to the point where you're wanting to,
00:26:28.960
you know, where you're making millions of dollars a year and you don't have to
00:26:32.640
worry about money anymore, you're, you're going to wish you had enjoyed those
00:26:35.980
simpler times. Like for real, cause they won't be there.
00:26:38.560
They won't be there. It's all your life becomes tremendously more complicated.
00:26:42.020
Um, and you know, yeah, you have resources, but like, dude, you're also answering
00:26:47.140
the way more people. There's way more responsibility. It's not just you. It's
00:26:52.000
about all of them. And I'm going to tell you, dude, the pressure doesn't really
00:26:55.080
start until the day you figure out that it's not about you anymore. It's about
00:26:58.580
them. When you start, when you switch from, it's about me making money, which I
00:27:03.120
talk about consistently. That was for me, that was like 2014. Uh, I was sick. I was at
00:27:09.260
home. I had pneumonia. I was making more money than I ever made in my life. And I
00:27:12.800
was fucking miserable. And I started realizing like, Oh shit, dude, this ain't
00:27:17.220
about me. This is about fucking them. And, and I started pouring myself into
00:27:20.980
them. I got happier, but also did I not with the happiness came pressure and
00:27:25.680
responsibility and obligation. And like, you think it's hard now. Wait until you
00:27:29.840
got 400 fucking people that you have to fucking perform for, or they don't
00:27:33.560
fucking eat. It's a different fucking game. And that's where you're headed, bro.
00:27:37.560
And all of you guys in business, that's where you're headed. That's where
00:27:40.760
you're going to get. And that is a different game than in the beginning
00:27:44.280
when it's just you and you're trying to make it's, it's just, honestly, it's a
00:27:47.960
lot fucking easier. It's as hard as it is. It's the easiest part in business
00:27:52.580
because the hard part comes when you start winning and now you have to
00:27:55.680
fucking take responsibility for all the people's lives that are fucking
00:27:58.920
helping you win. It's a big fucking responsibility. If you're a decent
00:28:02.280
human, you know, so I would try to enjoy it. I would, I would try to make
00:28:07.540
the mistakes and, you know, very few mistakes you make are going to be fatal.
00:28:11.220
The only mistake that you're going to make that's going to be fatal is the
00:28:13.980
one that you fucking stop showing up for, you know, and that's what a lot of
00:28:17.220
people do, bro. They get embarrassed. They get fucking, they do something
00:28:20.380
stupid. They close a business. They get fucking, you know, they go through a
00:28:25.140
divorce or something, you know, whatever, whatever it is. And then you just
00:28:28.380
fucking stop, you know, no, no one, no one loses by continuing to go. You only lose
00:28:34.980
by stopping. Right. It's just the truth. Right. So I would tell this, I would tell
00:28:39.300
my younger self, just don't, I would tell them the same shit. I tell you guys
00:28:42.100
exactly the same shit. In fact, the whole reason I share this shit, like I said,
00:28:46.440
the beginning of the show is because I'm like the fucking elder of the fucking
00:28:49.840
little tribe here. Right. Right. Like, Hey young buck, like this is what the
00:28:54.480
fuck it takes. And it's just, it's just the price you're going to pay, bro.
00:28:58.100
Yeah. You know, guys, our third and final question, uh, Andy question number
00:29:04.280
three, I started my business a few years back with remote work built in
00:29:09.820
throughout the country. When COVID came in, we were fully prepared to go through
00:29:13.780
it. We've gone from $0 to $26 million in revenue. With that being said, I've
00:29:19.640
noticed myself getting a little depressed since all of our interactions are
00:29:23.560
happening through zoom. And I feel this way. My employee, uh, employees might
00:29:27.800
feel similar. What are some things that I can do to help with this? Seeing that we
00:29:31.880
cannot have a central location for our company. The reason we can't have a central
00:29:35.780
location is because our 70 plus employees are already established throughout the
00:29:39.700
company. What recommendations do you have? Well, I mean, look, man, this is, this is
00:29:47.620
what I talk about when I talk about the social media and technology sucking us
00:29:54.780
in, right? It's, it's a great tool. We can do great things with it. Uh, but humans
00:30:00.140
at the end of the day are not meant to, to interact through a screen. We're not
00:30:04.020
meant to look at a cell phone for seven hours a day, responding to DMS. We're not
00:30:08.820
meant to consume massive amounts of negativity all fucking day. Um, and my
00:30:14.660
recommendation for technology is use it how you need to use it. Uh, you know, use
00:30:22.880
it to consume the positives, use it to build, use it as a tool, but don't make
00:30:27.520
it your life. You know what I'm saying? Go out in the real world, enjoy real
00:30:31.220
things. You know? Um, I think the COVID shutdowns really fucked up a lot of
00:30:38.440
people because like, dude, people just, they're not going out the same way that
00:30:42.920
they did before. There's still some hesitation. Yeah. And, um, they're not
00:30:46.320
traveling the way that they did before and the data all backs that up. And
00:30:49.980
like, dude, I think, you know, part of what they did was to try and, you know,
00:30:56.940
this should be no surprise to any of you, but part of what they did was to try
00:31:00.900
and engineer more of a mental health crisis that already existed because their
00:31:05.140
goal is ultimately to have you fat, to have you uneducated, to have you poor, to
00:31:11.800
have you consumed by things all day that don't really matter so that you're not
00:31:15.980
looking out into the world as you know, what you can actually be, what you can
00:31:20.360
actually create, because that creates problems for them. When we humans become
00:31:24.960
personally excellent and we're living a, uh, a life of contribution, a life of
00:31:29.720
service, a life of creation, a life of excellence out in the real world, we don't
00:31:34.400
need them. We don't need their motherfucking antidepressants. We don't need
00:31:38.780
their fucking medicines. We don't need their government assistance. We don't need
00:31:44.340
any of their shit. And when we don't need any of their shit, that means they
00:31:48.140
cannot govern over us unless it's by force. And what they're trying to do,
00:31:52.480
because they don't, and they're going to, they will eventually try force. That's
00:31:57.020
going to come. But what they're trying to do right now is the soft takeover and
00:32:03.660
enslavement of humanity. And they're trying to do it through technology. And so you
00:32:07.160
have to be aware of that. The reason you don't feel fucking good is because it's
00:32:10.900
not natural. It's not natural to sit in front of a computer, no matter how much
00:32:15.080
money you're making and spend literally 24 hours a day interacting with humans
00:32:19.680
there. And like in your pajamas at home, you have to get out of your house. This is
00:32:23.420
why 75 hard live hard is such an important thing for when it comes to creating
00:32:27.320
purpose and happiness and fulfillment, because what you're doing is you're
00:32:31.060
creating all these things that society believes because of the propaganda that
00:32:37.900
we, that we have been fed for the last 30 years that some people have, and some
00:32:42.040
people don't, you know, discipline. That's not a trait. That's a fucking skill.
00:32:46.540
Happiness, learning how to be happy. Do you, if you ever heard that learning how to be
00:32:52.580
happy, they talk about it as a, you're the happy or you aren't, but then you hear
00:32:56.620
certain people say, well, I'm learning how to be happy. Well, learning how to do
00:32:59.980
anything. What does that make it? It makes it a fucking skill. It's not a
00:33:03.240
trait. Okay. Happy people are happy by design. Productive people are productive
00:33:08.060
by design. Disciplined people are disciplined by design. Healthy people are
00:33:12.280
healthy by design. Nobody that you look at out there that you see having the
00:33:17.220
shit that you wish you had was just born with it. Now they may pretend that they
00:33:21.640
were born with it. Like there's these business gurus online who pretend like they
00:33:27.680
were born with this super set of skills that you don't have. And then they tell
00:33:31.260
you about all the great shit they're doing. And then you're supposed to
00:33:34.280
basically like bow down and worship their shit. That doesn't help anybody.
00:33:38.280
Right. It's not even true. It's not even true. These are all skills and they're all
00:33:42.520
skills that you can acquire. All right. But you can't acquire them sitting on zoom
00:33:46.620
all day. You have to get out in the real world. You have to go mow your grass. You have to
00:33:51.460
see people in real life. And for that person running a company that way, one thing that I
00:33:57.060
would advise against is that you need to make your company in person at some levels. Maybe
00:34:04.540
that's a conference twice a year. Maybe that's a conference once a quarter. Getting everybody
00:34:08.900
together, making it not just business, but making it interactive and fun. Maybe it's a
00:34:14.360
company picnic once a year or twice a year. I don't know. But the more technology that
00:34:19.100
we implement, the less natural we are as humans, which means the more off we're going
00:34:25.480
to feel. We were not meant to do this. This is new technology, bro. This technology is
00:34:32.960
It's a thousand years ahead. That's right. And so, dude, you know, if you feel bad because
00:34:38.620
you know, if you're looking around and you're thinking, fuck, I can't figure out why the
00:34:42.540
fuck I feel bad. Something's off. Yeah. Yeah. It's because you're spending too much
00:34:46.200
time in this fucking bullshit world and not enough time in reality. Yeah. And I'm not
00:34:51.220
saying absolve yourself from social. I'm saying use it for what the fuck it is and then live
00:34:57.240
your life. And because most people are moving towards this. I think most people are going
00:35:01.820
to move back towards this human interaction anyway. I have very strong data points that
00:35:11.340
show that to be true. OK, when I've said that on the show for the last however many years
00:35:16.980
that people were going to regress back, there's going to be a large segment of populate. There's
00:35:22.140
going to be people that go all in. OK, there's going to be people that fucking get on the metagoggles
00:35:26.580
and live in the fucking metaverse. Like, bro, I saw this commercial for metaverse last night
00:35:32.060
where it was like this. It was like Uganda's cycling team. Have you guys seen that? And they
00:35:37.880
start talking about how Uganda doesn't have a fair chance to compete. And the only way
00:35:42.380
that they have a fair chance to compete in cycling is through the metaverse. And they're
00:35:45.940
basically victimizing all these people in Uganda as if like it's wrote that there's competition
00:35:52.320
all over the world. Let's not fucking bullshit each other. If you have if you're fucking good
00:35:55.880
enough, there's a place for you to compete. I don't give a fuck where the fuck you come
00:35:59.420
from. Fucking there's a Jamaica fucking bobsled team. Get the fuck out of here with this
00:36:03.820
bullshit. I'm being serious. Yeah. Get the fuck out of here with your
00:36:07.820
fucking lies. They're trying to make it sound real nice and real cool. And there's going
00:36:11.760
to be people that buy into it. And these are tech. These are legitimately the people who
00:36:15.960
cannot compete in the real world. So all these like NPCs, non-playable characters, the people
00:36:22.660
who are going to buy the propaganda, the people who are going to buy into technology, the people
00:36:27.260
who think, oh, Web 3 fucking I'm going to make a gazillion dollars. Yeah, you might, bro.
00:36:31.880
But you're making money on the downfall of fucking humanity. And that's not OK. It's not
00:36:36.680
OK with me. All right. I don't respect it. I don't give a fuck if you make I don't give
00:36:40.720
a fuck if you make a hundred times whatever I've made in my life. I'm still not going to
00:36:45.460
respect it because it's bad for people. It's morally wrong. It's morally fucking wrong,
00:36:49.460
bro. And it's all designed to be around control. It's all designed to create in their mind
00:36:57.520
community. But what does it really do? It creates dependency. It creates you having
00:37:04.240
to sit at home and get a government assistance check, get your government medication because
00:37:09.340
you're not happy, because you can't figure out why, because you're on this shit all the
00:37:12.780
time. You're not breathing fresh air. You're not running down the fucking street. You're
00:37:17.100
not moving your body. You're not being personally excellent. And guess what? You're going to feel
00:37:21.660
like fucking shit. That is reality. And by the way, that's what they want, because when
00:37:26.600
you feel like shit, what do you do? You go get pills for it. Guess who makes the fucking
00:37:31.200
money? The biggest motherfucking companies in the fucking world. All right? So I know where I'm
00:37:38.380
going. I'm going to continue to use the technology for the tools. Like I said at the beginning of the
00:37:42.700
show, I'm going to put out content that's going to serve you. My content is going to serve you in
00:37:46.960
real life. If you want to be a meta nerd, then fucking don't listen to my shit. I don't give a
00:37:51.820
fuck. But if you feel like shit, I'm going to promise you that your technology has a big,
00:37:57.540
big part to do with it. The other part to do with it is you're not living with intent.
00:38:01.280
You're not living, uh, uh, you're not stacking wins day by day, by day, by day, by day.
00:38:05.620
You know, episode 16, win the day. I give the fucking program away for free.
00:38:10.260
It shows you how it is the only system that I've ever seen that if you execute the way that I teach
00:38:19.240
you literally, and I believe this, you literally cannot fucking lose in the long run. Now you're
00:38:27.640
going to have losses along the way, but if you stack Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday,
00:38:36.820
Saturday, Sunday as wins, what happened? You just fucking week. You want a week. Okay. Now you win
00:38:43.360
the next week. Now you win the next week. And let's say out of the month, you miss four fucking days.
00:38:48.700
Well, you still won the month, right? Yeah. The whole, and then if you win January, you win
00:38:55.980
February, you win March. Let's say you get off track and you have fucking, uh, you get off track
00:39:01.200
in April and it takes you two months to get off back on track. So you start back with the live hard
00:39:06.060
program episode 208. It's fucking free again. All my tools are fucking free. Get yourself back on
00:39:13.080
track. It takes you 60 days now. So you, you won three months, you lost two. Now you win fucking
00:39:18.680
June, you win July, you win August, you win September, you win, bro. You won the year.
00:39:25.200
And if you do this every year, how can you not become a winner in life? It's, if you think about
00:39:31.520
it as, as an, a systematic day by day way, you can't lose, you cannot fucking lose. And people
00:39:38.620
have this mentality that they're going to wing it, or they're just going to cruise through life
00:39:43.040
and they're going to do what they can when they can, and they're going to be free and
00:39:46.340
blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. But then they don't understand why nothing ever happens.
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And it's because you're not utilizing your time in a real, in a real way. You're not understanding
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the systematic process that it takes to actually win. You know what I'm saying? These people that
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you see as great, these people who you see as fulfilled, these people who you see as happy,
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they have earned those things through their daily execution. It's, it's not a matter of
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focusing on anything other than the day. The whole secret to the live hard program is one day at a
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time. The whole secret of, of winning your life is one day at a time. It's the whole secret of
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winning a business is one day at a time. And I give you these tools for fucking free, bro. You just
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don't fuck, you guys just don't fucking think, well, I don't know what the fuck you think because
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I'm literally, literally building a fucking company that is like probably going to be one
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of the most iconic fucking brands that ever existed in this country on the same ship, the
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same system I'm giving you for free. I'm not holding anything back. There's nothing, there's
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nothing more I could tell you how to do that. If you do that, you'll fucking win. If you don't,
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you probably won't. That's true. So I don't even remember what the question was.
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Oh, you get lucky. No, you, uh, you answered just about how to remove, uh, regress, I guess
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a little bit from the technology. Yeah, bro. Look, dude, there's a book about this. There's
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a book about this that I'm reading. Um, it's, uh, it's called the chaos machines by a dude
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named Max Fisher. And it talks about how social media has completely fucked us all up. It's
00:41:22.400
worth a read, dude. Yeah. I'm not even read the whole thing, but I'm in the middle of it.
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It's part of my part of what I'm reading on my program. Yeah. So, you know, like, dude,
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and I'm not saying like, uh, you know, like some people are completely disconnecting, which
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dude, I commend that too. I don't have a problem with that, but I'm just saying like you use,
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I'm going to use it for what the fuck it's what to send my message out. Whoever gets it,
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we'll get it. Uh, but outside of that, the cards are going to fall where the fuck they fall.
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And that's that I'm not, you know, I'm not giving away. I've given away 10 years of that
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motherfucking screen, dude. Like I've given away 10 years of my life to this fucking screen.
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I'm not doing it another day. I'm going to, I'm going to focus all of my fucking effort
00:42:05.180
on producing the content. You guys can use it or not use it. That's fine with me. I'm going to share
00:42:12.140
because I feel obligated to share and whatever happens from that rate. But outside of that,
00:42:17.620
I'm not interested in, you know what I'm saying? Like I want to spend time with my real friends
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in real life, doing real shit. That's the thing. You got to remind yourself sometimes you're human.
00:42:27.100
Yeah, bro. I was out at my farm over the weekend, fucking mowing grass, bro. It was the happiest
00:42:30.760
I've been in fucking 10 years. Yeah. We didn't get the s'mores party invite, did we guys? Yeah,
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no, I, I didn't. It was all, it was only white people. Oh, gotcha. Yeah. I'm just keeping it real.
00:42:41.040
Well, I didn't vote for Biden. I should have been there. Well, I mean, bro, it was only me. Oh, okay.
00:42:44.700
So it's not like it can't really be racist. If it's only me, I'm the only white guy. I'm just
00:42:48.620
saying it's only white people. Oh, that's true. Yeah. Now that makes sense. So
00:42:51.880
well guys, Andy, that is three. So go pay the fee. Yeah. Yeah. Guys. Uh, remember what I said
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in the beginning, you know, uh, I just want to say again, like I've appreciated all the friendships.
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I appreciate all the relationships, all the conversations. Uh, you know, I'll check in when I
00:43:06.540
can, but you know, it's going to be a different game when it comes to those DMs. So I just want to let
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you know that. And, uh, you know, don't get upset with me. Don't get frustrated with me.
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Uh, just understand this is the natural progression of how we're going to do things because I want to
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be able to put out more content. I want to be able to share more. I want to do it where more people
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and more eyeballs are seeing it so that we can affect more change in the world. So I love you
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guys. I appreciate you guys. Uh, and I'll talk to you next time.
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Went from sleeping on the floor. Now my jewelry box froze. Fuck a pole. Fuck a stove. Counted millions
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in the cold. Bad bitch. Booted swole. Got her on bankroll. Can't fold. Doesn't know. Headshot. Case closed.