389. Q&AF： Personal Development For Your Loved Ones, Fixing Culture In An Inherited Business & Responding To A Job Rejection
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In this episode of Q&A with Andy Priscilla, we talk about a lot of stuff, but the most important part is that Andy is back from being diagnosed with colon cancer. We talk about his journey to recovery and how it has changed his life and how he is now able to focus on the things that matter most to him.
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What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realists, say goodbye
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to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking
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reality. Guys, today we have Q and AF. Q and AF is where you submit the questions and we
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give the answers and you could submit your questions to askandy at andyfriscilla.com.
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Yeah. So Q and AF, all right, Q and AF is what it sounds like. It's questions and answers
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as fuck. Or maybe it's answers from Andy Priscilla or maybe it's something else that we haven't
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told you yet. But anyhow, this is an ode to the old MFCEO project. The MFCEO project, for
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those of you that don't know, was the number one personal development podcast on iTunes for
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a very, very, very long time. The goal of this show is to make you better. So when you submit
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your questions, understand that I know how to help you be better and I will help you be
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better. So bring me your stuff and let me help you. That's what Q and AF is about. Sometimes
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when you tune in, we will do CTI. CTI is called Cruise the Internet. That is where we put up
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headlines on the screen. We talk about what kind of bullshit they are. We talk about what
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little truth they may contain. And then we talk about how we collectively can become the
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solution to these problems that we face in the world. And we do so with a sense of humor.
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That is very important. A lot of you do not have a sense of humor. And because you do
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not have a sense of humor, I would ask that you don't listen to the fucking show. Thank
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you. Then we have Real Talk. Real Talk is five to 20 minutes of me ranting. If you listen
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to the MFCEO project, this is the Thursday Thunder of Real AF. Now, when we relaunch the
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MFCEO project, which is coming down the pipe very soon, we will have Thursday Thunder on
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that. And Real Talk probably won't exist on this one unless I'm ranting about the
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government and some conspiracy shit, which I know you guys love. Then we have full
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length interview style like everybody else does. If you've ever watched a podcast in
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the history of Earth, it's the same shit everybody else does. There's a there's a
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dude here or a woman here who is kick ass, who's special, who's done some amazing
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stuff, who has a great perspective. And then we talk about how they got there. And
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then we talk about how you can get there, too. OK, the overall arching theme of this
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show is personal excellence is the ultimate rebellion. If you look around at what's going
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on in the world and you think it's completely fucked up like most of us do, you have to
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come to the realization that is up to us as the individuals to be the solution. That means
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we must raise our standards. That means we must pull people along with us. That means we
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must put good things in our body and good things in our mind, because without us raising
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our standards, there can be no collective solution. So that's what this show is about.
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Now. We have Q&A F and I have a very special guest, guest question reader slash contributor.
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And I'll let you figure out who it is. What's up, bro?
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It is very good to be here. It is fucking good for you to be here.
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It's it's surreal a little bit. And a lot has happened since the last time I saw you. In fact,
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the last time I saw you was when my whole ordeal began. Yeah. Which we may get into a little bit.
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We're going to get into that. Bro, it's been like June 22nd was the last time I saw you.
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Yeah. Yeah. In person. And what happened between June 22nd and today?
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Well, after recording a real AF with you, I then went to, oh, I forget what the name of the place
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is Bar Louie. And I had some chicken wings, I think. And then I went to Fuddruckers in Kansas City
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and had a hamburger. And then between Kansas City and back home to Manhattan, Kansas, I experienced
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the most excruciating pain that I've ever experienced in my life. I was taken to the ER.
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They found out that it was pancreatitis. It flared up and then went away. And in the process of them
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running tests on me, they discovered that something was up with my intestine, my small intestine and
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my liver. And I was diagnosed about a week later with neuroendocrine cancer. And when that happened,
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uh, I was 172 pounds. I am currently clocking in at 150, which is just three, three, uh, three pounds
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more than I was in high school. So, uh, I am also three, three or four pounds more than you were at your
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lowest weight. Yeah. Yeah. So you're moving the right way. Yeah. But, um, I am happy to say that
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literally today on the day that, that, uh, yeah, today after three surgeries and, uh, five months that I
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wouldn't wish on anybody, uh, today I got the news that, uh, from the results of my PET scan,
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it has confirmed I am officially cancer-free. Bro. That's fucking awesome. Yeah.
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I, uh, I thought I was going to. No, man, it's been a. No, it's. I almost said I hope I was going
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to warn people that I was going to get emotional. Listen, we've all been worried about you. Yeah.
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Thanks, man. Um, it's a lot. Yeah. And I'm, I'm glad that 250 pound guy was the first guy to cry
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or whatever you are these days, 180 pounds of twisted steel and sex appeal. Does it really
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matter? It is twisted steel and sex appeal. Uh, look, bro, we've all been super worried about
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you this whole time and, um, to have you sitting here, um, it's, it's a little bit more special.
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Yeah. You know what I'm saying? I appreciate it, man. It's, um, I've definitely shed tears and I
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got to tell you, one of the things that really helped me a lot was, uh, you know, early on you
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just being like, dude, you're not going to die from this. And you knew I wasn't because you said
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we got work to do. And I agree. We got work to do. There's, uh, a crazy culture and it's crazy
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stuff going on. And, um, just completely aside from the political stuff, there's so many people who
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have bought into this, this mentality of mediocrity and this mentality of victim in a hood.
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And when we were doing MFCO project, um, you and I both know like what made it so valuable to us
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was the stories and the, and the things, the things that we learned from people, um, about how it
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changed their life, about how it raised their standards, how they got to work. I mean, I could,
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I could go on and on, but I'll tell you just one cool, really awesome thing that is just totally
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God and totally the way that God used MFCO project is that there was a, there was a, a kid
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who literally, uh, started listening to the MFCO project at 13. It taught, he, he listened
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to every single episode. Um, and that kid now he lives in Manhattan. He moved to Manhattan
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to help me, um, which is some of my stuff. And he literally runs a six figure marketing agency.
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And he literally says MFCO made him who, I mean, he had great parents, but he said MFCO made him
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who he is and gave him all the, uh, the tools to succeed. And bro, we did that. And so, yeah, I,
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you just, but you telling me that and saying there's still more work to be done. Like that was,
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dude, we haven't even started and what's going on in the world, you know, for us to, to bring that
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show back to reality. Um, you know, I love this show. It's fun. It's, you know, when we were doing
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the MFCO project together, you know, I always hated the fact that I couldn't be who I really was
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because there were so many people listening and we were at the, people think the height of cancel
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culture was recently. It was actually not, it was, it was back when we were talking about these
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things and, you know, people will find out, you know, that I smoke fucking weed or some shit.
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And they're like, Oh my God, dude, you're the biggest piece of shit. It's like, dude, look,
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so I'm happy to do this other show because it gives people an idea of that there's more to me
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than just the skillset. Um, but what I'm excited about the most is that I think culture is ready
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now for the message that we were bringing for so long. Absolutely. You know, when we were,
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when we were doing the MFCO project, um, you know, the culture was still moving towards the victim
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culture and towards the take it easy culture and towards, uh, the political correct culture and
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towards mediocrity, as you mentioned. And now we're moving into a new phase where people realize
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how damaging that cultural, uh, mentality is and where it came from that is not organically in
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American culture. I believe that what we're about to do will be far more impactful and far more
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important than anything you and I have ever fucking done. I agree. I agree, bro. And, and honestly,
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and, and for those of you who are wondering like, who is this idiot that's talking right here?
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Cause I do think there are some new people. My name is Blond Kohler. Good to meet you.
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Was Andy's co-host for what was it? Four years, five years, uh, on the MFCO project.
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No, an MFCO project for you guys that don't know, we were number one on iTunes, number one
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for 19 months straight. That was uninterrupted. Nobody's ever done that before. Right. Okay.
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And Vaughn was a big part. Vaughn produced that show. Uh, Vaughn was my co-host and I am super excited.
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I mean, we're going to continue doing real AF cause that's, that's a daily show that needs to be
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kind of in the place of your news. Um, but this project that we're going to do now, I'm,
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I am fucking pumped, uh, for the impact that it's going to, it's going to have on people.
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Me too. And I, and I think one of the things that I, I, I want to really emphasize that I think is
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one of the reasons why people resonated so much with our original show is, you know, neither you
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and I are perfect people, but I think that what we are is real and you gave people the real, um,
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you know, what it takes to really succeed. Um, personal development wise, entrepreneurship wise,
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you didn't, uh, soft coat anything. You didn't sugarcoat anything. You told them exactly what
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it takes to succeed as a person and to, and to build a business that's six, seven, eight, nine figures.
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And for people who have been, uh, you know, long time listeners at MFCO, you all know, like faith is
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really important to me. Like Jesus is really important to me, but what I'd like to think at
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least is that like, I have no delusions about my perfection. I have no delusions about my virtue.
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Like even going through cancer, you'd like to go through something and go like, Oh, I became a saint
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through this. I became super holy. When I was like experiencing just mind numbing fatigue and pain
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and GI issues. Let me tell you something. I now know what it feels like to have a blow torch in
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your anus. Okay. Cause I had so many that happens to me too, though, but it's only after I eat the
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jalapenos. I love jalapenos, but they don't fucking love me back, bro. I had so many gastrointestinal
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issues after they cut out two, uh, feet of my intestine. Uh, and it was rough and I'm, I'm currently
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I'm on, I'm like eight Imodium a day and eight, it manages it. It's fine. But the point I'm trying to
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make is like, when I went through that time and I told you some of this, like, I just felt like a
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fraud because I was so tired and so beat. I didn't even have, I didn't even have the energy to pray.
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I didn't have the energy to read the Bible. I didn't have, I didn't even think I was particularly
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kind with my wife and kids. And so it kind of exposed me as a fraud, you know, but it, but it
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was important because it brought me low. And I'm like, you know what? I'm not as great a guy as I think
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I am. And that knowledge and that, uh, that, that self-awareness and going, okay, you can get
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better and it's humiliating. And, and what I like to tell people who, who hopefully will listen to
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the show is that when you listen, you're going to hear, you're going to hear the real truth about
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entrepreneurship and personal development. And hopefully a little bit for me, you're going to
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hear, hear just an authentic guy saying, Hey, I'm trying to, I'm trying to be the best follower of
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Jesus. I'm trying to be the best, um, man of God that I can, but I'm like, I'm anywhere near
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perfect. And I, hopefully that will encourage people, you know, I think it should. I think
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everybody feels that way. You know, I think, I think we live in a culture where everybody feels
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like they're a fraud. Everybody feels like they're not, you know, we're comparing ourselves
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to unrealistic ideals on the internet all day long, whether that be, um, you know, economically
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or, or mental or good goodness of a human or your physical self or all of these things. And, um,
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we live in a very fake world that only shows the end result. And a lot of times that end results,
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not even fucking real. And we're comparing ourselves against a standard that isn't real.
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And that's one of the biggest reasons that we started with the MF CEO project was because we have
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a lot of these kids and, and, you know, who, who believe the online gurus who were like, Oh dude,
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in 12 months, I went from this to that. And they're standing in front of a car and they're selling them
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some bullshit. And, you know, you and I identified as we were writing the first book together that
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funny enough, never even got published because it became, it became the MF CEO project. It became a
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live book. And, um, we realized that like, there's a whole generation of people out there, uh, who
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don't understand what it takes to actually win. And that I can tell you from doing this show,
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that generation is only bigger now, right? As many of the people that we've helped over the course of
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the time doing that content, there's far more now that are hungry for it because people are
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becoming, uh, aware that they aren't being taught the skills in school. And not only are they not
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being taught the skills in school, the skills they are taught in school are a lot of times a liability
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of their entire lives. And people are becoming aware to that fact. And so I think the show really
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is going to serve, uh, multiple purposes. Uh, one of which making people realize that we're all
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fucking regular people that just have to do X, Y, and Z to get where we want to go.
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And you know, the powers that be that rule this earth, cause there are rulers of this earth.
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They don't come out and say, Hey, we're the rulers of this earth, but there is them. And there is us
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and they do not want us smart. They do not want us successful. They do not want us winning.
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They want us broke. They want us unhealthy. They want us undereducated. They want us underperforming.
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And that's a reality that everybody is starting to wake up to. And so I am super excited, uh, to start
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diving back into that style of content, because I think that's the real content that's going to help
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people change their shit. Um, which, which we need, we need it culturally, you know, we need it
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individually and we need it, uh, to happen fast. And so, dude, I'm, I am super fucking happy, um,
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that you didn't fucking die because I couldn't do that shit without you, dude. And, um, yeah,
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you know, it's, it's, um, it's needed. People need Von Kohler, bro. You have to remember that.
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So let's get on with this show. All right. We got some Q and A. Yes. Okay. So boy, I've been,
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I've been out of the saddle for a while. I'm not sure I can do this. That's all right.
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And, uh, big Reggie, he sets the standard pretty high, right? He's got, he's always got some good
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ones for us. Yeah. All right. Well, here's the first one, which kind of makes me laugh, but,
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uh, Andy, what's the best way to give someone you love a kick in the ass? Here's a little bit
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more of the elaboration of the question. My husband and I have been listening to you for
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the past five years. I've done 75 hard, made huge improvements in my life. My husband,
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on the other hand, never seems to take action. What can I do to get him to start working to
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improve his own life? Man, it's a difficult situation. We do get that question quite a bit
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and it comes from both men and women. Um, you know, I think anybody who started to live, uh,
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the live hard program, the 75 hard program. If you guys are unfamiliar, it's a free program
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to help develop mental toughness. You can, uh, listen to that episode 208. You'll get the
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whole program for free. Most of the time to get people to start. And I understand this more
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than anybody, dude. Like this is something that drives me fucking insane. And a lot of people
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mistake, and you know, this better than anybody. And these guys in here do as well. A lot of people
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mistake my tone and my passion or anger. And sometimes it is anger because I am so tired
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of people who just refuse to realize that they have this ability inside of them. When I know damn
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well that I am just a regular motherfucker, just like anybody listening. And I see what can be done
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with simple transitions of perspective in your life. And so this is a difficult one to deal with
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because it can be incredibly frustrating, especially, and I'm lucky enough to not have
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that issue with anybody around me. All right. Uh, people can't even exist around me without
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living to a standard like that. I just won't fuck with them. Um, but when it comes to these
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scenarios, you know, people either will, or they won't. And this is an unfortunate truth
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of reality. The best way that you can get people to come along with you on the journey is to go
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along on the journey alone and let them see how much better you get. Let them see how much more
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successful you are. Let them see how much more happy you are. And eventually those people will
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start to ask you questions. It's no different than when I started my business, uh, versus now,
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you know, 23 years ago when I started my business, the, the, the conversations were a lot different.
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They were more like, dude, what are you doing? Like, you really think that's going to work
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or, you know, man, I think you'd be better off just getting a real job, dude. Like,
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like this is kind of a fantasy, like this is really, isn't going to work. And then as we started to go,
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you know, it was more like, Oh, well, Andy thinks he's too good for us because I wasn't out at the
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bars every Friday, Saturday, Sunday night. Uh, and I was instead working, you know, and if that makes
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me too good for anybody, then you're fucking right. I'm too good for you. Okay. That's not my fault.
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I want to be better. And it's not yours either. You shouldn't harbor guilt for wanting to improve
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your own existence on this planet. And the harsh reality of this is that you cannot force anybody
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to go on that journey with you. That is a very, it is an impossible task because that the, the,
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the, the path is too hard. So you have to want it for yourself. If the person doesn't want it for
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themselves, they won't go down the path because the path is too fucking hard. So the best way that
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I found to inspire people is not ironically by getting on this microphone and yelling at them
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when I really started changing people's fucking lives. And when people really started changing around
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me was when I figured out to not be a fat fuck anymore. When I figured out to be a better human,
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when I stopped drinking hard alcohol back in 2018, because it was making me fucked up in the head
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and making me become a person that I didn't want to be. I made those changes. My life improved.
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Other people around me decided to follow that standard and that's improved my life tremendously.
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But I'd be lying to you if I said that every single person I was close to made that fucking journey.
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So that's a reality. And I don't really want to sit here and say, well, you know,
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you might have to consider leaving someone or this or that, but I can tell you this,
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that life is extremely, extremely difficult when you have people supporting you. And when you have
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people not supporting you and not along on the same path, it makes it even more difficult.
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And so this is a very difficult thing for people to deal with when it's something like a marriage
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or, you know, uh, someone in your family or someone that you really care about.
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My suggestion is to love yourself enough to live at the highest standard that you need to live at,
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to be happy. And the people that come along, come along. And the people that don't,
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you make changes in your life. And, um, that's the only way I know to answer it.
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Yeah. I, knowing you, I'm not surprised that you said kind of lead by example,
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uh, lead from the front. I think implicit in her question is, I think she's assuming
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that there are these hard conversations that she can have with her husband. Uh, would you say
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to her, no, you can't really, or no, I think those are worth having. Okay. So how talk,
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talk through kind of what that would look like. Look, I'll, instead of me giving you how I would say
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it, here's how I would look at it. Okay. Look, bro.
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How would you treat your best friend? Okay. This is a big problem for most people.
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However, you would treat your best friend is how you should treat yourself. First of all. Okay. Like
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you said in the beginning of the show, you, you, you discover some holes in your game.
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All right. You were honest enough with yourself to say, Hey, these are some holes in my game
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and I have to address those holes now. So let's start there. Let's start with how we address ourselves.
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Because most people do not treat themselves as a good friend. They harp on the, on the negatives.
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They feel fraudulent. You know, when things are bad for them, they, they automatically turn to the
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external world and then they get bitter because they expect everybody else to come in and give them
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a pep talk. And listen, guys, everybody else is busy with their own shit. You can't take that personal.
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And if you constantly rely on other people to pick you up or pull you out of the dark place,
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you're going to be in the dark place for your entire fucking lives. So you have to first understand
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that you are not entitled to anybody coming along and pulling you through the shit. You are going to
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have to get up, wipe the shit off of you and start fucking crawling before you walk. And then when you
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start walking, you can get to a jog. And then when you start jogging, you can get to a run. But
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these people that you are mad at for not being there as quote unquote friends are not the problem.
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You're the fucking problem. That's the first thing to understand. It sounds like this person has
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understood that. The second thing to understand is that how you would treat yourself in those dark
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times is how you should treat others in dark times. We live in this world where there's too much
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fake kindness. There's too much validation of victimhood and there's too much, you know,
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not telling the truth to be completely honest. And how I would handle this situation would be to tell
00:23:31.880
them the actual truth of how it makes you feel that they are not trying to improve or be better
00:23:38.380
when you yourself are putting in all of this effort. Because if they even give one fuck about you
00:23:44.920
and you explain it that way in a truthful manner, they are going to understand that it's important
00:23:49.740
for them to raise their motherfucking standard or you will probably be somewhere else. That's
00:23:54.620
reality. So I think the truth always wins. I think it's important to communicate directly
00:24:00.400
and as painful as it might be for someone to hear that, isn't that how a good friend would treat
00:24:06.120
somebody? Because I'm going to tell you this, bro. You're one of my best friends in the world.
00:24:10.500
There's been a number of times where I say, Hey, you're full of shit. Absolutely. Okay. And are
00:24:15.540
you better or worse because of it? Okay. And there's better. Yeah. By the way, there's been
00:24:19.620
times when that role has been reversed. Okay. That's what good friends do. They tell you when
00:24:24.600
you're fucking up and they tell you to get back on the path. And so if we all treated ourselves like
00:24:29.500
our own best friend, we could hold ourselves accountable in a better way. But instead we live in
00:24:35.140
this world where everybody's acting like everybody else owes you some sort of attention or, you know,
00:24:40.940
I see these posts on Instagram all the time, bro. You know, you know who your real friends are
00:24:45.800
whenever you're fucking down and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, bro. You're just
00:24:49.860
being a pussy. Okay. Um, everybody else has their own life going on. Everybody else has their own
00:24:56.040
struggles. Everybody else. And there's very few people that, uh, don't. So you have to understand
00:25:03.320
that. Like it's up to us to take responsibility for our own physical mental wellbeing. And that's
00:25:09.640
going to require some tough conversations with self. And I see this, this, like, there's some
00:25:15.920
people out there that I really do like as people who consistently propagate and market to the victim
00:25:24.520
culture for a dollar. And that's frustrating, dude. And I think if you're, you know, we all have to
00:25:31.400
understand that there is no nobility in being a victim. There is no nobility in telling yourself
00:25:36.840
lies. There is no nobility in telling your friends and loved ones lies or letting them slide on what
00:25:43.340
could be a much better life for them. And so I think having those hard conversations is absolutely
00:25:49.040
necessary, but I don't think there's a specific thing to say. You know, it's, these are tough things,
00:25:55.200
uh, that we need to work through as people, um, realizing that the culture of America right now
00:26:02.920
is very weak and it's very, it's very victimized. And people have to understand that if we're going
00:26:08.120
to get past that as a culture, these tough conversations are things that need to happen.
00:26:13.080
And, um, but you could have a hundred million tough conversations, but if you're not living that
00:26:18.860
standard, they won't listen. So you have to have it qualify with the standard you're living before you
00:26:23.500
have the conversation. Absolutely. Um, just that whole idea of there's always someone else who's
00:26:29.660
struggling with something too. And I remember when I first got diagnosed with cancer, it stuck with me
00:26:33.720
that you said, bro, fight this, but don't be defined by this. Yeah. And you said, I, you told me I've
00:26:39.240
seen people I know, right. Don't become a victim. And I, and you said to me, I've seen people almost
00:26:45.120
become proud of the fact that they had a cancer and then they make it their identity. And it's almost
00:26:51.780
like they, for that reason, they keep on getting sick. Let me, let me ask you something, dude. If
00:26:56.920
you truly believe in the law of attraction, which is scientifically real, like if you go into the
00:27:01.480
quantum physics studies that have been done around intent, around what we believe to be true, actually
00:27:06.740
we create. If you have had cancer and you put four times cancer survivor in your fucking bio,
00:27:13.800
do you think you're more likely to manifest that again or less likely?
00:27:17.540
Oh, I definitely think our minds are powerful for sure. I'm just saying, no question. I believe
00:27:22.280
that if you make something, your identity being a victim of any sort, you, you, you tend to create
00:27:30.080
the, the, the repeating of the process that manifests back over and over and over again.
00:27:34.180
Absolutely. And I think it's very important for people to be aware of their own identities that
00:27:37.940
they create because victimhood has been rewarded through attention for so long now. So like when you
00:27:44.540
are constantly on Instagram and you're talking about, and I'm not talking about you, I'm talking
00:27:48.460
about anybody, right. And you're talking about all your hardships over and over and over and over
00:27:52.240
again, because people are clapping and liking and this and that. First of all, those people really
00:27:57.720
are kind of like, if I'm being honest, most of them are giving you likes and claps because they feel
00:28:03.200
like they should. And they're probably fucking tired of you complaining. That's the reality.
00:28:08.100
Definitely. Okay. So understand that. First of all, second of all, if you truly care about being
00:28:13.420
healthier and you truly care about being better, you have to think better and you cannot make your
00:28:18.260
identity being sick or being broke or being fat or being anything. You, you are not any of those
00:28:25.880
things. Those are things that you create in life. And so we have to become aware of our own identities
00:28:31.620
that we create through our own labeling. And the reason that I was so adamant about telling you that
00:28:35.880
is because I believe that with my heart. And I believe that when people do get sick,
00:28:41.160
whether it be cancer or something else, a lot of people identify with that as their,
00:28:45.620
you know, their, their story of overcoming, but then they unintentionally manifest it over and
00:28:52.960
over and over again, which keeps them sick or whatever they're sick of, right. Or broke or whatever
00:28:58.680
situation they identify with. Right. So yeah, dude, I think, I think it's a big deal.
00:29:05.880
To not label yourself in those ways. Absolutely.
00:29:08.260
If you're going to label yourself something, make sure you label yourself something awesome.
00:29:13.020
I mean, it's, it's just the, the lesson cannot be lost. You have to under every single person
00:29:18.000
needs to understand no matter how much you are suffering, the world will always be bigger
00:29:24.960
than your pain. Like it just always will, no matter what you're facing, there's always a larger
00:29:30.660
world, a larger universe and people who are struggling with their own stuff.
00:29:34.100
So you cannot reduce your entire existence down to your pain and your own suffering.
00:29:38.940
So good stuff. All right. So second question, Andy, my father owns a restaurant and eventually
00:29:45.460
wants me to take it over. The issue is he's a drunk and has very negatively affected our family
00:29:51.440
and the impression people have of the business. He's self-centered, egotistical,
00:29:55.360
and doesn't care about the employees or customers. I try to take initiative and change things to help
00:29:59.960
the business, but his ego usually gets in the way and nothing gets fixed. I'm at a crossroads.
00:30:06.040
Do I start my own venture or do I inherit the business and fix the issues? I see once it's
00:30:12.060
completely mine, any advice would be appreciated. I'm really actually fascinated to hear what you
00:30:17.800
Well, look, either one of those paths is going to be extremely difficult. So that's the first
00:30:23.460
thing to understand. A lot of times when people ask these kinds of questions, they're asking for
00:30:28.220
the solution that it's easier. Both of those are going to be difficult because starting your own thing
00:30:34.120
is going to be difficult. Okay. But also taking over a stigmatized location of a business that's not,
00:30:40.480
that has a bad reputation is difficult as well. I've actually done that. I have absorbed companies
00:30:46.200
that had terrible reputations. And in hindsight, there was pluses and minuses. And I often say
00:30:52.880
we would have been better off opening our own, but the truth of the matter is because of the nature of
00:30:59.680
where we were at that time, it would have never worked. So I'm very fortunate that we were able
00:31:03.820
to take over that. So I'm going to not address the starting the new thing because that's its own
00:31:11.180
thing. I'm going to address how would you handle it if you got to get the business that's all your
00:31:17.460
own. So changing a culture and a reputation of a, of a failing or what I call stigmatized business,
00:31:24.720
meaning it has a reputation that is negative. And you really like in real estate, they call
00:31:29.080
stigmatized locations, like places that have a reputation for being haunted or maybe a murder
00:31:34.580
happened there or something bad, right? They have a hard time selling it. This is how you should think
00:31:39.260
about your restaurant right now. Um, it's got a reputation now, how bad the reputation is.
00:31:44.760
I'm assuming it's not that bad because you're still open and you've just went through this,
00:31:48.960
this huge ordeal with the society that we live in COVID lockdowns and you're still kicking it.
00:31:55.320
So it can't be maybe as bad as what this person's saying. Uh, this might be, there might be some
00:32:00.680
personal bias here, right? Yeah. And I think there's emotion in this. Yeah. I'm upset with my dad
00:32:05.120
because my dad is a fucking shitty dad and he drinks too much and he's an asshole. Sometimes
00:32:09.380
that's how I, how I'm hearing the question. And so let's minimize that. Let's take that off the
00:32:15.300
table. That's your personal belief. That doesn't mean that the restaurant has the same opinion of
00:32:20.560
your dad or that the customers feel that way about the restaurant could be, but it doesn't mean it for
00:32:26.300
sure. So if you, and by the way, I would say this too, if your dad's built a successful restaurant
00:32:33.300
for many years and you just think he's an asshole and doesn't know what the fuck he's doing,
00:32:37.180
it could very well be that you're an idiot. Okay. I thought I knew. That's why I was fascinated to
00:32:42.000
hear what you were going to say. Okay. Look, I can tell you this, dude, my dad's 77 fucking years
00:32:47.460
old and there's been a lot of shit that he told me that I was like, dad, you're full of shit.
00:32:52.460
And you want to know how many times he was wrong? Fucking zero. Every time I didn't listen to him,
00:32:58.020
I fucking lost every motherfucking time. Okay. And there's been times, years even where I'm like,
00:33:05.020
yeah, he doesn't really, he's out of touch or he's this or that. That was my own shit. That was my
00:33:11.680
own ego thinking I knew better. Well, you have to have a pretty big ego. This is why like when we
00:33:16.500
bring up Donald Trump and people like, Oh, Trump's so fucking stupid, blah, blah, blah. Well, is he?
00:33:21.400
Cause I think he's like 76 years old. He's run, he's made multiple billions of dollars. He's
00:33:28.200
negotiated some of the most incredible, like how much smarter is someone who's 77 than someone who's
00:33:34.600
43? They have twice as much life. They're going to know some shit you don't. So maybe give your dad
00:33:40.640
a little bit of credit for that. Maybe he knows some things that you don't know. Now, with that being
00:33:45.840
said, I'm going to say that the culture is fucked at this place. How would you turn it around? Well,
00:33:50.800
you turn it around one person at a time. You start to go in, you start to, you know,
00:33:55.740
lead by example, like this person says they're doing, uh, you know, work really hard, set a high
00:34:01.300
standard for individual performance. All culture change starts with the individual. That's why the
00:34:06.660
saying, the personal excellence is the ultimate rebellion is so important for you to understand
00:34:10.960
because cultural change starts with the individual change. And when the individual change,
00:34:15.500
they start to raise their standards. They start to get better. They start to work harder. They start to
00:34:19.380
stand for better things. Other people notice, and it gives you credibility because you're
00:34:23.940
speaking and leading from a place of literal performance and high standards that gives you
00:34:29.500
credibility. So the first step is be fucking great yourself. Okay. The second step kind of goes back to
00:34:36.580
the first question. You're going to naturally organically have some people in that organization,
00:34:41.000
in that restaurant that are going to pick up the pace because you're picking up the pace.
00:34:44.880
They're going to realize that things are probably going to change when you get into control and they
00:34:50.400
want to be on the same page. Those people are your core people. Those are the people you want to pull
00:34:55.120
in close and say, Hey guys, my goal for this restaurant is to be the best experience, uh, the
00:35:02.660
best food, uh, you know, affordable prices. I want it to have whatever you want it to have. And you have a
00:35:08.340
little meeting with those people and get them on the same page. And for us to do this, this is how we're
00:35:13.400
going to have to work. We're going to have to do this and this and this and this and this. And by
00:35:17.060
the way, you don't have to have, uh, awarded authority to do what I'm talking about. This can
00:35:22.780
be done wherever you are in any company at any time. If you want to change the culture, you start
00:35:27.980
to raise your standard, you become the leader, and then you pull people up, you make a plan, you go
00:35:32.560
execute a plan as a team within the team. All right. This is how the culture starts to change.
00:35:38.040
Now, how I would do it if I were this person is I would do that and get that to a point where you've
00:35:45.560
got, you know, 30% of the staff row in the same direction you're rowing. Okay. And then I would
00:35:52.240
go to my dad and I would say, dad, it's time for me to take over. And I would say me and Steve and
00:35:57.860
Susie and fucking Bob, we all, we're going to do this. And you know, you wanted me to take this over.
00:36:04.500
I'm ready to take it over. I got the team ready to go. And I would have, I would try to eliminate
00:36:09.300
any overlap because what's going to happen is if your dad is truly the way that he's being described
00:36:15.280
is he's going to see that as a threat and come in and try to fuck it up for you guys.
00:36:19.560
So you have to figure out a way to almost strategically take this shit over in a positive
00:36:25.100
way. Does that make sense? Absolutely. Uh, what I was going to say is like, I don't want to minimize
00:36:29.980
like he's obviously frustrated with his dad because of his dad's alcohol. What do people do?
00:36:34.480
When they're frustrated, they exaggerate. Right. But, but I think, and I, and I don't want
00:36:38.160
to minimize, I get it. You know, I know people who have adult, you know, uh, their, their parents
00:36:44.140
are alcoholics. I know that the pain and the, the, the difficulty that is, but my question
00:36:48.960
is like how it's one thing to, to express this, this way to us in a question, how does he
00:36:56.720
relate to his dad? Because the one thing I would say is like, you know, you still got to
00:37:01.060
influence your dad. So if you're, if he's a, if he's treating his dad like a drunk, if
00:37:04.820
he's treating him, like he's really annoying, like he's not going to be receptive. And, and
00:37:09.280
like you, to your point, like his dad obviously built a successful restaurant. So why not go
00:37:14.660
to your dad and be like, Hey dad, dude, you, you built something truly amazing. Wouldn't
00:37:19.940
you want the final kind of resolution to your, all your hard work to be the legacy of you pass
00:37:26.720
this onto me and I keep it running really nice. Like don't, don't dog on your dad, praise
00:37:32.020
him for what he's done well. And, and just make it like, pass it over onto me so that
00:37:36.500
I can, I can take, you know, carry on your legacy. You know what I'm saying?
00:37:40.180
Let's flip the script. There's got to be a little razzle dazzle.
00:37:42.460
Let's flip the script here. What if the dad who built this amazing business is pissed off
00:37:49.580
because the son thinks he can do it better and is giving him zero credit for what he's built.
00:37:53.660
Right. Do you think that creates a positive relationship? Do you think that creates a
00:37:58.400
situation where the person who paid all the motherfucking dues from the first day of fucking
00:38:03.220
open wants to hand it off to you? You're insane, dude. You have to give the credit. You have to,
00:38:10.000
you have to let your dad know that he's done a pretty damn good fucking job for you to even
00:38:14.100
have the opportunity. And for what it sounds like to me, you don't appreciate shit. That's being real.
00:38:19.340
Okay. So like, if you want to get what you want in this place, you need to start treating your dad
00:38:24.540
with some fucking respect. That's the truth. No matter how bad he is, he built a successful
00:38:28.960
company that you're interested in fucking taking and evolving. You have to give him credit for that
00:38:33.300
because otherwise he's going to say, fuck you. And he's going to say, fuck you for as long as it
00:38:38.940
fucking takes just because you're a sniveling little brat that doesn't recognize the fucking dues
00:38:44.980
that that motherfucker had to pay. That's the truth. Because I can tell you this, if somebody
00:38:49.960
wanted to take my spot and they were treating me like shit and they were telling me that I haven't
00:38:54.560
done anything and I don't know, and I don't do this, I would stay in the role for an eternity just
00:39:00.360
to fuck the motherfucker over. Yeah. And in fairness to this guy, I think this is a scenario that's very
00:39:06.440
common. Guys come along and they want to take over their dad's business because they can do it better
00:39:11.440
and they get frustrated because maybe, maybe their dads have gotten to an age where they're not,
00:39:15.840
they're not executing well. But he's still like, dude, people that are proud are proud.
00:39:19.900
Yeah. And if they built something real, there's a reason to be proud. And if you minimize that,
00:39:24.680
that accomplishment of that person, I will bet that that man's whole identity is built up in that
00:39:29.780
restaurant. And you're talking about what a shitty place it is and how it's run this way and how the
00:39:34.020
bad reputation, this and that. Bro, the last thing he wants to do is work with you. So there's two sides to
00:39:40.100
this story and I've laid them both out. All right. There needs to be some give and take. If you really
00:39:46.820
want what the fuck you think you want, you need to be the example. You need to build a team within the
00:39:51.100
team. And then you need to treat your dad with some motherfucking respect and honor what he's built
00:39:55.760
and maybe not bring up all his shortcomings as a person. You know, maybe we should get America back to
00:40:03.360
a point in time where everybody understands, as you pointed out in the beginning of the show,
00:40:08.240
that we all have fucking shortcomings. Do you want to know why nobody, uh, powerful and smart
00:40:14.000
and intelligent that could actually fix this country runs for fucking office? Do you want
00:40:19.160
to know why? Because your motherfuckers judge everybody by their fucking shortcomings. Like
00:40:24.160
you're all fucking perfect, right? You don't think I'd run for president, dude? Of course I'd run for
00:40:29.960
president, but I won't do it until the culture of America understands that we want the best
00:40:33.880
motherfuckers for the job. And whatever the fuck is going on in their life is their business,
00:40:37.880
right? That's the truth. That's what's so demonic about the council or the, uh, cancel culture is
00:40:43.160
that people see like a screenshot of a DM or they see something that somebody made a mistake and they
00:40:47.720
go, that's that, that, that person is defined by that one instance. That's wrong. And so we're going
00:40:54.220
to cancel them. That's wrong. And it's scared people away from being public servants. Correct. It's
00:40:58.240
scared them away from being really impactful, doing anything. There's so many people that are
00:41:02.160
terrified, bro. Not to mention it's hypocritical. Vaughn, you know, you, you, we covered this on the,
00:41:09.300
on the, on the real AF. Um, that's a weapon. Yeah. That's a psychological weapon that they have,
00:41:15.420
they have a let evolve from politically correct culture. If you think back 20 years ago, uh,
00:41:20.720
was you're old enough to do 20 years ago. It was, we can't say this because it's offensive.
00:41:25.420
Now it's, if you say this will ruin your fucking life. Right. Okay. Well, some of us have to stand
00:41:31.240
up and say, Hey, fuck you. You're not going to ruin my life. And guess what? No, I'm not perfect.
00:41:36.480
And guess what? Yeah, I do have a lot of shit that I need to work on, but also guess what? I can do
00:41:42.200
the mother fucking job better than you. And that's, what's going to build America back. This cancel
00:41:48.720
culture shit is terrible. Not just because of, you know, what it does to the individual,
00:41:54.060
but it milks society from its best performer, stepping up and fucking helping us.
00:42:02.440
And if you participate in any regard, you are part of the problem.
00:42:09.340
Absolutely. All right. Third and final question, Andy, I was recently, by the way,
00:42:15.640
they don't say Andy, I just add it. So that's a little bit more personal. All right. Okay.
00:42:19.240
It helps. Andy, I was recently passed up for a full-time paramedic job. However, I was welcomed
00:42:25.060
to volunteer in my spare time. I want to go in and show them that they made a mistake by not hiring
00:42:30.980
me on full-time, but don't want to appear as an arrogant asshole. My question is, that struck me
00:42:37.340
funny. Sorry. My question is how do you balance confidence and arrogance in situations like this?
00:42:43.000
Well, look, arrogance is the shit you think you can do that you can't do. Confidence is just the
00:42:49.500
shit you can do real well. Okay. The truth of the matter is if you want to go in and set an example,
00:42:56.220
you go in and you work your fucking ass off and you don't worry about being arrogant. You actually
00:43:01.320
worry about picking up everything you can from every person that is better than you, that's been
00:43:05.940
there longer than you, and you show them respect. If you want to be a part of the team, you have to
00:43:10.140
play along with the team. So I would leave the arrogance of any sort at the door. There is a
00:43:15.740
big difference between having a chip on your shoulder and having something to prove and then
00:43:20.340
thinking that you're already good enough to be whatever it is you're trying to prove. So you have
00:43:24.520
to have the mentality of I'm not good enough yet, but I'm willing to do everything it takes to get
00:43:30.580
good enough. And you have to be open to that feedback and open to correcting your actions. And if you
00:43:35.740
combine that with a relentless work ethic where you're doing the shit that nobody else wants to do,
00:43:40.140
I am sure that you'll set an amazing example inside of that culture. The problem that most people have
00:43:47.100
is that they think kind of like I think, okay? I think I could probably go in and fix the whole
00:43:54.380
entire country in one fucking day. All right? That might be a little bit arrogant. Maybe not. I'm along
00:44:00.080
the road. I kind of know what I'm doing. This seems pretty simple. I think they're fucking us
00:44:04.820
intentionally. So in that case, I actually do believe I can do it. But the truth of the matter
00:44:10.060
is that could be a little bit of arrogance because I look at Trump and Trump's had twice
00:44:15.920
as much life as me. So can I really believe that I know as much as he knows? That would be an arrogant
00:44:20.820
thing to think. Okay? So don't overestimate your skills. Be humble about your skills, but be confident
00:44:27.780
in the skills you do know and accentuate those skills by being a really hard worker and you will prove
00:44:33.180
your point. The point to be proven is this. We should have hired that dude the first time.
00:44:39.120
How do we create that result? That's what this person wants to do. You want to prove a point?
00:44:43.540
There is no better way to prove a point than by being fucking amazing. And the only way you can
00:44:48.340
become fucking amazing is by working hard and being humble enough to acquire skills and also willing to
00:44:55.080
step out over the line a little bit sometimes and make some mistakes. So then you learn the proper
00:45:00.360
way to handle things. Okay? That's the balance between initiative and not having initiative.
00:45:05.580
So I would encourage people to take initiative to overextend themselves, but also recognize when
00:45:11.100
they fucked it up and not take it personal. Instead, take it as a lesson. The truth of the matter is,
00:45:16.480
guys, none of you are really that good at fucking anything because I know I'm not. All right?
00:45:21.740
The only way I've ever learned shit is I've shown the fuck up. I've got my brains beat in and I'm smart
00:45:26.400
enough to not do those things over and over and over again. Not everybody has that capacity.
00:45:32.080
Otherwise, everybody would be successful because the truth of the matter is we only need two things
00:45:35.820
to be successful. We need to be able to not quit and we'd be able to learn from our mistakes.
00:45:39.900
If you can learn from your mistakes and you don't make the same mistake two, three, four,
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five fucking times, and you're willing to fucking work hard and never quit, there's really no limit to
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where you can go in this world. But most people get in the way, they get their feelings in the way,
00:45:51.620
they get their ego in the way. They start thinking they know everything like this kid in the last
00:45:55.520
question. I'm sure that's a really good person, but you have to be able to identify where you are
00:46:01.640
letting your emotions kind of get you out over your skis where you're going to fucking eat shit.
00:46:07.500
You know what I mean? So that's how I would do it. I wouldn't worry about arrogance. You don't want
00:46:14.200
arrogance. You don't want arrogance. The other thing is being hired as a volunteer. I mean,
00:46:19.140
there's so many great success stories that started out that way. I think about a guy years ago that was
00:46:24.340
hired. Well, he wasn't hired. He wanted desperately to coach in the NFL. So the LA Rams said, well,
00:46:29.980
we won't pay you to do anything, but you can help out. And he worked his way up. And by the
00:46:34.960
mid nineties, he was the offensive coordinator for the St. Louis Rams and Mike Martz helped lead the
00:46:40.660
greatest show on a very coach. Yeah. Yeah. So, uh, do you know how I got started in this fucking
00:46:45.980
supplement shit, dude? How I tried to get a job at someone story. They wouldn't hire me.
00:46:49.880
Hmm. So you know what I did? I went there and fucking just kind of like hung out and tried to
00:46:56.160
help. That's how I got started. Yeah. And here we are 23 years later, bro. I'm a living example of
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what the fuck this person's talking about. You don't have, you listen, you don't demand respect.
00:47:11.120
Like people think, Oh, I have to demand respect. You earn respect. Okay. You earn respect through
00:47:17.580
your work ethic. You earn respect through how you treat people. You learn respect with a lot of
00:47:23.560
different things, but you don't demand it. This demanding respect is a part of our entitled culture
00:47:29.440
that is way off in America. Okay. Motherfucker, the real world. A lot of people are on the internet.
00:47:34.560
This fucking disrespected me. Motherfucker, you ain't ever done shit. Of course you don't get in
00:47:38.220
respect. You know, Oh, fucking bought me a fucking Lamborghini motherfucker. Everybody knows the
00:47:45.540
fucking real from the fake dude. This whole respect culture thing for doing nothing needs to be thrown
00:47:51.400
in the trash. Should we respect people as human beings and treat them kindly and be willing to help
00:47:57.560
them and pull them along and treat them nice? Yes. I'm not saying be a dick, but this idea of you
00:48:03.380
better respect me or, or whatever, bro, that shit is bullshit. That's not the way the real world
00:48:08.700
works. You only gain respect inside of a team atmosphere when you work harder or as hard as
00:48:15.620
everybody else. And you contribute to the team. You think Michael Jordan ever complained that nobody
00:48:21.420
respected him? Fuck no, no, because he commanded respect through his own work ethic and performance.
00:48:28.480
It's the same thing with Kobe Bryant. Kobe Bryant was up at fucking 3am shooting free throws.
00:48:33.980
Do you think anybody else on his team was up at 3am shooting free throws? No. And the, the,
00:48:39.720
the benefits of that work that he put in were clearly evident. And so people respected him.
00:48:46.220
It's very simple. People think that to lead, you have to like, you know, be Vince Lombardi,
00:48:52.500
or you've got to yell at people or like give these passionate speeches and shit. That has nothing to do
00:48:57.700
with it. That has nothing to do with it. Now, certain people have those skills. I have that
00:49:01.740
skill. Like motherfucker, you come to a meeting that I give, you're going to leave running through
00:49:05.760
a motherfucking wall. Okay. I'm good at it, but that's a skill I developed over 10,000 fucking
00:49:11.160
meetings over the last 23 years. Right. I didn't have that. The first meeting I ever gave, bro,
00:49:16.200
I was, I had a piece of paper in my hand. There's 12 people sitting in front of me and I was basically
00:49:20.820
pissing my pants. Like that's where I started, you know, and people have to understand that like
00:49:26.660
this respect thing that we're all trying to gain or have is earned through work over a period of time
00:49:35.360
and not a short period of time. It's every day forever. It's, you don't get to see, that's what
00:49:41.300
other thing people don't understand about respect is diminishing. It's a diminishing skillset,
00:49:45.560
just like shooting a pistol. If you don't practice shooting a pistol every fucking other day,
00:49:50.520
you're going to get worse at shooting a pistol. If you don't go hit golf balls every motherfucking day,
00:49:55.500
you're not going to, you're going to get worse at golf by not doing it. Respect is the same thing.
00:50:01.200
You have respect equity. And when you have respect equity, the reason, the way that it stays high is
00:50:06.100
by you continuing to live the standard. That's it. It's that simple. You mentioned Kobe Bryant,
00:50:12.600
just circling back to that first question. Uh, you were talking about the importance of people being
00:50:17.520
willing to have hard conversations and to speak truth to people. I recently saw a video with Kobe Bryant,
00:50:23.160
where he was talking about, like, why didn't it work out for you to, for you to play with Dwight
00:50:27.460
Howard? And I loved his answer. He basically said like, Dwight's a good dude. Like he's a good dude.
00:50:32.220
He's a great player. But you know, before, you know, early on in this career, when we were talking
00:50:36.920
about playing together, we went out to the restaurant, we were around different people.
00:50:41.200
He said, I just, I just kind of wanted to figure out how he was wired. And so he says to him, he said,
00:50:45.980
Dwight, let me ask you this. Are you the kind of person that if you're real good friends with somebody,
00:50:49.820
uh, and you have shit on your teeth, um, you want your friend to say, not do anything and just kind
00:50:57.420
of let you, let you, you know, go through the whole table and do that. Or are you the kind of
00:51:01.820
person that really wants you to say, wants somebody to say in front of everybody, Hey bro, you got shit
00:51:07.100
on your teeth. And do I thought about it for a little while? And he goes, ah, uh, I know, I think
00:51:14.660
I wouldn't want somebody to say that to me. He says, and Dwight says to him, Dwight says to him,
00:51:19.300
why do you say that? And Joe, Kobe says, cause you got shit on your teeth and this ain't going to
00:51:24.080
work out. Well, and that's basically, and everybody laughed, but I don't know if that's a true story
00:51:28.060
or not. Like, I don't, I don't, maybe that's true, but I'll tell you this. I want a motherfucker
00:51:32.320
tell me I got shit on my teeth. Yeah. I'm my own best friend, bro. I'm going to tell me when I got
00:51:36.820
shit on my teeth. Yeah. I'm going to tell me when I'm being a lazy fuck. I'm going to tell me when
00:51:40.860
I'm off the fucking path. And I'm going to tell me before any other motherfucker has a chance to
00:51:44.800
tell me. And that's the kind of person that you should aim to become. Yeah. Because if you're
00:51:48.920
that kind of a person and you're self-aware at that level, you can get better without any external
00:51:54.080
feedback all the time. All right. So this is what I meant by like becoming your own best friend back
00:51:59.980
when we were talking about it a minute ago. You see what I'm saying? Yeah, absolutely. I mean, dude,
00:52:04.060
I'm going to get people saying, I can't believe the pastor of disaster is cussing, but I was quoting,
00:52:08.900
you didn't, I was quoting a story. You didn't say the F word. That's true. I'm going to get you to
00:52:12.920
say it soon now. Oh, you're going to try. No, you'll say it. I already got, I got you a couple
00:52:16.320
of times. We got the clips. So, well, we still got it. Yeah. No, I mean, we got it. This, you know,
00:52:22.760
you and me, we still got it. Well, listen, bro. Uh, you know, I'm really good at my job. Yeah,
00:52:27.700
you are. You know, I can sit anybody in there and read some questions. No, real talk, bro. I, uh,
00:52:35.460
I'm, you know, I, I wanted to have you sit in on this episode because of the news that you had
00:52:41.140
today. I thought it was a cool way for people to find out about it. Um, I guarantee you,
00:52:47.300
everybody that's listening is super fucking happy for you, dude. And, uh, I, I'm just super thankful,
00:52:55.260
man, man. And I appreciate it, man. And it's, yeah, it's, it's really moving to me and it's really
00:53:00.160
meaningful. And, uh, you know, I knew it was going to be a special day when I walked into the
00:53:05.240
parking lot and Medot was driving out and even, even Medot looked excited to see me. I was like,
00:53:09.320
man, we went and got me a smart water. Well, you know, I got you a blackberry. What? You know
00:53:15.480
why he got you that smart water, right? I'm trying to tell you something, bro. Yeah. Right. Yeah.
00:53:21.800
Give me a little extra, but, uh, no, it's, it's good to be here. He could have just got you the
00:53:25.940
dumb water. Like he could have. Yeah. He said you already drank enough of that. Yeah. Right.
00:53:30.420
Well, or he could have gotten me 26, 27 shots. We'll tell that story again. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
00:53:37.500
So you don't lie in that story. I got to find that girl to prove that it actually happened,
00:53:43.280
bro. We'll talk about that. Yeah. We'll talk about that. And listen, guys, MFCO project's coming
00:53:50.480
back soon. I'm super excited about it. Um, we're going to continue this show. Uh, everything
00:53:55.740
was going to be uploaded on from this show will be uploaded on YouTube. Uh, we've got
00:53:59.860
a lot of new projects coming out and, uh, we're super excited to bring those to you. If
00:54:04.300
you guys haven't yet, uh, I'm going to mention this one last time. We do have some tickets
00:54:09.600
available for RTA live in Nashville, which is November 5th. You can get those tickets at
00:54:15.700
RTA syndicate.com. Uh, one of the biggest things that you can do and, and how you can understand
00:54:22.240
these events is that every single person there, uh, wants to win and is doing things. These,
00:54:30.240
these tickets are not cheap. It is not a cheap event to attend. These are people who are doing
00:54:34.620
things in real life. If you're looking to build your network, you're looking to connect with other
00:54:39.200
like-minded individuals. This is an amazing, amazing opportunity to do so. So that's the last
00:54:44.180
time I'm going to mention that on the show. Uh, because I think we only have a few tickets
00:54:47.440
left to sell. Uh, with that being said, Vaughn, bro, thank you so much for sitting on the show.
00:54:52.940
You bet. Now that I'm cancer free. Yeah. Do I get the gift of maybe like a free trip to the RTA
00:54:57.880
live? No, I get to go to that. No, you fucking pay. I don't give discounts, bro. Everybody knows
00:55:02.720
that. That's true. I should know that. Yeah. Look at you trying to use that card on me. I know.
00:55:08.000
Oh, I use that card quite a bit. I'm fucking bulletproof. Yeah, you are. Yeah. Yeah. That's true.
00:55:12.240
Hey, it is what it is, bro. Sorry. I can't say cancer brain anymore. Yeah. You know,
00:55:16.080
whenever I'd forget to do something, I'd, you know, or, you know, get my organization a little
00:55:20.760
messed up or my schedule. I was able to say, Oh, I'm sorry. It's a cancer brain. Yeah. You can't
00:55:25.100
say that. So you're building a, you're building a negative identity. Victimhood mentality. Yeah.
00:55:30.000
I just trying out to see if I liked it and I hated it. I got you. Yeah. I'm glad you did. I'm glad
00:55:34.400
you didn't like it. Yeah. No, I didn't. All right, guys. Well, that's the show. I appreciate you guys.
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Fuck a pole. Fuck a stove. Counted millions in the cold. Bad bitch.
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Booty swole. Got her on bankroll. Can't fold. Doesn't know. Headshot. Case closed.