397. The Power Within： Be Your Own Best Friend
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Summary
Today we have a real talk about how we need a REAL friend in our lives and how we can become the best friend we can be for ourselves. I m talking about how to become a better friend for ourselves and how to stop being so bitter towards humanity when there is no real expectation that anyone else is going to be there to help you when you re in a dark place.
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what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
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the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today
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we have a real talk i haven't done a real talk in a while but i have something that i want to
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address with you guys and i think is very important um and i'm gonna get right into it you guys know
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how the show works we have q and a f cti full length real talk and the fee is tell someone about
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the show uh but so i don't lose my train of thought i would prefer to just get right into this that okay
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with you cool i'm gonna do it um here's the thing i see this more and more in society and i think it's
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something that we should all be more aware of nobody is obligated to come along and check on
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you nobody is obligated to come along and pull you out of whatever dark shit you're going through
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nobody is obligated to come along and help you financially no one is obligated to come along
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and be your fucking friend and sometimes you have to be your own friend sometimes you have to be your
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own best friend and sometimes that's the only motherfucking friend you are ever going to have
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is yourself there are going to be times in your life no matter who the fuck you are that there is
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nobody else around to pull you the fuck out and so i want you to understand and realize that when you
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expect people to come and make a big deal because you're feeling down or you expect people to come
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and help you financially when you're struggling or you expect people to come and do this and then
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you like go on the internet and you're like fuck nobody gives a fuck about me let me make you
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understand something that also not only keeps you in your dark place but it also makes you bitter
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towards humanity when there is no real expectation that any of this should be happening for you
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and so i don't say this to say hey don't ask for help or don't tell people what's going on that is
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not what i'm saying because guys i've had to ask for help plenty of times i've struggled in my life
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plenty of times and i am blessed enough to have had people in my life to help me get through those times
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but it wasn't every time and sometimes i had to be my own best friend sometimes i had to tell myself
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the real truth just like a best friend would do you want a best friend in your life that lies to you
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that pacifies you that makes you feel good about where you are when you're not in a good spot or
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would you like a best friend in your life who not only identified the problem but also helped you find
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a solution for getting out of where it is you are because i know what i want and i know how i treat
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myself and i have always been my own best friend i have always been the person who is the first person
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to not only tell myself the truth about myself but also develop a plan to get out of whatever
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situation i'm in and because culture is in a state of professional victimhood and propping up victimhood
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we are now in a scenario where many people feel as if they are entitled to other people putting them
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first we see this all the time with the simple thing of the meme that we see out there that says
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oh well stop calling all your friends and see who still calls you and then you find out who your real
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friends are that's entitlement bro everybody has their own shit going on everybody has their own life
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going on everybody has their own obligations going on and a lot of those people that you think should
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be helping you are actually struggling with the same shit you're struggling with maybe even worse
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so as a society and as a culture i think it's super important for all of us to realize that the best
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friend that we need in our lives is always ourselves how do we become the best friend for ourselves it's
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very simple what would you want a best friend to do for you okay and a best friend to me someone who will
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tell me the truth someone who points to the exact source of my struggle someone who helps me develop a plan
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to move forward in that struggle and then someone who cheers me to fuck on as i fight through it
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that's what best friends do best friends do not come in and save the fucking day best friends do not
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come in and make it worse by taking you out drinking for fucking a week straight that's not best friend
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shit at least not mature real life best friend shit real life real brother shit is about helping you get
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better and that requires some honest conversations that requires a lot of truth and it requires an
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intelligent plan to move forward so if you're struggling and you're having a hard time like
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many people are right now everybody knows that situations in the world right now are not ideal
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not only are they not ideal they're extremely difficult and there's a lot of people struggling
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and if that's you i want you to honestly ask yourself what your expectations are of the people around you
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and also what your expectations are of yourself because if you expect the people around you to
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come pick you up and pull you through when everybody's struggling guys that's just not a realistic
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expectation it's just not so we have to build ourselves into our own best friend and biggest cheerleader
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you are capable of doing that and it's very simple you have two voices in your head you've got the voice
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that you're struggling with right now i call it the bitch voice but you also have a much stronger
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ideal potential human voice called the boss voice and that boss voice in your brain the one that tells
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you hey bro you're being fucking lazy or hey bro you were kind of dick right there or hey bro um you
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need to fucking be better here here and here or hey dude that's not very good for you to do that's the
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voice that we all have that is the voice of our own best friend and like i said if you need help
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ask for it but don't expect it just to show up at your fucking door that's your part and you got to do
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it so i just wanted to bring some awareness to you guys about what could potentially be harming you and
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keeping you where you are and i don't want you to get bitter towards your friends and family because
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they aren't accommodating enough to your tastes the higher likelihood that we have here is that
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people are also dealing with their own stuff and they may not even be aware of how you're struggling
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so you got to be your own fucking best friend if you can't figure out how to do that you're going to
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have a very very difficult life and you're going to have a life that is bitter and full of frustration
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and full of anger and full of hate and i don't want that for you so be your own best friend
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went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a bowl fuck a stove counted millions in
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the cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case closed