REAL AF with Andy Frisella - October 15, 2022


397. The Power Within： Be Your Own Best Friend


Episode Stats


Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

165.56291

Word count

1,350

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

2

sentences flagged

Hate speech

15

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Summary

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Today we have a real talk about how we need a REAL friend in our lives and how we can become the best friend we can be for ourselves. I m talking about how to become a better friend for ourselves and how to stop being so bitter towards humanity when there is no real expectation that anyone else is going to be there to help you when you re in a dark place.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
00:00:20.680 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today
00:00:25.080 we have a real talk i haven't done a real talk in a while but i have something that i want to
00:00:29.440 address with you guys and i think is very important um and i'm gonna get right into it you guys know
00:00:33.860 how the show works we have q and a f cti full length real talk and the fee is tell someone about
00:00:38.700 the show uh but so i don't lose my train of thought i would prefer to just get right into this that okay
00:00:43.040 with you cool i'm gonna do it um here's the thing i see this more and more in society and i think it's
00:00:52.280 something that we should all be more aware of nobody is obligated to come along and check on
00:00:59.520 you nobody is obligated to come along and pull you out of whatever dark shit you're going through
00:01:05.060 nobody is obligated to come along and help you financially no one is obligated to come along
00:01:11.020 and be your fucking friend and sometimes you have to be your own friend sometimes you have to be your 0.97
00:01:18.980 own best friend and sometimes that's the only motherfucking friend you are ever going to have
00:01:23.980 is yourself there are going to be times in your life no matter who the fuck you are that there is 0.91
00:01:30.920 nobody else around to pull you the fuck out and so i want you to understand and realize that when you 0.88
00:01:38.240 expect people to come and make a big deal because you're feeling down or you expect people to come
00:01:44.700 and help you financially when you're struggling or you expect people to come and do this and then
00:01:50.460 you like go on the internet and you're like fuck nobody gives a fuck about me let me make you 0.99
00:01:57.040 understand something that also not only keeps you in your dark place but it also makes you bitter
00:02:04.140 towards humanity when there is no real expectation that any of this should be happening for you
00:02:10.760 and so i don't say this to say hey don't ask for help or don't tell people what's going on that is
00:02:17.620 not what i'm saying because guys i've had to ask for help plenty of times i've struggled in my life
00:02:23.140 plenty of times and i am blessed enough to have had people in my life to help me get through those times
00:02:29.580 but it wasn't every time and sometimes i had to be my own best friend sometimes i had to tell myself
00:02:38.040 the real truth just like a best friend would do you want a best friend in your life that lies to you
00:02:45.940 that pacifies you that makes you feel good about where you are when you're not in a good spot or
00:02:51.660 would you like a best friend in your life who not only identified the problem but also helped you find
00:02:57.860 a solution for getting out of where it is you are because i know what i want and i know how i treat
00:03:04.300 myself and i have always been my own best friend i have always been the person who is the first person
00:03:11.400 to not only tell myself the truth about myself but also develop a plan to get out of whatever
00:03:18.300 situation i'm in and because culture is in a state of professional victimhood and propping up victimhood
00:03:28.080 we are now in a scenario where many people feel as if they are entitled to other people putting them
00:03:35.440 first we see this all the time with the simple thing of the meme that we see out there that says
00:03:41.400 oh well stop calling all your friends and see who still calls you and then you find out who your real
00:03:46.620 friends are that's entitlement bro everybody has their own shit going on everybody has their own life 0.67
00:03:53.260 going on everybody has their own obligations going on and a lot of those people that you think should
00:03:59.420 be helping you are actually struggling with the same shit you're struggling with maybe even worse 0.69
00:04:06.380 so as a society and as a culture i think it's super important for all of us to realize that the best
00:04:16.440 friend that we need in our lives is always ourselves how do we become the best friend for ourselves it's
00:04:24.560 very simple what would you want a best friend to do for you okay and a best friend to me someone who will
00:04:33.480 tell me the truth someone who points to the exact source of my struggle someone who helps me develop a plan
00:04:40.180 to move forward in that struggle and then someone who cheers me to fuck on as i fight through it 0.60
00:04:45.240 that's what best friends do best friends do not come in and save the fucking day best friends do not 0.97
00:04:51.020 come in and make it worse by taking you out drinking for fucking a week straight that's not best friend 0.99
00:04:57.720 shit at least not mature real life best friend shit real life real brother shit is about helping you get
00:05:07.460 better and that requires some honest conversations that requires a lot of truth and it requires an
00:05:14.980 intelligent plan to move forward so if you're struggling and you're having a hard time like
00:05:19.840 many people are right now everybody knows that situations in the world right now are not ideal
00:05:25.240 not only are they not ideal they're extremely difficult and there's a lot of people struggling
00:05:30.100 and if that's you i want you to honestly ask yourself what your expectations are of the people around you
00:05:39.440 and also what your expectations are of yourself because if you expect the people around you to
00:05:46.220 come pick you up and pull you through when everybody's struggling guys that's just not a realistic
00:05:51.460 expectation it's just not so we have to build ourselves into our own best friend and biggest cheerleader
00:06:00.580 you are capable of doing that and it's very simple you have two voices in your head you've got the voice
00:06:08.000 that you're struggling with right now i call it the bitch voice but you also have a much stronger 1.00
00:06:13.340 ideal potential human voice called the boss voice and that boss voice in your brain the one that tells
00:06:20.080 you hey bro you're being fucking lazy or hey bro you were kind of dick right there or hey bro um you 0.99
00:06:26.940 need to fucking be better here here and here or hey dude that's not very good for you to do that's the 0.94
00:06:32.440 voice that we all have that is the voice of our own best friend and like i said if you need help
00:06:40.200 ask for it but don't expect it just to show up at your fucking door that's your part and you got to do 0.99
00:06:46.720 it so i just wanted to bring some awareness to you guys about what could potentially be harming you and
00:06:53.700 keeping you where you are and i don't want you to get bitter towards your friends and family because
00:06:58.320 they aren't accommodating enough to your tastes the higher likelihood that we have here is that
00:07:04.580 people are also dealing with their own stuff and they may not even be aware of how you're struggling
00:07:09.940 so you got to be your own fucking best friend if you can't figure out how to do that you're going to
00:07:16.080 have a very very difficult life and you're going to have a life that is bitter and full of frustration
00:07:22.000 and full of anger and full of hate and i don't want that for you so be your own best friend
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