4 Simple Steps To Advancing Your Career IMMEDIATELY, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO312
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In this episode of the MFCEO Project, the CEO and his co-host, Pastor Vaughn the Impaler, and DJ DJ God talk about how they started this podcast, why they decided to do it, and how they plan to keep doing it.
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I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.
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Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.
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What is up guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host and I am the motherfucking CEO.
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Guys, this is an entrepreneurship podcast. It is also a personal development podcast and it is also a win at everything podcast.
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It's a stomp on your competitors fucking nuts podcast. Whatever you want to call it.
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There's going to be great info that's going to help you win. I do this for free. I don't ask for money.
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All I ask is that you pay the fee. What is the fee?
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The fee is you telling one of your friends about how fucking awesome the podcast is and how much you learned.
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Even if it was one sentence that you took away that changed your perspective or changed your thought process or helped you get through the day or helped you figure out a new strategy.
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You know, we started this podcast almost five years ago with the mission, which is why we call it a project, with the mission of correcting the false narrative that is put out in society by or to our young people.
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Which is, you know, if you play by the rules, you'll win.
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If you're just a good little boy and a good little girl, you'll win.
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If you go to high school and you go to college and you get married and you have 2.5 kids and a white picket fence, everything's going to be great.
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If you want to succeed, if you want to win, if you want to build what it is that you have in your head as a little bit of picture, we're going to help you do that by telling you the truth, all right?
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Now, you probably aren't going to always like what I have to say, but in time, you'll find it to be the truth.
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Now, I usually say as always, but it's not as always.
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Anyways, it's been a while since I've had my awesome co-host, the pastor of Disaster, Vaughn the Impaler, Vaughn Bon Jovi, DJ DJ God.
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I mean, I'd say podcasting is like riding a bike, but it's kind of not.
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It's kind of like not even at all like riding a bike.
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Well, you know we like to keep it real in this show, so.
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You know, I've had some interesting challenges, but things are good.
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Actually, I was just talking to somebody about this, and this is one of my favorite things about working with you.
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When you don't have anything to say, you don't say it.
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Lots of professional advice givers out there like to talk about how much content you should shove down people.
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The first school is, make people listen to you by jamming shit down their throat 24-7.
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I found that not only am I not willing to do that, but it's ineffective.
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You know what I actually don't get about the people that are saying constantly produce stuff, constantly post stuff?
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Well, here, let me say something before you get into this.
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I understand the point that is trying to be made, okay?
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The point that's trying to be made by some of these dudes is you've got to practice making content, right?
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Like, what was the last time that you were good at something without practicing it?
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But you've got to understand that some of these people, a lot of these guys listening, they take shit literal, man.
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Like, if you say, hey, make 4,000 pieces of content a week, that's what they're going to do.
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But I think that it's better and more effective to speak when you have something of true value.
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I agree, and I also think that there's studies that back up.
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I mean, there's all sorts of studies that show that the culture we live in, we're bombarded with information, we're bombarded with data, we have tons of distractions.
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There's a sociologist named Joseph Nye who coined a phrase called the paradox of plenty, which is plenitude of information means poverty of attention.
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It means we are so constantly bombarded with things that people just end up shutting you off.
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And what happens is if they get used to you posting every day, day in and day out, there's not quite that same dopamine hit as when you kind of disappear for a while.
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So, all of a sudden, when their post notification goes off and Andy's hot back on, they're like, oh, he's got something good to say.
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Dude, but the thing is, is like, let's just be fucking real, man.
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You know, and eventually you start to repeat yourself and say this.
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And that's OK, because for things to sink in and for things to catch on, it takes repetition.
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I go through this probably once, twice a year where I just, yeah, whatever.
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But it's also I mean, to me, it's also it's not just pulling back.
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It's strategic because I know what you do is what, frankly, a lot of artists do, a lot of musicians do, is they, you know, they have to take things in before they can put things out.
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Well, as a writer, isn't that how you spur your creativity?
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Yeah, what you take in and then you synthesize it and you put it back out there.
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And I think if you're constantly on the output, eventually your output's just going to be total crap.
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Yeah, it's like the most of the fucking Internet, man.
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And it's not even like there's not even an attempt to put a fucking different perspective on it or your own.
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So we talked about maybe going old school on this episode, you know, back in the day when we first met where I, you know, we just talk.
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People are going to forget who the fuck you are.
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Well, actually, they haven't forgotten who I am because the last two episodes.
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But, you know, because of this contest we're having, you shared my email.
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And so now, like, I have thousands of emails in my inbox applying to be a contestant in this contest we're having.
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And, of course, every single one of them has a different nickname as the subject line.
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I wish I could remember who did it because I give him props.
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Well, I mean, you want to go business or motivation?
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So this past Sunday, just tell a little story to just kick this off.
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So this past Sunday, my wife and I, we drove like 45 minutes.
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And it was within about, you know, seven seconds before I understood why.
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We actually, I don't know, in some Froyo places, you know, you pay by the weight.
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And others, you pay by the actual cup that you get.
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Well, we didn't know that this was the kind that you pay for a cup.
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So we had these three little girls who can barely eat, you know, the size.
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And I said, well, I didn't realize that that was what it was.
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He was just, I think we ended up paying like $18 for it.
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So and then on our way out, he just said nothing.
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And so I said to my wife, I said, that's why that place is empty.
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And I said, and she said, yeah, well, I mean, I'm assuming that that's not the owner because
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why would you start a place and, you know, basically run it like that?
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I think what I'm learning in being associated with this podcast and the stuff that I've learned
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from you is that there's a lot of people that go into business, but they don't know
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They don't know how to create exceptional customer experience.
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They just think, oh, I'm going to start a Froyo place to make money.
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And so I just, it's been a while since, since you've kind of riffed on leadership and creating
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customer experience and there's so much value you bring on that.
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I think that's a topic that we should talk about again.
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I mean, once you become aware of, of what great experience is and what great leadership
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is, it's very easy to recognize when it's not and become irritated, especially when
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I find myself going into literally every business I go to and judging them on their, on their
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And, um, I kid you not ever since I've been associated with you and this whole enterprise,
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that's been kind of my curse is my, my standards now for, for restaurants, for any place.
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You know, we talk about leadership a lot over the last 312 episodes, but the, the, the issue
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with leadership is, is that people still try to complicate it.
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They still try to make it harder than what it is.
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And I think at the root of all issue, you know, most people don't feel comfortable being a
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leader because they feel like somebody hasn't come along who is a leader that's granted them
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So, you know, it's an uncomfortable situation to label yourself as somebody that's important
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to an organization when nobody else has labeled you that.
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You know, and they think that there's a certificate of leadership that you're like, yeah.
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And the boy scouts or whatever, there probably is or whatever they call them now.
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The people scouts, you know, whatever, you know, but the truth is, is like the genderless
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I don't know what the fuck it's called these days, but who, you know what I'm talking
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But like, you, you know, um, you get the certificate and all of a sudden you're a leader and that's
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You know, um, most all great leadership starts with an internal decision that I'm going to
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And you know, while I'm working for someone else or I'm working for myself, well, either
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way, I've got to control this and we all have a responsibility to control our little
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All of us, whether you're the CEO or you're the guy at the first guy.
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See, I think the biggest thing that people misunderstand is that leadership is, um, is not
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a down, a downward flowing proposition or idea, meaning it comes from someone of power.
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The next guy down the line is appointed and this and that dude, leadership is not a title.
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Meaning if you're the lowest guy on the pole, you could still lead the guys above you, right?
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It's just people don't feel comfortable doing it.
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And I could tell you guys, like I've told you a million times, the two most valuable
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skills that you can have in business and in life is one, being able to lead and two, being
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And those two skills are going to make you money.
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If you don't have those two skills, you're not making any money, period.
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Unless you're some sort of like special, special, special, uh, skilled individual, right?
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Like a vascular surgeon or somebody who had a brain, you know, these guys who have
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super, uh, technical skill to get paid a good amount of money.
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Um, but what could that fucking guy make if he was a good leader and he did know how to
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So, um, starting early, especially for the young guys.
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And we see this a lot right now with, uh, the e-comm crowd, right?
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A lot of guys, you know, that I've been hard on in the past, um, for just learning a couple
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internet marketing tricks and trying to sell shit.
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The reason these dudes are going to be able to, are not going to be able to build something
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that's sustainable is because they lack these two skills.
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They think they can sell because they're good at writing some ad copy for fucking Facebook.
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But I'm talking about being able to sell to a person in real life.
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And those two skills right there are going to define you.
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And I think people overcomplicate them and they're afraid of them and they think that
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So, uh, and they don't have permission to do either one.
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Leadership is a decision that you've got to make for yourself.
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Like, dude, I am going to take control of this.
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Um, so that I can be more valuable to my organization.
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And if you don't become more valuable to your organization, at least you walked away from
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that organization with a fucking great skill that you could take somewhere else where it
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I love the paradox of what you're talking about, where you can, you can show leadership
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on any level, but if you do show leadership on any, any level, the facts are, you're probably
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It's that simple, you know, uh, leadership comes down to, to really just, okay, first
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off, everybody's heard the phrase leading by example, you know, Vince Lombardi's got the
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famous quote, which is, uh, leading by example.
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This is some, something that must be done over the course of your entire career, right?
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You should never come into your job or into your business and have an off day when it comes
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Cause one, one letdown or one, uh, you getting caught not doing what you do has a ripple effect
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They see you do something or cut a corner or do something that is done, not the way
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All of a sudden that sets a new standard for them, which is to do it to that lesser standard.
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And I think it's important to recognize too, that when you are a leader and you do lead
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by example, it's most likely your team is going to lead or is going to follow you.
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They're going to follow you at 60 or 70 or 80%, right?
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Meaning they're going to do as 80% of a good, as good of a job as you're doing, which is
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So if you're even less than the 100%, now you're talking about them doing 40% or 30% of
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And most people think that leadership is put your feet up on the desk and tell people
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And it's honestly, to be a great leader is the complete opposite.
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It's to be the first motherfucker in the game doing the work and showing everybody else
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No matter what your position is, no matter what your paycheck is, no matter how long
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you've been in the business, like I know for sure, for sure that I can execute nearly
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every single job in my company better than the best person that does it for fucking sure.
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No, that's me telling the truth because I developed all the fucking systems in this company
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Me and Sal and Chris and Jason, any one of us could fucking do what we ask our guys to
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I couldn't create animation on a video like our guys do.
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But that's something that people just don't take serious enough.
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How do you make sure that you're recognized within your organization?
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How do you make sure that you don't get passed over?
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How do you make sure that you're the guy that gets called up when there's a position to open?
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That's really what we're trying to figure out because a lot of people are like, dude, I
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If you're doing that good of a job, I can tell you you're going to get noticed.
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Now, if you're not getting noticed, whose fault is that?
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It's your fault because you're not making yourself noticed.
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So how could we take this concept of leading by example and take it one step further?
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Go up to whoever it is that is your leader, whoever it is.
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Not the CEO if you're the guy working in the warehouse.
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I'm going to give you a strategy of how to get promoted here and how to move yourself up.
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If your boss is the manager of the warehouse or he's the manager of your department or
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whatever he's working on, you go to the boss and you say, hey, what can I do to help?
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And that boss, if it were me, I'm going to start out with simple shit.
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I'm going to say, hey, man, I got a couple of battery tenders down in my garage.
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One, the guy's going to get demoralized because I'm asking him to do quote unquote basic shit.
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Or two, he's going to go do it with a smile on his face and come back and say, what else
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Now, 98% of the people are going to fucking feel like they're going to go home and they're
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They're going to say, you're not going to believe what fucking Andy made me do today.
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He made me go down and fucking change the battery tenders on his car.
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But what they don't realize is that I'm fucking setting them up for a test.
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I'm seeing if they practice the core value of humility.
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So, I'm testing them and they're failing the test.
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So, the guy that comes back to me says and does what I said and said, what else can I
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Now, all of a sudden, I'm going to give him a little more responsibility.
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And eventually, I'm going to learn to figure out that this is the dude that I can count on
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I'm going to place some higher value in our company.
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And see, people don't do this shit because they feel like they're above it.
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Can I point out also, at least in first form, in your companies, it's not just money.
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It's you are going to give them the privilege of being part of taking ownership of the company.
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Of creating the products that they're excited about.
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If you want to contribute and make decisions, you're going to have to start to show that
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It's the same thing that we talk about when we talk about how to create loyalty with
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We talk about making them trust you by telling them the truth.
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And you do that enough times, and eventually, you become loyal.
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So because their egos are fucking inflated, and they're a little bit entitled, and they
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think they should be doing better than what they are, they fail these tests over and over.
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And I'm not the only motherfucker that does this.
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They're going to give them little assignments first.
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It might not be cleaning out the trunk of his car.
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But it's something small, and that's how the trust is gained.
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But so many people aren't willing to do that, that they never get anywhere.
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Because what happens whenever they bitch about cleaning out the trunk or fucking doing the
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Then you're like, all right, this dude's not a team player.
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And then he spins his wheels wherever he is for the rest of time.
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Another thing that people can do, all right, to get up, move up through their company that
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I think is super fucking underrated, is whenever you decide that you want to get serious about
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whatever it is that you're doing, sit down with your boss.
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Sit down with your leader and say, hey, man, I want to move up.
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So if you can lead by example, and you can constantly show up to help above and beyond whatever it is
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Because what I mean by that is whatever your current job is, if you let that slide with
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the intention of helping to move up, you're not going to get to move up and become valuable.
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You've got to handle your responsibilities perfectly, then ask for more.
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And just to build on that, Andy, you know, if you're uncomfortable or you don't have the
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confidence to have that conversation with your boss or you're uncomfortable holding people
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to the higher standard or holding them accountable, that's usually a good sign that you're not
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I didn't even hit is like, you know, you've got to hold the standard for others.
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You know, you've got to like that goes hand in hand with doing your shit.
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That doesn't mean you have to go up and yell and scream at them.
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A lot of people have this misconception that correcting others or getting other people on the
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same page or leading others is some sort of confrontation.
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You've got to go up, see your buddy or, you know, whoever's working next to you doing
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You notice that they're not doing as good of a job as what they could be.
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Dude, all you've got to do is, you know, say, hey, bro, I've seen you do way better
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You don't got to fucking be like, hey, you're a fucking piece of shit for doing that shitty
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You just got to remind people that they're better.
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You know, and and a lot of people overcomplicate.
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Take that part of it because they think, oh, dude, I see Steve over there.
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And what they do is instead of handling it and saying, hey, Steve, bro, I don't want to
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And protecting the culture of the company, which, by the way, is leadership.
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Instead of doing that, they just listen and listen and listen.
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Well, if you go tell and you didn't fucking stand, what's that say about you?
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If they see somebody's, you know, work slacking or attitude just being poor.
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That's a that's another good indication that maybe they have something else going on and
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Like, there's all kinds of things that need to be addressed.
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But people have the misconception that, A, they've got to have permission to lead and,
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B, they've got to always be confrontational when it comes to correcting people.
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Honestly, my attitude, the way I am and how I handle confrontation, which is head on, is
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really a hindrance to being a great leader for me.
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And, you know, so a lot of people will think, oh, dude, I'm not like that.
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And if you were like that, it would make it harder.
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So, you know, I mean, I have to admit, I mean, it's it's even even though over the course
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of my life, I have been, quote unquote, positions of leadership.
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I think I've been slow to really take the ownership and really to to go all in on, well, basically
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And I think it's because I didn't really understand the absolute benefits of developing
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leadership in your life, in your own life, because if you develop that quality or that
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skill, it's literally transferable to every situation.
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If we found out tomorrow and I'm not making a political statement, but we found out tomorrow
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But in some weird quirk, there was no constitutional successor for him.
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Like something happened to the vice president, something happened to the secretary of state.
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And so we just we had to name somebody the next president.
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If you found out, knowing what you do about this person and knowing that you've met this
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person, if you found out that the next president of the United States was Urban Meyer, would
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He understands transferable to every situation.
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And quite honestly, I think somebody like that is exactly what we fucking need.
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To be completely honest, because and I'm going to get off on the politics here, but y'all
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motherfuckers are retarded and I'm talking to all of you.
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OK, and I don't give a fuck if you don't like that word.
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The truth is you on the far left and the left, you're fucked up and you on the far right,
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And the truth is, is 98 percent of people are somewhere in between that and nobody's
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You wonder why we have all these motherfuckers shooting everybody.
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Because we have one hundred and fifty thousand dollars in fucking student loan debt for a
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degree that gets you forty thousand dollars a year, meaning they have no fucking hope.
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OK, now on top of the no hope, they have socialized isolation.
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Their friends are not they don't have any fucking friends.
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They're not riding bikes, playing, playing baseball anymore like we had.
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You got these bullshit fucking Internet friends that are fucking fake rooting for you and make
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it smart ass comments every time you try to step above that little level that you're
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So they have social isolation and they have no hope.
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Now they have all these fucking media people who are fucking driving negativity into their
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You guys should be fucking ashamed of yourselves.
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All of you should be fucking embarrassed of the jobs that you're doing.
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All of you are trying to make the fucking legendary call.
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You're trying to you're doing you're driving people to do fucked up shit and be depressed
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and be fucking upset and hate their lives and hate this world for your own personal fucking
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game because you want a bullshit show on fucking CNN or fucking Fox.
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You have fucking social isolation and you have constant negativity and you have 10 years
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And something's got to fucking change and bad parenting.
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It was it was that there's no such thing as news anymore.
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You have a left leaning news agency that just creates a fucking story.
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I think all of them have decided what their base is.
00:28:06.360
They say what negative thing can we create about this person that we don't like.
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And here's the problem with the average person.
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The average person they look at the other side and they think that's the problem.
00:28:17.120
No you're part of the problem because what you do is you read an article.
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All you care about is that it says something bad about somebody you don't like.
00:28:27.680
So people have only themselves to blame for the proliferation of lies.
00:28:39.340
And there was something out about I don't know what politician it was.
00:28:43.680
But in this case it was a fairly right wing politician.
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And I said to her I said do you realize that that article that you just shared literally came from a satirical website.
00:29:05.140
And her point was oh well I don't like him so it doesn't really matter.
00:29:12.440
I can at least say that as much as I did not like the policies of Obama when something was categorically untrue about him I said there's no way I'm going to share that.
00:29:24.520
I always ask people would you want somebody doing that to you?
00:29:29.640
And yet people don't follow the simple golden rule do unto others as you have them do.
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Because they don't ever think it could happen to them.
00:29:35.120
They don't ever think what it would be like for the entire world to share a lie about them.
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Because no one cares about the average motherfucker.
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So instead what they do is they get their jollies off tearing other motherfuckers down.
00:29:51.680
The people the people the people listening to this show right now the people that listen to any show anywhere in fucking America are the fucking problem.
00:30:02.000
You got motherfuckers you know everything's dude you got 20 motherfuckers get killed down in Walmart and fucking the next day you got the far left.
00:30:13.280
You got the far right taking pictures of their guns and post them online.
00:30:18.340
Like dude is this really the time to have that discussion?
00:30:24.540
We need to come together and fucking have a solution to this.
00:30:27.460
Like not this not this fucking you know extreme far left extreme far right argument because you motherfuckers are too stupid to have a real conversation.
00:30:45.700
Because I haven't fucking said what I need to say about it.
00:30:48.500
You know I bit my tongue because I've been in business and I haven't wanted to share my views and I don't want to make people mad but I'm fucking tired of people getting fucking killed, killing themselves, being depressed, being pissed off, you know talking about how the world sucks.
00:31:02.860
We live in literally the world's greatest fucking time ever.
00:31:11.360
Like you can walk down, dude the poorest motherfucker here just about outside the .1% that lives on, they have fucking cell phones man and they're talking about how hard to have it.
00:31:23.000
Dude I know you and I were both students of history.
00:31:25.960
I was just reading about like the early parts of the 19th century, excuse me the 20th century like 1900, 1910 and there's two things that just hit me like because we complained about everything and there's two things that hit me that I read.
00:31:37.160
One was that there was a whole industry just for kid-sized coffins.
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That's how much kids died because of like the diseases that they hadn't cured.
00:31:47.160
That's what people lived with on a daily basis.
00:31:49.600
It was very common to lose children like left and right and we don't even think about that.
00:31:56.640
Yeah I mean that's yeah that was and we don't even think about that but the other thing that I read and this is just really fascinating to me.
00:32:02.520
You know the 1900s to like 1915 you're getting ready for the the Great Depression and there was that there were forces at work that were just beyond anybody's control.
00:32:11.520
Okay beyond anybody's control but they said that when the Great Depression happened the vast majority of the working men and it was primarily men because at that time it was primarily men.
00:32:22.500
But the vast majority of the working men when the Great Depression hit they went into the depression themselves and you know who they blamed?
00:32:33.100
Well no in that case it actually wasn't but they blamed themselves.
00:32:42.500
If you didn't fucking want to be there you fucking move.
00:32:45.220
I'm talking about they're doing the Great Depression.
00:32:48.080
Well my point is is that the history of our country.
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The point is is that no matter where the fuck you are and what time you live what you do what's going on your happiness is directly correlated to your fucking decisions period.
00:33:03.040
Like dude I was talking to my friend last night via text and I was telling her I'm like you know what's fucking funny because she you know I'm not going to say who it was but she doesn't have a lot of money.
00:33:13.860
Like people would know her because she's affiliated with our brand.
00:33:15.600
But she's a young girl she's getting her life together she doesn't have a lot of money.
00:33:18.680
She sent me a picture of she we started talking about she said she had a kiddie pool in her backyard where she was at you know she was talking about my pool.
00:33:28.960
And she was like well I'm going to go get in the kiddie pool.
00:33:34.640
Like and I said did you ever swim in one of those did you ever swim in one of those metal horse troughs when you were a kid.
00:33:41.040
Because like dude when we were a kid our pools that we had here in St.
00:33:44.960
I don't know if this is like something people do all over the world or all over the country.
00:33:49.020
But I can tell you in the Midwest this is how you know you grew up in a fucking lower middle class type situation.
00:33:59.420
More that's a better it's not lower middle class it's rural.
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But if you grew up in a rural area you swam in a motherfucking horse trough.
00:34:09.580
So I got on fucking Google and I googled horse trough pools.
00:34:14.220
And there's these dudes who like make take those big round horse troughs.
00:34:19.520
If you guys don't know what I'm talking about I'm talking about those galvanized fucking big round horse tanks that the horses drink out of.
00:34:26.500
Like a lot of people listening don't even know what I'm talking about.
00:34:31.060
Just Google horse trough pool and you'll see what I'm talking about.
00:34:34.820
So this is how we used to fucking do it here right.
00:34:37.800
And so now there's this thing where people build like decks around them and like put stone.
00:34:43.580
Like and I'm like you know I started thinking you know you could take away every fucking thing I have.
00:34:57.740
I'd be okay coming home every day getting in the fucking horse trough pool.
00:35:06.380
But like that's the thing is like you know you can you can be some of the shit right now that people are going through that they say they hate is actually the best time of their life.
00:35:20.200
Like because dude I could tell you when I was struggling and we were fucking in business and we had nothing.
00:35:25.700
Those were some of the best fucking times I've ever had in my life.
00:35:29.060
Dude Chris and I used to have parties in the back of our store we'd get beers our buddies would come up you know dude we'd fucking do goofy shit like dude I can't even tell you how much fun we had during that time when we had nothing.
00:35:43.440
Dude I was just talking about this with my wife because my girls we didn't really plan it this way but they just got a lot of toys just like too many.
00:35:53.020
And when I when I was little like the greatest joy that we brought that we had was this there was like my dad had a pile of wood in the garage and we'd make guns out of the wood and we'd make swords out of the wood and I was telling the other somebody the other day.
00:36:08.800
That kind of creativity and you got people stuck to screens these days.
00:36:12.780
I like my I like my phone but people are way too stuck to their screens and kids are way too like glued to you know electronics.
00:36:25.600
We actually built a battering ram like a Roman battering ram.
00:36:29.320
While it's on the top of my head I remember this.
00:36:30.820
You were one of them dudes out in the park with like the Nerf swords.
00:36:38.960
Dead serious my dad used to have a Christmas tree.
00:36:43.780
My dad used to have a Christmas tree lot every year.
00:36:55.620
By the way the only point I was trying to make was that in desperate times Americans used to blame themselves and take responsibility.
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Today we have good times and they don't take responsibility.
00:37:17.520
Do you know that insulation that comes in like four by eight sheets?
00:37:31.780
I was going to say if you did this stuff with the pink.
00:37:33.540
We built a tree house at my grandma's which I think there's still a couple boards up in the tree.
00:37:46.040
But dude the coolest thing that we built was we built a little well I built it was a little go-kart out of two by fours with a three horsepower engine that my uncle Mason gave me.
00:37:57.860
And his job was he had a lawn mower repair business and he lived in Michigan.
00:38:06.220
We went I don't remember how long we went there but that was the first time I'd ever been in a tornado too because I remember the tornado specifically.
00:38:14.120
But her cousins live up there in Michigan and my great uncle Mason did engine repair small engine repair and he sent me home with a three horsepower orange fucking pool start mower engine.
00:38:26.900
And I threw that motherfucker I bolted it onto a two by four frame that I built.
00:38:35.100
Yeah see are we just old fogies that I mean I don't feel like kids do that.
00:38:48.520
And I put wagon wheels into the ends of the of the so those were the wheels.
00:38:53.200
So I put wagon wheels into the end of the board.
00:38:55.220
And then I fucking steered the motherfucker with a rope.
00:38:58.320
So I had a rope that was looped from the one left from the right wheel and the left wheel and I would hold on to the middle of the rope.
00:39:11.860
You'd start this motherfucker and it would just go because it didn't have it didn't have like I had no way to control the throttle.
00:39:18.960
And then when I would try to shut it off there was like a there was like a metal tab that you would tap onto the spark plug to shut the motherfucker off.
00:39:25.580
But dude every time that you would try to reach back and shut it off you would miss the tab and hit the spark plug and it would shock the fuck out of you dude.
00:39:31.540
So it only lasted like one day and it fell apart.
00:39:35.260
But dude I thought I was the man with that fucking rope hard man.
00:39:38.020
I just miss I miss you know childhoods where you did stuff like that where there was the capacity to really get messed up.
00:39:45.580
You know like I remember one summer my my my brother.
00:39:49.300
I saw fucking Sal had Enzo doing a blowing with his blower with a helmet on.
00:39:57.320
Because people yell at him when he fucking snapped shit.
00:39:59.820
Like he snapped like dude he snapped a picture of Enzo kind of taking taking a piss.
00:40:08.320
Like dude what the fuck is wrong with people man?
00:40:10.960
Like we have we have fucked up people in this society who are constantly trying to tell everybody how to fucking live.
00:40:18.600
Like you're going to report a fucking naked fucking two year old kid taking a piss like because it's funny.
00:40:32.600
They lack any ability to tell the difference between that and something truly offensive.
00:40:55.840
And like dude that's the that's why we have the negativity on the fucking internet because
00:41:00.200
we gave the dumb fucks the loudest fucking voice they could ever fucking have.
00:41:09.100
Like you got to have above a 60 IQ to be on it.
00:41:13.160
Like I would pay $10 a month to be on Instagram if they fucking if they cut everybody out below
00:41:24.340
So I used to live in Missouri actually so going back no my one summer when I was growing
00:41:28.720
up my brother and his and his good friend came into the garage and like I smelled smoke
00:41:33.140
and I was like hey guys why why is the bottom of your sneakers melted in this it looks like
00:41:37.680
you know it's got scorch marks on it like oh no nothing we weren't doing anything.
00:41:41.960
Well it turns out they were just you know doing what kids back then did they were playing
00:41:45.860
with fire they about lit the entire backyard on fire and I think they started by burning
00:41:52.280
You know how you used to take a magnifying glass.
00:42:06.540
There's an argument that that's a little cruel.
00:42:07.860
I've killed a couple things like in my life like and I still fucking feel bad about
00:42:12.640
Like I killed this big ass snake one time and then out of reaction because I hate snakes.
00:42:18.580
And I still even though I hate snakes I still felt bad.
00:42:20.920
I feel bad now but looking back then that was just something normal.
00:42:25.060
Well and here's the thing like if you really are like boiling rabbits or something then
00:42:32.820
But I mean at the same time burning ants is probably a pretty normal little kid thing
00:42:37.960
to do and yet today they put you in you know some sort of mental facility you know.
00:42:46.860
Dude I don't know dude like I have a lot of buddies who hunt and I really respect that.
00:42:56.160
Like I shoot guns and I love shooting and but you know I guess people assume I'm a hunter
00:43:03.560
And I respect it like I respect like I don't respect I don't like it's just not something
00:43:08.600
I don't think it's okay to go to Africa and kill a fucking giraffe just because to kill
00:43:13.780
No you know and like dude I know I know the conservation and I understand all that.
00:43:18.120
I still just don't feel like it's the right thing.
00:43:22.460
But like dude you know a lot of my buddies they go out they kill their animals and they
00:43:33.780
You know now someone fucked with me I would fucking you know I wouldn't have a problem
00:43:40.700
If there was humans like if it was a human thing like it'd be different because like
00:43:47.620
They have choices and they have yeah make decisions.
00:43:53.320
So you know some states actually have frivolous lawsuits legislation.
00:43:57.840
So like if you're sued for a really stupid reason and you lose that person can sue you
00:44:02.340
I think they should have something similar on Instagram.
00:44:04.540
There should be first of all that should be the fucking rule for everything.
00:44:08.320
Like if you get sued if you sue someone and it comes to the fucking it comes to know
00:44:12.740
knowing that there was no facts to really back it up or it's made up you should go to
00:44:18.460
Or the case with like Instagram where you report somebody there should be some consequence.
00:44:27.560
And it's found to be bullshit then they should ban you.
00:44:31.220
Because the way it's set up now is that literally you can report anybody you disagree with.
00:44:41.000
We're going back to you know meandering our way back to leadership and just maybe wrap
00:44:45.880
up by talking about just how that relates to what we were talking about earlier.
00:44:50.780
All the problems we're talking about right now come from a lack of leadership.
00:44:54.960
Because people don't just like what I just said.
00:44:58.860
They don't look at the problem and say you know what this is my problem to fucking solve.
00:45:07.380
And the people who are accelerating the problem see that no one's doing anything about it
00:45:15.380
And so like dude that's a it's you know leadership is the key.
00:45:22.040
Without it you're going to be miserable and broke.
00:45:24.340
So it's important to understand that you have a duty to become a leader regardless of where
00:45:29.940
You know right now you might be saying man that's really hard for me or man I'm just
00:45:35.080
That's a label that you're putting on yourself.
00:45:47.900
I was just going to say like it's just amazing how the principles of business really do apply
00:45:52.000
to all of life because not just the leadership principles but even just the whole concept
00:45:56.000
of imagine imagine how the world would be different if all of us took the business principle
00:46:01.020
of create an amazing customer experience and you just you just apply that to all of life.
00:46:06.460
Like anybody who anybody anybody who who encounters me I'm going to create an amazing experience
00:46:19.300
It's really that's really it you know and people all of life is sales.
00:46:30.560
You know it's just sad but I mean really the main point I was trying to make before we
00:46:34.800
got off on the on the on the other stuff was that you know let's say you're an average
00:46:39.960
dude or you're a young man or a young woman working in a company and you're listening to
00:46:44.240
this and you're like fuck you know I've heard all this shit but I just don't know how to do
00:46:47.980
it let me give you the exact system of how to do this.
00:46:51.580
Step number one do whatever it is required of you to make sure that you're doing it better
00:47:01.980
Whatever your job description is you got to do it perfectly.
00:47:06.820
Step number two you've got to do about twice the amount of work is what you expect to get
00:47:14.700
So meaning you've got to do more than what your job description is if you do your job
00:47:20.400
description you do it perfect you're not doing enough you're going to have to do more
00:47:23.860
meaning you're going to have to do more than what you're fucking paid for now a lot of people
00:47:27.140
don't like that they don't like to hear that shit they think it's fucking bullshit I'm just
00:47:32.080
telling you the truth that's reality you want it that's the way it is okay so you're going
00:47:36.820
to have to do more than what you pay for now when you do more than what you pay for do that
00:47:40.120
perfect too all right that's step two now those two steps in most organizations will
00:47:46.620
get you recognized because the goal is whenever the conversation happens of like let's say
00:47:52.360
I go to one of my guys let's say I go to Aaron and I say hey Aaron we need we need a
00:47:57.360
new uh this or we need a new that or we need another guy here who the fuck should we put
00:48:03.040
here Aaron's going to say x and x the name that goes where the x is is going to be the
00:48:10.500
guy who does his job perfectly and does more than what he asked perfectly usually that's
00:48:15.740
going to get you some promotions but if you really want to supercharge this you're going
00:48:20.360
to take an active approach and you're going to go to Aaron and you're going to go to Aaron
00:48:24.280
and say every fucking day hey bro what do you need done today hey how can I help you today
00:48:29.260
hey how can I do this that way when I go to Aaron and I say Aaron we need somebody for
00:48:34.260
this who's who's going to fit here Aaron's going to say well Tony right he comes to me
00:48:40.220
every fucking day and he says and he does his job perfect he leads by example he's always
00:48:46.440
doing more than what he's supposed to do he's always helping out he's always asking me what
00:48:50.440
to help out and here's the fourth part he's always holding everybody else accountable okay if
00:48:56.800
you do those four things one you set the standard through your own work two you do more than what
00:49:02.580
you're paid for three you ask your leader what you can do to help four you hold the line for
00:49:09.600
everybody else meaning like I said earlier in a friendly way you're holding the line you don't
00:49:15.380
got to be sometimes you do have to be direct you don't have to be overly direct hey bro I know
00:49:20.660
you're I know you're capable of more than that look we're on a mission here bro you're hurting me
00:49:24.060
you're hurting you come on what's going on something going on at home what is it what can I do to help
00:49:29.680
you right that's how you hold the line okay sometimes it does have to be more aggressive
00:49:34.680
sometimes it has to be hey motherfucker you're fucking me I don't like that it's just you don't
00:49:41.100
start off with that right you know I'm saying right but if you do those four steps man you're gonna
00:49:45.720
there's a dude you're gonna become valuable in that organization because you're just at the top of
00:49:50.260
mind you're at the top of mind awareness so if you want to get a promotion if you want to move up if
00:49:54.800
you want to advance your career become a leader and follow these steps all right if you do those
00:49:59.740
things you're gonna move up and when you move up you're gonna get more responsibility when you get
00:50:04.440
more responsibility you're gonna learn more skills and if you apply these four steps to that next level
00:50:09.640
so let's say you get promoted to Aaron's level all right now you're on Aaron's level now I'm your boss
00:50:15.260
all right or sal or whatever let's just make I'm just right making this up for sake of the session
00:50:20.840
now you're gonna go to Aaron and you're gonna still say Aaron what can you help and you're gonna
00:50:27.000
come to me and you say Andy what do you need done today what can I do what can I do after you're
00:50:30.860
doing your responsibilities perfectly as well that way I know dude that's how you create value within
00:50:36.040
an organization people make this I swear to God guys this is as easy as it is this is as simple as it
00:50:43.160
can be explained one do a great job to make sure your buddies are doing a great job to three do
00:50:51.040
more than what you're required and four ask what else you can do and if you do that every fucking
00:50:55.960
day man it's undeniable that you're going to become valuable you cannot not become valuable it's
00:51:01.740
impossible so don't over complicate this shit don't think like oh just because I don't have the
00:51:08.440
fucking presidential award of leadership or whatever like that you're not a leader you're
00:51:14.740
you're only not a leader because you're deciding not to be and you're deciding it's not for you
00:51:18.160
and for you to progress for you to make more money for you to become what it is you want to become
00:51:24.300
you have to be willing to do this it's it's a requirement it is not a
00:51:29.600
option right you have to do it so this is what I would say to you young people you know you young
00:51:37.300
people right now you have a tremendous opportunity because companies are no longer looking for a
00:51:43.220
degree they're no longer looking for a certificate they're no longer looking for all this formal shit
00:51:48.780
for you to to become more of a part of the program what they're looking for is a strong character and
00:51:54.120
strong leadership and the willingness to hustle and learn and be helpful and contribute and if you
00:51:59.300
could do that guys I don't care if you're fucking 17 years old or if you're 70 years old you're going
00:52:05.400
to become more valuable in your organization which is going to create advancement it's going to create
00:52:09.700
more fulfillment and it's going to create more great pay for you that's reality it's that simple
00:52:14.680
it's not hard it's just people over complicate it absolutely 100 guys we are still running our
00:52:21.080
mfco contest which is going to fly what did we say three three people out to hang out with you
00:52:26.940
um you just need to go to itunes and write a review screenshot it email five star five star five star
00:52:35.900
uh six star if you could even do it you can find a way to give us six stars you're ruining my fucking
00:52:41.020
subtlety oh sorry i'm not really subtle no you're not i'm witty though all right keep going okay um
00:52:47.960
screenshot it email it to me vaughn at andy frisella.com by the way you know you know me you wouldn't say
00:52:54.200
i'm someone who likes to be overly direct and harsh so what i'm about to say is is not easy for me but
00:53:00.680
guys how hard is it to follow directions and send it to vaughn at andy frisella.com i don't really
00:53:07.140
appreciate people sending it to my figuring out what my personal email is and now i've been down there
00:53:12.100
no you didn't oh no no they just kind of i guess figured it out and so i've gotten all these just
00:53:19.100
help us stay organized guys it's that simple help us stay organized god vaughn you're so mean i know
00:53:23.360
i'm a jerk but i pretty much delete anything that goes to my personal email oh that's so so i know
00:53:28.880
so it's a jerky thing to do but tyler what do you got to say nothing your shorts are getting a little
00:53:36.420
hey listen though um when did we actually start it so we got like what 15 days left yeah okay so
00:53:42.880
whatever today's date is a couple more weeks yeah i think it's the 15th today no it's the 13th
00:53:48.360
i don't know it's right you know what's fun man what is uh seeing all these people doing 75 hard
00:53:54.140
yeah it's very cool that's fucking cool yeah guys if you're doing 75 hard make sure you use the
00:53:59.320
hashtag 75 hard because i interact with that hashtag literally every day the hashtags i interact with
00:54:04.600
guys if you want to tag me in your posts or use the 75 hard hashtag for 75 hard um i am first form
00:54:13.480
for first form or first form hashtag or the 100 zero hashtag i look at all those literally almost
00:54:18.540
every day so very cool thanks guys all right guys thanks for the support love you guys we'll see you soon