REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 401. Q&AF： Gossip In The Workplace, Potential Executive & Mindset For Huge Power List Tasks

00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realest sake about the 0.97

00:00:20.920 lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality 0.98

00:00:24.660 guys. Today we have Q and AF, that's where you can submit your questions and I will answer 0.98

00:00:30.280 them live here on the show. You submit those questions too, email those questions in guys

00:00:35.540 to askandyandandifusella.com. Yeah, give me what you got dude. How can I make you better?

00:00:40.180 How can I help you? How can I make you more successful? How can I make you better at whatever

00:00:43.260 it is you do? That's what we do here. We are unlike most other podcasts, okay? We have multiple

00:00:48.900 shows within the show. Q and AF is the one you're listening to right now but other times

00:00:53.960 that you tune in, we might have what's called CTI. CTI is Cruise the Internet and what we

00:01:00.440 do on that show is we put up headlines on the screen, usually three or four. We discuss them,

00:01:05.640 we talk about what could be true, what probably isn't true and why they are propagating us with

00:01:11.440 these untruths when they are happen to be untrue. We give our opinion, we make fun of it. It's

00:01:16.760 a humor-based show on all the shows. We have a sense of humor here unlike many of the people

00:01:22.100 out there in the world. So if you don't have a sense of humor, this is not the show for you.

00:01:25.440 Turn the channel, go listen to someone else. I don't give a fuck, okay? 1.00

00:01:31.900 But basically, our premise with CTI is for you to understand that the foundational 0.96

00:01:38.200 principles of freedom are required for you to be successful in business and life. For those of you

00:01:45.220 that don't know my history, I'm an entrepreneur. I've been fairly successful and I have one of the

00:01:51.420 most successful podcasts of all time called the MFCEO Project. The MFCEO Project does stand for

00:01:58.460 motherfucking CEO. And what we did on that show was we brought all of the lessons that I've learned 0.99

00:02:05.360 over the number of decades that I've been in business and we taught them to people.

00:02:09.880 And all of those things that I taught, by the way, I'd say that's probably the gold standard of

00:02:19.120 entrepreneurship lessons. I think it's widely accepted that's the case. You can go back and

00:02:24.820 listen to those episodes, the first 300 episodes in this feed. Where you have to understand and why

00:02:31.180 we have CTI mixed in with all of this personal development content is because without freedom, 0.66

00:02:37.780 none of that shit that I did for all those years or any of the tips that I give you or any of the 0.80

00:02:43.700 tools I give you or any of the hacks that I give you or any of the advice I give you about winning 0.98

00:02:48.440 works. Okay. So those of you that want to win, those of you that want to be rich, you want to be

00:02:56.280 successful, you want to be wealthy, you want to make a difference, whatever your reasons are for

00:03:00.020 wanting that. Okay. I'm not here to judge. What I am here to tell you is that you cannot have that

00:03:06.720 without fucking freedom. Okay. So understand that it's important that you listen to both, 1.00

00:03:11.600 both kinds of content, how we preserve collectively the opportunity for freedom to win.

00:03:18.720 Okay. And then also how we tactically win, which is what we're going to talk about today.

00:03:23.600 Other times when you tune in, we have real talk. Real talk is four to 20 minutes of me just

00:03:28.540 ranting about what I think is valuable and what I see in society that needs to be fixed collectively

00:03:35.360 or individually. And then we have full length and full length is the episode that is most like

00:03:41.280 most of the other podcasts. It's sort of an interview episode, but it's not really an interview.

00:03:46.160 It's more of a conversation. And I bring on successful, interesting, wealthy kick-ass motherfuckers. 1.00

00:03:54.740 And we talk about how you can be the same because the ultimate truth that no one wants to share with 0.99

00:03:58.880 you guys is that everybody's the same. And all the things that you see in myself or anybody else that

00:04:04.880 you happen to look up to or want to learn from or be like, or emulate, they're all human beings,

00:04:10.340 dude. They all have the same issues that you have. They've learned to overcome them. Okay. This idea

00:04:15.160 of luck or being in the right place at the right time that might, you know, be true once in a while,

00:04:21.220 but it's not the standard is not the norm. And it's not how you're going to fucking get there. 0.97

00:04:24.720 You're not going to get lucky. You're not, you don't have rich relatives are going to leave you 0.97

00:04:28.240 inheritance. Uh, you don't have some sort of special skill that everybody else doesn't have. And neither do I,

00:04:34.880 and so the premise of the show is how to be individually great. And while we're being

00:04:38.560 individually great, uh, we make the world a better place. So that's what the show is about.

00:04:43.920 Now we do have a fee for the show. And the fee is if you like the show, share the show. If the show

00:04:49.220 makes you laugh, share the show. If you learn something you didn't know before, share the show.

00:04:53.780 If it's good advice, share the show. If it helps you share the show, because guess what? I could make

00:04:59.960 eight figures a year running ads on the show. And I don't do that because I don't like that when I

00:05:04.160 listen to other people's stuff. And I know you don't either. So let's just leave it at that.

00:05:09.760 Uh, I deliver value to you. You share the show. Now you have, uh, one advertisement I'm going to run

00:05:17.560 and the advertisement I'm going to run right now is for Arte Syndicate Live. And Milet and I have

00:05:23.500 Arte Syndicate. Many of you know that it is, uh, one of the premier, if not the premier

00:05:28.000 premier entrepreneurship networking group in the whole world, we are doing a live event

00:05:33.120 in Nashville, November 5th. And there is a live stream available for that. I believe we are sold

00:05:37.720 out of tickets now. Uh, but there is a live stream option available that you can watch from home.

00:05:42.780 Um, that's available at ArteSyndicate.com. So if you're interested in that, I have to mention it.

00:05:47.640 Now, I only have a limited amount of time today, DJ. So we're going to have to get through it.

00:05:53.100 Rapid fire. Yeah. Rapid fire. Uh, that's the co-host DJ. Hello children. Yeah. And, uh,

00:06:00.120 sometimes he tells jokes most of the time they're bad. Uh, but that's the show, man. That's how we

00:06:04.660 do it. So, uh, uh, what do we got today, man? I got some good ones for you. I know you do.

00:06:12.560 Yeah. Always do. Yeah. Let's get into it, bro. What's going on today? I have been so busy today.

00:06:17.300 Honestly, I have no idea either. Yeah. I've had my head like productive. Yeah. I've had meeting

00:06:21.540 after meeting after meeting. I just had like a three hour meeting with Eric Gritens about some

00:06:25.460 cool shit, uh, that he's working on. Yeah. I told these guys, I came in, I'm like, all right, 0.96

00:06:29.680 we're about to record. But then I look, I'm like, Oh shit, he's in a meeting. Yeah. I'm going to get 0.99

00:06:32.860 my workout in real quick. Yeah. Did you get it in? I had to squeeze it. Yeah. Um, you know,

00:06:40.000 talking about, I think, you know, what we talked about on the show yesterday might've got skipped

00:06:44.800 over by most people, you know, what's going on in the world guys, like our, our, our system is

00:06:51.040 crumbling. Right. And we can look at that one of two ways. We can look at that as, Oh shit,

00:06:57.780 the system's crumbling. Or we can look at that as, Oh shit, the system's crumbling and we can build 1.00

00:07:03.520 something that actually makes better sense than what we had before. And it's not this globalist 0.98

00:07:08.200 communist, you know, you'll own nothing and fucking like it shit. Um, it is real freedom. 1.00

00:07:13.800 It is real American freedom. It is a, uh, truly free country with individual rights and opportunity.

00:07:21.700 And, uh, I'm really excited about what I think will come out of all of this, uh, as, as, as

00:07:28.940 demoralizing and as frustrating as it can be. It's chaotic. Yeah. It's crazy. I think it's important

00:07:34.060 that all the good Americans and the people who believe in real freedom and the people who are

00:07:37.200 looking at what's going on and getting tired of the lies, tired of the deception, tired of the 0.90

00:07:40.880 fucking tyranny, uh, to realize that we do have an opportunity here to come together in common sense 0.96

00:07:46.880 and build a system that actually works to benefit the people, which is what this country was founded 0.99

00:07:51.380 on in the first place. So I'm slowly starting to get real excited. I'm concerned because I do think

00:07:58.380 that things are going to get worse. I think they're going to get way worse. You know, um, a lot of you

00:08:03.440 guys in business, you're feeling it right now. Like, dude, business is going to be harder and harder

00:08:08.240 to execute. And you know, what's going on right now, uh, for those of you who are entrepreneurs and

00:08:13.720 are operating a business, um, you know, you're seeing inflation, take away people's purchasing

00:08:18.460 power. You're seeing your costs go up. You're seeing your shipping costs go up. You're seeing, uh,

00:08:23.640 your raw material cost of goods sold go up and everything is, is moving up. And what's happening

00:08:29.040 is customers are becoming more, um, selective with where they spend the available money they do have

00:08:35.220 left. And the best way for you to weather this storm is to become great at what you do and to become

00:08:40.780 better and become the best option for them to spend their money with you. And, um, I think for the

00:08:48.560 businesses that make it through what's going to happen in this country, there's going to be massive

00:08:53.440 opportunity, uh, but not everybody's going to make it through. And you know, a lot of you motherfuckers 0.99

00:08:57.900 that have been like yelling at me for the last three years while I've done this real AF project, 0.98

00:09:02.640 uh, which I've done for you by the way, and you've just chosen to listen to the personal

00:09:07.760 development stuff, but ignored the societal, uh, political, social, economic, world economic

00:09:13.500 situation. You guys probably won't make it. You're not informed. You don't understand what's

00:09:18.740 happening, you know? And so you'll remember like all these things going on in your business. I've

00:09:24.320 explained along the way that these were going to happen. You know, all of these, all of these

00:09:28.520 things that you're having to deal with in your business right now, where things are getting a 0.94

00:09:31.880 little bit constricted after the last 12 years of total fucking bliss and productive growth, 0.72

00:09:38.300 the best time we ever had in this country of growth. Now you're, you're not living in the same 0.95

00:09:44.020 world anymore and it's not going to become a different world. It is a different world already.

00:09:48.600 And because you've chosen to ignore what's going on in the world, the situation has gotten worse and

00:09:53.060 worse and worse and worse. And so those of you who are entrepreneurs, those of you who are wanting

00:09:57.180 to build a business, you should listen to what the fuck I have to say about the shit going on in the 0.99

00:10:02.120 world, because I've told you this whole entire time that this was going to happen. And I've 0.99

00:10:06.980 explained step by step by step by step. And I've said some uncomfortable things. I said some things

00:10:12.080 that, that you believe maybe you don't agree with, or maybe you think my politics are trash, 0.99

00:10:16.920 but some shit that was uncomfortable for you to say, I hate saying the shit I'm saying. 0.99

00:10:21.100 Yeah. But I won't fucking say it because I care about the people listening to the show 0.99

00:10:25.120 more than I care about the people who fucking hate what I have to say for how you say it. 0.98

00:10:28.560 Yeah. I don't fucking give a fuck, bro. Here's the point. The point is the reason we are in this 1.00

00:10:33.980 situation and the reason you are feeling a squeeze and the reason that you are having more difficulty 0.93

00:10:37.940 and the reason, uh, you know, it's fucking up your business is because you've chosen to stick your 0.98

00:10:44.200 head in the sand on all these other issues that I've been covering. And now you're reaping 0.92

00:10:48.160 what you sowed. Yeah. Okay. So now would be a good time to start paying attention. Now would be a good

00:10:55.000 time to, uh, really get on the freedom train, bro. Get involved, bro. Yeah. And get engaged.

00:10:59.900 I'll say this real quick. So, um, I was actually, I was going to wait, but fuck it. Uh, so I got 1.00

00:11:04.980 selected to be, uh, an election judge for singles County. You know what I'm saying? Like we talk about

00:11:11.160 getting involved. What can we do? Right. Yeah. And I got fucking selected. Yeah. You didn't tell me

00:11:15.320 that. It will just fucking happen not too long ago. Um, like an hour ago. Um, yeah, 0.99

00:11:20.360 I got fucking select. What does that mean? So that means I'm going to be at the fucking 0.98

00:11:23.580 ballots to put me somewhere in North County. Okay. All right. And we know how North County 0.99

00:11:27.040 is, but they said there's no, uh, there's no Republican demographic up there. So they need

00:11:31.100 somebody up there. No, I was like, no, no, no, no. Hold on. There's a massive Republican

00:11:35.440 demographic up there right now, right now. There hasn't been before. That's what the person

00:11:40.920 was saying. Yeah. Yes. And I, it was actually, it was a funny phone conversation, bro, but

00:11:45.700 it's necessary. Listen, the black communities have woken up. Oh, fuck. Yeah. There's still 1.00

00:11:50.800 some people who are still indoctrinated into that, but they're getting it. Oh yeah. Well,

00:11:54.280 I mean, how refreshing would it be to come to, you know, you go place your fucking vote 1.00

00:11:57.820 and you're reassured because you see a fellow black Republican fucking ready that right there 1.00

00:12:03.300 with you. Remember when Tyreek came up to us when we were doing the Blake Schneider Memorial. 0.99

00:12:08.600 Yeah. So 24 year old young man named Tyreek and he's listening to the show because he

00:12:14.220 listens. So what's up, bro? Love you, man. Uh, cream soda. Yeah. We'll tell that story

00:12:20.220 in a second. He definitely called me out for my whiteness on my cream soda preference, but

00:12:25.260 it's all good. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? We, we had a Blake Schneider Memorial, um, who

00:12:30.440 was a friend of ours who was killed in the line of duty, uh, very close to HQ, our old

00:12:34.820 HQ. Um, we raised some money for his family and other families who have lost, um, police

00:12:44.000 officers in the line of duty, right? Uh, charities called backstoppers here in St. Louis. And it's

00:12:48.740 our number one contribution, uh, that and 30 for the kids are where we, we try to raise

00:12:53.340 money. Um, most of the time. And so we have a 5k and, uh, Tyreek showed up. I've never met

00:13:00.940 him before. Never seen him before. We start the 5k. We're not even through the first quarter

00:13:05.160 of the first lap. He shoulders up right next to me. And he's like, Hey man, you don't know

00:13:09.600 me. I'm Tyreek. You reach out his hand, shake hands, start talking. He walked the whole 45 minutes

00:13:14.800 or the whole 5k with, with DJ and I, and we talked the whole time and a 24 year old young

00:13:22.220 man wants to create success. Uh, he's working, he's in a fucking trade right now. He's working 0.99

00:13:26.340 HVAC. That's right. I mean, like working hard working. Yeah. And you know, he's from,

00:13:33.160 uh, a bad part of the city crime wise. Okay. And we started talking and one of the things

00:13:42.180 he was like, he's like, dude, I grew up in a Democrat family. You know, I, I was, uh,

00:13:46.500 I was raised a Democrat. My parents were Democrats. My grandparents were Democrats. And he said,

00:13:50.960 you know, we're starting to understand what's been going on. Um, they've, my family gave me

00:13:58.100 a lot of trouble when I first started trying to talk about these things, but he said they

00:14:02.540 get it and we're starting to, you know, and, and dude, that it's reassuring that whole talk

00:14:07.340 for that. Like, I don't know if like God, like put him there that day for that reason,

00:14:11.780 but like, you know, a lot of times guys, you know, I don't post on social anymore. So I don't

00:14:16.300 see you guys, you know what I'm saying? Like, I don't see the support. I don't see the comments.

00:14:20.560 I don't see. And then when people talk shit, you know, sometimes, but sometimes you guys don't 0.98

00:14:25.860 come out like the way you used to come out. And so I don't, you know, like, so I'm always wondering 0.98

00:14:30.480 if I, if like people are hearing what I'm saying or if it, if it matters or if it, and like that day,

00:14:35.460 particularly I was having a pretty down day. And then here's this young man from my hometown who's

00:14:41.320 telling me how our show has helped inform him, which has helped him inform his family

00:14:47.680 and get them to understand the big picture of manipulation has been happening in the black

00:14:51.900 communities for, for literally 50 years.

00:14:54.040 And he speaks out on it too.

00:14:55.180 Yeah.

00:14:55.400 And he speaks out on it.

00:14:57.140 Yeah. What's his social?

00:14:58.200 Uh, it's, this is going to sound real, real ghetto. Sorry. Sorry, Tyree, but it's

00:15:02.920 hundred mil fitness.

00:15:04.260 Hey, okay.

00:15:05.260 And I'm wrong with that.

00:15:05.960 H U N N I T M I L L fitness.

00:15:09.700 We call that cultural flavor.

00:15:10.980 Yeah. That's all that is wrong with that.

00:15:12.320 Definitely more than salt and pepper.

00:15:13.600 You know what I'm saying?

00:15:14.140 Yeah.

00:15:15.260 Salt, pepper, cream, soda. 1.00

00:15:17.880 Fuck. 1.00

00:15:18.660 So anyway, it's a good young man, man. 1.00

00:15:20.660 Yeah. Tyreek, you're the fucking man. 1.00

00:15:22.380 Uh, and I really appreciate you coming up that day because I think it meant more to 0.99

00:15:26.500 me than what you probably realize.

00:15:28.060 Um, but you know, I'm seeing it, I'm seeing people individually come to me or write me

00:15:35.640 or, or send me letters that are saying like, bro, you know, when you first started talking 0.93

00:15:40.460 about this shit, I thought you guys were like, you know, these far right people they said. 0.99

00:15:45.300 Yeah. 1.00

00:15:45.860 And, uh, and, and those letters almost always come from the black community. 0.97

00:15:49.120 So it's, it's really fucking cool. 0.69

00:15:51.460 And, um, I, I think, you know, it's not Republican or Democrat, you know, like I say, often on 0.60

00:15:59.480 the show, I don't really care for a lot of the Republicans either, but we do need someone

00:16:05.900 to get in.

00:16:07.560 We need people to be in our government system right now who are going to stop the bleeding

00:16:11.700 and start to correct course.

00:16:13.400 And we need to work towards a better reformed America that is not communist and not Marxist.

00:16:21.460 And it's thinking, but it's based on common sense freedom moving forward.

00:16:26.460 You know, I offered some examples on the show yesterday, you know, about the legal system

00:16:31.020 where we should have repercussions when people falsely accuse, um, there, there should be,

00:16:38.320 uh, common sense taxing going on.

00:16:41.220 Not, not this overly, you know, uh, abusive tax code that we live under.

00:16:47.600 You know, there's, there's all kinds of special circumstances for the people that make our

00:16:51.280 laws and rules that we have to live by, but they don't, there's all kinds of things that

00:16:55.220 need to be reformed.

00:16:56.280 And, and, and, and these, the way this is accomplished guys is through cultural reform.

00:17:01.060 It's accomplished by all of us uniting and coming together and realizing like, Hey man, 0.98

00:17:06.020 these powers that be the media, the politicians, uh, the world economic forum motherfucker. 1.00

00:17:11.880 They do not have any of our best interests in mind. 0.98

00:17:14.380 They're working on their best interests and trying to sell us on why it's in our interest

00:17:18.600 to do those things when it clearly is not.

00:17:21.140 And anybody who has a brain that functions can look around and say, clearly things are

00:17:26.560 worse and, and they shouldn't be this way.

00:17:29.940 We live in a free country. 0.99

00:17:31.780 We should be fucking free. 0.97

00:17:33.700 We shouldn't be oppressed by our own government or paying for people to go into government and 0.98

00:17:40.340 come out worth hundreds of millions of dollars because they have special privileges that we

00:17:45.060 don't have.

00:17:45.680 Those things have to stop.

00:17:47.120 And that's not far, right.

00:17:48.340 That's not alt, right. 0.95

00:17:49.840 That's not even fucking right. 0.80

00:17:51.640 It's, it's, it's free. 0.93

00:17:53.700 And we have to get on that same page, man.

00:17:56.360 So anyway, shout out to Tyreek, bro.

00:17:59.380 Appreciate, uh, that entire conversation.

00:18:01.500 And I love watching you hustle every single day.

00:18:04.060 Uh, so what do we got for Q and a?

00:18:05.540 Cause I am limited on time.

00:18:06.700 Yeah, I got some good ones, brother.

00:18:07.700 Let's knock these out.

00:18:08.840 Uh, question number one, uh, Andy, we are a small company of 35 employees.

00:18:14.280 That's a good size company, dude.

00:18:15.660 Most companies never get to 35 employees, bro.

00:18:18.840 Don't sell yourself short.

00:18:20.380 Um, and have been recently running into some issues with team members gossiping about one

00:18:25.340 another.

00:18:25.840 Okay.

00:18:26.080 What has been your experience?

00:18:27.660 Uh, and what has your experience been like with gossip in the workplace and what suggestions

00:18:32.140 do you have on eliminating it and the toxicity it creates?

00:18:35.760 You know, unfortunately we live in a culture where gossip is like a currency for people.

00:18:40.220 Um, there's a lot of people who gossip.

00:18:42.560 There's a lot of people who, uh, they get attention on the downfall of others.

00:18:47.140 Uh, they like to celebrate the hardships of others.

00:18:49.840 And this is all a reflection of their own miserable lives.

00:18:53.400 Okay.

00:18:53.720 Anybody out there who gets their attention from tearing others down, they're doing so because

00:18:59.160 they lack something in their own lives.

00:19:00.880 That's the first thing to understand.

00:19:02.400 There's a human nature aspect to gossip, uh, that really cannot be eliminated.

00:19:06.860 And it is a, it is a active, intentional discipline to not gossip for every single person.

00:19:14.420 Okay.

00:19:14.820 We all have, I'm not saying I'm above it.

00:19:16.700 I'm saying we have to work to eradicate that from our individual character.

00:19:21.700 And that's been something I've had to work on too.

00:19:23.920 Um, I was never a big gossiper, but, uh, I don't think the gossip is a good thing at

00:19:29.700 all.

00:19:29.900 I think gossip's for weak people.

00:19:31.560 I think drama's for weak people.

00:19:33.200 I think that's how weak people get derived the value of their own existence is to gossip

00:19:38.680 and create drama.

00:19:39.820 Right. 1.00

00:19:40.700 Um, most of the time it's not even fucking true shit. 0.99

00:19:43.280 Well, well, we live in an attention economy, right? 0.99

00:19:45.900 So a lot of people have learned that drama and gossip actually get them attention.

00:19:49.820 And so that's, that's why we have this situation in our culture right now.

00:19:53.780 Um, and to eradicate it from your workplace is, is not as simple as coming in and saying,

00:20:00.320 Hey, no gossiping.

00:20:01.200 That's not going to work.

00:20:02.600 Um, what it is, is one, you have, you have to define the values that you expect in your

00:20:08.520 workplace.

00:20:09.140 Okay.

00:20:09.500 And then you have to live those values, uh, all of the time.

00:20:13.360 And so, you know, we used to have this problem back, like how I corrected this problem as

00:20:20.740 much as it can be corrected, uh, was really more.

00:20:23.780 So I made a rule like 10 years ago, 10 years ago, it's probably 12 or 13 years ago, um,

00:20:32.460 about gossiping.

00:20:34.560 And here was the rule.

00:20:35.940 It was very simple.

00:20:37.380 I don't care what you say to me.

00:20:40.740 I don't care.

00:20:42.340 You can say anything to me, open door policy.

00:20:44.920 We can talk directly.

00:20:46.460 Okay. 1.00

00:20:46.880 But if I find out that you're saying the shit to other people, I will fire you. 1.00

00:20:53.100 Okay. 1.00

00:20:54.120 So what, what, and I did that a lot of times.

00:20:57.500 Okay.

00:20:57.940 I, I enforced that rule and it wasn't just about me.

00:21:01.380 It was about how they did it to anybody.

00:21:03.320 Okay.

00:21:04.720 If someone, and what it did was it created a culture where for the most part, now I know

00:21:09.900 there's obviously situations that I don't catch or don't hear about or don't see, but

00:21:14.500 for the most part, it creates a culture of direct communication where if someone has an

00:21:18.460 issue, they can walk up to someone and, and discuss the issue.

00:21:21.840 How it's supposed to be.

00:21:22.620 That's right.

00:21:23.120 Solve the issue face to face, give a hug, give a handshake with respect and walk out.

00:21:27.980 I personally believe that as a culture, one of the biggest things that we need to correct.

00:21:33.960 And this is not just in your company, but this is in culture in the world is that we need to get

00:21:39.420 really, we need to get back to a more respectful way of dealing with each other.

00:21:44.320 And that means having discussions face to face with issues that we truly have with a productive

00:21:49.980 solution in mind.

00:21:50.880 And the people who gossip and drama for attention, in my opinion, those are the people that should

00:21:58.040 be shunned.

00:21:59.000 Those are the people that cause the pain for society.

00:22:01.660 Those are the people that create a situation where most people won't even come out and do

00:22:06.600 great things because they're so afraid of those people. 0.99

00:22:09.540 Well, I have to tell you guys, those people never amount to fucking anything. 0.99

00:22:13.240 They never amount to anything. 1.00

00:22:14.760 They're irrelevant people.

00:22:16.320 You're, I've had many, many, many of those people in my life and I've just kept moving.

00:22:20.480 And they've kept doing their thing and their thing eventually quit working and they had

00:22:25.080 to find a new thing.

00:22:25.860 And then they disappeared into irrelevance because they're not providing any real value.

00:22:29.940 Okay.

00:22:30.360 So you can't let the fear of gossip or frustration of gossip stop you from doing what it is you

00:22:38.660 want to do.

00:22:39.720 Because if you stop, you're stopping for a false reality that doesn't even really affect

00:22:46.220 you.

00:22:46.400 What you'll find is that you continue to move and you continue to progress.

00:22:49.880 And you continue to do what it is you know that you need to do, you will continue to

00:22:54.500 move forward and win.

00:22:56.240 And this is a big myth that people have when it comes to external forces stopping them,

00:23:02.160 right?

00:23:02.380 Like if you say, okay, well, why did you stop that?

00:23:04.560 Whatever that is, like your momentum, your business, your fitness, your this, your that,

00:23:08.300 it will always be some sort of external circumstance that has to do usually with someone else.

00:23:13.720 And if you would have just kept moving, that situation would have changed just like the

00:23:19.400 weather changes every single day.

00:23:20.960 And you would be that much further down the road.

00:23:23.700 And the truth of the matter is, is nobody stops you.

00:23:26.580 You stop you.

00:23:28.840 Nobody stopped you.

00:23:30.340 Think about a time in your life, dude, when you stopped because things got upsetting or

00:23:35.360 someone said something or someone's, you know, made up a rumor about you or someone 0.78

00:23:39.440 fucking did something to you that didn't stop you. 0.98

00:23:43.700 You decided to stop. 1.00

00:23:45.720 Sometimes it's just the thought of somebody.

00:23:47.120 That's right.

00:23:47.440 Yeah, that's right.

00:23:48.200 Oh, bro.

00:23:48.660 That's the biggest thing.

00:23:49.920 People talk about haters, right?

00:23:51.440 Right, right, right, right.

00:23:52.320 Look, dude, for most people, they've never experienced a real hater.

00:23:56.840 They've never had someone poison their dog.

00:24:00.040 They've never had someone break in their house.

00:24:02.180 They've never had someone pour sugar in their gas tank.

00:24:05.240 They've never had someone flatten their tires.

00:24:07.600 They've never had someone stalk them. 1.00

00:24:09.920 They've never had someone paint some shit on the inside of their fucking, of their house. 1.00

00:24:14.840 Guess what? 0.99

00:24:16.120 I've had all of those things happen to me.

00:24:18.120 That's real hate.

00:24:19.340 Right.

00:24:19.920 Okay.

00:24:20.200 People saying things about you.

00:24:22.940 That's not real hate.

00:24:23.880 Or you thinking they'll say some things about you.

00:24:26.120 Well, that's the thing is most people don't even get to the point where people actually

00:24:30.500 say things. 1.00

00:24:31.160 Are saying the shit. 1.00

00:24:31.820 They're imagining the worst case scenario. 1.00

00:24:34.700 Okay.

00:24:35.260 So they tell themselves this story about what people may think if they go out and do whatever

00:24:41.900 it is they're wanting to do.

00:24:43.380 And what ends up happening is they create the scenario in their brain of what could happen.

00:24:49.580 And so because of what could possibly happen, they choose to take zero action or they choose

00:24:55.260 to stop action.

00:24:56.360 And you know what that means?

00:24:57.620 That means that your own biggest hater is actually you.

00:25:01.380 Right.

00:25:01.460 So maybe give some thought.

00:25:03.980 Come on down. 0.94

00:25:04.620 Congratulations.

00:25:05.140 Yes.

00:25:05.780 Like give some thought to that, bro.

00:25:07.860 Yeah.

00:25:08.220 Most of the time it's you seeing the worst case scenario and choosing to not take action

00:25:14.940 because you've seen something happen to someone else or you've had something happen to you.

00:25:21.360 Well, if you've already had that thing happen to you and you're trying to stop it from happening

00:25:27.180 again, do you not realize that it's already happened?

00:25:30.220 Right.

00:25:30.840 And you handled it and you moved through it?

00:25:32.980 Still here.

00:25:33.700 You see what I'm saying?

00:25:34.520 Yep.

00:25:34.720 So I know this isn't necessarily the question, but I think it's relevant to the top.

00:25:40.940 Sure.

00:25:41.140 And I think the best way to rid your office of gossip is to create a culture intentionally

00:25:49.240 of direct communication.

00:25:51.860 If someone, dude, I've had employees sit down right in front of my face and say, bro, I 0.99

00:25:55.660 don't fucking like you. 0.97

00:25:57.160 You know, that's fine. 1.00

00:25:58.300 We don't have to like each other, bro.

00:26:00.260 We got to work together.

00:26:01.300 Right.

00:26:01.640 Right. 0.99

00:26:01.880 And through that direct communication, like, bro, I'm not like, hey, you're fucking fire 0.98

00:26:06.620 for not liking me. 0.95

00:26:07.540 Like you're open to say those things.

00:26:09.500 It's clear communication.

00:26:11.020 Okay.

00:26:11.540 And from those clear communications, resolutions usually arise.

00:26:15.900 Okay.

00:26:16.380 Now, sometimes the resolutions aren't there.

00:26:18.460 Sometimes the resolution is we don't work together anymore.

00:26:21.480 Right.

00:26:22.020 However, there's respect there because of how it was handled.

00:26:24.820 And so having an open door policy when you're a manager or a leader of a small group,

00:26:30.360 you know, is very important.

00:26:33.580 You know what I mean?

00:26:34.120 I, I think that having that open door policy and that open discussion is one of the main

00:26:40.960 keys to having a great environment where there isn't so much cancer in, in the water.

00:26:46.640 Right.

00:26:47.320 Cause dude, like a lot of these people that come to work at your guys' businesses, dude,

00:26:51.020 you got to remember they're not familiar with how you operate.

00:26:55.440 They're not, they don't understand what the game is here.

00:26:57.720 They don't understand how this is.

00:26:59.080 And you're not intentionally designing a culture.

00:27:02.020 So it's free game. 0.99

00:27:03.760 So they're just bringing in all their bad habits, all the shit they've learned out there in 0.99

00:27:07.220 the real world or on social media or in their Facebook group where they trash everybody into 0.99

00:27:11.420 your office.

00:27:12.220 So it's very important for you to have an intentional culture in regards to cancerous

00:27:18.020 behavior.

00:27:19.060 Okay.

00:27:19.280 This isn't about gossip.

00:27:20.720 It's about cancerous behavior because that'll become cancerous behavior.

00:27:25.100 Gossip is cancerous behavior, but it's not the only cancerous behavior.

00:27:29.980 So you want to build a culture based around no cancerous behavior.

00:27:33.860 And the way you do that is you allow for, um, bottom up communication that is open and

00:27:39.580 honest and fair and real without punishment for that communication.

00:27:44.840 And so what ends up happening is people start to trust that they can come to you so they 0.98

00:27:50.520 don't go to the fucking person next to them and say, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, 0.99

00:27:53.340 blah, blah. 1.00

00:27:53.900 Right. 0.99

00:27:54.180 And if they do, that's cancerous behavior and it's grounds for fucking termination. 0.99

00:27:58.180 Exactly. 0.99

00:27:59.820 Love it.

00:28:00.320 Uh, any question number two, uh, Andy, what do you look for in potential executives?

00:28:05.960 Uh, I have about 15 employees, uh, and I've been needing someone to manage some backend

00:28:10.360 things for the company.

00:28:11.760 Uh, they would be leading a team of nine or so.

00:28:14.440 The issue is, is that they're all amazing employees with exception of one who just isn't

00:28:19.020 management material, but no one has really emerged as quote unquote, the one, how do you

00:28:24.740 handle this?

00:28:25.260 Well, I mean, there's a couple of different ways to handle this, you know, and companies

00:28:29.920 do this number of different ways.

00:28:31.480 Um, how, how I handle it is not necessarily the only way most companies in that scenario

00:28:37.780 would probably hire someone with a nice resume who has got a C-level executive title at some

00:28:45.520 other place.

00:28:46.320 You have to pay them a lot of money.

00:28:48.100 Um, and they're going to come in and operate the thing that's outside in.

00:28:51.800 Yes.

00:28:52.000 That is the solution that most companies will do. 0.99

00:28:56.940 And that's also why most companies have a shitty culture. 0.84

00:29:01.220 I have always been a believer from promoting within. 0.91

00:29:04.000 It sounds like the way this person worded that wants to do it.

00:29:06.880 Yeah.

00:29:07.060 Yeah.

00:29:07.200 It wants to do that, which I believe is the right way.

00:29:09.000 It's also, it's a slower way, but it's the, it's this for sure way.

00:29:12.620 Um, and so in that scenario where no one's emerged, the reason no one's probably emerged

00:29:19.860 is because they're not aware that you're actually looking for a new career for one of them.

00:29:25.120 So, you know, you have to let people know in your ability to paint the vision for the

00:29:30.900 upward mobility of the company, that there are these opportunities, right?

00:29:34.980 Like as the leader of the company, one of the biggest things that you have to do if you

00:29:41.180 want to continue to grow is that your vision has to be communicated clearly over and over

00:29:46.380 and over and over again, and every single correction, every single talk, every single

00:29:51.700 communication, every single, uh, you know, contact that you have with the team should

00:29:58.580 be tied into the company growing as a whole and their position that they want to achieve

00:30:03.680 eventually.

00:30:04.360 And so what I think is probably most likely happening here is they don't understand the

00:30:10.340 opportunity that's available.

00:30:11.620 Uh, because if they did and they truly understood and believe that you were going to grow the

00:30:16.280 company in that direction, they would be fighting over it. 0.99

00:30:18.380 It'd be a fucking gladiator. 0.99

00:30:19.380 Yeah. 1.00

00:30:19.860 Right.

00:30:20.540 And you don't want that either.

00:30:21.960 Like you don't want to create a hostile competition.

00:30:24.860 You want healthy competition. 0.99

00:30:27.160 So, um, my suggestion is to get them all in a fucking room, including the one, you know, 0.99

00:30:32.980 the, the runt, right. 0.99

00:30:35.200 Right.

00:30:35.640 Get them in there too.

00:30:36.640 Yeah.

00:30:37.020 And, uh, and say, Hey guys, look, this is what I'm trying to do.

00:30:39.580 This is what we're, we're trying to do here.

00:30:41.300 Okay.

00:30:41.620 You're all part of this.

00:30:42.680 Right.

00:30:43.060 Um, we're going to need this and we're going to need that.

00:30:45.480 And we're going to need this and we're going to need that.

00:30:47.580 And I could tell you, you, what would they say?

00:30:49.460 I have nine people.

00:30:50.440 Yeah.

00:30:50.580 I'd be running nine to people.

00:30:51.540 So a team of 10.

00:30:52.300 Okay. 0.99

00:30:52.860 So your whole team of 10 for your company to get where the fuck you want it to go. 0.98

00:30:58.160 And I don't even have to, I don't even have to know where your company is going. 0.98

00:31:00.760 I'm just telling you to get any reasonable size of company.

00:31:04.500 That team of 10 should all be brought up as leaders because you're going to need that

00:31:09.400 many leaders to build a company of any sizable significance or wealth.

00:31:13.600 Yeah.

00:31:14.720 Period.

00:31:15.380 That's right.

00:31:15.660 Let me, let me ask you, there's any followup on that?

00:31:17.340 Cause you know, you're the executive team here in this company. 0.98

00:31:20.420 First one for, uh, for example, man, you got some, you got some, some tenured fucking people, 0.97

00:31:26.300 people that have been in the ground for, you know, over 10 years. 0.98

00:31:29.580 You know what I'm saying?

00:31:31.160 Looking back at it now, was there a way like when you, when, when these employees, those

00:31:35.180 same executives, when you first saw them, when you first hired them, like, did you know

00:31:39.740 that that person would eventually be running the company?

00:31:42.760 What was that?

00:31:43.280 Like, what was that like?

00:31:43.880 Just quickly. 1.00

00:31:44.780 Fuck no. 1.00

00:31:45.500 These, all of our guys, um, all of our team members on the executive level, except one. 1.00

00:31:52.060 Um, yeah, except one of them started here at $7 a fucking hour or whatever the fuck a minimum 0.98

00:32:00.020 wage was at the time. 0.98

00:32:01.420 Right.

00:32:02.000 Yeah.

00:32:02.440 Um, and I did exactly what I just communicated over and over and over again.

00:32:07.980 And they're, these are the people that chose to come with me.

00:32:10.460 Yeah.

00:32:10.920 You know, there's been, there's been hundreds of people who I've given this talk to that

00:32:15.020 have chosen to not come with me.

00:32:16.620 And that's okay too, because they don't have to be on my path.

00:32:19.860 They don't have to be on our mission.

00:32:21.740 They don't have to like, bro, sometimes people leave and they go do other things and they

00:32:26.960 become successful at those things.

00:32:28.240 And I personally am equally as proud of those people because what they did was they took

00:32:32.620 the lessons that they were able to absorb here while they were here and go create some 0.99

00:32:36.620 awesome shit. 0.99

00:32:37.360 Yeah. 1.00

00:32:37.600 Hey, where are you going there from?

00:32:38.700 Oh yeah.

00:32:39.160 But dude, I don't even need the credit. 0.67

00:32:40.920 I fucking think it's awesome. 0.89

00:32:42.280 You know what I mean? 0.85

00:32:42.760 So, um, the, you know, I think it's important to remember that everybody has their own path.

00:32:53.460 Everybody has their own journey.

00:32:54.920 Everybody wants their own life.

00:32:56.500 And some people, um, you know, you could have the greatest opportunity in the world.

00:33:01.460 It's just not going to be for them. 0.96

00:33:02.520 And that's, that's fucking okay. 0.88

00:33:04.000 That's a healthy way to think, you know what I'm saying? 0.97

00:33:06.160 It's just no different than a relationship. 0.99

00:33:07.640 Like, like a lot of you motherfuckers out there in these relationships tied up with 1.00

00:33:11.320 these people and you're like, I fucking have to have them. 1.00

00:33:14.720 And if they leave, I'm fucking devastated. 0.99

00:33:16.460 And I'm this and that. 0.97

00:33:17.480 Well, how much, you know, and then they break up.

00:33:19.460 Right. 0.99

00:33:19.700 And then they're fucking trashing each other. 1.00

00:33:21.440 They're talking shit on each other. 1.00

00:33:23.060 Bro, you motherfuckers that do that are the clowns of the internet. 1.00

00:33:26.380 Most annoying. 1.00

00:33:27.020 No, people who are together and then trash each other publicly are the clowns of the fucking 1.00

00:33:33.600 internet. 1.00

00:33:33.980 Oh, like we all didn't just watch you for the last, however many years make post after

00:33:39.920 post, after post, after post of how awesome this person was.

00:33:44.160 And now, because they want to move to something else or you wanted to, or now they're a total 1.00

00:33:49.180 piece of shit. 1.00

00:33:50.060 The fuck out of here, bro. 1.00

00:33:51.520 Nobody buys that shit. 1.00

00:33:52.720 The internet's smarter than that now. 1.00

00:33:54.440 You know, it's just like when it keeps receipts now, bro.

00:33:57.820 It's just like 10 years ago when a customer would just destroy a company online and everybody

00:34:03.620 believed it.

00:34:04.660 Now people are smart enough to understand that there's perspective and sides to a situation.

00:34:10.580 Context.

00:34:10.740 Yes.

00:34:11.580 So the internet has gotten smart.

00:34:13.300 So stop doing that. 1.00

00:34:14.240 You look fucking ridiculous. 1.00

00:34:15.820 But the point is, if you had an attitude of, okay, I understand that. 1.00

00:34:21.400 I appreciate everything that we've had together, but, you know, I can appreciate that we're

00:34:28.280 doing this.

00:34:29.080 It's just not you.

00:34:29.560 Yeah.

00:34:29.860 And bro, think how much heartache and frustration and pain having a perspective like that will

00:34:37.880 actually save you.

00:34:39.360 You see what I'm saying?

00:34:40.600 Right.

00:34:41.240 Right.

00:34:41.420 So, but you have to, you have to have self-confidence and you have to believe in yourself.

00:34:46.280 Too many people out there are attaching their identities to a relationship or a job or a 0.96

00:34:51.260 career or a fucking outcome that is dependent on someone else. 0.99

00:34:56.800 Your happiness should never be dependent on a partner or a fucking job or a career. 1.00

00:35:02.140 It should be dependent on who the fuck you are and the standard you hold to yourself. 0.99

00:35:07.160 This is why 75 hard and live hard is such a great way to live because what it does is 0.99

00:35:13.320 it teaches you to believe in yourself and know your own worth, your real worth as a

00:35:18.440 human being.

00:35:19.520 Okay.

00:35:20.180 So you don't, you don't need things.

00:35:22.320 You don't need people to believe in you.

00:35:24.040 You know what you're capable of and you're able to truly believe that. 1.00

00:35:27.460 And if someone walks away from you, you're okay with it because you're a bad motherfucker. 1.00

00:35:33.640 Like you see what I'm saying? 1.00

00:35:34.980 And most people have never lived in that reality.

00:35:37.160 The reality themselves.

00:35:38.540 And so they suffer because they're afraid to lose the thing.

00:35:41.880 Right.

00:35:42.420 Yeah.

00:35:42.900 Um, and so a lot of you guys have a lot of work to do.

00:35:47.100 You know, uh, the live hard program is a great place to start episode 80.

00:35:50.920 You can listen to it there.

00:35:52.320 Uh, you can also listen to it on episode 208, but this is what will teach you how to get

00:35:57.060 to this point of what I'm talking about of, of not fearing, uh, separation.

00:36:02.340 Right.

00:36:03.140 But, but it goes into business just like we're talking now.

00:36:06.780 And you know, you have to be, you, you, your intent has to be right for your team, bro. 1.00

00:36:11.600 They could sense that shit. 1.00

00:36:12.720 Like if you have fucking nine people and you go up there and you tell them some bullshit 1.00

00:36:17.160 story about how the fuck you're going to grow the company and this and that, you know, they 1.00

00:36:21.660 might believe it once if you're really good. 0.99

00:36:23.520 Right.

00:36:23.700 But they're going to start building this track history.

00:36:25.580 Well, no, they're going to observe.

00:36:27.360 Are you actually doing that?

00:36:29.080 Right.

00:36:29.360 Like a lot of you guys out there as bosses, CEOs, entrepreneurs, like you're, you're looking

00:36:34.940 at your, your employees the complete wrong way.

00:36:37.820 Like you're seeing them as a revenue generator for your personal life. 0.99

00:36:42.280 And if that's all they are to you, then you can't expect them to ever really give a fuck 0.84

00:36:46.940 about your company. 0.97

00:36:48.000 Yeah.

00:36:48.280 Okay. 0.96

00:36:48.600 But if you actually do give a fuck about their career and you see it as what I think, what 0.94

00:36:56.260 I call, you know, a responsible capitalism or ethical camp capitalism, which is how I 0.93

00:37:02.820 see things. 0.98

00:37:03.480 I look at every person in this building and I say, fuck dude, I'm responsible for all 1.00

00:37:08.260 these motherfuckers, all their bills, all their fucking life, all their progress. 1.00

00:37:11.720 Like if we don't win, like as a company, regardless of me, right? 1.00

00:37:15.440 Like, cause I'm in a good spot in life, regardless of my own spot. 0.98

00:37:19.760 If we don't win, I fucking fail them. 0.98

00:37:22.740 And that's how I look at it. 0.99

00:37:24.380 That's how our team looks at it.

00:37:25.880 You see what I'm saying?

00:37:26.840 And so there's a, it's a perspective switch that you have to, it's really leadership maturity

00:37:32.780 is what it is.

00:37:34.000 Like, you know, because dude, you should just assume that you'll eventually get everything

00:37:38.680 that you want. 0.86

00:37:39.320 Everything you fucking want, you, you will get. 0.99

00:37:42.120 Okay. 0.99

00:37:42.560 Like, what about after that?

00:37:45.200 What about when you have the income you want and you have the home you want and you have

00:37:49.620 the lifestyle you want, whatever it is.

00:37:52.260 I'm not saying what it is or it isn't, but okay.

00:37:54.400 Let's just assume as an entrepreneur right now, you have that.

00:37:58.480 Now what?

00:38:00.240 Now what? 1.00

00:38:01.540 Do you think it's cool that you have all that shit and those employees of yours are fucking 1.00

00:38:05.100 having a hard time? 1.00

00:38:06.780 What about their goals?

00:38:07.560 What about their dreams?

00:38:08.460 Yeah, that's real, bro.

00:38:09.060 You see what I'm saying?

00:38:09.660 And that's that, if you want a special company, that's the key.

00:38:15.180 The key is the true intent.

00:38:16.960 Okay.

00:38:17.380 And that's an intent that you have to continue to audit in your leadership team.

00:38:21.920 You have to continue to audit in your culture.

00:38:24.500 You have to continue to audit in yourself because even when you are in tune with this,

00:38:29.340 you could still have moments because we are human beings of selfishness.

00:38:33.560 Right.

00:38:34.060 Right.

00:38:34.280 That's like why one of our core values here is be selfless.

00:38:37.440 All right.

00:38:39.560 But regardless, dude, the point is you could solve this really fast in two ways.

00:38:44.960 One, be better at painting the vision.

00:38:46.960 Actually, three ways.

00:38:48.280 Two, follow up on the vision that you promise.

00:38:51.040 Okay.

00:38:51.760 And three, have the proper intent and responsibility for the livelihoods of your employees.

00:38:57.340 That's right.

00:38:58.160 If you do those three things, you will not have a problem with leadership emerging.

00:39:02.340 Andy, guys, our third and final question, Andy, question number three.

00:39:05.720 Okay.

00:39:08.100 You've talked about long-term goals, short-term goals, right?

00:39:13.360 Tagging in this question specifically about the powerless.

00:39:16.040 When you're about to attack a massive obstacle for the day or you have a huge critical task,

00:39:22.340 what's your mindset like and what steps do you take to prepare yourself for it?

00:39:27.240 Well, first of all, you got to realize I've been doing this for a very long time, okay?

00:39:34.860 I've been using this system for more than 20 years.

00:39:40.160 I've also been in business for a very long time.

00:39:42.200 So, for me, I don't really think about it.

00:39:48.800 There's no thought problem. 0.98

00:39:49.840 I don't have this rain dance or some shit I do before I fucking go and attach it. 1.00

00:39:55.180 Bullshit. 1.00

00:39:55.320 I've seen it. 1.00

00:39:55.940 Yeah.

00:39:56.220 Yeah. 0.97

00:39:56.640 No shit. 0.99

00:39:57.440 Shh. 1.00

00:39:57.900 Shh.

00:39:58.940 Shh.

00:39:59.920 Bro, come on.

00:40:00.680 Are you going to do me like that?

00:40:02.200 All right.

00:40:03.840 It was a good dance, wasn't it?

00:40:05.140 That's secret sauce, baby.

00:40:06.120 I got it.

00:40:06.700 Yeah. 1.00

00:40:07.100 There's no salt and pepper in that motherfucker. 0.99

00:40:08.560 All right, look, dude, the truth is, you know, I've put in so much work for so long 0.99

00:40:17.140 that it's just me checking things off as critical tasks is just part of my life and who I am

00:40:22.760 at this point.

00:40:23.600 Yeah.

00:40:25.500 So, there is no-

00:40:26.380 It's like tying your shoes.

00:40:27.480 Yeah, bro.

00:40:28.140 Like, I don't wake up in the day.

00:40:29.560 Like, that's-

00:40:30.560 So, like, you know, like, when people say, like, oh, I got this-

00:40:35.860 What's your morning routine, right? 0.88

00:40:37.240 And they're like, oh, it's 15 minutes of Tai Chi, you know, like, fucking 10 more minutes 0.97

00:40:43.880 of reflection and all these things. 0.98

00:40:45.620 I can appreciate that.

00:40:48.180 But there is no right way, first of all, okay? 0.98

00:40:50.800 And second of all, I would only listen to the motherfuckers who actually have the results 1.00

00:40:55.100 to prove that this actually is a good way, right? 0.99

00:40:58.020 Like, if, you know, I don't even-

00:41:02.960 I'm not even going to get the names, but my point is- 0.97

00:41:04.360 You guys know what the fuck that means. 0.98

00:41:05.560 Yes. 1.00

00:41:05.840 If they haven't produced real shit and they aren't real and they don't have real success 0.99

00:41:09.920 on a mass scale, their morning routine doesn't necessarily work. 0.99

00:41:14.480 That's about the nicest way I can put it, okay?

00:41:16.780 There has to be real world results. 0.99

00:41:18.740 That's the problem I have with, like, so many of these fucking coaches out there. 0.99

00:41:22.260 It's like, you're coaching, but what do you have to show for your methods of coaching? 0.99

00:41:28.120 Like, Hani Rambod has won 20 motherfucking Olympias. 0.88

00:41:31.820 He's a pretty good coach, okay? 0.96

00:41:34.540 That's a real result.

00:41:35.740 He tells me to boil water before I drink it. 0.99

00:41:37.520 I'll fucking do it. 0.99

00:41:38.760 That's what I'm saying, dude. 0.98

00:41:39.920 But, like, you know, there's especially in entrepreneurship and life coaching, there's a lot of people 0.70

00:41:45.420 with shitty lives calling themselves lives coaches.

00:41:47.920 There's a lot of people with no successful business other than, you know, selling you how 0.99

00:41:53.880 to win shit, like, that doesn't make sense. 0.99

00:41:58.200 Like, it shouldn't make sense to you. 0.99

00:42:01.020 So, validate the real world results that the person's producing if they're trying to sell

00:42:05.480 you on their morning routine.

00:42:06.520 Um, and by the way, it's not just their financial success. 0.99

00:42:10.420 Like, what the fuck does their life look like? 0.93

00:42:12.580 What is their, where is their company? 0.99

00:42:15.160 What are their employees like?

00:42:16.620 Right.

00:42:16.840 Where, what's their, uh, you know, what's their lifestyle?

00:42:19.500 What's their fitness look like?

00:42:20.880 Are they, like, are they fit and healthy and in good shape and, like, taking care of business? 0.99

00:42:24.500 Are they some, like, weasel little wormy dude, uh, that, you know, looks like shit that is 1.00

00:42:30.800 trying to tell you how to fuck it on your morning routine. 1.00

00:42:33.300 Motherfucker, what the fuck are you, what do you, like, let's be smart here. 1.00

00:42:36.480 Right. 1.00

00:42:36.740 That's all I'm saying.

00:42:38.200 Um, so, I can appreciate this for the beginner, right?

00:42:42.800 Like, you need to create an effective routine.

00:42:45.760 Uh, but the mindset really ultimately comes down to what I call zero options mentality.

00:42:53.700 Okay.

00:42:55.060 Uh, zero options mentality is the mentality that I just don't have another choice.

00:42:59.620 I don't have a choice.

00:43:01.340 My other choice for not doing my critical tasks is actually digging ditches.

00:43:06.920 I don't want to dig ditches.

00:43:09.180 Right.

00:43:09.900 Right.

00:43:10.240 Like you're, you have to understand this.

00:43:12.060 This is the reality.

00:43:13.560 You either are going to succeed or you are going to be everything that you're afraid of.

00:43:19.900 You should consider that everything you're afraid of becoming.

00:43:23.700 Is the alternative to you not executing on your critical tasks.

00:43:28.100 So what's, what's better.

00:43:29.880 And you should choose the harder path, like the immediate harder path, the delayed gratification

00:43:35.760 path, because I could tell you this.

00:43:38.040 I've executed consistently for a very long time and it's been very difficult and it's been

00:43:46.180 very, very frustrating and it's driven me literally insane a couple of times.

00:43:51.140 Okay. 0.99

00:43:51.700 But the alternative was me living a life of digging fucking holes, which would have sucked 1.00

00:44:00.940 way fucking worse. 1.00

00:44:02.220 Okay. 0.98

00:44:03.000 And that's your choices.

00:44:04.300 If you're 20 years old and you're listening here, that's your choice.

00:44:07.340 Your choice is a little bit different than what mine probably was.

00:44:10.380 Your choice is either win and become everything that you think you can be and everything you

00:44:15.940 should be and everything, in my opinion, that you're obligated to be so that other people

00:44:20.180 can see it's possible.

00:44:22.300 Or you're probably going to be on government assistance.

00:44:26.500 You're probably going to be hooked up to metaverse.

00:44:29.160 You're probably going to be highly medicated.

00:44:32.440 You're probably going to be very overweight.

00:44:35.520 You're probably going to be very frustrated, unhappy, and depressed. 0.99

00:44:39.320 And you're probably gonna be fucking miserable and you won't be able to break out of it because 0.98

00:44:43.100 you're in it too hard. 0.99

00:44:44.500 So you have two choices.

00:44:45.760 You can either become what you're afraid of becoming, or you could become the best version 0.99

00:44:49.300 of your whole fucking life that you dream about, that you are afraid to tell anybody 0.99

00:44:53.080 about because you're afraid they'll laugh at you. 1.00

00:44:54.700 And then you go out in public and execute against that for the next fucking 15 years, 1.00

00:44:59.420 every single fucking day. 0.99

00:45:00.920 So to me, I have no other choice because I'm not willing to accept digging holes. 0.99

00:45:06.700 I'm not doing it. 0.99

00:45:08.540 I've dug enough fucking holes. 1.00

00:45:10.300 Yeah. 1.00

00:45:10.800 Okay.

00:45:12.180 My life, whether what happens, it doesn't matter.

00:45:16.380 Every single day, I'm going to wake up, I'm going to execute, and I don't have a choice. 0.55

00:45:21.060 And this is why the plan B mentality is so fucking toxic to success.

00:45:25.820 You know, every time I say this, every time one of my videos goes viral about this, I get 1.00

00:45:30.680 all these fucking idiots in the comments. 1.00

00:45:33.040 Oh, only a moron doesn't have plan B. 1.00

00:45:34.840 Okay. 1.00

00:45:35.020 Let me see your results.

00:45:36.240 Right.

00:45:36.880 Right.

00:45:37.540 Let me see your platform to talk on.

00:45:39.040 Hold on.

00:45:39.720 Hold on.

00:45:40.240 Let me see your life.

00:45:41.560 Let me see your relationships.

00:45:43.200 Let me see your body.

00:45:44.660 Let me see your fitness.

00:45:46.060 Let me see your blood work. 1.00

00:45:47.540 Let me see your fucking, your, uh, your financial statements. 1.00

00:45:50.760 Let me see your company. 1.00

00:45:52.180 Okay. 1.00

00:45:52.800 And then maybe I'll listen to what the fuck you have to say. 1.00

00:45:55.300 But until that, I'm telling you as someone who has a good representation of all those fucking 1.00

00:46:00.580 things I just said, if you have a plan B, you're going to lose to someone who doesn't. 0.97

00:46:05.360 That's the thing that people don't get.

00:46:07.480 Okay. 1.00

00:46:08.200 Because a motherfucker who goes all in with zero option mentality, I'm going to do this 1.00

00:46:12.820 or I'm going to fucking die doing it, will always beat the person who says, well, here's 1.00

00:46:18.180 my plan. 0.99

00:46:18.760 And if this doesn't work, then I can do this.

00:46:21.040 That's a good deal.

00:46:21.580 Go back to doing this.

00:46:22.340 Yes.

00:46:22.600 Because that person is so much more heavily invested that even if they are a lesser skillset

00:46:29.000 and have lesser resources, they will still beat the person who is not completely invested

00:46:34.080 mentally.

00:46:35.360 It's math, bro.

00:46:36.280 No, no, no.

00:46:36.720 It is, but it's mental investment.

00:46:38.440 Yeah.

00:46:39.080 Do you get what I'm saying?

00:46:40.160 Hell yeah.

00:46:40.460 Does this make sense?

00:46:41.160 Absolutely.

00:46:41.540 Because every time I say it, I get all the internet experts saying, well, you're only 1.00

00:46:46.540 a fucking idiot would have a plan B. 1.00

00:46:48.600 Well, then I'm an idiot. 1.00

00:46:50.600 Right. 1.00

00:46:51.380 Okay.

00:46:51.820 Because my plan is this. 1.00

00:46:53.240 I'm going to fucking win or I'm going to die on the process of winning. 1.00

00:47:00.040 That is it. 0.99

00:47:01.080 There's no other alternative for me and there never will be an alternative.

00:47:04.400 This is why most of the very successful, very wealthy people I know are also the hardest

00:47:11.420 working people.

00:47:12.280 I know the people who don't have to work anymore are the people that usually work the hardest.

00:47:17.320 Do you think there's a coincidence in that?

00:47:20.960 Yep.

00:47:21.680 Do you see what I'm saying?

00:47:22.640 You either have to decide to get hungry for life or at some point you will be starving.

00:47:28.720 This is not a temporary thing.

00:47:30.480 This is not three years.

00:47:31.460 It's not five years. 0.99

00:47:32.360 You have to build yourself into this machine that executes regardless of what the fuck is 0.79

00:47:38.720 going on in the world, regardless of what's going on in your life, regardless of, especially 0.89

00:47:43.640 whether you feel like it or not, which most people can't even get past that, which is

00:47:49.800 why most people are most people.

00:47:51.800 So we have to be honest with ourselves. 0.98

00:47:53.780 If you want to win, if you want to dominate, if you want everything that you fucking say 0.98

00:47:58.220 that you want on the inside of your heart that you're embarrassed to even admit, you 1.00

00:48:01.920 have no other fucking option but to execute. 1.00

00:48:06.260 So you're either about it or you're really full of shit and your actions tell the story. 1.00

00:48:11.440 And I'm not saying that to be mean. 0.99

00:48:12.720 I'm saying as a matter of fact, your goals really are your goals and your actions will 0.99

00:48:18.180 back that up or you're just spouting off bullshit like most people do. 0.99

00:48:23.020 And most people, here's the fucking great tragedy in this because people are like, Andy, why 1.00

00:48:27.420 do you do this? 0.97

00:48:28.060 Why do you care? 1.00

00:48:29.280 Well, first of all, I have a huge fucking heart. 0.98

00:48:31.240 But second of all, I've won being that person. 1.00

00:48:35.780 I am the lazy motherfucker. 1.00

00:48:37.960 I am the weak motherfucker. 1.00

00:48:39.840 I am the flawed motherfucker. 1.00

00:48:41.340 And I was still able to figure it out how to win with these simple systems of execution. 1.00

00:48:46.040 So if I can do this coming from fucking nowhere in the middle of nowhere out here in Missouri 0.99

00:48:52.700 to most of the world, most of the world can't point where the fuck I live on a fucking map. 0.99

00:48:56.900 Right. 1.00

00:48:57.380 Okay.

00:48:57.720 You can do the same.

00:49:02.420 And that's why I'm so passionate about it.

00:49:04.360 That's why you guys, you guys say, oh, he's so intense.

00:49:07.080 Why is it? 1.00

00:49:07.580 What the fuck? 0.99

00:49:08.180 Is that a care? 1.00

00:49:08.800 No, I care because I know what you are capable of.

00:49:13.900 You just aren't aware of what you're capable of.

00:49:16.960 And if you were aware of what you're capable of, you would be pouring yourself into that

00:49:21.320 because it's a real outcome.

00:49:23.600 It's a real outcome.

00:49:26.640 You can have that, but you're not going to have it by spreading your resources across

00:49:32.540 multiple plans and contingency plans because there's too much competition.

00:49:37.200 And there's too many people who are obsessed with becoming the best at what they do and

00:49:43.460 obsessed with becoming the best that they can be in all areas that you, there's too many

00:49:48.100 of those people to win half-assing it, no matter how much talent you have.

00:49:53.600 So when I say don't have a plan B, that's what I mean.

00:49:56.420 When I say have zero option mentality, this is what I'm talking about.

00:49:59.440 I'm talking about a mentality of no other choice. 0.99

00:50:03.380 And by the way, that's an easy mentality to have when you don't have shit because you 0.99

00:50:09.180 really don't have any options. 0.99

00:50:10.980 And that's the most people, most people have that, right? 0.97

00:50:15.680 The reason they get up and they go to work and take into a job they fucking hate is because 0.97

00:50:21.260 they don't have any other options. 0.99

00:50:22.940 They have to do it or they're fucking star. 0.98

00:50:25.480 But if you could trick your mind to always believe that to be the truth, as you escalate 1.00

00:50:31.620 up through the ladders of success, holy shit, you can't be stopped. 0.99

00:50:36.920 Because you have all the options. 0.99

00:50:37.980 Yes.

00:50:38.200 Because comfort kills this mentality for most people.

00:50:42.940 So my question to you is you might be doing pretty good.

00:50:47.600 You might be pretty fit.

00:50:48.980 Your bank account might look real nice. 1.00

00:50:50.860 You might have a nice home, drive a nice car, have a nice fucking life. 0.99

00:50:56.080 But what could you be doing better? 1.00

00:50:59.760 What could you be doing better? 0.99

00:51:01.400 And if we're honest with ourselves, there's a whole lot of shit we could be doing better. 0.99

00:51:04.920 And that shit that you could be doing better that you're not doing better, somebody else 0.99

00:51:09.580 is doing better. 1.00

00:51:10.520 And that's the point in the realization that I talk about all the time.

00:51:14.680 We live in the natural order.

00:51:16.780 They may make you think that we don't.

00:51:19.140 They may propagate you to the point of believing that everything is going to be equal even if

00:51:23.240 they legislate it and do all these things. 0.99

00:51:24.680 It never will be because of this fucking principle of natural order. 0.98

00:51:28.740 There will always be people who are unsatisfied with their bank account. 0.98

00:51:33.280 There will always be people who are unsatisfied with their fitness.

00:51:35.740 There will always be people who are unsatisfied with their relationship capacities. 0.97

00:51:38.980 There will always be people who want to get better in every single fucking area of life. 1.00

00:51:42.820 It's just who the fuck they are. 1.00

00:51:44.620 And those people will be the people who fucking win. 1.00

00:51:49.100 End of story. 0.99

00:51:51.360 So you don't really have a choice, bro.

00:51:54.780 So you ask what my mindset is, what my routine is.

00:51:57.800 I don't need a routine because I understand that if I don't execute,

00:52:00.720 I'm going to become what I'm most afraid of. 0.98

00:52:04.760 Fucking love it, man. 0.99

00:52:06.480 Fucking love it. 0.99

00:52:07.280 Guys, Andy, that's three. 0.99

00:52:09.780 Go pay that fee.

00:52:10.880 Yeah, guys.

00:52:11.320 I appreciate you guys.

00:52:12.200 I love you guys.

00:52:12.940 Please share the show.

00:52:13.840 And as a reminder, the MFCEO project is coming back.

00:52:17.420 I will have announcements on that over the next few weeks.

00:52:20.480 I'm very excited about it.

00:52:22.000 And I know you are, too.

00:52:23.280 So with that being said, please share the show.

00:52:25.880 Yeah.

00:52:26.380 Went from sleeping on the floor.

00:52:28.220 Now my jewelry box froze. 1.00

00:52:29.920 Fuck a bowl. 1.00

00:52:30.720 Fuck a stove. 1.00

00:52:31.580 Counted millions in the cold. 1.00

00:52:33.240 Bad bitch. 1.00

00:52:34.080 Booty swole. 1.00

00:52:34.920 Got her on bankroll.

00:52:36.560 Can't fold.

00:52:37.440 Doesn't know.

00:52:38.240 Headshot.

00:52:39.080 Case closed.

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - October 20, 2022

401. Q&AF： Gossip In The Workplace, Potential Executive & Mindset For Huge Power List Tasks

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - October 20, 2022

401. Q&#x26;AF： Gossip In The Workplace, Potential Executive &#x26; Mindset For Huge Power List Tasks

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401. Q&AF： Gossip In The Workplace, Potential Executive & Mindset For Huge Power List Tasks