403. Q&AF： Instilling Winning Qualities In Children, Free Vs. Charging Services & Approaching Content Ownership
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In this episode of The Realest, we talk about how to become a better, more complete, winning human being. We also talk about why it's important to have the courage to admit that you're not perfect, and that's okay.
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What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realest say goodbye to
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the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality
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guys. Today we have Q and AF. This is your first time listening. This is where you submit the
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questions and I answer them and you could submit those to email those questions in to
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askandydandyfriscilla.com. Okay. And it can be about anything, personal development, how to win,
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how to kick ass, how to do really anything when it comes to personal development slash
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entrepreneurship. Other times when you tune into the show, we have different shows within the show.
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Um, sometimes we have CTI that is cruise the internet. That's where we put up topics on the
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screen and we talk shit about them. And then we talk about what the problem is. And then we talk
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about what the solution is. Um, and then on Q and AF, which is what you're going to hear today,
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we talk about how to make a better, more complete winning human being. And if you're a better,
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more complete winning human being, uh, collectively, if we all do that, the problems that we identify
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will naturally correct themselves. So this is a peanut butter and jelly type situation. This is
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where, uh, we have how to get better personally. And then how do we, uh, activate our skillset to
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solve these big problems, uh, on a social scale. Then sometimes when you tune in, we have real talk.
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Real talk is, uh, five to 20 minutes of me, basically just giving you a speech. Uh, some of
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you call it a rant. Some of you call it an aggressive rant. Uh, really it's just my internal
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dialogue of what I think needs to happen to make things better. Um, then sometimes like other shows,
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we do have an interview style format, which is more of a conversation. Uh, many people like to
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criticize me on my interviewing skills. Uh, well, you can't be fucking great at everything. Okay. I got
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my fucking cracks. Um, one of them is an actual interview, uh, because I interrupt people and I,
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it's called a conversation motherfuckers, but get with it. All right. Now I've gotten a lot better
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over the years, but I'm still not that great. Uh, so if you don't like it, you can go listen to
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someone else interview people because every other motherfucking podcast is exactly the same. All right.
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So that's the rundown of the show here. And then for all of this wonderful, uh, information that I'm
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about to bestow upon you, uh, we have a fee. The fee is very simple guys. I don't take money from
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other companies, uh, because I'm not going to be beholden to other companies. Uh, I do this shit
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out of my own pocket. I produced a show out of my own pocket. I don't fill your fucking ears with 20
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minutes of fucking ads every show. Um, and in return, I would appreciate if you would spread
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the show for me. Okay. That's the fee. The fee is tell a friend, uh, share the show, help us grow the
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show. These things matter because if you're not going to preach the message, uh, at least have the
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courage enough to share the message and allow me to preach it and stand by it. Okay. Uh, so I
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appreciate you guys. If you find value in the show, please share it. With that being said, um, let's
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start the show. What do we got, dude? I got some good ones for you. You always do. What's going on,
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dude? Dude. Uh, you know, I I've been kind of unplugged. Yeah, I've been a little unplugged. Uh,
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so, you know, I got to throw that tinfoil back on, but no, I've been, been a little unplugged,
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just, you know, step by step, bro. Brick by brick and moving. Yeah. What day are you on? 75
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hard. Uh, today is day 49. Yeah. So that's where you've been focused, huh? Yeah. Uh, it's been there,
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man. It it's, it's, it's so crazy, but like, I feel like now I'm just like, I should have did this
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fucking five years ago, bro. Yeah. You know, you should have, I should have. Yeah. But the problem
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was the program didn't exist five years ago. Exactly. That's why probably why you didn't do it. Yeah.
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So it's your fault. Yeah, it is my fault. Like, why did you listen? You know what it is, dude?
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It's cause I'm racist. Is that what it is? Yeah. It's because I am far right. Alt-right extremist
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domestic terrorist racist. That's why. Yeah. That's why I didn't invent the program five years
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ago. Only fucking four years ago. Right. Because I didn't want you to do it specifically. That makes
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sense. I know it makes sense. Yeah. Is that CNN? And now I'm being oppressed by these two work out
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today. Yeah. Yeah. It's a problem, dude. Got to read fucking books. Like, what am I? White
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supremacy, bro? No, it's going fucking good though, man. It's going good. We talked yesterday about it
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and, you know, not to get discouraged at all, but you keep moving, man. Yeah. Yeah. Well, good. You
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look good, dude. I can tell it's working. I'm getting there, man. Make sure you don't, uh, fuck off.
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No, no, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm in too, in too deep right now. So what we got for questions
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today? Cause, uh, we, we, I've got some, some guests in town and, uh, been in, been in meetings
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all morning. I'm about to do some more meetings. A little s'mores party. Oh, not that kind of,
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not those guests. Let's knock these out. Uh, any question number one, you speak a lot
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on how your dad instilled some of the qualities, uh, that you live by today. What are some major
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key differences that you see in parents today, uh, versus what your dad taught you? And how
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do you suggest you fix that, that, that breaking the chain? Um, the way that most parents are
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raising their children today is, uh, very much not in line with how I was raised at all. Um,
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you know, I was raised in a situation where we were taught, uh, the reality of what it's
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took to win. Okay. We were taught things like be aggressive. Um, life is a competition. Okay.
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Uh, you have to do the work to get good. You know, you have to do the work for a long time
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to succeed. Uh, you could be anything you want. And my dad meant that, um,
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you know, it was very, it's been very evident. Okay. Like I'll give you a real world example. Um,
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I went to watch my nephew Enzo play soccer. Okay. And Sal spends an infinite amount of time
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with him in soccer, baseball, and golf. Yeah. Every day is something different. Yeah. They
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practice these three sports nonstop and Enzo loves it. So he practices too on top of it.
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And I went to a game recently where he scored three fucking goals, basically right in a row
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at the beginning of the game. Okay. So like in little kids sports, you know, little kids kind of
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move around in a pack. Right. And he has developed because he's practiced and because his father
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spends an infinite, infinite amount of time helping him learn skills. Um, Enzo can go take the ball,
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dribble around all the fucking kids and he scores fucking goals. And then they put them on the
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sideline and make them sit down. Okay. And, and a few weeks ago, you know, Enzo had scored three
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goals and one of the parents of the other, of the other team threw a fucking temper tantrum on the
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sideline of the game, took off his shirt, screaming up and down, you know, talking about, you know,
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all this shit about how fucking it's not fair and this and that, and this, and this guy's
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fucking 300 fucking pounds. He's five fucking eight. You know, he hasn't fucking read a book
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or lifted a weight or ate anything that wasn't fucking fried in 20 fucking years. It was very
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apparent. Um, is, you know, he, he's clearly probably not putting in the work with his own
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kid. Right. And he's screaming at this fucking kid's game about how this other kid that's happens
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to be Enzo. Right. Okay. Is doing well and kicking the shit out of everybody else. Not fair. Yeah. And
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this is fucking reality. Like we can argue, we can wish, we can say, we can talk about, we could even
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legislate rules to make things more fair. But at the end of the day, natural order is going to
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fucking win. And natural order means that if you want to win, you have to have skills. If you want
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to win, you have to work hard. If you want to win, you have to practice. If you want to win, it's going
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to take more effort than what the other motherfucker is putting in. And these are all things that were
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taught to Sal and I by our dad. Okay. He didn't, he, and by the way, during this time, there was all
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kinds of crying and temper tantrums and, you know, us not liking that he was hard on us and this and
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that and this. Um, but at the end of the day, uh, I think we've both done pretty well because of those
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lessons that we were taught and people nowadays like to make excuses or they like to try and make
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things soft or they like to, to try and remove the natural lessons that your children need to learn
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about competition in life. I mean, bro, this is the reason I started my children's book series.
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I chart, I started the children's book series as a guide for parents that weren't blessed enough to
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have a parent that actually taught them the real truth of reality. Okay. So the, the, the bottom line
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is this, my dad and my mom both told us the fucking truth. They never lied to us. Yeah. Okay. Did they
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were, were, were, were things they said uncomfortable sometimes? Yes. Uh, we're, did it make life hard as a
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kid sometimes? Yes. Uh, but I don't know. We employ thousands of people. Okay. We create change in tens
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of thousands of people, if not millions of people, honestly, uh, to improve their lives, make their
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lives better, teach them how to win. And we're directly successful in life. Um, because of those
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lessons that we were taught when we were a kid and, you know, for a long time, I never recognized
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that I thought everybody was, was raised that way. So like, I didn't recognize for many, many years
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how lucky I was. And I don't use the word luck very often. I, I only use it in a few circumstances,
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but you can't pick your fucking parents. Right. Okay. And I got fucking lucky and you know, I see
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the softness and the weakness and the idealism and the raising around the idea of how things should
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be not how they are that has infected the culture of children who then grow up believing that all of
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these things are actually the way it is. You know, when you give a kid a trophy for showing the fuck up
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their whole lives, and then they get out in the real world and they don't get celebrated for showing
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up to work. Right. There, there, there's more that's demanded of them. And if they want to earn
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a higher salary, they have to be more skilled. And, and you, you, you raise these kids to believe
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X and then you put them out in the world and it's actually Y. We get punched in the fucking face. Yeah.
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Over and over and over again. Like you, you, you parents out there, you must realize that you are
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handicapping your children by not telling them the truth about way things are. You know, most of these
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fucking parents are villainizing success. Okay. And the reason they're villainizing success is
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because they weren't able to create any and they feel inadequate. And instead of teaching their kids
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and being honest with their kids, I actually posted about this a few days ago. There was a quote on one
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of these motivation pages. It says, imagine telling your kids the reason that you quit was because it
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was too hard. And I reposted back. I said, well, here's the thing, guys, that conversation never
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happens. That's not the real conversation. No parent looks at their kid and says, I'm a failure
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because I'm a fucking bitch. Right. Or I'm a failure because I never tried or I'm a failure
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because it got too hard. That's not what the fuck they say. Instead, they invent this entire story
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about why it is they're not where they wanted to be. And then they infect their children's mind with
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that story. And then they grow up believing that it can never be possible because their mom and
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their dad, who they love and think are superheroes, weren't able to succeed. Right. Because of whatever
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fucking reason that they put in. Right. Or some external bullshit. Yeah. The job fucked me. The
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system fucked me. My, my, you know, where I was born fucked me, who I was born as fucked me.
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And they make up all these different stories and they tell their kid. And then on top of it,
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they usually tell him, you see that guy that built this company or you see that fucking champion
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athlete or he's that champion athlete was born with those genetics. That, that person who built
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that company, they were fucking lucky. And by the way, you don't ever want to be like that because
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they take advantage of people and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. He's an asshole. Right. And so because of
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their own inadequacies and their own insecurities, they fill their children's minds with a perception
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that is not in line with reality. Okay. And I can't think of anything worse than parents who won't own
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up to their own shortcomings with their kid and say, Hey, look, dude, you know what? I had plenty of
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opportunity and I fucked off. And you know what? Don't fucking do that. Like you want to, you want to
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change the cycle of your whole entire family, man up and own your fucking shortcomings with your
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children and say, you know what? I had an opportunity. I fucked off. We just got out of a meeting fucking
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two hours ago where my brother, who was a fucking phenomenal fucking baseball player. Okay. Talked about
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how the reason that he never actually made it, he got a career injury, but he was out chasing girls
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and he was out in the bars and he was out. He wasn't at batting practice early or late. He wasn't
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at feeling practice early or late. He was the best player on ability, not on discipline. And had he had
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the discipline in there, he would have been probably a fucking legacy MLB player because that's how good
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he was. And you have to be able to fucking teach people why it is things didn't work out if you really
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want to serve them. And so this attitude that most parents have where they're avoiding the pain of
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being real with their own kids will actually pass on their own failures and guarantee their kids
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failures for the rest of their life because the perception that they're giving them. So, you know,
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those of you out there, this is why I wrote the kids books. I wrote the kids books because I didn't
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understand that not everybody was raised this way. Okay. It wasn't until I started the MFCEO project
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with Vaughn did I realize like, damn, dude, I was blessed with a special set of fucking knowledge
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that not everybody gets to grow up around. And that's why the MFCEO project was the fucking
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powerhouse that it was. And we'll be again when we're getting ready to launch it again here
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in the next fucking 30 or 40 days. You see what I'm saying? So, so like, dude, I did get lucky in that
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regard, but the truth of the matter is, is like, you can know every fucking thing that, you know,
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unless you go execute, it doesn't matter anyway. So, you know, my, my advice would be to teach your
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kids to be competitive. My advice would be to teach your kids to practice. My advice would be to teach
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your kids that they can be anything they want. Cause they can be still, my advice would be to
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fucking work with them. My advice would be to instill them with the proper set of values. So they
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understand the game that they're trying to play is actually competition because we could pretend
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it's not competition. All we fucking want. We can sit there and say, it's not competition.
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We can fucking say all this shit, but the minute you opt out of it, you get your fucking ass beat
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by real world. Okay. Because in the real world, bro, there's an element of competition. You know,
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this idea of don't compare yourself to someone else and blah, blah, blah. Well, the truth of it is,
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is you should compare yourself to other people. It's a great measuring stick of where the fuck you are.
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If you're ahead or behind now, should you feel fucking bad and beat yourself up about comparison
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all the time? No, because it is a battle of you versus you. But these absolute statements that
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these fucking morons make on the internet that have never built a goddamn thing in their entire
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fucking life are literally hurting our people from succeeding. This is no different than the victim
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culture that's perpetuated by people who sell self-help shit, right? There's a lot of people out there
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who sell self-help books, self-help programs, self-help shit. And then when you read their
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fucking content, it's all about how fucked up you are. Sometimes motherfucker, it ain't that you're
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fucked up. It's just, you're not doing anything. You're not executing. You're not putting in what
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the fuck, you know, into action. You're not necessarily fucked up. And there's a lot of people
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out there that want to make everybody think that they have all these things about them that are
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fucking fucked up so that they'll buy their shit on how to fix their fucked up lives.
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And the truth of the matter is, guys, this is very simple. It's one plus one equals motherfucking
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two. If you do the work, if you fucking do the work for long enough and you're able to fucking
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not repeat mistakes over and over again, you will get where you want to go. That's the fucking reality.
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Okay. And it applies to everything and everybody. Okay. Most people don't get put out of business.
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They quit. Most people don't get canceled. They quit. Most people don't fucking lose.
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They quit. They just stop because shit punched them in the face a little bit too hard. So they
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redirect and now they're fucking over. Okay. So, you know, you ask what I learned. I learned all
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that shit. Yeah. And it's made, it's, it's done pretty okay for me. All right. I got a long way to
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go, bro. I'm not sitting here preaching off my fucking ivory tower, dude. I'm a human being like every
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other motherfucker. Listen to this. I have my weaknesses and I have my strengths. I have my
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flaws and I work on my flaws consistently. I'm not a perfect human. Okay. So don't mistake that,
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you know, because I'm talking to you about these things that have helped me achieve that you somehow
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think I have it all figured out because I fucking don't. But here's what I do know is that every day
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we have an opportunity to get better. Every day we have an opportunity to improve. Every day we have an
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opportunity to become the person that we want to be and move towards that. And that is truly the
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fucking key of everything. Okay. But you ain't going to get a trophy for showing up to fucking
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work. You're not going to get celebrated for doing the bare minimum. You know, you got these
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motherfuckers out there now that are talking about, you know, uh, quiet quitting. Okay. I'm not going to,
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I'm not going to do any extra work for my career if I don't get paid for it first. Well, guess what
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motherfucker? They know how fuck it works. That's not how natural order works. You, you quiet fire,
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you become great. You become great. Then you get the reward. You do not get the reward and then
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become whatever it is you're promising to become. Because guess what? 10,000 years of motherfuckers
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trying to fucking operate that way. It's never worked. It's never worked. And you ain't the first
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person to think of that. You think you're the first fucking person to ever think, well, fuck dude,
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they pay me and then I'll work. No, you fuckers lose. And people who decide to build skills that
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contribute, they win. That's the natural order of reality. And if you're teaching your kids
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anything other than that, you're fucking them up for their whole entire lives. So I'd consider
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maybe auditing what the fuck it is you say or not say to your own kids about success.
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And when you hate on success, you're guaranteeing them, guaranteeing them a life of fucking struggle
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and misery and frustration because they will never achieve it because you didn't achieve it.
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And bro, to me, that's the biggest fucking child abuse you could ever fucking do.
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You take their fucking dreams away because you're a fucking, you're a fucking loser and you can't
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identify that you fucking lost because you have your own fucking losing mentality.
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Yeah. So all your fucking parents out there, fucking swallow that shit. Send me a message
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to tell me how I'm fucking wrong. And then we'll fucking check back on you in 20 fucking
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We'll lose this country if that doesn't change.
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We'll lose this country if that doesn't change.
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If parents don't get real with why the fuck they haven't gotten where they wanted to go
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and get on the path of getting there because it's not too late and too late.
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I talked about my meeting today talking about 2008 ruined me motherfucking.
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Like people will fucking, people will fucking hang on to that one fucking thing.
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I tore my ACL in the fucking homecoming game so I couldn't make my NFL debut.
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Uh, you know, I got fired because, uh, they wanted me to work too hard.
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Now I, you know, I'm fucking blackballed or some fucking bullshit.
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Like bro, society is riddled with fucking pussy itis.
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And bro, we're ruining generations of fucking Americans in the greatest country it's ever
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existed because people can't tell the truth about why they are where the fuck they are
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They'd rather attach themselves to the victim identity than they would see their kids actually
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overcome it and become something fucking better than they were.
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When I grew up, my dad, my dad's fucking goal for me was to do better than he fucking did.
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But so, you know, who knows what happens later or tomorrow, whatever you can always fuck it
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And people think, Oh dude, for sale has got a nice, he's the fucking this.
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And that, bro, come work with me for a fucking week.
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I subscribe to the facts, not the fucking feelings.
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If you don't teach your kids to win, ain't gonna fucking win.
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If you shit on, if you shit on success, you think your kids are going to pursue, pursue
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Like I, I would respect him 10,000 times more if he was just honest with me and told me,
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But instead, like, there's zero respect because I know, you know, he's a shit.
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If you give a fuck about your kids at all, you will tell them the truth.
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And when they ask you why you're not president or why you don't have fucking millions of
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dollars or why you didn't fucking become whatever it is they say, because they're going
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The truth isn't that you quit because it was hard.
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So question number two, Andy, I'm starting off as a fitness coach, and my intent is 100%
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I've offered my services for free because I'm just a beginner and I want to have a track
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But I found that people will not execute without paying for things.
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Am I more justified charging a premium to get the buy-in from customers, even though
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No, I wouldn't say you're justified to charge a premium when you aren't experienced or offering
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You, by your own admission, understand there's a lot for you to learn.
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However, I do agree that people do have to have skin in the game to value the fucking
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One of my biggest frustrations of my fucking life is doing this motherfucking show for
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Doing the MFCEO project, which is probably the most complete library of entrepreneurship
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skill that exists ever, anywhere, for fucking free.
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How many people get this access to this information and then send me a DM?
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I'd fucking give you the fucking, the fast lane of how to get there.
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And you're crying to me about why the fuck you can't.
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Because if you're someone who will fucking take information from someone who's genuinely
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trying to help you and then come to them and make excuses to why you can't, well, then
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You will get better results by charging at least a minimum fee for whatever information
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you're providing so that you weed out the fucking tire kickers and you get people who
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So for this person, I think the biggest thing that they need to understand is, you know, you're
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going to, you're going to, yes, you're going to want to price it.
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No, you're not going to want to price a premium when you don't offer a premium product yet.
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You're going to want to get enough that you can, you can get some skin in the game so
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that they can be accountable so they will get great results.
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And then you build your fucking, your foundation upon those results that you, you built.
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Like, bro, like we talked about with Lane Norton when he was here, you know, fuck bro.
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You're going to build your, your platform all off of very low reward work, but the reward
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comes later when you've done however many years of, you know, amazing results.
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And like everybody wants the big paycheck now, just like I said a minute ago, they want
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the paycheck upfront, you know, the, the quiet quitters.
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I want to pay it first and then I'll fucking work.
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Your whole fucking problem is you won't fucking work.
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It doesn't matter if I come pay you 150 fucking grand a fucking week, you're still not going
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So bro, if you want to be a fucking loser your whole entire life, then go be one of these
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You could, you listen, here, here's the, here's the silver lining of all this.
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There's never been a greater opportunity for fucking savage motherfuckers to win.
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I thought when I started the MSEO project, 2015, I would talk to these younger guys about
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There's never been a better opportunity because when I was coming in the business, when I was
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17, 18, 19 years old, everybody was willing to work and everybody wanted to succeed.
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That was American culture thing that we had going on back then that we've lost today.
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Now you have most people that don't want to do shit.
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So if you are a savage motherfucker that wants to win, you will fucking have a much easier
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time winning much, much, much easier just by the numbers.
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There's plenty of opportunity for people that want to fucking actually deal with facts, build
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shit that benefits people and helps people and make a lot of fucking money doing so at
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Guys, Andy, our third and final question, Andy, uh, question number three, I consider
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I work for a great company with a, uh, with great core leaders.
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The owners seem to be content with where we are.
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How would you approach the owners of the company to allow us to grow?
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Uh, so that I can continue improving my career.
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Well, the first thing is this, um, if you own a company and you operate that way, you're
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If you're, if you're, if you're content, you're going to lose.
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So whoever owns this company that this person is talking about, or if you recognize that
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maybe that could be written about your company, uh, you should change it because you'll lose.
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Um, because while you're standing still and trying to maintain where you are, the flow of
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And, and because of that, you are by default getting worse because everybody else is getting
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When you stop trying to get better and you take a break or you take a breath or you take
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a fucking year off or you take a fucking, you know, Hey, we're, we're good where we are.
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And eventually by default, because you're staying where you are, everybody else passes you by
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and you can go from the, this, this is a, this is how you lose personally.
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And as a, as an organization, you could go from the best fucking employee in inside of your
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company to the worst by not recognizing how the flow works.
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You, you could be the best guy today and a year from now be literally the worst by just
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You, you could be like, and right now a lot of companies are going to go through this.
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A lot of companies are going to pull in the fucking efforts.
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They're going to try to cut out all this shit and they're going to try to weather the storm.
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And those companies will get fucking destroyed by companies who stay aggressive in the best
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way that they possibly can responsibly, of course, you know?
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Um, but to answer your question, how do you change an owner's mindset about their company?
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Um, you know, unfortunately, you know, you have to be in the right organization.
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That's like, if you're an entrepreneur and you're someone, you have to, you have to look
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for an organization that is aligned with you already because the chances of you changing
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someone who owns the company, um, because if they're already stopping, they're probably
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It's just not like the kind of leader that stops is not the kind of leader that listens
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Um, he's not aware of what, what the temperature is because he did his shit.
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Because by the nature of them stopping, they lack the awareness to understand that they
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are also stopping the careers of everybody that works there.
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So, you know, I can tell from the question that this person is probably in the wrong organization.
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I don't know that there's something you can go do or tell or say to the ownership that's
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But what I, what I say, what I imagine you'll probably get back is a lip service, you know?
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And then they're never going to do it because if you have the type of character that you're
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not like, bro, you know, because you're with me 24 hours a day, essentially.
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And these guys in this room know, but people don't really understand, like I'm here every
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And do out of all the people that have to be here, I'm the one that has to be here the
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And the reason I'm here every single day is because of him and him and him and you
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Because that's their fucking careers and I'm part of the team.
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So if I don't do my fucking part for them, what does that make me?
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I'm dead weight, just like they would be dead weight.
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So my, my, my advice, and by the way, we're not the only company like that.
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But they're not, they're not as popular as, you know, the Coca-Cola's or the Pepsi's or
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the fucking big ass brands, the Walmarts and like all this shit that you guys are familiar
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You're going to have to, you're going to have to do your research.
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You're going to have to look, are the, is this a winning brand or they, do they have
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a winning play or are they actually building shit or they actually care about jobs?
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And I'm not saying that your company that you like is going to be a perfect track record.
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Like they're not, no one's going to have perfect track record, but, but are they moving on
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the trajectory that you would like your career to move in?
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Because it's much easier to hop in with someone like that.
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There's going to be a lot more motherfuckers in that, in that boat rowing real fucking
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hard to try to get it to where it's trying to go, but that's where you want to be because
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And trying to fight the momentum of your company when you're someone who's hungry for
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And I, I, I would possibly have a conversation and maybe wait and see if you really care about
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But the truth of the matter is, is like, it sounds to me like the alignment is off and
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And we only have a short amount of time here on this planet, dude.
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And my personal take is you should be somewhere where you enjoy the people, you enjoy the
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culture, you enjoy the mission, and it doesn't necessarily, uh, feel like work.
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Because to work hard enough to where you get the reward, you have to do something that
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Otherwise it's going to be miserable because you spend most of your time there.
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And, um, if you're a company, you know, let's say you are a company that is, that is trying
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to grow and you have a big vision and you're executing on that vision.
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See, a lot of people have big visions, bro, but not a lot of people execute on the big
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Like a lot of motherfuckers walk in a meeting and they say, Oh, we're going to do this and
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this and this, but then none of their actions actually back that up.
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They walk out, they get in their fucking Rolls Royce, they dry the fuck off and they're,
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they're painting a false fucking premise for the people that actually pay their fucking,
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uh, you know, that drive their company and pay their bills and all these things.
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That's even worse to me than the motherfuckers that don't try.
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So, so, you know, if you're an entrepreneur, there's, there's, there's great opportunity
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right now to get yourself hitched with companies that are continuing to grow.
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In fact, over the next one to three years, it's going to become very clear who the fuck
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is actually about it and who was just fucking talking shit.
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Because things are going to get hard and when things get hard, people who are actually
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That it becomes very apparent who the fucking winners are and who the fucking not winners
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Cause you talk a lot about like being offensive as offensive as a business, right?
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What are some signs that I guess entrepreneurs can look for to tell if a business is about
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to go fucking head into the fucking storm or going to the turtle shell?
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Well, there could be a number of indicators, but I mean, a general sense of aggressive growth
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Like what, what, what does a company look like?
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They're, they're, they're talking about new projects.
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They're, they're implementing these, these things that we talk about fast.
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Uh, they have a, a large amount of intent to move the needle, right?
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Uh, basically all the things that these pussies don't fucking like, uh, there's a whole lot
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There's, there's an aggressive vibe about growth and winning and doing better.
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And if there, if there, if it's just talk and there's no actions to follow that up, well,
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then you got yourself what I consider the worst kind of fucking operator, which is the
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one that'll straight up lie about what they're going to do.
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Um, but you know, bro, are they, are they hiring people?
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Like not, not new buildings, you know, but, but like, are they building new products or
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new offerings or are they, you know what I'm saying?
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Like, is there a general sense of progress and movement that you can plug into and feel?
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Um, but those things, you know, like those things are pretty obvious if you pay attention.
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I think a lot of people just don't pay attention past the initial job.
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Like the truth is, I think a lot of culture thinks that the day they had the job, they're
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No, the day you got the job means you got an opportunity and you have to earn that opportunity
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And in one of these companies, like in a company that's moving aggressively, you're, you're,
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Like, you're not going to come in this building and get a fucking job.
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And then, well, I guess I'll pick up a door and start rowing.
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It's not, it's not going to happen because dude, here's the thing.
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When, when, when everybody else in those companies see somebody like that, they all hate that
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person because they understand that that person is costing them their fucking career progress.
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So like when you have a strong culture, that's moving the proper way, can't hide in it because
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Well, yeah, because it's them, it's their shit.
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Like bro, if we're all in a fucking boat and we got two motherfuckers on the, on the, on
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And we're starting to veer off course and go in a circle because they're not rowing at
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You know what we're going to do with those fuckers?
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You can argue about it all day long, but that's, that's the reality.
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So the good news is, uh, for a lot of you companies who are aggressively growing, you're
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going to have your pick of the best fucking people because a lot of these people who are
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really great people inside of a fucking weak organization are going to be looking for to
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So, uh, I think we're looking at a big transition, uh, in terms of where people work, how they
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Uh, it's not going to be sitting at home eating crickets with the fucking Netflix and shit
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like the world economic forum once bugs, it ain't going to be that it's good.
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There's going to be a lot of people that buy into this falsely and end up losing because
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And the opportunity for the people that don't buy into it is so fucking massive, bro.
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Like people don't even see it yet because a lot of people are just quitting and a lot
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And there's a number of elements that have created this storm.
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You know, the idea, uh, for the last 10 years that entrepreneurship is some kind of
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fucking like glorified, like art form or whatever the fuck people think it is.
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And a lot of these people who think it's like, oh, bro, I'm an entrepreneur in my Instagram
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bio and think they're just going to, you know, do it there.
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You know, the things I'm talking about here too, uh, for you, for you parents, going back
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to the first question, like you want to fix this country, teach your kids American shit
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Stop shitting on people that have done better than you in life because you're fucking insecure
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Maybe you should just, maybe your role, maybe your role in this lifetime was to build a