408. Q&AF： Giving Yourself Grace Vs. Making An Excuse, Need To But Can't Hire Someone & Dealing With Frustrations Throughout The Day
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Summary
In this episode of The Realists, I sit down with my good friend and former college basketball player, VaynerSpeakers, and discuss his journey to becoming a professional basketball player and how he became a successful entrepreneur. We also talk about the problems we have in our society and how we can fix them.
Transcript
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What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realists, say goodbye
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to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking
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reality. Guys, today we have Q and AF, that is where you submit the questions and I give
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you the Andy Priscilla answer. You can submit those questions and please submit your questions,
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Guys, email those questions in to askandy at andypriscilla.com.
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And guys, look, I am here to help you understand what you're capable of, okay? If you think
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that for some reason, I haven't heard all the same shit you guys have heard. I didn't
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have my friends and my family and everybody that cared about me supposedly telling me that
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I was fucking crazy or that I had big dreams that were insane or that I couldn't do this
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and that and I should just go back to being a regular fucking poor me. Motherfucker, that's
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the way the world works and that's what you are fighting against. And as someone who has
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climbed a little bit up the ladder of success, all right, that's me by the way, I could tell
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you that that will never change. You're always going to have to face these things. So whatever
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your questions are, whatever you're dealing with, whatever you want to know about in regards
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to your own personal success journey, please submit those questions, dude, because that's
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what I want to do. I want to serve you guys. I want to help you guys. That's where I get
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my most fulfillment from is when I see you guys fucking win, all right? That's why I'm starting
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back up the MSCEO project with Vaughn because, dude, it's important and it's an obligation for
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you guys to go out and win, all right? If you win, someone else is going to win. If someone else
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wins, another person is going to win. And before you know it, we got a whole culture of motherfucking
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winners kicking ass and taking names in the United States of America once again, all right?
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So we have a duty to win and that duty, uh, I am here to serve that duty with you. If
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you just submit me the shit that you want to know about. Yeah. It's crazy. Yeah. Like
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you might be one question away from fucking unlocking it all. I got one question. You
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know what gets me, you know what gets me thinking about, bro? Like I think about this
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all the time. Like you have great, great people, right? Great people in business, great
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athletes, uh, great authors, uh, just great greatness, right? Living, breathing, great.
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Yeah. And, and dude, when people naturally look at these people, they assume that these
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people have some shit that, you know, you and I and everybody else doesn't have. Right.
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And, and, and society beats this in us so hard through different channels, right? The
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education system. All of them. Yeah. Like, bro, I mean, just think about how, whenever
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you, you come out when you're, you know, a little kid and you say, man, Hey, you know,
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I want to be president. And they're like, Oh, little DJ, you could be president. But if
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you say that same shit, when you're a senior in high school, they'll fucking throw your ass
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in a locker. Right. So they beat it out of us. They take it out of us through their own
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fucking failures and what they've experienced in their own lives. They start to limit you based
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upon what they've been able to achieve. And they ruin the potential of the youth through
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their own shortcomings. And we have a major problem with that in America. This is why I'm
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starting the fucking project up again, bro, because the teachers of this country are fucking
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handicapping our kids to the point where, you know, when we talk about greatness, then
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this is what I was getting at. Think of all the people who literally never try that were
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actually put here on this fucking planet to become the greatest ever. Bro, there's a basketball
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player out there greater than Michael Jordan that never fucking played. There's a fucking
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business icon out there greater than fucking Elon Musk that's never gotten the game because
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his friends and his family and the people around him told him that he was too stupid.
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How much wasted potential do we have in this country because of the negativity? Right. And
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if you get out and this is why I hate cancel culture so much. If you get out of line, one
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little step, they ruin your fucking life. Okay. And then they definitely don't try. And you
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wonder why that is. Why? Why is this? Because dude, cancel culture just isn't like something
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that society developed. Right. We're seeing that right now. Who's canceling who and who's
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doing what? The media, the fucking Hollywood execs, the fucking most powerful people in
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this fucking world. They decide what you can and can't say. And whenever they see someone
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step out of line, they crush them so fucking hard that it scares anybody else from ever
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even fucking trying. So why the fuck would I want to go through that? Yes. Right. So
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how much greatness are we leaving on the motherfucking table in this country? It's way more than people
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realize and nobody talks about it. Okay. So I'm going to make it my fucking mission. Not
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that I don't already have enough shit to worry about to become the solution for these fucking
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younger kids. You know, the 17, 18, 19, 20, 22, 25, these people who are just getting started.
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And by the way, if you're 45 and you're just snapping the fuck out of it, you're like, fuck,
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I want something different. Guess what? You're only like 50% through your productive life cycle
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of your life. And you think you're too fucking old. I'm here for those motherfuckers. I'm here for
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every single motherfucker that wants to wake the fuck up and become something that they were told
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they couldn't fucking be. And I like, dude, I'm going to solve the problem. I'm going to solve
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the problem. I can't fucking wait to launch this new show. Super excited about it. Anyhow,
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I'm ready to run through a wall right now. Yeah, that's neither here nor there. Send me your
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questions because you may not realize this, but I am 0% different than any of you. Everything you see
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in me that you admire about me or that you wish you had or whatever, bro, I bled for that shit.
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I got my ass kicked for that shit. I lost fucking friends for that shit. Okay. I paid dues to have
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all these skills. You know how many podcasts I've recorded? A shit ton. And you guys think I just came
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out of the podcast world and started whooping everybody's ass? No. Go back and listen to the
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beginning of the fucking MFCEO project, dude. That's why I leave it up because it's so fucking
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bad. It should inspire you to understand where you can go if you just keep going. Anyway, I could go
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on and on and on. Oh, and by the way, RTA live sold out. It's this Saturday, but we do have a live
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stream. It's an art a syndicate dot com. Uh, I would think about fucking buying it because you're
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going to get a full day worth of fucking really good shit. And I don't even know what we're charging
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for it. Uh, but whatever we charge, I can promise you that there will be at least one thing that you
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take that will make you a hundred X that value. Okay. And, and it won't be just one thing that you'll
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have a whole list if you pay attention. All right. So, uh, go fucking sign up for that.
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And I don't ever tell you guys to buy shit, but if you're trying to win, this is a good thing to
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invest in. Uh, what else? I think that's it. Uh, we have some other shows usually. All right.
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I got way fucked up today. Excuse my disorganization. Um, sometimes when you tune in,
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we have CTI CTI is cruise the internet. That's where we talk about the social issues of the day. We make
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fun of the social issues, make fun of the media. We laugh at these fucking clowns and we talk about
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what the actual problem is and how we can overcome it as individuals, uh, collectively as a community
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as well. Uh, then we have real talk, real talk is five to 20 minutes of real shit that you need to
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hear. All right. And then we have full length, full length is, uh, like sort of like what you're used
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to seeing on these, on some of these other podcasts where they interview people, except I interrupt the
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people that I interview consistently throughout the show a hundred fucking times. And if you don't like
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that, then go listen to someone else. But that's the basis of the show. Uh, and there is a fee for
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the show and the fee is tell a motherfucker about it. As you'll notice, I don't run fucking 20 minutes
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of ads in a 40 minute show. All right. The reason I don't do that isn't because I wouldn't like to have
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the fucking money. I would, but I'm not selling my soul to some other fucking motherfucker who wants
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to control what I say. It ain't ever going to happen. So in lieu of that, I would appreciate if you
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would share the show because I pass up on eight figures a year of income just because of that.
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All right. So please share the show now. We got Q and AF, right? Yeah. All right. We got,
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what do you got? I got some good ones for you. You always do. By the way, that's DJ. DJ is the
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co-host of the show. Uh, what's your Instagram DJ? Uh, guys follow me on IG at, uh, at officially
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D Johnson. He talks a lot of shit. He's a funny guy. He's also highly talented. What do you do,
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man? You do all kinds of stuff. Yeah. Well, I mean, you know, mainly, uh, do really, really well
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at being, you know, an emotional, uh, shadow person. Yeah. Yeah. You are good at that.
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Yeah. Uh, yeah. And, uh, no, dude, this dude, listen, you guys don't understand. He produces
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the show. He's a fucking, he runs the security detail for my whole fucking company and for myself
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personally. Uh, he, he, he fucking plays the piano. He fucking sings. Uh, he gets called all kinds
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of racist names, you know, the black face of, of white supremacy. Yep. Uncle Tom. Yep. I
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mean, this guy, he he's accomplishing it all. It's a long resume. Yeah. Oh, fuck dude. On
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another note, it seems like these crazy fuckers shit is falling apart in the world. Oh, it's
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like, we haven't had a chance to really talk about it this week because we've been busy
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for RT live. Yeah. It's definitely crumbling. Yeah. I'm like, I'm like, Oh shit. All right.
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Cool. Yeah. I like that. Yeah, for sure. I mean, sometimes, I mean, cause that's the
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thing, man, I think people got it. Like we were talking about the other day, there is
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definitely a fog of war going on right now and it's really fucking difficult to see
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through that and kind of like, sometimes you got to wait for the fucking smoke to clear
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and see where everything fucking fail. You know, it's a, it's definitely interesting
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though. You know, what's more interesting is motherfuckers that think like they're going
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to listen to these shows, the Q and AF and think that CTI is irrelevant. Yeah. Like bro,
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here's the thing. And then this is the perspective. A lot of you young bucks don't understand
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without freedom. None of the shit that I teach you on these shows matters. None of it, none
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of it. And we are an inch away from losing fucking real freedom, economic freedom in this
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country forever. And economic freedom should be your number one priority. It should be above
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every motherfucking thing else because everything else is built upon it. So anyway, what we got
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to. Got some good ones. Well, let's knock these out. Uh, question number one, Andy, what are
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your thoughts on giving yourself grace when working towards a goal versus making an excuse?
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Look, dude, to really thoroughly answer this question, we have to like talk about where
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we are. Okay. And we are in a position where people of all types are told that, you know,
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uh, to take a break, take it easy, rest up, love yourself. You're working too hard. You know,
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you need to, you need to take care of your mental health. And while all that shit is true,
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these people who propagate that information and have, who sell things that go along with that
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information are really fucking good at preying on people who can't do it, who won't do it,
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who are unwilling to put in the work and making them believe that they have some sort of affliction
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affecting their ability to win or succeed because there's something wrong with them.
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And then people attach themselves to this and then they never try again because they have this
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issue, right? Uh, that they can't get past. And then, you know, all the spiritual gurus and the
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feel good people and the fucking people praying on this shit enforce this over and over and over and
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over again with these people. And it becomes their identity. Okay. And their identity becomes
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this. And this is how it works for most people. They start out with fucking high ambition. They
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start out with fucking goals. They start out with dreams. They want to win. They want a better life.
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They want a bigger life. They want to make more money. They want to be more fit. They want a fucking
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better human experience. And what ends up happening is that they try this. And the first time they get
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punched in the motherfucking face by life. Okay. They find, and they come across a meme or a fucking
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book or a fucking this or that, or, or someone online who speaks with a nice accent or some shit,
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right? Telling you how, you know, you need to slow down and you need to, you know, love yourself.
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And bro, what happens after that is super destructive because what happens is people buy into this identity
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that's created for them because of the circumstances that they're actually experiencing that are
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temporary. All right. And they make that identity, their permanent fucking identity.
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And then they get sold book after book, after course, after fucking, you know, share memes,
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go to seminars from people who are making a fucking killing, making people believe that
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there's something fucking wrong with them. And the truth of the matter is there's nothing wrong with
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any of you motherfuckers. Not a single one of you motherfuckers out there is dealing with some
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shit that someone else ain't dealing with. Okay. It's called the human experience. There is going
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to be bad shit. There is going to be tough times. There is going to be sickness. There is going to be
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death. There is going to be depression. There are going to be hard days that is consistent for every
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single fucking human that has ever existed in the history of humanity. Okay. And what they do is they
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teach you that your personal challenges are unique. All right. And then it becomes, I can't do this
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because this happened to me. Right. And we completely forget that millions of people just like us from
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wherever we come from have accomplished what it is we want to accomplish, have became what it is we want
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to become, have conquered what it is we're looking to conquer. And they've done so facing harder
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circumstances that we have. There's plenty of examples out there. If you look, if you're willing
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to open your motherfucking eyes and have a peek, you'll see it. But these fucking victim culture
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propagators start to make people not even want to look because dude, they belong in this little
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community of victims. Right. And anybody who fucking, uh, has become anything, you know, they're,
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they're overworked. They're overstressed. They're over this or over that. And they start labeling
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the people who are doing the shit as other things. Okay. And then what happens is people decide,
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well, those goals and those dreams and those ambitions that I had, those are not really for
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me anymore. I'm in a new chapter of life. I'm in a new, I'm in a new phase of life. And this new
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phase of life is this, like, you know, I'm going to take it easy. And I'm going to like, you see it,
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you see it. Anytime someone goes out and get punched in the face, they come up with this new plan.
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They change careers. They change their fucking direction and they start saying, well, now I'm
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just, I'm here to live. I'm here for this. And they make up this fucking narrative about their
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life. That isn't even motherfucking true. You're settling is what you're doing. Dude. Yes. And
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then, and then they attach themselves to the idea of being quote unquote humble. All right. And then
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they accuse anybody who's still pursuing their dreams, who are really just the people who get the
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fuck up and are willing to get punched in the face, uh, no matter how many times it takes to
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get where they want to go. Uh, they accuse those people of having some sort of moral fucking
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inefficiency that these people now have. So now they're on a moral high ground. They're in a
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community of victims. They're getting attention from these people and they believe that they are
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better than you. And those people then attack you. Okay. And by the way, those people are the
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shittiest motherfuckers on this planet. And you should do every fucking thing you can to get away from
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these people. Don't listen to them. Don't be like them. Don't hang out with them because they
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will infect you with that same lazy, give up settling bullshit culture that they have swallowed
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and fucking learn to live with. And they are miserable and they are unhappy. So to answer your
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question, how do you know the difference between grace? Here's the deal. You're going to fuck up.
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You're going to have a hard time. You're going to stumble. You're going to get punched in the
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fucking face. You're going to bleed. You're going to throw up. You're going to shit your pants.
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Everything that could fucking possibly go wrong is going to go wrong. All of it. All of it.
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You're allowed to give yourself some grace sometimes and say, man, what I'm doing is really
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fucking hard. As long as you get back in the fucking game, right? You, you, you take a minute,
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you take a breath, you take a day, whatever the fuck it takes, you get back in the game where
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people really fuck themselves is they say, well, I'm going to give myself a break. They stop and
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they never start again. Okay. So when you do give yourself some grace, give yourself some grace with
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the understanding that this is a five minute breather. This is a one day breather. This is a two day
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breather. I would never go more than two days ever. Yeah. Ever. And you know, people look at me and
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they say, oh, he's fucked up. His priorities are fucked. Motherfucker. You have no fucking, first of
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all, I don't share with you my life. I show you what the fuck I want you to see. Okay. Second of all,
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you have no fucking idea what you're talking about because the truth is you belong to that first group
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who bought into the victim culture, who fucking says, take a break after every motherfucking thing.
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When in the reality is the whole reason your fucking life looks the way it looks because
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you've always been taking a break. So grace is allowed. Quitting is not allowed. Right. You
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know what I'm saying? Grace is allowed. Excuses are not allowed. You should have enough awareness
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inside of your body and your mind and your soul, which by the way, y'all do. If you're listening to
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this show, you do. Okay. You have a basic level of awareness. You know, when you're full of shit,
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you know, when you're bitching out, you know, when you're cutting your workout short.
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Okay. And here, let me tell you a little hack to get around this. You know how you get around this.
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I tell you, I was on the fucking elliptical trainer. I told myself, and I had this rule.
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If I fucking think it, okay, I got to do it. So I was on the elliptical. I was 45. I was at 45 minutes.
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That's a motherfucker too. Okay. Listen, I was at 45 minutes and I said, I got to go to 50 minutes.
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And I thought it like just for, I could just pop to my head, go to 50 minutes. And I allow myself
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to do that once because if I don't, if I allow more than once, I never stop. Right. Right. So
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Ed has this, uh, and my lead has this thing, the, the, the power of one more, right. Plus one. It's a
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thing that he does. So I just live by this rule. It's the same concept, but whatever pops in my head,
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if it says 10 minutes more, if it says an hour more, if it says five minutes more, luckily for
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me, I'm lazy at heart. So it usually only says like five minutes more. Right. Right. So I was
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getting done with 45 minutes on the elliptical and I was late for a fucking meeting and, and, and
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because I had fucked off earlier in the day. All right. So I was backing up my cardio right to this
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meeting, to the minute. And I got off and right as I was getting off, it said five more minutes
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and I'm like, fuck. And I actually almost had you pull the video cause I wanted to make a post
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about it to show people what I do. Yeah. I got off the fucking elliptical. I walked fucking 13
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steps the other way. I stopped, I turned around and went back on the elliptical for five more minutes
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and I made the motherfuckers wait because I am obeying my own boss voice when I do so. And I am
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conditioning my own boss voice to win. And I am loyal to my own boss voice above everything else.
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Period. Those motherfuckers can wait. They can wait five fucking minutes. And if they're
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disrespected by it, fucking leave. Okay. Cause I will never, ever, ever, ever disobey myself
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when I tell myself that I'm going to do something. And that's something that you should all adopt
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because it's a great hack to mold you into the kind of person who executes plus. Okay. Because
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lots of people execute, very few execute, execute plus. Right. And that plus that's what separates
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the dude out there. Uh, for me, from the guy out there who thinks he's doing everything I'm doing.
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Right. Like I always imagine there's another Andy out there. Like I imagine in my head that there's
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another Andy out there that thinks the same way. I think that's pretty much doing the same thing I'm
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doing. And my goal, like, I don't know, like, I don't see him. Like I imagine him over in Europe
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somewhere. Right. Like there's a fucking dude that looks like me, that talks like me, that acts like
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me. And, uh, and he's basically my, like my, my fucking competitor. Yeah. Okay. And this is
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like, I know it sounds crazy, but this is how I see it. And, uh, and I imagine I'm like, all right,
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well that motherfucker, he only did 45. I'm doing fucking 50. Right. And that goes for anything that
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I do. Like if I read 10 pages, I'm reading fucking 15, you know, and 15 sometimes turns into 50.
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Right. But my goal is to make sure that no matter fucking what I am kicking that motherfucker's ass
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and every single thing that I do, I want to do it better than that motherfucker. And those are two
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little hacks that I use to get me to outperform basically anybody else that's, you know, trying
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to compete with me. You know, it's not anybody else directly. Like I don't look at people like I'm
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friends with most of the people I legitimately compete with because I believe in, uh, the power
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of collaboration. I believe in the power of good intent for people. I believe that I believe one
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of the biggest reasons that I consistently win in life is because I help other motherfuckers win in
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life. Okay. And, uh, so like in real life, I don't like look at competitors and like, I actually help
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my competitors, which sounds counterintuitive, but it works. Um, so I imagine this dude out there,
00:22:51.840
right? Like this other dude. And I, I, you know, maybe he's out there. I don't fucking know,
00:22:56.260
but I could tell you this. I'm going to fucking beat him. Yeah. I love it. Yeah. Love that. Uh,
00:23:02.940
question number two, Andy, talk about pivoting a little bit. Uh, Andy, I'm 32 years old and I'm
00:23:07.360
running my own lawn and landscaping business. I started four years ago after, uh, turning wrenches
00:23:12.260
for 13 years. I took my business full time in April of 2021. And I just cleared six figures last
00:23:19.060
year. And that's awesome. My question is, I feel as if I'm hitting a glass ceiling, uh, of having
00:23:25.680
more work than I can handle on most days, but I'm not sure that I can afford to hire someone else to
00:23:30.380
help. Do you have any suggestions on this, uh, of how I can pivot to get through this challenge and
00:23:35.940
break into the higher six figures without compromising quality and reliability? Yeah.
00:23:41.680
Work for free. Take all your money that you make and fucking invest in other people. Live as cheap as
00:23:46.760
you can live, live as frugal as you can, bro. See when people hear my story first year, first three
00:23:53.980
years, I made $0 next seven years. I made $695 and what they assume, they assume that that's all I
00:24:02.800
could have made. Right. Right. But what they don't understand is that I chose to make $695 and the rest
00:24:10.540
of the money went back into investing. Bro, I had fucking 20, 22 employees making more money than
00:24:17.060
me. The first time I made a hundred grand. Hmm. Okay. So when you own a business and you own an
00:24:24.380
operation, you have to live as cheap and as frugal and as embarrassingly like modest and meek
00:24:31.380
that you possibly can. And you'll know when the time to not do that is. So get yourself some
00:24:38.500
fucking ramen. All right. Get downgrade your fucking apartment. Uh, maybe get a less expensive
00:24:44.380
truck, uh, and, and lower your fucking expenses to the minimum that they can be. Take the money that
00:24:50.800
you're making, invest in more equipment, invest in some more labor and scale this bitch out.
00:24:55.660
Yeah. That's what you do. Okay. And people want to, people don't like to hear that because they
00:25:00.600
don't want to live that life. But let me tell you something, dude. Uh, you go to my house every
00:25:05.180
day. Is it pretty fucking sweet? It's pretty fucking sweet. It's all right. Huh? Yeah. Well, 10 years
00:25:11.240
ago, uh, or 12 years ago, uh, I was living in a fucking shit. Actually 12 years ago, I was living
00:25:17.560
at my fucking dad's house still. Okay. That's the payoff. Yeah. On the delay
00:25:25.420
gratification. Okay. So, so a lot of you guys out there, you are guilty of this. You, you get
00:25:31.440
caught up in Instagram culture. You see fucking 22 year old dumb ass who hasn't done shit with
00:25:38.160
a fucking Lamborghini Huracan with his arms crossed. Like he's some bro. That motherfucker
00:25:42.860
is going to be fucking broke. That person will be broke. Let's see where he is in 12. That's
00:25:47.280
right. That person will be broke. Your goal should be 10 years from now, not fucking two weeks
00:25:54.200
from now. And if you think about it like that and you, you like right now, this guy, you
00:26:00.580
should be thinking like, I'm going to build the bro. I know a dude in lawn care that makes
00:26:05.200
millions, tens of millions of dollars. Okay. Tens of millions of dollars. All right. But
00:26:12.220
guess what? He did the same shit I'm telling you to do. He lived very cheap. He invested in
00:26:18.780
his company, invested in his people. He created fucking jobs. And bro, if you're willing to
00:26:23.200
suffer on the front side, the backside is that much more fruitful and that's reality. That's
00:26:29.200
how it works. So, uh, get yourself some fucking ramen. You know what I'm saying? Cancel your
00:26:34.200
fucking Netflix, start reading some motherfucking books and, uh, and get as cheap as you can,
00:26:39.080
as lean as you can, as flexible as you can and start investing in the actual company. Like
00:26:43.840
you're trying to build a fucking empire and that's what you end up with. Uh, guys, that's
00:26:48.680
a great question. By the way, far too many people out there are, are, are, and by the
00:26:53.860
way, I love balling out. Okay. I love cool shit. I love cars. I love fucking pimp homes.
00:27:01.300
I love all the fucking bad-ass shit, bro. I love it. I fucking love it. I love it. All right.
00:27:08.840
There's nothing wrong with it. Yeah. But the reason I love it is because it's not actually
00:27:15.120
costing me anything. All right. I've paid my dues to get to that point. There's nothing
00:27:20.520
wrong with that, but there's far too many people that think they're going to pretend
00:27:25.020
to be that and they don't pay their dues. And because they pretend to be that on the
00:27:29.380
front side, the backside never happens. A good indicator of success is how people behave
00:27:34.480
when they're fucking broke. Like, are they, are they, are they pretending to be rich even
00:27:38.400
when they're broke? Are they pretending to have a successful company even when they
00:27:42.400
don't? Are they paying their dues or are they flexing on the gram? See what I'm
00:27:47.180
saying? It's a big difference. There's a time and a place to flex on the gram, but
00:27:52.260
it isn't when you're fucking in your first couple of years of business or you're
00:27:55.840
fucking 22, bro. All that's going to end up doing is blowing up in your face when
00:28:00.100
you got to make the post that says, you know, guys life gets hard sometimes. And, uh,
00:28:06.640
you know, we have to reevaluate our priorities and I've reevaluated my priorities and, you
00:28:12.460
know, I've decided that, you know, I don't buy into this materialistic life anymore. And
00:28:17.180
I don't, I, what I want to do is I'm going to live as a nudist and lay against the trees
00:28:22.920
all day. And, you know, I'm going to basically enjoy my life and, you know, fuck all that noise
00:28:28.900
that I just preached about for the last fucking five years and they resign themselves to a
00:28:34.700
bullshit existence. Okay. So don't be the guy that has to write that post later on because
00:28:41.240
you're fucked off now. That's real. Make the fucking deposits now. That's it. Keep making
00:28:45.860
deposits, bro. I make it. You know how much, you know how many big deposits I'm making right
00:28:50.140
now to grow our company? Like, bro, I'm investing in the machine, investing in the machine, investing
00:28:54.840
in the machine. You don't see me out on fucking yachts on, you know, flexing. And bro, by the
00:29:00.120
way, I could, if I actually flexed, I could flex your motherfucking dick right off. Yeah.
00:29:09.040
Okay. All you little boys out there, your little fucking peepees will fucking go inside. All
00:29:14.280
right. The thing is I don't flex. I intentionally don't show my life because the truth is it's
00:29:20.640
so good that everywhere I point the motherfucking camera, it's a massive fucking flex and people
00:29:25.960
get their little fucking vaginas hurt. Yeah. Okay. So, um, it's a truth. It's a fucking
00:29:31.960
truth. Yeah. Where, where do I go? There isn't a flex. What do I do? There isn't a flex.
00:29:35.540
No. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. And by the way, uh, I am going to start showing a little bit of lifestyle
00:29:40.420
shit again. My point in saying this whole thing is this pay your fucking dues, be solid, be
00:29:50.120
the person who fucking, you know, is trying to buy Lamborghini, the company, not a Lamborghini
00:29:55.860
Huracan base model spec that every other motherfucker has. Get it? Yeah. If you think
00:30:02.140
like that, you're going to have a much, much better life. It's going to be more fun. You
00:30:06.520
know, only fucking weak people complain about the journey that you go on during this. You
00:30:11.060
never hear someone who's, who's actually done shit, turn around and say it wasn't worth it.
00:30:16.860
You never fucking hear it. No. Who do you hear that from? Yeah. You only hear that bullshit
00:30:22.800
from people who couldn't fucking make it. You only hear that bullshit from people who never
00:30:27.700
tried period. You never hear someone, by the way, even when they lost their shit, because
00:30:33.940
you can lose your shit, shit can happen, bro. The world might fall apart. I don't fucking
00:30:38.380
know. And if it does, everybody's fucked, but I ain't worried about it, bro. Because if it
00:30:42.720
does, everybody's fucked. Right. Right. So I'm fucking staying on my guns. I'm staying
00:30:47.220
on offense. Even the guys who lose it, even the guys who fucking lose it, bro. Okay. They
00:30:53.500
will tell you it was worth it because of all the skills they gained. They will say, okay,
00:30:57.820
I fuck. Cause I know a lot of guys who have like built some shit, lost some shit and then
00:31:01.320
rebuilt some better shit. Okay. The reason they're able to come back so quickly is because
00:31:07.440
of the journey. No one ever regrets that journey. No one. No matter how bad. No, fuck. No,
00:31:13.520
no one does. No one, bro. I've had two nervous breakdowns, bro. No one regrets it. I'm like,
00:31:18.260
fuck, that was shit was hard. But guess what? Can't fuck with me now. Exactly. You see what
00:31:22.340
I'm saying? Yeah. So like, dude, we have to understand that that hard ass journey that
00:31:27.960
people criticize, the only reason they truly criticize it is not in the name of mental health.
00:31:33.020
It's not in the name of rest. It's not in the name of anything. It's in the name of they
00:31:37.960
couldn't fucking do it or they're making money by you not doing it. It's a truth. It's the
00:31:44.220
fucking truth, man. It's a truth. You should never take advice from someone who is making
00:31:50.060
their living, making you accomplish less in life. It's, it's fucking terrible. Don't buy
00:31:55.300
their books. Don't buy their shit because these people are handicapping you. And when they
00:32:00.720
handicap you, they handicap their kids. And when you handicap your kids that you handicap
00:32:05.180
their fucking kids. And this becomes a generational curse. It's your job to break that. It's real.
00:32:13.340
God, I hate, I hate, I hate the fucking victim culture in this world right now. Fucking hate
00:32:20.120
it. Yeah. It's not true. Yeah. I think the, the most like from being like, you know, with
00:32:25.900
you every single day, right. For the last three years. Right. I think to me, I think
00:32:30.540
the most shocking thing is like the fact that like, you know, you, you, you see these
00:32:34.860
successful people and like, okay, yeah. Like you work fucking hard, but then like really
00:32:39.100
seeing it, like, I don't think most people understand, like, like they don't, they can't
00:32:42.860
comprehend actually like how much fucking work really fucking goes into it. Bro. I was thinking
00:32:48.700
about this on the ride in today. I was actually talking about this on the fucking treadmill
00:32:54.340
earlier today with my brother and Trevor Rosenthal, who's a buddy of mine who plays pro ball.
00:33:01.940
I said, Trevor, how long did it take you to become a professional baseball player? My
00:33:05.800
whole life. How many fucking games of cash should you play? Exactly. A million. Yeah. How
00:33:12.700
many games of baseball did you play? 10,000. Yeah. You understand? Yep.
00:33:18.700
If you don't go all in, if you don't go all the fuck in all of it, all of it and become obsessed
00:33:26.120
with what it is you're trying to accomplish, you will get beat by someone who does. This is natural
00:33:33.620
fucking order. I would love for it to be a little easier. I would love for it to take a little less
00:33:39.560
time. I would love to be able to tell you that it's going to be fun. And all of that shit would be
00:33:45.620
a lie. The truth of the matter is, and I'm one of the only motherfuckers telling you this is that
00:33:50.880
natural order is a real fucking thing. And if you're going to compete in anything, you have to
00:33:57.540
go all in and other areas of your life are going to suffer. Okay. You can only be great in one area
00:34:06.960
because other motherfuckers will sacrifice everything to be great in that area, which
00:34:12.540
requires you to sacrifice that much. And I didn't make the rules of the game. I'm not saying it's
00:34:18.940
healthy. I'm just saying what it is. So if you want that, you have to understand, and that doesn't
00:34:24.740
give you an excuse to fuck the rest of your life. Do the best you fucking can recognize your mistakes,
00:34:30.580
be better. Okay. Improve in those areas, but understand what your main focus is. Understand
00:34:36.120
what your priority is. I think a lot of people are very unclear on what their priority is. They
00:34:41.120
are led to believe that if you don't live this life of perfect balance and have the perfect
00:34:45.700
everything, that you are somehow a fucking failure. That is not actually the way it is. True
00:34:51.660
greatness, true winners, true people who accomplish what it is you're trying to accomplish. Okay.
00:34:56.100
They focus all their energy on that outcome. And the rest of it is kind of like, all right,
00:35:03.180
it's there, but I'm, I'm doing the best I can, but there is a top priority. All right. So you have
00:35:08.960
to understand that's the way it is. That's, that's the fucking rules of the game. Other people might not
00:35:14.000
tell you that, but that's the truth. Okay. So if you want to fucking become an NFL player, you want to
00:35:19.560
become a fucking a hundred million dollar CEO, or you want to fuck it, whatever it is you're trying to
00:35:24.580
do. Okay. That's a high enough goal where most of the people who, all of the people who are at that
00:35:30.780
level have, have given their total focus to that fucking goal. If you're operating any other way
00:35:36.300
and you're listening to this idealistic shit about balance and all this other bullshit, you will end
00:35:40.220
up getting fucking your ass beat by someone like this. And there's those people in every area of life
00:35:45.140
that are at the top level. I'm not here to tell you how to be fucking good. I'm not here to tell you
00:35:50.840
how to, how to be okay. All right. I personally am here for the motherfucking winners. I am here for
00:35:58.420
the number one, not the number one through fucking eight, not the pretty good. I'm here for the number
00:36:03.060
one. That's, that's where my mentality is. My mentality is to be the fucking best. I know I'm
00:36:08.800
not the best. That's why I show the fuck up here every day and give it everything I have. So I'm not
00:36:12.700
saying I'm the best. I'm saying that's my mentality. That's my mindset. That's who the fuck I want
00:36:16.900
to be. And if you want the same, I'm communicating how to do that. And then bro, you play this clip
00:36:23.240
on Instagram and you'll get fucking 10,000 comments of everybody saying how I'm fucking
00:36:27.340
full of shit. Show me what those motherfuckers have done. Show me what they've done. Show me
00:36:39.260
Real shit, man. I know it is. I fucking really know it is because I'm 43 fucking years old and I've
00:36:45.100
gone down the gauntlet. You motherfuckers are trying to go down. The victim culture of society
00:36:50.960
is handicapping and keeping so much greatness on the fucking table. And it's a big problem in our
00:36:56.700
culture. True. Guys, Andy, our third and final question for you. Question number three. Andy,
00:37:04.780
you've said before that it is a skill that you have developed to be able to walk into a meeting and
00:37:09.520
still get shit done when you've had to deal with frustrations or heated emotions previously in your
00:37:14.620
day. What tools do you use to develop those skills for you to focus on the task and not have those
00:37:21.080
emotions and frustrations? That's a good question. How do you, how do you handle that? I think that's
00:37:25.740
maturity. Um, when I was a less experienced, less skilled leader, I would not have any reservations or
00:37:32.980
filter about that. Uh, I was a fucking tornado, bro. Like I was a force of fucking nature. Like once I
00:37:39.640
started, there was no stopping it. And so I would go from person to meeting to person at level fucking
00:37:46.180
100 intensity, bro. And you know, while it got the job done, it could have been done much more
00:37:52.760
enjoyably, had a lot more fun, uh, built a lot better friendships and relationships than had I
00:37:58.800
acted that way that I, and by the way, I'm embarrassed of that. Like when I have regrets about
00:38:03.920
myself, one of my regrets that I have the most is that I lacked emotional self-control for a long
00:38:09.580
time. Okay. And, and I was hard on people that, that harder on people than what I should have been.
00:38:15.400
Does that make sense? Because I was dealing with other things and it wasn't. And by the way,
00:38:21.100
that still happens occasionally, but I recognize that I made a mistake, right? So the first thing is,
00:38:28.460
this person is clearly aware. And so you're ahead of where I was because I operated that way for a
00:38:34.520
long time. What I do now is I try to be present in the moment. I try to handle the tat. And by the
00:38:42.020
way, this makes you a lot more productive too. Okay. Because like when I'm in here to record the show,
00:38:47.680
I'm giving my all to you guys. Okay. When I go in into that boardroom over there and I walk in,
00:38:53.940
I am automatically not thinking about anything else. I'm thinking about this. Okay. So it's
00:38:59.100
about being present and it's about being focused and understanding that those emotions from that,
00:39:05.220
whatever happened 10 minutes ago or an hour ago or a day ago, or fucking when you were a kid
00:39:10.840
are irrelevant. That all they can do is hurt you. If you allow them to bleed onto other people in other
00:39:17.940
situations, and you have to learn how to get them to serve you. And how do you get
00:39:23.020
bad situations to serve you? Well, here's how you do it. You get yourself a chip and you put it on
00:39:30.020
your motherfucking shoulder. Okay. And every bad thing that happens to you, take it personally
00:39:34.840
and you put it in that motherfucking chip. Okay. So when someone, when your, when your girlfriend says
00:39:40.180
you ain't ever going to be what the fuck you say it is, you fucking take that shit. You, and you,
00:39:45.180
you fucking chisel it into your brain forever and you put it into that fucking chip on your shoulder.
00:39:50.340
Okay. And then when you're tired and when you're angry or when you don't fucking feel like it,
00:39:56.460
or you're trying to cut corners or you're trying to be lazy fuck. All right. You fucking remember
00:40:02.060
what the fuck they said. And that's how you use negativity to your benefit. Most of you try to
00:40:07.860
avoid negativity. Most of you are scared of negativity. Most of you don't know how to use
00:40:12.840
negativity, but if you can harness negativity into productive action, you've won the game because
00:40:19.480
most people can't do it. So when I see someone say something about me or when someone talks poorly
00:40:26.420
about me or when a situation happens that disturbs me emotionally, I don't get mad. I don't say shit.
00:40:32.440
I deposited into my motherfucking chip knowing that how I handle this is to go do something right now
00:40:40.020
that helps move me forward. Yeah. Right. Yeah. So, so, so dude,
00:40:44.860
so what I'm saying is when you're emotionally disturbed, all right, like, like they're asking,
00:40:50.300
Hey, I'm coming from one place. I'm going to another place. How do I not let it carry over?
00:40:55.880
You fucking take the shit that's pissed you off and you put it into this chip that you've created
00:41:01.040
on your shoulder. And then you go into the meeting knowing that the best possible fuck you
00:41:06.500
is to execute that meeting the best possible way. And when you start to operate that way, bro,
00:41:11.980
you become unstoppable because everything that anyone throws at you actually ends up blowing up
00:41:17.200
in their fucking face. Right. I'm hearing this motherfucker keeps getting better. Yeah, exactly.
00:41:22.320
And bro, that's how I am as a human. Like dude, every day, every day, every day for the last,
00:41:30.560
I don't know, fucking seven, eight years consistently since the podcast got popular,
00:41:36.480
I can open my phone and I can look and see hundreds of people that fucking think I'm a
00:41:43.520
fucking idiot or see I'm a piece of shit or say it, bro. And I like it. I like it. It's free
00:41:50.940
motivation. Yes. Yes. Yes. So fucking give it to me, motherfucker. Cause I take the shit,
00:41:57.640
I swallow it up and then I'm running even faster. You got to use what is given to you.
00:42:04.680
Yeah. Let me, let me, let me follow up real quick on this though, Andy, cause I think it's a powerful
00:42:09.740
point about the being aware, but I think, would you agree that most people feel like majority of
00:42:14.540
shit is just out of their control and that's why they can't, you know what I'm saying? Like what's
00:42:20.000
the, the holdup on the production pivot? You know, most people I think move through thinking that,
00:42:24.560
oh, well, well, yeah, what my fault. So it just is, it is what it is. Days fucked up now. Fuck
00:42:29.100
that meeting. Fuck everything. You know what I'm saying? Look, man, you'd like French fries.
00:42:32.740
Yeah. Fuck yeah. Somebody's got to cook them. Oh fuck. Yep. Yeah. Yeah. That's real shit.
00:42:41.300
Yeah. I know it is. Good God. Yeah. I know it is. Yeah. So like, bro, I can't help everybody.
00:42:45.620
You know, you, if you're going to fucking crumble because of the actual real things that every single
00:42:52.340
person that wants to be successful has to go through to be successful, maybe success isn't
00:42:58.200
your fucking purpose on this planet. And by the way, uh, that could be okay because you could do a
00:43:04.900
lot of good shit. Like you don't, but not every not. And I mean that not everybody's meant to do it.
00:43:11.240
Not everybody's meant for it, right? There are all kinds of different people, bro. There's people
00:43:17.580
who are artists. There's people who are writers. There's people who are, uh, you know, they do
00:43:21.840
other things or serve other purposes. So like the entrepreneur culture has on Instagram and social
00:43:29.520
media has really kind of fucked people's mentality, right? Because not everybody is built for that game.
00:43:35.360
It's a very difficult game. Seven to 8% of the population are entrepreneurs, but only fucking one
00:43:42.080
10th of 1% is actually successful. All right. And I don't say that to discourage you because you can
00:43:48.760
become someone who's built for the game. This is why I developed the whole live hard program. You can
00:43:54.100
fucking listen to it. Episode, uh, two Oh eight. All right. I built that so that people could condition
00:44:00.620
themselves to become someone who's built for the fucking game, but it's not everybody's purpose.
00:44:06.680
So I'm, I'm, when I talk this shit and I say these things, never think that I'm looking down on someone
00:44:12.540
else because I'm not, I am here for the motherfuckers where that is their purpose. And so I'm going to tell
00:44:18.320
you the truth about it. See what I'm saying? Absolutely. Because somebody's got to, is that three?
00:44:23.920
That's fucking three, man, dude. Yeah. I look good. I look good. I felt good about that. I had a good
00:44:31.600
time. Same time next week. Yeah. Same time. All right, guys, that's the show. Uh, don't forget
00:44:37.180
about that live stream this Saturday. Uh, you can go to rt syndicate.com. And if you enjoy the show,
00:44:42.580
if it brought you value, if it made you laugh, it made you think it made you mad. If you fucking hate me,
00:44:49.140
Yeah. Went from sleeping on the floor. Now my jewelry box froze. Fuck a pole. Fuck a stove.
00:44:54.720
Counted millions in the cold. Bad bitch. Booty swole. Got her on bankroll. Can't fold. Doesn't know.