REAL AF with Andy Frisella - November 09, 2022


412. Q&AF: Structuring Partnerships, Funding Your Start-Up & Becoming The Best Intrapreneur


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In this episode of the Realist Realist Podcast, host Andy Priscilla is joined by Q and A and they discuss money, how to talk about money, and why you should never be afraid to talk to people about money.

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00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realists, say goodbye
00:00:20.700 to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking
00:00:24.700 reality. Guys, today we have Q and AF, that's where basically I answer all your questions.
00:00:31.040 You can submit your questions too. Guys, email those questions in to askandyandandifriscilla.com.
00:00:37.200 Sometimes when you tune in, we have CTI, that's cruise the internet. Cruise the internet is
00:00:41.320 exactly what it sounds like. We put up three headlines, we talk about what might be true
00:00:46.640 or untrue about them, we laugh at them, we make fun of the people that write this bullshit
00:00:50.100 and then we talk about the actual problem at hand and how we the people are the solution
00:00:54.000 to these problems. Sometimes when you tune in, we have real talk. Real talk is five to
00:00:59.180 20 minutes of real talk. It's just what I think needs to be said. Usually it's based around
00:01:05.000 personal development and stuff that I see people, very obvious things that I see people missing
00:01:10.480 on in their quest to be better humans. And then sometimes we have full length and full
00:01:15.340 length is what you guys are typically used to, excuse me, a little protein, a little protein
00:01:21.720 burp right there. Uh, you know, from other shows, um, where there's two people sitting
00:01:27.600 there and they're doing an interview. The only difference is I really don't interview people.
00:01:32.720 Um, we have discussions and in those discussions, um, I jump in and interrupt people. And then
00:01:39.740 some of you guys like tell me like you're a bad interviewer and I'm like, yeah, I fucking 0.97
00:01:43.540 know. Cause it's not a fucking interview. And that's how the show goes. So we do have a fee
00:01:48.060 for the show. The fee is very simple. Um, because I don't take ads to, to, uh, you know,
00:01:55.620 to promote the show. I don't run ads on the show. Uh, and I miss out on millions and millions
00:02:00.640 of dollars by not doing so. So I ask in return that you please share the show. That means
00:02:06.800 if you find the show funny, if you get some good information, it made you laugh. It made
00:02:10.560 you think, uh, if it gave you a different perspective, please, uh, do me a favor and give
00:02:15.180 us a little share. All right. That's the fee. So when I say pay the fee, that's what I'm talking
00:02:18.820 about. Anyway, uh, on with the show. What do we got? Let's get into it. Uh, any question number
00:02:25.580 one, how do you structure your partnerships and how do you structure pay from those partnerships
00:02:32.800 among the owners? I have two partners. Um, and we have always split things one third. I know this
00:02:38.980 is human nature, but I feel like I'm bringing way more to the table year after year than they are.
00:02:44.020 I want to have a conversation with them at the year end. And I'd love your input on how
00:02:48.380 to handle this. Uh, sit them the fuck down and say, Hey motherfuckers, I'm pulling the 1.00
00:02:53.000 fucking water here. And, uh, if you don't pull your fucking water, we're going to change 0.55
00:02:58.040 the pay scale. It's really simple. Most people's money problems come from their hesitancy to have
00:03:06.300 conversations about money. Yeah. And then when they won't have the conversation about money,
00:03:10.680 they resent the people that they actually need to have the conversation with when it's
00:03:15.100 actually their own fault. Right. Right. Okay. So this is a real simple answer. Reach down
00:03:20.900 funnel your fucking nuts. Oh, got one. Yeah. Okay. Find them both. Yep. Get some fucking courage,
00:03:28.400 sit the fuck down and say, Hey motherfucker, I'm pulling the fucking weight here.
00:03:33.680 I'm doing this and this and this and this and this and this and this. Here's what you're doing.
00:03:40.300 You're doing this and this you, the third guy you're doing this and this and this, you're doing
00:03:45.200 a little better than this guy and be fucking honest and be like, this is not personal. This is not an 0.61
00:03:49.960 attack on you. This is reality. And we have two choices. We can either all start to pull that same
00:03:55.940 amount of weight or we can change the pay scale. I'm happy to carry the most weight, but I want to get
00:04:01.940 pay more. That's real. That's very simple. Yeah. That's real. Now, most people are so afraid to
00:04:08.000 have a conversation about money that they will literally live their entire life making far less
00:04:13.780 money than they ever could because they're so afraid of that conversation because it's taught
00:04:18.740 in American households that it's impolite and rude to talk about money. Yeah. You should never be
00:04:24.220 afraid to talk about money. If you're afraid to talk about money, you'll never fucking get any.
00:04:27.260 Hmm. That's real shit. Oh, that's real, man. Now, now follow up on that though. Would you say
00:04:33.240 that the work is relative, right? Like, cause everybody's going to have their own strength.
00:04:36.880 Well, everybody thinks they work the hardest. Exactly. That's what you're going to come up to
00:04:40.040 find. Exactly. Like you're going to sit down in that meeting and you're going to say all the shit you
00:04:44.240 say. And the other person is going to say, well, fuck dude, I do this and this and this and this.
00:04:48.280 Right. And you should give value and thought to that because that's their perspective. And there's
00:04:51.940 probably some truth to it. Right. Just because you see things your way and they see things their
00:04:57.200 way. Bro, everybody thinks they work the hardest out of the team. Right. Everybody thinks that
00:05:01.620 because hard is relative. It's the same reason when you talk to someone from Florida and they say,
00:05:07.440 fuck dude, it gets so hot in South Florida. I'm like, fuck dude, I live in St. Louis. It gets,
00:05:12.220 we have two months at a time and be over a hundred degrees here. Oh, it ain't hot like it is in South
00:05:16.840 Florida. Right. Bro, hot is hot. Right. Working hard is working hard. Everybody
00:05:21.960 it's a matter of perspective. And so at the end of the day, the conversation has to be had
00:05:28.600 so that there can be some healthier conversations and a healthier working relationship moving
00:05:33.360 forward. The problem is, is that most people go into the meeting with the wrong intent.
00:05:38.520 They go into the meeting to expose the other person or to make you piece of shit. Yes. Right.
00:05:44.340 When, when, when in reality, if you have the right intent, you would sit down in the meeting
00:05:50.240 and say, I would rather you guys do more shit so we can move faster as a team than me to make more
00:05:58.180 money and do more shit than you two. Right. That would be the intent. Is your intent team first
00:06:02.760 or is it you first? Right. Right. So as long as your intent is team first, uh, there's going to be
00:06:09.140 a productive outcome to that meeting because you'll be able to have a more healthy conversation.
00:06:13.660 Dude, this is why marriages fail. This is why business relationships fail. This is why fucking
00:06:19.100 people stay at jobs. They hate. This is why people stay in positions that they fucking think that
00:06:23.660 they're overqualified for, for their whole entire life, bro. There's nothing wrong with talking about
00:06:30.100 money. It's a real shit. It's the most important part of your whole entire fucking life because
00:06:34.940 without it, you can't fucking eat. So did spare me the spare me the fucking money is the root of all
00:06:41.740 evil or any of this other loser shit that you fucking picked up along the way. And don't be
00:06:46.040 afraid to talk about it because if you don't talk about it, you'll never have any. Uh, guys, uh,
00:06:50.280 question number two, Andy. So I work a normative nine to five, but I have a great business idea that
00:06:56.320 I'm very passionate about. I am finding it very difficult to find some funding to build a demo of
00:07:03.160 my idea. What kind of tips or avenues can you suggest to get some financial investing? I'm
00:07:09.820 considering taking out a personal loan, but what are your thoughts?
00:07:13.860 Well, before you take out a loan, like there's levels of, uh, of risk here. Okay. The least risk
00:07:20.540 would be to finance this new venture by living way below your means on the money that you're currently
00:07:28.580 making at your job and, and do it a little bit at a time. And that's probably, that's the way I
00:07:34.360 would do it. That's the way I've always done everything. Okay. Not having to owe people shit.
00:07:39.900 I hate owing people shit. Like bro, there's no, there's not another company on this. There's not
00:07:44.060 another group of companies on this fucking earth that exists at the level that we are with no debt. 0.75
00:07:49.560 It's non-existent because I am very debt averse because the truth is, um, I don't like owing people
00:07:56.300 shit. I don't like people having any leverage on me whatsoever. All right. So that's the first way
00:08:02.560 to do it is to trim your expenses down with very, very, very, uh, much so below your means and then
00:08:08.800 use the money that you are able to save to finance the new venture and at least test it out. And I
00:08:14.480 think that's probably doable. If your concept costs hundreds of thousands of dollars or millions of
00:08:19.240 dollars to test, um, it might be a little, you should probably crawl before you fucking walk 0.58
00:08:26.620 and try to run. And so then there's the, the idea of getting a loan like they're talking about.
00:08:32.420 Well, the problem with that is if it doesn't work out, you're spending the rest of your life
00:08:35.420 trying to pay that loan off. Okay. The best way to finance things is to figure out ways to generate
00:08:41.300 cashflow that will finance these things. And we live in the greatest technology age ever when it
00:08:47.620 comes to the ability to make some sort of income, doing something of value regarding online or
00:08:53.700 through information or a hundred million different ways to do it. So I would recommend doing that.
00:09:01.780 I would recommend figuring out a way to lower your expenses, take the money that you're already
00:09:07.340 making, maybe figure out a way to generate a little bit more cash and then test with that cash.
00:09:11.780 So that way, if it doesn't work, you're not fucking owing people and you're not, you haven't
00:09:15.360 destroyed your financial future. Um, if that doesn't work for you, if you're not willing to
00:09:20.920 do that, I got, I got, I got probably some real news for you that you're not going to like to hear.
00:09:25.120 You probably don't have what it takes because everybody wants to fucking play on everybody
00:09:29.880 else's money and they want to get a loan. They want someone to give money or they want someone
00:09:34.560 to invest or they want someone to do this in some fucking bullshit idea. Okay. Ideas don't,
00:09:41.240 don't mean shit. And you know how many great fucking ideas I get hit with in a day.
00:09:46.080 And by the way, just so you know, don't ask me for fucking money. I'm being serious. I get asked
00:09:51.880 for money 50 fucking times a day. Stop fucking asking me. I'm not giving you money. I'm not
00:09:57.320 investing in your shit. I don't care if it's the biggest opportunity ever. I don't care if you come,
00:10:02.180 I hope you do. I hope you become the next fucking apple. I hope that you make a trillion fucking
00:10:07.360 dollars. Still not investing. Don't fucking ask. I'm not an investor. I'm a fucking builder. I'm an
00:10:12.760 operator. I build my own shit. I take a lot of pride in it. I don't give a fuck. Go do your thing.
00:10:18.440 I'll teach you what I know. Don't ask me for money. That goes for everybody. Right. Okay.
00:10:25.440 So that's what I would recommend because if you're willing, if you're not willing to get your own skin
00:10:29.780 in the game, if you're not willing to grind out the extra stuff you need to finance your dreams,
00:10:34.940 there's no chance you have what it takes long-term. Yeah. Let me ask you this though,
00:10:39.500 on the, cause on the part you're saying, you know, you're very debt adverse. That's a choice,
00:10:44.400 right? Do you think that like, did you think that like slowed down the speed or a hundred percent?
00:10:50.420 Yeah. A hundred percent. But it also, uh, my company is probably worth five or six times,
00:10:55.660 uh, the amount of any other company of the similar size because there's no fucking debt. Right.
00:11:01.680 Right. And it's run. So you understand what I'm saying? Yep.
00:11:04.940 So there's a payoff there and yeah, it took longer. Okay. But here's also how I look at it.
00:11:11.320 Um, what would have happened had I fucking borrowed the money? See, here's what most people do,
00:11:15.260 dude. I see this all the time. People, people will start a company and they'll get it to a point
00:11:21.320 where they can qualify for some financing. And then they think that the best way to spend the money
00:11:26.440 is on fucking marketing. All right. So they'll take the money, put it into marketing,
00:11:31.880 thinking that the marketing will fucking 10 X their fucking business. All right. And they don't
00:11:37.600 understand that marketing is hit or miss. They don't understand how to test. They don't understand
00:11:40.860 how to figure out what works. They don't understand how to actually play the game. What ends up
00:11:44.880 happening is they waste all their money on marketing and they can't get it back. And now
00:11:48.740 they're in a way worse position than they were before because they owe the money and they don't have
00:11:53.200 any extra business. And this is almost what everybody does. So like everybody who kills
00:11:58.280 their own company, this is what I see. And so this is why like the same principle applies
00:12:02.960 to scaling out your fucking advertising. A lot of people cannot grasp the concept that when your 0.76
00:12:10.700 model, okay, your business model has fucking holes in it or cracks in it. All right. You're not able
00:12:17.580 to effectively serve the customer the proper way and they're getting bad service or you're constantly
00:12:24.180 out of product or you have a shitty culture that your employees don't care. And you, a lot of people
00:12:31.220 think that they can like outspend in advertising dollars, the problem that's an actual core inside
00:12:38.480 whatever their operation is. Yeah. Yeah. But here's the problem. Okay. They don't understand what
00:12:43.860 they're doing because when you pay to advertise your, what you're doing is you're saying, Hey,
00:12:48.500 everybody look at me. Okay. And if they look at you and your shit, isn't what you say it is,
00:12:54.200 you're not able to service the customer. You don't respond to fucking emails. You got shitty
00:12:59.120 fucking people and you're, that are rude to people. Uh, whatever, whatever the cracks are,
00:13:04.280 I call them holes in the bucket. Okay. Whatever the holes in the bucket are, um, are exposed
00:13:09.480 because immediately. Yes. And you're calling for everyone to look at your shit.
00:13:14.900 All that does is accelerate the death of your business because the word of mouth that's created
00:13:19.940 off of that is instant. Yeah. So you have to be very careful on how you scale your advertising
00:13:27.340 and you have to understand that your core business and your concept has to be solid top to bottom
00:13:34.220 before you ever want to go, Hey, everybody look at me. Okay. You want to make sure that when like,
00:13:40.860 Hey, everybody look at me and you're standing there naked. You look fucking good. Right.
00:13:45.500 That's the fucking point. And see, that's what most people don't understand. They think I'm going to
00:13:50.820 throw together some bullshit and I'm going to run some ads. I'm going to make some money.
00:13:54.160 Somebody buy it. Yeah. Because they're thinking transactionally and they're not thinking that
00:13:58.740 the real game, which is the real game is the accumulation of loyal customers. It is not
00:14:04.140 fucking one-off sales. Right. If you're a one-off sale person, you'll be chasing that your whole
00:14:10.040 life. And guess what? Even in the United States of America or the, whatever country you're listening
00:14:15.460 to this in, there's a limited amount of people. And once you develop a reputation, which can be done
00:14:21.340 instantly now you're fucked. All right. So this not, this did not used to be the case. These people
00:14:30.380 who operate this way are operating on an old business model. It used to be, you could have
00:14:36.200 holes in your bucket. You could have things wrong with your product. You could have fucking, you know,
00:14:42.100 unfavorable characteristics to your business model. And if you went out and advertised, you still sold
00:14:47.960 a bunch of shit because there was no social media. There was no text. There was no instant communication.
00:14:54.500 All right. And when there wasn't that, it took years for people to figure out what the problems
00:15:01.260 were because it took years for those conversations to happen. Now we live in instant society. The
00:15:08.180 conversation happens today. So if you go out and try to scale your model or your thing or your widget
00:15:13.340 too fucking soon before it's actually good enough to scale, all the customer does is reject it that 0.92
00:15:18.860 much faster. Yeah. Love it. Yeah. Uh, guys, our third and final question, uh, Andy, question number
00:15:28.940 three, Andy, I'm an entrepreneur for a company that sells construction equipment. I've been with the
00:15:36.020 company for seven years and I am top three in the company. I work on a commission basis. What do you
00:15:42.300 think would be the best way for me to separate myself from the other two and become the best one?
00:15:47.280 Uh, get better, do better, produce an undeniable amount of results that cannot be fucking compared
00:15:55.520 to the other two. It's very simple. Did I hear the question wrong? No. Yeah. That's it. I mean,
00:16:04.440 no, I mean, what are we looking for here? Right. I'll produce them by 10 to one, 10 to one,
00:16:10.840 not fucking a little bit more, not 20%. I'm doing 20% more than that. I don't give a fuck about that.
00:16:17.280 I'm doing 10 times more than that. Okay. All right. Let's sit down and talk. You got a case
00:16:22.880 here. You get it? Yeah. It's undeniable. Every, you, a lot of you guys are making the mistake of
00:16:30.220 seeking the bare minimum to become successful. You're trying to be just good enough. Here's the
00:16:36.780 thing. There's lots of people out there trying to be just good enough. And that makes the competition
00:16:44.000 extremely difficult. But when you work to become undeniable and you work to become the absolute
00:16:49.880 best and you work to, to, to outproduce the next person 15 or 20 or a hundred to one,
00:16:56.120 and you working to become great. Now you stand out. And by the way, there's so few people actually
00:17:02.460 shooting for that. Then once you actually grab the skills and accumulate the skills, which isn't that
00:17:07.800 much harder than being just pretty good, you're still, you're, you, you stand out anywhere you go.
00:17:14.240 All right. So that's the game. The game is to become undeniably great. If your target or your goal or
00:17:21.920 your quest is anything less than that, you are going to have a much harder time because there's more
00:17:27.940 people trying to do that. Like if there's, there's way more people trying to make a million dollars a
00:17:34.360 year, then there are people trying to make a hundred million a year. And by the way, you may
00:17:38.600 never make a hundred million a year, but if you made fucking 20, you're still making more than the
00:17:43.160 fucking $1 million a year guys. And by the way, the competition for that is fucking far less.
00:17:49.620 That's what we're missing. And the amount of work to get undeniably great is fractionally more than
00:17:56.140 what it is to be pretty good. It doesn't take that much more effort. It doesn't take like the
00:18:01.980 difference between being fucking not a fat ass and being totally ripped are like that extra 700 0.91
00:18:09.320 calories that you go and sneak in the middle of the night. The difference between me weighing 275
00:18:15.680 pounds and looking thick and maybe in 250 pounds of fucking shredded is the two scoops of peanut butter. 0.92
00:18:23.840 I eat in the fucking middle of the night. You get it right? Like it's, it's not that much difference
00:18:29.420 and that applies in business and life and everything. The amount of effort required to
00:18:35.100 be truly exceptional is only a minimal amount more in real effort and discipline than the guy who's
00:18:41.160 pretty good. But how you stand out is, is a hundred times more. It's undeniable. So you should make the
00:18:48.820 target to be undeniable because there's less competition and way more opportunity. That's real
00:18:54.520 stuff. And it, and like the old saying goes, make your, uh, goals shoot for the stars. And you'll
00:19:00.500 let, you know, even if you don't hit them, you'll land on the moon or whatever. That's true. That's
00:19:04.420 really true. If your goal right now is to make a hundred grand a year, you ain't ever making a
00:19:09.000 hundred grand a year. Your goals are way too small. You're going to make like 60. Yes. Yes. Yes, bro.
00:19:16.100 Like your goal should be as big as you can possibly comprehend or see it and understand that it could
00:19:22.260 be reality. And if you don't think like that, you'll never have any of it. Maybe you will fall
00:19:28.200 a little bit. Like, dude, my whole life, I know, I know I will never hit the goals I set for myself.
00:19:35.660 I fucking already know. I already know. And that's because they're too high. Yeah. And,
00:19:41.900 but I know that if I get close to you, I'm going to be fucking killing it. Right. You know what I'm
00:19:45.500 saying? That's served me my whole life. Like, bro, if I, if I would have said, like when I,
00:19:50.580 when I tell people my goals, they're like, bro, that sounds crazy. I'm like, yeah, I know.
00:19:56.480 But what ends up happening five or six, seven, eight years later is that shit happens.
00:20:00.600 And I get pretty fucking close and you're always going to do better setting a much bigger goal
00:20:05.560 than you will setting a quote unquote realistic goal. Because the nature is you always fall a
00:20:09.480 little bit short. No one hits their goals, bro. That's the dirty secret. None of these rich
00:20:14.020 motherfuckers that you look up to ever hit their actual goals. They never fucking hit them. 0.99
00:20:18.260 They never hit them. The only reason they're great is because their goals are so big.
00:20:22.840 They're hitting 80, 70, 80% of that fucking massive goal, which is undeniably great by everybody else's
00:20:29.040 standards. So like, dude, your, your success is going to be in direct proportion of the size of
00:20:33.880 the goals that you set. That's the fucking biggest secret that nobody talks about because all these
00:20:38.180 rich motherfuckers, except me, will all claim they hit every goal they fucking set. Right. 0.59
00:20:43.700 I'm just telling you, I don't hit any of my goals. I just get close and if you get close and you
00:20:49.620 have a big goal, guess what? That's going to be better than hitting your goal. If it's fucking
00:20:52.880 realistic, it's always the case. What you got, look, man, I live this shit. That's crazy. I've
00:21:03.020 lived it. That's some great shit, man. Yeah, but it's true. Yeah. You know, most people you say,
00:21:07.000 well, what, what's, what's your, what's your, what do you want? And they'll say what they believe
00:21:13.280 to be realistic within that frame. Right. There doesn't, they're not going to get them laughed
00:21:16.980 at. You're not going to get them shamed. Right. Not going to get them an eye roll. Bro, I've been
00:21:21.060 making everybody's eyes roll around me my whole fucking life. But guess what? I'm doing okay. I'm
00:21:27.000 doing pretty good. I'd say I'm probably doing better than most everybody ever thought I would.
00:21:32.180 And I feel like a failure. You know why? Because my goals are fucking gigantic.
00:21:37.000 You guys are wondering why, like, oh dude, why is this dude out working the way he does? Why is
00:21:42.040 he fucking doing cardio in a foot of snow when, when he could be on a yacht? Why is he doing this
00:21:46.380 and this? Well, dude, because my goals are so big, I'm not even close to him yet. You see what I'm
00:21:50.900 saying? Absolutely. So like, dude, if you have big goals and you have the true, you have it in you
00:21:57.420 to truly go and try to get those things, your life's going to look fucking great. Now, do I get upset
00:22:02.980 and frustrated sometimes? Yeah, I do. But that's also where the, that people will hear that and
00:22:07.620 they'll say, well, see, he's miserable. No, that's not it. I'm very fulfilled. I just have to check
00:22:12.680 myself sometimes to remind myself of what I have done and how grateful I am to be here. Okay. So
00:22:19.400 that's a discipline in itself. So all you fucking losers out there that will say, oh, see, he's all
00:22:25.080 happy. No, I'm very happy because I'm exercising discipline. I'm exercising gratitude and I have a huge
00:22:31.220 motherfucking purpose. And the purpose ain't to make money. The purpose is to save the whole
00:22:35.500 fucking world through the implementation of fucking good culture that starts in the middle 0.90
00:22:40.380 and small class of business here in America. So I have a massive purpose. It'll take me my whole
00:22:45.940 fucking life. And, uh, it makes me pretty excited to get the fuck out of bed. So for all the people
00:22:51.640 that are like, Ooh, because they're going to hear that. Yeah. See, see, see, see, see, see, see.
00:22:58.060 That's what I'm going back to. Those are not the people that I'm here for. Right.
00:23:02.540 It's real shit, man. Well guys, Andy, that is three. We'll pay the fee.
00:23:08.720 All right, guys, that's the show. Uh, share the show.
00:23:12.340 Went from sleeping on the floor. Now my jewelry box froze. Fuck a bowl. Fuck a stole.
00:23:17.860 Counted millions in the cold. Bad bitch. Booty's low. Got her on bank road. Can't fold. 1.00
00:23:23.740 Doesn't know. Headshot case closed.
00:23:26.060 So cold.
00:23:26.500 So cold.