REAL AF with Andy Frisella - June 01, 2020


43. You've Stopped Progressing, Now What？

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Andy Frisella
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Andy Priscilla
42. Replacing The Habits That Keep Us Ordinary 44. My "Black Square"

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In today's episode, we cover one of the most important things you can do to help you become a REALIST and stop being stuck in the past. And by REALISTING, we mean to stop holding on to your past victories and reliving your glory days.

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00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy priscilla and you're listening to the show for the realists say 0.99
00:00:17.960 goodbye to the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking
00:00:23.620 reality guys today we have a short episode but a very important episode it's uh it's a it's gonna 0.67
00:00:31.040 help you figure out how to get yourself unstuck and i'm gonna cover one of the biggest things that
00:00:39.260 you can do and you can literally do it right now to help you get that uh get past that feeling of
00:00:47.240 you know spinning your tires or being stuck in the mud you know where you're doing all this work
00:00:52.220 but nothing really seems to be happening we're gonna we're gonna talk about how we can switch
00:00:57.180 that literally almost immediately but before we do that um i want to remind you guys you know
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00:01:38.820 basically this if you like the show if you learn something from the show if you got something from
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00:01:54.680 you know give us a little share a little love with your friends and that's it so um our mission here
00:02:00.300 is to help you guys become realists all right uh becoming a realist is very beneficial because
00:02:07.240 when we remove the idealistic mindset from our brain we're able to produce an idealistic result
00:02:14.600 because we address what is real if you're addressing the facts to produce a positive outcome
00:02:20.380 that's how you produce a positive outcome how you do not produce a positive outcome is by
00:02:26.900 operating on the way you think things should be when they actually aren't because that's what's going
00:02:33.060 to keep you in that same spot and frustrated and angry and mad at really at everybody which we have
00:02:38.180 a lot of going around right now right so with that being said guys uh today i'm gonna get right
00:02:43.780 into it um today i want to talk about one of the main things that will for sure destroy your forward
00:02:50.740 progress it's going to destroy your forward momentum and ultimately destroy your potential for success
00:02:58.680 and that thing i'm talking about is this holding on to your past victories also known as reliving your
00:03:07.280 glory days all right and i'm sure by now you guys have seen this scenario play out in person
00:03:12.460 a bunch of different times i'm sure when i just say that you can actually remember a time where
00:03:19.180 you've seen someone just stuck in the past so hard you know you go back to that town where you grew up
00:03:26.120 and you decide you know to stop in the local watering hole that you used to visit all the time
00:03:30.620 and it's a tuesday and the clock has barely ticked past the start of happy hour and there he is 0.95
00:03:36.440 at the corner of the bar shit-faced slurring the prom king from your graduating year he's sitting 0.96
00:03:43.300 right there the captain of the football team the star quarterback the guy who had it all and he's 0.99
00:03:49.200 drunk and he's sloppy and he's drooling and he's still talking about it now i'm sure a lot of you guys
00:03:57.640 can relate to this i know i can i could count on this i could count this many many times in my life i
00:04:02.380 witness this uh and what what's our first thought when we see this right did you want to run up and 0.97
00:04:07.380 shake this guy's hand and pat him on the back and congratulate him for all the shit that he did way 0.99
00:04:12.060 back in 98 no that's not what you did instead you probably thought like i did wow man that sucks 0.98
00:04:20.520 i'm i'm i'm sorry for that dude you know i'm really glad i left this all behind me and it serves
00:04:27.560 as a reminder of you making the proper decisions in life or you know if you're like me you kind of
00:04:35.360 avoid the awkwardness and you decide to skip out on the drink entirely and just avoid the possibility
00:04:41.160 that this guy might see you and rope you into some conversation either way it's not a positive thought
00:04:47.500 for anybody you know these people that peaked in high school they're still in the same spot they're
00:04:53.060 still stuck in time they're still rolling up in that same trans am they did back when they were 0.99
00:04:58.160 cool as shit only now that car is a piece of shit it's faded from years in the sun there's rust on 1.00
00:05:06.240 every quarter panel they're you know the person's about 100 pounds overweight with male pattern baldness 1.00
00:05:12.200 and they're still hitting on the motherfucking waitress so what happened well i'll tell you what 0.98
00:05:18.040 happened guys these guys these people they put such a focus on their past achievements that has 0.98
00:05:23.820 blocked their ability to see a possible future and since you cannot relive the past as much as people 0.80
00:05:31.460 constantly try to what happens is you end up dead in the water okay you're a sailboat with no wind
00:05:37.720 you're you're at a complete standstill in all areas of life and you think looking back at all these
00:05:43.040 great achievements that you once had will encourage you to go out and accomplish more
00:05:47.620 but it doesn't actually what it does is the exact opposite it creates a dangerous cycle of
00:05:54.320 depression you're going to realize that you've passed the time where you can match your former
00:05:59.880 self and also that you spent so much time dwelling on it you haven't even learned a single new skill 0.98
00:06:07.580 and guys i know this is depressing but i want you to be aware this is how you end up dead in a shitty 0.99
00:06:15.200 recliner surrounded by some shitty carpet with an empty six pack of fucking stag and a room full of 1.00
00:06:21.580 trophies that no one gives a shit about think about that when you're gone do you think your kids are 0.99
00:06:27.700 going to keep all those trophies from high school and proudly display them in their own home as your 0.87
00:06:32.220 legacy to them no best case scenario is they end up in a box in someone's attic but the most likely case 0.98
00:06:39.900 scenario is they'll end up in a motherfucking dumpster so congrats on being good at something 0.96
00:06:46.660 at one time but what do you do today okay this is the mindset you need to adopt and put into practice 0.99
00:06:54.600 every day every week every month is a new opportunity to get better and to move yourself forward and you have
00:07:04.300 to be able to take that rush of achievement acknowledge and be proud of the work you did to get there and then
00:07:09.820 immediately move on to the next thing at hand i see it all the time guys and you do too if we're
00:07:14.780 being honest someone wins employee of the month and it that you know all of a sudden they're walking 0.97
00:07:19.360 around with a puffy chest and they're they're the shit right but then they start to slack off and then 0.88
00:07:24.260 they become more lax on the the exercises that got them to that point they stopped doing the things 0.99
00:07:30.100 that got them there in the first place and and they assume that they've reached this level and they're
00:07:34.740 going to stay there and so what do they do they go into cruise control mode and they think that
00:07:39.620 they're just going to be employee of the month forever and what happens next month they're the
00:07:44.360 shittiest employee in the business successful people guys they realize that you have to keep
00:07:51.320 moving forward while you're congratulating them on their success they're already planning their next move
00:07:57.780 dude let's talk about kobe right do you think he won a championship and then went home to cuddle with 0.98
00:08:03.480 his trophies or go to the club and tell everyone to listen for the next four fucking years no 0.96
00:08:08.380 that's not what made kobe great instead he woke up even earlier the next day ready to go to battle he 0.90
00:08:16.000 stayed even later than everyone else so that he could keep his focus he looked at his complacency and his
00:08:23.260 winning as something that he needed to attack aggressively to keep him from getting complacent and if it
00:08:30.720 wasn't for this truly unfortunate helicopter accident you all know that he'd still be working to strengthen
00:08:36.980 that legacy today okay we can we can go down the list of people here let's take elon musk in 95 he
00:08:44.120 started zip 2 with his brother in 99 his company was purchased by compact for 300 million dollars
00:08:50.060 he personally got 22 million dollars off that deal now if you gain 22 million dollars today
00:08:56.760 people would think they're going to retire for life elon didn't do that he kept going and one month
00:09:03.580 after this huge payout he co-founded x.com and three years later he was able to sell that to ebay
00:09:09.900 for over a billion dollars a billion and a half to be accurate okay within three years he was able to
00:09:16.180 sell it to ebay for one and a half billion dollars in stock under a new name a name you know as paypal
00:09:22.940 this time he accumulated 165 million for himself surely now's the time he could sit on his success
00:09:31.180 sipping some fruity umbrella drink on a private island but if you're familiar with the current
00:09:36.660 events you already know he didn't do that instead he formed spacex and then tesla and then solar city
00:09:43.460 he became one of the richest and most powerful people in the world and continues to create new
00:09:51.000 ventures and foster progress in science and mathematics and business that's impressive that's
00:09:59.100 legacy that's the mentality you have to keep if you want to become the boss like everybody claims they
00:10:07.500 want to be you can't be that guy sloshed at 7 p.m in the bar blaring springsteen's glory days okay
00:10:17.100 that's it's fucking ironic anyway even springsteen's makes fun of these guys and that song you have to 0.86
00:10:23.820 learn to take your little wins and use them as a foundation for progressing further if you find 0.79
00:10:30.260 yourself at the highest possible point in some area of your life that's the time to reevaluate
00:10:36.040 learn some new skills and then build upon it to create something even better all right the only
00:10:42.480 limits to a successful career or a successful life are self-imposed all right basically what i'm saying
00:10:49.620 guys is this milestones are huge and they're important and it's important to celebrate your
00:10:54.400 wins for a short period of time but you can't just hit one home run and quit they're meant to be built
00:11:01.880 upon they're meant to be strung together those stones should eventually form a path a path to success
00:11:09.440 and what your legacy will ultimately be it doesn't matter what you did yesterday it doesn't matter what you
00:11:17.740 did last month it doesn't matter what you did last year it doesn't matter what you did 10 years ago
00:11:24.280 what are you doing today 0.98
00:11:26.780 told my teacher don't bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living down spoke it till 1.00
00:11:32.740 existed 0.98
00:11:33.160 while i'm from where you can, so