43. You've Stopped Progressing, Now What？
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Summary
In today's episode, we cover one of the most important things you can do to help you become a REALIST and stop being stuck in the past. And by REALISTING, we mean to stop holding on to your past victories and reliving your glory days.
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what is up guys it's andy priscilla and you're listening to the show for the realists say
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goodbye to the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking
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reality guys today we have a short episode but a very important episode it's uh it's a it's gonna
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help you figure out how to get yourself unstuck and i'm gonna cover one of the biggest things that
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you can do and you can literally do it right now to help you get that uh get past that feeling of
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you know spinning your tires or being stuck in the mud you know where you're doing all this work
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but nothing really seems to be happening we're gonna we're gonna talk about how we can switch
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that literally almost immediately but before we do that um i want to remind you guys you know
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you know give us a little share a little love with your friends and that's it so um our mission here
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is to help you guys become realists all right uh becoming a realist is very beneficial because
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when we remove the idealistic mindset from our brain we're able to produce an idealistic result
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because we address what is real if you're addressing the facts to produce a positive outcome
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that's how you produce a positive outcome how you do not produce a positive outcome is by
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operating on the way you think things should be when they actually aren't because that's what's going
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to keep you in that same spot and frustrated and angry and mad at really at everybody which we have
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a lot of going around right now right so with that being said guys uh today i'm gonna get right
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into it um today i want to talk about one of the main things that will for sure destroy your forward
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progress it's going to destroy your forward momentum and ultimately destroy your potential for success
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and that thing i'm talking about is this holding on to your past victories also known as reliving your
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glory days all right and i'm sure by now you guys have seen this scenario play out in person
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a bunch of different times i'm sure when i just say that you can actually remember a time where
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you've seen someone just stuck in the past so hard you know you go back to that town where you grew up
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and you decide you know to stop in the local watering hole that you used to visit all the time
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and it's a tuesday and the clock has barely ticked past the start of happy hour and there he is
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at the corner of the bar shit-faced slurring the prom king from your graduating year he's sitting
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right there the captain of the football team the star quarterback the guy who had it all and he's
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drunk and he's sloppy and he's drooling and he's still talking about it now i'm sure a lot of you guys
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can relate to this i know i can i could count on this i could count this many many times in my life i
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witness this uh and what what's our first thought when we see this right did you want to run up and
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shake this guy's hand and pat him on the back and congratulate him for all the shit that he did way
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back in 98 no that's not what you did instead you probably thought like i did wow man that sucks
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i'm i'm i'm sorry for that dude you know i'm really glad i left this all behind me and it serves
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as a reminder of you making the proper decisions in life or you know if you're like me you kind of
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avoid the awkwardness and you decide to skip out on the drink entirely and just avoid the possibility
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that this guy might see you and rope you into some conversation either way it's not a positive thought
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for anybody you know these people that peaked in high school they're still in the same spot they're
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still stuck in time they're still rolling up in that same trans am they did back when they were
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cool as shit only now that car is a piece of shit it's faded from years in the sun there's rust on
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every quarter panel they're you know the person's about 100 pounds overweight with male pattern baldness
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and they're still hitting on the motherfucking waitress so what happened well i'll tell you what
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happened guys these guys these people they put such a focus on their past achievements that has
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blocked their ability to see a possible future and since you cannot relive the past as much as people
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constantly try to what happens is you end up dead in the water okay you're a sailboat with no wind
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you're you're at a complete standstill in all areas of life and you think looking back at all these
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great achievements that you once had will encourage you to go out and accomplish more
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but it doesn't actually what it does is the exact opposite it creates a dangerous cycle of
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depression you're going to realize that you've passed the time where you can match your former
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self and also that you spent so much time dwelling on it you haven't even learned a single new skill
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and guys i know this is depressing but i want you to be aware this is how you end up dead in a shitty
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recliner surrounded by some shitty carpet with an empty six pack of fucking stag and a room full of
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trophies that no one gives a shit about think about that when you're gone do you think your kids are
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going to keep all those trophies from high school and proudly display them in their own home as your
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legacy to them no best case scenario is they end up in a box in someone's attic but the most likely case
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scenario is they'll end up in a motherfucking dumpster so congrats on being good at something
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at one time but what do you do today okay this is the mindset you need to adopt and put into practice
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every day every week every month is a new opportunity to get better and to move yourself forward and you have
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to be able to take that rush of achievement acknowledge and be proud of the work you did to get there and then
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immediately move on to the next thing at hand i see it all the time guys and you do too if we're
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being honest someone wins employee of the month and it that you know all of a sudden they're walking
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around with a puffy chest and they're they're the shit right but then they start to slack off and then
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they become more lax on the the exercises that got them to that point they stopped doing the things
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that got them there in the first place and and they assume that they've reached this level and they're
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going to stay there and so what do they do they go into cruise control mode and they think that
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they're just going to be employee of the month forever and what happens next month they're the
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shittiest employee in the business successful people guys they realize that you have to keep
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moving forward while you're congratulating them on their success they're already planning their next move
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dude let's talk about kobe right do you think he won a championship and then went home to cuddle with
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his trophies or go to the club and tell everyone to listen for the next four fucking years no
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that's not what made kobe great instead he woke up even earlier the next day ready to go to battle he
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stayed even later than everyone else so that he could keep his focus he looked at his complacency and his
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winning as something that he needed to attack aggressively to keep him from getting complacent and if it
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wasn't for this truly unfortunate helicopter accident you all know that he'd still be working to strengthen
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that legacy today okay we can we can go down the list of people here let's take elon musk in 95 he
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started zip 2 with his brother in 99 his company was purchased by compact for 300 million dollars
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he personally got 22 million dollars off that deal now if you gain 22 million dollars today
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people would think they're going to retire for life elon didn't do that he kept going and one month
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after this huge payout he co-founded x.com and three years later he was able to sell that to ebay
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for over a billion dollars a billion and a half to be accurate okay within three years he was able to
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sell it to ebay for one and a half billion dollars in stock under a new name a name you know as paypal
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this time he accumulated 165 million for himself surely now's the time he could sit on his success
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sipping some fruity umbrella drink on a private island but if you're familiar with the current
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events you already know he didn't do that instead he formed spacex and then tesla and then solar city
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he became one of the richest and most powerful people in the world and continues to create new
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ventures and foster progress in science and mathematics and business that's impressive that's
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legacy that's the mentality you have to keep if you want to become the boss like everybody claims they
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want to be you can't be that guy sloshed at 7 p.m in the bar blaring springsteen's glory days okay
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that's it's fucking ironic anyway even springsteen's makes fun of these guys and that song you have to
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learn to take your little wins and use them as a foundation for progressing further if you find
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yourself at the highest possible point in some area of your life that's the time to reevaluate
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learn some new skills and then build upon it to create something even better all right the only
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limits to a successful career or a successful life are self-imposed all right basically what i'm saying
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guys is this milestones are huge and they're important and it's important to celebrate your
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wins for a short period of time but you can't just hit one home run and quit they're meant to be built
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upon they're meant to be strung together those stones should eventually form a path a path to success
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and what your legacy will ultimately be it doesn't matter what you did yesterday it doesn't matter what you
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did last month it doesn't matter what you did last year it doesn't matter what you did 10 years ago
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told my teacher don't bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living down spoke it till