REAL AF with Andy Frisella - January 03, 2023


451. Q&AF： Traditional Retirement, Reigniting Initiative & Public Speaking

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In this episode of Q&A, we have a special guest on the show today. DJ Khaled! We talk about his relationship with his wife, his new baby boy, and how he and his wife are raising a baby boy.

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00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realistic, goodbye to 0.98
00:00:20.900 the lies, the fitness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality. 0.76
00:00:24.600 Guys, today we have Q and AF, that is where you submit the questions and I give you the 0.97
00:00:29.180 answers.
00:00:30.180 Now you can submit those questions two different ways.
00:00:32.900 The first way is you can submit them to guys, email those to ask Andy at Andy for summer.com.
00:00:39.420 Or if you're watching this on YouTube, you could drop them right here in the comments
00:00:42.300 underneath this video and we will procure them from there anyway, this is your first time
00:00:52.460 listening.
00:00:53.460 We have multiple shows.
00:00:54.460 You're listening to Q and AF.
00:00:55.460 We also have CTI, which is cruise the internet.
00:00:58.460 This is a current event show.
00:00:59.460 We throw up three headlines on the screen.
00:01:01.620 We talk about what's true, what may not be true.
00:01:05.000 Uh, we take our best guess as to what's actually going on and we make fun of the people heavily,
00:01:11.280 uh, that buy into the mainstream narrative.
00:01:13.920 Then we have real talk.
00:01:15.260 Real talk is five to 20 minutes of real talk.
00:01:17.640 It's just, uh, me giving you some things that I think need to be heard.
00:01:21.600 And I'm going to be doing more and more of these, uh, as we progress into the new year.
00:01:26.180 And then we have full length, full length is, uh, just like what you see on every other
00:01:29.380 podcast where there's two people or three people sitting around having a conversation.
00:01:33.280 So that's the gist of the show.
00:01:35.180 Um, for those of you that don't know, this show is the involvement of an original show
00:01:40.520 called the MFCEO project.
00:01:41.960 Now the MFCEO project was the number one business, uh, podcast on iTunes for, uh, the longest
00:01:47.820 uninterrupted stretch ever that I'm aware of, uh, in history of podcasts.
00:01:52.740 So we were pretty good at it.
00:01:56.060 And a lot of the information that I give out to you on these Q and AF shows, uh, comes
00:02:01.040 from the MFCEO project.
00:02:02.420 And this is personal development.
00:02:03.920 This is how to win.
00:02:04.980 It's how to get better, how to build a business, how to become successful, et cetera, et cetera,
00:02:08.740 et cetera.
00:02:09.400 And for the exchange of me trading this part of my knowledge that I've gained over many,
00:02:15.840 many years, I asked that you do one simple thing for me.
00:02:18.420 And that's this, if the show makes you laugh, if it makes you think, if it gives you a new
00:02:22.500 perspective, if it teaches you some skills, it gives you a new idea on how to get better,
00:02:26.820 please share the show.
00:02:28.080 Okay.
00:02:28.460 That's what we work on here.
00:02:29.580 So when I say pay the fee, that's the fee.
00:02:31.260 The fee is not monetary.
00:02:32.920 Um, I also don't take ad money from people to sit on the show here and talk about a bunch 0.92
00:02:37.760 of shit that I don't use, uh, and bore you with it. 0.88
00:02:41.300 And I also don't want to answer those people. 0.99
00:02:42.920 So in exchange for all of that, just share the show guys.
00:02:46.340 That's it, man.
00:02:46.920 We, we grow when you share the show and that's it.
00:02:49.900 Um, so with that being said, let's get on with it.
00:02:53.620 Yeah.
00:02:54.220 What's going on?
00:02:54.700 What's going on, man?
00:02:55.380 Happy new year.
00:02:56.200 Yeah.
00:02:56.860 Happy new year, bro.
00:02:57.880 A couple of days in, not too bad.
00:03:01.460 How was it?
00:03:02.240 How was your weekend?
00:03:03.000 It was good.
00:03:03.500 Well, I mean, it was good, but it was more, probably more good for you.
00:03:07.380 You got some news.
00:03:09.320 Oh yeah.
00:03:09.780 I'm black.
00:03:12.400 Yeah, man.
00:03:13.100 Baby number two, man.
00:03:14.120 Yeah.
00:03:14.720 Congrats, bro.
00:03:15.600 Thank you, man.
00:03:16.220 That's awesome.
00:03:17.240 I'll be honest.
00:03:17.800 Like it was kind of hard to, I really wanted a boy.
00:03:20.640 Yeah. 0.99
00:03:21.600 So you're just going to throw this girl in the trash. 1.00
00:03:23.360 I mean, in other countries, fuck with you, man. 1.00
00:03:27.780 Like, I'm just saying, man, like, you know, but it's cool. 1.00
00:03:31.560 It's like, I mean, I don't know how to compare it to like, you know, raising a boy, but no,
00:03:36.180 girls are not, not terrible, man.
00:03:37.480 I just, come on, man.
00:03:39.040 Yeah.
00:03:39.320 It's pretty awesome.
00:03:40.060 Yeah.
00:03:40.220 It's cool.
00:03:40.840 Yeah.
00:03:41.040 It's cool.
00:03:41.520 Congrats.
00:03:41.900 Thank you, man.
00:03:42.380 I appreciate it.
00:03:43.100 That's really cool.
00:03:43.680 Yeah.
00:03:44.080 And then I go, go see the vet next week.
00:03:48.040 Cause I got my, uh, I'm getting neutered.
00:03:50.380 Oh, you're going to, yeah. 1.00
00:03:51.160 Fuck yeah. 1.00
00:03:51.800 I'm not, bro. 1.00
00:03:52.640 I'm done.
00:03:52.940 Are you really doing that? 1.00
00:03:53.680 Fuck yeah. 1.00
00:03:54.240 Oh, really? 1.00
00:03:54.740 Hell yeah.
00:03:55.340 I said, I don't know.
00:03:56.180 Should we YouTube that?
00:03:57.140 That should be like a YouTube video.
00:03:59.520 DJ gets snipped.
00:04:00.520 You'll need a really big camera.
00:04:01.680 I know that.
00:04:02.400 Wide lens.
00:04:03.200 Uh, you know what I'm saying?
00:04:05.180 Uh, a lot less big than it used to be though.
00:04:07.440 When you were three 50.
00:04:09.420 So you started 75 hard today.
00:04:11.220 75 hard.
00:04:12.040 Today when we're recording the show is a Monday.
00:04:14.020 Yeah.
00:04:14.380 Day one, 75 hard going well.
00:04:17.320 And, uh, yeah, everything's good, man.
00:04:20.420 Now, why are you stacking up?
00:04:21.760 Like you just finished 75 hard in phase one.
00:04:24.380 Why did you decide to start again? 0.98
00:04:25.940 Uh, cause I'm not a little bitch. 0.94
00:04:29.840 Well, I think the proper answer is you want to continue to get back. 0.97
00:04:32.160 Right.
00:04:32.720 Yeah.
00:04:32.900 100.
00:04:33.280 I mean, that's you. 1.00
00:04:34.460 I'm trying to actually teach people shit. 0.99
00:04:36.760 Yeah. 0.99
00:04:37.240 Sorry.
00:04:37.880 Yeah.
00:04:38.120 No, I mean, cause like, so there, you know, there, there's the 30 day break between phase
00:04:41.740 one and phase two, but that's the 30 day break between phase one and phase two.
00:04:46.940 There's nothing that says you can't do 75 hard again.
00:04:49.440 Well, look, dude, they, it doesn't count.
00:04:52.480 I think the good, the good plan for you would be to start here and move through live hard from
00:04:57.460 here.
00:04:57.820 Yeah.
00:04:58.260 And don't worry about the one you did before.
00:05:00.020 Yeah.
00:05:00.280 Yeah.
00:05:00.480 That's real.
00:05:01.800 So we'll just, we'll start here.
00:05:05.060 We'll go from here.
00:05:06.040 Yeah.
00:05:06.320 I'm, I'm excited.
00:05:07.780 Um, yeah, I'm, I'm excited for it.
00:05:09.700 I think it'd be, be pretty awesome.
00:05:11.180 I know there's a lot of shit ton of people out there that are starting also right now.
00:05:14.460 So that's going to be pretty cool.
00:05:15.480 Seems to be the case.
00:05:16.360 Yeah.
00:05:17.020 I really hope that people will stick it out because it will change their entire lives.
00:05:21.360 Yeah. 0.99
00:05:22.000 Well, I mean, I don't know, bro, that could be the ripple effect that changes some shit. 0.98
00:05:25.360 You know what I'm saying? 0.98
00:05:25.900 Man, you got hundreds of thousands of people changing their lives for the better.
00:05:31.820 Personal excellence is the ultimate rebellion. 0.98
00:05:33.360 It's a pretty big fucking ripple effect. 0.97
00:05:35.220 So I'm excited for it. 0.98
00:05:37.800 What do we got today, bro?
00:05:39.540 Got some good ones.
00:05:40.280 Got some good ones for you, man.
00:05:41.240 All right, good.
00:05:41.360 As always, let's, uh, start these out.
00:05:44.160 Uh, Andy, question number one, um, a couple of shows ago, you talked about always needing
00:05:48.520 to move forward and how it, uh, and how important it is to continually improve yourself.
00:05:54.100 My question is, uh, what's your thought and, and what, what, what's your thoughts and what
00:05:58.720 do you think about the traditional idea of retirement?
00:06:01.800 Uh, the closer I get to it, the less appealing it is.
00:06:04.880 What are your thoughts on the current traditional retirement mindset?
00:06:08.080 You know, I think that most people are fed the idea of retirement as a carrot to stick
00:06:20.340 it through.
00:06:21.480 And, you know, when people think of retiring, you know, I hear, I often hear this from young
00:06:29.720 entrepreneurs, you know, I want to retire by the time I'm 40. 0.98
00:06:32.320 Well, you know how I know you're not a real entrepreneur and not a real fucking savage winner 0.96
00:06:36.100 because those people don't retire. 0.98
00:06:38.840 Those people love the game.
00:06:40.520 They love building.
00:06:41.540 They love creating.
00:06:42.560 They love helping.
00:06:43.540 They love business.
00:06:44.960 They love everything about it.
00:06:46.900 They love the process.
00:06:48.560 I'm one of those people.
00:06:50.060 The idea of retiring and doing nothing is I really can't think of anything worse.
00:06:55.560 And when you really consider the fact I was talking to a friend of mine, I hadn't talked
00:06:59.240 to in a while, uh, yesterday on actual new year's day.
00:07:02.480 And we were talking about how people that are built to build things and create things,
00:07:08.140 which I think all people are, I think they're indoctrinated to not believe that about themselves.
00:07:13.620 But what I think is, is that, you know, this is why we see very wealthy people, you know,
00:07:18.820 sell their businesses or quote unquote exit and retire.
00:07:22.820 And, um, you know, and then in two or three years they're dead, you know, and whether they
00:07:28.600 kill themselves or they drank themselves to death or, you know, some sort of weird thing,
00:07:34.200 we see this all the time.
00:07:35.980 And, you know, and then people like to point at it and they say, see, see success.
00:07:40.800 It's, it's lonely at the top, bro.
00:07:43.700 You shouldn't do it.
00:07:45.060 Live like us, be like us, be poor like us, be average like us.
00:07:49.380 Because see what happens when you're successful and what they're not understanding is that
00:07:54.300 most of those people really didn't understand how valuable the process is and how much joy
00:08:01.920 and fulfillment you get out of the creation process.
00:08:05.000 And so for true winners, true people that are like in the blood entrepreneurs, creators,
00:08:10.820 you can't get out of that.
00:08:13.300 Like if I were to sell, and by the way, I've been approached to sell things many times
00:08:17.440 for enough money to where I would never have to work again, ever, ever, ever.
00:08:22.080 And if I live for 500 years, I still wouldn't have to work like that's, that's the truth. 0.98
00:08:26.920 The thing is, is why the fuck would I want that, bro? 0.98
00:08:31.180 Like I have, look what I have. 0.98
00:08:32.640 I have everything I've ever wanted.
00:08:34.380 I can do anything I've ever wanted.
00:08:36.600 I get to come here.
00:08:37.660 I get to be around young, hungry, energizing people that keep me young, keep me motivated,
00:08:41.780 keep me moving forward every single day. 0.96
00:08:43.600 Like we get to do things that help people change their entire fucking lives. 0.93
00:08:47.600 Like if I sold a business and I took myself out of that, what do I actually gain? 0.99
00:08:52.040 I don't really gain anything because I already have all the shit I want. 0.96
00:08:56.260 Does that make sense? 0.97
00:08:57.580 So like, I think a lot of people in business don't really think that part through.
00:09:02.140 They don't think that your entire identity, your entire purpose, your entire reason for
00:09:07.180 existing, you know, in most cases, the things that actually drive you and create you and
00:09:12.480 keep you young, you're going to take money to give that away.
00:09:16.780 That doesn't make sense to me, you know?
00:09:18.540 And so I think the concept of retirement is more of a story that's told to the worker
00:09:25.640 bees that will get them through the grueling process of the 40 years that they have to
00:09:31.620 put in to get there as if it's some sort of reward.
00:09:34.720 It's never made sense to me, right?
00:09:36.160 But like, you're going to wait to live your life until you're 65 years old when you're
00:09:41.380 already old and you don't have the youthful energy.
00:09:44.080 You don't have the ability to do things. 1.00
00:09:46.220 I mean, sure, you might have some money, but you're fucking old, bro. 0.99
00:09:50.260 Like you don't got time, you know? 0.97
00:09:52.640 And so they trick people into trading all of their time for this end thing called retirement 0.94
00:09:59.520 that really ain't that fucking great, okay?
00:10:01.900 And I think people really need to think about this because the goal of your business, the 0.84
00:10:06.420 goal of your career is not retirement, dude. 0.98
00:10:08.900 And also you shouldn't be waiting until 65 years old to do the shit that you think you 0.99
00:10:14.820 should do. 1.00
00:10:15.380 And no, that doesn't mean that you should just throw your career in the trash and live in 1.00
00:10:19.340 a fucking van and travel the fucking world. 1.00
00:10:21.460 Right. 1.00
00:10:21.680 Because people tend to take the, whatever to the extreme.
00:10:25.020 Yeah.
00:10:25.280 Yeah.
00:10:25.440 Yeah. 1.00
00:10:25.640 So like, oh fuck. 1.00
00:10:26.740 No, you need money. 1.00
00:10:28.300 So what's the answer? 0.51
00:10:29.640 The answer is to become super fucking effective to where you still have free time on a day 0.89
00:10:35.520 by day basis to enjoy your life and then to do so.
00:10:38.500 And so I think, you know, for me, the concept of retirement is a false reality dream that
00:10:45.760 people are sold so that they will continue to show up to work for 40 years.
00:10:50.600 And the reality is, dude, it doesn't even work anyway because at the rate that currency
00:10:55.900 inflates, what you save during the course of time by the time you're 65 years old will
00:11:01.140 be worth very little.
00:11:02.060 So like you, you have to basically buy into the idea that you're going to go at whatever
00:11:07.260 it is that you go at until you're dead.
00:11:09.280 Yeah.
00:11:09.740 And, and there's, that doesn't mean a slave.
00:11:11.700 That means you're actually privileged to be able to create your entire life.
00:11:16.160 How much fulfillment would that bring you?
00:11:18.960 Constantly having to reinvent yourself, constantly having to go on a new adventure for your career,
00:11:24.040 constantly being able to try new things, do new things, create new things.
00:11:28.400 These are the exciting things of an entrepreneur's life.
00:11:31.120 And so many people try to exit out of them because they think that's what they're supposed
00:11:35.940 to do.
00:11:36.940 And it ends up ruining.
00:11:38.360 I've seen it so many times.
00:11:39.720 I have so many people that I know that have sold their business, you know, for 50 million,
00:11:45.820 a hundred million, 500 million.
00:11:48.480 And, you know, bro, you go see them in two years. 1.00
00:11:51.380 They bought all the shit they want to buy. 0.99
00:11:53.300 They've gone on the trips they want to go on. 1.00
00:11:55.680 They've done all the shit and they're sitting at home fucking miserable because they don't have 1.00
00:11:58.840 a purpose. 1.00
00:11:59.400 And, bro, if you're someone who is driven and you have ambition and you like to create
00:12:05.320 and you like all of these things, what could be worse than taking yourself out of that game?
00:12:10.460 There's no amount of money worth that.
00:12:12.860 So for me, dude, I think most people need to reframe their mindset and remove the idea
00:12:19.460 of the traditional retirement that maybe your parents or grandparents know of that you're
00:12:24.140 just going to be done and you're just going to sit around and start to think of your life
00:12:27.880 in phases like, OK, in my youth, I'm creating this and this is what I'm doing in my middle
00:12:33.400 life.
00:12:33.800 I'm taking that to the next level.
00:12:35.740 And in my older life, I'm maybe going to hand that off and maybe I'm going to to attack
00:12:40.580 some other things, maybe some philanthropy or maybe some new projects that aren't necessarily
00:12:46.320 a business, but instead allow me to do the parts of the business that I like.
00:12:50.720 Like, for example, one of the things I'm toying with for my later life would be to start a
00:12:56.120 venture capital fund where I get to actually fund other people's businesses and then use
00:13:01.380 my expertise to help whiteboard them the strategy that they need to use to go execute.
00:13:07.200 Make sure it actually.
00:13:07.920 Yeah.
00:13:08.140 And then I get a piece of it.
00:13:09.300 They get to go do it.
00:13:10.160 We all win.
00:13:11.300 They get funded like and that's the process of business that I enjoy the most, the creative
00:13:15.740 process.
00:13:17.020 So, you know, no view on retirement is wrong, but I think it's important to consider all
00:13:23.460 of the parts of the equation and the main one being, what are you going to do?
00:13:28.040 What's your purpose going to be?
00:13:29.600 What are you going to do to stay busy? 1.00
00:13:30.820 Because otherwise, if you don't do that shit, bro, you're going to be fucking miserable. 1.00
00:13:34.600 OK, secondly, what are you going to do with your money? 1.00
00:13:37.420 Because all the money that you saved until you're 65 years old is now worth way less
00:13:41.180 because of the way that money works.
00:13:43.320 So and that's what people don't understand.
00:13:44.760 We're consistently being stolen from by the inflation that we see in this country.
00:13:50.180 It's not just during high inflationary periods.
00:13:52.700 It's during all periods.
00:13:54.480 OK, this is why, you know, someone 30 years ago made a million bucks. 0.98
00:13:59.020 It was a huge fucking deal. 0.98
00:14:00.100 Now it's like not as big of a deal. 1.00
00:14:02.400 Right.
00:14:02.720 Right.
00:14:02.940 And people still have in their mind that that's the, you know, like if you ask most 0.99
00:14:07.940 people, I gave you a million dollars, like most people are like, fuck, dude, I could 0.99
00:14:10.680 live my whole life on that. 1.00
00:14:11.720 No, you fucking can't. 1.00
00:14:12.800 Right. 1.00
00:14:13.160 Like people's mindset hasn't changed.
00:14:15.780 Right.
00:14:16.420 We're still living in 1985 in terms of what the standard is monetarily.
00:14:21.380 And you don't want to be that person when you're 65 years old and they cut off your income
00:14:24.860 or you get a partial income or reduced income.
00:14:27.380 So my suggestion to anybody is to get into something that you enjoy, get into something
00:14:33.760 you're passionate about and do your whole fucking life and make that make it understood. 0.96
00:14:38.200 If you want to take a month break, you know, once a year, fucking figure it out, dude, do 0.99
00:14:43.640 that. 0.96
00:14:43.880 Go on a little mini vacations, mini retirements, things like that, you know, but the traditional
00:14:48.120 idea that you're going to sit at home and do nothing.
00:14:50.440 I mean, I would be scared of that, too.
00:14:53.240 Yeah.
00:14:55.100 I love it.
00:14:55.900 Yeah.
00:14:56.200 People, people's idea of time is, is definitely, well, people think they're going to live
00:15:00.200 forever, dude.
00:15:00.760 Yeah.
00:15:01.180 People, people, most people have never had the blessing of a near death experience that 1.00
00:15:06.160 would put a fire under your ass like you've never had before. 0.99
00:15:08.540 Yeah. 1.00
00:15:09.180 Well, that or the flip side, like people will say like fucking fifties old. 0.99
00:15:13.280 Like you still got, you still got like decades to fucking work, bro. 0.98
00:15:17.080 It's, it's, it's not even really half of your entire productive life. 0.98
00:15:21.920 Yeah.
00:15:22.220 You know, like if you say your productive life, well, I guess it would be about half.
00:15:26.640 If you say your productive life goes from 20 to 70.
00:15:29.980 Right.
00:15:30.380 Roughly, you know, um, you know, you got 30, 40, 50, 60, 70, you're, you're like basically
00:15:37.420 a little over halfway of your productive life at 50 years old.
00:15:41.380 Like you, like if you're 50 years old and you're out there listening or watching this 0.99
00:15:44.580 show and you want to create a business, you should fucking do that. 0.99
00:15:47.580 Yeah. 0.98
00:15:47.880 Like you have plenty of time to do that.
00:15:49.400 Like, and at the rate at which you can create and build a reasonable business now with technology 0.98
00:15:55.000 is so fast that by the time you're 55, you could be doing what you want, making a fuck
00:15:59.680 ton of money doing it and live the rest of your life. 0.99
00:16:02.860 Proud as fuck of that. 0.97
00:16:03.980 You know, so like, you know, age is, age is a weird thing for people, you know, for some 0.99
00:16:09.920 reason people get to be a certain age and they start telling themselves stories that just
00:16:13.420 aren't really true.
00:16:14.280 Yeah.
00:16:14.480 Like Joe Biden.
00:16:15.440 Well, dude, I'm 43.
00:16:16.980 Okay. 0.93
00:16:17.380 I'm not fucking young, like young. 0.94
00:16:19.200 I'm in better shape than I've ever been in my life for the most part. 0.95
00:16:22.720 Um, definitely way smarter than I've ever been making way more money than I've ever made. 0.87
00:16:27.980 Uh, things are pretty fucking good. 0.97
00:16:30.720 And I look younger than I now, if you take away the gray and shit, like reality, like 0.98
00:16:36.000 my physical body is younger than it was when I was 25. 0.99
00:16:38.980 So like why age is just some bullshit thing that people tell you. 0.98
00:16:45.220 And I think that, I think they put it in, you know, this is my tinfoil hat shit, but I 0.99
00:16:49.520 think they tell those stories and introduce those stories strategically to keep people at 0.99
00:16:53.160 bay. 1.00
00:16:53.380 They don't want a bunch of fucking people that are willing to bust ass for 80 fucking 1.00
00:16:58.020 years because dude, that shit puts their fucking position of power in jeopardy because 1.00
00:17:03.280 you gain so much momentum and so much wealth and so much power that you can actually affect 1.00
00:17:06.940 change.
00:17:08.160 So, which is interesting because those are also the same people that are also 90 years
00:17:11.980 old, still in position of power.
00:17:13.680 Right.
00:17:14.180 Why do you think they're trying to hang on to it so hard? 0.99
00:17:17.160 I mean, it's easy to hang on to shit when you convince everybody else not to play the 1.00
00:17:20.140 game. 1.00
00:17:20.580 Exactly.
00:17:21.720 Exactly.
00:17:22.040 Exactly.
00:17:23.380 That's real.
00:17:25.120 Well, guys, that was question number one, Andy.
00:17:26.700 Question number two.
00:17:29.000 Andy, I run a small business and I have an employee that I hired from a large local company.
00:17:35.100 When I first hired her, she said that the growth opportunity of working within a smaller growing
00:17:40.900 business was exciting.
00:17:42.680 She has been with me a little over a year and as of late, she started to operate like she's
00:17:48.020 still at her old employer, watching the clock, no longer going above and beyond. 0.99
00:17:52.740 How do you know she wasn't lying to you to get the fucking job? 0.99
00:18:05.920 Well, how do you know she ever had it? 1.00
00:18:11.100 How do you know she wasn't feeling you full of shit? 0.99
00:18:13.420 How do you know she wasn't saying what she knew would work? 1.00
00:18:15.820 How do you know she wasn't lying to you to get the fucking job? 0.99
00:18:18.700 How do you know you didn't make a hiring mistake? 0.99
00:18:21.240 How do you know that she ever fucking had it, bro? 0.96
00:18:22.840 That would be the first question, okay? 0.98
00:18:26.060 The second question or the second statement, I would say, is that you can't realistically
00:18:32.080 expect every single human that you have in your company to be some sort of go the extra
00:18:39.540 mile human being.
00:18:40.720 That's just not reality.
00:18:42.760 Some people are going to do their jobs and they're going to do them well and then they're
00:18:46.260 going to leave and they're going to go do their other things.
00:18:48.020 There's nothing wrong with that.
00:18:50.040 But those people can't also then, on the other hand, bitch about why they're not moving up 0.83
00:18:54.340 the ladder or why they're not progressing.
00:18:56.140 And if she's not bitching in your ear about why she's not progressing, then maybe this is 1.00
00:19:00.200 just where she wants to be.
00:19:02.300 So we as business owners have this thing that we do where we throw our expectations of ourselves
00:19:11.480 as an owner onto every single employee.
00:19:13.680 And that's not realistic, bro.
00:19:14.860 Like, that's just not reality.
00:19:17.300 Does she have equity in the company?
00:19:18.820 Probably not. 0.99
00:19:19.900 Are you paying her three times her fucking normal position salary or two times her normal 0.99
00:19:24.680 salary she got at the old place? 0.98
00:19:26.300 Probably not.
00:19:27.640 Are you painting a big picture every single day about where you're taking the company
00:19:31.280 and inspiring her?
00:19:32.760 Probably not.
00:19:34.100 Or are you expecting her to just take the reins and go run and do it for you? 0.92
00:19:38.540 I would say that's probably where the problem is.
00:19:40.780 All right?
00:19:41.420 So let's be honest with ourselves about what the problem is.
00:19:44.860 If you don't have employees that perform, it's usually not even money related.
00:19:48.800 It's your lack of leadership and vision and follow through that's making them complacent.
00:19:54.500 Because if you came and you promised all these massive growth opportunities to her, she left
00:19:58.800 this other position.
00:19:59.860 You didn't follow up on any of those things.
00:20:02.360 And you expected her to come in and sort of drive that bus. 0.89
00:20:06.560 You're not fulfilling your end of the bargain, bro.
00:20:09.000 And I would suspect that there's some of that going on here too.
00:20:11.700 You know, she didn't just come in and get complacent. 1.00
00:20:14.480 So she was either complacent when you hired her and she tricked you or you're not doing
00:20:20.220 a good enough job leading the company and pushing the company forward to the point where they get
00:20:24.080 super excited about it.
00:20:25.340 There should be no side conversations.
00:20:27.940 Like you shouldn't have to go around and put your arm around people to get them excited
00:20:31.980 about what you're doing.
00:20:32.800 It should be so fucking obvious that you're doing some really amazing things that these 0.56
00:20:37.540 people get excited to contribute to those things. 0.73
00:20:39.540 It's not a manipulation.
00:20:40.860 It's an actual building of something great that excites people and wants them to follow
00:20:46.400 in and be a part of it.
00:20:48.180 Yeah.
00:20:48.360 And I would bet if this person who asked this question, if I sat down and looked at them
00:20:53.140 and followed them around for a year, that one of those scenarios is the truth.
00:20:57.600 It's like you don't, you shouldn't have to create the motivation, create the momentum
00:21:01.820 and you'd be fine. 0.94
00:21:02.720 Listen, bro, who doesn't want to be a part of a massive fucking badass project where you're 0.99
00:21:06.980 kicking ass doing all this really cool shit. 0.98
00:21:08.620 Not many people, most people don't even have the opportunity to be a part of that. 1.00
00:21:13.640 Like they're used to working where this person came from, where it is clock in, clock out, 0.99
00:21:18.360 get the fuck out of my face. 1.00
00:21:19.640 Yeah. 0.99
00:21:20.020 That's reality for most human beings.
00:21:21.980 So when you create something that's so cool and that's going to change things or change
00:21:26.720 an industry or change a niche or change the world, if it's big enough, you're creating
00:21:32.900 something that people naturally want to be a part of.
00:21:34.960 And if you're not doing that, you know, there's nothing you can do to this woman to get her 0.98
00:21:39.760 to fucking go. 0.99
00:21:40.840 Okay. 0.99
00:21:41.240 And I'm willing to bet, I would bet that what I said about them not leading properly is
00:21:47.940 the, is what's actually going on.
00:21:49.380 Yeah.
00:21:49.740 I would bet that you made big promises that you're not fulfilling and you're refusing 1.00
00:21:53.400 to look in the mirror and say, fuck, I'm not doing what I told this woman I would do. 0.99
00:21:57.660 And you know, you're turning around and blaming on her because you expected her to come in 1.00
00:22:01.880 and be the superstar. 0.99
00:22:02.760 It's going to carry you across the fucking goal line. 0.99
00:22:04.360 That's not the way it works. 0.99
00:22:05.800 So that's my answer. 0.99
00:22:07.880 My answer is this, uh, get your shit together and then see what she does. 1.00
00:22:13.160 That's real. 0.99
00:22:14.180 Now, just quick follow up on this, Andy.
00:22:15.900 I want to know, do you believe, do you believe that there, there's going to be some people
00:22:21.640 that you just, you can't save?
00:22:23.500 There's no motivation.
00:22:24.460 It's not about saving, bro.
00:22:25.720 It's, it's not saving.
00:22:28.280 Even if you paint the best picture of the best, like, dude, like what we're doing here
00:22:32.720 with first form, it's never been done.
00:22:34.600 Like there is no, there is no Nike Red Bull and then Gatorade all combined where, you know,
00:22:42.660 Gatorade, but like with effective products, right.
00:22:45.400 Right.
00:22:45.700 It works. 0.99
00:22:46.200 Great energy drinks products and fucking apparel that is second to none. 0.98
00:22:51.500 Nobody's done that. 0.99
00:22:52.520 It's never been done.
00:22:53.580 So when, when I paint the vision for it and I explained to people, they're excited to 0.97
00:22:57.660 be a part of it, bro, because we're building something that's never been fucking built 0.96
00:23:01.260 ever, never been built ever. 0.90
00:23:04.560 That gets people excited.
00:23:05.900 People like that.
00:23:06.840 Okay.
00:23:07.320 And then they see us come here and work our asses off to actually facilitate that creation
00:23:14.060 in real life.
00:23:15.380 So they know it's not just lip service.
00:23:17.800 So we have a lot of people who want to contribute.
00:23:21.900 That's reality, dude.
00:23:23.140 But if you can't paint that vision and you can't create that lane, you're not going to
00:23:28.280 have that.
00:23:28.880 And most business owners don't do that. 0.99
00:23:30.880 Most business owners talk a bunch of shit and then hire people thinking that the hiring, 0.99
00:23:35.100 that the people that they hire are going to carry the whole momentum. 0.99
00:23:37.820 And they sort of like go in the, in the back, you know, and try to pretend like they're 0.99
00:23:42.320 still doing their shit, but they're not. 0.99
00:23:43.620 And everybody knows they're not. 0.99
00:23:45.080 So, you know, this is about being authentic.
00:23:47.800 It's about really doing what it is that you, what you say you're going to do.
00:23:51.520 And, um, I wouldn't, what did you say?
00:23:54.740 What was the word you think?
00:23:55.780 Do you think there's certain people that just can't be saving, bro?
00:23:58.540 So if you have people inside, like even me, when I have people who are inside that, and
00:24:04.080 maybe they're not fucking super passionate about continuing to move up, right?
00:24:09.960 And grow and be a part. 0.83
00:24:11.040 I'm just letting you know the opportunities there. 0.99
00:24:12.800 Cause I need fucking great people. 0.99
00:24:14.260 Yeah. 0.99
00:24:14.560 I need, I am my biggest resource that I'm lacking is great people, even with all the
00:24:19.860 great people that we have, because the scale of what we're trying to create is so large.
00:24:23.560 So that is, people get excited about that.
00:24:26.300 Yeah.
00:24:26.500 You don't need 10 of those, but it's real, but there's also value to people, bro, who
00:24:31.240 like, even as good as that is at, at our company, which I, you know, it's pretty good.
00:24:37.480 There's still going to be people here that have other priorities in life that come here 0.69
00:24:41.420 and they do their job very fucking well. 1.00
00:24:43.220 And then they go to fuck home. 1.00
00:24:44.520 Those people are valuable too, bro. 1.00
00:24:46.400 They're just, they just can't complain about missing all the opportunities when everybody
00:24:50.400 else is going for it.
00:24:51.800 Right.
00:24:52.400 So like maybe that's really what it is.
00:24:54.180 Yeah.
00:24:54.380 Yeah.
00:24:54.780 You have to, you have to know the difference.
00:24:57.120 You know what I'm saying? 0.99
00:24:58.080 Like just because the dude cooking your fucking French fries doesn't want to go make the 0.99
00:25:02.440 burgers, but he's making great French fries. 0.99
00:25:05.440 Maybe just let him make great French fries, bro. 1.00
00:25:07.660 Cause they're important to your fucking restaurant. 1.00
00:25:09.320 Right. 1.00
00:25:09.660 You see what I'm saying?
00:25:11.280 Absolutely.
00:25:13.740 Love it.
00:25:14.420 Now, if that person comes to you and they say, why am I not this?
00:25:20.180 Why am I not cooking the burgers? 0.99
00:25:21.800 Well, motherfucker, you don't, you don't show the, the, the ambition or the drive or the 0.99
00:25:26.140 buy-in to be the guy that I want cooking the burgers right now. 1.00
00:25:29.280 Here's what you're going to have to do.
00:25:30.380 One, two, three.
00:25:31.140 Right.
00:25:31.720 Right.
00:25:31.920 And then we, then, cause sometimes bro, people will sit in your company for three, four, 0.79
00:25:36.100 five years before they wake the fuck up and see the opportunity. 0.99
00:25:39.660 And then they're like, fuck, why am I getting passed over? 0.99
00:25:41.900 You got to have a difficult conversation. 1.00
00:25:43.760 Sometimes it goes really good and they fall in line and they start kicking ass. 0.99
00:25:48.000 Sometimes it doesn't. 0.99
00:25:49.020 And they stay where they are.
00:25:50.220 And usually at that point, if they stay where they are and they don't follow in, then they'll
00:25:54.160 get frustrated and you'll have to get them out, get them out. 0.81
00:25:56.300 Right.
00:25:56.520 But you know, like we have to have real expectations about this, bro. 0.96
00:26:00.120 Not every single person that you fucking hire is going to be an all-star. 0.95
00:26:03.860 Secondly, uh, if you're not doing your job, they're certainly not going to be an all-star. 0.97
00:26:08.100 Thirdly, uh, how do you know she didn't trick you?
00:26:10.360 Like all these things are real things.
00:26:12.860 So we have to analyze the situation on all fronts. 1.00
00:26:15.800 I'm willing to bet that you promised her way more shit that you were going to do. 0.99
00:26:20.880 And you, she's seeing you not do it. 1.00
00:26:22.860 And that's why you're getting what you're getting.
00:26:24.880 That's what I would guess it probably is.
00:26:27.480 Without knowing any more than what you just told me.
00:26:29.740 Yeah.
00:26:31.820 Guys, Andy, our third and final question, uh, question number three, uh, Andy, I was just
00:26:36.540 asked, uh, to speak at a school, my first ever public speaking, and I completely failed.
00:26:42.600 Uh, I presented myself.
00:26:44.360 Huh?
00:26:45.060 Good.
00:26:46.300 I presented myself as more than I am.
00:26:48.540 And I jumped around way too much.
00:26:50.340 Uh, when it comes to public speaking or even just speaking to your company, what's the
00:26:54.940 biggest tip you could give?
00:26:56.940 Um, understand fully what you're about to talk about.
00:26:59.740 This is why telling stories is so powerful because if you tell authentic stories, it's
00:27:03.960 hard to fuck up authentic stories.
00:27:05.800 If you get up there and tell a story about your life, it's hard to fuck that up. 0.59
00:27:08.960 Okay.
00:27:09.360 If you, if I get up and talk about business in any regard, I've been doing business so 0.97
00:27:14.260 long that my, I, I like you, I, I don't have to fucking think about it. 0.98
00:27:18.700 Like, bro, when you see me go talk at Arte, there is no fucking plan. 0.97
00:27:22.560 Rarely is there a plan. 0.99
00:27:25.020 I go up there and I talk about shit that I know about. 0.99
00:27:27.740 So if you talk about shit that you know about, it's makes it way more comfortable to talk. 1.00
00:27:31.660 Where you get in trouble is trying to fucking talk about shit you don't know about and trying 1.00
00:27:36.120 to put the cart before the horse, which is what we see on Instagram every fucking day. 1.00
00:27:40.140 We see all these kids trying to be some kind of guru. 0.99
00:27:42.480 And when, when they're fucking kids, which means you can't have possibly the expertise 0.99
00:27:47.140 and the knowledge base needed to talk about the shit that you're actually trying to talk 1.00
00:27:50.440 about. 0.98
00:27:50.900 So the depth of knowledge and the understanding of what you're talking about is the number
00:27:55.300 one thing to make you a confident speaker. 1.00
00:27:56.940 If you know that shit, you will fucking do well. 1.00
00:27:59.380 The other thing that will make a massive difference in your ability to speak publicly is the intent 1.00
00:28:05.220 that you have in your heart for the delivery of the message.
00:28:08.580 My intent, when I go up on stage is to help one person.
00:28:12.960 My intent is to connect with one person.
00:28:15.580 When I come on this show and I do a real talk or I'm doing like Q and AF, my intent is to 0.97
00:28:20.540 answer this question to help a single fucking human being get better. 0.98
00:28:26.140 Okay. 0.98
00:28:26.540 I don't, I know that not everybody's going to get it.
00:28:28.860 I know when I talk in a room of thousands of people that there's people in their role in
00:28:32.440 their eyes. 0.99
00:28:32.780 I don't give a fuck about them. 1.00
00:28:33.840 Number fuckers keep losing. 1.00
00:28:35.220 Okay. 1.00
00:28:35.860 I'm there for the motherfucker that's going to hear it. 1.00
00:28:37.840 And then change their entire life. 1.00
00:28:39.720 And 10 years from now show up and be like, bro, you have no idea what the fuck you did 0.99
00:28:43.580 for me. 0.99
00:28:44.280 And I talk about things that I know.
00:28:46.060 And then, and then I have good intent.
00:28:47.780 My intent is to serve and help and teach and create.
00:28:50.700 It's not to get applause. 0.99
00:28:52.140 It's not to get you to buy shit. 0.98
00:28:53.700 It's not to become like more famous or whatever, bro. 0.99
00:28:57.040 It's about actually serving. 0.90
00:28:58.420 So if you have depth of knowledge and you have intent, it's really hard to fuck up public 0.88
00:29:03.180 speaking, but I'm glad that you did fuck it up because you learned a valuable lesson 0.86
00:29:06.620 that most people will never do it. 0.91
00:29:08.140 Most people will never even go up there and fuck it up one time. 0.94
00:29:11.340 Most people won't go up there one time and fuck it up. 0.98
00:29:14.040 You already did that. 0.99
00:29:15.460 Now go do it about 50 more times.
00:29:17.540 Okay. 0.99
00:29:17.940 And each time it'll be less fucked up. 1.00
00:29:20.140 And eventually you get to a point where you could tell a story about how fucking terrible 1.00
00:29:23.440 you were. 0.99
00:29:24.320 Go listen to my first 50 podcasts. 1.00
00:29:26.360 They're fucking shit. 1.00
00:29:28.660 You know what I'm saying? 1.00
00:29:29.460 Man, like courage to get out there in front of people is one of the biggest things that
00:29:32.620 you got to have. 0.99
00:29:33.560 So kudos to this person for getting up there and double kudos for recognizing that you fucked 0.99
00:29:38.900 it up. 0.98
00:29:39.720 Okay.
00:29:40.600 It's like a lot of people never figure that out.
00:29:42.660 Next time you go up there, make sure you're talking about something that you actually know.
00:29:47.980 Have a couple stories, have an intro story, have a main point, have an exit story, and you're
00:29:54.540 going to do okay. 0.98
00:29:55.880 It'll take you years to get to fucking, dude, you did it one time, bro. 0.99
00:29:59.300 You know how many speeches I've given? 0.99
00:30:01.120 I couldn't even tell you, dude.
00:30:02.600 It's in the thousands.
00:30:03.600 It's not, it's not in the hundreds.
00:30:05.660 It's not in the tens.
00:30:07.080 It's in the thousands.
00:30:08.720 All right.
00:30:09.200 So when you see someone like me or at my letter, somebody up on stage that is powerful
00:30:14.220 and you connect with that, if you would have saw me 10 years ago, that wouldn't have
00:30:18.260 been the case.
00:30:18.840 Yeah.
00:30:19.500 Right.
00:30:19.960 So it's reps, dude.
00:30:21.240 So it's reps, depth of knowledge and intent for your audience.
00:30:24.880 If you can, if you can, if you can grasp that, you will, you will eventually become
00:30:31.000 a pretty good speaker. 0.61
00:30:31.960 I have guys in my office here that are great speakers that five years ago couldn't fucking 0.96
00:30:36.660 speak to four people. 0.98
00:30:38.320 It's just practice, man.
00:30:39.720 It's intent. 0.99
00:30:40.360 And it's fucking understanding what you're talking about. 0.99
00:30:42.720 That's a little quickie, man. 0.99
00:30:43.560 I like that.
00:30:44.060 Yeah.
00:30:44.360 Yeah.
00:30:44.980 Yeah.
00:30:47.600 Guys, Andy, that's, that's three, man.
00:30:49.940 Three.
00:30:50.600 Go pay the fee.
00:30:51.260 Yeah.
00:30:51.560 Don't be a hoe. 1.00
00:30:52.100 Share the show.
00:30:52.980 Went from sleeping on the floor.
00:30:54.720 Now my jewelry box froze. 1.00
00:30:56.420 Fuck a pole. 1.00
00:30:57.220 Fuck a stove. 1.00
00:30:58.080 Counted millions in the cold. 1.00
00:30:59.760 Bad bitch. 1.00
00:31:00.580 Booty swole. 1.00
00:31:01.420 Got her on bankroll.
00:31:03.060 Can't fold.
00:31:03.940 Doesn't know.
00:31:04.740 Headshot.
00:31:05.560 Case closed.
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