451. Q&AF： Traditional Retirement, Reigniting Initiative & Public Speaking
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In this episode of Q&A, we have a special guest on the show today. DJ Khaled! We talk about his relationship with his wife, his new baby boy, and how he and his wife are raising a baby boy.
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What is up guys, it's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realistic, goodbye to
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the lies, the fitness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality.
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Guys, today we have Q and AF, that is where you submit the questions and I give you the
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Now you can submit those questions two different ways.
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The first way is you can submit them to guys, email those to ask Andy at Andy for summer.com.
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Or if you're watching this on YouTube, you could drop them right here in the comments
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underneath this video and we will procure them from there anyway, this is your first time
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We also have CTI, which is cruise the internet.
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We talk about what's true, what may not be true.
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Uh, we take our best guess as to what's actually going on and we make fun of the people heavily,
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It's just, uh, me giving you some things that I think need to be heard.
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And I'm going to be doing more and more of these, uh, as we progress into the new year.
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And then we have full length, full length is, uh, just like what you see on every other
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podcast where there's two people or three people sitting around having a conversation.
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Um, for those of you that don't know, this show is the involvement of an original show
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Now the MFCEO project was the number one business, uh, podcast on iTunes for, uh, the longest
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uninterrupted stretch ever that I'm aware of, uh, in history of podcasts.
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And a lot of the information that I give out to you on these Q and AF shows, uh, comes
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It's how to get better, how to build a business, how to become successful, et cetera, et cetera,
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And for the exchange of me trading this part of my knowledge that I've gained over many,
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many years, I asked that you do one simple thing for me.
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And that's this, if the show makes you laugh, if it makes you think, if it gives you a new
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perspective, if it teaches you some skills, it gives you a new idea on how to get better,
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Um, I also don't take ad money from people to sit on the show here and talk about a bunch
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of shit that I don't use, uh, and bore you with it.
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So in exchange for all of that, just share the show guys.
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We, we grow when you share the show and that's it.
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Um, so with that being said, let's get on with it.
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Well, I mean, it was good, but it was more, probably more good for you.
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Like it was kind of hard to, I really wanted a boy.
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So you're just going to throw this girl in the trash.
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I mean, in other countries, fuck with you, man.
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Like, I'm just saying, man, like, you know, but it's cool.
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It's like, I mean, I don't know how to compare it to like, you know, raising a boy, but no,
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Today when we're recording the show is a Monday.
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Well, I think the proper answer is you want to continue to get back.
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No, I mean, cause like, so there, you know, there, there's the 30 day break between phase
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one and phase two, but that's the 30 day break between phase one and phase two.
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There's nothing that says you can't do 75 hard again.
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I think the good, the good plan for you would be to start here and move through live hard from
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I know there's a lot of shit ton of people out there that are starting also right now.
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I really hope that people will stick it out because it will change their entire lives.
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Well, I mean, I don't know, bro, that could be the ripple effect that changes some shit.
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Man, you got hundreds of thousands of people changing their lives for the better.
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Uh, Andy, question number one, um, a couple of shows ago, you talked about always needing
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to move forward and how it, uh, and how important it is to continually improve yourself.
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My question is, uh, what's your thought and, and what, what, what's your thoughts and what
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do you think about the traditional idea of retirement?
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Uh, the closer I get to it, the less appealing it is.
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What are your thoughts on the current traditional retirement mindset?
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You know, I think that most people are fed the idea of retirement as a carrot to stick
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And, you know, when people think of retiring, you know, I hear, I often hear this from young
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entrepreneurs, you know, I want to retire by the time I'm 40.
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Well, you know how I know you're not a real entrepreneur and not a real fucking savage winner
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The idea of retiring and doing nothing is I really can't think of anything worse.
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And when you really consider the fact I was talking to a friend of mine, I hadn't talked
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to in a while, uh, yesterday on actual new year's day.
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And we were talking about how people that are built to build things and create things,
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which I think all people are, I think they're indoctrinated to not believe that about themselves.
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But what I think is, is that, you know, this is why we see very wealthy people, you know,
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sell their businesses or quote unquote exit and retire.
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And, um, you know, and then in two or three years they're dead, you know, and whether they
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kill themselves or they drank themselves to death or, you know, some sort of weird thing,
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And, you know, and then people like to point at it and they say, see, see success.
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Live like us, be like us, be poor like us, be average like us.
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Because see what happens when you're successful and what they're not understanding is that
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most of those people really didn't understand how valuable the process is and how much joy
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and fulfillment you get out of the creation process.
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And so for true winners, true people that are like in the blood entrepreneurs, creators,
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Like if I were to sell, and by the way, I've been approached to sell things many times
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for enough money to where I would never have to work again, ever, ever, ever.
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And if I live for 500 years, I still wouldn't have to work like that's, that's the truth.
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The thing is, is why the fuck would I want that, bro?
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I get to be around young, hungry, energizing people that keep me young, keep me motivated,
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Like we get to do things that help people change their entire fucking lives.
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Like if I sold a business and I took myself out of that, what do I actually gain?
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I don't really gain anything because I already have all the shit I want.
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So like, I think a lot of people in business don't really think that part through.
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They don't think that your entire identity, your entire purpose, your entire reason for
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existing, you know, in most cases, the things that actually drive you and create you and
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keep you young, you're going to take money to give that away.
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And so I think the concept of retirement is more of a story that's told to the worker
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bees that will get them through the grueling process of the 40 years that they have to
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put in to get there as if it's some sort of reward.
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But like, you're going to wait to live your life until you're 65 years old when you're
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already old and you don't have the youthful energy.
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I mean, sure, you might have some money, but you're fucking old, bro.
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And so they trick people into trading all of their time for this end thing called retirement
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And I think people really need to think about this because the goal of your business, the
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And also you shouldn't be waiting until 65 years old to do the shit that you think you
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And no, that doesn't mean that you should just throw your career in the trash and live in
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Because people tend to take the, whatever to the extreme.
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The answer is to become super fucking effective to where you still have free time on a day
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by day basis to enjoy your life and then to do so.
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And so I think, you know, for me, the concept of retirement is a false reality dream that
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people are sold so that they will continue to show up to work for 40 years.
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And the reality is, dude, it doesn't even work anyway because at the rate that currency
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inflates, what you save during the course of time by the time you're 65 years old will
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So like you, you have to basically buy into the idea that you're going to go at whatever
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That means you're actually privileged to be able to create your entire life.
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Constantly having to reinvent yourself, constantly having to go on a new adventure for your career,
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constantly being able to try new things, do new things, create new things.
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These are the exciting things of an entrepreneur's life.
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And so many people try to exit out of them because they think that's what they're supposed
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I have so many people that I know that have sold their business, you know, for 50 million,
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And, you know, bro, you go see them in two years.
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They've done all the shit and they're sitting at home fucking miserable because they don't have
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And, bro, if you're someone who is driven and you have ambition and you like to create
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and you like all of these things, what could be worse than taking yourself out of that game?
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So for me, dude, I think most people need to reframe their mindset and remove the idea
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of the traditional retirement that maybe your parents or grandparents know of that you're
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just going to be done and you're just going to sit around and start to think of your life
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in phases like, OK, in my youth, I'm creating this and this is what I'm doing in my middle
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And in my older life, I'm maybe going to hand that off and maybe I'm going to to attack
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some other things, maybe some philanthropy or maybe some new projects that aren't necessarily
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a business, but instead allow me to do the parts of the business that I like.
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Like, for example, one of the things I'm toying with for my later life would be to start a
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venture capital fund where I get to actually fund other people's businesses and then use
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my expertise to help whiteboard them the strategy that they need to use to go execute.
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They get funded like and that's the process of business that I enjoy the most, the creative
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So, you know, no view on retirement is wrong, but I think it's important to consider all
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of the parts of the equation and the main one being, what are you going to do?
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Because otherwise, if you don't do that shit, bro, you're going to be fucking miserable.
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OK, secondly, what are you going to do with your money?
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Because all the money that you saved until you're 65 years old is now worth way less
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We're consistently being stolen from by the inflation that we see in this country.
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It's not just during high inflationary periods.
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OK, this is why, you know, someone 30 years ago made a million bucks.
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And people still have in their mind that that's the, you know, like if you ask most
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people, I gave you a million dollars, like most people are like, fuck, dude, I could
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We're still living in 1985 in terms of what the standard is monetarily.
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And you don't want to be that person when you're 65 years old and they cut off your income
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So my suggestion to anybody is to get into something that you enjoy, get into something
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you're passionate about and do your whole fucking life and make that make it understood.
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If you want to take a month break, you know, once a year, fucking figure it out, dude, do
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Go on a little mini vacations, mini retirements, things like that, you know, but the traditional
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idea that you're going to sit at home and do nothing.
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People, people's idea of time is, is definitely, well, people think they're going to live
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People, people, most people have never had the blessing of a near death experience that
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would put a fire under your ass like you've never had before.
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Well, that or the flip side, like people will say like fucking fifties old.
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Like you still got, you still got like decades to fucking work, bro.
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It's, it's, it's not even really half of your entire productive life.
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You know, like if you say your productive life, well, I guess it would be about half.
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If you say your productive life goes from 20 to 70.
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Roughly, you know, um, you know, you got 30, 40, 50, 60, 70, you're, you're like basically
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a little over halfway of your productive life at 50 years old.
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Like you, like if you're 50 years old and you're out there listening or watching this
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show and you want to create a business, you should fucking do that.
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Like, and at the rate at which you can create and build a reasonable business now with technology
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is so fast that by the time you're 55, you could be doing what you want, making a fuck
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ton of money doing it and live the rest of your life.
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You know, so like, you know, age is, age is a weird thing for people, you know, for some
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reason people get to be a certain age and they start telling themselves stories that just
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I'm in better shape than I've ever been in my life for the most part.
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Um, definitely way smarter than I've ever been making way more money than I've ever made.
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And I look younger than I now, if you take away the gray and shit, like reality, like
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my physical body is younger than it was when I was 25.
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So like why age is just some bullshit thing that people tell you.
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And I think that, I think they put it in, you know, this is my tinfoil hat shit, but I
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think they tell those stories and introduce those stories strategically to keep people at
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They don't want a bunch of fucking people that are willing to bust ass for 80 fucking
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years because dude, that shit puts their fucking position of power in jeopardy because
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you gain so much momentum and so much wealth and so much power that you can actually affect
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So, which is interesting because those are also the same people that are also 90 years
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Why do you think they're trying to hang on to it so hard?
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I mean, it's easy to hang on to shit when you convince everybody else not to play the
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Well, guys, that was question number one, Andy.
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Andy, I run a small business and I have an employee that I hired from a large local company.
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When I first hired her, she said that the growth opportunity of working within a smaller growing
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She has been with me a little over a year and as of late, she started to operate like she's
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still at her old employer, watching the clock, no longer going above and beyond.
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How do you know she wasn't lying to you to get the fucking job?
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How do you know she wasn't feeling you full of shit?
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How do you know she wasn't saying what she knew would work?
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How do you know she wasn't lying to you to get the fucking job?
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How do you know you didn't make a hiring mistake?
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How do you know that she ever fucking had it, bro?
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The second question or the second statement, I would say, is that you can't realistically
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expect every single human that you have in your company to be some sort of go the extra
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Some people are going to do their jobs and they're going to do them well and then they're
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going to leave and they're going to go do their other things.
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But those people can't also then, on the other hand, bitch about why they're not moving up
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And if she's not bitching in your ear about why she's not progressing, then maybe this is
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So we as business owners have this thing that we do where we throw our expectations of ourselves
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Are you paying her three times her fucking normal position salary or two times her normal
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Are you painting a big picture every single day about where you're taking the company
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Or are you expecting her to just take the reins and go run and do it for you?
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I would say that's probably where the problem is.
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So let's be honest with ourselves about what the problem is.
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If you don't have employees that perform, it's usually not even money related.
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It's your lack of leadership and vision and follow through that's making them complacent.
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Because if you came and you promised all these massive growth opportunities to her, she left
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And you expected her to come in and sort of drive that bus.
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You're not fulfilling your end of the bargain, bro.
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And I would suspect that there's some of that going on here too.
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You know, she didn't just come in and get complacent.
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So she was either complacent when you hired her and she tricked you or you're not doing
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a good enough job leading the company and pushing the company forward to the point where they get
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Like you shouldn't have to go around and put your arm around people to get them excited
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It should be so fucking obvious that you're doing some really amazing things that these
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people get excited to contribute to those things.
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It's an actual building of something great that excites people and wants them to follow
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And I would bet if this person who asked this question, if I sat down and looked at them
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and followed them around for a year, that one of those scenarios is the truth.
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It's like you don't, you shouldn't have to create the motivation, create the momentum
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Listen, bro, who doesn't want to be a part of a massive fucking badass project where you're
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Not many people, most people don't even have the opportunity to be a part of that.
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Like they're used to working where this person came from, where it is clock in, clock out,
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So when you create something that's so cool and that's going to change things or change
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an industry or change a niche or change the world, if it's big enough, you're creating
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something that people naturally want to be a part of.
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And if you're not doing that, you know, there's nothing you can do to this woman to get her
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And I'm willing to bet, I would bet that what I said about them not leading properly is
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I would bet that you made big promises that you're not fulfilling and you're refusing
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to look in the mirror and say, fuck, I'm not doing what I told this woman I would do.
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And you know, you're turning around and blaming on her because you expected her to come in
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It's going to carry you across the fucking goal line.
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My answer is this, uh, get your shit together and then see what she does.
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I want to know, do you believe, do you believe that there, there's going to be some people
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Even if you paint the best picture of the best, like, dude, like what we're doing here
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Like there is no, there is no Nike Red Bull and then Gatorade all combined where, you know,
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Gatorade, but like with effective products, right.
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Great energy drinks products and fucking apparel that is second to none.
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So when, when I paint the vision for it and I explained to people, they're excited to
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be a part of it, bro, because we're building something that's never been fucking built
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And then they see us come here and work our asses off to actually facilitate that creation
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So we have a lot of people who want to contribute.
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But if you can't paint that vision and you can't create that lane, you're not going to
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Most business owners talk a bunch of shit and then hire people thinking that the hiring,
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that the people that they hire are going to carry the whole momentum.
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And they sort of like go in the, in the back, you know, and try to pretend like they're
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It's about really doing what it is that you, what you say you're going to do.
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Do you think there's certain people that just can't be saving, bro?
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So if you have people inside, like even me, when I have people who are inside that, and
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maybe they're not fucking super passionate about continuing to move up, right?
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I'm just letting you know the opportunities there.
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I need, I am my biggest resource that I'm lacking is great people, even with all the
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great people that we have, because the scale of what we're trying to create is so large.
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You don't need 10 of those, but it's real, but there's also value to people, bro, who
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like, even as good as that is at, at our company, which I, you know, it's pretty good.
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There's still going to be people here that have other priorities in life that come here
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They're just, they just can't complain about missing all the opportunities when everybody
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Like just because the dude cooking your fucking French fries doesn't want to go make the
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Maybe just let him make great French fries, bro.
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Cause they're important to your fucking restaurant.
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Now, if that person comes to you and they say, why am I not this?
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Well, motherfucker, you don't, you don't show the, the, the ambition or the drive or the
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buy-in to be the guy that I want cooking the burgers right now.
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And then we, then, cause sometimes bro, people will sit in your company for three, four,
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five years before they wake the fuck up and see the opportunity.
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And then they're like, fuck, why am I getting passed over?
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Sometimes it goes really good and they fall in line and they start kicking ass.
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And usually at that point, if they stay where they are and they don't follow in, then they'll
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get frustrated and you'll have to get them out, get them out.
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But you know, like we have to have real expectations about this, bro.
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Not every single person that you fucking hire is going to be an all-star.
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Secondly, uh, if you're not doing your job, they're certainly not going to be an all-star.
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Thirdly, uh, how do you know she didn't trick you?
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So we have to analyze the situation on all fronts.
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I'm willing to bet that you promised her way more shit that you were going to do.
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And that's why you're getting what you're getting.
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Without knowing any more than what you just told me.
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Guys, Andy, our third and final question, uh, question number three, uh, Andy, I was just
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asked, uh, to speak at a school, my first ever public speaking, and I completely failed.
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Uh, when it comes to public speaking or even just speaking to your company, what's the
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Um, understand fully what you're about to talk about.
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This is why telling stories is so powerful because if you tell authentic stories, it's
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If you get up there and tell a story about your life, it's hard to fuck that up.
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If you, if I get up and talk about business in any regard, I've been doing business so
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long that my, I, I like you, I, I don't have to fucking think about it.
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Like, bro, when you see me go talk at Arte, there is no fucking plan.
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I go up there and I talk about shit that I know about.
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So if you talk about shit that you know about, it's makes it way more comfortable to talk.
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Where you get in trouble is trying to fucking talk about shit you don't know about and trying
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to put the cart before the horse, which is what we see on Instagram every fucking day.
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We see all these kids trying to be some kind of guru.
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And when, when they're fucking kids, which means you can't have possibly the expertise
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and the knowledge base needed to talk about the shit that you're actually trying to talk
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So the depth of knowledge and the understanding of what you're talking about is the number
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If you know that shit, you will fucking do well.
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The other thing that will make a massive difference in your ability to speak publicly is the intent
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that you have in your heart for the delivery of the message.
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My intent, when I go up on stage is to help one person.
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When I come on this show and I do a real talk or I'm doing like Q and AF, my intent is to
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answer this question to help a single fucking human being get better.
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I don't, I know that not everybody's going to get it.
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I know when I talk in a room of thousands of people that there's people in their role in
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I'm there for the motherfucker that's going to hear it.
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And 10 years from now show up and be like, bro, you have no idea what the fuck you did
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My intent is to serve and help and teach and create.
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It's not to become like more famous or whatever, bro.
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So if you have depth of knowledge and you have intent, it's really hard to fuck up public
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speaking, but I'm glad that you did fuck it up because you learned a valuable lesson
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Most people will never even go up there and fuck it up one time.
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Most people won't go up there one time and fuck it up.
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And eventually you get to a point where you could tell a story about how fucking terrible
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Man, like courage to get out there in front of people is one of the biggest things that
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So kudos to this person for getting up there and double kudos for recognizing that you fucked
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It's like a lot of people never figure that out.
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Next time you go up there, make sure you're talking about something that you actually know.
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Have a couple stories, have an intro story, have a main point, have an exit story, and you're
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It'll take you years to get to fucking, dude, you did it one time, bro.
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So when you see someone like me or at my letter, somebody up on stage that is powerful
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and you connect with that, if you would have saw me 10 years ago, that wouldn't have
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So it's reps, depth of knowledge and intent for your audience.
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If you can, if you can, if you can grasp that, you will, you will eventually become
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I have guys in my office here that are great speakers that five years ago couldn't fucking
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And it's fucking understanding what you're talking about.