455. Q&AF： Personal Issues In Personal Development, Entering New Career Out Of College & Transferring #75HARD Benefits Into Your Career
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In this episode of Q&A, the guys answer your questions and talk about what it's like to be a realist in the 21st century. They also talk about how they get their water refills.
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What is up guys, it's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to
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the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality.
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Guys, today we have Q and AF, that's where we do Q and A.
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You can submit your questions to, guys email those questions in to askandy at andyfasella.com
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and I know most of you guys listen on audio platforms but if you go on YouTube and you
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watch the video, which more and more people are doing, that's pretty cool, you can drop
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your questions in the comments on the Q and AF episodes and we'll dig some of the questions
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This is your first time joining, we have multiple formats of the show, that's how the show works.
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So today you're going to hear Q and AF, next time you may hear something else and the
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something else could be CTI, which is Cruise the Internet, that's sort of the news show
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We talk about what's going on in the world, the current events, we throw some headlines
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up on the screen, we talk about what's going on and then we make fun of it.
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And then we talk about how we could potentially be a solution to the problems going on in the
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Other times we have Real Talk, Real Talk, I'm going to get way more into this year, that's
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one of my main priorities for this show is to do a Real Talk every week, that's something
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That is just 5 to 20 minutes of some practical advice or some big picture concepts that I think
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And then we have Full Length, we're also going to do a lot more Full Length episodes.
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Full Length episodes are Full Length with the girth.
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So, Full Length is just like what you're used to seeing on most podcasts, it's just a bunch
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So, we do have a fee for the show and when I say pay the fee, it doesn't mean send me
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Although, I do appreciate when you support certain businesses that I may or may not be involved
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But mainly, guys, I just want you to share the show.
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And by the way, if you didn't get any value out of the show, don't fucking share it.
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If you thought it was not a waste of time, I ask that you pay the fee.
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And that's what I mean by that is share the show.
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We've been able to maintain a very, very, very high-ranked podcast for nearly a decade
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And if I do good, just give us a little salad by helping us get it out there.
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Somebody asked the other day about that right there in your hand.
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Like, why do you drink the Fiji over the four bottles of the real AF water?
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So, my business partner, you know, every Saturday or Sunday, he carries, like, three
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And then, basically, over the course of the week, I drink them all.
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But what I like about this is if I drink one of these during the show, I can know...
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Exactly the amount of water that I've gotten in during the show.
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So, like, you know, I definitely should probably stock the cooler for Chris once in a
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So, but, you know, that's the story on the Fiji, man.
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I'll go up there and just chill with him for, like, 15, 20 minutes.
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And, like, I always leave, like, learning something that, like, I never even would have
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So, like, we played the same positions on both sides of the ball.
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So, it was like, you know, when you're young, that's like, fuck this guy.
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And then, as school went through, and we got to be buddies and shit, you know, it, I
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And so, we just came friends through, through that.
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We're like, man, you know, this college shit fucking kind of sucks.
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I mean, there's a lot to that story, I could tell.
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Now, do you think that your relationship with him is, like, do you think that's an outlier?
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Like, do you think many business friendship relationships like that can work or do work?
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Or do you think, like, you and Chris are really just, like, fucking.
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I think what makes Chris and I's partnership work the way it does, which is pretty smooth,
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I would say less than 1% fucking friction rate, especially at this point in the game,
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is the fact that I am really good and enjoy doing the things that he hates doing.
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And he is really good and enjoys doing the things that, that I hate doing.
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And I think that's important for you guys out there who are, you know,
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looking at starting a business or getting going.
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You know, you hear a story like Chris and I's, and it makes, you know,
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everybody wants to, like, get rich and successful with their friends, right?
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Like, fuck, dude, I want all my friends to be successful.
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I want all of you to be successful, all of you guys.
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And, you know, when it comes to picking partners in the beginning of a business,
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I think it's important to recognize, you need, you need, you can't have
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two or three people that want the same role, right?
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You know, like on a football team, bro, there's a starting quarterback, right?
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So if everybody wants to be quarterback, you're going to constantly have this shit.
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And I think the important thing when it comes to choosing a partner is that they have to
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actually bring something to the table that you do not have.
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Meaning could be skills, could be like what I just said, where he is good at one thing.
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Now, in the beginning, we didn't know because we were, none of us,
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In the beginning, it was just like most people, Hey, I want to start a business with my friend.
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That's the, that's like, I didn't know that shit when we started it.
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And he figured out what he was good at and enjoy it.
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And it was the things that we, both of us just so happened to do that.
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So like, we did get a little bit lucky in that regard.
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Um, and then we also had a lot of conversations where, you know, Hey, we need someone to be this role.
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And like, you know, understood that it was, there's no ego involved.
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And, um, I think most people, you know, they just want to have their friend with them and they don't understand how to pick a true partner.
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Like a true partner should bring something that you don't have.
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They should bring a skillset that you don't have, or they should bring a resource that you don't have, which could be money.
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Having a, a financial partner in a business is a very smart and normal thing to do if you don't have the money.
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And like over the course of high school, bro, like those jobs that I talk about, Peyton stripes on parking lots and shit, we did those together.
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So like, we both, you know, we kind of, we knew how to work together.
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It's almost like out of the competition, there was this genuine friendship.
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I mean, him and Sal and we're to, to me, like, we're all three brothers.
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Like, that's, that's what people fail to understand.
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So, you know, there's a lesson in that for you guys starting a business, you know, instead of three, you'll get four today.
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So, uh, you know, pick a partner that brings something to the table, not just because they're your friend, they're your friend.
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Cause it sounds great with your friend, but usually what happens that I've seen with, uh, young partnerships is that, you know, everybody wants to like glorify the fucking face or the CEO role.
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If you don't have to take it, like it fucking sucks.
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Like you get all the blame, you get all the fucking focus, you get all the spotlight for every single mistake.
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Like anytime anything gets fucked up, it's on you.
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Chris is flying every week to fucking chiefs games and shit.
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I'm just saying, I'm just saying like people are like, how come Chris isn't more visible?
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But you know, that's part of my job and that's, that's not his job.
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And, um, you know, that's, that's how it works.
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I think that's a good point for a lot of the younger listeners too, dude.
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Like the guys who are, and when I say young, I mean like young in the game, you know, you're
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Like people always want to pick a partner that they love because they want to be successful.
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I think it's a good thing to have a partner that you already are like bonded with.
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Like I got a question the other day in my DM and the dude was like, uh, actually he
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I, this guy, this, this, this guy, uh, text me.
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I don't know how he got my number, but he's like, Hey man, uh, Oh, actually I do.
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He made, he, he did something for us a long time ago, uh, which was really fucking cool.
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And I remember we connected then now that I'm thinking about it.
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So he texts me and he's like, Hey man, uh, you know, he's like, what do you do when it
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like you're working with your, with your family?
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Cause he works with his brother and he's like, what do you do when you work with your brother?
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And like, things get like very volatile and I wanted to tell him the answer, but I just
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didn't want to, I, I, I don't do, you're not going to text me at home and we're not doing
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Um, so, but the answer is bro, if you're listening and here's how you work with them,
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You, you try, you try to listen, respect and learn and fucking work together.
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And then about once every three years you beat the fuck out of each other.
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And then you remember that you shouldn't do that because you're both so fucking sore.
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And then for the next three years, you remember how much that hurt.
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And then in another three years, you beat the shit out of each other.
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And that's what, that's how you fucking do it with your brother.
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Fucking DJ's first fucking assignment was to break up a fist fight between me and Sal
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Like, and the crazy thing is like, you hear, you hear the stories.
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Like he was working with me for like three fucking months, bro.
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Cause like, it's about, you know, they said it was like every, every three years or so.
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Oh, you thought we were old dudes talking shit from the glory days.
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Cause I, cause I would ask him, like, when was the last one?
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Nobody could really do like, Oh, it's been, I'm like, all right.
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It's like fucking two grizzly bears in the wild fucking going at it.
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DJ, DJ stayed over there not knowing what to do.
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That guy just fucking hired me to like, but that's his brother.
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So anyway, that's how you, that's how you work with family.
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Cause we were in the midst of training real hard and that fucked me up.
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I got injured and I couldn't fucking train for like six weeks.
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Uh, any question number one, Andy, I have been absolutely killing it on my power list.
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Uh, about a week and a half ago, I had some personal problems come up and I started to
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slip while I'm still dealing with these problems.
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I feel like it has become an excuse and I'm trying to force myself back into
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My question is, how do you keep personal issues from interfering with your momentum?
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And how can I catch myself when these issues come up?
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First off, it's great that you're doing that and it's great that you recognize that you're
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off track because that awareness, I think we talked about a couple of shows ago.
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Um, that awareness is very, very hard for a lot of people to develop.
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So it's really good that you have the awareness that you've slipped off track and that's the
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Like you, you're used to seeing the wins and now all of a sudden you got six losses in a
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Cause that's a big deal that most people never really fucking get.
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Uh, but really dude, the way to look at these kinds of things and how I look at them are
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that when I'm going through a hard personal time and I have hard times to guys, like, you
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know, my life is really fucking, you know, like people think, Oh, because I'm at a certain
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It's, it's just as hard as it is for you in a different way.
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Like what you're, you guys are out here trying to build something and you're trying to get
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it going and maybe you're not like totally killing it yet.
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Bro, you have to understand I'm in that same phase because now I'm trying to do something
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that's like really most people would say it was impossible.
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So it's, I'm fighting that same fight that you're fighting.
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And so when these things happen and things get hard and then personal things happen on
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top of it, I actually look at my tasks getting done as part of the way to work through the
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So like when you're emotionally agitated and you're highly disturbed and you're frustrated
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What brings you back to a place of feeling less anxious, less frustrated, you know, less
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angry is actually finding some sort of order in your day.
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And if you can turn to the powerless tasks as a way, sort of therapy to work through the personal
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problems or at least allow you to manage them, I find that the personal problems, the solutions
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to them sort of reveal themselves through the process, if that makes sense.
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So I think for me, uh, and I, I think this is common amongst most of the people I talk to who are very
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successful, they use their, their tasks that they would know their normal routine or their, their, you
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And if you don't know what the power list is, you can go back to listen to episode 16 in the real AF feed
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That one's not on YouTube, but it is on all the audio platforms in the feed.
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And so if you go back to episode 16 and you listen to it, it'll explain this method that
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And this method is so important because what it does is it brings order and visual reference
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to how much momentum you actually have towards the life you're trying to build.
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Like, and you know, sometimes when you get emotional, you start to like overthink and you start to
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like start thinking that things are worse than they actually are.
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And then I'm so frustrated and I'm, you know, I'm fucking at the sky is falling on me because
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We all have this, this ability to spiral out of control when things happen, referring back
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And this is also why I like an actual journal and not having it on digital, because if you
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could go back to your power list, you could flip through the pages and be like, all right,
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Well, I'm going to start that streak back up right now.
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And that helps you bring some peace to the whole idea of your world spinning out of control.
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And so that can kind of start the, the, the, the, the, the, like overcoming process of
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And so that's, I look at it as an opportunity to calm the seas and keep executing.
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And, and, and it's, and it seems to work very well for me.
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Cause you know, you touch on the awareness part.
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Do you really think it's the lack of awareness that most people have?
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Or do you think it's, it's, it is the awareness, but just lack of action or, or will to do anything
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Like, I mean, people know their lives are fucked up.
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No, I think, I think most people are highly unaware of how much they could actually accomplish.
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I think they know, like, like, okay, like, look, dude, when I was big, I was 350 pounds.
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I knew I wasn't, I knew when I went and ate pizza or drank fucking bottle of whiskey and
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Cause you know, cause I knew it was fucking wrong.
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So, so I knew that was wrong, but what I was unaware of is how great I actually
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If I moved away from that shit, you see what I'm saying?
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And so when I say unawareness, I don't mean like ignorance there, they know something's
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wrong, but they're not aware enough to know how great things could be if they were to work
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And in this case, when we're talking about unawareness, this person wouldn't, if you
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hadn't trained yourself through the tool of the power list, you wouldn't have been aware
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that you're actually slipping as much as you are with the power list tool.
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You can go back, you flip through and you could be like, fuck, I got six losses in a
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That brings awareness right to your brain of exact where that's six days for someone who
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doesn't have that level of awareness could be six fucking years.
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So like, dude, it's a, it's a very, very valuable tool.
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And the reason I give my shit away for free guys, because it actually fucking helps you.
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So go listen to episode 16, make yourself a power list journal.
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Lots of people buy it, but you don't have to buy it.
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I actually, you could use a fucking regular notebook.
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You go get it fucking Walgreens or wherever it is you shop.
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Like it's, you could, I did it myself and I actually, I personally still use my original
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So if you want the journal, the journals on the website, extremely popular.
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We sell a shit ton of them and people love them.
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Uh, Andy, question number two, Andy, I just graduated college.
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I'm 21 years old and I'm about to enter my new career as a financial advisor.
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This career requires the ultimate trust between my clients and I, what advice do you have for
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me, uh, to get the older generation to take a shot on me versus a person who's been in the
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Well, you're going to have to start with the appropriate clientele.
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Like, look, dude, that's, that's a hard thing to get started in very, very, very high turnover
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Um, this is probably a good question for Ed Milet because that's the business that he's
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I don't know what he would actually say to this, but my advice would be, um, to not
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bullshit about what it is you think, you know, or don't know.
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As you know, you have regulations that you can't violate, you know, and lying about the
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shit that you fucking know is probably one of them.
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Um, especially when it becomes to financial advice.
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But I think the main thing for you to do is to learn as much as you can, uh, be around
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the guys in the office and the girls in the office who are really producing, learn as
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much as you can become as smart as you can and forget about your fucking age.
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No, no one comes in and says, Hey, I'm 21 years old.
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They're going to know you're fucking young, bro.
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But if you're smart and you know the shit and you can explain to them why they need it,
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A lot of people use their age as an excuse, whether they're too old or they're too young.
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And the truth of the matter is there's never a right age for fucking anything.
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Your depth of knowledge, your ability to help them.
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And if you can display those things, uh, and then also probably because you probably
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look young, say, Hey, here's my partner, my, at my, at work, who's, you know, 30 years
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in this, she walks, she makes sure that I do everything right.
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Because dude, people will take shots on you because they're like, man, this young dude,
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So like you have, you have to think of it like this because of your age and because of
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the industry you're in, you have to be fucking twice as good as everybody else.
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And so figure out what you got to do to learn the people in the office, learn from the people
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in the office, what skills you need, practice those skills, work on those skills, know this
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shit better than anybody and then forget about, and then forget about your age and worry about
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Because here's the thing, dude, that's a big word of mouth referral business.
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So you can't go in there thinking, Oh, I'm here to sell them some financial products.
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You need to be going in there thinking, how am I genuinely going to help this family?
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And if you do that genuinely and you actually help them, those people will tell other people
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and then you'll start to build a book of business where people really fuck this up is that they
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They try to sell and then they never build a residual book of business.
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So, you know, a referred book of business, right?
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I would work at one case at a time, one family at a time, one person at a time.
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And funny enough, one of the biggest lessons I talk about in my meetings here in my companies
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is, Hey, this is a, this is one person at a time.
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And so if you can learn that game and you can learn how to execute on one person at a
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time and you can really genuinely solve their problems with a high level of competency and
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intelligence, your age really isn't going to be a factor.
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Well, what's your, so, I mean, cause I don't know if you were alluding to this when you
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first started, but like, I mean, cause I'm, I'm just like thinking here if he's 21, do you,
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like, would you recommend him maybe to target other 21 year olds, uh, in, in the, in the
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space that are trying to build wealth or, I mean, like, I mean, what's your take on these
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young guys that are young and young in business trying to graft at these big sharks?
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You, you want to, you know, you want the older people who have millions in their bank account,
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Look, financial planning and I'm not a financial planner.
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So, but some of my friends are, uh, Ed is, that's what he did.
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That's what his business was the whole, the whole time.
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The idea that you, a 21 year old kid does no fucking shit is going to come in and fucking
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tell me what the fuck I'm going to do with my money when you ain't ever had no fucking
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So you have to understand that the financial planning business is a long-term play.
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You are going to work with this family that you just sold as a 21 year old man until you
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are 50, 60 years old and they're going to grow with you.
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And that's how you need to be thinking about it.
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This idea that you're going to, um, you listen, there ain't a 21 year old motherfucker
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And every single, every single person I know over 40 years old that you think is going
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to come in and fucking just make you rich in one take is going to laugh in your fucking
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Cause they, I want someone managing my money who's fucking 60 years old, who's seen fucking
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everything and is still sharp enough to understand what the fuck is going on now.
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And who has the connections at the right investments to get me where I need to be.
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So you're at the beginning level and there's nothing wrong with that.
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But if you think that you're going to go land sharks and shit, you're not going to be doing
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I'm going to help them be financially successful.
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And if you do that and you keep doing that and you keep doing that in 10, 15 years, bro,
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you're not going to have to worry about fucking money ever again.
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Now, those of you that might be flat financial planners, you might have another way of doing
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it, but I'm going to tell you what, what I just told you will fucking work and it'll
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So forget about the sharks and the fucking whales and all the shit you think this ain't
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There's a fucking scene in boiler room where they're all fucking talking about how they're
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Like, but the point is this ain't that, this is fucking actually giving a shit.
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Like if you want to be actually fucking financially well to fuck off, you will give a fuck about
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And that concept is relevant to any business, by the way.
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Like you can apply that whole concept to any, anything to any business.
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They fuck it up whenever they start, they start thinking how rich they're going to get.
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If you take care of them, you, you will get where you want to go.
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And people think that like, they're going to just snap their fingers or they're going
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to have one, they're going to, you know, have one customer or one deal that like makes
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The game is bunts and stealing bases and doing it for fucking, when everybody goes
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home at nine innings, you're there the next day, still doing the shit.
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And everybody thinks it's about home runs and big giant deals and all this shit.
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The reality is the richest, most wealthy dudes that I know personally, they understand what
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It's bunts and stealing bases and is doing it for a long time.
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And if you can grasp that concept, nobody likes to hear that because it fucking, they
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But that during that time, bro, life is happening.
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You're, you're, you're, you know, you're dating, you're going to college, you're, you're having
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There's shit like this is, it's not just like you're sitting there and you know, you have
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Like the period of life that I had where I had nothing was the fucking most fun period
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And for those of you guys try to like, you know, hack your way around what is actually
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the, the time that you're going to learn the most, you're going to develop the most skills.
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And you know, you just want to go to the fucking party at the end of the, at the end of the
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And if you go to the party at the end of the road, out the gate, you show up, you don't
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have any skills, you don't have any lessons, you don't have any stories, you don't have
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You're just some dude with some fucking money, bro.
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And that's not, there's nothing cool about that.
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What's really cool is the journey that you're on and the people that you do it with.
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So instead of trying to hit the home run over and over and over again and falling on your
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Guys, Andy, our third and final question, Andy, question number three, Andy, I just completed
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75 hard today and I will complete the live heart program this year.
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I know, and I can feel the momentum that I've built from 75 hard.
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My mindset is totally different from the, uh, from where it was in the beginning.
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Do you have any recommendations on how to transfer that into my career?
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If I'm not happy with the results I'm getting, and it just seems like every place I go, I'm
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the only one who wants more than just nine to five.
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I am a mechanic by the way, but how, like, how can I transfer that momentum into the career
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Well, yeah, it's completely transferable because it changes who you are at the core.
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It makes you a highly disciplined, highly productive version.
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So if you take the attention to detail that you have, uh, during 75 hard and the perseverance
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that you have to show and the grit that you have to have, and you apply that to your career,
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okay, now you're, you're moving your career needle.
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In fact, most people will tell you that when they complete 75 hard, one of the, like a lot
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of the things they talk about is how much better their career is, how much better their relationship
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is and all these things, because the actual skills that you learn during that time that
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get, that you, they get finely tuned and they're at the highest level they've been for you
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ever, by the way, you still have a lot higher to go.
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But the point is, is that they will organically flow into all areas of your life.
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So what you're, what you're probably, you're probably overthinking a little bit here, homie.
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Uh, you're thinking, you know, you're just finished it, which is fucking awesome.
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But you're thinking like, how can I aggressively get better?
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And that's fucking great to think that way, but I think you're going to notice that that's
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going to happen just because you are, you now, and you're not the, you that you were
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So, and by the way, this is another person, this, this guy here could benefit from, uh,
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episode 16, win the day, because that episode will give you the exact play by play steps to
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progress your career forward that are better, that are, they're not abstract.
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You will see them in front of your face day by day, by day, by day.
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And you will learn confidence from this because you will see you checking off these critical
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tasks that move your life and career forward every single day.
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So it's not only a great way to get shit done, but it also like 75 hard is a great way to build
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I think when you say too, it's also important to remember like, bro, that 75 days compared
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to however long you've been living as that previous person, you're going to take it a
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You know, you're going to, it's like, this is a program.
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It's not, you know, like, you know, one of the, one of the best, worst things that happen
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when it comes to 75 hard is that it got branded as a challenge.
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And so that's where you get a lot of the critiques, right?
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You get a lot of the critiques of like, oh, uh, it's not sustainable.
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Bro, you, you're, you're not understanding the program because you're fucking, you think
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Once you understand that and you understand that program is a way of life that you're
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And each time you do yours, this is why I said your discipline for this person still has
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You, all of the skills that you created this first 75 days, which right now you're, you're
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Like you're at, you're like, holy shit, dude, it's a whole new world.
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But now you have to recognize that you can actually take that up another level and another
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And you'll get to a certain level, you know, where like the things that you used to like,
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you know, that used to hinder you or pull you off course, alcohol, overeating, uh, toxic
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people, bad, just bad habits, shit that you used to not be able to say no to are, are
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You know, if you continue to awareness as well.
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Because, because dude, you're, this is where, this is where, you know, people get upset
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with me when I talk about how, how they don't celebrate, uh, you know, how celebrating with
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like a cake or whatever after 75 hard, you know, like says they didn't do the program.
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The truth is the first time you do 75 hard, if you did it, even if you did it right, there's
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still a chance you might go back to those things.
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But what you'll learn over time is you'll learn that you don't want those things that
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And so, you know, while I said on the other show the other day, you know, uh, might've
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I make hard statements because there's so many people that fucking don't get it.
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You know, Oh, I'm in my garage with the windows open.
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Like some of you guys ask questions that are so fucking dumb that it drives me insane, which
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forces me to say hardline shit because I get so fucking tired of it.
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Like I try to be cool and I try to fucking like, I try to be understanding and I try to
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This is why I quit participating in the conversations regarding 75 hard because they got so fucking
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ridiculous that I can't, it's like, bro, I can't be any more clear.
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These things are all there for a fucking reason.
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And dude, it's just so, so what ends up happening is like, just like now I start getting fucking
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And I'm like, you know, when the celebration thing, what the point I'm trying to make here
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And for me, I'm to the point where I don't fucking celebrate that shit because I don't
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In fact, I look at the habits that I used to have and I'm like, that's what a fucking
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Like, I'm not, I'm certainly not going to celebrate all my hard work by being a fucking
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But like, when you, you know, when you're first going through the program, you know,
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And sometimes I forget that because I've done it for so, such a long time now.
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And here's the other thing about 75 hard, dude.
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You know, some of you guys are fucking dicks about it.
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Like any community that I'm represented in, whether it be first form community or, you
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know, fucking 75 hard or fucking RTA or whatever, bro, I don't like it when you guys are mean
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We got enough of that shit in the fucking world.
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Like being a fucking asshole ain't part of anything I want to be a part of.
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So fucking treat each other, respect, be cool, help each other, pick each other up.
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The shit we talk about on the show all the time.
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Because like, dude, I see, I see, I see people being fucking assholes to each other when
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And if we want that shit to fucking stop, guess who has to stop it?
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Now, I'm not saying when someone's a fuck that we don't bury the motherfucker.
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When someone's out of line and they're being a fucking asshole, then we can all get together
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and instead of tearing each other out, we can bury that motherfucker.
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But when it comes to like bickering over this or that or this or that, bro, you can disagree