REAL AF with Andy Frisella - February 22, 2023


476. Q&AF： Getting Comfortable With Conflict, Pushing Through Discouragement & Lessons In Giving


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In this episode of Q&A, the guys answer your questions and talk about what's going on in the world around them. They also talk about their favorite show to do and what they're looking forward to in the future.

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00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to
00:00:20.620 the lies, the thickness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality
00:00:24.740 guys. Today we have Q and AF. This is where you get to submit the questions and we will give you the
00:00:30.540 answers. You could submit your questions one of two ways. The first way is guys, as always email
00:00:37.680 those questions into ask Andy at andy for seller.com. The second way is, is if you didn't
00:00:43.660 know, cause a lot of you guys are behind in episodes like months and even years behind.
00:00:48.900 We are on YouTube now. So we have full length episodes on YouTube. Most of our
00:00:54.740 audience is still audio heavy. So we're building that up over there, but it's pretty cool. I think
00:00:59.080 people are liking it in some good comments. I think it's, uh, it's fun. It's, it's, I don't know,
00:01:05.200 see how it goes. But anyway, if you drop your comments, uh, underneath the episode, the Q and
00:01:10.180 AF episodes, we will pull some from there as well. The questions is what I meant. Uh, other times you
00:01:15.840 tune in on the show. If this is your first time listening, we have multiple formats of the show.
00:01:19.740 Uh, today you get Q and AF, like I just said, uh, other times you're going to get CTI. That stands
00:01:24.780 for cruise the internet. That's our social, uh, news slash comedy slash, uh, talk about the crazy
00:01:31.460 shit that's going on in the world format of the show. And that's actually my favorite show to do.
00:01:36.500 Um, it's not your favorite to listen to though. Apparently a lot of you guys like the Q and AFs. 0.63
00:01:40.940 So you're gonna have to deal with my opinions as well. Fuckers. Uh, sometimes you tune in and get real
00:01:46.560 talk. Real talk is five to 20 minutes of just some real talk. I think that needs to be shared.
00:01:50.540 And then other times you're gonna get full length. Full length is like we add on our last episode.
00:01:54.740 We have a buddy of mine come in. Uh, they're usually interesting, successful, have a unique
00:01:59.960 worldview, a story to tell. We have a conversation just like you see on most of the other podcasts.
00:02:05.160 Um, one thing you'll notice that we do differently is that we don't run ads on the show. Okay. I don't
00:02:11.340 take money from advertisers that want to pay me to take their shit because I don't do that. I
00:02:18.820 represent and talk about the things that I think I like. And, uh, I don't want to flood your
00:02:24.040 podcast with 40 minutes of fucking bullshit ads, uh, for some money. I already do pretty well. 0.88
00:02:29.780 You guys do a great job of supporting us and I appreciate that. So in that trade, all I ask is
00:02:35.420 that if we do a good job, if we put out some good info, if it makes you laugh and makes you think,
00:02:39.540 uh, if it answers your questions, you know, the Q and AF shows like today, they have an extreme
00:02:43.820 amount of value in them. If we help you get better, please share the show. That's how we work. So when
00:02:47.960 we say pay the fee, that's what we mean. Just share the show. With that being said, uh, it's been a
00:02:53.700 minute. Yeah. Yeah. Has been a minute. See people, we, we pre-recorded all last week's shows. And then
00:02:59.600 yesterday we had our full length with Jason. Um, but we haven't done any Q and AF in a while or CTI. I'm
00:03:06.080 looking forward to getting back on CTI, dude. Yeah, me too. That's my favorite
00:03:09.420 show to do. Really? Yeah. It's my favorite show to do because it's like, it's almost like therapy,
00:03:14.620 you know, in front of the whole fucking world. We're going to talk about this crazy shit, but,
00:03:19.000 uh, you know, Q and AF is good too. Yeah. I mean, they go, they, they, there's a symbiotic
00:03:24.700 relationship between the two episodes. Absolutely. People have a hard time connecting. Yeah. Yeah.
00:03:29.340 Like some people, I think most people, you know, people are getting it now, but they're not
00:03:33.480 understanding, you know, like guys, the reason that we must talk about what's going on in the world
00:03:37.420 is because that affects the business environment. This is an entrepreneurship, personal development
00:03:41.740 business show. It always has been since the MFCEO project back in 2015. And for those of you guys
00:03:47.480 that don't know, we are relaunching that podcast very soon, um, as it's unique standalone podcast.
00:03:52.460 So I'll have more news on that soon, but it's always been personal development. It's always been
00:03:56.540 how to win, how to get better. But guys that, you know, the, the thing with CTI is if we don't know
00:04:00.500 what the fuck is going on in the world and we don't take action to protect our freedoms, you know,
00:04:04.760 the, our ability to make money and have success and build things in real life is affected. So
00:04:08.920 they do go together, uh, very, very, uh, synergistically. It's just, you know, sometimes
00:04:14.520 you have to explain it to people. Yeah, for sure, man. Yeah. But no, I mean, I don't feel like we
00:04:18.460 really missed a beat last week, but, uh, there was, there was definitely, you guys didn't miss me.
00:04:24.180 No, I'm saying like the content was pumping out. Oh yeah. Yeah. You know, we made it look pretty
00:04:28.120 good, but you were, you were, uh, hiatus. Yeah, man. I was down in Mexico. I went to, uh,
00:04:34.520 I went to Cabo, uh, stayed at the Pedregal resort, which was amazing. I have nothing but amazing
00:04:40.580 things to say about that. You definitely, you know, shouldn't go there because I don't want
00:04:44.240 to be crowded next time I go. Right. Um, but it was awesome. The people were awesome. Uh,
00:04:49.940 the weather was great. It was about 70 degrees every day, but good sun. Uh, so much sun that I'm
00:04:55.320 like shedding a whole entire skin. Um, because I got burned so bad the first day deceptive. It
00:05:01.380 was like nice and cool, but the sun was like powerful. Yeah. That Mexican. Yeah. It was 1.00
00:05:07.240 impressive. Yeah. It was, uh, I understand. Had a lot of girth. I get it. It was girthy. It was a
00:05:12.400 girthy sun. Girthy sun. Yep. One thing, one thing that was interesting out of me too, bro.
00:05:18.600 You said what? No, one thing I thought that was cool though. Cause I mean, we talked quite
00:05:25.280 a bit during the trip and it was like, you know, one of the things that I thought was
00:05:29.080 cool was you mentioned how it didn't matter where you went on the resort, but it was like
00:05:34.380 every member of the staff. Bro was amazing. Knew your name. Yeah. It was amazing. It was
00:05:39.120 so, you know, I take a lot of pride in how we do business. You know what I'm saying? Like
00:05:44.980 we're not, we're not, nobody's perfect. Nobody can run a perfect company, but here in my, you
00:05:50.820 know, first form S2, uh, the other companies, everything that we got going on here, we try
00:05:55.280 really fucking hard. Right. And we try to do a very good job for our customers. We try
00:05:59.540 to go over the top. We're very, very much focused on that experience aspect of, of brand building
00:06:05.400 because the truth of it is, is like, I'm not that skilled. So I know that if we make a,
00:06:12.800 if we do good by the customer and we create amazing experiences, you know, people will, will,
00:06:16.740 will help us and they'll shop with us and support us. And, uh, so I'm very detail oriented. You
00:06:21.860 know, when I go around, I go to a restaurant or I go to, uh, you know, anything, any place of
00:06:27.720 business, wherever, I'm always an observer. I'm like paying attention to how they're doing things.
00:06:32.460 And, you know, this resort, uh, the Pedregal is, is by all means a very, very, very nice resort,
00:06:39.120 top notch. Um, and I've been to other top notch resorts. Like I've, you know, I've been doing this
00:06:45.440 for a minute, you know? And, uh, I was just the amount, the level of service that that place had
00:06:53.200 and the level of attention to detail was something that even somebody who's very, very, very used to
00:07:01.940 paying attention to those things was impressed by. I was, it was very impressive. That's what,
00:07:05.880 that's what got me. Yeah. It was very impressive. Yeah. Yeah. When you brought that up, I knew it
00:07:09.680 had to be something fucking pretty special. Yeah. It was, um, it was, uh,
00:07:15.440 like anywhere you went on the resort, they knew your name and it didn't matter who it was. It
00:07:20.860 didn't matter if it was the guy sweeping up the sidewalks and it was your waiter, if it was the,
00:07:25.140 if it was the, you know, the busser or any of the other jobs on this resort, it didn't matter.
00:07:29.160 They knew who the fuck you were. And it wasn't just cause it was me because like, it wasn't just
00:07:34.080 for me. Like it was for every single guest on the resort. And it was, it was, uh, whoever's running
00:07:40.660 that, like, however they do it, it, they're doing a good job. Yeah. Let me ask you this. Do you find
00:07:44.880 yourself now, like at 24 years in, do you find yourself constantly like looking at these other
00:07:50.580 industries, restaurants, wherever you go and like finding these comparisons, like of what we could
00:07:56.180 be doing better? Like how often do you, I guess, reflect on that? Well, cause I haven't, like, I mean,
00:08:00.580 like all the time and it's cool because what you asked, um, I actually do look at the restaurant
00:08:07.020 industry for a lot, the hospitality industry, right? Hotels, restaurants, people. Yeah. Because
00:08:13.240 like, dude, that's where you're going to see, uh, very strong examples of going above and beyond for
00:08:19.540 people. And that's something that, uh, you know, I always try to pay special attention when I do,
00:08:24.520 cause I don't travel a lot. I like to do my own thing, man. I like to go to my house. I like to come
00:08:29.440 here. I really don't fuck around with anybody. I kind of do my own thing. And it's not, you know,
00:08:34.060 because I don't enjoy being around people. It's just, that's how I, that's my natural way of
00:08:39.660 enjoying life is just, I like to be left the fuck alone. And, um, I like to be around people too,
00:08:47.040 but they gotta be the right kind of, right? Like I'm not one for bullshit conversation. I'm not one
00:08:53.460 for small talk. I want to talk about real shit. I want to talk about shit that matters. And if I'm
00:08:58.200 around those kinds of people, bro, it's fucking amazing. Um, but unfortunately, you know,
00:09:02.100 half the people out there aren't that way. And so, you know, I'm not saying I'm a hermit,
00:09:07.080 but I don't travel that much, but when I do travel, um, I pay real close attention. And when
00:09:12.980 I go to a restaurant, I pay real close attention. And it's not because I'm trying to critique them.
00:09:16.820 I'm actually viewing it from a perspective of what can I learn? What can I do to get better?
00:09:22.440 And, you know, I think a lot of people, they go to these places and they look for holes
00:09:25.760 gotcha. Yeah. Right. Right there. And like, dude, look, man, you know, when you run a high level,
00:09:31.200 high attention, detail operation, whether it be a company or, uh, you know, like our companies or
00:09:37.560 resorts or restaurants or whatever category, when you, when you take pride and people know that you
00:09:43.120 take pride and you're expected to hold a very high standard, there's going to be people that want to
00:09:49.560 fucking poke and look for the negative. Right. And I think, you know, that's okay because I think it
00:09:55.540 helps you get better. Right. Like when I'm actually very grateful when people point a problem out to me
00:10:00.760 so that I can correct that problem. Um, but I think we as consumers, as entrepreneurs,
00:10:07.640 we're do ourselves a much better service by actually going to these places instead of like
00:10:14.480 looking for the things wrong, looking for the things they're doing right. And understanding
00:10:18.480 like, dude, okay. Like there's going to be little things and you can learn from the things they do
00:10:22.280 wrong too. But like, because we're, we live in this society that is so focused on where people
00:10:28.580 fuck up and, and like, I gotcha. Right. Like everybody wants to get like, motherfucker, like
00:10:32.960 cool. Like if you're a true, if you're a true operator, you're going to look at those situations
00:10:39.340 as an opportunity to get better. That won't affect real operators. Yeah. No. Yeah. Like you're like,
00:10:43.900 okay, fuck, you got me. Like, let me fucking fix that over here real quick. You know? And that's
00:10:47.820 how you should be addressing it. You know? But I think because we live in this society that's like
00:10:52.200 that. And you know, I, while I do think cancel culture is dying out, I don't think people
00:10:57.380 are thinking it's very cool. I think people are realizing that it's not something to be a part of
00:11:00.980 or contribute to no matter what side you're on. Um, I think we have a propensity to look at the bad
00:11:10.400 things when we go to places and that keeps us from learning from where we can get better. So what I
00:11:15.160 try to do, like the whole time I was down there, dude, I was watching these guys trying to figure
00:11:19.280 out, okay, like, well, how could we translate this to our business where we could create a better
00:11:23.140 experience for our people? Yeah. You know? And, and, um, you know, I got some, I got a bunch of
00:11:28.440 notes. I got like a whole, whole bunch of notes. Uh, but like, it's very rare. And I don't mean,
00:11:33.020 I mean, as a matter of fact, I'm not saying this to brag or anything, but I have very particular high
00:11:38.980 standards. And I think my company speak for themselves. Do we have hiccups sometimes? Sure.
00:11:45.220 Do we have problems sometimes? Sure. But generally we're doing things at a very high level.
00:11:49.920 And when I can go to a place and be super fucking impressed, that gets me excited because I'm like,
00:11:58.760 okay, there's another level to get to here. And, uh, that doesn't happen. The more detail
00:12:03.740 oriented that you become, the more, the more seasoned you become and the more you operate that
00:12:09.760 way, the more rare those experiences are. Like, it's very difficult to wow me. It's very difficult
00:12:16.300 to blow me away. Right. Like, cause that's what I'm always trying to figure out how to do better.
00:12:22.180 But these guys did it, man. And it was, it was cool. Yeah. And, uh, it was the P every, 0.84
00:12:26.580 from every single person, dude, there was not like, there was not a single person that wasn't
00:12:31.760 on point. It was impressive. Yeah. How many, how many, like quickly, how many staff, how many people
00:12:37.500 do you think would you say was employed there? Like we talked a ton, like a thousand, maybe?
00:12:41.540 No, not that many. It's only a hundred room resort. Oh, a small, okay. Yeah. It's a little
00:12:46.820 place. Yeah. Um, but I mean, fuck, it seemed like there was at least three people for every
00:12:53.320 gas, like running the play. Yeah. You know what I mean? It was cool, dude. And like, you
00:12:58.580 know, people are like, Oh, I hope you got the detect. Like I got the, all these DMS, like,
00:13:02.120 Hey motherfuckers, I can't detach when you DM me the whole fucking vacation. You know what I'm 0.98
00:13:07.720 saying? Oh, I hope you got to detach while I'm typing. I stopped posting halfway through the
00:13:13.500 trip because like, like that's all it was. Oh, I hope you got some R and I. How about just like
00:13:19.800 the motherfucking picture, bro. And let me have a minute. Cause like, I try to be responsive and
00:13:23.560 respectful to people, but like, I'm just being real. Like, like people aren't aware. Like if I
00:13:29.460 post a picture, like, like it doesn't mean I'm going through some sort of fucking life crisis, 0.93
00:13:34.440 bro. I actually just like photography and I used to be pretty good at it back in the
00:13:38.320 day. You know what I'm saying? Like, Oh, you're posting these beautiful pictures. It seems
00:13:42.540 like something deep's go. Motherfucker. I'm taking pictures. You know, your journey.
00:13:47.320 Yeah. Like, dude, what, like, what the fuck? Like, why has everything got to mean something
00:13:52.380 like everybody's got to attach this meaning to some shit? Like, is it surprise you that I'm,
00:13:57.860 that I have an artistic eye, right? Like, have you paid attention to the content that my
00:14:01.720 companies have put out for the last fucking two decades? Like we do things pretty decent.
00:14:07.920 Yeah. I have to, I, you know, I don't know what to tell you, man. Like I'm multidimensional.
00:14:12.400 I can take some pictures. I can appreciate art. Yeah. You know, I even speak a little bit
00:14:16.700 of a different languages sometimes. Like I'm, you know, I'm not this fucking redneck from
00:14:20.900 Missouri that y'all motherfuckers think I am. Like I actually got a little bit of culture.
00:14:24.340 That's really what it is. I know it is. It's racism. Yeah. They got, yeah. It's racism.
00:14:28.020 That's what it is. Against Missouri. Yeah. And all of our cousins. Yeah. Fuck dude. Like,
00:14:34.820 I, you know, it's just, dude, it's just weird. Yeah. Like motherfucker. I'm just trying to
00:14:39.440 share some cool pictures with y'all and you got to make it about some life journey. You
00:14:43.680 ask him about ayahuasca. Yeah. Like, I'm just like, I don't know, man. I'm just taking some
00:14:47.940 pictures, but it was cool. Like it, you know, it was good time. Uh, I put on fucking eight
00:14:54.060 pounds when I was there. Yeah. But I think that's mainly because I drank, I didn't get
00:14:59.140 like drunk or anything. Like I just drank a few beers every day, but, but my body's so
00:15:02.780 not used to it that I think I was just retaining water. Cause I was down like after one day of
00:15:07.860 75 hard, like four, four of the eight pounds. Yeah. So yeah. I want to say, well, that's
00:15:12.120 the other thing too. So it's day two. Uh, this will probably be day three when you guys are
00:15:16.080 listening, but 75 hard is going good. And, uh, we're right back into it, man. So it feels
00:15:21.700 good. I'm excited about this round of 75 hard because, um, I was, I was really doing
00:15:26.960 well. And the last one, when I got knocked off at day 51, I think it was, I was kicking
00:15:32.820 ass, bro. And it was very, very, very difficult for me to get as sick as I got. And like, you
00:15:40.040 know, I don't think people realize that I was sick for over a month. Like it wasn't like I
00:15:44.300 was sick for a couple of days. I actually had an infection that took an entire month for
00:15:48.580 me to get out of my body. So it was like, it wasn't like a little deal and that fucked 0.98
00:15:53.600 me up mentally, dude. I'm just being real. Like it fucking hammered me because like,
00:15:56.700 I finally felt like, all right, I'm going to get past the shoulder injury. I'm going
00:16:00.460 to get back to where I was. I'm going to be better than I was whenever I got hurt and
00:16:04.560 I could like fucking see it. And then that I got hammered with that thing. So like, you
00:16:11.140 know, it was frustrating. So I'm excited to get back to it. Um, I'm going to give it
00:16:15.620 everything I fucking got for the next 75 days and probably do phase one right afterwards. 0.90
00:16:20.440 Uh, but I, I really think after this 75 days, as long as I don't get fucking sick or some
00:16:25.880 shit like that again, or something unforeseen happened. I mean, cause like there was nothing
00:16:30.320 I could do, bro. It wasn't like I could like tough that out. I mean, I had fucking my doctors
00:16:35.780 at my house for three fucking days straight. I was sick as fuck. And, um, that's probably
00:16:42.960 why, you know, I probably pushed a little too hard cause I, you know, was so determined
00:16:47.040 on getting through it. But the reality is, is like, I'm going to give it everything I
00:16:50.800 fucking got. If you guys want to join me, you can, uh, check out episode 208 and it'll
00:16:55.680 give you the whole rundown on 75 hard and live hard program and how it works. Um, you know,
00:17:02.460 we're only on day three. So like you should fucking jump in if it's something that you want
00:17:06.180 to make this change. You know, a lot of people have gone, already gone through the cycle
00:17:10.060 of new year's, not really working out for them and then falling off and kind of like
00:17:13.500 they're in that limbo stage. And you know, like guys, you give it 75 days full effort.
00:17:18.300 You're going to look, feel, and be a completely different person by the beginning of fucking
00:17:22.360 may. Right. You know what I'm saying? So I guess what may is coming regardless. Yeah,
00:17:26.580 that's right. So like, dude, I invite you guys to join with me. If you don't want to,
00:17:29.960 that's cool too, but I'm going to be giving it everything I got. So despite all the DMS,
00:17:34.960 like, did you really get a time to decompress and all of that? No, it was cool, bro.
00:17:38.980 Like it was nice to see some new scenery, you know? Um, it was weird. You know, I think
00:17:44.600 it's, you know, there wasn't a lot, it wasn't a long enough time for me to disconnect. I haven't
00:17:49.460 been on a vacation since, uh, uh, Emily and I's honeymoon. So it was a 10 and a half years
00:17:54.320 since the last vacation that I've been on that wasn't for work or speaking or something like
00:17:59.060 that. I traveled, but it's always been for some version of work. Right. Um, but this was the
00:18:04.900 first time I like, wasn't getting paid to go somewhere. Right. And it was cool, dude. Uh,
00:18:10.680 you know, as far as disconnecting, I think I really, I really truly think social media makes
00:18:17.120 it hard to disconnect. I think next time I go on a trip, I don't think I'm going to fucking
00:18:21.100 utilize social at all or post anything during the time. Because like, you know, you do have a lot
00:18:27.220 of friends and your DMS and shit that you talk to regularly. And you know, I found myself a couple
00:18:31.460 of times getting sucked in for a couple hours when I'd really honestly rather not be doing that.
00:18:36.880 Yeah. Um, it's no fault of theirs. It's just the nature of how we do things now. Um, but I got some
00:18:44.020 time to hang out and like relax and, you know, chill. And I think next time it's going to be longer
00:18:48.280 and it's going to be less connection back to reality. Um, and I do feel like, I don't know,
00:18:53.880 I, I feel different now that I'm back. Um, more normal, less anxiety, less, less stress a little
00:19:03.540 bit, not a lot bit, but a little bit. And like, um, like before I left, dude, like I was at a point
00:19:10.040 and you know, this, like I wasn't even driving, like I wasn't doing the things that I enjoy to do.
00:19:13.880 Like, and I don't have that many hobbies, like one of my hobbies, and I'm not saying this to
00:19:17.820 fucking brag, but it's, I like high performance fucking cars and, um, driving is something that
00:19:24.800 I enjoy. It's, it's not something I do for status. Um, and like today I drove one of my cars, which
00:19:32.240 I hadn't driven a car. I haven't driven one of my cars since probably November or December because
00:19:38.880 the weather's been shitty and all that. Among other things. Huh? Yeah. Yeah. I may or may not
00:19:44.080 have a valid driver's license right now, but we're going to get that taken care of.
00:19:48.320 Um, I didn't do anything wrong. I didn't get it renewed in time. So now I actually have to go
00:19:53.900 take the test again. We talked about making that a YouTube video, but I don't know if they'd allow
00:19:57.760 us to do that. I still got time. Yeah. It'd be funny. Hopefully I pass. That's the big question,
00:20:04.020 but yeah. Yeah. But no, it was good, man. It was good. It's, uh, I learned a couple of things,
00:20:09.200 you know, I learned that I have to do a better job of consciously trying to disconnect.
00:20:14.080 Uh, I think my opinion of social media is getting worse and worse and worse, not better.
00:20:18.480 My desire to want to post and interact on social is becoming less and less. Um, but I also think
00:20:24.860 that, I also think that goes along with like, I'm getting to a point in my life where I don't,
00:20:29.840 and this is going to sound weird, but you should all relate to it. Like, I don't feel like I need to
00:20:35.780 sell anybody on my life anymore. Like I feel like my results speak for themselves. I don't have much to
00:20:40.780 prove to anybody else. You guys kind of know what I'm about. You listen to the show, you see the show,
00:20:45.680 we communicate on the show. There's more context on the show. I enjoy doing the show. You guys enjoy
00:20:50.020 viewing it. Um, but the overall drama of social, the amount of time that is like, I mentioned this
00:20:55.440 a couple of weeks ago, it's just something that I'm going to probably participate less in. You know
00:21:01.440 what I mean? Um, there's a whole lot of life out there, bro. And it's real shit. Like it's real,
00:21:07.220 there's like, that was, that was one thing that was, that was evident because I was off social for
00:21:13.900 most of the trip. You really notice how good people are in real life when you disconnect from
00:21:21.800 social, you know, it's easy for us to look at social and be like, fuck, everybody's a piece of
00:21:26.280 shit. Everybody's angry. Yeah. But dude, it's not that way. It's, it's a small minority of people
00:21:31.000 on the far left and the far right arguing. And then there's, you know, the cloud chasers who
00:21:37.020 would look to create drama and controversy so they can get attention because they have nothing else to
00:21:41.100 offer, you know, and shit like that. So you live in this constant environment of like
00:21:46.120 bullshit. And I think it's very clear when you disconnect for even a little bit, even if it's
00:21:51.880 just like a day or two that, and you go out in the real world, you're like, fuck, this is this,
00:21:56.020 this, what we see on these screens represents very little reality to what actually goes on in real
00:22:03.480 life. I would argue none. I mean, very, very little, like, like most of the shit that people
00:22:08.520 argue about on social media, like you can't even find in the real world. You don't see it. You know
00:22:13.700 what I'm saying? People arguing, you don't see them. Yeah. Very rarely see them. Dude. And people
00:22:17.500 don't talk to each other like that in real life. Like you don't like, like the world is much better
00:22:22.220 in reality than it is on social media. And I think people have so many people have been so head
00:22:28.060 down utilizing the benefits of social for business that you get sucked into it and it becomes like
00:22:34.920 your whole life. Like I see this a lot with like some influencers, right? Like influencers want to
00:22:39.460 like get the views so fucking bad. And at first it's because they want to make a living. Right.
00:22:45.100 But then what happens is, is it like sucks them in to where like, this is their whole entire world,
00:22:50.020 bro. And they're sitting there on their fucking couch or they're at their desk or wherever they're,
00:22:55.080 you know, their bed or whatever. And the whole fucking life is passing them by. You know what
00:22:59.740 I'm saying? And I think more and more people, and I talked about this for the last three years,
00:23:04.540 I think more and more people are going to start disengaging with these types of social.
00:23:08.880 people. And I think more and more people, uh, are going to value brick and mortar real life
00:23:15.200 business more. I think you're going to see, I already know brick and mortar growth is for
00:23:21.000 businesses doing it right. It's going very well right now. Um, and I think you're going to see a
00:23:26.620 lot of companies transition back, uh, from an online, like only type presence to, you know,
00:23:36.300 doing business though, kind of like what you would call the old way. I think you're going to see
00:23:40.620 clothing companies go back to cataloging. I think you're going to see people not wanting to spend
00:23:45.300 their time on social. And so companies, uh, are going to have to find, you know, creative ways,
00:23:50.080 which are the old ways of getting their attention. Right. And so I think, you know, we're going to see,
00:23:54.940 we're going to see, we're going to see a little of both. We're going to see some people dive more
00:23:58.040 into it, but I think a lot of people at this point in time, you know, we're really into,
00:24:01.900 I don't know, 13, 14 years of where most people were familiar with social, you know what I'm
00:24:09.760 saying? And the early people that were there, I mean, they've been on it for a decade going hard.
00:24:14.080 And I think a lot of people are becoming disenfranchised and disengaged with the
00:24:17.460 whole concept of like living on this fucking screen. Yeah. And so I think what you're going
00:24:21.380 to see in business, and I think it's going to come down to the companies that can adapt
00:24:25.880 to a real world scenarios. Again, I also think there's an opportunity for advertising
00:24:31.400 platforms in the real world as well to do really well again. People are rejecting the idea of the
00:24:37.500 metaverse. You know, they're not, like I told you they would, they don't want to sit at home and live
00:24:42.260 in a virtual world with some fucking goggles on. They're not going along with the 2030 agenda of
00:24:47.560 you will own nothing and like it. We're not eating fucking crickets. Like none of this shit's going
00:24:52.120 to happen, dude. And because people are going to reject the fuck out of them. And that's why you're
00:24:56.540 seeing, you know, a war being escalated because I believe that in their hopes of the ruins of the
00:25:03.600 war that they're working to create, they think they're going to take over, which ain't going to
00:25:09.220 happen then either. So like, no, these motherfuckers are going to go down swinging and they're going to 0.75
00:25:13.520 burn the fucking world up on the way out. And you know, I'm here for it. Yeah. Well, had you
00:25:18.880 listened whenever people said, Hey, don't wear the fucking mask and not complied, we wouldn't be here
00:25:23.360 right now. You know, all those people that stood up, this is for CTI, but like, I'm just being real.
00:25:28.340 All those people that stood up and say, Hey, this is bullshit. They lost their businesses, lost their
00:25:32.760 contracts, lost their fucking following, got canceled, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Um, and got
00:25:39.720 harassed for three fucking years, et cetera. Those people were right. And you motherfuckers that didn't 1.00
00:25:45.220 believe in were wrong. And these people are now telling you they're going to destroy the fucking world
00:25:49.240 to escape accountability for the crimes that they perpetrated on you. And now you don't believe
00:25:53.900 this again. You see what I'm saying? Like it, dude. And so like, that makes me think that it's
00:25:59.800 going to happen either way. And I believe that the only chance for freedom that exists in our globe
00:26:05.480 ever again, I don't know that, I don't know how this war thing is going to pan out. If someone's
00:26:10.680 going to come in and save the day, but it sure doesn't fucking feel like it's going to happen. 0.76
00:26:13.600 Yeah. And it sure does feel like this war is going to be escalated to mass fucking levels.
00:26:18.660 Like I said, you know, a few years ago. Um, and it sure does feel like, you know, what I think their
00:26:24.920 plan is, is that at the end of that, whatever is left, they're going to claim and form the one world 0.62
00:26:29.500 government that they've been trying to get through all this fucking other ways. And the very, very
00:26:33.380 elite are going to try to have all control over fucking every human being on earth. Um, and everybody
00:26:39.960 else is not going to have shit and that's their plan. And so the only chance that I see for freedom
00:26:43.460 to fucking actually, you know, truly reestablish itself is that key point when after that, when 0.67
00:26:50.860 shit is fucked up, if everybody's ready to just, you know, like at the most vulnerable time, take 0.89
00:26:55.460 it back and make it free again. But like, I'm, I'm, it's frustrating, dude. I don't know what's
00:27:00.180 going to happen. Um, it's going to be interesting. Yeah. So anyway. Yeah. Well, uh, let's talk
00:27:10.320 about how we can get better to prepare for that. Yeah. Well, I mean, that's the main point
00:27:14.820 guys is like personal excellence is the ultimate rebellion. The better you are, the less of a
00:27:19.260 customer you are for them, for all their shit. And you know, all these business trends that
00:27:23.100 we're talking about, you know, these, these it's, it's interesting how all of these things
00:27:27.940 are counter to what most of the quote unquote experts are out there saying. But then when you
00:27:33.260 look at what the experts are trying to tell people is actually happening, uh, none of that data
00:27:38.380 backs up that opinion, you know, like all the stocks of these tech companies is falling,
00:27:42.160 but the amount of people on, uh, social and the amount of people who are engaging in social is
00:27:48.240 it's, it's becoming uncool. Yeah. Right. The trend is like, like, it's almost starting to become
00:27:54.620 uncool to spend like all your time on social media. Right. And so like, you start to look at that and
00:28:00.040 then you compare that with real world data of brick and mortar companies that are operating properly,
00:28:04.620 writing a good experience, doing very well right now. Uh, I know because I own a few,
00:28:08.380 okay. And I know a bunch of people that own them as well. And you cut, you kind of put all that
00:28:14.780 shit together, bro. And I, you know, I, I feel like people want to go back to like being normal
00:28:18.920 human beings and they are tired of the shit. Yep. So we'll see. Yeah. We, uh, we shall cause it's
00:28:25.840 coming quick. Yeah. So we'll see. I think there's about, I think, I think what's actually happening
00:28:30.540 here is that there's a balance, there's a balance being created, right? Like, like people, because
00:28:39.900 this technology is so new, people have pushed so far over to one side and now people are starting
00:28:46.480 to push back. And I think what we're going to find is that there's going to be a healthy balance
00:28:51.420 where people are comfortable with a certain amount of technology in their life. Um, there is some
00:28:56.940 regulation. Yeah. And there's going to be some privacy regulations that's good. Cause like,
00:29:00.860 that's going to have to happen to save these things. Like people are not going to continue
00:29:04.440 the way to be allowed. Yeah. They're not going to like more and more people every day are starting
00:29:07.920 to realize that these tools are used to spy on us on our whole fucking lives. These, you know,
00:29:12.620 the things that Snowden was trying to tell us about how they're watching us through our computers
00:29:17.100 and they can access us even when the power cord isn't connected and look in our cameras,
00:29:21.560 that's all fucking true shit. And people, more people are starting to realize it and that's
00:29:26.440 accelerating the rejection of this technology. And I think a couple of things are going to have
00:29:30.720 to happen for technology to like, to find that balance. But I think privacy is a huge part of
00:29:36.020 it. Like there's going to have to be regulation. Like these motherfuckers should not have the right 0.99
00:29:40.720 to listen to our conversations or to fucking hack into our computers. And I'm not talking about the
00:29:46.600 media companies. I'm talking about the government or any company, anybody that we should all have an
00:29:50.860 individual sense of privacy and that should be protected by the strongest letter of the law.
00:29:58.780 Because dude, right now, like when you become aware, one of the reasons people have so much
00:30:02.380 anxiety is because they know that like you're, you can't escape it. Right. And like how many of us
00:30:08.400 voted to live like this? How many of us want to live our lives like this? I don't see anybody
00:30:12.680 fucking saying, Oh yeah, I wanted to live in a surveillance state. Govern me harder, daddy. That's
00:30:16.740 what I'm saying. And now they inched us into this under the, under the guise of,
00:30:20.860 Oh, well it's a private company. You signed in the terms and conditions. Well, that's because
00:30:25.480 there's been no regulation whatsoever. And I think a good amount, I I'm, I'm very much
00:30:30.000 anti fucking big government, but I think some fucking regulations on our own privacy and our
00:30:35.420 ability to have free speech on the technology that actually where all the conversations are
00:30:39.180 happening is a reasonable fucking thing for anybody to agree that we all need. So anyway,
00:30:45.640 let's do the questions. Cause we're 30 minutes in and bullshit guys. Let's get into this. Get to the
00:30:52.080 fucking question. Yeah. Let's get to this man. Uh, and the question of one, Andy, I found myself to
00:30:57.020 be someone who avoids conflict all the time. I hate arguing, uh, going through any type of conflict at
00:31:02.900 all. Really. Um, and when faced with a problem, I'd much rather just solve it on my own. Um, and I've
00:31:07.960 always looked at conflict as just this terrible thing to avoid. Question is, can I, should I change
00:31:14.560 this? And then what are the tips that you have to overcome this? Well, look, like I said previously,
00:31:23.520 before the question started, you know, anytime we open social media, we're inundated with conflict of
00:31:29.220 every kind. All right. We, we, we get shown the worst of the worst and the worst in society.
00:31:34.560 And then the other part of the internet is a bunch of people trying to call people out
00:31:39.060 and get clout for like fucking tearing other people down. So we're, we're looking at conflict
00:31:44.360 24 hours a day. So you have to realize in the real world, conflict is a very minimal situation.
00:31:51.460 It doesn't happen every day. It doesn't, and it doesn't happen, uh, over and over. But when we get
00:31:57.120 on social, what happens is we get so fucking inundated with it. We just kind of like freeze up
00:32:02.260 and what you have to realize is that conflict is an opportunity for growth. It's an opportunity to
00:32:10.500 improve. It's an opportunity to get better on both parties when there is a conflict. And as long as a
00:32:16.600 conflict is addressed, um, with a productive perspective, I think conflict can be a very
00:32:22.720 good thing and a healthy thing, especially inside an organization. Uh, you know, the best ideas don't
00:32:28.000 come from things going great. The best ideas come from when things are fucked up and you find this
00:32:32.320 crazy solution that is a great idea. So like, I don't think that you should, I think you need to
00:32:38.600 change your perspective on how you look at conflict and you should start looking at it instead of
00:32:42.340 taking it personal or if people don't like you, you should look at it as, okay. Um, I'm taking the
00:32:49.000 emotion out of it. I actually did an Andy Graham on this a couple of days ago, guys, about taking the
00:32:52.980 emotion out of your decision-making. I take the emotion out of it and I look at the reality.
00:32:58.520 Okay. Is this true? Yes or no. Okay. Yes, it's true. And that, that doesn't feel very good.
00:33:03.540 What can I do to fix it? How can I be better? Right. And, and, and then I take whatever I learned
00:33:09.320 from the conflict and I go be better. And that's what I've always done. Um, sometimes the person on
00:33:18.060 the other side of the conflict is going to, is you guys are going to be able to work it out.
00:33:21.320 Sometimes, you know, people aren't in a place where they want to work things out.
00:33:25.860 I found that most of the time when you're honest with people and you treat them with respect,
00:33:29.800 there's an amicable compromise that can come that we're both people respect each other,
00:33:35.820 feel heard, feel valued and walk away better from conflict. You know, some of my best friends
00:33:41.580 in the world are people I didn't even like in the beginning when I met them. Right. So like we have
00:33:46.300 to understand that conflict can have a lot of healthy outcomes, but it's up to you to, to make
00:33:55.920 them healthy, you know, cause you want to always see eye to eye with other people. You're not always
00:34:00.720 going to be able to get a handshake and a hug when it's over with most of the time. Yeah. But
00:34:05.180 sometimes no, I wouldn't want to. Yeah. Well, that's you, but a lot of people have, you're not
00:34:10.300 a people pleaser in that way, bro. Like you're, you're a man who stands on his own values and when
00:34:14.780 right's right and wrong is wrong. And that's something that you're comfortable doing. But
00:34:18.660 there's a lot of people out there that have a really hard time when people like have, like this
00:34:23.500 person here, this person, you got to understand what they're talking about is like paralyzing fear
00:34:29.520 of someone not liking them or agreeing with them or seeing things with their perspective,
00:34:33.860 which is a very hard way to go through life because that's not reality. And so, you know,
00:34:40.560 and, and, and dude, I'm one of those people, like I'm a person where I, you know, as much as like you
00:34:46.280 guys think, Oh, it's fuck, you know, fuck everybody that I had to develop that part of me, but that's
00:34:51.620 what I had to develop my natural inclination. When I was a young person before I developed the
00:34:57.980 boundaries and understanding of when to fuck off with someone or when to listen. Right.
00:35:03.280 My natural inclination was to always have my feelings hurt when people fucking didn't see 0.81
00:35:07.760 eye to eye with me. I took a very personal and that comes from me not being secure with who I am.
00:35:12.800 And so I can, I can empathize with someone who struggles with this because when I was younger,
00:35:18.120 uh, in my teenage years, especially I really struggled with this. And, uh, I think a lot of
00:35:23.320 people struggle with this, but I think the, the, the key to getting through it and growing is to
00:35:29.280 understand that, that conflict you have to do, you do the best you can. When you, when you make
00:35:34.540 mistakes, be humble enough to say, okay, I can fix that. Um, regardless if you make it right with
00:35:39.660 the other person or not, because sometimes people won't allow you to make it right. All right. So
00:35:43.780 you got to take the lessons that you learn, you make them right. You improve as a person and you
00:35:47.160 grow. And along the way there's, you know, especially in business, you're going to have
00:35:51.460 situations where you do everything right. And the, the person's still going to hate you for some,
00:35:57.960 whatever fucking reason, bro. And sometimes those people come around years later and they say, well,
00:36:02.740 dude, I was wrong or whatever. So the only thing that we can really worry about is like ourselves,
00:36:07.340 what we learned from the conflict, how we can actually get better. And I think it's a good idea
00:36:12.520 to try and make it right with people. When you have these conflicts, depending on what kind of
00:36:16.840 conflict it is. Cause there is a time where, you know, someone is clearly the fuck out of line
00:36:21.460 and you got to hold a fucking standard. And if you don't hold a standard at that point,
00:36:25.380 people will walk all over you. So there's, that's a huge reality as well. A lot of people get walked
00:36:30.340 all over because they're so afraid of conflict that they won't set up any kind of boundary whatsoever.
00:36:35.800 So like you have to be, you have to be the judge of this scenario. Like you've got to tell
00:36:42.180 yourself the truth. This is why being a realist is so important. Like, cause sometimes
00:36:46.820 times, especially the bigger you get in business, people are going to criticize you for shit that
00:36:50.940 ain't even fucking true. Okay. And like, dude, when you're someone who's trying, and by the way,
00:36:55.680 this all conflicts, this all conflicts into like this big mess, because the reason that you got
00:37:00.200 big in the first place is because you give a fuck about people. Okay. So you care a lot. That's why
00:37:05.980 you're successful. Then you get to a point where you get so big that people start trying to poke holes
00:37:10.500 in your shit just because you're shining in a way that they may not like. All right. So you've got to
00:37:16.060 figure out like, is this person actually have a legitimate gripe? Is this something I could do
00:37:22.500 better? Is this my fault or are they out of line? Yeah. You know what I'm saying? And so like, dude,
00:37:28.680 there's truth to all of that. And you, I think the best thing that someone can do is really train
00:37:34.140 themselves to see the reality of the situation and remove themselves from their own perspective in it
00:37:40.220 and remove and try to put yourself over in this perspective as well. Right? Like walking a mile
00:37:45.380 in someone else's shoes is a pretty good idea when you have a conflict with them. Yeah. You see what
00:37:49.320 I'm saying? A lot of people forget that shit because they're so mad and they're so angry,
00:37:52.800 but being able to look at it. So like what I try to do, dude, in these situations, like if I find
00:37:59.020 myself in a situation, you know, which happens quite often when you're running a fucking bunch 0.90
00:38:04.720 of shit, you know, and you know, the conflicts are waiting on you. Yeah. Like it's, it's, it's
00:38:10.580 normal shit. And like, but like, dude, I used to be like this person where I would like paralyze
00:38:15.120 me. Right. And so like, I've grown a lot in that regard where now I'm like, okay, well, what is it?
00:38:20.460 What's going on? Okay. Is that true? No, it's not true. Okay. Well, this person's just doesn't
00:38:26.180 understand. Try to talk to them. If they're like, fuck you. Well, there's nothing I can do about
00:38:29.540 that. Right. All I can do is do my best, my real best, not fucking bullshit best. Yeah. There's
00:38:33.980 a difference. But what I try to do in a little hack that I think is valuable for all of you guys
00:38:38.760 is to like, look at the situation as if you're observing two other people. So, so like, if you
00:38:44.100 can like see the conflict that you're currently in and you can like observe it as if it's two
00:38:49.160 different people that you're not, it's not you and it's not them, but it's these two other people
00:38:52.920 and you kind of observe this thing, it gives you a good perspective of what the truth actually
00:38:59.700 is. Yeah. Right. So, um, that's a hack I've used. And I, I, you know, I also use that hack
00:39:07.780 by the way, when I got to make hard decisions, like when I have to make difficult decisions,
00:39:11.240 dude, I don't, I don't think of it. Like it's me. I think of it. Like I work for this guy named
00:39:17.100 Andy, who's over there, who has all these goals, all these obligations, all these dreams.
00:39:23.180 And I have to make a decision that's in this, in the best interest of over here. Okay. Uh,
00:39:29.340 whether it's hard or not hard, I have to do what the fucking right thing. And so like when
00:39:34.100 I, when I have to make hard decisions or have conversations that aren't, that aren't fun
00:39:37.860 to have, I try to remember like, okay, I worked for this other dude over here. Yeah. I got
00:39:42.560 to do a fucking job. That's powerful. Yeah. So there's some free game for you guys. Yeah. No
00:39:47.960 shit. It's very helpful. Yeah. Uh, any question number two, Andy, I am a musician, a rapper
00:39:54.320 specifically. Um, I put a lot of effort and energy into making the best quality music and
00:40:00.140 content I can with the resources I currently have. Even still in the past, when I would
00:40:05.120 drop content, I would be discouraged by the results or lack thereof. Yeah. Um, by listening
00:40:10.600 to you, I've learned to understand that the journey to success is a long road and consistency
00:40:15.300 and persistence is key. Um, but I'm curious, what, what would you say to yourself to keep
00:40:21.140 showing up every single day when you went through a similar period in your early days
00:40:24.860 of business? Um, this is something I know a lot of creative struggle with. So I would
00:40:28.680 like to know your input. Um, what do you tell yourself to keep you going through the days?
00:40:31.980 It's not what I tell myself. It's what I asked myself. What's my life going to be like
00:40:36.720 if I quit? That's why I asked myself, what's my life going to look like if I quit to this
00:40:42.100 day? To this day, that's how I, I asked myself, I asked myself the same thing today. Uh, okay.
00:40:49.180 Like, like, dude, real talk. You think I want to come back in on fucking Monday morning after
00:40:52.780 being in Mexico for a fucking week? No. Well, I'm just saying like you're walking, I'm walking.
00:40:57.520 I already know what I'm walking into, which is a whole, cause like, look, dude, my prop,
00:41:01.080 my job is to solve the fucking problems. All right. Cause you're not there. By the way,
00:41:06.380 I don't solve the little problems. Those all get solved by our amazing people here.
00:41:10.640 Right. Right. So by the time it comes to me, guess what kind of problem it is? It's a fucking
00:41:16.780 stressful problem. It's a train derailment, right? Yeah, that's right. Too soon. Yeah. It didn't
00:41:20.640 exist. You know, our fucking president rather go over to Ukraine. That's the other episode. Sorry,
00:41:26.500 guys. That's unacceptable by the way. It is. It is. But I got a lot to say about that motherfucking
00:41:32.720 that's bullshit. Oh yeah. But, uh, but look, dude, you know, I know what I'm walking into and I know
00:41:40.320 it's going to, I know I'm getting the fucking hammer broke. Cause that's what my job is,
00:41:44.440 is to get the fucking hammer. And, um, you know, so I was nervous and I had a little anxiety. I'm
00:41:50.500 like, Oh fuck, this is weird. You know? And, but the truth is, is like, you know, I'm like,
00:41:54.800 fuck dude, I, I could stay home. Right. I could have not went. I could have said, Hey,
00:42:01.720 I'm not going in. Like I don't have to fucking come here. You know what I mean? Yeah. And I
00:42:08.080 fucking was sitting there and I'm like, well, if I don't go today, that means I'm less likely to go 0.60
00:42:13.040 next week when we have another meeting. That means the week after that, I'm going to blow that off.
00:42:17.420 I'd rather not start this. We got a lot to do. I got a lot of responsibility.
00:42:22.140 What's going to happen if I let this go? Right. Guess what I did? Got the fuck up,
00:42:27.480 got in the shower and got my fucking ass here and I gave the meeting, you know? Yeah. You know? So
00:42:32.120 like I try to tie in if I were you and, and, and this is what has always worked for me. You know,
00:42:39.820 I don't evaluate the risk of doing, I, I evaluate the risk of not doing. And so, you know, when you're
00:42:47.920 struggling and when you're young and you're not getting the attention, like, dude, it's hard.
00:42:51.220 It's hard. Like, especially like for young people now, because the internet's been
00:42:57.280 around for a minute, like it, and this is, this is just true shit. And I don't care what anybody
00:43:01.860 says. People can fucking argue this all day, but like, it was much easier to gain a following in
00:43:06.700 the earlier days of the internet. Right. It would, now you have everybody sort of, it's the game has
00:43:14.100 been discovered and like, it's still early and I think it will evolve. Like I said, in the last
00:43:19.700 question, but I mean, it's, there's so many fucking people doing the shit on the internet at a
00:43:26.300 functional level that it's hard to stand out back in the beginning. You, you, you could
00:43:31.660 just, you could be, there was more diversity in content too. Now, now I see everybody doing
00:43:38.420 the exact same. Like I see all these motherfuckers doing these videos now where they're sitting 1.00
00:43:43.220 in front of a microphone, like they're on a fucking podcast when there's not even have 0.97
00:43:46.080 a fucking podcast. They just have a microphone. Yeah, bro. Like, look, dude, that there's not
00:43:51.420 a hack to this. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Like this is years and years and years of anything,
00:43:56.160 just like whatever it is they're good at. You understand what I'm saying? Yeah. So like,
00:44:00.720 we have to understand that like content creation and getting a following and all that shit is,
00:44:06.940 it's much harder now than it was then. And so it's easier for people who were like in this person's
00:44:12.680 situation, uh, to feel fucking demoralized. Cause it takes, you know, time to do this. And you see all
00:44:19.640 these other people who are probably not even as good as you are at what you do, getting far more
00:44:25.060 credit and appraise. And I think the thing that to remember here is that this is a game of longevity.
00:44:30.340 This is a game of continuing to push, continuing to grow. The journey that you're on is going to
00:44:37.880 produce the ultimate version of you, which is what you're after anyway, because the skills that you
00:44:44.220 have right now are only going to get better. They're only going to be honed more. They're only going to
00:44:49.000 develop more, the more you keep trying. And like, dude, here's the truth too. As many people that are
00:44:54.100 fucking doing this, most people still won't even make content because they're fucking afraid of what 0.85
00:44:59.380 the boogeyman might have to say about them. Right. So like, dude, the fact that you're in the fucking
00:45:04.580 game, even after all this time and you feel like demoralized, you're still incredibly ahead of everybody
00:45:10.500 else, bro. That's a big fucking deal. And so, you know, I see this all the time and I see, you know,
00:45:16.520 what's one, one, one cool way to think about it too, is like, dude, Tik TOK's a great way to build
00:45:21.080 a following. Like I don't do Tik TOK personally. Um, because I kind of let everybody else just share
00:45:27.720 out my shit. Uh, and I'm not interested in doing another social media platform, but the, the amount
00:45:35.040 of growth that you can see on Tik TOK, because the fucking algorithm is pretty open. It, you could
00:45:41.600 build a massive following pretty quick there. Uh, however, you know, you have to deal with the
00:45:45.940 fucking, with it being a Chinese spyware, which is what the fuck it is. And like, there's other 0.99
00:45:49.980 negatives to it too. And that's another reason why I don't fucking do it. But like, you know,
00:45:55.580 comparing yourself to people who've been doing shit for a long time is always demoralizing, bro.
00:45:59.740 Like I can remember back when I was, you know, in 2000, I can remember that dude, this is,
00:46:04.760 this is a real story. I remember back in 2000 fucking 10, 2009, 2010, I had this idea 0.74
00:46:10.960 that I went and spoke, I went and spoke to this big company about that was much, I mean,
00:46:15.380 a big, big company at the time. And, um, I showed my idea. I said, I said, this is,
00:46:22.800 this is how the industry lays. This is what, what you guys could do to change it. And we'd
00:46:28.140 like to be a little part of it. You know, we don't, we didn't have the money or the capacity
00:46:32.180 or the resources to like do this. So I brought this idea to this company and they fucking laughed
00:46:36.940 us out the room, bro. They laughed us out the room. You know what he said? He said, well,
00:46:40.800 if you think that's such a good idea, you should go do it yourself. Guess what the fuck I did.
00:46:44.580 Now I'm here. See what I'm saying? But that shit hurt. And that shit fucking made me sad.
00:46:49.900 And it made me feel like a fucking loser. And so like a lot of the things that you're going
00:46:53.660 through right now, feeling demoralized and feeling like you're disrespected, those things will
00:46:57.920 actually carry you to success. It's part of the game. Fuck. Yeah, bro. You think I don't have a
00:47:01.960 massive chip on my shoulder, even though I proved those motherfuckers wrong. You don't think I
00:47:05.800 fucking love the fact that if I went and talked to the person who said that I say, Hey bro,
00:47:10.120 remember when you said this and this and this, and he'd be like, fuck. Yeah, I know that was
00:47:14.060 fuck. Well, you went out and did it. You know, like I think about that. Like, you know, it sounds
00:47:18.720 fucked up, but it's truth. Like, and dude, all these disrespectful things and all these slights
00:47:24.320 and all these things, those things will come together if you allow them to, uh, as a really
00:47:30.040 great source of fuel for you to continue to push down the, down the road, which I think is necessary.
00:47:34.700 Yeah. You know, I think negative energy is the most powerful energy that you could fucking,
00:47:39.000 if you can absorb it, if you can control it and convert it into something positive,
00:47:43.500 it's the most powerful energy. It's way more powerful than positive energy.
00:47:47.580 It'll drive you to work much harder. And dude, you can talk about metaphysical, quantum physical,
00:47:52.660 spiritual beliefs, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. But at the end of the day, bro,
00:47:56.240 you got to put motherfucking rubber to the road, which means you got to fucking work.
00:47:59.260 Okay. In the real world out here, real life, you got to fucking work not here here. Right. And
00:48:07.180 it's a massive, it's a massive, it's a massive compliment to, to this person that they are even
00:48:18.580 moving that direction. In my opinion, you know, I think there's so much to be said
00:48:24.080 for the people who just fucking try, dude, like so many people, like think of all the great 0.84
00:48:30.700 inventions. Think of all the great businesses. Think of all the great solutions. Think of all
00:48:36.020 the greatness period that is left on the fucking table because people are fucking afraid of what's 0.90
00:48:43.600 going to happen to them on social media, or they're afraid to be called a name. They're afraid
00:48:47.720 to be made fun of, or they're afraid to be canceled. This is one of the biggest fucking dangers of
00:48:51.940 cancel culture. This is why you shouldn't participate in it. Even when it's fucking,
00:48:55.560 you know, not your, your side or the other side, like it's not a good thing in society.
00:49:01.920 Yeah. Um, it should be reserved. Cancel culture should be reserved for the harshest things.
00:49:07.780 You know, part of the reason the harshest things are being allowed to happen now, like such as the
00:49:12.760 sexualization of children, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera, pedophilia being normalized, which is really
00:49:17.740 happening globally. The reason that's allowed to happen is because there's a space being made for
00:49:23.220 it. Because when people cancel fucking Joe Blow for doing whatever Joe Blow does, they it's, it's,
00:49:32.820 it's the same thing as like when everything is a certain way, then nothing is a certain way.
00:49:37.620 So like if everything is cancelable, then when you try to cancel fucking Balenciaga for what they did,
00:49:42.940 it doesn't fucking work. It's a boy who cries wolf. Yeah. And so like as society, one of the
00:49:48.780 changes that I think we need to make is we need to be even more selective about where the fuck we
00:49:52.560 take that power. Um, but because of that power and because it's misused and because it's become a
00:49:59.320 societal norm and it is a weapon, it's a fucking social weapon. It's meant to divide. This, this was
00:50:05.880 not, this cancel culture was propagated and inserted into our society intentionally. Okay. And,
00:50:12.940 and the reason is so that we all fucking argue. And so we're all afraid and we're afraid to speak 0.65
00:50:17.300 up. We're afraid to say shit. Right. But, but here's a, here's a side effect of it that no one
00:50:21.380 really talks about. It's like young people like this. Um, like that's what I'm saying. This person
00:50:26.440 deserves a lot of credit, but it's, it's people who have greatness inside of them. They're afraid
00:50:30.500 to get off the fucking bench because of the abnormal situation of cancel culture in society. 0.96
00:50:35.700 See what I'm saying? Like we're missing out on a lot of fucking greatness because
00:50:39.700 culminated with the idea that it's supposed to be quick and easy. Yeah. Well, yeah, that's a whole
00:50:43.880 nother discussion. Yeah, man. But like, you know, people I'm, you know, I'm a huge anti-cancel
00:50:50.440 culture type person. And, uh, you know, I think we, as a society need to do a better job of like
00:50:56.800 giving people grace when they make a mistake or when something, you know, uh, when they fuck up or
00:51:04.500 whatever, right. And being able to delineate if it's just a one or a two time mistake or something
00:51:10.200 or if they're an evil person, I think cancel culture should be completely fucking redirected
00:51:15.680 and utilized for evil things. You know, we have fucking communism happening in this country.
00:51:19.940 That's a big fucking problem. I don't see no cancel culture there. That's what I'm saying,
00:51:23.080 bro. Well, that's because they're the motherfuckers that inserted the cancel culture. Well, and they 1.00
00:51:27.380 censored the ones that, yeah, that's another episode guys. Well, people need to know it.
00:51:32.480 Anyway, the point is, well, the point is just keep going, dude. And like, and you know, ask
00:51:40.040 yourself, what's my life really going to be like if I don't do this? Because here's the story I tell
00:51:45.180 myself what my life's going to be like. And at this point, it's no longer true because I have so many
00:51:49.680 skills. Like people pay me to fucking teach their skill sets. Right. So like I got job security for
00:51:55.160 fucking ever. All right. Uh, but what I tell myself is like when I was telling myself about getting out
00:52:01.380 of bed and coming up and, you know, facing my responsibilities is, um, bro, if you don't,
00:52:07.740 you're going to be digging ditches because when I started, when I started this company,
00:52:11.660 if it didn't work, that's what I would have been doing. And so I imagine myself having to get up
00:52:17.220 at fucking four o'clock in the morning, put on my work shit and go to fucking work. Like, 0.93
00:52:23.080 like real work, not fucking this bullshit work that we all know. 0.86
00:52:27.020 Yeah. You know what I'm saying? And even though it's not a true story anymore,
00:52:31.640 I still tell myself because that's what the fuck works for me. You know what I'm saying? So you
00:52:36.680 got to find something that is probably true. You know, like for you, it might be, you'd be working
00:52:42.720 at McDonald's, cooking French fries and shit. No disrespect to those people that work at 0.95
00:52:46.260 McDonald's, but McDonald's probably for most people, isn't a career job. You know what I'm saying?
00:52:51.560 Or a choice. Yeah. So like we got to, we got to tell ourselves the right story.
00:52:56.740 It gets fucking moving. And the story I told myself is if I don't keep going, bro,
00:53:00.080 I'm going to dig ditches. And what I'm describing now in terms of, uh, what we're talking about is
00:53:06.200 what I call zero options mentality, because it's easy to have zero options mentality when you actually
00:53:11.040 have zero options. Right. Like when you're in the beginning, you're where this person is
00:53:14.580 and shit, like you don't have an option. Like, fuck dude, it's easy to believe it. Right.
00:53:19.160 It's easy to believe. Like it was easy to believe in my first year of business that if I
00:53:23.060 fucking fail, I'd be digging ditches as easy to fucking believe. Guess what?
00:53:26.740 It was true. Yeah. Right. You really would have been. Yeah, that's right.
00:53:30.020 So today, you know, here I am 24 years later. Right. I've done pretty well in business by all
00:53:36.160 accords and all standards. Right. I got a long way to go. I got a lot to do, but I'm
00:53:39.940 been doing okay.
00:53:41.440 I have to kind of lie to myself. You know what I'm saying? I have to say, bro, if you
00:53:47.860 don't fucking get your fucking ass out of bed, bro, and now it's not just, you're going 0.99
00:53:51.400 to be digging ditches, but all the motherfuckers that depend on you, they're going to be digging 1.00
00:53:54.320 ditches too, which I think that's even scarier. Fuck. Yeah. It is. Yeah. That's what people
00:53:58.080 don't get, dude. That's a whole different type of pressure, bro. It is. And it never stops
00:54:01.900 and it's real. It's, if you're not a piece of shit, it's real. Right. Right. You know,
00:54:06.320 guys, the third and final question, Andy, uh, question number three, um, let's close
00:54:12.780 it out. Andy, in a recent CTI episode, you spoke about giving, especially when you don't
00:54:17.980 have much to give and the power that it creates in the universe. When you do it, I've also
00:54:22.660 heard you mentioned not helping people when they just ask for it because hard times is
00:54:27.260 what forges toughness and teaches lessons. Can you expand more on these views, um, on
00:54:34.200 when or what circumstances should align to truly give or help someone?
00:54:39.820 Man, that's such a good question. I don't even know how to answer that to be honest.
00:54:43.720 Uh, because it's, it's, it's, I think it's a nuanced question. I think there's a time and
00:54:48.660 place for both. I think that you have to learn to see the truth of the situation. Is this a
00:54:54.600 situation where this person genuinely needs help and are they someone who deserves help? Do they live
00:55:03.440 a good life? Are they a good person? Um, cause everybody needs a hand sometimes that's reality,
00:55:09.260 bro. I've, I've had a little help. Everybody's had a little help along the way. Okay. In different
00:55:13.840 ways. I'm not talking about money. I'm talking about in just different ways, all kinds of ways.
00:55:17.680 Um, sometimes it's important to be that helpful people. So I think it's important to evaluate each
00:55:24.220 situation on a case by case scenario. And, uh, when it's an honest thing, I think, I think,
00:55:31.340 you know, you should do the good thing. Um, I think there's other scenarios that where you may
00:55:39.580 have a, you know, and most of the time in these scenarios, I think it's, you know, you have a
00:55:44.880 somewhat of a relationship with someone, meaning, you know, them and you know a little bit about them
00:55:51.240 and they get themselves in a fucking pickle and you have to sort of look at the context of their
00:55:57.260 behavior over the course of time to understand, is this pickle there? Is this going to hurt them
00:56:07.000 or damage them? Or is this something that they need to be hurt and damaged by so that they don't
00:56:11.440 do a bigger mistake later? And so some thought needs to go into these things on an individual
00:56:15.800 basis. And I think it's, you know, it definitely is a conflicting viewpoint a little bit, but I think
00:56:21.360 it's because there's nuance and I think there's no blanket answer. There's not just a catch all.
00:56:26.320 No, I don't think so. I mean, I think. Well, that makes sense. Yeah. I can think of, I think,
00:56:30.560 I can think of scenarios many different ways where, um, bad advice would, would not be the truth.
00:56:37.420 Right. Um, I think that's a great fucking question. I wish you guys would ask more questions like
00:56:42.340 that. That's a good fucking question. It actually makes me fucking think.
00:56:45.800 You know what I'm saying? Yeah. Like I should really fucking think about that because
00:56:48.740 I think the way I do it is like, I'm describing, like, I'm just trying to reflect back in my head,
00:56:53.600 like how, how I do it. And I think it's, you know, the times I haven't helped people because I thought
00:56:59.780 they needed to learn the lesson that also came from a place of love. It didn't come from a place
00:57:06.500 of like, I'm going to teach you this. No, no. And that's it. Like I'm trying to operate with
00:57:11.820 the best intention for the scenario. And sometimes dude, and I've learned this, like I've, I've made
00:57:18.940 this mistake before where I've helped people and it kept them from learning a lesson that was
00:57:24.320 important for them to learn. And then they ended up making that same mistake only way bigger later
00:57:29.360 down the road. And like it fucking buried them. Or you got the end of the karmic stick. 0.56
00:57:33.500 Like, well, yeah, bro. Yeah. Right. And that's a whole nother thing. It's like, dude, you know,
00:57:37.400 like Malik fucking taught me. This is a powerful thing that Malik taught me was that sometimes you
00:57:45.060 can't step in front of karma because when you step in front of the karma, you're the one that gets
00:57:48.420 delivered the fucking blow. It's gotta go somewhere. Right. And so like, and I believe there's some to
00:57:52.540 that too, you know? And that's why I say you have to look at the context, right? Like dude, it's hard.
00:57:59.760 It's a hard, it's a hard, but dude, you know, doing the right thing isn't easy. You have to
00:58:04.480 put some fucking thought into it. For sure. For sure. You know, I think the intent matters a lot.
00:58:08.920 I think when you, when you can help someone and choose not to, um, you have to understand that
00:58:15.580 it's probably not going to seen as be seen from their point of view as loving, right? Like this part
00:58:20.440 of like probably a lot of parents relate to this shit. Right. Um, but down the road, you know,
00:58:27.040 hopefully they understand that sometimes, you know, they don't. And I think it's important that
00:58:31.580 you make the right decision so that you can live with a clear conscience about how you handle these
00:58:36.360 situations. Because even if you try like, bro, I try really fucking hard to do what's right. Um,
00:58:42.940 by every single person that comes across my face and even trying as hard as I can, there's still
00:58:49.620 going to be people that don't value that or don't see it that way. And we're appreciate it. Yeah. And
00:58:55.740 that's the reality of life. And so I think we all have to understand that not everybody's in the
00:59:00.800 same place or the same vibe or the same fucking plane that you're on at this time. And so that's 0.70
00:59:06.300 why I think it's important for you to do the thing that you're going to feel best about to
00:59:09.520 understand and do it. And not, not the weak thing either. Cause the weak thing is, is to never,
00:59:14.040 is to always help everybody. But what ends up happening is you end up handicapping a lot of
00:59:18.900 fucking people by being that way. Yeah. And that's a very, like, that's something that took me until
00:59:23.640 I was probably 38, 39, maybe 40 years old to truly understand because I didn't grow up like,
00:59:30.300 like in a situation where I help a lot of people. Right. But when I, when I started to do well in
00:59:34.940 business, that changed. And like, you start, you start doing so well that you can solve people's
00:59:41.280 problems and it's very little rub on your end. Like it doesn't, it doesn't hurt to, you're not
00:59:46.720 missing the fucking money. Yeah. This massive pain point over here can be fixed. But yes. So like,
00:59:51.500 it's like this very weird thing to like reconcile. It doesn't fucking hurt you. It's easy for you.
00:59:58.860 Right. And it solves this person's bad problem immediately. Yes. And so, but the problem is,
01:00:06.960 is like, dude, people will sniff that the fuck out and then they become the people who take 0.89
01:00:11.860 advantage of you very quickly. I'll try to get more of those situations. Yeah, bro. And so like,
01:00:16.240 dude, you gotta, you gotta know where those boundaries are. And it's a, it's a, it's a tough place.
01:00:20.740 And it's not, that's why most that's this real talk. This is why most wealthy, successful people
01:00:26.260 that you know, do not allow people access to them. This is why very well insulated. Yes. This is why
01:00:32.500 famous people act the way they act. This is why they're cold. It's not because they think less of
01:00:37.120 you. Well, some of them probably do because they're assholes, but you know, it's it, you know, a lot of
01:00:42.760 these people are just trying not to get fucking their heartstrings pulled and taken advantage of 0.98
01:00:46.920 because it happens so regularly. Right. And this is like, you know, what they try to tell these
01:00:52.540 dudes in the NFL, they try to tell them this shit, you know, to protect themselves, insulate
01:00:57.440 themselves and they don't fucking listen. And what ends up happening is they end up on a 30 for 30
01:01:01.700 episode because they gave all their money away to their homies because they were trying to help
01:01:05.880 them when their homies stopped giving a fuck. How much money can they took? Because dude, to those 0.71
01:01:10.180 dudes, you got a money tree in your backyard that you could just go in the back and pull shit off
01:01:14.200 of. Yep. And like, they don't, they don't think about all the time that this dude, you
01:01:18.240 know, whether it be business or athletics, you know, from the time they were young, putting
01:01:22.180 in all those hours, they didn't get paid for years and years and years, years of work, you
01:01:26.300 know, people just don't care and they stop caring real quick when you give money. More importantly,
01:01:32.140 stop caring when you stop. Oh, well, that's the other thing is like they, you, you, you know,
01:01:37.880 people will, you can't get out of that cycle once it starts, you know, and let, and
01:01:44.200 it's definitely, it's definitely a weird, weird thing. I had an uncle tell me, he was
01:01:49.180 like, well, if you could, if you could do it without me, then I'm not going to do it
01:01:53.720 for you. Like if I wasn't here and you could still solve that problem, you're going to
01:01:56.840 solve that problem. Well, I think that's a good, that's a good way to be. Like a nice
01:01:59.900 little rule of thumb, I guess. Yeah. I mean, that's definitely great. I think that's pretty
01:02:03.280 solid advice, bro. Yeah. Oh yeah. And that, that's probably the best advice that we gave
01:02:07.260 on the whole show right there. I'm just saying, you know, it's, that's just a tough
01:02:13.320 scenario and the more success you have and the more success people recognize that you
01:02:20.680 have, the harder that gets. Yeah. That's real, man. But as hard as it is, it's still better
01:02:27.140 than the problems that you have when you don't have shit. That's real, bro. That's real shit,
01:02:30.980 man. Well, guys, Andy, that was three. Yeah. Don't pay the fee. Yep. Don't be a hoe. Share the show. 1.00
01:02:36.720 Yeah. Went from sleeping on the floor. Now my jewelry box froze. Fuck a pole. Fuck a stole. 1.00
01:02:42.420 Counted millions in the code. Bad bitch. Booty swole. Got her on bankroll. Can't fold. 1.00
01:02:48.300 That's a no. Headshot. Case closed.