504. Q&AF： Leading By Example, Humility Vs. Confidence & The 24-Hour Rule Of Celebrating
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On this episode of Q&A, we have a special guest on the show who is actually a muslim. He converted to Islam in the early 90s and has been a Muslim for the past 15 years. In this episode, we talk about what it's like being a Muslim in the modern world and how it's been like growing up in a Muslim household.
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what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the real let's say goodbye to the lies
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the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we
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questions into ask andy at andy for seller.com and the second way is now i just did take a drink of my
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amazing first form protein shake this is not an ad by the way yeah no it's not because you can't
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even get those yeah it is huh you can't get them no you can't get them you only get them here it's not
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yeah so anyway uh where was i oh if this is your first time listening to the show we're not always
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q a type format we have multiple formats within the show okay we have q a which is what you're
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going to hear today uh and then you're going to have cti cti is cruise the internet that's where
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we throw up current event headlines on the screen we talk about them we talk about what may be true
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what may not be true we speculate on what is really going on uh and it's a shame that we have to do that
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in today's world but it is reality and uh and then we talk about how we can help solve these problems
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together uh as individuals to make the world a better place other times you'll have real talk
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real talk is just five to 20 minutes of me delivering some information that i think needs to be heard
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by you uh and then we have full length full length is what you see on most other podcasts just a group
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people having a conversation and uh that's what it's about most of our content here is about personal
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development winning kicking ass business in life um how to navigate the reality of the world that we
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live in but sometimes people have a hard time understanding why we have the cti the reason
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we have cti and the reason we talk about the social events and the reason that we bring this up is
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because without understanding the environment that's in the world we cannot have success in our
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own lives all right it's no different than a fish in an aquarium if the water is dirty if you don't
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take care of it if you don't keep an eye on it you don't keep it clean the fish die same thing with
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your business and your success if we don't keep an eye on freedom if we don't watch what's going on
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in the world if we don't take an interest in it and this goes for all you motherfuckers that say oh
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i'm not very political i'm talking to you okay the reason the world looks like shit is because
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you keep saying oh the world's not i'm not very political and you act like it's not happening
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that doesn't mean that it's not going to affect your business or your life okay so the reason
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that we mix all of this together on one show is because this show is about winning and to win we
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have to have fertile soil of freedom and that's what how that fits in so um for all of that we have
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what's called the fee the fee is very simple if we do a good job please share the show if we make
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um i think that's it right no yeah all right cool what's up no nothing much man what's going on
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what are you drinking over there this is the mfce yosha oh you're drinking yourself yeah i am
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drinking myself it's kind of gay how's it taste yeah no comment just like i thought chocolate and
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cherries ah i've been working on that one all night hey you know i bet you have it still wasn't very
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funny you got me though yeah but you know before the show we were talking about how you are a muslim
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oh man yeah and how you converted to muslim for a girl yeah well yeah so dj's in here telling us
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we're all sitting here and dj's telling us about he how it's the last day of ramadan today which is
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friday you'll hear this on monday yeah and um he's telling me how he's actually a muslim and i've been
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with you for three and a half years every single day fucking 15 hours a day and i never knew this
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yeah i've never seen you do any of the muslim stuff yeah right and so my natural reaction was
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when you told me that you converted well what was the girl's name because the only reason that people
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do weird ass shit yeah uh and totally change their whole perspective is for for women typically for
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pintang yeah no no real so real disclaimer i have not been a strict practicing muslim uh for a few
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years now um no but it is a real thing i did uh i converted back in 2013 uh technically i was i was in a
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weird spot in life you know a lot of shit going on um you know we don't talk about religion or
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spirituality much but there there was a conversion you know i spent the next three years
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practicing heavily praying five times a day doing all this i swear to god you did not swear to god
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dude and the crazy thing is it was actually one of the the like during those three years i probably
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would say i was at the most peaceful time in my life really really like because i mean dude there
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was a lot of a lot of stuff going on man uh my brother my older brother he had his first overdose
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at the time and like for me it was a shock like this is my brother right like he's eight years older
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than me we had the same birthday grew up together like that's my guy yeah and um you know nobody knew
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he was having any issues and then first overdose we find out about it i'm like shit you know so i was
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in a really weird spot mentally and uh yeah i was in college and woke up at like three in the morning i
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just started googling you know stuff i went to a catholic school right and so i was getting exposed
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to that side of it um and then started looking into islam i'm like man this shit's kind of interesting
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you know and then there was a small masjid down the street from my college 30 people quincey's a
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small town and um yeah i went man and and like dude a lot of the stuff just made sense to me and
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and from that time i think that was it was like february of 23rd uh or or no it would have been
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february of like 2014 um i convert no sorry when was it no it was like november of 2013 and um because
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i blew my first year of college my first semester of college dude i went in my gpa was like a 1.6
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my first semester of college like i was i was in a really crazy like partying and stuff yeah dude i
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was losing my fucking mind you know i'm saying i got cut loose you know i never really did any of
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the partying shit in high school so i got to college and lost my mind legitimately a lot of kids do and
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there was a girl involved in that part um yeah man and and so yeah but uh yeah that was that was uh
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that was definitely a chapter of the dj storybook i didn't even know that yeah yeah and i like dude
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i mean even to this day like i mean because alex and i we talk about it all the time like you know
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what's the religion of the household and it's like i mean i'm at a point now where it's just like
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i have a relationship with god i believe in a higher power um nothing's by fucking accident right
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um but then that's one of the things that the uh the imam the religious leader at the time he told
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me he's like listen you're gonna have a hard time like you know sticking with with with islam
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because you're westernized right where our society our our culture is indebted with alcohol
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and partying and things like that whereas you know people who are born into that religion
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that like that's all they know yeah you know i'm saying and so they're able to stay strict
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uh for the the overwhelming majority of them they stay strict all they've never been corrupted
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no you know and so for me coming out of that lifestyle and culture to try to convert to
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it's there you know like i mean praying five times a day no matter what or or the fasting
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during ramadan i mean it's a lot that goes into it but um i still kind of do that fasting
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dude surprisingly i actually didn't do too bad yeah i mean because it's dude it's like i mean it's
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like anything bro it's like what it's what you put into it yeah no that's what you put into it i mean
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it wasn't it was not fucking easy at all you know but um yeah fasting is the easiest way to
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create discipline yeah well i mean dude like i mean i think it's ramadan i mean you tap into a
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whole different level of like spirituality right and like there's things like and like that was one
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of the more beautiful things about the religion that i loved is because there's so many small
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lessons and things like one of the things you deal with in ramadan um is your breath your breath has a
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very weird smell to it when you're fasting and you know it's like like i would get self-conscious in
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the beginning i'm like fuck i don't even want to talk to nobody my fucking breath smells like shit
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right um but you learn that like that's actually one of the things that's like uh prized and uh
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honored is because it means you're doing it it means you're actually doing it right and so it's like
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other people who are you know participating in ramadan they can pick up on that right and god rewards
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your discipline and that's one of the signs that you're actually doing it right so i mean it's things
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like that i thought were beautiful about the religion you know what i think dude first of all i think
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that's a cool story and you know i'm just fucking with you of course so all of you guys are going
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to be like we're going to know dja's case that's all the fuck we do okay that's how we communicate
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um what's interesting is like you mentioned the peace thing and what what were you doing during that
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time do you think that made you the most peaceful about that what do you think it was
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i would say like following through and doing the things like no matter how crazy it was there
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were things that i had to do every single day and no matter what what's that sound like it sounds
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like what's that uh 75 soft yeah yeah yeah no shit no but i'm just saying dude like same concept yeah
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but it is it's the point i'm not trying to it's not about the program yeah it's about practicing
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discipline for sure like the reason that some of you guys feel so fucking lost and so anxious and so
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frustrated and so angry and bitter is because if you give yourself an honest assessment you're not
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practicing any discipline go look in the fucking mirror bro okay like be honest with yourself what
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are you practicing discipline it could be many different things but i mean what are you disciplined
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about and and what i've found is that if you combine the three that these i we have the whole episode i
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forgot what episode it is but where we talk about the happiness equation you know it's discipline
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um plus purpose knowing clearly what your purpose is what what is my mission right because it doesn't
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matter if you have a hundred billion dollars in the bank bro if you don't have a mission you're
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gonna be fucking miserable you have to have a purpose okay and then you you have to have gratitude
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for where you are and if you can combine those three things that discipline with the uh mixed in with
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the purpose mixed in with the gratitude and live that way now you're all you're gonna be fucking
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happy and you're gonna be at peace and you're not gonna be anxious you're gonna realize you're doing
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all the right things and and that like if you ask yourself like right now like if i ask you if you're
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happy and you say well not really i'm kind of miserable well one of those three things is out of
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whack or two or maybe all three but to get really happy what episode 78 on real af go listen to it
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this this equation is true and i feel like no matter who you talk to no matter what path of
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life they come from if you break down their life the times when they were the happiest is the times
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where they exercise these three things consistently and because people look at discipline in a negative
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light instead of a positive light like i look at discipline as a great thing i look at discipline
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as like fuck yeah dude i'm disciplined most people hear discipline and they hear it's hard it's gonna be
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hard right it's punishment and if you can flip your perspective around to see it as a good thing
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and then you can be grateful and you can have a clear purpose in your life bro being happy is really
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not that hard and even when everything else on the outside is hard you can be pretty happy if you have
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those three things i think i mean and would you would you agree i think most people actually are
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disciplined it's just they're disciplined in the wrong fucking shit like when i was in college
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party in the first semester that's not discipline though that's consistency they're most people are
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consistent yeah they're just consistent at the wrong things this is why when people say the number one
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quality that you have to have to be successful is consistency okay well i'm consistently shoving
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fucking 10 000 calorie meals in my face right i'm consistently fucking laying on the couch the whole day
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i'm consistently not moving my body i'm consistently not drinking water i'm consistently
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scrolling on my phone is that going to get you successful right right so like you guys who make
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these memes where you like do these half-ass memes off shit i say uh get it right okay because just
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saying consistency is the key is fucking pretty fucking stupid to someone who's actually successful
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because it's not that everybody's consistent most people are just consistent in the wrong things
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totally get what you're saying like it's it's 100 true consistency is not the problem it's it's the
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discipline it's making the choice to do the thing that is going to serve you in the long term rather
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than what's going to serve you right now delay gratification discipline these things matter man
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doing what you say you're going to do these things matter so much that they completely make your life
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they make your life what it is if you're if you're not happy right now and you're frustrated dude
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legitimately audit yourself are you disciplined are you grateful for where you are regardless of where you are
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okay are you grateful and do you have a purpose and those three things together will change your
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fucking life and and we're getting ready to go through some i believe what would be probably the
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most chaotic times in the history of this country if you get those three three things in line you're
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going to come out the other side real good uh you're you're not going to be as affected as some of
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these other people but bro remember we're we're dealing with we're dealing with forces who are
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intentionally trying to make you feel like shit constantly constantly you know social media if you've read the
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a lot of you guys have read the book by now but if you read the book chaos machine it talks in there
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about how the it's designed to be addictive it's designed to make you feel a certain way and there
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should be no surprises that we have you know this system that makes people feel a certain way and then
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the other companies that are partnered with this with these big tech companies who happen to be pharma
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companies are selling you a pill to make you feel better for the shit they're actually creating
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i mean this would be like if i owned a mcdonald's and then and then owned a nutrition store and i kept
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sending people back and forth like that's what the fuck we're talking about i'm gonna show you show
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you shit to make you hungry yeah right right dude it's it's just uh we have to take control of it for
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ourselves and and those three components are extremely important but it's interesting that you
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brought that up in the uh in regards to you know islam and the in the discipline of practicing islam
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dude is there i'm telling i was in the most chaotic shit i mean you talk about finals well i know some
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of the other stuff too yeah you know i'm like there's a lot of stuff in there and uh and like but
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like knowing that i accomplished and i knocked out my prayers right yeah knowing that i read my book
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it gives you a semblance of control i had some time for your life and win yeah you know i'm like okay
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well at least i did that like okay that might be fucked up but i did these things yeah you know it's a very
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it's the exact same concept yeah it's beautiful it's fucking cool to hear that yeah i mean hey
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there's some different chapters in dj for sure for sure dude yeah uh and if you're interested in
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fixing your discipline uh go to episode 208 go do the fucking live hard program okay that's the point
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of it all right so we got a show yeah we do i got some good ones oh do you got some good ones
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uh let's knock these out man any question number one andy i have a well-running business and a good
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hard-working crew but most of them live on fast food and canned soft drinks how can i mediate a
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change in their eating habits and making them better especially when this topic doesn't necessarily
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fall in the work category and more of on their personal side uh what will you do if you were in
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my situation okay this is no different than you leading a group of anything all right
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i'm going to assume that you are not exactly living to that standard yourself okay and the
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reason i'm going to assume that is because if you were and you were doing it to an undeniable level
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you would have people joining in wanting to join in one by one okay when i first started to go from
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fat fuck andy to jack tan rich as fuck andy okay in 2000 fucking 15 16 all right i started walking
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i started training hard all right my our culture and our company was total fucking difference than
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it is now we got fucking wasted we partied we fucking our meetings on sundays lasted till four
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in the morning we got up went to work on mondays like it was very much so a party atmosphere guess
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who led that guess who started that that was me okay so i made i made the party atmosphere through
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my actions so when i started to change and i started a diet and i've talked about this on the show
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i started this is before 75 hard this is just when i was fat as fuck and i lost 100 pounds in 2015
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or 2016 17 i lost 100 pounds 110 actually and um as i started going through that journey
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other people in the company started doing it with me okay and if you look at pictures of the guys in
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this company who are still here who are my executives the will the fucking aaron the fucking teach
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the sal cody's my dad my mom everybody around me was fucking fat or much fatter than they are now
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my dad lost 40 pounds my mom lost nearly 100 pounds sal lost 40 pounds fucking teach lost 40
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pounds okay that's my leadership and my commitment to being who i wanted to be rubbing off on them and
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then by the way those guys a lot of those guys have taken that to a whole different level like will now
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maybe one of the best hybrid athletes in the fucking world bro you know what i'm saying like
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he ran he ran a hundred fucking miles we're in a sub just on a whim he runs a sub three hour marathon
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at fucking 215 pounds you see what i'm saying like so these guys have all taken that further in their
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own way and they're in their own you know sal rocked a marathon that's a huge fucking deal right
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so like it but it started with just me deciding i was no longer doing it i stopped drinking i started
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working out i started taking my shit serious everybody started to observe it and one by one they joined
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in and improved their lives and this actually goes into the concept of how i talk about personal
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excellence is ultimate rebellion because when you are personally excellent guess what happens one by
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one by one by one people start to join in on that and so like you can literally see it if you go back
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and look at pictures of these guys in our company from that time everybody was joe how much heavier were
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you 80 pounds you know what i'm saying like 40 by you yeah 80 fucking pounds you see what i'm saying
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everywhere i look motherfuckers are getting in shape and making big progresses and doing all these
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things i wonder where that came from well fuck dude it comes from you so you're the leader and and it's
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not hey i'm the leader do this it's hey i'm the leader i'll do it first and you guys fucking come
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whenever you're ready and you go out and live that life and you make it undeniable and eventually one of
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those people in your company is going to say you know what bro how'd you do that how'd you do that
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you know how do you make your food how do you and they'll start asking you questions like that
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and one by one they'll start joining in so remember the first thing is you have to be about it for
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people to follow you like that's it there's no way around it you can't fake it you can't not be around
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it and then want these people to do that and expect them to listen to what you say it's too hard
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it's too hard it's hard as fuck to hold a high standard in all areas of your life people aren't
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going to do it unless they feel like it's possible and the only way for them to feel like it's possible
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is for them to observe it and the only way for them to observe it is for you to become it okay and
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this is what the whole concept of personal excellence is ultimate rebellion revolves around
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all right it's the ripple effect that's created in society now if all of us held if all of us
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listening to this show which is millions of people by the way if all of us listen to this show
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um and we all fucking raise our standards and we all did what i just said how different would the
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world look in a fucking year how different would it look in two years okay and this is the actual key
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to fixing what's going on in in our society in our culture here in america and wherever you live
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so that's the first step you have to live it okay are you going to be perfect absolutely not
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am i perfect absolutely fucking not okay i fuck up a lot of shit i fucked up a lot of shit in my past
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i made mistakes that i fucking regret but guess what that's life in the big city we fucking do shit
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we fuck up we make mistakes we keep moving we hold ourselves back to that standard and we we try to live
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it as much as possible and i think that's something that's misunderstood by people too they believe that
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living a high standard life means that you never ever come off that standard that's not true
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your your job is to identify when you have come off the standard and get back to it as me as quickly
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as possible so that's the first thing if you're not living it it's impossible so you but you have
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to be living it and the reason i assume that you're not living it is because you wouldn't be asking the
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question if you were all right now what can you do on top of that okay if you own a company and you
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want your people to be in shape a lot of companies we do corporate health and wellness a lot of companies
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will work with our brand for their employees a lot of companies do this um you could you can
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start a health and wellness club you could do a contest in your office guess who else does contests
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in their office me and you know what i do i bet everybody in the office you can't fucking beat me
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and everybody wants to beat me because i don't fucking lose all right so you know that gets people
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inspired and it gives people a little extra boost and they talk shit to me and they get to like
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you know they get to say shit that they probably want to say every day right you know what i'm saying
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i'm gonna beat your ass yeah but i like it i like it because it's it's in good fun because we're all
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getting better you know what i'm saying yeah it's not disrespectful and um and dude i'll tell you
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another thing too this is a really good initiative for any of you to have companies because if you think
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about how how people bond and you want to bond a team that works together people do not bond in easy
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times people bond in times of discomfort you know the greatest teams um they didn't they don't bond
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because they have tom brady and fucking gronk and like all these great at that's not what bonds them
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bro you know what bonds them being out in the fucking two days at the end of july in the beginning of
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august sweating their fucking asses off wishing that they were fucking dead other than having to be a
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football practice working their ass off and earning each other's respect through the process
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okay that's what bonds people so like health and wellness is a great area to bond your team around
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because it allows you an opportunity to get out and do the work with these people you know i mean
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dude you see it here all the time right we have group workouts here every single day of our different
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departments work out together sometimes sal gets in there i don't get in there very much i do my own
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thing but like there's a you know for years i got in there and did the shit with these guys
00:23:26.760
um honestly the reason i don't get in it now is because it's just not what i'm i'm dedicated to
00:23:31.520
other things plus we're doing it like four o'clock in the fucking not only that bro like like real
00:23:36.140
talk like those guys are tough and i'm pussy okay like i'm not i'm just being real like i ain't some
00:23:42.220
of the shit like i got real athletes here bro like i'm not a real athlete like i'm a washed up old
00:23:46.320
man who tries to stay jacked and tan so i fucking look good these motherfuckers are real athletes like i got
00:23:50.820
i got fucking what do we got four dudes here qualified for boston marathon we got fucking
00:23:55.760
uh mason just ran one yeah we got a guy just we got fucking hybrid athletes and doing all this crazy
00:24:01.060
shit running hunt how many we had nine people run 50 fucking mile or 30 miles the other night in the
00:24:06.120
middle of the night like these people are real athletes bro i'm i'm okay let's self-assess all right
00:24:13.580
uh but the point is you know that's where the culture's escalated to yeah because dudes 10 six years
00:24:19.800
ago seven years ago eight years ago it was party hardy fucking get fucked up and you know what we'll
00:24:25.340
wear a bigger shirt to hide that we're fat now it's like holy fuck like these people are like
00:24:30.180
crushing it you know what i mean and and that's where the culture grew to but you know people walk
00:24:35.140
in the building and they say what's what's the secret here well honestly if i'm being real it's i
00:24:40.160
think a lot of it comes from that it comes from doing the uncomfortable things together working
00:24:44.580
together respecting each other pushing through the hard times and learning to bond so if you
00:24:49.740
can help make your company healthier by you being healthy and living a high standard
00:24:54.840
your business is going to grow and so like a lot of you guys who ask these business questions you're
00:25:00.480
like what's the best thing i could do well you could get your fat fucking ass in shape and you could show
00:25:04.740
them that you're fucking working hard and you could show because that says i care right yeah and they take
00:25:09.920
you seriously and so like dude if you want to help your company you should be helping yourself
00:25:14.020
with that part of it so you're going to have a health and wellness program competitions uh all
00:25:20.720
kinds of little incentive things and you know you don't want to push it on them that's fine you don't
00:25:25.360
have to it's optional to get in but you're going to get one or two people that are going to do it or
00:25:29.380
three people that are going to do it and the truth of the matter is is like dude you should be leading
00:25:33.260
that charge so it's it comes down listen man um vince lombardi said it perfectly you can't say it
00:25:40.700
any better than he said it he said uh leading by example isn't isn't the best way to win it's the
00:25:46.060
only way to win it's the only fucking way can't fucking do it without it so take it seriously and
00:25:52.420
people will join you i really think it's that simple i love it i love it guys andy question number
00:25:57.120
two andy you've talked about being confident and having confidence in what you're doing you also
00:26:02.540
talk about being humble and the importance of that one thing i don't know don't want to do is
00:26:08.360
to be so confident that i'm not being humble but also not being so humble that i don't have the
00:26:13.980
confidence in what i'm doing how do you balance being humble and confident at the same exact time
00:26:19.540
it's a fine line to walk you know first of all let's address humility because most people see
00:26:25.160
humility completely fucking wrong all right you guys as in general the general public see humility
00:26:32.400
humility as living a very small life you see it as uh not having material possessions you see it as
00:26:41.140
not being very successful you see it as i don't need that you know that first of all that's meek
00:26:47.900
that's not humble all right that's a different thing they're not the fucking same thing you can
00:26:53.400
have all the money in the world still be humble and in fact most of the people that have most of the
00:26:57.260
money in the world we're pretty fucking humble because the reason that humble is valuable to
00:27:01.800
anybody is because it keeps you in a position where you continue to learn and get better and
00:27:05.760
better and better and the minute that you can't learn the minute that you can't get better the
00:27:10.460
minute that things you know you know everything you can no longer progress so by nature to even get
00:27:16.600
the fucking all the money in the world you have to be humble in the process because there's always
00:27:21.180
new shit to learn all right so most of you guys completely fucking lose the ball when it comes to
00:27:27.460
what you think humble means all right so humble how it serves us is basically this you understand
00:27:34.420
that your actions produce a result and that if anybody else were to do the exact same actions that
00:27:41.640
you do they could also produce that result that's a humble way of thinking all right what that says is
00:27:47.500
i know it's not me it's actually the actions i'm taking and if i could get steve over here to do
00:27:53.980
the same actions he would also be successful and by the way this is why i do the show because i
00:27:59.340
understand this very clearly i am fucking no there's nothing special about me at all i'm just a person
00:28:06.280
who is analytic enough and resilient and gritty enough to learn from my mistakes and not quit and that
00:28:13.040
is it and so understand that when you say you see someone driving a fucking lambo and you say oh
00:28:19.400
that's not humble you sound like a fucking idiot you sound like a bitter little hater bitch okay
00:28:24.300
because it has nothing to do with it all right humble is how you think of yourself versus how you
00:28:29.760
think of other people and if you think that other people could do the same thing that you do and
00:28:33.340
actually succeed at it knowing that if they follow the same game plan that's a humble way of thinking
00:28:38.100
that's how i think and i think my body of work over the last decade shows that but i still get
00:28:43.520
called consistently arrogant or cocky or this or that and it's always by dumb fucks who don't
00:28:48.620
understand what humble really means meek meek means i don't have shit i'm gonna live like mother
00:28:55.420
theresa blah blah blah and by the way you can have that shit i don't want it just don't call me
00:28:59.580
yeah well sometimes i am arrogant sometimes i am cocky sometimes i am confident sometimes i'm all
00:29:05.380
those things sometimes i'm not humble sometimes you're not humble but like we've throw people in
00:29:10.020
these labels and try to keep them there like bro we fucking do different things say different things
00:29:15.280
act a different way every single day so like we have to be able to be human beings and our culture
00:29:21.280
doesn't allow for that right so understanding the nature of humility is a very important to understanding
00:29:28.260
how to walk the line between confidence and humility all right how i look at humility is
00:29:35.420
it allows me to get better i understand that if i were to plug someone else in my position and they
00:29:42.840
follow the same exact actions they would have the same results and i believe that i think that's true
00:29:46.880
um and so my version of humble is not i am i am less than everybody i'm less like i make myself less
00:29:56.120
to be like everybody else my version of humble is i know that you motherfuckers could do it too if
00:30:01.260
you just got off your fucking lazy asses which is the problem most people won't do that that is
00:30:05.120
the problem but that's still a humble way of thinking yeah you understand what i'm saying
00:30:08.720
you're you're sitting on the flip side of the concept and that's the way i think when i look at
00:30:13.940
everybody else i say what the fuck is wrong with y'all like get off your fucking ass and do this shit
00:30:17.300
that's actually me being humble understanding that if you did the same things that i could do you
00:30:20.980
could also find success okay so how do you walk the line
00:30:25.400
in what way you know what i'm saying like what what way are we talking about because once you have
00:30:32.600
the the full understanding of what humility really is humility and confidence actually coexist
00:30:39.320
right because to be confident you have to be humble because if you're not humble you can't learn
00:30:44.700
the skills that you need to be confident so they actually go together that's not either or
00:30:48.960
they're the same thing well they're essential cons they're essential parts of the same puzzle
00:30:53.480
right a complete confident human being so so understanding that humility is required for
00:31:01.100
confidence now makes it no longer a line to walk now it makes it just part of the play
00:31:06.500
right so to be confident you have to be humble has nothing to do how much money you have has nothing
00:31:12.760
to do how many curse words you say has nothing to do with how many fucks you say or how many this
00:31:17.740
or that or whatever you know it has to do with fucking how you think of yourself how you think of
00:31:22.000
other people and how you think the game is played and humility allows you to acquire the skills that
00:31:28.080
give you the confidence to execute now cocky which is past confidence is basically you
00:31:35.040
thinking that you are better and can do more than you're actually capable of and so people have
00:31:41.740
a heart and this is also again this isn't like how someone sounds like there's very there's a lot
00:31:47.960
of cocky people that don't sound cocky like just because andrew tate sounds cocky does not make
00:31:53.320
andrew tate cocky right just because like some of the shit i say sounds cocky that doesn't make me
00:31:59.340
cocky in fact i couldn't resist i couldn't produce the result over and over and over and over and over
00:32:04.240
again in my life which i have it's very clear if i was cocky because cocky means i'm operating
00:32:10.540
outside of my skill set and i think i'm better than i am well if i'm continuing to produce the
00:32:13.760
result how can that be true right right right right so we need to really think about what labels and
00:32:20.440
what things we throw on ourselves and other people that's really the bottom line so understand humility
00:32:25.600
is a part of confidence it is not something that you have either or and without humility you cannot
00:32:31.860
be confident and then cockiness and arrogance are things that's and social media creates a lot of that
00:32:38.120
right you have a lot of people with a lot of fucking followers who think because they have
00:32:41.600
followers they have skills and they don't have fucking skills that's arrogance and cockiness
00:32:45.560
right and if they have the skills they produce the result which they can't produce you see what i'm
00:32:50.980
saying so like dude we just have to like adjust how we see these things to get them to work in our
00:32:58.160
favor and stop thinking like fuck you know what i bought my dream car i'm not humble anymore man fuck that
00:33:04.140
enjoy that dream car drive that motherfucker right down to your ex-girlfriend's house and be like
00:33:07.720
hey bitch i told you so that's still fucking that's still fine yeah you see what i'm saying
00:33:12.600
like these things like the way people understand them is not the way they are and do you think how
00:33:19.220
much how much how much do you think society has played into that into uh the misinformation of
00:33:26.500
these definitions man like i feel like you need a lot you need your own dictionary you know i'm saying
00:33:31.040
like like bro that actually that actually not a bad idea well i'm just you know it would be a
00:33:35.220
conceptual dictionary yeah like because people understand the words and they're very quick to
00:33:39.640
label people with them but they don't understand what they actually mean what they actually mean
00:33:44.880
right reality yeah so we have to put these pieces of the puzzle together to make to make sure we
00:33:49.840
comprehend them before we fucking here's the danger of it dude how many people how many people out
00:33:56.920
there because they value the label of being humble all right choose to live a life that is far less
00:34:06.040
than their dreams or their capabilities potentially and they decide instead of going after what it is
00:34:12.160
that they have the potential to be they decide to sit on the sidelines of life and say well i don't
00:34:17.680
need any of that i'm humble do you really think you're doing anybody a service by acting that way
00:34:22.640
because dude your kids see that your neighbors see that your fucking significant others see that
00:34:26.940
you are not humble bro you're a coward you're afraid to be in the fucking game that's what the
00:34:32.340
fucking problem is it's not oh i'm humble i don't want to play oh i'm humble because i don't need that
00:34:37.560
shit no you're using humble as a fucking mask for your your fucking terror of actually having to play
00:34:46.880
on the field and bro that's what most people do right like you like i post a picture of my car
00:34:51.880
oh you know what getting big for your britches bro if you knew how big my britches were you
00:34:56.160
wouldn't say that you know i'm saying they're fucking pretty big all right like i'm being real
00:35:00.860
and that's not fucking cocky because it's true okay so like dude we have to like there's nuance to
00:35:07.900
all this shit but like the basic understanding of humility and confidence being somehow opposed is
00:35:13.620
not accurate they are complimentary because without humility you can't gain skills without skills you
00:35:19.260
can't be confident fuck man well i love i love it i love it i love it it's just man it's such a deep
00:35:29.280
thing and it's like you know a lot of those same people who oh i'm humble like you know how many
00:35:33.720
fucking lives you could change if you just got rid of that fucking dude and and so like dude that's
00:35:39.260
what they're not seeing like when we talk about on the show all the time personal excellence is
00:35:42.640
ultimate rebellion it's an obligation personal excellence is a fucking obligation it's an obligation to
00:35:47.320
yourself it's an obligation to your kids it's an obligation to your significant other it's an
00:35:51.140
obligation to your community it's your obligation the fucking strangers don't even know you so that
00:35:54.860
they when they see your bad motherfucking ass walk by who's accomplished all this shit they think fuck
00:35:59.980
maybe i can accomplish some shit that's the that's the game and and so like you sitting on the sidelines
00:36:06.580
saying oh i'm the humble i don't need any of that shit bro you're just being a bitch let's be real
00:36:10.620
that's real shit that's bitch shit you're scared to get in the game get in the fucking game we all
00:36:16.060
had to get in the game and fucking it's hard but that's why people like us do what the fuck we do
00:36:20.780
this is why i do the show this is why i spend millions of dollars a year to put the show on
00:36:24.800
for fucking free because the guy that you think is cocky and fucking all this shit actually just
00:36:30.700
wants to help you get in the fucking game and win i fucking love it man did that make sense in
00:36:35.800
terms of like it like the one part i want to fucking pick up there is like people don't know
00:36:42.040
what people that are cocky and arrogant don't you don't always hear it in the way they talk and
00:36:45.480
this could be just something that use it for an internal thing hold on these people who are arrogant
00:36:52.500
like okay for example when you think about arrogance you what do you think of like as a character
00:37:00.200
like who who's arrogant allowed obnoxious trump yeah right okay fine right fine we think of the
00:37:07.880
same kind of qualities right because that's what's been labeled in society but
00:37:12.400
when we really dissect what arrogance really means and what cockiness really means it means that they
00:37:22.040
think they're better than certain things they think they're too good for then than they actually are
00:37:27.880
and if you're thinking you're humble and you don't want to get in the game and you're seeing that as
00:37:32.920
a virtuous thing doesn't that automatically make you arrogant and cocky because you believe that
00:37:36.360
you could succeed without even getting in the fucking game oh man oh man hold on now that's some 3d
00:37:42.480
shit right there you see what i'm saying so like dude you may you may have cocky people like most of
00:37:48.380
the people who say oh fuck that guy he's not humble most of those people are arrogant they think
00:37:52.940
they're doing way more than what they're actually doing in life and they're actually failing their entire
00:37:57.120
purpose of life because they want to be seen as humble as opposed to seeing as a bad motherfucker
00:38:02.440
because they're too afraid if they get in the game they can't accomplish that which what they're
00:38:06.100
missing is is by just being in the game you're a bad motherfucker because most people won't do it
00:38:10.420
fuck man yeah that's some real shit man tell us what you think in the comments does that definition
00:38:18.120
align with you were you thinking of that definition wrong and did that just change your your mindset on
00:38:23.000
should i mean i i fucking hope so yeah you don't gain anything in life by sitting on the sidelines
00:38:28.240
man you label and everybody else is doing it as something that that you know you you think you're
00:38:33.080
virtuous bro you're not doing shit you're not fucking accomplishing shit you're not creating
00:38:36.660
shit you're not contributing to shit you're sitting there being a fucking troll and then
00:38:40.520
pretending to be virtuous oh i'm so humble like dude humble is a fucking overrated concept
00:38:46.120
yeah it's overrated overused over talked about most of motherfuckers your problem ain't humble
00:38:51.140
your problem is you're a coward and you need to get in the game that's a fucking fact man
00:38:55.260
guys andy question number three andy what does fun and celebration look like for you now
00:39:05.220
versus what it looked like 20 years ago oh man i am starting to have the ability to have fun and
00:39:11.300
celebrate my wins but refuse to do so because i'm afraid i'll fuck it up
00:39:16.120
i can relate to that what we got here and i can relate to that you know i have a 24 hour rule
00:39:20.420
for celebration um i i feel good about the win for 24 hours then i stopped thinking about it and i
00:39:27.280
continued on the path and it's that simple most people spend their whole lives celebrating things
00:39:32.600
they did in the past which which forces them to live in the past their entire lives right like if the
00:39:37.640
if the thing that you're most proud of has already happened what do you have to look forward to
00:39:41.640
okay so the reason this serves us the 24 hour rule and i did an episode on this i don't know what
00:39:47.660
number it is but you can go dig through i think it was on the ms ceo project but um the 24 hour rule
00:39:54.820
allows us to feel good enjoy the win you know celebrate a little bit and then keep moving and
00:40:01.120
living in the future living where i'm going when you when you celebrate too long you get caught up in
00:40:06.460
the story and you start telling the story over and over and over and we see this all the time right
00:40:09.940
we see this like you ask people you know what are you most proud of oh man back in 19 fucking 97
00:40:15.860
i scored a fucking touchdown on the mvp game bro it was fucking awesome like bro and that's their life
00:40:21.880
your life is just one fucking thing that you did 30 fucking years ago whatever it is and and then you
00:40:28.520
can't figure out why you're not happy well you're not happy because you're not living your life you're
00:40:32.200
going back and looking at something that's already happened that is never going to happen again
00:40:36.760
maybe you should shift your perspective to the things that are happening now and enjoy that
00:40:41.640
so it's a perspective change you know when i used to celebrate when i was younger i the reason i know
00:40:48.540
this is because i used to do this so i'm not like trying to call names or call people out
00:40:54.000
but it's incredibly uh hindering of your progress because when you keep living in the past it's hard
00:41:01.660
to see what's coming down the road and then you can't see the opportunities and when you can't
00:41:05.260
see the opportunities you can't win the opportunities you can't win and then you ended up in a real bad
00:41:10.180
position this is why when you go in any fucking random bar on tuesday afternoon at fucking 2 30
00:41:15.400
there's a bunch of dudes sitting at the bar talking about shit that happened fucking 10 years ago 20
00:41:20.580
years ago your goal as a human being should be never be one of those motherfuckers it should be dude i did
00:41:25.780
this it was cool i did this it was cool i did this it was cool keep moving nick saban wins national
00:41:30.640
titles bro he goes up bill belichick too wins fucking all these super bowls goes up they say
00:41:35.860
hey what do you think hey we played a great game we had a great season it was awesome what do you
00:41:40.560
think what do you think about this i'm not worried about that man i'm gonna get up tomorrow start
00:41:43.400
working on next year that's exactly what they say yeah and people think that's like psychotic but it's
00:41:48.500
not dude it's actually the way you have to be to hold the edge of excellence at a high standard so
00:41:54.460
and for a long time so that's the that's the main difference i used to hang on to wins now i don't
00:42:01.660
i don't really at all like you there's been some pretty big wins i've had in the last fucking three
00:42:06.740
or four years i don't even fucking talk about like you know what i mean um like dude if i let me ask you
00:42:13.380
what's the dangers of that though well the dangers of that is that you can you cannot acknowledge your
00:42:18.480
wins and then you end up bitter about that right you don't recognize the good things that are
00:42:22.500
happening so there's definitely a balance there yeah you should recognize your wins and when i was
00:42:26.740
younger also like when i did the msco project i said you know you should never celebrate your wins
00:42:31.620
well i was wrong about that because when i was never celebrating my wins ever or acknowledging them
00:42:36.360
i actually never felt like i was doing any better and it made me feel less of myself
00:42:40.200
so it's important to celebrate but keep it at a short amount of time continue to move forward
00:42:45.040
now how did i celebrate um well when i was younger i would fucking use alcohol and food and that's what
00:42:51.720
always my reward was alcohol and food and as i've gotten older i don't necessarily
00:42:57.760
do any substances or use any chemicals or anything to celebrate what i like to do for me
00:43:04.080
this is just how i like it i like to sit with the people who actually created the win and like break
00:43:10.200
it down and talk about it what got us here what got and that's kind of how i celebrate but it's also
00:43:14.860
productive to the future right because we're trying to replicate that but like i like that i like sit
00:43:19.520
like there'll be like times where you know we'll have a big win in business i'll sit with the guys
00:43:24.020
who who were responsible for the win and we'll talk about it we'll say okay that was cool how we did
00:43:28.780
this we did that we did this you know that was good you know fuck man we did a good job and that's
00:43:33.780
kind of it's just more of a conversation now and spending quality time with people that actually
00:43:37.320
built the win i think that's and i think it's way cooler too that way um you know and that's just me
00:43:44.480
there's there's no wrong way to do this like some people take a trip some people do this but
00:43:48.180
like dude when that trip is over fucking back to work you know what i mean immediately yeah yeah
00:43:52.300
i mean actually this because you know a lot of very successful high level achieving people
00:43:56.760
do they all operate that way or do i mean are there anybody that that well you also have to
00:44:01.320
remember bro like these people that are high achieving they expect to win like i fucking expect
00:44:06.820
to win yeah like anything less than a win i'm pissed like so like when the result comes of the win
00:44:13.420
it's like yeah okay that's what i thought would happen i want to would you say that most people
00:44:18.340
celebrate too long is because they were not expecting the win to begin with well i think
00:44:23.140
the reason most people don't win is because they don't expect to win i think that's i think you have
00:44:27.420
to expect to win that has to be the result that you're expecting yeah and you know in the beginning
00:44:32.000
it's hard because you don't have any wins right but as you become more successful like like real talk
00:44:36.880
do you like you guys do you think that i don't expect to win no like fucking i don't just expect to
00:44:41.880
win i expect to be the fucking best like the best ever yeah no doubt so like and and you know and
00:44:47.840
i know i'm not okay but that's the humility part right like i that's how it works guys yeah
00:44:52.620
i expect to win i know i'm pretty good but i also know i'm not that good there's a lot of
00:44:57.740
motherfuckers out there who've done a lot more than me and i'm friends with a lot of those guys
00:45:01.420
you know what i mean well not a lot of them but there's a few yeah and those are the people i try
00:45:05.800
to be around i try to be friends with people who are further down than me and uh that know more than me
00:45:10.280
and and you know i i think everything's a uh it's like a dance bro there's no like solid way
00:45:17.680
to celebrate or navigate this or even go back to the second question with humility like this is like
00:45:23.440
a dance like nobody's a hundred percent humble nobody's a hundred percent cocky we have moments
00:45:29.740
and then those moments we get judged on by the entire internet and they try to label you these
00:45:34.900
things and it's fucking garbage and then you have these these influencers who try to like tell
00:45:40.260
everybody how humble they are and in reality if you look at them they're not very humble because
00:45:44.940
every single fucking thing that they do they're either copying from someone else or they're in
00:45:51.000
they're incapable of learning and the reason they're incapable of learning and the reason they
00:45:54.280
have to copy from someone else is because they think they're the shit already and they're not able
00:45:58.880
to fucking come up with their own shit so like dude like you ain't fooling anybody stop stop like
00:46:05.280
stop using humble as an attack on people it makes you look weak as fuck you know but you know that's
00:46:12.460
kind of my take on it yeah i love it man i love it it's a 24 hour celebration i think that's a good
00:46:18.480
rule man and i think that's that's a rule that i picked up from those guys i mentioned you know
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nick saban arguably the best coach ever in college football or one of them same with belichick
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one of the best coaches ever in pro football hard to deny those things those men celebrate that's
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how i like to look at things bro like you know when i when i try to learn i try to say okay those
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guys know a little bit more about winning than i fucking know and you know what i do i say i don't
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when i when i would talk to those guys i'm like hey i don't know shit bro you tell me you know i'm
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saying i fucking put my humble hat on real fucking quick and that's that's the dance it's a dance it's
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not a it's not a i'm a this i'm it's not a character trait it's not a thing you are it's not an
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attribute it's a it's a fucking dance you're you're humble when appropriate you're confident
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when appropriate but you need humility to actually be truly confident sometimes you have to be cocky
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and you have to believe that you can do things that you can't actually do or haven't done before
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that's necessary like these are things that you have to have so like fucking think about it dude
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and stop labeling people this bullshit and then when people start to label themselves as
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oh i'm humble blah blah blah look at them for what they are they're weak they're scared and
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they're afraid to get in the game fucking love that man guys andy that was three you better go pay the
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fee on that one yeah went from sleeping on the floor now my jury box froze fuck a pole fuck a stole
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counted millions in the code bad bitch booted slow got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know