REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 508. Q&AF： Coasting Owner, Effective Team Meetings & Navigating 'Noise' In Life

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy frisella and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies

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00:03:41.380 oh yeah fucking race shirt race outfit out i'm ready for the fucking race bro we're gonna win

00:03:46.340 this race this weekend racing spa won at barcelona last week yeah it's a big deal fucking we won

00:03:53.000 daytona we won sebring how do you not fuck up momentum it's like that's a lot of momentum building

00:04:00.480 up right now right like so like give me three simple like what are three ways i can like three

00:04:06.100 things i can do not to fuck up momentum once i have it there's only one way not to fuck up momentum

00:04:10.480 once you have it and how's that keep going it's very simple yeah look dude here's the reality

00:04:16.240 um very successful people value momentum so much that they will literally sacrifice everything else

00:04:23.740 in their life in order to maintain it okay right now for example i'm just going to give you an

00:04:29.940 example of me and this is all high level high level performers this is how they think first of all

00:04:35.040 they understand one that they are in charge of creating the momentum in their life they understand

00:04:40.500 that if they got through the first week or the first two weeks when it really fucking sucks and

00:04:47.220 then they got through that first phase where like they caught some momentum but it got hard again and

00:04:52.040 then got through those first two uh test phases that they're going to create massive momentum moving

00:04:57.280 forward and once that momentum kicks in people who understand how powerful momentum is will sacrifice

00:05:03.860 fucking everything to maintain it so for example like for me i'm on day i don't know 40 high 40s of 75

00:05:14.600 hard i think 48 today um i have rucked for nearly seven i think 70 days in a row today yeah and then uh

00:05:23.860 i'm also cold plunge for um 28 days in a row during and then during the week i do during the weekend i do

00:05:34.020 two a day um i have massive momentum it's i feel great uh you know you guys are all familiar with the

00:05:41.640 struggles i've had to go through for the last year and a half you know i had my shoulder reconstructed

00:05:45.860 i got off lexapro after 11 years i went through this incredibly incredibly difficult journey of

00:05:52.980 you know being at the best physical and mental shape of my life to watching it disappear to then

00:05:58.620 having to rebuild it and then having it almost rebuilt and then getting a blood infection which

00:06:02.720 fucking buried me for six weeks then starting over again and now here i am i've got all the momentum

00:06:09.120 in the world i'm probably i don't know 10 off my best physical uh conditioning ever uh at the oldest

00:06:18.160 i've been ever obviously yeah um but it's been a massive test bro like a massive massive test because

00:06:25.700 during that time and you know this but these guys don't know this during that time i've been filled

00:06:30.660 with massive amounts of doubt because of my age because i'm like fuck am i too old to get myself back

00:06:36.880 to where i was like i didn't know if my body would actually be capable of getting back to where i was

00:06:41.060 because when i got hurt um i was 42 and i was i mean bro i was in better shape than fucking probably

00:06:47.500 100 of 42 year olds okay let's be real um there's there's the freak guys out there but regular people

00:06:53.520 that grew up fat as fuck that had to earn it all right i'm at the top of that all right right

00:06:58.400 and and so then i had to watch that all disappear and dude i'm watching my shoulders shrink down i'm

00:07:03.760 watching my chest shrink down i'm watching my belly look fatter because my like i'm a thick dude

00:07:08.580 anyway so i have to have wit to create that yeah i gotta yeah that's right i got you to have to have

00:07:14.560 the the look i want and to be how i am i have to have you know a muscle in these things to make my

00:07:20.640 body look the way i want to look where i'm happy and and dude you know i couldn't train that's a big

00:07:25.420 part of my mental progress all these things and um i have such good momentum now that because i'm

00:07:33.380 through all of that right like i think i'm finally past the point of where i'm not having withdrawals

00:07:37.700 from the lexa pro anymore it took me fucking eight or nine months um and i feel fucking really good bro

00:07:43.740 i mean it's only a matter of time before i'm at the best physical condition i've ever been which i think

00:07:48.640 will happen like very very soon um and i have some big plans okay i have big plans where i'm supposed

00:07:56.960 to go places and do things and i'm starting to like say okay well i'm gonna go ahead and not go

00:08:01.960 those places because i can't do my rucks and i can't do my cold plunge and i can't really follow

00:08:06.660 the program and i don't want to lose momentum because i've not had it for a year and a half so i'm

00:08:11.160 willing to sacrifice major things that are huge fucking deals in order to keep that momentum so

00:08:17.020 you know properly valuing momentum is a big deal i think for people and also realizing that once you

00:08:24.060 create it well first of all realizing that you do create it it's not something that's caught you

00:08:28.660 create the momentum and and secondly you know realizing how important it is to maintain it are

00:08:34.200 two critical thoughts to to a productive life and like i know there's a lot of people out there

00:08:38.860 they're the good look you go to live some life bro you're assuming i don't like what i do right

00:08:44.120 you're assuming i don't like living this way you're just because you don't like it doesn't

00:08:47.640 mean i don't fucking love it because i fucking love it now dude i love waking up in the morning

00:08:51.760 and getting that motherfucking cold plunge at fucking 42 degrees and sitting in there for

00:08:55.820 fucking six to seven minutes knowing that there ain't a motherfucker out there doing the same shit

00:09:00.040 okay now i know there's a lot of other people doing the same shit but that's the story i tell

00:09:03.900 myself right i tell myself like fuck dude all right most people aren't doing this i feel good

00:09:09.020 do the rock most people aren't doing this feel good do 75 hard most people aren't doing this feel good

00:09:14.780 feel good feel good feel good feel good i'm retraining my whole mental process to feel good

00:09:20.240 again after going through a long period of time i'm not willing to sacrifice that for

00:09:23.760 you know a weekend here or a trip here or this or that at this time now once i get back to a

00:09:31.420 where i want to be that's another that's another question but you know high high success people

00:09:36.360 people who win consistently they understand the value of momentum they understand they create

00:09:41.200 momentum they understand the most important thing is to maintain the momentum when you have it and you

00:09:45.760 need to do anything you can to keep it i love that so and it's very simple just keep going because

00:09:50.600 yeah don't fuck it up yeah i love that man well it is q a i got some good ones for you as always

00:09:56.900 these are your questions guys so let's knock them out andy question number one

00:09:59.840 andy i am 25 i have worked for my employer for the last three years since joining full time i've

00:10:07.180 headed a new branch of the business that has helped us grow from a 300 000 a year gross to

00:10:13.300 three and a half million dollar gross uh company i get paid well wait three three million to three

00:10:18.880 and a half million or no he went from 300 000 to three and a half million to three and a half million

00:10:23.000 okay gross in five years uh in three years in three years okay well that's great um he says i get paid

00:10:30.540 well however i feel that the owner is coasting and his eagerness to grow has disappeared not about

00:10:38.300 momentum yeah i am frustrated and i feel stuck i have talked to him about it and he doesn't see it as a

00:10:44.260 problem would you recommend continuing to push uh and push past and keep moving uh and push with

00:10:51.060 improvements with the company or should i save money and set out on my own or do you see a third

00:10:57.820 option to my situation yeah i do so what i would do is is there more yeah i mean what would you do in

00:11:03.360 my situation i see a third option the third option is to be very smart financially and save like you're

00:11:10.420 talking about and get yourself enough cushion to where if you had to make a change you could

00:11:15.080 but in the meantime i think you should continue with the path because dude leadership doesn't just

00:11:21.380 come from the top down sometimes it comes from the middle out and there's like a lot of companies will

00:11:29.520 take their cues from their high performers so like if you're a high performer which you are you've grown

00:11:34.620 the business 10x you know you didn't do it but you helped do it if you continue to run and he starts

00:11:41.460 to coast everybody else in the business fucking sees that okay so like you what actually you what

00:11:47.760 actually happens right now like what you're going through is a fucking gift because here's where you're

00:11:52.400 going to end up if you continue to run and then you're financially smart all right now you're in a

00:11:57.880 situation where you've gained the trust of the entire company all right so what i'm talking about here

00:12:02.800 is leverage against your boss i shouldn't even be telling you this all right nobody talks about this

00:12:07.400 no because it's because no bosses want you to fucking know it but the whole game is to become

00:12:11.620 so valuable that you can leverage against your boss to earn as much money as you can and grow your

00:12:16.100 career and most people don't believe that they don't they think it's fucking bullshit every time i

00:12:20.520 talk about it and there's a clip that goes around on the internet i have a bunch of fucking losers say

00:12:24.240 oh that's not how it really works i've been working at the same job for 20 years yeah you have and you

00:12:30.400 haven't been working very fucking hard you've been showing the fuck up and doing half the fucking

00:12:34.220 work you've been taking breaks when there's no breaks you've been pretending to work and pretending

00:12:38.320 to be busy instead of actually taking the company which is what this person should do put it on your

00:12:42.660 fucking back and running the ball down the fucking field okay because what that's going to do is one

00:12:47.120 of two things either one which is highly likely your your boss is probably going to recognize this and

00:12:54.360 say fuck i better get my shit together okay and then they're going to start running with you which is what

00:12:58.580 you want anyway because i'm sure you love this person because you built some good stuff together

00:13:02.040 what you really the goal here really is to get them to join you on the run i talked about this

00:13:08.580 recently on a show uh about you have to go and other people follow you this is no different if

00:13:12.660 you're inside the company versus at the top of the company so that's the first thing that could happen

00:13:17.840 and what likely will happen you'll start running the company will run with you you basically take

00:13:23.180 responsibility for everything and this motherfucker is going to recognize that and he's going to get

00:13:27.380 scared he's going to say fuck i'm losing my company and he's going to start running and

00:13:30.860 then you're going to be like cool steve all right let's run and you get him running and then that's

00:13:34.320 whenever you can pull him aside and have a talk and say look bro i need you to fucking be urgent

00:13:38.300 about this or i'm not going to dedicate my fucking life to it because at that point in time you have

00:13:42.920 that you have the power and the leverage because once they start running with you you've leveraged

00:13:48.340 them into action so now you have the position of power over your boss where you can look at them

00:13:54.000 because they realize that they fucking have to have you and he and if you tell him like look dude

00:13:59.440 i'm not going to work here if we're just going to fuck around and be a three million dollar company

00:14:03.040 i'm going to i'm here to make a 300 million dollar company and if you're not with it i'm going to take

00:14:08.100 my talents and my skills and go apply them over there because i am built for fucking greatness

00:14:12.260 and that's what the fuck i demand and i need to work in a place where i can be assured that we're

00:14:16.520 going to go down that path and if you're not going to go down that path i'm going to have to

00:14:20.000 fucking bounce and bro that will wake motherfuckers up okay so because look he can't operate the

00:14:26.140 business with you at that point without you at that point that make sense yeah for sure okay so

00:14:30.320 that's the first thing that could happen the second thing that could happen is you could run they could

00:14:35.040 get threatened and he could try to fire you which would be a huge fucking mistake because you've

00:14:39.160 already gained the fucking momentum and the trust because like dude everybody wants to win

00:14:43.320 everybody wants to inherently win the karens at your office that you think no fucking care

00:14:47.820 they're a lot less kareny whenever they fucking winning all right everybody loves winning so

00:14:53.240 so when you if you were to get fired if you've been putting money away you're in a good position

00:15:00.080 and you have the trust of the people that you were fucking leading so you have the freedom to go do

00:15:04.240 something else it's a win-win situation that's how i would play it yeah for sure would you would

00:15:08.100 you tell him though because i mean hearing this i feel like there there could be some ego come

00:15:12.420 involved from from this person's perspective that he should probably be careful with

00:15:16.460 i mean is there is that something he should watch out for you mean being an entrepreneur and taking

00:15:21.760 the lead and then developing ego thinking that you're the company right yeah i would be very

00:15:25.600 what happens when the boss comes back in takes the credit because it's not about credit it's about

00:15:30.440 it's about winning that's the first thing you gotta understand this is never about credit winning is

00:15:34.720 not winning is not about credit credit is designed to sell more jerseys and to sell more shirts

00:15:40.880 and to get more fans a true win doesn't give a fuck who the credit goes to the credit goes to the

00:15:48.120 fucking team only fucking losers care about the credit that's the truth no winners don't care about

00:15:54.440 the credit they don't care who gets the credit they care about the fucking result all right so

00:15:58.700 getting your ego involved yeah that's dangerous because what will happen is if you start to say well

00:16:04.500 i'm fucking king of the shit here and you ain't shit you will get fired and they'll figure out how to

00:16:09.240 fucking keep it going yeah you know what i mean so this is about positioning yourself in the best

00:16:14.460 possible position so that you don't get screwed for trying to do the right thing you shouldn't use

00:16:18.680 it against him you shouldn't when i say leverage him i don't mean leverage him in a bad way i don't

00:16:23.960 mean be immoral i don't mean be a dick i mean leverage him into fucking action so that you can win

00:16:29.980 faster and that's what the goal should be and everybody wins in this yeah 100 love it uh and

00:16:35.920 question number two uh andy i own a naturopathic medical clinic i've been working for 20 years at

00:16:43.060 the same job this motherfucker ain't ever dude i saw this never got a raise bro i saw this comment

00:16:48.340 and i i don't get into it with people on the internet because it's like arguing with the fat

00:16:52.400 fucking dishuffled person at the gas station that you don't even fucking can't believe that the

00:16:57.780 person's even dressed and awake and alive and allowed to drive right right with their fucking

00:17:02.760 shoes rolled in oh bro i got a full picture of them you know what i'm saying like these those

00:17:08.380 people they know everything they know everything and they're always the same people that criticize

00:17:12.740 what i just said oh this motherfucker never worked a real day or job and his whole brother brother you

00:17:18.100 couldn't fucking live a day in my fucking shoes couldn't couldn't make it a fucking day couldn't

00:17:22.500 make it a fucking day couldn't make it a day you know what i'm saying yeah like bro i built all of

00:17:27.780 this shit with fucking 12 grand over the course of 24 years you worked at the same place for 20

00:17:33.940 years doing half-ass shit you think you know the world you don't know fucking shit and not only do

00:17:38.340 you not know fucking shit you wasted your fucking life so swallow that motherfucking pill don't

00:17:44.280 criticize people who are telling people exactly how the system works i know how it works because i

00:17:49.820 fucking built shit within the system that is undeniable oh the god never worked a fucking day in

00:17:54.760 his life yeah okay bitch enjoy your fucking hot pocket your mom's fucking basement fucking fat

00:18:01.880 motherfucker

00:18:02.360 it's the truth any question number two oh my fucking hot pocket's cold

00:18:10.960 mom warm up another one yeah cold in the middle

00:18:15.400 you know that shit's true yeah you gotta blow the ends up i know yeah yeah don't ask me how i know

00:18:26.200 i know hot pockets ain't bad bro they just shouldn't be eating them at 40 or 35 or 30 in your mom's

00:18:32.740 fucking basement yeah talking shit on the internet about people that you don't know nothing about

00:18:36.400 right now you worked your ass off for 20 fucking years you gotta listen we got an infestation listen

00:18:42.020 i'm tired of being polite about it we got an infestation a culture of fucking losers in the

00:18:46.680 fucking country seriously like it's epidemic it's an epidemic and it's very fucking obvious on the

00:18:53.880 internet because most of the motherfuckers on the internet most of them the only reason they're on the

00:18:59.140 internet is because they're not doing shit out here in the real world and they're mad about it well

00:19:03.480 you can't be mad about other people getting results for work that they did that you didn't do

00:19:08.560 motherfucker like i don't know where you grew up or where you came from or who told you this but

00:19:13.380 they lied they fucking lied like i saw this video did you did i send you that video that woman

00:19:18.580 fucking going crazy on that trump supporter on the airplane no getting kicked off the airplane

00:19:23.340 no oh my god dude it's fucking hilarious recent i i think so she's she was from portland bro

00:19:29.260 yeah and she's berating this young kid about fucking trump i guess apparently he said something

00:19:35.560 about trump and anyway like she's talking all this shit about like all these points which are all

00:19:41.620 bullshit like all of them every single one was like a fucking cnn talking point far left talking

00:19:47.660 point you know i'm just ripping this kid's ass and like she thinks everybody's with her right and she

00:19:52.780 says to the to the flight attendant i i don't want to sit next to this trump supporter blah blah and the

00:19:57.900 flight attendant real nice said well you don't have that right ma'am looked her right in the fucking face

00:20:02.840 and said it bro and then she started throwing a fit the cops came on kicked her off and everybody

00:20:07.640 fucking cheered oh like bro like you have to at some point if you have a false belief system about

00:20:14.580 reality the faster that you could admit that you were lied to or taught by people who just didn't

00:20:20.020 fucking know it's more likely you were lied to okay and just say fuck i don't know and start

00:20:26.720 relearning the way that things actually work the better off you're going to be trolling someone on

00:20:31.580 the internet that says hey this is how you fucking actually move up within an organization you become

00:20:36.560 so fucking valuable that they can't fucking deny you you became there's a whole book about this that

00:20:41.300 seth godin wrote called lynchpin all right the whole goal is become a fucking lynchpin an irremovable

00:20:48.080 fucking piece of the internal structure of a company that's how you demand high pay okay hiding and

00:20:55.240 pretending to be busy for 20 fucking years doesn't get you paid like this whole idea that i'm going to go

00:21:01.240 somewhere and i'm going to work there and eventually i'm going to be there long enough they're just

00:21:04.920 going to pay me is a fucking not the truth and i don't know where that comes from like no no no guy

00:21:11.320 i know that runs a company no woman i know that runs a company sits down and says oh okay well you

00:21:18.000 know mary she's been here for 22 years she sucks at her job but let's pay her a whole bunch of fucking

00:21:22.380 money right right makes sense bro listen the bottom line is we have a bunch of fucking weak

00:21:28.800 motherfuckers who've been taught the wrong fucking shit and all this shit that i say triggers them

00:21:33.280 and they'd be far better off just admitting man i was fucking lied to and get with the fucking

00:21:37.680 program about what it takes to actually fucking do things in real life yeah seems simple to me man

00:21:43.480 it is that's because it is simple

00:21:45.140 andy guys question number two andy i own a naturopathic medical clinic in new hampshire

00:21:54.240 i have a small team with front desk admin nurse myself and my husband as my business partner

00:22:00.200 i did 165 000 in quarter one and yet i am failing to effectively run a simple team meeting

00:22:08.120 not because i don't know how but i feel my imagination of what we need to do is not being

00:22:14.020 translated and communicated effectively uh at a pace i feel is optimized how can i improve overcome

00:22:20.600 this and find the same high function i experience in other areas of mine

00:22:24.720 well look running a meeting is sort of an art and there's a couple things first of all you need to

00:22:37.920 understand to run an effective meeting one there has to be a clear outcome for the meeting and

00:22:42.220 everybody in the room should understand what the outcome is okay number two it should be as short as

00:22:48.280 possible because everybody fucking hates meetings no one most things should be a fucking email or a text

00:22:54.160 not a meeting all right your employees no matter how much they love you they fucking hate meetings

00:23:00.280 i hate giving meetings okay so having a clear outcome and keeping them short and focused can do a lot

00:23:08.120 for the production of the meeting a lot of times as people that are in this position like she's describing

00:23:14.620 we tend to do long drawn out over uh explain ourselves over explain what we're trying to do

00:23:22.260 because we're so urgent about getting it done that we think that they're not understanding it when they

00:23:27.520 really understand it in the first fucking five minutes and if you would just let them go do it they

00:23:31.020 go do it so we have to make sure that we're not our own worst uh enemy when it comes to why the

00:23:38.780 meetings suck all right um the other thing is to remember uh is that people want to be heard and

00:23:47.680 they want to be valuable inside of a meeting atmosphere so like one of the things that i

00:23:53.340 adjusted early on that i really like that i think works well is just understanding that my job is not to

00:23:59.800 come up with all the ideas or all the plans my job is to hear all the ideas and plan also have my own

00:24:07.960 and then unbiasedly pick the best one for the team so one thing that you can do as well is you

00:24:14.860 can go around the table you know with your five people or however many you say z sean what you

00:24:20.680 think of this dj what you think of that joe what you think of this keith what you think of this madat

00:24:25.760 what do you think okay those are all good ideas here's what i thought after hearing all the ideas

00:24:31.300 this is what i think is the best move i think we should do a little bit of what you're saying dj and

00:24:35.240 we should also corporate uh incorporate what keith is saying as well and a little bit of what i'm

00:24:39.720 saying we do these three things here and uh you know madat you had a good idea your idea was good

00:24:44.440 i just think it might this might be better so let's see if this works and if it doesn't work we'll do

00:24:48.960 your idea joe your idea was fucked up and here's why yeah it's real because we did this and this and

00:24:54.880 this before and it's not going to work yeah and uh so let's are we all cool with that and everybody's

00:25:00.140 like yeah and then you fucking go and that's it and if they if they know that you're going to

00:25:05.400 operate in a true team environment like that um people will have more enthusiasm for the meetings

00:25:11.200 so keep it short have an outcome get feedback make the decision that's best for the team not best for

00:25:19.180 you earn the trust by doing that over and over and over again and people become more enthusiastic

00:25:23.300 about your meetings there's a couple books you can read about this um one of them's called the five

00:25:28.140 dysfunctions of a team the other one's called death by meeting read those two books great books

00:25:32.840 about meetings okay i ask you something because as you were going through that and don't dm me and

00:25:38.420 say what were the two books that you mentioned on the podcast yeah literally just go fucking hit rewind

00:25:42.460 bitch holy shit can i ask you something though in response to this uh question because it's something

00:25:51.760 that you do quite often and and i just want to dig into a little bit but there when when like just like

00:25:57.520 you just did that you went around the table right and you gave the game plan there was so much

00:26:02.040 confidence like obviously we didn't talk about what the fuck we're doing but i wanted to go do it

00:26:06.440 because there was confidence in like okay well we're doing this and we're doing this and we've been

00:26:10.140 doing it for 24 years but like is that just a simple is that just reps well yeah bro how many things

00:26:16.880 were you great at the first time you did it yeah none you do something for 24 fucking years bro

00:26:22.900 you're gonna get good at it yeah this is just reps the next time you do a meeting this person does a

00:26:29.260 meeting they're gonna fucking do a little bit better the one after that they're gonna do a

00:26:32.880 little bit better they're gonna one after that do a little bit better than that and then guess what

00:26:35.600 they're gonna have a shitty one and you're gonna remind you're gonna be reminded oh fuck okay i got

00:26:39.140 a little off track next one after that'll be better than that last good one you had and you continue

00:26:43.540 down that path and over the course of time the reps come and you get better at doing it and you

00:26:47.980 completely understand what you're doing and anything new is hard bro the first public speaking

00:26:53.140 i ever did was in front of 12 employees that i had i had a sheet fucking paper and i fucking stood there

00:26:58.540 and fucking shook i got a d in my college public speaking class okay a d a d the only reason i got

00:27:06.760 a d is because i was nice to the teacher and she liked me yeah all right so like you know she just

00:27:11.940 didn't want to fucking give me an f because that's what i deserved right i stood in front of my

00:27:16.760 employees fucking shake a piece of paper you know like read like dude we all start like that

00:27:24.840 like just because you're not like this charismatic like i don't know what people have this idea of

00:27:32.180 leadership is like this charismatic like general type personality like pat george patten right or

00:27:40.460 fucking like they look at jocko like that motherfucker looks like a leader right because he does and

00:27:45.300 you don't have that's not a requirement that's just that's just happens to be the case for these

00:27:51.140 people right and by the way when you do something for the next 20 years uh people are going to look

00:27:57.320 at you and they're going to say the same shit you just said to me they're gonna say fuck this lady

00:28:01.220 knows exactly what the fuck she's doing let's not fuck with her let's listen to what she says

00:28:04.500 yeah you see what i'm saying so yeah it's just reps bro and it's it's a commitment to getting

00:28:08.840 better through the reps i love just reps that's like so long ain't it reps alone will lead you

00:28:14.420 eating hot pockets in your mom's fucking basement saying i work for the same job in 20 years you

00:28:20.740 this guy doesn't know what the fuck he's talking about while i'm driving around a fucking la ferrari

00:28:25.220 and all kinds of shit bro clearly i'm fucking wrong holy shit clearly i don't know shit let's look

00:28:32.020 around yeah yeah yeah oh you're gonna lucky yeah fuck i get lucky every day bro you see me out

00:28:39.560 there sweating i'm fucking lucky yeah like holy shit bro we just got a lot of losers in fucking

00:28:45.300 society right now that are like just miserable fucks you got to tune them out bro if you want

00:28:52.260 to be relevant you got to say yeah i'm not listening to that guy that's the guy at the gas station

00:28:56.460 getting 15 breakfast burritos uh buying them on ebt and getting fucking lottery tickets too

00:29:01.660 dude that there's i mean honestly so this kind of goes right into our third and final question bro

00:29:06.820 um this idea of just that noise uh and the question is andy i'm 28 years old i'm working as a general

00:29:13.660 contractor for the last four years thank uh thanks to your teachings from the podcast i have gone from a

00:29:20.220 drunk poor me depressed guy to building a good life for myself my question is how do you deal

00:29:26.020 with the noise in your life i feel like i'm constantly bombarded with emails and text do i

00:29:31.900 just suck at scheduling or is there something i'm overlooking to navigate this has this gotten better

00:29:36.940 or worse uh as you've grown i'm just curious as to how someone like you navigates this noise on your

00:29:42.920 level when i struggle with one company six employees in a town of six thousand people look bro you're

00:29:48.780 you're all you're missing here is this is normal all you're missing here brother is a system to

00:29:55.560 handle what's going on i'm a systems guy there's no magic to anything i do i i i i see where i want

00:30:03.740 to go i create a system to get me there and then i fucking run the play that's it's that simple all

00:30:10.220 right and so what you're lacking in this particular place that you're in in life is a system that allows

00:30:16.720 you to continue to move forward effectively without being distracted by the bullshit okay and to move

00:30:22.960 forward effectively every single day whether you're high whether you're low whether you're sad

00:30:28.540 whether you're happy whether you're angry it doesn't matter and effectively produce a result

00:30:33.000 that is the way you win because dude we're going to have bad days we're going to have good days we're

00:30:37.220 going to have days we feel like conquering the world we're going to have days where we feel like

00:30:40.100 the world's conquered us that's normal how you execute should not change okay so that means you

00:30:47.280 have to develop grit discipline mental toughness that all the things 75 hard can teach you all right

00:30:52.500 so if i were you and i recommend this to anybody who's running a business or runs a high stress life

00:30:59.260 don't look at live hard and 75 hard and say oh i don't have time for that no you'll have a lot more

00:31:04.760 time because you'll actually become effective as opposed to chasing your tail around with all this

00:31:08.380 bullshit noise like this gentleman is talking about okay so that's the first thing train yourself to

00:31:13.700 be disciplined train yourself to be gritty train yourself to perform at a high level regardless

00:31:19.480 if it's the best day you ever had or it's the worst day ever at people like that cannot be fucked

00:31:24.840 with they cannot be stopped there's nothing that can stop them because you could burn their fucking

00:31:29.120 house down and guess what their shit is still getting done that day how can you defeat someone

00:31:34.280 like that it's impossible all right so build yourself into that that should be the goal now the other

00:31:41.720 thing that you need to do is you need to identify the critical tasks that are going to move you

00:31:46.360 forward day by day by day by day you need to continue to to run your business and you need to get more

00:31:52.600 streamlined and how you do that which again is another free program that i created called the

00:31:58.420 power list it's episode 16 in this feed right here on audio only by the way go to real af on any audio

00:32:05.640 platform and go listen to episode 16 i talk about this thing called the power list the power list is

00:32:11.680 a way for you to systemize your critical tasks we have all these guru entrepreneurs that are

00:32:17.560 telling you you have to work 27 hours a day and and fucking eight days a week and grind grind grind

00:32:23.920 grind grind grind grind grind grind grind to get anywhere that's not fucking true those are people

00:32:28.180 that are basically just selling you a line of shit what the truth is is that all you have to do is

00:32:33.620 complete a small amount of critical tasks five every single day and if you get those tasks done by

00:32:40.040 fucking noon guess what you get to go live your life and do whatever the fuck you want all right i

00:32:45.660 like to fuck off i don't know about y'all but i like fucking off contrary to what you might think i like

00:32:50.900 fucking off all right i'm not a grind every fucking minute of every single day now i commit to becoming

00:32:57.200 a high level human and i do what's required but i promise you that the minute i am done with those

00:33:02.200 things i am fucking off okay that's me now i want to give you as much life as you can have during the

00:33:09.800 process of building something so we break it down into what are the critical actions for me to win

00:33:15.140 this day today all right win that day then move to the next day what are the critical actions to win

00:33:23.000 this day today win that day what are the critical critical actions to win the next day today and then

00:33:30.000 win that day and if those things take all day or they take till 10 a.m or they take till 8 a.m it's

00:33:36.020 irrelevant once you hit your critical tasks you're fucking done for the day you get a free fucking pass

00:33:41.220 the rest of the day that's how i live my life and outside of those five critical tasks that i accomplish

00:33:47.060 i don't give a fuck who texts me i don't give a fuck who emails me i don't even check my fucking email

00:33:52.380 how many times you see me on computer never you know i've opened a computer one time in the last

00:33:56.820 fucking four years because i had to fucking write a forward for somebody's book and i was like

00:34:02.520 because i don't use it and i take pride in not using it because i'm not trapped in the fucking

00:34:07.840 matrix okay i don't check my emails i barely check my texts if you go on my phone right now i have

00:34:14.620 fucking 1800 missed texts i don't fucking care bro you know why i don't care because i'm getting my

00:34:21.060 shit done and not a single fucking person in that fucking text message chain can fucking stop me or

00:34:27.840 hinder me or slow me down as long as i get my shit done so it allows me freedom yeah does that make

00:34:33.560 sense that's real freedom yeah real freedom i don't need anybody i don't need i don't need any

00:34:38.220 motherfucker in my text phone right now and there's some fucking rich and powerful motherfuckers in

00:34:42.660 there and guess what they're doing they're fucking in there waiting just like everybody else

00:34:46.320 because i got my own shit to do i'm doing my own shit and when i feel like it when i'm done

00:34:50.740 fucking off and i want to talk to people then maybe i'll go in my text and talk to people yeah you see

00:34:55.480 what i'm saying like i don't need to do it and neither do you that's the point you don't have to

00:34:59.640 get to this point of success where you know it's like fuck you level of success to be that way you

00:35:06.300 don't need that you can do it in fact it's important that you cut that shit out for you to even get to

00:35:11.860 where you're trying to go all right so you have to realize that most of the things most of the texts

00:35:18.220 most of the dms most of the emails that you get are fucking noise and if you if you check off those

00:35:24.360 five critical tasks day in day out day in day out and it's math this is fucking math if you win

00:35:31.860 28 days out of 30 you won the fucking month bro and if you repeat that over the fucking course of the

00:35:38.140 year guess what you won the year and if you if you repeat that over the course of many years

00:35:43.580 guess what you're going to win your life this is just the simplest fucking structure system that you

00:35:50.540 could possibly use and it's i give it to you for free it's episode 16 go listen to it adapt it into

00:35:57.120 your life immediately and you will see how fucking easy this actually is we actually have so much more

00:36:02.740 free time than we think we do because we're constantly inundated by bullshit distractions

00:36:07.860 i don't need them they probably need me that's probably why they're texting me and the reason

00:36:13.700 that they fucking need me is because for 25 fucking years i've been doing exactly what i just described

00:36:19.280 to you so dude realize it has nothing to do with anybody else it has nothing to do with the text the

00:36:25.800 emails the dms has nothing to do with what someone says about you on the internet has nothing to do

00:36:30.240 if your house burns down has nothing to do fucking anything all it has to do with you is winning that

00:36:34.960 fucking day today and then doing it again tomorrow and then doing that for fucking ever and it doesn't

00:36:40.020 take up all your time people who say oh i'm so fucking busy bro you're full of shit you're full of

00:36:46.360 shit because it doesn't take a full i haven't had a full day of critical tasks and i don't know how long

00:36:52.520 like i don't even know how long because i've just become effective at getting them done early

00:36:56.000 you see what i'm saying because you know what i like to do at night bro you know what i like to do

00:37:00.340 yeah i know what you like i like to chief it up in my fucking pimp ass garage and have a good

00:37:03.820 fucking time right talk to some of you motherfuckers on the internet hard to do that if you ain't got

00:37:09.080 your shit done listen i can't be an effective domestic terrorist unless i get my regular shit

00:37:13.300 done throughout the day that's just a reality yeah i have to get my shit done if i want to be a threat

00:37:18.940 to the fucking democracy right you know what i'm saying like it is what it is yeah that's real

00:37:27.360 man i love it well guys andy that was three yeah that's three go pay the fee

00:37:32.600 went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stove counted millions

00:37:39.800 in the code bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case

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508. Q&AF： Coasting Owner, Effective Team Meetings & Navigating 'Noise' In Life

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