REAL AF with Andy Frisella - May 01, 2023


508. Q&AF： Coasting Owner, Effective Team Meetings & Navigating 'Noise' In Life


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In this episode of The Realists, Andy Frisella and I talk about how to keep momentum in your life and how to maintain it once you have it. We also talk about the importance of keeping momentum and why you should never fuck up momentum.

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00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy frisella and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
00:00:21.280 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today
00:00:26.400 we have q and af that's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers uh you
00:00:32.300 could submit your questions a couple different ways and they can be about anything guys they can
00:00:36.120 be about personal development entrepreneurship business and life fitness what's going on in
00:00:42.100 the world typically this is a personal development segment so we like the questions about how to get
00:00:46.540 better how to run a business better how to become better uh but you could submit them a couple
00:00:50.980 different ways the first way is guys you can email those questions in to ask andy at andy frisella.com
00:00:56.240 or you can go on youtube we are on youtube now i know most of you guys are still on audio but we
00:01:01.120 do have a nice show on youtube is gaining massive momentum uh by the day you can go watch the q and
00:01:08.680 af episodes and drop the questions right there in the comment section um and we'll pick some from
00:01:14.860 there as well if you guys are still on audio and you haven't checked it out on youtube check it out
00:01:18.360 man go subscribe uh you know a lot of a lot of the people who have decided to watch it have gotten
00:01:24.000 good feedback i think it provides a little more context to watch it than it does just to listen to
00:01:28.300 it but regardless um we'll pick some questions from there other ways that we do the show within the
00:01:35.040 show okay this is just one of many shows within the show other times is cti cti means cruise the
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00:01:49.820 the problems that are going on in the world other times we have real talk real talk is just five
00:01:54.000 to 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk some things i think you need to hear that are going to
00:01:58.720 help you be better and then we have full length full length is a conversation like you see on most
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00:02:09.040 who have completed 75 hard or live hard i bring them on the show regular people interview them let them
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00:03:06.140 man fucking everybody should be listening to this or man you know you should be running for this or hey 0.92
00:03:10.620 you should be doing this well guys guess what i have to have an audience for that to actually happen
00:03:15.440 so the bigger that i can grow the show the more impact i can have if i'm doing a good job all i
00:03:20.920 ask is that you help us by helping us grow the show by sharing so that's what i mean by saying don't be
00:03:26.060 a hoe share the show all right so anyway what's up yeah what's going on my hose yeah no hose in this 0.98
00:03:33.360 house hose you go click unsubscribe right hose right yeah what's going on man nothing looking good
00:03:41.380 oh yeah fucking race shirt race outfit out i'm ready for the fucking race bro we're gonna win 0.97
00:03:46.340 this race this weekend racing spa won at barcelona last week yeah it's a big deal fucking we won 0.92
00:03:53.000 daytona we won sebring how do you not fuck up momentum it's like that's a lot of momentum building 0.68
00:04:00.480 up right now right like so like give me three simple like what are three ways i can like three
00:04:06.100 things i can do not to fuck up momentum once i have it there's only one way not to fuck up momentum 0.93
00:04:10.480 once you have it and how's that keep going it's very simple yeah look dude here's the reality
00:04:16.240 um very successful people value momentum so much that they will literally sacrifice everything else
00:04:23.740 in their life in order to maintain it okay right now for example i'm just going to give you an
00:04:29.940 example of me and this is all high level high level performers this is how they think first of all
00:04:35.040 they understand one that they are in charge of creating the momentum in their life they understand
00:04:40.500 that if they got through the first week or the first two weeks when it really fucking sucks and 0.91
00:04:47.220 then they got through that first phase where like they caught some momentum but it got hard again and
00:04:52.040 then got through those first two uh test phases that they're going to create massive momentum moving
00:04:57.280 forward and once that momentum kicks in people who understand how powerful momentum is will sacrifice
00:05:03.860 fucking everything to maintain it so for example like for me i'm on day i don't know 40 high 40s of 75 0.73
00:05:14.600 hard i think 48 today um i have rucked for nearly seven i think 70 days in a row today yeah and then uh
00:05:23.860 i'm also cold plunge for um 28 days in a row during and then during the week i do during the weekend i do
00:05:34.020 two a day um i have massive momentum it's i feel great uh you know you guys are all familiar with the
00:05:41.640 struggles i've had to go through for the last year and a half you know i had my shoulder reconstructed
00:05:45.860 i got off lexapro after 11 years i went through this incredibly incredibly difficult journey of
00:05:52.980 you know being at the best physical and mental shape of my life to watching it disappear to then
00:05:58.620 having to rebuild it and then having it almost rebuilt and then getting a blood infection which
00:06:02.720 fucking buried me for six weeks then starting over again and now here i am i've got all the momentum 0.86
00:06:09.120 in the world i'm probably i don't know 10 off my best physical uh conditioning ever uh at the oldest
00:06:18.160 i've been ever obviously yeah um but it's been a massive test bro like a massive massive test because
00:06:25.700 during that time and you know this but these guys don't know this during that time i've been filled
00:06:30.660 with massive amounts of doubt because of my age because i'm like fuck am i too old to get myself back 0.79
00:06:36.880 to where i was like i didn't know if my body would actually be capable of getting back to where i was
00:06:41.060 because when i got hurt um i was 42 and i was i mean bro i was in better shape than fucking probably 0.97
00:06:47.500 100 of 42 year olds okay let's be real um there's there's the freak guys out there but regular people
00:06:53.520 that grew up fat as fuck that had to earn it all right i'm at the top of that all right right 0.82
00:06:58.400 and and so then i had to watch that all disappear and dude i'm watching my shoulders shrink down i'm
00:07:03.760 watching my chest shrink down i'm watching my belly look fatter because my like i'm a thick dude
00:07:08.580 anyway so i have to have wit to create that yeah i gotta yeah that's right i got you to have to have
00:07:14.560 the the look i want and to be how i am i have to have you know a muscle in these things to make my
00:07:20.640 body look the way i want to look where i'm happy and and dude you know i couldn't train that's a big
00:07:25.420 part of my mental progress all these things and um i have such good momentum now that because i'm
00:07:33.380 through all of that right like i think i'm finally past the point of where i'm not having withdrawals
00:07:37.700 from the lexa pro anymore it took me fucking eight or nine months um and i feel fucking really good bro 0.94
00:07:43.740 i mean it's only a matter of time before i'm at the best physical condition i've ever been which i think
00:07:48.640 will happen like very very soon um and i have some big plans okay i have big plans where i'm supposed
00:07:56.960 to go places and do things and i'm starting to like say okay well i'm gonna go ahead and not go
00:08:01.960 those places because i can't do my rucks and i can't do my cold plunge and i can't really follow
00:08:06.660 the program and i don't want to lose momentum because i've not had it for a year and a half so i'm
00:08:11.160 willing to sacrifice major things that are huge fucking deals in order to keep that momentum so 0.87
00:08:17.020 you know properly valuing momentum is a big deal i think for people and also realizing that once you
00:08:24.060 create it well first of all realizing that you do create it it's not something that's caught you
00:08:28.660 create the momentum and and secondly you know realizing how important it is to maintain it are
00:08:34.200 two critical thoughts to to a productive life and like i know there's a lot of people out there
00:08:38.860 they're the good look you go to live some life bro you're assuming i don't like what i do right
00:08:44.120 you're assuming i don't like living this way you're just because you don't like it doesn't
00:08:47.640 mean i don't fucking love it because i fucking love it now dude i love waking up in the morning 0.92
00:08:51.760 and getting that motherfucking cold plunge at fucking 42 degrees and sitting in there for 0.95
00:08:55.820 fucking six to seven minutes knowing that there ain't a motherfucker out there doing the same shit 0.97
00:09:00.040 okay now i know there's a lot of other people doing the same shit but that's the story i tell 0.59
00:09:03.900 myself right i tell myself like fuck dude all right most people aren't doing this i feel good 0.55
00:09:09.020 do the rock most people aren't doing this feel good do 75 hard most people aren't doing this feel good
00:09:14.780 feel good feel good feel good feel good i'm retraining my whole mental process to feel good
00:09:20.240 again after going through a long period of time i'm not willing to sacrifice that for
00:09:23.760 you know a weekend here or a trip here or this or that at this time now once i get back to a
00:09:31.420 where i want to be that's another that's another question but you know high high success people
00:09:36.360 people who win consistently they understand the value of momentum they understand they create
00:09:41.200 momentum they understand the most important thing is to maintain the momentum when you have it and you
00:09:45.760 need to do anything you can to keep it i love that so and it's very simple just keep going because
00:09:50.600 yeah don't fuck it up yeah i love that man well it is q a i got some good ones for you as always
00:09:56.900 these are your questions guys so let's knock them out andy question number one
00:09:59.840 andy i am 25 i have worked for my employer for the last three years since joining full time i've
00:10:07.180 headed a new branch of the business that has helped us grow from a 300 000 a year gross to
00:10:13.300 three and a half million dollar gross uh company i get paid well wait three three million to three
00:10:18.880 and a half million or no he went from 300 000 to three and a half million to three and a half million
00:10:23.000 okay gross in five years uh in three years in three years okay well that's great um he says i get paid
00:10:30.540 well however i feel that the owner is coasting and his eagerness to grow has disappeared not about
00:10:38.300 momentum yeah i am frustrated and i feel stuck i have talked to him about it and he doesn't see it as a
00:10:44.260 problem would you recommend continuing to push uh and push past and keep moving uh and push with
00:10:51.060 improvements with the company or should i save money and set out on my own or do you see a third
00:10:57.820 option to my situation yeah i do so what i would do is is there more yeah i mean what would you do in
00:11:03.360 my situation i see a third option the third option is to be very smart financially and save like you're
00:11:10.420 talking about and get yourself enough cushion to where if you had to make a change you could
00:11:15.080 but in the meantime i think you should continue with the path because dude leadership doesn't just
00:11:21.380 come from the top down sometimes it comes from the middle out and there's like a lot of companies will
00:11:29.520 take their cues from their high performers so like if you're a high performer which you are you've grown
00:11:34.620 the business 10x you know you didn't do it but you helped do it if you continue to run and he starts
00:11:41.460 to coast everybody else in the business fucking sees that okay so like you what actually you what 0.96
00:11:47.760 actually happens right now like what you're going through is a fucking gift because here's where you're 0.92
00:11:52.400 going to end up if you continue to run and then you're financially smart all right now you're in a
00:11:57.880 situation where you've gained the trust of the entire company all right so what i'm talking about here
00:12:02.800 is leverage against your boss i shouldn't even be telling you this all right nobody talks about this
00:12:07.400 no because it's because no bosses want you to fucking know it but the whole game is to become 0.90
00:12:11.620 so valuable that you can leverage against your boss to earn as much money as you can and grow your
00:12:16.100 career and most people don't believe that they don't they think it's fucking bullshit every time i 0.96
00:12:20.520 talk about it and there's a clip that goes around on the internet i have a bunch of fucking losers say 0.92
00:12:24.240 oh that's not how it really works i've been working at the same job for 20 years yeah you have and you
00:12:30.400 haven't been working very fucking hard you've been showing the fuck up and doing half the fucking 0.98
00:12:34.220 work you've been taking breaks when there's no breaks you've been pretending to work and pretending
00:12:38.320 to be busy instead of actually taking the company which is what this person should do put it on your
00:12:42.660 fucking back and running the ball down the fucking field okay because what that's going to do is one 0.96
00:12:47.120 of two things either one which is highly likely your your boss is probably going to recognize this and
00:12:54.360 say fuck i better get my shit together okay and then they're going to start running with you which is what 0.95
00:12:58.580 you want anyway because i'm sure you love this person because you built some good stuff together
00:13:02.040 what you really the goal here really is to get them to join you on the run i talked about this
00:13:08.580 recently on a show uh about you have to go and other people follow you this is no different if
00:13:12.660 you're inside the company versus at the top of the company so that's the first thing that could happen
00:13:17.840 and what likely will happen you'll start running the company will run with you you basically take
00:13:23.180 responsibility for everything and this motherfucker is going to recognize that and he's going to get 0.83
00:13:27.380 scared he's going to say fuck i'm losing my company and he's going to start running and 0.98
00:13:30.860 then you're going to be like cool steve all right let's run and you get him running and then that's
00:13:34.320 whenever you can pull him aside and have a talk and say look bro i need you to fucking be urgent 0.92
00:13:38.300 about this or i'm not going to dedicate my fucking life to it because at that point in time you have 0.97
00:13:42.920 that you have the power and the leverage because once they start running with you you've leveraged
00:13:48.340 them into action so now you have the position of power over your boss where you can look at them
00:13:54.000 because they realize that they fucking have to have you and he and if you tell him like look dude 0.95
00:13:59.440 i'm not going to work here if we're just going to fuck around and be a three million dollar company 0.86
00:14:03.040 i'm going to i'm here to make a 300 million dollar company and if you're not with it i'm going to take
00:14:08.100 my talents and my skills and go apply them over there because i am built for fucking greatness 0.88
00:14:12.260 and that's what the fuck i demand and i need to work in a place where i can be assured that we're 0.86
00:14:16.520 going to go down that path and if you're not going to go down that path i'm going to have to
00:14:20.000 fucking bounce and bro that will wake motherfuckers up okay so because look he can't operate the 0.89
00:14:26.140 business with you at that point without you at that point that make sense yeah for sure okay so
00:14:30.320 that's the first thing that could happen the second thing that could happen is you could run they could
00:14:35.040 get threatened and he could try to fire you which would be a huge fucking mistake because you've 0.93
00:14:39.160 already gained the fucking momentum and the trust because like dude everybody wants to win 0.86
00:14:43.320 everybody wants to inherently win the karens at your office that you think no fucking care 1.00
00:14:47.820 they're a lot less kareny whenever they fucking winning all right everybody loves winning so 0.77
00:14:53.240 so when you if you were to get fired if you've been putting money away you're in a good position
00:15:00.080 and you have the trust of the people that you were fucking leading so you have the freedom to go do 0.70
00:15:04.240 something else it's a win-win situation that's how i would play it yeah for sure would you would
00:15:08.100 you tell him though because i mean hearing this i feel like there there could be some ego come
00:15:12.420 involved from from this person's perspective that he should probably be careful with
00:15:16.460 i mean is there is that something he should watch out for you mean being an entrepreneur and taking
00:15:21.760 the lead and then developing ego thinking that you're the company right yeah i would be very
00:15:25.600 what happens when the boss comes back in takes the credit because it's not about credit it's about
00:15:30.440 it's about winning that's the first thing you gotta understand this is never about credit winning is
00:15:34.720 not winning is not about credit credit is designed to sell more jerseys and to sell more shirts
00:15:40.880 and to get more fans a true win doesn't give a fuck who the credit goes to the credit goes to the 0.57
00:15:48.120 fucking team only fucking losers care about the credit that's the truth no winners don't care about 0.95
00:15:54.440 the credit they don't care who gets the credit they care about the fucking result all right so 0.95
00:15:58.700 getting your ego involved yeah that's dangerous because what will happen is if you start to say well
00:16:04.500 i'm fucking king of the shit here and you ain't shit you will get fired and they'll figure out how to 0.99
00:16:09.240 fucking keep it going yeah you know what i mean so this is about positioning yourself in the best 0.55
00:16:14.460 possible position so that you don't get screwed for trying to do the right thing you shouldn't use
00:16:18.680 it against him you shouldn't when i say leverage him i don't mean leverage him in a bad way i don't
00:16:23.960 mean be immoral i don't mean be a dick i mean leverage him into fucking action so that you can win 0.71
00:16:29.980 faster and that's what the goal should be and everybody wins in this yeah 100 love it uh and
00:16:35.920 question number two uh andy i own a naturopathic medical clinic i've been working for 20 years at
00:16:43.060 the same job this motherfucker ain't ever dude i saw this never got a raise bro i saw this comment 0.96
00:16:48.340 and i i don't get into it with people on the internet because it's like arguing with the fat
00:16:52.400 fucking dishuffled person at the gas station that you don't even fucking can't believe that the 0.97
00:16:57.780 person's even dressed and awake and alive and allowed to drive right right with their fucking 0.97
00:17:02.760 shoes rolled in oh bro i got a full picture of them you know what i'm saying like these those
00:17:08.380 people they know everything they know everything and they're always the same people that criticize
00:17:12.740 what i just said oh this motherfucker never worked a real day or job and his whole brother brother you 0.99
00:17:18.100 couldn't fucking live a day in my fucking shoes couldn't couldn't make it a fucking day couldn't 0.99
00:17:22.500 make it a fucking day couldn't make it a day you know what i'm saying yeah like bro i built all of 0.96
00:17:27.780 this shit with fucking 12 grand over the course of 24 years you worked at the same place for 20 0.94
00:17:33.940 years doing half-ass shit you think you know the world you don't know fucking shit and not only do 0.96
00:17:38.340 you not know fucking shit you wasted your fucking life so swallow that motherfucking pill don't 0.99
00:17:44.280 criticize people who are telling people exactly how the system works i know how it works because i
00:17:49.820 fucking built shit within the system that is undeniable oh the god never worked a fucking day in 0.91
00:17:54.760 his life yeah okay bitch enjoy your fucking hot pocket your mom's fucking basement fucking fat 1.00
00:18:01.880 motherfucker
00:18:02.360 it's the truth any question number two oh my fucking hot pocket's cold 0.96
00:18:10.960 mom warm up another one yeah cold in the middle
00:18:15.400 you know that shit's true yeah you gotta blow the ends up i know yeah yeah don't ask me how i know 0.91
00:18:26.200 i know hot pockets ain't bad bro they just shouldn't be eating them at 40 or 35 or 30 in your mom's
00:18:32.740 fucking basement yeah talking shit on the internet about people that you don't know nothing about 0.92
00:18:36.400 right now you worked your ass off for 20 fucking years you gotta listen we got an infestation listen 0.99
00:18:42.020 i'm tired of being polite about it we got an infestation a culture of fucking losers in the 1.00
00:18:46.680 fucking country seriously like it's epidemic it's an epidemic and it's very fucking obvious on the
00:18:53.880 internet because most of the motherfuckers on the internet most of them the only reason they're on the 1.00
00:18:59.140 internet is because they're not doing shit out here in the real world and they're mad about it well
00:19:03.480 you can't be mad about other people getting results for work that they did that you didn't do
00:19:08.560 motherfucker like i don't know where you grew up or where you came from or who told you this but 0.99
00:19:13.380 they lied they fucking lied like i saw this video did you did i send you that video that woman 1.00
00:19:18.580 fucking going crazy on that trump supporter on the airplane no getting kicked off the airplane 0.96
00:19:23.340 no oh my god dude it's fucking hilarious recent i i think so she's she was from portland bro 0.85
00:19:29.260 yeah and she's berating this young kid about fucking trump i guess apparently he said something
00:19:35.560 about trump and anyway like she's talking all this shit about like all these points which are all 0.83
00:19:41.620 bullshit like all of them every single one was like a fucking cnn talking point far left talking
00:19:47.660 point you know i'm just ripping this kid's ass and like she thinks everybody's with her right and she 0.99
00:19:52.780 says to the to the flight attendant i i don't want to sit next to this trump supporter blah blah and the
00:19:57.900 flight attendant real nice said well you don't have that right ma'am looked her right in the fucking face 1.00
00:20:02.840 and said it bro and then she started throwing a fit the cops came on kicked her off and everybody
00:20:07.640 fucking cheered oh like bro like you have to at some point if you have a false belief system about 0.79
00:20:14.580 reality the faster that you could admit that you were lied to or taught by people who just didn't
00:20:20.020 fucking know it's more likely you were lied to okay and just say fuck i don't know and start 0.93
00:20:26.720 relearning the way that things actually work the better off you're going to be trolling someone on
00:20:31.580 the internet that says hey this is how you fucking actually move up within an organization you become 0.89
00:20:36.560 so fucking valuable that they can't fucking deny you you became there's a whole book about this that 0.89
00:20:41.300 seth godin wrote called lynchpin all right the whole goal is become a fucking lynchpin an irremovable 0.89
00:20:48.080 fucking piece of the internal structure of a company that's how you demand high pay okay hiding and 0.92
00:20:55.240 pretending to be busy for 20 fucking years doesn't get you paid like this whole idea that i'm going to go 0.97
00:21:01.240 somewhere and i'm going to work there and eventually i'm going to be there long enough they're just
00:21:04.920 going to pay me is a fucking not the truth and i don't know where that comes from like no no no guy 0.98
00:21:11.320 i know that runs a company no woman i know that runs a company sits down and says oh okay well you
00:21:18.000 know mary she's been here for 22 years she sucks at her job but let's pay her a whole bunch of fucking 1.00
00:21:22.380 money right right makes sense bro listen the bottom line is we have a bunch of fucking weak 0.90
00:21:28.800 motherfuckers who've been taught the wrong fucking shit and all this shit that i say triggers them 0.98
00:21:33.280 and they'd be far better off just admitting man i was fucking lied to and get with the fucking 0.97
00:21:37.680 program about what it takes to actually fucking do things in real life yeah seems simple to me man 0.69
00:21:43.480 it is that's because it is simple
00:21:45.140 andy guys question number two andy i own a naturopathic medical clinic in new hampshire
00:21:54.240 i have a small team with front desk admin nurse myself and my husband as my business partner
00:22:00.200 i did 165 000 in quarter one and yet i am failing to effectively run a simple team meeting
00:22:08.120 not because i don't know how but i feel my imagination of what we need to do is not being
00:22:14.020 translated and communicated effectively uh at a pace i feel is optimized how can i improve overcome
00:22:20.600 this and find the same high function i experience in other areas of mine
00:22:24.720 well look running a meeting is sort of an art and there's a couple things first of all you need to
00:22:37.920 understand to run an effective meeting one there has to be a clear outcome for the meeting and
00:22:42.220 everybody in the room should understand what the outcome is okay number two it should be as short as
00:22:48.280 possible because everybody fucking hates meetings no one most things should be a fucking email or a text 0.98
00:22:54.160 not a meeting all right your employees no matter how much they love you they fucking hate meetings 0.96
00:23:00.280 i hate giving meetings okay so having a clear outcome and keeping them short and focused can do a lot
00:23:08.120 for the production of the meeting a lot of times as people that are in this position like she's describing
00:23:14.620 we tend to do long drawn out over uh explain ourselves over explain what we're trying to do
00:23:22.260 because we're so urgent about getting it done that we think that they're not understanding it when they
00:23:27.520 really understand it in the first fucking five minutes and if you would just let them go do it they 0.94
00:23:31.020 go do it so we have to make sure that we're not our own worst uh enemy when it comes to why the
00:23:38.780 meetings suck all right um the other thing is to remember uh is that people want to be heard and
00:23:47.680 they want to be valuable inside of a meeting atmosphere so like one of the things that i
00:23:53.340 adjusted early on that i really like that i think works well is just understanding that my job is not to
00:23:59.800 come up with all the ideas or all the plans my job is to hear all the ideas and plan also have my own
00:24:07.960 and then unbiasedly pick the best one for the team so one thing that you can do as well is you
00:24:14.860 can go around the table you know with your five people or however many you say z sean what you
00:24:20.680 think of this dj what you think of that joe what you think of this keith what you think of this madat
00:24:25.760 what do you think okay those are all good ideas here's what i thought after hearing all the ideas
00:24:31.300 this is what i think is the best move i think we should do a little bit of what you're saying dj and
00:24:35.240 we should also corporate uh incorporate what keith is saying as well and a little bit of what i'm
00:24:39.720 saying we do these three things here and uh you know madat you had a good idea your idea was good
00:24:44.440 i just think it might this might be better so let's see if this works and if it doesn't work we'll do
00:24:48.960 your idea joe your idea was fucked up and here's why yeah it's real because we did this and this and 0.97
00:24:54.880 this before and it's not going to work yeah and uh so let's are we all cool with that and everybody's
00:25:00.140 like yeah and then you fucking go and that's it and if they if they know that you're going to 0.90
00:25:05.400 operate in a true team environment like that um people will have more enthusiasm for the meetings
00:25:11.200 so keep it short have an outcome get feedback make the decision that's best for the team not best for
00:25:19.180 you earn the trust by doing that over and over and over again and people become more enthusiastic
00:25:23.300 about your meetings there's a couple books you can read about this um one of them's called the five
00:25:28.140 dysfunctions of a team the other one's called death by meeting read those two books great books
00:25:32.840 about meetings okay i ask you something because as you were going through that and don't dm me and
00:25:38.420 say what were the two books that you mentioned on the podcast yeah literally just go fucking hit rewind 0.98
00:25:42.460 bitch holy shit can i ask you something though in response to this uh question because it's something 1.00
00:25:51.760 that you do quite often and and i just want to dig into a little bit but there when when like just like
00:25:57.520 you just did that you went around the table right and you gave the game plan there was so much
00:26:02.040 confidence like obviously we didn't talk about what the fuck we're doing but i wanted to go do it 0.70
00:26:06.440 because there was confidence in like okay well we're doing this and we're doing this and we've been
00:26:10.140 doing it for 24 years but like is that just a simple is that just reps well yeah bro how many things
00:26:16.880 were you great at the first time you did it yeah none you do something for 24 fucking years bro 0.95
00:26:22.900 you're gonna get good at it yeah this is just reps the next time you do a meeting this person does a
00:26:29.260 meeting they're gonna fucking do a little bit better the one after that they're gonna do a 0.90
00:26:32.880 little bit better they're gonna one after that do a little bit better than that and then guess what
00:26:35.600 they're gonna have a shitty one and you're gonna remind you're gonna be reminded oh fuck okay i got 0.95
00:26:39.140 a little off track next one after that'll be better than that last good one you had and you continue
00:26:43.540 down that path and over the course of time the reps come and you get better at doing it and you
00:26:47.980 completely understand what you're doing and anything new is hard bro the first public speaking
00:26:53.140 i ever did was in front of 12 employees that i had i had a sheet fucking paper and i fucking stood there 0.99
00:26:58.540 and fucking shook i got a d in my college public speaking class okay a d a d the only reason i got 0.98
00:27:06.760 a d is because i was nice to the teacher and she liked me yeah all right so like you know she just
00:27:11.940 didn't want to fucking give me an f because that's what i deserved right i stood in front of my 0.95
00:27:16.760 employees fucking shake a piece of paper you know like read like dude we all start like that 0.97
00:27:24.840 like just because you're not like this charismatic like i don't know what people have this idea of
00:27:32.180 leadership is like this charismatic like general type personality like pat george patten right or
00:27:40.460 fucking like they look at jocko like that motherfucker looks like a leader right because he does and
00:27:45.300 you don't have that's not a requirement that's just that's just happens to be the case for these
00:27:51.140 people right and by the way when you do something for the next 20 years uh people are going to look
00:27:57.320 at you and they're going to say the same shit you just said to me they're gonna say fuck this lady 1.00
00:28:01.220 knows exactly what the fuck she's doing let's not fuck with her let's listen to what she says 1.00
00:28:04.500 yeah you see what i'm saying so yeah it's just reps bro and it's it's a commitment to getting
00:28:08.840 better through the reps i love just reps that's like so long ain't it reps alone will lead you
00:28:14.420 eating hot pockets in your mom's fucking basement saying i work for the same job in 20 years you 0.99
00:28:20.740 this guy doesn't know what the fuck he's talking about while i'm driving around a fucking la ferrari 0.99
00:28:25.220 and all kinds of shit bro clearly i'm fucking wrong holy shit clearly i don't know shit let's look 0.96
00:28:32.020 around yeah yeah yeah oh you're gonna lucky yeah fuck i get lucky every day bro you see me out 0.96
00:28:39.560 there sweating i'm fucking lucky yeah like holy shit bro we just got a lot of losers in fucking 0.99
00:28:45.300 society right now that are like just miserable fucks you got to tune them out bro if you want
00:28:52.260 to be relevant you got to say yeah i'm not listening to that guy that's the guy at the gas station
00:28:56.460 getting 15 breakfast burritos uh buying them on ebt and getting fucking lottery tickets too 0.94
00:29:01.660 dude that there's i mean honestly so this kind of goes right into our third and final question bro
00:29:06.820 um this idea of just that noise uh and the question is andy i'm 28 years old i'm working as a general
00:29:13.660 contractor for the last four years thank uh thanks to your teachings from the podcast i have gone from a
00:29:20.220 drunk poor me depressed guy to building a good life for myself my question is how do you deal
00:29:26.020 with the noise in your life i feel like i'm constantly bombarded with emails and text do i
00:29:31.900 just suck at scheduling or is there something i'm overlooking to navigate this has this gotten better
00:29:36.940 or worse uh as you've grown i'm just curious as to how someone like you navigates this noise on your
00:29:42.920 level when i struggle with one company six employees in a town of six thousand people look bro you're
00:29:48.780 you're all you're missing here is this is normal all you're missing here brother is a system to
00:29:55.560 handle what's going on i'm a systems guy there's no magic to anything i do i i i i see where i want
00:30:03.740 to go i create a system to get me there and then i fucking run the play that's it's that simple all 0.95
00:30:10.220 right and so what you're lacking in this particular place that you're in in life is a system that allows
00:30:16.720 you to continue to move forward effectively without being distracted by the bullshit okay and to move 0.62
00:30:22.960 forward effectively every single day whether you're high whether you're low whether you're sad
00:30:28.540 whether you're happy whether you're angry it doesn't matter and effectively produce a result
00:30:33.000 that is the way you win because dude we're going to have bad days we're going to have good days we're
00:30:37.220 going to have days we feel like conquering the world we're going to have days where we feel like
00:30:40.100 the world's conquered us that's normal how you execute should not change okay so that means you
00:30:47.280 have to develop grit discipline mental toughness that all the things 75 hard can teach you all right
00:30:52.500 so if i were you and i recommend this to anybody who's running a business or runs a high stress life
00:30:59.260 don't look at live hard and 75 hard and say oh i don't have time for that no you'll have a lot more
00:31:04.760 time because you'll actually become effective as opposed to chasing your tail around with all this
00:31:08.380 bullshit noise like this gentleman is talking about okay so that's the first thing train yourself to
00:31:13.700 be disciplined train yourself to be gritty train yourself to perform at a high level regardless
00:31:19.480 if it's the best day you ever had or it's the worst day ever at people like that cannot be fucked 0.98
00:31:24.840 with they cannot be stopped there's nothing that can stop them because you could burn their fucking 0.99
00:31:29.120 house down and guess what their shit is still getting done that day how can you defeat someone 0.89
00:31:34.280 like that it's impossible all right so build yourself into that that should be the goal now the other
00:31:41.720 thing that you need to do is you need to identify the critical tasks that are going to move you
00:31:46.360 forward day by day by day by day you need to continue to to run your business and you need to get more
00:31:52.600 streamlined and how you do that which again is another free program that i created called the
00:31:58.420 power list it's episode 16 in this feed right here on audio only by the way go to real af on any audio
00:32:05.640 platform and go listen to episode 16 i talk about this thing called the power list the power list is
00:32:11.680 a way for you to systemize your critical tasks we have all these guru entrepreneurs that are
00:32:17.560 telling you you have to work 27 hours a day and and fucking eight days a week and grind grind grind 0.98
00:32:23.920 grind grind grind grind grind grind grind to get anywhere that's not fucking true those are people 0.97
00:32:28.180 that are basically just selling you a line of shit what the truth is is that all you have to do is 0.54
00:32:33.620 complete a small amount of critical tasks five every single day and if you get those tasks done by
00:32:40.040 fucking noon guess what you get to go live your life and do whatever the fuck you want all right i 0.93
00:32:45.660 like to fuck off i don't know about y'all but i like fucking off contrary to what you might think i like 0.98
00:32:50.900 fucking off all right i'm not a grind every fucking minute of every single day now i commit to becoming 0.99
00:32:57.200 a high level human and i do what's required but i promise you that the minute i am done with those
00:33:02.200 things i am fucking off okay that's me now i want to give you as much life as you can have during the 0.98
00:33:09.800 process of building something so we break it down into what are the critical actions for me to win
00:33:15.140 this day today all right win that day then move to the next day what are the critical actions to win
00:33:23.000 this day today win that day what are the critical critical actions to win the next day today and then
00:33:30.000 win that day and if those things take all day or they take till 10 a.m or they take till 8 a.m it's
00:33:36.020 irrelevant once you hit your critical tasks you're fucking done for the day you get a free fucking pass 0.97
00:33:41.220 the rest of the day that's how i live my life and outside of those five critical tasks that i accomplish
00:33:47.060 i don't give a fuck who texts me i don't give a fuck who emails me i don't even check my fucking email 0.99
00:33:52.380 how many times you see me on computer never you know i've opened a computer one time in the last
00:33:56.820 fucking four years because i had to fucking write a forward for somebody's book and i was like 0.97
00:34:02.520 because i don't use it and i take pride in not using it because i'm not trapped in the fucking 0.99
00:34:07.840 matrix okay i don't check my emails i barely check my texts if you go on my phone right now i have
00:34:14.620 fucking 1800 missed texts i don't fucking care bro you know why i don't care because i'm getting my 0.99
00:34:21.060 shit done and not a single fucking person in that fucking text message chain can fucking stop me or 0.97
00:34:27.840 hinder me or slow me down as long as i get my shit done so it allows me freedom yeah does that make 0.71
00:34:33.560 sense that's real freedom yeah real freedom i don't need anybody i don't need i don't need any
00:34:38.220 motherfucker in my text phone right now and there's some fucking rich and powerful motherfuckers in 1.00
00:34:42.660 there and guess what they're doing they're fucking in there waiting just like everybody else 0.93
00:34:46.320 because i got my own shit to do i'm doing my own shit and when i feel like it when i'm done 0.90
00:34:50.740 fucking off and i want to talk to people then maybe i'll go in my text and talk to people yeah you see 0.91
00:34:55.480 what i'm saying like i don't need to do it and neither do you that's the point you don't have to
00:34:59.640 get to this point of success where you know it's like fuck you level of success to be that way you
00:35:06.300 don't need that you can do it in fact it's important that you cut that shit out for you to even get to 0.86
00:35:11.860 where you're trying to go all right so you have to realize that most of the things most of the texts
00:35:18.220 most of the dms most of the emails that you get are fucking noise and if you if you check off those 0.93
00:35:24.360 five critical tasks day in day out day in day out and it's math this is fucking math if you win 0.90
00:35:31.860 28 days out of 30 you won the fucking month bro and if you repeat that over the fucking course of the 0.98
00:35:38.140 year guess what you won the year and if you if you repeat that over the course of many years
00:35:43.580 guess what you're going to win your life this is just the simplest fucking structure system that you 0.57
00:35:50.540 could possibly use and it's i give it to you for free it's episode 16 go listen to it adapt it into
00:35:57.120 your life immediately and you will see how fucking easy this actually is we actually have so much more 0.74
00:36:02.740 free time than we think we do because we're constantly inundated by bullshit distractions
00:36:07.860 i don't need them they probably need me that's probably why they're texting me and the reason
00:36:13.700 that they fucking need me is because for 25 fucking years i've been doing exactly what i just described 0.98
00:36:19.280 to you so dude realize it has nothing to do with anybody else it has nothing to do with the text the
00:36:25.800 emails the dms has nothing to do with what someone says about you on the internet has nothing to do
00:36:30.240 if your house burns down has nothing to do fucking anything all it has to do with you is winning that 0.92
00:36:34.960 fucking day today and then doing it again tomorrow and then doing that for fucking ever and it doesn't 0.99
00:36:40.020 take up all your time people who say oh i'm so fucking busy bro you're full of shit you're full of 0.97
00:36:46.360 shit because it doesn't take a full i haven't had a full day of critical tasks and i don't know how long 0.67
00:36:52.520 like i don't even know how long because i've just become effective at getting them done early
00:36:56.000 you see what i'm saying because you know what i like to do at night bro you know what i like to do
00:37:00.340 yeah i know what you like i like to chief it up in my fucking pimp ass garage and have a good 0.99
00:37:03.820 fucking time right talk to some of you motherfuckers on the internet hard to do that if you ain't got 1.00
00:37:09.080 your shit done listen i can't be an effective domestic terrorist unless i get my regular shit 0.98
00:37:13.300 done throughout the day that's just a reality yeah i have to get my shit done if i want to be a threat 0.84
00:37:18.940 to the fucking democracy right you know what i'm saying like it is what it is yeah that's real 0.87
00:37:27.360 man i love it well guys andy that was three yeah that's three go pay the fee
00:37:32.600 went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stove counted millions 1.00
00:37:39.800 in the code bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case 1.00
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