REAL AF with Andy Frisella - May 18, 2023


517. Q&AF： Being Hard On Yourself, Organizing Your Goals & Becoming A Great Intrapreneur

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In this episode of For the Realist's Sake, DJ and Andy talk about how to deal with people who are overly hard on themselves and how to stop being a fuckboi. DJ talks about how he deals with it, and Andy talks about why he doesn't want to be a dick anymore.

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00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realist's sake, goodbye 0.99
00:00:20.500 to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking 0.98
00:00:24.380 reality guys. 0.99
00:00:25.080 Today, we have Q&A app.
00:00:26.760 That's where you submit the Q's and we give you the answers.
00:00:28.800 All right, you can submit those questions a couple of different ways.
00:00:31.740 First way is, guys, you can email your questions into askandy at andypriscilla.com.
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00:00:47.500 and drop your question in the comments, we'll pick some from there as well to answer live
00:00:51.220 on the show.
00:00:52.200 We may actually be starting a new call-in type thing here soon, but we're trying to figure
00:00:56.280 that out.
00:00:56.700 So that might be a little, we might do a live Q&AF starting to come up and I can't 1.00
00:01:02.880 wait for you motherfuckers to try to stump me and I can roast you live on the fucking internet 1.00
00:01:06.280 right in front of everybody. 1.00
00:01:07.720 Anyway, if this is your first time listening, welcome.
00:01:11.720 All right.
00:01:12.100 This is real AF and it's not just a Q&A show.
00:01:15.140 We have multiple shows within the show.
00:01:17.040 We have Q&AF, which is what you're going to hear today.
00:01:18.960 We have CTI.
00:01:20.020 That stands for Cruise the Internet.
00:01:21.440 That's where we put up topics on the screen.
00:01:23.720 We talk about them.
00:01:25.060 We speculate on what might be true, what may not be true, and how we can all as individuals
00:01:29.740 and collectively work to solve some of the problems going on in the world.
00:01:34.660 The next segment that we do is called Real Talk.
00:01:37.020 Real Talk is just five to 20 minutes of me just giving you a message that I think needs
00:01:40.240 to be heard.
00:01:40.780 And then we have full length.
00:01:41.880 Full length is what you see typically on most other podcasts where a bunch of people sit
00:01:45.860 in the room and have a conversation.
00:01:47.980 And then sometimes we have 75 hard verses.
00:01:51.340 I am the creator of the Live Hard program.
00:01:53.860 A lot of you guys know it as 75 hard.
00:01:56.220 And we bring people on who have accomplished great things, changed their lives, and we interview
00:02:00.840 them.
00:02:01.180 We talk about how you could do that too.
00:02:03.100 And if you want to be on one of those shows, just send us your story, man.
00:02:06.800 You can email it in to 75hard at andyfrusella.com and we're going to pick you to possibly be
00:02:11.700 on the show.
00:02:12.200 So send us an in-depth story of what this program has done for you, maybe even a video
00:02:17.160 too, and let us hear from you, get you right in here with us.
00:02:21.480 So we do have a fee for the show.
00:02:23.580 The fee is not monetary.
00:02:24.840 You don't have to pay me.
00:02:27.140 I do appreciate you guys when you support my companies and things that I have going on
00:02:30.880 very much, but it's not required.
00:02:34.000 And you don't have to listen to me talk about ads for stuff that I don't actually believe
00:02:37.860 in or use on this show.
00:02:38.800 So I don't run ads on the show and I ask in exchange for the value that I deliver.
00:02:42.200 And DJ delivers and the team here delivers to help you be better, to help you learn
00:02:46.760 what's going on.
00:02:47.800 We ask very simply that you share the show.
00:02:49.580 A lot of times you guys will say, oh, Andy, everybody should be listening to the show.
00:02:53.280 Yeah, I agree, man.
00:02:54.080 That's why I do it.
00:02:55.340 But I need you guys to share the show for that to happen.
00:02:58.440 So pay the fee.
00:03:01.180 That's what I mean when I say pay the fee.
00:03:03.060 So what's up?
00:03:04.920 Don't be hoes. 1.00
00:03:05.700 Yeah.
00:03:05.920 Yeah.
00:03:06.100 Don't be a hoe. 1.00
00:03:07.080 What's going on, brother?
00:03:07.800 I got some good ones.
00:03:08.420 This is actually an interesting one because we got a little extra, a little special sauce
00:03:12.160 on this one.
00:03:12.740 Oh, do we?
00:03:13.240 Yeah.
00:03:13.440 We got a little extra, a little extra.
00:03:15.840 But I do got some good ones for you.
00:03:17.580 Good.
00:03:18.180 There are some good ones.
00:03:19.040 Let's get right into it, Andy.
00:03:21.540 Andy, guys, question number one.
00:03:24.820 Andy, what's your opinion on people who are overly hard on themselves?
00:03:30.500 Perfectionistic, competitive, obsessive, compulsive, et cetera.
00:03:33.880 I feel like I'm all those things, but I've been holding back for a long time thinking
00:03:38.740 that those things were unhealthy.
00:03:40.980 But I feel like I have to be those things in order to be great.
00:03:44.380 It's very conflicting.
00:03:45.660 I want to be the best version of myself and enjoy the process doing it, but I don't know
00:03:50.760 how.
00:03:51.980 What should I do?
00:03:55.080 Well, first of all, you should evaluate who is telling you these things are bad and who
00:03:59.260 is telling you these things are unhealthy.
00:04:00.620 And I bet if you evaluate their life and their existence and what they've created, you're
00:04:04.460 going to find out that it's not anything like what you're trying to build.
00:04:07.300 That's the first thing.
00:04:08.680 So realize that most people say that being competitive is unhealthy.
00:04:12.540 Most people say that being driven is unhealthy.
00:04:16.140 Most people say that being obsessed with building something is unhealthy. 1.00
00:04:20.260 Most people say that doing anything outside being a lazy piece of fucking shit is unhealthy. 1.00
00:04:24.860 When in reality, being a lazy piece of fucking shit is the most unhealthy thing that 1.00
00:04:28.420 you could ever fucking do. 1.00
00:04:29.660 Okay? 0.97
00:04:29.920 So let's consider the source when we talk about who tells us these things and what have they
00:04:34.980 actually achieved and have they achieved anything that represents something that resembles what
00:04:42.140 we want to achieve.
00:04:43.060 And the answer is always no.
00:04:46.100 Okay?
00:04:46.820 So understand that first of all.
00:04:48.980 And let me explain to you the reality.
00:04:50.900 There are a ton of people out there right now who are so involved and so sucked into victim
00:04:59.580 culture and this vibe out culture, right?
00:05:02.920 Oh, here's what I'm going to do on my Saturday.
00:05:05.280 You know, what I do is I mix up a little granola.
00:05:07.560 And then I go outside and I put my nuts on the suntan table so that I can get some sun on 0.98
00:05:12.840 my testicles. 0.98
00:05:13.500 And then I go do a cold plunge. 0.99
00:05:15.680 And then after that, I hang out with my friends and we vibe out.
00:05:18.500 And then after that, you know, I might go and have a nice little walk and hold hands and
00:05:24.040 blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:05:26.340 Okay?
00:05:26.780 You all know the videos I'm talking about too. 0.99
00:05:28.820 Every motherfucking one of you knows. 0.99
00:05:30.500 Okay? 0.99
00:05:30.800 There's this cultural movement of vibing out, all right, that, you know, people try to explain
00:05:38.120 and justify why it is they're not working, why it is they're not hustling, why it is
00:05:43.600 they're not driven, why it is they're not ambitious, why it is they're not doing anything.
00:05:47.460 The real answer is they're not capable of doing it. 0.99
00:05:49.860 They don't have what the fuck it takes. 0.99
00:05:51.240 So they craft this message about how unhealthy it is and how destructive it is and how it's 0.99
00:05:57.940 immoral and materialistic and greedy and all these negative things because it's something
00:06:04.840 that they're not capable of following through with, all right?
00:06:08.680 So you have to understand that most people's message is more of a justification of their
00:06:15.140 own actions than actual message that's meant to help you, all right?
00:06:19.760 That's the first thing that you need to understand.
00:06:21.860 The second thing that you need to understand, and this is coming from someone who's actually
00:06:25.000 built a few things in life.
00:06:26.300 I've done a few things, all right? 0.89
00:06:28.220 The list is pretty fucking long, and I'm still pretty fucking young, and I'm still 0.99
00:06:32.480 going to triple or quadruple that motherfucking list. 1.00
00:06:34.740 You can bet on that shit, all right? 1.00
00:06:36.580 So these things that you're talking about, ambition, drive, commitment, being obsessed, 1.00
00:06:43.700 okay?
00:06:44.040 It's reasonable to be obsessed with your goals for certain periods of time in your life.
00:06:49.340 That's a reasonable thing.
00:06:50.960 Not only is it reasonable, if you actually want to be great, it's actually required.
00:06:56.200 It's a requirement.
00:06:57.940 Being obsessed, being driven, being ambitious, being someone who works extremely hard, who
00:07:04.700 will not be pulled off the motherfucking path is a requirement of building something great,
00:07:09.960 and you're surrounded with people who are not committed to building anything great, and 0.99
00:07:14.240 they're telling you all this shit is unhealthy. 0.99
00:07:16.180 You have to be smart enough to let that filter through and not mean anything to you and continue 1.00
00:07:20.140 on your path.
00:07:21.240 It's not for everybody.
00:07:23.120 Success isn't for everybody.
00:07:24.660 Winning's not for everybody.
00:07:26.280 Building something is not for everybody.
00:07:27.660 In fact, it's for a very small percentage of the population, and if we spend our entire
00:07:32.920 lives trying to get all of these people to approve of what we're doing, we won't ever
00:07:37.860 achieve anything because they're not even on the same path as us.
00:07:40.860 So you have to recognize that when you're on this path of becoming great at whatever
00:07:45.980 it is, whether it just be great as a human or great as a servant, maybe you're trying
00:07:50.800 to build a church. 0.98
00:07:51.560 Maybe you're trying to build the biggest motherfucking company that ever existed. 0.99
00:07:54.880 The goal is irrelevant. 0.98
00:07:57.140 It's what's required to achieve this greatness that is the same, all right?
00:08:01.540 And all of these things that victim culture right now, the vibe out culture, victim culture
00:08:06.400 that society seems to be obsessed with, all of those things keep you from building those
00:08:13.600 things, which actually lends itself to a little tinfoil hat as to why is that the narrative?
00:08:19.620 Why is the narrative, calm down, take it easy, vibe out, be happy, live in the moment, you
00:08:29.040 work too hard, take it easy.
00:08:32.560 That's on health.
00:08:33.620 Why is that the movement? 0.99
00:08:34.860 Why is the movement, I have, you know, trauma, motherfucker, trauma used to be like you get 1.00
00:08:40.360 your arm fucking cut off. 1.00
00:08:41.800 That's trauma, right? 1.00
00:08:43.080 Trauma used to be getting stabbed in the fucking face, all right? 0.99
00:08:47.440 Trauma is not somebody said something mean to you. 1.00
00:08:51.640 Trauma is not, you know, your stepdad was an asshole to you, bro. 1.00
00:08:55.760 Listen, we've all had assholes in our life. 1.00
00:08:58.700 We've all had fucking things happen to us. 1.00
00:09:01.500 That's called life. 1.00
00:09:02.740 Trauma is, you know, Derek Wida getting his fucking leg shot off in fucking Iraq. 1.00
00:09:08.020 Okay, that's trauma. 1.00
00:09:09.040 Trauma is Dakota Meyer going into a village where there's hundreds of people that he's 0.99
00:09:16.760 a part of that are dead by himself and pulling out his fucking bros who have all been killed. 1.00
00:09:22.200 That's fucking trauma, motherfucker. 1.00
00:09:23.940 Trauma is not somebody was mean to me or somebody said something aggressive to me or somebody 1.00
00:09:29.500 said something that I didn't like. 0.97
00:09:31.040 We've gotten fucking soft. 0.98
00:09:33.020 All right. 1.00
00:09:33.640 It's a big fucking problem in society. 1.00
00:09:35.400 It's victim culture. 1.00
00:09:36.360 It's what's rewarded online.
00:09:37.800 It's what we see, you know, dude, go look at, look at reels of people telling you what
00:09:42.620 it takes to actually win. 0.99
00:09:44.180 And they have one who are telling you, this is what it fucking takes. 0.96
00:09:47.280 And they go look at reels of people saying, this is how I lit my candle to get over my trauma. 0.98
00:09:54.680 Right, right, right. 1.00
00:09:56.680 That's the shit that's people are fucking, you know, I want to be vulnerable with you guys. 1.00
00:10:01.040 One time I was in a toxic relationship. 1.00
00:10:03.800 They don't talk about all the shit they did in a relationship. 1.00
00:10:06.680 They don't talk about the mental abuse they did in a relationship. 1.00
00:10:09.940 They don't talk about them being a fucking psychotic fucking partner, do they? 1.00
00:10:14.540 No. 1.00
00:10:14.900 Right?
00:10:15.240 No, never. 1.00
00:10:15.640 So we have all this fucking bullshit that is called life that has now been built into 1.00
00:10:21.140 victim culture and called trauma, which now you're dealing with everybody in your circle 1.00
00:10:26.160 who is super fucking soft. 1.00
00:10:28.340 And if you try to live any life outside of sitting on the fucking couch and eating fucking 1.00
00:10:34.260 Doritos and consuming propaganda and being sucked into your phone, if you try to do anything 1.00
00:10:40.800 outside the norm, bro, it's unhealthy.
00:10:43.040 That's unhealthy.
00:10:44.240 You're so obsessed, it's unhealthy.
00:10:46.520 Well, guess what?
00:10:47.660 With all the money I make, I'll buy myself some therapy.
00:10:50.420 All right? 1.00
00:10:51.160 Like, what the fuck? 1.00
00:10:53.480 Okay? 1.00
00:10:53.820 Like, dude, this shit that you're being told is unhealthy, a lot of you guys are mistakenly 1.00
00:10:59.020 falling into this victim culture, bro. 1.00
00:11:00.880 You have to be very aware of it.
00:11:02.980 You're falling into the vibe out culture.
00:11:05.340 The be happy now culture.
00:11:07.260 You're not understanding, bro, that in 10 years, you're going to wish that you had this
00:11:10.840 time back and you had committed your youth to actually building something, a foundation
00:11:15.480 that you could stand on for the rest of your life.
00:11:18.480 What are you going to do when you're 40?
00:11:20.260 What are you going to do when you're 50?
00:11:21.900 What are you going to do when you're 60?
00:11:23.540 What are you going to do when you're 70?
00:11:25.080 Because I can tell you what I'm going to do.
00:11:26.880 Guess what I'm going to do? 0.99
00:11:27.980 I'm going to still be doing the same shit I'm doing now. 0.92
00:11:30.520 I've learned that fulfillment actually comes from the pursuit and the commitment to becoming 0.91
00:11:36.660 the best possible version of you, okay? 1.00
00:11:38.940 Your ultimate fulfillment is not you eating fucking bonbons with your homie on the fucking 1.00
00:11:45.120 beach watching the sunset. 1.00
00:11:47.040 That's not going to fulfill you, bro.
00:11:48.740 You know what's going to fulfill you?
00:11:50.160 It's committing yourself to becoming the best version of yourself and following through
00:11:54.260 on that day in and day out so that you can look backwards in the rearview mirror with 0.99
00:11:58.280 that perspective and say, motherfucker, I might not be where I want to be, but I gave 0.99
00:12:02.540 it my all. 0.99
00:12:03.340 And that brings you peace and that brings you fulfillment and that brings you the lack
00:12:07.360 of regret, which is what we're all looking for. 0.99
00:12:09.660 And a lot of you guys have gotten so far sucked into this soft ass bitch ass culture that 1.00
00:12:14.780 promotes nothing but mediocrity in the long term that you will, you are going to live the 1.00
00:12:19.620 entire rest of your life with regret.
00:12:21.940 All right.
00:12:22.540 So all of these things they're telling you that are unhealthy are actually required to
00:12:26.900 build what it is that we all think of when we think of creating greatness.
00:12:30.360 Those are requirements. 0.89
00:12:31.720 And anybody who tells you fucking different hasn't built anything or is profiting from 0.98
00:12:36.300 telling you different. 0.99
00:12:37.040 I guarantee you that.
00:12:38.260 I love that.
00:12:38.680 Can I follow up with this real quick, Andy?
00:12:40.320 What, when does this cross over this, this pursuit of greatness, this obsessive desire and
00:12:47.400 drive to win for who does this cross over?
00:12:51.340 And when does this cross over to become an obligation?
00:12:54.380 I think we all have an obligation to live our highest standard.
00:12:57.120 I think, I think when we look around at the world and we look at what's going on and we
00:13:02.820 see people suffering and we see people struggling and we see people deciding to opt out.
00:13:07.280 Right.
00:13:08.100 Cause that's, that's a whole nother thing. 1.00
00:13:09.520 Like a lot of you, a lot of these people that are telling you this shit is unhealthy. 0.99
00:13:12.460 They've opted out of their own dreams, bro. 1.00
00:13:15.020 They've long ago quit.
00:13:16.740 They had dreams too.
00:13:17.700 Yes.
00:13:18.000 And they've long ago decided that they weren't going to achieve them.
00:13:21.580 They gave up.
00:13:22.780 Okay.
00:13:23.260 And so now they're going to convince you, like I said a minute ago, that they're giving
00:13:27.360 up is some sort of higher virtue than you still pursuing.
00:13:31.740 And this is what we're dealing with.
00:13:33.240 We're dealing with lots of insecurity.
00:13:34.700 We're dealing with lots of people who are fighting their own internal regret, their own internal
00:13:39.340 inability to execute their own internal, you know, um, FOMO of not being able to achieve
00:13:45.140 their dreams.
00:13:45.780 And they're trying to push that on you.
00:13:47.380 So they're not alone. 0.99
00:13:48.160 So they don't, you don't go build your shit and they're sitting there by themselves, which 0.99
00:13:51.120 is what is going to happen. 1.00
00:13:52.560 All right. 0.99
00:13:53.160 So look, man, culturally we're fucked and you have to change the culture by changing 1.00
00:13:59.260 yourself. 0.99
00:14:00.140 So when does it become an obligation?
00:14:02.060 It becomes an obligation. 1.00
00:14:03.240 The minute you hear these fucking words, the minute you say like, bro, fuck, you know what? 1.00
00:14:08.220 Uh, my brother, my sister, my dad, my mom, my uncle, my fucking neighbors, the people 1.00
00:14:14.940 at work, they're all watching me all the time. 1.00
00:14:17.380 And I'm over here like living this bullshit life. 0.99
00:14:20.980 That's not helping them. 1.00
00:14:22.600 All right. 0.98
00:14:23.100 So when you start to live a fucking good life and you start to become what it is that you're 0.98
00:14:26.780 supposed to become, other people start to see, Hey, I might be able to do that too. 0.97
00:14:31.080 And when they start to see that they change.
00:14:32.900 And this is actually what fixes the world.
00:14:35.140 Like you guys, this is why I say it.
00:14:36.580 Personal excellence is ultimate rebellion because it spreads.
00:14:39.660 It's a ripple effect.
00:14:40.720 It's something that people witness and then they want to do themselves.
00:14:44.460 And that's on you.
00:14:46.060 And that's on us as individuals to do in our own little circles over here, over here, over 0.99
00:14:50.040 here, over here, over here, wherever the fuck you may be, wherever I may be, because 0.98
00:14:53.840 all those little ripple effects go out and create a better world. 0.98
00:14:56.820 And so if we really want to fix what's going on in the world and we really care about what's
00:15:00.380 going on in the world, getting on the internet and bitching about Donald Trump or bitching 0.98
00:15:04.940 about Joe Biden, ain't going to fucking fix it, bro. 0.98
00:15:07.440 You know, what's going to fix it. 0.98
00:15:08.880 You deciding that you have an obligation to become the best version of yourself and then
00:15:13.460 doing that.
00:15:14.220 And then other people witnessing that and then deciding, well, I can do the same thing.
00:15:18.140 And then them getting better.
00:15:19.520 And then that ripple effect repeats from their epicenter.
00:15:22.080 See what I'm saying?
00:15:23.100 This is how the world fixes itself, dude.
00:15:25.480 But no, everybody wants to cry. 0.98
00:15:27.580 Everybody wants to bitch. 1.00
00:15:29.200 Everybody wants to get the views and the downloads and the traffic and the fame. 0.69
00:15:33.080 Nobody actually wants to change themselves, which is what's going to change the world. 0.99
00:15:37.300 Donald Trump ain't fixing the fucking world, bro. 0.99
00:15:40.080 Joe Biden certainly ain't fucking fixing it. 1.00
00:15:42.420 And any of these other fuckers in between ain't going to fix it. 1.00
00:15:45.580 Elect me president, bro. 1.00
00:15:46.700 I'm still not going to fix your life.
00:15:49.020 You're going to fix your life.
00:15:50.480 And because you fixed your life, other people around you will fix theirs.
00:15:53.740 And if we want a culture and a society that lives at a high standard, that produces the
00:15:58.260 best, that is truly a representative of what this country is supposed to be, the pursuit
00:16:03.920 of opportunity and happiness and fulfillment and freedom, you have to live that and you
00:16:09.580 have to embody that and you have to be that. 0.96
00:16:11.840 And without that, your words don't mean fucking anything. 0.99
00:16:14.820 I love it, man. 0.99
00:16:17.260 Guys, that was question number one.
00:16:18.760 Question number two.
00:16:19.540 Let's move into talking more about these goals that I guess young people need to have.
00:16:24.340 The question is, Andy, question number two.
00:16:26.560 Andy, I'm 17 years old and I have high ambitions and goals.
00:16:30.480 My question is, how do you organize your goals?
00:16:34.020 Are you writing them in the notebook, doing something else that you found effective?
00:16:38.140 And when you have these goals in front of you, how do you go about being able to track
00:16:42.900 them each day to make sure you're doing the right things to get closer to?
00:16:47.520 Well, look, it takes a little bit of imagination and it's not a perfect science.
00:16:53.240 So the first thing that I do is I decide where I want to be.
00:16:58.620 All right.
00:16:59.120 Most people don't ever take the time to decide where they want to be in life.
00:17:02.940 They don't think about it.
00:17:04.480 They think more about what they're going to do on Friday night than what they think about
00:17:07.800 they're going to do for their whole life.
00:17:09.380 So you have to take some time to decide where it is you're going to go.
00:17:13.180 And that vision of where you're going to go should be as big as you can possibly comprehend
00:17:19.380 because you're actually way more capable than you realize you are right now.
00:17:23.460 And whatever vision you come up with at first, you're probably going to achieve in a relatively
00:17:27.900 short amount of time, meaning you could achieve that in less than 10 years.
00:17:31.840 I mean that as a short time.
00:17:33.400 Okay.
00:17:34.760 I don't mean six months.
00:17:36.080 I don't mean by the week, two weeks.
00:17:37.720 I mean a short amount of time over the scale of your life.
00:17:41.800 Okay.
00:17:42.000 So your big vision now that you take on now is probably going to be achieved pretty quick.
00:17:47.900 Like my first big vision that I had was I was flying on private jets and driving a Lamborghini.
00:17:53.240 And from the time I started visualizing that and working towards that goal, the time I achieved
00:17:58.120 it was like four years.
00:17:59.340 Right.
00:18:00.200 So like that.
00:18:01.940 And then I had to expand the vision.
00:18:03.900 Okay.
00:18:04.260 But here's what you do.
00:18:05.400 So make the vision as big as possible.
00:18:08.380 And then start breaking the steps backwards of how you would achieve that.
00:18:12.680 Okay.
00:18:13.180 What do I need to do to achieve that?
00:18:15.220 Where do I need to be here?
00:18:16.460 How do I need to build this and work backwards from that vision to where you are now?
00:18:21.080 And then start taking what I give you for free, which is the power list.
00:18:27.640 That's episode 16 in this feed. 0.99
00:18:29.420 Go fucking listen to it. 0.98
00:18:31.800 And use the power list as your day-to-day checklist on how far you are moving towards your day-to-day 1.00
00:18:39.320 wins.
00:18:39.720 Okay.
00:18:40.120 Because to get the big goal, you've got to make the steps happen between where you are
00:18:44.740 and there.
00:18:45.440 Right.
00:18:45.960 And then to make those steps happen, you have to execute on a day-by-day-by-day basis.
00:18:51.600 And it's that simple.
00:18:52.900 So it's breaking it down.
00:18:54.400 It's breaking down the big steps, the big, the big phases, then breaking it down to daily
00:18:58.520 actions and then executing on those particular actions.
00:19:02.080 Now, a lot of people get confused and they, you know, they don't really understand what
00:19:06.260 the power list is about.
00:19:07.320 And they write stuff in there like, you know, my power list, five things to do.
00:19:11.520 And they write like, you know, get better at, you know, uh, weightlifting or do a better
00:19:18.360 job of reading to my kids. 0.99
00:19:20.420 That's not what the fuck I'm talking about. 1.00
00:19:22.240 A lot of you guys do not know how to fucking listen. 1.00
00:19:24.960 Okay. 0.99
00:19:25.400 I'm giving you the tool in episode 16 that I have used to build multiple companies, not
00:19:32.620 one company, multiple, very successful companies.
00:19:36.600 Okay.
00:19:37.160 We're not talking about companies that are worth $10 million.
00:19:40.160 We're talking about companies that are worth billions of dollars.
00:19:43.540 All right. 0.99
00:19:44.880 This is the exact fucking system I use exactly the system. 0.99
00:19:49.040 And I give it to you for fucking free. 0.99
00:19:51.180 And somehow you guys don't fucking do it right. 0.99
00:19:54.360 Cause I see you post it. 0.99
00:19:56.440 Some of you guys posted on the internet and you put the wrong shit in there. 0.99
00:20:00.840 Like, bro, I can't help you if you're not willing to help yourself. 0.98
00:20:03.800 So go listen to episode 16.
00:20:06.960 Understand how that tool works.
00:20:08.920 Use it perfectly.
00:20:10.300 And then we will have a situation where you can learn how to start winning the day.
00:20:14.460 And if you win enough days, you win the week.
00:20:16.760 If you win enough weeks, you win the month.
00:20:18.920 If you win enough months, you win the year.
00:20:21.000 And if you win enough years, you win the life.
00:20:23.380 And it's that simple.
00:20:24.980 All right.
00:20:25.620 There's no magic outside of that.
00:20:27.800 This is why when you follow me on Instagram, you see me every single day doing certain things
00:20:33.180 every single day over and over and over and over again.
00:20:36.880 Trust me.
00:20:37.560 I could come up with more creative content to post for you guys. 0.99
00:20:40.680 I post that shit to prove a point. 0.98
00:20:42.980 The point is this. 1.00
00:20:44.080 It's the little monotonous, boring shit that builds the life that you're looking for. 0.99
00:20:50.660 All right. 0.99
00:20:51.520 And you have to do this every single day. 0.99
00:20:54.400 Most people cannot do the monotonous shit day in and day out, which is why they can't succeed. 0.99
00:21:00.160 They'll do it for 10 days. 0.99
00:21:01.860 They'll do it for two weeks.
00:21:03.380 They'll do it for 90 days, but they won't do it for their life.
00:21:06.600 And doing it for life is what it takes to build this vision that you have for yourself
00:21:12.180 into a real thing.
00:21:13.480 So I give you the tools, go use them.
00:21:18.200 And if you use them correct, I truly believe it's impossible to lose. 0.98
00:21:22.160 I believe it's impossible, impossible to fucking lose.
00:21:25.860 I believe that if you go listen to win the day, episode 16, and you follow that system 0.93
00:21:30.600 exactly as it's laid out, exactly as I tell you to, where you're writing critical tasks,
00:21:36.700 you're executing critical tasks, no more than five, okay?
00:21:40.100 And you're winning every single day.
00:21:41.440 And after 21 days, if you execute the same critical tasks, after 21 days, you remove that
00:21:46.100 critical task and replace it with a new one while continuing to do the one that you were
00:21:50.120 doing.
00:21:50.940 That doesn't mean you like, just go listen to the episode, follow it exactly, and it will 0.97
00:21:56.800 be impossible for you to fucking lose. 0.96
00:21:59.360 I love that. 0.97
00:22:01.600 Dude, one thing that I realized when I first got with you is like how small my goals actually
00:22:05.900 were to begin with.
00:22:07.140 And I think most people fall into that trap, right?
00:22:09.060 Like in high school, I remember the acronym that smart, make smart goals, right?
00:22:13.080 Yeah.
00:22:13.600 You know, smart, what is it?
00:22:14.880 Measurable, retainable, like all.
00:22:16.780 But like, you realize, like you said, like, I mean.
00:22:19.880 Well, who teaches you that?
00:22:20.840 Hold on, hold on.
00:22:21.980 The system, for sure.
00:22:23.040 Let's break this down.
00:22:25.400 Who teaches you that? 1.00
00:22:28.640 Same motherfucker. 1.00
00:22:29.240 Hold on. 1.00
00:22:29.940 Who made the poster that said small, measurable, attainable goals?
00:22:33.640 Who made that poster? 1.00
00:22:35.460 Someone didn't achieve shit. 1.00
00:22:36.960 That's why they're making fucking posters. 1.00
00:22:38.520 All right. 1.00
00:22:39.660 Okay.
00:22:40.360 You got to start listening to the right people. 1.00
00:22:42.240 You got to start listening to people who actually built the shit that you want to build 0.96
00:22:45.160 or have built significant things and could translate the methods that they use to build 0.97
00:22:49.580 them to whatever it is you're trying to build.
00:22:51.660 I am one of those people.
00:22:54.040 Okay.
00:22:55.580 If you listen to what I say, I can promise you, you're going to get a lot further than 0.99
00:22:58.620 what the fucking poster guy told you to do. 0.99
00:23:01.080 All right. 0.99
00:23:02.020 So pay attention to who you're learning from.
00:23:05.000 Pay attention to what people are saying. 0.99
00:23:06.760 Right now, we got every motherfucker on the internet posturing themselves as an actual 0.99
00:23:11.400 successful person. 1.00
00:23:12.400 They got a little microphone and they're talking and they got some good shit to say. 0.99
00:23:16.680 They probably heard me say it first. 0.99
00:23:18.000 All right.
00:23:18.860 And they sound credible.
00:23:21.460 Okay.
00:23:21.960 And they might be on that one message, but the importance of actually vetting who it is
00:23:27.940 you're listening to cannot be overstated because a lot of these people can hear a buzz clip
00:23:33.380 or hear a thing and repeat it or spin it in their own way.
00:23:36.540 But if they've not actually used that to build real things, then how do you know the rest
00:23:41.360 of their clips are actually true?
00:23:43.560 Right?
00:23:44.200 We have a lot of people out there that say small attainable goals, blah, blah, blah, blah,
00:23:48.220 blah. 1.00
00:23:48.560 And then you look at their life and their fucking life sucks. 1.00
00:23:51.460 And then you say, well, why does your life look so shitty? 1.00
00:23:54.480 And then they say, well, I choose to live a modest life. 1.00
00:23:57.120 You're full of shit, bro. 1.00
00:23:58.840 You're not successful. 1.00
00:24:00.260 You're barely making it.
00:24:01.440 You're scraping by on the internet, dude. 1.00
00:24:03.740 Like you don't know what the fuck you're talking about. 0.99
00:24:05.780 And there's a 97% of those people to the 3% of actual credible people that are doing 1.00
00:24:12.200 real shit that can teach you real shit from their experience. 0.97
00:24:15.340 Okay. 1.00
00:24:16.000 So I'm not saying this to dog anybody out.
00:24:18.880 I'm saying this for your benefit. 0.98
00:24:20.380 You need to vet who it is you're fucking listening to and see what they've actually done. 0.97
00:24:26.840 Because if you just listen to some dude, you have no idea whether or not that information 0.98
00:24:33.400 is correct or incorrect. 0.88
00:24:34.420 You know, like, I like, dude, I saw this fucking just because it looks good. 0.99
00:24:38.360 I saw this fucking has been celebrity dude on a fucking internet last night. 0.99
00:24:42.820 And he's talking about, I own only two cars. 1.00
00:24:45.500 And I got, you know, this old ass fucking beater car and blah, blah, blah. 1.00
00:24:49.720 Like it's some sort of virtuous shit. 1.00
00:24:51.340 And all I wanted to do is like go in the video live and be like, yeah, you own that old 0.99
00:24:55.860 beater, bro. 0.97
00:24:56.440 Cause you haven't been relevant in 30 fucking years. 1.00
00:24:58.420 Right. 0.98
00:24:59.260 Like, dude, I'm so tired of all these people making excuses about why they choose to live 1.00
00:25:03.320 these shitty fucking lives. 1.00
00:25:04.520 But somehow they're enlightened and virtuous and know everything more than everybody else. 1.00
00:25:08.960 There's no virtue in living below what it is you're supposed to live.
00:25:12.320 You don't have to have a hundred cars.
00:25:14.260 You don't have to have a Lamborghini. 1.00
00:25:16.480 You don't have to have a big house, but these motherfuckers sell you their fucking lack of 1.00
00:25:21.340 success is virtue. 1.00
00:25:22.700 And y'all fucking buy it. 0.99
00:25:25.180 Okay. 1.00
00:25:25.800 I don't want to learn from some fucking theoretical fucking has been. 1.00
00:25:29.900 I want to learn from someone who's kicking ass and you should too. 0.99
00:25:33.500 And it's very important to your future that you listen to the right people. 0.95
00:25:36.540 I love it, man.
00:25:38.100 Andy, question number three, Andy, I just realized the college isn't for me.
00:25:44.260 I don't really have any inspirations to become an entrepreneur, but I know that I want to
00:25:49.460 contribute to something bigger than myself.
00:25:52.220 What are three skills that I should be focusing on and developing to become an asset to a company
00:25:59.300 or mission as I haven't really been in the workforce before this?
00:26:03.880 That's a good question.
00:26:05.440 And it shows good awareness, too.
00:26:07.240 You know, I like the fact that they say, you know, I'm not really sure entrepreneurship's
00:26:11.900 for me, because now, right now, that's the opposite of the trend. 0.99
00:26:15.260 Everybody thinks they're a fucking entrepreneur. 0.98
00:26:17.540 Everybody pretends to be an entrepreneur and very few people actually are entrepreneurs. 0.98
00:26:22.240 And so I admire the awareness that this person has, that they're trying to become a good
00:26:26.520 entrepreneur and a contributing member to a company, because that's the path of success
00:26:31.100 for most of you listening.
00:26:32.980 Most of you listening are going to become an amazing contributing entrepreneur, and you're
00:26:37.020 going to make a fuck ton of money and have a fuckload of fun working inside an organization
00:26:41.240 that you help build.
00:26:42.420 That's going to be most of your path.
00:26:43.860 And by the way, much easier path, much easier path. 0.99
00:26:47.000 You don't have to carry the weight of everything on your fucking shoulders 24 hours a day, 365 0.99
00:26:51.560 days a year. 1.00
00:26:52.440 It's a completely different fucking game. 0.99
00:26:54.360 And it's just a lot easier to win. 0.99
00:26:58.020 So I admire that.
00:26:59.200 Three skills that will help you to become an amazing entrepreneur.
00:27:07.920 The first one, none of you are going to be shocked, is mental toughness.
00:27:12.260 All right.
00:27:13.100 The biggest problem that most people have is that they do not lack the discipline to follow
00:27:18.640 through on the plan that they set for themselves.
00:27:21.940 All right.
00:27:22.240 99.9% of failures in life come from your inability to adhere to what you say you're going to
00:27:30.420 do.
00:27:31.040 All right.
00:27:31.680 So we must fix that.
00:27:32.960 If you can fix that, if you can fix the problem with yourself, that you cannot follow the plan
00:27:39.540 that you lay out for yourself and actually transform yourself into someone who can execute the plan,
00:27:45.640 not only on the days they feel like it, but especially good on the days they don't feel like it.
00:27:50.880 That makes you an unstoppable force.
00:27:53.040 There's nothing that can stop you.
00:27:54.680 All right.
00:27:55.260 So mental toughness, which encompasses the qualities of many, many different things.
00:27:59.580 One, discipline.
00:28:00.760 Okay.
00:28:01.200 Two, grit, fortitude, belief, self-esteem, confidence, the ability to endure pain, the ability to
00:28:09.040 suffer, the ability to do things when you don't feel like doing them.
00:28:12.520 These things all make up what I call mental toughness.
00:28:16.600 Okay. 0.98
00:28:16.820 And this is the fucking main driving skillset for any successful person, simply because it 0.98
00:28:25.620 allows them to adhere to a game plan that they set out for themselves. 0.97
00:28:29.800 Most people cannot win, not because they don't have the skills, not because they don't have
00:28:34.440 the brainpower, not because they're not one of the chosen few lucky ones, but because they
00:28:39.340 cannot adhere.
00:28:40.400 People are fat, not because they don't know what to do.
00:28:44.960 It's because they can't adhere to the program.
00:28:47.520 People are poor, not because they don't know what to do, but because they can't do it for
00:28:52.780 years and years and years and years on end.
00:28:54.760 So you have to fix that problem first.
00:28:56.940 Okay. 0.95
00:28:57.400 And that one problem, that one skillset will fix fucking almost everything in your life. 0.88
00:29:02.320 Literally everything. 0.98
00:29:03.200 So commit to becoming a mentally tough person.
00:29:06.560 Again, it's another thing I give away.
00:29:08.680 Guess what?
00:29:09.360 For free.
00:29:10.300 Okay.
00:29:10.820 And you go listen to episode 208.
00:29:12.780 You can go to 75hard.com.
00:29:14.680 It's a free program. 0.85
00:29:16.580 Go fucking do it and do the whole live hard program, which starts at 75 hard. 0.99
00:29:21.480 Then it has phase one, two, and three, and it lasts for a year. 0.99
00:29:24.880 It's not a year straight.
00:29:26.540 It's multiple phases broken up through the year.
00:29:29.240 It accounts for less than half of your year.
00:29:31.160 And if you do that for one year, you will become someone who is so much better than literally 0.90
00:29:38.740 everyone else that you fucking know at what I'm talking about, which is the adherence of 0.94
00:29:43.000 following through. 0.99
00:29:43.980 Okay.
00:29:44.540 And being resilient, being gritty, being tough, being confident.
00:29:49.240 It will change everything in your life for one year.
00:29:52.200 Okay.
00:29:53.420 So that's the first thing I would do.
00:29:55.400 The second thing that I would do, the second skillset that I would pour myself into if I
00:30:01.140 were going to become a high earning intrapreneur is sales.
00:30:06.600 All right.
00:30:07.720 And the reason why sales, because sales, people who can sell get paid the most money.
00:30:11.700 It's a special skillset that most people can't do.
00:30:14.540 All right.
00:30:15.240 And even if you're not going to be a professional salesperson, and let's say you're going to be
00:30:20.020 a graphic designer, or let's say you're going to be a videographer, or let's say you're going
00:30:24.460 to help make content, or let's say you're going to do something else in the company.
00:30:29.000 It all comes down to sales.
00:30:31.000 So you must understand the sales process for you to be effective at what you do. 0.97
00:30:36.300 And you're probably thinking, well, if I'm a graphic designer, well, why the fuck do I 0.97
00:30:40.020 need to know about sales? 1.00
00:30:40.800 Because dumb ass, uh, your graphic designs are going to contribute to us selling shit. 1.00
00:30:45.420 All right. 1.00
00:30:46.080 So like, if you can't translate the sales process in your mind to the graphic or the 0.99
00:30:50.860 video or the content that you create, you are literally fucking worthless. 0.99
00:30:54.580 All right. 0.98
00:30:55.380 So learning how to sell massive skillset, the best way to learn how to sell is to go get 0.98
00:31:01.720 a retail job, go get a fucking retail job and work the floor of a retail job for six, 0.98
00:31:08.580 seven months, maybe a year. 0.99
00:31:10.620 You could still do other things, make it a part-time job.
00:31:13.340 Okay.
00:31:14.440 I learned at least 90% of what I share with you guys working in my retail company,
00:31:22.560 supplement super stores, which I started in 1999 with $12,000.
00:31:26.260 Okay.
00:31:28.160 You learn about people, you learn how to communicate with people, you learn how to,
00:31:31.900 how to deal with people.
00:31:32.760 You learn how to deal with positive people, negative people, pissed off people. 0.98
00:31:35.520 You learn everything you fucking need to know about sales in, in real life, practical 0.98
00:31:40.660 application by working retail. 0.99
00:31:42.740 It's a fucking amazing thing. 0.98
00:31:44.760 Most people don't like retail and that's why most people never learn how to sell properly. 0.99
00:31:48.780 Okay.
00:31:49.080 Now there's lots of, there's lots of programs on how to sell.
00:31:52.800 There's lots of cool catchphrases.
00:31:54.560 There's lots of techniques.
00:31:55.680 There's lots of copywriting programs and courses that teach you how to sell on e-com and all this 0.87
00:32:00.140 shit, all valuable stuff.
00:32:02.500 Okay. 0.99
00:32:03.160 But the basis of learning how to sell is in person because selling is always person to 1.00
00:32:08.960 person, whether you think it is or not, you're getting inside that motherfucker's head and 1.00
00:32:14.080 figuring out what it's going to take for them to fucking buy your shit. 1.00
00:32:17.140 And that's going to take you standing in front of them and listening to them and hearing what 1.00
00:32:20.580 they have to say over and over and over and over and over and over and over until you 0.99
00:32:24.700 fucking heard it all, all of it. 0.99
00:32:26.900 Okay. 0.99
00:32:27.300 So that's the second thing, sales.
00:32:30.000 Okay.
00:32:30.160 Third thing, how to manage a team.
00:32:32.860 All right.
00:32:34.620 There's lots of books on this, but again, this is something that you have to practice.
00:32:39.640 Okay.
00:32:40.060 And by the way, public speaking is part of that, of how to manage a team.
00:32:44.300 So that's, that's something that's going to be more difficult for you to learn because in the
00:32:49.660 beginning, nobody's going to put you in charge of a team, right?
00:32:52.040 Right.
00:32:52.240 So there's this thing called peer leadership, all right, where you have to take charge and
00:32:57.720 make the team, your team, even though you're not awarded the team.
00:33:01.880 All right.
00:33:02.380 This means you have to become a peer leader.
00:33:04.980 All right.
00:33:06.660 That means you have to perform a high level.
00:33:08.420 You have to live at a high standard. 0.98
00:33:09.460 You have to do all the right shit and you have to understand that people will do what 0.99
00:33:12.700 you do, not what you tell them to do. 0.99
00:33:14.340 All right.
00:33:15.820 So working on those three skills.
00:33:17.880 And by the way, there's tons, there's tons of books on how to lead a team.
00:33:21.720 A lot of really good ones.
00:33:23.280 One of my favorite books is the five dysfunctions of a team.
00:33:27.080 I can summarize it for you right now.
00:33:28.720 It's very simple.
00:33:30.280 Everybody wants to be heard, but they want the best decision made for them.
00:33:33.340 And they don't want you to just dictate.
00:33:34.780 They want to be heard.
00:33:35.540 They want to contribute their ideas. 1.00
00:33:36.740 They want to be a part of the fucking team. 0.99
00:33:38.420 And if you don't allow them to be part of the team, you won't have a good team. 1.00
00:33:41.140 All right.
00:33:41.380 The book explains how to do that perfectly.
00:33:43.660 Step by step by step by telling good stories about it.
00:33:45.940 I'd read it if you want to learn how to manage teams.
00:33:48.280 There's plenty of books about coaching.
00:33:50.260 Bill Belichick, Nick Saban. 1.00
00:33:51.580 These guys, they understand how to run fucking teams. 1.00
00:33:54.200 Your business guru selling $997 course that you never fucking heard of. 1.00
00:33:58.560 Probably the wrong guy to learn about for a fucking team. 1.00
00:34:00.880 All right. 1.00
00:34:01.760 Go study the greats.
00:34:03.420 Go study the John Woodens.
00:34:05.300 Go study the Vince Lombardi's.
00:34:07.280 Go study the greatest coaches.
00:34:10.000 The Nick Saban's.
00:34:10.720 The Bill Belichick's.
00:34:12.180 These guys will show you how to run a team.
00:34:14.500 Okay.
00:34:14.760 So we have mental toughness, sales, and the management of a team.
00:34:19.860 Those three things will make you as much or as little of money as you decide to execute on.
00:34:25.660 That's it. 0.98
00:34:26.060 Those are the three fucking core skills that if you want to win, you must understand. 0.98
00:34:30.500 I love that, man. 0.99
00:34:31.460 I fucking love that. 0.98
00:34:32.100 Well, we got a little bit of time left. 0.99
00:34:34.100 Let's get some special sauce in there.
00:34:35.540 Is that three?
00:34:35.940 That was three.
00:34:36.600 Okay.
00:34:36.940 That was three.
00:34:38.500 Special sauce question, guys.
00:34:40.180 Andy, question number four.
00:34:42.480 Andy, when speaking of personal excellence and practicing it, if you see a friend, a close friend, or a family member not living up to their best, do you intervene?
00:34:52.220 And if so, how?
00:34:55.000 You tell me.
00:34:57.260 Why don't you tell me if I intervene?
00:35:00.360 Tell them.
00:35:00.820 You absolutely intervene. 0.99
00:35:01.940 Yeah, I fucking do. 0.99
00:35:02.880 Yeah, it's obligation. 0.99
00:35:03.800 You know why I do that? 0.93
00:35:05.240 Because I fucking love the people around me. 0.96
00:35:07.600 And I tell them the truth. 0.96
00:35:08.740 And it ain't always fun.
00:35:10.100 I got to have uncomfortable conversations almost every single day.
00:35:13.480 And people don't like it. 1.00
00:35:14.540 There's a lot of days that people leave and they're like, man, fuck him. 1.00
00:35:17.780 Fuck that guy. 1.00
00:35:18.700 But eventually, when they calm the fuck down, they realize, bro, I'm trying to fucking win. 1.00
00:35:22.380 I'm trying to win to help you. 0.99
00:35:23.920 I'm trying to help you win.
00:35:25.360 All right?
00:35:25.700 So, if you're not living to your standard and you're around me and my vicinity, like, this is why most people can't handle me, like, being around me, bro.
00:35:33.900 Because it hurts their feelings too much.
00:35:35.500 You know, like, I expect excellence if you're going to be in my circle.
00:35:39.620 And if you don't deliver that, you're not going to be in my circle.
00:35:43.760 It's very simple.
00:35:45.280 And, you know, I wasn't always that way.
00:35:49.780 And you know why I think people struggle with this?
00:35:53.580 I think people struggle with it because they don't live it themselves.
00:35:57.120 I think most people, most people see other people doing things and it would be easier for them to intervene. 0.99
00:36:04.700 And they don't realize, like, you're not even living the shit that you want this person to live. 0.99
00:36:09.460 Right? 1.00
00:36:09.740 And this goes for bosses or leaders or managers or big brothers or fucking friends or whatever. 1.00
00:36:16.120 You know, just because you're a little bit less fat than the other guy doesn't mean you're still not a fucking fat ass, bro. 0.99
00:36:21.740 You know, just because you got a little bit more money than that guy doesn't mean you're living at your highest potential. 0.99
00:36:25.920 So, the first thing you've got to do if you really want to, if you really care about the people around you is you have to live your high standard.
00:36:33.080 You have to live it, dude.
00:36:34.380 You have to live it, bro.
00:36:35.580 There's no way around it.
00:36:37.180 If I didn't live the standard that I live, none of you would listen to me.
00:36:41.720 None of you listening to this show right now would even listen.
00:36:44.120 You wouldn't listen.
00:36:45.600 Okay?
00:36:45.940 And your friends and family, they're not going to listen to you unless you're living it.
00:36:49.600 It's just the way it is.
00:36:50.700 So, yeah, man, I do intervene.
00:36:53.040 And I intervene because I understand that true kindness and true love is telling people the truth about what's going on.
00:37:00.580 And you have to be willing to, like, ruffle feathers and be disliked for a little bit for that to happen.
00:37:08.020 And sometimes people don't like you and they don't like you forever.
00:37:10.040 But really, that's just a quicker weeding out process. 1.00
00:37:12.660 You know, like, there's a lot of people walking around and say, fuck, Andy Fursell is a fucking dick. 1.00
00:37:17.780 It's not that I'm a dick, bro. 1.00
00:37:18.780 I just have high standards and you didn't meet him. 1.00
00:37:20.660 And now you think I'm a jerk about fucking holding you to a standard. 1.00
00:37:23.460 Right. 0.99
00:37:23.960 So it's like, was there a realization that you had to come to to understand that, like, you know, not everybody in the world is going to be capable of rowing the boat with you. 0.96
00:37:33.260 Some people are just going to be fucking anchors. 0.95
00:37:35.180 And that's what it is. 0.99
00:37:35.920 And I think that's a really good point you bring up, bro.
00:37:38.400 Because I think a lot of times, you know, we want all our friends and all our family and everybody to come with us because it sounds cool.
00:37:44.800 Right.
00:37:45.100 But it's just not reality, man.
00:37:47.900 And if you wait around for all the people to come with you, you're never going to get where you want to go yourself because you're always going to be rowing the boat the hardest. 0.98
00:37:55.160 And these motherfuckers are going to be rowing at different paces. 1.00
00:37:57.140 You're going to go in circles because that's what happens. 1.00
00:37:59.340 You got left hand side of the boat rowing at fucking one mile an hour. 0.97
00:38:02.980 You got the right hand rowing at three. 0.98
00:38:04.920 And it doesn't matter which way I tell the boat to go. 0.99
00:38:06.760 The boat's going to go in a fucking circle. 0.97
00:38:08.000 OK, so if you if you have your friends in the boat and they're the ones rowing at one and you got your A players over here and they're rowing at three, you still can't get anywhere because the ones are fucking enough for everybody. 0.97
00:38:19.980 And so you have to realize that it's not just about your life.
00:38:22.840 It's about the other people who are the A players that are along the ride with you that these people are holding back and you have to be willing to cut them off the roster.
00:38:30.260 And that's just, you know, I know you want the best for those people.
00:38:33.740 I like, bro, I have a lot of people in my life over the years who I really wanted the best for.
00:38:39.680 And at the time, you know, they weren't on the same vibe.
00:38:43.000 And by the way, there was it went the opposite way, too, bro. 1.00
00:38:45.400 Remember, I was a fat fucking lazy piece of shit for a long time. 1.00
00:38:48.780 There was a lot of people who tried to get me to wake the fuck up that I hated. 1.00
00:38:51.960 And then, you know, but I wasn't ready to do it.
00:38:54.540 And so, you know, there's timing involved in all of these things.
00:38:58.540 But I truly believe that we do have a responsibility to hold the people that we care about most to a higher standard after we're holding ourselves to the highest possible standard. 1.00
00:39:10.660 So the first step is take care of your own shit. 0.98
00:39:13.080 The second step and assess it honestly, dude, like you're like this person saying, you know, oh, I family members. 1.00
00:39:19.640 Isn't that what they said?
00:39:20.860 Yeah.
00:39:21.200 If you see a friend or family member living up.
00:39:23.280 Yeah.
00:39:23.500 Yeah.
00:39:23.840 OK, well, what standard are you living, dude? 1.00
00:39:25.840 Come in here and take your clothes off and let's have a fucking talk. 1.00
00:39:28.540 Yeah. 1.00
00:39:28.840 You know, keep your underwear on, bro.
00:39:30.460 You know, please keep your underwear.
00:39:32.320 Yeah.
00:39:32.760 I'm just saying.
00:39:34.160 But we'll have a talk about standards.
00:39:35.840 Yeah.
00:39:36.480 OK, let me look at your bank account.
00:39:38.060 We'll have a talk about standards.
00:39:39.580 Let's go look inside your car.
00:39:40.620 Let's go.
00:39:41.000 Let's go look at it.
00:39:41.760 Let's go look at your house.
00:39:42.840 Let's look at everything.
00:39:44.220 We'll have a talk about standards and then we'll decide whether or not you actually live in the highest standard possible.
00:39:48.420 That's going to allow those people to also hear what you're trying to say, because here's the thing, bro.
00:39:54.720 I actually posted about this this morning.
00:39:58.540 If you are not living your highest standard and you're talking to someone about higher standards, how do they believe that it's even possible if you're not even living?
00:40:10.620 So you have to show them before they can believe it.
00:40:14.020 All right.
00:40:14.560 That's why it's important for you to do all the work that you need to do on you so that they can see that you went from the same as them to this new thing.
00:40:22.120 And then when they start recognizing that you went to this greater, higher, better version of yourself, guess what they start thinking? 1.00
00:40:29.800 Fuck, dude. 1.00
00:40:31.340 I might be able to do that. 1.00
00:40:32.620 How'd you do that?
00:40:33.300 OK, and now you have an opening to actually influence them the proper way.
00:40:38.300 Yeah.
00:40:38.640 You see what I'm saying? 0.99
00:40:39.380 Because I fucking know if Andy fucking did it, bro. 0.99
00:40:41.660 Yeah, bro. 0.99
00:40:42.540 Yeah.
00:40:43.040 You know what I'm saying?
00:40:43.680 That's beautiful.
00:40:44.520 It's the way it is, dude.
00:40:45.860 So we have to inspire people by our own actions and results. 0.94
00:40:49.040 And something I've been saying a lot lately, which is the fucking truth, bro, is no one is going to give a fuck about your words until your actions and your results are undeniable. 0.96
00:41:01.480 The words come after the results, not before the results. 0.98
00:41:06.280 And if you try to put them before the results, nobody's going to listen.
00:41:10.340 So you have to understand this.
00:41:13.000 Your words are only relevant if your actions and your results are aligned with the words that you speak.
00:41:20.680 Then people will listen.
00:41:22.360 Without the actions and results part, the edifying part of the puzzle, you cannot be credible.
00:41:28.840 People will not listen to you. 0.94
00:41:30.140 This is why so many of you try to make so much content and it never fucking goes. 0.95
00:41:33.980 You know why? 0.99
00:41:34.760 Because you're putting the cart before the motherfucking horse. 0.99
00:41:36.720 You're putting the hope for results in front of the actual grind work, right? 0.99
00:41:41.980 We see this all the time, dude.
00:41:43.800 Like, how many, like, dude, and this is no shade to you guys, okay?
00:41:46.180 I appreciate you guys trying real hard.
00:41:47.880 I really do.
00:41:48.940 But you see these dudes, they're making these podcast sets, right?
00:41:51.800 And they're sitting, they don't even have a real podcast.
00:41:54.040 And they're sitting in front of this thing and they're trying to make this content and they want all these people to listen to them.
00:41:59.620 Except the first thing that people say when they see you talking is, who is this guy?
00:42:03.540 What's he done?
00:42:04.880 What's he do?
00:42:05.520 And whatever comes after that is going to decide if they're going to continue to listen or not listen.
00:42:10.580 And too many of you guys are trying to get them to listen without that part of it where it's not going to work out well for you. 1.00
00:42:16.560 So you'd be better off just putting your fucking head down, bro. 1.00
00:42:20.620 Documenting the grind. 1.00
00:42:21.900 Documenting the process.
00:42:23.080 Telling the wins and losses along the journey.
00:42:25.200 That way people are witnessing your journey, okay? 1.00
00:42:28.560 And that way when you do become that higher, greater version, you have a whole bunch of people who are like, fuck, dude. 0.99
00:42:33.040 I watched him do it. 0.99
00:42:33.920 Which, by the way, that's what I got going on. 0.99
00:42:36.280 I've been doing this internet shit since 2000 fucking 10. 0.98
00:42:39.380 You see what I'm saying? 0.99
00:42:40.420 How many people, how many of you guys listen to the show have watched me do this over the last fucking decade plus? 0.99
00:42:45.280 A lot of you. 0.67
00:42:46.920 That's why the show has good listenership.
00:42:49.520 Okay?
00:42:49.780 So a lot of you guys are trying to do something. 0.99
00:42:51.640 And I'm saying this in an empathetic way because I fucking give a fuck about you guys. 0.99
00:42:56.240 A lot of you guys are trying to put the fucking cart before the horse. 0.99
00:43:00.080 And you need to go produce some results. 0.99
00:43:01.980 Otherwise, people are never going to listen.
00:43:04.240 I love it, man. 0.97
00:43:05.900 I fucking love it. 0.96
00:43:06.780 Guys, Andy, that was four. 0.98
00:43:08.580 Yeah. 1.00
00:43:08.860 Don't be a whore. 1.00
00:43:11.220 Went from sleeping on the floor. 1.00
00:43:13.540 Now my jewelry box froze. 1.00
00:43:15.240 Fuck a bowl. 1.00
00:43:16.040 Fuck a stove. 1.00
00:43:16.900 Counted millions in the cold. 1.00
00:43:18.580 Bad bitch. 1.00
00:43:19.420 Booty swole. 1.00
00:43:20.240 Got her on bankroll.
00:43:21.880 Can't fold.
00:43:22.760 That's a no.
00:43:23.560 Headshot.
00:43:24.420 Case closed.
00:43:25.140 Closed.
00:43:25.540 Pause.
00:43:43.020 Bye-bye.
00:43:48.760 Bye-bye.
00:43:50.020 Bye-bye.
00:43:51.620 Bye-bye.
00:43:52.380 Bye-bye.
00:43:52.740 Bye-bye.
00:43:54.320 Bye-bye.
00:43:54.920 Bye-bye.
00:43:55.040 Bye-bye.