REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 522. #75HARD vs Nicholas Salvatore

00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality.

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00:00:35.900 OK, and today some of you might have guessed because you clicked on the link. We have a 75 hard versus episode.

00:00:42.880 For those of you that don't know, I am the creator of the live hard program. 75 hard is the first phase of that program.

00:00:49.140 If you haven't heard of it, I don't know where you've been because it's probably the most popular mental toughness program that's ever existed.

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00:02:00.560 Now. We've got a special guest here, a guy I've been friends with for quite a few years.

00:02:05.940 We actually became friends through 75 hard. Mr. Nick Salvatore. What's happening, bro?

00:02:11.580 Not much, man. Thank you for having me. Yeah, it's great to have you here now.

00:02:14.320 Now. You're not just this. Nick isn't just a guy who's done 75 hard.

00:02:20.900 He he helps run and is the main guy that runs the Facebook group, the official face group, face group, face group book.

00:02:28.840 OK, that's what we're going to call it today. Run the face group book of 75 hard.

00:02:34.980 And has really helped navigate the entire help bring clarity to the entire program for lots and lots of people.

00:02:41.220 So so I wanted to get you on today, bro, to talk about your personal journey, what 70, how you found 75 hard, what what it means to you, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.

00:02:50.000 And then also we'll get into the group and then also, you know, some of the things where people get off track or confused about.

00:02:55.540 For sure. And address those at scale. So but it's good to have you here, bro.

00:02:59.360 Yeah, this is, you know, I came in and kind of came in on a whirlwind, haven't gotten a chance to to take the the nickel tour yet.

00:03:09.280 Yeah, I'm looking forward to it. Amazing as it stands.

00:03:14.060 And and look, man, it's it's it's an honor.

00:03:17.180 You know, you and I have been connected for a good while now.

00:03:20.360 Yeah. And and so for me, just want to try to help some people.

00:03:25.400 Yeah. And and and and, you know, this is such a great cause and it's such a great tool for people in every aspect of their life that, you know,

00:03:35.560 I think the ability to be able to help some of those people today through this, not only as they listen to it when it comes out,

00:03:41.800 but in the future when they find it, you know, hopefully we can kind of rubber stamp this thing and use it as a little bit of a point to tool for for future people as well.

00:03:53.020 Yeah, for sure, bro. I mean, you now if I remember right, you jumped in right at the beginning, I think when I was doing it.

00:04:00.140 I'm very at the very beginning. No. So I started I started probably about six months after you started.

00:04:07.300 OK, so where you're probably thinking about that is so for me, I basically my journey towards kind of where I am now.

00:04:16.220 And as we move forward, started end of 2018, early 2019, before you started talking about the program.

00:04:24.340 OK, you started talking about the program where I think the original podcast was February of 19.

00:04:29.140 And so I was already kind of on this personal betterment, like personal development path on the mental side.

00:04:37.660 But, dude, I was I was a tub of shit. You know, I was like three hundred and seventy five pounds.

00:04:42.100 You're a big dude. How tall are you? Six five. Yeah. So and former athlete, you've been an athlete your whole life.

00:04:48.060 Yeah, all my life. And look, you know, I was just it was it was, you know, oh, you know, you're a big guy, but you carry it well and yada, yada, yada.

00:04:55.780 So but yeah, I kind of reached a point at the end of 2018, 2019, where I I caught a reflection of myself washing one of my cars in the mirror or in the window of the driver's side.

00:05:09.240 And, dude, I was I was fat. I was descended. I never shirt on. And I was like, that can't be me.

00:05:15.580 Yeah, it was it was it was like it was like I've never in my life been clinically like diagnosed with depression or anything like that.

00:05:25.360 But I mean, I felt that way. And I was at a point in my life where I was like, there's got to be more than this.

00:05:32.660 And that started that personal betterment journey. But again, that was a couple of months before 75.

00:05:37.600 75 started, quite frankly, like a lot of other people look at it like, man, that's that's heavy.

00:05:44.520 That's a lot. And so what I what I got to is like when you talked about it, because I consumed your content for years prior on MFCEO.

00:05:53.600 My work as a managing director for our global investment bank, I was listening for entrepreneur skills.

00:06:00.980 I was listening for all of those things. And so when I heard you talk about it, I knew I needed to do it.

00:06:08.200 And so for me, I was kind of in that process of migration process of getting towards it.

00:06:15.200 So I eventually started it, you know, early that summer.

00:06:19.660 And then the way you and I originally connected formally was when my before after pictures was like 70 or 61 pounds.

00:06:28.820 The first go around. Yeah. Got down into the low three hundreds.

00:06:33.640 That hashtag kind of went viral. Right. That you were real active on.

00:06:37.300 You reached out. You're like, bro, that's awesome. And then we just picked it up.

00:06:40.660 And obviously, we have a lot of commonalities beyond that.

00:06:43.560 Yeah. We started talking cars, cars, watches, houses.

00:06:47.760 I mean, good shit. Like stuff from the MFCEO project that that, you know, you go out and crush it that you love.

00:06:53.840 But but yeah, that's cool, man. So let's talk about this, dude.

00:06:58.960 So you're you're at this place of all time dissatisfaction.

00:07:03.480 Yep. Fair to say. Yeah.

00:07:05.960 And you hear about the program and you're like, all right, I know I need this.

00:07:09.980 I need to go. Talk about the program the first time you went through it, because you've you've been through a few different times.

00:07:16.520 Yeah. So. And like, let's, you know, like.

00:07:21.960 We're trying to remember as someone who never did it.

00:07:25.240 Yeah. You know, well, let's start here.

00:07:28.640 And that is there was no app when I did it. That's right.

00:07:31.940 We'll start with that. Yeah.

00:07:32.920 Um, my, uh, living in Texas at the time, I had a big roll of pink butcher paper that we used to wrap briskets in.

00:07:40.240 And I tore off a big piece of it and I hung it up in my kitchen and I got my ass out of Sharpie and I wrote down.

00:07:47.600 W. O. One. W. O. Two. W. B. P. Right.

00:07:54.260 And for those of you, right. Workout one, workout two, water, photo, right, food, et cetera, and just cross them off each day.

00:08:02.880 And it was in it literally got to the point where I was putting a piece of butcher paper on top of butcher paper.

00:08:07.220 But for me, um, you know, mine, mine initially, um, everything was outside.

00:08:13.900 Um, got a, an 80 pound weighted vest.

00:08:17.400 And what I did was, is that I started my workouts and, um, initially I started with nothing.

00:08:23.920 Um, and as I lost weight, I added that back on with the vest.

00:08:28.900 And so eventually I got to the end of it there where, um, I was having the cops called in my neighborhood because I looked like a madman walking around with what they thought.

00:08:36.880 Right.

00:08:37.480 Dude, I had cops coming up to me.

00:08:38.880 And they're like, you know, people would call in shit cause I'd be walking roads and, and, and they'd be like, who the, who the fuck is this psycho that's walking, right.

00:08:47.700 You know, in Texas, 95 degrees.

00:08:49.700 Right.

00:08:49.960 Yeah.

00:08:50.420 So, um, we started there, but it's funny, dude, cause it's funny that you say that because I remember that back in those days, it's fun.

00:08:57.680 It, it, it, it, like it actually showed it's a testament to the cultural power of the program because that was common when we, when everybody first started doing 75 hard.

00:09:07.820 Yep.

00:09:08.220 I heard that story all the time.

00:09:09.660 That shit doesn't happen the same way anymore.

00:09:11.220 I think people are starting to figure out, oh no, that guy's just out there doing something.

00:09:14.940 Dude, it was, it was, it was what, but getting to your original question, the thing that I loved about it, um, I loved working out.

00:09:21.460 I loved finding the worst weather possible to work out into.

00:09:23.900 We didn't have snow of course there, but you know, uh, tropical storms down there.

00:09:28.360 Yeah.

00:09:28.960 Hurricanes.

00:09:29.240 Um, you know, because the thing that got me, that got me going was knowing that I was out there doing something when nobody else was willing to put in the time and the effort.

00:09:40.360 Yeah, bro.

00:09:40.960 And so, um, so I did that.

00:09:43.180 Um, look, man, it's fucking hard.

00:09:45.200 It's hard.

00:09:46.200 Um, it sucks.

00:09:47.640 Um, it's designed to suck.

00:09:49.000 It's supposed to suck all the, all the different phases of the process that you talk about in terms of when you feel like you're on top of the mountain, when you first start versus getting your shit kicked in like three weeks in, then you hit that cruise control point.

00:10:02.220 Then you're in that no man's land where your body's destroyed, like they 50 or 60.

00:10:06.620 Yeah.

00:10:07.160 And then you kind of get that finish line interview.

00:10:09.200 And then the, the, I think the biggest thing for the people that do it the first time, and I see it over and over again, is this feeling of loss that happens the final couple of days where people don't realize that, that they, they realize they're getting better.

00:10:27.620 They realize the commitment that they've made to themselves and they realize that they are, they're, they're receiving the, the, and they actually legitimately feel for themselves for the first time, the grit and the determination, the self-worth and the fortitude and the conviction that they're doing tough shit and they don't want to regress.

00:10:46.360 And so they, they get this feeling of loss and people talk about it on the group all the time.

00:10:51.080 Like, how do you deal with it?

00:10:51.860 I'm like, you keep going.

00:10:53.120 Yeah.

00:10:53.520 Because the very point, the very next day, because I went straight into phase one, went 105 straight days, but here's the thing.

00:11:01.600 If on day 76, you wake up and you do all the same shit, not because Andy for sale is pissed off on you on a fucking app, but you do it for your fucking self for the very first time ever.

00:11:19.480 That immediately is gone.

00:11:21.340 Yeah.

00:11:21.780 Those concerns.

00:11:22.780 And all of a sudden in that moment, you step in to what you now actually are.

00:11:29.360 It's, it's the anticipation of the loss of the structure and the guide framework.

00:11:34.480 Right.

00:11:34.960 And we don't really ever know how disciplined we are until we don't have that framework.

00:11:41.220 And so people say this to me all the time.

00:11:43.500 They're like, well, dude, I just want to stay on the program all the time, but that's not the point.

00:11:47.600 The point is over the course of a year, you're going to do 75 days, which is going to recondition you to think and feel and see yourself differently.

00:11:56.500 And then over the course of the rest of the year, you're going to have three 30 day runs that help tune you up to that.

00:12:02.440 They help make you a little better.

00:12:03.820 A lot of people are confused about the, uh, the break between phase one and phase two, right?

00:12:08.860 They're like, why is there a break?

00:12:09.920 Like, why can't we just do them together?

00:12:11.020 Because you don't know if it's working until you're not on the program and you're supposed to test yourself with that.

00:12:17.060 Um, but dude, I love that, man.

00:12:19.860 Uh, you know, the first time I did the program, the, the first three weeks, the one thing I remember the most is how bad my fucking feet hurt.

00:12:28.900 Like, holy shit.

00:12:29.980 Um, yeah, it was, you know, I was, I will say this, um, praise God, uh, that, you know, being the height and the weight that I was that I never, ever, ever have been, I've ever had to deal with hip or knee or ankle issues.

00:12:47.680 Um, I'm very thankful for that, but, um, your feet get destroyed, dude.

00:12:51.800 Yeah.

00:12:52.200 And, and, um, especially, I mean, as you get more active, it becomes easy.

00:12:56.580 Like, like now when I do the program, my feet don't hurt.

00:12:58.840 Yeah.

00:12:59.180 But you get used to it.

00:13:00.280 But I mean, dude, I had like, um, you know, long time ago now, but, um, shin splints that were so horrible, you could barely walk.

00:13:07.060 And somebody was like, how do you get past it?

00:13:08.820 I'm like, here's the thing, right?

00:13:10.520 Um, you're just gonna have to keep going.

00:13:12.300 Yeah.

00:13:12.640 That's the only, because all of a sudden one day you're working and they're not there anymore.

00:13:15.940 Yeah.

00:13:16.420 Um, you're going to destroy a pair of shoes each round.

00:13:19.000 Yeah.

00:13:19.360 Um, you know, you're gonna, you know, you're, you're gonna, you're gonna become a fucking professional at laundry.

00:13:26.140 Um, you know, you're all of those things, man.

00:13:28.340 And, and you're going to get, you're going to get so structured and regimented.

00:13:32.300 And there's so many people that look at this.

00:13:34.060 How am I going to add in all of these things?

00:13:36.100 Look, you know, all of a sudden you start doing that stuff and it makes you stop doing some of the other bullshit that you're doing.

00:13:44.680 You'll realize you you'll actually, I can make the argument that you actually gained.

00:13:49.460 Time in your life by doing this just from a structure standpoint to get shit done.

00:13:54.260 But I think that's a commonality.

00:13:56.040 I hear that from almost everybody that's doing the program correctly.

00:13:58.580 Yeah.

00:13:58.900 They're like, bro, I didn't realize how much time I had.

00:14:01.200 It's like, yeah.

00:14:01.740 Cause you're wasting on dumb shit.

00:14:03.120 Yeah.

00:14:03.240 You're fucking off half the time.

00:14:04.180 Yeah.

00:14:04.540 Yeah.

00:14:05.200 So let's talk about the mental progress.

00:14:08.480 I mean, obviously you lost, what'd you say?

00:14:10.200 61 pounds.

00:14:11.000 Well, the first round.

00:14:11.740 Yeah.

00:14:12.140 61 pounds.

00:14:13.020 The first time that's tremendous.

00:14:14.920 I mean, I'm sure you felt great, but let's talk more about the mental because a lot of people get this confused.

00:14:20.840 They think it's a weight loss thing.

00:14:22.500 They don't really still understand it.

00:14:24.200 Yep.

00:14:24.420 So, um, let's talk about that.

00:14:26.280 Yeah.

00:14:26.520 How was that for you?

00:14:28.080 So, um, let me see here.

00:14:30.040 Uh, try not to go too long winded on it, but, um, you know, growing up, right.

00:14:35.680 Growing up in the Northeast, in New York, Italian family.

00:14:38.860 Um, I was somebody that earlier in my life lived for the, um, affirmations of those around me in my relationships, in my familial life.

00:14:53.240 Um, those things, you know, every Sunday night was family dinner.

00:14:58.820 Um, and I very rarely spent time to myself because quite frankly, in hindsight, I didn't like who I was and I didn't like the company.

00:15:05.960 Um, for me, um, I was, you know, I was at that point at the end of 2018.

00:15:13.700 Um, I was, um, my work was good, but it wasn't great.

00:15:19.620 Um, my relationship was dog shit.

00:15:22.340 Um, and you know, perfectly candidly, um, I wasn't pulling my own weight.

00:15:28.580 Um, I was in a position where I put everyone and everything else in front of me, right.

00:15:34.940 Porn from an empty cup.

00:15:36.240 That's what I was doing.

00:15:37.540 And so, um, for me, the process of all of a sudden what this program yields and then truly believing those things for yourself, the way that that twists the optics about what's important to you, what you tolerate, what works for you, what doesn't, what you need from other people, what you don't.

00:16:01.680 What you now have within yourself versus thinking somebody else is supposed to fulfill that, that totally changes.

00:16:08.100 And the way I look at 75 is very simple.

00:16:11.200 75 is not going to fix 20, 30 years of fucking up in 75 days.

00:16:18.620 Here's what it will do.

00:16:19.720 It will basically give you two to three years of on and off progress in 75 days.

00:16:27.000 And what it will do is it will give you the tool that you need when your shit gets sideways to get it right back.

00:16:35.820 Um, but for me, what it resulted in, that's a good point because one of the biggest things that happens to people, I just hold that thought.

00:16:44.560 I want to point this out.

00:16:46.060 One of the reasons that people struggle over the course of their life is because they don't know how to get back on track when they get off track.

00:16:51.920 And if you can shrink the amount of time that you're off track, when you do fall off track and you do the math, that saves you years.

00:17:00.920 If you really think about it, because you're old enough to know, because we're roughly the same age.

00:17:05.260 I'm a little bit older as we discussed.

00:17:06.780 Yes, well, uh, we know that those times when we've been off the path, they last for years.

00:17:13.660 They don't last for months.

00:17:14.900 They don't last for weeks.

00:17:16.080 They last for years.

00:17:17.400 And one of the most important things that I think a person can learn to do is to self-assess when they are off track as quickly as possible and know what to do to get back on track.

00:17:27.840 And I think that's an important point that doesn't get enough light in terms of how the program works for people.

00:17:33.020 Yeah, dude, it's, it's course correcting, right?

00:17:34.500 Yeah, but quickly.

00:17:35.540 It's quickly.

00:17:36.060 It's, it's, it's, it's, you know, it goes back to win the day.

00:17:39.200 It goes back to all those things.

00:17:40.700 Like, look, you know, um, life isn't perfect.

00:17:43.940 There's fucking storms.

00:17:45.140 I mean, there's a reason that there is an outside workout component to this program, irrespective of the weather to, to, to, to face that it's literally what that's designed for.

00:17:54.080 But look, life is not going to be perfect.

00:17:56.040 The program that dictates that you be so for 75 days and then 30 days and three segments.

00:18:01.640 But to that end, whether you journal, whether you use butcher paper, whatever that is, if you go back through and you've got 29 W's in two L's in a fucking month, you kicked ass.

00:18:14.960 Yeah, that's a fucking win, bro.

00:18:16.420 Right.

00:18:16.800 The problem.

00:18:17.520 It's not even a win.

00:18:18.020 That's a fucking dominant win.

00:18:19.580 Yeah.

00:18:19.680 That's right.

00:18:19.960 The problem is, is that we're in this society, right?

00:18:22.860 Where somebody does something, you and I talked about this a while back, somebody does something, I think it was Schwarzenegger that was talking about body change and composition or anything else.

00:18:32.060 How long you have to do it for before you see change.

00:18:34.560 Yeah, that's right.

00:18:35.000 What he said was, and you and I talked about this, this is, uh, uh, Arnold said, and this is a very powerful quote that stuck with me my whole life.

00:18:42.420 And I read it when I was about 25 years old, he said, it takes your body roughly five to six weeks to adjust to the new activities that you're putting it through.

00:18:52.440 And most people quit before then.

00:18:54.200 And after that point in time, the Excel, the results accelerate tremendously.

00:18:58.100 And I found that to be factually true.

00:19:00.700 Yeah.

00:19:00.840 It doesn't matter what it is.

00:19:02.160 It doesn't matter if it's physically, it could be mentally in this case.

00:19:04.460 It's just like believing your own shit.

00:19:06.580 Yeah.

00:19:06.700 Most people quit before the shit ever happens, bro.

00:19:09.060 And so what, how many of you guys out there listening right now have legitimately, and I mean, legitimately given it, you're all past a six week point in your entire life.

00:19:18.540 Right.

00:19:19.160 Like a lot of people that do 75 hard.

00:19:21.120 They're like, well, fuck.

00:19:21.780 Yeah.

00:19:21.960 I got, that's where the magic happens, but you don't know that when you've never done it.

00:19:25.620 Yeah.

00:19:25.920 No, look, people, people that have people, the reason 75 hard works very, very, if you like dumb this down to the most elemental basic level, the reality is, is that very, very, very, very, very few.

00:19:39.060 Very few people have ever been with 100% discipline for 10 and a half straight weeks.

00:19:48.080 Yeah.

00:19:48.640 They never, ever, ever have.

00:19:50.320 Well, most people have never done it for one.

00:19:51.880 Correct.

00:19:52.380 Right.

00:19:52.560 Because when you talked about, you know, you, you, you have, you know, a long story history of diet culture got fucked.

00:19:57.500 Okay.

00:19:57.900 And it got fucked with the idea.

00:19:59.860 Okay.

00:20:00.360 I'm going to say this and it's, this is not a dig.

00:20:03.420 Okay.

00:20:03.860 But around the, around the late nineties, people started believing that they had to have cheat days and cheat meals and shit.

00:20:13.180 Okay.

00:20:14.220 And diet culture got really fucked up with that because what it did was it trained people to only go long enough to produce the result, but not ever go long enough to actually ingrain the habit into you of eating healthy.

00:20:27.120 And that's why you have so many people that get in shape, go out of shape, get in shape, go out of shape.

00:20:31.680 And people will say, I'm like, dude, we hear it all the time, right?

00:20:34.580 75 days without a cheat day or a cheat meal.

00:20:37.320 Like, bro.

00:20:37.880 Yeah.

00:20:38.540 That's what it fucking takes to ingrain that lifestyle into you.

00:20:41.860 That's what it takes.

00:20:43.460 The, the idea.

00:20:44.940 And if you really break it down and think about a cheat meal or a cheat day, because for me, it was always a day.

00:20:51.200 It was never, of course, a meal was like, you had super discipline, right?

00:20:54.560 Like I didn't do, dude, look up until I did the program.

00:20:58.060 I couldn't go six days without a cheat day.

00:21:00.060 For sure.

00:21:00.400 You know, and, and I'm being real about that.

00:21:02.760 Um, you have to understand the behavior thought process behind that.

00:21:07.540 If you know, people say, Oh, I need it.

00:21:09.280 No, you know, you don't fucking need it.

00:21:10.660 That's, that's a fucking physiological untruth.

00:21:13.200 All right.

00:21:13.780 So you go six days and your work, there's a couple of things here in play.

00:21:19.560 Six days where you're working your ass off and in the whole time you're doing the six days, you're focused on the seventh day because you could do whatever you want.

00:21:27.040 Correct.

00:21:27.460 All right.

00:21:27.960 So if you're working for that seventh day, instead of just to continue to get better, you're never actually breaking the psychological pattern of, of overfeeding or overeating or, or using food addiction, deal with things or any of these things.

00:21:42.100 No, because all you're doing is, is toughing out or gritting out six days until that break.

00:21:49.020 And that's not how we should be looking at it.

00:21:51.040 We should be looking at it as we're trying to correct, correct the thought process behind our, our need for these foods that are not good for us, that don't serve us, that really make us feel like shit after we eat them.

00:22:03.420 Um, and all these things.

00:22:05.440 So there's a psychological thought process that you have to understand for, for, for you to really comprehend why you shouldn't do a cheat day for 75 days.

00:22:15.720 And then what it is, is it's just like, if I were to ask you, let's say you were addicted to heroin and I said, Nick, all right, bro, here's the deal.

00:22:25.540 Give me six good days without heroin.

00:22:27.200 I'll give you some on the seven.

00:22:28.140 Sure.

00:22:28.800 And here's the thing.

00:22:29.560 How do I ever break you of that addiction?

00:22:31.340 Right.

00:22:32.040 Can't.

00:22:32.500 And here's the other thing.

00:22:33.340 Yeah.

00:22:33.600 Is that like, and look, going back to a diet standpoint, I want to get onto the mental, but here's the thing.

00:22:39.280 I don't know about the people listening.

00:22:40.680 I know for you, for sure.

00:22:41.920 Cause we've talked about it.

00:22:42.820 Like, I promise you, even if this was a good idea, I promise you what I can do in one day on that cheat day, I can undo the prior set.

00:22:52.380 Absolutely.

00:22:52.920 Promise you that.

00:22:54.140 Um, but, but look, I, I think that that's the reason that this, that this whole thing works.

00:22:59.700 And, and, and, and, and going back to your original question about the mental where it culminated for me was being in a space and being in a position where I could

00:23:10.460 genuinely sit down because wait, here's the thing.

00:23:13.180 When I did stuff, real talk back before all of this, I had lost 80 pounds, gained it back, lost 60 pounds, gained it back, lost it.

00:23:22.280 Right.

00:23:22.500 All of those things.

00:23:23.700 And, and what always confused me about myself was the fact that people always talk about, oh man, you got to do it until you see the results.

00:23:32.480 And then that's going to make you double down and go harder.

00:23:34.900 For me, I was fucked because I was the opposite way.

00:23:37.720 I worked until somebody said, man, you're looking good.

00:23:41.020 And then I stopped.

00:23:42.540 Yeah.

00:23:42.840 And I'm like, what the fuck is that all about?

00:23:44.860 And so what I did is, um, what I, what I did when I did 75, going back to the mentality part, I literally turned off the world.

00:23:53.640 I basically developed a way to monitor my own progress incognito mode, um, out to the world, which is kind of where some of that stuff started.

00:24:02.360 But I didn't tell family, um, I didn't tell, I didn't tell anybody, but I stopped showing up to everything.

00:24:08.880 I stopped showing up to the Sunday dinners.

00:24:10.740 I stopped trying to try to be in an Italian family where all of a sudden you don't come over anymore on Sunday night.

00:24:15.660 The fuck's going on.

00:24:16.800 Yeah.

00:24:17.000 And all of a sudden you did it.

00:24:17.920 And then all of a sudden you show back up three months later, four months later, three and a half months later, and they haven't seen you.

00:24:25.400 And then they do.

00:24:26.920 They're like, initially it's like, what are you doing?

00:24:29.320 You shouldn't do that.

00:24:30.140 There's no need for it, but they don't know what you're doing.

00:24:31.820 And then they seem like, what the fuck?

00:24:34.120 Yeah.

00:24:34.760 And then you lead by example.

00:24:36.320 I, I, to date, I think, I think she's been surpassed now, but my 70 year old mother did the program fucking killed it.

00:24:42.760 Um, all of those things that are out there, but where it culminated crazily enough to me at a point, it was like October, November of 19.

00:24:50.720 I was sitting down with some people that really mattered.

00:24:52.960 Their opinions mattered to me.

00:24:54.720 Um, and they were talking to me.

00:24:56.300 This is their first time seeing me since I had done everything.

00:24:58.700 And they're like, like, you know, what'd you do all these things?

00:25:01.620 And I talked to them in the craziest moment in that whole thing.

00:25:04.800 One of the most profound moments in my life was looking at my father who, whose opinion I put above reproach in everything.

00:25:13.040 And I looked right at him respectfully.

00:25:15.460 And he knew this, but I said, I don't give a fuck what you think about me.

00:25:21.620 And that moment, and here's the thing, right?

00:25:24.080 In that moment, you would say, oh, that's disrespectful, whatever.

00:25:27.540 He just looked at me with this shit eating grin.

00:25:29.880 Yeah.

00:25:30.720 Realizing.

00:25:31.260 Yeah.

00:25:31.860 That's what it was about.

00:25:32.940 And so that is getting to that point mentally.

00:25:36.900 And then realizing you have that tool in your bag to double down, you know, like for example, for the last 30 days, I haven't been able to do shit.

00:25:47.340 I've got this herniated issue in my L5 and my lower back.

00:25:52.060 That's basically caused complete weakness in my left leg.

00:25:55.460 Feels like my fucking left leg's asleep half the time.

00:25:58.260 So couldn't do cardio, all this stuff.

00:26:00.300 So it's like fucking spinal decompression, foam rolling, stretching.

00:26:04.140 But now guess what?

00:26:05.620 About ready to get back to it.

00:26:06.980 Know exactly what I need to do.

00:26:08.740 And you know, more importantly than knowing what you need to do, you know you have the capacity to actually do it.

00:26:16.500 And that's the point.

00:26:17.920 The point is most people have never stuck things out long enough to actually believe in their own abilities to do things.

00:26:25.360 I just did a post about this today.

00:26:27.200 You might have saw it on my Instagram, on my story.

00:26:30.420 I made a post regarding talking about like these people that you admire, they don't have things that you don't have.

00:26:37.660 They don't have superpowers.

00:26:39.720 Some of them might make you believe that they have superpowers, but they don't.

00:26:43.480 The only difference between you and them is they've done enough work to uncover their own belief in themselves and their ability to do the work to where they can do it with no problem, where you still doubt that you can actually do it.

00:26:54.420 And if you would just push yourself even a little bit for 75 days, it would change your whole perspective around what you're actually able to do.

00:27:04.340 Because, dude, you and I are both naturally big-ass fat dudes, okay?

00:27:08.660 Like, we're athletes, but like when we're not doing shit, we get fat, okay?

00:27:13.900 I never, ever, ever, ever, and this is the truth.

00:27:19.040 The first time I did 75 hard, dude, I didn't know if I could fucking do it.

00:27:23.220 But I put it out on public on the podcast.

00:27:25.820 I said, I'm fucking doing it.

00:27:26.800 And, dude, one thing about me is, like, if I say I'm going to do something public, I will fucking eat bowls of glass to get it done.

00:27:35.100 Just like I'm going to whoop everybody's ass in this transformation challenge we got going on right now.

00:27:38.480 Just letting you guys know.

00:27:39.460 You better fucking bring it because I'm bringing it, all right?

00:27:42.180 But real talk, like if I say something, I'm going to at least do my best to back it up even if I fail because I don't like being embarrassed in that way, right?

00:27:49.780 And what it does, man, is it gives you the belief that you have this power within you, man.

00:27:57.200 And, like, that then translates to literally every other area.

00:28:00.920 It translates to your relationship.

00:28:02.340 It translates to your business.

00:28:03.760 It translates to, you know, how you look at yourself.

00:28:06.760 And that's a powerful thing because most of us, before we discover this ability about ourselves, we look at other people and we think, fuck, dude, why don't I have that?

00:28:19.080 Why don't I have this?

00:28:20.460 Why is that person so much better at me than this?

00:28:22.840 And then after completing the program, it made sense to me.

00:28:26.940 Like it was just they're doing things I'm not doing.

00:28:29.640 So it brings in focus actual reality of the situation and the actual reality of life.

00:28:36.600 Whether you want to admit this to yourself right now or not, it will eventually be known to be true to you because it is a fundamental truth of the world.

00:28:44.700 It is inputs and fucking outputs.

00:28:47.340 It's it's action and reaction.

00:28:49.520 It is two plus two equals motherfucking four.

00:28:52.640 And that is it.

00:28:53.680 And so if you're in a place right now where you doubt yourself and you say, man, I don't know if I could do this or I don't know if I could do that.

00:29:00.540 The whole reason that you doubt yourself is because you never actually really fucking tried.

00:29:05.480 That's the truth.

00:29:06.400 Dude, you know.

00:29:07.200 Yeah.

00:29:07.600 You know.

00:29:07.980 You know.

00:29:08.400 You know, if you're if you're listening to this, whether it's on audio, whether it's on YouTube, because I know, you know, I've heard you say like the YouTube crowd.

00:29:20.640 It doesn't seem like the audio crowd is turning to YouTube, but it seems like the YouTube is a brand new crowd.

00:29:25.040 So there's a lot of people look kind of for exactly how it works, foreshadowing kind of our group conversation in a bit.

00:29:32.140 Dude, probably a third of the thirty one thousand people in that group have no idea who the fuck you are.

00:29:37.340 Yeah, good.

00:29:37.760 And so and but but to that end, right, being in a position where if you're listening to this, if you found this right for me, when you talked about that in February of twenty nineteen, I knew.

00:29:52.040 Yeah, I knew, you know, OK, there's there is no.

00:29:56.320 And here's the other thing, right?

00:29:57.560 But you just kind of alluded to you weren't sure if you were going to be successful when you first started doing it, you knew you were going to be successful because you put your name and you attached yourself to something out there and you knew you weren't going to fail.

00:30:12.000 And so the point is the way you succeed on this program, because this program is going to confirm who you are.

00:30:18.100 You're either going to either way, either way, because here's the problem, right?

00:30:21.660 A couple of things.

00:30:22.260 Here's a couple of truths that happen with this.

00:30:24.120 Number one, the people that do this program decide that there's they're doing it no matter what in the boats, zero options mentality.

00:30:31.360 They're doing it.

00:30:32.280 Anybody I'm going to try, you're fucked.

00:30:34.600 Yeah, you're going to fail.

00:30:35.480 It's not going to happen.

00:30:36.240 And, bro, not only that, those people then compound their own self-doubt because they don't commit properly from the beginning.

00:30:41.720 And then on top of that, the people that don't succeed, you're going to get the confirmation either way, whether you can do it or you can't, because then here's the problem, right?

00:30:51.440 And you've talked about this before, not often, but the dark part of this program is, is that if you do it half-assed and you don't succeed, then it's just confirming all of the bullshit that you already feel about yourself and you're fucked.

00:31:04.440 So to that end, you have to commit zero options.

00:31:08.620 Okay.

00:31:09.060 Number one.

00:31:09.580 And then here's the other thing.

00:31:10.720 And people don't talk about this at all.

00:31:12.280 And this is crazy, as hard as this is, right?

00:31:16.560 It's the easiest, the very first time.

00:31:19.000 Yeah.

00:31:19.600 And the reason why is, is because when you have that commitment to yourself, for whatever reason, I tell people, it could be to yourself.

00:31:26.600 It could be for whatever reason, but that there's going to be a part of that first time where you're convincing yourself that you can do it.

00:31:34.580 Yeah.

00:31:34.720 You got something to prove that first time.

00:31:36.400 And the second time, you know, you've done it.

00:31:37.980 The second time it's, it's the, it's the cheat day idea of I worked out for six days.

00:31:42.540 I deserve it.

00:31:43.100 And then the second time it's, it's, you're bringing up a very interesting, I've, I've done this before.

00:31:47.280 I know I can do it.

00:31:48.680 So I don't, and people talk about it all the time of the fucking bitch voice.

00:31:52.700 Correct.

00:31:53.120 So that's something that nobody talks about.

00:31:56.080 Um, we haven't even talked about it on the show.

00:31:58.580 Your, your bitch voice evolved.

00:32:00.740 Correct.

00:32:01.040 Okay.

00:32:01.240 The first 75 days, your bitch voice is fuck.

00:32:04.600 I'm sore, man.

00:32:05.800 I don't want to eat the same thing again, man.

00:32:07.900 I wish I could do this.

00:32:09.140 And, but you get to the end and you're like, fuck, I'm proud of myself, dude.

00:32:12.040 And you start to realize and discover the things that we just talk about that you discover.

00:32:16.160 Um, but the bitch voice, you think you conquered it.

00:32:19.240 Right.

00:32:19.600 And like for those of you that don't know what the bitch voice and the boss voice is, the

00:32:23.100 bitch voice is the voice that when you get home from a long day of work and you know

00:32:27.280 that you should get out and do your cardio or go hit the weights or whatever it is you're

00:32:30.500 doing.

00:32:31.060 And you sit down on the couch and it says, Andy, bro, you worked really hard today, man.

00:32:36.100 You know, you're pretty wealthy guy.

00:32:37.840 You don't, you don't have to do this, man.

00:32:39.440 Let's just act tomorrow.

00:32:41.020 We'll fucking get after it.

00:32:42.140 You know what?

00:32:42.480 Tonight, tonight you should actually get a pizza, man.

00:32:45.080 And like, you know that.

00:32:46.720 And tomorrow we'll start fresh.

00:32:48.200 We've got a fresh slate.

00:32:49.220 That's your fucking bitch voice.

00:32:50.840 Yep.

00:32:51.000 And that voice sabotages your entire existence as a human on this planet, unless you learn

00:32:57.500 to suppress it.

00:32:58.320 But the tricky thing about a bitch voice that really fucks people up is that when they think

00:33:03.700 they've smashed it, it creeps in in different ways.

00:33:06.540 Yep.

00:33:06.780 And the way that it creeps in, in the second point, like the second time you go through

00:33:10.900 75 hard or live hard, right?

00:33:12.600 Because some people only do 75.

00:33:14.260 Right.

00:33:14.520 And other people do live hard.

00:33:15.580 I do live hard.

00:33:16.260 Most people do live hard, but the, the way it creeps in the second time, because after

00:33:22.680 you've established that you've done it, you're like, oh shit, I've done this, bro.

00:33:27.240 Like, uh-huh.

00:33:28.020 This doesn't really like, look, man, you know, you can do it.

00:33:30.920 Yep.

00:33:31.200 Like, you know, you can do it.

00:33:32.320 Like, it doesn't really, you know, this one outdoor workout, nobody will know.

00:33:35.980 Yep.

00:33:36.520 Nobody will know that you, you know, it's raining.

00:33:38.680 It's 37 degrees.

00:33:40.580 Nobody will know.

00:33:41.480 Right.

00:33:41.840 You know, or like, dude, here in where we get, you know, I was out there doing it minus

00:33:45.680 27 this year.

00:33:47.260 You know, nobody will fucking know, bro.

00:33:49.380 Like, I'll just walk outside and stand in the snow and take a fucking picture and it'd

00:33:52.940 be all good.

00:33:53.440 Nobody will know.

00:33:54.200 And that's how the bitch voice really gets you.

00:33:56.500 And so the awareness that's created around our internal dialogue, I believe is the fucking

00:34:02.640 most powerful part of the program.

00:34:04.280 Because if you can learn to navigate these, these two voices, which we all have, um, one,

00:34:09.960 you know, it's like the little, like in the cartoons, man, like the little devils on one

00:34:13.260 side, little angels on the other side, the devil is telling you all the bad shit.

00:34:16.960 The angel is telling you all the good shit.

00:34:18.580 Well, you have to learn which one you're going to listen to because we all have them.

00:34:21.100 And just having the awareness of how those voices show up is extremely powerful.

00:34:27.580 And one of the, one of the things I liked that you said was that it's easiest the first

00:34:31.620 time because you're almost ignorant to the other ways that this thing can sneak in.

00:34:35.680 And so, you know, it's, it's always cool to talk to people who have done it multiple

00:34:40.660 times because they understand what we're talking about now.

00:34:43.480 They're like, fuck dude.

00:34:44.480 And then every time you do it, you actually get better and better and better.

00:34:47.840 You get better and better, um, in the challenges that, that bitch voice, it evolves as you evolve.

00:34:54.040 Yeah.

00:34:54.360 And it's going to find different ways, different weak spots, different, different, different

00:34:58.960 versions of it.

00:35:00.020 Um, but it evolves and, and, and look, you know, it is a, it is a, um, a perishable

00:35:07.240 trait.

00:35:07.620 It's a perishable skill, um, that what, what you get, what this program yields, it's up

00:35:13.000 to you to stay on top of it.

00:35:14.840 Um, you know, you talk about, Hey, like you're out in the warehouse.

00:35:17.780 Why do you pick up that sticker off the floor?

00:35:19.760 Right.

00:35:20.320 I do it because if I walk past that fucking sticker, then that is the first domino towards

00:35:25.800 other dominoes.

00:35:26.760 And then not giving power to my bitch.

00:35:28.880 That's right.

00:35:29.540 Right.

00:35:29.900 I'm taking, I'm taking a unit out of my discipline by walking past that thing.

00:35:34.840 And when you start to visualize and understand that your discipline, like if you play video

00:35:39.640 games, it'd be like, if you're playing John Madden football, right.

00:35:41.960 And it has discipline or, you know, a speed 99 strength, 99 agility, 99.

00:35:47.720 Well, discipline is in there for us too.

00:35:49.900 Right.

00:35:50.480 And most of our discipline score as normal human beings is pretty fucking low because the

00:35:55.860 standard of living with discipline is non-existent.

00:35:58.880 It's not, it's not celebrated, bro.

00:36:00.880 Like look in the world.

00:36:01.740 Like we're having 400 pound people being promoted as healthy, right.

00:36:06.600 Uh, or beautiful and do beauty is not even up for discussion.

00:36:10.040 We're talking about just health, but the point is it's shoved.

00:36:14.080 It's, it's dude, being a fit disciplined human 20 years ago was like the status symbol of

00:36:21.940 everything.

00:36:22.320 And then for the last 20 years, we started to celebrate degeneracy and all these different

00:36:27.860 things through our culture.

00:36:29.500 And so when you start out on this program and you're building the discipline that other

00:36:36.160 people don't have, they're going to automatically think it's weird.

00:36:38.440 They're going to see it as like, what are you doing?

00:36:40.480 Why are you doing that?

00:36:41.460 And because of that, people don't desire it.

00:36:44.040 They don't value it.

00:36:44.860 Right.

00:36:45.140 They don't think about it.

00:36:46.060 Right.

00:36:46.620 Right.

00:36:46.820 They don't think about it.

00:36:47.680 Like this is an attribute or a skill that I must develop.

00:36:51.040 Most people.

00:36:51.920 And this is how I looked at it.

00:36:53.540 Like, dude, I don't, you know, we all have these friends, right?

00:36:56.000 That walk around, they're lean, they're in good shape, they're buff, they're fucking

00:36:59.200 yoked all the time.

00:37:00.360 And you're like, what the fuck, bro?

00:37:02.760 But then if you like actually look at their, how they live every single time they live very

00:37:09.180 consistently in one way or the other that produces that result.

00:37:13.280 Okay.

00:37:13.640 Like a lot of you guys say, well, I got this one friend, he drinks all the time.

00:37:16.500 Yeah.

00:37:16.860 He might drink all the time, but does he train?

00:37:18.980 Does he eat within his calorie range?

00:37:20.720 Does he do this and this and this?

00:37:21.880 And so we don't like, we don't think of it as when I'm talking about discipline, we

00:37:27.180 don't think of it as a something that we can acquire or build.

00:37:30.800 So look at it, look at it this way, right?

00:37:35.980 75 hard is a program of consistency, right?

00:37:39.900 You need motivation to start and then you need consistency to bring you through, right?

00:37:45.080 But here's the thing guys, right?

00:37:47.360 Is that if you choose not to do it, if you choose to just live whatever life you're living,

00:37:52.960 that is making you sit here and think, I know I need to start.

00:37:56.700 That's also consistency.

00:37:58.600 It's shitty consistency.

00:38:00.240 That's right.

00:38:00.760 It's eating the things you're not supposed to eat, consuming the things you're not supposed

00:38:03.960 to consume, not putting in the effort consistently, not showing up for your family, not showing

00:38:08.600 up for your kids, not showing up for your work, not showing it.

00:38:11.320 There's consistency either way.

00:38:12.800 Yeah.

00:38:13.240 So you're going to get the result.

00:38:14.660 You're consistent the wrong things.

00:38:16.140 Correct.

00:38:16.540 Yeah.

00:38:16.960 That's everybody's fucking problem.

00:38:19.240 It drives me crazy that when you see these success people and they're like, you know what

00:38:22.700 the key to becoming successful is?

00:38:24.960 Consistency.

00:38:25.640 Most motherfuckers don't have a problem with consistency.

00:38:27.780 They're consistently bad.

00:38:29.020 Yep.

00:38:29.220 That's the problem.

00:38:29.940 Correct.

00:38:30.620 And so, dude, let's switch gears just a little bit.

00:38:35.380 How has this change affected you in other areas of your life?

00:38:39.580 Um, well, cause you were a successful guy when I met you before, before just kind of

00:38:46.100 like me, like you were a very successful guy before you did the program.

00:38:51.080 Right.

00:38:51.440 So what, how has that, this affected you in that regard?

00:38:56.640 It's, it's just, it's just taken everything and it's just leveled it up considerably.

00:39:00.720 Um, you know, there's, there's, um, there's levels to everything in life, including whether

00:39:06.580 it's success, whether it's health, whether it's mental positioning, whether it's career,

00:39:11.020 whether it's relationship, whatever that is.

00:39:13.460 Um, you know, I was, I was doing good.

00:39:16.160 I was doing well.

00:39:17.040 Um, but now it's, you know, now that's transitioned to, to great or exceptional, um, you know,

00:39:23.060 to, you know, your, you position yourself, your role and your responsibility is to be

00:39:28.840 the best within this company.

00:39:31.320 That is what your role dictates.

00:39:33.360 Mine is yielding those same results in my organization that I'm a part of.

00:39:38.020 Um, it, it, it, you know, I, I mentioned the, the shit relationship that I was in, uh,

00:39:43.360 at the end of 2018, um, the relationship that I've now been in for, uh, a little over three

00:39:49.160 years, um, the, the, the partner, you know, you want to talk about relationships in terms

00:39:54.120 of who you attract and what you attract into your life.

00:39:57.200 When you invest that, um, totally changes itself.

00:40:01.200 The relationship with some of those same people that I told you about whose opinions carried

00:40:06.040 a tremendous amount of weight and gravity to me, um, how those have evolved.

00:40:10.340 That's been really interesting in terms of all of a sudden, like, you know, you go, uh,

00:40:16.280 one of the things that happens a lot in the program, my spouse or significant other doesn't

00:40:20.260 support me.

00:40:21.040 What do I do?

00:40:22.220 What do I do about what do I do?

00:40:24.000 Well, listen, okay.

00:40:25.940 If your significant other has a problem with you becoming the best version of yourself that

00:40:33.080 you can be, then congratulations, because you just identified a major fucking problem in

00:40:37.920 your relationship.

00:40:38.400 And I've seen your life.

00:40:39.940 I've seen more relationships, um, flourish because of this down the road.

00:40:45.800 Once, once it's, it's understood the, what it, what it brings.

00:40:50.060 And I've also seen them destroyed and fall apart.

00:40:52.300 Yeah.

00:40:52.740 Uh, but for me, it's not necessarily a bad thing.

00:40:54.640 Not at all.

00:40:55.020 Because every single one of those people, every single one of those people to a person.

00:40:59.480 Um, and I've seen it with thousands of people that I watch and I converse with and I interact

00:41:04.420 with those people.

00:41:05.780 Although it sucks.

00:41:06.980 Once initially, every single one of them to a person after that happens, we'll say, I

00:41:13.080 knew it was going to happen.

00:41:13.920 Yeah.

00:41:14.100 It needed to happen.

00:41:14.920 Yeah.

00:41:15.060 It was the bandaid.

00:41:15.880 And they were afraid to eat.

00:41:17.340 Exactly.

00:41:17.860 Correct.

00:41:17.980 They were afraid to rip.

00:41:19.020 I was going to say that rip the bandaid off.

00:41:21.060 Yep.

00:41:21.260 Like it does it for you.

00:41:22.560 And it also does that with your friends.

00:41:24.440 Yeah.

00:41:24.680 It also shows you what friends actually care about you and want the best for you and which

00:41:28.680 don't.

00:41:29.140 Yeah.

00:41:29.560 Like, and people like I, I, sometimes, you know, when people criticize the program, which

00:41:33.680 by the way, none of them ever fucking done it.

00:41:35.400 Correct.

00:41:35.780 Um, they always say, Oh, you know, it, it makes you, it makes you separated from your

00:41:40.800 friend, bro.

00:41:41.800 The motherfuckers weren't your friends.

00:41:43.560 They weren't your friends.

00:41:44.620 Like if people don't support you getting healthy, improving your career, improving your relationships,

00:41:49.280 moving down the path of progress in life, those people, whether it's your fucking husband

00:41:54.240 or your fucking wife or your best fucking friend of 30 fucking years, they are not your

00:41:58.620 fucking friend.

00:41:59.420 And that's a hard, that's a very hard pill for someone to swallow when you have that

00:42:04.080 time invested in that relationship.

00:42:06.360 Yeah.

00:42:06.920 I, I, I found myself, um, real talk.

00:42:10.520 I found myself three, four years ago, um, basically hitting the restart button on almost

00:42:17.140 all of those relationships.

00:42:18.540 Bro, same for me, same for me.

00:42:20.540 And, and so, so for me, um, it is that transitionary phase in life.

00:42:26.400 We talk about it from an entrepreneurial standpoint in terms of, you know, on that climb, uh, from

00:42:31.540 a career standpoint, um, the whole, it's not lonely at the top, but you're in a progression

00:42:36.260 of going from kind of one room to the next one.

00:42:38.520 Yeah.

00:42:38.960 And so now the people in the middle, correct.

00:42:41.480 So now, you know, the, the, the, the, the journey that I'm on, uh, the people that I

00:42:46.940 roll with and that roll with me, whether it's in my professional life, whether it's in my

00:42:51.300 personal life, whether it's my friends, um, whether it's my career, um, that is now all

00:42:58.160 aligned.

00:42:58.720 And so to some people, um, it might initially feel like a step back to take 20,000 steps

00:43:05.260 forward, but every single one of those people will view that and say it was a necessary needed

00:43:10.300 thing.

00:43:10.920 It was like, I'll, here's what it's like.

00:43:12.720 How much better is your life now compared to that?

00:43:14.520 Dude, it's in terms of your career and, but more importantly, the relationships.

00:43:18.960 Dude, like, I, like, cause that's what most people bitch about, right?

00:43:22.800 They're like, all my friends, they fucking drink beer and they just, because, because

00:43:26.020 now it's look, it's now it's people that, you know, I see the world the way that I see

00:43:32.340 it.

00:43:32.480 And I'm not talking about politics.

00:43:33.940 I'm not talking about any of those things I'm saying, you know, in a healthy way, what,

00:43:38.040 what matters, what's important and, and like creating boundaries, creating space, saying

00:43:43.900 no to things, saying, doing those things and that there being respect there because guess

00:43:48.860 what, that's something that you earn through doing this, you, you, you, you earn it not

00:43:54.480 only from other people because what they see at the conclusion, but you feel it yourself.

00:43:58.320 Yeah.

00:43:58.700 And then you stand for that and you're not going to accept the bullshit because your tolerance

00:44:03.360 meter is below zero if possible, because you hear about fucking Sally or, or, or John

00:44:10.940 or whoever talking about, Oh, my day's hard.

00:44:13.440 It's like, you have no fucking idea what hard is.

00:44:16.500 And I'm doing it every single day and you're not, I don't want to hear about your fucking

00:44:20.460 excuses.

00:44:21.260 Yeah.

00:44:21.560 And so you, you, you move into that framework.

00:44:24.140 Yeah.

00:44:24.500 You move into that mentality.

00:44:25.760 All of a sudden the MFCO doesn't sound too crazy anymore.

00:44:28.280 Does it look, it's your excuses.

00:44:30.560 It's it's what, look, it's, and, and, and listen, you can disagree with it if you want

00:44:35.000 to.

00:44:35.420 It doesn't mean it's not true.

00:44:36.760 Yeah.

00:44:37.180 You can fucking have a problem with it.

00:44:38.840 It's like, it's like men or women or what, like, like, look, you can like, I'll give you,

00:44:44.140 I'll give you one that you always feelings don't equate to truth.

00:44:46.740 Yeah.

00:44:46.860 I'll give you one that you use all the time.

00:44:48.360 And that is, we can go up to the top of this fucking building and jump off of it.

00:44:52.140 Yeah.

00:44:52.360 And you can tell me that gravity doesn't exist.

00:44:54.520 Yeah.

00:44:54.760 We're going to fucking find out real quick.

00:44:56.340 Yeah.

00:44:56.700 And that's the reality of life though, bro.

00:44:59.160 Like there, one of the things that, you know, not to get off the subject, but this is related.

00:45:05.200 One of the things that, that culturally where we are, especially as Americans and other places that

00:45:10.920 may be a little bit different, but we've gotten to this point where we believe that love is

00:45:18.880 unconditional, positive feelings towards something.

00:45:22.680 And that's not the truth.

00:45:24.720 Love is actually wanting the best for someone and telling them the information that is going

00:45:30.940 to help them get to that point where they can be their best.

00:45:33.900 That's real love, dude.

00:45:35.060 Those hard conversations that you have to have, especially by the way, with yourself, that's

00:45:40.860 fucking self-love.

00:45:42.100 Self-love is not sitting in a fucking bubble bath, eating fucking Doritos at 400 fucking

00:45:47.400 pounds, flossing out the fucking goo between your fucking jelly rolls.

00:45:51.620 That's not fucking self-love, bro.

00:45:53.960 Self-love is not proclaiming to the world how beautiful you are when you haven't put any

00:45:58.680 effort into yourself other than stuffing your face with Big Macs for the last fucking 10 years.

00:46:03.040 Like, bro, the whole idea of what truth is has been convoluted and lost and been replaced

00:46:11.680 with how people perceive the truth or feel about the truth.

00:46:15.240 And the reality that we continue to live in, which is not going to change, is that we live

00:46:21.520 in a reality with hard truths about life.

00:46:25.880 One of the hard truths about life is that you are going to get out of it exactly what the

00:46:31.600 fuck you put into it.

00:46:32.580 And there's nothing that you can do.

00:46:35.220 There's nobody to write a letter to.

00:46:37.120 There's nobody to complain to.

00:46:38.900 There's nobody to fucking change it.

00:46:40.860 Like, it's that way.

00:46:42.320 And we, as humans who want the best for ourselves, we have to come to terms with the reality that

00:46:50.640 there is a reality.

00:46:51.840 And that's something that we've lost in culture and society.

00:46:54.540 And one of the things I'm most proud of about the program is that this program helps people

00:46:59.540 who were fundamentally have a hard time seeing what reality actually is and the things, the

00:47:05.020 way things really work.

00:47:07.180 It brings it in focus for them.

00:47:09.200 You know, they start to understand like, okay, well, what I put in my body actually does produce

00:47:14.080 a result.

00:47:14.840 The activity I do, that produces a result.

00:47:17.280 What I put in my brain, that produces a result.

00:47:19.560 So, holy shit, you mean that if I just do these things, my life can look completely

00:47:24.320 different?

00:47:25.180 And dude, how powerful is that to someone who spent their whole life being powerless?

00:47:29.320 Yeah.

00:47:30.000 It's, it's, um, look, it'll, it's something that'll change your life.

00:47:35.020 And, and, and I think, um, you know, speaking of relationships, um, yeah, you, you, uh, you,

00:47:41.740 you actually met your significant other through the program.

00:47:43.980 Yeah.

00:47:44.180 Yeah.

00:47:44.500 So my fiance, um, you know, we got, we got engaged in, uh, December and, uh, yeah,

00:47:50.020 she, uh, congrats.

00:47:51.280 Yeah.

00:47:51.460 I was drinking water when you said that.

00:47:52.800 Thank you.

00:47:53.200 Uh, she, uh, she slid in the DMS.

00:47:55.260 Yeah.

00:47:55.540 Yeah.

00:47:55.800 Is, is, is, is the way it's nice as felt.

00:47:58.260 Yeah, exactly.

00:47:59.060 No, um, no, actually no, that's that silver Fox sheet.

00:48:01.700 Yeah.

00:48:02.000 Thank you.

00:48:02.720 Yeah.

00:48:02.940 I appreciate that.

00:48:03.660 Um, so no, what, what ended up happening with that is, is, um, she was, um, she was actually

00:48:09.480 probably about three weeks before me on the program.

00:48:11.640 Okay.

00:48:12.280 And, uh, full, full clarity.

00:48:13.660 I wasn't nice and felt.

00:48:14.740 I was still a tub of, I was still a tub of shit, uh, at that point, but, um, we were both

00:48:19.800 on the same path.

00:48:20.560 Yeah.

00:48:21.200 Uh, towards, towards personal betterment.

00:48:23.060 Yeah.

00:48:23.220 And, um, and so, uh, yeah, her and I, her and I connected through there and, um, you know,

00:48:28.140 we were, we were probably friends for two, three, four months and then it just gradually

00:48:32.840 transitioned from there.

00:48:34.100 But yeah, no, I, it's interesting how mutual respect will foster a healthy relationship, dude.

00:48:38.980 And, and, and like I said, the, the, the relationship component of that, the communication, the

00:48:44.280 understanding, the respect, um, the candor, the integrity, um, all of those things for

00:48:52.020 people, look, people, there's no, there's no rocket science here.

00:48:56.680 People know in their heart, whether they have that or don't in things like that in their

00:49:01.580 relationship and the dichotomy between the prior relationship that I had been in versus

00:49:08.660 something like that.

00:49:10.060 I mean, dude, it's, it's night and day.

00:49:11.960 Yeah.

00:49:12.260 It's night and day.

00:49:12.800 But, but the thing is, is that you're worthy of it at that point.

00:49:16.480 Yeah.

00:49:16.840 And, and, and the other person is also worthy of it and that you see that quality and those

00:49:23.220 values and things in that individual.

00:49:26.080 And, and look, not, not, you know, not every, not every relationship automatically just works

00:49:31.640 or things like that.

00:49:32.380 But when, when, when you find those, how you view life, how you view the world, how you

00:49:39.380 interact from a familial standpoint, what matters to you, what's important, what you prioritize,

00:49:44.660 how that parlays into your career and your family dynamic, how you support each other, having

00:49:51.100 that with somebody else that views life in the world the same way, right?

00:49:57.060 The propeller versus the anchor.

00:49:58.960 You got to have it, dude.

00:50:00.000 It's, it changes everything you got.

00:50:01.740 It's a dude.

00:50:02.300 It's not even a, it's not, listen, it's not even an optional piece of equipment, bro.

00:50:10.260 Like if you're going to have a fucking boat, you got to have a fucking propeller and not

00:50:13.880 an anchor.

00:50:14.340 You ain't going anywhere.

00:50:15.200 Well, and I can tell you this too.

00:50:16.380 You want to talk about like from a career standpoint, you know, you know, you know, you're

00:50:21.100 what you, you just recently had some big, big, big moves in your career.

00:50:25.460 Yeah, man.

00:50:25.860 Yeah.

00:50:26.080 Look, yeah, we, yeah.

00:50:26.960 I mean, not to get too much into it, but yeah, I kind of, you know, positioned myself

00:50:31.160 now within the, the corporate hierarchy of our investment bank to really kind of handle

00:50:35.780 all of, you know, what we consider major transactions for North America for us.

00:50:40.520 I mean, we're the, I mean, listen, he's not going to brag, but I can tell you like

00:50:44.480 it's a big deal and it's a big deal by my standard.

00:50:46.980 It's a big deal.

00:50:47.500 Yeah.

00:50:47.800 It's a big deal.

00:50:48.460 And I appreciate that.

00:50:49.240 It's, it's, but, but my point is, is that that how I couldn't do what I do in my career

00:50:56.760 without, um, I could do it without a relationship, but if I'm in a relationship, I couldn't do

00:51:03.520 what I do in my career without that person showing up the way they do for me in that relationship.

00:51:08.460 And I would argue, you would probably say the exact same thing about yours.

00:51:11.820 And so it's impossible to level up without it because, because in my prior relationship,

00:51:18.680 I had an anchor, I did not have a propeller and, and listen, full clarity and, and, and,

00:51:24.420 and transparency here, right?

00:51:26.620 Was that person a piece of shit?

00:51:28.220 Yeah.

00:51:28.660 She was a piece of shit, but you know what?

00:51:31.240 You know what?

00:51:31.960 I was also a piece of shit.

00:51:33.180 Yeah.

00:51:33.460 And I wasn't worthy of anything better than that either.

00:51:36.200 And I got out of it, what I did, and now I'm getting out of it, what I deserve to in that

00:51:41.320 regard.

00:51:41.620 And so it, it, it levels up.

00:51:43.780 I think what we're getting at here is it doesn't matter if it's your relationship.

00:51:47.340 It doesn't matter if it's your career.

00:51:48.800 It doesn't matter if it's your family.

00:51:50.200 It doesn't matter if it's your corporate world work.

00:51:52.360 It doesn't matter what it is.

00:51:53.700 Because this, this tool, this program, um, will level you up in every single part of

00:52:03.320 your life.

00:52:03.860 It does not touch one singular part of it.

00:52:07.300 Yeah.

00:52:07.880 That's why everybody gets so pissed off when people call it a fitness program.

00:52:11.280 Yeah.

00:52:11.560 It's not a fitness program.

00:52:13.160 It's not a fucking challenge.

00:52:14.440 You know what's funny?

00:52:15.380 Yes.

00:52:15.720 It's only the motherfuckers that haven't done it that talk about it that way.

00:52:19.220 Correct.

00:52:19.480 That say, oh, this is not an optimal fitness program.

00:52:22.340 No shit, bro.

00:52:23.020 I say that every time I fucking did the show.

00:52:24.740 There's better.

00:52:25.540 There's easier ways to fucking lose weight.

00:52:27.500 Correct.

00:52:27.840 It's not called 75 easy as fuck.

00:52:30.020 Like it's hard.

00:52:31.080 Like it's supposed to be hard.

00:52:32.300 Well, like, and it gets to the point where I'll give you, I'll give you a perfect example,

00:52:35.100 right?

00:52:36.000 One of the things that I'll deal with in the broader groups.

00:52:38.240 Yeah.

00:52:38.660 Somebody will come in and they'll be like, they'll say, um, you know, how much time should

00:52:44.000 be between your workouts and the book recommends two and a half to three hours.

00:52:49.700 And somebody is like, okay, is it, is it two and a half hours or is it three hours?

00:52:53.500 Is it before the end of the last exercise?

00:52:55.640 Is it at the start of that time?

00:52:57.040 And I'm like, listen, let me, let me, I'm like, Andy isn't here.

00:53:00.100 Yeah.

00:53:00.420 So let me fucking help you.

00:53:01.880 Okay.

00:53:02.220 Let me tell you the reason for the time between the exercises.

00:53:05.440 Let me tell you why there's no hard, fast rule.

00:53:07.880 Let me tell you all of these things.

00:53:09.380 All right.

00:53:09.780 Otherwise I'm going to fucking get rid of you.

00:53:11.220 Yeah.

00:53:11.420 But it's, it's very simple.

00:53:12.880 Okay.

00:53:13.360 Here's the point here for everybody that is eternally listening to this moving forward.

00:53:17.560 Here's the fucking purpose.

00:53:19.200 The purpose is this.

00:53:20.740 Listen up.

00:53:21.480 Okay.

00:53:23.060 How long does it take after your first workout before your second workout to say, I don't

00:53:31.420 want to fucking do this.

00:53:32.800 I've cooled down.

00:53:34.100 I've, I, my shoes are off.

00:53:37.020 I don't want to fucking do this.

00:53:39.820 And when you're at the point where you're like, I don't want to go fucking do another

00:53:43.500 one.

00:53:43.720 You're ready for your second one.

00:53:45.040 There you go.

00:53:45.480 That it's, it's designed to be disruptive.

00:53:48.060 Correct.

00:53:48.540 Like, dude, I cannot stand you motherfuckers that try to make it easier.

00:53:51.800 Like, bro.

00:53:52.840 And by the way, 75, whatever the fuck you say after that doesn't exist.

00:53:57.640 That's not a real thing.

00:53:58.940 And you'll get you sued too, by the way, just so you're aware.

00:54:01.400 Yes.

00:54:01.600 75 hard is a thing.

00:54:04.080 Okay.

00:54:05.400 When you, when you start in this dude, this drives me crazy, but I also understand it and

00:54:09.960 have empathy for it because I used to think this way.

00:54:11.940 Right.

00:54:12.460 So like, well, it drives me insane, dude.

00:54:15.800 And I do feel for you because you have to fucking run the Facebook group.

00:54:19.240 Yes.

00:54:19.480 But I also have empathy for the people to think this way, but like, okay.

00:54:24.360 And what I'm getting at is like, when you look at things in your life and we automatically

00:54:29.380 try to adjust them to make them more palatable for us or easier for us or more convenient

00:54:37.800 for us to do, we are training ourselves to always look for the route of least resistance.

00:54:45.040 And when we look for the route of least resistance, guess what we get?

00:54:49.060 We get the least reward.

00:54:50.540 This is the reality of reality.

00:54:53.120 We were talking about a few minutes ago.

00:54:55.280 And so if you guys could just understand the purpose of the program and understand it's

00:55:00.140 to change your perspective and your mindset and make you mentally tough and give you skills

00:55:04.700 that you don't currently possess that you believe are traits that other people possess when they're

00:55:10.080 actually skills that you can build grit, fortitude, perseverance, uh, mental toughness, self-esteem,

00:55:17.540 confidence, and some, a bunch of other shit.

00:55:19.680 These things all work to create mental toughness.

00:55:22.980 This is a mental toughness program.

00:55:25.240 And so if you're building and you're committed to creating mental toughness within yourself,

00:55:30.460 you have to recognize that the pattern of making everything more convenient for yourself

00:55:36.560 is actually what has gotten you to the place to need the program in the first place.

00:55:42.140 This is the thing that drives me insane.

00:55:44.760 You can't be, some of these people cannot see the forest through the trees here, bro.

00:55:49.340 Like you wanting to do, uh, you know, fucking two indoor workouts, or you wanting to have

00:55:56.520 a cheat meal every two weeks or trying to modify this fucking program out.

00:56:01.400 That is yourself falling back into your old patterns that have created this life of dissatisfaction

00:56:08.680 that you are pissed off about that made you want to do the program in the first place.

00:56:12.800 So I tell people, I say, look, you see what I'm saying?

00:56:15.680 No, no, no, I do.

00:56:16.380 Like, bro, like let's be aware of ourselves.

00:56:18.080 Like let's work to be a little more aware.

00:56:20.040 The reason we are dissatisfied, the reason we're fucking fat, the reason that we cannot finish

00:56:25.660 things, the reason we don't have discipline, grit, mental toughness, fortitude, perseverance,

00:56:31.300 all these things that I'm talking about, the reason we don't have them is because we're

00:56:35.060 constantly trying to adjust our environment to be easier.

00:56:38.780 Yeah.

00:56:39.060 And, and, and guess what?

00:56:40.220 Those are the same people that most 95% of them will not even quote unquote do the 75 days.

00:56:47.140 They're the same people that do it for a week or two.

00:56:49.760 And then they write a fucking article and say, no, it doesn't work.

00:56:52.600 That's just like the diet conversation earlier.

00:56:54.740 You don't get it.

00:56:55.740 But then to that end, people that are behaving that, that do see it all the way through,

00:56:59.740 those are the exact same people that say, those are the exact same people that say, I don't

00:57:04.120 understand.

00:57:04.760 I didn't see the benefit of it.

00:57:05.820 Well, you just exposed yourself as a person that didn't do it the right way.

00:57:09.020 It's just like fucking stolen valor in the military or anything else.

00:57:12.620 Like it's extremely obvious who's done it and who fucking hasn't.

00:57:16.720 Dude, it's, it's.

00:57:17.940 And what's funny is, is the people who have done it can see the shit plainly.

00:57:21.120 Correct.

00:57:21.560 Like you're not fooling anybody.

00:57:22.680 You can fucking see it.

00:57:23.800 Like you can fucking see it.

00:57:25.880 You can hear it in the language they use.

00:57:27.940 You can hear it in the stories they tell.

00:57:29.900 Because dude, if you've actually done the program the right way, it is so perspective

00:57:34.440 shifting and life changing that it like, when you hear someone say that you, you're like,

00:57:39.620 yeah, you didn't fucking do it, bro.

00:57:42.040 It's, it's, it's obvious.

00:57:43.400 And, and, and, and look, it, that'd be like, that'd be like, like me and you fucking saying,

00:57:48.640 Hey, uh, we're going to get in a swimming pool, right?

00:57:51.000 Like we're with this other dude here.

00:57:52.380 Who's going to get in a swimming pool too.

00:57:53.900 And we get out of the fucking pool and we're soaking fucking wet and we're looking at each

00:57:57.540 other and be like, yeah, he fucking got in the pool.

00:57:59.560 I definitely got in the pool.

00:58:01.160 And this motherfucker standing next to us.

00:58:02.520 And he's like, I got in the pool too.

00:58:05.060 Motherfucker.

00:58:05.420 We could see that you didn't get in the pool.

00:58:07.700 I think what we're delving into is pretty much the entire fucking world right now as we see

00:58:11.760 the internet, but yeah, I think, look, in, in terms of the group, I want to, I want to

00:58:16.360 make something very clear for the people that are there for the people that haven't there

00:58:19.140 or for the people that want to go there.

00:58:20.800 Where is the group?

00:58:21.920 So the group is, um, the group it's, it's on Facebook.

00:58:25.540 It is the, uh, the, I believe it is called the official 75 hard, uh, group.

00:58:31.700 It's got your photo in the banner.

00:58:33.420 It's got the blue check Mark there.

00:58:35.120 It is the only group, uh, uh, you know, 75 hard.

00:58:38.560 You guys got it verified, huh?

00:58:39.680 Yeah.

00:58:39.840 It's verified.

00:58:40.300 There we go.

00:58:40.860 75 hard is a trademarked verified thing.

00:58:44.640 If you see anything else out there that exists, it's going to get removed.

00:58:48.360 It's going to get taken down.

00:58:49.300 Including the 75 soft, 75 medium or 75 pussy juice.

00:58:54.480 Like fuck dude.

00:58:55.400 All of it will be removed.

00:58:56.660 But, but, but here's the, this is something that I do want to get across in this conversation.

00:59:01.440 And that is this every, I know it sounds very hellfire and brimstone in terms of the way

00:59:07.100 that the group is run.

00:59:08.140 But the reality is, is this every single person that is out there is welcome to join that group.

00:59:15.900 The thing that has to be understood and conveyed and, um, and responded to by the people that

00:59:24.140 join is they need to understand that they might go there.

00:59:28.360 They might never have heard of you before.

00:59:30.100 They might not understand the intent.

00:59:31.740 You are going to ask questions.

00:59:33.420 We're going to provide clarity, whether it's me, whether it's other people there, we're going

00:59:37.620 to do all of that stuff and if you say to yourself, Hey, I didn't know, I didn't understand.

00:59:42.680 Thank you for telling me that I'm going to course, correct.

00:59:45.040 I'm going to pivot and I'm going to get back on it.

00:59:46.900 Great.

00:59:47.420 You're welcome here.

00:59:48.300 That's what you're supposed to do.

00:59:49.680 However, if you fucking flap your gums, right.

00:59:53.620 With some stupid shit and then I give you the answer or somebody else in the group gives

01:00:00.900 you the answer.

01:00:02.380 Oh, well, I don't understand that.

01:00:04.160 That doesn't, that doesn't, that doesn't work for me because then fine, you can fucking

01:00:08.920 leave, go do whatever the hell you want to keep doing.

01:00:12.120 You're not going to call it this and you don't need to do it here because, because at the

01:00:16.240 end of the day, we're not going to allow people to dilute the program by arguing over

01:00:20.520 what the fuck they don't even know what they're arguing over.

01:00:23.180 Correct.

01:00:23.800 Like, bro, you're, you listen, your life is a shit fucking fire.

01:00:27.100 Look at, look at your life, bro.

01:00:28.820 It's a fucking dumpster fire.

01:00:30.420 And you're coming in here trying to tell a whole group of people who have committed and

01:00:34.360 finished this very tough thing.

01:00:35.960 This would be like showing up at a fucking Ironman at the finish line and being like,

01:00:39.900 you know, uh, I did the Ironman too, bro, but I rode the bike the whole time.

01:00:44.900 And by the way, uh, you guys that did the fucking running, you're stupid.

01:00:49.140 And you guys did the swimming.

01:00:50.460 You're stupid too.

01:00:51.100 I don't fucking get it, but I did an Ironman.

01:00:53.360 Get the fuck out of here, bro.

01:00:54.640 It's, it's, it's, it's the point is, is that, I mean, it's getting better, bro.

01:00:58.860 Like it's, it's, it's look, I don't, I don't want to make it sound like we're bitching or

01:01:02.420 it's been a long four years.

01:01:04.700 It's, it's been, it's been a long four years.

01:01:06.740 And, and look, um, I love all of you, but I promise you, I have got enough shit going

01:01:11.640 on during the day that when I pop in periodically, like there's, there's just, there, there's

01:01:17.320 just no tolerance for, for the bullshit because I literally don't have the bandwidth for it.

01:01:22.200 And so look, it's, it's, it's a, it's a one strike process and, and, and that's it.

01:01:27.620 And so the standard has to be held, dude.

01:01:29.040 It is.

01:01:29.460 And, and, and, and at the end of the day, um, you, you've asked me to do something for

01:01:33.980 you.

01:01:34.360 Um, something that I believe in something that I champion, something that I've lived

01:01:38.920 by, um, and by example of, and I'm not doing the group yourself or anybody else, a disservice

01:01:45.800 towards something that if you look at everything else we've talked about has the ability to

01:01:51.200 impact and transform every single component of your life, right?

01:01:56.180 You're not going to step in and bastardize that and change it.

01:02:00.560 And it's not going to, it's not going to happen.

01:02:02.740 You look, you, you, you are not allowed to be pissed off about the results that you didn't

01:02:09.780 get from the work you didn't fucking put in.

01:02:12.060 Yeah.

01:02:12.700 It's that simple.

01:02:13.620 Yeah.

01:02:13.980 And that either works for you or it doesn't.

01:02:15.940 Well, dude, what's funny about that too, is like, you know, we send these legal letters

01:02:19.460 out to these people who do these other versions of the program.

01:02:21.960 They're like, it's fucking different though.

01:02:23.640 First of all, bro, we all know what you're doing.

01:02:25.160 You're trying to jock the nuts of the most popular fucking program that's ever existed in

01:02:28.620 humanity fucking internet world ever.

01:02:31.440 Right.

01:02:31.600 Okay.

01:02:31.760 Secondly, um, that's called likelihood of confusion in legal terms.

01:02:35.820 Okay.

01:02:36.220 And what that means is that people are likely to confuse a trademarked program with whatever

01:02:43.340 the fuck you're trying to do, which will get you sued.

01:02:45.760 Just so we're clear because these people act like victims when they get these letters,

01:02:49.600 they're like, Oh, Andy's such a dick.

01:02:51.820 No dude, that's my shit.

01:02:53.340 And you're fucking with it and you're deluding the entire fucking reason for it.

01:02:56.680 So stop fucking doing it.

01:02:58.100 Go do Weight Watchers.

01:02:59.120 I don't give a fuck.

01:03:00.020 Yep.

01:03:00.500 Now I look, I'm, um, I'm not an attorney.

01:03:02.560 I'm an investment banker.

01:03:03.640 I'm not an attorney.

01:03:04.400 Happened to be engaged to one and soon to be married to one.

01:03:07.360 But no, I, I look the, the, the program is designed and did the intention behind it

01:03:13.060 is crystal clear.

01:03:14.660 Don't overthink it.

01:03:15.880 Right.

01:03:16.540 A workout's a workout.

01:03:18.280 Um, 45 minutes to the best of your ability.

01:03:21.580 One of them's outdoors.

01:03:22.680 There's a gallon of water is for the record.

01:03:25.280 This is a good one.

01:03:25.900 Cause we're here.

01:03:26.820 One hundred and twenty eight fluid ounces.

01:03:29.760 I don't know.

01:03:30.480 Europe.

01:03:31.000 It's different.

01:03:31.680 Hold on.

01:03:32.260 No, don't know.

01:03:32.920 You're not putting fucking lemon in it.

01:03:34.340 Is that Kool-Aid?

01:03:35.100 Does Kool-Aid count?

01:03:36.180 No.

01:03:36.560 Does Tang count?

01:03:37.360 No.

01:03:37.820 Look.

01:03:38.320 Does Crystal Light count?

01:03:40.140 Does lemon count?

01:03:42.040 Does cherries in my water count?

01:03:43.460 What about tequila?

01:03:44.360 Does that count?

01:03:45.160 It's clear.

01:03:45.720 Yeah.

01:03:46.560 Blanco it is, but I think, but, but I think I'm going to make a shirt, a 75 hard shirt that

01:03:51.200 says, no, it doesn't fucking count.

01:03:53.300 Send that to me.

01:03:54.240 I'll, I'll change it to my profile photo, but I think, look, but, but this gets to a broader

01:03:58.860 point, right?

01:03:59.460 Which is the people that come into the program that don't know you and don't know the intent.

01:04:05.320 They view it as look, let's call a fact a fact here.

01:04:08.900 Most people start this because they're the tub of shit.

01:04:11.500 They start it for the physical purposes.

01:04:13.360 They get the mental out of it after the fact.

01:04:15.800 So here's the thing.

01:04:16.700 When they start it for physical purposes, because they see the before and after photos,

01:04:20.700 I can't fucking screenshot my brain one or the other, right?

01:04:24.540 I'm an EKG and to show you the difference so I can show you a before and after photo

01:04:28.720 and they see that and that's what they want.

01:04:31.020 So then they talk to their dietician or they talk to their trainer at the gym or they talk

01:04:34.680 to somebody else and they say, yeah, add this to this because this is better for you health

01:04:40.060 wise, but that's the problem.

01:04:41.580 And that's what you don't understand is there are easier ways to lose weight.

01:04:45.220 There are more efficient days.

01:04:46.840 Guys, if you're just trying to lose weight, do fucking weight washers.

01:04:50.180 Have your certain amount of points, have a rest day, but you know, what's not going

01:04:54.140 to change their mind.

01:04:55.360 That's right.

01:04:55.880 And you know, what's not going to change their ability to fucking live within your own

01:05:01.280 standard and have control of your own life, wherever the fuck you go and whatever happens

01:05:05.900 to you, because here's the thing, because you have no adherence, everything else that

01:05:09.680 I talked about your career, your relationship, your life, your family, your parenting ability,

01:05:17.300 your anything else, any decorum in anywhere else in your life, you know, doing weight

01:05:24.860 watchers a certain way, isn't going to touch that.

01:05:26.780 Now, what it could do is it could maybe help your self-confidence for sure.

01:05:30.300 And that could help other things.

01:05:31.180 But, but what we're talking about here, right, is, is something that is designed to impact

01:05:38.600 collectively the rest of your life that you will always have the ability to go back to

01:05:42.860 as a tool.

01:05:43.360 Shouldn't be.

01:05:44.220 I mean, look, dude, here, here's what I did the same thing you did where I gained weight,

01:05:50.340 I lost weight, I gained weight, I lost weight, I gained weight, I lost weight, a way that I

01:05:54.020 would encourage you to think about 75 harm.

01:05:56.180 And the proper way to think about it when you're starting to do it is not like, oh, I want to

01:06:01.020 get in shape.

01:06:02.060 It's, I want to develop the power to never get out of shape ever again.

01:06:06.900 I want to develop the power to walk into a restaurant and order the things that I know

01:06:12.680 are best for me off the menu without temptation of having to have the appetizers and the pizza

01:06:19.200 and all the shit.

01:06:19.960 It's how do I develop the control over my existence in all areas that other people seem

01:06:27.400 to have that I don't have.

01:06:29.120 This is what the program is supposed to do.

01:06:31.480 And if you address it and think about it the right way from the beginning where, fuck, what

01:06:36.700 is it worth for me to be ultimately confident?

01:06:39.980 What would I pay for that?

01:06:41.400 What is it worth for me to have control over my actions instead of having this beer that's

01:06:46.800 sitting in front of me, uh, at the, at the bar to have control over me where I can't

01:06:51.600 resist it.

01:06:52.520 Now it's to the point where if I'm drinking a beer, it's because I chose to drink the

01:06:56.560 beer.

01:06:56.940 If I'm eating a pizza, it's because I fucking chose to eat the pizza, not because I couldn't

01:07:01.280 resist the pizza.

01:07:02.400 How much is that worth?

01:07:04.100 What is that worth in your life?

01:07:05.680 Because that power is actually the key to unlocking every single area of your life because it takes

01:07:12.760 you from someone who is blowing in the wind to the, to the, to the rhythm of circumstance,

01:07:20.060 whatever the circumstance must be that day or that time to someone who operates with an

01:07:25.560 intent, regardless of which direction the wind is blowing.

01:07:29.180 And that's ultimate power.

01:07:30.760 That's what we're, that's what we're after.

01:07:32.400 So it's not just the weight loss.

01:07:34.100 It's back to what we said about the second time when you do 75 hard, because you've already

01:07:38.820 done it.

01:07:39.300 You're like, fuck, I'm capable of doing that.

01:07:41.480 And what else am I capable of doing?

01:07:43.560 What else can I do?

01:07:45.100 And so like, dude, this, this whole process of developing mental toughness is still, even

01:07:52.260 as popular as the program has been, it's still highly misunderstood.

01:07:57.280 It's still highly misunderstood.

01:07:58.740 Your mental toughness, which incorporates the skills and their skills, because you can acquire

01:08:04.040 them of discipline, grit, fortitude, the ability to persevere, the creation of self-confidence,

01:08:11.920 the creation of self-esteem.

01:08:13.700 These things are the most powerful thing in your entire life.

01:08:19.040 They are the most important skillset you could possibly have.

01:08:21.720 There is not a more important skillset that you could possess or develop in yourself because

01:08:27.420 those skillsets lead to the decisions that create your life.

01:08:31.540 And when you make those decisions the proper way, because you have the skill of making the

01:08:35.720 right decision, not the decision that's feels good right now, now your life looks completely

01:08:40.940 different in a drastically short amount of time.

01:08:43.240 So like when you look at 75 hard, if you're listening to this the first time and you're

01:08:46.500 like, fuck, I want to do this.

01:08:47.800 Don't look at it as like, yes, you will get in shape.

01:08:51.100 Yes, you're going to look good.

01:08:52.220 It's going to be fucking amazing.

01:08:53.220 You're going to love it.

01:08:53.760 But that is not that that is so little of what you gain out of it.

01:09:00.460 And I think that's the reason it's gone so mega viral, bro.

01:09:03.380 Like, that's the reason it doesn't slow down.

01:09:05.220 It continues to accelerate.

01:09:06.260 Yeah, it's it's people are doing it and actually discovering that power in themselves.

01:09:12.500 Yeah, I think it was, you know, it's it's amazing if you go back to, you know, the original

01:09:19.560 75 hard podcast recording, which, by the way, is a prerequisite that you listen to before

01:09:25.680 you join this group, because you're going to be asked to answer a series of questions.

01:09:29.280 I don't based on what I don't like all the cursing.

01:09:31.520 I don't like.

01:09:32.320 Well, then you ain't definitely tough enough to do the fucking program.

01:09:34.720 Like I said, I tell people all the time.

01:09:36.360 I'm like, you know, why do I have to listen to him?

01:09:37.780 Like, listen, the original podcast, I think it was, you know, it was a re-air, but it was

01:09:41.640 like 42, 43 minutes, something like that.

01:09:44.580 I tell people all the time, listen, if you can't give me fucking 42 minutes, then you

01:09:48.800 sure as shit ain't giving me 75 days.

01:09:50.700 That's a fact.

01:09:51.120 And so so to that end, you know, it's it's it's going to be something that look, the thing

01:09:59.640 that I can kind of put a period on the sentence with on this is, is if you're listening to

01:10:04.500 this, right, I keep saying it and it's such a simplistic statement, but, you know, you

01:10:10.920 know, if you need to, you know, where you are at, you know, if the things that we're

01:10:16.080 talking about, you're lacking, you know, that if you're reaching to alcohol, if you're

01:10:20.560 reaching to drugs, if you're reaching to, you know, um, dude, but let's talk about other

01:10:25.920 shit other than like, you know, uh, you know, people that like, you know, fucking drink or

01:10:30.400 stuff like that.

01:10:30.920 How about people that go out and buy shit that they can't fucking afford to give them

01:10:34.740 temporary good feelings about them for a fucking hour.

01:10:37.720 Yeah.

01:10:38.180 Right.

01:10:38.500 Like you go buy a fucking watch, you go buy a fucking car and great.

01:10:41.600 Guess what?

01:10:41.980 It's fucking gone.

01:10:42.780 And then God forbid you can't fucking support yourself financially.

01:10:45.880 And now you're in a hole there.

01:10:47.300 And now that's fucking dog shit too.

01:10:49.460 There's so many things out there, but the fact of the matter is, is that if you're listening

01:10:54.400 to this and if you look at this and you're like, man, I need that because that's where

01:10:59.160 when, when I heard it talked about, you know, things were going well, but they could be

01:11:03.600 better.

01:11:03.900 And the reality is, is that I'm nowhere near where I'm going to end up in life.

01:11:08.340 And I know you talk about that all the time too.

01:11:10.440 When somebody says to you, dude, congratulations on all your success, just getting started.

01:11:15.180 Right.

01:11:15.640 And, and so to that end, to that end, um, this is a journey.

01:11:20.280 Yeah.

01:11:20.680 And I think that's for, by the way, for people that are athletes, people that have historically

01:11:25.940 been great at something.

01:11:27.280 One of the difficulties for those people is they've always looked at the scoreboard.

01:11:31.400 They've always looked at the clock.

01:11:32.900 They've always looked at whatever that is that doesn't exist here.

01:11:36.060 This is truly you versus you.

01:11:37.900 And there is no finish line.

01:11:39.760 And it's because you initially see 75 days as a finish line, but then all of a sudden

01:11:45.240 you crossed into day 76 and you're like, shit, there is no finish line.

01:11:49.460 And then it's ongoing.

01:11:50.700 So this is a constant process and evolution of betterment, uh, in every area of your life.

01:11:56.400 And like I said, you know, if you need it, if you do, then do it.

01:12:00.400 Right.

01:12:00.840 And I'm not going to go into the whole, Oh, if I can do it, you can do it kind of thing.

01:12:04.020 Look, you're talking to two dudes right here.

01:12:06.300 You're talking to two dudes.

01:12:07.460 Like this is the camera.

01:12:08.360 You're talking to two dudes right here that collectively were well over 700 plus pounds

01:12:15.180 collectively.

01:12:15.820 Yeah.

01:12:16.900 750 pounds between, between dude, look, and that's just weight.

01:12:22.400 Yeah.

01:12:22.800 We're not even talking about the rest of it.

01:12:24.520 Right.

01:12:24.780 And so if you need it, there's a community there to support you.

01:12:28.520 We'll help you.

01:12:29.540 We'll support you.

01:12:30.780 Right.

01:12:31.360 We're going to keep you accountable to your shit.

01:12:33.280 And so if you don't like being told the way it's going to be, then you're either going

01:12:36.040 to fucking learn and you're going to develop that muscle in your head.

01:12:39.060 We're going to be fucking gone.

01:12:40.580 Yeah.

01:12:40.840 And that's the truth as well.

01:12:42.040 Yep.

01:12:42.980 Well, bro, I really appreciate you making the trip up and coming on the show and sharing

01:12:47.000 your perspective on everything.

01:12:48.500 Uh, thanks for taking care of everybody in the 75 hard group.

01:12:52.640 Um, where, what's the best way for people to get in touch with you?

01:12:58.160 Um, so like we're going to follow you.

01:13:00.560 Yeah.

01:13:00.840 Um, so Instagram is N P Salvatore.

01:13:05.360 Um, that's, that's the main one I use.

01:13:07.560 Um, I, I don't post as far as like, you know, photos and shit often a lot more active in

01:13:14.580 my stories and stuff like that.

01:13:16.340 Um, I think a lot of people have transitioned that way on their social, at least with Instagram,

01:13:20.400 of course, the group there as well.

01:13:22.780 Um, you know, you'll see me in there, Nicholas Salvatore, you won't miss it.

01:13:26.640 It's just a very handsome profile picture of a man in a tuxedo.

01:13:30.220 It's, it's, it's hard to miss.

01:13:31.900 Um, but, uh, but you'll, you'll see me in there, you know, maybe once a day popping in,

01:13:36.060 uh, trying to help.

01:13:37.240 I'll try to support people last night when I was on the flight up from the Miami area,

01:13:41.580 I'll just jump in and, you know, I had nothing else to do, but do a Q and a with some

01:13:45.720 people for two and a half hours.

01:13:47.080 What are they doing?

01:13:47.980 Where are they at?

01:13:48.640 What are they, you know, what's going on here?

01:13:50.460 What's going on there?

01:13:51.640 Clarifying a fucking cold plunge versus the shower shit like that.

01:13:55.200 But, um, but both of those areas.

01:13:56.920 Well, bro, thank you so much for everything that you do for the community.

01:13:59.960 Thanks for, uh, taking control.

01:14:02.140 I appreciate your friendship, bro.

01:14:03.460 And, uh, congrats on the engagement.

01:14:05.260 Thank you.

01:14:05.720 And, uh, I'm looking forward to many, many more years of friendship.

01:14:08.020 Absolutely.

01:14:08.440 Thank you, brother.

01:14:09.020 All right.

01:14:09.800 All right, guys, that's the show.

01:14:11.160 If you're interested in 75 hard, live hard, and you're curious about where to get more

01:14:15.200 information, go to episode two Oh eight in the real AF feed.

01:14:19.220 It will explain 75 hard and the live hard program in its entirety.

01:14:23.480 That's very clear.

01:14:24.640 It's very concise.

01:14:25.780 You will understand it.

01:14:27.040 And if you don't understand it, it's because you don't want to understand it.

01:14:29.340 So episode two Oh eight in this feed on audio only, not on, um, uh, YouTube and, uh, show

01:14:36.340 the show.

01:14:37.200 Went from sleeping on the floor.

01:14:39.340 Now my jewelry box froze.

01:14:41.040 Fuck a bowl.

01:14:41.820 Fuck a stove.

01:14:42.680 Counted millions in the cold.

01:14:44.180 Bad bitch, booted slow.

01:14:46.000 Got her on bankroll.

01:14:47.660 Can't fold.

01:14:48.520 Doesn't know.

01:14:49.360 Headshot case closed.

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - May 27, 2023

522. #75HARD vs Nicholas Salvatore

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