REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 533. #75HARD vs Bishoi Khella

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies

00:00:21.020 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we

00:00:25.200 have a very very special episode of 75 hard verses i want to get right into it i don't waste any time

00:00:31.180 on the introduction if you want to hear the introduction go listen to all the other shows i

00:00:34.160 did uh i have a very very very special guest here today um you guys have seen me share his story uh

00:00:43.680 it was incredibly impactful for me and in fact if you follow me on social media you know that like

00:00:51.140 when i first saw it it made me like legitimately emotional where i cried and um it's it's it's an

00:00:58.720 honor to have you here man uh i got my good friend here bashoi from toronto who's lost how much weight

00:01:05.280 160 pounds 160 pounds man and completely reclaimed his life um brother first of all before i even get

00:01:13.840 into the show you know i do this for a living like i see people change their lives for me okay i'm very

00:01:19.440 fortunate i get to see it all the time very very rarely at this point do i see a transformation

00:01:25.900 that affects me in the way that yours did because i identified with it personally so much and um

00:01:31.880 bro i know what that battle's about i know how fucking hard that is i know how hard it is to live

00:01:37.360 that other life and uh dude just total respect for what you've done appreciate you yeah bro means a lot

00:01:43.980 it's you're gonna change a lot of people's lives with that work that you've done i mean a lot and

00:01:50.060 i don't i don't know that you actually understand how many and how impactful what you've done is

00:01:55.720 going to be but um it's fucking amazing man it's it's an honor to have you here bro it's an honor to

00:02:01.980 be here lan what you guys have built is actually incredible like just walking around in this facility

00:02:06.100 is like a breath of fresh air bro like everyone is on the same mission it's like i've never seen

00:02:11.900 anything like this it's insane thank you bro thank you been a long road yeah but all the worthwhile

00:02:17.760 things are a long road for sure man for sure so dude so let's let's just start at the beginning man

00:02:24.640 you know how'd you get so fucking fat bro that's a fucking good question bro i just want to be real

00:02:31.660 because like i got a story about my fatness too man no bro i grew up as the fat kid like 16 or sorry

00:02:37.060 from zero to 16 years old i was the fat kid but i was a funny fat kid so i wasn't getting picked on

00:02:41.780 or anything like that but i had a great childhood but at 16 i realized man like if i was gonna get

00:02:47.020 any girls bro i gotta get in shape yeah and so from 16 i just went on a grind so i was in high school at

00:02:53.040 the time and we would i would run around the high school track during my lunch and then after school

00:02:57.820 i'd crush the weights at the gym in our school and then bro i did that from 16 to 22 i was on top of

00:03:03.860 all my shit for like five years living breathing fitness i'd go home watch kai green videos ronnie

00:03:10.100 coleman phil heath like this was my life for five five six years and then man and at 22 i started my

00:03:16.640 business got a girlfriend at the same time and i went from a broke college kid to making like i was

00:03:22.000 living off a thousand bucks a semester to finally pulling in some money like we we got we saw instant

00:03:27.840 results like it's not the typical yeah well it's different time bro you guys got the technology stuff

00:03:32.880 and it's you know everybody's story is a little different exactly like we didn't struggle that

00:03:37.080 hard like i everyone talks about their come up story being such a difficult thing and we got just

00:03:41.320 super blessed and so we started making money right away and so now i just had access to money so bro

00:03:47.080 uber eats every fucking meal like i did not give a fuck every meal was takeout and then that just

00:03:53.220 slowly snowballed into five years of me just being 350 pounds and people think i got to 350 pounds in

00:04:00.020 five years no bro it was literally within one year i gained like 120 pounds just fucking full 180 the

00:04:06.680 opposite direction bro that's very similar what i did too it's wild man yeah and just doing that and

00:04:12.480 then also getting the girlfriend was part of the issue because i the first weight loss i did was

00:04:17.440 because to try to get girls right so once i got the girlfriend once i had the business started making

00:04:22.900 money i felt like i made it i didn't need to do the things that got me to that place i didn't need to

00:04:27.700 continue doing that anymore and so bro one workout i'd skip a workout to kind of work on my business

00:04:33.380 and like just rationalize like yo it's okay one day you need to get this done you need to get this

00:04:38.620 done it just snowballed and snowballed and i was 350 pounds bro life got fucked like at 350 pounds

00:04:43.920 i would i was like avoiding mirrors i'd hop out of the shower dude i'd hop out of the shower put my

00:04:50.580 shirt on before i popped in front of the mirror but to fix my hair or some shit like that's how bad it

00:04:54.900 was i would take ubers to places that were five minute walks away legit to the point where my

00:04:59.480 friends would get there first walking and they'd get the table and then i'd go sit with them and

00:05:03.700 i'd be late because i was waiting for the uber yeah i can't even think of all the other fuck things

00:05:08.160 that happen like bro i would be sitting on my couch thirsty as fuck like so thirsty and i'd wait for

00:05:14.860 someone to get up so i could be like yo yo grab me a water real quick and it's not like at 350 pounds

00:05:20.540 bro you're you could get up it's just that was the sheer level of laziness i was in like yeah you're

00:05:24.960 not fucking 700 pounds you could get up yeah you know what i mean it's just that's how different my

00:05:30.080 life was yeah and like bro a day in the life of bish back then like i'd wake up i'd roll over in bed

00:05:36.700 instantly in the uber eats app like as if it was like some fucking social media app like i was looking

00:05:41.840 through all the food bro you just fucking like like brought me back to like a memory that i

00:05:47.400 eat the shit i used to do yeah you said that because like bro i used to wake up and like the

00:05:51.820 first thing i thought about was what the fuck i was gonna eat for real like the first thing ever

00:05:55.740 it hasn't been a long time since i thought that way honestly i forgot about it same yeah it's like

00:05:59.800 the first thing i do now is wake up chug of water and instantly go for my morning run like it's such

00:06:04.820 a different mindset shit but yeah bro i'd i'd crush i'd uber or order whatever i had on uber eats then go

00:06:11.260 to the balcony smoke a shit ton of cigarettes chug a bunch of coffees and literally just wait for the

00:06:16.080 food to arrive i'd grab it from the door take it to my bedroom sit on my laptop just work all day

00:06:21.180 while i'm munching that shit and that was my life like yeah literally every single day i worked from

00:06:25.540 home i didn't we didn't have an office we don't have an office we just worked from home so i was

00:06:28.740 in bed most of the day just crushing work on my laptop while eating food and every meal was like an

00:06:33.900 all-you-can-eat buffet like yeah you were ordering all the appetizers bro yeah it wasn't like same shit

00:06:38.860 yeah it wasn't like you know i'm ordering one sandwich like bro it was an all-you-can-eat buffet i was

00:06:42.960 brimming all day yeah i get it dude i i was that's how i was eating too um your story is very

00:06:49.920 parallel to mine um i get i went i was an athlete i was always in pretty decent shape and i would

00:06:58.120 struggle my weight i grew up fucking chubby right so it was always a fight for me and then i would go

00:07:04.080 from these phases of losing weight gaining weight losing weight gaining weight and i could never shift

00:07:09.640 my mental to the point where i could keep it off like it would it was always like when i finished

00:07:15.620 and this is why i get so pissed off when i see people finish 75 hard and go right back to their

00:07:19.720 old shit like oh i'm celebrating with a cake and a bottle of whiskey it's like bro you just spent 75

00:07:25.420 days working to get away from that shit that made you fucking miserable you go right back to it

00:07:29.860 and like because i could never conquer that i could never conquer the once i got into shape now it's time

00:07:37.120 to party mindset right and it would just lead me right back to the same thing over and over and

00:07:41.860 over again and then i did like you like you did i got wrapped up in business and uh i put on 100

00:07:48.560 fucking pounds in like a year yeah man gas station food and fucking bullshit you know what i'm saying

00:07:53.620 like like for real dude like they built a quick trip right we got gas station circle quick trip yeah

00:07:58.680 and they got fucking roller food i love i love cheap roller food bro like i'm like a fucking

00:08:02.860 you know i don't know it's like my jam i get in there jalapeno chips and yeah 5 000 calories and

00:08:10.160 i go there two three times a day yeah you know what i'm saying that's that's crazy dude um so what

00:08:17.440 you're clearly a different person now because like you're not just on it you're staying like it's not

00:08:25.140 a this is you're not going back no um this last time that you decided that okay i'm fucking doing this

00:08:32.860 how did that come about bro so i had like a bunch of wake-up calls throughout like the whole five

00:08:38.320 years i was fat there was a bunch of wake-up calls but they never stuck because nothing gave me the

00:08:42.660 structure i needed to actually make it a lifelong thing like bro i tell this story all the time which

00:08:47.180 is actually fuck like i one day i'm like working on my laptop right i'm just crushing work and i

00:08:51.980 i feel like this white flashing light in my eye so i go to the bathroom to see like what's going on

00:08:57.740 do i have something in my eye and then all of a sudden this huge gush rushes down my entire body

00:09:03.460 and i'm in pure panic mode i'm like holy fuck i'm about to die i call my boy mike and i'm like bro

00:09:08.640 i'm dying call 911 i think i'm having a stroke i'm having a heart attack and i was so scared that i would

00:09:14.340 pass out before the paramedics came so i bust open the door and i go downstairs to meet the paramedics

00:09:19.460 in the front of the building and i'm sitting there in the back of the ambulance in the gurney

00:09:23.420 strapped up to a shit ton of machines like my chest everything they're checking my blood pressure

00:09:27.740 my heart rate ekgs and bro i kid you not sitting in that gurney my heart rate was 180 beats per minute

00:09:33.700 just fucking chilling in that gurney and then bro i was terrified i'm calling my brother i'm saying like

00:09:39.320 yo i love you bro i'm about to die like say bye to mom and dad like i was i thought that was it for me

00:09:43.940 we get to the hospital and you know they run every single test in the book like everything and it turns

00:09:50.200 out nothing nothing's physically wrong with me and it turned out to be just a panic attack and i've

00:09:55.320 never had that bro i like i didn't grow up with anxiety or depression or anything like that so i

00:09:59.340 don't know what that felt like and that was the scariest moment of my life and bro looking back

00:10:03.800 to that day i'm like why did that happen and the like what i think is the reason is because i lost

00:10:10.160 all sense of confidence in my health i knew i wasn't healthy anymore and so i had no trust in my

00:10:15.780 health anymore and if anyone knows me for the whole year after that panic attack i had a rough

00:10:21.540 year bro i had panic attacks almost every single day like every fucking little twitch in my arm or

00:10:26.920 every little twitch in my eye paranoid i start fucking tweaking i'm like yo yo this is it i'm about

00:10:32.400 to die like everything for every single day for a whole year yeah and it wasn't until i started

00:10:36.760 getting my health in order a little bit not this was before 75 hard but it was like i'd work out for

00:10:42.400 three four days a week like it was never full ass where it was a lifestyle change i was still the

00:10:47.060 fat kid who worked out occasionally and so that was enough to keep me coasting for another three years

00:10:52.320 where like i'm not about to break down mentally and that was it man like that was my life and so

00:10:58.000 what really got me started was on a trip to mexico we were all chilling with the boys like we end up

00:11:03.400 going and this is the prime of covid and so we used to go to these resorts to party like we were

00:11:08.320 partying from this morning till night like drinking all day eating like shit we get to this resort and

00:11:13.460 no one's on the resort except like a bunch of older people it's like a chill vibe it was prime covid

00:11:18.020 and um we get there and like the the whole trip changed from being like a party trip to being like

00:11:25.020 an enjoy let's relax let's let's explore this city and bro i couldn't walk for 10 fucking minutes

00:11:30.400 without my back flaring up like everything was a mission people all the boys wanted to do like skidoos

00:11:35.060 jet skis all that shit and i i couldn't do that like holding yourself on a jet ski while it's going

00:11:40.680 forward you'll falling off the back like everything was a mission i came back from that trip and i'm

00:11:45.440 like bro this is fucked like you couldn't even enjoy a vacation how are you going to live the rest of

00:11:49.880 your life like this so i started working out on my own for from february to about march and then march

00:11:56.320 my boy mike started asked me to do 75 hard with him again he was doing his second round and bro a little

00:12:02.700 story on that man it's actually nuts so he did 75 hard he's literally the epitome of what you talk

00:12:07.900 about which is lead by example he did 75 hard in november before the year i did it and he was alone

00:12:14.420 in the trenches no one was helping him in fact bro i'm embarrassed to say this because this is

00:12:19.340 fucking embarrassing given how how my life has changed significantly but at the time we're all

00:12:25.800 chilling my boy's having a barbecue in his backyard and we're all chilling we're drinking we're eating

00:12:31.140 like shit and mike's in my boy's home gym doing a second workout of the day and i go into the workout

00:12:36.460 to the home gym and i'm like bro like we're fucking chilling like come drink with us come party with us

00:12:42.480 come eat with us like just make it 76 hard make it another day like what's what's one day gonna do

00:12:48.680 and bro like this is that's how much i had never kept a promise you were that guy bro like it's

00:12:54.880 actually embarrassing now that i look back we've all been that guy before bro it's so embarrassing and

00:12:59.540 bro had i successfully sabotaged him like like you got to be careful who the fuck you're sabotaging

00:13:04.480 because your boys if you're friends with people as a team when one person's winning everyone's

00:13:09.200 winning that's right and so you got to be careful who you're sabotaging because if i had successfully

00:13:13.540 sabotaged him i wouldn't be sitting here right now yeah i'd still be 350 pounds looking the exact

00:13:19.100 same or i might even be dead who knows bro that's fucking awesome yeah that's an awesome story bro

00:13:23.840 thank you man it says a lot about mike too bro yeah for pushing through that shit because that's hard

00:13:28.780 that's hard to resist it is bro you know when you're when you're fucking homies are like bro

00:13:32.720 come on like you only live once exactly like bro live a little life you know all my friends stop

00:13:38.360 saying that shit to me they know it don't work no more it doesn't man yeah it's funny because everyone

00:13:42.180 at the beginning when you're just starting out something yeah everyone's like not sure because

00:13:45.880 you've said it a hundred fucking times no one believes you anymore you know what i mean like

00:13:49.340 you've said it a hundred times yeah and so eventually though when you've been on your shit for so long

00:13:54.340 they don't even try anymore no one even asked like bro when people know i'm on program they don't even

00:13:59.260 ask me to chill anymore like i'm like i'm on the program that's it bro i'm hustling now so it's crazy

00:14:05.240 like people start respecting you and respecting your word when you start respecting your own bro

00:14:10.120 exactly dude i just wrote about this this morning in my fucking post when i was out doing my ruck i was

00:14:16.580 talking about how the world will see you as you see you people think that the world sees you a certain way

00:14:21.960 and then that's how you are and then you have to change it that's not how it works when you see

00:14:26.820 yourself a certain way the world respects that and sees you that way as well and that goes for your

00:14:32.680 habits your lifestyle or anything you're trying to work on and so like we create the image that the

00:14:37.680 world accepts and other people think that the world tells us what to be and i think there is two

00:14:42.020 classes of people right you have a class of people that understand like no fuck you i'm gonna fucking

00:14:46.620 become what i want to become and that's the small percentage and the rest of the percentage

00:14:50.820 the world tells them no three or four times they're like okay i'm just gonna take my place over here

00:14:55.000 and be little and you know be small live small you know and just be a regular person and you know then

00:15:01.440 they're like why why is my life like this well fuck bro because you're not seeing yourself as the way

00:15:05.640 you should be and and and if you can't see yourself that way then you need to build yourself into someone

00:15:11.020 that you can see that way and and dude that's the whole game um it's crazy that you just said that

00:15:16.920 because i was writing about this this morning it was on my mind so how did it go your first 75

00:15:21.160 hard man like tell what were your weight at bro i like i think i started at like 350 yeah or like

00:15:27.060 330 i might have lost like 20 pounds in the first month when we got back from mexico so maybe like

00:15:32.380 330 and bro it was hard man like i chose the hardest thing to do which was running like i even to this day

00:15:37.700 bro i still fucking hate running it is like i'm i'm a heavy dude we're not i'm not like a fucking 140

00:15:42.320 pounds like running runner right so like i don't got the runner build but it was the hardest thing

00:15:46.720 for me to do and it pushed me mentally like to the brink of death every day and so every day i went

00:15:52.200 out and did that and came back and you know check that win under my belt it made regular life easier

00:15:59.420 like i could walk around now and so that was my goal i consistently chased hard for the whole 75 days

00:16:05.000 every single day for that 75 days i ran in the morning except with the exception of when i got

00:16:11.200 covid i had to do two walks that day and i was out like i had fucking a fever like highest fever i

00:16:17.040 would literally walk in the morning go home do the rest of my tasks then go to sleep for the rest of

00:16:22.060 the day wake up do the second walk for an hour and then just come home and k like for three days

00:16:26.660 but bro it's funny because i just baby stepped it for a whole you know how many times i asked myself

00:16:32.460 or told myself i was going to walk for those 75 days bro like fucking 50 out of the 75 days

00:16:37.580 but i never actually walked it's like all about just baby stepping it yeah and so like i just

00:16:42.900 trick my mind play these mental games like yo i'm gonna go for a walk today today's just take it easy

00:16:47.880 bro it's gonna be a walk day you get out there and then bro i'm already out here can i walk for 10

00:16:52.400 minutes or can i run for 10 minutes and then you know it just you just slowly etch it until 45 minutes

00:16:57.240 we're up because every day was a struggle bro like i'm not even to the point where i had anxiety when i

00:17:01.500 woke up and i'm like holy fuck bro like everything hurt you know yeah everything hurt yeah bro my

00:17:07.320 shirt because i had big tits back then bro they would move up and down so my shirt would be rubbing

00:17:12.160 up against my nipple yeah and it was tearing them up yeah it was my whole sweater was bloody my shoes

00:17:17.680 like my white shoes got so bloody from blisters from blisters and from my feet swelling up that my

00:17:23.000 toes like crossed over each other and so they were just scratching yeah it was like that man the feet

00:17:28.060 was a big thing for me the first fucking time i did it too bro yeah like that feet thing it took

00:17:32.440 me like 30 days to get through for sure it was bad the first 15 days if you're not trained for it are

00:17:37.580 fucking brutal on your feet for sure and shin splints too man shin splints were hectic yeah yeah man that

00:17:42.680 was like the whole 75 days and bro i remember that day 76 so i had a plan that i was gonna do a half

00:17:49.240 marathon and i was still heavy as shit like probably pushing like 280 290 at that point i was gonna do a

00:17:54.260 half marathon on day 76 and this is like a testament to how great this fucking program is into switching

00:18:01.180 your mind because bro i would skip workouts if my headphones were dead like that's how me too yeah

00:18:06.960 my headphones are dead bro what do you mean i can't work out and so on day 76 i plan to do a half

00:18:12.040 marathon that's that bitch voice bro bro for real yeah you don't it's we get in these zones man where we

00:18:16.860 don't even realize how powerful like we the boss voice that we all have is so fucking weak that like

00:18:24.120 we don't even hear it anymore exactly you know like my fucking headphones like think about how that

00:18:28.080 sounds that sounds stupid it sounds ridiculous and now like even like running in the rain like yeah

00:18:32.660 bro what the fuck it's just a couple drops on your head that's what's gonna stop you from going out and

00:18:37.060 do that workout yeah but back then it seems like such a real no because we're looking for any reason bro to

00:18:41.740 cop out because we're fucking lazy real shit man i get it dude like i was lazy like that too bro

00:18:47.760 like i fucking know exactly what like dude that's why when i saw your shit it made me fucking break

00:18:52.440 down because i'm like fuck because like bro it's different when you see someone who's kind of gone

00:18:57.740 on the same journey like the exact same journey that you were on like there's a lot of people who

00:19:01.760 have changed and done amazing things and i see that all the time but when i see someone that looked

00:19:06.740 like me that fucking did that work like bro it just it was fucking awesome dude because i knew

00:19:13.100 i already knew right away what the fuck it took you know and it fucking took every it takes everything

00:19:18.000 i went to war for two straight years yeah bro like every day but when people say like you know don't

00:19:22.540 lose weight you're gonna you're gonna lose your funniness yeah it was kind of true because bro i

00:19:26.520 have like ptsd i've been at war for two straight years like i'm not as funny as i used to be now yeah

00:19:31.380 like that's what it was but yeah that's 70 the day 76 when i was gonna run that half marathon

00:19:36.340 so i woke up on day 75 and i'm like i look at the weather app and day 75 today is raining it's

00:19:43.700 pouring it's one of the colder days of the year and day 76 tomorrow is sunny and shit i could have

00:19:48.680 just stuck to that plan but i'm like bro the whole point of this program was to chase hard to do the

00:19:54.760 harder thing and so i'm like fuck it we're doing it today's day 75 we're picking the harder day and i ran

00:19:59.840 that half marathon at like probably 280 290 pounds took me three hours my shit was all bloody but i still

00:20:06.260 finished and it was fucking it was like bro i was i was broken physically but i i was smiling ear to

00:20:11.940 ear that's how proud i was of myself yeah bro it's step by step systematically rebuild the confidence

00:20:17.800 or if you've never had it before builds it because dude every time you go out and do that run every

00:20:22.680 time you go out and defeat that voice that says no dude your headphones are fucking broke right or

00:20:28.640 dude i got blisters or my feet and and dude every single time bro you make a deposit into that boss

00:20:35.060 voice and it gets stronger and stronger and stronger and stronger to the point now we're like

00:20:39.220 bro like you can't be fucked with like no x like nope like i already know for you it's the same

00:20:46.920 like there's nothing anyone could say to me to get me off my fucking program no fucking nothing it

00:20:52.720 doesn't matter who it is like jesus could come down and be like stop your shit and i'd be like i'm

00:20:57.940 like sorry bro i gotta do you know what i'm saying like it's it's a different thing and when we give

00:21:03.760 ourselves the ability to rebuild that side of our brain that voice in our brain it really removes the

00:21:12.860 limits of anything that we choose to do and that's what i'm curious to hear about dude like how has this

00:21:18.400 affected you in terms of your confidence and maybe your relationships with other people and and dude your

00:21:24.640 relationships with like you know uh food and and things like that so with food specifically man

00:21:30.820 like i literally just don't look at food anymore as like a source of dopamine or try to spike my

00:21:36.460 dopamine through food now like it's literally how do i fuel my body i i eat to fuel my body for peak

00:21:42.580 performance because i'm every day right now i'm still running you know you guys do miles here so 6.2

00:21:48.220 miles a day and then working out for an hour so like i literally need to fuel my body for peak

00:21:52.480 performance not to just like spike my dopamine because bro that should never last and you feel

00:21:57.280 like shit right after so my relationship with food has completely changed like i don't look at it the

00:22:01.860 same it's not a source of happiness for me anymore which is like a wild thing to feel and so in terms

00:22:07.960 of confidence like i say this all the time too because what this program gave me was the confidence

00:22:12.840 i needed i'm not talking social confidence like going up to like a girl and saying hi i'm talking

00:22:16.960 confidence in your own word being committed to whatever the fuck you're saying you're gonna do like now

00:22:21.900 i know anything that i say i'm gonna do will 100 percent get done like there's no doubt in my

00:22:27.780 mind and that's what this program has given me it's like confidence in everything and it's funny bro

00:22:31.920 looking back to how i used to run my life and how you do one thing is how you do everything and i used

00:22:37.540 to run my business the same way i ran my life quick instant gratification type of shit yeah fake sales on

00:22:44.680 my site 24 7 fucking up to 90 off big countdown timers like all these sales gimmicks that get you

00:22:51.980 that quick sale that quick conversion hack but bro at the end of the day all you're building is a

00:22:57.100 fucking bargain bin at that point you're not building a brand you're not building any some anything with

00:23:02.140 any sort of substance some soul that actually adds value to people's life and that was the same way i was

00:23:07.660 like trying to get my instant gratification hit i need my sales up bro let me put the fake sale up as

00:23:12.300 quick as possible and so right now bro we scrapped all that shit we went back from the ground up and

00:23:17.320 kind of sucks because i wish i could sit here and be like yo as soon as i did 75 hard man my business

00:23:22.420 skyrocketed but if you think about it man like i have a seven-year business now that i've had to scrap

00:23:28.880 and build back from the ground up because we didn't have a good foundation to start off at but i know for

00:23:34.580 fucking sure in the next three to five years i will be in a much better place than i was now had i

00:23:39.920 continued on with that shit because now i actually add value to people's life i want to change

00:23:44.700 someone's life and so when that becomes your focus and i know you say this all the time when that

00:23:48.920 becomes your focus everything changes not even financially too for you yes it's like a win-win

00:23:54.700 for everyone yeah it's dude look i think you know the business aspect that you're talking about

00:24:01.900 is the number one misunderstood thing especially amongst young people in business they they chase

00:24:09.180 the carrot they chase the the quick fix they they want to run the sale the things that you're talking

00:24:14.300 about without ever thinking of longevity and you bro we're going to be doing this for a long time

00:24:18.520 your reputation is worth a lot like it's important to build something that actually helps people and

00:24:23.200 then let them spread the word for you and i think that's the biggest thing that a business can do is

00:24:27.560 just commit to providing the most amount of value that you can for the customer and if you think

00:24:31.920 about what capitalism actually is that's what it's supposed to be it's not supposed to be a trick

00:24:36.860 hey you know buy my shit and then we deliver something that's not that right it's supposed to be

00:24:43.560 hey people are trading money for something of value and dude when you give something of value over the

00:24:49.380 long haul the money always is there it's just always there so it's cool to hear that you're doing that

00:24:54.340 because a lot of people wouldn't yeah man it's the only way because otherwise like what am i i also

00:24:58.560 didn't feel fulfilled running that shit like straight up like what am i doing every day i'm

00:25:02.200 waking up clicking clicking a couple buttons thinking i'm some big shot businessman but all

00:25:07.100 i'm really doing bro is learning how to use ad platforms or learning how to now that's a valuable

00:25:11.940 skill yeah right it's a valuable skill to build a brand but now you're focused on brand building yeah

00:25:16.520 so it's a big deal it's a little difficult for us now because we're we're basically scrapped back and

00:25:21.340 going building a seven-year business back from day one so yeah we have taken a hit because it is it

00:25:25.540 works it's a fucking it's a hit you know like it works it's a drug as you put the sale up you do

00:25:31.200 get higher sales but over time you're not building you stop responding to it does and then you got to

00:25:36.000 go bigger sales bigger sale and like you're just shooting yourself and you end up having no margin

00:25:40.220 you can't run the business and then you're done it's a it's a never it's like swirling in the

00:25:45.500 fucking drain in the bathtub and eventually you go down the hole and that's how it works

00:25:49.600 it is man and bro we have like we have a good product and like you're just it's just a matter

00:25:54.300 of like you're just shooting yourself in the foot at that point like you're the marketing side of

00:25:58.620 things does not align with the actual work you're putting into the product side it just doesn't

00:26:03.600 align and so it's just this is the only option and it and i'm willing to risk it all for this bro like

00:26:09.020 if if this means this business fails and i i lose everything i have it won't it won't i hope not bro

00:26:14.800 i won't but it won't bro how's it gonna how are you gonna fucking quit no okay well then

00:26:20.280 fucking it ain't gonna fail there you go that's it dude i love it like yeah i mean that's that's

00:26:24.880 the point you know um what about the things that we talk about in 75 hard you know uh the grit

00:26:33.560 the fortitude the mental toughness the ability to persevere the all the qualities that we talk about

00:26:38.880 self-esteem self-worth you know when i when i was heavy and before i figured out that you could

00:26:45.240 actually because i used to like look at people who had these things and i was like confused and

00:26:50.640 actually i was bitter because i'm like why the fuck did they get all these things this how come

00:26:56.300 this guy can stick to a program how come this guy can can follow through but i can't because that was

00:27:01.820 the biggest problem for me bro i could not fucking follow through i couldn't adhere to anything

00:27:06.520 and i would tell myself every monday for fucking years i'm starting today starting on monday starting

00:27:14.480 on monday and then like tuesday would come and i'd be like fuck i'm starving i want pizza right and then

00:27:19.180 wednesday i would like eat the pizza and then by thursday i'm like well fuck it's thursday uh you know

00:27:25.100 i'll just start again on monday and since i'm starting again on monday i'll go fucking hard for

00:27:29.920 thursday friday saturday sunday on food and i gain an extra seven fucking pounds right and dude

00:27:36.480 you said something when you were just mentioning about your confidence in your word how has that

00:27:44.180 affected your life outside of just your business life i mean what's that what has that done for you

00:27:50.500 it's what it's done for me is like everything that i commit to now gets done so even the small

00:27:56.040 things too which actually fucking matter in the end of the day like i told my parents i'm coming home

00:27:59.960 for dinner and i'm not going to text them and be like yo i can't make it today like every little

00:28:04.320 thing in your life becomes your word is your bond going forward and so that that was so super

00:28:10.100 important to me because like honestly man we lie to ourselves all the time we tell ourselves we're

00:28:14.400 gonna do shit and we never fucking do it yeah and that's why we're our confidence goes to fucking zero

00:28:19.300 dude because we don't even believe our own shit you don't you're you know we're like oh i'm gonna do

00:28:24.060 this and you never do any of these things and you're like oh well i'm gonna lose weight and you

00:28:27.760 already know that when it comes out of your fucking mouth that it ain't happening and you know that

00:28:31.760 everybody else is rolling their eyes like oh yeah okay it's not gonna happen you know exactly

00:28:36.120 imagine you had a friend like that bro who every day told you 10 fucking lies you would you believe

00:28:40.620 in him you wouldn't believe in him you wouldn't even want to be friends with him and that's why

00:28:43.300 you end up hating yourself but eventually like eventually it catches up to you and for me like

00:28:47.800 all that shit just ended up manifesting itself in the form of that panic attack because i had

00:28:52.740 internal guilt i wasn't living up to my standard or up to what i knew i was capable of because i was on top

00:28:58.840 of my shit from 16 to 22 and so i peeked behind the curtain of success like i had a fucking great

00:29:04.440 life i every day i would work out i would read i would meditate i was on top of my shit and i know

00:29:09.660 how great i felt and so for five six years when i didn't do that it caught up to me it had to it had

00:29:15.580 to get released somehow yeah and that that's what really did it for me isn't it crazy how like for me

00:29:21.920 like the stuff that we do on a daily basis because i you know i live this way now and i think you do

00:29:28.000 as well seems pretty fucking easy like it's not that fucking hard like but but when i was when i

00:29:35.000 was not doing it it sounded impossible yeah it was like holy shit dude like i gotta work out twice a

00:29:41.520 day i've got to drink a gallon of water i've got to eat you know fucking boring food it's not even

00:29:48.160 boring like everything for me now like all of this shit it actually just feels normal and it feels

00:29:54.340 abnormal when i'm not doing and um it's interesting because you know as i when i decided to lose lose

00:30:04.380 the weight and now for me that was 2015 or 16 15 was what i kind of did the same thing you did i i i was

00:30:12.720 350 i kind of halfway died in my way to 330 and then on january 1st 2016 i'm like fuck this i'm

00:30:19.680 fucking doing this that first year i lost 110 pounds but i i still hadn't discovered 75 hard right so for

00:30:27.940 me i was like terrified i'm like fuck i'm i don't want to put the shit back on right so i kept working

00:30:33.860 i kept working i kept working and then you know eventually 75 hard was born out of that progress and

00:30:38.360 that's whenever everything went to a totally different level and it's interesting how many

00:30:42.400 people talk about it as like a diet or a challenge when in reality it's a very tactical tool it's a

00:30:49.380 program to use to bring your mindset back to where it needs to be which actually allows your body to be

00:30:55.920 fit it allows you to have confidence it allows you to have you know gratitude for where you are

00:31:00.960 because you're proud of who you are now um and it's interesting you know how many people

00:31:07.380 don't look enough into the program to understand what it's really all about because it really isn't

00:31:12.900 about the physical the physical is a the physical is a representation of winning the mental battles

00:31:18.580 on a daily basis and uh you know when you talk about chasing the hard man like that win you know

00:31:27.300 like after you got done with your first fucking run right like everybody thinks the big win is like

00:31:32.380 when you post your slideshow and it's you know 75 slides or 200 slides of you losing all this weight

00:31:38.900 right they think that's the win but the win isn't that actually the win is that first time where you're

00:31:47.520 like fuck dude my feet are bleeding i got blisters and you're like fuck it i'm going anyway and you get

00:31:53.480 done and you're like all right i did it that win is the fucking real win because those are the wins

00:31:59.380 that allow the other big wins to happen and it's interesting to me that people don't recognize

00:32:04.720 their little wins as the big wins because your little wins they are the big wins because without

00:32:10.700 those big wins don't happen people think you just like show up and all of a sudden you're fucking

00:32:14.820 ripped and all of a sudden you're wealthy all of a sudden you're mentally healthy all this bro that's

00:32:19.520 not it it's these little fucking battles that we fight within our mind every single day that either

00:32:25.020 allow us to progress or regress and there is only two options there's not a stay still option there's

00:32:30.700 no fucking neutral in the game of life it is forwards and it is backwards and um it's cool to hear you talk

00:32:37.860 about it bro because like hearing you talk about you know your mentality when you were big it's very

00:32:45.480 similar to what mine was man it was just very very similar i had beaten myself into fucking nothing

00:32:51.060 by promising myself over and over and over and over that i was going to fucking get back in shape

00:32:59.240 and i embarrassed myself to my friends and family because i fucking lied to them about it right like

00:33:04.620 i'm doing this i'm doing this i'm doing this tell them emily this shit you know i'm you know like

00:33:09.520 you you you end up becoming like this fucking like thing that you're actually like disgusted with

00:33:16.500 and that's where i think your panic attack came about for real man that's actually it yeah it's

00:33:22.260 actually it and i'm not i'm not gonna lie because you just said that like you don't understand why

00:33:26.120 people think it's the meant why people look at the physical as a challenge and stuff i'm not gonna

00:33:30.680 lie bro when i started that was my goal i was like fuck all this mental toughness shit i just want to

00:33:35.360 lose some weight yeah that's it yeah but bro when you realize how much mentally this does for you

00:33:40.320 going forward bro you don't give a fuck about the physical anymore the physical like i genuinely like

00:33:44.940 bro i could get better results if i wasn't running every day i want to get jacked yeah running every

00:33:49.880 single day is probably not the best option for that yeah but what running does for me is it pushes me

00:33:55.200 mentally so much and that's what i'm chasing and so like even yesterday coming on here we were nervous

00:34:00.620 to come on this podcast and so i ran a half marathon yesterday to get my mind right dude that's

00:34:05.820 in the morning and bro the the fucking roads here are crazy yeah they're up and down yeah yeah and it

00:34:11.440 was hot we're used to toronto cold ass weather but yeah we did it we got it done half marathon and so

00:34:16.520 that's how we get our mind right now is like i'm chasing something that reminds me of why the fuck i'm

00:34:21.640 doing this yeah yeah so so dude like as you've as you've become this new version of you

00:34:28.140 and shed this old version of you which i believe is permanent how what's happened with the rest of

00:34:36.440 your life in terms of like maybe your friends or your family or people that you're close to

00:34:40.900 yeah so honestly with the my friend circle has gotten smaller it's it's gotten smaller and like

00:34:46.360 back then it was centered around partying like we'd meet a bunch of people we throw big bangers in our

00:34:51.160 house with like 50 people and that just doesn't happen anymore like i generally just it's just i don't

00:34:56.120 have the time for that part of my life anymore yeah like bro when you're drinking every single

00:35:01.320 weekend you don't realize it's not just the day you just got drunk it's the next day and then it

00:35:05.800 takes two three days for you to recover from that hangover and then the mental all that mental shit

00:35:11.040 that you were trying to build up all week by working out twice a day or working out at all eating

00:35:15.200 healthy you just fuck it up on from friday to saturday and then sunday hits you're recovering your

00:35:21.220 you're hungover on sundays too okay there you go yeah man so and so that's what it does and so our

00:35:29.560 circle naturally just got smaller and it's just everyone around me now bro is literally a fucking

00:35:34.180 killer yeah a cold-hearted killer and like they they literally work 24 7 and i like i mike my best

00:35:41.200 friend bro i never see him i don't see him that often but we know that we're both hustling on the

00:35:46.340 side and he's still there for me and we're still there for each other but i see him like once every

00:35:50.260 couple months now because we're both grinding 24 7 now do you so what you're saying is what it

00:35:56.360 sounds like you're saying is your friend circle got smaller but the quality of friendships is much

00:36:01.720 better for sure man yeah for sure it's been the same for me it's been the same for me i don't party at

00:36:06.380 all anymore bro like i i don't even i mean maybe twice a year i'll have a couple beers just because i

00:36:11.200 like beer yeah but like it's not it's not the party life bro and it's it's you know when you when

00:36:16.560 you start figuring out how much collateral damage that lifestyle causes you and then you start

00:36:21.680 recognizing especially if you're an entrepreneur you start recognizing that you're only operating

00:36:27.700 effectively like 10 of the fucking week it becomes very obvious that you can't win that week you know

00:36:34.340 and it took me a long time for it for it to click over for me um but i did the simple math i just did

00:36:41.340 the math i'm like okay well if i fucking drink thursday friday saturday sunday okay that's four

00:36:48.400 out of seven days then monday i feel like shit tuesday i feel cloudy wednesday i feel okay so i get

00:36:57.080 some decent shit done on wednesday and thursday it starts over again so it's like when you really

00:37:01.560 understand that as an entrepreneur you're competing against other businesses and other people which is

00:37:08.240 reality everybody likes to say oh fucking it's me against me no the fuck it isn't you're actually

00:37:14.100 in a game and there's other people that are trying to beat you and that's reality of entrepreneurship

00:37:17.960 it's a fucking sport it's the hardest fucking sport and it's a it's the one of the purest competitions

00:37:25.360 that you could ever have and you're competing against people who are ultra competitive who are

00:37:29.660 taking shit serious who are you know building their mind building their body taking care of their health

00:37:36.060 avoiding things that take them off track and you realize dude for me it just clicked i'm like i can't

00:37:40.940 win i fucking can't win without it you know and i was fortunate that i was able to have some pretty

00:37:48.460 pretty substantial success um up until the point i figured it out right like i am i am pretty skilled

00:37:56.340 as an entrepreneur and when i finally figured it out i mean we were doing nine figures in business right

00:38:02.560 but i started realizing bro that's not sustainable these other dudes are fucking good they're

00:38:08.260 dedicated they're working harder than me they try harder than me and that's whenever it made me

00:38:12.860 realize like fuck i have i have to become a permanent better version of myself and it has to be forever

00:38:19.460 it can't be for a summer right or for a pool party or for a wedding and i think that was a big shift

00:38:25.160 for me man like when i realized like it couldn't be because i used to try to diet for events

00:38:29.220 like same yeah like yeah like oh we have this big pool party you know and i want to be i don't

00:38:34.980 want to be fat so i'll fucking kill myself for six months i'll show up i'm in great shape i party and

00:38:40.560 then right after i party the next day i'm back to my old life because fuck it dude i'm in shape now

00:38:45.060 right i'm living it up and then seven months go by and guess what right back where i was and until i

00:38:51.720 cured this shit mentally i couldn't keep it off and that's what the point of the program really is bro it's

00:38:57.620 for you to become aware and to tune your mind into a fucking weapon that cannot be fucked with

00:39:04.620 you know when you think about why people fail in life and why people struggle in life it's not

00:39:10.260 because it's not because they don't have good intentions it's not because they're so lazy they

00:39:15.480 don't want anything i mean sure dude there's a segment of the population right but i think for

00:39:19.920 most people it's their inability to adhere to the process that they said they were going to do

00:39:26.280 that was my problem at least my problem was never that i lacked ambition it wasn't that

00:39:31.000 i didn't want better for myself it wasn't that i didn't want to be uh you know successful or in

00:39:37.020 shape i wanted all those things but i just did not have the capacity to fucking stick through and

00:39:43.260 some of the things that had been normalized in culture i realized actually fucking hurt my ability

00:39:48.940 to do that like for example this shit with the fucking cheat day every week like everybody talks

00:39:54.520 well you're going to have cheat day well here's what's happening when you have the cheat day dude

00:39:58.820 um you're you're doing six days of perfect work working hard and then and for a reason why are you doing

00:40:06.420 it because i'm dissatisfied with where i'm currently at then on the seventh day you reward yourself

00:40:12.540 with the shit that made you fucking miserable in the first it makes no logical sense and when you

00:40:18.500 really start thinking about it it disrupts the habit building process too soon right so like when you

00:40:26.980 have six days of clean eating and you and you have a seventh day at least for people who have what i

00:40:33.420 believe i had was a food addiction right that's all i fucking thought about bro like when i when i like

00:40:38.220 when you probably woke up and started thinking about the app you're like fucking cheese fries

00:40:42.360 waffle fries right you were thinking about it all you couldn't wait for the shit to come yeah and

00:40:46.600 like that's how i was too and so for me and maybe some people have baseline discipline but i don't

00:40:52.980 think so because the diet industry is one of the biggest in the world and most of you motherfuckers are

00:40:56.260 fat okay let's be real um you guys say you don't need it you don't but you do need it because here's

00:41:02.140 what's happening every single six seventh day you're fucking feeding your fat face with the same

00:41:07.220 shit that made you miserable and you're breaking the mental fucking cycle that you're working on

00:41:11.580 every and so then it becomes this pursuit of the cheat day right like oh i can't wait till sunday

00:41:17.460 so i can fucking be a normal human that there's nothing normal about eating 15 000 calories and

00:41:23.300 getting fucking drunk off 20 fucking beers on a sunday bro there's nothing normal about that normal

00:41:28.740 is understanding that i need to be healthy i need to be fit i need to take care of myself and then

00:41:34.460 committing to that for for a long enough time to where your habits actually change i personally believe

00:41:40.080 like this shit that we hear about oh it takes 21 days to form a new habit i think that's bullshit

00:41:45.840 it's not long enough it's not long enough dude it's not it never has i've done 21 days too how many

00:41:50.840 times so many times me too bro and never stuck it's not long enough yeah that's the thing with this

00:41:55.340 program is that it gives you the momentum you need to put all this shit on autopilot yeah like bro as

00:42:00.400 fucked as this sounds 75 hard is the easy part of my life now because i've been doing it for so long

00:42:06.300 70 i get it for two straight years like yeah the two workouts are automatic the reading is automatic

00:42:11.480 the no drinking the no chemo is automatic like and so the more and more shit that i could put on

00:42:16.840 autopilot like that frees up my time to do other things and that's how you see highly successful

00:42:22.360 people like yourself that seem like they're doing the most crazy shit they're doing a crazy amount of

00:42:27.780 stuff and you're like bro how do they have the time to do this actually have more time you do you do

00:42:32.060 because you built the habits and you put all these all these difficult tasks that would take up a lot

00:42:36.680 of mental calories they don't take up those calories anymore it's just autopilot now dude i was thinking

00:42:41.540 about this as you were just saying that did you find so a lot of people say oh i don't have fucking

00:42:47.620 time for all this shit dude one of the things that i that i learned like almost immediately the first

00:42:54.780 time i did the program was how much time i was fucking wasting like because at first when you're

00:43:00.680 good at wasting time it does seem like a lot of stuff right but when you start to become effective

00:43:05.800 at crossing shit off the list every single day all of a sudden i'm like well fuck dude i i got all this

00:43:11.880 extra time i don't even know what to do with how did you notice that same thing yeah and bro like you're

00:43:16.720 you're running first form bro how can someone think that they have less time than you bro like i don't

00:43:22.580 know what they do yeah like come on bro like it's not just first form there's six other companies

00:43:27.740 exactly you know it's it's uh it's you know but like dude i get it like i see parents with kids

00:43:33.980 like that's a hard thing that's a 24-hour job i mean everybody's life is hard and and we have a lot

00:43:39.540 of shit to handle but the thing is is like when we when we give ourself this excuse of no time

00:43:50.260 i i think i think that's one of the biggest fuck-ups that people make with their life

00:43:57.740 they they say bro how am i going to do this with two kids or how am i going to do this with this or

00:44:01.500 how am i going to do this with that and i would challenge you to flip the question around is how

00:44:05.780 the fuck are you going to do your job living like the fuck you live eating that shit that you're eating

00:44:10.560 not putting good things in your brain not giving your body the the fuel that it needs not moving not

00:44:16.440 taking it like how are you going to be effective how are you going to be an effective can you really

00:44:21.020 say you're going to be the best parent if you're not at your best real talk and are you willing

00:44:25.800 to fuck your kids fucking life up by being a piece of shit because you're lazy i'm just saying

00:44:30.380 i wouldn't be you know what i mean yeah for sure we have to be the best versions of ourselves to get

00:44:34.980 the best results in life whether that's business whether that's our family whether that's um

00:44:40.680 fucking anything and and that's something that that has become glaringly obvious to me that most

00:44:47.640 people seem to not understand like this my mind my heart my body these are fucking tools

00:44:53.400 these are the weapons that we go to battle with every single day and if we do not have these things

00:44:57.920 in check guess what we're gonna fucking lose and that's reality and you may not you may think you're

00:45:04.240 winning you may think you're okay but i can promise you 10 20 30 years from now you're gonna look back

00:45:09.460 and be like fuck for sure i fucking wasted my fucking time and and that's something that i'm very thankful

00:45:15.340 is that i figured that out you know i didn't figure it out till i was like 38 bro you know i'm saying so

00:45:20.200 like i know for a lot of you young guys that sounds old but like i don't feel old anymore i felt old

00:45:26.380 then and now i'm 43 i feel way younger than i've ever felt my whole life well that's the thing with

00:45:32.220 time man is like you when you think you don't have the time this program or in general like just being

00:45:37.240 on top of your shit gives you more time because you're you're thinking clearly now like bro for

00:45:41.600 fucking five years i felt like i had a mental fog in my head 24 7 you're not confident in any of the

00:45:47.220 decisions you're making and so it's taking you longer to make decisions like let's just say let's

00:45:51.860 just say your current tasks are the same exact tasks that you have to do like your life is the exact same

00:45:57.280 if you were to just continue going on this path in life you would just like you you could continue

00:46:04.260 doing this bro you're talking i think you're talking about sustainability which is a big criticism

00:46:08.800 of the program because you hear you see these people out there it's not sustainable have you fucking

00:46:13.260 done it because most of the shit sticks forever right um and they also don't understand that

00:46:20.040 live hard is a fucking whole year thing um dude let's switch gears for a minute let's talk about

00:46:26.900 reading because i think reading is one of the most important aspects of the program were you reading

00:46:32.160 before when i was like 16 to 22 yeah but i didn't touch a book in like fucking seven years really yeah

00:46:39.260 how did that how did that affect you i honestly i now reading is like a part of my life and i feel

00:46:44.900 like i've grown a lot more like even just the way that i'm able to take in information is a lot better

00:46:49.680 and and like especially when i first started 75 hard like the first books i read were strategic like

00:46:54.840 it was designed to brainwash myself into thinking what i was doing wasn't shit and so like i read books

00:47:00.560 like goggins books tim grover's books yeah even like james lawrence watching his his life with a iron

00:47:06.260 cowboy i got lucky to do 75 hard the first round while he was doing conquer 100 and so that's cool

00:47:11.220 i got to wake up every day and see him doing his shit and it's crazy man because you look at people

00:47:16.080 like that who are crazy high achievers and you're like bro you start thinking of them as if there is

00:47:21.320 some divine being you know like they're not human they're not though yeah but the thing the thing is

00:47:26.440 they're just regular people bro they're just regular people going through their own shit i'll never

00:47:30.160 forget this day i look at one day and james lawrence posted a video of himself that day doing

00:47:34.320 conquer 100 and he's he's like holding back tears and he's like i'm gonna try today man and he was

00:47:39.960 just going through it bro and i had the same struggle and so all these people that you look up to that you

00:47:45.140 think are cut from a different cloth like this they're sort of some sort of divine being they're

00:47:49.320 just regular people who've been on top of their shit for so long and that's who i kept chasing bro is

00:47:54.280 like like brainwashing myself into looking at people doing incredible things to believe that what i was

00:48:01.200 doing is nothing compared to that and so when people hear like bro i ran a half marathon at this

00:48:06.160 way i ran a marathon last year i ran 28k on my birthday for 28 for my 28th birthday like all this

00:48:12.700 crazy shit and it's like how'd you do that bro you're still heavy it's because the standard was so

00:48:18.680 high the people i was looking up to were so high that it made me feel like what i was doing is nothing

00:48:23.460 and so that was what the reading did for me and that was i strategically planned those books at the

00:48:28.420 beginning when i needed to build the mental strength to be able to continue on now the books

00:48:33.200 i'm reading are more toward like knowledge i'm trying to gain in terms of business in terms of

00:48:38.360 marketing in terms of sales but yeah man those books have made a huge impact on my life bro i i start

00:48:45.000 75 hard almost every single time i do it with relentless from tim grubber almost every single

00:48:51.040 time man the book resonates with me so hard and it's not for everybody bro like a lot of people read

00:48:56.840 that book and they're like what the fuck is he talking about and it's because you you haven't

00:49:01.440 developed that the shit he's talking about yet but if you continue to press on you will start to

00:49:06.080 understand it every time i read that book i gain new shit out of it every single time i was just

00:49:10.720 gonna say man every book i've reread every time i reread it you get a different nugget out of it yeah

00:49:15.840 it's like a different that's a great book to like set the pace though yeah like if you're somebody out

00:49:20.340 there who is like you like you're like fuck i need this mental calibration i think starting with

00:49:25.660 that book is such a powerful way because it just makes you realize like okay there are people out

00:49:31.360 here that are doing like these people that i see as champions the kobe bryants the michael jordans

00:49:37.040 these motherfuckers didn't come out of the womb michael jordan they didn't come out kobe bryant kobe

00:49:42.360 bryant was shooting free throws every single fucking day of his career at 3 a.m right like we're talking

00:49:47.260 about a crazy obsession to be great and like when you mention like goggins or james lawrence

00:49:53.740 these dudes because i know them personally you know these are just normal people who have pressed

00:50:02.080 beyond their perceived comfort zone more and more and more and more to the point where now

00:50:11.140 they are literally limitless because for you to believe that you're limitless you have to continually

00:50:16.980 push yourself outside of the box of what you believe that you're capable of enough to know that you are

00:50:22.800 capable right so like when you first ran your first fucking workout like you probably thought

00:50:29.620 fuck i don't know if i can even do this right but you got home that first day and you're like

00:50:34.300 fuck i did that right so then you wake up the next day you're like okay well i did this yesterday

00:50:39.080 so i know i can do it it's funny because you mentioned the cold plunge my man just did his first

00:50:44.000 cold plunge today he did real good six minutes first time that's fucking amazing good good you

00:50:49.360 doing okay i'm fine i was shivering for a little bit right after yeah for a while it's different than

00:50:54.740 the cold showers then bro fuck yeah i do cold showers every day yeah it's totally different dude

00:50:59.720 and the uh but the thing is is like dude i've been doing the cold plunge today was day 76 for me in a

00:51:05.660 row and every fucking time bro like every time and this is part of the reason i love it every time i

00:51:13.440 stand in front of that cold plunge and i'm like fuck this is gonna fucking suck like and then i'm

00:51:18.800 like the next thought is dude you've done this 74 fucking days in a row 75 like you can do this get

00:51:25.120 the fuck in there and i'm in it you know and it sucks for you know 10 seconds right exactly yeah it's

00:51:31.240 good the same thing with the shower the shower knob man like just turning that to cold yeah

00:51:35.680 fuck i love that though yeah i love that cold shower yeah like the minute i feel that shit on

00:51:40.280 my because i always let it go straight on my head like on the top of my crown at first and the minute

00:51:45.440 i start feeling it get like real cold i fucking yeah i gotta go right on my face and bro it just

00:51:50.640 i've learned to like literally love that so i love the feeling after yeah like every time i i think

00:51:56.420 i'm gonna bitch out of doing it yeah i'm like bro when you step out of there you feel

00:52:00.200 fucking incredible yeah so that honestly that's that's literally what i've been doing with

00:52:04.120 everything for the last two years is just like trying to continuously chase hard like i said

00:52:08.980 and so bro like even last year right we i it was fucking negative 30 degrees the the coldest day of

00:52:15.600 the year yeah and i wake up and i look we had a massive thunderstorm i'm looking at the weather

00:52:19.560 and i usually run in the morning but and then work out in the evening but i look at the weather app

00:52:24.400 and i'm seeing that the peak of the storm is at 7 p.m bro i switched the order of my workouts

00:52:30.140 so i could purposely go out at 7 p.m and experience that peak fucking weather because

00:52:34.860 that is a win under my belt and the more and more i can collect of those it's literally medallions bro

00:52:40.780 because it makes regular life easy yeah like it's like what goggins talks about the cookie jar

00:52:45.780 exactly you know you're putting these things in your fucking jar so that when things get hard

00:52:50.200 you're like fuck the same shit dude i already did this yeah you know it's a fucking powerful thing

00:52:54.920 man it is i know exactly what you're talking about yeah bro i still do that like i still like

00:52:59.500 if i if i if i wake up and i see that we're gonna get like a storm at like three o'clock i'll wait to

00:53:07.160 do my ruck until fucking three you know because i want to do it yeah especially when you're doing

00:53:12.220 stuff at that level now you don't get those opportunities too often like i was praying for

00:53:17.680 fucking winter storms last year because you don't get those opportunities anymore to push yourself

00:53:22.520 that much more mentally and so that's like you just end up chasing that and the more and more

00:53:27.420 you chase that bro like life just becomes so much easier and what's crazy about those workouts too

00:53:32.060 dude is that the the amount of pride that you feel after those workouts is like 10 times more than the

00:53:40.360 normal workout exactly yeah it's cool bro because i do the same shit dude we had a day here over the

00:53:45.000 winter this past winter that was minus 27 which is abnormal here i know you guys got a little

00:53:50.000 different yeah it's not it's not like that here you know we might get a few days where it's under

00:53:55.960 zero and uh i remember thinking i'm like well fuck i'm gonna fucking do this shit and i went out and

00:54:02.720 did it bro i got done i was cold as fuck the rest of the day i'm like dude nobody did that nobody did

00:54:07.700 that none of you motherfuckers that think you're competing with me fucking did that none of you

00:54:12.200 you don't have cars driving by yeah oh they're trying to pick you up yeah like yo are you okay what's

00:54:16.840 going on exactly yeah yeah they're like what the fuck are you doing i'm like bro i'm actually out

00:54:20.520 here on purpose i dude that's happened to me a lot in thunderstorms and snowstorms shit like that

00:54:26.160 but bro days like that you're literally getting 10 15 days in one 10 15 days of growth in one day

00:54:31.800 it's literally like a hack to get there faster yeah so what would you say to someone who's who's you

00:54:37.080 know maybe heard of the program but not done it or thinks they can't do it like someone because i

00:54:42.840 gets people like that they're like bro i'm i'm not ready for that you know i'm gonna do this and

00:54:47.040 this and this it's like bro it's scalable you know i'm saying like you can walk if all you can do is

00:54:52.660 walk you can walk but the point is to press on to the harder things as they get harder or as you get

00:54:59.560 more capable for sure man from what i always say bro is like if you're continuously waiting for that

00:55:05.120 perfect moment until you get to a certain level or until you can you know think of the new get that

00:55:10.740 more one more piece of information to complete the puzzle to be able to do it bro you are never

00:55:15.220 starting like how many fucking times are you going to go out there buy the workout clothes buy the

00:55:19.620 supplements buy the fruits and veggies that just rot in your fridge at some point you just got to jump

00:55:25.340 in and eventually everything will fall into place i lost 120 pounds in my first year without knowing

00:55:31.120 how to calculate my calories without knowing how to do my macros and all i did was just jump in and

00:55:36.660 figured it out along the way everything you need to know is out there in the track in the field where

00:55:41.880 with the hard shit and so if you're waiting for that perfect moment it's never coming and the thing

00:55:47.660 is like bro people think like you have to do what i did you have to do a run every single day you have

00:55:52.260 to do a crazy workout every day no but i was capable of doing that and so that's why i chose to do that

00:55:57.880 but if you're fucking 500 pounds or 700 pounds or whatever bro a workout is literally you sitting down

00:56:03.600 and standing up for a whole fucking 45 minutes that's right point and so it is scalable and it

00:56:08.420 is doable and i'm telling you it is so worth it because the level of you operate at another level

00:56:14.020 mentally forever bro if you continue on this path i i think it's i think i think it's important to note

00:56:21.940 you know it's not a cure-all forever it it but the awareness that you gain lasts forever meaning

00:56:29.360 discipline is a perishable skill we don't practice it it we lose our edge but what i really love about

00:56:38.880 the program and what i think it does for people that people don't articulate properly is that it

00:56:45.220 brings a level of awareness to you know like for example like when when i got fat like when i went

00:56:56.060 like from when i gained 100 pounds in a year the same shit you did i was not aware that i was that far

00:57:05.760 off track you know what i'm saying like i would i would put on a little weight and yeah my my jeans

00:57:10.460 were a little tight and then i would buy the next pair up right and i'm like oh this is not bad and

00:57:15.380 like it was imperceptible how far off track i had gotten and what i think this program and i think the

00:57:22.100 magic of this program is the awareness that it creates that never goes away so like the minute

00:57:27.800 that you start to fade off you're like fuck i'm fucking off track and you correct almost immediately

00:57:34.880 so it never allows you to get like more than two or three days out of cycle at least that's how it's

00:57:40.740 been for me you know i might have two or three days when i'm not like you know it might be in between

00:57:47.220 phases or whatever where you know i don't complete all the tasks right most of the time i do all of

00:57:53.340 them automatically but like my old self wouldn't recognize that as like a as like a problem you know

00:58:01.660 what i'm saying exactly my new self i'm like fuck okay the last three days i missed four tasks total

00:58:08.420 fuck all right i need to get my shit together and it allows me to reel myself back in instead of drift

00:58:16.100 so far off course that it becomes this massive mountain that we have to keep climbing our whole

00:58:20.040 lives for sure and that was something i admired in other people that i never had like i never had

00:58:24.620 the ability to kind of like keep it together you know what i mean like i could get it together but i

00:58:30.540 couldn't keep it together and that's you know that i think that's the magic of it i think at least for

00:58:36.680 me it is it's been it's it's not that i've stayed a hundred percent discipline because if i did i

00:58:42.220 wouldn't have to continue to do it as a lifestyle but now whenever i do pull off just a little bit i

00:58:49.580 can feel it i notice it i'm in tune with it and i and more importantly guess what i know exactly what

00:58:55.020 i need to get back yeah yeah man that was like the number one question a lot of people ask me

00:58:59.820 he's like yo do you still cheat do you still have alcohol do you drink and shit and bro yes i'm not

00:59:04.440 gonna sit here and act like i'm some fucking 75 hard poster boy who doesn't have like a grain of rice

00:59:09.540 like no i still have those days same bro yeah yeah but the thing is bro the difference is is like

00:59:14.960 now i am in control of my life that's right like i'm in the driver's seat of my life yeah i'm not

00:59:20.720 you know falling into quick uh instant gratification type of shit you know like i am fully on board with

00:59:27.640 what i'm doing in my life my goals are aligned with my actions or my actions are aligned with

00:59:32.100 the goals i've set for my life yeah and so that's what this program does and like the momentum you're

00:59:36.860 right man you it's so easily lost but this program gives you the quick bounce back if you just hop back

00:59:44.320 on so i went on a trip to columbia for a week and bro i i had my fun there like i'd show you the life

00:59:50.080 yeah i lived the life and it was my first long vacation off program for two years yeah i came

00:59:55.720 back and i already felt myself being like yo it's your first day back you can chill today or go for

01:00:01.020 a walk you don't have to run can you don't have to do this anymore it's your first day just settle

01:00:05.360 back in and as soon as i started hearing that i was like no fuck that phase one we're going right

01:00:10.160 into phase one i wasn't planning on doing phase one till later in the year but that's what this does

01:00:14.520 for you is gives you like you said the awareness to like yo you're gonna you're about to go down a

01:00:19.100 dark path if you start hearing that voice that made you the way that fucking made you hate yourself

01:00:24.280 again very clearly you're like oh shit that's how i got there at least for me that's how it is for

01:00:30.760 sure man yeah dude i uh i totally fucking i i you know i think another thing too dude like you were

01:00:37.640 saying about putting you back in the driver's seat you know back when i was when i was drinking and

01:00:42.060 living that life and being a fat fuck which is what i was um i couldn't go to a restaurant i had i

01:00:48.920 i was incapable of going to a restaurant like i i knew what i needed to order right like before

01:00:54.980 they handed me the menu i'm i'm like i don't even need to look at this i know what i need but here's

01:00:58.760 what would happen i'd sit down and look at the menu i'd see the shit that i really like wanted

01:01:04.760 and then the the fucking voice started right it started convincing me why i should order this shit

01:01:12.360 the pizza the wings the fries all the bullshit and the alcohol over what i knew i needed right

01:01:19.060 and so the waitress would come over or the waiter would come over and i already knew what i was

01:01:25.400 supposed to order but i was fucking incapable of saying it i had no i dude i couldn't do it and

01:01:31.280 every time they would come over i would order the fucking pizza and the fries and the bullshit

01:01:36.360 and then i would be like i'm sorry i'm starting back tomorrow it's no big deal sure and i would

01:01:40.840 tell myself this fucking lie over and over and over and over and people act like the same thing bro

01:01:49.240 they're like bro you always on no i'm not always on the fucking program bro i love fucking beer dude

01:01:53.720 i love fucking i love to fucking drink and shit i just understand what i'm trying to do with my life

01:01:59.660 and so i remove it as much as possible but here's the thing if you set this beer down in front of me

01:02:07.580 this water bottle that we're going to pretend is a beer i didn't have the ability to not fucking

01:02:12.760 drink i did not have even that amount of discipline in my life i have no fucking power over food and

01:02:18.540 alcohol at all and dude that made me feel like a fucking weak piece of shit like i was like how the

01:02:24.280 fuck can all these people do this but i can't do this and then i would drink five or six beers and i

01:02:28.920 forget about it until tomorrow right and uh which led to 20 beers right and all kinds of other stupid

01:02:34.860 ass shit but the point is now when that beer is set in front of me i'm making the fucking decision

01:02:43.380 don't give a fuck that beer doesn't have power over me this fucking menu doesn't have power over me dude

01:02:48.160 but if i want to if i want that shit i'm gonna take it i'm gonna take it but it's it's it's the it's

01:02:53.900 resetting the position of power to yourself versus outside influences and to me that's what have been

01:03:00.620 one of the most powerful changes that i've had over the last four or five years is that like dude

01:03:05.020 when i like it's almost to the point where i've forgotten about it like i've almost forgotten

01:03:09.100 how fucking weak i was and so like that also sometimes makes me a little bit harsher on people

01:03:14.600 that are maybe just starting you know what i'm saying i was gonna say the exact same thing yeah i feel

01:03:19.140 like i don't resonate with that shit anymore i'm so far disconnected from that yeah then i'm like

01:03:23.800 almost unsympathetic to what they're going through but bro you got to consider like we aren't there now

01:03:30.480 but we were there no we're still there bro we're still that fat motherfucker that you were and i was

01:03:36.580 that's still inside of me bro yeah i'm terrified of it bro for real yeah pizza pizza is my fucking

01:03:42.680 biggest weakness i know dude i know i kind of want to go get one but the reality is it ain't

01:03:49.200 going to happen no it's not happening so um bro you know we could talk and talk and talk about this

01:03:57.080 uh but you know i think one of the cool things that you're doing is you're using your platform to

01:04:02.180 help people change their lives now where can people follow you at so that because like bro you

01:04:07.600 guys should all be following him especially if you're trying to get better um where are you

01:04:11.940 mainly active at and where where are you instagram it's all my it's just my name bishoy kella all

01:04:17.100 over social these guys b-i-s-h-o-i-k-h-e-l-l-a yeah you guys got to go check him out and follow what

01:04:24.260 he's saying he's doing amazing work um brother thank you so much for making the trip down here dude

01:04:30.360 and thanks for like having the fucking courage to push through this shit thank you because like bro

01:04:37.780 i i know what the fuck that's about bro and that is not easy dude like that what you've done

01:04:42.800 just because i've been literally the exact same weight and like

01:04:48.260 i don't know man it's just it just it just hits me in a different way when it comes to you because

01:04:56.080 i fucking know exactly like exactly what the fuck that's like and uh every story that we produce as

01:05:03.820 individuals where we climb these fucking massive mountains in our own life ends up changing other

01:05:12.100 people other people see that shit bro and they say fuck dude if if if bishoy can do it i can do it

01:05:18.680 and andy can do it i can do it and for you guys out there they're gonna say the same about you man

01:05:23.360 and i believe that to be an obligation like i believe that to be a true obligation that we all

01:05:29.240 need to work to live up to because of what it does for other people and um i just commend you man and i

01:05:37.360 have massive amounts of respect for you thank you man uh it means the world to me coming from you

01:05:42.020 it's a dream come true being in this building well like it's it's real shit man and you fucking earned

01:05:47.480 it and uh i'm excited to to you know build a friendship and continue to you know push to push

01:05:54.420 each other along and and see you build something and succeed and do the things you're wanting to do

01:05:58.560 bro thank you and i have zero fucking doubt you're going to do it you ain't you ain't going back to

01:06:02.480 the other dude for sure i won't let you okay yeah i'm just gonna dm from you like yeah what the fuck

01:06:07.160 you doing yeah let's get back on yeah it ain't happening but uh brother great fucking work man

01:06:13.100 thank you man yeah it's an honor to be here for real yeah well the honor is mine bro thank you man

01:06:18.220 yeah so guys that's 75 hard versus beshoy okay make sure you go follow him make sure you click

01:06:24.540 subscribe there on youtube and let us know what you think of the show in the comments

01:06:27.460 and uh we'll talk to you next time

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - June 18, 2023

533. #75HARD vs Bishoi Khella

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