536. 3 Key Steps To Pull Your Life Out Of Chaos
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Summary
In this episode, I talk about how we are in control of a lot more than we are willing to admit and how we can actually take control of our lives and stop living in the illusion of being a victim.
Transcript
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what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
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the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we
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have a real talk okay i'm gonna get right into it all right i see a lot of you guys especially what's
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going on in the world talking about how chaotic your life feels how you feel like everything is
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out of control you're not in control of anything in your life you're anxious you're depressed
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you don't know what's going to happen next you don't know how to get yourself back on track
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you don't even know why you're off track and uh you don't know what to do and i see this everywhere
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okay we look at society right now and the popular thing is to talk about all the bad things that have
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happened to you um that you create this identity around that you talk about for the rest of your
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life never escaping the identity that you create for yourself okay and it's okay to have struggles
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it's okay to have bad things happen that happens to everybody but what's not okay is for you to think
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that there is something fundamentally wrong with you because someone on the internet has told you so
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all right when we start accepting the fact that we are a victim we start to create this identity
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based around the sad stories that have happened to us and then we talk about how we're trying to
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overcome this thing we're trying to move on from this thing we're trying to move past this thing and all
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the while the more we talk about this thing the more we identify ourselves as being a victim of this
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thing the less capable we are of taking control of our life and actually moving forward in other words
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you create a prison through your own words your own thoughts and your own identity that you create as
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being a victim that you cannot escape what i'm going to do today is i'm going to talk to you about a few
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things that you can do to escape and pull yourself out of the chaos so that you could feel good you could
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feel powerful and you could feel like yourself okay the ultimate version of yourself the first thing you have
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to do when you're in this chaotic time and you don't know why you're there and you can't figure out how to get
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out of it is to ask yourself a very simple question are you controlling the things that you are capable of
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controlling and i'm going to bet that the answer is no okay because if you were to control the things
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that you can actually control you would have far less chaos in your life you have far more that you
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can control than you cannot control in your life okay you can't control the weather you can't control
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what other people do but you can control a lot of what you do let me give you some examples okay you
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can control what you eat you control what you drink you control what you read what information
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you consume you control your activity level you control who you surround yourself with you control
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your inputs your stimulus negative or positive at all times you control your ability to get sucked
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into dramatic situations of gossip or peasantry the normal people the people that go around all day
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long and chaos swirling around the shit that they get wrapped up in you control not getting wrapped
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up in that so are you controlling any of these things what's your diet look like today what'd you
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eat so far what'd you read so far who'd you talk to so far did you move today did you lift some weights
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did you get outside in the sun did you do some walking if the answer is no those things will help you
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feel a lot less chaotic automatically for a bunch of reasons one of which is that when you're feeling
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down and you're feeling anxious and you're feeling frustrated doing something in a very short amount
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of time let's say an hour for maybe a workout right that you can be proud of at the end of the time that
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that has passed is going to be something that helps boost your mood and lift you up just a little bit
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okay we are in control of a lot more than we are willing to admit and when we refuse to admit that we
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aren't taking control of the things that we can't control it perpetuates the feelings of chaos anxiety
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depression and victimhood that we all talk about so much now okay so the first thing is are you
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controlling it and if you aren't you need to start that's the first thing you need to do okay the
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second thing that you need to to understand fundamentally is that you are actually in control
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of your momentum all right we've all had these times where we feel like everything is working
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everything's going smooth i've got all this momentum i feel really good i'm kicking ass i'm proud of myself
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i feel healthy i'm sleeping good i'm eating good and we've got all this momentum and we we have it
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and then for some reason it goes away and then we kind of like struggle and flounder around and then
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kind of wait for the momentum to come back and this is what average people do okay average people live
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their entire lives unaware that we actually control our own momentum so what does that mean and what
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does that look like well it's very simple all right if you find yourself in a place of zero momentum
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you're dead in the water your life is chaos you're full of anxiety realize that you can create the
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momentum and it's very simple you go back to point number one where you control the things that you
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control and you push through day after day after day after day when it's extremely hard when it's
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extremely frustrating when it's extremely you know uncomfortable for you to do and you get to a point
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where it starts to become more comfortable and this is where the momentum starts to take over
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okay so when you do the things that you know you're supposed to do that you do not feel like
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doing and you force yourself to do them for just a few days we're not talking about for a hundred days
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we're talking about for like five six maybe ten days okay by forcing yourself what you do is you actually
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create the momentum in your life and then your life becomes that much easier and this anxious feeling
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this chaotic feeling this feeling of not knowing what's going to happen or waiting for the next bad
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thing to happen that all goes away because you've now manufactured the momentum and this is something
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that high caliber high achieving people all understand that low caliber low achieving people do not
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understand low achieving people believe that momentum is something that you catch it's magical
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high achieving people understand it's something that you create and the way that you create is by forcing
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yourself through the uncomfortable shit until it becomes a little bit more comfortable momentum
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takes over and starts pushing you down the road okay so what do we got we got controlling what you
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control we got understanding that you can create your own momentum and creating your own momentum
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now the third thing is very important this is a very very very important point to get you out of the
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chaotic mess that you are in and it's very simple stop fucking worrying about what everybody else is doing
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okay we can't look on our cell phones without seeing all these people living this highlight reel of an
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awesome life that they're kicking ass and they're rich and they're famous and they got 10 foot dicks
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and everybody's awesome and you're just a poor little you and you're having a hard day and you're
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struggling you can't get out of bed listen motherfucker they're all struggling too they're just lying about
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it they're not showing you that okay so stop comparing yourself to what other people are showing
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their highlight reel is not reality their reality to get to those highlights is probably a lot of
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point number one and point number two executed for a long fucking time okay and then you get the wins
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but by us worrying about what everybody else is doing we're inviting all kinds of chaotic anxious
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frustrating angry feelings because these people seem to be winning so easily and it's so hard for us
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do not buy into that lie because that lie will create so much frustration that it'll actually paralyze you
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and keep you from doing points one and two all right so to recap and this isn't a very long message
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because it doesn't have to be long it's very simple if you find yourself in a chaotic time
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if you find yourself in an anxious time if you find yourself frustrated and angry and mad because
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you feel like you're continuously spinning your wheels and not getting anywhere understand that
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you're probably violating one or all three of these points you are probably not controlling what it is
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that you control if you are you're not doing it to the capacity that you're capable of doing it
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two you're not understanding that we actually control our momentum and you're frustrated because
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other people have it and you don't the reason you don't is because you're not executing past the
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point to where things that are uncomfortable become a little more comfortable and you allow
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the force of the universe to push you down the road that's where the magic happens is it magic
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yeah it is actually but it happens after we push through the very hard beginning part which could last
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five days it could last 10 days it could last 20 days but it's not a very long time it's very short
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and all relative and then once you catch the momentum you should do everything you can to
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maintain it and then the third thing is this stop watching what other people are doing and worrying
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about what other people are doing those motherfuckers are struggling just like you and if they're not
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they're probably full of shit okay let's be real life is hard life's especially hard right now
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it's hard for everybody and everybody's pushing through doing the best that they can and when you compare
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yourself to you struggling and you feeling anxious and you feeling frustrated to everybody else's happy
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life that they put out on youtube or instagram or whatever it is you're watching them you're going to
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feel worse about yourself and that feeling of you feeling worse about yourself will actually keep you from
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making the progress that's required through steps one and two which is controlling what you control
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and then creating your own momentum all right so start doing these three things stop wallowing in your
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victimhood stop believing there's something wrong with you there's nothing fucking wrong with you
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you're going through a hard fucking time and you can get through it and these three steps will help
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you do that go out kick some fucking ass let me know how it goes and i'll catch you next time
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bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case close