REAL AF with Andy Frisella - June 22, 2023


536. 3 Key Steps To Pull Your Life Out Of Chaos


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11 minutes

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2,037

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1

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Misogyny

23

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12

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In this episode, I talk about how we are in control of a lot more than we are willing to admit and how we can actually take control of our lives and stop living in the illusion of being a victim.

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00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
00:00:20.860 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we
00:00:25.520 have a real talk okay i'm gonna get right into it all right i see a lot of you guys especially what's
00:00:31.500 going on in the world talking about how chaotic your life feels how you feel like everything is
00:00:39.840 out of control you're not in control of anything in your life you're anxious you're depressed
00:00:44.660 you don't know what's going to happen next you don't know how to get yourself back on track
00:00:49.080 you don't even know why you're off track and uh you don't know what to do and i see this everywhere
00:00:54.280 okay we look at society right now and the popular thing is to talk about all the bad things that have
00:01:02.420 happened to you um that you create this identity around that you talk about for the rest of your
00:01:09.200 life never escaping the identity that you create for yourself okay and it's okay to have struggles
00:01:16.040 it's okay to have bad things happen that happens to everybody but what's not okay is for you to think
00:01:22.680 that there is something fundamentally wrong with you because someone on the internet has told you so
00:01:28.500 all right when we start accepting the fact that we are a victim we start to create this identity
00:01:36.520 based around the sad stories that have happened to us and then we talk about how we're trying to
00:01:41.800 overcome this thing we're trying to move on from this thing we're trying to move past this thing and all
00:01:48.940 the while the more we talk about this thing the more we identify ourselves as being a victim of this
00:01:55.600 thing the less capable we are of taking control of our life and actually moving forward in other words
00:02:02.260 you create a prison through your own words your own thoughts and your own identity that you create as
00:02:07.080 being a victim that you cannot escape what i'm going to do today is i'm going to talk to you about a few
00:02:11.680 things that you can do to escape and pull yourself out of the chaos so that you could feel good you could
00:02:18.980 feel powerful and you could feel like yourself okay the ultimate version of yourself the first thing you have
00:02:24.980 to do when you're in this chaotic time and you don't know why you're there and you can't figure out how to get
00:02:30.580 out of it is to ask yourself a very simple question are you controlling the things that you are capable of
00:02:39.840 controlling and i'm going to bet that the answer is no okay because if you were to control the things
00:02:47.400 that you can actually control you would have far less chaos in your life you have far more that you
00:02:54.640 can control than you cannot control in your life okay you can't control the weather you can't control
00:03:01.280 what other people do but you can control a lot of what you do let me give you some examples okay you
00:03:07.260 can control what you eat you control what you drink you control what you read what information
00:03:13.240 you consume you control your activity level you control who you surround yourself with you control
00:03:19.300 your inputs your stimulus negative or positive at all times you control your ability to get sucked
00:03:27.140 into dramatic situations of gossip or peasantry the normal people the people that go around all day
00:03:35.560 long and chaos swirling around the shit that they get wrapped up in you control not getting wrapped 0.86
00:03:40.980 up in that so are you controlling any of these things what's your diet look like today what'd you
00:03:46.340 eat so far what'd you read so far who'd you talk to so far did you move today did you lift some weights
00:03:52.700 did you get outside in the sun did you do some walking if the answer is no those things will help you
00:03:58.840 feel a lot less chaotic automatically for a bunch of reasons one of which is that when you're feeling
00:04:04.620 down and you're feeling anxious and you're feeling frustrated doing something in a very short amount
00:04:10.100 of time let's say an hour for maybe a workout right that you can be proud of at the end of the time that
00:04:16.480 that has passed is going to be something that helps boost your mood and lift you up just a little bit
00:04:21.180 okay we are in control of a lot more than we are willing to admit and when we refuse to admit that we
00:04:28.860 aren't taking control of the things that we can't control it perpetuates the feelings of chaos anxiety
00:04:34.980 depression and victimhood that we all talk about so much now okay so the first thing is are you
00:04:41.540 controlling it and if you aren't you need to start that's the first thing you need to do okay the
00:04:47.520 second thing that you need to to understand fundamentally is that you are actually in control
00:04:55.880 of your momentum all right we've all had these times where we feel like everything is working
00:05:02.040 everything's going smooth i've got all this momentum i feel really good i'm kicking ass i'm proud of myself 0.63
00:05:08.240 i feel healthy i'm sleeping good i'm eating good and we've got all this momentum and we we have it
00:05:14.420 and then for some reason it goes away and then we kind of like struggle and flounder around and then
00:05:20.320 kind of wait for the momentum to come back and this is what average people do okay average people live
00:05:26.480 their entire lives unaware that we actually control our own momentum so what does that mean and what
00:05:33.700 does that look like well it's very simple all right if you find yourself in a place of zero momentum
00:05:39.860 you're dead in the water your life is chaos you're full of anxiety realize that you can create the
00:05:46.780 momentum and it's very simple you go back to point number one where you control the things that you
00:05:52.740 control and you push through day after day after day after day when it's extremely hard when it's
00:06:00.780 extremely frustrating when it's extremely you know uncomfortable for you to do and you get to a point
00:06:07.660 where it starts to become more comfortable and this is where the momentum starts to take over
00:06:12.020 okay so when you do the things that you know you're supposed to do that you do not feel like
00:06:18.320 doing and you force yourself to do them for just a few days we're not talking about for a hundred days
00:06:24.320 we're talking about for like five six maybe ten days okay by forcing yourself what you do is you actually
00:06:32.340 create the momentum in your life and then your life becomes that much easier and this anxious feeling
00:06:38.200 this chaotic feeling this feeling of not knowing what's going to happen or waiting for the next bad
00:06:43.700 thing to happen that all goes away because you've now manufactured the momentum and this is something
00:06:49.100 that high caliber high achieving people all understand that low caliber low achieving people do not
00:06:54.880 understand low achieving people believe that momentum is something that you catch it's magical
00:07:00.560 high achieving people understand it's something that you create and the way that you create is by forcing
00:07:05.660 yourself through the uncomfortable shit until it becomes a little bit more comfortable momentum
00:07:11.080 takes over and starts pushing you down the road okay so what do we got we got controlling what you
00:07:16.100 control we got understanding that you can create your own momentum and creating your own momentum
00:07:20.640 now the third thing is very important this is a very very very important point to get you out of the
00:07:27.200 chaotic mess that you are in and it's very simple stop fucking worrying about what everybody else is doing 0.95
00:07:34.260 okay we can't look on our cell phones without seeing all these people living this highlight reel of an
00:07:40.780 awesome life that they're kicking ass and they're rich and they're famous and they got 10 foot dicks 0.54
00:07:46.080 and everybody's awesome and you're just a poor little you and you're having a hard day and you're
00:07:51.580 struggling you can't get out of bed listen motherfucker they're all struggling too they're just lying about 0.93
00:07:55.760 it they're not showing you that okay so stop comparing yourself to what other people are showing
00:08:02.200 their highlight reel is not reality their reality to get to those highlights is probably a lot of
00:08:08.320 point number one and point number two executed for a long fucking time okay and then you get the wins 0.91
00:08:14.600 but by us worrying about what everybody else is doing we're inviting all kinds of chaotic anxious
00:08:22.660 frustrating angry feelings because these people seem to be winning so easily and it's so hard for us
00:08:30.380 do not buy into that lie because that lie will create so much frustration that it'll actually paralyze you
00:08:37.660 and keep you from doing points one and two all right so to recap and this isn't a very long message
00:08:44.820 because it doesn't have to be long it's very simple if you find yourself in a chaotic time
00:08:50.440 if you find yourself in an anxious time if you find yourself frustrated and angry and mad because
00:08:57.460 you feel like you're continuously spinning your wheels and not getting anywhere understand that
00:09:02.300 you're probably violating one or all three of these points you are probably not controlling what it is
00:09:08.220 that you control if you are you're not doing it to the capacity that you're capable of doing it
00:09:12.800 two you're not understanding that we actually control our momentum and you're frustrated because
00:09:18.340 other people have it and you don't the reason you don't is because you're not executing past the
00:09:23.420 point to where things that are uncomfortable become a little more comfortable and you allow
00:09:28.200 the force of the universe to push you down the road that's where the magic happens is it magic
00:09:33.440 yeah it is actually but it happens after we push through the very hard beginning part which could last
00:09:39.320 five days it could last 10 days it could last 20 days but it's not a very long time it's very short
00:09:45.500 and all relative and then once you catch the momentum you should do everything you can to
00:09:49.500 maintain it and then the third thing is this stop watching what other people are doing and worrying
00:09:55.540 about what other people are doing those motherfuckers are struggling just like you and if they're not 0.72
00:10:00.600 they're probably full of shit okay let's be real life is hard life's especially hard right now
00:10:07.280 it's hard for everybody and everybody's pushing through doing the best that they can and when you compare
00:10:12.340 yourself to you struggling and you feeling anxious and you feeling frustrated to everybody else's happy
00:10:18.760 life that they put out on youtube or instagram or whatever it is you're watching them you're going to
00:10:23.440 feel worse about yourself and that feeling of you feeling worse about yourself will actually keep you from
00:10:28.940 making the progress that's required through steps one and two which is controlling what you control
00:10:33.440 and then creating your own momentum all right so start doing these three things stop wallowing in your
00:10:40.320 victimhood stop believing there's something wrong with you there's nothing fucking wrong with you 0.84
00:10:44.300 you're going through a hard fucking time and you can get through it and these three steps will help
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