REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 540. 3 Lies That Kill Your Success

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00:02:21.020 and this real talk is important because we're going to talk about a concept actually three concepts

00:02:26.760 that kill your success and productivity okay uh here's what you need to understand i'm just going

00:02:32.780 to get right into it when it comes to your success and your productivity the reason you aren't

00:02:38.260 getting shit done is not because you lack the time it's not because you lack the talent it's not

00:02:43.740 because you lack the knowledge or the experience the reality is guys it's always a mindset issue

00:02:50.680 you are believing the lies that keep you from being productive okay and there's a lot of lies

00:02:57.000 but let me tell you the big three okay lie number one i don't have the resources to get this done what

00:03:04.680 the fuck do you mean nobody has the resources to get anything great done this is the mindset of the

00:03:10.200 vast majority of people the vast majority of people look around and they look at what they don't have

00:03:16.020 and they say well that guy over there had this and this and this going for him and that's why he's where

00:03:20.840 he is and why i'm not there okay and this is also why they never accomplish anything now there's all

00:03:26.600 kinds of people out there that play business okay and what i mean by playing business is it's these

00:03:31.340 people that think they have to have all these things in order to get their business going they

00:03:35.620 got to have the shiny new latest macbook pro 5000 or or this special heavyweight stationary paper or a

00:03:44.040 perfect office with their name on the door okay these people think that those are the things that

00:03:50.060 actually make them successful they are the type of people who when they go on a trip and they go down

00:03:55.340 to the exercise room and they look at the shitty exercise room that the hotel has they think man you know

00:04:01.100 what i can't really get a workout in so uh they do nothing okay and that is the opposite mentality of

00:04:07.880 what successful people have successful people have the mentality of this i'm going to make the most of

00:04:15.060 what i have because i'm going to get where it is i'm going no matter what happens they have the

00:04:21.560 mentality they're going to find a way to do more with less back when chris and i first started our first

00:04:27.240 business we spent all of our money building out the building all right we maxed out our credit cards

00:04:32.820 buying product uh we didn't have any money for a marketing plan but we had what i like to call what

00:04:38.700 you've heard me refer to many times as a zero options mentality that meant that there was nothing else

00:04:44.620 that we were going to do other than that and we were going to become successful no matter what

00:04:50.020 we were either going to make the supplement business work or we were going to fucking die trying 0.92

00:04:55.380 okay zero options there was no other option so for this reason it forced us to make the most of what

00:05:02.540 we had we removed everything else from the table other than success and we said okay we don't have

00:05:07.660 much but we're going to make sure that it works for us and since we didn't have any money for marketing

00:05:12.600 we figured out a way to build our business and get our customers to come back so we became masters of

00:05:17.960 this useful skill called customer experience and customer service we provided so much value to our

00:05:25.160 customers who came into the store that they came back and guess what they brought people with them

00:05:31.640 and guess what happened our business started growing and now we have a company that's worth

00:05:36.640 multiple billions of dollars and we've done that in 24 years and we did it by starting with virtually

00:05:43.660 nothing this happened because we didn't accept the lie we don't have the resources for this or we

00:05:49.840 don't have this or that or this and they had all these advantages motherfucker everybody had every 0.99

00:05:54.500 advantage over us and they have it over you too but that's no reason for you to not go anyway okay you

00:06:02.240 have to reject the lie that lack of resources what's holding you back because it will actually hold you

00:06:08.260 back if you tell yourself that story so you've got to make the most of what you have you have to be

00:06:13.780 determined to get more for less okay that's how most entrepreneurs think that are successful all the

00:06:19.900 ones that you admire all the ones you look up to all the people you want to be like this is how they

00:06:25.180 think this is how they operate and here's the reality guys when you adopt this mindset you'll find a way

00:06:32.380 too because there is no other option all right so that's lie number one remove the idea that it's the

00:06:42.480 lack of resources holding you back because it isn't all right lie number two i'm too tired to handle this

00:06:51.460 right now well guess what motherfucker every single great thing that you have ever used every single 0.63

00:06:58.720 product you've ever used every single building you've ever driven by every single championship

00:07:04.100 you've ever witnessed every single great human achievement every single product that you use on

00:07:11.780 a daily basis was created by people who were tired okay do you know what happens the minute you were born

00:07:19.920 you start to fucking die and as you grow up time and gravity and the elements put a stress on your system

00:07:26.880 and as the years pass by you begin the process of slowing down and eventually dying and every day that you

00:07:34.860 get up there are forces working to wear you out this is just called life this is why we have to eat

00:07:41.720 this is why we have to exercise this is why we have to drink water okay this is why we have to build

00:07:48.180 ourselves into a formidable weapon we have to constantly battle against the breakdown of our own strength

00:07:55.220 our own energy and our own mental capacity and you know what i'm trying to say by telling you this

00:08:01.120 i'm trying to tell you that being tired is part of the fucking game okay so it's not a valid excuse 0.94

00:08:08.300 it's normal it's a constant it's part of being human and if you want to be a high achiever guess what

00:08:14.480 you're going to have to acclimate yourself to being fucking tired way more than you're not tired 0.90

00:08:19.580 successful people understand this guys successful people do not use tired as an excuse in fact they

00:08:27.020 understand that if they push through the tired everybody else stops when they're tired and so by

00:08:33.200 pushing through the tired you actually create a gap between you and everybody else that you're

00:08:38.100 competing with and here's another thing that happens when you're tired because no one else ever pushes

00:08:43.120 through when they're tired and because you're someone that always pushes through when you're tired

00:08:46.840 you learn this unique skill set that allows you to operate at a high level when you're tired

00:08:52.800 okay and that's a huge competitive advantage over everybody else let me give you an example on this

00:08:58.440 okay suppose it's 8 p.m at night and you've worked all day long like a dog all right but you know that

00:09:05.360 you're going to have to work through the night too to finish your critical task you're very tired

00:09:09.580 you're exhausted but you know something you know that at 9 a.m the next morning you're going to get

00:09:16.320 paid a million dollars for the work that you do right now are you still tired yeah real tired

00:09:22.320 do you still make it through the night i bet you fucking do okay there's actually some sort of weird 0.86

00:09:28.740 enjoyment that you get from being so dead tired and then pushing through because you know that every

00:09:34.840 single person you're competing with every single person that is pushing on your coattails every single

00:09:40.740 person who's ahead of the game further than you you know that they're quitting when they get tired

00:09:47.200 and so you get satisfaction it helps build confidence it helps build momentum it helps build you into

00:09:52.440 someone that believes in yourself and this is an important point of pushing through when you're tired

00:09:58.040 now am i sitting here saying oh well you need to run yourself into the dirt that's not what i'm saying

00:10:03.480 that's what the that's what the politically correct socially correct people will say oh andy's saying

00:10:09.460 run yourself into the dirt till you're dead that's not what the fuck i'm saying i'm saying don't be a 1.00

00:10:14.240 weak little bitch i'm saying that everything great that you've ever looked at in your entire life was 1.00

00:10:18.420 built by tired people and if you want to be one of the great people that builds amazing things you're

00:10:22.500 gonna have to do so tired as well that is the way it works are you tired are you tired right now i bet

00:10:28.540 you are a little tired that's normal but guess what you can do you could still act you could still

00:10:34.180 execute you could still work and you could still be successful in fact working when you're tired is

00:10:39.740 what is going to make you successful so fuck off with this bullshit about how tired you are nobody cares 0.91

00:10:46.320 and nothing great was ever achieved without of it it's a part of the recipe being tired is a part of

00:10:54.020 the success recipe so get used to it okay now lie number three and this is the biggest one that we

00:11:00.580 all tell i'm guilty of this as well this can wait till tomorrow you guys know that i talk openly about

00:11:08.260 this thing called the bitch voice a lot all right the bitch voice is that voice inside your head that 1.00

00:11:13.420 is always negative that always tells you why you can't do something or why you shouldn't do something

00:11:18.380 and the reason the bitch voice is so effective on all of us is because it is the exact voice that 1.00

00:11:25.580 knows exactly what to say to get us to pause or to get us to wait or to get us to put off for tomorrow

00:11:32.180 what needs to be done right now this can wait till tomorrow is one of the most effective lies the

00:11:38.480 bitch voice uses why is this so effective because it's not telling you to give up it's not saying hey bail 1.00

00:11:44.440 out on your dreams it's just telling you to pause until tomorrow okay it's not telling you to stop

00:11:51.360 working on your goals if it did that you'd be alert to the bitch voice so it comes in real creepy like 1.00

00:11:56.520 and it tells you hey you did enough today this can be done tomorrow and that sounds good when you're

00:12:03.500 tired that sounds good when you're worn out right man i have done a lot today i know i didn't finish

00:12:09.660 exactly what i'm supposed to finish but this can't actually wait tomorrow okay and this is why

00:12:15.940 it's so effective if it was more obvious if the bitch voice was more aggressive you'd notice it 1.00

00:12:22.560 right away and you say hey the bitch voice is talking to me hey fuck off bitch voice that's what 1.00

00:12:27.020 you'd say okay you might say oh i better take action right now because i'm getting talked out of

00:12:32.500 it by my own weakness which is exactly what's happening they're just doing it real smooth okay and then

00:12:37.860 you would be motivated to go back to work but that's not the point of the bitch voice the bitch 1.00

00:12:41.420 voice isn't stupid the bitch voice is not an amateur the bitch voice knows exactly what to say 1.00

00:12:46.720 at exactly the right time to get us to pause and wait and ultimately procrastinate our dreams away

00:12:53.400 okay it doesn't want you to feel totally defeated it doesn't want you to feel totally demoralized

00:12:58.940 because in your misery you're going to find the resolve to start again only this time you're going to

00:13:04.240 work that much harder because you know the voice is coming the bitch voice only wants to delay your 1.00

00:13:10.040 win to delay your work it wants you to just put off getting things done for one more day all right and

00:13:17.760 one more day leads to another day and then it leads to another day and then it leads to a week and then

00:13:23.760 it leads to a month and then it leads to years guys this is how i got to be 350 pounds i told myself i was

00:13:30.100 going to start every monday for four fucking years i never started and the reason i didn't start was 0.98

00:13:35.080 because i was told every single day hey man you're tired you're stressed this is hard to look we'll

00:13:39.740 tackle this at a later time only that little later time accumulates and accumulates and accumulates

00:13:45.100 until we're to a point where the mountain's so big that you're demoralized by the mountain

00:13:49.180 and then you lose okay so it's very important to understand that this excuse this lie that we tell

00:13:58.840 ourselves about things waiting till tomorrow will ultimately cost you everything you never start

00:14:04.300 tomorrow you always wait and then you end up with a mountain so big you don't even want to climb it so

00:14:09.040 what's the answer is to do it now all right why should you do it now because it's what i've said a

00:14:15.260 billion times before on this show all right and i said it earlier in this talk too action gets results

00:14:21.860 it's an equation of math it's one plus one equals motherfucking two and if you take action right

00:14:28.440 now you are that much closer to the place that you're struggling to be the place that you're angry

00:14:34.100 at yourself for not being will come to fruition that much faster if you go now okay so you cannot

00:14:40.560 continue to tell yourself over and over and over and over and over again to wait because there is no

00:14:47.720 better time than now if you do it now the results happen faster and that's what you're ultimately

00:14:53.420 after the quickest way to get to where you want to go is by taking action right now and continuing to

00:14:59.200 take action and pushing through these lies especially this one about i'm going to wait till tomorrow so

00:15:04.840 that you can make the result happen faster for yourself do you want this result to happen when you're

00:15:08.620 100 or do you want this result to happen a year from now it's up to you okay the bitch voice knows this 0.99

00:15:14.960 too guys okay that's why it wants to delay your actions okay it delays your actions so it can delay

00:15:20.620 your progress it can delay the achievement of your goals it can delay the success that you're so

00:15:25.580 desperately after and it can delay your happiness so don't fall for it when you hear the bitch voice 1.00

00:15:32.600 whispering make sure that you call it out right away don't procrastinate don't put off your success

00:15:38.100 don't delay your win and remember the quicker that you act now the quicker that the results

00:15:43.340 will assimilate and appear in your life so go right now all right these are three main lies that

00:15:50.900 fuck up your whole life they fuck up your whole success and everything that you're trying to become

00:15:56.520 all right i don't have the resources to get this done bro nobody has the resources that's what forces

00:16:02.520 the creativity that's a skill that you will have a massive advantage with over all of your competitions

00:16:08.800 10 years from now so what you're competing with someone that's better funded so what you're competing

00:16:14.140 with someone rich parents so what you're competing with someone with all the shiny new tools and

00:16:18.920 everything that they need to succeed those people will use those things as a crutch and then 10 years

00:16:24.100 from now when they have to make a creative decision they won't be able to make it because they never

00:16:28.320 honed the skills because they were never forced to because they never understood what it meant to work

00:16:34.280 without actual resources okay i'm too tired to handle this man fuck you everybody's tired that's all i 0.99

00:16:41.960 got to say about that every single great thing that you've ever looked at in your entire life was

00:16:46.180 created by tired people just keep that in mind this can wait till tomorrow that's just your own weakness

00:16:51.160 that's your own weakness telling you to put your success off until tomorrow with no intention of

00:16:56.840 actually following through tomorrow okay it kills your success it kills your progress it kills all your

00:17:02.520 dreams and goals and ultimately it kills your happiness all right now take these three things

00:17:07.740 and be aware of them are you using any of these three excuses any of these three lies because if you are

00:17:15.700 if you are using one two or three of them i can promise you you will delay your gratification to the

00:17:22.540 point where you will never realize it ever in the course of your life now take this shit i'm telling you 0.93

00:17:29.140 watch it over again think of it are you actually doing these things are these things that you are

00:17:36.300 guilty of and if you are correct them put the truth of this podcast into action and go fucking win 0.96

00:17:44.020 most people will never get past these three objections that they create in their own mind

00:17:49.320 and if you can you will have a massive competitive advantage over the course of your entire life

00:17:54.820 over everybody else and that's what we ultimately want

00:17:57.740 went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stole counted millions in the 1.00

00:18:04.540 cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case close 1.00

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - June 29, 2023

540. 3 Lies That Kill Your Success

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