551. Q&AF： Gaining Respect From Other Countries, Fear Of Old Insecurities & Building Relationships With Customers
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Summary
In this episode of the Q and A, we have a special guest, Andy Fricella. Andy is a realist and has been in the business for a long time. He has been involved in the anti-police and anti-colonialist movement, and is a frequent guest on the Realist Realist Podcast. In this episode, we discuss a variety of topics such as: - How to gain back the respect of other countries - What we should do to gain respect from other countries again - How we should change our education system to make it more meritocratic - What should we teach in our schools - How can we make our country a better place for our children to grow up?
Transcript
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What is up guys, it's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realists, say goodbye
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to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking
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That's where you get to submit the Qs and we give you the AFs.
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You can submit your questions a couple different ways.
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The first way is, guys, you can email those questions into askandy at andyfricella.com
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or now that we're on YouTube, you can go on YouTube on the Q and AF episodes and drop
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We're going to have Q and AF today and then tomorrow we're going to have CTI and then later
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in the week, we're probably going to have real talk and then we have 75 hard verses.
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Let's let's get going with question number one.
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Andy, in your latest real talk, you said that when other countries look at America, they
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I think our people have lost a lot of respect for our country and a lot has to do with the
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way our current administration has been running our country.
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They've kicked out soldiers who refuse the jab and have been promoting this woke ideology.
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In your mind and in your opinion, what do you think we need to do to gain the respect
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Well, I think, you know, something that would probably be a good idea to start with is like,
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you know, not send our troops over to their where they live and kill their fucking people
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and blow up their cities and destroy their infrastructure and put them back fucking 50
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You know, a good follow up to that would like to not promote our military to be transgender
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individuals who have mental illness, who are completely weak and useless members of our
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military, you know, promoting things in our school system that actually create high quality,
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high achievement, high drive, high discipline individuals that are going to be productive
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citizens instead of, you know, teaching little children about sex or transgender ideology or
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I think, you know, stopping the idea of we're going to reward people based upon the color
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of their skin or the gender that they were born in life.
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You know, we turn this back into a straight meritocracy where the best win and the best
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fucking produce and the best get the opportunity.
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And if you want to be the best, you have to work to be the best.
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I respect that kind of thought process, you know, when I look at other countries that
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are, you know, like, for example, and people are going to get pissed when I say this, but
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when I see China raising their kids to learn math and science and rewarding their kids to
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learn math and science and then sending them to boot camps in the summertime where they
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run around and learn how to operate weapons and camp and survive and do the things need to
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be done as like an individual, you know, an autonomous individual.
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I actually think that's what the fuck we should be doing.
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And that's really kind of like what the era was when I grew up.
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OK, when I grew up, like if you wanted to get a trophy at your baseball tournament or
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OK, you know, if you wanted to pass a if you wanted to get an A in school, you had to
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If you wanted to start on the football team, you had to fucking work.
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And we're dealing with a weak ideology that is intentionally installed, that is Marxist and
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communist in nature, that is designed to make the generations, the young generations of
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America, completely inept and useless and weak.
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And, you know, I see people say things like, well, this generation is totally fucked.
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Well, if that generation is totally fucked, that means we're all totally fucked, because
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at some point in time, that generation has to come to the point in their life where they're
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And if you have an entire generation of children who have been taught that the only thing that
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matters is how they feel about things instead of how things are in reality, and they cry and
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whine and pout and scream and do we have a generation of adults to do this now.
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Like we have a generation of 25 and under adults that think that by them throwing temper tantrums,
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that's what produces the result, because no one ever corrected them along the way.
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So this ideology is already super deep and super infected into American culture.
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And I've been talking about this in public on my podcast since 2015.
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But we're to a point now where a lot of these people have become adults.
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They've been told falsehoods about reality throughout their entire childhood.
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They've been told that, you know, you get rewarded for showing up.
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They've been told that, you know, all these things that are not true.
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And they've been told that, you know, being masculine is unhealthy and damaging.
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Now we're having exercise villainized to make that seem like it's bad.
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So, you know, I would say reversing all of that would be a good start.
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And that would be the start because this is going to take 20 years to reverse.
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You know, people keep saying, oh, that generation, that generation.
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No, there's 20 years of fucked up people right now.
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When those people are between the ages of 30 and 50, what do you think is going to happen to this country?
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Like, so it's more, it's not just about respect from the other countries.
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And like, dude, we've, by my math, we've got about another, unless they do some drastic stuff,
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which I believe they're going to do, because I don't believe that they have the belief of the people anymore.
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So I believe they're going to have to rush their agenda of the collapse of America along.
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But if they don't do something drastic, by my math, I think we have another 15 years before we have a 20-year span between 30 and 50.
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They're not able to really produce unless massive correction has taken place.
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And so, you know, there's a lot of things, you know, not promoting children, cutting off their fucking penises or, you know, doing all this goofy ass shit that like, you know, we're promoting.
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But, you know, I agree with Trump's philosophy.
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You have a strong military that doesn't go around the world and get involved in all the bullshit, defends our country, defends our people, defends our interests, and leads everybody else go do their shit.
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But, you know, like America first, real America first agenda, people first, economy first, manufacturing first, the cities first, and the safety of this country first.
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If another country were to live like that, just like I described, would you not look at them and say, well, that's the example of what a country should be?
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And that's the example that America has set for for a long, long time until a bunch of people came along and decided they wanted to fuck it up.
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And a lot of you guys went along with it because you didn't want to be called names.
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And we're in jeopardy of losing not only what we have right now, but everything that your kids could possibly have, everything that your kids could possibly gain.
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Your kids' lives are actually in danger right now.
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You're just failing to realize it, and you're afraid to speak up because you're afraid of the, you know, the Karens on the internet yelling at you for saying some shit that is actually true.
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I think there's a lot of things that, like if I was living, let's say, in Dubai and looking at America, I'd be laughing my fucking ass off right now.
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Look at the shit these people in Hollywood promote.
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It's become a disgusting, immoral cesspool of shit.
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And, you know, and that's, people keep saying, oh, well, it's the greatest country in the world.
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Bro, Ukraine is nicer than the fucking United States right now.
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The reason you keep saying that is because you've had that drilled in your head your entire life.
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There's lots of places that are a lot nicer than this country.
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A lot of places in the Middle East are a lot nicer.
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And we have an opportunity now to stand up, speak up, and draw a line in the sand and say,
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And to build this country into what it actually should be, not the facade of what we want people to think it is,
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And so, you know, getting the respect of other countries is going to come long after we get the respect of ourselves.
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Andy, I am currently on my third round of 75 hard, and I have lost over 55 pounds and feel amazing.
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I have always been overweight and struggled with my body image, and though it was not the only goal of completing 75 hard,
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I finally have the body I've always dreamed of having.
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But with these things being said, I am struggling with having those old insecurities creeping in,
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I think anybody can relate to that that's been out of shape that actually gets in shape.
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And for the most part, I think everybody struggles with it.
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I think everybody, even the people that you see that are in shape and you say, man, I really love to look like that person.
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I bet they have insecurities about their body that, like, you know, like they probably get nervous before they have to go to the pool.
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They probably get a little nervous before they have to take their shirt off or, you know, and, dude, I'm no different.
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Like, I feel no matter how physically in shape I am, I still have a little hesitation to, this is why you don't, dude, like, this is just the truth.
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I have a pretty good fucking physique for 44 years old.
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In fact, I have a good, I have a great physique for anybody at any fucking age.
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For a guy that's 44 years old, I'm in the top zero, zero, zero, zero, zero, point zero, zero, zero, zero, zero, one percent.
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And I'm like, fuck, I'm going to take my shirt off.
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Like, this is why you guys don't see me, you know, flaunting my body all over the internet.
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Because like, dude, it's not, first of all, it's not my identity.
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I think it's funny when people talk about how humble they are.
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And then every single picture they show is themselves with their shirts off.
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Yeah, and then those same people attack people for having financial success, like cars or
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And they throw stones at those people, but then are too unaware to realize that you're
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doing the exact same thing with your body and your physique.
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So like my, I, like I could probably do a lot better on social media if I took my shirt
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off all the time, but it's not comfortable for me.
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Um, I think the big thing you got to remember, dude, is that everybody feels the same way and
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Like if you're working hard and you're doing what you can do, what else can you do?
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You built yourself into what exactly what you want to be.
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And I'm, I know that that probably won't cure it because it doesn't cure it for me.
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Um, but you should understand like, dude, at the end of the day, no one gives a fuck.
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I don't care if you're a hundred pounds overweight or 300 pounds over.
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And so like, you have to understand this is just something that's in your head.
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The less, um, the more time you stay in the condition that you're in, the longer you stay
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there, the less you'll have that insecurity because it'll be so far removed from where
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The, the, the longer I stay in high and good condition, which for me, um, you know, that
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Um, that's when I started really getting my shit together.
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And so what's that, uh, how many years is that seven years?
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That's, you know, I'm not nearly as bad about it now as I was then, but I think the having
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the dysmorphia, um, especially with what we're surrounded with online, you know, we're surrounded
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with online, like all these people who, you know, let's be quite honest.
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Most of them, uh, don't have to work as hard as someone with normal genetics and they flaunt
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their shit as if they're living at a higher level than everybody else.
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They rub it in people's fucking face and it makes people feel like shit because dude, most
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people reality don't have that sort of genetic composition where I look at food and gain 10
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And so we have these guys and girls on the internet, uh, you know, who show their
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I'm not saying they don't work hard, but they were blessed with favorable genetics, meaning
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they work really hard, but they also have good genetics and they have a better look than
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what you or I, or anybody with like regular genetics is going to be able to obtain.
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And it makes us feel like we're not doing what we can, but like, bro, when you do everything
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you can and that's what you produce, it is what the fuck it is.
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You know, you probably got a lot more brains than some of these people.
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Like we have to also consider some of the blessings that we, we did get that those people didn't
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We're not, we're not, we're not running around with our shirts off in every fucking Instagram
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Cause we look like Zeus, but you know, we look pretty good for us.
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We, we, we, we, we were healthy, you know, like dude, like my, my physique is not genetically
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It's, it's like, it's really good for a regular dude.
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And so we have this shit shoved in our face all day long and it gets to the point where
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it's like, no matter how good you are, you still feel bad about yourself.
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You know, you should, you should understand that you're comparing yourself to people who,
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and I'm not, again, I'm not taking anything away from them, but they were prop, they probably
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looked pretty decent before they started training and eating right.
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Like, dude, I have lots of friends that looked pretty good before they actually started training
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And then once they did, bro, they look crazy, right?
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Um, and we work really hard and, and, you know, let's say that other person's 10 is a,
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We might only be able to get to a seven or an eight.
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That's our best, but that's the reality of genetics and how it plays.
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And, and, and the truth is, is it really shouldn't matter what other people think of you or
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And if you've been doing everything that you can do, you're going to feel good about yourself
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and you shouldn't take that away from yourself because you've earned it.
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Like having a perfect physique, um, is not reality for most people.
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Most people, they're going to have their perfect physique, which is, you know,
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It depends on if you played sports or how long you've been doing things.
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So like, dude, we got to work with what we got and we got to produce the best out of
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And dude, um, you should feel proud about that.
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I'm not sitting here preaching like, dude, real shit.
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Like it's uncomfortable for me to walk around with my shirt off.
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But when I do, people are like, God damn, dude, you look fucking good.
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And that has to do partly with how I'm wired as an entrepreneur.
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That's all I see in business is where can we get better?
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But, uh, it's a complicated issue and body dysmorphia is a real thing.
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And I think it's important to understand that your very best may not look as good as some
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of the other people's very best, but it's your very best.
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And anybody with normal brain, uh, that's not a dick is going to look at you and say, dude,
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Those are the people you want to be around anyway.
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Because first form is, is not based around these elite athlete, like crazy genetic people.
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These are just regular fucking people that are living at the highest standard that they
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And so like, dude, you know, not everybody's going to win physique competitions, but fucking
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most of these people in this building and most of our people on our Legionnaire team
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and most of our customers do their best to live real life at the highest level that they
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To me, that inspired, that inspires me a fucking million times more than somebody who is gifted
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with something who's just kind of selling it as their thing.
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So, you know, bro, there's nothing cooler to me to see in people like this where, you
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know, they lost 50, a hundred, you know, or in the extreme cases, um, like Anthony, you
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Like, dude, I don't, I don't know how you, I don't know.
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I just feel, I feel very fortunate to be surrounded by people like that.
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Cause like, dude, that's, those people are right here.
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They might not have the Arnold Schwarzenegger, perfect physique, right?
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But bro, they're fucking working hard and they're doing the right shit.
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Guys, Andy, our third and final question, question number three, Andy, I recently moved
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And all I hear all day is, oh, I'm just looking.
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How do you build an actual relationship with the customers that are just looking and don't
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Well, the reason they're saying just looking is because you're coming at them like a
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fucking teenage boy in his first set of titties, bro.
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I've probably worked more retail transactions than any other single human being I know.
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And that's what's given me all the skills, all the skills that you guys know me for or listen
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to me for or that I've used to build the businesses that I own came from that place.
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And so I would highly recommend getting yourself in this situation because the skills that
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can be obtained through that amount of reps are, are invaluable to success.
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And they're only becoming more valuable as things become more automated because as AI
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gets implemented, as things become more automated, there's less and less people with these real
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people skills, which makes them super fucking valuable.
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Stop walking up to them and being like the cheesy sales guy.
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If you've ever shocked, shopped at a place like the buckle.
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Now I'm not shopped at the buckle since like 1987, but I'm just saying we've all been in
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there at least once and you go in there and you know, you're looking for a pair of jeans
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And you, you go in the closet and you're in the fucking thing.
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And you're putting on the jeans and all of a sudden the shit starts flying over the
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And you start hearing this person talk at the other side.
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I think this, I'm like, bro, I'm fucking a hundred pounds overweight.
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And people are so used to this attacking in a retail environment.
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If they're so used to getting attacked, the, probably the good idea is to not attack.
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And so one thing that I used to do that I teach to our team that has become super valuable
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in my life is finding common ground that doesn't have to do with the obvious situation
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Most of you guys know that I'm a huge car fanatic.
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It's probably my, my big, it's my biggest passion in life outside of business and dogs.
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So, uh, so I would try to find like people, I, where I worked in retail stores, I could
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However, like it could be what shoes they're wearing.
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It could be something going on outside of the main thoroughfare of the mall.
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And one of the things I used to do that, uh, just because I was interested in cars,
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it's like when someone would drive up in a car that was cool, I would make conversation
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about the car because if someone drives a cool car, and by the way, cool car doesn't
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A lot of people make their, like, when you don't have any money, this is what I did.
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So I made my car cool and I fucking was proud of it.
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It had some fucking cool, you know, little trinkets and shit on it.
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And so like, you have to understand, it's not about how much the car costs.
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And this is one of the coolest things about car culture is that true car people don't
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They care about, like, they understand the fucking culture.
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Like, bro, you could drive, like, dude, one of the coolest cars.
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I think out there is a Subaru WRX STI that are fucking totally built out.
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But the point is, is like, that's way below really any of my other shit price wise.
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But I think it's like the one of the coolest cars in the fucking world.
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Like I, I think everything's cool if they think it's cool.
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So what I used to do is when I see someone, you know, like back in that day, bro, people
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So they'd roll up, they'd have a blacked out Dodge Neon with tinted windows.
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And you could just look and you could tell they're driving that car intentionally.
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And so I would make conversation about their car.
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I would say, dude, I like what you did with that, man.
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And dude, then they don't have an opportunity to tell you you're just looking.
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Is, uh, bro, you know, because you can't like always.
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The point is, is that you try to find something common that you're genuinely interested in and
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And this doesn't mean be cheesy and fake like you're interested in it, because if you fake
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interest in that same scenario, if I fucking, if I fucking wasn't interested in cars and I
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tried to fucking fake blow this dude's ego up a lot, his car, and I didn't think it was
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And all of you can tell that you all know when you're being bullshitting.
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Practice talking to people about things that are irrelevant to the sales transaction when
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Another thing is, is if you have a business, uh, like if you own the business, you know,
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maybe, and maybe look at like this, how much is a, how much is a bottle of water cost you
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if you go to Costco and buy it on a pallet, it's like fucking 11 cents.
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So if you took your 11 cent water and put it, had a fridge in the back.
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And when your people walked in the door, your customers, your prospective customers, you
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just walked over with the water, say here, enjoy a complimentary water when you're, when
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you're enjoying, uh, when you're looking around, bro, that's a way to break the eyes.
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We teach all this shit in our team, all this shit we're talking about.
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Um, but the point is, is that creating rapport around commonalities when there's a sales
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question in place is important to break down the barrier of the resistance because dude,
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these people are going to usually, they're used to going into places like the buckle where
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They're used to going into places, um, you know, really anywhere, bro, where the dude,
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How refreshing would it be if you went into it?
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How do you want to be treated and start treating your customers that way?
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So stop attacking them, start getting to know them and change your intent from, I'm trying
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to sell to, I'm actually just trying to make friends and it'll fix most of your problems.
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What I just said from selling to making friends, because really what business are you in?
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Cause it doesn't matter because ultimately you're in the business of accumulating customers.
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So shouldn't the intent be to make this person a friend?
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So at least even if they don't buy anything, they at least walk out and they say, dude,
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You don't understand that you're actually pushing negative word of mouth out the door
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because of how pushy you are in the environment.
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You walk up to these people and you're attacking them and they're like, oh, I'm just looking
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and they fucking, you know, what they do is they walk out of the store and they're like,
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Find commonalities, work to make friends, make it your genuine intent.
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And remember, you're not in the business of selling whatever it is you sell.
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You're in the business of accumulating fucking customers.