573. Fueling The Process Of Dominating Your Life
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Summary
In this episode, I talk about the first few years of my business life when people around me thought I was full of shit, and how to deal with the criticism from people who don t believe in you. As you grow, as you become more successful, and as it becomes clear that you are actually going to create something, the conversation starts to change.
Transcript
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What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla, this is the show for the realists, say goodbye
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to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking
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reality. Guys, as you know, this is a personal development business entrepreneurship podcast
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at the core and today I'm going to bring you a little bit of real talk that I think needs
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to be had. You know, when I started in business guys, everybody laughed at me. All my friends,
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virtually all my family, virtually everybody I know, they laughed in my face, okay? They
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said things like, that's never going to work. Who do you think you are? What do you think
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is going to happen here? That's not how it's supposed to be done. It's supposed to be done
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like this. You don't have the skills. You don't have the money. You don't have the connections.
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How are you going to actually do this? And those conversations went on for years. And
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the reason I wanted to talk about this today is because I see a lot of you young people
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out here trying to build something, something that you believe in, something that you see
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in your mind and believe in your heart. And I understand what it's like to have those visions
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and have every single person around you think that you're full of shit. All right. So I want to
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talk to you guys for a minute. As I just said, this part of the journey is in my opinion, the hardest
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part, because you have this idea, you have this dream, you have this vision that nobody else can
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see. Your friends can't see it. Your family can't see it. Motherfuckers on the internet sure as fuck
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can't see it. And you don't have any reason or any credibility to stand on and say, see, I can do this.
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So it makes it extremely hard. But I want to remind you as someone who's been down the gauntlet
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of this process, that those conversations change. And as you become more and more successful,
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if you are willing to ignore the criticisms of these people, the conversation will start to sound
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like this. Oh, hey, man, are you still working on that thing? Man, that's pretty cool, man. Hey,
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you think you could make a donation to my kid's softball team? You think you could buy a table for
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our trivia night? And the conversation starts to change until you say you're going to build it
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bigger and better. And this was very, very, very much the exact scenario of what it was like for me.
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My first year, my first day, I sold $7 the first day. The second day, I didn't sell anything. The third
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day, I sold $23. And it took me eight months to have a day of $200. So you can imagine,
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what that felt like as an entrepreneur. It felt like failure. All right, I wasn't getting paid.
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All my friends were laughing at me. All my family was telling me to get serious, get realistic,
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get a real job, grow the fuck up. And I'm in here every day at my little vitamin shop,
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trying to do the best that I can to make something happen. I'm going out door to door. I'm going up and
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down the streets. Back then, we didn't have social media. So you had to do things like go door to door.
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And I'm thankful for that opportunity because it taught me some pretty valuable skills. But that's
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neither here nor there. The point is, we're all out here trying as hard as we can. And we face a
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literal tsunami of negative conversation, negative talk and negative criticisms. And it doesn't always
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stay that way. All right. As you grow up, as you get bigger, as you become more successful,
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as it becomes evident that you're actually going to create something, the conversation is going to
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change. But by the time that it changes, you are going to not give a shit what these people had to
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say about it. All right. So if this is you and you're struggling and you're fighting and you're in
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the fight, understand that facing this issue of non-believers of critiques and criticisms and
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negativity is part of the process. And a big reason why people can't build businesses, a big reason why
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they can't follow through to create success for themselves is because they don't have the capacity
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to push through this initial phase. And this initial phase is justified. All right. A lot of us blame
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these people. They blame them for not believing in them or, you know, doubting them. But if we're
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really honest with ourselves, what have we given these people as evidence to show that we are
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actually capable of completing the task at hand? We haven't given them anything yet. So they can't
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believe in it. And since you're the only one that can see the vision and you're the only one that can
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believe in the vision, how can you blame them? Because they can't crack open your head and look
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inside and say, Oh, there it is. They can't crack open your heart and look inside and say, Oh,
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he has what it takes. They're going to doubt. They're not going to believe because here's the thing.
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Stepping outside the framework of normalcy is always going to be questioned because most people
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live inside that framework their entire lives. And as you step outside and as you venture more and
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more and more down the own path that you know that you're supposed to go down, you're going to face
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more and more criticism. And there's two kinds of people. There's the people that win and there's the
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people that lose. And the people that win have something in common when it comes to this level
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of criticism, they very simply understand this. Every single bit of criticism, every single bit
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of negativity, every single bit of doubt, every single negative comment, every single person that
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says, I can't do this. You fucking won't do this, or this could never happen. Those go into a bank
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on your shoulder and it becomes this giant chip. And every time you're tired, every time you're frustrated,
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every time you want to fucking quit, you remember what these people say. And winners understand that
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this is some of the most valuable fuel that you could ever have. Now, the other kind of people,
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the people who lose, those people will listen to these people who are bound by the restrictions and
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the rails of normalcy for their entire existence. And they will listen to the criticism. They will
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listen to the doubt. They will listen to the hate. And eventually they will give into that and they
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will accept their reality to be one of normalcy. They will step back inside the rails of normalcy
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so that they can gain the acceptance of all their normal friends and family, AKA they're going to give
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up on their whole entire life, their whole entire dreams, their entire future, because they couldn't
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get past the doubt that the people who are confined to this prison of normalcy for their entire lives
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put on them. So those are your choices because anything that you do great, anything that you do
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outside the realm of normalcy is going to be criticized. And how you respond to that criticism
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is ultimately going to be what pushes you down the path or forces you back within the confines
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of a normal life. And I'm not saying there's anything wrong with normal life, except if you
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have those dreams and you have those goals and you have this vision for yourself, and then you sell
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yourself out of it back into normalcy because you can't understand how to use negativity as fuel.
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Right now we live in a society that's very soft, that's very weak, that is very touchy feely. And
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honestly, there's a massive opportunity for real fucking killers to go out and win. If they can
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understand that they need to bank the negativity, bank the criticism, bank the doubt, and then draw
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upon it as they need it. When they're tired, when they want to quit, when they don't feel like it. And
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guess what? That's most of the time. Most of the time on this journey, you were going to feel like
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shit. You were going to be overwhelmed. You were going to be stressed. You were going to be tired.
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You were going to wonder if it's the right thing. That's most of the time. Everybody thinks this is
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some sort of free and easy ride to the top because we have all these people on the internet who pretend
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to do that so that they can dig down in your pocket and take your money. That's not reality. Reality is
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it's fucking hard. Reality is it's going to take everything you got. Reality is if you don't have
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a big old chip on your shoulder that you could draw from and then have it push you down the road,
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you're not going to fucking make it. So when you look around and you start feeling bad because these
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people are criticizing you, because these people are attacking you, because these people are doubting
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you, I challenge you to flip the perspective to one where you're thankful for that because
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eventually you'll become so successful, you won't have people doubting you anymore. You won't have
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people criticizing you like that. You won't have people that don't believe and you won't have that
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fuel and you wish you did. So learn how to use it, stay on the path and recognize that no matter what
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someone says, no matter who it is that says it, the only way that you can lose on this journey is by
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giving up. And I know that sounds cliche and I know that sounds oversimplified, but it is simple.
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There are no failures. There's only quitting. Every single failure, every single hardship,
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every single obstacle is going to serve you if you allow yourself to let it serve you.
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Okay? So fuck what these people think. Fuck what they say. Fuck their doubts and their criticism
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of their bullshit and their loser mentality. Put it all up here on your shoulder. And when you don't
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feel like it and when you're frustrated and when you want to quit, take the proper amount out. And
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the proper amount is the amount that gets you off your ass and gets you executing. Because if you're
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executing day in and day out, day in and day out, day in and day out over the course of time,
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regardless of what anybody says, regardless of what your mom says, regardless of what your dad says,
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regardless of what your cousins say, regardless of what the internet says, if you are executing day
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in and day out, no matter what, there is not a single fucking thing that can stop you. And keep
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that in mind because every single person that you look up to, every single success story that inspires
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you, every single championship story that you say, damn, dude, one day that's going to be me.
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They all went through this. Every fucking single one of them. So don't think it's just you. Don't
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take it personal, but use it as fuel. Because if you can execute, you cannot be fucking stopped.
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And let me remind you of one little thing before we let you go. If you quit and you do retire back
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into the framework of normalcy, you know what they're going to say 10 years from now about you?
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They're going to say, yeah, he tried, but he fucking failed just like I knew he would.
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So you could decide, do you want to go down the path and face the criticism and face the hate and
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face the frustration and face the pain and use it as fuel and then go on to fucking win and inspire
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and teach and lift people up? Or do you want to retire into the framework of normalcy?
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Do you want to become like the people who are criticizing you? And then do you want to listen
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to them 10 years from now? Talk about how you almost made it because I can't think of anything