REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 573. Fueling The Process Of Dominating Your Life

00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla, this is the show for the realists, say goodbye 0.99

00:00:20.380 to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking 0.99

00:00:24.740 reality. Guys, as you know, this is a personal development business entrepreneurship podcast 0.98

00:00:31.360 at the core and today I'm going to bring you a little bit of real talk that I think needs

00:00:35.760 to be had. You know, when I started in business guys, everybody laughed at me. All my friends,

00:00:46.040 virtually all my family, virtually everybody I know, they laughed in my face, okay? They

00:00:53.520 said things like, that's never going to work. Who do you think you are? What do you think

00:00:59.500 is going to happen here? That's not how it's supposed to be done. It's supposed to be done

00:01:06.080 like this. You don't have the skills. You don't have the money. You don't have the connections.

00:01:12.800 How are you going to actually do this? And those conversations went on for years. And

00:01:23.560 the reason I wanted to talk about this today is because I see a lot of you young people

00:01:27.420 out here trying to build something, something that you believe in, something that you see

00:01:33.920 in your mind and believe in your heart. And I understand what it's like to have those visions

00:01:40.780 and have every single person around you think that you're full of shit. All right. So I want to 1.00

00:01:48.420 talk to you guys for a minute. As I just said, this part of the journey is in my opinion, the hardest

00:01:57.620 part, because you have this idea, you have this dream, you have this vision that nobody else can

00:02:04.220 see. Your friends can't see it. Your family can't see it. Motherfuckers on the internet sure as fuck 1.00

00:02:10.280 can't see it. And you don't have any reason or any credibility to stand on and say, see, I can do this. 1.00

00:02:16.620 So it makes it extremely hard. But I want to remind you as someone who's been down the gauntlet

00:02:22.620 of this process, that those conversations change. And as you become more and more successful,

00:02:30.400 if you are willing to ignore the criticisms of these people, the conversation will start to sound

00:02:37.640 like this. Oh, hey, man, are you still working on that thing? Man, that's pretty cool, man. Hey,

00:02:46.400 you think you could make a donation to my kid's softball team? You think you could buy a table for

00:02:51.980 our trivia night? And the conversation starts to change until you say you're going to build it

00:02:59.420 bigger and better. And this was very, very, very much the exact scenario of what it was like for me.

00:03:06.980 My first year, my first day, I sold $7 the first day. The second day, I didn't sell anything. The third

00:03:15.300 day, I sold $23. And it took me eight months to have a day of $200. So you can imagine,

00:03:21.980 what that felt like as an entrepreneur. It felt like failure. All right, I wasn't getting paid.

00:03:28.140 All my friends were laughing at me. All my family was telling me to get serious, get realistic,

00:03:33.600 get a real job, grow the fuck up. And I'm in here every day at my little vitamin shop,

00:03:38.920 trying to do the best that I can to make something happen. I'm going out door to door. I'm going up and

00:03:45.980 down the streets. Back then, we didn't have social media. So you had to do things like go door to door.

00:03:50.680 And I'm thankful for that opportunity because it taught me some pretty valuable skills. But that's

00:03:55.440 neither here nor there. The point is, we're all out here trying as hard as we can. And we face a

00:04:01.380 literal tsunami of negative conversation, negative talk and negative criticisms. And it doesn't always

00:04:09.840 stay that way. All right. As you grow up, as you get bigger, as you become more successful,

00:04:16.000 as it becomes evident that you're actually going to create something, the conversation is going to

00:04:21.500 change. But by the time that it changes, you are going to not give a shit what these people had to 0.97

00:04:27.760 say about it. All right. So if this is you and you're struggling and you're fighting and you're in 0.98

00:04:34.860 the fight, understand that facing this issue of non-believers of critiques and criticisms and

00:04:44.000 negativity is part of the process. And a big reason why people can't build businesses, a big reason why

00:04:50.380 they can't follow through to create success for themselves is because they don't have the capacity

00:04:55.780 to push through this initial phase. And this initial phase is justified. All right. A lot of us blame

00:05:02.820 these people. They blame them for not believing in them or, you know, doubting them. But if we're

00:05:10.440 really honest with ourselves, what have we given these people as evidence to show that we are

00:05:16.900 actually capable of completing the task at hand? We haven't given them anything yet. So they can't

00:05:23.800 believe in it. And since you're the only one that can see the vision and you're the only one that can

00:05:28.600 believe in the vision, how can you blame them? Because they can't crack open your head and look

00:05:33.180 inside and say, Oh, there it is. They can't crack open your heart and look inside and say, Oh,

00:05:37.720 he has what it takes. They're going to doubt. They're not going to believe because here's the thing.

00:05:44.380 Stepping outside the framework of normalcy is always going to be questioned because most people

00:05:51.660 live inside that framework their entire lives. And as you step outside and as you venture more and

00:05:59.000 more and more down the own path that you know that you're supposed to go down, you're going to face

00:06:05.040 more and more criticism. And there's two kinds of people. There's the people that win and there's the

00:06:11.140 people that lose. And the people that win have something in common when it comes to this level

00:06:16.740 of criticism, they very simply understand this. Every single bit of criticism, every single bit

00:06:24.540 of negativity, every single bit of doubt, every single negative comment, every single person that

00:06:30.820 says, I can't do this. You fucking won't do this, or this could never happen. Those go into a bank 0.97

00:06:38.200 on your shoulder and it becomes this giant chip. And every time you're tired, every time you're frustrated,

00:06:46.180 every time you want to fucking quit, you remember what these people say. And winners understand that 0.94

00:06:54.380 this is some of the most valuable fuel that you could ever have. Now, the other kind of people,

00:07:01.080 the people who lose, those people will listen to these people who are bound by the restrictions and

00:07:08.220 the rails of normalcy for their entire existence. And they will listen to the criticism. They will

00:07:15.620 listen to the doubt. They will listen to the hate. And eventually they will give into that and they

00:07:20.300 will accept their reality to be one of normalcy. They will step back inside the rails of normalcy

00:07:27.920 so that they can gain the acceptance of all their normal friends and family, AKA they're going to give

00:07:35.100 up on their whole entire life, their whole entire dreams, their entire future, because they couldn't

00:07:40.780 get past the doubt that the people who are confined to this prison of normalcy for their entire lives

00:07:47.980 put on them. So those are your choices because anything that you do great, anything that you do

00:07:56.460 outside the realm of normalcy is going to be criticized. And how you respond to that criticism

00:08:02.580 is ultimately going to be what pushes you down the path or forces you back within the confines

00:08:09.440 of a normal life. And I'm not saying there's anything wrong with normal life, except if you

00:08:16.300 have those dreams and you have those goals and you have this vision for yourself, and then you sell

00:08:22.200 yourself out of it back into normalcy because you can't understand how to use negativity as fuel.

00:08:28.920 Right now we live in a society that's very soft, that's very weak, that is very touchy feely. And

00:08:35.420 honestly, there's a massive opportunity for real fucking killers to go out and win. If they can 0.99

00:08:41.320 understand that they need to bank the negativity, bank the criticism, bank the doubt, and then draw

00:08:48.280 upon it as they need it. When they're tired, when they want to quit, when they don't feel like it. And

00:08:53.700 guess what? That's most of the time. Most of the time on this journey, you were going to feel like

00:09:00.720 shit. You were going to be overwhelmed. You were going to be stressed. You were going to be tired. 0.99

00:09:06.580 You were going to wonder if it's the right thing. That's most of the time. Everybody thinks this is

00:09:13.500 some sort of free and easy ride to the top because we have all these people on the internet who pretend

00:09:19.800 to do that so that they can dig down in your pocket and take your money. That's not reality. Reality is

00:09:26.400 it's fucking hard. Reality is it's going to take everything you got. Reality is if you don't have 0.97

00:09:31.860 a big old chip on your shoulder that you could draw from and then have it push you down the road, 0.98

00:09:36.760 you're not going to fucking make it. So when you look around and you start feeling bad because these 0.95

00:09:41.960 people are criticizing you, because these people are attacking you, because these people are doubting

00:09:46.760 you, I challenge you to flip the perspective to one where you're thankful for that because

00:09:53.400 eventually you'll become so successful, you won't have people doubting you anymore. You won't have

00:09:59.220 people criticizing you like that. You won't have people that don't believe and you won't have that

00:10:05.620 fuel and you wish you did. So learn how to use it, stay on the path and recognize that no matter what

00:10:14.040 someone says, no matter who it is that says it, the only way that you can lose on this journey is by

00:10:21.240 giving up. And I know that sounds cliche and I know that sounds oversimplified, but it is simple.

00:10:27.620 There are no failures. There's only quitting. Every single failure, every single hardship,

00:10:34.320 every single obstacle is going to serve you if you allow yourself to let it serve you.

00:10:41.120 Okay? So fuck what these people think. Fuck what they say. Fuck their doubts and their criticism 1.00

00:10:47.580 of their bullshit and their loser mentality. Put it all up here on your shoulder. And when you don't 1.00

00:10:52.760 feel like it and when you're frustrated and when you want to quit, take the proper amount out. And

00:10:58.260 the proper amount is the amount that gets you off your ass and gets you executing. Because if you're 0.99

00:11:03.940 executing day in and day out, day in and day out, day in and day out over the course of time,

00:11:10.160 regardless of what anybody says, regardless of what your mom says, regardless of what your dad says,

00:11:15.100 regardless of what your cousins say, regardless of what the internet says, if you are executing day 0.98

00:11:21.140 in and day out, no matter what, there is not a single fucking thing that can stop you. And keep 0.98

00:11:29.100 that in mind because every single person that you look up to, every single success story that inspires 0.98

00:11:35.420 you, every single championship story that you say, damn, dude, one day that's going to be me. 0.93

00:11:40.480 They all went through this. Every fucking single one of them. So don't think it's just you. Don't 1.00

00:11:46.400 take it personal, but use it as fuel. Because if you can execute, you cannot be fucking stopped. 0.99

00:11:54.520 And let me remind you of one little thing before we let you go. If you quit and you do retire back 0.99

00:12:02.880 into the framework of normalcy, you know what they're going to say 10 years from now about you? 0.98

00:12:08.080 They're going to say, yeah, he tried, but he fucking failed just like I knew he would. 0.69

00:12:14.280 So you could decide, do you want to go down the path and face the criticism and face the hate and 0.98

00:12:21.500 face the frustration and face the pain and use it as fuel and then go on to fucking win and inspire 0.97

00:12:28.040 and teach and lift people up? Or do you want to retire into the framework of normalcy? 0.98

00:12:34.520 Do you want to become like the people who are criticizing you? And then do you want to listen

00:12:39.900 to them 10 years from now? Talk about how you almost made it because I can't think of anything

00:12:45.620 worse than that.

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - September 14, 2023

573. Fueling The Process Of Dominating Your Life

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