578. Q&AF： Motivation Sources, Maximizing Business Exposure & Self Doubt Days
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Summary
On this episode of the Q&A, I sit down with a good friend of mine and discuss a variety of topics. We talk about how he went from sleeping on the floor to being a multi-millionaire, how he got his start in the jewelry business, and how he built a company from the ground up without the help of anyone else.
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Yeah, went from sleeping on the floor, now my jewelry box froze, fuck a pole, fuck a
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stove, counted millions in the code, bad bitch, booted, swole, got her on bankroll, can't
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fold, doesn't know, headshot, case closed, what is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this
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is the show for the real, let's say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of
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modern reality, is it modern society, alright, welcome to mother freaking reality,
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I'm not even doing it over, I don't give a shit, alright, alright, so we have Q and
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AF today, that's where you submit the Qs and we bring you the AFs, you can submit your
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questions one of a couple different ways, the first way is, guys, you can email those
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questions into askandy at andyfriscilla.com, or you can go on YouTube on the Q and AF episodes
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and drop your question in the comments and we'll pick some from there as well, other
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times we have CTI, CTI is cruise the internet, that's where we talk about what's going on
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in the world, current events, news, we make some jokes, we speculate on what's true in
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the world, what's not true in the world, and then we talk about how we the people can be
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the solution to the problems going on, other times we have real talk, real talk is just
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5 to 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk, other times we have full length, that's
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where we bring a guest in, we just have a conversation like you see on most other podcasts, and other
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times we have 75 hard verses, and that's where we bring people in who have completed the
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75 hard portion of the live hard program, which is the best mental toughness calibration
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program on the planet, it's legendary, you've heard of it, and the reason you've heard of
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it is because it changes people's lives, you can get that program for free at episode 208
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on the audio feed, you can go to 75hard.com, or you can buy the book on my website, 75 hard,
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not required, but if you're somebody who wants to know the ins and outs at a deep level,
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that's where you should go, we have this thing called the fee, now for those of you
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who don't know, I'm a fairly successful entrepreneur, I've built a few companies and done okay in
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my life, and I've done it without the traditional help that most people have, I didn't have
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investors, I didn't have rich parents, I didn't have people to give me money, I didn't have
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people to, you know, do it for me, we did it from scratch, and I share those lessons with
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you guys for free here on this show, and I only ask one simple thing, I don't ask you,
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I don't pitch you, I don't do all this stuff, I ask you one simple thing, and it's this,
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if you give value from the show, please share the show, all right, I get censored everywhere
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I go because I do not hold back, I think you guys know that, and so I need you guys to share
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the show for the message to be heard, so that's what I ask, when I say pay the fee, that's what
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that means, so if the show makes you laugh, if it makes you think, if it gives you a new
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perspective, if it helps you out, it gives you some nuggets that are going to help you
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in life, in business, please share it, that's how we operate here, so anyway, what's up dude?
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Yeah, it's a good Monday morning, yeah, coming back off a good weekend, that was good.
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I always like to just check in with you, you know, because there's some days, like,
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we don't even, like, I might barely get, like, 10 minutes with you, because you're, you know,
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doing entrepreneur shit, you know, so how you doing, man, how are you?
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Yeah, I'm sore, I can't figure out what's going on with my body, and I think it's just
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called getting old, you know, I'm, like, sore all the time.
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Your dad walked by at the same time, so I didn't know-
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I can feel the mothballs starting to form inside me, bro.
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Like, my knees make noises, my body makes noises, like, shit don't feel right.
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I saw this question on somebody's Q&A button on Instagram, and the question was, I'm in
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my mid-40s, and I'm sore as fuck, and I just fucking laughed.
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And, like, dude, everybody said that stuff when I was younger.
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That didn't really bother me either until I had that injury, right?
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And now that I'm, like, healthy and I'm training again, I'm training probably as hard as I've
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ever trained or close to it, it's taking its toll.
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But the reality is, is I'd rather feel sore than feel like a lazy, you know, plebe of a
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I don't need advice on what to do to not be sore.
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You know, I've, I've built some things around that knowledge.
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There is one thing that does work that I actually got you on.
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I don't, I don't do ads on the show and they're not giving me anything, but I'm going to tell
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Like, it's only a matter of time before they make it illegal.
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That's what people look like when they laugh because you pay them.
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Andy, you often talk about keeping a record of what people said.
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said about you coming up on your journey of success.
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And you've always said that that was a source of motivation.
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How exactly do you use that fuel in the right ways?
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Anytime you set out to do anything great, you're going to have people that are going to talk shit.
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When you operate outside the realm of what's normal or considered normal by your friends,
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your family, your neighbors, your peer group that you grew up around,
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you're going to learn real fast that people don't like it.
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It's usually passive-aggressive doubts, sound stuff like this.
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Oh, you better get started now because, you know, nobody ever makes it in that.
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And then the next thing that'll happen is, you know, you'll be in it,
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and they'll be calling you, you know, after a year or two,
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and they'll call you and be like, hey, are you okay?
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You know, and they'll act like they're real concerned.
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But what they're actually trying to do is they're trying to dig out what's really going on
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They want to hear that you're struggling and that you want to quit
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and that you made a mistake because they want to affirm their position of never trying.
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They want to validate themselves to say, okay, see, I made the right decision
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So then what'll happen is you'll start to get some success
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and you'll get a new car or your business will grow.
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It'll be clear that you're getting some sort of success
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And when you see them, they'll say passively insulting stuff.
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Like for me, what they would always say is, you know,
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and this is when I have, you know, a dozen stores and other companies,
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they're, you know, producing good amounts of revenue.
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And they say things like, oh, man, you know, you still got that little vitamin shop.
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So they'll try to minimize and all of these things are fuel.
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And so all of these little remarks, all of these little snide comments,
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all of these little slights and a shade that people throw on you.
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If you look at it properly, champions, look at these negative remarks as fuel to push them down the field.
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They understand how to take and bank every single negative thing that is said about them with a smile on their face.
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And then instead of getting mad and like commenting back or getting in an argument or draining their energy,
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arguing with this person or debating with this person, they just take all of it and collect it up.
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And then when they don't feel like doing what they know they're supposed to do,
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they think about those things and they think like, yeah, I don't really feel like doing this today, man.
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But that motherfucker said I wasn't going to be able to do it.
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And that's where you pull this negative energy from.
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So how you actually do this is that you take the negative energy and when you start to feel lazy or undisciplined,
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which happens to everybody, no matter how disciplined you are,
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you remember all these negative things that people said to you about how you're never going to make it,
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how you're never going to do this, how you're never going to be, what it is you say you're going to be.
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And you think about those things for a second and then you get up and you go do whatever it is you're supposed to do,
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knowing that if you stay where you are and you actually give in to that moment of laziness or that lapse in discipline,
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Okay, so the question is basically how do you do that?
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You put it up on your shoulder as a big chip when you need it because you don't feel like you have what it takes to get done what needs to be done today.
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You think about what they said and you go do it.
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You know, people try to say, oh, that's not a healthy way.
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You should only be motivated by the people who believe in you.
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Well, if you're only motivated by the people who believe in you, you're not going to be very motivated because most people don't have anybody that believes in them.
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And when you talk about this idea with people about how, you know, you should prove people, the believers right instead of proving motherfuckers wrong.
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Well, you're limiting your fuel source because in the beginning you don't have anybody that believes in you because you've never done anything,
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which is a perfectly logical position for them to hold.
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You've never even indicated that you can do the thing and you feel entitled to everybody around you to their belief and your ability to do the thing.
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And if you look at the fuel as just the people who believe in you, when you first say what it is you're going to do, you're not going to have any fucking fuel.
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You have to remember all the shit that people said because that's what's going to drive you down the field where other people who are doing it just to prove people right are going to be people who never get anywhere because nobody believes in them in the first place.
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So we have to really understand that operating from the dark side, operating from the negative energy is a very productive way to operate.
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And if you look at any of the greats of all time and what they did, Tom Brady, Kobe Bryant, Michael Jordan, you know, exceptional business people, et cetera.
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These people, when you get them alone and you talk to them, they're not talking about the motherfuckers that believe them.
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They're talking about the people who talk shit.
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They're talking about the people who, you know, made snide comments and then smiled in their face.
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I just saw a post about this from Deion Sanders yesterday where Deion was like, you know, people say the most ridiculous, asinine, hurtful things to me and I just smile on their face and they think I don't know.
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Like I might smile in your face, bro, but don't think I don't know what the fuck you thought or what you said.
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Okay, and I'm going to take that and I'm going to continue to win and every time I win big, I'm going to smile on your face and shake your hand when you say you're proud of me.
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And then I'm going to walk five steps down the way and be like, I showed that motherfucker, fuck him.
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Those people were mean to you when you were starting.
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But in fact, they actually gave you a massive gift if you know how to productively use the dark side energy.
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Don't let these spiritual gurus on the internet try to convince you that this is a bad way to fucking live because reality is, is that in the beginning, especially, you need it.
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Now, as you progress down the path and as you get some success and as you prove to all these people that you're not just this regular plebe of a human being like they are, you're actually doing things, your motivation and drive will change.
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And it will become purpose motivated because, dude, if you just operate on that dark side energy forever, what will happen is, is you'll run out of it because eventually you'll become so successful that people don't really doubt you anymore.
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And when people stop doubting you, it's no different than whenever you were in the beginning and you were looking for people who believed in you.
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So when you win big, people stop doubting you and they start saying, well, fuck, yeah, he wins at everything he does.
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And if you operate exclusively on dark side energy, where are you going to get your energy from?
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So then what happens is, is you start to open up and look for the purpose.
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And as I've evolved, my mission and purpose has become bigger and bigger and bigger and bigger.
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It started with my realization that it wasn't just about me.
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It was also about the results that I produced for the customers.
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Then it became the life-changing results that I produced for the customers, along with the responsibility of the careers of the people who were in my company.
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Then it became, we can use this entire culture that we're creating with people who were changing their lives from a customer standpoint.
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And we're changing these people's lives from an employee standpoint.
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And we can build a culture that actually changes the entire fucking landscape of business.
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And then it becomes, we cannot just change the landscape of business.
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We could change the landscape of culture as a whole.
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So the vision keeps getting bigger and bigger and bigger.
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But in the beginning, all you got is people that don't believe in you.
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In fact, if you don't use it, I think you're going to get your ass beat.
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And what I mean by that is, like, in the beginning, they actually did believe in you, maybe genuinely.
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But then once you start making the success, they're flipped to being envious, maybe, or jealous.
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Because those people, they never flipped because they were pretending in the beginning.
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And then they can be there and be like, man, you tried, and it's all good, and you guys can continue to waste your life away at some bar on a Wednesday afternoon at fucking, you know, 2 o'clock, right?
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Like, that's the mentality of how these people from the old neighborhood are going to treat you when you go out.
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So there's not, like, a whole lot of people that truly believe in you, right?
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You might have a parent, or you might have a brother, or you might have, you know,
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somebody that's close to you that, like, is willing.
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But people will show you how they believe in you by how they help you win.
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People that actually believe in you will help you win.
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People who don't believe in you will say, oh, I believe in you, and then they're gone, right?
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And then they'll show back up whenever you have the good times happening, right?
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But the reality is, dude, is, you know, people have a hard time being happy for success.
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And the unfortunate reality is, is that once you get to a certain level of success, it
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does change your friendship dynamics with most people because the reality of, like, a very
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high-level life is that when you talk about it, like, if we were all out to dinner and
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I was around a bunch of people that just had, like, normal jobs, right, and I'm talking about
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what I do, that perception to them is that I'm bragging.
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Well, dude, but the perception is I'm bragging when, in fact, I'm just talking about the
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When people say that thing, you've changed, they don't understand that they're actually
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And when you keep surrounding yourself with people who have refused to go on that journey,
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they're going to hate you for just going on it.
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So, you know, the reality of business, and this is why I talk about the relationships
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changing over the course of time, because your friends today, if you continue to go up
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that path of achievement and drive and success, those people will not be your friends in five
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You'll have a new set of friends, and they will be a set of friends who are aligned with
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And then in five more years, if you keep going, some of them will fall off, some will go with
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you, but the idea that, you know, it's lonely at the top is not a true idea.
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It's, it's, it's a, that's a loser's perspective of what success looks like.
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It's said by people who have never been successful.
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It's lonely when you're moving from your first friend group to the second friend group,
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And then from the second friend group, who's also driven like you to the third, who's taking
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everything to the next level and be in, and so on and so on and so on.
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So you go gaps that these gaps in the middle, I call them no man's land.
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Like a lot of, you spend a lot of time in no man's land and it's lonely when you're there.
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But the reality is, is the friendships that you build by continuing to pursue your own
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true potential and become better and better and better and better are better and better
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Like I have less people that I talk to, but the relationships that I have are much more
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Hey, Andy, my seven year old daughter was reading one of your Otis and Charlie books,
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So we bought her the equipment for a mini donut business.
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I sat down with her and broke down her P&L and she understands the economics.
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So the question is, how would you or do you maximize the exposure for her mini donut business
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How do you maximize exposure for a brand new starting business?
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Well, I mean, we're so conditioned to this that people like.
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Do you understand how valuable the tool is that you have in your pocket right now?
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Do you understand that you can reach people for literally free without having to go anywhere?
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You guys don't remember because a lot of you aren't old enough to remember what it was like before that.
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In 1999, before the Internet was the Internet and there was no social media, how do you get attention
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for your brick and mortar business that you just started for 12 grand where you got every single
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thing that you've ever had in your entire life sunk into it?
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OK, and this is why I get upset when people ask these kind of questions.
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You have apps in your phone that are free that expose you to people.
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And then you take those 10 and you provide them with the best fucking donut they've ever had,
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including the best experience they've had buying a donut they've ever had.
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And then those 10 people go out and tell their entire social media network about this new
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donut that they had from the seven-year-old girl who's amazing, who also nailed the customer
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experience and is actually doing something very cool.
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So great product, great experience, free social media.
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You should consider yourself extremely lucky to live in this day and age when it comes to
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entrepreneurship because of the free attention that you're able to leverage.
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That was not an option for me when I started my company.
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That was not an option for any of these companies that you see out here on the street as you drive
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How can you afford that when you've sunk your $12,000, your only $12,000 into a retail startup?
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I had to go door to door and I had to knock on doors, thousands of them, for years and
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If you guys are into working out or you're into, you know, you need to get in shape or
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Here's a couple of free things, a t-shirt, shaker cup, free bar, whatever I could do,
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I would get a little donut cart and I'd go door to door to these people and make them aware
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I would do everything that you could possibly do because business, contrary to what the
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internet presents it to be, is very competitive and very difficult and very hard for anybody.
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So you have the free internet, you have the ability to leverage your own customers' word
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of mouth by doing an excellent job, and you have the ability to put one foot in front
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of the other and go actually see people if you want to do it.
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I mean, I was going to ask you that as a follow-up.
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Do you think, I mean, especially in this day and age, because listen, we know for a fact
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there's a lot of kids, a lot of young people out there who are socially awkward, right?
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It's like, what would be the point of pouring all the gas on social media if you don't have
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those social interpersonal skills, communication skills, right?
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Because you're going to learn, you'll learn the personal skills through the reps.
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You know, this is why I recommend young people, you know, who want to become successful and
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they always, they always turn their nose up at this when I say it, but dude, you should
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go get a retail environment job in a high traffic establishment for the reps alone.
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The ability to talk to many, many people on a daily basis is a massive driver of your skill
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The reason I can do what I do is because for years and years and years and years, I talked
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to dozens and dozens and dozens and dozens of people every single day.
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I was thinking about how could I say this or how could I do this or what could I do better?
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So when you actually become intentional about improving your people skills, most people can't
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Like, because it's still people, you can use all the technology you want, but at the end of
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the day, there is going to come a time where you're going to have to actually connect with
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And if you can't do that, you're at a massive disadvantage to the people who can.
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And the people who can are becoming less and less and less and less, which makes it a massive
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opportunity to go out and intentionally create the skill set.
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So, so build, build a great product, build a great buying experience.
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Build those interpersonal communication skills and go get it.
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And you've never been able to do this for less money or less effort in the history of
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So, you know, like I don't have sympathy for people who come to me and they're like, I
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don't, I don't know how to get trafficked in my business.
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You see those doors over there, go fucking knock on them.
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See, and this is why I talk about zero options mentality because that's scary.
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But in the beginning of my business, no, there was no other option for me.
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Dude, do you know how terrified I was to go knock on fucking doors, bro?
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After 25 years, I still come to work convinced that if I don't give my best, we are going
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They see all the shit going on that we're working on.
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I might like, and I know it's not like when I stop, I almost have to stop and think about
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That's how much I've convinced myself that it's true.
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And that's important because dude, if the minute you get lazy, the minute you get the
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lack of urgency, the minute that you let off the gas, bro, there's a whole bunch of hungry
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So like do cultivating the zero options mentality.
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I must do this or else I will lose everything is a massive driver for the entrepreneur.
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Now, if you go talk to the online, you know, spiritual gurus, they'll say, well,
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So, yeah, I don't know about you guys, but I don't have a fallback plan.
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I got to come here every day and give it my all.
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And I've done that every single fucking day for 25 years.
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And when you look around at my life and you wonder why I got it, that's why.
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And the best part about it is you have access to this technology that we're talking about.
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Andy, how do you get through the days of self-doubt?
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The days you truly feel like you hate yourself, you're not capable.
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How do you get yourself past those days of self-doubt?
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That's operating from a place where you are going to get whatever it is that's needed
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Do you know how many days I execute at a perfect, like a perfect level where I feel like total
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Do you know how many days over 25 years, bro, that I've executed at a literal perfect
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level over the course of a day where I felt like quitting that day?
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Or how many days I've executed at a perfect level where I thought I was shit or thought
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that I was a fraud or had imposter syndrome or felt like I wasn't qualified to do those
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If you can cultivate yourself into someone who will execute regardless of the doubt
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feelings, regardless of the frustration, regardless of the pain, regardless of what anybody says,
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regardless of how you feel, you're going to win.
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Like it's if you win today and you win tomorrow and you win the next day, regardless of how you
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feel and you win the next day after that, the next day after that, and you keep that streak
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And we get caught up in these feelings and our feelings all the time, your feelings.
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And like, dude, I understand it's a real thing.
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I'm not saying I don't wake up some days and think, fuck dude, I don't know what I'm
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In fact, most of the days I wake up and I'm like, fuck, I don't know what I'm doing,
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And I do it regardless of what I'm, my dialogue is or anything.
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And that comes down to just executing regardless of how you feel.
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You guys are inundated with too much bullshit on the internet.
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Now, outside of the entrepreneurship spectrum, I don't, I'm not speaking.
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I'm talking about the people that are listening to this right now that want to win and want
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So if you can, and if you can execute when other people can't think of the advantage that
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Think of all these people out here that are asking questions just like that.
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And on the days that they feel like that, where they have self-doubt, they have anxiety,
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They're saying, well, I'm just going to give myself a break.
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I'm just going to, I'm going to take the day off or I'm going to take, you know, four days
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off because I need to recharge and I need to recompress like, dude, this, that is, those
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are the little gaps that you gain on those people.
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Those are the little gaps that puts you miles and miles and miles and miles ahead.
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It feels good when I wake up every day and I look around at what I built and said, fuck,
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you know, I could have quit all those times, but I didn't.
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And our society is so focused on feelings that we forget that feelings are actually irrelevant
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to the results that we produce if we're disciplined about execution.
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So, you know, what do I do on those days when I don't feel like doing it?
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What do I do on the days where I'm filled with self-doubt?
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Now, if you're asking how to deal with those feelings and how to solve those feelings and
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The more disciplined that you are and the more execution that you do in spite of how you
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feel, the more confident you become, the less those feelings are represented inside
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I very rarely have those kind of feelings anymore because I'm very confident in my ability
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to wake up and handle my motherfucking shit every single day.
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I feel like sometimes even like just getting those things done, what you know needs to get
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Sometimes that's all you need to pull you out of those moments.
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No one talks about how anxiety is actually just a indicator to remind you of the shit that
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And then what they do is instead of doing, instead of just like seeing anxiety for what
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it is, which is a trigger for you to do things that are on your mind that you know need to
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be done instead of doing that, then they take a break.
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Then they take a break and the break creates more anxiety because you're creating more distance
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between you and what you know is supposed to be done.
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So you should be looking at these feelings as an indicator that something is off.
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It's that you're not executing on what the fuck you're supposed to be executing on.
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If you were actually getting up every day and you were eating the right food and you
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were training and you were executing your list against what it is you're trying to become
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in life, whether it's an entrepreneur, a musician, an athlete, whatever.
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You might wake up with some anxiety and some frustration, but you know what's going to
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There's going to be a conversation that clicks in your brain and be like, bro, I did my shit
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And that conversation quickly shifts from, you know, this, this uncertain anxiety to very,
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very strong, confident feelings because you're like, no, I've handled my shit every single
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It's like when I get in my cold plunge every day.
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Every single day I do my cold plunge for eight minutes.
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I do it at 34, 35 degrees, which is very, very cold.
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I do it for eight minutes and it's taken me a while to acclimate and get to that level.
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But unlike when you're doing it at 45 degrees, you don't ever get used to it at that temperature,
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I, I, I walk up to that cold plunge every day and I look at it and you know what I think?
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You know what my second thought is, bro, you're a bitch.
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And every day I look at it like, dude, the days I don't want, like I had a day, uh, I'm
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fucking, I got something wrong with me, but I had a day, I had a day like last week.
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This really fucked me too, where I missed my cold plunge in the morning.
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I didn't get home until like eight o'clock at night and I did it.
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I, and, and bro, I put it off and I put it off and I put it off.
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And I was looking at the cold plunge and I got it and I'm like, you know, fuck it.
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And I get in and I get, I get in and that while I'm halfway through it, I'm like, bro,
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And so instead of doing eight minutes, I did 10 minutes.
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Well, if you do cold plunge like that, you know, it takes like four or five hours for
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And I was like, all right, I'll get in a hot tub.
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Well, I didn't know that the breaker had gone off that day.
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The hot tub was normal, like regular water, bro.
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Like, but the point is, is like, I punish myself for having the weak thoughts.
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Like if I start to have weak thoughts, then I do extra.
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Like if I'm, if I'm like, bro, I don't want to do this.
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And that extra is what builds the confidence for me to overcome these feelings of doubt,
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Anybody out here who's telling you that they never have those feelings, they're full of
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Like you guys assume that because someone is successful, they've somehow overcome those
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What has to do with it is they've learned to operate in spite of those feelings.
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They've learned to operate and execute with those feelings.
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That's, that's what you guys are looking to try and solve the wrong puzzle.
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You're trying to solve it and remove the feelings and then you'll execute.
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When in reality, if you execute in spite of having those feelings, you actually feel like
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a bigger winner because you have a better challenge to overcome.
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Well, just get into a point in your life where it's like, you understand that this is
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This is expected of this journey I'm trying to go on.
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But what I'm saying is people have the wrong perspective because of the garbage that's
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spewed out by people who have never achieved anything on the fucking internet.
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They think they're supposed to eliminate all these feelings and then go.
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So if you can, if you're, if your logic is I have to eliminate all these feelings and
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then go and you cannot eliminate those feelings, when are you going to go?
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So we have to understand that's not how it works.
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It doesn't work like clearing my chakras and my energy.
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And all of a sudden I've got everything where I feel great.
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You have to do the thing in spite of those feelings and then do the thing again and again
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and again and again and again until you understand those feelings are actually irrelevant.
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And then you could build your confidence extra by when those feelings do happen, you actually
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So you actually perform better on the days where you feel like shit than the days you
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Like you guys, you guys, you guys have to start pre-qualifying the advice that you're getting
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from knuckleheads on the internet because most of these people haven't built a motherfucking
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They do not know what it, what it means to win or what it takes to win.
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They have a microphone and a voice and a platform with some followers with no real evidence to
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If you, if you take information from those people, you're going to get the wrong picture.
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And I'm just telling you, I've been, I've interviewed the highest achieving people in
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We've had fucking Joe Montana, Peyton Manning and Arte Sinek, like dude, champions, like
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I mean, dude, James, Iron Cowboy, all of these guys, they don't wake up in the day and say,
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Gagas doesn't wake up in the day and say, man, I got to get happy before I go fucking
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And by the way, because I feel like shit, I'm doing five more miles.
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And you guys are trying to, you guys are trying to become champions following the playbook
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So you could disagree with what I'm saying, or you could think I'm wrong, but I'm just telling
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But when you get through it, you start to develop a sense of worth that it's unfuckwithable.
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And you get to a point where you look around and you're like, yeah, it's worth it.