REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 615. Q&AF： Conservative Influencers, Taking Compliments & Supportive Partner

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00:02:32.820 doing good how are you good good yeah feeling good man we uh so this is our first year we're doing

00:02:38.640 the little elf on the shelf thing you guys doing that yeah yeah sal loves that it's cool yeah it's

00:02:43.740 funny but it's like part of me also feels like i'm just like torturing a child you know why

00:02:49.560 because like you're fucking with their like their mental you know i'm saying like yeah i tried to

00:02:53.520 like tap in like you know welcome to the show that's what i'm saying yeah it's like it's like

00:02:57.660 i mean shit man everybody fuck with us look at the shit they put on tv yeah but then i think but

00:03:02.620 that's the other thing like i think too like man like how easy it is to convince kids of literally

00:03:07.180 fucking anything really like how impressionable they are man yeah most of those kids never grow up and

00:03:12.360 become adults they're easy to convince of anything yeah that's some real shit man so yeah you know so

00:03:17.920 i'm gonna try to keep it cool but anyway yeah we got some good ones though man yeah guys got some

00:03:24.060 really good ones guys andy question number one hey andy a friend of mine uh recently invited me to a tp

00:03:31.940 usa event but i have honestly lost a lot of faith in the quote-unquote conservative influencers because

00:03:38.920 most of them are just bandwagoners if i'm being honest i feel like they had a purpose for a short

00:03:44.520 period of time but i feel like that ship has sailed what are your thoughts on conservative

00:03:49.560 influencers at the moment

00:03:50.840 i think identifying with an ideology as an identity for anyone at this point in time is just playing into

00:04:01.600 the strategy that the people who are doing the damage to society wants to play into

00:04:05.480 i think that people who strictly identify themselves as a democrat or republican or conservative

00:04:12.460 or a liberal or right wing or left wing i think people like making their identity

00:04:20.500 these categories that we are offered are the real cause of the destruction that's happening in society

00:04:30.560 because when we identify with these in this whether it be conservative or liberal or whatever

00:04:35.860 side you identify with and we make that our identity it makes it almost impossible to unify

00:04:42.020 and unity is the only thing that's going to save this country whether you like it or not people

00:04:46.940 say well i'm not unifying with that well look i agree we shouldn't be unifying with the pedophiles

00:04:51.720 right yeah like there's yes like there should be a line in the sand drawn around common sense

00:04:57.740 individuals and those common sense individuals should all realize okay we may have some differences

00:05:04.840 we may have some disagreements we may have some fundamental things that we don't see eye to eye on

00:05:09.880 but we need to work together because if we don't work together the people on the other team are going to

00:05:17.120 get their way and that's going to mean bad things for us and when we say the other team we have to

00:05:22.260 realize they have propagated and intentionally made it seem like you know the other team is other

00:05:29.740 citizens the other team is not citizens in the country it's not your neighbor who has a joe biden

00:05:36.460 sticker on his fucking car i mean he might be an idiot but he's not the enemy all right okay there's a

00:05:42.000 difference and we could say that about the guys on the right too yeah all right for us to heal as a

00:05:47.840 nation for us to have a a true america again the people the citizens us are going to have to quit

00:05:57.340 identifying so hard with identities that they give us and start identifying with being an actual citizen

00:06:03.960 a human and someone who represents the free people of the united states of america and that's my opinion

00:06:11.140 on it and a lot of people will say well that's a libertarian no that's not that's just another label

00:06:15.520 i'm a free human who wants to build a country that is in the interest of other free humans

00:06:22.360 that benefits the citizens of this country whether they have the beliefs of this or that or the

00:06:28.120 otherwise and there are lines in the sand where certain beliefs are not tolerated like dudes dressing

00:06:34.360 up as women and shaking their dicks in front of little kids that's where the line is for almost

00:06:39.600 everybody in my opinion and at least where it needs to be yeah and we need to have

00:06:44.780 an understanding of what this government should look like what we should actually be treated like

00:06:50.900 and the reality is is we don't need this massive ridiculous government the the government that exists

00:06:57.960 in the united states of america is the largest organization ever assembled in the history of

00:07:01.820 humankind all right our government should have police they should have military it should provide very

00:07:07.620 basic essentials for society and the rest of the shit should be free market all right that's what

00:07:13.760 our country's supposed to be and it's not and actually it's really far from that and the idea

00:07:18.460 of saying oh well america is a free country is not actually true anymore we talk about this every day

00:07:23.880 when the citizens of this country when a citizen and and by the way it's most citizens but when any

00:07:30.540 citizen pays more money to the government than they get to take home for the work that they do

00:07:35.560 that makes them a slave of that government and we have lots and lots and lots of people in fact

00:07:40.780 the majority of taxpayers fall into that category when you add all the taxes up so we've got to be

00:07:47.040 real about the situation that we have and it's not right or left it's not liberal or conservative

00:07:53.000 it's elite tyrants versus the citizenship of this country and that's what we're dealing with so when

00:08:00.160 you ask me what do i think of the conservatives i don't see the conservative influencers any different

00:08:05.400 than the the liberal influencers or the left influencers i see a lot of people who do not have

00:08:10.700 an identity or anything going on outside of their identity as a conservative influencer who are working

00:08:16.040 to sell t-shirts or get traffic to their page or trying to um you know be relevant and that's their relevancy

00:08:25.020 and that's not in our best interest as as citizens either yeah so you know this is why i don't go speak at

00:08:31.640 these events this is why i don't go to quote unquote i'm a pro-freedom human american citizen

00:08:38.800 i am pro-freedom i'm not right i'm not left i'm not republican i'm not democrat i'm not libertarian

00:08:45.220 i'm a human fucking being that wants the best for the rest of the human beings and i want some common

00:08:49.840 fucking sense in the country and i want to be left alone i want to pay low taxes i want to be able to go

00:08:55.560 build things and prosper and get all the things that have been promised to me in the constitution of this

00:08:59.880 country which we do not have that's what i want and until people wake the fuck up and stop identifying

00:09:05.440 with left or right republican democrat and black white gay straight all the shit that is that is put

00:09:12.400 down on us for the intention of preventing unity until we figure that out and stop doing that we will

00:09:20.820 continue to be abused by these people who hold the power that's reality so that's what i think of

00:09:26.880 them i don't i i think a lot of these guys are just they make things worse i think they sensationalize

00:09:33.420 things that that should be discussed i think that you know when we look at a couple different scenarios

00:09:40.480 in the country right now and we look at let's say how big the censorship is you know you have to look

00:09:47.140 at what they try to contain to understand what they're afraid of right what do they try to contain

00:09:52.680 what do they try to do what are they trying to do well they're trying to get us censored on the

00:09:57.880 internet so what does that tell you they're afraid of our speech they're afraid of our voices and that

00:10:02.120 goes for all of our voices that's not just people who have a big platform this is every single

00:10:07.040 individual if they weren't afraid of your voice why would they come up with an operation like

00:10:11.300 political correctness which is the uh abandonment of fact to not offend people with the truth why would

00:10:19.100 that become a thing why would there be a social movement like cancel culture where if you don't

00:10:23.460 step in line with the the beliefs we're going to take your business we're going to get you fired we're

00:10:27.700 going to ruin your name we're going to embarrass you publicly we're going to we're going to we're

00:10:31.160 going to hurt you why would they have this cultural movement of of uh you know silent majority why would

00:10:38.460 they create nobility around silence why would they do these things it should be obvious to anybody with a

00:10:43.480 critical thinking mind that they're afraid of the voice of the individual and you guys have been

00:10:49.140 conditioned to believe that your voice doesn't matter you believe that you have to be someone

00:10:52.900 with a big platform i have to have someone that has millions of followers or millions of dollars or

00:10:58.400 somebody relevant or famous that the that thought process that's these these people with massive

00:11:05.540 followings are going to get it done is what's preventing it from getting it done okay so there's that right

00:11:10.660 so what are they trying to contain they're trying to get you to silence they're trying to keep you

00:11:15.600 shamed they're trying to get you to believe like you're alone so what does that tell you they're

00:11:20.620 afraid of they're afraid of your voice your voice is the most powerful thing that you could have

00:11:23.780 okay and then let's look at the second thing that they're afraid of okay let's look at all the

00:11:28.680 intentional division that they that they promote around race okay like let's let's just break this

00:11:34.600 the fuck down all right we're talking about the pigment the level of fucking melanin

00:11:40.460 in someone's skin tone like that's the level of fucking ridiculousness that we have been reduced

00:11:47.880 to they have they in their mind they have gotten the peasant class to argue over something that is

00:11:54.720 legitimately irrelevant it's irrelevant okay it doesn't matter how much fucking pigment you have

00:11:59.180 in your skin it doesn't matter where the fuck you come from it doesn't matter if you're black white gay

00:12:04.020 straight it doesn't matter bro we're all human beings and they propagate all these uh identities

00:12:11.180 left right black white gay straight blah blah blah all these identity politic issues because they

00:12:17.100 understand that when people pick opposing sides there's no discussion and when there's no discussion

00:12:22.400 there can be no unity and when there's no unity they get to maintain control and fuck the rest of us

00:12:26.620 and so when we look at like what they do and their actions we should be asking ourselves well why are

00:12:32.660 they doing these things and what are they afraid of and why is this how does this affect me and how

00:12:37.120 should i behave and the answer is you should behave in a way that is the opposite of the way they

00:12:41.760 intend you to behave and they want all of us to pick sides they want all of us to argue they want us to

00:12:46.800 go on the internet and trash each other and call each other all these names they want us to go out and

00:12:51.280 march against each other they want us to fight each other in the street in reality if we all just like

00:12:56.080 hit pause if you could hit pause on a pause button and one person could speak to everybody at once

00:13:01.820 you could solve this problem in like five fucking minutes yeah do you guys not notice what's going

00:13:06.100 on do you not see this over and over again yeah i understand you guys might have different beliefs

00:13:11.520 than we have we have different beliefs than you but at the end of the day these guys are the ones

00:13:16.760 making it hard on all of us this is why and if we if you could give that talk to everybody at once

00:13:22.440 you see what i'm saying this is why people like martin luther king were assassinated a lot of people

00:13:27.520 say oh well he was a marxist motherfucker got everybody to unify okay and they killed him for

00:13:32.840 it jfk why'd they kill him well they killed him for a couple reasons but the main reason was is

00:13:38.600 everybody was behind them okay they're afraid of unifying voices and if everybody can become a

00:13:43.780 unifying voice and everybody can kind of look past some of the ridiculous differences that we may

00:13:49.140 have and say okay look these are below the line differences we can get back to these later let's get

00:13:54.960 back to these but right now we have this problem right and that's what needs to happen right now

00:13:59.160 but nobody's talking about it because nobody has any interest in talking about it because it doesn't

00:14:04.340 get the clicks like shares and drama that is required to go online i mean let's look at what

00:14:09.880 gets traffic online dude we got people uh you know all day long with these amazing stories of overcoming

00:14:16.840 and struggle and and and fight and then overcoming again who inspire us all but what gets the views

00:14:24.040 what gets the likes oh it's some hateful shit or some mindless shit like some dude

00:14:29.060 watch me eat 47 boogers out of my own nose right 10 million fucking views right like the look at what

00:14:36.640 they're encouraging correct so like dude we're in a situation where we have to be smarter than what

00:14:43.420 they're trying to propagate to us and unfortunately it doesn't seem like it's happening it seems like

00:14:47.860 it's happening a little bit i see it happening with our audience but the only way it's going to

00:14:52.160 happen with our audience is if with everybody is if all of our audience listens to what i'm saying

00:14:57.180 and executes it by the way guys do you not understand this is what i'm trying to do i'm

00:15:02.960 trying to get you to do the thing so that everybody else in your neighborhood does the thing so that

00:15:07.980 we can fucking fix this shit like you're an active participant in what's going on here you know

00:15:12.760 what i mean this is not just a fucking podcast bro that i do for fun what a day to be alive listen

00:15:17.100 i come in here and do this because i want to solve this problem in a legitimate way and you guys

00:15:21.980 say well run for office running for office is not going to solve the problem because culture

00:15:25.840 is what determines where the politics go and right now here what i do here has much more effect on

00:15:32.120 culture than me being elected into any fucking office okay so if you want to know why shit ain't

00:15:38.360 getting fixed go look in the fucking mirror man why are you not activating why are you not spreading

00:15:43.420 the message why are you not talking to your neighbors and your friends why are you not having

00:15:47.680 these discussions in your community why are you not getting engaged because the plan is there and

00:15:52.660 it will work but everybody has to participate and by the way i know a lot of people do and for you

00:15:57.940 guys it makes me very proud i see it every day i'm not talking about everybody because every time

00:16:02.780 i say something like this we get all the comments we're out here man yeah we are out here

00:16:07.140 but there ain't enough of us out here there's a whole bunch of us listening that aren't out here

00:16:11.240 and we need to get out here that's real shit man i love it guys andy question number two

00:16:17.380 uh andy i'm 30 years old and i run a successful company as a general contractor

00:16:22.940 from my perspective i'm moving forward at a good pace both personally as well as professionally

00:16:28.900 but i witnessed myself struggling to take compliments and acknowledging my achievements because

00:16:34.880 in my mind i am nowhere close to where i want to be in life i sense that you are also wired

00:16:39.700 mentally like this uh what advice do you have for keeping a positive mindset during this time

00:16:45.300 during these thoughts i constantly find myself having negative thoughts because i feel like i

00:16:49.740 haven't accomplished shit in the grand scheme of things

00:16:52.140 i think that most high achievers are wired that way i think that most high i think there's one of two

00:17:02.240 ways high achievers are wired they're either wired that way the way this man describes which he is

00:17:09.160 correct i am also wired that way um even when people tell me good things about myself i really

00:17:14.160 almost just think they're full of shit i don't ever really believe them which you know has its

00:17:19.060 emotional toll on me it does um and then i think there's other people who do everything they do for

00:17:26.140 the compliment and those people are also effective at achievement because they're chasing the next

00:17:31.480 compliment because it's like gives them the the dopamine they need it's like an internal yeah so

00:17:35.960 their job gets done for those people as well for both groups the job gets done but i just think it's

00:17:41.760 how you're wired i happen to be wired like this gentleman um who has a very hard time i have a very

00:17:49.100 hard time believing or accepting any praise or any compliments of any sort and um it is because i feel

00:17:57.200 like i haven't done anything relevant i still feel that way i still to this day and people think i'm

00:18:01.980 full of shit or being falsely humble when i say this but i still feel like i haven't done anything

00:18:07.260 i feel like what i've done isn't enough and i feel like what i'm doing is so big and it's so huge

00:18:14.220 that like i probably won't ever feel satisfied just because i'm wired i'm not wired to be fed a

00:18:21.020 steak dinner bro in the cage at the zoo i'm wired to be let free and go fucking hunt and kill like

00:18:25.800 that's what i'm wired for okay so i don't stop to wonder if i'm doing a good job i don't stop to think

00:18:31.880 like oh and then when it's like someone says hey you're doing really good i'm like bro i haven't

00:18:37.060 even fucking started what the fuck are you talking about like that's my natural reaction and people

00:18:41.080 usually um people misunderstand that they think i'm either being a dick or they think i'm i'm being

00:18:47.000 uh falsely almost like falsely humble or i'm fishing for more shit like bro no i i'm doing my

00:18:54.120 thing and i haven't done my thing yet and it's so big you don't know what i'm doing yet and i don't

00:18:59.720 take compliments well and uh you know i i think i don't even know if there's anything wrong with that

00:19:05.880 you know i have a i have a good friend of mine who said to me one time he's like andy

00:19:10.040 you need to learn to be a gracious receiver meaning i need to learn how to accept praise i need to learn

00:19:18.000 how to accept like people doing things for me like another thing is like bro how many times you've seen

00:19:23.260 somebody pay for dinner with me never it never happens never like i don't fucking take shit from

00:19:27.520 anybody no i don't even take money from ads because i'm so fucking like dude fuck that i'm fucking

00:19:32.400 doing on my own you know what i'm saying i mean do you think it's a fear of like complacency almost

00:19:36.480 like the moment you get the credit it's like i think there's some truth to that i think there's

00:19:41.660 truth to people who i witness it i see it all the time i see people who start to read their own

00:19:47.960 headlines or their own press clippings and then they get lazy and then they stop working and then

00:19:52.840 they lose their shit i've seen it happen yeah so um you know what do i have for advice

00:20:00.680 well if i had figured this out for myself i'd probably have better advice but since i'm doing

00:20:06.280 the same thing that you're doing i actually choose to believe that certain people are wired certain

00:20:12.000 ways to accomplish certain things and just because you're wired that way i don't necessarily mean

00:20:17.720 think that that's that there's anything wrong with you i think i think we deal we live in this society

00:20:22.720 now where it's so fake and it's so over presented as perfect that if you're wired even slightly

00:20:35.460 different than what the socially acceptable norm is you feel like an outcast right because you're

00:20:41.060 like fuck i know i'm not like these motherfuckers like right what the fuck's wrong with me right but

00:20:45.920 the reality is is i don't necessarily believe there's anything wrong with you i think that you know

00:20:50.620 there's certain people that are wired certain ways and a lot of times our biggest gift is also our

00:20:56.280 biggest handicap so you might be a very you might be able to become a very successful business person

00:21:01.700 because of this gift but you might struggle in other areas and nobody has it all figured out dude

00:21:07.160 you know nobody has this this you know we're living in a unique time man we're living in a time

00:21:15.540 where first of all we have to see everybody else's lives every day all day because if we're on social

00:21:22.680 media and we're usually on social media because it's a big part of our business okay so we're out

00:21:27.720 here witnessing everybody's quote-unquote lives and we we forget that there are many other layers to

00:21:35.940 everybody else's life nobody goes on the internet outside the victim culture perpetrated by the

00:21:42.520 predatory therapy culture that's happening on the internet right now nobody goes on the internet

00:21:46.680 except except professional victims and tells you their shit those people over exaggerate their

00:21:52.380 hardships for attention but everybody else who's normal everybody else who's a a regular human being

00:21:59.720 they're still presenting a perfect picture of their life yeah okay and never in the history of

00:22:05.160 humankind have we had to compare ourselves at that kind of a rate right like people don't understand

00:22:11.660 this that that are born with social media as a as a way of life but like you know when i was growing

00:22:18.340 up dude like you'd walk you'd you'd be going down the street thinking you're just fine you might see

00:22:22.680 your your neighbor kid out in the street with a new bike you're like fuck dude tommy got a new bike

00:22:27.580 i want a new bike right and there's like a fleeting sense of like jealousy or whatever right i'd be like

00:22:33.940 i'll go steal it yeah so so fucking you know but it's never happened no now it's in your face all day

00:22:41.520 and it's not just material things like a lot of people shit on the material things i actually

00:22:46.180 think the material things are one of the best things on the internet because they don't talk

00:22:49.360 no shit all right i could just appreciate it for what it is that's some cool shit but dude we got

00:22:54.220 people presenting their family perfect we got people presenting their mindset perfect we got people

00:22:59.500 presenting that they've got it all figured out and let me tell you something relationships i mean

00:23:03.140 nobody has it all figured out it's a fucking lie okay every dude and then we got like all these

00:23:09.460 entrepreneurs faking their shit you know like oh i know everything i'm ultra successful

00:23:14.160 motherfucker look dude i'm more successful than fucking 100 of those fucking clowns on the internet

00:23:19.760 and i'm gonna tell you right now it's hard as fuck for me every day hard as fuck every day it's been

00:23:25.360 hard every day and i don't anticipate that changing anytime soon so you know we have to take all these

00:23:33.100 things into account when we start to like examine ourselves because it's very easy for us to examine

00:23:38.800 ourselves and say there's something wrong with us when we look around and everybody's got a

00:23:42.600 fucking mask on you know what i'm saying or everybody's wearing a costume you know like like

00:23:47.160 dude dude it makes me think like what if that is the normal way right because i think of it like this

00:23:53.080 like think back to like hunter gatherer days right like we go kill a fucking mammoth there's no like

00:23:57.980 there's not really any celebration we just get to eat there is no reward system outside of like

00:24:02.780 it's just what you did it's life and death like all right when's the next one coming up but now

00:24:06.680 because of social media we are indebted in this like reward system cycle that makes us think we're

00:24:12.020 supposed to be getting some type of credit or some type of gratification from anything that we do

00:24:16.460 and so like what if that mentality is how it's supposed to be i i don't think that there's anything

00:24:22.540 that says it isn't that's my point i don't think there's anything wrong with being an extremely driven

00:24:27.720 human being to where you don't really i i don't i don't think i don't think that's i i think i think

00:24:33.680 i guess what i'm trying to say is i think we often put labels on ourselves that are false because of

00:24:42.100 the environment that we are surrounded by in that isn't reality like it should be in in true human

00:24:47.700 form right if we didn't have technology and we didn't have these phones we wouldn't see all this

00:24:52.900 bullshit and by the way nobody would be fronting any of it either like it create social media and

00:24:59.300 the internet has created a completely false reality of humanity and it's very dangerous

00:25:05.860 psychologically and nobody really understood what it was going to create nobody really understood

00:25:10.660 what the backlash would be like i said about ai it was implemented and the greedy marketers and

00:25:16.900 the greedy entrepreneurs took the shit and ran with it without ever thinking of what the implications

00:25:22.600 could be and now we know okay and it's fucked people up and there's a lot of people out here

00:25:28.840 with anxiety depression frustration feelings of worth worthlessness uh feelings that there's

00:25:35.200 something wrong with them like this person and you know even sometimes like me like uh all because

00:25:41.120 we're presented with this false reality that isn't real and i think it's important for us to have real

00:25:45.340 discussions about the internet you know even even the there's just very little authenticity man and

00:25:53.580 there's people all over the internet who are working to achieve a thing and they're willing to present

00:25:58.680 whatever message and whatever picture and whatever uh theme is necessary to achieve the thing without any

00:26:06.620 regard of what the thing does to other human beings yeah and um when we compare ourselves to that

00:26:11.940 i think it's normal to feel

00:26:15.700 that we're there's something wrong with us and i i personally like this this person here

00:26:22.580 you know you say okay what how i deal with this i i would deal with it by continuing to go and kick an ass

00:26:28.280 and building a great life and being proud of it and accept your gift for what it is you got something

00:26:32.960 that not everybody else got you have the ability to move forward without the need for praise when most people

00:26:38.020 need praise every five minutes to even keep moving forward that's a huge advantage when it

00:26:41.920 comes to building shit like i don't i don't need people to cheer for me i don't need people to

00:26:45.700 clap i don't need praise i don't need to be told anything i'm just going to fucking go build and

00:26:49.780 that's a tremendous asset for an entrepreneur to have so the fact that you're in entrepreneurship and

00:26:54.860 you have that skill set i would say is probably a big bonus to you now are you going to struggle in

00:27:00.020 other areas of your life you probably are there's probably going to be situations that other people

00:27:03.880 have that seem completely normal that you have zero interest in right and you're going to be you're

00:27:08.940 going to be looking around and everybody enjoys doing this thing everybody enjoys doing that thing

00:27:14.020 and you're like well fuck i don't enjoy any of that i guess i'm fucked up no you're not fucked up bro

00:27:18.060 you're just built for a different purpose they are the lion that can be fed the steak you're not the

00:27:23.620 lion that can be fed the steak you're the lion that has to be uncaged and go fucking kill shit on your

00:27:27.660 own that's a massive advantage to have in business and entrepreneurship and i would take it for what it is

00:27:34.040 you got a gift other people didn't get uh yeah you can acknowledge and give yourself a little bit

00:27:38.820 more love and say hey man this is what i actually did this is what i've done this is what i'm doing

00:27:42.640 and be real with yourself but never lose that edge of having of being able to go without praise because

00:27:48.380 i think that's what holds most people back honestly i think most people you know like over the course of

00:27:53.660 of my life when i see people who quit whatever path they're on or change or whatever one of the things

00:27:59.200 that ever that always comes up is you know nobody appreciated me nobody nobody showed me any

00:28:05.380 recognition and real talk like i don't give a fuck about that like at all i don't fucking care

00:28:11.320 you know i'm saying i mean yeah it's nice sometimes but i don't need it you know you know what i mean

00:28:15.900 so i think not needing that is a huge advantage i don't think it means you're wired wrong i don't

00:28:20.540 think it's fucked up people the world needs fucking warriors that are gonna go build shit

00:28:24.800 no you're one of them that's real shit you know i think there's a lot to this i think this could

00:28:30.360 be a whole discussion for many hours you know what i mean yeah so i was i was over here trying

00:28:35.300 to pull up the the depression rates in like the last 60 years can't find it but like it would be

00:28:40.120 interesting to see you know if you lay that well that's because back in the day they didn't fucking

00:28:44.880 call it depression they called it fucking life exactly but it's called hard that's what i'm saying

00:28:49.220 like fuck bro but bro putting that graph on top of like the increase in technology

00:28:53.880 like i see how those listen listen bro here's the truth and i say this and people take it out

00:29:01.140 of context and they get so fucking pissed off when i say this but the real reason why most people are

00:29:06.580 depressed and the reason people have anxiety is because they don't have a real purpose in their

00:29:11.160 life they don't have a real mission to accomplish humans are mission-driven beings they have to have

00:29:17.340 something to build contribute to or be a part of and when you sit online all day and you just scroll

00:29:21.860 through your fucking phone and sit on your couch and order your uber eats and smoke weed or drink

00:29:27.300 alcohol dude you're gonna feel like shit okay that doesn't mean you're depressed it means you're not

00:29:32.740 actively living a life okay and this is why when you get the fuck up and you go out and go on a walk

00:29:38.320 you feel a little better and when you get the fuck up and you go out and go on a walk with three or

00:29:42.220 four of your people that you know you feel even better and you know when you feel even better than that

00:29:46.280 when you get those three or four people to go build something or contribute something or do

00:29:49.920 something good for your community you feel even better so the more you live a life that humans are

00:29:56.180 built to live for the less depression anxiety you have all right and and the technology and convenience

00:30:02.240 that we're all sold as the way that we should live now because it's so convenient and so easy we

00:30:08.200 should consider who's telling us that message who's selling us that and what are they getting from that

00:30:12.740 message what do they get from our complacency what do they get from our apathy what do they get from

00:30:17.980 our laziness they get everything we get nothing and that's where the fuck we are so like dude i don't

00:30:23.460 actually believe you know for a long time bros on antidepressants for fucking a long time you know and

00:30:29.560 when i fucking finally came to this conclusion i'm like this is bullshit you know what i'm saying like

00:30:35.000 it is bullshit it's bullshit it's bullshit i'm not saying it doesn't exist i'm not saying you're not

00:30:40.160 struggling but what i am saying is the reason you're struggling is because your shit ain't hard

00:30:44.540 enough and you're not applying yourself and you're not going and building contributing and being a part

00:30:49.400 of the human experience and it's causing you mental anguish and that's normal and technology contributes

00:30:54.360 to that so we shouldn't be surprised that so many people say that they are depressed or that they have

00:30:59.160 massive anxiety what you really have is massive anxiety because you're letting your life pass you by

00:31:03.720 without doing anything with it that's what technology has created i love it yeah guys andy our third and

00:31:11.040 final question andy question number three my boyfriend is a young entrepreneur and he's been diving head

00:31:16.640 first uh into all real estate i know that grind sucks and there's a lot of days that are going to be hard

00:31:24.260 my question is in the early years of your journey is there anything specific that you wish the people

00:31:29.680 who supported you would have done for you or anything you can think of now

00:31:33.520 no because everything that happened to me that was negative in terms of the relationships i had the

00:31:41.860 friendships i've had has made me who i am today and taught me everything i needed to know about people

00:31:46.620 and life and how to operate with the way that i am wired um not the way that everybody else is wired

00:31:52.340 uh so no i wouldn't change anything for me at all um but i think that's not the real question

00:32:00.320 i think the question that you're asking is how do i become someone who is who is the biggest supporter

00:32:07.140 of this person that i care about while they're on this very difficult journey is that fair yeah

00:32:12.180 that's that's what the question sounded like to me yeah um here's what i can tell you i can tell you

00:32:18.220 that becoming an entrepreneur is indescribably hard um and this is why i get so frustrated with

00:32:25.720 the online entrepreneur marketing that we see on a regular basis from people who haven't really been

00:32:31.120 down the path it's incredibly difficult it's incredibly hard it takes every fucking thing that

00:32:36.820 you have it sucks all of your energy it sucks all of your life it's the only thing that you can really

00:32:40.880 think about or care about and that's reality and you know when i think back about around the

00:32:46.300 friendships i had and i want to say this before i say this i don't hold any hard feelings i don't i

00:32:52.160 don't like look back at girls i dated and think like man fuck them or anything i've i've come to

00:32:58.140 realize that certain people want different things in life and the people that that i was with at those

00:33:04.080 times wanted different things that i wanted and you know in the moment you get pissed right you're

00:33:09.340 like oh this person's a piece of shit they're fucking with me or this or that some people never get

00:33:13.880 over that but um the nature of human beings is different like what i want is different than what

00:33:19.700 they want or what you want or what somebody else wants and when you have an entrepreneur who's going

00:33:25.560 to go down this hard path there's a pretty good chance that they're willing to do whatever the

00:33:28.820 fuck it takes and if that means sacrificing their relationship with you then it means that too they

00:33:33.700 don't give a fuck okay and that's a very hard thing for partners to understand uh because truly driven

00:33:39.840 people are wired that way like it comes and dude there's gonna be a lot of people with a lot of

00:33:45.420 judgment when i say this but it comes before everything that path comes before everything

00:33:50.660 for people because that's how much it actually takes to actually achieve it and that's reality

00:33:55.520 and anybody who's ever fucking actually built something will tell you that's reality if they're

00:34:00.380 telling the truth it comes before at least in the beginning at least in the beginning now there

00:34:05.500 comes time later where you have family and things change and i understand that as well but that's

00:34:10.960 after work to get something off and and off the ground and running it's fucking everything and um

00:34:18.440 one of the things that would have made it a lot easier on me was if the people around me would have

00:34:25.040 understood that i was that committed uh they didn't always remember i was that committed and so

00:34:30.680 things like relationship drama or friend drama or gossip or partying or stupid things often got in my

00:34:39.660 way uh because the people around me did not understand me they they understood what everybody

00:34:46.560 else was doing they didn't understand what i was trying to do and because i didn't even really

00:34:50.640 understand what i was trying to do a lot of time was wasted by doing these other things and i do kind

00:34:55.980 of regret that a little bit but not all the time because i had some great stories i had a lot of fun i

00:34:59.820 experienced a lot of life right um but i could have gotten to where i'm at now a lot faster had

00:35:05.880 i not had those distractions that's what i'm gonna clarify so you're saying like there was things like

00:35:09.940 you know maybe like like peer pressure the guilt trip like yeah but oh andy come out with us this

00:35:14.140 weekend but look bro you got to remember i'm a different human being now than i was then sure

00:35:18.060 okay i'm a different human being than i was two years ago yeah like after going through this

00:35:22.440 shoulder surgery and this rehab like i'm a fucking mentally hardened person now in a different way than i

00:35:27.640 was he if you knew me two years ago you don't know me no more that's real shit okay 10 years ago

00:35:34.540 it's completely different right 15 it's completely different yeah so uh you know back then i didn't

00:35:42.520 have the discipline or the ability to recognize that those things were costing me time right or

00:35:46.860 costing me effectiveness and uh you know i wasted a lot of time doing the things that were quote

00:35:52.260 unquote normal because other people wanted me to do them when in reality i was never happy doing

00:35:59.460 those things it wasn't it wasn't what i wanted to do and it just made me it almost killed my progress

00:36:05.060 a number of times so like if i could go back and change anything i wouldn't because i still was able

00:36:10.080 to have a lot of life experiences have a lot of fun uh but i wouldn't have learned the lessons that

00:36:16.060 i'm teaching you had i not gone through that does that make sense so it's almost necessary yeah for

00:36:22.700 me it was absolutely necessary and i i think you know what this person what this woman's actually

00:36:27.980 asking is how can i support someone remember just realize they're fully committed um and any nagging or

00:36:35.360 any emotional draining shit that you do on him moves you further apart and further apart and further

00:36:41.500 apart until he's gone so uh you try to minimize the nagging you try to minimize the frustration

00:36:47.440 you communicate like an adult not like a little kid you know no silent treatments no guilt trips

00:36:53.040 real communication that that would be extremely helpful for someone in that position um you know

00:36:59.600 understanding that they are on a different kind of mission for a different kind of life and trying

00:37:04.540 to keep yourself from speaking to them in terms of reality and what everybody else is doing that was

00:37:11.800 something that always pissed me off dude like all these people would tell me like when are you going

00:37:16.620 to grow up and get this you know you're you're eight years in you're not making any money yet like

00:37:21.180 when's it time to throw in the towel you know what i'm saying like that shit is not helpful eight

00:37:25.740 years in man that's crazy i know but people don't but but look dude everybody else was telling me

00:37:31.580 hey man it's time to you know it's time to get serious you know this isn't this isn't panning out

00:37:37.060 and i'm here like i know i'm right on the verge you know i know i'm right over the next hill bro i'm

00:37:43.020 going to be there and and honestly it it alienated me away from most of my friend group because they

00:37:49.140 could never see where the fuck i was trying to go and it was always those kind they thought they

00:37:53.780 were being my friend yeah they thought they were giving me a good talk hey man you're going down the

00:37:58.020 wrong path of life i knew i wasn't going down the wrong path they just didn't understand what path

00:38:03.280 i was on and i think for a non-entrepreneur minded person it's very hard to understand that journey

00:38:10.800 if you don't have a parent or you don't have a family member you've never been around it

00:38:14.460 it's very difficult to understand so in my opinion um you know trying to not nag don't be an emotional

00:38:22.180 drain try to contribute don't complain don't cause extra stress have real conversations like an adult

00:38:29.580 don't play games uh don't throw fits don't throw temper tantrums because dude those just move you

00:38:35.840 further out of that person's life that person will shut you the fuck out eventually because anybody

00:38:40.800 who's going to invest that kind of time energy and effort and pain into building what it is they're

00:38:46.120 wanting to build they're willing to cut you out for it too so i think it's just very important to

00:38:51.740 remember and this goes for anybody who's who's in a relationship with an entrepreneurial minded person

00:38:55.640 they will eventually cut you out and if you're an entrepreneur and you have someone who's in your

00:39:00.620 life who's causing you all this pain and frustration and you're thinking about quitting just understand

00:39:05.340 that person will complain about you quitting the minute you quit okay so the minute right now they're

00:39:11.260 saying oh you're so busy you don't have any time for me you're obsessed you're this you're that it's

00:39:16.860 unhealthy the minute you quit they're gonna say you're a loser why don't you do something you know

00:39:23.420 you're always fucking broke blah blah blah yeah we always hang out but you're not doing shit that's the

00:39:28.780 exact conversation that happens when you quit do not quit do not ever quit your fucking dreams for

00:39:33.920 somebody else's ever do not ever ever ever quit if you're an entrepreneur and you're with someone who's

00:39:39.900 telling you that you need to reevaluate or do you're gonna fuck yourself because the minute you

00:39:45.400 quit that person will nag you for quitting and all the other shit naggers nag bro they nag if you're

00:39:51.500 doing good they nag if you're doing bad the reality is you got to find someone that contributes that

00:39:56.240 doesn't pull energy out of you but actually puts energy in you that's the ultimate 10 second answer

00:40:01.860 find someone who puts or be someone who energizes the person don't be someone who takes energy and

00:40:09.740 that's that's really what it comes down to i love it man love it well guys andy that was three

00:40:14.860 yeah guys go pay the fee went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a bowl

00:40:22.020 fuck a stove counted millions in the cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold

00:40:28.720 doesn't know headshot case close

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - December 18, 2023

615. Q&AF： Conservative Influencers, Taking Compliments & Supportive Partner

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