629. Real Talkļ¼ Stepping Outside The Boundaries
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Summary
When we set out on our new paths, we inevitably meet resistance from people who are on different paths. In this episode, I talk about how to deal with it and how to overcome the people who have never had it all and are set on staying exactly where they are.
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what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
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the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we
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have real talk i'm just going to get right into it as usual um look a lot of you guys are working to
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make make changes in your life okay you are trying hard to change the direction that you have been
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going maybe you need a little brush up maybe you need a total tear down and rebuild who knows it's
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irrelevant but when we set out on these new paths we inevitably meet resistance from people who are
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on different paths and i want to talk a little bit about that today i was scrolling through instagram
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yesterday and i saw this video on a car page for those of you who don't know i like cars cars are
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awesome big part of my life is cars and i fucking love them all right and i saw this video of this
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dude going down the road uh in a lamborghini and he had a top down and he was having a fucking blast
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driving his car dude big ass smile on his face uh hard up shifts having a good time laughing enjoying
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his life i loved it and then i looked at the comments and the comments were thousands deep
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and while there were the occasional comment of this is awesome i love this this is great look at this
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guy he's happy as fuck the comment section was filled with fucking losers okay everybody was saying
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things like this our money can't buy you happiness you know look at all the money he spent on that car
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he could have been doing this or this or this uh i guarantee you when that guy goes home he's not
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really happy okay first of all motherfucker none of you are happy not a single motherfucking one of you
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making those comments about someone on the internet are happy second of all you have no idea what that man
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has gone through you have no idea what he's done you have no idea the price he's paid you have no idea
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and i say this to say this to you they don't know what the fuck they are talking about all right that's
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your friends that's your family that's the people who tell you that money won't make you happy uh money
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makes you a lot fucking happier than not having it and you never hear someone who has some money
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saying any of these things and the point is this people who are set on staying exactly where they
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are are always going to say things to you to make you feel bad about going on your journey we have to
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become more aware we have to say hey am i going to listen to this person who's never had any money
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who's never had any success who's never done anything about his perspective on what this thing
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does in my life no we are not all right so take this situation that i'm talking about money and apply
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it to literally any other situation in your life it could be your fitness it could be a new job it could
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be a new relationship it could be a new uh realignment of what you believe your purpose to be
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it could be a whole bunch of different things but here's the thing when you change what it is
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that everybody else knows you as you are going to meet resistance and you are going to get comments
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from the peanut gallery all right i call them the crickets okay because crickets like to chirp
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and when crickets chirp the most is when you're not around they chirp and they chirp and they chirp and
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they're loud as fuck until what until you walk right up on them and then they get
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silent and that is the world that we live in we live in a world of loser crickets we live in a
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world of regular people who are never going to do shit who have already given up on their dreams who
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have already decided that they are going to be this certain kind of person from now until the time that
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they die and when you step out the the boundaries that they have set for themselves you are going to
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hear about it you are going to get negativity you are going to get people laughing at you you are going
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to get people making fun of you you're going to get people telling you that you're not being realistic
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and that you're not humble and that you're not a good person and that they're morally superior
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look dude this is the price of admittance too many of you are worried about this chirping
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and not worried about what it is you're trying to do and doing that because here's the thing about
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success and winning in any area of life not just monetarily is that the further you go the further
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away you get from those people and the further away you get from those people the less you give a
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fuck about what they had to say about you but most people spend their entire lives seeking the approval
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of people who don't even approve of themselves they don't even appreciate their own skills or their own
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gifts or even think about their own potential so who the fuck are you to think that you have potential if
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they don't that's their perspective their perspective is you're just like us you're not one of them
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what are you doing trying to be one of them you're one of us and anytime you try to become one of them you
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become the topic of conversation all right and this is what it takes this is what it costs this is what
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we deal with whenever we're stepping out to do anything or change anything about our lives we are
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removing ourselves from the boundaries of normalcy and common and moving ourselves within the boundaries
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of exceptional and that makes other people uncomfortable because it forces them to examine
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their own potential and their own reality and face the facts that they have exercised absolutely
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none of it that is what you are dealing with you are not dealing with actual hate you are dealing with
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them hating themselves and projecting it on you okay and if you're not capable if you're not able if you're
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not someone who can tolerate this sort of criticism and you're going to bend your will to these people who
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can never be pleased they can never be pleased you will lose and you won't just lose today you'll lose
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tomorrow you'll lose next week you'll lose next month you'll lose next year and you're going to end up
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being a loser just like they will so first off you have to understand people who've known you your whole
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life who known you through all the ups and downs and who have been around you your whole existence these
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are the people with the most to say these are the people with the most chirps these are the people
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that say who do you think you are what are you trying to do don't forget where you came from
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you need to be a little more humble you need to think more realistically
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when are you going to get serious about thinking realistic we've all heard this
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shit and a million other things and it always comes from the same people it comes from the people
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and i can tell you this because i have the perspective it comes from the people who are
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never going to do a single fucking thing in their entire lives they are going to sit there they're
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going to get fat they're going to get lazy they're going to stay broke they're going to stay miserable
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and they're going to try to keep you there as well okay this is crabs in a bucket mentality
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if you try to escape they try to pull you back in and you have to escape because if you don't you
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will live your whole life doing the exact same things you've always done with the exact same
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people you've always done them getting the exact same result that you've always gotten and that's
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what has you frustrated and angry and pissed off and aggravated with yourself but then the minute you
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try to change it and these people start to chirp you start to get scared you start to pull back you
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start to say well you know i don't know if i'm really trying to do that dude look you need to
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step the fuck up and go at this without apologizing without making compromise without trying to satisfy
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these people who will never be satisfied because if you spend any amount of energy trying to make them
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happy when they can never be happy that's less energy that you have to spend on what it is you're
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trying to do okay so realize this the world's miserable for the most part miserable people are the loudest
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for the most part and the people who are going to be the absolute loudest are the people that've known
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you your whole life they're going to be people you grew up with they're going to be friends they're
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going to be family they're going to be neighbors they're going to be people who say what are you
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doing what do you mean you're doing that what are you just going to do that when i started in business
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dude i had everybody telling me this shit everybody at first it was oh that's so cool you're starting a
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business and then after you know it wore off it was hey when are you going to get more realistic
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when are you going to go get a real job when you're going to stop playing business do you still have
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that little vitamin shop then 10 years in when we started first form it was what are you making that
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stuff in your bathtub what you're just going to start a supplement company you're in st louis no one's
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going to buy that no one's going to buy those supplements okay well guess what motherfucker
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people do buy them and i'm sitting here today talking to you because i didn't listen to any of
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the shit they told me but you're just trying to get in shape you're just trying to improve your life a
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little bit and you're worried about what your old friends from the old neighborhood had to say about
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it dude listen if you can't insulate yourself mentally and get enough callous in your mind to ignore
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the negativity that people use against you you cannot win and on top of that if you lack the
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ability to take their words to take their snarky comments to take their disrespect and turn it into
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productive action you can't win because there's an abundance of this energy at all times it doesn't
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matter where you are on the path it doesn't matter if you're on day one or day 1000 or day 10 000
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there's always going to be people that don't believe there are people every single day when i
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tell them what the fuck i'm going to do that tell me i'm full of shit even to this point and i've been
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doing this for 25 years and by all accounts any standard anyone's standard i've done very well
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okay this is the price of the ticket to play the game you are going to have to learn to deal with
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negativity you're going to have to look people in the eye and say fuck off and you are going to have
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to take negativity doubt disbelief and turn it in to productive action because i can promise you no
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matter what the internet gurus tell you no matter what the feel-good meditators out there tell you
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you will have far more available negative energy to work with than you will positive and if you spend all
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your time trying to remove every bit of negativity and control everything that people think and control
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everything that people say you will have no energy left to go build the thing so let's start today
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what they think what they have to say and start moving forward it's your life you only have one
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and i can think of no bigger tragedy than for someone to waste all of their life and all of their
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potential and all of their potential story and their example which by the way is needed more than
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ever right now in this country and wasting it because some fucking idiot who's never going to do
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shit is saying some bullshit in your ear okay that's weak as fuck you have an obligation to extract
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the potential that is within you you were given gifts you were given a purpose you may not know what
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they are yet but it is your duty to figure out what they are it is your duty to become the best
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possible version of yourself it's not just about you it's not just about whatever you're going to
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get it's about the example that you're setting for every single person around you it's the example in
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your household it's the example in your neighborhood it's the example in your community it's the example in
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your city it's the example in your state and if we all took that seriously the world wouldn't look the
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way that it looks so think about that for a second our entire world looks like a fucking dumpster fire
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because people are so uncomfortable with criticism that they bow to it and they shrink themselves
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and they make themselves irrelevant so that they can avoid any sort of critiques or criticism or comments
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and by the way you're still going to get comments even when you do that they're just going to be
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different it's going to be this guy's a loser why didn't you ever do anything with your life
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what could you have been but you aren't look what you could have done so you're going to get it no
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matter what you're going to get it no matter what you're either going to get it for going out and
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trying hard and falling on your face and they're going to laugh at you because you're going to fall
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on your face or you're going to get it from not trying and you're going to be called a loser and you're
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going to be made fun of and you're going to get walked on and walked over your whole entire life you're
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not going to have money to pay your bills you're not going to have the ability to live the life that you want
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But the negativity is going to come either way.
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It's just choosing which one you want to deal with.
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And I'm telling you guys right now, when I see comments like that on the internet,
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thousands deep of people saying shit like, oh, look at this guy.
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It makes me fucking laugh because I know that every single one of those people would trade
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places with that man in one fucking millisecond.
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But they're cowards and they're pussies and they're weak.
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And so all they do is they go on the internet and talk some shit instead of ever going out
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So if you're on the journey and you're having trouble dealing with this, remember this.
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You have to learn to tolerate it and then use it to get yourself where you want to go.
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I don't care if it's your aunt or your uncle or your friends.
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Because every single time I talk about this, you guys say, well, what do you do if it's
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You tell your brother to eat a dick and go do the shit you're going to do.
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Your parents' approving of your life by the time you're an adult is irrelevant.
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Lots of people have gone out and done incredible things with shitty fucking parents.
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Lots of people have gone out and done incredible things with incredible amounts of hardship.
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Because there's motherfuckers out here who are deaf, dumb, and blind creating fucking
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And you're fucking over here sitting there crying about what you can and can't do because
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your parents said some comment to you about being realistic.
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Do you want to become what it is you want to become?
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Or do you want to sit there and think about what it is you could have became?
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The world needs everything that you are it needs.
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It doesn't need you to sit there like a bump on the log and drink fucking Bud Lights at the
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It needs you to go out and become your ultimate potential.
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It needs you to become the personal excellence example so that everybody else knows what
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I don't care if you have a gazillion followers.
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I don't care if you have no platform or a massive podcast.
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Your example matters and it matters a lot to people that you don't even know yet.
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Your example, your potential, the thing that you're going to become will inspire people
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But you're too worried about what people have to say.
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And those people that have to say that, you don't even know them.
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And the people you do know, what the fuck are they doing?
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They're sitting there criticizing everybody, blaming everybody for everything, thinking
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they got the world figured out when clearly they fucking don't.
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And you're listening to them about what the fuck you should do.
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Dude, we got to look at the environment that we live in.
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We live in this victim culture environment that is all full of people who are trying to
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be fulfilled and happy and have this great life.
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Have you ever met someone that's truly happy that can't pay their fucking bills?
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Have you ever met someone that's truly happy that can't fucking eat?
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Motherfucker, can you serve more people with money or can you serve more people with no
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You might be able to go serve some soup on Thanksgiving and Christmas, but I can build
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Okay, so let's get realistic about what they're telling us.
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We need to go out and touch the ground and breathe the air.
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But it makes it a lot easier when you have the financial means to do some shit in real
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And if you actually gave a fuck about helping people, you would get serious about making
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lots of money because you can help so many more people.
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I can defeat these fucking losers all motherfucking day because they don't know what the fuck they're
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They're repeating something that is programmed into our society to keep you powerless.
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Because when you do all of these things, you become a mega consumer.
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Because you become a perpetual customer of theirs by becoming this thing that they tell
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you you should become based around moral standard, which isn't even fucking true.
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And these people who tell you this in real life, they are cancer.
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So if you have people in your life, and I don't care if it's your mom, I don't care if it's
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your dad, I don't care who it is, and they're feeding you this line of shit every time you're
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out here trying to build or create, you need to get away from them.
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Because building and creating takes so much energy that we cannot afford to use any of
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it wasted on people who are not on the fucking same journey.
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And you also can't expect people who aren't on the journey to ever understand what you're
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Because once you go out and do it, that makes things click over in people's brains.
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But until you build it, until you become it, they will not change.
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So if you actually care about these people, distance yourself from them.
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Go out and become what it is you say you're going to become and let them fucking see it.
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You guys complain about America, but you're not being the Americans that we need.
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And you have to become it if we want to change what's going on.
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Listen to people who would actually know what it's like to build something.
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Because I can promise you, not a single one of those people and those thousands of comments
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criticizing that man driving down the road in his Lamborghini.
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Know what it's fucking like to even fucking smell the inside of a Lamborghini.
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And remember, the further you go, the farther you go, the less you'll care.
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And eventually you'll be in a place where you're here to look back and you'll say,
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I can't believe I let this guy's opinion annoy me.
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This guy's over here buying lottery tickets at fucking seven o'clock in the morning with
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And I'm fucking worried about what he has to say about me.
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We need a lot more fuck you in the world right now.
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