REAL AF with Andy Frisella - January 29, 2024


640. Q&AF： Giving Yourself Permission, Becoming Hyper-Focused & Gaining Experience


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In this episode of Q&A, I answer a question from a listener about how to become a better version of yourself. I also talk about my recent illness and how to deal with it, and how I plan on dealing with it.

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00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realists, say goodbye
00:00:20.320 to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking
00:00:23.700 reality guys.
00:00:24.320 Today we have Q and AF, that's where you submit the Q's and we give you the AF's.
00:00:29.280 Now you can submit your questions one of a couple different ways.
00:00:31.800 The first way is, guys, email your questions in to askandy at andyfasella.com.
00:00:36.600 These questions can be about anything guys.
00:00:39.060 Typically they're personal development, how to win, how to get better, how to make more
00:00:42.520 money, how to get better at business, how to get better at life.
00:00:46.060 But you can throw some in there about what's going on in the world too, we'll answer some
00:00:49.240 of those.
00:00:49.560 But you can also submit those questions by just dropping some of your questions in the
00:00:54.040 comment section on the Q and AF episode.
00:00:56.620 We'll pick some from there as well.
00:00:58.200 Other times you tune in, we have CTI, that stands for Cruise the Internet, that's where
00:01:02.060 we talk about what's going on in the world.
00:01:03.880 Other times we have Real Talk, Real Talk is 5 to 20 minutes from me just giving you some
00:01:07.440 real talk.
00:01:08.540 And then we have 75 Hard Versus, that's where somebody who's completed the 75 Hard Program,
00:01:13.720 which is the initial phase of the Live Hard Program, comes on and talks about how their
00:01:18.300 life was before 75 Hard, how it is after and how you can use the 75 Hard Program to change
00:01:23.820 your life.
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00:01:33.760 You can buy that book and I think you'll enjoy it.
00:01:36.040 It has a number of other chapters besides just the Live Hard Program.
00:01:40.320 It's a very comprehensive book on mental toughness, why it matters, how you can use it, and how
00:01:45.600 you can make your life better using the concepts of mental toughness.
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00:02:39.520 What's up, man?
00:02:40.240 What's going on, brother?
00:02:41.240 Oh, not much.
00:02:42.240 Yeah?
00:02:42.940 Yeah.
00:02:43.160 Just doing a thing.
00:02:45.800 Yeah.
00:02:46.340 Yeah.
00:02:46.560 What's up with you?
00:02:47.100 Thing gets done.
00:02:47.860 Yeah, man.
00:02:48.240 Chillin', man.
00:02:48.940 You know?
00:02:50.360 Nothing new.
00:02:51.500 Just grinding, you know?
00:02:53.180 Yeah.
00:02:53.480 Just keeping it moving.
00:02:54.400 Yep.
00:02:54.900 Well, that's the time of year, man.
00:02:56.320 You know, a lot of people right now are already kind of falling off their program.
00:02:59.700 I've been sick as a dog for the last week and a half.
00:03:03.800 It started off as the flu, and it's turned into something else.
00:03:06.760 I'm not sure exactly what it is, but we're working with the doctors to get through it.
00:03:11.460 It's been a big pain in my ass, but yeah, that's what's going on with me.
00:03:15.780 I'm just trying to keep these shows going for you guys, and then after the show, I go
00:03:20.120 home and go to bed.
00:03:21.060 Yeah.
00:03:21.780 So.
00:03:22.820 That don't sound terrible.
00:03:24.300 Yeah.
00:03:24.760 Work still gets done, though.
00:03:25.780 But let's get into this, though.
00:03:26.680 I got three good ones for you guys.
00:03:28.420 Cool.
00:03:28.660 Guys, Andy, question number one.
00:03:31.380 Andy, what's the biggest misunderstanding when it comes to seeking advice from other
00:03:37.680 people and giving yourself permission to just go and execute?
00:03:42.700 Yeah, I think that's a good question, man.
00:03:44.380 A lot of people get really caught up in taking advice, and unfortunately, they're not very
00:03:49.000 good at understanding who has good advice and who doesn't.
00:03:52.100 If you scroll through Instagram right now, it's actually kind of disgusting, honestly,
00:03:58.000 what it's become.
00:03:59.020 It's become one big advertisement.
00:04:01.020 It's every single person out here with a fucking cell phone building some sort of personal
00:04:06.380 brand around giving advice when in reality, 99% of these people are struggling.
00:04:12.160 They haven't actually built anything relevant.
00:04:14.340 They are just trying to build something for themselves through the distribution of content,
00:04:22.460 hopefully to gain credibility.
00:04:24.400 So I guess what these people think is that if I sound credible, I'll get a following, and
00:04:29.000 then I'll be able to have something going on.
00:04:31.940 And that's incredibly dangerous for a lot of people, especially people who don't really
00:04:37.620 understand what to do.
00:04:40.480 Because when you're in the beginning of the journey, it's impossible to tell who's giving
00:04:45.160 you good advice.
00:04:46.080 So right now, we're inundated with so many people that just want to talk for the sake
00:04:51.360 of likes, shares, and views, and comments, when in reality, dude, the advice that they
00:04:56.340 give, and I can tell you this for a fact, a lot of it is just dog shit advice.
00:05:01.460 So you have to-
00:05:02.280 The other shit is like shit that everybody else is saying.
00:05:03.980 Yeah, no, and that's what it is.
00:05:05.260 Yeah, it's either just carbon copy of what a few select known people are, which I'm one
00:05:11.540 of those people, or it's just shit. 0.53
00:05:15.620 Complete bullshit.
00:05:16.320 Yeah, and it sucks, dude, because in the beginning of my entrepreneurship journey, yeah, we didn't
00:05:24.720 have social media.
00:05:25.740 And yes, we couldn't learn from people who had done things outside of picking up a book
00:05:30.260 and reading it, right?
00:05:31.060 Like, I would read a book about Sam Walton, or I'd read Tony Robbins stuff, right?
00:05:34.920 And I'm very grateful for that.
00:05:36.620 But it was almost easier having only that, because you weren't inundated with so much
00:05:42.620 confusion about what to do.
00:05:44.420 You didn't have every Tom, Dick, and Harry on the internet pretending like they're some
00:05:48.000 sort of uber successful, kick-ass entrepreneur, when in reality, bro, they're living in a fucking
00:05:52.980 bullshit house with a bullshit business. 0.66
00:05:56.380 And sometimes they don't even have a business, you know?
00:05:58.760 Some of these guys are just making shit up.
00:06:02.680 So we have to be, you know, for me, when I was young, that was actually a blessing, because
00:06:07.820 like, dude, I had no way to be confused, if that makes sense, right?
00:06:12.700 It's almost like too many options.
00:06:14.020 There's too much now.
00:06:15.460 And there's too many fucking knuckleheads who don't know what they're doing, who have
00:06:18.580 not done anything, giving advice irresponsibly on the internet.
00:06:22.800 And there's people, by no fault of their own, that listen to this advice because they don't
00:06:28.600 know any better.
00:06:29.580 Like, when you're first starting out, and you're like, fuck, dude, I think I want to
00:06:31.980 start a business.
00:06:32.640 You don't really know that much.
00:06:34.260 So, you know, if people can flash some cool stuff or, you know, show a car or a watch,
00:06:41.780 you know, that's $50,000 or $200,000 on a fucking, you know, dude, that's unobtainable
00:06:48.140 to most people.
00:06:49.040 It's like, well, fuck, dude, if they've got a $250,000 RM on, then they got to know
00:06:54.520 what they're doing, right?
00:06:55.600 And that's just not fucking true.
00:06:57.660 So, we have to be honest and be skeptical about who's actually done things.
00:07:07.920 And, you know, I talk about this a lot.
00:07:09.220 I talked about this on that podcast I did with Ed Milet last week, which was amazing,
00:07:14.300 by the way.
00:07:14.640 If you haven't caught that, you should go listen to that interview with Ed and I.
00:07:18.140 But we talk about this, you know, it's important to vet who you're going to take advice from.
00:07:22.780 You need to ask real questions and you need to ask, you need to make sure these people
00:07:29.420 aren't just making this shit up, you know, ask questions like, what businesses do they
00:07:33.540 actually own?
00:07:34.360 Do those businesses actually sell products?
00:07:36.260 How many customers do they serve?
00:07:37.580 How long have they been doing it?
00:07:39.900 What's it like to order from these companies?
00:07:42.260 Do they have employees?
00:07:43.280 Where do they operate out of?
00:07:45.080 You know, a lot of these people talk about these businesses and in reality, you know,
00:07:49.260 we can't see them.
00:07:51.000 We don't know where they are.
00:07:52.120 We never see them on their social.
00:07:53.960 And, you know, they're calling themselves a CEO.
00:07:55.860 But where is it?
00:07:57.060 Right.
00:07:57.480 It's in this shape.
00:07:58.860 It's on paper.
00:07:59.500 Yeah.
00:07:59.660 It's this shady, dark.
00:08:01.000 And don't ask any questions.
00:08:02.140 Otherwise, you're an asshole.
00:08:03.220 Right.
00:08:03.540 You know, and the truth of the matter is someone who's credible, dude, all those questions
00:08:07.340 are going to be really obvious.
00:08:08.380 Like, you're going to be able to know what these people do and you're going to be able
00:08:11.840 to find answers to that.
00:08:14.520 And people who have done real things, they don't mind sharing what they've done.
00:08:17.440 They don't they don't get defensive about it.
00:08:19.160 You know, so I think it's just very important to.
00:08:24.860 To seek advice from people who have done things, people who have been around for a long
00:08:30.500 time.
00:08:30.900 They're not just here today.
00:08:32.380 All of a sudden, they're the hottest new guru.
00:08:36.360 And be smart about where you get your advice at the very least.
00:08:39.560 And then, you know, on top of that, you could get as much advice as you want.
00:08:44.480 But if you never cross the chasm from taking the advice in and actually going to execute,
00:08:48.920 it's impossible to win.
00:08:50.360 And I actually think the execution is far more important than the advice you get anyway,
00:08:53.940 because most of the things that you're going to learn, you're going to learn from experience.
00:08:57.580 Right.
00:08:58.080 You're going to go out.
00:08:59.120 You're going to you're going to do things.
00:09:00.500 You're going to do them wrong.
00:09:01.400 You're going to learn a lesson.
00:09:02.280 You're going to go do the same thing.
00:09:03.480 You're going to do it better next time.
00:09:05.000 And you're going to acquire skills through that process of continuing to go and then
00:09:09.340 fall down and then learn what caused you to fall down and then, you know, approach that
00:09:15.120 same obstacle again with the skill set that you've already learned from falling down.
00:09:18.760 So, you know, the experience of going is highly underrated.
00:09:22.340 Everybody wants to know everything before they go.
00:09:25.540 But the reality is, is most of the things that you're really going to know are going to come
00:09:28.780 from what you learn along the way.
00:09:31.600 So my advice is, you know, get get a basic idea of what to do.
00:09:35.760 And that information is readily available.
00:09:38.400 And guys, if you want, go back and listen to the first 300 episodes of on my audio feed.
00:09:44.920 OK, that was called the MSEO project.
00:09:46.720 It's that it was it's 300 episodes of pure 330 episodes of pure entrepreneurial knowledge
00:09:54.340 that you need to develop every fucking skill that you possibly need is free. 0.94
00:09:58.900 You don't need to pay all these motherfuckers to learn this shit. 0.98
00:10:01.520 And I can promise you, anybody that you're paying out there, I've done more shit than
00:10:04.720 them and I'm giving it to you for free.
00:10:06.340 Like, so can I ask you this?
00:10:08.680 Because I like what what do you think it is?
00:10:10.940 Like, what what is the hang up where people want to be told what the lesson is before they
00:10:16.820 actually go?
00:10:17.820 Because they're afraid of making mistakes, dude.
00:10:19.580 You know what I'm saying?
00:10:20.000 But that's not realistic to be able to just go through any journey with unblemished and
00:10:24.100 never fuck up.
00:10:25.220 Right.
00:10:25.400 Like, no, most people don't ever win, bro, or don't ever go because they don't because
00:10:32.560 they are afraid that they're going to fall down and look stupid in front of their friends,
00:10:36.020 in front of their family.
00:10:36.740 And there's a tremendous amount of social pressure now with the Internet where nobody
00:10:41.020 wants to make mistakes.
00:10:42.080 Nobody wants to.
00:10:42.800 That's another place I had an advantage.
00:10:44.720 You know, when I fucking fell and I sucked, not everybody was watching.
00:10:48.600 You know what I'm saying?
00:10:49.840 So it's different now.
00:10:51.700 And but you have to hope nobody saw that.
00:10:54.180 Yeah, but you have to understand that in order to build something real, in order to
00:10:58.640 build something that you're going to be proud of, that's going to, you know, provide the
00:11:02.940 level of lifestyle that you want for yourself, looking stupid in front of other people is
00:11:08.580 a requirement of the journey.
00:11:09.960 You're going to look stupid a million times along the way.
00:11:12.180 There are times I'm 25 years in my official entrepreneurship journey, bro, I make mistakes
00:11:18.500 all the time and I end up looking stupid all the time.
00:11:20.900 That's part of the deal.
00:11:21.700 I don't fucking care because I know that if I look stupid, I'm looking stupid in front
00:11:26.040 of a bunch of people who are afraid to even try.
00:11:27.980 What difference does that make?
00:11:29.740 OK, and so most people give up their dreams and they give up all of the things that they
00:11:33.900 think they want for themselves because they're afraid to step out and do things in front of
00:11:37.740 people who are never going to try.
00:11:39.280 That makes no sense.
00:11:40.440 So you're telling me you're going to give up your entire life, your entire dreams, everything
00:11:44.200 you've ever wanted for yourself, because the opinions of people who are never going to do
00:11:48.320 a motherfucking thing in their entire life matter to you.
00:11:51.520 These people are going to do the same shit they've been doing now, next year, five years
00:11:56.600 from now, 10 years from now.
00:11:58.120 And anybody who's been in the game long enough can tell you that.
00:12:00.720 So most people just opt out of the game for fear of the opinions of people who end up being
00:12:08.340 irrelevant anyway, which makes no sense.
00:12:11.300 You know, most people also do this thing where they talk about the haters and this and the
00:12:15.800 that and this.
00:12:16.880 Bro, most of you are your own biggest hater.
00:12:19.960 Most of you sit there and you don't go because you're afraid to go because of what people might
00:12:25.880 say.
00:12:26.200 It's not what they actually said.
00:12:27.920 It's what you're imagining in your brain, what people might say if you do this or if
00:12:33.400 you do that.
00:12:34.780 And guess what?
00:12:36.040 That makes you your own biggest hater.
00:12:38.160 That makes you your own biggest obstacle that you need to overcome to even go.
00:12:43.140 So when people sit here and they don't go because they're afraid of the opinions of others,
00:12:46.700 they're actually afraid of the made up opinions that they've made up of others that what others
00:12:51.020 might say.
00:12:51.800 And that's pretty fucked up if you really break that down.
00:12:55.140 You know what I'm saying?
00:12:55.700 Yeah.
00:12:56.640 So, bro, you know, my answer to the question is this.
00:13:00.460 Be smart about where you get information.
00:13:02.600 Listen to people who have done real things.
00:13:05.300 But most importantly, go.
00:13:07.960 Go do the thing.
00:13:09.500 Go start the thing.
00:13:10.920 Go try the project and learn along the way.
00:13:13.460 You have to be willing to do that because if you're not willing to do that, there's no
00:13:17.380 way for you to ever actually get anywhere.
00:13:19.040 You could be the guy who recites all the statistics and knows all the stuff and knows all the lessons
00:13:24.680 and sounds real good saying it with nothing to show for it because you never fucking went. 0.91
00:13:29.260 So you don't want to be that guy.
00:13:30.520 I love that, man.
00:13:32.600 Guys, Andy, question number two.
00:13:35.360 Andy, how do you retrain yourself to become hyper focused and intentional with wherever
00:13:42.700 you are and whatever task you have at hand?
00:13:44.300 How do you really focus in on the task at hand?
00:13:47.680 Well, I mean, look, dude, we live in a day where we're hyper distracted.
00:13:51.660 OK, our attention span.
00:13:53.740 And this is scientifically proven is less than it's ever been.
00:13:56.780 People are making content that's four seconds long and getting 20 million views on YouTube
00:14:02.160 shorts and tick tock and things.
00:14:04.120 So we're we're inundated by.
00:14:08.680 Short form content that is mindless, that trains us not to be able to pay attention.
00:14:13.960 When was the last time you all were able to watch a movie from start to finish?
00:14:17.500 It's very difficult for people to do now because, dude, they can't do it without picking up
00:14:21.140 their phone or looking at stuff on the Internet like people are.
00:14:24.900 People have become these very highly distracted beings, which is a huge disadvantage.
00:14:30.220 So you have to put yourself in an environment where you can be intentful.
00:14:33.960 That means you got to put your phone away, maybe put it in the other room, maybe put it
00:14:37.860 in another fucking building, whatever the fuck you got to do. 0.98
00:14:40.620 And you got to sit there and do dedicated work.
00:14:42.680 And someone who can sit down and do dedicated work has a massive advantage over everybody else
00:14:49.360 because it's so rare right now.
00:14:50.920 It used to be back in the day there weren't these distractions.
00:14:53.540 So you're competing against a bunch of people who all were dedicated and all had the intent
00:14:57.640 to execute on whatever it is they were working at, which produced a ton of great work.
00:15:01.800 And right now you don't have that anymore because of the nature of everybody's lives
00:15:05.380 being distracted by these phones.
00:15:06.720 So the first thing is get yourself in a position to concentrate without the distractions of technology.
00:15:13.480 That's a huge part of it.
00:15:14.600 Uh, secondly, you have to realize that work done with the proper intent is a totally different
00:15:22.320 concept than work just done.
00:15:25.240 Okay.
00:15:25.760 And there are two kinds of people in this world and one kind of person gets paid real
00:15:29.920 well and the other kind of person doesn't.
00:15:32.080 And they can, and they appear to be doing the same things.
00:15:34.860 They appear to be doing the same shit.
00:15:36.880 People who actually work on their work with the outcome and the intent in mind as they
00:15:44.520 work on it, produce much higher quality work are much more revered and valuable inside of
00:15:50.840 an organization than the people who just check boxes.
00:15:54.220 Okay.
00:15:54.700 People who check boxes, they will get the box.
00:15:57.400 They will get the work done.
00:15:58.660 But what ends up happening is they can't figure out why their work is always mediocre.
00:16:03.120 Why the other guy's beating them or why the other guy's getting the promotion or why the
00:16:06.560 other guy's businesses is doing better than theirs.
00:16:09.000 It's because just doing it isn't enough.
00:16:11.820 It's how you do it.
00:16:13.140 Do you do it with the highest possible standards when you're shooting content or you're making
00:16:17.540 a piece of content?
00:16:18.540 Is it the coolest fucking thing that you've ever done that you've ever seen?
00:16:22.480 Or is it just some shit you're doing to throw out there?
00:16:24.920 Like, dude, I see all these people now who want to be content creators and they're just
00:16:29.680 putting out mediocre shit after mediocre shit after mediocre shit. 0.55
00:16:33.780 And they can't figure out why it's not taken.
00:16:35.720 It's not taken because it sucks, bro.
00:16:37.760 You fucking suck.
00:16:39.220 Okay.
00:16:39.500 And we have to be honest with ourselves about the quality of your fucking work.
00:16:42.620 And that comes down to the intent.
00:16:44.780 What am I doing this for?
00:16:46.060 Am I doing this because I want likes, clicks, and views, and shares for me?
00:16:49.720 Because I want to be famous and I want to have a following?
00:16:52.760 Or am I doing this to actually serve people?
00:16:55.000 Am I trying to teach them something?
00:16:56.460 Am I trying to help them achieve something?
00:16:58.740 Am I trying to entertain them in a way that is super entertaining?
00:17:03.240 What am I doing?
00:17:04.560 You know, just doing shit for the sake of doing it is never a winning strategy.
00:17:08.240 And that goes for creating content.
00:17:10.540 That goes for building a business.
00:17:12.580 That goes for being an entrepreneur inside of a business.
00:17:15.180 Like, if you're not getting paid and you're undervalued, there's a good chance that you're
00:17:20.480 actually not undervalued.
00:17:21.820 You just think you are.
00:17:22.980 You're probably doing mediocre work that lacks intent.
00:17:25.760 You're not doing it with the outcome in mind.
00:17:27.580 You're not remembering that you're not doing this for you.
00:17:29.600 You're doing it for them.
00:17:30.900 You know, when I was in business, my first 10 years in business, I fucking sucked.
00:17:37.460 Okay?
00:17:37.760 I made $58,380 my first 10 years in business combined.
00:17:42.300 Do you know why?
00:17:43.740 Because my intent in what I did was off.
00:17:46.720 My intent in running the business was, I want to make money.
00:17:50.560 I want to get as much as I can.
00:17:52.160 I want to sell these people as many products as I can.
00:17:55.500 And you know what happened that whole entire time?
00:17:57.620 I fucking sucked.
00:17:58.840 I didn't make any money.
00:17:59.860 I was broke the whole time.
00:18:01.580 You know what happened to me?
00:18:02.980 I got hurt.
00:18:04.460 And I threw my back out.
00:18:06.820 I was going to go start cleaning carpets.
00:18:09.220 That's what I was going to do.
00:18:10.080 We were going to close the business and I was going to go start cleaning carpets.
00:18:13.580 And on the carpet cleaning training, I threw my back out.
00:18:17.140 And for 30 days, I was in bed.
00:18:18.980 It was really, really bad.
00:18:20.740 And I was having these conversations with Chris about how to unwind the business
00:18:24.120 and how to, you know, move on from where we were.
00:18:29.920 And he was going to go join Officer Candidate School and become a pilot.
00:18:33.820 And I was going to start this carpet cleaning business.
00:18:36.820 And we were talking and we were kind of like talking about what we did like about the business.
00:18:42.960 We got into this conversation about what we liked about what we did.
00:18:46.780 And one of the things that happened to us along the way is because we were so slow
00:18:51.860 and because we didn't have much business, every once in a while,
00:18:55.280 we would talk to someone for two or three hours that came in the store for no other reason
00:18:59.780 than we just didn't have anybody else to talk to.
00:19:03.060 And so during that conversation, we would go very thoroughly through their fitness program
00:19:09.160 and what they were doing.
00:19:10.760 And this person, occasionally, a couple times a year, these people would leave
00:19:14.820 and they would come back months later and they would be down 100 pounds
00:19:17.800 or they would be down 75 pounds.
00:19:19.880 And they'd be crying and they'd be giving us a big hug saying,
00:19:22.360 you changed my life.
00:19:23.200 And Chris and I both agreed that that was like the coolest thing about our business.
00:19:29.140 And so we decided, you know, hey, man, you know what?
00:19:32.260 Maybe we won't just go out and do these other things.
00:19:34.140 We'll just keep doing what we do.
00:19:35.300 But instead of trying to sell as much shit as possible,
00:19:37.560 let's focus on getting these people results.
00:19:39.840 Let's focus on actually helping these people.
00:19:42.720 And what happened was our business grew 100% five years in a fucking row.
00:19:46.580 You know why?
00:19:47.440 Because people understood that we were there to help them.
00:19:49.920 We weren't there for us.
00:19:51.180 And because we focused on them and our intent right was on them,
00:19:54.520 we made more money.
00:19:55.960 So that's a little lesson for you on intent.
00:19:59.600 Whatever it is that you do in your business, in your content creation,
00:20:02.860 whatever it is you're working on,
00:20:04.380 realize and keep in mind you're doing it for someone else.
00:20:07.280 You're doing it for a reason that is not selfish for you.
00:20:10.520 And if you do it with the right intent well enough and long enough,
00:20:14.600 you will get what comes with that, which is the money.
00:20:17.200 Money is a byproduct of that process.
00:20:19.240 Money is not, you're not entitled to it.
00:20:22.460 You don't just get it because you have a business.
00:20:24.640 That's not how the fuck it works.
00:20:26.120 It is what people trade you for the value that you provide.
00:20:29.400 And when you provide value with the right kind of intent,
00:20:32.340 the money is always there.
00:20:34.820 And that's a fundamental reality of anybody's business that's out there.
00:20:37.660 So I know that's taking intent to a different direction than what the question was asked,
00:20:42.200 but I think it's relevant to what we're talking about.
00:20:44.020 Well, no, I think it's perfectly real because you're explaining why it's so fucking important.
00:20:50.240 You can't get nowhere without it.
00:20:51.600 Yeah.
00:20:52.180 Well, I mean, look, dude, here's the bottom line.
00:20:54.560 Put yourself in a place where you're not distracted by technology
00:20:57.200 and get to work with the idea in mind that whatever I'm working on
00:21:01.180 is designed to fucking serve someone else.
00:21:03.500 What is that?
00:21:04.400 How is your shit serving someone else?
00:21:07.380 How is it made?
00:21:08.280 Now, are there exceptions to this?
00:21:09.900 Are there these girls on the internet that show their ass and their titties 1.00
00:21:12.980 and they get fucking gazillion views?
00:21:15.460 Yes, there are exceptions.
00:21:16.580 That's not really valuable.
00:21:18.060 Okay?
00:21:18.540 But you ain't that.
00:21:20.160 And that's going to wear off.
00:21:21.880 So we're talking about a fundamental mentality long term.
00:21:26.760 Right now, the internet is very favorable to mindless content.
00:21:30.740 If you go on YouTube, I can tell you for sure, YouTube 100% promotes mindless content.
00:21:37.920 If you look at the short form content that gets 35, 40 million views,
00:21:43.000 it's all just mindless shit.
00:21:44.880 It's stupid shit.
00:21:45.920 It's not any sort of value whatsoever.
00:21:49.020 So you have to understand the internet right now is built for entertainment.
00:21:52.400 It's not built for education.
00:21:54.280 But business, a real business is built to serve with impact and education
00:21:59.200 for the most part, unless you're in an entertainment business.
00:22:02.580 But the point is, is that when you're trying to build something,
00:22:10.740 whatever it is you're building, you have to keep that end customer in mind.
00:22:15.720 What is this person going to get out of consuming this?
00:22:18.440 What is this person going to get out of reading this or watching this?
00:22:21.580 What is this person going to get when they buy this?
00:22:24.160 And are they going to, is this going to provide enough value where
00:22:27.240 not only are they thrilled, but they're thrilled enough to tell their friends.
00:22:30.580 And that's going to come from you focusing on what you can do for them,
00:22:33.440 not what you're going to get out of the process.
00:22:35.500 I love it, man.
00:22:36.920 Love it.
00:22:37.420 Guys, Andy, our third and final question, question number three.
00:22:41.560 Hey, Andy, I've been blessed with the opportunity to establish a construction
00:22:46.440 and development company and be trained by my business partner,
00:22:50.040 who has taken me under his wing as a mentor.
00:22:52.280 He has 50 plus years experience in this business,
00:22:56.180 and every day is a learning experience, especially the dick kickings. 0.53
00:23:01.040 Now, I know the only way to gain 50 years of experience is to do this shit for 50 years,
00:23:05.720 but I find myself struggling to keep up with my mentor's pace in accomplishing goals.
00:23:10.880 Tasks get done, but not as fast as I would like.
00:23:13.160 And I find myself reacting to the daily fires more than being able to focus on the growth
00:23:18.020 opportunities when we get presented with early mornings and late nights, a regular thing.
00:23:23.440 We've been in business a little over a year, and this is my first real foray into entrepreneurship.
00:23:28.820 Any advice on this is greatly appreciated.
00:23:31.340 Yeah.
00:23:32.140 Welcome.
00:23:34.260 Welcome, bro.
00:23:35.120 That's how the fucking game goes.
00:23:36.800 The day you enter entrepreneurship, the day regular life ceases to exist.
00:23:41.580 Okay.
00:23:42.000 This idea that you're going to show up at nine and leave at five and you're going to have
00:23:45.220 all this freedom, that's bullshit, all right?
00:23:47.440 And this pace that you're having to keep up with, that's the pace of a person who's been
00:23:51.340 doing something for so long that it's become easy for them to do.
00:23:54.920 And that's what you have to look forward to.
00:23:56.820 Now, is it going to be easier for you to get to that point?
00:23:58.820 No, it's going to be highly uncomfortable.
00:24:00.640 You're going to be frustrated.
00:24:01.740 You're going to be pissed off.
00:24:02.820 You're going to be angry.
00:24:03.980 You're going to vent.
00:24:04.880 You're going to say, fuck, all I do is this.
00:24:06.660 This is all I do.
00:24:07.340 All I do in my whole life is this.
00:24:09.140 That's right.
00:24:09.600 If you want to win in entrepreneurship, that's what it takes.
00:24:12.040 It takes everything you fucking got because there's other people out there
00:24:14.640 that have skill sets that are stronger than yours that are giving everything that they
00:24:18.260 fucking got.
00:24:19.180 And people think they can compete in this world because it's popular on the internet
00:24:23.100 to see, oh man, it's so easy.
00:24:25.800 I started my own business.
00:24:27.060 I became this.
00:24:28.540 I did this.
00:24:29.460 And it was fucking $900 in this one program that taught me everything I know.
00:24:33.880 Fuck you, bro.
00:24:34.700 You're full of shit, okay?
00:24:36.260 This is going to take everything you got and the pace at which you are being thrown into
00:24:42.100 the fire right now.
00:24:43.120 And you should welcome, you should welcome this uncomfortableness because what it's doing
00:24:50.480 is it's conditioning you to become acclimated to the pace that you're going to have to run
00:24:54.100 at your whole life if you want to be successful.
00:24:56.140 This is why I say all the time, it's not for everybody.
00:24:58.740 It's not for everybody, bro.
00:25:00.560 It's a very hard, very brutal, very time consuming path.
00:25:04.720 You have to be all in.
00:25:05.720 You have to be fully committed.
00:25:07.020 And people who aren't fucking loose and they blame it on everybody else. 0.71
00:25:10.460 Oh, the market was bad or this was bad or that was bad or this, this.
00:25:13.520 No, you're not doing what's required.
00:25:16.080 And what's required is full fucking commitment because you're competing against a bunch of
00:25:19.760 other people who are giving full commitment.
00:25:21.620 What makes you think you're so fucking good that you can operate and compete with people
00:25:26.100 who are giving 10 times the amount of effort as you?
00:25:29.240 And I've been for 50 years.
00:25:30.400 That's right.
00:25:30.880 It's not going to happen.
00:25:31.800 So my answer to you is you're getting a taste of what it's really like and you should welcome
00:25:39.200 and appreciate the fact that your mentor is showing you this because you're going to be
00:25:44.860 able to acclimate to that much faster than everybody else who's in the same place as you.
00:25:49.100 Okay.
00:25:49.580 Because what you're really competing with and when it comes to entrepreneurship is you're
00:25:53.820 not competing with the guys like me who've been doing it for 20 plus years, 25 years.
00:25:58.060 You're not doing that, bro.
00:25:59.660 I'm so far ahead of you.
00:26:01.040 You're probably not catching me.
00:26:02.260 Okay.
00:26:02.780 But what you are competing with is the guys who've been doing it one year or two years.
00:26:07.300 Okay.
00:26:07.780 And so that's how you have to look at it.
00:26:09.320 Instead of looking at it like I'm competing with all the big dogs or I'm competing with
00:26:12.280 these guys who've been doing it for 50, 25 years.
00:26:15.040 Start looking at it like, okay, who am I competing with?
00:26:17.960 Oh, I'm competing with the guys who've been doing it the same amount of time as me.
00:26:21.440 All right.
00:26:22.020 And so because you're with this mentor and he's pulling your pace up to a 50 year pace
00:26:26.820 and probably the next three years, bro, you're at a tremendous advantage over all the people
00:26:30.920 that you're actually competing with that are in that one to three year bracket.
00:26:34.120 So I would embrace this.
00:26:35.620 I would, I would, I would welcome it.
00:26:38.220 I would be thankful for it.
00:26:39.980 And I would try to acclimate to the pace as much as possible without driving yourself fucking
00:26:46.340 crazy.
00:26:46.720 Yeah.
00:26:47.360 This is, I feel like this is an interesting talk because I've never really heard you speak
00:26:50.760 on the pace of business, right?
00:26:52.540 Like, and it's making me think like, I remember when I was in high school playing high school
00:26:55.800 football, I got recruited to go to D2, play D2 football.
00:26:59.460 I'm like, dude, the speed of the game.
00:27:00.940 Different.
00:27:01.480 It's completely different.
00:27:02.340 Yeah.
00:27:02.560 And that's just D2.
00:27:03.660 Yeah.
00:27:03.840 I couldn't imagine D1 or then you look at like the NFL.
00:27:06.840 Yeah.
00:27:07.160 What is that?
00:27:08.000 I mean, what is that?
00:27:08.880 What is that pace of business you're talking about?
00:27:10.720 Well, look, man, when you start out, you know, you're not doing a whole bunch of stuff.
00:27:16.180 Like you feel like you are because before you started, you weren't doing much.
00:27:19.460 But once you start, you start to do all these things that you weren't doing before and it
00:27:22.720 feels overwhelming.
00:27:23.440 But what you don't realize is that the further you go in business, the more that becomes,
00:27:27.600 you know, accelerated and compounded.
00:27:31.500 You know, I could give you an example.
00:27:32.980 Like one of the comments that I get consistently when people watch the day, the first day in
00:27:39.060 the life episode that we did was like, God dang, dude, you're a busy motherfucker.
00:27:42.540 And I'm like, I'm just thinking in my head, I'm like, this is just normal day, bro.
00:27:45.440 Normal Monday.
00:27:45.920 Yeah.
00:27:46.160 Like, in fact, you're not even show, we didn't even show in that fucking video, like my meetings 0.88
00:27:50.520 and the things I do.
00:27:51.440 20 minutes.
00:27:52.160 That's what I'm saying.
00:27:52.860 20 hours.
00:27:53.340 That's what I'm saying, dude.
00:27:54.680 So like I, and you know this because we're together all the time, but like, and I'm not
00:27:59.320 saying this to flex on people, but like, bro, most people couldn't fucking hang with me, 0.83
00:28:02.800 dude.
00:28:03.120 Like I wake up, I fucking go hard as fuck until I'm fucking exhausted and then I go to bed.
00:28:09.560 And most people can't do that because they built in these ideas in their brain about what
00:28:17.000 an acceptable amount of work is or what the acceptable pace is, right?
00:28:20.780 They've been told seven and a half, eight hours a day of work, which in reality, does anybody
00:28:25.020 actually work eight hours or do they work fucking one or two hours within eight hours? 0.89
00:28:28.580 Let's be fucking real.
00:28:29.900 Okay.
00:28:30.640 And a real competitive entrepreneur has to work and be productive that entire time.
00:28:36.240 So you go from, you know, basically not understanding any of this to, you know, being overwhelmed
00:28:44.980 and beginning and, and, and dude, it's kind of like getting in a, it's like getting in
00:28:49.040 a cold plunge.
00:28:50.020 You know, the first time you get in the cold plunge, you're freaking the fuck out, bro.
00:28:54.140 Like it's super uncomfortable.
00:28:55.560 And then after a few days, it gets a little easier.
00:28:57.760 After a few weeks, it gets, it's still a little bit uncomfortable, but it's pretty easy.
00:29:01.680 And then after you've been doing it for a few months, you can kind of get right in, even
00:29:05.320 though in a normal person, it'll fucking, it would, it would crush them, right? 0.52
00:29:09.300 That's what it's like adapting to the pace of being an entrepreneur.
00:29:12.340 You, the longer you do it, the easier it gets, but not because it gets easier, but just
00:29:16.280 because you acclimate to it.
00:29:17.520 And that's how, how I describe, uh, the process.
00:29:20.880 And, you know, you could only get acclimated to it by exposing yourself to it.
00:29:24.360 And not everybody has a mentor that's been doing something for 50 years that understands
00:29:28.460 this.
00:29:28.720 So I think whoever wrote this question is in a really favorable position over their
00:29:34.240 competition by even having somebody that they can be around to witness that because
00:29:38.780 most people don't get a view of that, dude.
00:29:40.500 They don't get it.
00:29:41.660 Let me, let me final, final thoughts on this.
00:29:43.320 I want to ask you this too.
00:29:44.080 Is there anything that he should be, uh, I guess not, not cautious of, right?
00:29:49.720 But when you do have a guy that's in the business that has been doing it 50 years, is there anything
00:29:53.700 that he should just like, Hey, just keep this in mind?
00:29:55.720 Like, yeah, I would say this.
00:29:57.540 Um, a lot of times, a lot of these older guys, you know, here, here's where you take the
00:30:01.980 value from the older guys.
00:30:03.000 They understand the fundamentals very well.
00:30:06.280 They understand things like building relationship and serving a customer and providing value and bottom
00:30:13.680 of the funnel, I would say foundational principles for building a tremendous business.
00:30:18.640 They understand fucking way better than any of these young people, but some of these young 1.00
00:30:24.020 people understand how to get attention or how to build a funnel or how to get leads better
00:30:28.800 than some of the older dogs.
00:30:30.420 Okay.
00:30:30.900 So, you know, you have to, you have, you have to take what they say very serious, but you
00:30:37.340 also have to understand that technology kind of changed the game on how entrepreneurship
00:30:42.980 is done.
00:30:43.900 Sort of, uh, the X's and O's are slightly different.
00:30:47.640 It's a different technology, not a different concept.
00:30:51.000 So you have to be very good at listening to what these guys are saying and then kind
00:30:55.700 of like thinking about it and computing it into your brain as to how to apply into what's
00:30:59.480 going on right now with technology.
00:31:01.180 Does that make sense?
00:31:01.680 Absolutely.
00:31:02.280 Dude, that was the first thing I thought, okay, he's been in a 50, 70 years old at least,
00:31:06.280 but like, the motherfucker ain't got no TikTok.
00:31:08.360 Right.
00:31:08.780 Exactly.
00:31:09.820 Exactly.
00:31:10.420 So like, and he may understand what TikTok, maybe fuck, maybe he's got a big TikTok.
00:31:14.000 Maybe he does.
00:31:14.400 Yeah, who knows?
00:31:14.980 But my point is, is that we have to recognize that the concepts are always the same.
00:31:23.800 I think what makes me a formidable entrepreneur is that I operated for a long time without
00:31:29.540 social media and the internet, you know, and I'm still young.
00:31:32.120 I was like right in that sweet spot of age range where I was young enough to still be young
00:31:41.200 when technology came around, but I had that good eight, 10 years ahead where the internet
00:31:47.120 and social media wasn't like the thing.
00:31:49.740 So I was able to learn the real fundamentals and that handicaps a lot of the young bucks 1.00
00:31:54.960 now.
00:31:55.220 Like a lot of the young guys that are coming up right now, they, they're all about lead
00:31:59.240 generation and they don't understand how to fucking actually keep customers and how to 0.98
00:32:03.240 get them to stay with your brand over longterm.
00:32:06.380 And this is why we see so many people creating basically, you know, cashflow businesses, not
00:32:12.240 actual brands and, um, you know, to create a real brand and which is what you should do
00:32:18.640 because that brand is going to have brand equity and a value on the backside of your
00:32:22.080 journey, right?
00:32:23.220 If you're creating a cashflow business where, Oh, I'm making X.
00:32:27.000 If you hear, if you listen to some of these young guys, all they ever talk about is I'm
00:32:30.000 making X amount a month.
00:32:31.240 I'm making X amount a month.
00:32:32.880 Yeah, I know.
00:32:33.880 But what are you making on the backend?
00:32:35.020 And what's that worth?
00:32:35.980 You see what I'm saying?
00:32:36.820 Like I'm making X amount a month, but I'm also building a whole bunch of things that
00:32:40.720 are worth a lot of money on the backend.
00:32:42.140 I can sell those things, right?
00:32:43.640 That's why that's the power of building a brand.
00:32:45.360 And that's why I tell you young guys, you guys should be alert.
00:32:48.560 Yes.
00:32:49.380 Utilize your skillset for creating funnels and getting leads.
00:32:52.240 Absolutely.
00:32:53.080 But understand how to put them into a brand so that you're building brand equity over time.
00:32:57.040 And then whenever you decide that that journey is over, you have something to fall back
00:33:00.560 on.
00:33:00.760 And you're not just, uh, you know, a slave to your lifestyle because all you've ever
00:33:04.880 worked for is cashflow, which is a problem that a lot of people get into.
00:33:08.680 So yeah, I love it, man.
00:33:11.760 Yeah, man.
00:33:12.100 That's it.
00:33:12.420 That's pretty much it.
00:33:13.200 You know, you guys who are, who are out here right now, you got more opportunity than anybody
00:33:16.680 ever considering that the world doesn't burn down and fall apart.
00:33:19.940 All right.
00:33:20.400 Which is a very real thing.
00:33:21.500 That's why we do CTI.
00:33:22.620 That's why we talk about what's going on.
00:33:23.860 A lot of people, you know, a lot of you guys get frustrated because, you know, uh, I don't
00:33:30.320 do strictly personal development, but the reason that I don't do strictly personal development,
00:33:34.360 the reason I talk about CTI is because, uh, one, like I said, the internet is for entertainment
00:33:38.720 and it's an entertaining show.
00:33:40.460 Uh, but two, you have to know what you have to do as your obligation, as a citizen, in order
00:33:45.520 to protect your ability to grow a business.
00:33:47.580 You know, a lot of these guys, these influencers out here who are just talking about money, money,
00:33:51.400 money, money, money, money, money, they're not understanding that the environment can
00:33:54.860 change very quick to where their, their little schemes and skills don't matter at all.
00:33:59.240 And we're not that far away from that in America.
00:34:01.180 So whether you listen to our show, CTI, or whether you stay up with current events with
00:34:05.640 someone else, uh, which I can promise you won't be as fun, but, uh, those, those other
00:34:10.920 sources are listening to CTI.
00:34:12.880 That's, that's, that's, that's a lot.
00:34:14.020 There's a lot of truth to that.
00:34:15.420 Um, you have to be aware of what's going on in the world and you have to be socially cognizant
00:34:20.720 and you can't be delusional and buying into, you know, the left narrative or the right
00:34:25.440 narrative.
00:34:25.800 You got to see things for what they are in reality without bias.
00:34:29.000 If you want to be effective in entrepreneurship and, and, and do your duty as a citizen to
00:34:33.600 make sure that we maintain the fertile soil that we've always had, which is quickly dissipating.
00:34:39.520 So some, all you young guys who are just out here in business, man, you guys need to get
00:34:43.860 involved in what's going on in the world.
00:34:45.140 Otherwise you're not going to have the ability to grow these businesses.
00:34:47.500 So I'll leave you with that.
00:34:48.580 That's real shit, man.
00:34:49.240 Well, guys, Andy, that was three.
00:34:51.560 Yep.
00:34:52.140 Thanks guys.
00:34:52.840 Appreciate you guys.
00:34:53.560 Love you guys.
00:34:54.320 Go pay the fee.