REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 648. Q&AF： Spreading The Message Without Social Media, Family And Friends Support & Business Partnership Roles

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00:02:46.580 what's up what's going on it's monday yeah it is uh not when we're recording no it's actually friday

00:02:52.580 it's actually friday but it will be monday yeah but we'll pretend it's monday because

00:02:55.840 they're listening on monday so chiefs won oh did they yeah really that's my prediction you think

00:03:01.780 so i think so i think the chiefs gonna win 27 to 14 really man i don't know what's gonna happen

00:03:07.940 i also think travis is gonna propose well i don't know i don't know we'll see if i win i mean we'll

00:03:15.180 like if i'm right uh we'll see if i could see him doing that if the chiefs won but i mean dude san

00:03:21.000 francisco is no fucking joke bro yeah i mean they're a good team fred warner bro yeah i mean 0.79

00:03:26.040 do that pretty like they're fucking good it was a unit yeah mccaffrey they're fucking good bro fred 0.94

00:03:31.460 warner is a fucking unit bro he people don't know he's uh he's been a first form a few different times 0.97

00:03:37.620 and i came up here on a saturday one time and usually there's nobody here on a saturday but like

00:03:42.740 just a few guys that that i know but occasionally there's people i don't know we have a lot of people

00:03:47.580 here and um bro i walked in the locker room and fucking the biggest fucking dude i've ever seen 0.99

00:03:55.860 it looks like zeus just a massive standing in there and he's got a he's wearing his hair in a

00:04:00.840 pineapple so it makes him look like he's six nine and i fucking look bro and this dude looks like he's 0.97

00:04:05.860 just chiseled like a fucking statue dude and i'm just like fuck i'm gonna go over here and hide i'm 0.99

00:04:12.060 changing the corner like i felt like i was back in high school right freshman year yeah dude

00:04:16.640 that is a fucking grown man oh hey listen could you imagine getting fucking hit by that dude i don't 0.99

00:04:23.160 want to imagine you ever watched him play he's fucking everywhere that's the craziest thing so 0.98

00:04:27.340 i taught him how to play blackjack right yeah remember at your house nicest fucking guy you can 0.99

00:04:32.820 ever like just nice bro dudes are fucking like he's awesome amazing dude when he gets on that fucking 0.97

00:04:38.660 field though bro like animal i don't know that guy no more bro the guy's so physically dominant that

00:04:44.080 he's like having a good time out there smile yeah he's laughing having a good time just killing

00:04:48.400 motherfuckers i don't know what game it was he laid somebody out like he chased him like hawked him down 0.98

00:04:52.680 laid him out and the fucking like zoom in on him he's just fucking smiling yeah yeah bro i just 0.93

00:04:57.180 don't that's a different level of yes i think he's so such a physical fast big dude that like

00:05:03.220 it that like this is just a fucking game you know what i'm saying yeah like he's i don't know 0.96

00:05:09.300 that's an impressive dude yeah i i actually you know it'd be cool to see him win yeah no it'd be

00:05:14.860 awesome man i'm tired of seeing the chiefs in there man i'm not but i mean i i wouldn't be is that

00:05:20.720 bitter of me no not really they're getting annoying a little bit like i like the chiefs but like the

00:05:26.300 off-field stuff is starting to get on my nerves yeah like winners win i'll give you can't deny the

00:05:30.700 winning shit like winners win real you know fuck by this time everybody's gonna know what happened 0.90

00:05:35.140 this conversation is going to be pointless anyway yeah um it's fine but i like i like when they

00:05:41.420 like they just didn't they're they didn't gel this year man no you know they were real lucky to be in

00:05:46.040 the super bowl and if they win you know fuck that's a great great season for them because it wasn't their 0.73

00:05:51.240 best but uh yeah we'll see what happens yeah we'll see man i'm not gonna make a call bro because i

00:05:57.780 really don't know like i really fucking think i really think it's gonna be a pretty good game 0.83

00:06:01.780 we'll see see if uh see what vegas homes is the fucking winner bro that's the thing yeah dude 0.92

00:06:08.980 knows how to win and i think he's gonna end up being one of the greatest players that ever played

00:06:13.060 any sport ever so yeah we'll see yeah we'll see about that yep we'll see well uh you already know

00:06:20.440 the answer everybody knows already yeah everybody's yeah yeah we're just talking shit 0.76

00:06:23.780 that's all right yeah let's get into it man i got some good ones for you

00:06:28.220 oh you do i do all right pull them out yep guys andy question number one andy i'm 41 years old

00:06:37.600 and i've lived through the boom of social media successfully never giving in to the urge to join

00:06:43.540 any platform at any time in my 20s it seemed like a burden but given how much we've seen its negative

00:06:49.540 impact on society and its terrible effects it has on our younger generations it seems to be a

00:06:54.660 blessing in hindsight i was able to be a successful entrepreneur without it doing business locally the

00:07:00.780 old school way through hard work and personal relationships i'm now a successful entrepreneur

00:07:05.260 with a great company here in st louis my real question is how the hell do you get your message out

00:07:11.000 to people these days without it without social media i'd like to run for local office at some point

00:07:17.020 in the near future but am normally opposed to these platforms also i'm not a hoe i show your show 0.97

00:07:22.120 through links uh to friends with co-workers but i feel like that's incredibly inefficient as a man who

00:07:27.840 has built a lot not all of his success as being an early adopter of social uh marketing what would you

00:07:34.580 do today to spread your messages if you didn't have any of these tools

00:07:37.680 well first of all as much as i don't like the tools of technology and as much as i believe

00:07:47.060 that they have degraded culture and humanity and i talk about this often

00:07:53.660 it's still in my opinion a requirement if you're going to be successful in business i think you can do

00:08:03.480 well and do okay without it there's lots of people that do i think here's what i mean you could survive

00:08:09.540 without it and you could do okay but there's there's a level that you're going to have a hard time

00:08:12.900 reaching because the ability to reach the amount of people that you can on social media with little

00:08:18.940 to no cost is unprecedented in human history so it's a huge advantage for business and when i talk

00:08:28.500 about technology i have to weigh the i the benefits of you know all the good stuff that is brought into

00:08:36.260 my life and brought into the business world and entrepreneurship and the opportunities it's

00:08:41.680 created with the amount of damage that is created in you know interpersonal relationships culture humanity

00:08:48.200 as a whole and when i weigh those things out it's my opinion that the cost has been more than the

00:08:55.700 benefit and that's just my personal opinion from observing all of it now with that being said

00:09:01.280 i want to win okay and this is why i tell you guys with ai you know they're going to put companies in a

00:09:08.200 position where they're forced to adopt it and even the most hardcore pro-human pro-job person

00:09:15.080 they're not going to let their company fail if other companies are kicking their ass and the consumer

00:09:20.540 is adopting the technology so all of this comes down to what culture and society is going to decide

00:09:28.060 is acceptable what are they going to support you know there was a time in our country where people

00:09:34.220 made truly moral buying decisions based upon the ethics of a company and how it represented itself

00:09:41.180 and what it stood for and as the culture swings back towards pro-america i believe the culture is going

00:09:48.280 to swing back also towards real people being employed real americans having jobs and i think people are

00:09:56.040 going to support that more and more and more and i also believe that humans can still do things much

00:10:02.020 better than ai in terms of connecting with the customer which is what people are craving in the

00:10:08.680 marketplace right now you can almost feel the craving for human interaction because we spend so much time on

00:10:15.840 these devices and so much time dealing with technology and automation and ai that people consumers are

00:10:23.500 looking for places where they can connect with other people and so i believe that the companies that will

00:10:31.340 stick this out and continue to employ people and continue to you know keep jobs and continue to do a

00:10:38.580 good job connecting with their community are going to beat any of the technology ai companies when it comes to

00:10:44.720 selling consumer goods um or even services so that's my opinion of where we're going um

00:10:53.380 but i can tell you this bro like you can't be ignorant to the point where you pretend like this isn't a huge

00:11:02.200 advantage this is a huge advantage you're able to reach fucking tens of thousands if not millions of 0.51

00:11:08.200 people for basically free through good social media platforms and so i would encourage you if you're

00:11:14.860 looking to run for office and looking to you're gonna have to have these platforms bro like there's

00:11:20.940 no option around it um i mean you could run a campaign against technology and you could get out

00:11:27.940 and you could canvas the neighborhoods and you could do all the old school things and i still think those

00:11:32.280 will work but i mean dude you're talking about fighting someone who has the ability to reach

00:11:37.880 you know thousands of people with the push of a button or actually going door to door and hoping

00:11:43.620 that you can make up that traction through work and i think you can but i think it's going to be hard

00:11:48.360 and i think the best solution for someone like you would be to find some sort of middle ground where

00:11:53.300 you're using a little bit of technology if not if for nothing else you're letting people know where

00:11:57.680 you're going to be and what you're doing for announcements you know what i'm saying you don't

00:12:01.180 have to live on there um but dude as far as what to do you know fuck bro people want to get together 0.86

00:12:07.880 with people it's a it's a it's in our dna we want to be together with people so you're you know things

00:12:14.720 like going door to door i think things like product uh direct mail mailers are highly underrated um i think

00:12:21.980 things like you know holding town hall meetings i think things like doing things anything

00:12:27.560 community events runs rucks workouts uh barbecues fish fries these things people like to do and so

00:12:37.140 if you can build an in-person community around doing whatever it is you're into i think you can do very

00:12:44.400 well yeah but i think you're going to leave a lot on the table if you just completely ignore the

00:12:49.460 technology aspect of it yeah and i think that's maybe what confuses a lot of people is like so you

00:12:54.780 because yes like technology is great but you're not saying put the whole business on technology

00:12:59.420 or put the whole business up to social media there is still a very real well i think we have a problem

00:13:04.460 dude i think we have a lot of entrepreneurs and people in general see i grew up in an my first 10

00:13:13.540 years of business were basically in-person business okay it was retail in-person business the things i had to

00:13:20.040 do were like guerrilla marketing tactics like i had to go door to door i had to go to actual events

00:13:26.020 and network i had to meet people in person i had to do things like flyer parking lots and put signs in

00:13:32.920 bathrooms and fucking bro like i'm talking about the cheapest shit possible to get the word out you 0.98

00:13:39.480 know we're talking like dude i spent years walking all over springfield missouri giving out fucking free 0.98

00:13:45.360 samples and uh you know little coupons or t-shirts that we had or a shaker cup for years okay to get

00:13:53.940 the word out because we had to there wasn't social media you could there wasn't even an option so we

00:13:59.120 couldn't afford radio television and newspaper because we were so small so what what would you do

00:14:04.620 if you couldn't afford radio television newspaper and there was no social media what would you do

00:14:09.880 that's the answer of how you get people so you need to start looking what would you do in those

00:14:15.860 situations and i'm lucky enough to have built a business foundation in that era and then also

00:14:23.160 come along with technology and then flip those techniques into what you know as we know social

00:14:30.420 media and the way things are now so a lot of people when they do business bro they're either one or the

00:14:36.440 other they're either like this guy who's completely old school no no social media presence or they're

00:14:42.340 like some of these 20 year old kids that know all the hacks but they don't know how to talk to

00:14:47.440 anybody and they don't know how to actually connect with anybody and they don't know anything so like

00:14:50.920 dude a good place to be is to blend the two blend the old school in person the ability to connect

00:14:58.660 the ability to care the ability to service a customer and make them understand that you actually

00:15:03.740 give a fuck about them with the tools of technology and the ability to reach people at scale and when

00:15:09.260 you blend those two you end up with a very unique business that most people can't do because they lack

00:15:16.160 the experience of what it was like to do business before social media and technology and i personally

00:15:22.440 think that one of the biggest reasons that i've been successful up until this point in time has been

00:15:28.200 because i know both sides of the fucking coin very well if you put me in an environment if the internet 0.96

00:15:33.940 crumbled today and we had to go back to doing business the old way i would beat everybody's fucking ass 0.99

00:15:39.560 because i've already done it and i know those skills and then you know we translate those skills into

00:15:45.820 technology and that's what we do with our company so i think the answer here dude is you gotta

00:15:50.380 understand this isn't always just a cultural hot point to stand on or a point of principle to stand

00:16:00.540 on there's uses for these tools okay and if we ignore the usefulness of certain tools we're going

00:16:08.260 to be at a disadvantage so we have to acknowledge where these things bring value and but we also have

00:16:15.020 to keep our principles in mind of what we stand for so for you if you're a 41 year old man and you're

00:16:21.660 sort of you believe in old school and you believe in connecting with people that doesn't mean you

00:16:25.840 can't use technology but why don't you use technology to connect with people you see what i'm saying to

00:16:30.560 show them how you can yes so like dude there's this polarization of thought where it's total anti-tech

00:16:38.320 or total all the way tech neither one of those people actually win it's the people who know how to

00:16:44.380 blend the two how do you connect with people how do you make people understand that you care how do

00:16:48.980 you serve them how do you serve them in a way where they say holy shit i love doing business with these

00:16:54.380 guys how do you do that and then how do you use technology to aggregate more customers into that

00:16:59.400 that is the way you should be thinking about whatever it is you're doing whether it be running for political

00:17:03.900 office whether it be running a business whether it be starting a charity or whatever it is you're

00:17:09.340 trying to do people are people and they're always going to be people they're always going to want to

00:17:13.480 connect with people they're always going to feel that they're going to feel like they're cared about

00:17:16.780 they're going to spend money with companies that care about them all right but if we just ignore

00:17:21.840 the technology that's available we're going to have a hard time filling the funnel of available

00:17:26.160 customers because guess what that's where most people are so we have to learn to blend those two

00:17:31.040 together and that would be my advice to you i love it i love it guys any question number two

00:17:35.860 uh andy i have friends that know that i do music they seem to give me positive feedback and

00:17:42.560 encouragement behind closed doors when it's just me and them but whenever i publish a song they fail

00:17:47.840 to support they don't share my content or comment or like my stuff now i know this is a sense of

00:17:54.280 entitlement because i hear your content and you discuss the irrelevance of family and friends

00:17:58.400 supporting you yeah however this is a unique situation for myself is when they speak to me to

00:18:03.500 my face or in private i get the encouragement but when i post my songs or content they see the stuff

00:18:09.420 but fail every single time to share it my question is am i being entitled or selfish or should they

00:18:15.080 support the way they say behind closed doors this feels annoying because when they do their content

00:18:21.880 i always support their stuff help i appreciate all of your advice uh and so if i am being entitled i'll

00:18:28.340 understand thanks andy all right so there's a couple things that could be going on here and none of

00:18:34.140 them you're gonna like all right uh i got this little coin over here it says mercy or no mercy

00:18:39.840 all right uh just put it on the wrist it says mercy all right all right so i'll be nice i'll be nice

00:18:46.600 about it but here's because i could very easily be not nice but i'll be nice about this all right

00:18:53.540 most of us think we're better than we are all right most of us think our art is better most of us

00:18:59.300 think we're better at business most of us think we're better in shape most of us when we're creating

00:19:03.700 something we think we're better than we are and when our family and friends see us doing these

00:19:07.720 things because they care about us they will encourage us but here's the thing bro people will

00:19:13.960 not the people closest to you will not support you until other people are supporting you i don't know

00:19:20.820 why it's that way but it's that way when i was in business coming up bro nobody really ever

00:19:26.260 fucking i mean yes my brother my dad close people to me they supported but but like people that i was 0.81

00:19:32.800 very good to people that i was friends with people they they would giggle they would laugh they wouldn't

00:19:37.700 support us publicly they kind of snickered and it wasn't until it was very clear that i was going to

00:19:44.660 do something that then those people came around all right so let's let's break this down to what this

00:19:50.100 could be okay first of all you could not be good enough your shit might not be good enough your 0.88

00:19:55.240 shit might just need more work in order for people to like it and that's a very real option for you to

00:20:01.080 consider because our friends and family will tell us we're doing great whenever we're really not that

00:20:06.080 good right we're over here painting a picture like holy shit dude that looks like bob ross picasso i like 0.66

00:20:11.420 yeah and it fucking doesn't right you put that shit out and people laugh yeah so we can't take our 0.93

00:20:16.500 friends and family's encouragement to heart because it's not real they're biased all right so

00:20:21.480 that's one thing you need you you you may need to get better i bet you do okay because we all need

00:20:26.820 to get better and that's no offense to you secondly you're battling human nature all right nobody wants

00:20:32.620 to be the first person to say that's cool shit and very few people can do that all right so most people

00:20:38.500 wait until something is very obviously going to be successful or very obviously going to be cool

00:20:43.520 to jump on the bandwagon this is why your friends your family the people closest to you

00:20:47.940 will not start to encourage you until they see strangers encouraging you which is counterintuitive

00:20:53.940 and it makes us scratch our heads like shit why is it this way it's just that way these people are 0.78

00:20:59.360 reminded every single day that they're not doing anything relevant they're not trying anything

00:21:04.540 relevant they're not even attempting to be anything more than what they are and because you are they

00:21:09.860 will pretend to support it but they won't support it in public all right but once you get to a point

00:21:14.840 where you're kicking ass and everybody's starting to think you're awesome then all of a sudden bro it 0.67

00:21:19.840 goes from them not supporting and they start showing up at your shit they show up at your shop they show 0.88

00:21:25.920 up they buy your products and they start saying this shit man i always believed in you i'm so proud of 0.57

00:21:31.700 you and you're thinking like if you always believed in me how come you never shared my shit back in the 0.82

00:21:36.060 day how come you never helped me out how come you never had a conversation with me how come you never

00:21:40.440 gave me any good advice why did you laugh at me why did you make fun of me why did you make those

00:21:45.340 smart ass remarks if you always believed in me because bro that's what happens these people

00:21:49.940 fucking come around and they only come around once you're so obviously going to do it and by that 0.77

00:21:56.460 point you won't care that they're there that's the thing so we we greatly overemphasize the effects

00:22:04.300 of other people's belief on us falsely thinking that we need their belief to be successful the

00:22:11.740 people closest to you will never actually believe in you until you are very clearly going to win

00:22:16.700 and then they will come back around and support you and some of them never will so it's actually

00:22:21.340 irrelevant so the point here is you've got two things going on one your shit's probably not good 0.88

00:22:26.580 enough yet all right so you need to keep getting better and two you're dealing with human nature

00:22:31.480 people aren't going to support you until it's very obvious that you're going to win

00:22:35.220 are you being entitled yes okay you can't expect people to push you out you've got to make it happen

00:22:43.740 on your own you can't depend on anybody here's the reality of people in your life just so we're clear

00:22:48.840 most people do not give a fuck about you okay you're going to realize this one way or the other along

00:22:55.240 the way in life most people most people you know right now in your life do not give a flying

00:23:00.980 fuck about you they might be your friend they might be cool to hang out with they might be cool

00:23:07.080 to go to dinner with you might go on vacation with them even at the end of the day that your life

00:23:11.780 falls apart those motherfuckers are not going to fucking be there they are not going to be there for 0.99

00:23:16.400 you all right you might have two or three people in your life if you're lucky that you can count

00:23:21.480 on if shit goes wrong okay and most of us spend our entire lives making decisions around what

00:23:28.900 these people who do not give a fuck about us actually think about what it is we're doing 0.80

00:23:34.240 so reconcile that in your brain we live our entire lives surrounded by people that don't give a shit 0.80

00:23:40.160 about us and we make our decisions based upon what we're going to do what we're going to create and who

00:23:45.200 we're going to become on the opinions of people that probably won't be in our life in five to ten years

00:23:50.520 so we we get scared they're going to make fun of us we get scared they're going to laugh

00:23:54.740 we get scared they're going to criticize and so we do nothing we just hang out with them and do the

00:23:58.980 same shit and then we waste all this time and all this opportunity and leave all this potential on 0.69

00:24:04.060 the table for people's opinions that aren't even relevant to us and if your life were to take a shit 0.89

00:24:10.660 they wouldn't be there to help you so you've got to stop making decisions and i'm talking to this man

00:24:15.800 right here you've got to stop making decisions based upon the opinions of your friends and family

00:24:20.820 and you have to start making decisions based upon what's going to be right for you

00:24:24.740 not just today but in 10 and 20 years from now all right so they're not going to support you until

00:24:31.820 everybody else supports you it doesn't make sense but that's the way it is you need to get better

00:24:36.880 and you need to get better so that people outside of that network encourage you and say fuck yeah this

00:24:41.520 is this is cool shit and then your people will come in and join that's how it actually works

00:24:46.700 all right so keep that in mind you're not facing anything that anybody else doesn't face that's

00:24:52.780 trying to do anything i don't know why that is you would think that your friends and your family and

00:24:57.100 your your people they would all cheer you on the whole way they don't they fucking don't and the 0.97

00:25:02.200 reason they don't in my opinion is because you're an example of going when they are afraid to go you're

00:25:08.580 an example of chasing a dream when they are afraid to even dream you're an example of execution when

00:25:14.140 they are afraid to get off the fucking bench and so they don't want you to actually succeed yes they 0.84

00:25:20.120 will tell you to your face you're great you're talented you're skilled you're amazing but when

00:25:24.900 it comes time to show up and buy your shit they won't be there bro because they're actually afraid 0.85

00:25:30.240 that you're going to make it because if you make it it shows them that they could have made it too and

00:25:33.820 they've got to live with that regret so that's what you're fucking dealing with bro so stop worrying 0.79

00:25:39.020 about what it is people think about you stop making decisions based around what your friends and

00:25:43.700 family think you should or shouldn't do and start making decisions about becoming an awesome artist

00:25:48.200 or an awesome musician or an awesome ceo or an awesome entrepreneur or whatever the fuck it is

00:25:53.600 you do and dedicate yourself to that get better keep going eventually people from the outside will

00:25:59.660 care and then you'll see how fake the people around you actually are and when you see how fake they

00:26:05.760 are because they come in and they start saying oh yeah andy i'm so proud of you when you were making

00:26:09.840 fun of me for 15 fucking years you're gonna give a shit bro i yes i'm respectful yes i'm nice hey 0.99

00:26:17.060 thank you very much but dude when i walk away i'm like yeah where the fuck were you when i was fucking 0.99

00:26:21.960 dying because you know yes i remember everybody remembers because it's traumatic yeah it's a

00:26:27.320 traumatic thing for your friends and family to fucking think you're a piece of shit and to think 0.88

00:26:32.260 you're a failure and to think you're a fuck up when you're struggling your ass off to try to build

00:26:36.460 shit bro that's a traumatic thing you're like fuck nobody's here for me and it's a very real lesson 0.98

00:26:42.300 in life because guess what nobody is here for you and that's the biggest mistake a lot of you guys make

00:26:47.800 is assuming that they are there's nobody here for you you have to put this on your back and carry it

00:26:52.700 and if you don't you will not get there that's the bottom line i fucking love this man i want to i want 0.88

00:26:58.060 to i want to follow up on this because you know you you talk about tapping in to to the dark side

00:27:03.640 using negative energy right as fuel it's the best kind of fuel is this like should this be the

00:27:10.580 movement right now yes you should be like fuck these people okay they don't believe in me yeah 0.83

00:27:15.780 and you know what and then take all that energy and go do your art and get fucking better and better 0.81

00:27:20.020 and better and better and better bro my listen bro i am the kind of person that if you doubt me

00:27:25.680 if you question me if you fucking challenge me i will fucking rip your fucking throat out eventually 1.00

00:27:31.640 trust me it might not be tomorrow it might not be in two weeks you might not ever see it coming

00:27:37.580 but eventually i will win all right and that's the attitude that you have to have when someone

00:27:42.880 steps on your toes you have to fucking stomp on theirs with your results and you do that through 0.99

00:27:48.140 taking their negative energy their negative words their disbelief putting them inside you and then

00:27:54.060 every single time you don't feel like doing what it is you're supposed to do you think about that

00:27:58.480 shit and you get up and go do it that's how you utilize the negative energy and if you don't

00:28:03.240 learn to operate on that system because we have all these hippy dippy dumb fucks around all right 1.00

00:28:09.020 telling everybody it's all peace and harmony and fucking inner peace and all this bullshit and 0.91

00:28:14.980 they're sitting around with bulls and doing all this stupid ass shit and notice that none of those 0.77

00:28:19.460 people ever get better none of those people ever become really anything they're just always sitting in

00:28:24.580 this fucking perpetual state of paralyzation because they think that it's all about inner peace

00:28:29.300 no it's not all about inner peace if you want to achieve things because you're going to get good

00:28:34.000 inputs belief support encouragement and you're going to get bad inputs negativity frustration disbelief

00:28:41.420 disrespect and if you don't know how to use both types of that energy to move forward you you're running

00:28:47.140 at 50 capacity because there's tons of people out there that know how to use both every single

00:28:52.520 fucking great champion that you've ever watched michael jordan tom brady fucking any of them they 0.91

00:28:58.280 i guarantee you bro they take every single bit of disbelief that anybody's ever had in them and they

00:29:04.300 use it as fuel do you think tom brady would have won seven fucking super bowls if he was drafted first 0.87

00:29:09.920 in the first round not a fucking chance bro that put a massive chip on your shoulder and you guys 0.98

00:29:15.900 who fucking have this like you have this situation this person's talking about where people don't 0.97

00:29:21.200 believe in them okay that's a blessing because it's going to provide you with unlimited amounts

00:29:28.260 of fucking negative energy dark side energy that you can use to move forward it's a blessing for 0.85

00:29:33.640 people to doubt you it's a blessing for people not to believe in you it's a blessing for people to

00:29:38.420 disrespect you if you know how to use it as fuel if you sit around and read the fucking internet and 0.97

00:29:45.180 think you're mr fucking sunshine with your fucking zuzu bowls or whatever the fuck these things are 0.98

00:29:50.060 called you're gonna lose bro because this game is real this is a real game there's competition

00:29:56.020 there are people who take it very seriously who do everything they can to win and if you think

00:30:00.520 you're gonna only operate on good vibes you're gonna get fucking crushed 0.97

00:30:03.940 fuck me it's the fucking truth i think we should take it take a moment too to acknowledge our word of 0.94

00:30:12.000 the day i think i think it was hippy dippy dumb fucks zuzu bowls and zuzu bowls that's fucking 0.99

00:30:17.060 great that's great man bro i can't stand it everybody look dude they're always healing they

00:30:21.860 grow heal what the fuck are you gonna be healed and go do something holy shit bro i'm all about 0.95

00:30:29.800 taking care of your mental health it's very important it's important but the solutions that

00:30:33.220 are provided by the internet are fucking wrong no you have the reason you feel like shit is because 0.95

00:30:38.380 you're not proud of yourself you have to be proud of yourself bro and to be proud of yourself you have

00:30:42.300 to accomplish things and that starts with little bitty things that could start with making your bed

00:30:46.500 brushing your teeth eating the right food getting some workout in getting out in the sunshine and

00:30:51.640 moving around these are little wins that start making you believe in yourself over the course of

00:30:56.320 time and if you don't want to fucking feel like shit bro start doing something that you're proud of 0.90

00:31:00.900 yourself for doing it's very simple dude you're not going to sit there and fucking zen your way into 0.96

00:31:06.640 success dude i'm sorry it's just not gonna unless you're one of the fucking leaders of it 0.99

00:31:10.240 you know what i'm saying drink my fucking kool-aid you know like for real bro speaking of drinking 0.97

00:31:17.700 my kool-aid quick message from my sponsor today's show

00:31:20.980 fuck dude it's just dude i'm sorry man and i know some people are into this shit but like 0.98

00:31:27.720 be careful because that shit will suck you in and it will paralyze you and you won't do shit 0.99

00:31:32.160 it's real shit man it's real guys let's get to our third and final question question number three 0.82

00:31:38.080 it's good some good kool-aid

00:31:40.400 guys andy question number three uh andy i have a business partner and i started my company uh with

00:31:53.660 him six years ago i wanted to ask after 25 years in business what sort of key roles do you and chris

00:32:00.580 play in business now like do you revisit your roles and audit them every so often or did it

00:32:05.820 just stay the same throughout the partnership well in the beginning we just kind of both did

00:32:12.580 everything um we both we didn't have roles and that was probably the first seven or eight years

00:32:19.440 wow yeah and dude just do what listen man we didn't know what we were doing you gotta understand

00:32:24.560 the reason i'm qualified to talk about this shit is because i started at the literal fucking bottom 0.96

00:32:32.280 bro okay and we've built some amazing shit okay out of we didn't get ever get an inheritance there was 0.53

00:32:39.600 never a private equity deal nobody ever came and fast-tracked our success i never sold part of my

00:32:45.840 company to fucking pepsi or fucking uh blood light or any of these fucking coca-cola yeah i never did 0.98

00:32:52.440 that like this is all we own everything here right this is all built off of that first day in business

00:32:58.380 and it's accumulated and i've done it the hard way and that's what makes me qualified to talk about

00:33:02.640 this shit so like when you hear stories like yeah we just kind of did what the fuck we did in the 0.65

00:33:07.140 beginning that's because bro we didn't know any better yeah we knew we we knew less than what

00:33:12.120 probably most of the people listening know all right so we just kind of both did whatever we

00:33:17.520 had to do and then um eventually we had to have a conversation where you know when social media

00:33:24.480 started coming around somebody had to become the face and somebody had to do the back side

00:33:29.240 and right around that time was when sal joined in with us and uh we started first form so that's when

00:33:36.080 the roles got a little bit more defined um sal at that time was doing the sales i was running the

00:33:43.740 company and being the face and chris was running the back end and um and that went for uh both s2 and

00:33:50.560 first form and then uh you know as we've grown in scale we have executive teams and we have people

00:33:56.460 that help out and do certain roles and run departments and you know now um sal's the ceo at first

00:34:03.620 form uh i'm chairman of the board uh chris still runs a lot of the back end stuff uh and then he

00:34:10.840 has another business that he runs as well uh in the cannabis space right so you know our roles our

00:34:16.300 roles have been more clearly defined but it's still whatever the fuck needs to be done i mean dude sal 0.53

00:34:23.460 and i were sweeping the floor in the warehouse two nights ago yeah you know what i'm saying so whatever

00:34:27.200 it's our attitude here is we're all on the same team this is all we got we don't have any other

00:34:33.020 options and we got to do what we got to do and that's how that's how it always is no matter what

00:34:37.940 the title is no matter what the responsibilities are i could be working on something i could say

00:34:42.600 hey sal i need your help he's going to come out here and help me he could be working on something

00:34:46.300 vice versa i'm going to help him same with chris and really dude honestly that's kind of the same

00:34:51.100 of how we work here with all levels like the guys over here in media or in our graphic design

00:34:57.020 department they i could be walking by and they could say hey andy will you look at this and

00:35:00.600 we all collaborate and work together like this is not this our environment here is not corporate

00:35:07.560 like what most people are used to that's not my role so i'm not yeah it's not like that it's a

00:35:12.640 collaborative effort wherever the effort is needed you know what i'm saying and i think that's built

00:35:18.200 from our culture and that's built from um leadership with limited ego okay you have to have some ego

00:35:25.400 people say oh you got to eliminate the ego if you eliminate the ego bro you're gonna be a bitch 1.00

00:35:29.560 okay you have to have some ego you've got to believe in yourself a little bit you got to know

00:35:33.700 that you're a bad motherfucker to even play in the fucking game you can't run out of the tunnel at the 0.99

00:35:38.300 fucking national championship football game thinking you're a humble little pussy you're gonna get your 1.00

00:35:42.700 fucking ass beat okay so we got to have a little bit of ego but we got to have enough humility to 0.68

00:35:48.240 balance that out to where we know when we need help we know what we don't know we're very aware where

00:35:53.840 we're strong we're aware where we're weak and so you want to have a balance like that and i think that

00:35:58.440 collaborative culture exists through all of our uh employees here at the company you know

00:36:04.840 yeah uh at the companies i think when people need help they ask when we can offer help we offer it and

00:36:11.960 we all work together and i don't think there's a the titles here i think mean a lot less than what

00:36:18.060 they would mean at a normal company anywhere else yeah i would agree with that i would agree with that

00:36:21.340 let me ask you this yeah would you in the early days or i mean even now has there ever been a

00:36:26.580 point in time where it's like okay a role or responsibility a job has come up and nobody wants

00:36:32.400 to do it how does it get done like it's not your forte it's not sal's it's not chris's like how does

00:36:37.820 that work we figure it out yeah somebody jumps in and says i'll handle it and they handle it

00:36:41.700 maybe that's me maybe that's sal maybe that's somebody else maybe that's one of you guys yeah i

00:36:47.560 mean just like how we operate here on the podcast team there's lots of stuff we don't know

00:36:51.620 and what do we do figure it out figure it the fuck out yeah and uh you know we got lots of 0.60

00:36:58.220 people who want to win i think when you have people who are aligned where they want to create

00:37:02.300 a certain end result um it's not too hard to get people to contribute and taking initiative is one of

00:37:08.880 our core values in our culture and taking responsibility is also another one and those

00:37:13.860 are like if there's a problem i gotta take responsibility for that and take the initiative

00:37:17.000 to correct it if we don't know how to do something we got to learn how to do something

00:37:20.420 and i think a lot of people hold them back because they cap off what they know they say well that's

00:37:25.860 not my expertise or that's not what i'm good at and really that's just them saying i don't want to do

00:37:30.380 that i don't i don't want to do that because we all have the capacity to learn like if you have

00:37:34.880 employees and they answer you with well that's not really what i'm good at or that's not my

00:37:39.520 expertise you got the wrong employees bro because the right to college for this that's right the

00:37:44.900 right employee the right leader the right ceo is going to say you know what i'll fucking figure 0.92

00:37:49.880 it out that and if you want to know how to create value you know we got a lot of entrepreneurs here

00:37:54.340 that listen to the show you want to know how to create massive value dude be the kind of person

00:37:59.380 that can fucking take responsibility and figure it the fuck out and see it through to solution 0.89

00:38:03.400 without having to be directed if you can take the initiative and take the take the initiative to

00:38:08.800 solve the problem take the responsibility to make the problem yours own it find the solution and see

00:38:13.860 it through to the end bro you become an invaluable asset to any company you work for and if your

00:38:19.220 company doesn't value that like if you have if you do that and your company doesn't value that

00:38:23.340 um there's lots of companies will pay big money for that we're one of them by the way

00:38:26.560 you know one of the things that you have to be able to do bro if you want to be successful as

00:38:31.600 an entrepreneur is you got to know basically three skills you got to know how to lead manage you

00:38:37.240 got to know how to sell and you got to know how to own problems and find the solutions and do it

00:38:41.940 without direction if you can do those three things inside of a company your payroll can really

00:38:47.340 almost be whatever whatever it has to be because that's an it's a fucking impossible skill to find

00:38:52.720 in the workforce it's impossible most people won't do any of those three things and they want the big

00:38:58.040 check most people can't manage most people can't lead they can't sell and most people won't take on

00:39:03.820 problems because they're lazy and they just want to collect a fucking check and those three kinds of 0.95

00:39:07.900 people need to get the fuck out of your organization if you want your organization to win

00:39:10.840 yeah and then ask you for a raise on the back end of course yeah listen man this is this is part of

00:39:16.720 the woke culture corporate environment that exists today people believe not here are my companies thank

00:39:23.160 god i fucking love coming here bro because i work with like the baddest motherfuckers on the planet 0.97

00:39:27.760 bro not only are these people good what they do they're also great athletes and they're tough as

00:39:32.680 fuck they're out here running 100 miles and all this crazy shit all the time just because yeah dude

00:39:37.560 they're just badass motherfuckers so like when i talk about this i am definitely not talking about

00:39:42.600 our organizations at all but what i will say is there's a lot of organizations where people just

00:39:47.400 don't give a shit and a lot of you guys work at them you know what it's like you show up there 0.87

00:39:51.680 people are there for a check they're there for a uh to do do time and then they go home at the end of

00:39:57.100 day think of how unfulfilling that existence must be think of how disgusting you must feel about

00:40:02.920 yourself to go to a work place contribute nothing do nothing expect a check and then expect more money

00:40:10.720 for just skating it out yeah and dude you wonder why you're depressed and you wonder why you don't

00:40:16.040 feel fulfilled it's not the fucking job it's you you're not applying yourself you're not trying to 0.97

00:40:22.200 create you're not trying to contribute you're leaving all your potential untapped on the table

00:40:27.220 dude if you just took some initiative and took some responsibility and learned some fucking skills 0.98

00:40:32.140 like managing people and selling some shit bro your paycheck could quadruple with the right company 0.78

00:40:38.280 and that shit is not that hard to learn i mean dude you become proficient in those things in two 0.66

00:40:42.460 three four years you know in the two three four years in a lifetime that's a very you know what i'm

00:40:47.500 saying it's not much time yeah so you know the reality is is look man most business cultures are

00:40:54.600 fucking terrible because the leadership is terrible they show up at fucking 11 they go home at fucking 0.98

00:40:59.700 three they show up tuesday through thursday and then they expect their organization to run awesome

00:41:05.480 that's not how it works man it's never going to work that way you're going to have to be if you're

00:41:10.160 going to if you're leading an organization or you're leading a department or you're leading a team

00:41:13.560 you're going to have to be the living breathing example for what the fuck you want your people to 0.95

00:41:18.680 be that's what you have to be otherwise they'll never become it because they can't even see what

00:41:23.340 it looks like this is what i'm talking about too when i talk about personal excellence being the

00:41:28.180 ultimate rebellion a lot of people laugh at that they're like oh that's some corny shit okay and

00:41:32.560 broke motherfucker you know what i'm saying here's the reality uh personal excellence has to exist it is 0.73

00:41:39.620 an obligation for us because when people observe it they start to become it how could someone become

00:41:46.200 anything that they don't observe and you take this same idea that we talk about culturally especially

00:41:51.900 on cti with you know being fit being intelligent being someone who's financially successful being

00:41:59.500 someone who treats people right being someone who gets engaged in the community being all these things

00:42:04.620 that we talk about when we talk about personal excellence okay and then take that same idea and

00:42:10.100 put it in the leadership inside of your company if you're not operating on that standard and they

00:42:15.800 don't observe what it looks like with their own eyes now what you say what they see they will never

00:42:21.900 become what it is you want them to become so a lot of you leaders out here that you know you say oh i got

00:42:27.040 all these problems my employees suck no bro you fucking suck because if you were the shit they'd all be the 1.00

00:42:33.040 shit most people want to be good they just don't know what the fuck it looks like they can't identify 0.88

00:42:38.220 it because it's so rare this is what this is the same problem we have in our country our country doesn't

00:42:44.440 give a fuck because nobody gives a fuck it's going to take certain people stepping up and saying you 0.75

00:42:49.900 know what i care and if what and i don't care if anybody else cares i don't care if anybody else in

00:42:55.560 my neighborhood gets their ass in shape i don't care if any of my friends give a shit i'm going to be 0.98

00:43:01.100 better it has to start with one person and that one person is always you and when you change the

00:43:06.720 epicenter of your energy which is you your entire environment changes the people around you change

00:43:13.120 they get better their attitude changes and all of a sudden you've got a team of people that are

00:43:18.040 working towards a common thing and if if nothing else you're not surrounded by a bunch of fucking 0.98

00:43:23.120 hack losers okay so like dude you are the epicenter of your environment and when you change your

00:43:29.620 environment changes and that comes down to taking responsibility taking initiative and becoming

00:43:34.920 the example that you want to see in your environment and whether you're leading a company or whether

00:43:39.700 you're just trying to be a good parent a good example or a good dad in your neighborhood the

00:43:43.860 principles are the exact same i fucking love it yeah they're the same i love it i love it man well

00:43:50.040 guys andy that was three yep all right guys appreciate you guys go pay the fee

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - February 12, 2024

648. Q&AF： Spreading The Message Without Social Media, Family And Friends Support & Business Partnership Roles

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - February 12, 2024

648. Q&#x26;AF： Spreading The Message Without Social Media, Family And Friends Support &#x26; Business Partnership Roles

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648. Q&AF： Spreading The Message Without Social Media, Family And Friends Support & Business Partnership Roles