648. Q&AF： Spreading The Message Without Social Media, Family And Friends Support & Business Partnership Roles
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In this episode of the society and culture show, we talk about the NBA Playoffs and the NBA Finals. We also talk about our predictions for the College Football Championship game between the Kansas City Chiefs and the San Francisco 49ers.
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what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
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what's up what's going on it's monday yeah it is uh not when we're recording no it's actually friday
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it's actually friday but it will be monday yeah but we'll pretend it's monday because
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they're listening on monday so chiefs won oh did they yeah really that's my prediction you think
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so i think so i think the chiefs gonna win 27 to 14 really man i don't know what's gonna happen
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i also think travis is gonna propose well i don't know i don't know we'll see if i win i mean we'll
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like if i'm right uh we'll see if i could see him doing that if the chiefs won but i mean dude san
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francisco is no fucking joke bro yeah i mean they're a good team fred warner bro yeah i mean
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do that pretty like they're fucking good it was a unit yeah mccaffrey they're fucking good bro fred
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warner is a fucking unit bro he people don't know he's uh he's been a first form a few different times
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and i came up here on a saturday one time and usually there's nobody here on a saturday but like
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just a few guys that that i know but occasionally there's people i don't know we have a lot of people
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here and um bro i walked in the locker room and fucking the biggest fucking dude i've ever seen
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it looks like zeus just a massive standing in there and he's got a he's wearing his hair in a
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pineapple so it makes him look like he's six nine and i fucking look bro and this dude looks like he's
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just chiseled like a fucking statue dude and i'm just like fuck i'm gonna go over here and hide i'm
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changing the corner like i felt like i was back in high school right freshman year yeah dude
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that is a fucking grown man oh hey listen could you imagine getting fucking hit by that dude i don't
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want to imagine you ever watched him play he's fucking everywhere that's the craziest thing so
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i taught him how to play blackjack right yeah remember at your house nicest fucking guy you can
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ever like just nice bro dudes are fucking like he's awesome amazing dude when he gets on that fucking
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field though bro like animal i don't know that guy no more bro the guy's so physically dominant that
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he's like having a good time out there smile yeah he's laughing having a good time just killing
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motherfuckers i don't know what game it was he laid somebody out like he chased him like hawked him down
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laid him out and the fucking like zoom in on him he's just fucking smiling yeah yeah bro i just
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don't that's a different level of yes i think he's so such a physical fast big dude that like
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it that like this is just a fucking game you know what i'm saying yeah like he's i don't know
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that's an impressive dude yeah i i actually you know it'd be cool to see him win yeah no it'd be
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awesome man i'm tired of seeing the chiefs in there man i'm not but i mean i i wouldn't be is that
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bitter of me no not really they're getting annoying a little bit like i like the chiefs but like the
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off-field stuff is starting to get on my nerves yeah like winners win i'll give you can't deny the
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winning shit like winners win real you know fuck by this time everybody's gonna know what happened
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this conversation is going to be pointless anyway yeah um it's fine but i like i like when they
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like they just didn't they're they didn't gel this year man no you know they were real lucky to be in
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the super bowl and if they win you know fuck that's a great great season for them because it wasn't their
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best but uh yeah we'll see what happens yeah we'll see man i'm not gonna make a call bro because i
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really don't know like i really fucking think i really think it's gonna be a pretty good game
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we'll see see if uh see what vegas homes is the fucking winner bro that's the thing yeah dude
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knows how to win and i think he's gonna end up being one of the greatest players that ever played
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any sport ever so yeah we'll see yeah we'll see about that yep we'll see well uh you already know
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the answer everybody knows already yeah everybody's yeah yeah we're just talking shit
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that's all right yeah let's get into it man i got some good ones for you
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oh you do i do all right pull them out yep guys andy question number one andy i'm 41 years old
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and i've lived through the boom of social media successfully never giving in to the urge to join
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any platform at any time in my 20s it seemed like a burden but given how much we've seen its negative
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impact on society and its terrible effects it has on our younger generations it seems to be a
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blessing in hindsight i was able to be a successful entrepreneur without it doing business locally the
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old school way through hard work and personal relationships i'm now a successful entrepreneur
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with a great company here in st louis my real question is how the hell do you get your message out
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to people these days without it without social media i'd like to run for local office at some point
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in the near future but am normally opposed to these platforms also i'm not a hoe i show your show
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through links uh to friends with co-workers but i feel like that's incredibly inefficient as a man who
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has built a lot not all of his success as being an early adopter of social uh marketing what would you
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do today to spread your messages if you didn't have any of these tools
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well first of all as much as i don't like the tools of technology and as much as i believe
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that they have degraded culture and humanity and i talk about this often
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it's still in my opinion a requirement if you're going to be successful in business i think you can do
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well and do okay without it there's lots of people that do i think here's what i mean you could survive
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without it and you could do okay but there's there's a level that you're going to have a hard time
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reaching because the ability to reach the amount of people that you can on social media with little
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to no cost is unprecedented in human history so it's a huge advantage for business and when i talk
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about technology i have to weigh the i the benefits of you know all the good stuff that is brought into
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my life and brought into the business world and entrepreneurship and the opportunities it's
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created with the amount of damage that is created in you know interpersonal relationships culture humanity
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as a whole and when i weigh those things out it's my opinion that the cost has been more than the
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benefit and that's just my personal opinion from observing all of it now with that being said
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i want to win okay and this is why i tell you guys with ai you know they're going to put companies in a
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position where they're forced to adopt it and even the most hardcore pro-human pro-job person
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they're not going to let their company fail if other companies are kicking their ass and the consumer
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is adopting the technology so all of this comes down to what culture and society is going to decide
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is acceptable what are they going to support you know there was a time in our country where people
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made truly moral buying decisions based upon the ethics of a company and how it represented itself
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and what it stood for and as the culture swings back towards pro-america i believe the culture is going
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to swing back also towards real people being employed real americans having jobs and i think people are
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going to support that more and more and more and i also believe that humans can still do things much
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better than ai in terms of connecting with the customer which is what people are craving in the
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marketplace right now you can almost feel the craving for human interaction because we spend so much time on
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these devices and so much time dealing with technology and automation and ai that people consumers are
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looking for places where they can connect with other people and so i believe that the companies that will
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stick this out and continue to employ people and continue to you know keep jobs and continue to do a
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good job connecting with their community are going to beat any of the technology ai companies when it comes to
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selling consumer goods um or even services so that's my opinion of where we're going um
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but i can tell you this bro like you can't be ignorant to the point where you pretend like this isn't a huge
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advantage this is a huge advantage you're able to reach fucking tens of thousands if not millions of
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people for basically free through good social media platforms and so i would encourage you if you're
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looking to run for office and looking to you're gonna have to have these platforms bro like there's
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no option around it um i mean you could run a campaign against technology and you could get out
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and you could canvas the neighborhoods and you could do all the old school things and i still think those
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will work but i mean dude you're talking about fighting someone who has the ability to reach
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you know thousands of people with the push of a button or actually going door to door and hoping
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that you can make up that traction through work and i think you can but i think it's going to be hard
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and i think the best solution for someone like you would be to find some sort of middle ground where
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you're using a little bit of technology if not if for nothing else you're letting people know where
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you're going to be and what you're doing for announcements you know what i'm saying you don't
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have to live on there um but dude as far as what to do you know fuck bro people want to get together
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with people it's a it's a it's in our dna we want to be together with people so you're you know things
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like going door to door i think things like product uh direct mail mailers are highly underrated um i think
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things like you know holding town hall meetings i think things like doing things anything
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community events runs rucks workouts uh barbecues fish fries these things people like to do and so
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if you can build an in-person community around doing whatever it is you're into i think you can do very
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well yeah but i think you're going to leave a lot on the table if you just completely ignore the
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technology aspect of it yeah and i think that's maybe what confuses a lot of people is like so you
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because yes like technology is great but you're not saying put the whole business on technology
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or put the whole business up to social media there is still a very real well i think we have a problem
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dude i think we have a lot of entrepreneurs and people in general see i grew up in an my first 10
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years of business were basically in-person business okay it was retail in-person business the things i had to
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do were like guerrilla marketing tactics like i had to go door to door i had to go to actual events
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and network i had to meet people in person i had to do things like flyer parking lots and put signs in
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bathrooms and fucking bro like i'm talking about the cheapest shit possible to get the word out you
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know we're talking like dude i spent years walking all over springfield missouri giving out fucking free
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samples and uh you know little coupons or t-shirts that we had or a shaker cup for years okay to get
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the word out because we had to there wasn't social media you could there wasn't even an option so we
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couldn't afford radio television and newspaper because we were so small so what what would you do
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if you couldn't afford radio television newspaper and there was no social media what would you do
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that's the answer of how you get people so you need to start looking what would you do in those
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situations and i'm lucky enough to have built a business foundation in that era and then also
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come along with technology and then flip those techniques into what you know as we know social
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media and the way things are now so a lot of people when they do business bro they're either one or the
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other they're either like this guy who's completely old school no no social media presence or they're
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like some of these 20 year old kids that know all the hacks but they don't know how to talk to
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anybody and they don't know how to actually connect with anybody and they don't know anything so like
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dude a good place to be is to blend the two blend the old school in person the ability to connect
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the ability to care the ability to service a customer and make them understand that you actually
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give a fuck about them with the tools of technology and the ability to reach people at scale and when
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you blend those two you end up with a very unique business that most people can't do because they lack
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the experience of what it was like to do business before social media and technology and i personally
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think that one of the biggest reasons that i've been successful up until this point in time has been
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because i know both sides of the fucking coin very well if you put me in an environment if the internet
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crumbled today and we had to go back to doing business the old way i would beat everybody's fucking ass
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because i've already done it and i know those skills and then you know we translate those skills into
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technology and that's what we do with our company so i think the answer here dude is you gotta
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understand this isn't always just a cultural hot point to stand on or a point of principle to stand
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on there's uses for these tools okay and if we ignore the usefulness of certain tools we're going
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to be at a disadvantage so we have to acknowledge where these things bring value and but we also have
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to keep our principles in mind of what we stand for so for you if you're a 41 year old man and you're
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sort of you believe in old school and you believe in connecting with people that doesn't mean you
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can't use technology but why don't you use technology to connect with people you see what i'm saying to
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show them how you can yes so like dude there's this polarization of thought where it's total anti-tech
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or total all the way tech neither one of those people actually win it's the people who know how to
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blend the two how do you connect with people how do you make people understand that you care how do
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you serve them how do you serve them in a way where they say holy shit i love doing business with these
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guys how do you do that and then how do you use technology to aggregate more customers into that
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that is the way you should be thinking about whatever it is you're doing whether it be running for political
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office whether it be running a business whether it be starting a charity or whatever it is you're
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trying to do people are people and they're always going to be people they're always going to want to
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connect with people they're always going to feel that they're going to feel like they're cared about
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they're going to spend money with companies that care about them all right but if we just ignore
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the technology that's available we're going to have a hard time filling the funnel of available
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customers because guess what that's where most people are so we have to learn to blend those two
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together and that would be my advice to you i love it i love it guys any question number two
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uh andy i have friends that know that i do music they seem to give me positive feedback and
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encouragement behind closed doors when it's just me and them but whenever i publish a song they fail
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to support they don't share my content or comment or like my stuff now i know this is a sense of
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entitlement because i hear your content and you discuss the irrelevance of family and friends
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supporting you yeah however this is a unique situation for myself is when they speak to me to
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my face or in private i get the encouragement but when i post my songs or content they see the stuff
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but fail every single time to share it my question is am i being entitled or selfish or should they
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support the way they say behind closed doors this feels annoying because when they do their content
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i always support their stuff help i appreciate all of your advice uh and so if i am being entitled i'll
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understand thanks andy all right so there's a couple things that could be going on here and none of
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them you're gonna like all right uh i got this little coin over here it says mercy or no mercy
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all right uh just put it on the wrist it says mercy all right all right so i'll be nice i'll be nice
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about it but here's because i could very easily be not nice but i'll be nice about this all right
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most of us think we're better than we are all right most of us think our art is better most of us
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think we're better at business most of us think we're better in shape most of us when we're creating
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something we think we're better than we are and when our family and friends see us doing these
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things because they care about us they will encourage us but here's the thing bro people will
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not the people closest to you will not support you until other people are supporting you i don't know
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why it's that way but it's that way when i was in business coming up bro nobody really ever
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fucking i mean yes my brother my dad close people to me they supported but but like people that i was
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very good to people that i was friends with people they they would giggle they would laugh they wouldn't
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support us publicly they kind of snickered and it wasn't until it was very clear that i was going to
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do something that then those people came around all right so let's let's break this down to what this
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could be okay first of all you could not be good enough your shit might not be good enough your
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shit might just need more work in order for people to like it and that's a very real option for you to
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consider because our friends and family will tell us we're doing great whenever we're really not that
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good right we're over here painting a picture like holy shit dude that looks like bob ross picasso i like
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yeah and it fucking doesn't right you put that shit out and people laugh yeah so we can't take our
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friends and family's encouragement to heart because it's not real they're biased all right so
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that's one thing you need you you you may need to get better i bet you do okay because we all need
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to get better and that's no offense to you secondly you're battling human nature all right nobody wants
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to be the first person to say that's cool shit and very few people can do that all right so most people
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wait until something is very obviously going to be successful or very obviously going to be cool
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to jump on the bandwagon this is why your friends your family the people closest to you
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will not start to encourage you until they see strangers encouraging you which is counterintuitive
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and it makes us scratch our heads like shit why is it this way it's just that way these people are
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reminded every single day that they're not doing anything relevant they're not trying anything
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relevant they're not even attempting to be anything more than what they are and because you are they
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will pretend to support it but they won't support it in public all right but once you get to a point
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where you're kicking ass and everybody's starting to think you're awesome then all of a sudden bro it
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goes from them not supporting and they start showing up at your shit they show up at your shop they show
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up they buy your products and they start saying this shit man i always believed in you i'm so proud of
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you and you're thinking like if you always believed in me how come you never shared my shit back in the
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day how come you never helped me out how come you never had a conversation with me how come you never
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gave me any good advice why did you laugh at me why did you make fun of me why did you make those
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smart ass remarks if you always believed in me because bro that's what happens these people
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fucking come around and they only come around once you're so obviously going to do it and by that
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point you won't care that they're there that's the thing so we we greatly overemphasize the effects
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of other people's belief on us falsely thinking that we need their belief to be successful the
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people closest to you will never actually believe in you until you are very clearly going to win
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and then they will come back around and support you and some of them never will so it's actually
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irrelevant so the point here is you've got two things going on one your shit's probably not good
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enough yet all right so you need to keep getting better and two you're dealing with human nature
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people aren't going to support you until it's very obvious that you're going to win
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are you being entitled yes okay you can't expect people to push you out you've got to make it happen
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on your own you can't depend on anybody here's the reality of people in your life just so we're clear
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most people do not give a fuck about you okay you're going to realize this one way or the other along
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the way in life most people most people you know right now in your life do not give a flying
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fuck about you they might be your friend they might be cool to hang out with they might be cool
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to go to dinner with you might go on vacation with them even at the end of the day that your life
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falls apart those motherfuckers are not going to fucking be there they are not going to be there for
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you all right you might have two or three people in your life if you're lucky that you can count
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on if shit goes wrong okay and most of us spend our entire lives making decisions around what
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these people who do not give a fuck about us actually think about what it is we're doing
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so reconcile that in your brain we live our entire lives surrounded by people that don't give a shit
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about us and we make our decisions based upon what we're going to do what we're going to create and who
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we're going to become on the opinions of people that probably won't be in our life in five to ten years
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so we we get scared they're going to make fun of us we get scared they're going to laugh
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we get scared they're going to criticize and so we do nothing we just hang out with them and do the
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same shit and then we waste all this time and all this opportunity and leave all this potential on
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the table for people's opinions that aren't even relevant to us and if your life were to take a shit
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they wouldn't be there to help you so you've got to stop making decisions and i'm talking to this man
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right here you've got to stop making decisions based upon the opinions of your friends and family
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and you have to start making decisions based upon what's going to be right for you
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not just today but in 10 and 20 years from now all right so they're not going to support you until
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everybody else supports you it doesn't make sense but that's the way it is you need to get better
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and you need to get better so that people outside of that network encourage you and say fuck yeah this
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is this is cool shit and then your people will come in and join that's how it actually works
00:24:46.700
all right so keep that in mind you're not facing anything that anybody else doesn't face that's
00:24:52.780
trying to do anything i don't know why that is you would think that your friends and your family and
00:24:57.100
your your people they would all cheer you on the whole way they don't they fucking don't and the
00:25:02.200
reason they don't in my opinion is because you're an example of going when they are afraid to go you're
00:25:08.580
an example of chasing a dream when they are afraid to even dream you're an example of execution when
00:25:14.140
they are afraid to get off the fucking bench and so they don't want you to actually succeed yes they
00:25:20.120
will tell you to your face you're great you're talented you're skilled you're amazing but when
00:25:24.900
it comes time to show up and buy your shit they won't be there bro because they're actually afraid
00:25:30.240
that you're going to make it because if you make it it shows them that they could have made it too and
00:25:33.820
they've got to live with that regret so that's what you're fucking dealing with bro so stop worrying
00:25:39.020
about what it is people think about you stop making decisions based around what your friends and
00:25:43.700
family think you should or shouldn't do and start making decisions about becoming an awesome artist
00:25:48.200
or an awesome musician or an awesome ceo or an awesome entrepreneur or whatever the fuck it is
00:25:53.600
you do and dedicate yourself to that get better keep going eventually people from the outside will
00:25:59.660
care and then you'll see how fake the people around you actually are and when you see how fake they
00:26:05.760
are because they come in and they start saying oh yeah andy i'm so proud of you when you were making
00:26:09.840
fun of me for 15 fucking years you're gonna give a shit bro i yes i'm respectful yes i'm nice hey
00:26:17.060
thank you very much but dude when i walk away i'm like yeah where the fuck were you when i was fucking
00:26:21.960
dying because you know yes i remember everybody remembers because it's traumatic yeah it's a
00:26:27.320
traumatic thing for your friends and family to fucking think you're a piece of shit and to think
00:26:32.260
you're a failure and to think you're a fuck up when you're struggling your ass off to try to build
00:26:36.460
shit bro that's a traumatic thing you're like fuck nobody's here for me and it's a very real lesson
00:26:42.300
in life because guess what nobody is here for you and that's the biggest mistake a lot of you guys make
00:26:47.800
is assuming that they are there's nobody here for you you have to put this on your back and carry it
00:26:52.700
and if you don't you will not get there that's the bottom line i fucking love this man i want to i want
00:26:58.060
to i want to follow up on this because you know you you talk about tapping in to to the dark side
00:27:03.640
using negative energy right as fuel it's the best kind of fuel is this like should this be the
00:27:10.580
movement right now yes you should be like fuck these people okay they don't believe in me yeah
00:27:15.780
and you know what and then take all that energy and go do your art and get fucking better and better
00:27:20.020
and better and better and better bro my listen bro i am the kind of person that if you doubt me
00:27:25.680
if you question me if you fucking challenge me i will fucking rip your fucking throat out eventually
00:27:31.640
trust me it might not be tomorrow it might not be in two weeks you might not ever see it coming
00:27:37.580
but eventually i will win all right and that's the attitude that you have to have when someone
00:27:42.880
steps on your toes you have to fucking stomp on theirs with your results and you do that through
00:27:48.140
taking their negative energy their negative words their disbelief putting them inside you and then
00:27:54.060
every single time you don't feel like doing what it is you're supposed to do you think about that
00:27:58.480
shit and you get up and go do it that's how you utilize the negative energy and if you don't
00:28:03.240
learn to operate on that system because we have all these hippy dippy dumb fucks around all right
00:28:09.020
telling everybody it's all peace and harmony and fucking inner peace and all this bullshit and
00:28:14.980
they're sitting around with bulls and doing all this stupid ass shit and notice that none of those
00:28:19.460
people ever get better none of those people ever become really anything they're just always sitting in
00:28:24.580
this fucking perpetual state of paralyzation because they think that it's all about inner peace
00:28:29.300
no it's not all about inner peace if you want to achieve things because you're going to get good
00:28:34.000
inputs belief support encouragement and you're going to get bad inputs negativity frustration disbelief
00:28:41.420
disrespect and if you don't know how to use both types of that energy to move forward you you're running
00:28:47.140
at 50 capacity because there's tons of people out there that know how to use both every single
00:28:52.520
fucking great champion that you've ever watched michael jordan tom brady fucking any of them they
00:28:58.280
i guarantee you bro they take every single bit of disbelief that anybody's ever had in them and they
00:29:04.300
use it as fuel do you think tom brady would have won seven fucking super bowls if he was drafted first
00:29:09.920
in the first round not a fucking chance bro that put a massive chip on your shoulder and you guys
00:29:15.900
who fucking have this like you have this situation this person's talking about where people don't
00:29:21.200
believe in them okay that's a blessing because it's going to provide you with unlimited amounts
00:29:28.260
of fucking negative energy dark side energy that you can use to move forward it's a blessing for
00:29:33.640
people to doubt you it's a blessing for people not to believe in you it's a blessing for people to
00:29:38.420
disrespect you if you know how to use it as fuel if you sit around and read the fucking internet and
00:29:45.180
think you're mr fucking sunshine with your fucking zuzu bowls or whatever the fuck these things are
00:29:50.060
called you're gonna lose bro because this game is real this is a real game there's competition
00:29:56.020
there are people who take it very seriously who do everything they can to win and if you think
00:30:00.520
you're gonna only operate on good vibes you're gonna get fucking crushed
00:30:03.940
fuck me it's the fucking truth i think we should take it take a moment too to acknowledge our word of
00:30:12.000
the day i think i think it was hippy dippy dumb fucks zuzu bowls and zuzu bowls that's fucking
00:30:17.060
great that's great man bro i can't stand it everybody look dude they're always healing they
00:30:21.860
grow heal what the fuck are you gonna be healed and go do something holy shit bro i'm all about
00:30:29.800
taking care of your mental health it's very important it's important but the solutions that
00:30:33.220
are provided by the internet are fucking wrong no you have the reason you feel like shit is because
00:30:38.380
you're not proud of yourself you have to be proud of yourself bro and to be proud of yourself you have
00:30:42.300
to accomplish things and that starts with little bitty things that could start with making your bed
00:30:46.500
brushing your teeth eating the right food getting some workout in getting out in the sunshine and
00:30:51.640
moving around these are little wins that start making you believe in yourself over the course of
00:30:56.320
time and if you don't want to fucking feel like shit bro start doing something that you're proud of
00:31:00.900
yourself for doing it's very simple dude you're not going to sit there and fucking zen your way into
00:31:06.640
success dude i'm sorry it's just not gonna unless you're one of the fucking leaders of it
00:31:10.240
you know what i'm saying drink my fucking kool-aid you know like for real bro speaking of drinking
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fuck dude it's just dude i'm sorry man and i know some people are into this shit but like
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be careful because that shit will suck you in and it will paralyze you and you won't do shit
00:31:32.160
it's real shit man it's real guys let's get to our third and final question question number three
00:31:40.400
guys andy question number three uh andy i have a business partner and i started my company uh with
00:31:53.660
him six years ago i wanted to ask after 25 years in business what sort of key roles do you and chris
00:32:00.580
play in business now like do you revisit your roles and audit them every so often or did it
00:32:05.820
just stay the same throughout the partnership well in the beginning we just kind of both did
00:32:12.580
everything um we both we didn't have roles and that was probably the first seven or eight years
00:32:19.440
wow yeah and dude just do what listen man we didn't know what we were doing you gotta understand
00:32:24.560
the reason i'm qualified to talk about this shit is because i started at the literal fucking bottom
00:32:32.280
bro okay and we've built some amazing shit okay out of we didn't get ever get an inheritance there was
00:32:39.600
never a private equity deal nobody ever came and fast-tracked our success i never sold part of my
00:32:45.840
company to fucking pepsi or fucking uh blood light or any of these fucking coca-cola yeah i never did
00:32:52.440
that like this is all we own everything here right this is all built off of that first day in business
00:32:58.380
and it's accumulated and i've done it the hard way and that's what makes me qualified to talk about
00:33:02.640
this shit so like when you hear stories like yeah we just kind of did what the fuck we did in the
00:33:07.140
beginning that's because bro we didn't know any better yeah we knew we we knew less than what
00:33:12.120
probably most of the people listening know all right so we just kind of both did whatever we
00:33:17.520
had to do and then um eventually we had to have a conversation where you know when social media
00:33:24.480
started coming around somebody had to become the face and somebody had to do the back side
00:33:29.240
and right around that time was when sal joined in with us and uh we started first form so that's when
00:33:36.080
the roles got a little bit more defined um sal at that time was doing the sales i was running the
00:33:43.740
company and being the face and chris was running the back end and um and that went for uh both s2 and
00:33:50.560
first form and then uh you know as we've grown in scale we have executive teams and we have people
00:33:56.460
that help out and do certain roles and run departments and you know now um sal's the ceo at first
00:34:03.620
form uh i'm chairman of the board uh chris still runs a lot of the back end stuff uh and then he
00:34:10.840
has another business that he runs as well uh in the cannabis space right so you know our roles our
00:34:16.300
roles have been more clearly defined but it's still whatever the fuck needs to be done i mean dude sal
00:34:23.460
and i were sweeping the floor in the warehouse two nights ago yeah you know what i'm saying so whatever
00:34:27.200
it's our attitude here is we're all on the same team this is all we got we don't have any other
00:34:33.020
options and we got to do what we got to do and that's how that's how it always is no matter what
00:34:37.940
the title is no matter what the responsibilities are i could be working on something i could say
00:34:42.600
hey sal i need your help he's going to come out here and help me he could be working on something
00:34:46.300
vice versa i'm going to help him same with chris and really dude honestly that's kind of the same
00:34:51.100
of how we work here with all levels like the guys over here in media or in our graphic design
00:34:57.020
department they i could be walking by and they could say hey andy will you look at this and
00:35:00.600
we all collaborate and work together like this is not this our environment here is not corporate
00:35:07.560
like what most people are used to that's not my role so i'm not yeah it's not like that it's a
00:35:12.640
collaborative effort wherever the effort is needed you know what i'm saying and i think that's built
00:35:18.200
from our culture and that's built from um leadership with limited ego okay you have to have some ego
00:35:25.400
people say oh you got to eliminate the ego if you eliminate the ego bro you're gonna be a bitch
00:35:29.560
okay you have to have some ego you've got to believe in yourself a little bit you got to know
00:35:33.700
that you're a bad motherfucker to even play in the fucking game you can't run out of the tunnel at the
00:35:38.300
fucking national championship football game thinking you're a humble little pussy you're gonna get your
00:35:42.700
fucking ass beat okay so we got to have a little bit of ego but we got to have enough humility to
00:35:48.240
balance that out to where we know when we need help we know what we don't know we're very aware where
00:35:53.840
we're strong we're aware where we're weak and so you want to have a balance like that and i think that
00:35:58.440
collaborative culture exists through all of our uh employees here at the company you know
00:36:04.840
yeah uh at the companies i think when people need help they ask when we can offer help we offer it and
00:36:11.960
we all work together and i don't think there's a the titles here i think mean a lot less than what
00:36:18.060
they would mean at a normal company anywhere else yeah i would agree with that i would agree with that
00:36:21.340
let me ask you this yeah would you in the early days or i mean even now has there ever been a
00:36:26.580
point in time where it's like okay a role or responsibility a job has come up and nobody wants
00:36:32.400
to do it how does it get done like it's not your forte it's not sal's it's not chris's like how does
00:36:37.820
that work we figure it out yeah somebody jumps in and says i'll handle it and they handle it
00:36:41.700
maybe that's me maybe that's sal maybe that's somebody else maybe that's one of you guys yeah i
00:36:47.560
mean just like how we operate here on the podcast team there's lots of stuff we don't know
00:36:51.620
and what do we do figure it out figure it the fuck out yeah and uh you know we got lots of
00:36:58.220
people who want to win i think when you have people who are aligned where they want to create
00:37:02.300
a certain end result um it's not too hard to get people to contribute and taking initiative is one of
00:37:08.880
our core values in our culture and taking responsibility is also another one and those
00:37:13.860
are like if there's a problem i gotta take responsibility for that and take the initiative
00:37:17.000
to correct it if we don't know how to do something we got to learn how to do something
00:37:20.420
and i think a lot of people hold them back because they cap off what they know they say well that's
00:37:25.860
not my expertise or that's not what i'm good at and really that's just them saying i don't want to do
00:37:30.380
that i don't i don't want to do that because we all have the capacity to learn like if you have
00:37:34.880
employees and they answer you with well that's not really what i'm good at or that's not my
00:37:39.520
expertise you got the wrong employees bro because the right to college for this that's right the
00:37:44.900
right employee the right leader the right ceo is going to say you know what i'll fucking figure
00:37:49.880
it out that and if you want to know how to create value you know we got a lot of entrepreneurs here
00:37:54.340
that listen to the show you want to know how to create massive value dude be the kind of person
00:37:59.380
that can fucking take responsibility and figure it the fuck out and see it through to solution
00:38:03.400
without having to be directed if you can take the initiative and take the take the initiative to
00:38:08.800
solve the problem take the responsibility to make the problem yours own it find the solution and see
00:38:13.860
it through to the end bro you become an invaluable asset to any company you work for and if your
00:38:19.220
company doesn't value that like if you have if you do that and your company doesn't value that
00:38:23.340
um there's lots of companies will pay big money for that we're one of them by the way
00:38:26.560
you know one of the things that you have to be able to do bro if you want to be successful as
00:38:31.600
an entrepreneur is you got to know basically three skills you got to know how to lead manage you
00:38:37.240
got to know how to sell and you got to know how to own problems and find the solutions and do it
00:38:41.940
without direction if you can do those three things inside of a company your payroll can really
00:38:47.340
almost be whatever whatever it has to be because that's an it's a fucking impossible skill to find
00:38:52.720
in the workforce it's impossible most people won't do any of those three things and they want the big
00:38:58.040
check most people can't manage most people can't lead they can't sell and most people won't take on
00:39:03.820
problems because they're lazy and they just want to collect a fucking check and those three kinds of
00:39:07.900
people need to get the fuck out of your organization if you want your organization to win
00:39:10.840
yeah and then ask you for a raise on the back end of course yeah listen man this is this is part of
00:39:16.720
the woke culture corporate environment that exists today people believe not here are my companies thank
00:39:23.160
god i fucking love coming here bro because i work with like the baddest motherfuckers on the planet
00:39:27.760
bro not only are these people good what they do they're also great athletes and they're tough as
00:39:32.680
fuck they're out here running 100 miles and all this crazy shit all the time just because yeah dude
00:39:37.560
they're just badass motherfuckers so like when i talk about this i am definitely not talking about
00:39:42.600
our organizations at all but what i will say is there's a lot of organizations where people just
00:39:47.400
don't give a shit and a lot of you guys work at them you know what it's like you show up there
00:39:51.680
people are there for a check they're there for a uh to do do time and then they go home at the end of
00:39:57.100
day think of how unfulfilling that existence must be think of how disgusting you must feel about
00:40:02.920
yourself to go to a work place contribute nothing do nothing expect a check and then expect more money
00:40:10.720
for just skating it out yeah and dude you wonder why you're depressed and you wonder why you don't
00:40:16.040
feel fulfilled it's not the fucking job it's you you're not applying yourself you're not trying to
00:40:22.200
create you're not trying to contribute you're leaving all your potential untapped on the table
00:40:27.220
dude if you just took some initiative and took some responsibility and learned some fucking skills
00:40:32.140
like managing people and selling some shit bro your paycheck could quadruple with the right company
00:40:38.280
and that shit is not that hard to learn i mean dude you become proficient in those things in two
00:40:42.460
three four years you know in the two three four years in a lifetime that's a very you know what i'm
00:40:47.500
saying it's not much time yeah so you know the reality is is look man most business cultures are
00:40:54.600
fucking terrible because the leadership is terrible they show up at fucking 11 they go home at fucking
00:40:59.700
three they show up tuesday through thursday and then they expect their organization to run awesome
00:41:05.480
that's not how it works man it's never going to work that way you're going to have to be if you're
00:41:10.160
going to if you're leading an organization or you're leading a department or you're leading a team
00:41:13.560
you're going to have to be the living breathing example for what the fuck you want your people to
00:41:18.680
be that's what you have to be otherwise they'll never become it because they can't even see what
00:41:23.340
it looks like this is what i'm talking about too when i talk about personal excellence being the
00:41:28.180
ultimate rebellion a lot of people laugh at that they're like oh that's some corny shit okay and
00:41:32.560
broke motherfucker you know what i'm saying here's the reality uh personal excellence has to exist it is
00:41:39.620
an obligation for us because when people observe it they start to become it how could someone become
00:41:46.200
anything that they don't observe and you take this same idea that we talk about culturally especially
00:41:51.900
on cti with you know being fit being intelligent being someone who's financially successful being
00:41:59.500
someone who treats people right being someone who gets engaged in the community being all these things
00:42:04.620
that we talk about when we talk about personal excellence okay and then take that same idea and
00:42:10.100
put it in the leadership inside of your company if you're not operating on that standard and they
00:42:15.800
don't observe what it looks like with their own eyes now what you say what they see they will never
00:42:21.900
become what it is you want them to become so a lot of you leaders out here that you know you say oh i got
00:42:27.040
all these problems my employees suck no bro you fucking suck because if you were the shit they'd all be the
00:42:33.040
shit most people want to be good they just don't know what the fuck it looks like they can't identify
00:42:38.220
it because it's so rare this is what this is the same problem we have in our country our country doesn't
00:42:44.440
give a fuck because nobody gives a fuck it's going to take certain people stepping up and saying you
00:42:49.900
know what i care and if what and i don't care if anybody else cares i don't care if anybody else in
00:42:55.560
my neighborhood gets their ass in shape i don't care if any of my friends give a shit i'm going to be
00:43:01.100
better it has to start with one person and that one person is always you and when you change the
00:43:06.720
epicenter of your energy which is you your entire environment changes the people around you change
00:43:13.120
they get better their attitude changes and all of a sudden you've got a team of people that are
00:43:18.040
working towards a common thing and if if nothing else you're not surrounded by a bunch of fucking
00:43:23.120
hack losers okay so like dude you are the epicenter of your environment and when you change your
00:43:29.620
environment changes and that comes down to taking responsibility taking initiative and becoming
00:43:34.920
the example that you want to see in your environment and whether you're leading a company or whether
00:43:39.700
you're just trying to be a good parent a good example or a good dad in your neighborhood the
00:43:43.860
principles are the exact same i fucking love it yeah they're the same i love it i love it man well
00:43:50.040
guys andy that was three yep all right guys appreciate you guys go pay the fee
00:43:55.560
went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stove counted millions in the
00:44:03.560
cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case close