REAL AF with Andy Frisella - April 29, 2024


696. Q&AF： Preparing For Opportunities, Handling Stress & Company Standards

Hosted by
Andy Frisella
695. #75HARD vs Jeffrey Jensen 697. Andy & DJ CTI： U.S. And Ukraine Security Agreement, AstraZeneca Admits COVID Vaccine Side Effect & Biden Jokes About Trump

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In this episode of the Realist, we talk about the importance of a good penmanship and how important it is to have a pen and not just to write a letter, but to actually mail it in. We also talk about how to improve your writing skills and how you can improve your handwriting so you can be a better writer.

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00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realist say goodbye to the lies the 0.99
00:00:21.400 fitness and delusions the modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys 0.94
00:00:26.500 we have shows within the show okay if you're a first timer i like to give down the breakdown
00:00:33.620 of what we're going to do now today we have q and af that's where you submit the questions and we
00:00:39.940 give you the answers you can submit your questions a few different ways the first way is guys you can
00:00:44.940 hand write those letters in and mail them in to no just playing you don't even know how to address a 0.91
00:00:50.140 fucking envelope i know how to address an envelope all right well tell them how to do it you said 0.99
00:00:53.700 envelope or envelope i said tell them the shit email it in to ask andy at andy for selling.com 1.00
00:01:00.080 all right or you can go on the youtube episodes of q and af you can drop your question the comments 0.98
00:01:05.540 we'll pick some from there as well now the questions could be about anything but usually
00:01:09.380 they're about personal development business how to win an entrepreneurship how to kick ass in life
00:01:14.160 we are at the core a business success entrepreneurship show now you might be wondering then why do we
00:01:22.840 have shows within the show well here's why uh we have cti that stands for cruise the internet we put up
00:01:29.520 on the screen what's going on in the world we talk about what's true what's not true we speculate on it
00:01:34.680 and then we talk about what we need to do as people to solve these problems going on in the world so
00:01:39.680 we talk about success how to kick ass and then we talk about what the problem is and then we can go 0.74
00:01:45.680 kick ass and then we can solve the problems that's what we do here so uh we have q and af today we're 0.94
00:01:51.680 gonna have cti tomorrow we're gonna have real talk sometimes real talk is just five to 20 minutes and 0.98
00:01:57.140 me giving you some real talk and then we have 75 hard verses 75 hard verses is where a person comes in
00:02:02.920 who has used the 75 hard program to drastically improve their lives they talk about how they were before
00:02:08.560 how they are now um and how you could do the same uh if you're unfamiliar with 75 hard is the initial
00:02:15.180 phase of the live hard program which is the world's most popular mental toughness mental transformation
00:02:19.980 program you can get it for free at episode 208 on the audio feed only it is a free program now there
00:02:26.940 is a book you can buy that called the book on mental toughness which is uh almost always out of stock
00:02:31.700 because it's fucking awesome uh but it's not required but it does go through the live hard program 0.84
00:02:37.240 nuts to bolts top to bottom and it does have 10 extra chapters uh about mental toughness why it's 0.92
00:02:43.100 important why you need to implement how to use it to build success in your life uh and that's on the
00:02:47.780 website andyprosella.com now something we do different here that than most shows is we don't 0.96
00:02:52.540 do ads you're going to notice that i'm not going to talk for 30 minutes about what the fuck you should 0.94
00:02:56.440 buy that i don't even use myself all right and the reason i don't do ads is because i don't want to be
00:03:02.400 told what i can and can't say we the show's called real af i want to keep it real af i want my opinions
00:03:07.280 to be my own dj what feels the same way so we just ask and return um that you pay the fee the fee is
00:03:13.580 very simple support the companies you guys know uh i'm the owner of first form and some other companies
00:03:20.040 uh but just you know give us a shot to earn your business i think we'll win it and uh and then share
00:03:25.580 the show okay um we we constantly battle censorship uh shadow bans traffic bans getting episodes
00:03:35.200 removed we just had an episode pulled down about a week ago um and so we need you to share the show
00:03:41.260 so if the message is good please help us get the word out that's what we mean we say pay the fee so uh
00:03:46.140 you know if it makes you think it makes you laugh it gives you good information tactical information
00:03:49.980 if it brings a new perspective please share the show all right don't be a hoe share the show 1.00
00:03:55.100 all right what's up dude yeah when's the last have you ever when's the last time you actually 0.99
00:03:59.280 wrote a handwritten letter and mailed it off me um i don't even think they teach that shit in schools 0.92
00:04:04.820 anymore i still do sometimes i still write handwritten cards and send them i mean people send me a lot of 0.96
00:04:12.800 shit yeah and uh i can't get to all of it because it i do i get a lot of fan mail bro and uh so much 0.50
00:04:19.780 so we fill up a pallet in the back um for just that kind of stuff so if you sent me something 0.90
00:04:25.320 it's not that i probably didn't get it it's just it's i don't have the time to get back to it but
00:04:30.060 there's still there's things that that people send me that are very very special um that i try to sit
00:04:36.080 down and write that out but you know that's about the amount of writing i do plus my handwriting is so 0.99
00:04:40.660 fucking poor is it bad bro i write like a doctor yeah you can't read my shit damn like if i wrote you 0.99
00:04:46.220 a card you know i wrote it because you can't read it that's real talk and then it just has my 1.00
00:04:50.280 signature on it i wouldn't be able to read the thing is i just make a bunch of lines yeah and
00:04:54.060 then write write my name okay i just send it to him yeah i wouldn't be able to read it anyway why
00:04:59.340 are you trying to make some sort of terrible joke 0.91
00:05:03.180 swing and a miss yeah well we know you can't read we hear you try to fucking talk about cti all the time 0.96
00:05:10.820 bro yeah man hey listen it is what it is but it is monday and uh so let's uh let's start this 0.82
00:05:18.580 week by making people better that's that's the only way to start the week that's what i'm saying
00:05:22.820 we start the week by getting fucking better get better get beat that's right yeah let's do it let's 0.89
00:05:27.820 do it all right you ready yeah i'm ready all right give me give me the juice guys andy question number 0.92
00:05:35.740 what andy i recently read this quote uh from richard branson that says quote if someone offers
00:05:44.480 you an amazing opportunity and you're not sure you can do it say yes then learn how to do it later
00:05:50.420 this hit me a little differently at 32 years old i look back and realize i've missed out on a lot of
00:05:58.600 opportunities that could have been big how does someone realign themselves to just go i am tired of
00:06:05.700 the complacency but whenever i see opportunities present themselves i always tell myself that i'm
00:06:10.800 not prepared or not good enough your thoughts would mean a lot all right well look this is the major
00:06:16.700 reason why most people never get anything in life they think they got to know everything before they
00:06:21.140 go when in reality you have to go to know everything all right you got it backwards and this is for all
00:06:26.140 of you you all think that there's going to be a lesson or a course or a speaker or a school degree
00:06:33.380 or something that qualifies you to go we think there's going to be an approval process or sometime
00:06:40.880 the more successful people that we know are going to come down and they're going to say hey dj all right
00:06:46.160 you know i think you're ready now yeah okay
00:06:48.200 when that doesn't happen what happens is we just assume that we're not qualified so
00:06:56.220 when we assume we're not qualified that paralyzes us and we don't go and it's because you misunderstand
00:07:03.920 the game the only way to learn things in a real way is through experience okay and everything that
00:07:11.700 i share with you guys almost all of it came from my experience now did i learn some things from some
00:07:18.100 books absolutely but most of the shit that i talked to you about and the reason i could talk to you about 0.77
00:07:23.860 it with such certainty is because i have done those things and i've experienced those things
00:07:30.400 and so that builds the confidence in my ability to say yes to opportunities and because you guys
00:07:37.900 will wait and wait and wait and wait and wait and never go you never feel like you can go which
00:07:44.420 begets this cycle of learn more do nothing i'm not qualified learn more do nothing i'm not qualified
00:07:52.200 learn more do nothing i'm not qualified and because that becomes the cycle where is the room for you
00:07:58.700 to go do and we have to lose this fear we have to lose this reservation that someone's going to approve
00:08:06.060 us or some success fairy is going to fly down from the heavens and say you're ready that doesn't happen
00:08:12.060 it never comes along you have to say i'm ready and you have to say i'm going to make this happen no
00:08:19.340 matter what opportunities are not given they are taken and when you miss out on an opportunity you
00:08:26.840 didn't miss out on an opportunity because you didn't take it you missed out on an opportunity
00:08:32.060 because someone else took it from you okay so if you don't become the person who takes the
00:08:37.660 opportunities you will always have them taken from you by people who are willing to take initiative
00:08:43.340 who are willing to go and learn along the way the number one asset that a successful person has
00:08:50.380 is what we're talking about here they are very comfortable going into areas where they may not
00:08:56.460 be an expert understanding that we can learn what we need to learn and get it done we can make phone
00:09:02.300 calls we can do the work we will make sure it gets done and that's an attitude that all successful
00:09:08.460 people have successful people are the opposite of what most people are most people like i said
00:09:15.580 they believe they got to know everything before they go successful people understand that they will
00:09:21.900 learn along the way and so you have to realign your mindset and richard branson is correct he's 100
00:09:28.060 correct it's not even a little bit correct you have to be willing to step outside into an area you might
00:09:34.080 not be an expert at take the initiative to start learning what it takes to be an expert at that
00:09:40.080 and then eventually you will make enough mistakes you will do enough uh good things that it kind of
00:09:46.480 gives you an idea of what it's going to actually take and you will become an expert over a course of time
00:09:50.960 you'll never become an expert you'll never become a higher earner you'll never become one of these people
00:09:55.680 that kicks ass by waiting to learn more information now do you have to have a base of information 0.87
00:10:02.000 sure do you have to have a basic idea sure do you have to know a little bit sure but 0.90
00:10:09.200 it's way less than what you think it is to go out and become an expert every person that's ever been
00:10:14.320 great at what they do i'm sitting in front of a bunch of creative people here on the team madot
00:10:19.040 keith like did you become an awesome videographer because you took so many courses or did you just go
00:10:25.040 make and you figured out along the way when you make your art did you just did you go to 15 000 0.92
00:10:31.040 courses to make your art or did you just start fucking around and figure it to out 0.96
00:10:35.760 fucking around and figure it out that's right and that's every musician that's every athlete 0.98
00:10:40.400 that's every successful business person that's anybody that you've ever admired that has done 0.98
00:10:45.920 anything they figured it the out and they were not afraid to go down that path so
00:10:52.000 my thoughts on this are are what i'm saying you need to understand that it is not
00:10:57.440 accumulate information then go it is have a little bit of information go and learn the rest through
00:11:03.520 that experience yeah you know i think you know i was like listening to your your answer on this man
00:11:09.280 like there's a lot of this just would you put most of this on people's fear of just failing or afraid to
00:11:15.840 make those mistakes that are necessary right like when you look at yourself you think back now 25 years in
00:11:21.200 what's more important to you is it the wins or or is it the losses or is it the mistakes like what
00:11:26.560 what's actually more valuable now looking back the losses and mistakes are infinitely more valuable
00:11:33.760 than the wins infinitely more valuable and because people are willing willing and i think you're right
00:11:39.680 okay by the way the losses are infinitely more valuable than the wins all right because the losses
00:11:45.840 provide perspective and lessons about how to avoid those losses in the future and if you are smart
00:11:52.000 enough to take the lessons from the losses and the hardships that come along with going down the path
00:11:59.280 and apply them moving forward you become more equipped and better at moving forward okay so
00:12:06.320 you're you're starting out to be an entrepreneur and you hire someone and this person ends up
00:12:11.040 doing all kinds of terrible and then you figure out why they did that and you figure out
00:12:15.440 what to recognize and you figure out what to look for to avoid that in the future the next time
00:12:20.240 someone comes and they started behaving this way you can see it way ahead of time and you
00:12:26.080 can start to address it and that's in every single area of business or life so staying there and thinking 0.56
00:12:32.880 that you know oh i'm gonna figure it out before i go that's that that's ridiculous to think
00:12:37.680 i think that most people and i think your question the answer is twofold i think yes most people are
00:12:47.120 afraid to fall on their face which is ironic because they're afraid to fall on their face in front of
00:12:52.480 people that won't even matter fucking five years from now which if you're going to sacrifice your entire 0.98
00:12:58.480 success your entire life story everything great all the potential you have because of people that won't 1.00
00:13:06.560 matter in five years that is the most ridiculous shit ever if you actually think about it and say it out 0.98
00:13:13.680 loud you are sacrificing your entire life everything you want for the opinion of people that won't even be 1.00
00:13:21.840 in your fucking life five years from now that is the definition of dumb motherfucker okay and the 1.00
00:13:28.240 second part is this i think people misunderstand the game i think people think you have to be qualified and 1.00
00:13:35.920 all the great shit in the world was built by unqualified people so i think that's the two things that
00:13:41.200 keeps people from going i love it man i love it guys andy question number two uh andy with all the things that 0.99
00:13:49.680 you do on a daily basis uh the companies the shows you record how do you process and handle stress is
00:13:57.680 stress real or is it more like your definition of anxiety that signals uh you know the signals that
00:14:04.880 you're not doing something you know you need to be doing where stress is a signal that you just may be
00:14:09.040 doing something inefficiently what's your what's your take on stress is it real how do you handle it
00:14:14.160 stress is absolutely real i mean look there are physical manifestations of too much
00:14:19.520 stress too much stress can can harm your body too much stress can make you go crazy but here's 0.98
00:14:26.640 what i'll say the amount of stress that you motherfuckers think is that much stress is not that much 0.98
00:14:31.760 stress okay most people feel a little stress and they're like i'm so stressed out i need a drink right 0.99
00:14:38.960 bro the reason you're so stressed out is because you've not been able to fucking do any of the 0.94
00:14:43.520 shit you want to do you lack the ability to adhere to anything which can be fixed with the live hard 0.98
00:14:48.960 program by the way which is free um so you're pissed off you're disappointed in yourself things 0.99
00:14:55.600 aren't going the right way you're not able to get any traction you have to pay bills you have to eat
00:15:00.800 you have to survive you have obligations and you're not able to get unstuck from the mud guess what you're
00:15:06.480 going to feel stress so a lot of the stress can be overcome by just building yourself into an effective
00:15:12.800 person that can do what it is they say they're going to do they can adhere to the process and
00:15:18.240 the path moving forward which is accomplished by creating a better you a stronger you a more
00:15:24.560 resilient you which is exactly why i designed the 75 hard and live hard program which you can get for
00:15:29.200 free at episode 208 okay it's free now it doesn't cost money but it ain't actually free it takes a lot
00:15:36.960 of your time it takes a lot of your effort but when you fix that problem of adherence and you can
00:15:41.360 actually go do the things that you want to do that reduces stress because you're not worried about
00:15:46.800 being stuck in the mud anymore all right so that's a real thing but here's the other thing to accomplish
00:15:54.800 great shit you have to become someone who can operate under pressure and operate under stress 0.91
00:16:01.600 and bro you might feel stressed right now but i can promise you in most cases you are not even close 0.99
00:16:09.680 to the threshold of what would physically affect you in that way okay so stress is like a cold
00:16:18.080 plunge or a cold swimming pool all right when you first experience your stress and entrepreneurship
00:16:24.160 business whatever it is you're working on it's it's shocking you're like yeah okay but if you keep
00:16:31.520 moving what happens is you start to acclimate and you can acclimate to that pressure you acclimate to
00:16:37.120 that stress and this is a tremendously huge competitive advantage over most people because 1.00
00:16:43.920 most people they get right into that shit and then they get the fuck out and they're done 0.99
00:16:48.000 okay but nope tried that that was good exactly so if you get into the pool and you stay in the pool 1.00
00:16:54.720 after 10 minutes the pool doesn't feel cold anymore so now you're you're acclimated to the stress
00:17:00.800 and you're able to perform in situations that other people cannot perform in and if you are able to
00:17:07.280 get better if you are able to improve if you're able to execute in situations of high stress when 0.97
00:17:13.760 conditions are shit how the fuck can anybody stop you if it stops everybody else and it doesn't stop 0.93
00:17:21.760 you what can stop you you see what i'm saying so you have to understand one you're you're probably 0.99
00:17:30.400 not even close to the threshold two you should build yourself into someone who can acclimate
00:17:36.160 and operate during hard times three remember that if you learn to acclimate and you learn to operate
00:17:42.800 under stressful conditions it makes you far more valuable because most people cannot now can that
00:17:48.400 go to an extreme where it fucks you up absolutely but i promise you guys i know this from experience 0.76
00:17:55.040 you are likely a million miles away from that we we have a victim culture in society we have a soft
00:18:00.800 culture in society any bit of uncomfort you know people got to take a mental health day they got to
00:18:06.400 relax they got to fucking take a break and bro those people will lose their entire lives they will not 0.89
00:18:11.760 they will not be able to push through because they don't have grit they don't have resilience they are not 1.00
00:18:16.480 tough people and bro building shit is a competition winning in life is a competition 1.00
00:18:22.240 motherfucker there is only limited spots like i know other people say there isn't but there is 0.99
00:18:27.120 okay so to get one of those spots you have to become someone who can operate in conditions that other 0.98
00:18:31.600 people can't and that comes from you know just pushing through when things get uncomfortable yeah
00:18:36.240 i think the interesting thing here is that like i feel like a lot of people will look at somebody
00:18:40.720 you know like yourself or just successful people in general i'm like man
00:18:43.760 they don't have any stress right and so what you're saying is not that they don't have stress
00:18:48.800 it's just they've acclimated to that and so they've made that stress appear easy or appear easy to do
00:18:54.960 that's what it is i think one time i've heard you like kind of describe this in like uh like weight
00:18:59.840 lifting terms right you know like you know you go to the gym and like you know try to pick up 50 pound
00:19:04.080 fucking dumbbell that's heavy and then you see this guy walk up he picks it up no problem it's still 50 0.89
00:19:08.720 pounds right he's just been working at it he's acclimated that's right he's built up the strength 0.99
00:19:13.360 i think that's all i think a lot of people have a problem understanding that it's not that it's
00:19:17.920 easier for for for these people they just acclimated yeah and the bigger you get the more successful
00:19:22.880 you get the harder it is and the more you have to acclimate bro i'm gonna tell you this i'm not
00:19:27.440 saying this to be a dick i'm not saying this to be rude i'm not saying this to say i'm better than 0.97
00:19:31.520 anybody because i'm not but what i am saying is i've been living my life for a long fucking time 0.97
00:19:36.160 and i'm very confident that if 99.9 of the people went through a single fucking day of what i have to 0.97
00:19:42.640 go through to do what i do they would fucking crumble okay and i would have crumbled do like 0.98
00:19:48.080 if i would have started on day one doing what i do now i wouldn't have been able to do it you go pick 0.98
00:19:53.040 up 19 year old andy today he ain't no he'd fucking bro he quit he would have there's no way he could do 0.99
00:19:57.760 it or break him in one day you see what i'm saying yeah now i'm responsible for fucking thousands of 0.98
00:20:03.440 people bro you know what kind of stress comes with that if you're an actual decent human if you're an 0.99
00:20:08.400 actual decent human being and you care about the people that work for you do you understand that i 0.99
00:20:12.720 have to walk around every motherfucking day with every one of these fucking people's families and 0.99
00:20:17.760 their kids on my motherfucking back you see what i'm saying it's a different kind of response about 1.00
00:20:23.040 stress because mcdonald's didn't have your order right that's right it's a different thing and you and 0.99
00:20:27.600 you get acclimated to it guys andy question number three let's hit it uh andy andy how do i
00:20:35.120 set the quote-unquote unspoken norms i keep hearing business owners like yourself speak of i expect
00:20:42.640 everyone to take initiative be detail-oriented before thinkers amongst other things i sometimes
00:20:48.560 find myself being scared to impose my opinions uh in fear that i'm not sharing it in a way that is
00:20:55.120 receptive to others having worked for a tyrannical boss before i'm scared that in imposing my opinions
00:21:01.600 i create a stressful environment uh that actually hinders my team's output so how do you create those
00:21:06.800 those uh unspoken norms i guess in your business culture i don't understand what unspoken norms means
00:21:14.240 um i guess yeah like your standards things that are not necessarily well those are those are not norms
00:21:22.080 that's why they're abnormal that's why when you walk in here that's why you hear everybody that
00:21:25.760 comes in here and they're like holy because it's not normal it's not an unspoken norm it's an
00:21:30.080 intentional creation of a culture okay and how do you create it you create it firstly by living it
00:21:37.200 all right where a lot of people up is they expect all these high standards from everybody else but they
00:21:42.240 expect that they can cut corners and they can pass over and they can look the other way and then nobody
00:21:46.640 else sees it there's only one way to lead vince bombardi said it 100 years ago 50 years ago 0.97
00:21:52.080 whatever the fuck it was probably 70 years ago all right he fucking said the best way uh leading by 0.96
00:21:58.320 example is not the best way to lead it's the only way to lead so if you want to build a abnormal high 0.99
00:22:05.360 standard culture okay you have to start there and it has to be on mother fucking point it cannot be 90 0.90
00:22:15.200 90 it can't be 97 it has to be 100 and then when you miss on that one percent you got to go in front 0.97
00:22:23.280 of all of them be like guys i fucking fucked that up i'm sorry this is what it is okay because you got 0.99
00:22:29.040 to hold them responsible and they got to learn to admit their mistakes so whatever you do they will do 0.95
00:22:34.320 all right so if you're a business owner if you're a leader of an organization if you're a member of a team
00:22:39.920 of any sort and you think that you can hold other people to a standard that you're not living
00:22:45.760 you are in for a brutal awakening because it will never happen for you and here's the thing
00:22:53.280 a lot of you guys struggle with holding people accountable like you're saying this right now and if
00:22:57.840 i had to bet i would bet just about anything that the reason you have a hard time holding people 0.99
00:23:05.600 accountable is not because you had a tyrannical boss it's because you had a fucking tyrannical boss 0.98
00:23:10.720 that didn't live the standard and then when the guy came up to you and said you know do this do that 1.00
00:23:15.200 do this you were like fuck this guy he didn't do any of that shit and i bet that you know that you're 0.99
00:23:21.200 not living the standard the reason that i have no problem and the reason that my people respect me 0.99
00:23:27.520 and the reason i don't have to raise my voice and yell and scream which i used to have to do when i
00:23:32.480 wasn't living the standard the reason i could walk up and i could say hey i need you to do this or hey
00:23:37.920 i need you to do that and everybody's like all right cool i got it and there's a good culture 0.94
00:23:41.680 is because they know that i fucking live what i preach they fucking see it they see it everything 0.99
00:23:46.400 i fucking do okay so if i would bet that the reason that you have a problem with this is because 0.99
00:23:52.480 you know that you're not living that standard and you don't want to be that dickhead that used to 0.98
00:23:56.240 work for secondly you have to understand and this is another issue when it comes to new
00:24:02.000 leadership your people want to be led there is nothing worse than being on a team or in an
00:24:08.960 organization without clear leadership or clear direction it confuses people it demoralizes people
00:24:14.960 it removes their purpose they don't feel like they're actually getting anywhere they feel like
00:24:19.120 the company's stuck in the mud and it fucks the morale and culture all right so you have to come to terms
00:24:25.440 with this you need to become the leader and you cannot reserve yourself of saying hey this is what
00:24:35.440 i think or this is what i think or this is what needs to be done because you feel like you're
00:24:42.160 trying to be better than them that's what used to hold me back when i was a young entrepreneur
00:24:47.600 i had a i had a hard time telling people what we needed to do because i felt like it was like 0.98
00:24:52.000 i don't know like dickhead ish yeah it's like man i'm not their fucking boss yeah i don't like 0.99
00:24:58.480 wait a minute hold on i don't look i don't like looking at it as boss like i don't i don't i don't 0.98
00:25:04.000 think like i don't think i look at it as a boss i look at my team and our teams and our companies
00:25:11.680 as i'm a part of the team and i think this will help your perspective with this if you stop looking at
00:25:18.560 it like you're the boss and you start looking at it like you're just part of the team and this is
00:25:22.800 my responsibility on the team my responsibility on the team is to live the standard it's to hear
00:25:28.560 feedback and ideas it's to empower people and then it's to make the best decision possible okay
00:25:36.080 your your ability to do that will change because no longer are you seeing hey i'm the boss of this
00:25:41.520 other human being that's an uncomfortable position for someone who's got morals and respect for other
00:25:46.720 people now there are people out here who love that and if you have a boss like that you should
00:25:52.160 probably go find one that actually sees it the way i'm talking about but true leaders look at
00:25:58.240 themselves as they're playing a role on the team i'm playing a role my role is to do these things and
00:26:03.200 if i don't do these things these guys can't do their thing and if you look at it like that it gets
00:26:06.960 a lot easier to say hey we need this done or we need that done or we need this done but again if
00:26:11.120 you're not living the standard that's not going to work so it starts with the standard and then it
00:26:15.360 starts with you getting comfortable and readjusting your perspective from i'm the boss to i'm a member
00:26:20.960 of the team and my responsibilities as a member of the team are to develop my people to empower them
00:26:26.640 to communicate with them clearly to give them direction to listen to their opinions and then
00:26:31.200 make the right decision for all of the team involved and then what happens is when you start operating
00:26:36.720 like that and the team knows that you're operating within their best interest they start to respect
00:26:41.760 that because they they feel value they understand they're contributing and they understand that
00:26:46.000 you're not going to make the best decisions for you you're going to make the best decisions for
00:26:49.440 everybody and and that's where the the great culture comes so it's not this it's not
00:26:55.520 like when you what do you say abnormal unspoken norms no bro it's totally abnormal like completely
00:27:02.000 normal about this way nothing it's not unspoken norms it's intentional creation that is abnormal
00:27:07.040 because most people don't look at it like i just described it to you for the last five minutes i
00:27:11.520 love it question number four andy i'm 19 years old my question is simple when you are setting a new goal
00:27:18.560 for yourself what are some things you go through uh to better ensure that goal is successful
00:27:26.800 so like a checklist that you have 0.97
00:27:28.320 look there i believe that the entire goal setting process of achievement is total bullshit all right 0.88
00:27:40.400 okay like these people and they cite these studies from like the 60s and the 50s and say oh it takes 0.98
00:27:47.360 21 days to make a habit first of all that's bullshit all right it takes way longer than that that's why 0.75
00:27:53.040 when you go to the military they train you for 80 days or 100 days right like it takes longer to
00:27:59.680 build new habits than 21 days it just does so the first step that i would do is worry about building
00:28:07.680 you into the kind of person that can execute day in and day out regardless of what's going on in your
00:28:14.640 life that's why live hard and 75 hard is such a great program because most people's problem in fact
00:28:22.160 99 of people's problem isn't that they don't know what to do to get to the goal it's that they cannot 0.94
00:28:28.880 fucking do it when they're not motivated so they lack the discipline and they lack the grit they lack 0.67
00:28:34.800 the fortitude to execute when conditions aren't perfect when they don't feel right when things 0.99
00:28:39.680 aren't going their way they can't execute and most people during that time stop or they quit or they
00:28:45.840 pause and this is a game of longevity if you took out if you took from where you're 20 to 80
00:28:54.000 and you said how many days did i win okay versus someone who quits every time that it gets hard
00:29:01.680 you're gonna win exponentially more days than they won which means you're going to be far more
00:29:07.600 successful this is legitimately a game of math how many touchdowns did i score did you score 21 points 0.97
00:29:15.040 well they scored 100 points which means you fucking lost all right so the first thing i would do is 0.98
00:29:21.040 understand what the fuck we're talking about here we are we are talking about a goal that is going to 0.99
00:29:27.760 take some time it might take a year it might take three years it might take 10 years most likely it's 0.98
00:29:32.640 a lifelong project that goal to be happen as quick as possible means that you have to execute every
00:29:41.120 single day possible to shrink the time frame of where you are now to where you want to be
00:29:46.960 if you take you and you do that you'll achieve the goals in a much shorter time and i'll get to
00:29:51.600 what that means in a second but if you take that versus someone else someone who is not resilient who 0.96
00:29:57.200 doesn't have grit who quits when things get hard or takes mental health days or stops or fucking makes 0.97
00:30:03.040 excuses that person will never ever ever ever ever hit their goal they won't do it because if you 0.99
00:30:10.320 stretched out like i said over the course of 60 years from 20 to 80 that person's only executing
00:30:16.480 five percent of the time we're the person who executes when they don't feel like it which by 0.99
00:30:20.400 the way is the majority most people don't wake up every day and feel like fuck i love hard 0.99
00:30:25.040 shit but you can learn to love it because you love the outcome that it produces so you need to become 0.99
00:30:30.480 the person that can execute no matter what the fuck is going on no matter what's going on in your life 1.00
00:30:35.600 no matter how you feel and build yourself into that person before you even go for the 0.94
00:30:41.200 fucking goal make that your first goal okay now to achieve the goal to raise the percentage of 0.89
00:30:49.520 chance that you're going to achieve the goal which you can raise to a hundred percent if you do what i 0.98
00:30:53.920 just said if you can win day after day after day after day you can achieve your goal it's very simple
00:31:02.160 because if you win six days out of the week and then you win six days out of the next week and
00:31:08.320 then you win five days out of the next week and then you win seven days out of the fourth week did
00:31:12.240 you win your month yes you won the month most people didn't if you do that every single month
00:31:17.760 for 12 months straight did you win the year did you execute on more days than you didn't yes
00:31:22.000 exponentially more days that means you won the year now if you win five years in a row where the 0.93
00:31:26.320 fuck do you think you're going to be you're going to be in a great spot the question becomes what is 0.59
00:31:31.920 the goal and what are the steps to get there which i explain in detail in depth on the win the day 0.98
00:31:37.760 episode which is episode 16 but i'll give you a go listen to it it's on the audio feeds episode 16 0.98
00:31:44.240 fucking stop this go listen to that what you need to do is you need to decide where the fuck you're 0.96
00:31:50.880 going which is a whole nother issue most people cannot make a decision about what they're trying 1.00
00:31:56.800 to do they think that life is just going to like oh we'll see what comes my way when in reality you
00:32:03.280 have to go out and create it so just make a decision what do you want to be bro and don't make your
00:32:08.320 decision based upon what other people tell you or what school tells you or what your parents tell
00:32:12.880 you what the fuck do you want to be what do you want to be what do you want your life to look like 0.91
00:32:16.480 what kind of house you want to live in what kind of car you want to drive what kind of friends 1.00
00:32:19.520 you want to have what kind of respect do you want to have in the community what do you want your life
00:32:23.360 to be like take some time think that through and pick it and then say what's it going to take to
00:32:29.440 get there and work backwards from that vision that you create into actionable steps on a daily basis
00:32:36.320 and when you take a goal that's maybe 10 years away you're going to break that down into what you
00:32:42.880 can guess are the best actions possible for today which we call critical tasks this is not a
00:32:48.960 to-do list this is not do my laundry this is not brush my teeth this is a call an email a conversation
00:32:57.840 an action point that moves you one centimeter closer to that big outcome that you are imagining okay and
00:33:05.600 you start that today so uh go listen to episode 16 it'll explain the whole process of how you do it
00:33:12.240 it's probably the most powerful production system ever created um because if you do it and you do it
00:33:20.720 right you can't lose it's impossible you'll 100 it's the only way that i think you can 100 guarantee
00:33:28.080 the outcome and that's the powerless system um so you have to kind of ignore what society tells you
00:33:34.880 about goal a set of goal in 21 days you'll have new habits and then you just continue those new
00:33:40.480 habits and the goal will materialize that's flawed thinking because those habits that you create if
00:33:45.920 you just continue doing them they're not going to get you where you want to go you have to take
00:33:49.680 productive action critical task action that are specifically geared towards that goal right like
00:33:54.880 if i want to come an astrophysicist i've got to get myself enrolled in astrophysicist classes i've got
00:34:01.920 to read those books if you just did those habits for 21 days it kept going yeah you'd probably become
00:34:07.280 some sort of knowledgeable person on astrophysics but you're not going to become an astrophysicist
00:34:13.200 because there's other steps that have to be created you've got to enroll in school you've got 0.84
00:34:17.040 to fucking meet people you got to network you got to go to this seminar you got to learn this 0.99
00:34:21.120 shit you got to go and that's that's a fluid process yeah so like i talked about earlier in the show 0.99
00:34:28.320 you have to go and then figure out the tasks as you go that are going to move you forward it's not 0.95
00:34:34.480 know all the tasks and then go so this goes back to i think i think we did the first question yeah
00:34:40.720 so go back and listen to that first question understand go listen to episode 16 it'll give you
00:34:45.680 a very clear understanding of breaking down the goal process and to raise your success probability
00:34:53.840 as much as i know how to do which i think it's 100 if you execute uh and then go do 75 hard and live
00:35:00.880 hard live that lifestyle because that lifestyle will build you into a weapon that can execute when
00:35:06.000 other people can't and if you can execute when other people can't you will gradually over time
00:35:10.160 create space between you and them and you're moving towards where you want to go you'll eventually
00:35:14.160 be there and they never will so that would be my advice to you let me ask you this what do you think
00:35:18.560 is more dangerous not having a goal or that end vision set at all or having a goal or vision that
00:35:25.120 is set but it's too small what's more damaging to somebody's psych not having one at all because
00:35:31.120 even if it's a little one this there is some truth here okay even with a little one if you do
00:35:35.920 accomplishment you're you're at least building a little bit of belief that you can accomplish things 0.99
00:35:40.080 if you live a passive life where you say fuck i don't have any goals and shit just comes to me you're 0.99
00:35:44.000 guaranteed a terrible outcome guaranteed yeah it's guaranteed terrible outcome but my point is is 1.00
00:35:49.920 that goal that little goal process is not good advice because little goals beget little actions
00:35:57.920 and little actions create a little life and so when we talk about what your goal should be what i'm
00:36:03.200 talking about is what is your ideal outcome where are you trying to get and let's work towards that
00:36:10.480 and then you know we we don't build the confidence by achieving the little goals we build the confidence
00:36:15.200 by going through a program like live hard 75 hard which teaches you how to adhere and once you know
00:36:21.840 how to adhere and you can execute on a daily basis day in and day out and day in and day out and you have 0.91
00:36:27.920 these days that are test days where it's hard as fuck but you still win your confidence goes up your 0.67
00:36:33.200 self-esteem goes up your belief goes up and all the while you're not achieving little goals because 0.84
00:36:38.400 you're not achieving little you're not taking little actions you're actually working towards
00:36:41.920 big goals because you're taking big actions so that's my gripe with that advice i think it's
00:36:46.560 terrible advice and um you know that's it i love it yeah i love it guys andy that was four all right guys
00:36:57.360 hey listen make sure you're tagging me in your wins i want to see your wins all right uh that's the only
00:37:02.160 way i get to see those things and i want you to do that so i love you guys i appreciate you guys and uh
00:37:07.280 let's go kick ass this week yeah went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze 0.99
00:37:12.480 fuck a pole fuck a stove counted millions in the code bad bitch booted slow got her on bankroll can't fold 1.00
00:37:19.920 doesn't know headshot case closed 1.00
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