696. Q&AF： Preparing For Opportunities, Handling Stress & Company Standards
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In this episode of the Realist, we talk about the importance of a good penmanship and how important it is to have a pen and not just to write a letter, but to actually mail it in. We also talk about how to improve your writing skills and how you can improve your handwriting so you can be a better writer.
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what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realist say goodbye to the lies the
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fitness and delusions the modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys
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we have shows within the show okay if you're a first timer i like to give down the breakdown
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of what we're going to do now today we have q and af that's where you submit the questions and we
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give you the answers you can submit your questions a few different ways the first way is guys you can
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hand write those letters in and mail them in to no just playing you don't even know how to address a
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fucking envelope i know how to address an envelope all right well tell them how to do it you said
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envelope or envelope i said tell them the shit email it in to ask andy at andy for selling.com
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all right or you can go on the youtube episodes of q and af you can drop your question the comments
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we'll pick some from there as well now the questions could be about anything but usually
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they're about personal development business how to win an entrepreneurship how to kick ass in life
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we are at the core a business success entrepreneurship show now you might be wondering then why do we
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have shows within the show well here's why uh we have cti that stands for cruise the internet we put up
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on the screen what's going on in the world we talk about what's true what's not true we speculate on it
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and then we talk about what we need to do as people to solve these problems going on in the world so
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we talk about success how to kick ass and then we talk about what the problem is and then we can go
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kick ass and then we can solve the problems that's what we do here so uh we have q and af today we're
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gonna have cti tomorrow we're gonna have real talk sometimes real talk is just five to 20 minutes and
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me giving you some real talk and then we have 75 hard verses 75 hard verses is where a person comes in
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who has used the 75 hard program to drastically improve their lives they talk about how they were before
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how they are now um and how you could do the same uh if you're unfamiliar with 75 hard is the initial
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phase of the live hard program which is the world's most popular mental toughness mental transformation
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program you can get it for free at episode 208 on the audio feed only it is a free program now there
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is a book you can buy that called the book on mental toughness which is uh almost always out of stock
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because it's fucking awesome uh but it's not required but it does go through the live hard program
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nuts to bolts top to bottom and it does have 10 extra chapters uh about mental toughness why it's
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important why you need to implement how to use it to build success in your life uh and that's on the
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website andyprosella.com now something we do different here that than most shows is we don't
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do ads you're going to notice that i'm not going to talk for 30 minutes about what the fuck you should
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buy that i don't even use myself all right and the reason i don't do ads is because i don't want to be
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told what i can and can't say we the show's called real af i want to keep it real af i want my opinions
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to be my own dj what feels the same way so we just ask and return um that you pay the fee the fee is
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all right what's up dude yeah when's the last have you ever when's the last time you actually
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wrote a handwritten letter and mailed it off me um i don't even think they teach that shit in schools
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anymore i still do sometimes i still write handwritten cards and send them i mean people send me a lot of
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shit yeah and uh i can't get to all of it because it i do i get a lot of fan mail bro and uh so much
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so we fill up a pallet in the back um for just that kind of stuff so if you sent me something
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it's not that i probably didn't get it it's just it's i don't have the time to get back to it but
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there's still there's things that that people send me that are very very special um that i try to sit
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down and write that out but you know that's about the amount of writing i do plus my handwriting is so
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fucking poor is it bad bro i write like a doctor yeah you can't read my shit damn like if i wrote you
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a card you know i wrote it because you can't read it that's real talk and then it just has my
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signature on it i wouldn't be able to read the thing is i just make a bunch of lines yeah and
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then write write my name okay i just send it to him yeah i wouldn't be able to read it anyway why
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are you trying to make some sort of terrible joke
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swing and a miss yeah well we know you can't read we hear you try to fucking talk about cti all the time
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bro yeah man hey listen it is what it is but it is monday and uh so let's uh let's start this
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week by making people better that's that's the only way to start the week that's what i'm saying
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we start the week by getting fucking better get better get beat that's right yeah let's do it let's
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do it all right you ready yeah i'm ready all right give me give me the juice guys andy question number
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what andy i recently read this quote uh from richard branson that says quote if someone offers
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you an amazing opportunity and you're not sure you can do it say yes then learn how to do it later
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this hit me a little differently at 32 years old i look back and realize i've missed out on a lot of
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opportunities that could have been big how does someone realign themselves to just go i am tired of
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the complacency but whenever i see opportunities present themselves i always tell myself that i'm
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not prepared or not good enough your thoughts would mean a lot all right well look this is the major
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reason why most people never get anything in life they think they got to know everything before they
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go when in reality you have to go to know everything all right you got it backwards and this is for all
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of you you all think that there's going to be a lesson or a course or a speaker or a school degree
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or something that qualifies you to go we think there's going to be an approval process or sometime
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the more successful people that we know are going to come down and they're going to say hey dj all right
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when that doesn't happen what happens is we just assume that we're not qualified so
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when we assume we're not qualified that paralyzes us and we don't go and it's because you misunderstand
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the game the only way to learn things in a real way is through experience okay and everything that
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i share with you guys almost all of it came from my experience now did i learn some things from some
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books absolutely but most of the shit that i talked to you about and the reason i could talk to you about
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it with such certainty is because i have done those things and i've experienced those things
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and so that builds the confidence in my ability to say yes to opportunities and because you guys
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will wait and wait and wait and wait and wait and never go you never feel like you can go which
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begets this cycle of learn more do nothing i'm not qualified learn more do nothing i'm not qualified
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learn more do nothing i'm not qualified and because that becomes the cycle where is the room for you
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to go do and we have to lose this fear we have to lose this reservation that someone's going to approve
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us or some success fairy is going to fly down from the heavens and say you're ready that doesn't happen
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it never comes along you have to say i'm ready and you have to say i'm going to make this happen no
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matter what opportunities are not given they are taken and when you miss out on an opportunity you
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didn't miss out on an opportunity because you didn't take it you missed out on an opportunity
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because someone else took it from you okay so if you don't become the person who takes the
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opportunities you will always have them taken from you by people who are willing to take initiative
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who are willing to go and learn along the way the number one asset that a successful person has
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is what we're talking about here they are very comfortable going into areas where they may not
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be an expert understanding that we can learn what we need to learn and get it done we can make phone
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calls we can do the work we will make sure it gets done and that's an attitude that all successful
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people have successful people are the opposite of what most people are most people like i said
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they believe they got to know everything before they go successful people understand that they will
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learn along the way and so you have to realign your mindset and richard branson is correct he's 100
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correct it's not even a little bit correct you have to be willing to step outside into an area you might
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not be an expert at take the initiative to start learning what it takes to be an expert at that
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and then eventually you will make enough mistakes you will do enough uh good things that it kind of
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gives you an idea of what it's going to actually take and you will become an expert over a course of time
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you'll never become an expert you'll never become a higher earner you'll never become one of these people
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that kicks ass by waiting to learn more information now do you have to have a base of information
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sure do you have to have a basic idea sure do you have to know a little bit sure but
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it's way less than what you think it is to go out and become an expert every person that's ever been
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great at what they do i'm sitting in front of a bunch of creative people here on the team madot
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keith like did you become an awesome videographer because you took so many courses or did you just go
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make and you figured out along the way when you make your art did you just did you go to 15 000
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courses to make your art or did you just start fucking around and figure it to out
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fucking around and figure it out that's right and that's every musician that's every athlete
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that's every successful business person that's anybody that you've ever admired that has done
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anything they figured it the out and they were not afraid to go down that path so
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my thoughts on this are are what i'm saying you need to understand that it is not
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accumulate information then go it is have a little bit of information go and learn the rest through
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that experience yeah you know i think you know i was like listening to your your answer on this man
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like there's a lot of this just would you put most of this on people's fear of just failing or afraid to
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make those mistakes that are necessary right like when you look at yourself you think back now 25 years in
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what's more important to you is it the wins or or is it the losses or is it the mistakes like what
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what's actually more valuable now looking back the losses and mistakes are infinitely more valuable
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than the wins infinitely more valuable and because people are willing willing and i think you're right
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okay by the way the losses are infinitely more valuable than the wins all right because the losses
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provide perspective and lessons about how to avoid those losses in the future and if you are smart
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enough to take the lessons from the losses and the hardships that come along with going down the path
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and apply them moving forward you become more equipped and better at moving forward okay so
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you're you're starting out to be an entrepreneur and you hire someone and this person ends up
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doing all kinds of terrible and then you figure out why they did that and you figure out
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what to recognize and you figure out what to look for to avoid that in the future the next time
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someone comes and they started behaving this way you can see it way ahead of time and you
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can start to address it and that's in every single area of business or life so staying there and thinking
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that you know oh i'm gonna figure it out before i go that's that that's ridiculous to think
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i think that most people and i think your question the answer is twofold i think yes most people are
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afraid to fall on their face which is ironic because they're afraid to fall on their face in front of
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people that won't even matter fucking five years from now which if you're going to sacrifice your entire
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success your entire life story everything great all the potential you have because of people that won't
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matter in five years that is the most ridiculous shit ever if you actually think about it and say it out
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loud you are sacrificing your entire life everything you want for the opinion of people that won't even be
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in your fucking life five years from now that is the definition of dumb motherfucker okay and the
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second part is this i think people misunderstand the game i think people think you have to be qualified and
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all the great shit in the world was built by unqualified people so i think that's the two things that
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keeps people from going i love it man i love it guys andy question number two uh andy with all the things that
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you do on a daily basis uh the companies the shows you record how do you process and handle stress is
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stress real or is it more like your definition of anxiety that signals uh you know the signals that
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you're not doing something you know you need to be doing where stress is a signal that you just may be
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doing something inefficiently what's your what's your take on stress is it real how do you handle it
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stress is absolutely real i mean look there are physical manifestations of too much
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stress too much stress can can harm your body too much stress can make you go crazy but here's
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what i'll say the amount of stress that you motherfuckers think is that much stress is not that much
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stress okay most people feel a little stress and they're like i'm so stressed out i need a drink right
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bro the reason you're so stressed out is because you've not been able to fucking do any of the
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shit you want to do you lack the ability to adhere to anything which can be fixed with the live hard
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program by the way which is free um so you're pissed off you're disappointed in yourself things
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aren't going the right way you're not able to get any traction you have to pay bills you have to eat
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you have to survive you have obligations and you're not able to get unstuck from the mud guess what you're
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going to feel stress so a lot of the stress can be overcome by just building yourself into an effective
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person that can do what it is they say they're going to do they can adhere to the process and
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the path moving forward which is accomplished by creating a better you a stronger you a more
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resilient you which is exactly why i designed the 75 hard and live hard program which you can get for
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free at episode 208 okay it's free now it doesn't cost money but it ain't actually free it takes a lot
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of your time it takes a lot of your effort but when you fix that problem of adherence and you can
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actually go do the things that you want to do that reduces stress because you're not worried about
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being stuck in the mud anymore all right so that's a real thing but here's the other thing to accomplish
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great shit you have to become someone who can operate under pressure and operate under stress
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and bro you might feel stressed right now but i can promise you in most cases you are not even close
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to the threshold of what would physically affect you in that way okay so stress is like a cold
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plunge or a cold swimming pool all right when you first experience your stress and entrepreneurship
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business whatever it is you're working on it's it's shocking you're like yeah okay but if you keep
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moving what happens is you start to acclimate and you can acclimate to that pressure you acclimate to
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that stress and this is a tremendously huge competitive advantage over most people because
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most people they get right into that shit and then they get the fuck out and they're done
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okay but nope tried that that was good exactly so if you get into the pool and you stay in the pool
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after 10 minutes the pool doesn't feel cold anymore so now you're you're acclimated to the stress
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and you're able to perform in situations that other people cannot perform in and if you are able to
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get better if you are able to improve if you're able to execute in situations of high stress when
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conditions are shit how the fuck can anybody stop you if it stops everybody else and it doesn't stop
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you what can stop you you see what i'm saying so you have to understand one you're you're probably
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not even close to the threshold two you should build yourself into someone who can acclimate
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and operate during hard times three remember that if you learn to acclimate and you learn to operate
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under stressful conditions it makes you far more valuable because most people cannot now can that
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go to an extreme where it fucks you up absolutely but i promise you guys i know this from experience
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you are likely a million miles away from that we we have a victim culture in society we have a soft
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culture in society any bit of uncomfort you know people got to take a mental health day they got to
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relax they got to fucking take a break and bro those people will lose their entire lives they will not
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they will not be able to push through because they don't have grit they don't have resilience they are not
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tough people and bro building shit is a competition winning in life is a competition
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motherfucker there is only limited spots like i know other people say there isn't but there is
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okay so to get one of those spots you have to become someone who can operate in conditions that other
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people can't and that comes from you know just pushing through when things get uncomfortable yeah
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i think the interesting thing here is that like i feel like a lot of people will look at somebody
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you know like yourself or just successful people in general i'm like man
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they don't have any stress right and so what you're saying is not that they don't have stress
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it's just they've acclimated to that and so they've made that stress appear easy or appear easy to do
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that's what it is i think one time i've heard you like kind of describe this in like uh like weight
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lifting terms right you know like you know you go to the gym and like you know try to pick up 50 pound
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fucking dumbbell that's heavy and then you see this guy walk up he picks it up no problem it's still 50
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pounds right he's just been working at it he's acclimated that's right he's built up the strength
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i think that's all i think a lot of people have a problem understanding that it's not that it's
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easier for for for these people they just acclimated yeah and the bigger you get the more successful
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you get the harder it is and the more you have to acclimate bro i'm gonna tell you this i'm not
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saying this to be a dick i'm not saying this to be rude i'm not saying this to say i'm better than
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anybody because i'm not but what i am saying is i've been living my life for a long fucking time
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and i'm very confident that if 99.9 of the people went through a single fucking day of what i have to
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go through to do what i do they would fucking crumble okay and i would have crumbled do like
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if i would have started on day one doing what i do now i wouldn't have been able to do it you go pick
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up 19 year old andy today he ain't no he'd fucking bro he quit he would have there's no way he could do
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it or break him in one day you see what i'm saying yeah now i'm responsible for fucking thousands of
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people bro you know what kind of stress comes with that if you're an actual decent human if you're an
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actual decent human being and you care about the people that work for you do you understand that i
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have to walk around every motherfucking day with every one of these fucking people's families and
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their kids on my motherfucking back you see what i'm saying it's a different kind of response about
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stress because mcdonald's didn't have your order right that's right it's a different thing and you and
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you get acclimated to it guys andy question number three let's hit it uh andy andy how do i
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set the quote-unquote unspoken norms i keep hearing business owners like yourself speak of i expect
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everyone to take initiative be detail-oriented before thinkers amongst other things i sometimes
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find myself being scared to impose my opinions uh in fear that i'm not sharing it in a way that is
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receptive to others having worked for a tyrannical boss before i'm scared that in imposing my opinions
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i create a stressful environment uh that actually hinders my team's output so how do you create those
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those uh unspoken norms i guess in your business culture i don't understand what unspoken norms means
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um i guess yeah like your standards things that are not necessarily well those are those are not norms
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that's why they're abnormal that's why when you walk in here that's why you hear everybody that
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comes in here and they're like holy because it's not normal it's not an unspoken norm it's an
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intentional creation of a culture okay and how do you create it you create it firstly by living it
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all right where a lot of people up is they expect all these high standards from everybody else but they
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expect that they can cut corners and they can pass over and they can look the other way and then nobody
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else sees it there's only one way to lead vince bombardi said it 100 years ago 50 years ago
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whatever the fuck it was probably 70 years ago all right he fucking said the best way uh leading by
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example is not the best way to lead it's the only way to lead so if you want to build a abnormal high
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standard culture okay you have to start there and it has to be on mother fucking point it cannot be 90
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90 it can't be 97 it has to be 100 and then when you miss on that one percent you got to go in front
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of all of them be like guys i fucking fucked that up i'm sorry this is what it is okay because you got
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to hold them responsible and they got to learn to admit their mistakes so whatever you do they will do
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all right so if you're a business owner if you're a leader of an organization if you're a member of a team
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of any sort and you think that you can hold other people to a standard that you're not living
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you are in for a brutal awakening because it will never happen for you and here's the thing
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a lot of you guys struggle with holding people accountable like you're saying this right now and if
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i had to bet i would bet just about anything that the reason you have a hard time holding people
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accountable is not because you had a tyrannical boss it's because you had a fucking tyrannical boss
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that didn't live the standard and then when the guy came up to you and said you know do this do that
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do this you were like fuck this guy he didn't do any of that shit and i bet that you know that you're
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not living the standard the reason that i have no problem and the reason that my people respect me
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and the reason i don't have to raise my voice and yell and scream which i used to have to do when i
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wasn't living the standard the reason i could walk up and i could say hey i need you to do this or hey
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i need you to do that and everybody's like all right cool i got it and there's a good culture
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is because they know that i fucking live what i preach they fucking see it they see it everything
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i fucking do okay so if i would bet that the reason that you have a problem with this is because
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you know that you're not living that standard and you don't want to be that dickhead that used to
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work for secondly you have to understand and this is another issue when it comes to new
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leadership your people want to be led there is nothing worse than being on a team or in an
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organization without clear leadership or clear direction it confuses people it demoralizes people
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it removes their purpose they don't feel like they're actually getting anywhere they feel like
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the company's stuck in the mud and it fucks the morale and culture all right so you have to come to terms
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with this you need to become the leader and you cannot reserve yourself of saying hey this is what
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i think or this is what i think or this is what needs to be done because you feel like you're
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trying to be better than them that's what used to hold me back when i was a young entrepreneur
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i had a i had a hard time telling people what we needed to do because i felt like it was like
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i don't know like dickhead ish yeah it's like man i'm not their fucking boss yeah i don't like
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wait a minute hold on i don't look i don't like looking at it as boss like i don't i don't i don't
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think like i don't think i look at it as a boss i look at my team and our teams and our companies
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as i'm a part of the team and i think this will help your perspective with this if you stop looking at
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it like you're the boss and you start looking at it like you're just part of the team and this is
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my responsibility on the team my responsibility on the team is to live the standard it's to hear
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feedback and ideas it's to empower people and then it's to make the best decision possible okay
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your your ability to do that will change because no longer are you seeing hey i'm the boss of this
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other human being that's an uncomfortable position for someone who's got morals and respect for other
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people now there are people out here who love that and if you have a boss like that you should
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probably go find one that actually sees it the way i'm talking about but true leaders look at
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themselves as they're playing a role on the team i'm playing a role my role is to do these things and
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if i don't do these things these guys can't do their thing and if you look at it like that it gets
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a lot easier to say hey we need this done or we need that done or we need this done but again if
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you're not living the standard that's not going to work so it starts with the standard and then it
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starts with you getting comfortable and readjusting your perspective from i'm the boss to i'm a member
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of the team and my responsibilities as a member of the team are to develop my people to empower them
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to communicate with them clearly to give them direction to listen to their opinions and then
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make the right decision for all of the team involved and then what happens is when you start operating
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like that and the team knows that you're operating within their best interest they start to respect
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that because they they feel value they understand they're contributing and they understand that
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you're not going to make the best decisions for you you're going to make the best decisions for
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everybody and and that's where the the great culture comes so it's not this it's not
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like when you what do you say abnormal unspoken norms no bro it's totally abnormal like completely
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normal about this way nothing it's not unspoken norms it's intentional creation that is abnormal
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because most people don't look at it like i just described it to you for the last five minutes i
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love it question number four andy i'm 19 years old my question is simple when you are setting a new goal
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for yourself what are some things you go through uh to better ensure that goal is successful
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look there i believe that the entire goal setting process of achievement is total bullshit all right
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okay like these people and they cite these studies from like the 60s and the 50s and say oh it takes
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21 days to make a habit first of all that's bullshit all right it takes way longer than that that's why
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when you go to the military they train you for 80 days or 100 days right like it takes longer to
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build new habits than 21 days it just does so the first step that i would do is worry about building
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you into the kind of person that can execute day in and day out regardless of what's going on in your
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life that's why live hard and 75 hard is such a great program because most people's problem in fact
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99 of people's problem isn't that they don't know what to do to get to the goal it's that they cannot
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fucking do it when they're not motivated so they lack the discipline and they lack the grit they lack
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the fortitude to execute when conditions aren't perfect when they don't feel right when things
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aren't going their way they can't execute and most people during that time stop or they quit or they
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pause and this is a game of longevity if you took out if you took from where you're 20 to 80
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and you said how many days did i win okay versus someone who quits every time that it gets hard
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you're gonna win exponentially more days than they won which means you're going to be far more
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successful this is legitimately a game of math how many touchdowns did i score did you score 21 points
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well they scored 100 points which means you fucking lost all right so the first thing i would do is
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understand what the fuck we're talking about here we are we are talking about a goal that is going to
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take some time it might take a year it might take three years it might take 10 years most likely it's
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a lifelong project that goal to be happen as quick as possible means that you have to execute every
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single day possible to shrink the time frame of where you are now to where you want to be
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if you take you and you do that you'll achieve the goals in a much shorter time and i'll get to
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what that means in a second but if you take that versus someone else someone who is not resilient who
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doesn't have grit who quits when things get hard or takes mental health days or stops or fucking makes
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excuses that person will never ever ever ever ever hit their goal they won't do it because if you
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stretched out like i said over the course of 60 years from 20 to 80 that person's only executing
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five percent of the time we're the person who executes when they don't feel like it which by
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the way is the majority most people don't wake up every day and feel like fuck i love hard
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shit but you can learn to love it because you love the outcome that it produces so you need to become
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the person that can execute no matter what the fuck is going on no matter what's going on in your life
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no matter how you feel and build yourself into that person before you even go for the
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fucking goal make that your first goal okay now to achieve the goal to raise the percentage of
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chance that you're going to achieve the goal which you can raise to a hundred percent if you do what i
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just said if you can win day after day after day after day you can achieve your goal it's very simple
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because if you win six days out of the week and then you win six days out of the next week and
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then you win five days out of the next week and then you win seven days out of the fourth week did
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you win your month yes you won the month most people didn't if you do that every single month
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for 12 months straight did you win the year did you execute on more days than you didn't yes
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exponentially more days that means you won the year now if you win five years in a row where the
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fuck do you think you're going to be you're going to be in a great spot the question becomes what is
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the goal and what are the steps to get there which i explain in detail in depth on the win the day
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episode which is episode 16 but i'll give you a go listen to it it's on the audio feeds episode 16
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fucking stop this go listen to that what you need to do is you need to decide where the fuck you're
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going which is a whole nother issue most people cannot make a decision about what they're trying
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to do they think that life is just going to like oh we'll see what comes my way when in reality you
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have to go out and create it so just make a decision what do you want to be bro and don't make your
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decision based upon what other people tell you or what school tells you or what your parents tell
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you what the fuck do you want to be what do you want to be what do you want your life to look like
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what kind of house you want to live in what kind of car you want to drive what kind of friends
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you want to have what kind of respect do you want to have in the community what do you want your life
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to be like take some time think that through and pick it and then say what's it going to take to
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get there and work backwards from that vision that you create into actionable steps on a daily basis
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and when you take a goal that's maybe 10 years away you're going to break that down into what you
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can guess are the best actions possible for today which we call critical tasks this is not a
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to-do list this is not do my laundry this is not brush my teeth this is a call an email a conversation
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an action point that moves you one centimeter closer to that big outcome that you are imagining okay and
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you start that today so uh go listen to episode 16 it'll explain the whole process of how you do it
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it's probably the most powerful production system ever created um because if you do it and you do it
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right you can't lose it's impossible you'll 100 it's the only way that i think you can 100 guarantee
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the outcome and that's the powerless system um so you have to kind of ignore what society tells you
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about goal a set of goal in 21 days you'll have new habits and then you just continue those new
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habits and the goal will materialize that's flawed thinking because those habits that you create if
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you just continue doing them they're not going to get you where you want to go you have to take
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productive action critical task action that are specifically geared towards that goal right like
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if i want to come an astrophysicist i've got to get myself enrolled in astrophysicist classes i've got
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to read those books if you just did those habits for 21 days it kept going yeah you'd probably become
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some sort of knowledgeable person on astrophysics but you're not going to become an astrophysicist
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because there's other steps that have to be created you've got to enroll in school you've got
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to fucking meet people you got to network you got to go to this seminar you got to learn this
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shit you got to go and that's that's a fluid process yeah so like i talked about earlier in the show
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you have to go and then figure out the tasks as you go that are going to move you forward it's not
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know all the tasks and then go so this goes back to i think i think we did the first question yeah
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so go back and listen to that first question understand go listen to episode 16 it'll give you
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a very clear understanding of breaking down the goal process and to raise your success probability
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as much as i know how to do which i think it's 100 if you execute uh and then go do 75 hard and live
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hard live that lifestyle because that lifestyle will build you into a weapon that can execute when
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other people can't and if you can execute when other people can't you will gradually over time
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create space between you and them and you're moving towards where you want to go you'll eventually
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be there and they never will so that would be my advice to you let me ask you this what do you think
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is more dangerous not having a goal or that end vision set at all or having a goal or vision that
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is set but it's too small what's more damaging to somebody's psych not having one at all because
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even if it's a little one this there is some truth here okay even with a little one if you do
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accomplishment you're you're at least building a little bit of belief that you can accomplish things
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if you live a passive life where you say fuck i don't have any goals and shit just comes to me you're
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guaranteed a terrible outcome guaranteed yeah it's guaranteed terrible outcome but my point is is
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that goal that little goal process is not good advice because little goals beget little actions
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and little actions create a little life and so when we talk about what your goal should be what i'm
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talking about is what is your ideal outcome where are you trying to get and let's work towards that
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and then you know we we don't build the confidence by achieving the little goals we build the confidence
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by going through a program like live hard 75 hard which teaches you how to adhere and once you know
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how to adhere and you can execute on a daily basis day in and day out and day in and day out and you have
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these days that are test days where it's hard as fuck but you still win your confidence goes up your
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self-esteem goes up your belief goes up and all the while you're not achieving little goals because
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you're not achieving little you're not taking little actions you're actually working towards
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big goals because you're taking big actions so that's my gripe with that advice i think it's
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terrible advice and um you know that's it i love it yeah i love it guys andy that was four all right guys
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hey listen make sure you're tagging me in your wins i want to see your wins all right uh that's the only
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way i get to see those things and i want you to do that so i love you guys i appreciate you guys and uh
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let's go kick ass this week yeah went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze
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fuck a pole fuck a stove counted millions in the code bad bitch booted slow got her on bankroll can't fold