REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 700. Q&AF： D Students Run Businesses, Discipline Motivation & First Big Purchase

00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realist's sake about it

00:00:20.680 the lies the thickness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality

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00:00:57.780 cti tomorrow that stands for cruise the internet this is where we put topics of the day up on the

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00:01:14.680 right other times we're gonna have real talk real talk is just five to 20 minutes of me giving you

00:01:18.880 some real talk and then we have occasionally 75 hard verses 75 hard verses where someone who has

00:01:27.320 completed the 75 hard program comes on the show they talk about how they were before how they are now

00:01:33.000 how they use 75 hard to get their shit in order and uh they talk about how you can do the same all right 0.70

00:01:39.280 now 75 hard if you're unfamiliar uh is the initial phase of the live hard program which is the world's

00:01:46.400 most popular mental transformation program that you can get for free at episode 208 on the audio

00:01:53.300 feed again that's 208 on the audio feed we just started youtube about a year ago so it's not on

00:02:00.420 youtube all right now there is a book available called the book on mental toughness it's available

00:02:05.960 at andy for seller.com it's a great book we're sold out if you want to get that book i'd advise go on

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00:02:20.860 the entire live hard program top to bottom in and out it has 10 chapters on mental toughness

00:02:27.420 why you need it how to implement it in your life and then we have case studies from very successful

00:02:33.840 people who have used mental toughness to uh become the recognized names that you uh know them for

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00:03:47.600 at 500 000 on the tube man it's not bad for a year it's not too bad at all man it's been a grind

00:03:53.000 it's been a grind well i i mean if they weren't censoring the fuck out of us it would probably uh

00:03:59.100 would probably be way further than that yeah oh shit yeah fucking so fucks um pool update a lot of 0.96

00:04:06.420 people have been asking about the pool oh yeah yeah a lot of a lot of people well so when it rains

00:04:12.660 it pours that's the that's the saying uh yeah so i got it leveled uh or attempted to get it leveled

00:04:19.680 a day they had to take 14 inches on one side yep so it wasn't even close to it wasn't close it wasn't

00:04:27.060 close at all no it wasn't close 14 inches um and you know i called the the 811 you know the dig right

00:04:34.560 yeah trying to be a responsible homeowner um and they came out marked my shit up that's good

00:04:39.360 and we were in a good area right the pool's perfect spot so we thought yeah the guy uh and it's not his

00:04:47.940 fault i blame myself um but i got those uh i got that that in ground sprinkler system yeah just

00:04:53.940 destroyed one of the lines it was right there like right as soon as he went in all right so so

00:04:59.440 we have to have an intervention all right here i'm gonna tell you something you're running you're not

00:05:06.260 gonna like it okay but that pool was a fucking mistake you just need to take that pool and put it 0.96

00:05:14.220 the trash yeah it won't fit i'm gonna have to buy to get a dumpster to fucking you need to take you 0.99

00:05:20.040 need to take that pool and set it on fire okay all right and then you need to take grass seed and put

00:05:26.400 it in the spot that dan dug up yeah and forget all about it yeah just forget it yeah because this

00:05:32.040 started out as a 300 deal and i'm gonna tell you and anybody listening will tell you yeah that a pool

00:05:37.720 is never a 300 deal yeah fuck man all right it's kind of like a boat you rent boats you don't buy 0.71

00:05:46.780 boats all right because they are just a hole that you throw money in you can rent pools a swim you can

00:05:53.800 come to my pool i got the coolest fucking pool in the world it's a pretty cool pool yeah i would put 0.92

00:05:57.880 up my pool against anybody's pool on the fucking planet more than 300 bucks and you're well you're 0.98

00:06:02.660 welcome to come fucking swimming at any time all right yeah so take the pool burn it plant the grass 0.99

00:06:10.720 back and just fucking forget about it just forget about it it's one of those things see the problem 0.94

00:06:15.860 is too man my daughter ryan bro she's she's like on my ass yeah about this pool she is she is on my 1.00

00:06:22.640 ass yeah she's mad black woman mad little black woman but that's right a fucking three don't fuck 1.00

00:06:26.840 with that three foot three foot tall fucking piece of terror is what she is bro she's fucking 1.00

00:06:33.380 hilarious bro she's on my ass right now and so it's like i mean it's just like i can't just like 0.93

00:06:38.820 the pool can't just simply disappear here's what you do she's too smart let me tell you i'm gonna give 1.00

00:06:44.380 you the white trash special okay all right you know that little beer tub that i got my ducks in 0.99

00:06:49.960 in my in my entry for you okay don't talk to me about white trash i know all about it bro 0.98

00:06:56.280 i'm the only motherfucker that lives in a state that has ducks in this fucking entry for you 1.00

00:07:00.860 in a beer tub all right but in that beer tub yeah they make those beer tubs round right all right and

00:07:07.740 when you're white trash you fill that with water and swim in it that's your pool bro that's what we 1.00

00:07:13.060 swam in yeah we just have fire hydrants we had that too yeah but i'm telling you she ain't gonna know

00:07:18.760 the difference she's gonna think that's the biggest pool ever she's gonna love it you don't 0.98

00:07:23.300 have to do shit and then afterwards you could have a huge party and put a whole bunch of beer in there

00:07:28.780 with ice and shit that's a good idea yeah like double yeah it's great yeah i'm telling you man 0.65

00:07:35.040 it's kind of like the leaves remember i told you about the leaves you did tell me about the leaves

00:07:38.000 man i did get better on the leaves yeah we'll see yep we'll see how it goes in the trash

00:07:43.880 save you lots of headache we'll see man yep yeah we'll see uh but yeah so that's the pool update

00:07:51.420 man i know a lot of people been asking but uh i'll go with you yeah to get the metal pool where do you

00:07:56.060 i don't even know where the fuck you get those from you get them at tractor supply i've never been 0.72

00:07:59.880 oh man tractor supply sweet i never i never even been there what like what do you what do they have

00:08:05.360 they got like all the farm stuff like anything you need for farms for farms for ain't like rural area

00:08:10.480 stuff anything you need it's like a one-stop shop like like it's like walmart for farms

00:08:15.260 it's fucking sweet you got like food and shit in there too they got everything they got animals

00:08:19.660 you could that's where the ducks came from no shit yeah i want to go yeah it's awesome i'd be i just 0.80

00:08:25.740 want to go to just look yeah it smells good too it smells like a farm like hay i don't feel like

00:08:31.000 farms smell good pig farms don't smell good but the rest of the farms smell good what do they smell

00:08:35.620 like like hey oh and like horses and stuff hey hey all right that's enough of that let's make some

00:08:45.420 people better today yeah let's do that let's let's stick to what we're good at here not pools yeah um

00:08:50.960 guys andy question number one uh let's get it andy what's your take on the saying that a students are

00:08:58.500 led by b students managed by c students hired by d students i feel like there's a big common denominator

00:09:05.360 among business owners uh being these d students that they talk about so what's your what's your

00:09:11.440 thought process on that have you ever heard that saying yeah definitely um is there any validity to

00:09:16.060 it i don't know you know like here's if there is this is what it is okay i know guys who are very

00:09:24.380 successful in school and they're very successful business guys okay and we have to be careful just

00:09:31.720 like we talk about generalizing people we have to talk about generalizing types of people when it

00:09:36.440 comes to to business so i know people who are very successful that did very well in school i know

00:09:43.120 people who are very successful i'm one of them who was terrible in school here's where i think the

00:09:49.000 validity is in that statement is that typically people who are c students or d students it's not that

00:09:57.220 they're not intelligent it's that they pave their own way in life they make their own rules they're

00:10:02.120 not good at following directions and because they're not good at following directions they often find other

00:10:07.660 pathways that people don't see that are so used to just going down the line one two three following the

00:10:14.440 framework right and if we examine what the education system really is and we take a step back it is not

00:10:22.000 education it is indoctrination okay it doesn't make you intelligent to have a degree from any school

00:10:30.280 it does not education is not equal intelligence right okay so i mean educated people will tell you

00:10:38.460 that it equals intelligence but it clearly doesn't it just doesn't and they like to say that because

00:10:43.560 they invested all this money all this time and they like to have a moral superior order over everybody

00:10:48.380 else but it's just not true i know people that have phds that are fucking idiots okay um here's the 0.97

00:10:56.520 thing when you go out into entrepreneurship and you go out into business there is going to be

00:11:04.720 a way to do things that is usually outside the norm if you want to be successful it's how you innovate

00:11:11.440 processes how you not just products but how you innovate processes and how you innovate the delivery of a

00:11:17.240 product and how you innovate the marketing of a product and that requires you to see outside the framework

00:11:22.260 of what everybody else is doing and that's where i think the advantage is for those kind of students

00:11:27.320 because a lot of dnc students are dumb fucks okay but there's a lot of very intelligent dnc students

00:11:32.960 like i was who test very high on tests but i can't stand to sit here and learn from some dumbass 0.88

00:11:41.020 who's driving away in a beater like to me when i was 14 years old i recognized that right so i never

00:11:47.540 did good in school because i'm like bro why am i listening to this guy when he hasn't really done

00:11:52.460 anything but talk about the thing right and when we look at the education process you know it's really

00:12:00.700 a test and an indoctrination into following directions so that you understand how to operate

00:12:07.080 in the real world and most people need that most people have to be told one two three four five six

00:12:12.640 seven there's nothing wrong with that but when you think like that i think it does put you at a

00:12:18.880 disadvantage to be able to innovate processes innovate products innovate marketing innovate the competitive

00:12:24.920 advantage that you're going to need to create um so that's my take on it i don't think one way is

00:12:30.600 better than the other but if maybe maybe there is a little bit of truth to it uh there's definitely some

00:12:36.180 truth to it for me okay so go out and build something real go out and build something

00:12:40.980 equitable go out and build a real company go out and fucking use the tools that you can learn from

00:12:45.980 some of these coaches that are just part of the puzzle right like you can learn how to get fit you

00:12:50.880 can learn how to create a funnel you can learn how to run ads you can learn how to do these things

00:12:54.900 and then use those things to create an equitable business so that later on in life you have a

00:13:01.380 you know nest egg that you can you know borrow against or liquidate or exit and have something

00:13:10.400 for your retirement dude yeah so um you know vet your people vet your teachers you know if you're

00:13:16.920 in college and you're listening to some guy who's never done shit bro be very careful what you take 0.83

00:13:23.440 to heart and what you don't you know what i'm saying like people have to be living what it is

00:13:28.420 they're trying to teach you how to do if you really want to use their advice to go be successful

00:13:32.880 so uh to answer the question dude you know there might be some truth to it but i i know people who

00:13:39.660 are successful across all ranges there's just some people that are just good and super intelligent

00:13:44.800 and they're able to pass the test but they're also able to see outside the box right you see what

00:13:49.380 i'm saying so if you're a c or d student out here that's not something to celebrate and say fuck yeah

00:13:54.560 i'm gonna start a business yeah no what i'm saying is is like you got to be careful what you say because

00:13:59.360 a lot of these college kids and high school kids that listen to this shit they they will hear that and

00:14:05.080 then they will just quit trying like dude even if you think that it's pointless to do what it is that

00:14:12.920 you do in a standardized school environment it is very important that you try hard because that trying

00:14:18.980 hard and that practice and that discipline will translate over into something else so don't just

00:14:25.320 say hey fuck it this is pointless say hey i'm here i've got to complete this is what i have to do 0.93

00:14:30.520 i'm going to do my best because that will condition you to having the habits that you need outside of

00:14:36.540 that environment even though that environment is not producing the result that you want does that

00:14:40.160 make sense that makes perfect sense it makes perfect sense so let me follow up with this

00:14:43.240 so what are because i mean you know obviously with the school system it is more of a what to think

00:14:48.880 not how to think right which is what's really necessary yeah in the real world yeah now this

00:14:55.000 thinking outside the box you talk about the innovation side of things what what would you

00:14:58.260 say are some other common denominators amongst entrepreneurs like things that you've known i mean

00:15:04.040 you've met a shit ton of them right like i mean what are what are some things that you know all of you

00:15:08.120 guys you would say you had in common outside of the thinking outside of the box well i think first off

00:15:13.060 and foremost all successful entrepreneurs are unwilling 100% unwilling to accept the status

00:15:22.580 quo for their life all right they are not going to be like everybody else no matter what it takes

00:15:27.060 no matter what it takes doesn't matter that's the first thing the second thing is that they all have

00:15:33.020 big dreams they don't just think small they don't think realistic like when your teachers and your

00:15:37.540 friends say oh have realistic thoughts have realistic goals yeah if you want to be a

00:15:43.040 small little peasant that's a good thing but the all the people that you look up to that you want

00:15:48.440 to embody and you want to fucking be like those people are dreaming so big that most people can't 0.75

00:15:54.320 comprehend it and because they dream big the actions they take are naturally bigger which even if they

00:15:59.960 don't reach the actual dream that they have they will be so much further along than everybody else

00:16:05.780 that it's a success anyway so those are two things i think relentless grit and fortitude and endurance

00:16:13.640 mental toughness is 100 a requirement to get past uh you know the level of quote-unquote mediocre and

00:16:23.720 average so most of the people that you are successful dedicate an extreme amount of time to intentionally put

00:16:30.420 themselves in uncomfortable positions like the 75 hard and live hard program so that they can build

00:16:36.520 that resilience that grit that fortitude that mental toughness to get through the path because

00:16:41.240 the path only gets harder it never gets easier and that's a myth that people have people think oh once

00:16:46.240 i get here it'll be easier no the higher you go you're competing against better competitors and it gets

00:16:51.280 much fucking harder is it harder for michael jordan to play high school basketball or fucking pro basketball

00:16:55.840 right you see what i'm saying it gets harder so you have to build the skill set and you have to build

00:17:01.240 that mental toughness to go down the path effectively i think they have that in common uh i think most of

00:17:08.380 these people are highly dedicated to self-education meaning they're reading books they're listening to

00:17:14.940 podcasts they're taking notes but then what makes them different from everybody else that does those things

00:17:20.780 is that they actually take those lessons and apply them in real life so the application of the lessons

00:17:27.780 that all of you guys consume but most of you don't apply they do apply religiously so i think those are

00:17:34.320 some common things uh most of those guys are fit most people who are successful are somewhat fit uh and i

00:17:40.620 know there's exceptions to that you know when you look at like you know trump or fucking elon you know 0.92

00:17:46.000 they're not super fit guys but they're also so far past the point of like that initial grind phase

00:17:52.760 that it's not really that important anymore to them you know what i'm saying and i think they're the

00:17:59.000 anomaly most entrepreneurs that are successful in this day and age are taking very good care of their

00:18:06.740 bodies and their minds on a consistent basis um why is that yeah because it's it's your tool this is the

00:18:13.680 fucking tool bro your tool is you so if you're going to battle with this being your tool don't 0.99

00:18:18.520 you want this tool to be the best possible thing your mind your body your spirit these are the these

00:18:24.020 are tools bro so they sharpen that i think another thing that a lot of these guys have in common

00:18:29.640 is that uh they don't keep losers around them for any amount of time bro they don't allow drama in

00:18:35.360 their life they don't allow gossip in their life they don't allow people who drama and gossip in their

00:18:39.640 life they don't allow distractions their circle is small they associate with other people who think

00:18:44.220 like them who have goals like them who want to win like them and they cut everybody else out they're

00:18:48.720 very hard to get to um so those are some things that i would say are in common there's a lot more to you

00:18:53.520 but those are off the top of my head yeah for sure man i love it i love it uh well guys andy question

00:18:58.220 number two uh andy i'm 16 years old uh and my question is about motivation and success what have you

00:19:06.060 found to be the best form of motivation for achieving success i see other people winning

00:19:11.920 but i sometimes look at my environment and i can't connect the dots on how to make that a reality in

00:19:17.740 my life how the fuck can you look at your situation that you're currently living and not be fucking 0.99

00:19:22.520 motivated if you can't look around at your current life and say fuck this sucks and be motivated for

00:19:28.840 more bro you can't do it you should just quit go do something else because your existing situation

00:19:35.820 in life should be enough motivation to get you started now motivation when you start is cool

00:19:44.040 right it feels good but the reality is is motivation is not the key to the castle bro discipline is the

00:19:50.740 key to the castle because there's going to be lots and lots and lots and lots and lots of times in fact

00:19:55.240 the majority of the time that you are not going to wake up in the morning and say fuck dude i really 0.87

00:19:59.700 feel like going out and get my balls kicked in all day that's not going to happen so you have to say

00:20:04.220 hey i'm going to do this regardless of how i feel i'm going to execute even if i'm having a bad day even

00:20:09.500 if my dog died even if i had to do this even if this shit's going wrong my shit is getting done day in 0.89

00:20:15.220 and day out and that is the fucking secret sauce about winning it's not motivation but motivation feels 0.92

00:20:22.180 good and motivation is valuable especially when you're in the beginning so if you can't look

00:20:27.140 around and say fuck dude my life is fucked up i want way more than this i want better than this 0.99

00:20:32.940 and be motivated to go down the path bro you don't have it you don't have it that's it you do not

00:20:38.940 fucking have it you should just accept your reality like all your friends all your family go sit on the

00:20:45.680 fucking bench and watch the game where everybody else is going to go out and kick ass because you don't 0.98

00:20:50.060 have it if your current situation doesn't motivate you that's the fucking facts of the matter 0.97

00:20:54.480 why do so many people look for external motivation like what do you what do you think the disconnect

00:20:59.920 is well there's a fucking you know in society bro there's an there is a disproportionate amount 0.95

00:21:08.320 of value placed on motivation compared to discipline people think that it's motivation they think oh dude

00:21:15.740 let's go do this right and they don't understand that it doesn't matter if you feel like doing it

00:21:21.000 what matters is that you do it and that's the biggest key that most people can't connect because

00:21:26.000 dude we hear this term motivational speaker okay so this is why i don't like speaking really dude even

00:21:32.180 though i'm great at it you know you go to this event you pay fucking 500 bucks the motherfucker tells 0.99

00:21:37.820 you some shit you walk out of there you're hyped and you go home and you don't do anything 0.84

00:21:41.940 okay so events are great but you should go to events where they're going to teach you one twos

00:21:47.420 threes fours these are the steps to do it because if you don't have that intrinsic motivation

00:21:52.300 to do it to at least get started you can't start so that's assumed that you have that right and then

00:22:00.740 you have to work on your discipline you have to work on your ability to execute when you don't feel

00:22:04.280 like doing it and that's why the live hard program is so important um you know i don't know a single

00:22:10.880 person who wakes up every single day and says fuck dude i can't wait i can't wait to go you know get 0.97

00:22:18.140 my ass kicked like because that's the reality of entrepreneurship it sounds absurd right i can't 0.90

00:22:23.360 wait to go it's just life dude it's life bro yeah it's life it's hard it's fucking grind it's grueling 0.70

00:22:30.860 and because we have all these entrepreneur bozos on the fucking internet who never built a goddamn thing 0.98

00:22:36.660 talking about you know how easy it is and how cool it is and how it's awesome you're getting all these

00:22:42.600 kids sucked into this game of entrepreneurship when in reality only eight percent of people are

00:22:47.900 entrepreneurs and only one percent of that eight percent is actually successful at it it is a very

00:22:52.380 hard career it is the hardest career you could ever choose in your fucking life so if you think it's 0.93

00:22:56.860 going to be easy fun and you're going to have freedom and all this shit you're drinking the kool-aid

00:23:01.140 that ain't true you're in for a rude awakening the shit i tell you and the shit anybody else who's built 0.98

00:23:05.880 something real will tell you is that you have to fucking go hard every single day no matter what 0.82

00:23:11.880 no matter what you feel like no matter what's going wrong and your shit has to get done and that's it 0.85

00:23:16.000 that's how you get there so i don't really you know motivation for me dude is not a thing anymore

00:23:23.020 i don't even think about it i don't i don't wake up and think man i don't feel like doing that

00:23:27.320 or whatever because it's irrelevant and once you've lived a disciplined lifestyle for long enough

00:23:32.080 motivation does become irrelevant and it's almost comical when people bring it up like bro that's

00:23:37.460 very amateur way of thinking and i don't fault you for thinking that way because that's how everybody

00:23:42.260 thinks but what we have to do is we have to shift your mindset from it from i gotta feel like doing

00:23:48.900 it to it doesn't matter if i feel like doing it i'm gonna get it done anyway and that's what winners

00:23:53.700 do that's how people build amazing shit that's how they become great and that's how you it's gonna be

00:23:58.960 no different for you yeah so you're saying it's so so using motivation or feeling the need

00:24:03.500 to need motivation that'll get you going a decent amount but at some point you gotta you gotta cross

00:24:09.600 that line over to to this other animal mindset of of it doesn't matter how i feel what's your life

00:24:15.320 gonna look like if you don't do it what's your life gonna look like if you don't fucking go out 0.92

00:24:20.900 and build what the fuck you want to build that you have this little vision in your heart 0.67

00:24:24.940 and in your mind of what your life should be like and what are you gonna feel like if you don't go

00:24:31.040 do that what are you gonna feel like in a year five years 10 years 20 years when you die what are you

00:24:38.780 going to be saying because i can promise you bro that dream ain't going away that dream was placed

00:24:43.620 in your heart and in your mind by god it is your purpose and you are obligated to go build it and for

00:24:51.020 you to go build that it's going to require executing when you don't fucking feel like it 0.91

00:24:55.420 so you better just go out and figure this out right now it's discipline it's not motivation look

00:25:01.100 around your life if if you can't go from looking around your life then just expect your life to get

00:25:07.920 worse and worse and worse and worse and worse and in 20 years you're gonna be saying fuck i should 0.97

00:25:12.700 have fucking went i should have went and did that and 20 more years past that if you don't do it then 0.96

00:25:17.880 you're gonna be saying fuck i wasted 40 years i wasted my life fuck that's what's gonna be that's 0.98

00:25:24.180 gonna happen to you go ask someone who's 60 years old if they regret not following their dreams i

00:25:29.340 promise you if you get them to be honest they're gonna say yeah yeah fuck man that's real shit man

00:25:36.220 i know it's real shit bro that's where most of these people fucking fuck their lives up yeah they think

00:25:41.100 like you gotta feel like bro i walk in here every fucking day probably out of the seven days a week 0.98

00:25:47.640 that i come in here there's probably two of the days that i feel like it and i have the greatest

00:25:52.460 fucking company in the world bro i work with the baddest ass people i don't work with a bunch of 0.99

00:25:56.760 karen corporate fucks i work with badass motherfuckers that give a shit yeah and it's still hard because 1.00

00:26:03.400 our goals are so big okay so it doesn't matter if i fucking and i'm tired or if i don't feel like it 0.93

00:26:11.920 bro i have to do it and so like dude you guys have to quit valuing this thing that all these nerds on

00:26:18.360 the internet call motivation and start realizing what actually matters and what matters is do you

00:26:23.660 have the capacity to execute at a high standard when you don't feel like it especially when you

00:26:30.280 don't feel like it because when you don't feel like it is when everybody else quits and that's when

00:26:36.420 you widen the gap between yourself and everybody else so let's say those four days where i don't

00:26:41.620 feel like it i'm competing against joe down the street and when he comes in on his four days that

00:26:47.480 he doesn't feel like it he does half-ass shit but on my four days i'm executing at the highest level 0.78

00:26:53.160 because i've developed that skill set of discipline to do so over time i'm going to widen that gap

00:26:59.420 further and further and further and further and further and further away from that dude and this is how the

00:27:05.340 game works it is legitimately a mathematical equation how many days did you win how many days did they

00:27:13.700 win that's it it's math bro it's not magic it's not mystical it's not success fairy nonsense it's not

00:27:21.360 luck it is fucking math how many motherfucking days can you win at a high standard especially when you

00:27:28.920 don't feel like it because that's when everybody else quits you know i fucking love it man i love it 0.83

00:27:34.800 guys andy our third and final question question number three andy andy i have been grinding for

00:27:41.840 the last five years and i'm about to purchase my first really nice car um i've been working my ass

00:27:48.340 off my family's good kicking ass at work my question is how do i know if it's the right thing uh is it just 0.87

00:27:55.360 an emotional purchase i've been putting off going to the dealer for three days now i can't really pinpoint

00:28:01.320 why did you deal with this when you bought your first uh nice car and if so how did you overcome

00:28:06.180 it well first of all i didn't buy my nice car until i was 11 years in business not five all right i don't

00:28:12.380 know where the fuck you are but i was doing very well i was making seven figures when i bought my first 0.67

00:28:16.800 nice car okay so there's that okay um so let's let's reevaluate where you're actually at are you making

00:28:25.180 over a million dollars a year in income because if not i wouldn't buy shit and i would take all that 0.82

00:28:30.700 money and i would dedicate it to building your cash flow building your company building your career

00:28:35.360 because every single fucking dollar that you don't do that with is more time that it's going to take 0.91

00:28:40.380 for you to get there okay so where are you really at do you want to buy this car because you think it's

00:28:47.060 going to make you look successful or do you want to buy this car because you're a car aficionado

00:28:52.000 and you're passionate and it's something that you love that's what i am okay i don't buy i don't even

00:28:57.800 show you guys my fucking shit okay i love cars i love driving it is important hobby to me it just so 0.92

00:29:06.240 happens to be expensive so but the truth of the matter is is when i bought my first car i was making

00:29:13.420 over a million bucks a year i was 11 years in business and you guys see all this bullshit on the 0.78

00:29:18.420 internet and you think you need to have this shit and i know this is the answer that you 0.93

00:29:21.980 probably don't want to hear but this is definitely one perspective now another perspective which is

00:29:27.640 also true is that you need to touch and feel and experience success along the way to keep you

00:29:35.000 going to keep you understanding that this is how my life is going to turn out and it needs you need

00:29:40.020 to touch it you need to experience it now you don't necessarily have to buy a car for that you can

00:29:44.680 rent a car you could go on a trip you can go see the houses whatever you want to do but there is

00:29:50.420 truth to experiencing that but this fake it till you make it mentality that the internet creates

00:29:55.900 is completely false uh these kids that go out there and buy these cars and they're fronting this

00:30:01.640 shit it's only a matter of time before they don't have them anymore i mean dude i've been doing the 0.55

00:30:06.400 internet game since 2012 you know how many people i've seen come and go with a fucking you know a 0.97

00:30:11.880 couple cars and then they're bragging and they're talking all this shit in the next year they don't have 0.77

00:30:15.780 shit they're talking about you know what they're doing you know what they say you know what i decided 0.79

00:30:21.580 that you know these cars are just too materialistic for me and i'm kind of over it you know i just want

00:30:27.740 to be uh be a little more humble and other things are more important to me just like i talked about

00:30:32.980 on last q and a f where i talk about people who take their dreams and they take what they have

00:30:38.900 currently and then they try to say oh this is what i actually wanted right so usually what these guys do

00:30:44.520 is they go out they buy these cars they front on the internet they stop making money they lose their

00:30:49.840 cars and then they come up with a fucking story about how they never wanted them in the first place 0.82

00:30:53.660 which is completely fucking bullshit much happier now you don't want to be the motherfucker that gets 0.99

00:30:58.180 the cars and then has them disappear you don't want to be that guy bro so i would evaluate what's

00:31:04.200 more important to you is it more important to feel cool and look cool or is it more important to

00:31:08.140 build an actual business i would argue that it's way more important to build an actual business now

00:31:12.600 you might be making 10 million dollars a year and i don't know that no and if you if you are

00:31:16.500 you know there you got a little more freedom to indulge in things like that no um you know there

00:31:21.600 are there are guys out here who will say you know you should never buy a car that's worth more than

00:31:27.440 fucking 20 grand or whatever right well you know i disagree with that you know that's what it is 0.78

00:31:33.620 like why the fuck do we do all this shit right why the fuck have i worked 25 years oh it's so i can 0.96

00:31:38.900 fucking roll around and badass shit that i enjoy but have you paid your dues yet that's only question 0.94

00:31:46.140 that's a question that only you can answer yeah so i would evaluate where you are be honest with

00:31:50.440 yourself about where you are um be honest with yourself about your income and if you've got to

00:31:55.760 stretch and finance that shit out just to like dude don't do that don't put yourself in a vulnerable 0.78

00:32:00.220 position especially in the early days and i know you're five years in you think you're not in the

00:32:04.160 early days you're still in the fucking early days bro so that's my answer to that yeah let's just 0.91

00:32:09.200 talk about rewarding yourself in general right like what what have you found to be the best way

00:32:14.140 like how do you reward yourself for for the hard work you put in you know when you when you've been

00:32:19.860 planting for for so long and you start seeing those those those sprouts come up a little bit right

00:32:25.040 what's the reward the reward is seeing the progress the reward is looking at your business and

00:32:30.380 saying oh man i did 14 000 today oh man i did 32 000 today oh man we did 80 000 oh we did 200 000 oh

00:32:40.820 we did 5 million in that you see what i'm saying yeah that's the fucking reward bro because that 0.95

00:32:46.720 business is equitable meaning you can borrow against it you could sell it you could exit it

00:32:51.720 and it's worth exponentially more than what you're going to take home and payroll so that is the winning

00:32:57.520 for the actual winners the actual operators who love business the reward is the winning all the

00:33:04.680 other shit doesn't mean anything bro i could really like as much as i love cars i don't give a fuck you 0.98

00:33:09.480 know what i'm saying like as much as i love my house and my properties i don't give a fuck i like 0.83

00:33:14.360 winning winning is fun i like seeing things go from my ideas to paper to in person in life and sprout

00:33:22.180 and create and win that battle that's that's the reward bro and you guys get caught up in this and

00:33:27.900 by the way i like material shit but you guys do get too caught up in this materialistic shit and 0.91

00:33:33.620 you don't understand that the game is not about how much material shit you can acquire it's about how

00:33:39.000 much progress you can make so instead of building your value and what you can acquire what you can buy

00:33:44.700 or what you your perceived lifestyle is you should build your value on what your real success is and

00:33:50.020 what your real progress is otherwise you're going to end up like one of these fucking clowns who has 0.98

00:33:53.460 this shit for a minute and then doesn't have it and then like you know what you're all afraid of is 0.83

00:33:58.280 getting laughed at then everybody laughs at you everybody yeah so don't be that guy all right well

00:34:03.580 some uh some extra sauce for this give them some some extra extra sauce for monday morning juicy juice

00:34:09.200 yeah let's do it guys i had a question number four uh what's up andy and dj i got a question uh for you

00:34:14.840 all that i've been noticing in my work environment i'm 24 years old not a hoe um i work as a junior 0.96

00:34:21.840 senior high school math teacher and i'm also the dean of students uh of the junior senior high school

00:34:27.820 damn uh yeah that's fucking crazy that's a young man that's super young you know one of my best

00:34:32.600 teachers i had was young when i had him was super young yeah his name was i talked about him on a show

00:34:37.140 before kevin walsh all my teachers are old yeah he's he's uh luke walsh's dad you know the basketball

00:34:42.060 player oh no shit yeah so kevin taught us uh he had this class called current issues which is the 0.66

00:34:50.400 inspiration for what we do now right and bro we we man i'm sorry kevin i love that dude he's such a

00:34:59.940 good dude but we were such little fucks like i'm surprised he didn't beat our asses but dude hey i 0.89

00:35:05.580 took what you taught we're doing something with it bro number one show right hey there we go appreciate

00:35:09.200 it there we go but yeah dude uh that's a that's a young man that's young man um now since i'm on the

00:35:16.020 administrative team at the school school culture is super important to me one of the things that i've

00:35:21.000 started to notice with my boss the school principal uh and the veteran teachers is that most of them

00:35:26.660 will take the initiative to get something done which is great however 90 of the time they will not

00:35:32.920 relay or communicate that information with the parties involved causing mass confusion between staff

00:35:38.560 members and even myself my question is when you take the initiative on something that will involve

00:35:43.600 multiple people and multiple parties what is the most effective way you have found to communicate

00:35:48.960 that with them i'm all about taking the initiative on things that i know and i know that's one of your

00:35:53.580 core values and beliefs within your own businesses but from what i am seeing is that pieces on the chess

00:35:58.980 board are moving without any explanation as to why they are moving i understand i'm very young to be in the

00:36:04.560 leadership position like this um i have a lot to learn but am i looking at this from the wrong

00:36:09.360 perspective or is there a true issue here uh interested to hear your thoughts well first of all man you

00:36:16.080 know let me say this leadership is a lifelong learning process so you're gonna you're gonna be getting

00:36:22.320 better even when you're 44 okay um i feel like i learn new things every single day and i've been leading

00:36:28.380 big teams for a long time and this is probably the first time that you've led a big team and so

00:36:34.740 communication is a huge deal huge deal um to set the standard for communication at least in the

00:36:44.080 beginning you almost have to have a micromanagement role you have to basically say this is what i need

00:36:51.140 this is what i want you to do and back in the early days when i was setting this up

00:36:57.160 i'd actually write this shit out on a piece of paper and make them sign it so yeah so like i would 0.72

00:37:03.920 say okay here's what you want here's the process all right so i used to do this thing i don't do it

00:37:08.440 anymore where if i sent out a group text to everybody they had to reply back um that they they confirmed it

00:37:16.160 they received it and they understood it and that was so that later on if they didn't do it i could

00:37:21.040 say well hey you replied back to this you said this right so like that would be the process that was in

00:37:26.300 the paper i would say all right here's how we're going to dictate directions here's how we're going

00:37:30.760 to do things here's the process for this if i text you this is what the response should be if you

00:37:36.020 understand it if you don't understand it text me on the side ask me the question we'll figure it out

00:37:40.900 um so really dude in in my opinion i think this is a matter of getting you know all the

00:37:47.660 gray beards and the old dogs to really understand how you're going to run things which is just going

00:37:53.540 to require some clear communication and some assertiveness on your point which can be

00:37:57.640 intimidating when everybody else is much older than you you know when i was in my 30s or i'm in my

00:38:02.140 20s i had a lot of people that worked that were older than me and um that was a unique situation

00:38:07.560 because for some reason people think that if they're older than you they're automatically more

00:38:11.520 skilled or talented than you uh and that's just not the case so that's what i would do i would

00:38:19.020 take a piece of paper i would say this is how i want it to flow and i would sit down with all of

00:38:23.380 your people and i would say okay i'm trying like you know you're you're let's say the the lady who's

00:38:29.200 60 years old who's been there for 30 years right sit down with her and say hey mary look i'm trying

00:38:35.640 to get everybody coordinated so that we aren't just moving chess pieces all over the board and

00:38:39.960 we've got a cohesive movement that we're trying to create for these kids so that everybody can get

00:38:44.380 what we need them to get and right now here's what's happening certain people are doing it this

00:38:49.200 way certain people are doing it this way and it makes everything not work your job's not working

00:38:53.200 my job's not working so i've come up with this little solution on how to get everybody on the same

00:38:58.520 page and this is what it's going to look like and you line it out on the piece of paper

00:39:03.480 and you're going to say then you're going to show it to her and you're going to say now do you have

00:39:06.660 any feedback for that or anything you think and this is in a private setting right not because if

00:39:11.020 you start this in a public setting it'll start all the chirping or be like i think this i think that

00:39:15.300 can't run shit by committee okay it's if you run a team and you're fucking running it by committee 0.89

00:39:21.940 you're gonna fucking lose you will you will end up with such vanilla bullshit this is why most 0.95

00:39:26.980 companies end up getting bad in the beginning they're run by a founder they're run by a close-knit group

00:39:31.980 of team then they get bigger and they get all these corporate fucks involved in their company

00:39:36.440 and then they sit around a table and they eliminate everything cool to be safe and it ends up with a

00:39:42.060 vanilla product vanilla marketing vanilla fucking processes and then you end up losing so sit down 0.96

00:39:47.820 with mary go through the list ask her for her feedback say hey this is what do you think where

00:39:53.940 can we improve and i would go to the people that you trust the most first all right go to the people

00:39:58.620 who you know are going to have good ideas and tell you the truth first because they're likely

00:40:03.520 going to point out the holes in your processes quick that way when you go to the lesser trusted

00:40:09.480 employees or the lesser bought-in employees uh the teachers they will they will those holes will be

00:40:14.900 covered so they'll be less uh static there you know what i'm saying and then you sit down with her

00:40:20.780 and you say okay uh so this is what i expect i'm gonna have you sign this and i'm gonna have

00:40:24.940 everybody sign it uh that way we're all on the same page and your great teachers your great employees

00:40:29.400 are gonna say fuck thank god i'm so tired of this shit being all over the place most employees are 0.99

00:40:35.300 in this case teachers they love clear-cut communication there is nothing worse than

00:40:42.060 wondering what the fuck is going on okay everybody here has been an employee at some time do you guys 0.90

00:40:48.000 not hate that because i fucking hated it i want to know what the fuck is going on and i want to know 0.98

00:40:52.140 exactly what to do and not only do i want to know exactly what to do i want to know exactly what to

00:40:56.420 do so that i'm valued so that i can move up in my career all right so you as a young man you need

00:41:02.160 to realize that most people crave clear concise leadership and by you sitting down and doing this

00:41:08.020 you're going to build that framework for your team and yeah you're going to have some kickback

00:41:11.880 and yeah you're going to have some mistakes but you address those individually as they happen okay

00:41:16.980 so like let's say you you sign these contracts and everybody fucking goes out and starts to do it 0.93

00:41:22.080 and then you got one guy who's a problem you don't take the whole team and be like you guys

00:41:25.840 aren't fucking doing this i used to do that when i was younger and it was the wrong move 0.96

00:41:29.760 you hit because then it makes an issue for everybody so you go over to steve over here who's

00:41:34.580 stuck in the old ways you say steve you sign this contract bro this is what i expect this is what

00:41:41.060 we're gonna do and if you can't do that i'm gonna have to let you go or you're you know you're gonna

00:41:46.720 have to go somewhere else yeah and you know he'll either get in line or he won't and if he doesn't

00:41:51.180 that's okay just find somebody that will and by the way when you bring new people into a culture that

00:41:56.140 already exists in the system that already exists there's no pushback because that's just the way

00:42:00.560 that it always was so after a while this just becomes the way and you don't have to do this

00:42:06.460 formality of actually setting the framework does that make sense okay i love it i fucking love it 0.52

00:42:12.040 guys andy that was four don't be a whore 1.00

00:42:17.000 went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a bowl fuck a stove counted millions 0.96

00:42:24.180 in the cold bad bitch booted slow got her on bank road can't fold doesn't know headshot case close 1.00

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - May 06, 2024

700. Q&AF： D Students Run Businesses, Discipline Motivation & First Big Purchase

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - May 06, 2024

700. Q&#x26;AF： D Students Run Businesses, Discipline Motivation &#x26; First Big Purchase

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700. Q&AF： D Students Run Businesses, Discipline Motivation & First Big Purchase