705. Q&AF： Redirecting Your Team After A Loss, Difference Between Busy And Productive & The Golden Rule Of Respect
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Q and Af discuss the solar flares and how to deal with them. Q and Af talk about their weekend and what they learned about mental toughness and how you can apply it to your life to help you achieve your dreams.
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what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realist sake about the lies
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the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we
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have q and af we always like to start the week off with some good knowledge in your dome and that's
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drop your question in there we'll answer some from there as well now through the week we're going to
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have different formats of the show their shows within the show okay tomorrow you're going to
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times we're going to have real talk real talk is just five to 20 minutes of me giving you some real
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it to build the life of your dreams there's also some case studies in there of some very famous people
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they talk about how they use mental toughness uh to get where they're going and uh yeah it's not
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don't be a hoe show the show all right hey what's up man how you doing good yeah how are you all right
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man it's uh it's good days monday yeah had a good weekend yep we're also here from the solar flares
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apparently huh solar flares are coming in apparently we had solar flares friday night that's what they're
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saying hold on everybody knows we record the show on friday man oh okay all right i mean is he fooling you
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guys well i didn't know if they do or not yeah dude i was trying to keep it in character it is in
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character except for it's the wrong one oh okay well we got solar flares tonight so hopefully when you
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guys are listening to this we're still here dj's over here trying to pull fast one you guys
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i feel like that's how i've always done that though yeah but they know oh you want to just pretend
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like it is no it's fine no we'll just pretend it's fine we'll do it live no we'll just keep pretending
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the way you want it to be i had a great weekend man okay we'll do a lot what'd you do this weekend
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what hold on how was your weekend yeah it was you know i don't yeah it was good was it what'd you do
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oh oh dude they're on to us i'm just trying to you know keep it right you know we'll do a lot
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fuck it we'll do a live i do want to start doing the show live i think our monday i think i think we
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should start doing the show live on mondays yeah we do them do them at like 10 a.m in the morning
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bro and then like just produce them into a regular episode it has to be on tuesdays though
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why because we record on mondays for the ctis no no it'd be live a live cti yeah oh it'd be live like
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we would put the internet up there and we just start talking about it all right yeah i'm down
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with that yeah we just start doing that what the fuck are you talking about bro when do you think i
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actually do my work i do before i come here yeah before he starts playing entrepreneur yeah before
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i start playing yeah if i don't get up if i don't get up early and take a couple hours at home bro i can't
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do shit you're up at 4 a.m no i mean you do your green tea regiment no i'm up at 4 a.m taking a pee
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because my enlarged prostate because i'm in my mid-40s yeah all right let's do the show oh
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shit these people trying to get better oh man just telling them lies that's crazy
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fuck man i just say that so i can get the finger in the butt you know hey yeah
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i gotta be 40 to do that huh huh what all right let's go come on let's make people better man
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that's what we're here for hope you guys are having a great start to your mondays
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um i had a great weekend though yeah weekends fire yeah
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guys andy question number one uh hey andy how do you redirect your teams after a loss
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uh my team for the most part uh have been grinding and working towards our goal for
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this grant for the last six months uh and just plainly it didn't get it um i've been scratching
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my head trying to figure out where we went wrong but man i think for all of us we're we're just kind
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of mentally drained right now um what have you found to be the best way to redirect and recover
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this is going to happen over and over and over again there's going to be a number of times through
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your business career where you're going to work very hard towards something you're going to have
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your team putting a lot of effort into things and it just doesn't work out that's called
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entrepreneurship and business it's a normal thing and it does suck the wind out of your sales right
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when you have all this investment and all this time and all this energy and all this money invested
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into a project and it kind of fizzles and doesn't work out the way you want it to
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it can be completely demoralizing for everybody but it's up to the leader of the team to come in
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and remind them that this is the way it goes sometimes okay just like sports just like any
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other competitive endeavor we're going to have situations where we put all of our practice time
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all of our effort we're going to train hard we're going to eat right we're going to do everything that
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we can and we're still going to lose the game sometimes and that's the reality so the best thing that
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you can do is to walk in and say hey guys i know that we've put a lot of effort in i appreciate
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i'm very proud of the effort that you put in nobody here was an anchor in the boat everybody here was
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doing what they could do it just didn't work out what do we learn through this process and then i
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start writing on the board i'd say i let them have an open forum what do you think we learned one person
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raised their hand we learned this right i write that on the board that's a good thing what else did we
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learn we learned how to do this okay that's a good thing we learned how to do this okay that's
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a good thing now we learned all these new things as a group as a team um let's figure out how we can
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apply them moving forward because let's not forget guys that we have this bigger mission that we're
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working on and even though this didn't work out we still have this to do so let's put this behind
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us let's chalk it up to a learning lesson we all learned we all got better and now let's move forward
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on this and automatically shift their their wallowing or they're you know feeling bad or
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their negative feelings towards the situation into a new mission as quickly as possible because if you
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let them wallow in it or or sulk in it it makes it worse it festers it starts to get infected and then
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you develop things like you know cancerous people in the organization who are like man you know we did
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all that shit and it didn't work out well fuck dude that's how the business works that's part of
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the deal so the main thing you got to do here is you have to acknowledge them for the hard work they
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put in you have to take inventory of the lessons that we learn and then we have to pivot into a new
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mission immediately okay so once we say hey that was yesterday the loss is over this is what it is
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we're going to move forward here and interestingly enough the the same formula applies when you have
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a big win all right when you have a big win you're going to go in there and you're gonna say all right
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guys good job we won what do we learn we learn this we learn this we learn this we learn this we learn this
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okay now realize we can't ride that win we can't sit here and say oh we did this one time that's just
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part of the bigger mission all right we have this big mission to do so from today on we're going to
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focus here so the process of addressing a loss or addressing a win is structurally the same right
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acknowledge the work take inventory of the lessons redirect into the mission and move forward from
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there does that make sense that makes perfect sense man when you talk about specifically on the
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loss side of things right acknowledging the hard work you know like in this case because it sounds like
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two things can be true at once right like yes you guys worked your ass off but still another the
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other team was just better right or whatever well dude there's lots of things that could happen man i
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mean look so it's sometimes it's not even better sometimes in business it's you know you're working
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on a grant and the other guy at the company is his uncle's on the grant board right there's things
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like this yes so there are there there are things that are out of our control relationship wise in
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business that sometimes you know we can work very hard to be the best option and still lose and uh
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that's not very often but it could happen and what i'm saying and the reason i'm bringing this up is
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there are things out of our control that could dictate whether we win or lose but we have to control
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what we can control the best of our abilities and present the best possible outcome that we are in
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control of yeah let me so so with that on the the the acknowledging the hard work in a loss
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environment what does that look like specifically like i mean is this are we still doing a pizza
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party are we doing a no dinner night no you know what i'm saying like no we're but we don't we also
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don't really do that when we win it's a 24-hour rule okay there's a 24-hour rule you have a 24 hours
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to feel bad about a loss you have 24 hours to feel good about a win after that we're moving forward
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all right so you know no there's no formal pizza party it's it's very simple like hey guys i really
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appreciate everything that you've done we worked really hard i know you know you might want to
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point out a few key people that led that part of the deal this guy did this you guys did this you guys
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did everything you could i know you did everything you could sometimes things don't work out and that's
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the way it is and then you move into what do we learn and then you move into what we're going to
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do next and it's the same thing when you win the process is identical dude the problem that most
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people run into here is that when they lose they sulk and then when they win they over celebrate
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okay and both are equally as harmful because what happens is when you sulk you start to believe that
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you can't do it and things are really bad and things get way you know things are made way worse
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in our minds and we become ineffective all right when we win we think we're better than we are
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and we we ride that win so long that we also become ineffective so either way if you give too
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much time or too much attention to the win or the loss you lose the ability to stay effective does that
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make sense that's perfect okay so we want to we want to acknowledge the effort take inventory of the
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lessons pivot into the new mission and make sure that the loss or the win is only talked about or
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celebrated for 24 hours that is the formula for addressing and getting people pivoted back on the
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path because dude this question is is very very very close like if you just substitute the word big win and
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for big loss it's the same structure of how to handle it because if you let your fucking team
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ride on a win for six months during that six months you're gonna get your ass beat because
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there's business to be handled tomorrow you know what i'm saying yeah that's real shit man i love it
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uh guys andy question number two uh andy um i've been finding it so easy to just be like
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i'm kicking ass i'm so busy what's the difference between being busy and being productive is is busy
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even a word that you use is that a word that should be used busy is a word that amateurs use
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amateurs take pride in bragging to everybody about how busy they are hey man what's going on oh
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fuck dude i'm so busy i'm so busy okay like what else is going on i'm just so tired by the way people
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who do that and they answer like that keep those people away from you okay those people are cancer
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they're negative they're in their feelings they're looking for sympathy here's the reality we're all
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fucking busy every one of us is busy but only a select few of us is actually effective with the
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business that we concern ourselves with all right so it doesn't matter how busy you are that is not a
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badge of honor there's no badge of honor there's no award there's no championship trophy for who
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the fuck the busiest is that's just what weak people say unproductive people say to deflect
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from their lack of results okay now if you ask someone who is actually producing results how things
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are going they're going to answer like this it's great dude we got this going we got this going we got
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this going they don't talk about the time that was put into it they talk about the actual results that
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are being produced or the seeds that are growing that are soon to be harvested all right so it's
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two different mentalities losers fucking concern themselves with being busy winners concern themselves
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with being effective that is it so remember that when you're dealing with high level people like if i
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walk up to someone i say hey steve how's it going oh look so fucking busy how much time you got oh
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fucking you're out fucking running myself to the bone fucking exhausted i'm gonna be like
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like i'm never talking to that guy again you know what i'm saying like ever like i'm not doing
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shit i'm not doing business with them i'm not fucking hanging out with them i'm not doing
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shit if i go talk to you know bob and i say bob how's it going what's going on oh bro it's going
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great dude we got this going we got this going we got this going we got this going we're kicking
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ass this this this these are moving well he doesn't concern himself with how much effort it takes he
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concerns himself with what result is being produced okay and that is the difference between winners
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and losers winners fucking look at the results being produced losers concern themselves with how
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much time they were spending they're spinning their wheels they're they are being ineffective they think
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that there's some sort of an award for talking about how busy they are and how tired they are and
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how exhausted they are when in reality it's a completely different language than what winners speak
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winners speak in terms of effectiveness losers speak in terms of busy so remember that the next
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time you start to rant about how busy you've been no one fucking cares the world doesn't care how busy
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you are the world doesn't care how much work you had to do if you have to do that much work and you
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have you're that busy it means you're fucking not very skilled because highly skilled people will
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produce results with less effort that's the point so if you if you find yourself in a situation and by
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the way when you're just starting out in business and you don't know you're gonna be busy because
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you have low skill but as you move and your skill gets acquired and you gain more and more and more
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of skill the time invested to produce the result is less less less less less less like for example 20
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years ago someone called me and said hey we got this problem i would fucking sit there all day being
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like fuck i don't know what to do blah blah blah just fucking do this i don't know and i you know sit
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there and think about it all day and busy myself to death about trying to solve this problem now i've
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been doing it for 25 fucking years the same problem is they call me up hey we got this problem all right
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do this this this done go back to what the fuck i was doing right that's the power of having experience
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that's the power of becoming skilled and that's who you want to be you don't want to be the busy guy
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who accomplishes nothing you want to be the effective guy that can be effective in the shortest
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amount of time possible and then if you want to and you want to apply all that energy think how much
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more productive work you could get done if you were busy and effective at the same time
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on the back side with a lot of skill and that's where the true killers live the true killers stay
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busy and effective and put in maximum energy you could be very successful though just being high
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skilled and not putting in that much energy as well so it just depends man on how far you want to take
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it like for me i invest all my energy and i'm highly skilled because i want to dominate that's
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what i want to do so uh but not everybody wants to win at that level people you know people have
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different levels that they're comfortable at or where they want to go and i can respect that but
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you're saying for you that's what's required yeah that's what that's what i that's what i want to do
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i'm built for that yeah but the thing is is like dude bragging about busy and talking about how busy you
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are you're just indicating to everybody else that you're a fucking amateur that's the truth okay
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nobody cares the world doesn't care the world is ruled by results the world is not ruled by effort
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it is ruled by results so if you can't produce the results it means you lack skill if you have to put
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in a bunch of effort to get something done it means you lack skill the more skill you gain the less energy
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it takes to execute which produces the result so it's like a sliding scale dude when you first start
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takes tons of effort because you don't have skill later on 10 years down the road you have more skill
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it takes less effort because you already know the answers you see what i'm saying absolutely so that's
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how you want to do and then if you want to get to the to the elite elite you have high skill and high
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effort yeah i love that let me ask you this because i feel like this also leads into a topic
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of just just very simple self-talk you know and the language that you use on a daily basis right
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what have you seen i guess you know in your 25 years of words that you used to use back then
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or self-taught conversations you used to have back then that have changed outside of just this busy
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versus being productive conversation like how do winners talk how should they be talking versus how i
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think the biggest difference between people who win and people who lose is that winners expect to win
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winners are not surprised when they win like when i win i don't like celebrate overly celebrate
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because i expected that to be the outcome yeah all right amateurs they they when they win they're
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surprised and then they over celebrate and like i said when they over celebrate they become ineffective
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because they're taking their eye off the game for way too long right oh i won the i won the week
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this week and then they talk about that one week for the next six weeks and the next six weeks
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the guy who expected to win is still going just as hard so it's an expectation that's the difference
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between winners and losers that i think in terms of not so much their self-talk but just their attitude
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like when i set out to do a project i expect to win i don't expect anything else that i expect to be
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the absolute best i expect to win it's a legitimate in my heart expectation and any that's anything less than
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that is a loss yeah and so people you know a lot of people are like why don't you celebrate more
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why don't you take because dude that's that's the result that i expected you know and there's people
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who love to win and then there's people who hate to lose the people who love to win are usually people
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who don't expect to win and it feels good for them people who hate to lose usually expect to win
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all the time and then when they lose they're furious i'm a hate to lose person yeah because i expect to
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win and i think that's the biggest mentality difference between average or less than average
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and elite performers is the expectation of what they're going to produce yeah but would you also
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say too it's also the understanding of how a win is actually made but like you understand that process
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of the inputs going into that right that's why there's no surprise right like i know i know it's
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fucking two because i did one plus one i mean yeah that's part of it man but but the other part of
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it is is the attitude of i'm willing to do whatever the fuck is required to produce that outcome
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right a lot of people aren't wired that way like if i say i'm going to do x like if i say i'm going to
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build the next fucking nike which is what the fuck i'm doing if i say that which i say it all the time
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i don't think people understand what i'm willing to do to do that like i'm willing to do fucking whatever
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i have to do if i have to go back to living on a fucking piss stain mattress for 10 years to get
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there that's what the fuck i'll do i'll do whatever's required doesn't matter and and i know that
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if i do whatever's required that will be the outcome but most people can't do that most people
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aren't willing to to to set their feet on the fucking line and say bro we're doing this no matter
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what there is no fucking options this is going to happen that's not how most people think that's how i
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think that's how other big winners think people who don't win and who don't win big they they say
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like this well that would be really cool that would be that would be awesome that would be awesome and
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when i say i'd be like bro this is going to be awesome not it might be awesome like this is going
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to be awesome you see what i'm saying it's slight differences in how people talk and as you get more
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experienced um you know with entrepreneurship and business and just winning in general you can really
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easily pick up on someone's mentality by the way they talk about things you know people will say
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shit like oh man that would be so cool if we were able to do this and i know that guy's never going
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to do that right but but other people you you know yeah i know that he's not because dude look this is
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the most competitive game on the planet dude if you're not willing to fucking do whatever it takes
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you cannot win at the highest level you can't really win at any level and so when people say
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shit like man it'd be really cool if we were able to do that that's not a very confident statement
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a confidence statement is bro we're gonna fucking do that and not only we're gonna do that we're
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gonna do that no matter what the fuck happens and if we have to do this if i gotta sell my house if i
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gotta sell my fucking cars if i gotta go live in the fucking woods in a fucking tent that is
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fucking happening and that's how i look at things and that's how all winners look at things and it's a
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very it's a zero option mentality once you decide where the fuck you're going you are going to get
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there no matter what and that is a big huge difference between people who win all the time
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and people who never win it's just the expectation of what the outcome will be because they understand
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that they will do fucking anything to get it and that's i i think that's a fundamental difference
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i every winner i know every fucking one of them they don't they don't pick a target and then say
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man i wonder if we can get there they pick a target and then they start thinking okay well how can i get
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there all right i gotta do this this this this this and they and then they go run the powerless play
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okay they break it down into daily wins go listen to the episode episode 16 it'll give you the whole
00:24:24.840
the whole playbook for free they break it down they take the big goal they break it down into actionable
00:24:29.480
steps to a daily basis they execute those steps and they understand that they execute those steps
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every single fucking day eventually you get there if you go out to dig a hole in the fucking ground
00:24:38.840
and you say the hole has got to be 20 feet by 40 feet and you got a fucking a shovel a little bitty
00:24:45.480
shovel okay a kid's shovel and you go out there and you start shoveling it doesn't really matter how
00:24:50.840
much you got done the first day or the second day as long as you kept moving because eventually the
00:24:55.400
fucking hole is going to get dug all right and that's the same thing in goals it's the same thing
00:24:59.400
in business you show up every day you chip away at it you don't quit and you keep going and it produces
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the result and and dude that's been my experience everything i've ever said i'm going to do has
00:25:10.120
happened because i'm willing to do fucking anything to do it and and i think that's the attitude that's
00:25:15.400
missing amongst most people most people just have the attitude of you know oh this would be cool if i
00:25:20.200
could do this and that that's just not good enough it's not it's not firm enough it takes more than
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that yeah that's real shit man i love it i love it guys andy uh question number three andy what's your
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outlook on the golden rule uh give respect to get it i feel like in a perfect world it sounds great
00:25:40.040
but i don't feel like that works in the real world i would love to get your take on this what is it true
00:25:46.200
you have to give respect to get it or is it demanded is it is it something else i i think
00:25:53.000
i think it depends on where you are in life i think if your whole entire fucking life speaks for
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itself you automatically usually get respect like if you produce results at an undeniable level and
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everybody in the world knows it and you walk in a room they respect you okay the problem comes when
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all you motherfuckers who haven't done a motherfucking thing think that people owe you respect they don't
00:26:13.160
owe you and what have you done to actually earn that respect what is your track record where are
00:26:17.960
your receipts well oh you were born oh you're you're equal to everybody so you deserve that respect
00:26:23.720
that's bullshit respect is earned through results respect is earned through commitment through effort
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through say doing what you say you're going to do and displaying that through everything in your life
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and then people will respect you we have a whole generation of people who believe they deserve respect
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for breathing the fucking air and that's the problem and if you guys would stop worrying about
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how much people respect you or don't respect you and started just worrying about what results you're
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actually producing you'd get the fucking respect you're looking for but nobody's going to give you
00:26:55.720
respect nobody owes you respect and you need to get over your own fucking ego and realize that there's
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no reason to respect you if you've not actually done anything outside of basic human respect hey how you
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doing nice to see you you know normal human kindness i'm talking about in the business world i'm talking
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about in entrepreneurship a lot of these young kids they believe that they should get this respect
00:27:18.760
because they fucking went and filed an llc and they're starting a business bro you haven't done
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shit and everybody who's done shit knows you haven't done shit they don't owe you shit they don't owe you
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fucking anything they don't owe you a fucking phone call a fucking text a fucking email back because you're not
00:27:34.200
deserving of that you haven't put in the work you haven't even shown that you produce any results
00:27:39.240
and i dude i see this every once in a while dude one of these kids will email me or get my email
00:27:44.520
they'll email me they'll email me three or four times and then they'll email and i won't answer or
00:27:49.480
it'll be dms right they'll dm me three or four times talking about you know oh i fucking bro i would
00:27:55.720
love to pick your brain over a cup of coffee motherfucker you think i'm going to give away my knowledge
00:28:00.440
over to you for over a cup of coffee i got 25 years of fucking knowledge and you want to sit
00:28:05.640
with me over a cup of fucking coffee that's so fucking disrespectful to say to someone stop saying
00:28:11.400
that but in my dms in my emails you know hey i'd love to connect hey i'd love to connect hey i think
00:28:17.480
i could do this hey i think i could do that and i don't ever answer because i'm like who the fuck are you
00:28:22.360
okay if you were who if you were able to do the things you say i'd know your fucking name
00:28:26.360
that's the reality i'd be dming you yeah yeah and dude these kids think that like you owe them
00:28:32.360
something and then what eventually happens is they write some shit you're not who i thought you were
00:28:37.400
you're fucking you don't even send me an email back yeah motherfucker because that's the way it
00:28:41.800
works you haven't earned my email back go out and be produce some undeniable results become the best in
00:28:47.560
the fucking world at what you do like i am at what i do okay and then i'll fucking email you back if i can
00:28:54.440
recognize your name when it comes in and recognize your name in my dm you want to do business with me
00:28:58.920
then we can talk but until then shut the fuck up and go fucking earn your fucking respect that you
00:29:04.200
think everybody owes you because you don't fucking deserve it you haven't earned it yeah that's real
00:29:09.560
shit that's my take bro yeah i just feel like you know there's a lot of you know i've been seeing a
00:29:15.320
lot more emails like this there's a lot of just misconceptions man and i think it kind of just
00:29:19.640
lends to the you know the work we do on the cti side right but keeping this show clean
00:29:24.200
it's like there's just a lot of misalignment with just how the world really works like that
00:29:32.200
it doesn't you know i'm saying like and people get out in the real world man and if it really
00:29:35.720
fucks them up well that's because they've been raised in the idealistic atmosphere for 20 years
00:29:41.320
they've been told that just because you're alive you're special they've been told that just because
00:29:45.960
you show up and compete you get a trophy they've no shit they're entitled they believe that because
00:29:52.600
they're in business that you owe them your time and you do not and unless you can display some
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exceptional value which you probably can't because nobody will listen to you
00:30:04.520
you're not going to get anywhere with those people you know like bro you have to build your
00:30:08.520
book you have to build your list of results you have to be able to tell them exactly exactly what the
00:30:14.040
fuck you've done exactly hey i did this i did this i did this i did this i can fucking rip that
00:30:19.240
off for anybody right now bro i got a business worth 10 figures got a business worth nine figures
00:30:23.160
i got three business worth eight figures i got fucking two number one podcasts two for
00:30:27.000
fucking categories i created the world's biggest mental toughness program ever you see what i'm saying
00:30:32.920
like if you've actually done shit you could fucking you know what the fuck you've done it's impressive
00:30:37.640
and if i were to fuck like bro if i wanted to do business with someone it really doesn't matter who the
00:30:41.400
fuck it is if i send them an email and they see my name in there they write me back yeah that's the
00:30:46.520
that's where you get respect you get respect when you fucking earn the respect and so yes the answer
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to the question is if you're if you haven't produced undeniable results you have to give the respect first
00:31:02.120
and you have to give it for a long time before you're ever reciprocated i love it that's the answer
00:31:07.800
bro i love it people don't like it people don't like it because they don't they want to be respected
00:31:12.600
for doing nothing they want to be celebrated for producing shit they want to be told they're special
00:31:17.800
they want to be told they're you know a delicate little snowflake and they're the only one ever
00:31:22.440
and motherfucker dude you don't really understand how many fucking emails from people like you people
00:31:27.080
like me get on a daily basis just like that yeah and then they're like oh you don't respect me no
00:31:32.360
shit the fuck have you done i mean yeah you're right i don't because you haven't fucking earned
00:31:39.000
it do i respect you as a human being sure if you were starving i give you a fucking sandwich if i'd
00:31:44.440
take you know that's not what i'm talking about here i'm not talking about elitism as a human i'm
00:31:49.560
talking about in the hierarchy of business a lot of you young bucks bro you don't have a scorecard to
00:31:54.920
show anybody and the scorecard you do show someone usually is bullshit and then once we figure out
00:32:00.520
it's bullshit i get on the phone with everybody else i know i say don't talk to that fucking guy
00:32:04.280
he's full of shit you can self-destruct your brand behind the scenes without even knowing
00:32:09.080
it just by being a dumb fucking emails you think when you email me 17 times and then tell me off
00:32:14.040
in the email that i don't fucking screenshot it and send it to everybody i know and say look at this
00:32:18.600
fucking idiot don't work with that guy right you know what i'm saying what you showed your true
00:32:22.840
character yeah but everybody does that like you know how like you know how many texts i get from like
00:32:27.160
my friends in business locally and you know over the uh over the globe guys you know influencers
00:32:34.600
fucking big big ceos who are like yeah this fucking idiot's a scammer this fucking idiot's this here's
00:32:40.920
what's happened here and you get blackballed out of the circle without even knowing it you see what
00:32:45.800
i'm saying man yeah a lot of you guys need to know your place and fucking operate there and be very
00:32:51.640
respectful to the people ahead of you because the people ahead of you can make or break you
00:32:55.080
you know what i mean that's real shit yeah bro don't be pouting because you didn't get the
00:33:00.200
fucking attention you wanted from some big dog that you're trying to do business with that's
00:33:05.160
you have to give the respect bro they don't owe you shit yet you have to earn it so yeah you have
00:33:09.880
to earn the respect and by the way if you are the big dog you've also got to earn the respect you don't
00:33:15.560
demand the respect i don't come in here and demand respect actually i think everybody would say it's the
00:33:21.320
opposite i'm in here taking out the fucking trash i took out the fucking trash an hour ago i'm in
00:33:26.920
here picking up shit off the floor straightening shit up helping these guys with their shit there's
00:33:31.560
not a person in here that could say oh he demands respect no motherfucker i earn the respect every
00:33:37.240
single fucking day with what i do so it goes both ways i love that man it's the truth is that not true
00:33:42.840
am i lying absolutely true i haven't seen a different in four and a half years that's what i'm saying but
00:33:47.800
dude i understand that i have to earn it from these people on a daily basis if i if i don't
00:33:52.120
come in here for the next 60 days and i'm out on my instagram fucking on the beach guess what's
00:33:56.520
gonna happen to my respect level you know it's gonna go down i i expect a lot from our team but
00:34:01.160
i also give a lot to the same mission that they have which which there's mutual respect there you
00:34:05.960
see what i'm saying 100 it's not this thing that you just oh i can be you know i can earn it this day
00:34:10.200
and it's gonna last fucking forever no that's the other thing it's like a shower yeah just because you
00:34:14.200
had it yesterday don't mean you have it today for real yeah you first think a little bit same
00:34:19.800
thing with discipline dude yeah if you don't fucking brush up your discipline today just because you
00:34:24.360
had it yesterday it's gonna erode it's a perishable skill and respect is a perishable uh attribute as
00:34:29.960
well so you have to give it consistently it goes both ways but the reason i went off on that tangent is
00:34:35.880
because it's a big problem with the younger people like you guys fucking think anybody owes you
00:34:40.120
shit nobody owes you shit you haven't done anything the fuck have you done fuck you
00:34:45.800
i love it man i love it you want to do a little extra sauce yeah yeah a little extra spicy yeah all
00:34:51.160
right oh a little extra a little extra pepper on the chicken today ah let's not go that far
00:34:57.960
you know i like my chicken unseasoned i don't want it too spicy i don't want too spicy
00:35:03.160
motherfucker you're the one that don't like spicy shit no i don't like hot
00:35:06.280
shit bro you are the coolest no there's a difference spicy and hot are two you are the
00:35:10.360
biggest pussy when it comes to spicy shit so i don't know what the fuck you're talking about
00:35:14.440
there's a difference between something being spicy no you're talking about
00:35:19.480
there's two different things hot and spicy two different things okay i see what you're saying
00:35:23.240
but i don't like hot shit i do spicy a little chicken curry that's you know what i'm saying yeah
00:35:28.920
yeah all all spice in there you know obey i like my chicken boiled with no i think it has something
00:35:38.920
to do with my skin i don't know yeah you feel you too joe you guys we're over here boiling our chicken
00:35:46.840
and hot dogs all right guys any question number two uh four question number four uh andy i'm 17 years old
00:35:56.760
and i have my first job interview in two weeks uh for a retail store in the mall can you give me
00:36:03.960
some tips that would help me lock this down i'm nervous and i don't really know what to expect what you
00:36:10.520
got tell the truth go in there all right i'm gonna give you the playbook it's very simple
00:36:17.640
shake the man's hand or the woman's hand firmly don't crush it okay don't be one of these turds
00:36:22.920
that tries to crush the hand nice firm handshake look him in the eye say thank you very much for
00:36:28.360
having me thank you very much for giving me the interview i very much so appreciate it when they
00:36:32.920
start to ask you questions you tell the truth don't lie about your skill set if you don't have the skill
00:36:37.400
set say look i don't know anything about that but i will i will do anything you say to learn
00:36:43.320
and and and present yourself as someone who's multiple present yourself as someone who is humble who is
00:36:48.920
willing to learn who is willing to help who's willing to do anything take out the trash wash the
00:36:53.960
sink whatever the fuck whatever has to be done i'll do so i can learn how to be good at this and
00:36:59.000
if you have that attitude when you go in there um because an interview i've some i've interviewed you
00:37:05.560
know thousands of people and most people come in and they start bragging about all this that they
00:37:10.280
know and how much they can help the company and i'm fucking bro it's i can build a rocket ship yeah
00:37:15.240
yeah it's dude it's like bro we're just selling some supplements man bro and you know it's a lie
00:37:21.800
too it's not like you don't know it's a lie like that's the thing like this person that's interviewed
00:37:26.360
you has probably interviewed fucking hundreds of people so when you go in there and you start lying
00:37:31.640
about what you can and can't do and you start saying corny ass shit you know like they're gonna know
00:37:38.120
so like my biggest piece of advice man is be respectful to the last question be eager to learn
00:37:45.800
be humble to admit that you don't know but you'll do whatever it takes to learn and then if you give
00:37:50.040
you you know any assignments to learn learn those and then try to be as prepared as you can before
00:37:54.600
you go in there you know if they if they sell uh clothing or electronics or whatever it is in this
00:38:00.040
retail environment try to learn as much as you can before you go in but don't be certain about what
00:38:05.640
you know so you know when they say well what do you know let's just say it's an electronics place
00:38:09.800
right what do you know about iphones well i know this and this and this and this and this
00:38:13.960
but i i that's just stuff i picked up on my own i don't know like no formal training yeah yeah
00:38:19.320
these are just things that i i read on the website and just be honest you know um dress nice don't
00:38:25.960
dress like a slob uh you know dress appropriately nice you know what i mean um sometimes like it you
00:38:33.960
know if you're going into like a gym and you wear a suit as an interview it it doesn't really fit like
00:38:40.520
you want to dress appropriate so you don't come off as a little weird um but i think the biggest
00:38:46.600
thing is man you know for a young kid is just say hey this is my first job i'm i'm here to learn i'm
00:38:53.000
here to get better i want i want to learn things and just being humble enough to admit that you don't
00:38:57.720
know exactly what you're doing um i think that'll go a long way yeah what was your what was like your
00:39:03.160
first like you're on a payroll job because i mean i know you started business at 19 but i mean i'm
00:39:08.200
sure there was something in there what was your first no not really i always played sports got
00:39:12.920
you yeah so i didn't have a like a job job yeah um i did in the jobs i did have they were things i did
00:39:20.360
like side hustle yes like mowing grass or going door to door things like bro i'm an entrepreneur
00:39:25.560
through and through like i i am not a i'm not hireable
00:39:28.920
could you imagine me fucking working for someone yeah yeah i'm i'm unemployable so i had to employ
00:39:39.640
myself it's the fucking truth it's a hundred percent the truth dude yeah i love that though
00:39:45.720
yeah so like yeah i have to do things my way man and you know in an employment situation that's not
00:39:51.640
ideal yeah you know people don't like that they they frown upon that so uh you know but but you
00:40:00.520
know um but you know what an employer looks for that's the yeah because i've been doing that part
00:40:04.840
a long time yeah yeah you know so i like people who are honest who who tell the truth who have a good
00:40:11.960
attitude and are positive who are respectful and i think they're decent people um who come prepared
00:40:17.640
who say hey i know this but you know that's just you know don't be too certain like you're an expert
00:40:23.720
just say hey this is what i think i know um and i think that's a really good place to start quick
00:40:29.720
follow-up on that because i remember you know i had a bunch of like i've worked for like all over the
00:40:34.120
place i've had you know experience in different places and different employers and i remember one
00:40:38.200
time i was told that uh i didn't hire you because of your resume like i don't hire the resume i hire the
00:40:43.880
person yeah is that is that yeah that's a good like that's a good way to look at look at the
00:40:49.480
process for people yes i i think you're much more likely to get hired if you are an honest good person
00:40:58.920
versus someone who knows all the that that rubs you the wrong way i i don't want to hire i'll tell
00:41:05.080
you who i don't want to hire i don't want to hire someone that thinks they know everything i don't
00:41:08.520
want to hire someone that that comes in and presents themselves as overly you know knowledgeable about
00:41:13.400
what we do because what i know is what i already know as an employer is they don't know shit
00:41:18.360
about how we do things and i'm gonna have to break them of all these fucking habits yeah okay so i would
00:41:22.920
much rather have someone who's a good person who's open to learn than someone who thinks they're super
00:41:28.680
experienced and they're going to come in and do all this shit when i know for a fact they don't do it
00:41:33.080
to my standard right yeah um well you gotta deal with for the next you know six months well at this
00:41:38.440
place this is how that's right that's right and dude i won't even let that come here that
00:41:42.600
shit doesn't even come here i love it yeah i love it man well guys andy that was four yeah guys
00:41:48.600
let's have a good week let's go kick some ass see you guys tomorrow
00:41:52.440
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fuck a bowl fuck a stove counted millions in the code bad bitch booted swole got her on bank
00:42:01.960
broke broke can't fold doesn't know head shot case close close