REAL AF with Andy Frisella - May 20, 2024


710. Q&AF： Winners Intent, Mastering The Mundane & Promoted By Default


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In this episode of the Realists podcast, we talk about the importance of mental toughness and how it can be used to solve problems in the world. We also talk about how important it is to have a group of like minded people who are willing to talk about anything and everything.

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00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realists, say goodbye
00:00:20.380 to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking
00:00:23.740 reality.
00:00:24.060 Guys, today, as always, we start the week out with some Q&AF, that's where you submit
00:00:29.300 the questions and we give you the answers.
00:00:30.960 Now, you can submit your questions a few different ways.
00:00:33.400 The first way is, guys, email these questions into askandy at andyfricella.com or you go
00:00:39.280 on YouTube in the comments section of the Q&AF episodes and you can drop your questions
00:00:43.240 in there and we'll pick some from there as well.
00:00:45.880 Tomorrow, we're going to have CTI, that stands for Cruise the Internet.
00:00:49.780 That's where we put topics on the screen, the topics of the day, we talk about what's
00:00:53.500 up, we speculate on what's true, what's not true, and then we talk about how we, the people,
00:00:57.900 have to solve these problems going on in the world.
00:01:00.200 Later in the week, we might have some real talk.
00:01:01.960 Real talk is just five to 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk and then occasionally
00:01:06.360 we have 75 Hard Verses.
00:01:09.620 75 Hard Verses is where an individual has completed the 75 Hard Program, talks about how their life
00:01:16.840 was before, how their life is now, and how they used the 75 Hard Program to fix everything
00:01:24.020 going on with them.
00:01:25.560 The 75 Hard Program is the initial phase of the Live Hard Program.
00:01:29.360 If you've been living under a rock, you might not know that.
00:01:34.020 You can get this program for free, which is the most popular transformation, mental transformation
00:01:39.320 program in the history of Earth.
00:01:41.900 You can get it for free at episode 208 on the audio feed.
00:01:44.980 It's not on YouTube, it's on the audio feed only.
00:01:47.300 There is a book available called The Book on Mental Toughness.
00:01:49.880 It's available at my website, andyfrusella.com.
00:01:52.680 You can get that book.
00:01:53.800 It'll cover the entire Live Hard Program, top to bottom, inside out.
00:01:57.920 It will also give you 10 chapters on mental toughness, why it's important, and how you
00:02:01.900 can use it to build a life that you desire.
00:02:04.400 There's also some case studies of some very famous people who talk about how they've used
00:02:09.280 mental toughness to create the lives that have made them famous.
00:02:12.960 All right?
00:02:13.220 The book is not required, but it is available, andyfrusella.com.
00:02:16.260 Check that out.
00:02:16.860 But another thing about this show is we don't run ads on the show.
00:02:21.040 You'll notice that.
00:02:22.400 And in exchange for that, we ask very simply that you help us get the message out.
00:02:25.880 We are constantly fighting censorship, shadow bans, traffic throttles.
00:02:29.700 And for our message to get out, we need you to share it.
00:02:32.380 So if the show makes you think, if it makes you laugh, it gives you a new perspective,
00:02:36.180 it's an important message you think needs to be heard, if it teaches you a new skill,
00:02:39.580 it gives you value in any way, please share that episode of the show.
00:02:44.460 All right?
00:02:45.040 We rely on you guys to do that.
00:02:47.320 So don't be a hoe. 1.00
00:02:48.500 Share the show.
00:02:49.280 All right.
00:02:50.080 What's up?
00:02:50.540 What's going on, man?
00:02:51.380 Not much.
00:02:52.080 Yeah?
00:02:52.560 Just chilling.
00:02:53.500 What's up with you?
00:02:54.360 No, you know, just doing it.
00:02:56.440 Yeah?
00:02:56.860 Mm-hmm.
00:02:58.160 You're going to try to make it feel like it's Monday again?
00:03:00.160 You know, I was thinking about this, and then you were like, you know, tomorrow we got
00:03:03.680 CTI.
00:03:04.200 I'm like, not technically.
00:03:06.720 Huh?
00:03:07.960 They're going to hear it on Monday.
00:03:09.060 I'm not going to pretend that this is Monday, though.
00:03:11.080 Like, hey, what'd you do this weekend?
00:03:15.100 Oh, I don't know.
00:03:16.100 I did some shit that I didn't even do yet.
00:03:17.640 I was actually, you know, I was worried there that I was going to get hammered in the comments
00:03:21.840 about that.
00:03:22.900 It was all right.
00:03:23.500 Nobody hammers anybody in the comments.
00:03:27.160 The only people that do the hammering are our people.
00:03:29.700 Yeah, but like, I was like, oh, DJ, you know, I thought I was going to get some.
00:03:31.900 When these turds get in there and say some stupid shit. 1.00
00:03:34.100 I love the way our people hammer people on other people's posts.
00:03:36.960 Yeah, that's always good.
00:03:37.420 That's what I like.
00:03:38.140 Like, I like when I click open somebody else's post, and some dude's in there saying some
00:03:43.000 shit, and our people are just all over them. 0.95
00:03:44.920 Yeah.
00:03:45.520 That's always good.
00:03:46.160 We got a good group.
00:03:46.940 Yeah, it's great.
00:03:47.600 We got a good group, man.
00:03:48.400 It's good people.
00:03:49.720 Anyway.
00:03:50.380 Yeah.
00:03:50.960 Let's get into it.
00:03:51.880 Yeah, you want to get into it?
00:03:53.180 Yeah.
00:03:53.460 You want to do it?
00:03:54.080 Yeah, I do.
00:03:54.840 All right.
00:03:55.400 Let's do it.
00:03:56.000 Let's make some people better.
00:03:57.160 There we go.
00:03:57.820 Yeah, see?
00:03:58.420 Yeah.
00:03:58.900 Hey, guess what?
00:04:00.660 What?
00:04:01.040 I got three good ones for you.
00:04:01.960 All right.
00:04:02.540 All right.
00:04:03.300 It's been a minute since I said that.
00:04:04.620 Yeah, like last show.
00:04:06.700 Yeah, a couple of days ago.
00:04:07.960 Guys, Andy, question number one.
00:04:10.040 Let's get into it.
00:04:10.760 Hey, Andy.
00:04:11.780 I am a professional soccer player, and I'm a goalkeeper.
00:04:16.240 Right now, it has been between me and another guy for the starting job on the team.
00:04:22.120 Whenever he has played and done well, there is always a part of me that hates it and wants
00:04:27.960 to see him get scored on.
00:04:29.900 I know, however, you talk about how important our feelings are towards others' success for
00:04:34.940 our own personal successes.
00:04:36.900 The tough part is, usually, I don't get an opportunity to play until he has a poor game
00:04:41.800 or makes a mistake.
00:04:43.300 How would you approach a situation like this?
00:04:45.000 Do you have any practical advice to keep my mind and intent and my heart right so I can
00:04:50.960 have success when it is my time to play?
00:04:53.320 I think it's super natural for someone who's competitive to want the other person to not
00:04:58.680 do as well so you can get a chance to do well.
00:05:01.880 However, the problem with that is, is that when you root for people to lose, you tell
00:05:06.420 the universe that you like losing and the universe delivers losing to you.
00:05:09.420 So how do we balance these two concepts?
00:05:11.840 It's very simple.
00:05:13.320 If the person's better than you, you should celebrate the fact that they're better than
00:05:17.280 you because you know that you are an equal type human to that person and what one man
00:05:22.080 can do, another can do.
00:05:23.760 So if you are behind someone who happens to be better than you, it is okay to celebrate
00:05:29.100 how good they are knowing that they are actually doing you a favor because they are showing you
00:05:34.020 where you need to improve, where people get in trouble with this is, is they hate on people
00:05:39.120 who are actually better than them.
00:05:40.860 And that hate blinds them from recognizing where that person is better and how they can
00:05:46.080 improve themselves to actually be better.
00:05:48.660 So for example, when I am out here in the world and I am deciding who I am going to be
00:05:55.260 friends with, I look for people who are winning big.
00:05:58.360 I look for people who are great.
00:06:00.300 And a lot of times these people are better than me at certain things.
00:06:03.500 And I love that because it gives me an indication of where I can improve.
00:06:07.900 And by the way, where can I learn how to improve?
00:06:10.880 Oh, the guy right here who happens to be my friend, who's better at me than this and this
00:06:15.480 and this, and I happen to be better at him that this and this and this.
00:06:19.140 So we get together.
00:06:20.320 And even though we're competitive, we can learn from each other and improve.
00:06:23.960 And we both get better.
00:06:25.300 A rising tide raises all ships.
00:06:27.600 So while I can understand the internal battle that happens when you're in direct competition
00:06:35.760 with someone, I have found that when you root for them to lose, not only do you have
00:06:41.820 a harder time winning, but you blind yourself from obtaining the skill set that has allowed
00:06:46.560 them to be better in the first place.
00:06:48.420 So that's how I view competition.
00:06:50.840 I root for people to win.
00:06:52.940 I root for my enemies to win.
00:06:54.760 The reason I root for my enemies to win is because I know in my heart that I will do
00:07:00.100 everything they do and more to win.
00:07:03.400 I am confident in myself.
00:07:05.280 I am confident in my abilities.
00:07:07.280 I am confident and I know what I am willing to do, what I'm willing to invest and what
00:07:11.880 I'm willing to sacrifice to win.
00:07:13.980 And the answer to that question is fucking anything. 0.66
00:07:16.680 If I have to go back to living in the back of my first retail store on a piss stained mattress
00:07:21.680 to beat some motherfucker, guess what? 0.97
00:07:24.400 I'll do it.
00:07:25.400 I'll do it at this stage of my life.
00:07:27.240 I did.
00:07:27.720 I would have done it five years ago.
00:07:29.100 I would have done it 10 years ago and I'll do it 10 years from now.
00:07:32.060 And the reason that I'm successful is because I have that ability to recognize where other
00:07:38.180 people are great.
00:07:39.120 And then I am willing to do whatever the fuck I have to do to be as great or better than
00:07:44.860 them at that thing.
00:07:46.280 So why would I surround myself with people who aren't better than me if the people who
00:07:51.760 are better than me are showing me how they got better and also instilling a drive and
00:07:57.240 a competitive spirit for me to get better?
00:07:59.260 What do I lose by rooting for that?
00:08:02.840 That's how I see it.
00:08:04.860 Do you feel like there's also like there's a team aspect to it too, right?
00:08:08.300 Because it's like, what is your real, like, what's the real goal here?
00:08:11.320 Is the goal for you to be the winner or for the team to win?
00:08:13.940 Well, the goal is for the team to win in a team atmosphere.
00:08:17.080 When you're running a business, you need the business to win.
00:08:20.480 That's the team.
00:08:21.500 Right.
00:08:21.740 While the team is winning, you also have a goal to contribute and to improve and to directly
00:08:28.520 impact your own personal standing, your own personal skillset, and the results that come
00:08:34.440 from you building that skillset.
00:08:37.180 So there are two goals when being on a team.
00:08:40.660 First is team first.
00:08:42.620 We need the team to win.
00:08:43.940 So if that goalie is better than you, you need to be okay with him winning some games
00:08:47.980 because ultimately you being on a winning team is going to help you tremendously down
00:08:51.720 the road.
00:08:52.760 Secondly, the goal should be for you to improve your skill.
00:08:56.400 And what better way to improve your skill than to be on a team that wins?
00:09:00.960 So there's two, there's always two goals there.
00:09:03.580 It's okay to have two goals there.
00:09:05.680 It's not this or that.
00:09:06.960 It's both.
00:09:07.740 You should want to be on a winning team and put the team first.
00:09:11.260 And also while you're on the winning team, you should want to be the best player on that
00:09:15.680 team.
00:09:16.140 And what way to be the best player on a winning team than to be surrounded by fucking winners
00:09:20.360 who know how to be the best players.
00:09:22.080 You see what I'm saying?
00:09:23.120 Most people want to be the big fish in a small pond.
00:09:26.920 And what you really want to do is you want to be a big fish in the big pond.
00:09:30.680 And you can only do that when you're surrounding yourself by world-class winners and world-class
00:09:35.460 skill set individuals.
00:09:36.760 And that's going to make everybody a little insecure.
00:09:39.840 That's going to make you feel a little uncomfortable.
00:09:42.260 But if you're a true competitor and you're someone who knows what you're willing to do to
00:09:46.260 get better, that shouldn't scare you.
00:09:48.340 That should empower you.
00:09:49.440 That should drive you.
00:09:50.560 It should inspire you because if I look at someone over there who can do something better
00:09:55.120 than me, I clearly, because I believe in myself and I have high self-confidence, I look over
00:10:00.720 there and I say, oh, that's how he does it.
00:10:04.220 Okay, well, I'm going to go do this so I can beat him at that.
00:10:07.140 You see what I'm saying?
00:10:08.000 Yeah.
00:10:08.520 And that's what you're saying the importance is of bringing those people in close to your
00:10:12.860 circle.
00:10:13.920 Yeah.
00:10:14.520 Do you hit them up to get some workouts in and practices?
00:10:18.620 You know what I'm saying?
00:10:18.920 I'm going to teach you some techniques, right?
00:10:20.500 So it sounds like this is just coming down to an ego issue here.
00:10:23.840 No, no, no.
00:10:24.520 I think it's just a competitor.
00:10:26.300 Yeah.
00:10:26.580 When you're competitive, this is something that is mentally difficult to sort out.
00:10:31.120 Okay.
00:10:31.620 It just is.
00:10:33.300 Most competitors, they look at people and they're like, I want to fucking smash them,
00:10:37.900 which is cool because I do too.
00:10:39.860 However, we have to recognize how the smashing occurs.
00:10:43.740 Does the smashing occur because you just want to smash them and you're emotional about
00:10:48.200 it and you see red?
00:10:50.040 No.
00:10:50.640 The smashing occurs when you recognize their gifts.
00:10:54.060 You do the work to build those gifts and those skill sets in yourself.
00:10:58.580 And then you go out and perform at a higher level.
00:11:00.940 That's where the smashing occurs.
00:11:02.420 The smashing does not occur because you're angry.
00:11:04.780 The smashing does not occur because you want it to.
00:11:06.920 It doesn't occur because you're highly emotional and I've got all this drive and I'm ready to
00:11:11.720 kill.
00:11:12.360 That's not where it happens.
00:11:13.540 Where it happens is I observe what he's good at.
00:11:16.040 I put practice into that.
00:11:17.440 I adopt that skill set for myself and then I go out and put results up that are better than
00:11:21.940 that person's.
00:11:22.700 I love that, man.
00:11:24.600 I love it.
00:11:25.500 I love it, guys.
00:11:26.880 Andy, question number two.
00:11:28.840 This is one of my favorite questions.
00:11:32.500 I like it.
00:11:32.880 I like this guy.
00:11:33.860 All right.
00:11:34.140 Andy, first off, I love you, bro.
00:11:37.440 Real shit.
00:11:38.040 No diddy.
00:11:39.080 I found you about six months ago and as a black man from Dallas, you be speaking straight
00:11:44.740 facts.
00:11:45.760 My question is, I've noticed that you speak of consistency a lot.
00:11:50.460 The daily wins and being consistent with that.
00:11:53.720 Have you ever had any issues with consistency being boring?
00:11:58.160 I mean, I feel like doing the same shit every day can get old.
00:12:02.160 Let me know if I'm not looking at this right or what.
00:12:05.480 You're not looking at this right.
00:12:07.960 Not or what.
00:12:09.360 All right.
00:12:10.340 And I appreciate the love.
00:12:12.080 All right.
00:12:12.360 But I'm going to let you in on some real shit here.
00:12:13.940 The greatest people that you have ever observed at anything in life have mastered the monotonous
00:12:22.460 tasks and do them day in and day out without fail.
00:12:26.880 They do not consider the fact if it's boring, they understand what result it produces.
00:12:32.200 All right.
00:12:32.740 So when we talk about Michael Jordan, there's very famous stories about Michael Jordan and
00:12:36.700 what he did at practice.
00:12:37.680 He started with a very specific exercise, which was chest passes.
00:12:42.220 Do you know what they start you doing in basketball practice when you're five years old?
00:12:47.560 The first thing they teach you?
00:12:49.000 Oh, they teach you chest passes.
00:12:50.680 So you have the greatest athlete ever in this sport.
00:12:55.900 Undeniably, by the way, for all you young bucks that think LeBron's even comparable, you're
00:12:59.660 fucking insane.
00:13:00.400 Starting his practice after 30 years of playing the game with the same drill, do you think
00:13:08.340 that that gets boring or do you think that he says, this is what I got to do to be great?
00:13:13.020 All right.
00:13:13.960 When we look at the greatest home run hitters of all time or the greatest soccer players
00:13:19.660 of all time or the greatest CEOs of all time, these people are not doing different things
00:13:26.760 every day.
00:13:27.240 They are mastering the monotonous tasks and the reason that people have such a hard time
00:13:32.240 with success is because they're unwilling to do the boring shit at a high level over
00:13:38.000 the course of time.
00:13:39.380 They get to a point where they're like, oh, okay, I got this figured out.
00:13:42.180 I know how to throw a chest pass.
00:13:43.680 And then they're like, what's next?
00:13:45.240 360 dunks.
00:13:46.480 And they get fancy with the shit and they never master anything.
00:13:50.560 Okay.
00:13:50.860 So when we talk about what it takes to succeed, the reason that most people can't succeed is
00:13:56.620 because they get bored with the basic shit, not realizing that the way you win basketball 0.57
00:14:02.100 championships is not 360 reverse dunks.
00:14:04.760 It's fucking layups.
00:14:06.260 Okay.
00:14:06.780 It's free throws.
00:14:07.740 It's the most basic shit in the world.
00:14:09.720 And that goes for anything that goes for business.
00:14:12.320 It goes for fitness.
00:14:13.300 It goes for life.
00:14:14.860 The simplest path, the boring path is the path of getting the most results.
00:14:20.360 And people can't do that because they get bored.
00:14:23.100 They confuse their emotions as to how they feel about the action with the actual result
00:14:29.100 that it produces.
00:14:29.880 And why are you doing this thing?
00:14:31.740 You're doing this thing to produce a result, whatever it may be.
00:14:34.700 So when we talk about it being boring, champion people don't think about boredom.
00:14:40.040 They don't think, man, this is boring.
00:14:41.520 They think this is what's required for me to succeed.
00:14:44.440 And I think there's a big misunderstanding in society.
00:14:46.960 And we can observe this by the way people behave, right?
00:14:52.040 Most people get a job.
00:14:53.580 They work that job for two, three years.
00:14:56.260 They get bored with that job.
00:14:58.800 And then they say, this job isn't for me.
00:15:00.740 And then they go find something else.
00:15:02.340 And that might even be an entrepreneur.
00:15:04.740 I started a business.
00:15:05.940 I'm three years in.
00:15:06.760 It's not really working out the way I want it to.
00:15:09.020 So this must not be for me.
00:15:10.520 I'm going to start this new business.
00:15:11.840 And they repeat that cycle over and over and over again, not realizing that every three
00:15:16.580 years that they waste of time is three years that they're not getting back.
00:15:21.640 Okay?
00:15:22.000 So most people waste their entire lives of this cycle.
00:15:25.180 Start a thing.
00:15:26.200 It gets boring.
00:15:27.400 Quit a thing.
00:15:28.400 Start a thing.
00:15:29.280 It gets boring.
00:15:30.500 Quit a thing.
00:15:31.300 Start a thing.
00:15:32.120 It gets boring.
00:15:34.260 Quit a thing.
00:15:35.760 If you were trying to run a marathon and that was your whole entire goal of life and every
00:15:40.200 time it got a little bit hard or a little bit boring, mile 11, mile 15, mile 12, you
00:15:46.940 just quit.
00:15:47.560 You say, fuck it.
00:15:48.180 I'm going to start a new thing.
00:15:49.600 How do you ever finish?
00:15:50.700 How do you ever get there?
00:15:51.540 How do you ever get paid?
00:15:52.460 How do you ever be great?
00:15:53.660 You can't.
00:15:54.560 And this is what people are missing.
00:15:56.060 The monotonous shit that you do day in and day out.
00:15:59.000 And by the way, you are in control of this.
00:16:01.400 Most of these monotonous tasks that create the biggest payoff in your life are so boring
00:16:07.760 and so simple that people overlook them.
00:16:10.680 You can control all of the elements that will create an amazing outcome for your life.
00:16:15.720 It's just that people can't do it over the course of time.
00:16:18.960 They can control what they drink.
00:16:20.880 They can control what they eat.
00:16:22.480 They can control the information that goes in their brain.
00:16:25.160 They can control the way they move their body.
00:16:27.100 They can control who they associate with, but they can't control those things over the
00:16:32.080 course of 20 years.
00:16:33.380 They can do it in short bursts, two weeks here, three weeks here before the wedding.
00:16:38.420 Oh, I'm getting serious now.
00:16:39.920 So they do it for 30 days, not realizing that to produce greatness and produce amazing results,
00:16:46.780 that the controllables have to be controlled over the course of years, sometimes decades.
00:16:54.420 All right?
00:16:54.960 Greatness is not an all-you-can-eat buffet, bro.
00:16:59.160 It is a very small, tiny bistro with like 10 seats in it.
00:17:04.040 And you're lucky to have a place in it.
00:17:06.020 And for you to have a place in it, you have to be willing to do the things that everybody else can't do.
00:17:11.100 And let me tell you what they can't do.
00:17:12.780 They can't stick to shit for more than the amount of time where it gets boring.
00:17:17.500 So if you want to stand out and you want consistency to really work for you,
00:17:21.780 you have to control the controllables without fail over the course of a long period of time, decades.
00:17:30.140 And you will produce whatever it is that you want to produce.
00:17:32.600 And this is the difference between people who are great and people who are not great.
00:17:37.140 This is the difference between people who are fulfilled and people who are not fulfilled.
00:17:40.840 This is the difference between people who have lots of money and people who have no money.
00:17:44.760 It's the difference between everything, is mastering the monotonous task day in and day out.
00:17:48.840 And if you can't do that, you're leaving your life up to chance.
00:17:52.300 And let me tell you how many people get where they want to go by chance.
00:17:56.540 Fucking zero.
00:17:58.060 All right?
00:17:58.740 So keep that in mind.
00:18:00.360 Mastering the monotonous is the most important skill set that you can develop over the course of your life.
00:18:09.140 And if you can realize that the basic shit, the shit that I just listed off, the things that you are in control of every single day of your life are the defining factors of greatness, you got the game figured out.
00:18:23.720 Let me ask you this, Andy.
00:18:27.180 When did you think you really honed in on that concept?
00:18:32.840 When did you start becoming super aware of that concept?
00:18:36.560 When did that happen for you in your journey?
00:18:38.620 It happened in pieces.
00:18:40.720 So early in my business life, I had no awareness.
00:18:44.540 Once I got to be about 8 to 10 years in, I started figuring a little bit out of it.
00:18:50.100 Once I got to be 14, 15 years in, I figured out a little bit more.
00:18:53.760 It took me until I was 36, 37 years old to really put all this together and understand that this is a game of compounding efforts, compounding inputs attached to the length of time that you do it.
00:19:08.560 Does that make sense?
00:19:09.620 It makes sense.
00:19:10.340 It makes sense.
00:19:10.860 So my question is, follow up on that then.
00:19:13.140 Did you have any, was there any frustration when, I guess, you're looking back like, fuck, okay, well, I probably fucked off a few of those years that could have been.
00:19:22.420 Yeah.
00:19:22.920 You know what I'm saying?
00:19:23.440 Yeah, but what am I going to do about it?
00:19:25.400 How do I go back and fix the first 16 years of my business career and say, damn, dude, I fucked all those away because I didn't understand the shit I understand now?
00:19:33.940 How do you think I understand the shit that I understand now?
00:19:36.640 The reason I understand it is because I fucked off those first 16 years.
00:19:40.080 And by the way, I was pretty successful, even fucking off.
00:19:43.560 So think what's happened between then and now.
00:19:46.220 Right.
00:19:46.720 The amount of exponential growth that's happened from the time I figured this out until now is nearly unheard of.
00:19:54.100 All right.
00:19:54.840 So this is the play.
00:19:56.360 And if you could figure this out, there's nothing you can't create in your life.
00:19:59.900 You are in control of your outcome.
00:20:02.180 Whether you want to admit that to yourself or not, that's up to you.
00:20:06.640 Most people won't admit it because if once they admit it and once they say, dude, I am in control of my outcome, that means they got to get up off the couch and do a bunch of shit.
00:20:15.200 Otherwise, they always feel shitty about themselves.
00:20:17.880 OK, so it's very hard to live a life where you are aware that you are in control of your outcome and then just sit there and watch it go by.
00:20:25.700 That's a depressing, frustrating, aggravating existence that most people can't deal with.
00:20:31.620 So what do they do?
00:20:32.800 They stick their head in the sand and they say, luck, circumstance, fairness.
00:20:37.440 And they bring up these ideas that let them off the hook for being accountable for the result that they're producing.
00:20:44.120 Yeah, I love it, man.
00:20:45.540 I love it.
00:20:46.980 Guys, Andy, question number three.
00:20:49.440 Andy, I just got recently promoted at my job and I've been here for like three years.
00:20:55.780 Now, the only reason I feel like I got this promotion is because the guy who had it fucked up and it kind of got handed to me by default. 0.55
00:21:04.560 Like, I don't feel like I really earned this.
00:21:07.540 And to be honest, it's messing up my mind a little bit.
00:21:10.360 Have you ever dealt with this with any of your employees?
00:21:13.060 And what's the best way to change my mindset right now?
00:21:15.360 Well, sometimes good things happen that you didn't earn.
00:21:20.620 That's reality.
00:21:22.060 But you were in the place where you benefited from that happening.
00:21:26.500 You shouldn't be mad about it.
00:21:27.920 You shouldn't be upset about it.
00:21:28.980 You shouldn't piss on it just because it didn't work the way you wanted it to work.
00:21:32.840 But I think the fact that you recognize that you didn't earn it should be something that lights a fire under your ass to say, okay, I got a little bit of a break here.
00:21:40.520 Let me capitalize on that so that I can progress my career down the road faster and faster and faster.
00:21:47.040 You know, there's a saying, don't look a gift horse in the mouth.
00:21:50.000 Okay, when good shit happens, don't fight it.
00:21:53.080 Fucking take it.
00:21:53.900 Take it and make the best of it.
00:21:56.080 So, yeah, this sounds like one of those situations where maybe you didn't earn it.
00:22:00.280 Maybe you were in the right place at the right time.
00:22:02.360 These things happen.
00:22:03.520 But this wouldn't happen with you sitting on the bench.
00:22:06.200 You're in the game.
00:22:07.260 And that's where the breaks happen.
00:22:08.780 So you got a break.
00:22:09.960 It was favorable for you.
00:22:11.720 And now your job is to capitalize on it.
00:22:13.860 And outside of that, I wouldn't let it fuck with you at all.
00:22:16.880 I would say this is reality.
00:22:18.460 This is what happens.
00:22:19.700 This happens to everybody who continues to move down the path.
00:22:23.540 This is what I was talking about last Q&A about luck.
00:22:26.560 A lot of people like to say when they hear luck, they like to justify their lack of results by pointing at luck.
00:22:34.240 Well, anybody who's going down the path is going to have breaks that other people are going to call luck.
00:22:40.800 And it is happenstance.
00:22:43.620 It is the circumstance.
00:22:45.360 It could be called luck.
00:22:47.580 But the reality is that anybody that has those things happen to them, they are moving forward in life.
00:22:54.140 Lucky breaks.
00:22:56.560 Chance encounters.
00:22:59.700 Circumstances that favor you do not come to you when you're standing still.
00:23:03.940 They only come to you when you're moving forward.
00:23:06.540 So if you need to justify it in your mind, justify it like this.
00:23:10.420 The reason this happened to me is because I've been moving forward.
00:23:13.620 And as I move forward, there's going to be other things that happen that are going to not make logical sense but are going to benefit me.
00:23:20.960 And I am going to use those scenarios and use those situations to improve my situation faster.
00:23:27.260 I'm not going to fight it.
00:23:28.840 What are you going to do?
00:23:29.440 Walk in the office and say, hey, boss, I'm not going to take this promotion because I didn't deserve it.
00:23:33.580 Yeah, right.
00:23:34.100 Okay?
00:23:34.360 What are you bitching about, bro?
00:23:35.940 Like, fucking take it, make the most of it, and go make something great out of the situation that has happened.
00:23:42.100 Damn.
00:23:42.640 Yeah, that's real.
00:23:43.300 I mean, on this topic of luck, you know, I was thinking about this.
00:23:46.100 So, I mean, because I know we don't like, like you said, it's not something you'd like to address.
00:23:49.980 And, like, because, you know, a lot of people will see, oh, that's what we're talking about.
00:23:53.340 But with this concept of luck, is there, do you believe in the, I guess, the flip side of that?
00:23:58.320 Is there such a thing as just somebody being completely unlucky?
00:24:01.580 Or is that also a product of their actions?
00:24:05.940 It's almost always a product of their inactions.
00:24:09.000 You know, people say unlucky, but then you look at the actions they're taking, and they really can't say they're taking anything that moves them forward.
00:24:17.540 You know, oh, it's not fair.
00:24:20.060 Okay, well, what are you doing?
00:24:21.120 Oh, nothing.
00:24:21.960 All right, cool.
00:24:23.420 I'm unlucky.
00:24:24.360 All right, well, what are you doing?
00:24:25.300 Oh, well, I'm going out partying four nights a week.
00:24:27.660 I'm hanging out with a bunch of losers.
00:24:29.560 I'm doing a bunch of drugs.
00:24:31.000 I'm getting fucked up for four days.
00:24:34.440 But, you know, nothing good is happening.
00:24:36.460 Well, no shit, motherfucker.
00:24:38.080 Nothing good is going to happen to you because you're not doing the things that create good things for you.
00:24:42.860 Okay?
00:24:43.240 So, yeah, you're going to feel unlucky when you're exercising the behavior of a fucking loser.
00:24:48.840 All right?
00:24:49.200 And that's the reality, dude.
00:24:50.540 Look at anybody who says they're unlucky.
00:24:52.480 Look at anybody who says, I am perpetually a victim.
00:24:56.180 I am the victim of life.
00:24:58.660 I am a victim of circumstances.
00:25:00.140 I am so unlucky.
00:25:01.620 Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:25:03.960 Stop listening to them and audit their actions.
00:25:06.360 What are they doing?
00:25:07.480 What are they eating?
00:25:08.560 How are they moving?
00:25:09.720 What are they putting in their brain?
00:25:11.280 Who are they surrounding themselves with?
00:25:13.100 What are they drinking?
00:25:14.480 What kind of drugs are they using?
00:25:16.180 Oh, and that list will tell you the reality of why they are unlucky.
00:25:20.060 So, I don't buy this shit from people.
00:25:22.600 The reason I don't talk about luck as a real thing is because the minute you bring it up, those motherfuckers attach their identity to it.
00:25:30.960 See?
00:25:31.460 I'm unlucky.
00:25:32.660 No, bro.
00:25:33.560 You act like an asshole. 0.94
00:25:34.940 You live like an asshole.
00:25:36.360 And you have asshole results.
00:25:37.980 You're not unlucky.
00:25:39.040 You're just getting the fruits of the seeds that you're planting.
00:25:42.420 And you're planting the wrong motherfucking seeds.
00:25:44.800 So, that's the reality of unlucky people.
00:25:48.080 Are unlucky things going to happen to people?
00:25:51.160 Are people going to get sick?
00:25:52.840 Are there going to be accidents?
00:25:54.400 Are there going to be things that happen that are unfavorable?
00:25:57.020 Yeah.
00:25:58.400 That's called fucking life.
00:26:00.720 That's what happens to everyone.
00:26:02.880 Everyone has those things.
00:26:04.180 Not just you.
00:26:05.640 All right?
00:26:06.020 So, cut it with the victim bullshit.
00:26:08.300 Nobody buys it anymore.
00:26:09.460 It was cool for 10 years when people actually didn't really understand how to operate on the internet.
00:26:15.100 And they were like, oh my God, look at this person.
00:26:16.780 They're so unlucky.
00:26:17.480 They always have these hard things.
00:26:18.540 Now, you've worn that out so much that people are like, God, shut the fuck up.
00:26:24.580 That's what everybody thinks, dude.
00:26:26.520 All you victim motherfuckers that write about your set. 0.92
00:26:29.500 You'll never see me write about sad stories.
00:26:31.980 You know how much shit I got going on in my life at this time, right now, that I don't even talk about?
00:26:36.900 You motherfuckers are a bunch of pussies, bro. 1.00
00:26:39.880 And you need to stop it.
00:26:40.800 No one cares.
00:26:41.760 And the more you bitch, the more you cry, the more you're going to find yourself alone. 1.00
00:26:44.960 And by the way, you're creating this inescapable box of victimhood that creates your identity.
00:26:50.360 Once you tell the sad story, and then you keep telling these other sad stories, and then you tell more sad stories, what's happening is you are creating an identity of that you are a victim.
00:26:59.740 And when you believe that you are a victim, and you created the identity that you are a victim, how do you become someone who achieves anything?
00:27:09.120 If you're the one sitting there saying, I can't achieve anything because all this unlucky shit happens to me.
00:27:13.540 I'm the most unlucky.
00:27:14.960 I'm always sick.
00:27:16.260 I'm always this.
00:27:17.440 I'm always that.
00:27:18.560 People that did this to me.
00:27:20.460 Motherfucker, that's everybody.
00:27:22.820 That's every.
00:27:23.820 You know how many people feel like shit day in and day out?
00:27:26.580 You know how many people have had people fuck them over day in and day out?
00:27:29.060 You know how many people have had bad relationships?
00:27:31.500 You know how many people have been treated poorly?
00:27:33.340 Fucking everybody.
00:27:35.040 So shut the fuck up. 1.00
00:27:37.280 Do something about it.
00:27:38.560 The nobility doesn't come from you saying, oh, I've got this sad story.
00:27:43.360 It comes from you overcoming the sad story and then saying, hey, look what I went through.
00:27:47.720 You can get through that shit too.
00:27:49.420 That's where the fucking juice is.
00:27:51.560 But we haven't figured that out as a whole in society.
00:27:54.220 So keep shaming these perpetual victims.
00:27:56.580 They deserve it.
00:27:57.260 I love it, man.
00:27:58.040 It's the truth.
00:27:58.700 I love it.
00:27:59.240 Andy, you want one more?
00:28:00.020 Yeah, we'll do another one.
00:28:00.840 I got some extra sauce for you.
00:28:02.260 Yeah.
00:28:02.800 Yeah.
00:28:03.440 I like extra sauce.
00:28:04.020 I know you like that extra sauce.
00:28:05.060 I do.
00:28:05.580 Yeah.
00:28:06.860 Guys, Andy, question number four.
00:28:08.860 Andy, I came across this reel the other day and it was talking about humility and how
00:28:13.580 to, quote unquote, win the room.
00:28:15.500 And the guy had said that you basically want to be the dumbest guy in the room.
00:28:20.820 Now, with all the guru shit going on, I figured I'd start bringing them to you for verification.
00:28:26.680 So is there any truth to this statement that you should want to be the dumbest guy in the room?
00:28:31.340 Have you heard that?
00:28:32.080 Do you know what they're talking about?
00:28:33.100 What they're trying to say is put yourself in environments where you are around more successful, smarter people.
00:28:42.600 And I think that's a very good policy.
00:28:44.100 I think it's very smart for you to try and be around people who know more than you, have achieved more than you, have done more than you, who are more experienced than you, and then shut the fuck up and listen.
00:28:54.440 So that's what that's saying.
00:28:55.520 And I do agree with that.
00:28:56.540 That's very, very important.
00:28:57.720 No matter what level you're at, I still, to this day, and I am a very successful person, if I were to sell all my shit, retire today, there would be books written about what the fuck I've done in my life.
00:29:09.040 Okay?
00:29:09.340 And I'm 44.
00:29:10.240 I'm not fucking 74.
00:29:11.960 All right?
00:29:12.220 I could cash it in today, and everybody could say, this guy succeeded in life.
00:29:17.920 He built two number one podcasts.
00:29:19.420 He built all these companies.
00:29:20.760 Built this mental transformation program.
00:29:22.680 Impacted millions of people.
00:29:24.380 Most people don't do that in their whole life.
00:29:26.340 Yeah.
00:29:26.620 Okay?
00:29:26.880 So I could stop that right now, and fucking, that would be the story.
00:29:31.100 All right?
00:29:31.540 But I don't want that to be the end.
00:29:34.200 So do you know what I do?
00:29:35.240 I put myself in situations where I'm around motherfuckers who are older than me, who have done more than me, who are worth more than me.
00:29:42.220 Who are smarter than me, and I shut the fuck up, and I listen to everything they say.
00:29:46.960 Now, do I do everything they say?
00:29:48.600 No.
00:29:48.900 Because there are things that have changed in society that are different than, let's say, someone who's 75 years old and a multi-multi-multi-billionaire.
00:29:59.040 But the principles of what that person talks about, I do absorb, and I do take very seriously.
00:30:04.240 So how do we do that?
00:30:06.200 Well, guess what?
00:30:07.340 We have the internet.
00:30:08.760 Who do you follow that's more successful than you?
00:30:11.120 Who do you follow that knows more than you?
00:30:13.100 And I'm not talking about these unverifiable dumbasses on the internet who fucking, you know, sell coaching programs and talk about how fucking rich they are.
00:30:22.960 These motherfuckers ain't built shit. 1.00
00:30:24.400 They've built a business on promising people shit that they can't even fucking really deliver, nor have they done, okay, especially when it comes to the entrepreneurship side.
00:30:33.960 I'm not talking about those guys.
00:30:35.540 I'm talking about household name success stories.
00:30:39.880 Learn their stories.
00:30:41.540 Learn their skills.
00:30:42.760 Pay attention to what they say.
00:30:44.700 Try to be in proximity to them.
00:30:46.460 And then when you are, be quiet and let them teach you.
00:30:50.880 Don't try to assert how much you know, which we see this a lot.
00:30:55.080 We see a lot of young people.
00:30:56.360 We see a lot of people who want to be successful.
00:30:58.500 They get around people who are more successful, and they try to, like, flex how they belong in the room by communicating how much they know.
00:31:06.220 You don't even know how fucking stupid you are.
00:31:09.100 That's what you don't understand.
00:31:10.320 You don't know how stupid you sound when you're talking all this shit around motherfuckers like me who have been playing this game for 25 fucking years.
00:31:18.020 Just like I don't know how stupid I sound when I'm around motherfuckers who have been playing it for 50, okay?
00:31:23.520 So when they say be humble and be the dumbest motherfucker in the room, there is a lot of truth to that.
00:31:28.840 And if you can't be in the room, consume their shit.
00:31:31.820 Read their books.
00:31:32.920 Follow them on the internet.
00:31:34.300 Listen to what they say.
00:31:35.520 And make sure that they've done what they say they've done.
00:31:37.680 Learn from very, very, very real, verifiable success stories.
00:31:44.480 There is so much fakeness and so much bullshit and so much flash in the pan lying that's going on in the internet.
00:31:52.120 It can be hard to tell who is telling the truth and who isn't, okay?
00:31:56.600 If you want to know who's telling the truth, ask yourself some very simple questions.
00:32:01.220 What have they actually built?
00:32:02.920 Who are their customers?
00:32:04.400 How many customers have they served?
00:32:06.020 How many employees do they have?
00:32:08.180 Who are their employees?
00:32:09.600 What's their employees say about them?
00:32:11.580 Where's their headquarters?
00:32:12.820 Do they offer a real product?
00:32:14.460 Can I order their product?
00:32:15.860 Does the product come to me like they say it should?
00:32:19.320 Do they service the customer like they say they do?
00:32:22.560 Where can I find these products?
00:32:24.720 Is this an imaginary company or is this a real company?
00:32:27.580 Is this one of this guy's 18 companies he owns and he can't identify it and you never see it and you never see his employees?
00:32:33.560 Or is the guy there every motherfucking day and you can very clearly see he is who the fuck he says he is?
00:32:38.680 If you just vet them very simply like that, you will be able to easily identify who the fuck is who, okay?
00:32:47.160 So learn from people who have actually done it, not people who are pretending that they have done it.
00:32:52.240 And you will understand what that means, okay?
00:32:55.160 So do I think that's good advice?
00:32:56.880 I think it's excellent advice.
00:32:58.420 I love that.
00:32:59.140 Is there something to be said too?
00:33:00.200 Like even when you are the smartest person in the room and you know it to still be?
00:33:03.420 Yes, absolutely.
00:33:04.760 Well, it depends, okay?
00:33:07.520 There's sometimes we need you to assert yourself and you stand up and you say, hey, no, this is the way it fucking is. 0.57
00:33:12.060 There's other times where there are people in the room who are not as smart as you that you can learn from, okay?
00:33:18.520 And if nothing else, you might be able to learn what not to do, okay?
00:33:22.380 So it's always a good idea to be humble in this regard when we're talking about learning, all right?
00:33:28.400 Humble doesn't mean driving a shitty car and living in a small house and not thinking highly of yourself.
00:33:35.140 Humble actually means going out, becoming successful, and then remembering that the reason that you are successful is not because you are great.
00:33:44.280 It's because you took the actions that made yourself successful.
00:33:48.000 And when you look at another human being, you understand that if that human being were to take the same actions as you, they would be successful as well.
00:33:55.940 We are not attaching our success to us.
00:33:58.820 We are attaching our success to the actions that we take.
00:34:02.040 And so what that means when in terms of humility is not that I think less of myself, but I understand that I am a result of my actions and that person is a result of their actions.
00:34:14.360 That's what humility is about.
00:34:15.740 It's not about meekness.
00:34:17.580 It's not about modesty.
00:34:19.040 Like everybody likes to say, oh, I don't need that kind of life because I'm humble.
00:34:22.420 No, you're not.
00:34:23.220 Because you got to be great as shit before you can be fucking humble about it.
00:34:26.340 All right?
00:34:26.860 You got to have skills before you can be humble about it.
00:34:29.100 You got to have wealth before you can be humble about it.
00:34:31.500 All right?
00:34:32.300 Just because you say you're humble and you don't have any results to be humble about, no, bro.
00:34:36.820 You're just a bitch. 1.00
00:34:37.700 You're broke.
00:34:38.460 Yeah, you're just a broke bitch using humility as an excuse. 1.00
00:34:41.520 That's the truth.
00:34:42.460 If you're not great at something, you can't even be humble about it.
00:34:44.980 That's a fucking fact.
00:34:46.200 I love it, man.
00:34:47.620 I love it.
00:34:48.140 Well, guys, Andy, that was four.
00:34:50.640 Yeah.
00:34:53.760 Yeah.
00:34:55.220 What?
00:34:56.220 Am I supposed to say something?
00:34:57.600 Hey, let's have a good week.
00:34:58.860 Of course.
00:35:01.500 Went from sleeping on the floor.
00:35:03.320 Now my jewelry box froze.
00:35:05.020 Fuck a pole.
00:35:05.820 Fuck a stove. 0.96
00:35:06.680 Counted millions in the cold.
00:35:08.360 Bad bitch. 1.00
00:35:09.180 Booty swole. 1.00
00:35:10.020 Got her on bankroll.
00:35:11.660 Can't fold.
00:35:12.540 Doesn't know.
00:35:13.340 Headshot.
00:35:14.180 Case closed.
00:35:15.340 Hey, let's go.
00:35:17.240 God.
00:35:20.160 Bye.
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