REAL AF with Andy Frisella - May 23, 2024


712. Q&AF： Employee Grudges, Overwhelmed With Work & Fear Of Missing Out


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In this episode of the podcast, we talk about how to live in the dream vs. living in the real world. We also talk about the 75 Hard Program and why you should be using it to fix your life.

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00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realist, say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society.
00:00:23.160 Welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today we have Q and AF. That's where you submit the questions and I give you the answers.
00:00:29.860 Now you can submit your questions a couple of different ways. The first way is guys, email these questions into ask Andy at Andy for seller.com or you go on YouTube in the comments section on the Q and AF episodes and drop your questions right there in the comments. We'll pick some from there as well. These questions can be about anything. Typically they're about business, entrepreneurship, personal development, how to kick ass in life. That's what we like to talk about on this show, but you can ask anything you want. We'll pick some.
00:00:59.320 We like the varieties. All right. Other times you tune in, we have CTI. That's what you're going to hear tomorrow. That stands for cruise the internet. That's where we take the topics of the day that are on the internet. We put them up on the screen. We talk about them. We speculate on what's true and what's not true. And then we talk about how we, the people have to be the solution to some of these problems going on in the world.
00:01:20.320 Other times we're going to have real talk, real talk, just five to 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk. That's just some shit that I think you need to hear. And then we have 75 hard versus 75 hard versus is where someone comes in. They talk about how their life was before 75 hard, how their life is now after they've completed the 75 hard program.
00:01:40.320 And why you should be using the 75 hard program to fix your life as well. If you're unfamiliar with 75 hard, it is the initial phase of the live hard program.
00:01:52.320 It is the world's most popular in history, mental toughness program. And it is free and you can get it for free at episode 208 on the audio feed. There is also a book called the book on mental toughness, which is highly recommended, but not required. You can get that at Andy for salad.com. It includes the entire live hard program, the nuts and bolts, the ins and outs. If you're someone who likes to know all the details, it's a must have. It also includes 10 plus chapters on mental toughness.
00:02:22.320 And case studies on very famous people as to how they became famous using mental toughness as a skill set. So check that book out, the book on mental toughness, Andy for salad.com. Now you're going to notice something about this show. If this is your first time listening, we do not run ads on the show. I don't want to listen to someone tell me what I can or can't say. So I forgo the ads and instead I make a deal with you. Help us share the show. Help us get the word out. As you know, we are constantly dealing with censorship, shadow bans, traffic throttling.
00:02:51.260 And sometimes account deletion, which means I need you guys to help spread the word. All right. So if the episode makes you think, if it makes you laugh, it gives you a new perspective. If it's something you think needs to be heard, please have the courage to share the show. Don't be a hoe. Share the show. All right. What's up? What's going on, man? Not much. Yeah. What's up with you? Oh, you know, not much. Yeah. Yeah. Just another day in paradise. 0.98
00:03:21.260 Like when people were like, Nope. I don't like people. All right. Yeah. I don't like anything they say. Yeah. So now I don't like that one either. No, but like, you know, people, there's nothing worse than when you walk up to someone. Yeah. And they say some shit like this. Hey, Steve, how's it going? Oh, just live in the dream. Another day in paradise. All right, Steve, we'll fuck you. How about that? Like, and these are always people that are losing.
00:03:51.260 Their life sucks. They look like shit. They're out of shape. They don't have any money. They're not trying very hard. And you say, Hey, how are you doing? Trying to stir up a positive conversation. And they say, Oh, you know, live in the dream. Say that. Dude, just pay attention to who says that. It is never a high quality, high earning, successful kick-ass individual. It is always people who are losing. I don't just live in the dream. Well, maybe if you stopped and, you know, thought about your life a little bit,
00:04:21.260 instead of being sarcastic and cynical about it, you could actually live the dream, but you know, I can't do it for you, man. I love it. Yeah. No. So to answer your question in depth, no, I hate people that say that, but I don't know if it's because they say that or if it's just because I hate people. Yeah. Can't really tell the difference. Yeah. But I definitely hate those people. Yeah. I got it. I got it. Uh, it looks like it, man. Uh, you did get your account back.
00:04:51.260 That's good. Yes. Had to pull some very major strings to get that back. Um, is everything back? Cause I, I mean, I've never had it like completely gone. So no, not everything is back. They have my, they have my traffic suppressed. When you search my name, it doesn't come up in the search bar. So they're doing all kinds of shit still, which I still have to get fixed. Yeah. But yeah, it's interesting. I got my account back right after we talked about it. It's super weird. Yeah. Super fucking weird. So yeah. Shit, man.
00:05:21.240 Yeah, man. That's what's going on with me. Uh, trying to get jacked and tan juicy as fuck, you know, trying to run some businesses and kick ass. What everybody should be trying to do. Do guru every now and then. Huh? Do the guru shit every now and then. Oh yeah. You know me. Sweet, man. Well, listen, let's, uh, let's get into this, man. Let's make some people better today. Mid, midweek drop of Q and AF. And, uh, let's start off with some, some, some fire here.
00:05:51.240 Um, any guys, question number one, Andy, I have an employee who has been with me since almost the start of my business. She started four months after we opened the brick and mortar store. Uh, we have been in business a little over two years after hiring her. She quickly became a key member of our team. Uh, she learned how to do all the jobs at our bakery coffee shop. Uh, she was eager to learn and grow. She became a good leader for our seasonal high school staff members.
00:06:16.740 We made her an assistant manager, uh, giving her a little more responsibility and a race. Um, then last summer, I could feel her falling off. She quit putting in the extra effort and wasn't trying as hard. We had a conversation around that, uh, where she told me that she quote, uh, felt that I no longer needed her. And she quit trying to, uh, to which I told her that I felt, uh, I felt that. And was, I was very frustrated.
00:06:46.740 I helped aid with all the things she was supposed to be doing. After that conversation, she improved back to her original helpfulness. That was last fall. Now this winter, uh, in March, she has approached me, uh, asking to only work four days a week going forward because she quote, needs more time for herself.
00:07:00.760 Uh, this hit me in a really bad way because I've been working really hard on building out and expanding our little business so we can do, uh, serve more markets. Uh, now I feel like I don't have someone to count on and help me build this out. It's extremely frustrating and has left me feeling bitter and resentful towards her. I know I can't expect anyone else to put, uh, in what I am putting into the business. I don't, uh, but this whole situation just left me feeling bitter and resentful towards her. Any thoughts, how to move through this?
00:07:29.140 Is this something you you've experienced before?
00:07:32.860 So you're bitter and resentful because someone that you hired to help you and you relied on heavily
00:07:42.840 didn't feel valued or needed and decided to spend their time other places.
00:07:52.720 Who does it sound like is at the root of that problem?
00:08:00.120 Cause it ain't her.
00:08:02.700 All right.
00:08:03.780 And this is what happens when I talk about the, the
00:08:07.140 typical business entrepreneur
00:08:11.200 who wants to come in on Tuesday and leave on Thursday.
00:08:16.140 And I understand you may not be doing that.
00:08:18.280 However, at the very least you haven't been fostering the proper relationship.
00:08:24.720 And what it sounds like to me is that this person who was highly involved in getting your business off the ground has now realized that that's all they're ever going to be.
00:08:36.700 You're not making them a bigger part of the business.
00:08:39.180 You're not giving them extra responsibility.
00:08:41.320 You're not actually relying on them to help you grow to where there's a reward in that for them.
00:08:50.440 Because in reality, if you want people to stay with you, there has to be some things that happen.
00:08:56.380 All right.
00:08:56.720 One, they've got to progress in their career.
00:09:00.040 Two, and most importantly, they have to believe in what you're doing.
00:09:03.740 And if you can't paint a picture that's big enough to where that person's dreams fit underneath that umbrella that you're trying to create with your company, that means they're going to lose belief.
00:09:15.020 And you, as an operator, cannot expect people to give up their dreams just because your dreams are your dreams.
00:09:22.880 So, you have a responsibility as the employer to your key people to create a scenario where they can create the life that they want within the system or the operation or the business or the organization that you're creating.
00:09:39.780 And what it sounds like to me here is that you got it off the ground.
00:09:46.060 She was an integral part of what you did.
00:09:48.320 She probably feels like she was going to be a big part of the business. 0.86
00:09:52.140 You sort of coasted for a little bit.
00:09:54.340 She got bored.
00:09:55.660 All right.
00:09:56.300 Meaning you didn't continue to grow fast.
00:09:59.340 And now she's detached from the business for whatever reason.
00:10:03.360 It sounds like you have a really good employee that might just need to be brought back in and talked to and explained like, hey, man, you're a key part of this.
00:10:11.540 This is what's going on.
00:10:12.780 In fact, I need you to do this and this and this.
00:10:14.560 Would you be willing to come back in that extra day a week if I could give you this?
00:10:18.540 Right.
00:10:19.080 So, you have to understand, dude, just like you pointed out in your email, just because it's your dream doesn't mean it's someone else's dream.
00:10:27.380 And if someone else doesn't see their dream inside of your dream, it's a very high likelihood that they're not going to stay.
00:10:35.800 So, you as an operator, the best thing that you can do is to consistently paint a big vision, consistently reinforce with your employees where their vision fits inside that vision, and then consistently show them what they need to do to get to that point.
00:10:49.300 And if you can do that and then also accompany all of those clear communications and upward mobilities and requirements for them to get there, you also couple that with becoming their coach, their personal development person, the person who sits down with them and says, okay, here's what you need to improve.
00:11:08.020 You need to do this, this, this, this, and this.
00:11:10.200 Now you have someone who's fully engaged.
00:11:12.640 They understand the path that they're on.
00:11:14.500 They understand that you're going to teach them how to get there, and that person is very unlikely to just bail on you, all right?
00:11:21.440 What it sounds to me is, and this is limited, I could be wrong, but it sounds to me like you had someone who was really bought in.
00:11:29.120 You got a little distance between you and that person.
00:11:32.540 They started to realize that, you know, or whether it's true or not, they started to feel like this was just a position that was being filled by them, and that's not what they expected.
00:11:43.600 What it sounds like they expected to me was for them to be working hand-in-hand with you to build the company, which is a great thing.
00:11:49.820 And it sounds like that's what you want.
00:11:51.780 So what I would do is consider everything I just said, sit down with a person, have a real conversation, and then use this as a learning lesson to not let people feel like they're not an important part of the mission that you're on when you know that they are.
00:12:05.960 Sure. Yeah. So let me ask you this, because I feel like that's a misconception.
00:12:09.780 Like, you know, going back, I don't know, you know, you look at how business was done 50 years ago, right?
00:12:16.140 There is, you come in, you work, and then I give you this little check that you can cash at the bank, right?
00:12:21.640 And it's a very cut-and-dry relationship.
00:12:24.060 And so now, you know, here we are in 2024, business, it's not how that should be done anymore?
00:12:30.360 No. Most business still is done that way. But when you're trying to grow, and you're trying to be exceptional, and you're trying to do something special, it's going to require buy-in.
00:12:40.920 It's going to require passion. It's going to require people who are committed to the purpose.
00:12:45.920 And something that's different about the younger generations now, as opposed to the older generations then that you speak of, is that people want to be inspired by a purpose.
00:12:57.940 They want a mission that's bigger than just collecting a check, all right?
00:13:01.960 You can get a check anywhere, but accomplishing a mission and being part of a mission and being part of a real purpose that does good things for people, that's rare.
00:13:10.520 And that's a huge advantage for you as a business owner, if you could figure out what that is and lean into that.
00:13:16.040 Because not only will it inspire your employees, but it will also help your customers get the most value possible from your brand, your product, your service, which will drive revenue.
00:13:29.700 A lot of people like to say things like, oh, Gen Z is worthless. Millennials are worthless.
00:13:34.700 I don't know. I built some pretty good companies with Gen Z and Millennials.
00:13:38.500 And I can tell you this, they don't want to just show up and get a fucking check.
00:13:42.320 They want to be involved. They want to contribute.
00:13:44.660 They haven't really felt special anywhere else in their entire lives.
00:13:47.860 They come up through a school system that doesn't make them feel like they're anything special.
00:13:52.000 In fact, it squashes their dreams and their hopes to try to get them to conform.
00:13:58.360 So when you really think about it, the younger people, it's not that they're lazy.
00:14:02.880 It's just that they want something better to do while they're getting paid.
00:14:06.900 They want to do something that matters. They want to do something they're passionate about.
00:14:10.100 They want to do something that fulfills them in a mission, not just getting a check.
00:14:15.060 So it's a generational difference and it's not common.
00:14:20.720 It's only common to you because you're around these businesses.
00:14:23.460 Yeah, right, right, right.
00:14:24.040 Most companies just don't operate that way. They do.
00:14:26.660 They say, come in, get your check, go the fuck home, leave me alone.
00:14:30.240 You're not going to get the best people to work for you there because the best people are no longer working for just money.
00:14:34.640 They're working for mission, purpose, and fulfillment.
00:14:36.900 And so you have to figure out what that is for your business if you want to keep the best people.
00:14:41.340 So if you want to build a business that is going to be undeniably changing lives, you have to offer the employees more than just a paycheck is what you're saying.
00:14:50.620 Yeah.
00:14:51.140 The person development.
00:14:52.220 Yes.
00:14:52.780 The investing in their personal.
00:14:54.200 Listen, the idea of you guys hiring millennials, Gen Z's, people like that who are younger, who have the skill sets you need, who have the understanding of technology, that the idea that you're just going to pay them and they're going to show up and give you their best work.
00:15:08.960 That's not in congruence with the way that they view the world.
00:15:13.280 They view the world as this is my opportunity to do something that matters.
00:15:16.520 I am going to trade my time for money and that's okay, but I want the time that I trade for money to mean something.
00:15:22.680 I want it to matter.
00:15:23.840 I want it to affect people in a positive way.
00:15:26.240 And too many of you guys that run businesses or manage people, you totally leave that off the table and you expect motherfuckers to show up and work like you're going to work for a dollar. 0.79
00:15:35.480 They're not going to do that.
00:15:36.300 That's not going to happen.
00:15:37.000 You might get some people that are going to show up and get a check and go home, but you ain't going to like those people and you're not going to like having them work for you because guess what?
00:15:45.000 They're not going to give a single fuck about what it is you're trying to do.
00:15:48.640 Yeah, that's so real, man.
00:15:49.840 It's so real.
00:15:50.440 And I get this a lot when people come in.
00:15:54.240 Even here at First One, they're like, you got an army here of people that are willing to run through brick walls.
00:16:00.160 But when you look at all of the investments that get put in outside of just a typical paycheck, it makes sense.
00:16:07.880 Well, they care.
00:16:08.760 Yeah.
00:16:09.320 They care about what they're doing.
00:16:10.980 They want to contribute.
00:16:11.960 They want to build.
00:16:12.740 They want to be relevant.
00:16:13.720 They want to be a part of the team.
00:16:15.380 A lot of people who manage people, they manage people with the perspective that these people are lazy and they don't want to contribute.
00:16:22.320 They don't want to do anything.
00:16:23.440 And that's how they treat their whole team.
00:16:24.780 But the reality is, is people are not lazy.
00:16:28.360 People are just uninspired.
00:16:30.720 It's not that people are apathetic.
00:16:32.660 It's that you haven't given them anything to care about.
00:16:34.920 So when you fix that in your leadership style, that unlocks a whole new level for people to come in, high quality people that are passionate, who care, who care about your customers, who come in and drive revenue because the customer gets the most value out of those people.
00:16:51.620 Then your company makes more money and those people make more money.
00:16:55.100 Yeah.
00:16:55.460 So the amount of value that you deliver in a very literal sense is.
00:17:01.500 It's very, very, very, very parallel to how much you're going to get paid or how much company your company is going to make.
00:17:09.000 It's it's not it's there's no other secret than that.
00:17:13.180 If you over deliver and you're the best and you do the best, you're going to do the best in business.
00:17:17.840 And it's the same looking at yourself as a business within an organization.
00:17:21.700 If you're the highest skilled, if you're the best guy or girl, if you deliver the most value, you're going to make the most money.
00:17:28.560 And that's how it works.
00:17:29.940 Yeah, I love it.
00:17:31.000 I love it, guys.
00:17:31.640 Any guys question number two?
00:17:33.040 Hey, Andy, my question for you is I'm a diesel mechanic and relief driver for a local fleet that does dust control work.
00:17:41.060 So this time of year is busy as hell, to say the least.
00:17:44.240 My other job is a driver for another fleet.
00:17:46.480 My question is when you get bombarded with so much work you can't handle, what do you recommend I do?
00:17:55.580 Do I talk to my employer as it seems that, you know, they kind of let it go in one ear and out the other.
00:18:00.520 I keep saying it's my bitch voice and I'm trying not to listen to it, but I also work another local job and I have no time for rest.
00:18:08.460 Lucky if I even get a few hours of rest in any given night and it's becoming unsafe, especially operating rigs, I guess.
00:18:15.260 What would you recommend to do to keep the grind and run like a raped ape? 1.00
00:18:21.880 Or should I tell one of the two employers, like employers, hey, my plate's full.
00:18:27.300 I need to have it toned down so I'm being safe in my job.
00:18:30.520 I mean, if they won't listen to what I have to say about my health and safety operating unit, then I probably just don't belong there.
00:18:37.340 Yeah.
00:18:38.640 What do you do when you get overwhelmed?
00:18:40.240 Is that a thing?
00:18:41.160 How do we handle that?
00:18:41.520 Well, first of all, you got to make sure that you are overwhelmed and you're not just one of these people who's ineffective at what they do.
00:18:48.280 All right?
00:18:48.600 Because most people will say, oh, my God, I'm so overwhelmed.
00:18:52.180 I got so much work.
00:18:53.220 And then you look at them and they're not actually overwhelmed at all.
00:18:56.680 They're just completely ineffective at what they do.
00:18:58.980 They waste their time on the Internet.
00:19:01.340 They scroll.
00:19:02.140 They watch movies.
00:19:03.000 They fuck around.
00:19:04.560 And because of that, they feel overwhelmed because their shit piles up and they don't get any of it done.
00:19:09.540 Not saying that's the case, but that's what most people do.
00:19:12.560 So I would first check.
00:19:13.940 Am I actually overwhelmed?
00:19:15.420 Okay.
00:19:15.780 Are you overwhelmed?
00:19:16.500 Yes, I'm overwhelmed.
00:19:17.360 How do I address that?
00:19:18.900 All right.
00:19:19.180 Well, we work on being more effective, one.
00:19:22.300 All right.
00:19:22.620 Because that will reduce the overwhelm.
00:19:24.300 But if it's actual overwhelm in terms of your workload and that's a real thing and you can be honest about it, yeah, you've got to say something, especially when it has to do with your safety, especially when it has to do with the quality of the work that's getting done.
00:19:37.500 Because if you're doing lesser quality work just to do more work, you're going to be seen as invaluable.
00:19:42.260 And this brings up a bigger, this makes up a bigger aspect for people, which is we have to understand that you can only work your way up the chain so hard.
00:19:56.660 All right.
00:19:57.060 At some point, you have to start thinking, how am I going to leverage my energy to get a more lucrative situation going for myself?
00:20:07.240 Right.
00:20:07.860 Like if you have to, if you're a tattoo artist and you get paid for the amount of tattoos that you do, there is an upper limit to what you can earn because at some point in time, you're not going to be able to charge any more money and you can't do any more work.
00:20:22.280 So how do you make that into something that's lucrative?
00:20:26.260 Well, you have to think differently.
00:20:28.080 What could I do?
00:20:29.100 Could I create some aftercare tattoo products?
00:20:32.600 Could I create my own tattoo gun?
00:20:34.560 Could I create this?
00:20:37.660 Could I open up my own shops and do this or what?
00:20:40.380 You have to think about it differently so that you can leverage out your energy for more money.
00:20:45.620 So, yes, address the overwhelm, but realize that if you stay in this situation where you're just burning yourself down and you keep saying grind, grind, grind, grind, grind, grind, grind, grind, you're not going to get any more reward because there's only so much you can actually do.
00:21:01.040 All right. So think about it.
00:21:04.780 What could you do?
00:21:05.860 What changes could you make that would not only reduce your overwhelm, but increase the amount of money that comes to you or that goes into your bank account?
00:21:13.600 These are things that most people don't realize because they're so indoctrinated by the hustle culture that's on the Internet, which is work, work, work, work, work, work, work 47 hours out of 24.
00:21:26.360 We have two we have two extremes on the Internet.
00:21:29.200 OK, we have work 47 hours out of 24 and 10 days a week out of seven.
00:21:36.340 OK, never fucking sleep ever.
00:21:38.560 That's one.
00:21:39.560 Then we have the other one.
00:21:40.820 I can make a million dollars in five minutes for my bed with my dick in my hand.
00:21:45.560 Right.
00:21:45.980 OK, that's the other extreme.
00:21:48.020 So the truth is, where do you think the truth is?
00:21:51.820 Somewhere in the middle.
00:21:52.520 The truth is in the middle.
00:21:53.480 OK, you've got to expend your energy in an effective way, and it has to be on a project that's going to produce money, produce a result that you're looking for.
00:22:03.240 And you've got to figure out what those things are.
00:22:05.500 That's why the power list is such a valuable tool that you can get for free at episode 16 on the audio feed only.
00:22:12.660 It's such a valuable tool because it teaches you how to be effective and move forward without using all of your time and grinding yourself into dust, which is counterproductive anyway.
00:22:23.880 So that's how I would look at that problem.
00:22:25.920 Yeah.
00:22:26.100 Let me ask you this about the because you talk about the being inefficient.
00:22:29.780 Right.
00:22:30.020 And it just came to my mind.
00:22:31.660 It's like, you know, if you're if you are good at something.
00:22:35.280 Right.
00:22:35.700 And you've been doing something for 10 plus years.
00:22:38.140 Right.
00:22:39.540 You should be pretty efficient, you would think, because you've got the skills.
00:22:42.900 And and so does the input when you talk about the input, you don't have to put that you'd be more efficient.
00:22:49.680 Is it are you still putting in max fucking effort or does it will it appear as if you understand what I'm saying? 0.79
00:22:56.280 Yeah, I do.
00:22:57.140 So in the beginning, you don't have skills.
00:23:00.020 So you have to put in more effort.
00:23:01.660 OK, and the more effort you put in, the more time you put in, the quicker your skills develop as time goes by.
00:23:07.780 Your skill set goes up, which means you can usually do more effective work in less amount of time.
00:23:12.900 All right.
00:23:14.020 So when you start, it's effort, effort, effort, low skill.
00:23:17.800 And as you get good, you can get way more result with less effort.
00:23:22.340 But these people that they don't really make the money.
00:23:25.700 It's the people who continue to work with the high skill and the high effort who outproduce everybody else and end up winning and making the most money and becoming the most successful.
00:23:36.600 So, yeah, there's people who, when they get skilled, they tone down their work ethic and then they do OK.
00:23:44.020 They can make the same amount of money with less effort.
00:23:47.040 Fine.
00:23:47.560 Yeah.
00:23:47.860 But they never really get any better.
00:23:49.600 So the goal here for this show is for you to be the best that you can be.
00:23:53.120 So I would recommend that you put in as much effort as you possibly can and have as much skill as you possibly can to produce the best possible result.
00:24:03.120 That's what we do here.
00:24:04.180 We're the best possible result.
00:24:05.540 Not OK.
00:24:07.420 Not get by.
00:24:08.540 Not settle.
00:24:09.520 Right.
00:24:09.860 I love it.
00:24:11.300 I love it.
00:24:12.140 Guys, Andy, question number three.
00:24:14.560 Hey, Andy, I'm 20 years old and I'm very curious to hear what your thoughts are on the fear of missing out.
00:24:23.120 Or FOMO.
00:24:24.880 I look around and I see people my age graduating college and attending these big parties I've never been present at.
00:24:31.120 And obviously, I feel like I'm lonely.
00:24:33.400 I'm not antisocial or anything.
00:24:35.180 In fact, I'm the opposite.
00:24:36.900 Just wondering what your thoughts are on this, please.
00:24:39.180 And thank you.
00:24:39.900 Fear of missing out.
00:24:40.680 FOMO.
00:24:42.040 If you do what everybody else does, you'll be like everybody else.
00:24:45.760 It's that simple.
00:24:47.160 When I was coming up through business, all my friends were getting quote unquote real jobs.
00:24:52.520 And they were making $60,000, $70,000, $100,000 a year.
00:24:56.440 And they were looking at me and they were saying, when are you going to grow up?
00:24:59.340 We're out here doing this.
00:25:00.860 And they're going on these vacations.
00:25:02.260 And they're doing all these things.
00:25:03.540 And guess what I had to do?
00:25:04.660 Oh, I had to work seven days a week.
00:25:07.320 But guess what?
00:25:09.260 Over the course of time, that begins to change.
00:25:12.340 And now, every single one of those motherfuckers are in the exact same position they were in 20 years ago. 0.96
00:25:18.260 And I'm not.
00:25:19.520 And you know what happens when things like what's happening in the world now are happening?
00:25:23.220 Where people are getting laid off?
00:25:24.400 Do you know what they do?
00:25:25.900 They call you.
00:25:26.600 They fucking call me.
00:25:27.760 They call you.
00:25:28.000 And instead of saying, when are you going to get a real job?
00:25:30.880 They say, hey, you think I could interview for your company?
00:25:35.400 You got any real jobs over there?
00:25:36.780 There you go.
00:25:37.720 Okay?
00:25:38.480 So when you sit here and you watch all these people and they continue to go do all these things that seem to be super fun,
00:25:45.440 just realize that there's a cost to those things that you're not going to see until down the road.
00:25:51.000 All right?
00:25:51.580 Right now, you're looking at everybody and you're thinking, fuck, dude, I don't get to do any of this shit.
00:25:55.520 They get to do all this fun.
00:25:56.980 Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:25:58.260 Yeah.
00:25:59.020 Except you don't see them when you're 23.
00:26:01.540 You don't see them at 40 or 50.
00:26:04.040 All right?
00:26:04.380 I'm old enough where I see those people at 23 who laughed at me.
00:26:07.880 Those people who were doing all this shit, making me feel like shit at what I was doing.
00:26:11.780 I now know what their lives are like at 40 years old.
00:26:14.640 Okay?
00:26:15.120 And let me tell you, it ain't that great.
00:26:17.500 And if you go ask any of them, they'll say, oh, this is what I wanted.
00:26:20.960 Because I'm a humble person.
00:26:22.760 This is all I needed.
00:26:23.940 Yet, if you go out and you put three beers in them, they're going to bitch about how much money they don't have. 0.99
00:26:28.560 And how they're in financial distress.
00:26:30.160 And how their marriage is fucked up.
00:26:31.580 Because they don't have a way to fucking support everything.
00:26:34.540 You can't do everything the wife wants to do. 1.00
00:26:36.740 And blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:26:38.440 And I'm sitting there looking at them like, I thought you said this is what you wanted.
00:26:42.660 You see what I'm saying?
00:26:43.800 So we have to, as young people, you guys have to understand.
00:26:47.740 Yes, people are going to go out and do shit.
00:26:50.060 And it's going to make you feel like, fuck, I should be doing shit too.
00:26:53.600 But those people are going to end up in a place that you don't want to be.
00:26:57.940 And if you behave like those people and you listen to those people, you will be those people.
00:27:01.620 That is the reality.
00:27:02.960 So many of you guys want to listen to your mom and your dad and your aunts and your uncles and your teachers.
00:27:07.760 And if you actually gave an objective visual scan of their existence, you would realize they're broke, they're stupid, they don't know what the fuck they're doing, they're miserable, they're unfulfilled, yet they feel qualified to give you all this advice about what the fuck you should be doing.
00:27:25.340 If you don't want their life, you shouldn't listen to a fucking word they said unless it's something that gives you an indication about what not to do so that you don't end up like them.
00:27:35.780 That's the reality.
00:27:36.760 So stop looking at your quote-unquote friends at 23 years old thinking that those are your fucking friends.
00:27:43.440 Those aren't your friends.
00:27:44.640 Those are people you fucking grew up with.
00:27:47.020 Those are people you went to school with.
00:27:48.960 You don't even have any real friends at 23 because you have different goals and you haven't met anybody that also has those goals.
00:27:56.140 Those will be your fucking friends, the people who will sit down with you and say, how can I help you win?
00:28:01.740 You can help me win.
00:28:02.940 That's fucking friendship, okay?
00:28:05.120 Friendship is not just because you graduated high school with someone or just because you went to college with someone or just because you drank beer with someone.
00:28:12.660 That's not friendship and we have to stop being loyal to people who we associated with when we were young thinking we owe them something.
00:28:20.940 You don't owe them anything.
00:28:22.160 The only person that you fucking owe is yourself.
00:28:24.660 And what you owe yourself to do is to pay attention in a very honest and real way to everybody else's lives that are giving you advice and say, do I want that guy's life?
00:28:35.500 Oh, I don't.
00:28:36.380 What about that one?
00:28:37.160 No, I don't want that one either.
00:28:38.440 No, I don't want that one.
00:28:39.360 Oh, I don't want anybody's life that's telling me shit, which is likely the case.
00:28:42.700 So what do you got to do?
00:28:44.080 You got to go find people who have the life that you want and you start emulating what they do and you try to get close to them and you listen to what they say.
00:28:53.060 And you guys live in the most privileged society ever when it comes to that.
00:28:57.980 When I was 22 years old, we had books.
00:29:01.280 We have fucking podcasts.
00:29:03.320 We didn't have rich motherfuckers who built empires telling us what the fuck to do. 1.00
00:29:07.620 We didn't have any of that shit.
00:29:09.340 We didn't have people that were willing to coach you or help you or do anything for you.
00:29:15.340 We had to read it in a book.
00:29:16.900 I didn't even fucking know anybody that was successful.
00:29:19.960 You see what I'm saying?
00:29:21.060 Now you guys turn on the internet and you see fucking all these people who are successful, which by the way, most of them are lying, just being honest.
00:29:27.820 You got to dig in like I've been talking about.
00:29:30.760 What's their business?
00:29:31.560 What's their product?
00:29:32.320 Who are their customers?
00:29:33.140 How long they've been doing it?
00:29:34.460 What's their employees say?
00:29:35.960 Where's their headquarters?
00:29:36.900 Can I order their product?
00:29:38.020 How do they fulfill it?
00:29:39.140 Do they have real shit going on?
00:29:40.960 If you would just ask those questions, it'd be real easy to identify who was what.
00:29:44.740 Okay?
00:29:45.200 But I can tell you this.
00:29:46.240 You're not going to get rich overnight.
00:29:47.920 You're not going to get rich in a fucking year.
00:29:49.980 And the good news is it's not going to take you 10 or 11 years like it took me because you have technology that didn't exist.
00:29:57.160 So you guys grow up with this technology and you also grow up with this ability to have access to people who have done these things.
00:30:04.720 And you still bitch like it's hard. 1.00
00:30:07.160 Fuck, you don't even know what fucking hard is, bro.
00:30:09.620 You have no idea.
00:30:10.920 Go try reading Tony Robbins books and then deduce what you can from there and go start a business.
00:30:15.920 Right.
00:30:16.240 And that's the only thing you got.
00:30:18.200 Okay?
00:30:18.440 You don't have the internet.
00:30:19.500 You don't have cell phones.
00:30:20.760 You don't have shit.
00:30:21.760 You got to go do it.
00:30:23.600 You motherfuckers couldn't do it. 0.98
00:30:25.480 You wouldn't go door to door knocking on doors.
00:30:27.640 And if you wouldn't go door to door knocking on doors, you don't have what it takes anyway because ultimately it's whatever the fuck it takes.
00:30:33.840 But basically, my message to you is don't listen to motherfuckers that have never done anything, including your fucking friends, including your parents, including your aunts and uncles, including fucking anyone if you want a better life.
00:30:44.420 If you listen to them, you'll be like them.
00:30:46.680 That is the bottom line.
00:30:48.400 So when someone's telling you what to do with your money or how to live or how to do this and how to do that and how to do this, look at their fucking life.
00:30:55.880 And I mean really look at it.
00:30:57.460 What kind of money do they make?
00:30:59.060 What kind of house do they live in?
00:31:00.440 What kind of car do they drive?
00:31:02.040 What's their family like?
00:31:03.780 What are they like?
00:31:04.960 And look at it very honestly.
00:31:07.340 And then you can decide whether or not you can take their advice or not.
00:31:10.600 I love that, man.
00:31:12.120 It's almost like, you know, one thing I pull from you is like, you know, when you get this idea of this, man, I'm going to be missing out.
00:31:17.320 Yeah, you are going to be missing out on all the bullshit on the back end of that.
00:31:21.760 Yeah, that's exactly right, dude.
00:31:23.780 That's a good way to look at it.
00:31:24.400 Not only that, dude, it's no different than making an investment in a fucking stock.
00:31:29.900 Okay?
00:31:30.540 Your stock is you.
00:31:33.060 All right?
00:31:33.420 You're 23 years old.
00:31:34.660 You're going to make an investment in some stock.
00:31:37.240 And because you made an investment in stock, that's money that you can't spend on going out to the bars and you can't buy a car with it.
00:31:45.560 And you can't do this.
00:31:46.500 You can't go to fucking Dubai.
00:31:48.220 You can't do all because the money's invested in you because you're a stock.
00:31:52.540 Okay?
00:31:53.320 And then over the course of time, that stock is going to get bigger and bigger and bigger and bigger and bigger and bigger and bigger.
00:32:00.860 And 20 years from now, you're going to have so much going for you that no one else around you is going to even have.
00:32:08.220 And it's because they spent their energy capital, their money capital.
00:32:11.980 They did not make that investment.
00:32:13.500 They went on the trip to Dubai.
00:32:14.940 They went on the trip to fucking here and there.
00:32:17.720 They fucking bought a car they couldn't afford.
00:32:19.880 They did all these things they shouldn't have done.
00:32:21.440 And they didn't make that investment to themselves so there's no payoff over here.
00:32:24.980 So if you look at yourself like that and you look at it as a stock, all these things that you're missing out on, all this money that you're putting into yourself and not into Jordans and other bullshit no one gives a fuck about, now you start to understand that these are investments that have a payoff.
00:32:40.720 It's not a sacrifice.
00:32:43.120 The biggest lie told in personal development is this idea of sacrifice.
00:32:48.580 How is it a fucking sacrifice if you're getting a payoff at the end?
00:32:53.820 It's only a sacrifice if there's no payoff.
00:32:56.880 So whatever you're missing, whatever effort you have to put in, whatever you have to endure, that is an investment.
00:33:03.540 That is not a sacrifice.
00:33:05.440 What are you missing out on?
00:33:06.500 When you're missing out on going to a bar with a bunch of drunks, drinking some shitty beer with a bunch of fat bitches, that's what you're, that's what you're, then do that. 1.00
00:33:15.680 And then if you'll fucking have all these problems your whole life, bro, or take the time now and say, I'm going to become this and this and this and realize what the fuck you're going to become and dedicate yourself to it.
00:33:27.360 And eventually you will be that and nobody else will be.
00:33:30.400 That's how it works, man.
00:33:31.720 You're not missing out on shit.
00:33:32.980 You just feel like you are because your friends think they got one up on you right now, but they don't because you'll be the one with the last laugh when you're not having to work at fucking Wendy's when you're 40 years old.
00:33:43.300 That's real shit, man.
00:33:44.940 That's real shit.
00:33:46.360 A little extra sauce for the people.
00:33:50.500 Right on their face.
00:33:53.560 Right in their ears.
00:33:54.760 Right in their ears.
00:33:56.280 And up their nose, too.
00:34:00.320 It's called Bald Eagle.
00:34:01.640 It's called the Bald Eagle.
00:34:02.500 Is that what that's called?
00:34:03.380 Joe said so.
00:34:04.100 I just heard it just now.
00:34:04.800 Is it the Urban Dictionary?
00:34:05.520 Whatever Joe says is true.
00:34:07.240 Probably.
00:34:07.680 Is it called the Bald Eagle?
00:34:08.460 Bald Eagle.
00:34:08.980 All right.
00:34:09.280 We'll call it that.
00:34:10.220 I got a Bald Eagle, these motherfuckers. 1.00
00:34:11.700 Why has it got to be bald?
00:34:14.040 Why can't it be the Black Eagle?
00:34:15.640 Yeah.
00:34:17.320 I got you.
00:34:18.040 Brown Eagle.
00:34:18.660 I got you.
00:34:20.000 The Chocolate Eagle.
00:34:21.080 Chocolate Eagle.
00:34:22.100 That sounds like something I don't want, though.
00:34:24.180 I don't want that.
00:34:24.960 If we're being honest, I don't want that.
00:34:26.340 That don't sound good.
00:34:27.700 The Chocolate.
00:34:28.380 I'm going to Chocolate Eagle.
00:34:29.500 I'm all right.
00:34:30.660 That sounds like it's got poop in it.
00:34:32.060 Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
00:34:34.760 Guys, Andy, question number four.
00:34:36.420 Let's knock this one out, guys.
00:34:38.020 Let's stay away from the Chocolate Eagle.
00:34:39.400 Chocolate Eagle.
00:34:40.140 Here's question number four.
00:34:41.500 No Chocolate Eagles.
00:34:42.220 Yeah, right.
00:34:44.880 Question number four.
00:34:46.460 I hope this message finds you well.
00:34:48.260 It does.
00:34:48.780 Thank you.
00:34:49.160 I mean, look at me, bro.
00:34:54.120 Yeah.
00:34:54.300 I'm doing good.
00:34:55.000 I'm tan.
00:34:55.520 I'm jacked.
00:34:56.120 Juicy as fuck.
00:34:57.600 Got my shit going on.
00:34:59.340 Yeah.
00:34:59.700 I'm trying to be pretty good.
00:35:00.560 I got a haircut today.
00:35:01.520 Oh, look at you, man.
00:35:02.940 That's right.
00:35:03.500 Yeah.
00:35:04.100 So, yeah, I'm fucking good.
00:35:05.080 All right.
00:35:05.860 We should take some yearbook photos.
00:35:08.140 We should take some glamour shots.
00:35:10.940 Glamour shots?
00:35:11.740 That would be more appropriate for us.
00:35:12.940 That sounds like another Urban Dictionary.
00:35:13.800 You'd be in on that, wouldn't you?
00:35:14.800 Yeah.
00:35:15.300 Yeah.
00:35:15.700 That's your style.
00:35:16.960 I know.
00:35:17.440 Yeah.
00:35:17.780 That's a glamour shot.
00:35:19.020 You actually don't know about glamour shots.
00:35:19.900 You don't know what a fucking glamour shot is?
00:35:21.640 Uh-uh.
00:35:22.320 Don't act like you didn't do them back when you were doing your twinkle toes.
00:35:25.520 No fucking way.
00:35:26.660 I'm not.
00:35:27.000 No, I'm not fucking.
00:35:28.300 Yeah.
00:35:28.860 That's you.
00:35:29.300 I bet you got family photos.
00:35:30.540 What the fuck?
00:35:31.260 From glamour shots.
00:35:32.740 I don't know if I'm on the right website.
00:35:34.600 You are.
00:35:35.780 Hold on, bro.
00:35:36.620 Wait.
00:35:36.840 What the fuck?
00:35:37.800 Hold on.
00:35:38.540 Wait a minute.
00:35:39.340 Wait a minute.
00:35:42.620 What the fuck?
00:35:43.800 We should do glamour shots where I dress up as you and you dress up as me.
00:35:47.400 Yeah, that's it, dude.
00:35:48.480 Bro, what the fuck is it?
00:35:50.420 Yeah.
00:35:51.140 Hit images.
00:35:52.480 Hit images.
00:35:55.760 There used to be places in the mall.
00:35:57.440 Bro!
00:35:58.060 Look at the guy with the fucking cat.
00:36:01.960 That's fucking Keith.
00:36:06.360 Those are in the mall.
00:36:07.520 Yeah, bro.
00:36:08.040 They had stores like that.
00:36:09.340 There's you right there.
00:36:10.320 Two over from Keith.
00:36:11.400 This one?
00:36:11.760 No, that's Sean Connery, bro.
00:36:14.480 Now, look.
00:36:15.520 Look at the guy with the cat and then look two over.
00:36:17.420 That's you.
00:36:20.100 Don't try to pull my move.
00:36:23.640 Only I can pull that move.
00:36:24.980 Bro, what the fuck?
00:36:26.300 Yeah.
00:36:26.900 Look at that.
00:36:27.560 I feel like this is a rabbit hole.
00:36:29.040 I don't want to go down.
00:36:29.780 You want to do this?
00:36:33.460 Yeah.
00:36:35.540 This is somebody's auntie.
00:36:38.020 Yours?
00:36:39.300 Yeah.
00:36:40.660 All right, let's do this.
00:36:41.540 All right.
00:36:42.940 I know you're enamored.
00:36:44.460 I mean, I didn't know these were like, that's what these were called.
00:36:47.160 Hey, man.
00:36:47.480 This is what white people do. 0.58
00:36:48.680 It is.
00:36:49.120 I have not.
00:36:49.700 There was not one black person in there.
00:36:50.940 There wasn't.
00:36:51.540 No.
00:36:52.200 Makes sense.
00:36:52.900 No, we got some.
00:36:54.260 We got some black people.
00:36:54.980 You guys do other shit.
00:36:56.140 Like, you all wear, like, the same airbrush shirt and shit. 0.98
00:37:03.160 What?
00:37:04.380 It's so funny.
00:37:05.580 It's the fucking truth.
00:37:06.520 It's so true. 0.84
00:37:07.460 It's so true. 0.84
00:37:09.240 We don't do that.
00:37:10.460 No, you know what we do?
00:37:11.380 You know what we do?
00:37:11.980 We stand around and say, man, that motherfucker was stupid.
00:37:14.880 You guys get white t-shirts made with airbrush and talk like he's a motherfucking hero.
00:37:19.680 We're like, dude, that dumbass got his ass shot.
00:37:22.800 You guys are marching.
00:37:25.920 Yep.
00:37:27.120 Anyway, enough with today's racism.
00:37:29.940 Let's move on.
00:37:33.260 Bro, they used to take the pictures and made it look like they were in a wine glass.
00:37:36.840 No, you guys do that shit where you all wear all white shit, too?
00:37:39.980 White people try to do it, too, but it looks ridiculous. 0.73
00:37:42.080 Well, let me call it something else.
00:37:43.620 What do they call it?
00:37:44.740 Morse Barton.
00:37:46.020 Oh, yeah.
00:37:46.640 We do.
00:37:48.720 How'd you miss that?
00:37:51.540 How'd you miss that?
00:37:52.560 We can't all be perfect.
00:37:56.260 Yeah, we don't go to those parties.
00:38:00.260 Bro, oh, man.
00:38:01.440 Okay, we got, I got, oh, yeah.
00:38:03.280 All right, guys, question number four.
00:38:08.040 Andy, I'm curious to how you keep calm in situations that present distress.
00:38:11.720 I don't.
00:38:12.160 More specifically, when people are being deliberately worthless humans.
00:38:17.720 So, here's the example.
00:38:18.740 I am drinking at a bar.
00:38:20.920 They finally bring out my pizza after taking.
00:38:23.420 So, it's you being deliberately worthless.
00:38:25.080 They finally bring out my pizza after taking long the entire time prior to me even ordering the pizza.
00:38:37.240 When it finally arrives, it's not how I asked for it.
00:38:40.440 I have tipped a few dollars for every beer I got and an extra five for the pizza to combat the negativity.
00:38:45.440 Yet, the manager was still completely out of line with my mojo.
00:38:50.480 I was beyond kind and asked that it be properly cooked.
00:38:54.220 And his quick response was, quote, well, we already put it in the oven initially to make it extra crispy.
00:38:59.420 I got my refund.
00:39:00.440 I don't play that shit.
00:39:01.940 Left half a full glass of wine.
00:39:03.800 What are some real-life applicable instances you can provide an example, proper solution to?
00:39:11.120 By the way, I work in the service industry, and I'm not faulting the servers, bartenders, but the manager is an idiot.
00:39:16.680 All right.
00:39:17.480 So, here's what you do.
00:39:19.760 You go out, and you marry a girl from the country. 0.88
00:39:25.500 I know where this is going.
00:39:26.740 Yeah, that's why.
00:39:27.880 Because if you marry a girl from the country, and someone fucks with your food, they'll kill them. 1.00
00:39:31.940 You don't have to do anything.
00:39:34.680 I don't have to do shit.
00:39:35.960 Yeah.
00:39:36.540 If my food gets fucked up, bro, Emily's on it.
00:39:38.600 Yeah.
00:39:38.960 She just kills them. 1.00
00:39:39.720 Yep.
00:39:40.260 Puts them in a fucking hole.
00:39:41.500 We go home.
00:39:43.320 Yeah, that's how it works.
00:39:44.520 Just feeds them to the ducks.
00:39:45.580 Yeah.
00:39:45.980 That's it.
00:39:46.340 Ducks eat good.
00:39:48.580 I mean, real talk.
00:39:49.740 Yeah.
00:39:50.120 Just get yourself a woman that won't tolerate no shit. 1.00
00:39:53.080 Because there's nothing worse than having to complain about your food.
00:39:56.320 It's always, yeah.
00:39:57.480 Yeah, as a man.
00:39:58.300 Yeah.
00:39:59.880 Especially for me.
00:40:00.820 Like, listen.
00:40:02.940 Why is that?
00:40:03.880 I don't get it.
00:40:09.000 You're what?
00:40:09.520 It's all right.
00:40:10.100 You're big.
00:40:13.000 I'm a big man.
00:40:16.300 I saw the bee start to come out.
00:40:17.960 I figured that's what you were going to say.
00:40:20.820 No, they think I'm going to rob the fucking restaurant.
00:40:25.560 Dude, listen.
00:40:26.940 You know what?
00:40:27.520 Unfortunately, you know, the world needs people to cook the fucking fries.
00:40:33.820 You know what I'm saying?
00:40:34.560 And you're going to deal with people like that in service here and there.
00:40:38.780 I think most people try to do the best that they can.
00:40:40.900 And I try to give people the benefit of the doubt.
00:40:42.900 And if it's a situation that just cannot be resolved and can't be taken seriously, I just don't go back.
00:40:48.340 And that's how places go out of business.
00:40:50.020 The market decides what's going to make it and what's not going to make it.
00:40:52.940 The places I go, I only go to three places, dude.
00:40:56.080 And they all got tremendous service.
00:40:57.660 And that's honestly why I go there.
00:40:59.120 I go there because of the service.
00:41:00.520 The food is great in all three places, but the service is what matters.
00:41:04.060 And you know what I notice now in culture is this idea where, like, people...
00:41:11.820 Dude, after COVID, service really got fucked up.
00:41:14.360 Oh, bro.
00:41:15.220 Before COVID, it was pretty good.
00:41:18.000 After COVID, now we have this entitlement mentality amongst the service industry that they deserve some sort of reward or tip or whatever just for existing, for breathing, right?
00:41:29.280 Like, you notice how much shit people are trying to get us to tip on now?
00:41:32.500 Fucking everything, all right?
00:41:34.140 Let me tell you something.
00:41:35.060 If you work in the service, you should have no problem earning tips.
00:41:38.800 But it's earning tips, okay?
00:41:41.220 And because the service is so poor across the board, if you are just reasonably good at your service, you are going to make so much fucking money because people are so accustomed to people not giving a fuck.
00:41:54.840 So while I don't have a solution for you other than say your piece and don't go back and maybe write a review, you know, a real review.
00:42:04.140 I'm not for these people that just go straight to, like, trying to kill places because they fucked up.
00:42:09.340 I give benefit because I own businesses and I understand things can get fucked up.
00:42:13.720 But if you have a situation, like, that's unreasonable, I think it's reasonable to say something.
00:42:20.320 And while this may not answer your question, for all of you servers out there that say shit like, nobody respects the servers, nobody tips this, if you ain't tipping 20%, then fuck you.
00:42:32.420 No, fuck you, okay?
00:42:35.000 Because your tip is based upon the extra mile service that you provide.
00:42:41.320 Your job is to bring me my fucking food, okay?
00:42:44.820 But if you bring it with a smile and you're happy and you're fun and you're cool and you make good conversation, you keep my drinks going and everything comes out right and you're nice and pleasant, you're going to make...
00:42:56.420 Bro, I usually tip, like, 100% of the fucking meal anywhere I go, okay?
00:43:00.800 So if you see me coming, you're going to get two options.
00:43:03.700 You're going to get 100% or you're going to get fucking nothing.
00:43:07.080 And that's it.
00:43:08.080 And I think a lot of people feel that way.
00:43:09.720 I think a lot of people tip very good for great service and they don't tip shit for you thinking that you deserve a tip.
00:43:17.720 It's the entitlement generation.
00:43:20.360 People still...
00:43:21.440 The free market is the free market, bro.
00:43:23.500 And the market will always dictate what things are worth.
00:43:29.260 And if no one's tipping you, it's because you suck, okay?
00:43:34.000 I know plenty of people in service industry that make a fuck ton of money.
00:43:39.300 They work in high-end restaurants.
00:43:40.900 They're making tons and tons of money.
00:43:43.400 You know why?
00:43:44.140 Because they work their fucking asses off to make sure that the experience is good.
00:43:48.120 And a great experience is worth money to people.
00:43:51.040 So if you're one of these servers that thinks everybody owes you, just remember they don't.
00:43:55.820 They don't owe you a tip.
00:43:56.860 And there'll be people that will make a point out of not tipping you just because you're mediocre, okay?
00:44:02.800 It used to be like if you went to a restaurant and service was just mediocre, it was a normal thing to not tip.
00:44:09.640 That was normal.
00:44:10.500 Now, it's like if you went in there and you got shitty service and you don't tip 25%, they post you on the internet.
00:44:18.340 Well, go ahead and post me and then I'll talk about how shitty you were.
00:44:21.820 You know what I'm saying?
00:44:22.560 That's real shit.
00:44:23.320 I feel like there's a flip side there, man.
00:44:24.600 Like, because I actually had this experience this past weekend, bro.
00:44:27.440 I was in a restaurant.
00:44:28.160 And sometimes the people can just be assholes.
00:44:33.460 And I don't believe this is an everyday thing or the most common situation.
00:44:39.500 But, like, dude, this dude and his wife, they were just being fucking assholes.
00:44:44.700 Customers?
00:44:45.300 Yeah, because they're customers.
00:44:46.280 Yeah.
00:44:46.600 And, like, they didn't tip and they fucking left.
00:44:48.480 Like, everything, you know, it was the worst experience.
00:44:50.300 I think they were just trying to get the shit comped.
00:44:52.040 Yeah, of course.
00:44:53.160 But, bro, I felt so bad because I was kind of overhearing this that I fucking tipped that server.
00:44:57.680 Yeah.
00:44:57.960 You know what I'm saying?
00:44:58.520 Just because I just felt bad.
00:44:59.360 Well, there's people like that for sure.
00:45:00.940 That's not.
00:45:01.380 Let's address those fuckers. 1.00
00:45:03.320 I mean, they're pieces of shit, bro.
00:45:04.620 There's pieces of shit everywhere you go.
00:45:06.200 Yeah.
00:45:07.480 It's not, you know, another thing I see is waitstaff like to always say this is black people that do this.
00:45:13.540 There's all kinds of people that do this.
00:45:15.540 I've worked in waitstaff.
00:45:17.580 I've worked in service.
00:45:18.520 I know what the fuck this is about.
00:45:20.040 There's lots of people that just try to get free shit.
00:45:22.280 And it's not indicative of their fucking race, okay?
00:45:27.900 There's pieces of shit.
00:45:29.540 And if you're someone in service and you treat every single person as if they were that one piece of shit that you dealt with that day, you're never going to make any money.
00:45:38.700 So that's not a good strategy.
00:45:40.660 The right strategy is to say, well, I know that one out of the 30 tables I had was shitty, but I'm going to treat all of them the same knowing that the balance is going to equate and come out in my favor, right?
00:45:56.100 You're going to have short-term memory loss.
00:45:57.180 Yeah, for sure.
00:45:58.240 Dude, it's just like sales, man.
00:46:00.560 Like if you quit selling the minute someone says no, how are you going to win?
00:46:03.360 If you quit providing extra value because someone was mean to you and didn't appreciate it, how are you going to win?
00:46:09.640 If you quit working hard because your boss didn't see you or acknowledge you for this one thing, how are you going to get better?
00:46:17.060 And people shoot themselves in the foot more often than not by having this attitude of, well, I could do all this work and it won't be appreciated.
00:46:24.240 Just because it wasn't appreciated one time doesn't mean it won't be appreciated.
00:46:27.560 Just because you got passed over one time doesn't mean you won't get, you know, get to go up two or three spots the next time.
00:46:34.560 It's not the way it works.
00:46:35.900 The way the world works is this.
00:46:37.700 You give the best you can, every chance you get, and eventually it works out.
00:46:41.980 And that's how it works, dude.
00:46:43.180 There's no exception to that either.
00:46:44.780 I love it.
00:46:45.500 I love it.
00:46:46.340 Most people will say there's exceptions to that, but what's actually happened is they got passed over once or twice and they've given up.
00:46:52.540 So now in their mind, their identity is I work really hard.
00:46:56.420 I go the extra mile.
00:46:57.380 I do all these things when they're really not.
00:46:59.480 They're not being honest with themselves.
00:47:00.980 And then it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, right?
00:47:03.820 Because they got passed over that one time or they have one bad table.
00:47:07.000 They have one bad experience and they actually have quit doing all these things.
00:47:10.340 But in their mind, they still identify themselves with the person who did all these things before, but they're not doing them now.
00:47:15.720 And then they end up losing.
00:47:17.040 And then, you know, they're bitter at everybody.
00:47:18.580 They have, you know, it's unfortunate that so many people in the world.
00:47:22.700 Lack the ability to look in the mirror and be honest.
00:47:25.780 Am I giving my best?
00:47:27.740 Am I doing my best?
00:47:29.640 Am I honestly giving what I could give?
00:47:33.060 Most people will say, yeah, of course I am.
00:47:36.000 And then, you know, you're around them for an hour and you're like, what the fuck is that?
00:47:39.860 What's that?
00:47:40.720 What's this?
00:47:41.420 I thought you said this.
00:47:42.380 Oh, well, that's just this one thing.
00:47:44.980 Well, your whole day is filled with one things that fuck you up.
00:47:48.220 You know what I'm saying?
00:47:49.200 Yeah.
00:47:49.360 So, yeah, bro, they're delusional.
00:47:52.240 The best thing you could do for yourself is to not be delusional about the reality that you live in and experience.
00:47:58.540 Be honest.
00:47:59.460 Are you good or are you not good?
00:48:01.000 Are you fat or are you not fat?
00:48:02.540 Are you good looking or are you ugly?
00:48:04.640 Be honest.
00:48:05.700 Because if you're ugly, you're going to have to work a little harder.
00:48:08.100 Work a lot harder.
00:48:08.980 All right?
00:48:09.720 Either way, I'm going to die.
00:48:10.560 Yeah.
00:48:10.640 I'm just saying, man, just be honest.
00:48:15.660 Yeah.
00:48:16.060 Be honest.
00:48:17.460 If you're honest with yourself, the world is a lot easier to navigate.
00:48:21.420 Yeah.
00:48:22.100 It's real shit, man.
00:48:22.760 Guys, I love it.
00:48:24.460 Yep.
00:48:25.220 That's four.
00:48:25.940 That was four.
00:48:26.780 Yeah.
00:48:27.880 Come back for more.
00:48:30.020 More brown chocolate eagles.
00:48:32.260 Yeah.
00:48:34.960 Went from sleeping on the floor.
00:48:36.940 Now my jewelry box froze.
00:48:38.640 Fuck a pole.
00:48:39.440 Fuck a stove. 0.96
00:48:40.300 Counted millions in the cold.
00:48:41.960 Bad bitch. 1.00
00:48:42.800 Booty's woke.
00:48:43.640 Got her on bankroll.
00:48:45.280 Can't fold.
00:48:46.160 Doesn't know.
00:48:46.960 Headshot.
00:48:47.760 Case closed.
00:48:48.460 Close.