In this episode of The Reelists, we have a special guest on the show and we talk about the current state of the education system, the lack of support, and lack of opportunities for young people in the real world, and why the world needs to get back to basics.
00:00:00.000what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
00:00:21.200the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we
00:00:27.680have a special saturday q and af we're gonna get right into it i'm not gonna do the whole intro
00:00:35.120okay that shit all right what's up dude hey it's good to see you here on saturday good to see you
00:00:40.820how was your weekend what's up man no nothing much man uh got some good ones for you bro i actually
00:00:48.480i got one i'm actually really looking forward to i think what would you say if you didn't say i got
00:00:53.580some good ones for you uh hmm i mean what else do you say i feel like that that phrase is just
00:01:02.640perfect because it's true and it has its swag and it's got swag it does have swag who awarded the
00:01:08.700swag to the phrase you you're not allowed to oh you're not allowed to award your own swag you sure
00:01:14.720about that i don't know i'm pretty i feel like you award your own swag me yeah motherfucker i'm
00:01:20.140captain swag right you captained yourself well i didn't call me that the internet did oh the
00:01:25.600internet did right right right all right yeah captain swaggy pants
00:01:28.900i got lots of names from the internet some are like
00:01:32.920all right let's do this let's get these in man uh guys say it i got some good ones for you all right
00:01:44.380all right i got three good ones for you all right i got some swag all right i'll give you one point
00:01:48.460i love when von tried to do it von yeah we remember he uh he subbed in on the q and af oh i thought
00:01:56.400you were gonna talk about how we got mf ceo dropping soon no i mean we can't yeah well there it is
00:02:03.220i'm actually really excited about that man i think that's gonna be fucking fire bro that's why we're
00:02:10.900doing it we're doing it because i've recognized that like the the fucking young people and the
00:02:16.540young people and we need this shit that the entire information space of entrepreneurs has been taken
00:02:25.240over by fucking morons who have never built fucking shit all right and when i was doing this content when
00:02:32.680i was doing mf ceo people were very careful not to get into there because there was legitimate people
00:02:38.260teaching legitimate shit and because i stopped now there's this there's all these people talking
00:02:44.080about oh i made five million dollars in fucking one week and all this shit and it has all these kids
00:02:49.480confused bro and then on top of it they're going to college and they're not getting taught any skills
00:02:55.980and not being taught how to communicate with people or how to win or how to sell or how to manage
00:03:00.320or how to build or how to create dude and they need it dude it's not that we don't have more people
00:03:07.120trying to win that's not the problem no we have a lot of people sharing bad information that's what
00:03:12.000it is and these guys which makes it appear like there's nobody trying to win well dude these guys
00:03:17.460who are young don't have the perspective to know who's who yeah it's very easy to convince someone
00:03:21.980who's 19 20 21 22 years old of success when you got a fucking hurricane and they don't right you know
00:03:29.200or you got whatever and they don't and dude the thing is is it's so easy to go out and put a front
00:03:34.380on about making money but you can't fake real companies that you can order from and and you
00:03:39.860know you can't fake that shit and a lot of these guys that are out here dude dude there's just so
00:03:45.660much shit it's a bit i'm just excited to bring it because it's not just about the fucking bullshit
00:03:50.820on the internet it's also about the lack of community it's the lack of fucking brotherhood it's
00:03:56.100the lack of support it's it's the lack of real information coming from the education system i
00:04:05.580mean dude the difference between when i was in the education system and now and it was shitty when i
00:04:10.300was in it but now it's like it's like they're teaching them to be dumber right and there's all
00:04:15.820these kids that want to win and build companies and have success and i'm just excited to get back i
00:04:21.800feel like my personal now we're going to continue to do real af just so we're clear but i'm just
00:04:27.640excited because that's where i think that's where i'm best dude i'm best with that kind of stuff yeah
00:04:31.560so i'm excited to get back the world needs it man the world needs it well guys andy let's get into
00:04:36.400these uh these cues yeah for these h's um joe likes my jokes no he doesn't he laughs because he
00:04:46.340feels sorry for you is that what it is joe yes joe why don't you just tell me that's what white
00:04:49.820people do oh that's what yeah you know that smile we do where it goes like this the white
00:04:53.360people smile mm-hmm i fucking hate that smile but you know what's crazy what that means it was
00:04:57.880that means yeah fuck out bro you know what's fucked up though i found since being around you oh me
00:05:03.560i found myself doing that smile bro you know what since being around you i'm like stealing
00:05:13.440what the fuck's that about oh man i was wondering what my charger was
00:05:23.500this dude steals my charger every fucking day i came in here today and it was here i couldn't
00:05:31.300even believe it hey you know i'm learning all right you're learning to steal it put it back
00:05:38.880guys andy question number one uh andy i've had uh i've long had large dreams and ambitions in
00:05:50.580various aspects of my life and i had no idea how to actually realize them uh having dreams and ambition
00:05:57.320without knowing how to realize them resulted uh in experiencing a lot of mental and emotional turmoil
00:06:02.620inside me uh every day i've been doing the power list uh for a while now i've completed 75 hard
00:06:08.280i've read your books i cannot get enough of your podcast uh your teachings and examples have given me
00:06:13.540abilities to channel my energy day in and day out towards these dreams i feel much more structured
00:06:19.260uh integrated calm i am now starting to love and appreciate myself i'm forever grateful to you
00:06:25.560uh i'm focused on taking the next steps forward uh one sentence from your book uh on mental toughness
00:06:32.400which keeps coming back to me is on page 48 uh being ambitious is a skill um my mind keeps bringing
00:06:39.980me uh bringing this up which is a sign that there is a lesson here for me to learn you taught me that
00:06:44.640discipline and other aspects of mental toughness are skills uh but what about ambition is a skill
00:06:50.360could you please elaborate on this yeah so what we have to understand about ambition is that certain
00:06:57.480people have it naturally and then a lot of people don't have it so they feel like oh i just don't
00:07:03.000have it but if you ask those people very simply what do you want out of your life what are you trying
00:07:11.060to achieve they can't really tell you anything and it's because they haven't projected their lives
00:07:17.940into the future 5 10 15 years and thought about what it might be like and because they've never
00:07:24.340done that whether it be because their parents taught them to be just a cog in the machine or school
00:07:31.220didn't teach them to be creative we have a situation where people have a hard time developing ambition
00:07:36.900because if you don't have any dreams hopes or wishes for yourself what do you have to be ambitious
00:07:43.300about so when you're one of these people who doesn't actually have ambition naturally you have to start
00:07:50.860thinking what is my life going to be like five years from now what is my life going to be like 10 years
00:07:55.960from now what is my life going to be like 20 years from now and what is my life going to be like in those
00:08:02.100time frames if i don't change and what do i want for myself if i could get anything i wanted and when you
00:08:09.980start thinking like that you start to dream you start to create you start to want more for yourself
00:08:15.340which helps drive the ambition internally all right and we miss out on a lot of these things because
00:08:22.220right now in the way that we operate and how technology is we spend so much time scrolling and so much time
00:08:30.820consuming that we actually don't have any time to be bored and usually boredom is when people create in
00:08:38.280their mind they think about what they want which drives the ambitious nature within them that we
00:08:44.160all have as human beings look humans have created the entire earth over 12 000 years everybody has
00:08:53.640ambition if they have something they're trying to achieve but the problem with people who don't
00:08:58.820have it is that they just don't think about it they spend all their time trying to be entertained
00:09:03.100scrolling paying attention to other things and if you're paying attention to other things and you
00:09:09.120don't have time to think about what your life's going to be like then how can you have any ambition
00:09:12.920you're watching other people's ambition correct so we have to train ourselves to visualize ourselves
00:09:18.540and what we want out of our lives which will in turn drive the ambition from the inside
00:09:24.080out into the external world does that make sense it makes sense you have to practice this it's not
00:09:28.960something that just happens there are some people who are just wired to fucking go and win i am like
00:09:36.400that i've always been like that and a lot of you guys watch me and maybe other people like me and you
00:09:41.700say fuck how come how come he has that and i don't have that well because from a very early age i was
00:09:47.960encouraged to dream and think and and try to create what i wanted to be in my life i was very lucky to have
00:09:54.640parents that encourage those things all right they so from the time i was four five six seven years old
00:10:02.780i was like man i want to be this i want to do that i want to do this which instilled the skill
00:10:08.560of ambition so while you might read it as oh it's just a trait that he has well i've been practicing
00:10:14.700that for a long time so it's actually a skill that i've developed so if you want to start developing
00:10:19.540the skill of ambition start thinking about what you want out of your life and then also on the
00:10:24.220counter think about what your life will be like if you don't change which is a very powerful uh
00:10:29.240driver behind the ambitions that you create yeah and ambition would you say that that you know if
00:10:34.640you're really trying to pursue real success that this idea of needing motivation or inspiration should
00:10:41.040be replaced with this skill of ambition right because like the ambition is the driving for like that's
00:10:45.880what gets you on the pursuit right yeah look you got to know where you're going you got to know what
00:10:50.220you want most people put more time into going out with their friends and making plans for their
00:10:54.880vacation than they do their entire life yeah that doesn't make any sense so what you have to do is
00:11:00.420you have to have a place that you're going and then you have to have the ability to follow the plan which
00:11:05.020is discipline to execute the plan day in and day out day in and day out day in and day out to get to
00:11:10.500that place motivation is going to come and go there's going to be days where you're going to feel
00:11:14.880fucking amazing there's going to be days where you feel like you could just get up and run through a wall
00:11:19.240and on those days you can but here's the thing on the days you don't feel like that you still can
00:11:24.560and that's where people miss you could still run through those walls when you don't feel like
00:11:29.360running through them and if you train yourself to be disciplined you're not going to miss the gaps
00:11:34.340that other people would miss because they can only operate when they're motivated yeah so you're able
00:11:39.160to go win after win after win after win after win where they're going win win three days breaks
00:11:45.200another two wins and if you just do the math you can see who's going to get where they want to go
00:11:50.160and who's going to get where they want to go faster i do i love this i love this this convo on ambition
00:11:55.480man i want to ask you this too so it's like you know when you talk about ambition like you know you
00:11:59.080got a young person here how important is it when you talk about knowing where you want to go right
00:12:04.420but like you have to want that so bad and i think a lot of young people
00:12:10.400it the the issue when it comes to like you know this conversation about ambition is that you know
00:12:15.840in society for whatever reason people who seem to be obsessed with whether it's material goals or
00:12:23.420you know a number in the bank account right it's it's always deemed as this like greedy or bad so
00:12:28.180like how do you get over you know i guess allowing yourself to be okay with one wanting success so bad
00:12:34.580and wanting that to drive that ambition to to keep them motivated that's why i tell you guys all the
00:12:39.520time if you listen to them you'll be like them and most people will shit on big goals they will say
00:12:45.160oh you're materialistic oh you're morally misaligned oh i'm morally superior to you because i can get by
00:12:51.820with less what the fuck are you talking about that has nothing to do with being a good person being
00:12:57.840and by the way you can do way more with resources for other people than you can without them so all of
00:13:03.780this shit talk on success is just bullshit propaganda that comes from people who wish they would have
00:13:11.040done something else but chose not to and because they chose not to they don't like you thinking that
00:13:17.080way either because they're afraid that if you go out and show them that it's possible that they will
00:13:22.200believe that it was possible for them and they just shit their life away all right so we have to deal
00:13:27.220with this realistic attitude let's talk about what they teach in school they tell you when you're in
00:13:33.160kindergarten dj you could be anything you want you could be president you could be a billionaire you
00:13:39.800got a dream big that's what they tell us in kindergarten right by the time we're in sixth grade you need to
00:13:45.320start thinking about your future you need to start thinking you know i realize you got big dreams but
00:13:51.020you know let's start to be realistic here by the time you're a sophomore in high school it's
00:13:56.260what's your major what are you going to school for oh i want to be president the caliber kids beating
00:14:00.440you up throwing you in the locker okay so over the course of time we go as people from being told we
00:14:07.460can achieve greatness to being told by people who couldn't achieve greatness that we will never be
00:14:13.580great and so when we think about it like that it makes sense as to why people don't dream and when
00:14:19.700people don't dream they don't have ambition which creates a scenario where they can't achieve anything
00:14:24.460so we have to understand the dynamic when we're young we're told we could be anything but because
00:14:30.180we have to go through life and be around motherfuckers that never did a goddamn thing in their
00:14:34.300entire life some of that rubs off on us and we have to be smart enough to look at them and say i don't
00:14:39.720want that life that's not the life i want that's not how i want to live that's not what i want to drive
00:14:44.240that's not what i that's not me and we have to say fuck that and we have to decide that we're going to do
00:14:49.380something else and do that's very hard to do when it's your parents and your friends and your network
00:14:53.660and your teachers all these people you're supposed to trust and because we trust them we start to
00:14:59.420believe well you know maybe those rich people are pieces of shit maybe it is an immoral thing to try
00:15:05.380and want more maybe it is a bad thing that i'm not meek and modest and you know shut my mouth but dude
00:15:11.660when you're 60 years old you're going to say fuck i wish i wasn't so meek and modest and kept my mouth
00:15:16.400shut because i'd have a lot more to show for my life so if you understand how it happens you can
00:15:22.540understand what to do about it and what you need to do about it stop listening motherfuckers that
00:15:26.520don't have what you what you want that's it i love it man i love it guys any question number two
00:15:31.860andy i was recently promoted to department supervisor uh the previous supervisor was demoted
00:15:38.660and is now working under me he seems to be bitter about it and i have a hard time motivating him
00:15:44.360i'm sure his attitude is how he got to where he is i'm not sorry i was hoping to get some advice on
00:15:50.380what you would do in the situation thank you for everything you do so he so to understand
00:15:56.900you got promoted above someone that was your supervisor right and now you're his supervisor
00:16:03.480okay yeah that's a difficult situation a lot of times because most people don't have the maturity to
00:16:08.300recognize that the reason they are in the situation that they're in is because they did or didn't do
00:16:14.060certain things and whether you're in a good position or you're in a bad position you are in
00:16:18.800that position because of what you did or didn't do you're in the position because of what you did do
00:16:23.560he's in the position because of what he didn't do and because people can't admit that and they can't
00:16:28.360be honest and they can't accept responsibility for their lives they usually get bitter about anything
00:16:33.440that passes them by so you have an uphill battle with this person unless they are
00:16:38.060extremely emotionally intelligent and quite honestly just a realist which they probably aren't
00:16:44.040so there's a couple ways to go about it one you get rid of them all right could do that um if the
00:16:51.620person doesn't do their job if they got a piss poor attitude if they're cancerous and they're talking
00:16:56.260shit i'd fucking fire them all right because they're not going to come back from that uh the second
00:17:01.400thing you could do is you could pull them aside and have a conversation and say hey joe
00:17:06.800i know this is fucking weird and i know that you're bitter about it but here's the thing i did
00:17:11.540this and this and this and this and this to get here and while i was doing this and this and this
00:17:15.400and this and this you weren't doing these things and now we're in a situation where the roles are
00:17:20.540reversed and if you want to get back to the role that you were in these are the things that you're
00:17:25.300going to have to do and there's no hard feelings here dude i don't i'm not better than you this is
00:17:29.880just me i was doing things that you weren't doing and if you want i'll help you get back to the
00:17:34.260point of where you were doing those things but that's going to require your attitude being good
00:17:38.300and not being bitter and piss poor i don't need that shit around you're not happy with that shit
00:17:42.760around so if that's the way it's going to be then we might as well just part ways now but i am totally
00:17:47.520with you if you want to get better i'll help you i'll train you i'll do whatever you got to do
00:17:51.920but uh you know we got to change our attitude and that that's basically the two two options there
00:17:56.800i love that man i think people have a hard time like leadership is one of those things and like
00:18:01.520being around you i've learned that like it's it's more simple than you think it is but leadership
00:18:06.660is i feel like it's one of those things a lot of people just overly complicate yeah the reason
00:18:11.240they over complicate it is because they don't want to lead the proper way most quote-unquote leaders
00:18:18.500want to be a leader without doing the work of a leader so they don't want to live the standard they
00:18:23.840don't want to fucking do all the extra work they don't want to hold a high uh standard for detail and
00:18:29.240make sure that they can do the job they don't want to live that they don't they want to say
00:18:32.880they're the leader and then they want everybody else to do the work and what people don't understand
00:18:37.000is being a leader is making sure that you do the work as good as everybody else and probably better
00:18:41.800than everyone else and that you help them get to that level and the leader so leadership when
00:18:46.580effective takes a lot of hard work and most people just aren't invested in doing it uh and that's
00:18:52.360why great leaders stand out that's why great leaders get paid that's why they have great careers
00:18:56.600because they're willing to be great at the things they're leading about they're willing to keep
00:19:00.440those skills at a high level and they're willing to train the people around them to have those same
00:19:04.420skill sets and great leaders are usually the people who during the time of leadership
00:19:11.560the people that you're leading may not like you all the time but after they've moved on and they've
00:19:18.620progressed they look back and they say dude i wouldn't be where i'm at without that so you know it's not
00:19:24.800about making them like you today it's about making them love you in five years i love that man i love
00:19:30.480that guys andy our third and final question this is one of my favorite ones i think we've gotten
00:19:33.920i think you're gonna like it too um so guys andy question number three uh andy i just wrapped up my
00:19:41.680first year of college i play d1 baseball at your favorite college hook them horns baby um but about
00:19:48.980halfway through my second semester i felt myself slipping grades focus and practices our season
00:19:55.500didn't play out the best etc i still finished the year decently uh and strong but my question is and
00:20:02.640i know this may sound crazy but what do you do the moment you catch yourself slipping i feel like i was
00:20:09.560doing good and then out of nowhere i wake up and i'm like shit i've been off um and what's the best way
00:20:14.800to maintain the highs and eliminate the lows bro this is this is something that everybody struggles
00:20:20.940with okay when things are a disarray and when things are in disorder and you've done well you've built
00:20:29.460the skill set you've performed at a high level and then things start going off course all right the first
00:20:36.040thing that you need to do is you need to go examine what you did to get to that point in the first place
00:20:41.500and the reason a lot of people can't do that is because those things seem basic to them once
00:20:46.840they're good all right so really this is this question is really about hubris and ego all right
00:20:53.420so when you if we imagine a growth curve okay a bell curve and you're at the beginning of the bell
00:20:59.520curve down here at the very bottom and you don't know shit about baseball you don't know anything you
00:21:03.900don't know how to hit fucking baseball this is 20 years ago for you okay you don't even know how to
00:21:08.460hit a ball off the tee so your dad or whoever puts the ball on the tee and says hit the ball you don't
00:21:14.140know shit you're like okay i fucking hit the ball all right that's the level of i am so open to
00:21:19.560learning that i'll do whatever the coach says because i don't know anything right so over the
00:21:25.720years you get better and better and better and you move up the curve and as you go up the curve your
00:21:29.380skill set improves your performance improves things start getting good and this this is mirrored in
00:21:34.700people's careers as well so they get to this they get to a pretty good space where they're earning
00:21:39.800big money or you're you're batting 400 your your first team all state you're the best right
00:21:45.120and what happens is is that all these little things that you learned along the way all the little drills
00:21:52.420all the little work ethic habits that you created they start to fade out and what replaces them is the
00:21:59.580thoughts like this dude i'm really good i'm fucking great at this i'm one of the best at this
00:22:05.100okay now the prop that's a good thing like when you walk into a batter's box you better think you're
00:22:10.680the best you're gonna fucking suck we know this as athletes right but when it comes to actually
00:22:16.840improving ourselves and improving our skill set that that requires massive humility so when we get to
00:22:22.880the top of the curve where we have high skill and we start telling ourselves how good we are
00:22:27.540and we stop doing the things that got us there we start to move down the other side of the curve
00:22:31.600which means our performance is getting worse worse worse worse worse and then what eventually
00:22:36.140happens is you get to a point where it's rock bottom for you that might be i haven't gotten a hit
00:22:40.900in seven games okay or you had two good years where you batted 350 and now you batted 200 one year
00:22:47.860and you're like fuck i lost it no you didn't lose it you stopped doing what the fuck made you great
00:22:52.740okay and we have to detach ourselves from our own greatness and understand that it's not us that's
00:22:58.940great it's the things we do that made us great and so you asked how do you continue to get better
00:23:04.860always keep in mind that it is not you it is the actions you take that are producing the result
00:23:10.780and this is where humility comes in as a valuable trait a valuable quality a valuable core value to have
00:23:18.560as success okay a lot of people will say oh you're not humble because you drive a Ferrari that don't
00:23:24.420have anything to do with it you're like you you are legitimately low IQ dumb motherfucker you don't
00:23:29.580know what humility even means what humility means is i know i'm not special i know it's not me i know i am
00:23:37.080the result of the actions i take and i know that if that man standing over there took the same actions
00:23:42.000that i take he would have a similar result so we detach ourselves it's not me it's my training it's not me
00:23:48.540it's the work i'm putting in okay and if we can detach ourselves from thinking it's us we can
00:23:54.160continue to progress and get better and better and better and this is why people like jordan and
00:23:58.300like kobe continue to get better throughout their career because they understood what i'm talking
00:24:03.480about now if you went and talked to michael jordan or kobe bryant you'd probably think fuck this guy's
00:24:09.140cocky as fuck well yeah but that doesn't change how they prepare and how they work so you can afford
00:24:17.160to present yourself as great as long as you know in your heart and in your mind that you really
00:24:22.960ain't that great and it has to do with the work ethic that you have you see what i'm saying absolutely
00:24:27.900so when you step in that batter's box or i go on that stage or into a board meeting or michael jordan
00:24:33.880goes on the court or whatever bro you better believe that you need to think you're the baddest
00:24:38.700motherfucker that ever fucking lived before you go and perform but every other minute of the day
00:24:43.780you're you're a beginner i'm here to learn i'm here to get better i'm here to fucking work
00:24:48.900and that's how it works that's how humility plays into this so if you want to continue to get better
00:24:53.160stop thinking that you're not in control of your ups and downs start realizing that you are and your ups
00:24:59.380and downs will be controlled by your ability to detach your own identity from your work ethic and if
00:25:05.720you continue to do the work and you dedicate yourself to the work and you do the work better than anyone
00:25:10.000you will perform better than anyone and you won't have that slide down the back side of the curve
00:25:14.640okay so so you caught yourself slipping so you go back you analyze where exactly you you kind of
00:25:20.440messed up at right and then so what do you do after that you have to i mean what like what what have you
00:25:25.420found to be the quickest way to get back on track yeah dude all right you're down on the other side of
00:25:30.100the curve right okay you're starting to go down the curve you're aware of it you realize i'm slipping
00:25:34.780right what am i not doing now that i was doing then list those things out and start doing them
00:25:42.420yeah well shit i was going to study hall right and i stopped going to study hall i was hitting bp right
00:25:47.760i was hitting bp twice a day now i'm only doing once a day because i led the big 12 and home runs right
00:25:53.640well now you're now you're 15th on big 12 and home runs maybe you should go back to twice a day
00:25:59.840you see what i'm saying yeah so we go we we know what works and sometimes we know what works so well
00:26:06.760that we forget that we know what works like for me in business dude i've been doing this 25 years
00:26:11.580there is very obvious shit sometimes that goes wrong and i've already been through it and i'm like
00:26:17.620this can't be that and then it is that you know what i'm saying so we over complicate it because
00:26:23.500we think that the basic things lose value as our performance gets higher or our place in society
00:26:30.620goes higher in terms of our success when in reality those little things are the things that allowed us
00:26:35.760to get there i love this man because it's like you know getting there and staying there staying there
00:26:43.380is totally different thing yeah because you're fighting your own ego when you're making fucking 60
00:26:49.100million dollars a year bro do you think you want to continue to do the things that made you 60
00:26:54.560million dollars a year or do you think you want to fucking fuck off hit the beach in coronas there you
00:26:58.880go i love that man i love it well hook them horns is that what they say yeah that's longhorn right
00:27:05.600yeah okay that's fucking sweet man sweet well good luck next season man hope it uh hope everything
00:27:10.420works out um well guys andy that was three all right guys go pay the fee
00:27:15.680went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stole counted millions
00:27:22.620in the cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case
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