72. The Power Of Indifference
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Summary
In this episode of The Realists, I talk about how to operate in a world where we are constantly agitated and constantly seeing things that don t go well with what we like or upset us, and how to deal with it.
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i told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living
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spoke it till existence mo changed to 50 got mo cost than did i only weigh 180 but my watch
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cost 250 what's up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye
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to the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality
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guys today got a real short episode for you before i get into it i'd like to remind you
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uh it'll teach you a lot of things uh and hopefully you know you pull some things away from it and all
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benefit from this show so with that being said guys uh you guys do an amazing job of that and i just want
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to say thank you so much for that because i think as far as i know we're one of the only shows that's
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consistently top 10 um that doesn't run ads and uh i think that says something so something i'm really
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proud of but anyway guys you know this situation we have in society right now is very turbulent i think
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everybody knows that right like it's very hard to look anywhere um you know on social media especially
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on mainstream media uh you know we can't even watch the nfl we can't watch the nba we can't watch
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anything without seeing things um that are political and and usually upsetting in some way shape or form
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uh to us and you know that's okay we we all have different views uh we all see things different ways
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but it's kind of hard to avoid the energy right like it's hard to avoid um you know we see
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so and so said this and we don't agree with it and we're like fuck so and so right uh or we see
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somebody that you know we they say what we what we like and they confirm our biases and our information
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and what we believe and we're like oh yeah that's my dude right like we're so into this now uh socially
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i think it's a very dangerous place to be for us as people um and the reason that it's very dangerous
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you know there's a lot of reasons on the macro level right we get into group think we get into
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situations where you know we don't necessarily uh you know make the right decisions because we're all
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wrapped up in what you know everybody else is doing things like that it makes it hard for us to
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make decisions and to be productive especially and you know this show is about winning dude this show is
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about the reality of how to fucking win all right that's what it's always going to be about now we
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might talk some funny shit we might tell some jokes we might talk about the problems in the world but
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we're never going to talk about the problems without a solution that's something that you will always get
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here we're not a you know we're not a passive show i guess so to speak where it's like hey you know
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these are the problems and what do you guys think look dude i'm going to give you my opinion
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that's what we do here uh but today i wanted to let you guys in on something that i think could
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really help everybody in terms of how to operate in a in a scenario where we are constantly agitated
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we are constantly seeing things that don't go well with what we like or we're constantly seeing things
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that upset us and no matter what side of the political or socio-economic spectrum that you find
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yourself on hopefully uh you don't affiliate with either one and you think for yourself but we always
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find ourselves where you know we think and i think that's a natural thing i'm not judging anybody for
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that i work very hard to try and have my own thoughts but we're all influenced and so the problem with
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that becomes that when we see information or hear information that may be in conflict with what it
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is we think or believe or have an opinion you know we've been conditioned over the last 15 years to
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just jump all over people when they don't do what we want them to do and that's very dangerous because
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now we have a situation where we can't communicate we can't connect with people uh you're either on the
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team or you're off the team you know it's not human dude what's human is hey you've got an opinion
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why do you have that opinion oh well i've got a different opinion this is why i have it and then
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we can talk and then guess what we can give a high five we can drink a beer we can still be cool
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and we've lost that as society and i think that we lost that i think facebook is a big contributor to
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why we lost that whenever they went to a situation where um you know technology has consistently
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shortened our communication process i've talked about this a number of times on this show and then
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other shows as well you know back in the day you know i'm talking 100 years ago what do we have you
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know 250 years ago we had to see people in person or maybe we could send a letter right so there was
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very clear communication going on then we had the telephone still very clear communication
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then we got um you know the fax machine a little shorter then we got email a little shorter and then
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we got social media and you know people go on and leave a 100 what is it 240 character fucking response
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on twitter i don't do twitter so i'm just guessing that could whatever the fuck it is but right we only
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have enough space to say one thing but then we got to a point where you know let's just say on facebook
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you say something and then they made it so you could like the comment right and when they made it so you
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could like the comment people went from having actual conversations to trying to win the conversation
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and what we have right now going on is a 10-year indoctrination by social media to say witty clever
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things that get us celebrated instead of having productive conversations now that really doesn't
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have a lot to do with what i'm going to teach you today but i want you to know why we are where we are
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so that you could clearly identify how to avoid what i'm about to talk about and what i'm going to talk
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about is this you don't have to have an opinion okay lots of people feel like they have to have an
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opinion on every single thing that goes on they've got to be in uh you know the voice on every single
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little thing and guys what i want you to think about is there's a lot of power in indifference
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there's a lot of power in not caring there's a lot of power in apathy about certain things and so
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you have to know when to have an opinion and when not to have an opinion and it's not that you have to
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have an opinion or not have an opinion but it's for your own mental health and this is where i'm
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going with this okay we are constantly agitated we are constantly poked at we are constantly
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challenged by everything that we see in the world and it's causing this mass disruption where we can't
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even have a conversation with people who might slightly think differently than what we think i think
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that's very bad but the main reason it's bad for you and the reason it's bad for me is that whenever
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we try to have an opinion on every single thing what we end up doing is needlessly agitating
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ourselves and taking our attention away from things that could be productive for us all right so while
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there's a shitload of power ultimate power in giving a fuck there is also a lot of power in indifference
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all right and so when you and the example i want to use with you guys is very simple all right
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i want you to think about for a second all the things that have been said about you
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behind your back that you're completely unaware of okay think about that now a lot of you are probably
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like well fuck i i don't know like do people talk about me fuck yeah they talk about you bro
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they talk about you just like you talk about other people just like everybody talks about other people
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you just ain't there to hear it that's the truth all right so think of all the things that people have
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said about you behind your back that you were unaware of how upset did you get about those things
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oh that's right you didn't get upset because you didn't know now on the other hand i want you to
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think about that meaning one out of every 50 times someone says something about you and you end up
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finding out about it i want to think about your reaction there what's your reaction then well usually
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you get upset usually you spend half your day trying to figure out why they said it and the rest of the
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half try the other half trying to defend it or trying to uh make peace with the person or trying to
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fight that person it takes your energy away from things that would otherwise be productive for you
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and so that's just by default right like by default the things we don't know about can't really fuck with
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us but how do we not know about things when we know about them that's the power here that's the lesson
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i want you to learn okay if you can learn the power of indifference if you can learn to cultivate
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and create the ability to observe things without having an opinion or without having a reaction
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without having an emotional outburst even if it's about you even if it stings you're creating power for
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yourself because when you have power for yourself and you're protective of the power of yourself
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instead of other people influencing you instead of other people taking your energy instead of other
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people doing things that can get you off your game you have the ability to do nothing other than what it
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is you were going to do anyway okay you start to act in a way whereas the thing that bothers you really
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doesn't bother you and what does that do for you it frees up your energy it frees up all of your focus
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it frees up your stress your anxiety all these things all of these things that are keeping you from
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actually being productive now i believe that the power of being indifferent about opinions people
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have about you is a very very very strong powerful skill to develop but also it's a very necessary skill
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for you to develop how much time do you spend arguing with people who disagree with you on the internet
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how much time do you spend arguing with your aunt or your uncle who doesn't believe in you how much
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time do you spend arguing with your boyfriend or your girlfriend or trying to convince your boyfriend
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or girlfriend that you're going to do this that or the other thing what if it just didn't matter what
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they said what if you just let it go what if you had the ability to close it out and not let it
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affect you in that negative way that we all respond to automatically now your energy is free
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now you're able to move forward now you're able to stay focused and execute on the things
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that you need to do and i'm not saying this is a easy skill to develop guys but what i am saying
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is that if you develop it you become very powerful because most people will spend their entire lives
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worrying so much what other people think that they actually don't even have the energy required
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to put into their own lives because they're so busy counting the arrows that other motherfuckers
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shot them in the back with okay it doesn't matter it doesn't matter who believes in you it doesn't
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matter who uh doesn't like you it doesn't matter who's got this opinion of you it doesn't fucking
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matter what matters is what you do do you spend all day being irritated every time someone says
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something you don't like every time you see a political opinion you don't agree with
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every time you see something that agitates you what do you do do you stop and get all fussy and
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hussy and decide you're going to spend the next three hours getting a comment war with someone online
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or do you say hey that that's their opinion and that's that and you go back to what you're doing
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because i'm going to tell you right now one of those people is going to lose and the other one's
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going to fucking win and if you're not smart enough to figure out which one it is it's going to win
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then you probably shouldn't even be listening to this show all right we only have so much energy
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we only have so much care we only have the ability to focus and have honest and meaningful opinions
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about so many things so we have to know what to let go and what to care about and cultivating that
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power and cultivating that discipline is a very hard process especially in the beginning of you know
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trying to build a brand whether that's a personal brand whether it's a bit actual business brand or
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whatever it is you're going to do things that are going to cause other people to have reactions
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and how you respond to those reactions is ultimately what's going to dictate where you end up
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all right so there's a lot of power and apathy there's a lot of power and indifference and
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there's a fuck ton of power and staying focused even when other people are trying to derail you as
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much as possible all right because that is going to happen the more successful you get the more people
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are going to try to pull you off your game the more people aren't going to like the way you did
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something the more people that you know they're going to disagree with how you handle this or that or the
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other all right now there's definitely a line there like let's just say you know somebody says oh
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this guy did this and this and this well did you do that and was it wrong and can you learn from it
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can you correct the behavior or is it fucking bullshit is it someone's opinion that it's just like
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not true because if it is why are you worried about it if it's not true then why are you worried
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about it why are you letting it distract you from what it is that you need to do why are you letting
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it take your energy away from the things that are going to benefit you that are going to benefit your
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family they're going to benefit your future because what i see right now is a lot of people from all
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walks of life getting really fucking agitated about things that really don't fucking matter to them
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and i think that's been this whole year you have to learn the discipline of letting things go
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you have to understand how to create a scenario where you could flip a switch in your brain
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and the things that were aggravating you three seconds ago are now irrelevant and non-existent
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to the path that you're on now i'm not saying ignore real issues that you have because a lot of people do
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that right i'm talking about the shit that really just sucks your time i'm talking about the things
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that don't really matter to you you know which way you're voting you know which your beliefs are
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it's okay to listen to other people's beliefs we don't have to fucking hate people
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but when people start attacking you and you find yourself getting irritated by the news by social
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media by other people realize that's weakness when you let other people's decisions and words
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take you off your game that's not them that's you
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okay so learning how to not have an opinion learning how to be indifferent learning how
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to put this into practice so that you don't spend your whole fucking life being bitter and being mad
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and being you know the facebook warrior like everybody seems to be these days and instead
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you've got your head down you're executing you're getting shit done your workouts are getting done
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your business is getting done you don't find yourself losing time to all this irrelevant shit
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that person who can cultivate that discipline is going to beat the fuck out of anybody else
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a hundred times out of a hundred okay so this is not a little lesson for you guys this is a huge lesson
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you don't have to care about everything and there's things you shouldn't care about
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and a lot of the things that you do think you care about are really taking from your future
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you just don't realize it yet and guys look man i get it dude i get it it fucking hurts
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when people misunderstand you it hurts when people say things that irritate your core beliefs
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it hurts when people say things about you that just aren't true but at the end of the day we've got
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to think with logic and not emotion logic wins reality wins idealism does not win dreaming does
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not win executing wins okay so you have to learn to push this stuff out it didn't even happen it's not
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relevant just like all the other things that you never even knew about that people said that people
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did behind your back because those things have happened and they haven't affected you
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only a fool would act like that's not happening behind your back it's happening to all of you
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all of you are the subject of gossip all of you are the subject of quote-unquote shit talk all of you
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are the subject of criticism okay low-level people that's what they live on high-level people flush that
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shit down the toilet and keep doing their motherfucking job all right power of the difference learn it use it
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told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living down spoke it till