721. Q&AF： Starting Business With Family Members, Taking Time Off In The Early Stage & Loyalty Towards Friends And Family
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On today's episode of The Realists, Andy and I answer some of your questions and talk about some of the funniest things that have ever happened in the world. We also talk about how to become a better person and how to be a better human being.
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what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
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the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we
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have a little midweek q and af that's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers
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now if you want your questions answered on the show you could submit them a couple different ways the
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first way is guys email these questions in to ask andy at andy for seller.com or go on youtube on the
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q and af episodes and drop your question in the comments we'll pick some from there as well
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other times like tomorrow we're going to have cti that stands for cruise the internet that's where
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we put topics of the day up on the screen we speculate on what's true on what's not true and
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then we talk about how we the people have to solve the problems going on in the world other times we
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have real talk real talk just 5 to 20 minutes and me giving you some real talk and then we have
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75 hard verses 75 hard verses where someone who's completed the 75 hard program comes on and talks
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about how their life was before how it is now and how they use the live hard and 75 hard program to
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change their life and how you can too if you're unfamiliar with the 75 hard program and the live
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hard program it is the world's most popular mental toughness program in history you can get it for free
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that's right for free at episode 208 on the audio feed only again that's 208 on the audio feed only
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we weren't on youtube when we made that episode uh so go to listen to it at episode 208 if you want
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to know the ins and outs uh the in-depth in ins and outs you're that kind of person that's the kind
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of person i am you can buy the book the book on mental toughness it's on my website andy for seller.com
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it'll go through the entire live hard program plus 10 chapters on mental toughness some case studies on
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famous people how they use mental toughness to become the famous people that you recognize
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all right what's up dude move huh smooth operator i like that song that's a good song that is a good
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song what is it 80s yeah what was it 60s for you what is it
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yeah like we got anybody else can read these questions off
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question number one yeah oh man that's good ones for me oh shit but why does your fiji water always
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look so fucking cold man like you just bottled that out of the glaciers because they that's what
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they do for me what is the fridge on in there fiji fiji fiji gets one of their private jets yeah
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they fly one in for me every single day got it white glove service got it i see you rocking the
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purple drink again yeah purple's where it's at bro listen guys if you want to go to jail and commit
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crimes right here and make you do it banning your kids and everything
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did you just say bail on your kids is that what you fucking said what's wrong with you man
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that's pretty funny i don't know you bought that grape smash
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dude stop all right all right stop that's enough that's enough that's enough calm down guys relax
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all right whoo that's pretty funny all right what's going on man oh man everything good yeah yeah
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dude we don't know what happened he showed up drinking that purple purse for
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all right that's enough yeah get serious fuck man put on your fucking game face man
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people better today yeah after we insult everybody
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oh man all right no more fucking around that's enough of that time to get serious
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getting better serious that was bad i'm sorry no it wasn't it was fucking good
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that's the funniest joke you've told a long time all right order it order it order it
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you heard him you heard the man that was pretty that's pretty good that's pretty fucking good
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all right man um yeah man everything's great let's uh let's make some people better today
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oh my god dude oh shit fuck i'll tell you what this shit's good though
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i'm just saying your bike inventory is gonna go way up i'm just saying
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listen man no bullshit this is good it's fucking really good it's fucking good yep
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yeah i'm gonna i'm like three fourths he did a good job with the can too bro cans are sick man i
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love the uh like i mean it was definitely given 90s vibe bro yeah i love i love it yeah the graffiti
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like it's nice all right nice calm down all right well let's uh let's do this man i got some good
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ones for you all right guys andy question number one uh hey andy hey dj hope all is well hey long
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time listener first time caller uh i'm a 27 year old guy i've worked as an equipment mechanic since i
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was 18 i started at the very bottom at eight dollars and 25 cents per hour uh and with your
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advice starting at the mfceo project i give 100 every day no matter what uh so my wage has drastically
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changed since then i want to start my own business and walk my own path i've acquired some clients to
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maintain some of their equipment and i have a lot of support from friends and family to pursue my dream
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i found the path now time for the hike i've been doing it part-time for a year now uh and built some
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relationships and some reputation so my client base is expanding my dad uh he's 52 uh is in the same
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trade uh he has been a manager at the same company for 25 plus years i've worked with him uh for my first
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six years in the trade and we have a great relationship recently we discussed starting our
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a business on our own my question is how do you negotiate a partnership instead of a boss employee
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relationship and how do you give that without offending the man who created and shaped you
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uh can you give dusty a shout out uh we listen to all the episodes and have daily discussions about
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him keep kicking ass fellas dusty dusty i guess that's his dad dusty what's up man what's up dusty dusty
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you want to come to our party you got any bikes
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all right um look man this is very simple okay when we grow up we and this is there's nothing wrong
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with this but we look at our parents as they're superheroes and we have respect for them and we
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listen to them and we look at them like they're on a different level and as we get older we start to
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realize that they're humans just like us and you're a 27 year old man you're looking to start a
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business and you're looking to start a business with a business partner who happens to be your dad
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and that's how you need to look at it okay you need to look at it as i'm starting a business what
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would i want how would i want the partnership to be framed oh and by the way that guy is my dad
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not i'm starting a business with my dad and i got to do all these things my dad says okay so you
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have to step out you have to think like an adult you have to be non-emotionally attached and you have
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to build a partnership that makes sense and be able to have conversations that are outside the
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realm of a father-son conversation and inside the realm of a business conversation and so what we're
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really asking about is how do we separate personal relationships from business relationships and
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guys this is very simple it's it's so simple that people overlook it when you're at work it's work
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when you're at home it's home and that's how it is man like this advice that goes around on the
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internet like oh you should never start a business with family or friends how many of those people
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have businesses with their family and friends it's you guys again listening to broke motherfuckers about
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how not to be broke if they knew how not to be broke they wouldn't be fucking broke okay so you
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shouldn't be listening to people and what they say there's a lot of dumb shit that goes around on the
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internet and one of it is never start a business with your family and friends because you don't
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know how to communicate with your family and friends and you don't know how to communicate with
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anybody in a business relationship yet because you haven't done it but i'm going to tell you as
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someone who's built a legit empire with my family and friends it's actually pretty fucking awesome
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okay they all win we all yeah sometimes we argue but we all keep in mind what the point of the
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project is and the point of the project is for it to provide for all of our lives as partners so we make
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decisions that's good for everybody and that comes with experience and maturity and you know just doing
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it so uh and i've seen many businesses like that you know any people i know in business that are
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business partners with their their parents or business partners with their friends or their
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brother like i am like dude these things are natural and normal and the people that say them
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are usually dumb as fuck okay um but ultimately guys we just got to learn to separate what is the
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relationship and what is business and sometimes yeah those things are going to get intertwined and
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sometimes they're going to get difficult and sometimes they're going to bleed together you're going
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to get in an argument of business and then some personal shit's going to get thrown on top of it
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and that's where you have to be mature enough to say hey bro look now you're throwing personal shit at
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me okay we're talking about this and you're throwing this at me and the the guy has you have to be
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mature enough to say hey that's all right that's not cool all right we'll handle that over here but
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right now let's solve this and you just have to compartmentalize where the conversation is
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appropriate and so when it comes to setting up a business relationship with your dad and not
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offending him well you know the best way not to offend him is to build an awesome business where
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you both get fucking paid you know what i'm saying so what's going to make the most sense for that how's
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that going to work because people are much less likely to have problems in business when everybody's
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doing well so where the problems come in is when nobody's doing well and everybody's fighting about
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it nobody wants to take responsibility nobody wants to admit you know that they're not doing their part
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and people get their hubris and their ego and their pride all involved in these conversations
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which prevent any growth or any progression in the business and so dude this is where when we talk
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about humility mattering in business this is what we talk about humility is not oh i drive a little car
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and i live a little house and i have a modest life that's what the losers want to tell you but where
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humility is valuable is when your dad make dad's trying to make a point and you you shut the fuck up and
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listen to him and actually think about what he said and then think like man well from his perspective
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this and from my perspective this and then answer him instead of trying to win the argument because
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you think you know better all right so this can be done this is done every day and the reason you
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have hesitancy over it is because you and your dad have never done this before and you've probably
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heard your whole life that it's a bad idea and it's not a bad idea because i'm going to tell you in
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business dude you're going to be tested you're going to be tested to the infinity degree when it
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comes to how hard things are going to be and i'm going to tell you when things get hard like that
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you're going to want your friends and family there they're going to fucking stick with you
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not some dick face half-ass guy that you barely know who's just in it for the money right so what
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you're saying i'm so i just want to clarify what you're saying is like when you get into a business
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relationship having that person you know having a personal relationship with that person doesn't make it
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harder or easier because you can just as easily have issues with somebody you don't know that's
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a business partner absolutely okay that makes sense but i also think that when things get really hard
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which they do in business you want people who are going to stand by you in those positions yeah you
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know that person yeah made of yeah bro look you don't think that fucking me and chris and jason and
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sal we're sitting here fucking you know and shit gets hard and we're like fuck all right well we're all
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in this together bro like because if we lose we all lose yeah i mean that's yeah but you also know
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them guys you know they're yeah you know they'll fucking do the work yes that's real yes it makes
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sense it makes sense man i love it uh well guys andy that was question number one uh let's keep this
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train moving uh guys andy question number two uh hi andy i am a 21 year old aspiring musician
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and i need your take on holidays for the whole of 2024 i've been getting after it releasing music
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going to the gym doing more completing 75 hard and it felt great i feel great however i hear many
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entrepreneurs speak about the imbalance of success how you must be all in on your goals and the idea
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of balance in the layman's term is a lie which i wholeheartedly believe um i was meant to be going on
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a holiday this year but something inside of me doesn't feel right about going on holidays and
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taking vacations when i'm not rich successful and i ain't driving a bugatti yet um at times i like to
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taste success such as staying at a five-star place for one day or checking out some supercars but going
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on holiday for one week at a time feels wrong especially at this stage in my entrepreneurial career
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my question is what is your take on holidays and taking time off in the rudimentary stages of your
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career i canceled my trip because i don't want to do what everyone else is doing instead of saving up
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and going on a holiday for a week i'd rather invest this money into my skills and business
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i want to enjoy the holidays later on in my life when i'm rich like you but in my early 20s i want
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to invest all my time and energy into becoming rich as fuck and when i am rich i can go uh to those
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destinations what's your thoughts on this man man there's a lot of thoughts on this okay first of all
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you got to stop listening to these people who are overly extreme in their application of what it
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actually takes yes it takes way more than you think it's going to take yes it takes way longer than
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you think it's going to take however forgoing your entire life for something that's 10 years down the
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road that's you're not going to miss anything by taking five days off and going on a trip dude
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and i think it's very dangerous you're saying this is a marathon like it's a long marathon
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yeah yes it's a marathon but you're sprinting the marathon okay it's not a fucking easy stroll it's
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never like this casual pace you're running as fast as you can but here's the thing guys
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the point that you said about going and like tasting the success and like you know seeing the cars or being
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around the cars or the houses or the different levels that shit's important and i think it's also
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very important for people to experience different cultures and to go to different places you know
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there's places that i go that when i come back bro i'm super energized like new york city is one of my
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favorite places to go i can go spend two or three days in new york city and come back and i'm a fucking
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animal for six months okay and everybody's different in how they recharge and all these
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things but i don't think it's good advice to tell a young person to never travel or never experience
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anything or never do anything until they have x amount what's the x amount that is going to give
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you the access to go do something do you have a number do you have a place because what will happen is
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you'll keep telling yourself when i get here and then when you get there you'll keep working
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because you're a fucking hard motherfucker and and then you'll say when i get here i'll do this but
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you won't do it because you'll keep working and i know a lot of guys who have worked most of their
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life away including me by having an attitude like that and you know i look back from where i'm at now
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and i'm just gonna be honest with you guys i always keep it real i look back now and i say fuck dude
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you know i could have went on that trip i could have went and done that thing it wouldn't have
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fucking fucked me up okay and so listen to me when i tell you this because i'm admitting something
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that i could have done better all right i did mostly what you're saying you're going to do and
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i can't think of a trip that i canceled or didn't go on that would have thrown me off
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you see what i'm saying now if you go away for six months or you go on some fucking van tour for the
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next year that's gonna fuck you up that's gonna cost you okay but going somewhere for a week or 10 days
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with your family and friends you're gonna wish that you had that whenever you do get to the place
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where your finances are in order guys there's more to life than this you know your parents are
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going to get old your parents are going to get sick your friends are going to die a lot of you
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guys don't understand like by the time you're in your 40s half of your friends are going to have
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shit that happened to them not half but there's going to be people that have died that you wish you
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would have spent more time with and i think it's very important for you to uh get out there if for no
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other reason get out there and experience other things so that you know more about what you want
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out of your life because when you're 20 years old all you think about is i want to make money because
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i don't have any money and you don't really know what you want to do with the money because you never
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did anything right so i think it's important for you guys to get out there and do a couple things
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um but i think it's also an equally and even more important to make sure that it doesn't throw you
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down the the hole of leisure and pleasure and comfort and convenience that ends up costing your
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whole life so from my perspective i don't agree with a lot of what these guys say i am built around
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the idea of effectiveness not busyness i don't think it's about necessarily how much time you put
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in in the early days it is because you lack skill but as you gain skill and you gain experience the less
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time you actually have to put in to get the same result and the people who end up getting the best
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results are the people who have the high skill and put in the time but dude why do we do all this
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shit why do we do this we do this so that we can have a better life and i wouldn't foregrow you know
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experiencing little experiences on your life along the way uh thinking that it's going to fuck you up
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because i don't think that it will and i've not seen anybody that it does the only people that it does
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are the people that take like three years off or six months off and then they come back and they're
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like you know they try to act like they're fundamentally enlightened and they try to say
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shit like oh you know my priorities have changed and i don't really want to do this anymore and blah
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blah blah and what's happening is they're hung over from their fucking trip and they can't get back in
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the groove and then three or four years later they're like fuck i need to get my shit back together
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right and i've seen that happen a hundred times now they're trying to play catch up yeah and you
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don't want to be that guy but like going on a trip for fucking four days bro listen you're competing
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against people who who only work two days a week it's not going to hurt you you know most people
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they drink thursday they party friday saturday sunday they're hung over monday they get tuesday
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and wednesday in before they start the cycle again yeah so um so where you're at dude i i think you have
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a great attitude and i think your mentality is correct that you need to fucking hustle and put
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in the time and use your 20s to do as much progress as you can but i don't think you canceling a trip
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uh you know unless you're going on a vacation every other week is is going to affect your progress have
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you seen that as like a common thing with young just young people in general just like feeling the
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need of like they have to give themselves permission like this idea of rewarding yourself
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you know for some reason like it's well i think that comes i think that comes from from
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from two things one the culture on the internet is not accurate okay you have a lot of people on the
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internet who haven't actually built the things that you want to build telling you how to build the
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that you want to build you have a lot of people parroting successful people's words like dude half the
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shit fuck more than half the shit that said on the internet is shit that i've said over the last
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fucking 10 years okay go back and listen to the ms ceo project if you don't believe me the ms ceo
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project gave birth to more fucking business influencers than any fucking podcast ever the
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problem is a lot of those motherfuckers aren't doing it they figured out they can lie and sound
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good and sound like they know what they're doing and you could give them their money don't give
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those motherfuckers your money unless you could see their business see what they've built talk to
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their customers use their product they haven't built a real business don't fucking buy anything from
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them all right but i think there's a toxic there's a toxic mentality around hustle culture meaning you
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have to work 40 hours out of 24 every single day um and then i also think the ignorance of not being
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down the path right i don't mean ignorance in um in an insulting way i just mean how can you have
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the perspective of what it's really like if you've never done it right the only way for you to have a
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perspective is to listen to someone who's done it and then hope that you can grasp it so i have done
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it uh and i'm here to tell you you know there's a number of trips that i've canceled over the years
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that i really wish i hadn't done that to and i don't want that to be you because i think you'll
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make it either way if you have the mentality of i need to develop skill i need to put in more effort
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than anybody and if you do those two things uh and you don't quit everybody else is going to quit at
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some point so you get where you want to go i i personally that's where i'm at uh i don't think
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you're gonna hurt yourself yeah i think it's also too completely different from like you know there's
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some people like oh i need that mental health day where i gotta take this mental health vacation for
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sure for like that's a whole for sure yeah that's that's a whole that's probably the third point
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that fucks people up okay we've got a pussy culture yeah who thinks that if they work for
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fucking you know two months they gotta have a mental health week like bro mental health week
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that's like a new thing mental health day that's a new thing in the last three or four years it's
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fucking pussy shit okay it's for people that don't want to fucking get their shit together and want an
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excuse just to fuck off you if we could just we should just call it fuck off day okay i would be
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more i would no i'm being real that's that's more yeah i would be okay with that like if like if my
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like if somebody came up to me and said hey bro i need a fuck off day i'm like cool i get what you're
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saying but like this pretending like you need this mental health thing so you can get a day off of
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work that's fucking weak ass shit just tell the truth hey i need a day to fuck off you know what
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i'm saying that's real yeah makes sense guys andy question number three uh andy i'm 20 years old
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and growing up fast i've had the same group of best friends uh that have been there for me whenever
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i truly need help and still will be here uh and be there to this day the problem i'm facing with them
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is that they lack the maturity majority of the time nowadays and still act like they are in high
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school and we've been out for three years now um we have awesome times for the most part but i'm tired
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of dealing with the drama they create and the unnecessary bullshit i'm surrounded in when i try
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my hardest to avoid it uh there are two things i hate in life drama beef with other people uh and
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immaturity when maturity is required i would take a bullet for these two guys but i don't know if it's
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good for me to stay so close to them or to move on and expand to newer and better people that are out
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there uh out of this phase of thinking i'd appreciate your real spill on the subject well first of all i
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wouldn't take a bullet for those motherfuckers you you think those people are your friends because
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you spent time with them what you listen this is where a lot of people fuck up their lives they they
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meet some people in high school or they meet some people in college and they think because they're
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in proximity or they spend time with them that they're actually like a friend that they're obligated
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to friend friendship is a two-way street they contribute to you you contribute to them they contribute to
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you you contribute to them they are reliable for you you are reliable for them it is not i grew up with
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this person it is not i am related to this person it is not i went to high school with this person
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it is not i went to college with this person it is not i dated this person for three years
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the contractual understanding of a relationship or friendship can change at any time all right and
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when it changes and when it should change is when it no longer serves you and it doesn't make sense
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for you to remain there and it's halting your personal growth and so when i say you shouldn't
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take a bullet for them what i mean is is that you lack the perspective to understand what friendship's
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truly about because you're still a young person every single young person including me including dj
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including all these guys we all went through this we all thought that the girl we dated in high
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school or the friends we had in high school were like the end all be all of our life at the time
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of 20 years old and we didn't do things because we didn't know if it would disrupt that ecosystem or if
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they would hate on it or if they would disapprove and that holds more people back than anything and
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so what i would say to you number one is that it's really mature of you and good that you're realizing
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this at 20 years old because most people never realize this they will grow up their entire lives
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being loyal to people in a way that they should not be loyal to and what i mean by that is they're
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giving up their hopes their dreams their plans their vision for themselves to appease people that they
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grew up with or that they would take a bullet for or that they are my brother and those people really
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aren't and here's the problem with that if you never progress from that friend group and you have
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dreams that are outside the dreams of that group and these people won't understand you're never going
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to be fulfilled you're never going to be happy you're always going to be bitter and you're always
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going to be asking yourself what if so we have to understand that where you're at is a normal thing
00:27:53.300
but the next move if you want to change your life if you want to progress if you want to become
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the person that it is you're trying to become is to continue down that path without worry without
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care without concern of what those people are going to say or think about it most people will give up
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their entire lives everything that they've ever wanted because of the opinions of people that they
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basically sort of ended up hanging around and it'll ruin their lives and this goes to relationships too
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okay a lot of dudes and i'm gonna speak to the dudes here this is a big deal a lot of you dudes
00:28:29.780
lack game at all you do not have i'm just going to be real i'll keep it real real real you have zero
00:28:36.240
fucking shit going for you you don't have any money you don't have any game you don't know how to talk
00:28:41.960
to girls you don't know how to make them laugh you you fucking basically are in a position right now
00:28:47.300
20 years old where you're going to take any pee that you can get tell me i'm wrong you're going to
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be trying to stick your shit in fucking every hole that you can find and you don't give a shit if that
00:29:01.680
person has their shit together and this is how dudes fuck up their lives okay they're so desperate
00:29:07.540
they don't have anything going for them they don't have any game they don't know how to talk to women
00:29:11.620
and then they take the first girl that'll fuck them from the bar and they stay in a relationship
00:29:17.100
with that girl for three or four years and that girl nags them and that girl holds them back and
00:29:21.560
that girl says why don't you spend more time with me and then when you spend more time with her
00:29:25.840
then she says why are you always broke okay and these people will fuck up your lives so you have
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to understand and this is just a fundamental reality whether it comes to friendship whether it
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comes to relationships the relationship is allowed to evolve and change based upon your desires and
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what you want for your life and you should not stay quote unquote loyal to people because you knew them
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at one point in your life and that includes girls that includes boyfriends that includes friends
00:29:53.520
when you decide you want more and they don't want to come with you then it's time to exit that
00:29:58.700
relationship and continue moving on because at the end of the day when you're 70 80 90 years old all
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you're going to have to show for your life is what you actually did and here's the best part about
00:30:09.080
it especially for young men young women too but more so for men is that the more you progress the
00:30:14.540
more you get your life together the much the more of a winner you become the greater the options open
00:30:19.380
up for you to meet someone who's not nagging you who's not busting your balls who isn't looking at
00:30:24.400
every other dude on the internet because you don't have any money or any fucking means okay because
00:30:29.020
that's the reality bro they tell us the story about oh you know all that matters is what's on
00:30:35.020
the inside that's total bullshit that's not real advice that's that's romantic advice that older women
00:30:41.620
give their sons because that's what they wanted the truth of the matter is is the world's very harsh
00:30:47.100
and the and the truth of the matter for men is the world rewards you for what you produce and who
00:30:52.000
you are and what you become and yes you're going to meet people that'll love you for you but you're going to
00:30:57.400
meet a lot more people that are a lot cooler when you have a lot of shit going for you and you've
00:31:01.680
actually expanded upon or or materialized some of that potential that you have and so we have to be
00:31:10.400
very honest about relationships here most people give up their entire hopes dreams careers lifestyle
00:31:17.060
everything they want because they met some girl at a bar or they met some dudes in high school or college
00:31:23.360
tell me how that makes sense okay so let's have a realist viewpoint on relationships if the relationship
00:31:30.520
doesn't serve you if it doesn't contribute to you if it's not something that helps push you down the path
00:31:36.100
then it doesn't belong in your life and that goes for marriages that goes for boyfriends that goes for
00:31:41.220
girlfriends and that goes for friends people change things change situations change and sometimes it's time
00:31:47.320
to say hey i appreciate you you're still my friend i you know we dated i still i still appreciate you
00:31:54.580
you're a good person but i'm going to go my way because this is what i want for my life and we just
00:31:59.360
want different things tony robbins has a really good way of describing this that i think that when i heard
00:32:05.180
this it really changed my mind about relationships and he said that when relate when you decide that it's
00:32:10.620
time to move on from your relationship you have to understand that it's not a personal thing you don't have to be
00:32:16.300
mad at the person it's just i think that's people's biggest issue yeah bro listen how to handle that
00:32:20.540
yes dude listen this made it click for me and i got this from tony robbins he said look everybody has
00:32:26.820
a different nature everybody has a different plan for themselves and just because their nature is
00:32:32.040
different than your nature or their plans for themselves are different than your plans does not
00:32:35.780
mean you have to be mad at them it doesn't mean there has to be contention it doesn't mean you have
00:32:40.100
to hate them you can very amicably just say hey look you want different things than i want and
00:32:45.820
that's okay in fact i'll help you get those things but i gotta go do these things all right and that's
00:32:51.340
how you move on from those situations and the best part about this guys is that as you move on as you
00:32:56.720
progress you meet friends that make you better you you get a partner that makes you better you're no
00:33:02.700
longer getting nagged or made fun of or told that your dreams are stupid instead you're surrounded by
00:33:07.380
people who say fuck dude this is awesome i think we should do this and this and this let's do this
00:33:12.540
here i'll do this together and that's the like dude my friends that i talk to there's not a
00:33:17.680
conversation that i have that's not like about how we're gonna win more together yeah you know what
00:33:23.660
i mean like think about that i want you all to think about the conversations you have how much drama
00:33:29.380
you have how much gossip you deal with i don't deal with any of that i i've i've i've removed that
00:33:36.320
for my existence 100 and you know this because you're around me enough if someone starts drama
00:33:41.540
around me more than once or someone's a gossiper around me i cut them the fuck out bro quickly yeah
00:33:47.260
if i find someone in my company that's drama and gossip guess what i get them the fuck out okay i don't
00:33:53.360
deal with that shit i don't like that shit i appreciate people that will look you in the eye and say hey
00:33:57.820
i don't like this let's do something about this that's adult shit and you guys have to go from
00:34:03.940
being a young person thinker to a mature thinker and if you want to be successful in business you're
00:34:09.900
going to have to be able to evaluate and adjust and make decisions objectively about the current
00:34:17.320
situation if you're always attached to all these things emotionally and you always have this like
00:34:22.560
oh well i don't want to do this because steve's going to be mad at me if i do this and you know
00:34:27.380
i'm not really being his boy and this and that and this dude if you if you make decisions like
00:34:32.100
that in business you'll lose you have to make factual realist decisions about the way things
00:34:37.740
are not about the way things you wish they were all right and you see people like this in the
00:34:42.360
influencer space you see people talking about oh fuck that guy he ain't a real one because he didn't
00:34:48.420
stand by me when i was doing well you were doing bad shit you were doing bad shit so you're fucking
00:34:54.160
right you see what i'm saying like you don't owe people to stand next to them when they're doing
00:34:59.780
fucked up shit in fact i'd get the fuck away from those people that's a smart move but the point
00:35:05.160
here guys is this stop being loyal to relationships that you shouldn't be loyal to stop bending your
00:35:11.980
dreams your goals your wants your needs in life for people's approval or disapproval that honestly
00:35:18.860
doesn't matter it's your life you have to build your life you have to live your life you have to
00:35:24.360
be proud of your life at the end of it and that's only going to happen if you are understanding that
00:35:30.300
a lot of these people that come and go in your life are just they're visitors they're people who come
00:35:35.140
it's like a neighbor that lives your house people who moves you're going to live your house for a
00:35:39.360
hundred years every three or four years new neighbors move in and then they move out and every three or
00:35:45.140
four years they move in again and that's kind of how life goes and eventually you know you're gonna
00:35:49.380
you're gonna meet that one neighbor or those two neighbors that you're like fuck those are really
00:35:52.920
good people i'm gonna stay in touch with them they're gonna come to my house for the pool party
00:35:56.360
they're gonna come over for the barbecue i'm gonna do christmas with them i go on vacation with those
00:36:00.180
people those people become your lifelong friends but you only have so many slots for that bro and you're
00:36:05.240
not gonna not all your high school friends are going to be in there because they have different
00:36:08.560
natures not all your ex-girlfriends or current boyfriends or fucking husbands and wives are going to be in
00:36:14.580
there because dude you you know that's a whole nother topic like this topic of unconditional love
00:36:20.420
okay unconditional love is for your fucking animals it's not for people people will say well it's for
00:36:25.500
your kids too you don't understand really if your kid went and fucking shot up a school you're still
00:36:29.780
gonna fucking unconditionally love them right if your kid's out there being one of these weirdos
00:36:33.500
molesting all these kids and shit you're still gonna fucking unconditionally love them if you do you're
00:36:37.440
fucked up all right so let's remove that too love has conditions it does a hundred percent friendship
00:36:43.980
has conditions love has conditions marriage has conditions business relationships have conditions
00:36:49.860
you know what it's called it's called real fucking life all right and so let's stop living in the fantasy
00:36:54.980
world where our high school buddies are going to be our buddies our whole life yeah they can be and you
00:37:01.380
could be cool with them like i'm fucking i still see my high school boys bro we fucking drink beers
00:37:06.000
together shit but we're not i don't hang with them every day i don't call them and ask them what decisions i got to
00:37:10.920
make i don't weigh my life by them i drink a beer with them when i see them at the fucking place you
00:37:16.260
know what i'm saying like it's not it's okay like it's part of life man and we have to get we have
00:37:21.860
to get good and we have to get comfortable with understanding that life is a progression and a
00:37:27.260
journey and you're going to meet people along the way if you're ambitious the further you go that are
00:37:31.960
going to actually accelerate your life yeah so it's almost like it's safe to say you haven't even met your
00:37:36.960
best friends yet no you fucking haven't and dude but dude you have to understand you only have just
00:37:41.840
like a baseball team bro you only have so many slots on the roster spots baby yeah you only dude
00:37:47.480
you only have like what four or five slots on your roster and that includes your relationship
00:37:52.300
you see what i'm saying you those slots should be filled with the best fucking people not
00:37:57.300
people that you happen to their parents happen to enroll them in school the same year that you got
00:38:04.680
enrolled and that's just you come from the same yes right but people will fucking say oh i fucking
00:38:10.500
grew up with those people i fucking take a b i'll take a bullet for them no yeah no that's that's the
00:38:16.300
mentality that fucks your whole life up yeah a 20 year old ain't getting that relationship no dude look
00:38:22.240
man and do i have friends that are friends of mine just because they're friends of mine they've been
00:38:26.660
friends of mine yeah absolutely but like i said bro like i'm not weighing my life decisions based
00:38:32.480
upon their approval or or not i don't care all right you don't like what the fuck i'm doing well
00:38:36.820
fuck off yeah i love it man yeah i think it's an important i think this is an important question
00:38:44.240
for people because people struggle with this it's not just young people it's old people too yeah like
00:38:48.820
people who are you know 40 years old like how many people right now are listening that are 40 years
00:38:54.000
old that are like thinking they're like fuck i've dealt with this motherfucker my whole life
00:38:58.580
right i've had this fucking bitch my whole life she's been in my ear for the last 15 years root
00:39:03.040
i've wanted to do this and all she does is fucking bitching me how many of you dudes can relate to
00:39:09.000
the thing i'm saying where uh that your your significant other says why don't you have any
00:39:14.100
time for me you're always fucking working and then when you go hang out with them they're like
00:39:18.320
why don't you have any fucking money bro fuck them bitches tell them to get a fucking job
00:39:23.200
yeah i love bro listen i'll be real dude there's a lot of toxic bitches out there there's a lot yeah
00:39:29.480
there's a lot of yeah it is what it is there was also a lot of guys who just have to settle too
00:39:35.140
though bro that's because you ain't got no game you got nothing going for you yeah yeah you'll get
00:39:40.020
there man no they won't they a lot of them won't a lot of them will still continue with that mentality
00:39:45.240
that like you know like they're starving in the desert bro and they're wandering through the
00:39:50.440
fucking sahara and then there's some titties and they're like oh you know i'm saying like that's
00:39:55.540
what dudes do and they say they take what they can get they marry some chick that they met by chance
00:40:01.520
not by design and then they're miserable and they can't figure out why it didn't work well it didn't
00:40:06.140
work because the contents of how you met them was you like their titties you see what i'm saying like
00:40:11.100
you should be looking at what is their character what are they like where do they come from do they
00:40:16.840
have are they smart are they funny like their goals yeah and by the way you get a lot more to
00:40:22.380
choose from when your shit's in line when you're in shape your finances are in order you you're
00:40:26.780
intelligent you've got good quality friends not these fucking douchebags from you know 20 years ago
00:40:32.960
or five years ago or high school whatever the fuck you know like bro you want to put yourself in the
00:40:38.040
position of most leverage and the way that you put yourself in the position most leverage is by becoming
00:40:42.140
the best possible version of yourself as quickly as fucking possible i love it man love it guys andy
00:40:48.880
that was three yep see you tomorrow with some cti yeah bye
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cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case close