REAL AF with Andy Frisella - June 06, 2024


721. Q&AF： Starting Business With Family Members, Taking Time Off In The Early Stage & Loyalty Towards Friends And Family


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On today's episode of The Realists, Andy and I answer some of your questions and talk about some of the funniest things that have ever happened in the world. We also talk about how to become a better person and how to be a better human being.

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00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
00:00:21.100 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we
00:00:25.120 have a little midweek q and af that's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers
00:00:29.460 now if you want your questions answered on the show you could submit them a couple different ways the
00:00:34.640 first way is guys email these questions in to ask andy at andy for seller.com or go on youtube on the
00:00:41.960 q and af episodes and drop your question in the comments we'll pick some from there as well
00:00:45.800 other times like tomorrow we're going to have cti that stands for cruise the internet that's where
00:00:50.320 we put topics of the day up on the screen we speculate on what's true on what's not true and
00:00:54.780 then we talk about how we the people have to solve the problems going on in the world other times we
00:00:58.860 have real talk real talk just 5 to 20 minutes and me giving you some real talk and then we have
00:01:03.400 75 hard verses 75 hard verses where someone who's completed the 75 hard program comes on and talks
00:01:10.040 about how their life was before how it is now and how they use the live hard and 75 hard program to
00:01:15.620 change their life and how you can too if you're unfamiliar with the 75 hard program and the live
00:01:21.160 hard program it is the world's most popular mental toughness program in history you can get it for free
00:01:27.400 that's right for free at episode 208 on the audio feed only again that's 208 on the audio feed only
00:01:34.580 we weren't on youtube when we made that episode uh so go to listen to it at episode 208 if you want
00:01:40.480 to know the ins and outs uh the in-depth in ins and outs you're that kind of person that's the kind
00:01:45.240 of person i am you can buy the book the book on mental toughness it's on my website andy for seller.com
00:01:50.280 it'll go through the entire live hard program plus 10 chapters on mental toughness some case studies on
00:01:56.460 famous people how they use mental toughness to become the famous people that you recognize
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00:02:23.560 guys want this message to get out which i think you should i need you to share the show all right
00:02:28.780 so if the message makes you think it makes you laugh gives you a new perspective gives you some
00:02:32.780 information that needs to be heard don't be a fucking hoe share the show that's right 1.00
00:02:38.760 all right what's up dude move huh smooth operator i like that song that's a good song that is a good
00:02:46.020 song what is it 80s yeah what was it 60s for you what is it
00:02:49.700 yeah like we got anybody else can read these questions off
00:02:59.760 question number one yeah oh man that's good ones for me oh shit but why does your fiji water always 0.62
00:03:08.180 look so fucking cold man like you just bottled that out of the glaciers because they that's what 0.98
00:03:13.300 they do for me what is the fridge on in there fiji fiji fiji gets one of their private jets yeah
00:03:19.380 they fly one in for me every single day got it white glove service got it i see you rocking the
00:03:24.580 purple drink again yeah purple's where it's at bro listen guys if you want to go to jail and commit
00:03:28.960 crimes right here and make you do it banning your kids and everything 0.99
00:03:33.880 that's racist
00:03:41.020 did you just say bail on your kids is that what you fucking said what's wrong with you man 0.95
00:03:51.800 that's pretty funny i don't know you bought that grape smash
00:03:58.860 dude stop all right all right stop that's enough that's enough that's enough calm down guys relax
00:04:14.140 all right whoo that's pretty funny all right what's going on man oh man everything good yeah yeah
00:04:26.200 it's good yep it's good yep
00:04:27.640 stop
00:04:30.320 dude we don't know what happened he showed up drinking that purple purse for
00:04:35.660 then he was gone
00:04:38.200 abracadabra
00:04:40.860 oh my god dude oh man
00:04:44.800 all right that's enough yeah get serious fuck man put on your fucking game face man 0.98
00:04:51.420 people better today yeah after we insult everybody
00:04:55.680 oh man all right no more fucking around that's enough of that time to get serious 0.93
00:05:03.040 getting better serious that was bad i'm sorry no it wasn't it was fucking good 0.98
00:05:09.160 that's the funniest joke you've told a long time all right order it order it order it
00:05:16.060 you heard him you heard the man that was pretty that's pretty good that's pretty fucking good 0.89
00:05:21.020 all right man um yeah man everything's great let's uh let's make some people better today
00:05:27.180 it's uh he rode off on the neighbor's bike
00:05:30.340 oh my god dude oh shit fuck i'll tell you what this shit's good though 0.94
00:05:43.200 i'm just saying your bike inventory is gonna go way up i'm just saying
00:05:47.960 might acquire some new things
00:05:50.160 listen man no bullshit this is good it's fucking really good it's fucking good yep 0.92
00:05:58.960 yeah i'm gonna i'm like three fourths he did a good job with the can too bro cans are sick man i
00:06:05.280 love the uh like i mean it was definitely given 90s vibe bro yeah i love i love it yeah the graffiti
00:06:11.440 like it's nice all right nice calm down all right well let's uh let's do this man i got some good
00:06:18.980 ones for you all right guys andy question number one uh hey andy hey dj hope all is well hey long
00:06:28.400 time listener first time caller uh i'm a 27 year old guy i've worked as an equipment mechanic since i
00:06:35.820 was 18 i started at the very bottom at eight dollars and 25 cents per hour uh and with your
00:06:42.320 advice starting at the mfceo project i give 100 every day no matter what uh so my wage has drastically
00:06:49.920 changed since then i want to start my own business and walk my own path i've acquired some clients to
00:06:55.560 maintain some of their equipment and i have a lot of support from friends and family to pursue my dream
00:07:00.360 i found the path now time for the hike i've been doing it part-time for a year now uh and built some
00:07:07.480 relationships and some reputation so my client base is expanding my dad uh he's 52 uh is in the same
00:07:14.640 trade uh he has been a manager at the same company for 25 plus years i've worked with him uh for my first
00:07:21.620 six years in the trade and we have a great relationship recently we discussed starting our
00:07:26.700 a business on our own my question is how do you negotiate a partnership instead of a boss employee
00:07:32.780 relationship and how do you give that without offending the man who created and shaped you
00:07:37.580 uh can you give dusty a shout out uh we listen to all the episodes and have daily discussions about
00:07:42.580 him keep kicking ass fellas dusty dusty i guess that's his dad dusty what's up man what's up dusty dusty 0.99
00:07:50.180 you want to come to our party you got any bikes
00:07:55.380 all right um look man this is very simple okay when we grow up we and this is there's nothing wrong
00:08:05.180 with this but we look at our parents as they're superheroes and we have respect for them and we
00:08:09.580 listen to them and we look at them like they're on a different level and as we get older we start to
00:08:14.320 realize that they're humans just like us and you're a 27 year old man you're looking to start a
00:08:19.460 business and you're looking to start a business with a business partner who happens to be your dad
00:08:25.500 and that's how you need to look at it okay you need to look at it as i'm starting a business what
00:08:30.980 would i want how would i want the partnership to be framed oh and by the way that guy is my dad
00:08:37.520 not i'm starting a business with my dad and i got to do all these things my dad says okay so you
00:08:42.760 have to step out you have to think like an adult you have to be non-emotionally attached and you have
00:08:48.340 to build a partnership that makes sense and be able to have conversations that are outside the
00:08:55.000 realm of a father-son conversation and inside the realm of a business conversation and so what we're
00:09:01.340 really asking about is how do we separate personal relationships from business relationships and
00:09:08.660 guys this is very simple it's it's so simple that people overlook it when you're at work it's work
00:09:16.600 when you're at home it's home and that's how it is man like this advice that goes around on the
00:09:24.040 internet like oh you should never start a business with family or friends how many of those people
00:09:28.880 have businesses with their family and friends it's you guys again listening to broke motherfuckers about 0.67
00:09:35.500 how not to be broke if they knew how not to be broke they wouldn't be fucking broke okay so you 0.95
00:09:41.780 shouldn't be listening to people and what they say there's a lot of dumb shit that goes around on the
00:09:46.340 internet and one of it is never start a business with your family and friends because you don't
00:09:51.920 know how to communicate with your family and friends and you don't know how to communicate with
00:09:56.120 anybody in a business relationship yet because you haven't done it but i'm going to tell you as
00:10:00.680 someone who's built a legit empire with my family and friends it's actually pretty fucking awesome
00:10:06.000 okay they all win we all yeah sometimes we argue but we all keep in mind what the point of the
00:10:12.100 project is and the point of the project is for it to provide for all of our lives as partners so we make
00:10:18.860 decisions that's good for everybody and that comes with experience and maturity and you know just doing
00:10:26.200 it so uh and i've seen many businesses like that you know any people i know in business that are
00:10:32.580 business partners with their their parents or business partners with their friends or their
00:10:36.780 brother like i am like dude these things are natural and normal and the people that say them
00:10:41.560 are usually dumb as fuck okay um but ultimately guys we just got to learn to separate what is the
00:10:50.540 relationship and what is business and sometimes yeah those things are going to get intertwined and
00:10:56.160 sometimes they're going to get difficult and sometimes they're going to bleed together you're going
00:11:00.040 to get in an argument of business and then some personal shit's going to get thrown on top of it
00:11:03.480 and that's where you have to be mature enough to say hey bro look now you're throwing personal shit at
00:11:08.020 me okay we're talking about this and you're throwing this at me and the the guy has you have to be
00:11:13.560 mature enough to say hey that's all right that's not cool all right we'll handle that over here but
00:11:18.300 right now let's solve this and you just have to compartmentalize where the conversation is
00:11:23.760 appropriate and so when it comes to setting up a business relationship with your dad and not
00:11:29.200 offending him well you know the best way not to offend him is to build an awesome business where
00:11:33.480 you both get fucking paid you know what i'm saying so what's going to make the most sense for that how's 0.88
00:11:38.520 that going to work because people are much less likely to have problems in business when everybody's
00:11:43.500 doing well so where the problems come in is when nobody's doing well and everybody's fighting about
00:11:48.400 it nobody wants to take responsibility nobody wants to admit you know that they're not doing their part
00:11:53.840 and people get their hubris and their ego and their pride all involved in these conversations
00:11:58.900 which prevent any growth or any progression in the business and so dude this is where when we talk
00:12:04.340 about humility mattering in business this is what we talk about humility is not oh i drive a little car
00:12:10.980 and i live a little house and i have a modest life that's what the losers want to tell you but where
00:12:15.960 humility is valuable is when your dad make dad's trying to make a point and you you shut the fuck up and 0.53
00:12:21.620 listen to him and actually think about what he said and then think like man well from his perspective
00:12:27.060 this and from my perspective this and then answer him instead of trying to win the argument because
00:12:32.140 you think you know better all right so this can be done this is done every day and the reason you
00:12:38.820 have hesitancy over it is because you and your dad have never done this before and you've probably
00:12:44.900 heard your whole life that it's a bad idea and it's not a bad idea because i'm going to tell you in
00:12:48.760 business dude you're going to be tested you're going to be tested to the infinity degree when it
00:12:55.640 comes to how hard things are going to be and i'm going to tell you when things get hard like that
00:12:59.420 you're going to want your friends and family there they're going to fucking stick with you
00:13:02.160 not some dick face half-ass guy that you barely know who's just in it for the money right so what
00:13:07.680 you're saying i'm so i just want to clarify what you're saying is like when you get into a business
00:13:11.540 relationship having that person you know having a personal relationship with that person doesn't make it
00:13:16.920 harder or easier because you can just as easily have issues with somebody you don't know that's
00:13:21.980 a business partner absolutely okay that makes sense but i also think that when things get really hard
00:13:25.860 which they do in business you want people who are going to stand by you in those positions yeah you
00:13:30.200 know that person yeah made of yeah bro look you don't think that fucking me and chris and jason and 0.98
00:13:35.380 sal we're sitting here fucking you know and shit gets hard and we're like fuck all right well we're all 0.96
00:13:40.720 in this together bro like because if we lose we all lose yeah i mean that's yeah but you also know
00:13:46.580 them guys you know they're yeah you know they'll fucking do the work yes that's real yes it makes 0.89
00:13:50.940 sense it makes sense man i love it uh well guys andy that was question number one uh let's keep this
00:13:56.920 train moving uh guys andy question number two uh hi andy i am a 21 year old aspiring musician
00:14:05.120 and i need your take on holidays for the whole of 2024 i've been getting after it releasing music
00:14:12.500 going to the gym doing more completing 75 hard and it felt great i feel great however i hear many
00:14:19.460 entrepreneurs speak about the imbalance of success how you must be all in on your goals and the idea
00:14:25.820 of balance in the layman's term is a lie which i wholeheartedly believe um i was meant to be going on
00:14:31.560 a holiday this year but something inside of me doesn't feel right about going on holidays and
00:14:36.900 taking vacations when i'm not rich successful and i ain't driving a bugatti yet um at times i like to
00:14:42.520 taste success such as staying at a five-star place for one day or checking out some supercars but going
00:14:48.300 on holiday for one week at a time feels wrong especially at this stage in my entrepreneurial career
00:14:54.420 my question is what is your take on holidays and taking time off in the rudimentary stages of your
00:15:01.240 career i canceled my trip because i don't want to do what everyone else is doing instead of saving up
00:15:06.680 and going on a holiday for a week i'd rather invest this money into my skills and business
00:15:10.320 i want to enjoy the holidays later on in my life when i'm rich like you but in my early 20s i want
00:15:16.220 to invest all my time and energy into becoming rich as fuck and when i am rich i can go uh to those
00:15:22.000 destinations what's your thoughts on this man man there's a lot of thoughts on this okay first of all
00:15:27.100 you got to stop listening to these people who are overly extreme in their application of what it
00:15:34.100 actually takes yes it takes way more than you think it's going to take yes it takes way longer than
00:15:41.060 you think it's going to take however forgoing your entire life for something that's 10 years down the
00:15:49.200 road that's you're not going to miss anything by taking five days off and going on a trip dude
00:15:55.740 and i think it's very dangerous you're saying this is a marathon like it's a long marathon
00:16:00.960 yeah yes it's a marathon but you're sprinting the marathon okay it's not a fucking easy stroll it's
00:16:06.760 never like this casual pace you're running as fast as you can but here's the thing guys
00:16:12.040 the point that you said about going and like tasting the success and like you know seeing the cars or being
00:16:20.360 around the cars or the houses or the different levels that shit's important and i think it's also 0.52
00:16:25.600 very important for people to experience different cultures and to go to different places you know
00:16:31.560 there's places that i go that when i come back bro i'm super energized like new york city is one of my
00:16:36.580 favorite places to go i can go spend two or three days in new york city and come back and i'm a fucking 0.97
00:16:41.140 animal for six months okay and everybody's different in how they recharge and all these
00:16:46.280 things but i don't think it's good advice to tell a young person to never travel or never experience
00:16:56.100 anything or never do anything until they have x amount what's the x amount that is going to give
00:17:03.620 you the access to go do something do you have a number do you have a place because what will happen is
00:17:09.440 you'll keep telling yourself when i get here and then when you get there you'll keep working
00:17:14.200 because you're a fucking hard motherfucker and and then you'll say when i get here i'll do this but 0.99
00:17:18.820 you won't do it because you'll keep working and i know a lot of guys who have worked most of their
00:17:22.900 life away including me by having an attitude like that and you know i look back from where i'm at now
00:17:28.760 and i'm just gonna be honest with you guys i always keep it real i look back now and i say fuck dude 0.95
00:17:33.420 you know i could have went on that trip i could have went and done that thing it wouldn't have
00:17:36.760 fucking fucked me up okay and so listen to me when i tell you this because i'm admitting something 0.97
00:17:41.900 that i could have done better all right i did mostly what you're saying you're going to do and
00:17:48.980 i can't think of a trip that i canceled or didn't go on that would have thrown me off
00:17:54.260 you see what i'm saying now if you go away for six months or you go on some fucking van tour for the 0.96
00:18:00.080 next year that's gonna fuck you up that's gonna cost you okay but going somewhere for a week or 10 days 0.92
00:18:06.500 with your family and friends you're gonna wish that you had that whenever you do get to the place
00:18:12.220 where your finances are in order guys there's more to life than this you know your parents are
00:18:16.840 going to get old your parents are going to get sick your friends are going to die a lot of you 0.99
00:18:20.540 guys don't understand like by the time you're in your 40s half of your friends are going to have
00:18:25.440 shit that happened to them not half but there's going to be people that have died that you wish you
00:18:29.600 would have spent more time with and i think it's very important for you to uh get out there if for no
00:18:35.460 other reason get out there and experience other things so that you know more about what you want
00:18:42.460 out of your life because when you're 20 years old all you think about is i want to make money because
00:18:47.120 i don't have any money and you don't really know what you want to do with the money because you never
00:18:51.440 did anything right so i think it's important for you guys to get out there and do a couple things
00:18:56.360 um but i think it's also an equally and even more important to make sure that it doesn't throw you
00:19:02.340 down the the hole of leisure and pleasure and comfort and convenience that ends up costing your
00:19:08.020 whole life so from my perspective i don't agree with a lot of what these guys say i am built around
00:19:15.120 the idea of effectiveness not busyness i don't think it's about necessarily how much time you put
00:19:22.320 in in the early days it is because you lack skill but as you gain skill and you gain experience the less
00:19:29.080 time you actually have to put in to get the same result and the people who end up getting the best
00:19:33.680 results are the people who have the high skill and put in the time but dude why do we do all this
00:19:38.880 shit why do we do this we do this so that we can have a better life and i wouldn't foregrow you know 0.58
00:19:44.600 experiencing little experiences on your life along the way uh thinking that it's going to fuck you up 0.89
00:19:50.080 because i don't think that it will and i've not seen anybody that it does the only people that it does
00:19:53.980 are the people that take like three years off or six months off and then they come back and they're
00:19:59.060 like you know they try to act like they're fundamentally enlightened and they try to say
00:20:03.880 shit like oh you know my priorities have changed and i don't really want to do this anymore and blah 0.76
00:20:09.560 blah blah and what's happening is they're hung over from their fucking trip and they can't get back in 0.97
00:20:14.840 the groove and then three or four years later they're like fuck i need to get my shit back together 0.87
00:20:19.540 right and i've seen that happen a hundred times now they're trying to play catch up yeah and you
00:20:23.640 don't want to be that guy but like going on a trip for fucking four days bro listen you're competing 0.97
00:20:29.180 against people who who only work two days a week it's not going to hurt you you know most people
00:20:34.520 they drink thursday they party friday saturday sunday they're hung over monday they get tuesday
00:20:40.180 and wednesday in before they start the cycle again yeah so um so where you're at dude i i think you have
00:20:47.660 a great attitude and i think your mentality is correct that you need to fucking hustle and put 0.98
00:20:52.420 in the time and use your 20s to do as much progress as you can but i don't think you canceling a trip
00:20:58.320 uh you know unless you're going on a vacation every other week is is going to affect your progress have
00:21:05.040 you seen that as like a common thing with young just young people in general just like feeling the
00:21:09.180 need of like they have to give themselves permission like this idea of rewarding yourself
00:21:13.500 you know for some reason like it's well i think that comes i think that comes from from
00:21:18.540 from two things one the culture on the internet is not accurate okay you have a lot of people on the
00:21:27.020 internet who haven't actually built the things that you want to build telling you how to build the
00:21:31.360 that you want to build you have a lot of people parroting successful people's words like dude half the
00:21:37.660 shit fuck more than half the shit that said on the internet is shit that i've said over the last 0.90
00:21:42.380 fucking 10 years okay go back and listen to the ms ceo project if you don't believe me the ms ceo 0.75
00:21:47.160 project gave birth to more fucking business influencers than any fucking podcast ever the 0.97
00:21:53.560 problem is a lot of those motherfuckers aren't doing it they figured out they can lie and sound 1.00
00:21:57.800 good and sound like they know what they're doing and you could give them their money don't give
00:22:01.920 those motherfuckers your money unless you could see their business see what they've built talk to 1.00
00:22:06.040 their customers use their product they haven't built a real business don't fucking buy anything from 0.96
00:22:10.060 them all right but i think there's a toxic there's a toxic mentality around hustle culture meaning you
00:22:19.560 have to work 40 hours out of 24 every single day um and then i also think the ignorance of not being
00:22:27.180 down the path right i don't mean ignorance in um in an insulting way i just mean how can you have
00:22:34.140 the perspective of what it's really like if you've never done it right the only way for you to have a
00:22:38.200 perspective is to listen to someone who's done it and then hope that you can grasp it so i have done
00:22:44.040 it uh and i'm here to tell you you know there's a number of trips that i've canceled over the years
00:22:48.840 that i really wish i hadn't done that to and i don't want that to be you because i think you'll
00:22:52.880 make it either way if you have the mentality of i need to develop skill i need to put in more effort
00:22:57.900 than anybody and if you do those two things uh and you don't quit everybody else is going to quit at
00:23:03.680 some point so you get where you want to go i i personally that's where i'm at uh i don't think
00:23:08.420 you're gonna hurt yourself yeah i think it's also too completely different from like you know there's
00:23:12.920 some people like oh i need that mental health day where i gotta take this mental health vacation for
00:23:17.140 sure for like that's a whole for sure yeah that's that's a whole that's probably the third point
00:23:22.400 that fucks people up okay we've got a pussy culture yeah who thinks that if they work for 1.00
00:23:28.280 fucking you know two months they gotta have a mental health week like bro mental health week 0.87
00:23:34.740 that's like a new thing mental health day that's a new thing in the last three or four years it's
00:23:39.340 fucking pussy shit okay it's for people that don't want to fucking get their shit together and want an 0.99
00:23:44.860 excuse just to fuck off you if we could just we should just call it fuck off day okay i would be 0.99
00:23:49.880 more i would no i'm being real that's that's more yeah i would be okay with that like if like if my
00:23:55.780 like if somebody came up to me and said hey bro i need a fuck off day i'm like cool i get what you're 0.77
00:24:00.720 saying but like this pretending like you need this mental health thing so you can get a day off of
00:24:05.760 work that's fucking weak ass shit just tell the truth hey i need a day to fuck off you know what 0.99
00:24:12.800 i'm saying that's real yeah makes sense guys andy question number three uh andy i'm 20 years old
00:24:20.020 and growing up fast i've had the same group of best friends uh that have been there for me whenever
00:24:26.220 i truly need help and still will be here uh and be there to this day the problem i'm facing with them
00:24:32.520 is that they lack the maturity majority of the time nowadays and still act like they are in high
00:24:38.200 school and we've been out for three years now um we have awesome times for the most part but i'm tired
00:24:43.700 of dealing with the drama they create and the unnecessary bullshit i'm surrounded in when i try 0.84
00:24:49.860 my hardest to avoid it uh there are two things i hate in life drama beef with other people uh and
00:24:54.720 immaturity when maturity is required i would take a bullet for these two guys but i don't know if it's
00:25:00.040 good for me to stay so close to them or to move on and expand to newer and better people that are out
00:25:06.200 there uh out of this phase of thinking i'd appreciate your real spill on the subject well first of all i
00:25:12.660 wouldn't take a bullet for those motherfuckers you you think those people are your friends because 0.98
00:25:18.040 you spent time with them what you listen this is where a lot of people fuck up their lives they they
00:25:24.120 meet some people in high school or they meet some people in college and they think because they're
00:25:28.640 in proximity or they spend time with them that they're actually like a friend that they're obligated
00:25:34.140 to friend friendship is a two-way street they contribute to you you contribute to them they contribute to
00:25:41.000 you you contribute to them they are reliable for you you are reliable for them it is not i grew up with
00:25:48.440 this person it is not i am related to this person it is not i went to high school with this person
00:25:53.360 it is not i went to college with this person it is not i dated this person for three years
00:25:58.520 the contractual understanding of a relationship or friendship can change at any time all right and
00:26:07.280 when it changes and when it should change is when it no longer serves you and it doesn't make sense
00:26:14.180 for you to remain there and it's halting your personal growth and so when i say you shouldn't
00:26:20.000 take a bullet for them what i mean is is that you lack the perspective to understand what friendship's
00:26:25.260 truly about because you're still a young person every single young person including me including dj
00:26:31.040 including all these guys we all went through this we all thought that the girl we dated in high
00:26:35.940 school or the friends we had in high school were like the end all be all of our life at the time
00:26:42.080 of 20 years old and we didn't do things because we didn't know if it would disrupt that ecosystem or if
00:26:50.740 they would hate on it or if they would disapprove and that holds more people back than anything and
00:26:56.960 so what i would say to you number one is that it's really mature of you and good that you're realizing
00:27:04.240 this at 20 years old because most people never realize this they will grow up their entire lives
00:27:10.800 being loyal to people in a way that they should not be loyal to and what i mean by that is they're
00:27:17.100 giving up their hopes their dreams their plans their vision for themselves to appease people that they
00:27:23.280 grew up with or that they would take a bullet for or that they are my brother and those people really
00:27:30.440 aren't and here's the problem with that if you never progress from that friend group and you have
00:27:37.740 dreams that are outside the dreams of that group and these people won't understand you're never going
00:27:43.340 to be fulfilled you're never going to be happy you're always going to be bitter and you're always
00:27:47.280 going to be asking yourself what if so we have to understand that where you're at is a normal thing
00:27:53.300 but the next move if you want to change your life if you want to progress if you want to become
00:27:58.180 the person that it is you're trying to become is to continue down that path without worry without
00:28:04.840 care without concern of what those people are going to say or think about it most people will give up
00:28:10.940 their entire lives everything that they've ever wanted because of the opinions of people that they
00:28:16.320 basically sort of ended up hanging around and it'll ruin their lives and this goes to relationships too
00:28:24.160 okay a lot of dudes and i'm gonna speak to the dudes here this is a big deal a lot of you dudes
00:28:29.780 lack game at all you do not have i'm just going to be real i'll keep it real real real you have zero
00:28:36.240 fucking shit going for you you don't have any money you don't have any game you don't know how to talk 0.97
00:28:41.960 to girls you don't know how to make them laugh you you fucking basically are in a position right now 0.93
00:28:47.300 20 years old where you're going to take any pee that you can get tell me i'm wrong you're going to 0.73
00:28:56.020 be trying to stick your shit in fucking every hole that you can find and you don't give a shit if that 1.00
00:29:01.680 person has their shit together and this is how dudes fuck up their lives okay they're so desperate
00:29:07.540 they don't have anything going for them they don't have any game they don't know how to talk to women 1.00
00:29:11.620 and then they take the first girl that'll fuck them from the bar and they stay in a relationship 1.00
00:29:17.100 with that girl for three or four years and that girl nags them and that girl holds them back and
00:29:21.560 that girl says why don't you spend more time with me and then when you spend more time with her 1.00
00:29:25.840 then she says why are you always broke okay and these people will fuck up your lives so you have 0.85
00:29:31.700 to understand and this is just a fundamental reality whether it comes to friendship whether it
00:29:36.320 comes to relationships the relationship is allowed to evolve and change based upon your desires and
00:29:42.780 what you want for your life and you should not stay quote unquote loyal to people because you knew them
00:29:49.420 at one point in your life and that includes girls that includes boyfriends that includes friends
00:29:53.520 when you decide you want more and they don't want to come with you then it's time to exit that
00:29:58.700 relationship and continue moving on because at the end of the day when you're 70 80 90 years old all
00:30:04.020 you're going to have to show for your life is what you actually did and here's the best part about
00:30:09.080 it especially for young men young women too but more so for men is that the more you progress the
00:30:14.540 more you get your life together the much the more of a winner you become the greater the options open
00:30:19.380 up for you to meet someone who's not nagging you who's not busting your balls who isn't looking at
00:30:24.400 every other dude on the internet because you don't have any money or any fucking means okay because 0.96
00:30:29.020 that's the reality bro they tell us the story about oh you know all that matters is what's on
00:30:35.020 the inside that's total bullshit that's not real advice that's that's romantic advice that older women 1.00
00:30:41.620 give their sons because that's what they wanted the truth of the matter is is the world's very harsh
00:30:47.100 and the and the truth of the matter for men is the world rewards you for what you produce and who
00:30:52.000 you are and what you become and yes you're going to meet people that'll love you for you but you're going to
00:30:57.400 meet a lot more people that are a lot cooler when you have a lot of shit going for you and you've 0.62
00:31:01.680 actually expanded upon or or materialized some of that potential that you have and so we have to be
00:31:10.400 very honest about relationships here most people give up their entire hopes dreams careers lifestyle
00:31:17.060 everything they want because they met some girl at a bar or they met some dudes in high school or college
00:31:23.360 tell me how that makes sense okay so let's have a realist viewpoint on relationships if the relationship
00:31:30.520 doesn't serve you if it doesn't contribute to you if it's not something that helps push you down the path
00:31:36.100 then it doesn't belong in your life and that goes for marriages that goes for boyfriends that goes for 1.00
00:31:41.220 girlfriends and that goes for friends people change things change situations change and sometimes it's time
00:31:47.320 to say hey i appreciate you you're still my friend i you know we dated i still i still appreciate you
00:31:54.580 you're a good person but i'm going to go my way because this is what i want for my life and we just
00:31:59.360 want different things tony robbins has a really good way of describing this that i think that when i heard
00:32:05.180 this it really changed my mind about relationships and he said that when relate when you decide that it's
00:32:10.620 time to move on from your relationship you have to understand that it's not a personal thing you don't have to be
00:32:16.300 mad at the person it's just i think that's people's biggest issue yeah bro listen how to handle that
00:32:20.540 yes dude listen this made it click for me and i got this from tony robbins he said look everybody has
00:32:26.820 a different nature everybody has a different plan for themselves and just because their nature is
00:32:32.040 different than your nature or their plans for themselves are different than your plans does not
00:32:35.780 mean you have to be mad at them it doesn't mean there has to be contention it doesn't mean you have
00:32:40.100 to hate them you can very amicably just say hey look you want different things than i want and
00:32:45.820 that's okay in fact i'll help you get those things but i gotta go do these things all right and that's
00:32:51.340 how you move on from those situations and the best part about this guys is that as you move on as you
00:32:56.720 progress you meet friends that make you better you you get a partner that makes you better you're no
00:33:02.700 longer getting nagged or made fun of or told that your dreams are stupid instead you're surrounded by
00:33:07.380 people who say fuck dude this is awesome i think we should do this and this and this let's do this 0.80
00:33:12.540 here i'll do this together and that's the like dude my friends that i talk to there's not a
00:33:17.680 conversation that i have that's not like about how we're gonna win more together yeah you know what
00:33:23.660 i mean like think about that i want you all to think about the conversations you have how much drama
00:33:29.380 you have how much gossip you deal with i don't deal with any of that i i've i've i've removed that
00:33:36.320 for my existence 100 and you know this because you're around me enough if someone starts drama
00:33:41.540 around me more than once or someone's a gossiper around me i cut them the fuck out bro quickly yeah 0.98
00:33:47.260 if i find someone in my company that's drama and gossip guess what i get them the fuck out okay i don't 0.74
00:33:53.360 deal with that shit i don't like that shit i appreciate people that will look you in the eye and say hey 0.98
00:33:57.820 i don't like this let's do something about this that's adult shit and you guys have to go from 0.92
00:34:03.940 being a young person thinker to a mature thinker and if you want to be successful in business you're
00:34:09.900 going to have to be able to evaluate and adjust and make decisions objectively about the current
00:34:17.320 situation if you're always attached to all these things emotionally and you always have this like
00:34:22.560 oh well i don't want to do this because steve's going to be mad at me if i do this and you know
00:34:27.380 i'm not really being his boy and this and that and this dude if you if you make decisions like
00:34:32.100 that in business you'll lose you have to make factual realist decisions about the way things
00:34:37.740 are not about the way things you wish they were all right and you see people like this in the
00:34:42.360 influencer space you see people talking about oh fuck that guy he ain't a real one because he didn't 0.87
00:34:48.420 stand by me when i was doing well you were doing bad shit you were doing bad shit so you're fucking 1.00
00:34:54.160 right you see what i'm saying like you don't owe people to stand next to them when they're doing
00:34:59.780 fucked up shit in fact i'd get the fuck away from those people that's a smart move but the point 0.97
00:35:05.160 here guys is this stop being loyal to relationships that you shouldn't be loyal to stop bending your
00:35:11.980 dreams your goals your wants your needs in life for people's approval or disapproval that honestly
00:35:18.860 doesn't matter it's your life you have to build your life you have to live your life you have to
00:35:24.360 be proud of your life at the end of it and that's only going to happen if you are understanding that
00:35:30.300 a lot of these people that come and go in your life are just they're visitors they're people who come
00:35:35.140 it's like a neighbor that lives your house people who moves you're going to live your house for a
00:35:39.360 hundred years every three or four years new neighbors move in and then they move out and every three or
00:35:45.140 four years they move in again and that's kind of how life goes and eventually you know you're gonna
00:35:49.380 you're gonna meet that one neighbor or those two neighbors that you're like fuck those are really 0.95
00:35:52.920 good people i'm gonna stay in touch with them they're gonna come to my house for the pool party
00:35:56.360 they're gonna come over for the barbecue i'm gonna do christmas with them i go on vacation with those
00:36:00.180 people those people become your lifelong friends but you only have so many slots for that bro and you're
00:36:05.240 not gonna not all your high school friends are going to be in there because they have different
00:36:08.560 natures not all your ex-girlfriends or current boyfriends or fucking husbands and wives are going to be in 0.97
00:36:14.580 there because dude you you know that's a whole nother topic like this topic of unconditional love
00:36:20.420 okay unconditional love is for your fucking animals it's not for people people will say well it's for 0.87
00:36:25.500 your kids too you don't understand really if your kid went and fucking shot up a school you're still 0.91
00:36:29.780 gonna fucking unconditionally love them right if your kid's out there being one of these weirdos
00:36:33.500 molesting all these kids and shit you're still gonna fucking unconditionally love them if you do you're
00:36:37.440 fucked up all right so let's remove that too love has conditions it does a hundred percent friendship
00:36:43.980 has conditions love has conditions marriage has conditions business relationships have conditions
00:36:49.860 you know what it's called it's called real fucking life all right and so let's stop living in the fantasy 0.78
00:36:54.980 world where our high school buddies are going to be our buddies our whole life yeah they can be and you
00:37:01.380 could be cool with them like i'm fucking i still see my high school boys bro we fucking drink beers 0.97
00:37:06.000 together shit but we're not i don't hang with them every day i don't call them and ask them what decisions i got to 0.86
00:37:10.920 make i don't weigh my life by them i drink a beer with them when i see them at the fucking place you 0.99
00:37:16.260 know what i'm saying like it's not it's okay like it's part of life man and we have to get we have
00:37:21.860 to get good and we have to get comfortable with understanding that life is a progression and a
00:37:27.260 journey and you're going to meet people along the way if you're ambitious the further you go that are
00:37:31.960 going to actually accelerate your life yeah so it's almost like it's safe to say you haven't even met your
00:37:36.960 best friends yet no you fucking haven't and dude but dude you have to understand you only have just 0.92
00:37:41.840 like a baseball team bro you only have so many slots on the roster spots baby yeah you only dude
00:37:47.480 you only have like what four or five slots on your roster and that includes your relationship
00:37:52.300 you see what i'm saying you those slots should be filled with the best fucking people not 0.96
00:37:57.300 people that you happen to their parents happen to enroll them in school the same year that you got
00:38:04.680 enrolled and that's just you come from the same yes right but people will fucking say oh i fucking 0.95
00:38:10.500 grew up with those people i fucking take a b i'll take a bullet for them no yeah no that's that's the 0.98
00:38:16.300 mentality that fucks your whole life up yeah a 20 year old ain't getting that relationship no dude look
00:38:22.240 man and do i have friends that are friends of mine just because they're friends of mine they've been
00:38:26.660 friends of mine yeah absolutely but like i said bro like i'm not weighing my life decisions based
00:38:32.480 upon their approval or or not i don't care all right you don't like what the fuck i'm doing well 0.85
00:38:36.820 fuck off yeah i love it man yeah i think it's an important i think this is an important question
00:38:44.240 for people because people struggle with this it's not just young people it's old people too yeah like
00:38:48.820 people who are you know 40 years old like how many people right now are listening that are 40 years
00:38:54.000 old that are like thinking they're like fuck i've dealt with this motherfucker my whole life 1.00
00:38:58.580 right i've had this fucking bitch my whole life she's been in my ear for the last 15 years root 1.00
00:39:03.040 i've wanted to do this and all she does is fucking bitching me how many of you dudes can relate to 1.00
00:39:09.000 the thing i'm saying where uh that your your significant other says why don't you have any
00:39:14.100 time for me you're always fucking working and then when you go hang out with them they're like 0.97
00:39:18.320 why don't you have any fucking money bro fuck them bitches tell them to get a fucking job 1.00
00:39:23.200 yeah i love bro listen i'll be real dude there's a lot of toxic bitches out there there's a lot yeah 1.00
00:39:29.480 there's a lot of yeah it is what it is there was also a lot of guys who just have to settle too
00:39:35.140 though bro that's because you ain't got no game you got nothing going for you yeah yeah you'll get
00:39:40.020 there man no they won't they a lot of them won't a lot of them will still continue with that mentality
00:39:45.240 that like you know like they're starving in the desert bro and they're wandering through the
00:39:50.440 fucking sahara and then there's some titties and they're like oh you know i'm saying like that's 0.89
00:39:55.540 what dudes do and they say they take what they can get they marry some chick that they met by chance
00:40:01.520 not by design and then they're miserable and they can't figure out why it didn't work well it didn't
00:40:06.140 work because the contents of how you met them was you like their titties you see what i'm saying like
00:40:11.100 you should be looking at what is their character what are they like where do they come from do they
00:40:16.840 have are they smart are they funny like their goals yeah and by the way you get a lot more to
00:40:22.380 choose from when your shit's in line when you're in shape your finances are in order you you're 0.76
00:40:26.780 intelligent you've got good quality friends not these fucking douchebags from you know 20 years ago 0.97
00:40:32.960 or five years ago or high school whatever the fuck you know like bro you want to put yourself in the 0.70
00:40:38.040 position of most leverage and the way that you put yourself in the position most leverage is by becoming
00:40:42.140 the best possible version of yourself as quickly as fucking possible i love it man love it guys andy 0.91
00:40:48.880 that was three yep see you tomorrow with some cti yeah bye
00:40:55.280 went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a bowl fuck a stole counted millions in the 0.97
00:41:03.920 cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case close 1.00
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