REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 729. Q&AF： Overcoming Laziness, How To Not Quit & The No. 1 Success Skill

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies 0.99

00:00:20.960 of fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we 0.86

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00:02:09.600 episode 208 uh we do have a fee for the show the fee is um very simple we don't ask you for money

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00:02:21.120 of this size that doesn't take money from advertisers and you're probably wondering why i would pass on 0.97

00:02:26.040 eight figures of income to do that well the reason is is because i don't want to be told what to do 0.99

00:02:31.480 in exchange for me not taking ads and filling your mind with a bunch of bullshit like all these other 0.90

00:02:36.620 shows do um i just ask that you help us share the show we talk about what you know the internet 0.95

00:02:43.020 doesn't like us talking about and we appreciate you know you helping us get the message out so

00:02:48.240 don't be a hoe show the show all right what's up man what's up brother nothing yeah what you 0.99

00:02:54.520 sipping on well since we're recording at a different time we're recording in the morning usually we're in

00:03:00.000 the afternoon guys this is morning time it's like your morning cup of joe this is uh my pre-workout 0.94

00:03:05.400 cocktail okay so that's what this is what makes it a cocktail it's made of cocks 1.00

00:03:11.060 what hey that's cool what's up bro wait so what all you load up in there is that megawatt yeah

00:03:21.660 megawatt one scoop megawatt one scoop of carnitine one scoop of apple surge oh okay that's what we do 0.99

00:03:27.340 you're going balls to the wall yeah that's what we do bro all right all in yeah hey yeah all cocks 0.99

00:03:32.420 what what's what's the what's the even the right color what's 0.99

00:03:38.080 is it not for you i'm out of your mind don't yeah it was just probably purple

00:03:42.880 what what's the flavor profile you got there dude honestly i just do the suicide mix every day

00:03:53.180 i don't i don't whatever they got out there i put it in there i don't even find one that's bad

00:03:57.180 that's true yeah that's true does it elevate it by mixing them together and it's still like a good

00:04:02.300 taste i don't know i've never drank them without the mix that's how i always do it so otherwise if

00:04:06.920 i do megawatt by itself i just dry scoop you just dry scoop that yeah yeah anyway yeah sweet what's

00:04:12.160 up with you oh nothing much man you know another day another year yeah birthday i was talking about

00:04:20.240 june june june t oh it is june no this is not june t that was yesterday oh how was your weekend

00:04:26.920 god damn it i'm not even here i think it's the it's the recording time yeah i'm not even here yet 0.68

00:04:35.420 man um yeah man another year another yeah happy birthday man appreciate it man yeah 29 yeah almost 0.99

00:04:41.860 dirty 30 yep you know it's all downhill from there that's what they say yeah yeah that's what they say

00:04:47.100 all but it's just losers that say that i don't i'm not i keep getting better bro you're all right 0.75

00:04:51.380 i'm just saying i'm providing hope for all of humanity over here you are that's right all you men 0.98

00:04:57.300 you say oh i'm fucking turn 40 you're gonna look what i look like yeah well look what i look like 0.99

00:05:01.700 bitch just stop buying new bounces cargo shorts yeah i will never let you wear cargo shorts andy 1.00

00:05:10.240 i'm waiting for him to come back in style bro camo cargo shorts where the fuck it's at 1.00

00:05:15.360 you know what really is like let's throw it back here i've had i've had three phases of 0.99

00:05:20.520 listen this is how old i am this is real shit i'm not lying this i had cargo shorts that were cool 0.90

00:05:27.780 back in like 2000 then they got not cool then they got cool again right then they got not cool and 0.97

00:05:32.980 now they're sitting in my drawer waiting it's just waiting on the right moment yeah bro they're

00:05:37.840 waiting i used to i used to rock the jabots you had jabots no what are those are those those big

00:05:43.920 wide-laid pants no no no they're like they just have like the little writing on the pockets oh

00:05:49.200 no i don't know basically yeah it was a hood thing yep yep yeah what are those pants that used to be

00:05:59.340 called they were like big legs jinkos yeah yeah you're way back now i never had those yeah

00:06:07.200 yeah buddy all right something happened to me then dude like i don't remember that part of

00:06:12.380 history like i don't remember ever seeing somebody wear those was that a thing the jinkos yeah but

00:06:18.480 like do you remember seeing anybody wear them joe i don't i don't either but then there's these

00:06:24.080 pictures on the internet that show up of people wearing them like what where does come from yeah

00:06:28.400 what's sorcery glitch in the matrix that's what it is yeah sweet well guys andy let's uh let's make

00:06:35.600 some people better let's do it let's do it we got uh got three good ones for you all right i do i

00:06:40.620 promise guys andy question number one andy uh what's up andy and dj i'm 18 years old and i'm a

00:06:47.260 future entrepreneur i want to ask you how you deal with laziness because you have said you're one of

00:06:53.560 the laziest people you know in a previous episode and i'm like that too even though i work out every day

00:06:58.740 and do what i need to do but a lot of times i just feel lazy and procrastinate for no reason how do

00:07:04.940 you deal with this um and do you have some tips for me i hate that i'm asking this question because

00:07:09.260 i feel like the answer is you just do it and just stop procrastinating but um i guess i'm hoping that

00:07:14.640 you have a different perspective or way of dealing with it how do we handle laziness andy well first of 0.98

00:07:19.720 all being lazy is not a terrible thing uh and i know you're probably like what the fuck is he talking 0.94

00:07:26.280 about but here i'll tell you why i'll tell you why because lazy people have a gift for figuring out 0.89

00:07:32.760 how to get things done without having to put a whole lot of effort into it all right so they are

00:07:38.220 natural problem solvers which makes them very effective yeah all right so i never thought about

00:07:44.300 it like that that's real no it's true a lot of the most effective people are super lazy because they

00:07:48.820 just want to get up get the shit done and go back to what they were doing so it's not a terrible thing

00:07:53.300 as long as you can get up and get the thing done right so don't beat yourself up over that i i find that 0.86

00:07:59.000 most most of the most successful entrepreneurs are contrary to what the internet will tell you they

00:08:08.940 are they are actually pretty inherently lazy people that have figured out how to be disciplined in

00:08:14.060 certain actions and they understand the more effective they are the more time they get to

00:08:18.840 themselves to do whatever they want to do this is part of why the power list is such a good tool

00:08:22.960 for you guys uh which you can get for free at episode 16 on the real af feed

00:08:27.460 because it teaches people to execute versus be busy all right we have this situation and culture

00:08:37.820 where everybody wants to talk about how busy they are you know it's almost like a natural response for

00:08:43.260 people people will say well how you doing oh my god i'm so busy and it's like dude there's no award

00:08:50.140 for that there's no reward for that there's no trophy for that it's just something that people say

00:08:55.960 to try to get people to like have empathy or sympathy for them and the truth of the matter is

00:09:02.160 is that no one gives a fuck about how busy you are they care about what you actually get done what 0.70

00:09:06.580 result you produce no one really says unless it's a very low level job how many hours did you put in 0.99

00:09:12.240 today really what they say is did you get this shit done was it done at a high level that's what they 1.00

00:09:16.160 care about that's what the the real world cares about so contrary to what most of these dumb asses 1.00

00:09:22.420 on the internet will tell you you don't have to work 30 hours out of 24 it's that hustle that hustle 0.99

00:09:28.800 mentality that the that these guys push is not true at all these guys haven't built shit they're 0.98

00:09:35.680 repeating shit they think they have heard from some dude on the internet they don't own real businesses 0.99

00:09:41.100 they don't they they sell you coaching this isn't real shit okay real people wake up and they say how do 0.99

00:09:47.700 i get my shit done that's going to move me forward and how do i get it done as quickly as possible so 0.96

00:09:51.900 i can still live a life because most people want to have what's called balance they chase balance right 0.98

00:09:58.360 well the only way to have balance is to get your shit done and then have some time left over to do

00:10:02.840 what you want and that's what the power list allows you to do it allows you to get five critical tasks 0.96

00:10:09.100 that are going to move you forward done every single day um and then the rest of the time after that you 0.98

00:10:14.380 get to do what you want so you don't have to do what these morons say on the internet at all it's 0.97

00:10:21.320 not even true it's not even true a little bit because now if it takes you a long time to get 0.96

00:10:26.380 things done that's one thing but there's no award for that so the quicker you can get them done at a

00:10:32.780 high level the more free time you have and how it works is is when you have low skill in the beginning

00:10:38.340 you've got to put more time in to get the task done but as you develop skill it requires less

00:10:45.080 time to get the task done which creates more time for balance so in the beginning yeah you might have

00:10:50.180 to put in a lot of extra time to master a skill set but as you get older and as you get more

00:10:54.920 experienced your ability to execute gets better which means it takes less time which means you have

00:11:01.180 more free time now true winners people who go down in the hall of fame of whatever they do

00:11:06.320 they will fill that free time with more skill building and progress even faster and higher but 0.96

00:11:13.460 that's not required to just be successful that's required if you want to be a fucking legend okay so 0.95

00:11:19.840 there's levels to it so think about it like that but there is a hack for this okay if you are a lazy 0.54

00:11:27.180 person one of the things you need to do is you need to go listen to episode 16 you need to start

00:11:31.920 using the power list every single day and the second thing you need to do is you need to learn

00:11:36.580 that there's such a thing as called a production pivot all right and what a production pivot is is

00:11:42.920 it's like this all right let's say one of your things is to uh work out every day and you work a 0.98

00:11:48.940 job and you work hard every day and you get home and you're like fuck i work so hard and you start to 0.99

00:11:53.960 lay down on the couch and then you're like fuck i still need to work out and what most people do is 1.00

00:12:00.020 most people will just lay there and they'll start justifying and they'll say well i'll get up tomorrow 0.99

00:12:04.000 and train twice as hard or i'll do it in a couple hours or you know i worked a really hard day so

00:12:10.840 i'm gonna give myself a day off and we'll just pick it up tomorrow and that's where most people do and

00:12:15.660 then they do that their whole life and then they can't produce anything that they really want

00:12:18.940 so what you have to learn to do is you have to learn to pay attention to your internal dialogue

00:12:23.260 that when you start to convince yourself that you don't want to do it for whatever reason right

00:12:28.460 uh i'll do it tomorrow uh i work too hard today or whatever justification you have going on in your

00:12:34.260 mind you need to use that as the immediate trigger that pushes you from the couch to the thing and

00:12:41.400 then get the thing done and then you can go back to the couch okay and that's what successful people

00:12:44.980 do successful people take the justification dialogue and they use that as a trigger to move towards

00:12:51.940 the action that their internal dialogue is trying to talk them out of all right so those are the

00:12:57.540 things that you can do um and by the way as you acquire more discipline you know i would obviously

00:13:05.380 recommend the 75 hard program the live hard program as a lifestyle to lead um that will make you an

00:13:11.280 effective human that will get you acclimated to being effective and that's the last thing the last

00:13:16.640 thing is is once you get in the habit of being a diligent effective person the laziness sort of

00:13:24.300 becomes irrelevant because it doesn't matter what you do when you're not doing the thing 0.74

00:13:28.400 all right like i lay on the couch at night i don't do shit all right but i still get more done than most 0.81

00:13:34.560 people do uh in one day than most people do in a month all right because i'm getting them done 0.74

00:13:39.720 very diligently very specifically task by task by task by task and then when those are done those five tasks

00:13:46.420 i don't try to do 15 because i want to feel good about the five i got done a lot of you guys will

00:13:51.380 say well i'll do 15 well yeah you won't accomplish 15 and when you don't accomplish 15 you're going to

00:13:56.460 say well i didn't accomplish my goals for the day which drives your confidence down your belief down

00:14:00.360 your ability to execute uh and and your doubt goes goes down okay your doubt goes up your ability

00:14:06.320 to execute goes down so when we're in a situation where you start to get acclimated to the discipline

00:14:13.720 the laziness becomes irrelevant like you can be lazy and still get wherever you're trying to go as

00:14:20.720 long as you have the systems and the discipline to do so so that's what i would recommend i'd recommend

00:14:25.460 listening to the powerless episode episode 16 i'd recommend living the live hard program which is

00:14:31.880 episode 208 i'd recommend learning how to production pivot and then i and then i would recommend

00:14:36.780 you understanding that your mindset of laziness is actually a fertile soil for effective ideas to

00:14:47.220 take place because people that are lazy are always looking for ways to make things easier and as long

00:14:53.640 as you can make things easier without losing the quality of work or the effectiveness of the result

00:14:58.960 that actually makes you pretty valuable when it comes to innovating so there's benefits that come

00:15:04.040 from a lazy mindset if you're inherently lazy i am an inherently lazy person if i didn't have that

00:15:09.400 structure or i didn't work on my discipline or i didn't use the production pivot it would be very

00:15:14.200 hard for me to get things done and honestly i spent most of my life being uh a very lazy person that had

00:15:21.100 a hard time uh getting things done and it wasn't until i was you know around 30 years old where i started

00:15:27.460 to figure it out it wasn't until i was like 35 36 to where i really figured it out and had i figured all

00:15:32.760 this out when i was 20 um i would have been where i'm at now when i was 30 so you know if you can

00:15:38.540 learn these things it can make a big difference now let me ask you this too though because because

00:15:42.140 i feel i feel like most people you know they call themselves lazy but they're really just

00:15:50.200 procrastinating they're just holding shit off yeah what can we dive into that unveil that a little bit 0.68

00:15:55.480 like what do you think most people what do you think is the number one reason most people just 0.99

00:15:59.500 procrastinate on shit and and and because procrastination can't be a good thing well 0.83

00:16:04.440 let's be real dude most people don't know what it's like to achieve anything most people don't 0.99

00:16:09.340 know what it's like to finish anything most people have never done anything of relevance ever so if

00:16:15.360 you don't know of what it feels like to accomplish something what motivation do you really have to

00:16:20.800 accomplish anything and if you go years and years and years and years and years of never accomplishing

00:16:25.840 anything what's your frame of mindset about that it's that oh well you know i'm okay i'm alive my

00:16:32.180 life is all right it doesn't really matter and you start to accept that as reality that starts uh with

00:16:38.100 procrastination and then moves into the the mindset of acceptance right like oh i know i need to do this

00:16:43.980 but i'm gonna do this instead or i'm just gonna wait here i'm gonna do this later and then you know

00:16:49.460 that goes on for years and after a number of years people like well it doesn't really matter

00:16:53.100 anyway that's what i used to want to do now i'm just happy doing this and they settle for a life

00:16:57.680 that is far less than what they would want in the first place so when we think about procrastination

00:17:04.900 and how to overcome it it's the same thing as what i was talking about with the production pivot

00:17:09.120 all right the minute you start to tell yourself oh i'll do that tomorrow or i'll do that later or i'll

00:17:14.800 do that next week or i'll make that call later i'll send that email later or i'll you know get up and

00:17:19.680 do that workout later that's the production pivot that's the time that you pay attention to that you 0.93

00:17:26.060 hear in your mind and you say oh fuck all right well i'm gonna do that right now and that's what 0.88

00:17:31.040 winners do winners execute at it's not like they're immune to it dude that's the thing i think a lot of 0.99

00:17:36.900 people think that people who win big are immune to having any sort of thoughts of procrastination

00:17:42.940 all these people that you look up to every single one of them battles this all the time they just

00:17:49.580 know how to overcome it in the moment and that's what you have to teach yourself to do i think a lot

00:17:55.060 of people because of the fake internet culture on the internet they believe that all these people

00:18:00.440 never deal with thoughts like of procrastination or laziness you know if we go on the internet and

00:18:06.380 we look at every tom dick and harry on the internet they all tell you you know oh dude i'm the 0.99

00:18:11.600 baddest motherfucker alive i get up fucking the day before yesterday that's when i started my day 1.00

00:18:16.540 right that's the shit they say they say all this crazy shit and people who have tendencies of laziness 1.00

00:18:23.060 or people who have tendencies of procrastination are like well i'm fucked i don't i can't fucking do that 0.99

00:18:28.260 right and the truth of the matter is that's not true every single person out here who's built 0.95

00:18:33.880 anything gets tired they get frustrated they get angry they get demoralized they get lazy they

00:18:41.820 procrastinate and the whole thing that you have to understand is that all of those things are normal

00:18:46.680 but how do you overcome them to still get where you want to go and that comes down to you understanding

00:18:52.100 and you hearing your internal dialogue and then doing the opposite of what it actually tells you to do

00:18:59.000 until you get the positive internal dialogue which is called the boss voice which is if you check out

00:19:05.180 75 hard you'll understand what that means until that voice starts to take over you do the opposite 0.92

00:19:10.760 of what the weak voice the bitch voice says okay and it's that simple when it says oh we'll do that 1.00

00:19:16.700 tomorrow get the fuck up and go kick ass right now and that it comes down to that man i love it i love 0.99

00:19:22.960 it guys uh andy question number two uh andy you've mentioned many times uh that you wanted to quit 0.99

00:19:29.200 a lot but you just never did can you give us some insight on what was the closest you ever came to

00:19:36.320 legitimately quitting and why you didn't um and how did you pivot during that time to move forward and

00:19:42.280 get your head back in the game well i would say out of all the times i've wanted to quit um we were

00:19:50.440 about 10 years in on the company and chris and i both decided we we we basically had an idea for

00:19:57.760 first form that was just starting and then we had a bunch of stores that weren't making any money

00:20:02.240 and we both decided that you know this was never going to work out and we need to start looking at

00:20:07.400 other options and remember we were closer to 30 years old then we were like oh man we got to get

00:20:12.420 our shit together you know we're getting old everybody you know all our friends were having kids 0.82

00:20:15.960 and doing all these things and so we felt that pressure and so we started looking at things to 0.99

00:20:21.920 do and chris was going to go to officer candidate school to be a pilot in the military and i didn't

00:20:28.320 really know what i was going to do so my dad and i decided that we were going to try to buy this sears

00:20:33.240 carpet cleaning franchise and um i went to training in columbus ohio and ended up getting hurt and i

00:20:43.280 hurt my back and i was in bed for nearly 30 days and during those 30 days you know chris and i were

00:20:49.480 the conversation started on the phone of how are we going to close the stores and move on and by the 0.98

00:20:54.960 end of that 30 days we had made conversations like fuck dude i don't really want to clean carpets that 0.98

00:20:59.500 sucks and he's like yeah i don't want to go do all this and so we actually had changed our mind 0.98

00:21:05.740 and started talking about what we liked about what we did and what we liked about what we did was

00:21:14.060 when we worked with people sometimes accidentally we would spend an hour or two with someone because

00:21:20.920 we weren't busy we didn't have a lot of customers and so people would come in and we would spend time

00:21:26.000 getting to know them we would spend time listening to them we would spend time actually helping them

00:21:29.400 and then they would come in months later you know down 40 50 60 100 pounds in tears right being i'm so

00:21:37.040 thankful and so grateful that we helped them figure out how to get themselves on track and that was

00:21:42.720 awesome dude like that was one of the coolest things that was the coolest things um about what

00:21:48.180 we did when those situations happened and we had the conversation on the phone about that we were

00:21:55.560 kind of like well what do we like what do we don't like well i like this i like this too well let's 0.98

00:22:01.240 start trying to replicate that okay and so we shifted from a company that was trying to just sell shit 0.59

00:22:07.280 to a company that was trying to help people get results and dude right after that our company exploded

00:22:13.540 so that was the probably the closest to where i was going to quit and what it the reason i didn't

00:22:20.920 was because i didn't want to do what i was going to do after that and i i figured out what i liked

00:22:27.300 about what i was doing and i remember what i liked about what i was doing and then i just committed to

00:22:31.320 doing more than more of that and uh that brought us through that time would you say that like that

00:22:37.620 that's that would be true for most people like i feel like most people find themselves in times where

00:22:43.040 all right this this just isn't fucking working right but then like would you say that it's true like if you 0.82

00:22:48.980 just if you just look at the situation differently it's highly possible you can actually push through 0.77

00:22:55.660 this if you if you set your i think most people i think most people get in that frustrated state

00:23:02.580 now remember i was doing that for 10 years at that time or nine or 10 years okay so i've been doing this

00:23:08.760 for a long time this wasn't like like two or three this wasn't like i was here for six months and

00:23:12.700 this isn't for me or i'm here for two years and i'm not a millionaire yet that that's not what this

00:23:18.380 was this was 10 years of struggle now remember we didn't have anybody invested in us we didn't have

00:23:23.340 social media ads we didn't have the internet the way that it is today like it was a lot different and

00:23:29.160 it was a lot fucking harder to grow business back then so like we were burnt bro and we had given it

00:23:35.640 our best shot we thought and when we re-evaluated how we were doing things we realized that we were 0.84

00:23:44.500 doing things the wrong way we were trying to sell instead of trying to serve and when we started

00:23:50.100 trying to serve because we had accidentally done that enough times to recognize that we like that

00:23:56.000 result the best that's when things change for us and so i think that most people if you would just

00:24:01.240 take a minute to step back and say what am i doing here why am i doing this why did i start this what 0.63

00:24:07.020 am i trying to accomplish and you actually keep that shit in mind yeah i think it does help you push 0.98

00:24:12.300 through because there's going to be a million times when you are frustrated angry doubtful want to quit 0.99

00:24:19.820 that you have to push through so you have to be able to step back and say hey i'm just frustrated

00:24:24.560 this is a bad time for me i still love what i do what do i love about it i love this part of it and

00:24:30.040 then you have to lean into doing that part of it which helps pull you through the hard times and

00:24:34.400 usually helps you make a lot more money too is it fair to say that i mean you can pretty much be 0.96

00:24:39.800 successful like in any line that you're in if you're just doing the shit the right way for long

00:24:44.680 enough i mean is that really the i mean obviously there's things that can't scale up or there's

00:24:49.460 like for example like if you're a tattoo artist right you're trading your time for money yeah okay

00:24:56.560 so your only opportunity to really scale out is to get so good that you could charge a bunch of money

00:25:03.140 but then you're still limited you see what i'm saying so then you have to look at okay can i open

00:25:08.320 shops can i do this can i do that anytime you stay in the zone of trading your time for money

00:25:14.520 that's where you start to cap yourself okay so you have to figure out how can i scale this out

00:25:19.820 how can i get better how can i improve and that's the only situation that i would say

00:25:25.860 where you have to think a little bit differently um about how you're going to move forward but yeah

00:25:31.800 in most situations dude uh you know this is gonna this is gonna help you get through yeah so

00:25:37.080 basically what you're saying is you and chris were able to keep pushing through and move forward 0.90

00:25:40.560 on this because the other option that you had on the table was was shit so much worse yeah and that's 0.90

00:25:46.220 the other thing to consider it's like what are you going to do if you quit okay a lot of people quit 0.99

00:25:50.800 whatever they're trying to do in some sort of emotional state right they get emotional they get

00:25:56.160 frustrated for a month or two and then they quit without even having a plan of what they're going to 1.00

00:26:01.040 do and then six months a year later they're like fuck why did i quit that why did i fuck off there 0.99

00:26:08.320 why did i get let go from that place why did i allow myself to do that i had five years in there 0.99

00:26:13.280 i had three years in there i had this and this is how people get in these binds dude where they can't

00:26:18.220 get out of it right they get in the hamster wheel they go three years at a thing then they change

00:26:23.560 things and then they go three years at a new thing and then they change things and then they go

00:26:27.640 three years at a new thing and then they change things again you can't get anywhere in three 0.58

00:26:32.980 fucking years that's going to be relevant to you and your dreams that's the reality it takes way 0.74

00:26:38.620 longer than that and so i think most people fall in this trap of getting a little bit burnt out 0.98

00:26:45.320 getting a little bit emotional and then thinking the answer is to totally change up their life and

00:26:50.080 sometimes it might be but you only have once or twice where you can really get away with that

00:26:55.220 because you're running out of time and when you're young you don't understand that you only

00:26:59.660 have limited time so when you're in your 20s if you go three years three years three years three years 0.99

00:27:05.440 all of a sudden i'm 34 fucking years old you see what i'm saying so now you're like fuck i really am 0.99

00:27:11.760 running out of time so dude you have to be able to say hey i'm committing to this this is the path i'm 0.99

00:27:17.000 taking i'm going to do this no matter what and i'm going to push through and make it happen and if

00:27:22.260 there is no future there for real then it would take some re-evaluation but as long as there's a

00:27:28.660 future there yeah bro it's you have to learn how to push through because it's never going to be fun

00:27:34.180 every day i think that's one of the biggest lies it's told about business you know nobody gets on 0.65

00:27:39.660 there who's successful and says yeah some days i really want to quit except me i'm the only fucking 0.99

00:27:44.680 guy that says that everybody else comes on and they posture and they want you to think they're 0.74

00:27:49.000 superheroes i never quit i work 24 hours a day okay well you must not be very good at what you

00:27:55.900 do if you got to work 24 hours a day you know what i'm saying um and they tell these these younger 0.97

00:28:01.020 people this and younger people are like well fuck i just can't do it i can't hang i'm not you know 0.95

00:28:05.560 and they're and and what's crazy is these influencers are telling people this for their own ego 0.99

00:28:10.100 they want people to see him as a superhero instead of actually helping people so yeah that's real shit 0.83

00:28:16.140 yeah that's real guys andy our third and final question question number three uh good morning 0.91

00:28:22.120 evening or afternoon to your fellows first and foremost uh thank you dj for coaching me uh at

00:28:27.600 your time at st mary's uh my name is key i stumbled upon this show around this time last year uh the

00:28:33.820 mental fortitude the lessons and the desire to win that i have right now started from you guys my

00:28:39.520 question is for both you dj and you andy uh when it comes to having to make your dreams a reality

00:28:44.920 what are the one or two crucial things that a person has to have uh in no matter what industry

00:28:52.700 is it routine is it work ethic is it consistency discipline effort which of these should stand out

00:28:59.700 the most and hit hard um so that the average person can become the person love what you guys do and

00:29:05.040 just know the black community is with y'all andy for president 2028 oh he speaks for the whole black

00:29:10.100 community huh apparently yeah well you know the board there's a couple of us on the board you on

00:29:14.940 the board too yeah all right are you like a junior board member are you like on a big board i'm like

00:29:20.420 i got like a 30 percent stake all right all right all right dude easy easy answer dude the most important

00:29:28.560 thing that you have to have is the ability to execute when you don't feel like it which is otherwise

00:29:35.840 known as discipline everybody thinks it's about motivation everybody thinks it's about feeling

00:29:42.060 like i'm so powerful and i want to go run everybody over today yeah that comes and goes but what about

00:29:48.200 when it's not there okay so being able to execute when you don't feel like it when you are tired when

00:29:54.940 you are doubtful when you are frustrated when you would rather do anything else than do the thing

00:30:00.920 is a superpower because 99.9 percent of people lack the ability to do that so if everyone else can't do

00:30:10.760 it but you can think about how much further ahead that puts you over the course of your life

00:30:15.460 a normal person who works you know monday tuesday wednesday and then goes to happy hour on thursday

00:30:23.560 then goes out friday night fucks off on saturday they don't these people can't understand why other 0.90

00:30:31.760 people get there but when you break the math down and you say okay there's that lifestyle then there's

00:30:37.960 this other guy this guy executes every single day he gets his five tasks done seven days a week and by

00:30:45.420 the way he doesn't have to wait till his weekend to have some time off because he gets a little time

00:30:49.560 off every day because he's become very effective at getting his five critical tasks done that guy

00:30:55.000 over the course of five years 10 years ends up opening a gap over everybody else that is insurmountable

00:31:02.100 because time is always diminishing so when you think about what skill can you build that will give

00:31:08.640 you an advantage over every single other human on the planet because i am in a competition with other

00:31:14.380 humans for those placings and you are it is discipline and the ability to adhere to a plan

00:31:21.140 where would you be in your life right now if all the plans you ever made for yourself in the past you

00:31:30.120 had executed on without fail stop and think about that for no matter where you are no matter how old you

00:31:36.380 are stop and think right now if i had executed on the plans i made in the past a hundred percent with

00:31:44.620 a hundred percent effectiveness where would i be currently and think about that okay because most

00:31:51.940 people would be in a completely different place living a completely different life and the reason they

00:31:57.500 aren't in that completely different place living that complete different life is because they don't

00:32:02.580 have the ability to adhere to a plan that is where it's at it's not that people don't know what to 0.52

00:32:08.660 do it's that they can't fucking do it when they don't feel motivated so if you're going to ask me what 0.90

00:32:14.100 i think a superpower skill is it's always going to come down to discipline grit mental toughness fortitude

00:32:22.180 the ability to push through when you don't feel like it which is the entire reason for the existence

00:32:28.180 of the live hard program all right and if you haven't done that you can get it for free to episode

00:32:33.060 208 it is a lifestyle program that helps you develop the skills that we're talking about right here which

00:32:39.540 gives you a tremendous advantage over everybody else it's not just about getting lean it's not just about

00:32:45.060 getting in shape yes you will get shape however you will learn this skill in a way that other people 0.83

00:32:53.060 will never have it and when you possess that and they don't how the fuck can they compete yeah yeah

00:32:59.940 i feel like most people they look at something like discipline as more of a an actual like character

00:33:06.500 trait rather than something that gets built for sure right and so like what's the it's a skill yeah

00:33:12.020 what's the dynamic there and then like just like simple i mean like how how do you build discipline man

00:33:16.740 well you build discipline by practicing discipline you build patience by practicing patience

00:33:21.940 okay these things are things that you have to build most people including me have always thought

00:33:28.820 that discipline was a trait you look at people who can who can stick to a diet you look at people who

00:33:34.660 constantly get their stuff done who keep themselves in great shape who seem to have it all together 0.96

00:33:39.300 you're like fuck why didn't i get that why did he get that why didn't i get that but the truth is 0.96

00:33:44.660 you did get it you just haven't developed it yet and so you have to switch your framework from 0.99

00:33:49.460 looking at these things as like traits or gifts they got that you didn't get into these are skills

00:33:55.460 that they invested in that you haven't yet all right so when we think of discipline grit fortitude

00:34:01.780 perseverance self-belief self-confidence okay these are things that you build and you build them day in

00:34:09.860 and day out by sticking to what you say you're going to do which allows you to build trust and belief

00:34:16.580 in your ability to adhere all right that is the entire live hard program that's

00:34:21.540 what the purpose is of it because most people don't have that most people don't have the ability

00:34:26.980 or the understanding that discipline is a skill set when you tell them this and they have never

00:34:32.500 experienced it before they're like that's that's not true i know this guy he was born that way

00:34:38.420 no you don't you haven't you didn't see what he did behind closed doors you don't see the way that

00:34:43.060 he works when you're not there you don't see the things that they do you don't know what happened

00:34:47.780 in the past to help them develop that skill set most people are never born with that maybe they're

00:34:52.660 around parents that are routine discipline maybe they had a sport they played that taught that to

00:34:57.140 them but these people picked it up along the way they weren't just born with it and you weren't

00:35:01.380 born without it you just haven't put the investment into creating that and once you figure out

00:35:06.100 that discipline grit fortitude mental toughness you know all of these things are skills that you

00:35:13.300 have to polish and invest in that are perishable and what that means is is when you stop polishing

00:35:18.900 them and you stop investing in them they go your ability goes down once you start to understand that

00:35:24.580 the game changes because now you know that if you make the investment in these areas of skill

00:35:31.140 they go up and you become more effective so it's really a game changer for people to change the

00:35:36.980 framework from these are things that people were born with to these are things that they developed

00:35:42.660 and i can develop them too and you can millions of people have done this this is how it works so it's

00:35:49.060 a skill it's not a trait i love it man i love it guys andy those three yep go pay the fee

00:35:55.300 we're from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze 1.00

00:35:59.860 fuck a pole fucker stole counted millions in the code bad bitch booted swole got her on bank road 1.00

00:36:06.500 can't fold that's a no headshot case closed 1.00

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - June 20, 2024

729. Q&AF： Overcoming Laziness, How To Not Quit & The No. 1 Success Skill

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - June 20, 2024

729. Q&#x26;AF： Overcoming Laziness, How To Not Quit &#x26; The No. 1 Success Skill

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729. Q&AF： Overcoming Laziness, How To Not Quit & The No. 1 Success Skill