731. Q&AF： Responding To Competitors, Skipping Happy Hour & Being A Good Human In A Crazy World
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On this episode of the show we have a special guest on the show, Jerry Rice. Jerry is a 30 year old master plumber and a 20 year welding inspector who owns two businesses including a whiskey distillery.
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what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
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the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today as
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always on mondays we have q and af that's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers
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now you can submit your questions a few different ways the first way is guys you can email these
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questions into ask andy at andy for seller.com or you can go on youtube in the comment section on
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the q and af episodes and drop your question the comments we'll pick some from there as well
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solve these problems going on in the world other times we're going to have real talk real talk just
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five to 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk just some things i think you need to hear and then
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what's up dude what's up man not much yeah what's going on i'm all right you know over here looking a
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little snazzy yeah you dressed up for the show today yeah that's nice i would bring the culture
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you know i'm saying like we talk about getting better here yeah you know i'm saying trying to
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up your game yep i'm strapped to the clap i got you you got a clap
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brothers you gotta take some antibiotics for that bro
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oh man all right yeah yeah you good man i'm good you're all right yeah got a good weekend
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yeah man it's all good you know i'm ready to uh ready to answer some stuff what's going on with
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you yeah no everything's good man um you know so typically guys you know how the show works i give
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andy three three questions that are submitted from you guys um so i want to i want to read this uh
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this email for you so um he says a little bit about me i'm a 30 year old a 30 year master plumber
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and a 20 year welding inspector he owns two businesses including a whiskey distillery so he's
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been around the block a few times when it comes to business um he says i'm not submitting a question
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here but more of a point of observation one of my pet peeves is walking onto a job and seeing trade
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personnel dressed like homeless hobos maybe i'm getting old uh but if there hasn't been a time like right
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now to represent the professionalism of being a trades person i don't know when can you please
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just cover the importance of dressing the part um keep your work attire clean if it's torn or has
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holes in it replace it boots have heels falling off maybe time to get some new boots asses hanging
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out of your pants buy a belt keep your tools clean and good working condition show some pride in your
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country and the work that you do for a living i personally sew the american flag on uh all my arm sleeves
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it's part of my everyday work attire um be a patriot perform well dress like you mean it your
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first impression is the most important uh when you represent yourself in your business now translating
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this just overall success how you carry yourself what are your thoughts on this man i think it's a
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huge deal you know jerry rice used to have a saying about his foot like jerry rice was known for always
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being dressed to the nines on game day all his accessories were perfect everything was perfect
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he looked the best on the field and people used to tease him about it and they'd be like jerry why do
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you care about all this stuff and he used to always say look good feel good play good and i think there's
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a lot to that i think it equates to your overall happiness and the self-image that you have of yourself
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which then relates to your confidence your ability to feel fulfilled your ability to feel good about
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what you do every single day i think it's a huge deal that is often overlooked especially in the
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uh trades like he's talking about um but anything that you do i think i think it's important for you
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to dress as well as you can afford to dress to look as good as you can make yourself look uh and go
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through life that way because you're going to have a much better life experience um i think a lot of
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people you know they say what does it matter what does it matter if my you know uniform is untucked
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or my ass is hanging out of my pants i'm doing construction work this is hard stuff yeah well
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there's a lot of reasons why it matters okay uh the aforementioned reasons but also how does it present
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itself as a business how do the customers feel when they come by their job site and they've got a
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bunch of fat disgusting dudes with their ass cracks hanging out plumbers right they're sure as fuck not
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telling anybody to use the business and they're embarrassed to even be around there it makes
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them uncomfortable so i think both from a personal level it's very important but also from a representing
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the company uh aspect it's super important and like our man said in the email representing a citizen of
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this country and taking pride in how you do things how you appear what example you're setting for
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other people and that's what's missing in culture you know when we talk about personal excellence being
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the ultimate rebellion that's not bullshit that's real stuff okay like how you represent yourself
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matters what you you you are your product man like you are your product if your product isn't good
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nobody's buying it all right and this goes for being an entrepreneur being an entrepreneur being a dad
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being a friend being a member of the community it doesn't matter there's no off switch where you get
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to turn it off and say oh you know this doesn't matter right now you know it matters at home like
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what's your spouse think of the way you look you know what i'm saying here let me tell you something
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you can do to make all the things look good on you uh get your ass in shape okay because when you're
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in shape you can kind of wear whatever you want and people are like damn that looks good all right so
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maybe you're not a fashion icon and maybe you don't wear the best clothes or maybe you can't
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afford to get the heel on your boot replaced but i bet you could if you weren't drinking a 12 pack of
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beer every day i bet you could if you weren't ordering pizza every day i bet you could if you
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weren't 400 pounds you had to feed your fat ass every day okay let's be real it's about aligning
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priorities so i think it's a huge deal i think it's often overlooked i think people have to think about
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themselves as a product and if your product's no good nobody's buying it which means you're not
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going to make money you're not going to progress in a company you're not going to get a raise people
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aren't going to buy your product if you own the company and that's just reality man so i think it's
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more important than ever and honestly there's a huge opportunity in this because so many people just
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brush it off like look at pictures of society from 80 years ago versus now all right if you're the type
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of person that can present a professional image or even a good brand a good personal brand i don't
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mean on social media i mean in person okay no one else is even trying look around dude how many of
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these dudes out here that you're competing with are actually fit how many of them drive a nice vehicle
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how many of them speak well how many of them look the part how many of them are anything but just a fat
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little plebe getting a paycheck all right you you have the opportunity to compete against that
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by just being well groomed and being in shape and looking nice and you know like dude i'm gonna tell
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you right now if i was a construction worker i'd show up every day looking the best out of all the
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dudes that's a fact bro and i think that relates to everything in our life you know we hear that saying
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how you do one thing is how you do everything and i think that i think that's a fundamental reality for
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for everything i think it lends itself to making more money being more satisfied being more fulfilled
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being proud of what you do and i think that's a lot of what we're missing in the country yeah for sure
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i think that's a one of the biggest misconceptions is people don't don't really put a lot of care into
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the understanding they're like no people absolutely judge you yeah right like well don't judge a book
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by its cover well that's what the cover is for is like to tell me what yeah what's the book's gonna be
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about listen man that's the biggest lie and and look dude men really struggle with this and men
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really struggle with this women are more accustomed to being judged by their appearance quickly yeah it's
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just reality all right it's the way it is yeah i'm just speaking reality this is called real af men
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are usually told by their moms who are in an unsatisfied marriage or an unsatisfied relationship
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or who have been shit on by men for 20 years are not happy with whatever's going on with men they tell
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their sons this shit they say it doesn't matter what your outside looks like all that matters is on the
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inside and they bring up their little boys telling them this and then their little boys go out in the
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world and get fucking stomped on and become these supplicating little pussies who do every single
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thing that a woman asks of them and then just gets run over by them okay so we're teaching men the
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opposite of what actually attracts a quality partner which is having your shit together being in good
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physical shape making a good living taking care of the things that need to be taken care of as a man
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these things fucking matter and if you don't live that you have to understand that what you're going
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to get in return is far less than what you would uh actually be able to get if you were if you were
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holding that high standard and usually that comes from moms communicating to their sons what they wish they
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had now right they wish they had a nice man they wish they had a man that opened the car door for him
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they wish they had they wish they had but it totally throws out the window the dynamic that is
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nature you can't argue with it that women have the choice of a million sexual partners from the time
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they start to hit puberty until the time uh at the end of time okay and what happens here is is that
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men start to beg for this and women are only attracted to the ones that they have to chase
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okay and you know what makes women want to chase you having your fucking shit together because it's
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so rare so there's all these lies told especially to men around how you look and your appearance and
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the only thing that matters is what's in your heart and bro the reality is it's just just not true
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does that matter the most absolutely but there's a whole lot of other things that matter a lot too and
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if you don't have them you're going to be very disappointed in your life yeah i love it man i love it
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i love it well let's get into these questions man i got three good ones for you cool guys andy
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question number one uh andy i own a service-based company detailing company i'm in a very saturated
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market i've grinded sweat it and bled for this business for the last three years sacrifices missed
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family shit trying to do all the right things about my business so one of my competitors has started to
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see the results of his poorly managed company um and that i have stolen his client uh his clients
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it's his words not mine um so he has maliciously put one star reviews on google and has spread shit
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online about my business which none of it is accurate or true now my question is for you how do i respond
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do i continue handling business as normal or just say fuck the guy do i beat his ass do i retaliate
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in a more in a more subtle way has anyone ever tried slurring your business and or your personal
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name how did you handle it um and what did you learn from these experiences yeah it happens all the
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time but here's the reality as long as you keep doing what you're supposed to do and you start and
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you live in the integrity that you are the eventual truth comes out and you know when people talk shit on
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your business they're actually advertising for your business and what ends up happening is
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eventually enough people have patronized your business to where that person that was talk shit
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about or talk shit to ends up dealing with someone who had a good experience and they talk and then
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that person likely comes and has an experience and they have a great experience what ends up happening
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is the people who were talking shit end up looking like they're what they are which is bad people
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so in time this always straightens itself out as long as you're holding yourself to a high standard
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and doing the right thing so that's typically what corrects it um i'll give you a couple tips to
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expedite this uh one thing is this don't get caught talking shit about them back all right uh a lot of
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times business owners like to get in these verbal warfares especially on instagram and the internet it makes
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you both look ridiculous and it makes people not want to do business with you at all because they
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don't want to deal with someone that's that petty or ridiculous um it's unprofessional it makes you
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look stupid and you shouldn't do it secondly why you shouldn't do it is because these people are
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actively talking shit about you so let's say you as a customer let's just say you're a customer
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you went to an auto detailing business and while this guy's cleaning your car he's like don't use
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steve's auto dealing this guy this guy's a dickhead he's does this he does that he does this treats
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his customers wrong blah blah blah blah blah blah right and he's talking all this shit and then
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that customer ends up having a falling out with that company because usually these companies that
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talk shit don't do a good job at running their business which is why he said you stole his customers
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no shit that's the point of business i'm gonna take your fucking customers by being better that's what
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this is about that lends itself to the point of what i talk about all the time where people shouldn't
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even be entrepreneurs like if you're not comfortable to compete over that customer's business you're not
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cut out to be an entrepreneur if i don't do a good job i i deserve to lose customers you should
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understand that okay we're in a competition nobody steals anybody's customers those customers aren't
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anybody's they're just out there and your job is to try and get them to be yours but they're only yours
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for as long as you earn them and you have to continue to earn them it's a lot like a relationship
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it's a lot like a friendship if you don't pour into it and you don't make it good they're not yours
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i'll leave you right yeah so this is this is these people are not high level effective operators in
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general that do this and so what ends up happening is those customers end up having a bad experience with
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this guy and then they start looking at alternatives and then they have an experience with you where
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you're doing a great job and you're kicking ass and you're treating them perfect and then all of a
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sudden it clicks like a light bulb in their head holy shit this guy over here is this guy's a piece
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of shit right he's a liar he was doing yeah exactly and so like dude you know my policy is always that
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we're like when someone comes to me and they're like oh your competition is talking shit i'm just like
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yo well i've heard nothing but good shit about those guys that's weird i thought we were cool
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you know and you just say something like that and blow it off and the customer that that that sends
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the signal to the customer like wait a minute why is this guy saying this and this guy's saying that
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and it makes them curious you dig yourself in a hole by getting into that back and forth so
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there's that i wouldn't talk shit on your on your competition even when they're talking shit to you
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um thirdly i would just be so much better than them that they can't compete that's the bottom
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line like when people can't compete that's when they get pissed off so i would focus on you just
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being the best that you can and then uh you know if it becomes too big of a problem there's always ways
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to you know make people's lives difficult and legally and uh you know that's why you shouldn't
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fuck with people that have more resources than you you shouldn't you shouldn't start things with
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people who have more resources more relationships more money because those people can do things
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legally that can really just make your life fucking ridiculous and i'm not above doing that like
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if people fuck with me and they step on my toes i'll step on their fucking throat and that's what
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business is about like if we're out there in the wild and and some bully's about to fucking get at my
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shit i'm gonna kill them right okay and that's that's the law of nature and it applies to that in
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business as well try to have civil try to handle things well but i don't do this publicly i don't
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go out and talk a bunch of shit i just handle it yeah that person may not even ever know ever
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yeah bro listen man um you know i that's how it is man yeah it is what it is like dude it's very easy
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for someone with unlimited resources when you have limited resources to basically spend unlimited
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resources online or in advertising or targeting your customers or opening up a fucking store right
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next to yours and giving all the shit away for free whatever the fuck they got to do like i had
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a i had a competitor one no for real that's some crazy shit man you do what you got to do bro i had
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a competitor one time who was trying to undercut me yeah and i opened up a fucking store a block
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away and sold everything like five dollars cheaper at a loss until he went away yeah so like
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dude it didn't cost me shit yeah so like dude this is this is what you do like when people don't go
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away and they continue to poke and poke and poke and poke and you're the guy with resources they're
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stupid because you could people don't think about that yeah like i had a guy who has a fucking gym
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running his mouth i called him up on the phone and i'm like hey you realize i can open a gym right
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next to you and give memberships away for free right and when i fucking said that his tone totally
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changed because he hadn't thought about that but i'm a fuck that's what i will do right like i will
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fucking bury you bro and if you want to fuck with me after we've had civil discourse and we've you know
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i've said hey this is don't do this i won't do this and you still decide to do it i will open a gym
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right next to you and i will fucking make it free until you go away and but listen they don't think
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like that people don't think like that and it's very easy for someone that is in a power position to do
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those things so you should never ever ever fuck with someone who's got more money than you
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ever that's the ignorance it's almost like you know this ladder analogy that we talk about here
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right you got people above you on the ladder this is the ignorance of those people trying to pull
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those people yeah they don't get it yeah bro i've seen this kick you off bro i've listen
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i've seen some crazy shit happen i saw a dude one time
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i know a guy who i shouldn't even tell this story i know a guy who
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the trainer a trainer started having sex with his wife okay so this guy who had a lot of money
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bought the strip center of the trainer's gym and evicted him out of the strip oh fuck yeah
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yeah that's some bullshit right there and not only did he do it once he did it twice so when the
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guy moved he did it again so like look dude you don't fuck with people because they fucking make
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your life hard yeah you know what i'm saying that's real shit it's easier to just be good in
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business yeah just be good it's a healthy competition's good it's a it's a it's how it
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works yeah you know what i mean that's real shit man i love it i love it uh guys any question
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number two uh what's up andy uh when you talk about the people who skip out for happy hours on
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thursdays party all weekend and waste time that's me uh you were talking about me good news is i've
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completely changed my outlook on this behavior uh made some drastic changes um and my friends uh have
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actually for the most part been pretty supportive of it um now they still go out they still invite me
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but they don't give me shit for saying no um i found so much more time to do what's going to
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move me forward my question is i still get the cravings to go out i still get the desire to just
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go out and i know deep down it's not moving me forward when i do i start my weeks off great then i
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get to friday and it's like i can feel the momentum slowing and going down i need some clarity or insight
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on simple ways to help uh keep my focus locked in um and how to just keep moving forward despite
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the cravings to go out um and just party i appreciate all that you do andy what we got on
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this how do we maintain that momentum i'll be real dude i i had that exact same problem for a long time
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for for years and years and years and years my entire social life revolved around alcohol all right
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it was thursday night i would have a couple drinks friday night went pretty hard saturday you know
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go out again sunday day drink to try and nurse my yeah right i did that for years and but like all my
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friends did it all of our employees did it we all went out together it was a real thing
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and it became the culture of our social life and uh because i lived that way for so long and i worked
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in the bar scene for so long it was really hard for me when it came thursday friday saturday and
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especially sunday during the day to know what to do with my time when i wasn't doing those things so
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uh you know honestly the best thing that's helped me and didn't just help me here but it's helped me
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literally every single area was just getting away from alcohol dude like i i can't
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removing alcohol from my life was probably the most effective thing that i've ever done
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in terms of making myself better in terms of making my relationships better my life better my
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fitness better my my money better i mean dude not say i'm a totally sober person i'll still drink
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three four five times a year um but it is definitely not part of my life and once you do that for a long
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enough time which is a beautiful part of living the live hard lifestyle because a lot of people
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don't realize the live hard lifestyle is a yearly program that you repeat every single year okay it's
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not 75 hard once in a while you do 75 hard every single year you do phase one two three every single
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year and by living in that lifestyle you get removed from alcohol it's slowly it's not like this
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you know oh i'm just quitting it's just eventually you stop craving it and you stop wanting it
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and i dude you know i don't couldn't even tell you the last time i felt that feeling of like hey i
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want to have some beers i mean yeah once in a while it comes but dude you saw me have half a beer at
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fucking summer smash i did i fuck what i do do it away i dude i drank i drank half of a beer and i'm
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like this is fucking gross yeah i threw it away like dude it's just once you kind of get out of
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it you're out of it and um so i would recommend you know just removing yourself more and more and
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more from that lifestyle because dude i got to be real with you and this is no disrespect to anybody
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else but you know i removed myself from drinking in 2018 okay so what's that 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 that's
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six years of seven years of pretty much removing myself from that scene and this is not this is the
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100 truth bro when i go to my bars that i used to go to now just because i always go to the same
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couple places it's all the same people doing the same thing they're they're 50 pounds heavier they look
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like shit their face is all bloated they look way older i look younger than i did six seven years ago
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it's very obvious for me right now what alcohol does to people you know what i mean and you know
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when we look at this gets into you know more of a discussion but when we look at the things that
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are propagated to us in terms of what's a normal life versus the things that are kept from us and
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told that are illegal like for example alcohol is propagated heavily as a normal part of life right
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we all grew up with these commercials everybody's partying everybody's drinking everybody's you know
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up in the mountains with their beers like everything is alcohol right but weed's illegal and not anymore
00:25:59.300
but it was forever right mushrooms mushrooms illegal these are natural things that grow out of the ground
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right and i've used weed consistently and i've used mushrooms before too for to help treat depression
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and anxiety i'm gonna tell you right now i personally believe that there is a 100 reason why they propagate
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alcohol to people and they make this shit illegal and it's not because this is dangerous and alcohol
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safe it's actually because alcohol is heavily debilitating to one's life and progress and the rest of those
00:26:32.360
things can actually help you and so it's the opposite of what most people think most people think that
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alcohol is legal and pushed because it's safe but when we look at what it does to us long term in
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terms of our health in terms of our motivation in terms of what we're willing to accept and what we
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live for it really changes the quality of our life in a poor uh and negative way so my recommendation to
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remove yourself from these cravings is to realize one uh i don't know a lot of people who are very
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successful that use alcohol heavily i just don't like all the guys like at my level and up they're
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not like that and that's why whenever you look at those guys they're usually all in shape there's very
00:27:14.200
few big fat guys that are above that unless they inherited their money because dude this people take
00:27:20.320
this serious and so if you want to win big this is not this is not something that you can afford to
00:27:24.700
mess around with in my opinion on a regular basis um and secondly start working your way to get better
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you know through the live hard program and eventually it'll reduce those cravings for
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uh that that kind of life and bro by the way you you know when i first started going out without
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alcohol i i was drinking diet cokes or coffee like because we used to go to brunch a lot and drink
00:27:46.120
alcohol in the morning and shit and now i just go get black coffee and dude it's still the same amount
00:27:51.460
of fun like i'm sitting around my friends we're fucking they're drinking beers that's cool i don't give a
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shit it's not like you know you get to a place where you don't need it
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and and you don't lose out on any fun like i don't i don't have less fun with uh with no alcohol
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than i did with alcohol in fact like it's almost better because then when you wake up the next day
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you don't have that guilt you don't have that anxiety i call it the moral hangover right you're
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like fuck what i do what i say you don't have that yeah and you get to like have memories of the time
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that you had in the conversations it's just different dude plus the physical hangover bro it doesn't take
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until tuesday to get back together well dude when you get to be my age is different it's like a
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four or five day thing dude and it and then the other thing is is if you deal with any sort of
00:28:34.800
depression or anxiety alcohol just makes it 10 times worse dude and people it makes it worse not
00:28:41.000
the day you drink or even the day after but the two or three days after that so a lot of people that
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suffer with like depression or anxiety you know they go out drinking on sunday and then on wednesday
00:28:50.940
they feel like shit like really dark really bad times but they forgot that they drank on sunday and
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it has like a delayed effect on that so yeah man there's a lot of reasons not to do it and i'm not
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saying you can't go out and enjoy some drinks because i certainly do occasionally um but it's
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occasionally yeah it's not a regular part of my life i want to i want to ask you this too because i think
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this is an important part of this right like just even just understanding just the concept of momentum
00:29:20.480
right yeah once you get to that point of understanding how how hard it was to even just
00:29:25.220
get going that's right it's more important to keep it going how do you how do you manage that like what
00:29:29.220
like let's break down this concept of momentum real quick well dude it momentum comes down to
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you know you doing things one day and then the day after that and then the day after that and then
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the day after that and eventually it gets easier and easier and easier and easier and you catch like
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a flow which we call momentum and a lot of people think that momentum is something that we just catch
00:29:51.160
but it's actually something that we create it's something that we create by forcing ourselves through
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one day then another day then another day and in the beginning it's very hard you have to use force
00:30:01.460
like you're going to have cravings you're going to want to eat bad you're not going to want to train
00:30:05.080
you're going to want to drink and so you have to like grid it out through those beginning days
00:30:09.580
but then as you catch momentum it gets easier and easier and easier and it starts to push you forward
00:30:13.940
and the biggest misconception like i said is that we catch it magically as opposed to we create it
00:30:20.720
so if we know that we create the momentum and we know that we're in control of the momentum we should
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also recognize that it's important for us to create the momentum and keep it going as long as possible
00:30:30.980
and if we interrupt you know every three or four days with this day of booze or this day of bad eating
00:30:38.180
you can't ever build the momentum necessary to make not having that in your life easy you see
00:30:44.140
what i'm saying so you have to go with a long time without this in your life and you know um most
00:30:53.060
people aren't willing to do that they they try to create momentum and then they try to throw in you
00:30:57.920
know a cheat day or a cheat weekend or this every it doesn't work like that dude you can't do it it's
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like it reminds me of almost like pushing the car in neutral you know i'm saying it's hard as shit to get
00:31:08.180
moving it's moving that's right dude stop pushing object in motion tends to stay in motion and dude
00:31:12.900
like when you think about trying to create momentum and you know get away from alcohol but then you're
00:31:20.580
throwing it in there every week that dude that's like this it's no different than this hey i need
00:31:25.320
you to quit heroin i need you to quit but every saturday and sunday you got to do it how can you ever
00:31:32.520
quit yeah right take a little bit on saturday yeah yeah it's just it's it's even worse with food
00:31:38.140
like people want to create this momentum where they can create a healthy lifestyle with food
00:31:43.120
but they want to interrupt that momentum every sunday with a cheat day or every saturday and
00:31:48.280
sunday with the days off i'm gonna live a little well it's really hard to remove yourself from that
00:31:54.500
culture unless you go for an extended period of time without it and that extended period of time is
00:31:59.560
not a week and it's not two weeks it's like 10 or 12 weeks okay so um yeah man you know you're in
00:32:07.000
control of your momentum and if you're trying to create momentum to create a better life why would
00:32:10.680
you interrupt that and make it harder for yourself you shouldn't do that you know it's the same reason
00:32:14.720
why when people complete 75 hard and the next day they're eating a huge cake and a bunch of stuff and
00:32:20.240
drinking and all this shit to celebrate it's like bro why are you going back
00:32:25.440
to the behavior that created this place of dissatisfaction and frustration and anger about
00:32:32.260
your own existence why are you rewarding yourself with that behavior when you just work so hard to
00:32:37.160
get away from it that doesn't make sense so there's a lot to that but the reality is is the best thing
00:32:43.560
that you can do in your whole entire life if you're an entrepreneur or if you're someone who wants to
00:32:48.100
achieve high level things is to limit alcohol and that that um constant cycle of social drinking
00:32:58.020
i i i disrupting the momentum yeah i don't know many people that are successful to do that dude
00:33:02.880
yeah i just don't not when they're building okay they might get older they might sell their company
00:33:08.160
for 100 million dollars or some shit and maybe they drink now but i bet they're fat and i bet they
00:33:14.380
aren't as healthy maybe maybe someone inherited a billion dollars and they're 400 pounds and you
00:33:20.300
could say oh look at that guy well that's not you he didn't build that shit right you're not going to
00:33:25.200
build that shit with that dude you just can't do it for those of us peasants that's us building
00:33:30.260
something from scratch is really fucking hard and you need to do it and understand that the outcome
00:33:37.060
that you're trying to create is not guaranteed it's it's not it's not easy it's not you know rub free
00:33:43.980
it's not pain free like it's going to be hard and you're going to have to go all in because you're
00:33:48.740
competing against other people who are going all in so if you think you could compete against other
00:33:53.300
people who are going all in and not having this shit in their life with your with you you giving
00:33:58.020
three days and them giving seven your ego's out of control bro that's an arrogant thought like how
00:34:04.100
you think you're that good you think you could beat someone like me but you could work for four
00:34:09.100
days a week and i'm working seven days with no alcohol none of that shit in my life bro those
00:34:14.180
people are going to kill you you have no shot yeah i love it man i love it guys andy our third and
00:34:19.420
final question andy question number three hey andy i feel like i need a like a new york accent on this
00:34:25.420
one hey andy i'm 22 years old from new york uh my dad recently passed away about six months ago
00:34:31.980
a great role model for me my family our community he'd give the clothes off his back you honestly
00:34:39.080
remind me of him quite a bit um he he has no nonsense attitude he didn't take any shit but he
00:34:45.520
wouldn't hurt a butterfly not because he wasn't capable to hurt a butterfly but because it was a
00:34:49.780
butterfly my father always told me uh quote just be good he always say this even at his last uh he would
00:34:58.400
remind me to just be good my question is um i know this show is about kicking ass and winning and
00:35:04.080
becoming the best you can possibly be and so with that being said i want to know what your take is
00:35:08.540
on just being a good human uh with all the craziness in the world we need more good people
00:35:13.540
so what makes a good person good appreciate you well first of all you know all we can do is what we
00:35:21.460
think is right all right and what we think is right is not always right but if we do what we think is
00:35:28.840
right eventually we learn what is right and that makes us a better human and a good human and my
00:35:35.600
personal take on goodness is not what i think most people think goodness is i think when most people
00:35:42.660
think of goodness they think of the outward appearance of being a decent human like i'm going
00:35:47.860
to post some bible quotes i'm going to pretend i'm extra holy i'm going to pretend i care about
00:35:52.940
things but then in real life dude you can kind of see that the the puzzle doesn't truly connect right
00:35:58.340
so i think the ultimate thing that you have to understand is that when you do good you get good
00:36:05.040
when you treat people right you get treated right when you have good intentions for other people other
00:36:09.600
people have good intentions for you and even if they don't you end up winning anyway because good
00:36:13.960
always triumphs evil and so the intent of making the right decisions of what you know and feel in
00:36:21.140
your heart to be right even if it ends up being wrong is still you going down the path of becoming a
00:36:29.220
better person because you're going to learn right none of us make all the right decisions none of us
00:36:35.040
none of us even make the decisions that are the good decisions all the time in our life sometimes
00:36:40.140
we're like fuck i'll get away with this one and bro those always come back to bite you in the ass in
00:36:45.160
a really bad way and uh i learned this lesson from my mom dude you know um i talk an awful lot about my
00:36:52.100
dad because he taught us a lot of practical you know mindset and even business advice growing up
00:36:58.880
but this was a lesson i learned from my mom and you guys who listen to mfceo you've heard the story
00:37:03.740
before but uh when i was a little kid i can't remember how old i was i was little though um we
00:37:10.100
were walking down the aisle of deerberg's over there on tasson ferry and we always had like tang
00:37:18.280
and occasionally kool-aid and stuff like that but really it was like you know we were tang you know
00:37:24.420
what i'm saying flavorate yeah right exactly and we were walking down the aisle of uh the kool-aid aisle
00:37:30.760
you know and it's like all these colors and dude i'm seeing the kool-aid man bust through the wall
00:37:35.300
oh yeah you know what i'm saying like it's like kool-aid was a good brand when you were a kid bro
00:37:41.460
and we're in the kool-aid aisle and i see mountain berry punch bro and i i remember this very clearly
00:37:47.660
people are like how the fuck can you remember a flavor that they don't have any made in 20 years well
00:37:51.460
you'll know when i tell you so uh it's amazing what you remember when you get your ass beat for it
00:37:59.100
so so i uh i told my mom i remember i'm like mom let's get this mountain berry punch and she's like
00:38:07.280
no and i'm like oh come on let's get it and she's like put that back blah blah blah well i didn't put
00:38:12.320
it back i put it in my pocket and we went through the store we went home and i didn't think this you
00:38:17.420
know very far ahead because i didn't know how to make fucking kool-aid so uh so i wanted the kool-aid
00:38:23.260
and i pulled the packet out and i'm like mom will you make a kool-aid and she's like what's that and
00:38:29.600
i'm like it's mountain berry punch and dude she went i i remember that she went straight to the
00:38:35.280
fucking wooden spoon drawer oh fuck yeah and went to work those wooden spoons yes and cool and then
00:38:40.900
then after the work was done i had to give the uh kool-aid back to the deerbergs so she drove me
00:38:47.640
up to deerbergs and i had to walk in and be like hey i stole this and bro it was one of the most
00:38:53.640
important lessons i ever learned in my life which was to do the right thing and i think the lesson
00:38:57.240
there is even when you do something wrong and you figure out it's wrong make it right make it right
00:39:02.600
and i think that this is the i think this is the binding glue of american culture i think it's very
00:39:09.300
very important that all of us try to do what's right and try to live what's right and then when
00:39:14.000
we make wrong decisions we we take accountability and we stand up we say i i fucked up there i shouldn't
00:39:19.240
have done that uh and then don't do those things again and i think we could talk about success we
00:39:25.220
can talk about making money we could talk about the ultimate rebellion we could talk about all this
00:39:29.400
shit but everything that we talk about here comes back down to doing the right thing and treating
00:39:35.840
people right and being a good human and uh my dad used to say something similar to this um but it
00:39:42.820
was regarding the animals you know we're animal people my dad always said he's like if you be good
00:39:48.500
animals good things happen to you and dude i i believe that because i love animals it doesn't
00:39:53.920
matter if it's like a turtle or a deer or a duck like i'm not a hunter like and i'm not no shade on
00:39:59.600
anybody that does dude i get it like i get the whole thing um and i would definitely if i if that's
00:40:06.820
what i need to do i don't no problem with it but at the end of the day you know i think i think that's
00:40:12.340
true i think when we're good to animals and we're good to people i think good things happen to us and i
00:40:17.100
think god uh i think when we put that intent out there we get that back and i i've just seen too much
00:40:24.280
of it to deny its reality you know what i mean i think it's real i think when you treat people right
00:40:31.200
people treat you right i think when you do good things good things happen to you and if we're going
00:40:36.020
to talk about it in a practical sense i think that's what we're missing in the world what we're
00:40:39.280
missing is a bunch of people who are willing to do the right thing no matter what which is why we
00:40:42.960
see so many people being silent in the face of all this stuff going on in the world um because
00:40:47.900
they're afraid they know what's right but they don't do it you know what i mean and dude
00:40:51.940
ultimately when you know what's right and you don't follow through with doing what's right
00:40:55.640
what ends up happening is you end up having a lot of guilt a lot of frustration and a lot of pain
00:40:59.700
later because you realize that you were a coward in the time when it was time to do the right thing
00:41:04.640
and uh my brother always says this man he says there's never wrong time do the right thing
00:41:08.780
and uh i i think that's one of the most real statements that could possibly be made and i think
00:41:15.060
it affects everything i think it affects your personal life i think it affects your professional
00:41:19.140
life i think it affects how you feel about yourself and i think it affects the amount of
00:41:23.580
success that you're going to have in the world and the impact that you're going to have on the world
00:41:26.360
so uh when you ask how important is it i think it's the fundamental most important thing that you
00:41:31.820
could ever do is to try to do the right thing at every possible opportunity i love it man i love
00:41:36.480
it well guys andy that was three all right guys let's go have a good week pay the fee
00:41:41.700
yeah went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stove
00:41:47.800
counted millions in the code bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know