REAL AF with Andy Frisella - July 01, 2024


735. Q&AF： Favoritism At Work, Heartless Vs Using Heart Less & Getting Jealous Of Successful Friends


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On this episode of the Q&A, we have a special guest on the show today. We talk about mental toughness and how it can be applied in all areas of your life. We also talk about how to become mentally tough and how you can use mental toughness to become a better human being.

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00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
00:00:21.200 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys
00:00:26.240 as always we are starting the week off with a little q and a f that's where you submit the
00:00:31.960 questions and we give you the answers if you want your questions answered on the show you can do so
00:00:37.580 a couple different ways the first way is guys you can email these questions into ask andy at
00:00:42.140 andy for seller.com or you go on youtube in the comment sections on the q and a f episodes drop
00:00:47.220 the question in the comments and we'll choose some from there as well now through the week we're going
00:00:52.560 to have different formats of the show we like to say we have shows within the show tomorrow we're
00:01:00.040 going to have cti that stands for cruise the internet we're going to put topics up on the
00:01:04.720 screen we're going to speculate on what's true on what's not true and then we're going to talk about
00:01:08.580 how we the people have to solve some of these problems going on in the world other times
00:01:12.720 throughout the week we might have some real talk real talk is just 5 to 20 minutes and me giving
00:01:17.420 you some real talk and then we have occasionally 75 hard verses that's where someone who has
00:01:23.180 completed the 75 hard program comes on the show talks about how their life was in disorder and how
00:01:29.280 they got it in check using the 75 hard program if you're unfamiliar with the 75 hard program it is the
00:01:36.880 initial phase of the live hard program that you can get for free at episode 208 on the audio feed
00:01:43.780 only now live hard and 75 hard are the world's most popular mental transformation programs and
00:01:50.320 they're available for free now there is a book the book is not free and you can get that andy
00:01:55.660 for seller.com it's called the book on mental toughness and it explains the entire live hard
00:02:00.300 program inside and out plus 10 chapters on mental toughness why it's important and how to implement it in
00:02:05.860 your life along with real life examples of people that you know who have utilized mental toughness to
00:02:11.440 become the people that you recognize today now one thing about this show is we don't run ads you're
00:02:16.620 going to notice that there's no ads we are the only show that is this big in the world uh that does not
00:02:25.600 run ads on the show so the reason we don't do that is because i don't want to listen to somebody tell me
00:02:31.120 what i can and can't say i try to keep it real with you guys and i don't want anybody influencing that
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00:02:46.720 message please share the show all right we're dealing with censorship we deal with traffic
00:02:52.860 throttling shadow bans all the stuff because we talk about all this stuff we're not supposed to talk
00:02:58.020 about so help us get the message out and uh don't be a hoe show the show all right what's up dude 0.99
00:03:04.120 getting a little red over there red yeah what you talking about i'm just looking at the arms like
00:03:09.940 you got a little burned or something i don't get burned i didn't think you did it's not red that
00:03:14.380 looks a little red doesn't it boys this is do i look red for real just a little bit no that's called
00:03:18.560 tan is that tan yeah that's called tan shut the fuck up yeah it might be red it looks it just looks
00:03:28.540 like it looks like there's a red undertone that's just because i just got done having an annoying
00:03:33.300 conversation yeah you know when the hulk starts to turn green i love it when i start getting red
00:03:41.740 bro it's time to it's time to move along i get it yeah i get it i get it no everything is good man
00:03:46.540 what's going on with you oh not much just doing the thing man doing uh everything i can to be better
00:03:55.120 every day yeah you know you know i i do want to actually this is outside of the i got three good
00:04:00.460 ones for you guys of course but i wanted to ask you this i was thinking about this the other day
00:04:03.620 man because uh you know you were talking you know how you went 10 years basically making zero money
00:04:09.260 right yeah like you talk about that what was that first check like for you what do you mean first
00:04:13.180 check like when you first were finally able to kind of like pay yourself like what what was
00:04:17.240 what was that like after you know i'm saying because fuck you weren't making what like 700 bucks a 0.98
00:04:22.100 month yeah right um what did that first check feel like for you well i mean i had a lot of debt that i
00:04:28.880 had to pay so like the first few checks i never you never really it wasn't like i got money yeah
00:04:33.440 i remember um i bought a new dirt bike oh that's fucking yeah that was cool that's sweet yeah and it 0.75
00:04:41.380 was like 10 grand at the time which was like something i've never bought i had never bought something
00:04:48.260 for ten thousand dollars without having to like finance it and that was pretty cool you know um
00:04:54.040 and then you know i paid off my debts and uh started saving money and when i got money saved up i started
00:05:02.540 spending money yeah and uh you know it was it was cool man you know it's cool the first time you go from
00:05:09.880 you know making just a little bit of money to some reasonable money it's it's a good feeling you know
00:05:15.420 that it takes a lot of weight off it takes a lot of pressure off and i think a lot of people can
00:05:19.940 relate to that you know i think the difference here though is like the fact that you had to you
00:05:24.380 were already you had already built up that discipline like kind of just by default from
00:05:29.480 not making money you know i'm saying so like it didn't you didn't like lose your mind when you
00:05:33.300 started making money i think that's no yeah like dude that's the thing is like even still today like
00:05:37.800 i i only spend like 10 of what i make you know what i'm saying so like but you know and people see
00:05:44.960 my lifestyle there's like no there's no fucking way well dude i've been doing this for 25 fucking 0.96
00:05:49.400 years a big pie yeah so you know it's not you know a lot of guys when they're younger and i was one of
00:05:55.220 these guys too um you know they're spending their cash flow to live a life right and uh you know once
00:06:03.180 you start to figure out that you know it's better to have some money in the bank um you get right back
00:06:10.620 to that habit of of being frugal and disciplined with your money and here's the thing about
00:06:15.040 discipline with money is if you're undisciplined when you don't have money you don't automatically
00:06:19.180 become disciplined when you do have it so it's important when you have when you're not making a
00:06:23.640 lot of money to really get into good habits about what you spend and what you save and living within
00:06:29.080 your means or below your means um so that you know your your wealth so to speak can accumulate and
00:06:35.880 you have the opportunities to uh do things that you know actually make you wealthier long term
00:06:41.620 yeah so you know it's it's discipline and a lot of people think they're going to cultivate that
00:06:47.840 discipline around money once they start making it and get it yeah and dude that's not the case you and
00:06:53.880 i've had this talk before you know you have as a young person you have to get your discipline in line
00:07:01.240 with the money uh when you don't have any and then that way whenever you start to get it you you you
00:07:06.300 know you're responsible with it i mean bro look this is just real shit like if i wanted to i could be on 0.75
00:07:13.760 a fucking yacht floating around in the mediterranean and not have to fucking even think about shit you 0.97
00:07:20.860 know what i'm saying but like there's more work to do yeah and i love what i do i love when i come in
00:07:26.640 here and and get to work with the team and with you guys and with the guys around first form and s2
00:07:31.640 and the una vita guys and like just all the things i'm involved in it's it's you know i can't imagine
00:07:38.240 not doing that you know what i mean there's no amount of money that i would get that would make
00:07:43.560 me not want to do that for sure yeah you know what i'm saying like it's fun dude like we get to come
00:07:48.040 in here we get to create shit we get to build shit we get to help people get better like i mean real 0.77
00:07:54.800 talk dude like i don't think anybody has a cooler existence than i do no offense to you guys but
00:07:59.540 like everything we do here for the most part is you know i mean we're building an iconic brand
00:08:05.320 couple of them you know it's not many people get that opportunity and i'm i'm very very very thankful
00:08:10.760 for that and people always ask they're like why don't you travel well because i like coming here man
00:08:15.300 yeah you know what i mean i like being around the team i like you do travel you know i'm saying but
00:08:19.540 that's not like the identity that's not you're not gone every fucking weekend i think that most 0.97
00:08:23.600 people have a life that they want to escape from i didn't build my life that way i built my life
00:08:30.000 as a life that i want to live in and i enjoy it and i think it's very hard for people to hate their
00:08:35.460 lives to really understand that you know what i'm saying damn that's real man that's real uh well
00:08:41.460 guys andy i got some good ones for you let's uh let's dive into these questions um guys andy
00:08:47.680 question number one uh good morning andy good morning it was more i guess it was morning when he
00:08:52.060 wrote it yeah it's not morning right now um i mean it depends on when they're listening that's true
00:08:58.080 good morning guys good morning guys uh andy i've been listening to the podcast for about a year
00:09:05.060 uh and thank you for everything you do teach and preach i'm only 25 but you've given me more
00:09:10.780 knowledge than many of my mentors at this point um i have a question i haven't been able to find in the
00:09:16.740 qnaf feeds how do you deal with a co-worker who's a teacher's pet brown noser my shop is mostly full 1.00
00:09:25.040 of competitive people who strive to do better and always wanting to reach that next step in life or
00:09:29.860 their career my work is well funded and often has a handful of training opportunities or to work with
00:09:35.420 different teams the issue we're running into is one individual has been getting every single
00:09:41.180 training and work opportunity for quite some time i'm not the only one noticing it as others have
00:09:46.440 mentioned it uh when he is not in the room initially we were wondering if he is simply performing at a
00:09:51.500 higher standard than us only to come to the conclusion that he actually does less work than most of us yet
00:09:57.240 is still afforded all of these opportunities we realize this when he does actually come and work on a
00:10:03.100 project and has no idea what he's talking about or where to get started um he's constantly in the boss's
00:10:07.780 office and will hang out with them after hours i loved my job when i first got here but it's
00:10:12.760 discouraging not being allowed to enhance my skill set when i could very well use these trainings in
00:10:18.060 my day-to-day to do a better job for my shop any help would be greatly appreciated how do you deal
00:10:22.040 with with this teacher well first of all um i'm just going to tell you the truth you know 99 of the
00:10:29.200 time people say this shit they're in the wrong all right okay do you know why most people become the
00:10:34.820 favorites because they're great at what the fuck they do okay it's very rare that you just pick
00:10:40.580 some random favorite in your office and give them all the opportunities because you like them no i like
00:10:48.640 motherfuckers that get their shit done do it with a positive attitude set the standard for everybody 1.00
00:10:53.700 else around them and give it everything they have and produce actual results and then what happens is
00:11:00.340 i get close to those people because they make my life easier they take the headaches away they handle
00:11:06.200 shit that's usually the case in my entire 25 years in business i have never had what he just described
00:11:15.840 and so the way i'm reading this is you guys who are asking the question are full of shit all right 0.84
00:11:22.700 based upon my experience the reality is is you probably look at this person and see them and
00:11:29.800 want them to be unskilled and want them to be someone who's not contributing but if you have a
00:11:36.040 leader of your business and they are trying to win the people that they are going to be close to are the
00:11:41.400 people who like to win the most as well and that doesn't mean that they were friends before that means
00:11:46.880 they became bonded and friendly because they both are aligned in the mission do you know who i'm friends
00:11:54.020 with in our company i'll give you a clue the best ones okay you know why because they're the best and then
00:12:01.820 we become personal friends and then we go and have a drink or a dinner or a smoke you see what i'm saying
00:12:09.620 so that's usually how it works out now i'm going to try to address the question even though i think it's bullshit
00:12:16.020 um if that's really the case then you should have a transparent conversation with the boss
00:12:24.920 uh about your frustrations and you should go in there with some documentation
00:12:30.260 all right some evidence evidence because a lot of employees they like to come in and they like to say
00:12:37.240 well it seems like you're favoring so and so and you say okay well why why would you think that
00:12:42.120 well they're in your office all the time well you could come in my office if you want
00:12:46.980 well they're always here well you don't ask me to do those things well you guys go to dinner well
00:12:53.540 you're not you you you aren't available for dinner right you know and what happens is because employees
00:13:00.620 like to get in these little culture bubbles and yap together and then they make up these stories that
00:13:06.520 aren't even fucking true and then they hate the boss and they hate the guy and they say it's all 0.86
00:13:11.660 about favoritism and then and then they carry that attitude from this place to the next place to the
00:13:19.360 next place creating cancer everywhere they go and the people who run the businesses are smart and they
00:13:25.800 say that guy's cancer we got to work that guy out that's what happens so you know if you really think
00:13:32.060 this is happening document the evidence document all the shit that apparently he doesn't do and go 0.81
00:13:39.080 to the fucking superior and say hey man the team and i are kind of feeling like you're fucking us 0.99
00:13:45.260 all right this little dude here he's not doing this and this and this i got evidence of it
00:13:49.640 he's got you snowball bro we all like him but like we're we're high class hard-working
00:13:55.780 motherfuckers too not just that guy and this is bothering us and it's creating this in the team 0.76
00:14:01.600 have a real conversation but you know what i bet you won't because that takes fucking courage and 0.91
00:14:06.600 that takes balls and most people would rather yippy yap amongst themselves than to actually address
00:14:12.180 the problem like a grown adult i feel like a lot of times too man it's like you know people there's a
00:14:19.420 there's there's for some reason there's a delayed reaction in in taking advantage of the opportunities
00:14:27.020 that come your way right and like just because you missed that opportunity that doesn't mean you can
00:14:31.940 just shit talk everybody else that did take it you didn't take it dj you had the same training like 0.87
00:14:36.580 you know i'm saying that email for those trainings came out to youtube dj you know this becomes the
00:14:41.160 reason that it's like this and you'll be able to recognize this when i say it and so will you guys
00:14:45.820 the reason it's like that is because those people misunderstand the dynamic
00:14:52.240 of opportunity taking why do you think it says take the opportunity it doesn't say receive the
00:15:01.200 opportunity it doesn't say have the opportunity granted to you it doesn't say get lucky with the
00:15:07.860 opportunity it says take the opportunity you know what that means that means you have to seize it
00:15:14.760 that means you have to take it no one's going to give it to you no one's going to come and say here i
00:15:20.160 got this path you can make a million bucks a year or 10 million bucks a year if you do no one that's
00:15:26.140 not how it works bro true high achievers they they look for the lane and then they take the opportunity
00:15:34.720 by taking initiative and a lot of people don't like to do that because they do this well what if i do all
00:15:40.920 this shit and they don't recognize me i'm not going to put in all this work and you know fucking have 0.98
00:15:45.760 them not pay me for my blah blah blah let me tell you something bro that's loser talk because
00:15:50.100 here's the reality if you took the opportunity you learn the skills you learn how to solve the
00:15:55.640 problems and you were actually valuable and your fucking place of business doesn't recognize it you 0.98
00:16:00.840 just learned a whole new set of skills that you could take elsewhere and make more money you see
00:16:06.260 what i'm saying so it's fucking take the opportunity and these people have a misunderstanding 0.95
00:16:11.340 of that they believe that if i show up every day because they do they all got parents that think
00:16:16.780 like this that's what it always comes down to if i show up every day and i put in my time and i'm
00:16:22.760 there five minutes after five o'clock and i'm there three minutes before eight i show up early and i stay
00:16:30.600 late and i blah blah blah and they're not and they're fucking me over so there's no point to it so i just 0.99
00:16:37.920 won't even try because they're just gonna they're just gonna do they're gonna take advantage of me they're
00:16:43.400 gonna build their company on my on my back you know i read this thing on the internet about about
00:16:48.960 quiet quitting you know i'm just not gonna do my job and you know we're gonna see how long i get paid
00:16:54.880 and when they yell at me i'll do a little extra but that's all i'm doing and that's what the fuck they 0.91
00:16:59.140 do that's what they do okay there's a you gotta understand i have fucking managed thousands of 0.90
00:17:05.460 people there are two fucking kinds of people there are the kind of people who say i'm gonna fucking 0.97
00:17:10.440 become an asset i'm gonna take advantage of the opportunity i'm gonna take the opportunity i'm
00:17:14.720 gonna be the best i'm gonna put points on the board i'm gonna score fucking touchdowns and i'm 0.99
00:17:19.200 gonna get fucking paid and then there's the kind of people who say if i show up long enough and i'm 0.91
00:17:24.840 here long enough eventually i'll be owed the opportunity those people lose and it's that it's
00:17:29.980 that simple yeah i love it man i love it uh guys any question number two what's up andy uh and dj i got
00:17:38.060 a quick question on when to not be heartless but just use my heart less i think of myself as a
00:17:44.980 driven person i love my work and often get obsessed with it to the best i can be and often get made fun
00:17:51.760 of for it by my co-workers however um often i get called upon for this or that issue by some of them
00:18:00.460 because i pay attention to details and pick up on things do i stick to my morals and just be the
00:18:05.200 better person and let them figure it out i often battle with myself on this as i have grown with
00:18:10.460 uh a people pleaser mentality right so like what's your take on
00:18:15.320 using your heart or like keeping emotions i guess out of certain things when it when it comes to this
00:18:21.960 this path you're on is it a heartless path have you found yourself
00:18:25.980 look if you really care about someone are you going to take it easy on them or are you going to
00:18:35.900 tell them hey dude you suck right here i need you to get better are you going to are you going to let 0.95
00:18:40.980 them have a pass because you like them or are you going to look at them and say hey bro i want the
00:18:46.960 best for you this needs to be fixed this needs to be fixed this needs to be fixed okay a lot of people
00:18:52.040 will take this i got to use my heart less because they don't understand the dynamic of what actually
00:18:58.860 caring about someone looks like actually caring about someone is not letting someone slide it's
00:19:03.880 not letting someone get away with less than what they could do it's not letting someone you know
00:19:08.400 flounder and rot and sit around and just let life pass them by if you really care about someone you're
00:19:15.420 going to say hey motherfucker you got a lot of potential dude but here's what you're doing wrong and 0.89
00:19:19.680 you need to fix this and this and this or you're going to be this and that's what caring about
00:19:24.220 someone actually looks like okay so when you say use your heart less how i hear that is you're just
00:19:31.800 going to let people flounder versus actually giving a fuck about them and calling them out on their shit
00:19:37.660 and you're asking the question from a perspective of well i got to use my heart less so i can have more
00:19:44.120 direct conversations bro you you got it fucking confused okay using your heart less will produce 0.96
00:19:52.480 a situation for your friends and your employees where they are worse off okay using your heart more
00:19:59.300 and realizing what it looks like to use that actually makes you an amazing leader so i don't buy into this
00:20:05.700 shit about i got to keep it real with the guys i got to be use my heart less that's not what 0.74
00:20:10.980 leadership is about leadership is hey dude i fucking love you but like look you got to fix this 0.83
00:20:17.100 and you got to fix that and you got to fix this or you know i'm gonna have to make a change you got
00:20:21.620 to understand i'm here to do this and as much as i care about you if you continue to go down this path
00:20:27.620 there's not going to be a spot for you in the boat all right and i love you dude i love having you here
00:20:32.160 i love who you are as a person but you got to improve this and this and this and then that person
00:20:37.860 goes and improves this and this and this their life gets better they make more money and then
00:20:41.420 they come to you and they say thank you okay it's not about making them like you now it's about making
00:20:46.880 them love you 10 years from now all right and that takes some uncomfortable conversations but i can
00:20:52.400 tell you for sure dude if you're in once you get used to communicating this way and you understand
00:20:58.120 that caring about people equals telling them the truth and giving them good critiques where they can
00:21:03.280 help themselves be better it's not that hard to do okay it becomes easy to do because you understand
00:21:10.700 the intent behind it but when the intent behind it is well i gotta have a hard conversation with joe
00:21:16.900 and i know he's gonna be upset and i don't want to piss him off and he's my friend so i'm just gonna
00:21:22.180 not say anything to him bro you ain't that guy's friend you're a fucking you're you're actually the 0.99
00:21:27.440 opposite of that person's friend so let's get straight on what using your heart more or less
00:21:32.100 actually means i believe all leadership should use their heart more but also make decisions based
00:21:38.540 upon facts not feelings and you can do both all right both can exist just because you use your
00:21:45.040 heart more doesn't mean you know you're going to uh let things slide when the results are very
00:21:53.600 obviously not ideal or less than what they should be using your heart more in that situation say hey come
00:21:59.780 here what the fuck is this why is this this way here's what you need to do to get this in the 0.86
00:22:06.160 right spot you see what i'm saying oh come on man i thought we were boys no we are boys that's why i'm
00:22:10.840 trying to fix your shit so you don't fucking end up broke being a piece of shit over there complaining 0.97
00:22:15.280 about how life fucked you over right so we are fucking boys if we weren't boys i wouldn't say 0.98
00:22:19.880 shit to you i let you fucking flounder and you know you know what that's what i do that's how i lead 0.99
00:22:25.560 okay and i i think it works pretty well yeah all right now let me ask you this on that though
00:22:30.600 is there at what point do you have do you have to stop like at what point i mean there's a saying
00:22:37.080 like you can't i got like a three i got like a two or three strike dude like if i gotta mention
00:22:40.940 something to someone three times i usually fire them you know i'm saying if it's not a if it's a
00:22:46.460 performance thing yeah if it's a if it's a moral violation or a culture violation i just fire them
00:22:52.440 right away like no matter how much you you want them to win or do good or succeed if somebody does
00:22:57.560 something unethical they get fired yeah if someone does something because they don't know or their
00:23:01.840 work ethic is off or they're dealing with something personal you get you might get a little chance
00:23:06.100 right but you ain't gonna get forever chances right you know what i mean right that's where people
00:23:10.080 fuck up yeah because dude when you do lead like that what happens is and everybody starts to know
00:23:14.420 that you lead like that they start to take advantage of you they'll tell you this every
00:23:18.040 time they're not doing something they tell you this sad story about you know how life's not going
00:23:23.040 their way right now or they're struggling right now and at the end of the day i i feel i feel that
00:23:27.660 because i've been through those times too but at the end of the day you got to show up and you got
00:23:31.620 to put points on the border you don't get to be on the fucking team you think that in the nfl they 0.97
00:23:36.060 they let somebody come to and stay on the team that comes in every other week it says bro i'm having
00:23:41.200 mental problems i'm super depressed the mental health i don't dude and that's the new thing
00:23:46.160 that's the thing that the that's where they try to leverage it because if you fucking say no you're 0.61
00:23:50.920 not then then you're like an insensitive fucking piece of shit you hate people with ptsd yes
00:23:56.720 well like dude it's not a reasonable excuse we are here to do a thing we are doing that thing
00:24:04.780 we are doing it well and if you cannot do the thing well you cannot be on the team and yes you
00:24:10.860 will have certain situations that you know like maybe you're going through some shit the super 0.94
00:24:17.500 killers the people who fucking kill they don't people don't even know what they're going through 0.95
00:24:21.780 no idea they have no idea you know what i'm saying real champions don't bitch about their circumstances 0.99
00:24:27.620 they get the job done either way and that's what they do every single one person i know
00:24:34.440 that operates on a high level they handle their shit and they do the thing and you say well you
00:24:40.320 know maybe they're not happy maybe they're not but they don't fuck up their lives because they're 0.62
00:24:45.300 fucking feeling a certain way you know what i mean well i mean i feel like even even just that bro 0.77
00:24:50.820 like that that's a like a misconception that like i have to be happy to produce like i have to be
00:24:56.980 in this perfect state of body mind spirit soul to produce and like or listen have you found that to be
00:25:02.900 the truth no i feel like people are liars people lie you know what i'm saying like they they lie about
00:25:11.700 how bad things are for themselves they make up these crazy stories they make it way worse and then they
00:25:18.340 end up imploding because they've told themselves this story so much that they can't even function
00:25:23.720 you know what i'm saying like bro you got to grow the fuck up like you got to grow the fuck up dude 0.99
00:25:28.620 like this shit nobody cares nobody really does care dude nobody cares you know have you have you do 0.97
00:25:35.400 you think you've produced more in times of darkness than in times of like when everything was perfect
00:25:39.940 i produce more when i'm pissed off like when i have a chip on my shoulder that's when i like
00:25:45.180 the best thing that can happen to me is someone disrespect me or talk shit or one of my competitors 0.53
00:25:52.760 slight me or do something like dude that's that's where you're giving me free fucking game and i and 0.99
00:25:58.780 like i can take a little bit of that negativity and turn it into a lot of productive action and uh i
00:26:04.060 operate from the dark side i always have i put the best fucking i put my best shit out when i'm the 0.98
00:26:09.400 most pissed off and um you know not everybody operates that way but i i i don't know the most
00:26:15.540 effective people i know do even if they don't admit it you know the most i've i've had the chance to
00:26:20.780 interview literally some of the richest people in the world some of the most crazy hall of fame athletes
00:26:27.640 i mean i could go down the list bro like it's it's a true vip of culture people that i've been
00:26:33.620 fortunate enough to to meet and get to be friends with and know and have real conversations with at
00:26:39.860 the highest level of whatever they do and i'm just going to tell you dude this pie in the sky
00:26:45.540 fucking feel good shit it doesn't exist with those people those people fucking hate their competitors 0.81
00:26:50.880 they fucking want to win more than anything nice people they're nice no they will sit down
00:26:56.860 they will sit down with their competitors and drink beer and shit right they know the difference
00:27:01.800 between competition and friendship in fact having high competition actually cultivates better
00:27:07.660 friendships but most people are so fucking weak they will never figure that out okay so but i'm 0.98
00:27:13.620 telling you dude i've interviewed these people i know these people i'm friends with these people
00:27:17.260 these are people i fucking talk to when i'm on the phone these motherfuckers will kill you okay now 1.00
00:27:22.840 they might go on tv and smile and make jokes and blah blah blah but you put them in a competitive
00:27:28.480 environment bro they are out for fucking blood and that's the reality dude and so like yeah i think 0.91
00:27:34.980 hard times actually produce better action when you know how to harness it um but a lot of people don't
00:27:42.040 a lot of people think you know they listen to the internet and they listen to a lot of these you know
00:27:47.620 quote-unquote mental health professionals who fucking fill their minds with a bunch of idealistic shit 0.86
00:27:53.720 about the way things aren't and should be and never will be and because they never will be
00:27:58.200 this person spends their life in a cycle of perpetual fucking aggravation and frustration 0.96
00:28:04.480 idealism is terrible for you bro you have to be a realist you're not going to feel good all the time
00:28:09.900 things aren't going to go your way all the time it's going to be way harder than you think it's going
00:28:13.740 to take way longer than you think you're going to be fucked over by everybody that you know 0.94
00:28:17.100 you're going to fucking lose girlfriends you're going to lose boyfriends you're going to get sick 0.97
00:28:21.140 you're going to have things happen and guess what you still have to learn to operate when those
00:28:26.160 things happen when life happens and uh that's the game you know i mean it's it's i think it's required
00:28:33.220 personally i love it dude i don't think being i i think that society especially young people
00:28:40.640 put far too much emphasis on being happy right now than they do on focusing on a career
00:28:51.000 and a life that they want to build that's going to make them happy now i'm not saying you have to
00:28:56.060 work your life away but i'm saying you have to understand that when you're young that's when you
00:29:01.360 should be building right you shouldn't be floating through life enjoying the fucking weather like
00:29:07.720 people who do that they're going to have to build later and it's going to be harder for them to
00:29:12.080 build or they're not going to end up with anything so they won't have the life they want they won't
00:29:16.180 have the the the shit they want in life and they're going to say well what happened well you ran out of 0.70
00:29:20.460 time because you used all your time doing these other things and that's okay but don't be mad that
00:29:25.780 you didn't get something that other people have when other people fucking invested their time 0.93
00:29:30.140 differently when you were out sniffing the fucking roses you see what i'm saying it's real shit like 0.96
00:29:35.800 dude i get a lot of i get i get people say comments to me all the time you know like i had this dude
00:29:40.140 message me and he's like andy i love your i love your shit but dude i'm gonna tell you what 0.89
00:29:44.820 the last thing i ever want to see when i come home from work is your fucking car collection it 0.98
00:29:49.260 pisses me off well fuck bro sorry it makes you mad what'd you do for the last 25 years because i'll 1.00
00:29:55.420 tell you what i did i did the same shit you see me doing now for 25 years and i bet if i were to go 0.77
00:30:01.500 back and play your fucking tape it looks a lot different than my tape okay and when we go back 0.99
00:30:07.100 and we say okay well what have you done for the last 25 years between eat breathe shit and complain 0.79
00:30:14.360 i bet you people have a hard time saying anything 25 years what have you done for 25 years besides
00:30:21.020 breathe the air be alive eat and shit what tell me one fucking thing and if you could tell me one 0.99
00:30:27.340 thing then fine but you can't i've been doing this for 25 years i don't give a fuck what you think of 0.92
00:30:34.540 my lifestyle i fucking love it oh if i didn't earn it after 25 years you hold on who gets it so when do 0.85
00:30:44.120 you magically get this when do you magically get to live your life yeah and you still get these
00:30:49.180 motherfuckers talking shit you know and they can't come to terms with the fact that for for all those 1.00
00:30:56.560 times when i was doing all that shit they were out doing other shit and then they're mad today that 0.93
00:31:02.540 they don't have the result that i have you can't do that that's not reality bro and if you're gonna
00:31:07.760 think that way you're fucking loser that's real shit man that's real guys andy our third and final 0.99
00:31:14.040 question andy question number three hey andy i'm 26 and i'm seeing some of my friends doing really
00:31:21.260 well in their careers and starting families getting married and i've been focused maintained in my lane
00:31:27.220 and i'm continuing to improve myself every day here's the issue though i feel like i'm starting to get
00:31:33.240 some jealousy that is sneaking in this is actually great at least right off of this question we just
00:31:37.880 had man i'm i'm feeling some jealousy that is starting to sneak in and i can't tell if i'm more
00:31:43.380 mad at myself for not having any results yet uh or if i'm just genuinely pissed at them for winning
00:31:49.540 i just want some clarity on this bro thank you this is perfect let's go back and play your tape
00:31:54.280 what'd you do on your tape what'd they do on their tape it's no different than nfl game tape bro
00:31:59.840 what'd you do what'd they do did you do the same things they did and you end up with a different
00:32:04.400 result i highly doubt it i highly doubt it i don't think that happened i don't think you showed up and
00:32:11.500 did the same things they did and you just got screwed out of the result that's not what happened
00:32:16.160 what happened was they did different things you did different things the things they did produce the
00:32:22.040 result the things you did did not produce the result and now you're mad about it so you have to
00:32:27.140 understand it's practical okay one you can learn what are they doing and how do i get better and
00:32:34.500 how do i do it better two there is a literal law like gravity all right and you may argue with me
00:32:41.900 that it's this is that's hocus pocus well i don't know people thought gravity was hocus pocus for
00:32:47.000 fucking a thousand fucking nine thousand years before it was discovered okay um so here's the 0.83
00:32:53.240 deal it is what the fuck it is if you hate on people's success you're not going to have any 0.75
00:32:58.500 that doesn't just have to be verbal either it's inside of you all right so you have to learn how
00:33:04.280 to be happy for people's success how i deal with that is i look at other people and i think very
00:33:09.640 simply what one man can do another can do so when i see someone winning bigger than me i look at them
00:33:15.540 and i say okay what are they doing different i think it's awesome that they're winning how how
00:33:19.360 can i win like that how can i win bigger than that and that's how i think about i don't think
00:33:23.080 about it like no because i look at it and i say that is literal fucking undeniable proof 0.94
00:33:32.280 that i can win too so why would i be upset about that you see what i'm saying yeah yeah let me
00:33:38.580 actually because i mean like i was reading this and like i mean he's young is it also possible
00:33:43.000 bro that like the plants just haven't like butted up through the fucking soil yet man well i mean look 0.94
00:33:48.660 dude there's only real two two real things that that can be going on if if you are maintaining
00:33:54.740 and improving yourself and if you're doing the work and you're actually working hard and you're
00:34:00.600 doing things the right way and you're executing there's only two reasons that shit hasn't materialized 0.68
00:34:05.660 one you could be working the wrong plan which is why you need to look at everybody else's success
00:34:10.920 objectively and not emotionally all right you got to look around and say okay what's that guy doing
00:34:15.660 what's this guy doing over here that seems to work why doesn't that work and you need to become a
00:34:21.240 student of what works and what doesn't work okay in a practical way so if you're clouded by emotion
00:34:27.060 as to you know when i look at someone who's winning bigger than me and i'm like fuck fucking hate that 0.95
00:34:32.440 guy i can't see the technique clearly which keeps me from understanding what the real plan should be
00:34:39.900 right and then the second the second part of that is you you maybe haven't been working the plan long
00:34:44.940 enough and this is a big problem most people have a very disconnected viewpoint of what it takes versus
00:34:53.340 what it actually takes and i believe that this is because of all the deceptive marketing on the
00:34:59.400 internet get rich now it's easy buy my course and i'll make you a millionaire in fucking six weeks 0.97
00:35:06.280 do this do that work from anywhere have no worries be your own boss bro all of this shit is nonsense 0.94
00:35:14.240 it's nonsense bullshit and it sets an expectation for people that is unrealistic about the amount of
00:35:22.700 time about how hard it's going to be about what it's going to actually take and for that reason these
00:35:28.520 people who go down the path they think they're doing something wrong too early all right and that's a
00:35:34.780 very difficult thing to know if you don't know right how do i know i'm working the right plan
00:35:40.160 all right well i gotta look around here without getting emotional how do i know if i'm doing it
00:35:45.040 long enough well how long did it take him how long did it take him how long did it take the guys you
00:35:50.680 really fucking admire not these internet boners that tell you all this shit right okay how long are the 0.89
00:35:58.540 real guys telling you it takes and we get ignored people like me get ignored for the favor of quick and
00:36:04.920 easy and fast but you're gonna know and you're gonna find out that i'm right and you're gonna waste
00:36:10.100 fucking years chasing something that doesn't exist there is no easy way there is no fast way those 0.90
00:36:16.940 things are the anomaly and guess what motherfucker you ain't the anomaly okay so while it might have 0.98
00:36:22.160 worked for this guy and he invested in crypto in 2010 and now he's a billionaire that's him not you
00:36:28.500 okay while it may have happened in uh you know two years for this guy because he developed some
00:36:35.400 proprietary technology or proprietary product that just took off or he had uh you know an immense
00:36:41.780 amount of celebrity and was able to market the product guess what that is not the norm that's the
00:36:47.880 anomaly and that is not who the fuck you are you're a regular motherfucker that's gonna have to build it 0.99
00:36:52.860 from scratch it's gonna have to grind it the fuck out and that's gonna take a long time that's not
00:36:57.080 gonna happen in six months bro right so so look at the plan analyze the plan unemotionally what's that
00:37:05.520 person doing that's working what's that person doing that's not working how can i improve upon that
00:37:10.960 am i doing my plan wrong how's it compared to the plans that are working and then make a decision about
00:37:16.940 what plan you're going to work and then realize that you know uh when you get tired it's going to
00:37:22.340 take a million miles more from that point on all right so the greatest things in the world were
00:37:28.100 built by tired people all right i know you're tired i know it's hard i know you're exhausted
00:37:33.200 the fucking wonders of the world guess who they were built by exhausted people the buildings that 0.94
00:37:39.020 you admire guess who they were designed by and built by people that were tired everything great in
00:37:44.000 the world was built by tired motherfuckers so it doesn't matter if you're tired you just have to keep
00:37:47.700 going i love that man i want i feel like there's something else here too man like even just
00:37:52.460 analyzing this and you know i know you touch on this quite a bit man but it's like something to
00:37:57.020 just ask yourself dude like is what you're actually seeing real is you know i'm saying because it's easy
00:38:03.800 to portray things are all good and you know perfect you know family house kids cool but like is it real
00:38:09.160 like is that is there really any substance there you know when you're when you're looking out like you
00:38:14.580 got to verify that stuff is is that stuff actually even real what you're seeing what you think you're
00:38:18.560 seeing well this is what i ask people to do i ask people to to examine you know there's so many
00:38:24.360 fucking wealth life business coaches out here that don't haven't done anything but sell a program about
00:38:31.380 that okay so why do they have nice shit because they're selling people like you these courses that
00:38:37.420 tell them how to do shit that that person has never done so you have to do your due diligence you have 0.59
00:38:43.020 to ask yourself who is this person really do they actually have a business are they actually where
00:38:49.640 i want to be do they have customers can i use their product what do their employees say how many
00:38:55.240 employees do they have where's their headquarters where's their place of business do they have a
00:39:00.140 real business or is it this one of these magical you know i own 50 companies and you can't figure out
00:39:06.220 which ones they are right with a po box yeah bro look dude a lot of these people are fucking liars 0.94
00:39:11.840 that's just the fucking reality of it okay so you have to ask very basic questions 0.77
00:39:17.220 to keep yourself from getting fucking taken advantage of and you know i see people complaining 0.94
00:39:24.080 about well this guy took advantage of me well this did he really because you knew in your heart and in
00:39:30.460 your soul that that was a quick easy way and what it really tells me is that you're just like that
00:39:35.960 motherfucker you you want to do the same thing that motherfucker's doing you want to tell people 0.98
00:39:40.660 this shit works super fast and you want to charge them a bunch of money and you want to have your
00:39:46.040 well you deserve to fucking lose you see what i'm saying so like dude this shit it's not that hard 0.95
00:39:52.800 to verify the difference between someone who's actually done it and someone who pretends to have
00:39:59.320 done it i mean it's maybe it's hard for the younger guys to be able to tell but i mean it's very easy
00:40:04.740 for me to tell yeah for sure yeah i could see where it would be hard if you didn't know yeah
00:40:09.120 bro because the rolex is a fucking rolex nobody knows that's what i'm saying yeah that's what i'm 0.97
00:40:13.180 saying dude and ask yourself some of those questions go back and listen to those questions
00:40:18.060 take a piece of paper out fucking write all those questions down and any person that you consider 0.97
00:40:24.400 that you want to help you or coach you or you want to be a part of their thing write the answer
00:40:29.260 of those questions that i just gave you down on the right side of the paper next to the questions
00:40:34.100 and the motherfuckers that have an answer for all of them those are people you can learn from 0.55
00:40:37.820 yeah i love it man i love it well happy monday guys guys that was three yeah let's go kick some
00:40:44.480 ass this week all right don't be a hoe show the show went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry 0.99
00:40:49.940 box froze fuck a pole fuck a stove counted millions in the code bad bitch booted swole got her on bank 1.00
00:40:57.100 roll can't fold doesn't know headshot case closed