743. Q&AF： Jealousy In Family Business, The Idea Of "Obsession" & Initiating Change For Yourself
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In this episode of the show we talk about how to get better at being a strong independent human being especially an american. We also discuss how to make money, kick ass, and be a strong human being, especially an American.
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what is up guys it's andy brucella and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
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all right what's up dude what's gucci my everything you're what my head
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everything's good i see you got your pesante your aqua pesante over there yeah i do have it um
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looking a little pesante aqua pesante i love the water for winners yeah it's all i drink is pesante
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is that really how that feels though yeah that's what these motherfuckers do bro they take they take
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money from companies and then they stand on there and they're like oh aqua pesante i drink this and
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then they pull out their fiji water or whatever it is it's like dude what are we doing here i drink it
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all the time yeah every day especially when i'm feeling too bougie i drink it to just to realign me
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back to bring me humble that's right it's humble water humility humble water very important got to
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be humble don't shine too much yeah yeah man um sweet it is uh it is q a uh obviously we're here to
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make people better and hydrated with pesante water okay aqua pesante they're paying you man
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sorry guys i apologize paying you in water um let's make some people better let's do it let's
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let's do it guys andy i got three good ones the first thing you can do to get better is to get
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yourself a nice cold bottle of aqua pesante you know it just rolls off your tongue guys i used to
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have a hard time reading uh the questions and headlines and outlines but ever since i've
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started drinking pesante aqua pesante water stuff just flows off my tongue like they flow out the
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pipes of flip michigan that's not bad it wasn't bad yeah that's good all right guys andy question
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number one uh andy and dj man i need some help with the situation my company uh was recently acquired
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by a family owned and operated company in eight short months our new ceo has placed his two sons
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in high level leadership roles one a 23 year old guy is now a leader in business development and the
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other a 28 year old guy is the director of operations at one of our facilities granted i'm only 35 i've also
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clawed my way from being a temporary employee making seven dollars an hour to a professional in the
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business side of our organization over the course of 15 years here's my conundrum i feel a little
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jealousy uh that these two guys who have no experience in our industry were awarded very
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respectable positions without the positions being posted i respect the ceo but not his decision how
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do i get over this shit and just move on anything is appreciated thanks for everything you guys do
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well you could go start your own company and work at it for a couple decades and then you can hire
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whoever the fuck you feel like hiring how about that okay like you didn't build the company you
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don't get to make those decisions because you didn't take the risk and you didn't make the investment
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and while i think that's probably a poor business move on his part to put unqualified people in a
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position of power and authority and important positions strategically for your company that aren't
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qualified that's a bad chess move doesn't matter if they're your brother doesn't matter if they're your
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son doesn't matter if it's whoever it's just not good business so um that's his right to make those
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decisions and i think it's probably pretty stupid uh and you probably think it's pretty stupid so what
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can you do well nothing okay uh you're not related to the guy and you know i i don't know man like i don't
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know why this would bother you why why do you fucking care like aren't you worried about your performance
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the only way that this would bother me is if i was losing because of someone else being put in
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front of me that wasn't qualified and if that's the case then maybe you should look for a different
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career maybe you should go to a different place that's not going to have nepotism issues or family
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business issues but i can tell you this you're going to have that you're going to have drawbacks
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there as well you know in family businesses they tend to care about their employees a lot more than
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people who don't um sometimes things like this happen and they're not received well and people
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get pissed off but the reality is is if you're focused on yourself and you're focused on how good
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you are you should shine head and shoulders above them if you've been doing this for so long and if
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you had to claw your way into the position that you're in shouldn't it be easy for you to show why
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you're better than they are you know i would put that on full display through your performance
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dude look man here's the deal too many of you guys waste way too much time worried about what's
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going on with other people and yeah i understand it can make you jealous and yeah i understand it
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piss you off and yeah i can understand that it ain't fair but guess what life is not fucking fair
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and you all worry about this like it is you're you're expecting something that will never be it will
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never be fair it will never ever ever ever ever be fair ever now what are you going to sit on the
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sideline and cry about how it's not fair are you going to write emails into the show and say
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andy this isn't fair what should i do or are you going to say well it's not fair it's my job to be
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undeniably great at what i do because if i'm undeniably great at what i do then it doesn't
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really matter if they recognize me here because they'll recognize me in other places if that's what
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i need to do as well and so many people spend so much time worried about what other people are doing
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that they never become great at what they do and so it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy
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and the nepotism and the brother or the son or whoever's ahead of you stays ahead of you because
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you're so worried about what that person's doing and not worried at all about developing your own
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skill set and this is what holds so many people back so if i were you i would have a come to jesus
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myself and say this well it's not fucking fair so how do i make it as fair as possible for me well
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you make it as fair as possible for you by being great at what you do and that takes you not looking
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at them but looking at what it is that you do how good you actually are and making the adjustments to
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be great from the position that you are currently in and if everybody did this your career and your
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life and everything else would go much better and it would go much faster but you know it doesn't it
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doesn't always happen like that you know employees look at other employees or and they they say oh that
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that guy got this and that guy got that like two little kids like oh that guy got an extra half
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scoop of ice cream on my fucking ice cream cone you sound like a bunch of fucking communists bro
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not everybody's going to get the same because not everybody's value the same and guess what
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because those are that man's sons they are going to be more valuable to him than you are
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that's reality dude they don't know you yeah he knows his sons yes yeah like dude what do you
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i can understand you could be a little upset about that i can understand that it that it irritates
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you but at the end of the day it's reality dude and you have to come to terms with it and whatever
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hardships or whatever frustrations or walls or boundaries that come in front of you it's your job to
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fucking run through those okay and that's not going to happen because you're complaining about joe over
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here getting preferential treatment because he's this dude's son so if i were you i would stop
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focusing any energy on them and focus on what you can do and focus on how you could get better and if
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that's not rewarded it will be rewarded somewhere else yeah i love that man it's like it's like
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you know i think about like and and i'm sure you know this better than i do man but it's like
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you know champion winners you're running the race very rarely will you see the guy running in first
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place look behind and see where everybody else is in the race very rarely and when they do they
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typically always get caught they listen people coming behind winners focus on winning losers focus
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on winners yeah that's reality and dude this is something that people just can't get through their
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head they want everything to be fucking fair it is not ever going to be fair ever there are going to
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be people that are better looking than you they're going to be people that have better genetics than you
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they're gonna be people that are smarter than you they're gonna have people that have no money than
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you or grew up in a better family or have more advantages or have more opportunities so what
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okay it's your job to assess where are you and then take the action to get where you want to go
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regardless of where you start regardless of where someone else starts and so many people tell
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themselves this ridiculous story about all these advantages that other people have when in reality
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a lot of times these people didn't even have those advantages so it becomes a self-victimizing
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story that people tell i can't get ahead because the two bosses sons are in charge of everything
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or this place sucked then quit they go work somewhere else bro but i bet you a hundred bucks
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you're gonna go over to the other place you're gonna find some fucking problem over there
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that's the same exact deal over here that guy's got this that guy got that that guy got this bro
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that's loser shit winner tom brady that didn't at the last whatever he was the six round pick or
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whatever right he didn't sit on the fucking sidelines of the game and say fuck it's not
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fair that drew blood so is getting to play it's not fair that you know so and so is getting all
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this credit it's not no he said fuck i'm gonna fucking put the work in i'm gonna become great i'm
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gonna worry about myself i'm gonna take more reps i'm gonna spend more time in film i'm gonna spend
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more time in the weight room i'm going to get better and you know what happened he becomes the
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greatest of all time because he's not looking over here and he's not looking over there he's
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looking right in front of him to what he could control to improve his situation and guess what
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that works for everybody but we spend so much time looking over here and looking over there
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and what if and what if i do that and you know these are there's a different circumstance we make
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all these excuses instead of just buckling down and saying i am going to become great at this
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and whatever happens as a result of that is what happens and i can tell you that the result of
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becoming great at anything is always good it's never you don't go backwards there's no one who
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ever you know had some natural ability in the nfl that focused on the shit they had to do in front
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of them that had a shitty career it's not happened bro maybe they get hurt and they tear their knee up
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or something but dude not fair yeah right it's not fair it's never gonna be fair bro i love that man
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let me let me ask you this too because you know you you obviously 25 years in business you've met
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a lot of different uh owners leaders in their fields and industries and the companies this this
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concept i want to touch on this and this concept of you know this bringing in family members or
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whatever the case is right like you said you know this was not a good decision for people that look
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at you know your companies or don't take a look at first one for example sal he's your brother
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yeah he grew up with them yeah but sal had experience before sal was the number one salesman
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sal was the number one salesman at his previous a place of employment which was a global
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company for two years in a row number one in the world sal's extremely smart he's an extremely
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good operator he's extremely good with people and with sales and he's qualified there's nobody
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there was nobody more qualified to do that job nobody yeah he just happened to be my brother
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so so what's your advice to business owners that are considering bringing in make sure they
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look it's the same advice i give people when it comes to business partners a lot of people want to
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do business with their friends because they think it's going to be fun to do business with their
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friends but they stop to ask themselves is there a benefit to me doing business with this friend
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or is it just something that i want to do and you should ask like what does this person bring
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do they bring anything do they bring a different skill set than i have do they bring money do they
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bring connections what do they bring if they just bring being your friend that's not enough to partner
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with them and the same goes for hiring them if it's just your family member and they don't bring a skill
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set you you shouldn't put them in the game bro we're trying to win here this is like hey would i would
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i send my brother out on the on the field and the fucking super bowl if he's not fucking good enough to
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play yeah that's the seriousness of the game that we play in entrepreneurship other people are putting
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the best people in the position and you're putting your fucking brother because he's your brother that
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doesn't make sense are you putting your friend because he's your friend those companies lose or at
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the very least they just sort of flounder out there you know to win you got to put the best people in
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the best positions to win and that's why i said it's not a good idea most of the time now if those two
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sons let's maybe there's context left off of that question maybe those two there is well i'm just
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saying maybe those two sons come from maybe the 29 year old comes from another company where he was
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kicking ass you see what i'm saying maybe the 23 year old has some other quality who knows maybe he
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knows something about technology that you don't know we don't know the full context there so and
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that's another thing people do they like to tell half the story about why it's not fair right
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oh so and so got this position well is he better than you well yeah but well that's a big piece to
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leave out bro yeah yeah man so i mean dude look um i have very little tolerance for even
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question for questions like this because i think it's bitch shit uh you need to worry about yourself
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you need to worry about getting better for yourself you need to not worry about what so and so has or
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what offer they got bro everything evens out in the end everything evens out
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easy come easy go if you if you really had to work and build those skills and those those younger
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guys don't have the skills it's going to become apparent okay so just wait the truth always comes
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out the truth always materializes about people's real skill set and their real value during that time
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instead of sitting here watching them waiting for it to fail you should figure out like how i'm
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going to get so much better that it's obvious that whenever these guys mess up it's my job to be in
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that position that's how i would look at it i love it or i would go somewhere where i was valued
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you know but i i really think that you know most of the time when people say things like this they
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find problems anywhere they go grass is going to be green where you are yeah yeah i love it man
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i love it guys andy question number two hey andy how do you feel about this idea of being quote
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unquote obsessed uh i feel like it gets overused by a lot of people can you give me some insight
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into what being obsessed should actually look like what does real obsession mean i would be willing
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to bet that the person who asked this question loses a lot okay and i'm going to explain why
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you have to this idea of entrepreneurship all right we're talking in the context of entrepreneurship
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this idea of entrepreneurship has been glorified and built up to be this thing that everybody thinks
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they can do everybody thinks they can just be an entrepreneur because we have all these people
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on the internet that say they're an entrepreneur and post all these lies about how much money they're
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making how many followers they have how you know they're buying engagement they're creating a facade
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that people believe and they're trying to present the best possible story guys this is bullshit okay
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real entrepreneurship is the most competitive game that a human being can play all right it's more
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competitive than baseball it is more competitive than football it is more competitive than soccer
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it's more competitive than fucking anything it's literally live or die economically like it is the most
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cutthroat savage real fucking shit that you could ever do and if you aren't built that way you're just
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going to be another notch on someone else's wall when they fucking crush you okay to win in this game
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when you look at like high level athletes like the play you know they maybe they win the heisman or
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they're an all-american or they're an all-pro or an all-star player these people dedicate their entire
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lives to becoming that everything when they wake up in the morning everything they do throughout the
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day is dedicated towards this one thing outside of maybe a couple other things they got to do to live
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right maybe they spend an hour with their kids or whatever but they usually don't and people bitch
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they say oh well there's no balance no shit because that's what it takes to be great at shit
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so when i hear this shit like the people say about you know oh everybody's out of balance or you know
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do you really have to be obsessed the answer is yes and if you're not obsessed you will lose and it's not
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overblown i think it's understated i think the amount of obsession dedication it takes to build a
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real company is understated not overstated i think most people have zero clue what it's actually like
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or what it actually takes to become a success in the game of entrepreneurship they believe that
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entrepreneurship is about freedom they believe entrepreneurship is about being your own boss
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they believe entrepreneurship is about owning some cool cars and traveling the world and working from
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anywhere just like all these morons fucking tell you and it's not okay it's it's not freedom and
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you're not your own boss guess who's the boss the customer is the boss okay guess how long it took me
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to buy an ice car took me 11 years all right and by the way i've got a more real business than any of
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these fuckers that tell you this shit any single one of them let me see their place let's see the
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product let's see it ordered let's let's go look through their portfolio of companies and let's see
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where they stand up okay a lot of this is smoke and mirror shit a lot of it how many of these guys
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own an uh an international brand that people recognize when you walk down the street fucking
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none of them and they all tell you the same shit oh you know balance oh this is you know i work from
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here or i do this or i do that bro it's a lie so do you have to be obsessed yes you have to wake up
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every single day and basically work for a long time to develop the skills that you're looking to
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create to be competitive at this and then after you develop the skills you have to understand that
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there's other people out there with the skills already who have had the skills for 20 years that
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use the skills better than you so it never gets easier in the beginning you're developing the skills
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and it feels super hard but then when you actually get to the game you're competing as motherfuckers
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have had the skills for 20 years and you just learned them so now you got to try hard again like there's
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never a place where this gets easy there's never a place where you can coast there's never a place where
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you get to like take your your your foot off the gas and and and just live your life that's not what
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you signed up for and all this shit you read on the internet all this shit about balance all this
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shit about happiness all this all that is written for other people that is not written for high level
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performers in the game of entrepreneurship okay so a lot of you guys i'm just being fucking real with
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you a lot of you guys need to forget the idea of even being an entrepreneur because you're not
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fucking built for it you're just not and i could get on here and i could say well you know everybody
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can do this buy my shit but i'm not gonna lie to you because i don't want you to waste five years
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of your life and then be like oh well it didn't work out for me it didn't work out for you because
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you're not willing to do what it takes because you believe the internet instead of what reality
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really really is you know my mess it's hard for me to sell that message how do i sell a message like
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this hey it's going to be hard as fuck it'll be the hardest thing you ever did it's going to take
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longer than you think it's going to take actually it's going to take 10 times longer you're going to lose
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all your friends you're going to lose girlfriends you're going to lose boyfriends you're going to
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lose uh you know all kinds of time that you could have spent doing things with your friends you're
00:25:05.800
going to have to give up weekends you're going to have to do this for 20 years how do you sell that
00:25:10.220
to people how's that does that sound cool it doesn't sound fucking cool but nobody and the reason
00:25:16.300
nobody tells you that is because one none of these motherfuckers have built anything and number two
00:25:21.180
they can't sell it okay so that's the reality yes you have to be obsessed yes everything you do
00:25:28.640
should be geared towards becoming the person that you need to become to operate the way you want to
00:25:34.320
operate and you know it's the most competitive game in the world and that's why i cringe when i see all
00:25:40.680
these people to say oh i'm not competing with anyone i'm just trying to do dude you're going to get
00:25:46.460
killed you know and i don't know how to say this any simpler like it's it's cutthroat it's kill or be
00:25:52.560
killed and if you're not obsessed on becoming the best possible version of yourself and building the
00:25:57.920
best possible operation that you can possibly build you're going to get beat and that's just reality
00:26:05.280
dude let me ask you this did you know did you know that reality when you first started at 19 or was
00:26:11.540
there like a was there a moment no that's why the first 10 years bro i fucking coasted through and
00:26:17.340
got my balls kicked in i thought it took way less than what it actually took and when i finally got
00:26:22.940
sick of it and i finally realized that i wanted to do this and i finally like put it all together in my
00:26:28.000
head that's when shit changed that's when we went from you know not making any money to making a lot
00:26:33.540
of money that's when our business went from flatline growth to growing like crazy it's it's just an
00:26:38.840
acceptance of reality dude how can you compete on the same soccer team as a guy who practices
00:26:46.620
six hours a day when you're not practicing but you know 30 minutes a day how are you going to compete
00:26:52.480
with that are you that good yeah it's arrogance dude it's it's an overestimation of one's own
00:26:58.380
abilities with combined with a misunderstanding of what it actually takes so when you overestimate
00:27:06.300
your own abilities and then you underestimate how hard it is you're setting yourself up for failure
00:27:11.760
every single time and that's the problem with instagram and internet entrepreneurship is it sets
00:27:17.920
people up for a false expectation of what it's actually going to take and how good you actually
00:27:24.000
need to be and for that reason they fail and then they believe that you know oh i just don't have
00:27:29.580
what it takes well you might have what it takes if you understood what it actually takes maybe you're
00:27:35.140
willing to do that but because you consume content from a bunch of fucking idiots have never built a
00:27:40.160
motherfucking thing your mind is warped to reality and so when someone like me comes along and says
00:27:45.860
you got to do this this this this this you're shit right now and you got to become not shitty
00:27:49.840
and become great and it's going to take you years to do you don't like hearing that shit you'd rather
00:27:54.460
go listen to some idiot who tells you oh well all you got to do is do this and this and this and
00:28:00.060
dude and you you make money for six months and then you're out of business and your reputation's
00:28:04.880
ruined your name's ruined your brand's ruined and nobody wants to do shit with you so you know yeah
00:28:10.380
it's fucking yeah you have to be obsessed and not even a little obsessed it has to be the focus of
00:28:14.740
your entire life that's the reality and for entrepreneurs that want to make a lot of money
00:28:19.360
that answer is the same you if you think that you're going to have balance and you're going to
00:28:24.320
fucking you know someday make you know a million dollars a year whatever you think you're going to make
00:28:29.920
which by the way that's what you need to make to live in the kind of house that some of you guys
00:28:33.120
want to live in if you think you're going to get that by showing up to work and work until five
00:28:38.760
o'clock and not putting in time to become better and not like becoming obsessed with your own
00:28:44.180
development you're you're delusional it's just what it takes so you know i i didn't make the rules
00:28:51.320
of the game but that is the game and you can argue with me all day you could fucking say oh andy
00:28:57.040
you're talking the old ways now i'm talking the only way you just don't get it yet
00:29:01.660
guys andy let's get to our third or final question uh question number three man uh real quick do we
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chose to work with these guys yeah pesante's listen i mean there is nothing on this planet
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what's it say here ingredients water warning drinking might cause you to be a realist
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warning drinking will turn you into a pesante yeah it's good it's good you know what i'm saying
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on that last bro these people don't understand because they not look dude when you fucking when
00:31:21.820
you when you're at the bottom most of you guys are at the bottom of fucking mount everest let's just be
00:31:25.800
fucking real you have these big goals these big dreams these big aspirations for yourself
00:31:30.080
and you see motherfuckers up there at the top and you're like well i wonder how much how hard you got
00:31:35.460
to work to be at the top and the guy at the top is like fuck that took everything i got bro and
00:31:40.120
i'm smart and i've been doing this for 10 years and that took everything i got and the guy at the
00:31:46.440
bottom is like fuck dude i'll go take a nap i'll chill it'll work you know i could just and that's
00:31:50.560
that's the misunderstanding dude take me two days to get to the top yeah it's a misunderstanding and
00:31:54.740
it's because of this predatory entrepreneurship culture on the internet right all these stories
00:32:00.680
of these people who you know make a few dollars like dude the fake it till you make it culture
00:32:06.280
right i'm gonna buy a nice car i'm gonna stand in front of it then i'm gonna tell you how much
00:32:10.040
money i made and then i'm gonna sell you this program to tell you how much money i made but in
00:32:14.480
reality i made the money selling you the program telling you how much money i made that's the
00:32:18.300
entrepreneurship culture in a nutshell and that's the reason that people can't understand how hard
00:32:22.660
it actually is to build something that has an equitable back end exit which is what the fuck
00:32:27.260
you want you're not in this for just cash flow dude you're in this for an equitable return on your time
00:32:33.660
investment so you're going to get paid during the time you do it and then when you're ready to be
00:32:38.280
done you have a big huge asset that you could sell and that's what entrepreneurship's about it's not
00:32:44.420
just about cash flow bro you know yeah that ain't it man i love it and then if it is about cash flow
00:32:50.220
you got to figure out how to invest properly which is hard too because there's a million trillion
00:32:54.220
investors that are more hooked up and better than you and faster than you and more funded than you
00:32:59.500
and have better relationships than you so like you don't think you have to become good at that
00:33:03.820
like bro here's the bottom line you have to be great if you are not great you won't win
00:33:11.180
so whatever it takes for you to be great whether you call that obsession or dedication or discipline
00:33:16.000
it doesn't fucking matter what matters is is that you go from where the fuck you are
00:33:20.360
to where you need to be to win and that is it so call it whatever you want but it's hard as fuck and
00:33:25.440
it takes everything you got love it love it guys andy uh question number three uh hi andy and dj my
00:33:33.460
question is simple andy do do people really change i'm 35 years old and i've spent a big chunk of my
00:33:40.220
life being selfish and just all around not being a good person i'm an addict an alcoholic i've been
00:33:46.540
sober for three months and i'm trying to do better doing 75 hard i got a good job recently i want to
00:33:52.460
be a better person um but you hear all the time that people don't really change so i guess i'm worried
00:33:58.640
that i'll end up going back to being the person because that's the person i've always been uh thanks
00:34:03.880
again for all you guys do andy do people really change what's your what's your take on that
00:34:07.360
well yeah but you got to really want to change bro at 36 years old i was 350 fucking pounds i
00:34:14.720
drank four nights a week i ate whatever the fuck i wanted i i haven't had taco bell in like 10 years
00:34:19.880
dude i haven't i drink i mean how many times do i drink in a year maybe three four maybe tops yeah
00:34:27.380
right i usually four times yeah i drink i used to drink that many times in a week
00:34:32.040
okay um so yeah people can change dude but you got to understand that you have to want to change
00:34:40.000
and you should want to change because the time is running out and we are all on borrowed time and
00:34:45.020
our time is is is much less than what we believe it is and by the time you're 45 you'll realize that
00:34:51.640
right now you're still 35 you feel like you're kind of young i'm still a young guy i got all these
00:34:56.020
options and you do but and if snap you're going to be 45 and another snap you're going to be 55
00:35:02.620
and another snap you're going to be 65 and if you're still talking about wanting to be a better
00:35:07.180
person there's not going to be enough time okay so i would recommend looking and assessing where you are
00:35:12.040
now and i would say all right i don't like who i was which it sounds like you've already come to
00:35:16.840
that conclusion and then just take the actions in the opposite direction all of this shit that you've
00:35:22.340
heard about how hard it is and how people you know got to go to these things for 50 years to stay
00:35:29.080
you're focusing on the wrong shit okay when you focus on what you have to give up if you take a
00:35:34.660
drink a guy who drinks and you say all right no beer for you that you can't have beer that all the
00:35:42.640
guy's going to think about is when he can have his next beer because all the brain hears is beer beer
00:35:46.760
beer beer beer beer beer beer and all it does is it ends up breaking them same people same reason
00:35:51.040
that when people go on a diet and they say can't have pizza okay well then the person's like pizza
00:35:57.100
pizza pizza pizza pizza and that's all they think about until they give into that all right so you
00:36:00.500
have to change the way that you think and what i mean by that is you have to focus on who you're
00:36:06.280
becoming and what you're gaining not what you're giving up to get there because when you start to
00:36:11.100
focus on how much better you're getting and how much your life is getting better and how much more
00:36:14.960
proud of yourself you are now all of a sudden those things that were causing that you start to see
00:36:19.400
those things as the enemy you see those things as the reason that you were unhappy you see those
00:36:24.100
things as i don't ever want to go back there because i know what that did to me it's the same
00:36:28.620
reason when i say that people who celebrate 75 hard with a cake and whiskey and wine and all this shit
00:36:33.760
they didn't learn and it means they didn't do the program because if you actually did the program you
00:36:38.500
would have gotten so much fucking progress in that short time of 75 days that at the end of the 75 days
00:36:44.020
you are literally afraid to come off the program you're like fuck i don't want to go back and you start
00:36:48.540
to see these things like alcohol and food and these bad habits as the legit enemy of the life
00:36:54.380
that you are now proud that you've created so instead of looking at it and saying well i've got
00:36:59.180
to give up all this start saying well this is who i'm going to become and this is going to be awesome
00:37:03.300
this is what my life is going to be like and keep your focus ahead and not behind and it's not as hard
00:37:07.640
to let those things go okay this is a mental game this is not a physical game it's a mental game
00:37:13.140
i had a guy message me the other day and he's like man i'm trying to get in shape i just hate
00:37:17.700
healthy food no it's not that you hate healthy food it's that you've never been healthy so you
00:37:22.400
don't know how much better it is than what you are now you see what i'm saying and i could promise
00:37:26.660
you that if you were actually who you could be you would hate the food more than you fucking hate the
00:37:31.780
work it takes to get there so uh my recommendation would be for you sir would be to live the live hard
00:37:37.840
lifestyle because that's the thing that's cured me it's cured hundreds of thousands of other people
00:37:41.920
from this habitual relapsing and that's why it's so funny when people are like oh it's not sustainable
00:37:47.820
oh really it's not i'm pretty sure it's the only fucking program that ever changes anybody because
00:37:52.400
it addresses the issue at the core which is your mental fortitude your ability to adhere your ability
00:37:58.720
to make decisions for yourself in the moment that are going to benefit the long-term version of you
00:38:05.120
not the instant gratification that you would get from indulging whatever the vice is now and when you
00:38:10.460
start to understand this mentally and you start to live that way those things that have brought you
00:38:16.120
the frustration the anger the life that you're not proud of become the fucking enemy you hate them
00:38:22.560
you despise them like when i see people socially drinking all the time i think they're the weakest
00:38:28.540
fucking bitches on the face of the earth and then i look at them and they're usually fucking out of
00:38:33.220
shape and they're not making any money and they're celebrating every weekend what the fuck are you
00:38:37.580
celebrating bro you're broke you have a shitty car you have a shitty fucking relationship you're not
00:38:43.780
in shape you look like shit but you're celebrating what are you celebrating you see what i'm saying
00:38:49.740
so it's just a perspective switch i absolutely know for a undeniable fact because i've witnessed it
00:38:58.460
hundreds of thousands if not millions of times over my course of my career in in nutritional
00:39:04.760
supplements fitness and with live hard program people change all the time dude it's just a
00:39:10.600
decision that you got to make and you got to take the actions of the person that you want to become
00:39:14.820
and when you think about you know like we've mentioned just a minute ago fake it till you make it when we
00:39:20.740
think about like what fake it till you make it actually means it doesn't mean go out and buy a car
00:39:25.120
and stand in front of it and you know fake your wealth to get money that's not what fake it till you make
00:39:30.880
it means fake it till you make it actually means make the decisions that that person that you know
00:39:35.600
you want to be like would make even when you're you now and eventually you become that person okay
00:39:41.640
that's what fake it till you make it so decide who you want to be start making the decisions that
00:39:46.520
person would make and eventually you legitimately become that in your life and it won't feel like
00:39:51.280
that today and it won't feel like that tomorrow and because you lived your life the way that you've
00:39:56.100
lived it for 35 years and you're not proud of it it's probably going to take a minute for you to
00:40:00.960
adjust to being the kind of person you want to be but if you keep following with those actions over
00:40:05.920
and over and over and over and over again of the person that you want to be like eventually you become
00:40:10.900
that person and it's reality and like dude that's what it is it's it's just it's that simple dude so
00:40:17.360
yeah you can change bro and you should change because you have people depending on you whether you have
00:40:22.080
a family or whether you have you know friends or whether you have people peers at work there's
00:40:27.320
people looking at you and they're saying fuck you know joe either is as a great role model for me or
00:40:34.940
i don't even pay attention to joe because he's a piece of shit and dude if you're listening to this
00:40:39.300
show it's because you care about shit you don't listen to this show just to be entertained
00:40:43.420
you listen to this show because you care yeah we have entertainment on the show but this is a show
00:40:48.780
that people who give a fuck listen to because they want to get better and they realize that them
00:40:53.140
being better makes everything else better and so you need to start thinking about it dude it's not
00:40:57.020
just about you it's about your obligation to live a life that maximizes your potential as a human and
00:41:02.800
maybe you're not a religious person but dude i'm gonna tell you this god wants you to be the best
00:41:06.960
version of yourself do you have a son do you do you want your girls to be the best they could be
00:41:11.280
absolutely joe do you want your daughter to be the best that she could be if she lived below if those if
00:41:16.000
your daughters ended up living a life that was way below your potential would you be disappointed
00:41:20.060
absolutely god's the same way god looks at us the same way he says i gave you all this potential all
00:41:25.300
these gifts all this ability and you didn't do anything with it because you were lazy or because
00:41:29.360
you let these things get in the way and that's a disappointment to god you're dishonoring your
00:41:33.820
obligation to god you're dishonoring your obligation to your fellow citizen your neighbor your family and
00:41:41.280
especially yourself by sitting there and saying i'm going to accept this version of myself that's
00:41:45.960
less than what i could be and i think everybody falls into that trap because we are all propagated
00:41:50.840
immensely in society that that is okay we see it on tv what do the men look like on tv that they look like
00:41:58.760
fat middle-aged weird looking dudes that are standing in the backyard on a weber kettle cooking hot dogs
00:42:04.160
that answer to their wives correct okay what message are they sending they're sending a message
00:42:11.020
of this is okay to be like this when they put a woman on a health magazine that's 400 pounds they say
00:42:18.200
it's healthy what message are they sending they're saying to women you could be like this and this is
00:42:22.260
normal and this is okay why do they do that well they do that because they want to they it's for control
00:42:27.560
reasons if you're not at the best that you can be you are much easier to control and if you're much
00:42:31.720
easier to control you're not going to have a fair shake in the way things that you know work out in
00:42:36.680
terms of what we call freedom or what we desire as freedom so for us to fix what's going on in the
00:42:42.380
country we have to fix the culture to fix the culture we have to fix ourselves so it's not just
00:42:47.380
about you bro it's about everybody it's about the people you're related to it's about the people that
00:42:52.100
see you in the gas station it's about the people who see you in the grocery store it's about your
00:42:55.460
peers at work it's about the example that you set and if we don't do that and if you don't do that
00:43:01.580
as an individual you have no right to bitch about the way things are in society because you're not
00:43:06.620
contributing to the solution so get in shape stop drinking make good decisions treat people right
00:43:15.140
put good things in your brain control what you control and stick to that and make the decisions
00:43:21.040
of the person that you want to become not the decisions of the person that you have been and
00:43:25.740
things are going to change bro and they're going to change forever as long as you keep following
00:43:28.860
that formula i love it man absolutely love it man great great questions great answers man guys
00:43:35.640
andy that was three all right guys let's have a good week go pay the fee
00:43:39.360
went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stole counted millions in the
00:43:46.120
cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case closed