751. Q&AF： Hiring And Firing, Attitude For Greatness & Understanding Aggressive Patience
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On today's episode of Q&A, Andy and Andi discuss the importance of mental toughness and how to cultivate it in your life. Plus, Andi talks about his love of strawberries and how he grew up drinking them.
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what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
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the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys
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it's a brand new week and you know what that means that means we are hitting q and af because we
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always like to start the week getting better all right so uh this is where you ask the questions
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and we give you the answers now you can submit your questions to be answered on this show a
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couple different ways the first way is guys you can email these questions into ask andy at andy
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frisella.com or you go on youtube under the q and af episodes drop your question in the comments and
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we'll choose some from there as well as i mentioned last week we are going to start transitioning into
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live call-ins so keep uh keep your ear open for that and we'll let you know now if this is your
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first time listening we have shows within the show all right tomorrow we're going to have cti that
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stands for cruise the internet that's where we put topics up on the screen we speculate on what's true
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and what's not true and then we talk about how we the people have to solve these problems going on in
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the world other times throughout the week we're going to have real talk real talk just five to
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20 minutes of me giving you some real talk and then we have 75 hard verses and we have some really
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good 75 hard verses episodes coming up what is 75 hard verses you might ask well it is where we
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bring people in studio who have completed the 75 hard program we talk about how their life was before
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how their life is now and how they use the 75 hard program to transform their lives if you're
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unfamiliar with 75 hard it is the world's most famous mental transformation program ever and it
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is the initial phase of the live hard program you can get that program for free at episode 208
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on the audio feed only it's not on youtube we weren't on youtube when that came out so if you go on any of
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the audio platforms and listen to episode 208 you will get the program for free now there is a book
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called the book on mental toughness you can get that at my website andyfricella.com it is
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in stock right now i believe um that will cover the entire live hard program top to bottom uh in
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and out it has 10 plus chapters on mental toughness uh how to cultivate it why it's important and why
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you need it in your life along with a bunch of case studies on very famous people who have used
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mental toughness to become the people that you recognize today uh again you can get that at
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andyfricella.com now one thing you're going to notice about this show unlike most shows is we
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don't be a hoe share the show all right what's up man happy monday yeah what's going on nothing
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yeah yeah sore feeling a little grape-ish today yeah tapping to the dark side yeah i love the
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grape dude i love the grape you're down with the grape i feel it in my soul you know what that means
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right i'm about to steal the show yeah man what's up you know it's another day you know what you got
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there uh a little strawberry madness is it good strawberry bro fire is that the one this is fire
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really there's like little chunks of strawberry in there yeah i just had one in my mouth it's good
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bro back in the day i used to only drink strawberry protein and i drank it like so much for so long
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that like i can't even drink it anymore like i can't even drink a straw i can't have strawberry
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ice cream i can't have strawberry yeah no dude so i used to love it it used to be my favorite thing
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ever dude i'm down with strawberries bro when i used to go to my uh grandma's house over in
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shawneytown illinois she used to always make strawberry quick you know that is like whipped
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cream what is that no it's like chocolate milk but it's strawberry it's quick strawberry quick oh
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yeah okay yeah it come it used to come in like a little tin can um where you like kind of plastic
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yep yeah dude it was it's one of my favorite memories we make stars with water though because we
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didn't we didn't always have milk dad never came back well that's that pesante yeah so but we did it
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with milk you know white privilege you know what i'm saying yeah you're so privileged yeah
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so but yeah dude it's one of my favorite memories man getting that strawberry quick yeah strawberry
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that's quick bro that's some good stuff some decent stuff man that's going down memory lane yep
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all right sweet man that's right up there with the werthers and the and the little you know those
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wafer cakes that are like strawberry huh yeah i know you got some over there bro i'm not talking
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about those strawberry candies though you know those wafer cakes they're like a rectangle and
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they got like a wafer on top and a wafer on the bottom and then they got icing or whatever in the
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middle joe you know what i'm talking about they come in like chocolate vanilla and strawberry fuck
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yeah bro oh yeah those things are good fire yeah i remember those from my grandma's house too
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yeah i love snacks joe you like those me too man i like snacks too bro uh not quite those they
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aren't similar to those but that's multi-level that's really the bougie kind that's bougie
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bougie yeah these are like just little rectangles we're talking about the blue card kind yeah
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the uh the ebt kind yeah yeah that's what i'm saying all right man let's make some people better
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i run around with black cards i got the blue card you know what i'm saying
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all right man let's make some people better man guys andy i got three good ones for you all right
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you always do hey man i do my best i know so uh let's knock these out guys andy question
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numero uno uh hey andy and dj thanks for taking my question i've been a tattoo artist for 20 years now
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and opened my own shop one month before covid shut us down the business survived that
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uh and has been thriving and growing since then but i've made a lot of mistakes primarily
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in who i've hired i've let the wrong people in and as a result i've gotten very comfortable
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firing people um i've been guilty of knowing someone needed to go and keeping them on way too
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long now my tolerance for bullshit is very low when i can see it's not a good fit i am quick to stop
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the bleeding my question is am i being too picky i don't want winners in my shop who want to contribute
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to our overall momentum and growth of our artists collectively but those people are very few and far
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in between in this industry should i allow b players to take up space and put more time and effort into
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coaching them in order to keep moving the needle forward or do i keep holding out and hope to attract
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those a players that i really want thanks so much for your help is firing too quick is that a thing
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well there's a saying and the saying is higher slow fire fast and the reason that you want to fire
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fast is because you don't want a negative attitude to infect the culture of your business um when
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you're a good person you care about people business owners tend to be overly empathetic towards people
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that aren't going to work out i've been guilty of this myself where i've hung on to people way too long
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because i inaccurately believe that their only hope is for them to be with me i know i'm going to win
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i'm fucking winning bro and when i look at other people and i and this is wrong okay i'm saying i'm
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just telling you how i look at it i believe in what i'm doing so much that when i look at people and
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they say oh you know i'm not doing this i look at them and i think bro your only fucking chance
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to really get where the fuck you say you want to go is going to be hitching your motherfucking wagon
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to me because i am a fucking Clydesdale bro i don't ever stop i will never stop and i will get
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where i want to go and i know that deep inside me the problem is that's not true people can can win
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and survive and do things in all different places and they need to be someplace where they're going to
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fit not everybody is made to operate on a high standard all the time i have a saying that i use
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and you you know it's very simple the world needs fry cooks too okay the world needs people to make
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the fucking french fries and that's okay just make some good fucking french fries you know do the best
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you can um so i can understand where a business owner will get in the in the habit of allowing people
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to stay but that usually comes from you caring about them and also you believing that you're
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their only chance at really getting where they want to go which is inaccurate and it's not a negative way
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a lot of times employees perceive that to be negative like you know no it's just that i believe in what
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i'm doing so much that i know i'm going to get there and i know you will too if you just fucking come
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along right and so you know it becomes very difficult to go through that process of really
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caring about people and their future and their career and then you know watching them make
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decisions that you may not agree with but at the end of the day bro we can't control what people do
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and a lot of times when we try to prevent them from making decisions we're actually preventing them
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from learning uh the lessons that they need to learn so that's a natural progression as an entrepreneur
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if you're an empathetic caring person in the beginning you have a hard time firing the first
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time i fired someone i fucking cried dude i got my truck and i fucking cried i felt so shitty about
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having to fire the dude i remember him dude i remember the guy's name um he just couldn't do the
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job and uh it bothered me like it's it still kind of bothers me because i had you know it was it was
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hard and um you know as you go through the process of hiring and firing it gets it gets a little
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easier gets a little easier and what i ultimately came to understand which made it much less personal
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and much easier to handle that situation was that by me not letting go of someone who needed to be
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let go of i'm letting down the rest of the team i'm costing them opportunity because this person's
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they have to drag this person and also i'm preventing that person from finding something that they're
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really going to love and really excel at where they're struggling here right so i came to that
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conclusion which is true that's the truth the truth is is when you try to keep someone who doesn't
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really fit you're preventing them from finding something where they will fit and that is or learning
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a lesson about how they could fit somewhere if they just gave a little more and developed a little
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more so when you step in the way of someone's karma that they have developed themselves right you end up
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taking the brunt of that and that's something that i've learned the hard way plenty of times where
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i've tried to keep people and uh it ends up blowing up into a huge negative situation where had i just
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let them go when i first knew that they should have been let go it would have never caused that so i think
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this person you know at 20 years in you have definitely progressed to the point where you need to be
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and i think now you're feeling a little bit guilty for just snap snap snap firing them through but the
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reality is dude i actually think that's a super healthy way to run things i think that you are
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you have to be very careful about people poisoning the well poisoning the culture well uh and the truth
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of the matter is is if you want to attract a players and an a player comes into your studio or comes into
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your business and they see a bunch of c players they're not going to want to work there all right so
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it's very important for the standard that you're trying to hold as a premium elite tattoo studio
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that you have a players in there because when the other a players come in they're going to want to be
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there and if you have a bunch of you know medium level people that don't really give a fuck those a
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players are going to come in and be like nah this isn't where i want to be right and i tell my team
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all the time and every company that i'm involved in i tell my teams all the time i say look this isn't
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for everybody dude there's plenty of jobs there's plenty of careers that are easier than this
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we are the university of alabama here we are trying to win championships we are trying to build
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an iconic brand we are trying to be the best and that is not something that everybody can handle
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nor should they some people that's not the focus of their lives that's not what they care about they
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care about other things and that's okay but if you take one of this these people who cares about
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other things and you put them in that environment they're going to be fucking miserable dude because
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the standard's so high the pressure's high they can't take it and they end up resenting you and
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the company for even putting you in the position so i actually think you're in a very good spot i don't
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think you should feel bad about it i think you you've run the course of developing your mindset as an
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entrepreneur from someone who hangs on to people to someone who maybe is a little bit fast and the answer
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to this is you know a question that you can ask yourself when you're deciding whether or not you should
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have put more time into this person or not would be something like did i fail this person or they fail me
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right did i fail this person by not coaching them up teaching them the skills spending enough time with
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them to get them where they needed to go or did i do that and they just failed me on their execution and if the
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answer is you failed them then it's time for you to sit down have a real talk with them and say okay
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look i failed you bro you're not developing at the pace that i need you to develop at and i'll take
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responsibility for that this time but here's what i need okay are we clear on this what do you need help
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with and you give them another chance and if they come out the gates and they start doing a thing and
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they move down the right track cool if you give them that discussion and they go back to doing the exact
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same shit then you have your answer and it's very simple it's not emotional it's just facts
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that person doesn't belong here and if you keep them there they're a liability not only to the
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company but to the other members of the team and also they're going to keep themselves from being where
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they need to be and learning the lessons that they need to learn so that's how in a nutshell how i would
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think about it now if you want like detailed information on this these are the kinds of things
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that we go through an arte syndicate uh you can apply to be a part of arte syndicate it's the
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entrepreneurship group that ed and i ed my let and i run together and we've run together since
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for almost six years now um it's for people that own real businesses it's for people that are building
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real companies and and we talk about these kind of things in depth all the time yeah i was going to
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ask you too before you said like you could ask yourself this question but like man what's that
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equation look like when you know you might have a b player but that b player you know with just a
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little bit more you know investment in education or whatever it is they could be the star of that
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studio for sure and so like like that's got to be a hard thing to kind of like to to kind of eyeball
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and judge man i'll tell you what's really hard what's really hard is when you have someone that has
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that potential and because i've been doing something for so long i can see that they have it yeah but
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they don't believe they have it and because they don't believe they have it they don't really try to
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like materialize let it materialize and then they go from thing to thing to thing you know how many
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people i've worked with in my life bro that are fucking one inch away from being fucking great at
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what they do but because they were raised in a shitty family or they have shitty friends or they
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have people in their ear telling them they can't do anything they don't really try and they never
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become anything and they end up working you know a bunch of different careers thinking man this isn't
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right for me this look bro nothing's right you got to make it right we're all going to have days
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where we come into what we do and we're like fuck this sucks i'd rather be doing this um it's those
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days that matter the most ironically those are the days where you have to execute at the highest level
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uh because those are the days everybody else fucking doesn't do shit and if you can execute at the
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highest level when everybody else doesn't do shit you distance yourself from them so um yeah dude it is
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very hard and it's very hard when you care about people um i think when you detach your emotions
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from it it's much easier but i i just don't think that's the way to run a business i don't think
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that's like an unemotional i just personally dude i you gotta have a little bit of in there a little bit
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but but not really because if you really care about them you're gonna let them go find something that
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they that they're great at right if you really care about them you're gonna you're gonna tell them
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what they're lacking what the truth is and some people don't like that bro some people can't
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handle that you know but i can tell you this if you're if you are even considering coming to work
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for me and anything i do just know it's hard as fuck it's high pressure we are here to win if you
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can't cut it in that environment you shouldn't even fucking try to come here because you will
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fucking hate it yeah it's funny you say sal's really really good at that too which what which part
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like like the the i care about you but here's like the fucking brutal honest fucking truth that
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you may not like to hear well that's because well let me tell you dude let me tell you dude
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people think that he doesn't care about him because because of that right the truth is there ain't
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anybody in this fucking company that cares about people more than him right because he will tell
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him the exact fucking truth so and people people have a hard time handling that yeah you know i love
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it love it guys any question number two hey andy i'm gonna be a sophomore in high school in a couple
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of weeks i got screwed over last year in school ball for softball um i was promised a starting spot at
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second base as a freshman and i had it for a game or two but a girl from another school her dad knew the
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assistant coach she got my spot i got shoved to right field which i'm not complaining about because
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i still played as a freshman on varsity but she just walked in and took my spot the position i earned
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she got it handed to her next year i'm going to strive to get third base i do not want it to happen
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again i want to be a killer next year i want to be the oh shit kind of player when coaches see me
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not the we got it in the bag kind of player i'm a decent ball player right now i started
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throw up stop for travel and i have an 800 fielding percentage which isn't great but it's good
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um i want my coaches uh to have to play me next year what tips do you have for me to get mentally
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prepared for that well i think you got the right attitude okay um i i would caution you i'm just going
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to speak straight with you if you're listening to the show you're a straight shooter you probably
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weren't good enough to keep that job a second base and this is a reality lesson that you should
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take with you anywhere you go because there's going to be times in your life where you are as
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good as someone else and that someone else will have a relationship or they'll have a connection
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and be so for that reason being as good is not good enough like you said in your question you have
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to be the kind of person that someone says oh shit they're fucking good okay if you are not
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undeniably better than the person that you are competing with you have to understand that you're
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running the risk of not getting that job and that goes for you know varsity softball that goes for
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college softball that goes for your career and your whole entire life if you are as good as someone
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else that you are competing with you are running the risk of not getting the job because of some
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other aspect all right so i would caution you to not look at these situations say oh they only got
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that because of their dad because you're creating a mental dialogue we're going to get into the mental
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part now you're creating a mental dialogue that is an excuse making dialogue okay and you don't want
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to get in that habit i'm not saying that you're out of line here but what i am saying is you want to be
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very careful what you blame and who you blame when you don't get what you want because ultimately it's
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you the truth of the matter is is had you practice and taken a thousand more reps than that girl who
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went to second base you would have still been playing at second base but she probably took the
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same amount of reps that you did maybe even more and that's why you're not there and that's the truth
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so let's bottom line the truth here it's not about the dad it's about how good you are
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if you were undeniably better than her do you think that they would have moved you to right field
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no they would have kept you there they would have put her in right field all right so that's the first
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thing that i want you to understand i appreciate you asking the question but if you're going to ask
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a question here you're going to get a straight answer i don't care if you're five or if you're 50
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all right so you need to get better that's the truth um mentally how do you get better you have to
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adopt this mindset that i'm explaining to you that you have to be undeniably better in every area of
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your life so like and what i mean by every area of your life i mean as you go through life and this
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could be your career right let's say you're not going to become a professional softball player
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let's say you're going to become an accountant you have to be a much better higher skilled accountant
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than the person next to you so that you get the the role right um so learn a lesson now when you're
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young you're 14 15 16 years old learn that lesson now and it won't be a problem um you know this is
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going to come down to reps it's like anything else so if you want to be where you want to be next year
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like you say and i think i believe that you do you wouldn't be listening to this show to get better
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um you need to put in a lot more reps than that person's doing you know whatever you think that
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person's do i would do 50 more than that you know take 50 more ground balls take 50 more batting
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practice and by the time that game comes around especially at your age you're going to be further
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developed than that person will it's very easy to develop in sports when you're at that age if
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you're just willing to do more work um because that's what it comes down to and you're developing
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your motor skills so fast right now that just those more reps is going to put you in a position
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where you're undeniably better so i would just commit to the work i would like honestly assess you
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know like let's just well how many reps is suzy doing suzy's doing 100 ground balls all right
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you got to do 150 you have to okay suzy's taking 20 you know or 100 balls at bats all right well you
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got to take 200 you know i'm saying you just got to do more man you got to do more reps and that's
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going to put you in position to win mentally uh how you justify that is you have to say and this is
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what i tell myself and you guys know this listen to the show and and you know this guy's here i tell
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myself i don't have any special skills i wasn't blessed with extreme iq i wasn't given any special
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breaks so i know i have to do more you know when i when when i look at what's going on in my life
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and you guys who have followed me for a long time you know this is i talk about this all the time
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there might be better people than me but there isn't anybody that's going to put in more work
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than me and and honestly i feel like that's why i am where i am and i honestly feel like that's why
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most of you guys relate to me because i'm not one of these people that was just born with all this
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special shit i'm i wasn't extra you know blessed in all these areas i had to put in that those reps
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and that's why i believe and i know that all of you can do the same thing if you if you were willing
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to adopt that mindset of hey i wasn't blessed with the athletic ability that susie was so that means i
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got to do more and that's the reality of life you know right now there's a lot of topics around uh you
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know you know everything being equitable and even and everybody ending up in the right at the same
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spot that's just not reality dude the reality is is um if you started out with nothing and someone
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else started out with you know something let's say you know people like to say oh you the guy was born
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on third base and thinks he hit a triple right all right so you're born on home base you weren't born
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with any special gifts you weren't really given any special treatment and then you're competing at
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someone who was gifted who let's say born on second base that means you got to do more work
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you can't complain about it and say oh it's not fair no shit is not fair that's the way the world
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works the world is not fucking fair so we have to bottom line that and say okay this is the reality
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if we want to be great we have to bottom line that and say okay this is the reality um i wasn't blessed
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with these gifts so i have to do more and if i do more i'll pass that person up and i actually think
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that that's a very very very great place to be because you learn the habits
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that will sustain your success over the course of your life whereas someone else who was born with
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these gifts doesn't ever learn the grit the work ethic the fortitude that it takes to push through
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the really hard times we see this with like you know people who were tremendous athletes in high
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school they were first team all state they were first team all american in high school and they
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get in college and they're okay and then you know maybe they get to pros and there are nobody right
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but then you got the tom brady's of the world you got the guy who was okay and then he got he was okay
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in college and then he was okay and he just decided he's gonna fucking put in the reps and he became
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the greatest of all time i would much rather come from less skill set and less blessings because it
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forces you to develop the work ethic required to maintain and become great versus someone who's born
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with the natural skill who doesn't appreciate it and doesn't learn that uh way of operating over the
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course of time so a lot of times when you're younger you look around for example like in business people
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will say things like this oh that guy was born with rich parents you know he his parents he like
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dude when i was starting my business bro there was all kinds of people i competed with that had like
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you know parents that invested a bunch of money in their business or uh you know they came from very
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wealthy circumstances so they had options right but here's the problem the problem is they had options
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okay and because they had options they weren't able to fully dedicate themselves to becoming great at what
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they did for me to compete with someone with more resources in the beginning i had to get better
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they didn't have to get better so 10 fast forward 10 years i have all these skills that they don't
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have because they relied on their resources and they're still where they are mentally and skill set
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that they were on day one now who do you think wins 10 years in i'm running circles around these guys
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right because i had to learn what it takes to compete and the reason i had to learn what it takes to
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compete is because i wasn't born with all the bonuses that some of these other people were born with so if
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you're that person and you're looking around right now and you're saying man i wasn't born with all good
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because that's going to force you to develop the things that you're going to need to be successful
00:27:25.260
the course of your life the the the work ethic the grit the skill set the ability to learn as you go
00:27:31.340
the adaptation the ability to be resourceful these are things that people who were born with blessings
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never learn because they rely on those blessings to get them through so like 10 years down the road
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when when you've dedicated yourself right now at 14 years old to okay i don't have the gifts that suzy
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has and i've got to put in twice as much work to get where if you adopt that mindset now dude at 25 10
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years from now you're going to be killing everybody because of the mindset that you developed all right so
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just just be okay and say hey i didn't get everything everybody else got so i gotta work harder
00:28:10.540
i love it i absolutely love it well good luck in your season um guys andy uh question number three
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third and final question guys uh dear andy i've been wrestling with your concept of aggressive patience
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recently and i'm wondering if you can just dive deeper into it i am 19 a full-time employee
00:28:32.760
and a full-time college sophomore studying software development i'm ready to move out on my own and
00:28:38.660
begin my career with an internship or an entry-level position my family however keeps telling me to stay
00:28:44.840
at home save my money and focus on my studies rather than getting an internship my question is
00:28:50.000
in what situations should aggressive patience be used rather than moving forward and taking the next step
00:28:57.540
um and also if first form happens to be uh or have a software development internship available let me know
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i think you're misunderstanding the concept of aggressive patience all right
00:29:14.280
there's there's there's three things that have to happen for you to become successful
00:29:21.480
in anything okay you have to put in the work you have to become skilled and you have to allow time
00:29:27.860
to do its part and the analogy that i've always used for this is baking a cake all right you could
00:29:35.600
want to bake a cake and you go on google and you say i'm gonna bake a cake and you find this amazing
00:29:40.780
cake recipe for martha stewart it won all the awards all right and you're like all right that's the cake i
00:29:46.440
want to make so you read the recipe out and you put all the ingredients in the pan you mix it up just
00:29:53.960
like it says exactly like she says it says 400 degrees for 40 minutes so you're pouring all the
00:30:03.240
ingredients in the bowl you pour it in the pan you're just about ready to put it in the oven
00:30:08.340
and you're like fuck dude if i cook this thing for 800 degrees for 20 minutes i could get it out twice
00:30:16.300
all right so you you think you're real smart so you turn the thing up to 800 degrees and you set the
00:30:22.520
timer for 20 minutes and you throw that bitch in there and then you go to pull it out what is it
00:30:26.740
it's burnt to a crisp it's smoking your smoke alarm's going off it smells like shit and you're like what
00:30:33.300
the fuck is going on all right you did not obey one of the crucial elements of success which is allowing
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time to do its part okay we cannot rush time in terms of what it takes for us to materialize our
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outcome in most situations now there is a max velocity that we can achieve but there is also
00:30:59.320
things that we cannot substitute because they take time for example it takes time in business
00:31:07.500
for a customer to become acclimated to your brand it might take 5 10 20 30 impressions before they ever
00:31:16.580
think about trying your brand out that doesn't happen in one minute just because you want it to
00:31:21.820
it takes time okay when we think about what that means that means that we have to be patient we have
00:31:31.300
to allow time to do its job but the problem is is that when we say to people hey i need you to be
00:31:38.460
patient here usually what they do when you tell them that they have to be patient is they stop doing the
00:31:44.480
work and they believe that time will just bring them the result without any of the work and this is
00:31:50.180
where the aggressive part comes in all right so you have to understand that it's going to take time
00:31:56.840
but you have to also understand that every single day while you're waiting for time to materialize
00:32:03.660
you have to show up and you have to give max effort and max execution all right so that's why it's
00:32:10.580
called aggressive patience it's aggressive in daily execution but also mindful that we have to be patient
00:32:17.740
and this is the reality of success you have to have work you have to have skill and you have to have
00:32:23.960
patience and if you do not have those three things you cannot win all right and a lot of people say
00:32:31.060
you don't need patience you need to be aggressive they're saying the same thing i'm saying but you
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can't out aggressive time in certain scenarios okay so all you can do is you could show up every day
00:32:42.560
you can execute perfectly and the time will be what it is we can collapse time as much as possible by
00:32:50.500
following the method of aggressive patience but a lot of guys will tell you oh you just need to be
00:32:56.660
patient and a lot of young people young in the entrepreneurship game misunderstand that and they
00:33:02.180
think that means just wait and that's not what it means when i say be patient to all of you what do
00:33:07.160
you think automatically you probably think just wait okay and that that is not good enough you have to
00:33:13.460
come in every single day kick ass execute at a high degree execute at a high level and also understand
00:33:21.480
that it's going to take time and that's what aggressive patience is about so um and it's a required
00:33:27.360
element of success you can't get around utilizing it yeah yeah and so so
00:33:31.880
what you're saying is like okay you put that cake in the oven you set it at the right temperature it's
00:33:37.520
going to be 40 minutes you can't speed that time up you can't stop it can't slow it down right but there's
00:33:42.320
other things that you could also be doing while that cakes yeah you could be making the icing you
00:33:46.520
could be cleaning the kitchen yeah you could be cleaning the kitchen you could be making the icing
00:33:50.280
you'd be setting the table you could be aggressively showing up and getting prepared for that event that
00:33:56.280
you need the cake for right so there's this is all part of how it works and um you know it's it's very
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simple when you think about it like that uh it's no different than than an athlete bro an athlete's
00:34:09.560
going to show up like for example uh the the girl from the last question yeah all right she shows up
00:34:15.540
on day one we got 365 days in the year right she wants to improve her skill set she shows up on day
00:34:21.940
one and just fucking she works out for 16 hours that day shows up for day two 16 hours shows up for day
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three 16 hours shows up for day four 16 hours doesn't show up for day five because she's like fuck this
00:34:36.000
okay whereas the person who shows up every single day for eight hours and crushes exactly what they
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do and they do that for 365 days straight that motherfucker is going to be highly skilled because
00:34:49.280
they allowed for time to do its part how skilled can you get at a sport in one day no matter how hard
00:34:55.220
you work okay what about a week what about a year yeah right there we go so so but if you were to sit
00:35:03.960
on the bench for a year and just say i'll be better because i'm going to be a year older
00:35:07.360
you you you're not going to be much better right if any so we have to understand it's work skill and
00:35:15.300
time and we have to understand the roles that those three things play in the the end result that we're
00:35:21.920
chasing all right if you if you're lacking any of them you won't win and here's the other thing
00:35:26.280
about aggressive patience that skill part of it you develop while you're being aggressively patient
00:35:33.380
you see what i'm saying whereas if you were just patient that skill would not grow so show up every
00:35:40.040
day execute effectively do that the next day do that the next day and understand that no matter how
00:35:46.400
hard you work today and how hard you work tomorrow and how hard you work the third day it's still going
00:35:50.760
to take time i love it that's aggressive patience in a nutshell i absolutely love it man well guys
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andy that was three that was three guys all right we got cti tomorrow remember go out this week be good
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be kind kick ass be a good example we'll see you tomorrow
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