759. Real Talkļ¼ The Untold Stories Of Struggle & Success
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Summary
Today we have a real talk about how we have to stop glorifying the hard times as punishment and how we can leverage them to our benefit. It s time to stop looking at difficult times as some sort of curse or punishment and start looking at them as the things that forge us, that build us, and that create us that give us the skills that we need to become what it is we re trying to become.
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what is up guys it's andy purcell and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies the
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fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today
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we have a real talk now i explained to you guys on friday that uh dj and a couple of the crew these
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guys you know they got lives and they're on vacation so i figured i hit you with a real
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talk today and then we'll be back on schedule tomorrow with cti um i'm just gonna get right
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into it okay one of my favorite quotes of all time is from seneca all right and it says i judge
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you unfortunate because you have never lived through misfortune and i want you to really
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think about what that means all right we live in a time in an era in an age where everybody
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is complaining non-stop about how hard they have it and when they look at someone who's built something
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who's become something who's created something they automatically think that this person had an easy
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path but i can tell you from my experience which is right along line with this quote that that is not
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true okay how can someone become something how can they create something how can they build anything
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if they never learn any skills and how do we learn skills we learn skills by going through the hard times
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we learn skills by going through the times that test us the times that make us want to quit the times
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where we lose everybody thinks that success is all about winning but the truth of the matter is guys
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is that the majority of the ultra successful people on this planet have a very very very difficult
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and hard backstory the reason that that is is because that's how they develop the things that they need
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to be successful they develop the skill sets of perseverance of fortitude of grit of all of these things that
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we need to push through if you've never gone through a hard time then how can you learn how to push through
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hard times okay so we have to realign how we look at difficult times we have to stop looking at
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difficult times like it's some sort of punishment we have to stop looking at difficult times like it's
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some sort of curse or we have it harder than everybody and we have to stop glorifying these hard
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times as a poor little me that has all these hard things happening to them motherfucker every single
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person that you have ever looked up to has gone through many times where they felt like they
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were at the end and we have to start appreciating these times for what they actually are these are not
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times where the journey ends these are not times where we get beat into submission these are not times
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where champions decide to quit and you are a champion you may not be yet but if you're listening to this
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i know that you have the desire to be okay we have to start looking at these times as the times that
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forge us that build us that create us that give us the valuable skills that we need to build what it
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is we're trying to build to become what it is we're trying to become and to create what it is we are trying
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to create and that is a very difficult thing because when we look around at the world right now everybody
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seems to believe that all of these hard things that happen to them called life it's called life
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it happens to everyone everybody thinks that they are unique in their hardships and while your hardships
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may be different than that guy's hardships or my hardships these hardships that come along
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and ebbs and flows and waves over the course of our life are the things that help us learn how to succeed
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If you are going through one of these dark phases
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You have to learn how to leverage it to your benefit
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And how can this thing that's happening to you become something that's happening for you?
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What lessons can it teach you that are going to help you create what it is you're trying to create?
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Stop looking at these times as I'm cursed or I just have bad luck or it's not fucking fair
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It's never been fair in the history of humankind
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All we can do is take what the world gives us and turn it into something productive
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So when you're going through one of these times
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And how is this going to be applied to my future?
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Is the worst, most toxic, bullshit culture that has ever existed in the world
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It's put into our culture so that we can look at all of these hard things that happen to us
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All of these things that are unfortunate and unfair
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And we can say, oh, I can't make it because of that
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You never become what it is you're supposed to become
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And because you never become what it is you're supposed to become
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None of the people around you see that it's possible to change your existence
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It is absolutely your duty to become what it is you were meant to become
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To become that version of you that lives deep inside your heart
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That you are too afraid to even tell people about
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Because you think you're going to get laughed at
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And you do not make that materialize into reality
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We have a shortage of people who are pursuing success
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And because we have a shortage of people who are pursuing success
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We have a shortage of people who believe that success is possible for them
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So stop looking at these times as the times that are going to destroy you
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And start looking at these times as the times that are going to forge you
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The most successful people on the planet have learned to leverage the negative things that happen in their life
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They understand what they're supposed to gain from it
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How should I handle this the next time something like this comes around?
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These are things that successful people understand that regular people don't
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Regular people will always look at the hard things that happen to them
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And they will blame them for their lack of results
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Successful people will look at the hard things that happen to them
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And they will give them credit for the reason that they are successful
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It's that people understand how to properly respond to the negative issues that happen in our lives