REAL AF with Andy Frisella - August 12, 2024


759. Real Talk： The Untold Stories Of Struggle & Success

Hosted by
Andy Frisella
Mentioned
Headshot Case Andy Priscilla
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Episode Stats


Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

152.14

Word count

1,628

Sentence count

21

Harmful content

Misogyny

3

sentences flagged

Toxicity

26

sentences flagged

Hate speech

3

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Summary

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Today we have a real talk about how we have to stop glorifying the hard times as punishment and how we can leverage them to our benefit. It s time to stop looking at difficult times as some sort of curse or punishment and start looking at them as the things that forge us, that build us, and that create us that give us the skills that we need to become what it is we re trying to become.

Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
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00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy purcell and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies the 0.98
00:00:20.800 fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today 0.71
00:00:25.360 we have a real talk now i explained to you guys on friday that uh dj and a couple of the crew these 0.70
00:00:32.020 guys you know they got lives and they're on vacation so i figured i hit you with a real
00:00:36.020 talk today and then we'll be back on schedule tomorrow with cti um i'm just gonna get right
00:00:41.040 into it okay one of my favorite quotes of all time is from seneca all right and it says i judge
00:00:50.140 you unfortunate because you have never lived through misfortune and i want you to really
00:00:56.600 think about what that means all right we live in a time in an era in an age where everybody
00:01:04.060 is complaining non-stop about how hard they have it and when they look at someone who's built something
00:01:12.780 who's become something who's created something they automatically think that this person had an easy
00:01:19.220 path but i can tell you from my experience which is right along line with this quote that that is not
00:01:28.140 true okay how can someone become something how can they create something how can they build anything
00:01:36.200 if they never learn any skills and how do we learn skills we learn skills by going through the hard times
00:01:44.140 we learn skills by going through the times that test us the times that make us want to quit the times
00:01:52.100 where we lose everybody thinks that success is all about winning but the truth of the matter is guys
00:01:59.660 is that the majority of the ultra successful people on this planet have a very very very difficult
00:02:08.480 and hard backstory the reason that that is is because that's how they develop the things that they need
00:02:16.600 to be successful they develop the skill sets of perseverance of fortitude of grit of all of these things that
00:02:26.660 we need to push through if you've never gone through a hard time then how can you learn how to push through
00:02:34.180 hard times okay so we have to realign how we look at difficult times we have to stop looking at
00:02:42.420 difficult times like it's some sort of punishment we have to stop looking at difficult times like it's
00:02:48.440 some sort of curse or we have it harder than everybody and we have to stop glorifying these hard 0.98
00:02:56.160 times as a poor little me that has all these hard things happening to them motherfucker every single 1.00
00:03:02.720 person that you have ever looked up to has gone through many times where they felt like they 0.90
00:03:09.760 were at the end and we have to start appreciating these times for what they actually are these are not
00:03:17.520 times where the journey ends these are not times where we get beat into submission these are not times
00:03:25.180 where champions decide to quit and you are a champion you may not be yet but if you're listening to this
00:03:31.840 i know that you have the desire to be okay we have to start looking at these times as the times that
00:03:40.080 forge us that build us that create us that give us the valuable skills that we need to build what it
00:03:48.080 is we're trying to build to become what it is we're trying to become and to create what it is we are trying
00:03:54.500 to create and that is a very difficult thing because when we look around at the world right now everybody
00:04:01.220 seems to believe that all of these hard things that happen to them called life it's called life
00:04:08.820 it happens to everyone everybody thinks that they are unique in their hardships and while your hardships
00:04:16.280 may be different than that guy's hardships or my hardships these hardships that come along
00:04:22.660 and ebbs and flows and waves over the course of our life are the things that help us learn how to succeed
00:04:29.180 if
00:04:30.000 We don't quit
00:04:32.460 Okay, so look
00:04:34.860 This is a very simple message
00:04:37.360 If you are going through a hard time
00:04:40.460 If you are someone who's struggling right now
00:04:43.260 If you are going through one of these dark phases
00:04:46.440 You have to learn how to leverage it to your benefit
00:04:50.740 What are you trying to become?
00:04:52.860 What are you trying to build?
00:04:54.660 What are you trying to create?
00:04:56.240 And how can this thing that's happening to you become something that's happening for you?
00:05:03.680 What skills can it provide?
00:05:05.920 What lessons can it teach you that are going to help you create what it is you're trying to create?
00:05:11.380 All right 0.95
00:05:12.300 Stop looking at these times as I'm cursed or I just have bad luck or it's not fucking fair 0.97
00:05:20.840 Guess what? 0.96
00:05:22.260 It's not fair
00:05:23.580 No one ever said it's going to be fair 0.94
00:05:26.040 It's never been fucking fair 0.71
00:05:28.240 It's never been fair in the history of humankind
00:05:32.220 All we can do is take what the world gives us and turn it into something productive
00:05:38.760 So when you're going through one of these times
00:05:41.440 You have to stop and ask yourself
00:05:43.960 What can I gain?
00:05:45.840 What can I learn?
00:05:47.440 What skill set can I get from this?
00:05:50.140 What is this trying to show me?
00:05:52.280 And how is this going to be applied to my future?
00:05:57.380 Okay
00:05:57.640 The victimhood culture that exists in society 1.00
00:06:00.780 Is the worst, most toxic, bullshit culture that has ever existed in the world 1.00
00:06:06.880 And by the way, it's intentional 1.00
00:06:09.280 It's intentional
00:06:11.060 It's put into our culture so that we can look at all of these hard things that happen to us
00:06:17.440 All of these things that are unfortunate and unfair
00:06:21.180 And we can say, oh, I can't make it because of that
00:06:24.720 I can't do it because of that
00:06:26.720 And then what happens to you?
00:06:28.700 You become a poor little me
00:06:30.360 You accept what life gives you
00:06:33.180 You never become what it is you're supposed to become
00:06:36.260 And because you never become what it is you're supposed to become
00:06:40.040 None of the people around you see that it's possible to change your existence
00:06:46.440 And it is
00:06:47.620 That is your role
00:06:49.620 That is your obligation
00:06:51.620 It is absolutely your duty to become what it is you were meant to become
00:06:57.920 To become that version of you that lives deep inside your heart
00:07:02.460 That only you know about
00:07:04.060 That you are too afraid to even tell people about
00:07:07.360 Because you think you're going to get laughed at
00:07:09.900 That version of you is who you were born to be
00:07:13.900 And if you do not become that
00:07:15.760 And you do not make that materialize into reality
00:07:20.240 Everybody around you suffers
00:07:22.700 It's not just you
00:07:24.280 It's not just your family 1.00
00:07:25.900 It's fucking everybody 1.00
00:07:27.840 Because right now 0.99
00:07:29.360 In our culture
00:07:30.960 In our society
00:07:32.360 We have a shortage of success stories
00:07:35.600 We have a shortage of people who are pursuing success
00:07:39.320 And because we have a shortage of people who are pursuing success
00:07:43.500 We have a shortage of people who believe that success is possible for them
00:07:49.700 So stop looking at these times as the times that are going to destroy you
00:07:55.400 And start looking at these times as the times that are going to forge you
00:08:00.840 This is what it is about
00:08:03.160 The most successful people on the planet have learned to leverage the negative things that happen in their life
00:08:10.360 That happen in your life
00:08:12.000 And that happen in my life
00:08:13.500 To productive action
00:08:15.140 They understand what they're supposed to gain from it
00:08:18.460 They have something happen
00:08:19.940 They assess themselves
00:08:21.900 And they say
00:08:22.820 How does that serve me?
00:08:25.760 What did I learn?
00:08:27.640 What should I do next time?
00:08:29.940 How should I handle this the next time something like this comes around?
00:08:34.120 How should I behave right now?
00:08:36.040 Because everybody's watching me
00:08:37.900 Go through this hard time
00:08:39.540 These are things that successful people understand that regular people don't
00:08:45.160 Regular people will always look at the hard things that happen to them
00:08:48.960 And they will blame them for their lack of results
00:08:52.340 Successful people will look at the hard things that happen to them
00:08:56.400 And they will give them credit for the reason that they are successful
00:09:00.620 That is your job
00:09:02.360 That is your duty
00:09:03.820 That is your obligation
00:09:05.460 And it's not just about you
00:09:07.700 So this week
00:09:08.780 Go out
00:09:10.440 And when this hard stuff happens to you
00:09:12.740 Stop before you react
00:09:14.680 And say
00:09:15.100 How does this serve me?
00:09:16.580 What am I learning?
00:09:17.860 How is this going to help me become
00:09:19.720 Create
00:09:20.480 Build
00:09:21.300 What it is I'm trying to do
00:09:23.240 And if you can start to do that
00:09:25.280 You will become one of these people
00:09:28.120 That looks and appears to everybody else
00:09:31.540 Like you've got it all figured out
00:09:33.480 It's not that people have it all figured out
00:09:36.120 It's that people understand how to properly respond to the negative issues that happen in our lives
00:09:42.380 So this week I want you to go out
00:09:45.040 When this stuff happens
00:09:46.400 I want you to stop
00:09:47.500 I want you to assess
00:09:48.560 And I want you to keep moving forward
00:09:50.420 And learn the lesson
00:09:52.360 Become the example
00:09:53.860 It is your duty
00:09:55.100 It is your obligation
00:09:56.280 So let's go out 1.00
00:09:57.780 And kick some ass 0.99
00:09:58.900 And I'll see you guys on CTI tomorrow 0.99
00:10:01.040 Went from sleeping on the floor
00:10:03.420 Now my jewelry box froze 1.00
00:10:05.120 Fuck a bowl 1.00
00:10:05.920 Fuck a stove 1.00
00:10:06.740 Counted millions in the cold 1.00
00:10:08.420 Bad bitch 1.00
00:10:09.300 Booted swole 1.00
00:10:10.120 Got her on bankroll
00:10:11.720 Can't fold
00:10:12.600 Doesn't know
00:10:13.420 Headshot
00:10:14.240 Case closed
00:10:15.120 Go out
00:10:15.420 Go go
00:10:15.580 Come on
00:10:17.660 Go go
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00:10:37.520 Go We the bus
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