REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 76. How To Master The Moment

00:00:00.000 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living 1.00

00:00:04.680 spoke it till existence mo changed to 50 got mo cost than did i only weigh 180 but my watch 0.99

00:00:11.720 cost 250 what's up guys it's andy and this is the show for the realists say goodbye the lies 0.98

00:00:17.280 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today 0.76

00:00:23.240 just got a little message for you honestly didn't even decide to record this message until just this 0.84

00:00:29.080 morning uh so you're gonna get a little live friday fire today is friday uh october 9th all right and

00:00:36.980 what i'm gonna do is i'm gonna get into a topic that i've talked about on a couple other podcasts

00:00:43.040 uh if you if you listen to some of the podcasts i've done with some of my buddies but i've never

00:00:47.400 talked about on this show and i think it's super important and i want to cover it i've talked about

00:00:52.400 it inside of some of the long episodes but never really a dedicated an episode to this topic

00:00:58.840 but i think it's so powerful and so important that uh you know i wanted to dedicate just a short

00:01:05.840 little talk that'll maybe help you guys get your mind around something because this topic that i'm

00:01:11.780 about to get into really takes some practice to learn how to do uh it's something that i have had a

00:01:18.960 massive hole in my game uh for the last 22 years of my professional career um so i wanted to hit you

00:01:26.120 guys with this topic now where i got this topic from was i was watching the documentary uh about

00:01:33.980 i don't know maybe a month ago on michael jordan the last dance uh it's got tim grover in it who you

00:01:39.800 guys all know is one of my great friends and uh a good good good man that i believe in wholeheartedly

00:01:46.960 um and you know of course it's got michael jordan it's got uh you know dennis rodman it's got all

00:01:54.240 the guys that that pippen it's got all the guys from that era right and we talk and they're all kind

00:01:59.820 of talking about michael jordan and their last season and that's why they call it the last dance

00:02:06.440 and and it's cool because they go from like you know back when michael was in high school to when he

00:02:12.500 was in college to the seasons before the last season and they really cover his whole career uh

00:02:18.760 in detail and it's very entertaining to to watch but i am always trying to be a student just like

00:02:26.360 you guys you guys wouldn't try to be you guys are students by default if you're even listening to this

00:02:31.300 because if you weren't uh listening to this you wouldn't you wouldn't care about success so i'm just

00:02:36.320 like you guys i'm always looking for the guy who knows some things that i don't know and watching

00:02:42.160 that documentary really exposed a huge hole in my personal game and i want to share this with you

00:02:48.020 guys because since watching it i've been conscious of it and man it's made a huge difference in such a

00:02:54.240 short time okay now if you haven't watched the documentary uh you need to go watch it right if

00:03:01.380 you have watched the documentary you're going to know and i'm going to reference a certain scene

00:03:05.180 in this documentary um there was a certain point and everybody knows how awesome michael jordan is

00:03:12.600 right uh whether you're a bass i'm not really even a basketball fan i'm a sports fan i like football i

00:03:18.920 like baseball i like hockey but basketball is probably my least favorite sport just because i never played

00:03:23.320 it all right and i'm terrible at it if i if you just trust me all right uh but i love studying high

00:03:33.320 achievers and it's hard to argue that michael jordan wasn't the best at what he does i mean he's in the

00:03:40.360 conversation i think he's uh you know head and shoulders the best player that ever played and

00:03:47.060 probably the best athlete and the best mentality in sports that we've ever had and so when everybody

00:03:54.180 thinks of michael jordan we always hear the famous things like you know he was intense he was mean

00:04:00.000 sometimes he was angry he was a tough player uh you know he he wasn't always nice and practical we 0.89

00:04:07.360 always hear this shit okay but watching him interact on that documentary gave me a different perspective 0.93

00:04:15.140 perspective and that perspective it came to me in an instant there was a scene in the documentary 0.99

00:04:25.140 where michael was uh they were before one of his big games i believe it was a playoff game

00:04:30.340 and it was literally right before they're getting ready to play and he's in the locker room in one of

00:04:38.960 the side rooms of the locker area with one of the security guys and they're flipping quarters all right

00:04:45.120 and this is literally like right during his the middle of when he should be preparing and he

00:04:52.660 should be like you know we think he should be preparing he should be focused you know getting

00:04:58.440 intense ready to go to battle but he's not he's flipping quarters and he's laughing with his security 0.89

00:05:05.060 guy and they're playing a little game and they're having a fucking blast and what i saw in that moment 0.94

00:05:12.120 was so profound for me i just want to share it with you guys he was present okay he was present in the 0.65

00:05:20.560 moment and that's really what makes great people great that's what makes great athletes great

00:05:30.340 athletes that's what makes great entrepreneurs great entrepreneurs that's what makes great anything

00:05:35.940 great okay they're able to take and i never saw this this way until just recently but it all clicked

00:05:43.620 for me they're able to take whatever it is right in front of them whether it be a conversation whether

00:05:49.840 it be a game of quarters whether it be uh practicing whether it be lifting weights whether it be strategic

00:05:57.600 uh you know planning strategy in a meeting it doesn't matter what you're doing or what he was doing

00:06:04.620 he was all in on that so when they were practicing chess passes he was a hundred percent into chess

00:06:11.040 passes when they were practicing layups he was a hundred percent there for layups he wasn't thinking

00:06:16.640 about his girlfriend or his you know uh problems off the court or his argument that he had with you

00:06:24.100 know ownership or any of these other distractions and we could come up with i don't know a trillion

00:06:30.380 distractions for our own lives i mean how many times do you find yourself in a situation where

00:06:38.480 you're lifting weights and you're trying to get better or you're sitting in front of your computer

00:06:42.380 and you're trying to create something or you're writing emails and you're thinking about all this 0.98

00:06:47.500 other shit you're thinking about this argument you had an hour ago you're thinking about this uh car 0.95

00:06:54.520 but uh accident you got in on the way to work that was a little fender bender or you're thinking 0.99

00:06:59.400 about all these little distractions you're thinking about you know how your friends want you to go out 0.94

00:07:04.360 tonight shit like this okay and you're mindlessly going through the motions of whatever task you have 0.97

00:07:11.380 in front of you and then because you're mindlessly going through those motions and just getting it done 0.99

00:07:17.100 as opposed to putting the proper intent behind it it really slows down your progress because if you

00:07:23.520 think about it wouldn't you be a lot better if you were focused when you were doing the things

00:07:28.480 you're supposed to be doing wouldn't you be a lot better to execute on emails or on uh you know

00:07:35.120 whatever content you're trying to create or whatever meeting you're trying to have or whatever product

00:07:40.280 you're trying to create or whatever conversation you're trying to have if you weren't worried about

00:07:45.020 a million different things i know i would be more effective and i know i have been this is something

00:07:51.120 that has helped me tremendously in the short time i've noticed it and become aware of it and i want to

00:07:56.900 give you guys the gift of this awareness okay be aware when you're there to execute and you find

00:08:03.720 yourself drifting off into other things okay that's not what great people do what great people do is they

00:08:09.680 pour their focus into what they're doing at the time and they address that then when something else

00:08:15.820 happens and it's time to do this they address this okay and then when something else happens and it's

00:08:21.640 now it's time for that they address that all right they go through their day

00:08:27.620 completely designed to be present in whatever it is they're handling at the moment which allows them

00:08:34.200 to a be more successful and effective with it and b be happy this is the this is the biggest thing about

00:08:42.660 it be happy you're able to execute better and be happier doing it you're able to have fun doing it 0.88

00:08:48.680 because you're not allowing yourself to be distracted by all the other shit and guys this is a skill but 0.95

00:08:55.140 it's not a skill that takes years to develop it's skill that takes weeks to develop if you just become

00:08:59.420 present with it so i wanted to share that with you i wanted to share with you the idea that maybe you

00:09:07.120 aren't as present as you should be maybe you're letting yourself get caught up in all these other

00:09:13.880 things that life has and guys how many distractions are there right now there's probably more distractions

00:09:20.200 in society right now than there ever has been that's arguable so can we focus during that time

00:09:27.160 and be present in the conversations we have in the work that we do in the fun that we have so that we

00:09:33.020 can actually be effective draw more of the good juice out of life and leave some of the stress and

00:09:39.480 some of the anxiety and some of the pain on the table for someone else to take all right we don't

00:09:46.620 have to be miserable to be excellent we don't have to be angry to be excellent okay we can take those

00:09:53.020 negative feelings and turn them into productive action a hundred percent of the time but when you're

00:09:58.760 producing that action and you're putting it into whatever it is you're into worry about that how good

00:10:05.880 are your chest passes how good are your layups okay because i'm going to tell you right now

00:10:11.300 everybody thinks in basketball you know 360 reverse slam dunks win the game and three pointers win the 0.89

00:10:18.020 game that ain't true defensive fucking layups win the game it's the same in life fundamentals win the game 0.94

00:10:25.320 how present are you in the fundamentals how present are you in the conversations how present are you 0.97

00:10:32.020 when you're writing that email how present are you in that meeting because i'm going to tell you right

00:10:38.220 now what happens is when you aren't present okay you haven't done your best work you know you haven't

00:10:45.500 done your best work and that little friend of ours called anxiety starts to reel it's you know reel up

00:10:51.600 like a little tornado inside of us because why because we know we aren't focused and we know we aren't

00:10:58.140 present and we know we just missed on something that should have been an easy layup all right so if

00:11:04.000 you want to be more effective and you want to be more happy learn to be present and trust that being

00:11:10.980 present will not only make you more effective and more successful but it'll also make you happier

00:11:17.920 and guys don't forget we don't advertise this show i don't pack it full ads this is for your value so

00:11:24.140 if you got value if you love the show if it made you laugh if it made you think if it changed your

00:11:29.300 perspective if you think you're you know like-minded friends would enjoy it please share the show okay

00:11:33.580 that's how we grow grow the show organically if we do good the show grows if we don't do good i'm

00:11:38.620 fine with the show not growing all right if you didn't like the show don't share it i'm cool with that

00:11:43.540 but if it did give you perspective and it did help you please share the show that's my message for you

00:11:49.480 guys this friday i hope you guys go out kick ass let this thing sink in think about this think about 0.92

00:11:56.480 all the things that you miss because you're worried about other shit and and harness that into focus 0.96

00:12:02.720 guys it sounds kind of hard but it's really not i've been able to fix this in myself very short time

00:12:09.440 just by being aware so i wanted to give you guys that gift today i hope you have a great day

00:12:13.580 i love you guys and i'll see you guys soon

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - October 09, 2020

76. How To Master The Moment

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