783. Q&AF： Feeling Like A Fraud, Turning Employee Into Leader & No Man's Land
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In this episode of Q&A, Andy and Af join me to talk about the importance of mental toughness and how to develop it in your life. We also talk about getting older and how it can be a blessing and a curse.
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what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
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the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today
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we have q and af we always start the week off with some good get better information uh now if you
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want to have your questions answered on the show you can go about that a couple different ways the
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now through the week we're going to have different shows within the show all right tomorrow we're
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going to have cti that stands for cruise the internet that's where we put topics of the day
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up on the screen we speculate on what's true on what's not true and then we talk about how we the
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people have to solve these problems going on in the world other times we're going to have what's called
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real talk real talk is just me giving you 5 to 20 minutes of what i think is some real talk uh we
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cover you know anything from personal development to what's going on in the world you never know what
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you're going to get there uh but we keep it real and then we have 75 hard verses now 75 hard verses
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where someone who has completed the 75 hard program comes on the show they talk about how they were
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before how they were after and how they've used the 75 hard and the live hard program to transform
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their life now you can get the full live hard program and if you didn't know 75 hard is just the
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initial phase of that for free at episode 208 on the audio feed if you're unfamiliar with the live
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hard program it is the number one world's most popular mental transformation program in history
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okay and you get that episode 208 on the audio feed for free now there is a book called the book
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on mental toughness which includes the entire live hard program which is good it's more in depth it's uh
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for people that need to know the nuts and bolts and all the details like me um and then it also
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has a whole bunch of chapters on mental toughness why it's important how to develop it and how to use
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it in your life along with a number of case studies on some famous people who have used mental toughness
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to become the famous people that you recognize you can get that book at andypriscilla.com now one thing
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say here it goes like this don't be a hoe show the show all right what's up dude what's going on
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brother oh not much green's a good color on you is it yeah i didn't know i was debating i don't think
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i've seen you in green like that yeah i was debating i was just feeling a little different
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today yeah you know it really brings out the uh the silver in my beard the silver fox
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i mean since you brought it up i'll tell you what dude getting older is a weird thing man
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is it yeah because like i still feel 25 but then i look in the mirror and it don't look 25
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motherfucker i could jump listen i'm gonna tell you this i'm as good of an athlete as anybody for
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this age that's a fact so no i love it man i love it what's up with you oh nothing much man
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birthday party this weekend birthday party was great um birthday party was great i dude i
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threw down on the grill do you throw down at the table too no actually not much uh it was more of
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an act of service no it's always weird man like when i'm cooking like like cooking like that i don't
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even really be hungry yeah you know i'm saying like everybody else fucking it's weird i don't know i get
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it um no dude i just wanted to show you guys this because i'm very proud of it it's a uh a recipe i
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made myself okay you're gonna put it up here on the screen it's smoked steak queso oh you were telling
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me about that how'd that turn out bro it was it was probably the best thing i've ever i've ever
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created in my life to be honest are those onions those are smoked onions yeah see that i couldn't
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eat that yeah it looks good otherwise though listen it was so fucking good those onions are huge bro
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bro who eats onions that big bro you like onions i fucking love onions bro onions garlic no onion
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it's not even real food it's a fucking joke what do you mean you never heard the king's theory on
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onions no what is it oh bro what do you mean oh wait listen hold on onion's not even supposed to be
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eaten okay i have a theory on this i call it the king's theory the king's theory yeah so a long time
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ago back in you know the old days where there was kings and shit yeah the old old days you know
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where there was kings and shit yeah the king in the jester they said hey we're gonna play a joke
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on people i'm gonna tell everybody this little weed that you pull out of the ground is food and
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we're gonna watch them eat it and they're all gonna pretend like they like it because i'm gonna say i
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like it so this king you know he went out to all his people and he fucking held the onion up and he
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said hey this is the best food ever and then all the little people went out and started eating it
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and that's how it became a food because there's no reasonable person that could say that onion
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fucking taste good i mean i think they taste they taste fine nah bro it's a joke you fell for it
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damn the king got me yeah the king's theory bro three hours though three hours to make some queso
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three hours and i put on the smoker so like the cheese did you put the cheese in the smoker too
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yeah oh i bet that was good yeah that's not like it's all smoked and then i mean i seared the steaks
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and shit but yeah the steak looks cooked right bro it's perfect that's a good how do you like your
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you medium rare we always order the same steaks yeah medium rare with a with a with a crust on
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outside hard cereal called pittsburgh cereal yep that's right yeah so just a little food porn for
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you guys yeah um yeah man other than that everything else was good everything else was good it wasn't
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too bad at all i didn't do shit yeah fucking worked finally worked out you know i tore my peck back in
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the beginning of august i haven't really told anybody that but yeah kept it on download yeah i was cruising
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and i tore my peck not a major tear but just in the in the belly and uh finally trained chest
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yesterday a little bit felt okay weren't too bad no all right well sweet man well it is uh i don't
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think i'm about back in the saddle with that yeah yeah i mean how long is like are those recoveries
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it depends on how bad that's not like a surgical tear not in the middle of the muscle no but uh it
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you know it depends on how bad it is i think mine was pretty uh as much as it bruised and everything
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i think it was still pretty minor yeah sweet man well um it is q a all right some people better
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today let's do it guys any question number one uh andy i recently got a promotion at work
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uh for a position that i truly wanted i felt like i was qualified for i went through the
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interview process like everyone else the only difference was i didn't meet their educational
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requirements i had two interviews i felt like i crushed both and at the end of the day
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ended up getting the promotion i i was very excited and i felt like i deserved to be here
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and still do i've been in this position for about two months now and i can't help but feel
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like i'm not being an asset to the team i have classes scheduled and i'm starting to take courses
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to get uh certain certificates i just can't help but feel right now of being more of a liability
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than an asset i'm putting in the effort to get to that position of an asset and i won't stop
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until i am by reading books uh for this specific position and whatnot just at the moment am i a
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fraud no i look first of all let me let me give you uh some praise here the fact that you feel that
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way is a great thing because it means you care it means you care not just about yourself and getting
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the promotion it means you care about the team and the mission and what we're trying to do and and to
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be quite honest i think the best teammates of any team whether it's been in sports or whether it's
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been in business that i've been a part of are people who feel that way they feel like shit man
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i'm not paddling you know hard enough or i'm not giving what i could or maybe i'm not doing enough
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um which is the awareness that you need to get better so that you know you you weigh that against
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what most people do is they get the promotion they don't care if they're actually contributing
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and they kind of just take the money and cruise through right and so i think the mentality that
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you have actually i don't think i know the mentality you have is the mentality of a high achiever
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which is a great thing it's also the mentality of a great teammate so the fact that you feel that way
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bro like that's actually a good thing because you're going to go out you're going to gain the
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skills that you need to contribute in the proper manner uh and that's how every job up the scale of
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you know your career is going to be you're going to move into that career having you know or into
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that next position having a little bit of skill set but needing to develop more and if everybody
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understood that they would continue to move up the ladder of success but they don't at some point they
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get to a place where they sort of just rot because they quit developing and they quit caring and they quit
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wondering if they're doing a great job uh or if they're contributing to the team and so they quit
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doing personal development work they quit reading they quit you know trying to learn they quit trying
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to gain skills and then they just sit there and rot and they wonder why oh i'm getting passed over for
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this or i didn't get this opportunity well you didn't do your part man you know you didn't do the
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part of personal development that is required by every single person there are very few companies
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we're one of them uh but there's very few that actually take an interest in your personal
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development and that's something that you have to do on your own time you have to have your own
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initiative and it means you're going to have to pass on things that everybody else gets to go out and do
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that are fun and you have to look at those things not as a sacrifice but as an investment as to where
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you're going and so um i personally believe that this is a great thing you feel that way i think what
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you need to do is continue to do what you're doing working to gain skills and it'll come and you'll
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start contributing and what will happen is you'll become so good at what you're doing that you will
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get off for the next position and the cycle will repeat itself a lot of people think that they work
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their way up as an entrepreneur in an organization uh just over time they think if i'm here enough time
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i'll get a promotion that's not true you have to crush it at your position and be undeniably great
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and then the next opportunity will be presented to you and when you start that opportunity you're
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probably going to be mediocre you're not going to know what to do and you're going to have to start
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the process over and start learning and start acquiring skills and start doing the things you did
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uh with the last position to gain the perspective and the skill in the new position and if you continue
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to do that there will be no stopping your upward mobility but you know most people don't they get
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to a place where they're making just enough money uh and they get comfortable and they start to just
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sit and you know if they ask themselves honestly how'd you get to this place they were doing different
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actions than what they're doing now and the minute you stop trying to get better the minute you stop
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wanting to get better it's the best it's ever going to be it's all downhill because now you're not
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playing offense anymore you're playing defense now you're starting to get into the politics aspect of
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business where you know you're trying to block other people from passing you up as opposed to
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being a contributing member of the team and just getting better and better and better and better
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just being great yeah it's very simple dude a lot of every single problem in your life can be solved
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very simply by being undeniably good at what you do that is it every single problem your problem of
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confidence be undeniably good your problem of income be undeniably good your problem of relationship
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be undeniably good if you're undeniably great at everything in every area you're not going to
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have any problems and that is within the average person's capability if they would just take the
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time to make the investment in themselves yeah i love it man i want i want to clarify on this too
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man because i i feel like this is it is a a common like narrative it's a common like theme i guess
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that you know you have to be this like you have to be 100 percent prepared you know in order to get
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this next thing you know i'm saying i want to clarify that's what you're saying like that's
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bullshit well it doesn't hurt to have those skills ahead of time but most people don't yeah most people
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learn how to do a job in an undeniably great fashion on the job right you know we can go to
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school we can read all the books we can watch all the youtubes you're still not going to get
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great at something until you're actually doing it over and over and over and over right the practical
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application yeah bro listen i could watch every video on playing the guitar i could read every book
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about guitar mastery i could do every single thing i could do that for jujitsu but unless i sit down
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and play the guitar and practice the guitar i'm not going to get any good at it i'm certainly not
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going to be great at it same thing with jujitsu i could read all the theory i can go to all the
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classes i can watch all the youtube but unless i'm rolling every single day with these dudes i'm not
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going to get any better and so we have to understand knowledge and practical application
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you get the knowledge and then you tune it and you become better through the reps and the application
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of practice it's no different like you watch a video someone hit a baseball that doesn't mean you
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could do it you gotta do that yeah that's right so uh it's very simple dude and for this person i
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wouldn't beat yourself up i think you had the attitude of a high achiever my suggestion would be
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just to make sure that you keep that attitude after you master this position for the next position
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and the next one and the next one and eventually i mean dude we just i don't know if you guys saw but
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nike got a new ceo do you know where the nike ceo started the new new nike ceo he started as an
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intern okay and for 30 years he's worked his way up and worked his way up and worked his way up and
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worked his way up and worked his way up starting as an intern and is now the ceo okay so think about
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that yeah bro that that's so you see that shit in movies no listen it's highly probable for anybody
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that is committed to that kind of development to eventually end up in a role like that if you do
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it long enough and you know maybe it's not at the company you're at because the window may not be open
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right but if you continue to gain skills and gain skills and gain skills on your own without being told
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to without being pulled along dude you're infinitely valuable to somebody and maybe there's not the
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opportunity at where you are but where you'll get in the right spot someday and you will you will win
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a hundred percent dude i want to ask you there's one more piece on this question man because i think
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this is a great point too um and this is i guess this answer will be more for the entrepreneurs right
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um but for yourself right like you you've hired thousands of people you've employed thousands of
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people as an entrepreneur how do you handle when you know a leader your your boss whoever it is in
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that position and they see more potential in you than you see in yourself how do you like so what
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what advice do you give to the entrepreneurs on that aspect because like somebody believed in this guy to
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like promote them without the educational requirements right they heard the interviews they believed in his
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potential to to do that and that's i feel like that's a difficult spot to be in as an entrepreneur when
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you have somebody that believes in your potential more than you believe in your own potential well i
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would listen to them because they have more experience than you and they know what it takes
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and maybe you can't see it because you're you and you can't see your own greatness you can't see your
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own potential because dude all of us as high achieving mindset people we never feel good enough we never
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feel like we're doing enough we never feel like we're giving enough or contributing enough or winning
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enough it always feels like a loss until you get the big win when you get the big win that lasts for
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a minute and then you're back in the grind of building again and so i think all high achievers
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at some point need some sort of validation from people that are further down the line and i think you
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should listen to them because you know some of the greatest coaches in the world will come in and
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tell you you know hey uh you got this potential and you're not listening to them that doesn't make sense
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you know what i mean and uh you know a lot of this is is faith dude like a lot of this is
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you know not in the religious sense of faith but faith that if i do the work the result will be there
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and you have to understand all these people ahead of you they were the same as you at one point in time
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they just believe that if they did the work that they would get better and and so dude i have this
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saying and you guys all know that listening to the show for years the work comes before the belief
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you have to do a little work before you actually believe and you work and work and work and work and
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work and then it produces a little bit of result and then you say oh okay that works and it instills
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a little bit of belief then you work and work and work and work and work and you get a little bit bigger
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result and then you get a little bit more belief so the work always comes before the belief in
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yourself and you have to have the faith that you are willing to do that work without a visible
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result understanding that down the road it's going to pay off so the work comes before the belief
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and even if you don't believe in yourself you have to listen to people like who are above you
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who would you know potentially be a coach for you or a mentor to you who've recognized people just
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like you have gone on to do great things i love it man i love it guys any question number two
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first off i want to say how much i appreciate the podcast i've been listening since eighth grade
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it has really transformed my mindset and helped me grow my business i'm 18 years old now and just
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graduated high school last spring and i run a pressure washing business we also hang up christmas
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lights and do snow removal we are currently doing around 20 to 30k per month dang um i currently have
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one employee working for me who does okay on quality uh but likes to take his time and i don't
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see the leadership potential in him um he also likes to ask for mental health breaks um this is someone
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who i don't see fitting the culture i want to build within my company but he's also my only employee so i
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kind of have to keep him around uh as i said i'm 18 so i'm probably don't know shit uh but is there a way
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to turn an employee into a leader into a manager um or is it just something that they have to bring
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to the table uh thanks again look yes you could definitely turn people into leaders where do you
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think all the leaders come from they're not just born they don't come out and they're leaders like
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that's not where it comes from someone took the time to invest in that person and cultivate the
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leadership skill set now are there a lot of people that can't be coached in a leading yeah absolutely
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and if someone's coming to you every third day with some mental health break or this or that
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they're probably not ready for that in their life now maybe 10 years from now they will be i don't know
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but absolutely you can help people become more leadership oriented and that means you have to take a
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you have to take an interest in their personal development actively so you have to become their coach
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and you have to be able to explain why doing things at a certain level is how we have to do them
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in order for us to get where we're trying to go you know people aren't just going to come in and do
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things at a high standard because you want them done at a high standard and they're not going to do
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them um to the level of your high standards unless you take the time to explain why it's important
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all right most people don't operate on a high standard in their job because most jobs aren't demanding
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of a high standard most jobs it's just can i get someone and can they do the job and i'll say this
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as a young entrepreneur don't get caught up in that because when you have not very many employees
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sometimes small business operators will compromise their standards because they don't want to have to
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go through the hiring process and what i can tell you is that is a sure way to hang yourself you don't
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want to do that dude you want to find people that are going to work with you who are going to want to
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build with you and that's going to come down to your ability to lead them so what are you trying
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to do with your business that is going to benefit that employee all right where are you trying to
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take it how are you trying to build it and does that employee's dreams and goals and life that they
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want to build for themselves fit within that if it does you're going to find people that want to build
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and want to create and want to be a part of what you're trying to do if you don't explain the big
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vision properly and explain how we're going to get there the level of standard that we need to operate
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to get there and then also where that person fits in how they can build their life within that umbrella
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you're going to have problems that's the main job that you're going to have besides doing the actual
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power washing and the Christmas light hanging right so um so yeah man you know nobody's going
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to walk into your business and be this great leader you're going to have to build them you're
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going to have to develop them and that's going to mean you're going to have to take an interest
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in your employees and uh you know there's really no other way to do it so yes you can do it yes there's
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people that can't be coached that way because they're not ready for it but i'll say this dude
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you know when i was 16 17 uh i was lazy dude like super lazy like i at the the the jobs i had to do
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which were hard which was doing concrete forms and then painting the stripes on parking lots
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bro i was trying to get out of that shit as much as i could real talk i was probably the worst employee
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but the reason i was the worst employee is because i didn't understand the outcome that i was trying to
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contribute to i just looked at it as showing up late at night pushing a striper across the lot
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and if i would have known like hey this is going to help me build what i've built now i would have
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hustled my ass off you know what i'm saying so you know it's about vision casting and that's what my
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partner in arte and my lead always talks about vision casting vision casting vision casting and
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it's a common trait uh and skill set required by the leader of an organization or a team you know
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hey guys you know nick saban right at alabama when he was there you know we have to get off the ball
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fast we we're going to practice the play so many times that we can't get it wrong right that's the
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level of detail that he operates at because he understands what it takes to win and so while
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they're going through the plays over and over and over and over again he's talking about hey do you
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want to win a national championship or do you want to be just another team that goes on the wall over
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there it says that they're pretty good you see what i'm saying so he's constantly reminding his
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team where they're going how it's going to benefit them how they're going to uh how these little
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monotonous details are going to contribute to the outcome of their life and that's the job of a leader
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and if you do that other people will come up and leave with you and some people won't
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and the ones that don't you know you'll find you'll replace them with people that do over the course of
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time i love that i want to follow up on this too i mean you know developing someone else around you
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how much how much time and effort should he be putting into himself and developing himself
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well it sounds like he's already put 10 years into it yeah you know or whatever what is it 18 12
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eight years yeah you know i'm saying i mean but that's that is a that is a there's a stick around
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young leaders dj bro that's a lifelong process yeah like there there are things that i am still
00:24:20.040
working on and i am a very experienced entrepreneur period okay there are things that i still need to
00:24:27.040
get better at there are things that every single leader can improve on uh phil knight the the ceo of
00:24:34.780
nike or the founder of nike there's still things he could get better at it's that's the beautiful
00:24:39.980
thing about business and leadership is it's not like football or baseball where there's like a cap on
00:24:45.660
how long you can play and how good you can get you can always get better and you can always improve
00:24:50.400
and you can always learn a new skill and personally that's why i like the game of entrepreneurship so
00:24:54.940
much because it's never ending i get to play the game my whole life you know what i'm saying whereas
00:25:00.040
like you know had i become a professional athlete which was my goal my whole life you know i'd be
00:25:07.040
done by now and i would be talking about what i did you know back in the day and you know um
00:25:14.100
i'm very thankful and grateful to to have found the game of entrepreneurship uh because it's something
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that gives me a mission and a purpose um for my whole life you know so so like dude yes at 18 you
00:25:30.700
got a lot of work to do bro but guess what at 40 you still got a lot of work to do at 60 you still
00:25:36.240
got a lot of work to do it's just always evolving and that's why i talk about success being the
00:25:42.280
pursuit of your real potential not the actualization of your actual potential okay the true definition
00:25:49.460
of success for me is the commitment to the pursuit of your own true potential because if you can commit
00:25:56.160
to always getting better and you can also accept that you will never become the best you can be because
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the game is everlasting now you're going to be in a winning position your whole life because
00:26:06.220
no matter how much success you have you're still going to be looking at yourself saying okay where
00:26:10.180
can i get better where can i improve how can i do this better next time and that's what winners do
00:26:14.980
bro i don't know a single high achiever i don't know a single billionaire i don't know a single guy
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worth a hundred million dollars or even worth ten million dollars that feels like they're winning
00:26:25.280
all the time i don't know like that's why i like these guys on the internet they're so full of shit
00:26:30.200
okay they don't even know how to play the game they couldn't run one of my stores for a single
00:26:34.940
fucking day that's a fact okay real people that are building real shit they never feel like they're
00:26:40.740
winning they always feel like they got more to do or they could have done better if they're a true
00:26:44.960
winner you know what i'm saying look at michael jordan he talks about it he doesn't remember all
00:26:50.100
the shots that he made but he fucking remembers the ones he missed and that's the mentality of a real
00:26:55.400
winner dude they they look no matter what the outcome and how good it was they look at the areas
00:27:00.580
they could get better they break that down and uh you know they work on improving that so that
00:27:05.240
their game is more solid and and you know if you ever had a coach that was a great coach you know
00:27:09.860
you could win the game 42 to nothing and they're gonna be breaking down film be like dj why'd you
00:27:14.900
miss that block you cannot miss that block you're like coach i won we won and but he understands that
00:27:20.640
you're gonna play somebody one day and you're gonna miss that block it's gonna cost you the game
00:27:24.380
you see what i'm saying shit man that's real shit i love it man guys any uh third and final
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question question number three hey andy i'd love some advice i've been listening to you since uh the
00:27:37.120
early mf ceo days to paint the picture for you i'm coming back yeah yeah it is uh to paint the picture
00:27:43.940
for you i am a 27 year old general manager of a motorcycle dealership with about 60 employees
00:27:50.160
i started seven years ago uh in an entry-level wash bay position uh then was given an opportunity
00:27:57.140
to join the sales team i was the number one salesperson in the company for a few years
00:28:02.100
um and now i'm in charge of a whole dealership and i absolutely love it now in my personal life i'm
00:28:06.620
engaged i have my first kid on the way i own a house on a rental property and i have a respectable
00:28:11.860
savings for my age um i am incredibly thankful for the position i'm in at 27 but some days i just feel
00:28:18.600
exhausted because it feels like everyone in my career and personal life need me to provide for
00:28:24.620
them train them make all the decisions and help them through situations they're in don't get me
00:28:29.920
wrong i want to be in these provider decision maker roles but i feel like i have nobody i can
00:28:36.500
personally talk to about these things um i don't have anyone in my life i can call to just get some
00:28:41.420
stuff off my chest uh too because none of them can relate um i have so many things that i keep
00:28:46.920
inside that just quietly eat me alive some days uh am i in no man's land um that's the question and
00:28:54.460
do you have any advice on places i could look for to find people who have been through where i uh where
00:29:00.260
i'm at that i could talk to about all this weight i have on my shoulders no therapy just someone
00:29:04.700
relatable uh to talk to you that doesn't need anything in return for me thanks andy for sure man
00:29:09.880
um you are in no man's land and for those of you that don't know what no man's land is
00:29:14.440
no man's land is when you first start out you know you have your friend group in high school
00:29:19.920
and you first start out and you say i'm gonna do this and all of them are like oh man are you sure
00:29:26.500
or have you thought this through uh you know most people fail at that thing and you start to go out
00:29:33.160
and build whatever it is it could be a you know it could be a motorcycle career it could be a business
00:29:38.500
it could be the church it could be a lots of different things but you're stepping outside
00:29:42.620
the the initial friend group that you have and you're starting to go down a path that none of
00:29:47.480
them are committed to and you start to hear all the chirping you start to hear all the criticism
00:29:51.380
and you find yourself in a position where you don't really relate to those people
00:29:55.900
and this is where the saying it's lonely at the top comes from but the thing is guys i'm gonna tell
00:30:03.020
you you're not at the top you've never been to the top i've never been to the top okay the mountain
00:30:07.560
is never ending so what happens is people get out here in this area where they don't feel like they
00:30:13.300
have anybody to talk to and instead of continuing down the path they actually go back and they just
00:30:18.580
say oh i'm gonna go back and be with these friends because it's comfortable and they're in their
00:30:22.640
career and their life and their goals sort of fall by the wayside but the other person who decides
00:30:27.340
to keep going they end up surrounding themselves with friends who are aligned with what they're
00:30:33.100
trying to build who they're trying to become and those people instead of pulling away and saying
00:30:38.080
are you sure or instilling doubt in you saying oh you know i don't know you know these people are
00:30:43.460
like yeah bro look we're doing the same thing and they start to help you right and if you continue
00:30:48.760
to go down the path and by the way those friendships are much better than the first friendships
00:30:53.180
okay so the friendship group gets better imagining having friends in your life all of them that
00:30:59.880
supported you and pushed you and helped you be better that's what it's like okay so you get in
00:31:04.360
that group and then if you progress and level up again the same kind of thing will happen because a lot
00:31:08.360
of those friends in the second group they will uh you know become complacent with where they're at
00:31:13.900
and you'll say i want to keep going and then you'll go through the process again and every time
00:31:17.700
you level up in life you're going to go through this process where you feel alone now to answer
00:31:22.520
your question uh yes you are in that spot uh and where do you find people and by the way just so
00:31:29.100
you know if you're in a leadership position if you're in uh a position of a general manager where
00:31:33.980
you have a responsibility of all these people dude it's a privilege to be in charge of that as much
00:31:39.760
pressure as it is it's a privilege to be the person that people come to for answers and if they
00:31:45.560
weren't coming to you for answers you would feel like you were missing something in your life
00:31:49.720
and so i could completely understand that i'm in that position as well uh anybody who's running
00:31:55.040
a business or the they're the decision maker in a business whether it be a manager ceo coo somebody
00:32:01.320
important in the organization they are dealing with the weight of everybody on their back like for me
00:32:07.600
dude almost everybody i know uh depends on me to get the fuck up out of bed and execute and that's a
00:32:14.880
lot of pressure and it's a lot of pressure when you really love these people and you care about them
00:32:19.400
you know what i'm saying so uh that comes with the territory and you just get used to it it's just
00:32:24.380
like a cold plunge the first time you get in it you're like ah and then after yeah and then after
00:32:29.560
a while you know five six days or you know in in this context it's years you start to get used to
00:32:35.220
the pressure but i'll tell you the truth dude there's still days where i struggle with this and
00:32:39.300
you know this and people around me know this it can get exhausting because you're trying to handle
00:32:44.260
your own shit and then you have everybody else dumping on you you know and it can be exhausting
00:32:49.600
um but how do you get around people that are like-minded which is very important you have to
00:32:57.020
you have to actively seek those people out okay you could uh join a group like rt syndicate where
00:33:02.600
there's lots of people who are successful and by the way uh you know when you get around people like
00:33:08.840
that again they're going to help you they're going to they're going to teach you they're going to
00:33:12.540
share information and it's going to make you better um you know you could seek out other
00:33:17.620
people that are in your uh you know realm of of of you know expertise so to speak uh you know maybe
00:33:26.820
maybe you find another manager who manages a similar dealership somewhere else or uh but i'd be careful
00:33:33.360
with that because a lot of people get in those roles and just because they're in that role doesn't
00:33:36.960
mean they're trying to get out of that role so you want to be around highly ambitious people
00:33:40.800
um who are driven to consistently progress who are going to teach you skills and share skills and
00:33:48.060
share information and quite honestly that's why ed and i started rt syndicate if you want to learn
00:33:52.400
about it you can go to rt syndicate.com um but you know getting around people that are driven
00:33:59.780
doesn't happen at the bar bro it doesn't happen just sitting at your house you have to actively seek
00:34:07.220
them out and you have to actively and intentionally work to build relationships with those people and
00:34:12.180
if you do you'll be welcomed in and you'll have much more rewarding and enriching and productive
00:34:18.040
friendships that will help you and your family and by the way you're 60 employees you see what i'm
00:34:23.320
saying so it's very very important and you know the old friend group they they don't get it they're
00:34:28.360
never really going to get it you know they're always going to say shit and then once you move into the
00:34:32.720
second group they're going to be saying oh you forgot where you came from are you left us behind
00:34:37.900
no i didn't leave you behind bro you could have came with me you could have came you don't say i
00:34:42.520
told you i was going over here you could have came with me so don't let those people guilt you don't
00:34:46.300
let those people wear you out um and understand that if you want to get better you've got it you've
00:34:52.320
got to actively seek out better and more productive relationships they're not just going to come to
00:34:57.020
you because those people are out doing shit right that's real man yeah you know something you know
00:35:01.620
because you've talked about the no man's land before and this is like a question i just thought
00:35:05.660
about here man but um i guess just more of a talking point too but you know i find it interesting
00:35:11.580
too that you know you leave that first group you got you know your new group right and they're these
00:35:15.100
people a little bit more ambitious right and then when when somebody in that group let's say it's not
00:35:18.820
you yet but they elevate and they go to the next level you're gonna have more people in that group
00:35:23.780
that will choose to move forward than not yeah so like that's awesome fucking motivation yeah that's
00:35:28.320
awesome fucking energy to have around you absolutely like like can we talk about a little
00:35:31.880
bit man well look dude i mean uh successful driven people generally enjoy competition now they might
00:35:38.300
say they hate their competition if they're super driven but they don't they they that's just immaturity
00:35:43.800
when you're immature you say i hate my competitors i fucking hate them when you start to mature a
00:35:49.440
little bit what happens is you start and by the way i used to be that guy but what happens is you start
00:35:54.260
to learn a little bit and and get a little bit more mature and you start to realize fuck dude
00:35:58.200
the guy that i'm competing with over there is like the only guy running with me so like i'm gonna
00:36:03.140
try to beat him he's gonna try to beat me and honestly some of my competitors in life have become
00:36:08.660
some of my very best friends because we push each other to be better and we value that relationship
00:36:13.900
any true winner there you get them on the field they're gonna want to crush okay they want to win
00:36:18.860
they don't want to win a little bit they want to win a lot however you get them off the field
00:36:22.640
they're sharing techniques they're sharing skill sets it's it's a they appreciate competition
00:36:27.980
because that's what drives a competitive person to improve so having friends that are competitive is
00:36:34.660
a great thing you know a lot of people are saying i'm only competing with myself i understand that and
00:36:39.480
that's true generally but having a little bit of kick in the ass because you see one of your homies
00:36:44.060
winning bigger than you that's that's also a good thing if you can be mature about it yeah or if you
00:36:49.060
have that relationship too it's like bro how the fuck you do that that's it yeah and dude what i've
00:36:53.320
i'd be real you know as i've moved from you know here to here to here to here and i'm continuing to
00:36:58.740
move uh the the higher up you go the more willing people are to share because they they've been
00:37:04.600
through the journey they've been through the grind and they're not threatened by someone else winning
00:37:09.300
they've learned the lesson of abundance they understand that there's plenty of room for everybody
00:37:13.220
to compete but yet they still look at you and they say hey i want to beat you listen bro i love you
00:37:18.440
i'm gonna beat your ass right right you know i'm saying right like if you and i go in a boxing ring
00:37:22.900
we're gonna fucking try to win right you know what i'm saying but we're gonna get out i'm gonna say
00:37:27.560
how the fuck did you do that well how'd you move like that what'd you do here it's probably a lot
00:37:30.920
like what you guys do in jujitsu you know i'm saying you know you get done with it um you know
00:37:36.680
whoever won won and then you start to how'd you get me in this shit yeah right exactly and like dude
00:37:41.520
that's how business is and the higher up you go the more willing people are to share the information
00:37:45.980
that's been my personal experience that's why it's important to get around people who have that
00:37:50.080
mindset because uh when they've been in the game and they're a little bit more successful than you
00:37:54.360
you know one of the things that successful people like the most is helping other people win it's very
00:37:58.900
rewarding it's very similar to like when you cook a meal for someone and you say and they enjoy it you
00:38:03.460
know you're it makes you feel good yeah you know not dude i get a lot of i get a lot of fulfillment
00:38:09.020
and a lot of uh pride in helping people win dude like for real and it doesn't matter who it is i just
00:38:17.660
like seeing people win and when you like seeing people win the universe and god says hey they like
00:38:24.360
winning they like seeing people win and they deliver more of that for you you know when you hate on people
00:38:29.440
and you get frustrated with people and you look at people and you get jealous in your heart about
00:38:34.760
you know it's not just what you say it's also what you believe you know if you see someone winning
00:38:39.300
and you're jealous in your heart about them winning you're telling the universe hey man i don't like
00:38:43.880
winning you know what the universe is going to give you a whole bunch of not winning all right so be
00:38:48.060
very careful and this is you know a little bit off the subject but be very careful how you feel
00:38:53.020
and how you think when you see someone winning all right and if you do feel like you're jealous
00:38:58.200
that that's okay you just got to work on that you got to start to learn to see it a different way
00:39:02.420
i love it man i love it man that's a hell of a way to start a monday man guys andy
00:39:06.820
that was three all right guys let's go out let's kick some ass we'll see you tomorrow with cti
00:39:11.840
went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a bowl fuck a stove counted millions in
00:39:19.600
the cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold just a no headshot case close