795. Q&AF： Overcoming Rejection And Jealousy, Becoming Decisive & Keeping Yourself Happy And Motivated
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On this episode of the Realists, the guys talk about their weekends and what they did to prepare for the upcoming weekend. Q&A is a great way to get to know your hosts and find out what they are up to!
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what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
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the thickness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today
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don't be a hoe share the show all right what's up man what's going on man oh not much monday
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morning yeah got some battle scores there on you yeah yeah i do man i got the uh what happened
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well i rode a four-wheeler through a thorn bush a couple of them uh you did as well i don't think
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you got as bad as me i wasn't as depressed no i made it out okay yeah uh you're welcome because
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i ran them over for you took all the yeah right yeah right but yeah we went uh dj and i went riding
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four-wheelers on saturday and uh yeah it was awesome it was a good time yeah i was surprised
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dude you did well i mean how'd you think i was gonna do shitty yeah it's an engine man it's wheels
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i can drive it you did good i mean that one vertical ledge we went up i was i was more i was
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wondering how you were gonna do you did all right yeah no pointers or anything no i followed you i'm
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like all right yeah yeah what's good i can do you know that's right and uh we made it work yeah we
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did it was a good time though man yeah well uh fucking thorns did get me though they got you pretty
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bad yeah i did feel bad shit i'm like look look at this man taking all bro it ripped my fucking arm
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off the handlebars when we were coming up out of the creek yeah that dude it those those ones got me
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so bad it ripped my arm off i'm used to like rosebush thorns i don't know no i don't know what those
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were either bro like vines i never seen those before they're like two inch daggers yeah and then when we
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pulled out they were all stuck in me yeah it wasn't any fun oh cool man well a little weekend
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mental break yeah cool yeah we need to do some more four wheels i'm down soon i am down yeah that was
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fun i'm down well uh guys it's monday it's uh it is q a so let's uh let's get better today yeah and
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let's do that because i got three good ones for you all right cool knock these out guys any question
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number one hey andy and dj six years ago i helped build something incredible at my old company which
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has since become a massive success after laying the groundwork i left to be a stay-at-home mom
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now that my child is in school i reached out to my former boss about returning to the work field
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but he straight up ignored me um how do i overcome the feeling of rejection and jealousy
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from being part of something so successful i think you got to be a realist okay um you chose to leave
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something that you put immense work into and now it has moved on and that's what happens so you guys
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have to realize this is the real world and it's very unforgiving uh it's not very loyal even if you're
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loyal and this this is a problem for a lot of people because a lot of people have good hearts
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and they're loyal type people but they're loyal when they want loyalty right like when when you left
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how do you think they felt they probably felt like you weren't being very loyal all right and now you're
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getting a taste of what that felt like and you don't like it so my advice to anybody out here who's in
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this position is that you got to understand man there's two sides to every coin and just because you put
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some work in six years ago uh and it became a success doesn't mean shit it just doesn't okay and
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the fact that you went to raise a family that's admirable but that was your decision and that was
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your choice and the company that you worked for continued to move and i'm sure you do wish that you
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could get back in once it's somewhere that it wasn't six years ago i i mean who doesn't want to do
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that right like uh i'm part of university of alabama and you know i helped them start to win
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and six years later they're winning national i want to be on the team again how's that sound right
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sounds pretty stupid doesn't it okay well that's what you sound like all right so we got to be realist
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about about decisions that we make in real life and when you are a part of something special i think
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it's important for you to recognize that you are a part of something special
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and instead of thinking that everything out there is something special you should come to the
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realization that there's very few special things out there where we get to invest our time our energy
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our skill set into a meaningful project and that matters it matters a hell of a lot more than just
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a paycheck you take home all right so if you you guys are out there and i'm talking to everybody
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if you're out there and you're a part of something that's growing that's you know uh part of a good
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mission it's something that you enjoy it's something that you feel like you know you should
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be a part of and it starts to get monotonous and it starts to get tiring and it starts to get bored
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you should make some you should do some real slow and clear reflection on are you just a little bit
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worn out or do you really need to make a change because i'm going to tell you dude there's not that
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many places that give a fuck about their people and there's not that many places that are actively
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trying to grow people's careers they say they do but they don't and if you're in one of these places
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where you get to have input and you get to create and you get to build it's very important that you
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need to back up and say hey uh it's not like that everywhere and and you know that's an unfortunate
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reality you know a lot of times when people fall into something especially in the younger years of their
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life that's really good they don't have the perspective of what it's like everywhere else
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so when they do get tired they say oh i don't like this this isn't for me but then they go out and they
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experience all these other things that are like the real world so to speak where you know they don't
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give a shit about you at all they don't care if you build a career they don't care if you want a
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family all they care about is that you show up and you do your job and you take your money home
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and you don't cause any fucking problems and that's not a fulfilling rewarding career for most
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people most people want to create most people whether they believe that they are or not
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are team players they are creators they are builders and they want to contribute to something that
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matters and if you're part of that you should think very hard and long before you make a decision
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that's going to abandon that because the reality is it's just very rare so how do i
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not feel jealous or how do i not feel bitter or i mean you got to be realist you know like you
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you don't have the standing to be jealous or bitter because you left all right so it's an
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interesting question about just even with value alone right like does value have an expiration date
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like how long can somebody hold on to the value input that they put in like how long does that
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one day last one day one day when you when you go when you go uh when you play baseball
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and you hit four for four on monday and you go zero for four on tuesday how good are you you're as
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good as your last game that's the reality dude and that might be that's a that's a harsh example
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but that's also a real example the minute you stop contributing the the things you've done in
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the past don't necessarily matter and i know people are going to get upset about that and they
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don't like to hear that but that's reality dude and that's even more so like if you're in a place
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where they give you credit for the things you've contributed and they value that and they're willing
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to work with you in your low times and then you know help you get back to the high times that's
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someplace you don't want to leave you know what i mean so it's just rare um but the reality is is you
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know i think that people have like to me but how i feel is not the same as everybody else for sure
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okay like i mean how you when people make investments with me it's a unique thing i remember that yeah
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you know what i mean and they go through a down time i i could say okay they're going through a
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down time but they've invested this much of their life they've done all these things let's work
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through it right you know now if it's a unethical something that's a different story but when people
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have invested that matters to me but it doesn't matter to everybody right and because it matters
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to you you think that it should matter to everybody and the reality is is most places are not uh people
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friendly they say they are but they're not the minute your production goes down the minute you start
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coasting the minute you start fall off your value expires and they don't care to bring it back
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you know what i mean they don't they don't care about most places that's right they don't care
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about sitting you down and saying hey what's wrong how do we fix this how do we develop this skill set
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how do we pull you out of this little mental funk you got going on in your life but the fact that
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when you do that the right way you develop an amazing culture you do like a lot of people come
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into our companies and they're like how do you do this well i don't know we don't tell people to
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fuck off the minute they make a mistake right you know what i mean but the reality is and most people do
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that so we have to be honest about it um and you know i think people in general put the way that
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they feel onto other people not realizing that other people don't feel that way you know like in this
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example this person saying man i built this i helped build this this is look how good it's doing and they
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feel like they still have a part of it in time entitlement almost well i mean they i think if that person
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was running a company they would probably say yeah uh stacy had a big part of building this let's let's
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talk to her but that's not how everybody is and you can't expect everybody to be like you and in
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business it is very cutthroat and it's very harsh and it's not always quote unquote what you want to
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think is fair but if you flip the coin over and you look at how they felt when you left hey stacy left in
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the middle of this project when it was going you know and we made it work the reason they're ignoring
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you is probably because they think that you quit on them you know like yeah we made the stacy had a
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couple hands in the beginning but when she quit she fucked us and we made it work anyway and so they
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might be thinking hey fuck stacy she quit on us you see what i'm saying so we gotta we gotta be real
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about the decisions that we make and that's why uh you know we don't want to burn bridges we don't
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we don't want because you don't want to burn bridges you might have to cross again right so maybe had
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you known that you were going to come back you would have handled that situation a little bit
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differently maybe you would have said hey i'll do what i can from home hey let me do this or let me do
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that or hey let me take a step back and do this just to stay involved in what's going on but it doesn't
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sound like that's what you did it sounds like you left and you came back six years later
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six years in a company is a fucking lifetime dude you know what i mean most companies don't make it
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six years so you know you got to be a realist you don't have it you don't have a standing to be
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upset i think that's an important piece too man because you've had plenty of employees who
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have left yeah and come back yeah you know i'm saying and like in those situations
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there there's still an honest conversation yeah about the bridge that's still remaining for sure it
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has to be well that's because those people that leave they were always contributing
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they were always doing good they got in a situation where you know they felt like they
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needed to go down a different path and my hope is always that if they decide to go down a different
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path they look back here and they say fuck i learned everything i needed to know there i mean
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these i wouldn't be where i'm at right but there are people that go down that path and they realize
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that it's not what they actually wanted and they they call back and they say hey man you know i i really
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miss it i want to be a part of it and usually when those people come back they're fucking amazing
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because they don't take it for granted anymore um but you know that that comes with no bridge
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burning that comes with no shit talking that comes with no issues there's that's a conditional
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fucking agreement right right like and and i'm just a big believer dude life is long you don't know
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when you're gonna need someone or when you're gonna want to fix a bridge or when you're gonna run
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into someone in a restaurant and it's gonna be real awkward because you were a fuck right you see
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what i'm saying like the world's small and life is long and it's a good idea to maintain relationships
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and had this person maintained a relationship that whole time uh you know i bet you wouldn't be
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getting ignored right so you have any recommendations on how she should move forward with this
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i mean if you're dead set on on trying to get back in with that company i would uh i would force
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yourself into in in front of the decision maker's face whether that be waiting outside whether that
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be writing a letter whether that be sending 50 emails um and if you want to move on you know you
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move on with you might have to move on you move on with the attitude of okay i'm not going to make
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that mistake again i'm going to get into something i care about i'm going to try to build it
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and uh i'm not going to you know just abandon whatever it is because i want to go do this
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and and dude a lot of people do feel entitled to that they feel like you know yeah but i was going
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to start a family okay lots of people start families bro you ain't the first motherfucker in
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the history of earth to have kids right that doesn't mean you get all these special treatments and you
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get to come and go as you please you see what i'm saying so you know we got to be real dude and a lot
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of times people think that you know the company the companies have to do all these things because
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they have to and the reality is they don't have to do shit you know that that that manager or that
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owner that worked for you you don't they don't have to do anything with you not to call you back
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they don't owe you shit you quit on them you quit on them when i quit to start a family it doesn't
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matter okay maybe you should have handled it differently but like the truth of the matter is i just don't
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think you have a position to be pissed and a lot of times when people get in this position they start
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talking shit on the company you you did that they didn't do that you did that and i think it's for
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you in this situation you have to own the responsibility and maybe you get in front of
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the decision maker say hey look dude i know i handled that poorly but here's the thing
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i love this place i want to be a part of it i want to contribute to it i know i can here's how i can
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and uh let's fucking do this and if they say no you don't have a choice you got to go do it
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somewhere else yeah yeah i love it man it's a it's listen don't burn bridges that you might have
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to cross bro like life is long life is long okay and um you never know when you're going to need
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someone i love it yeah i love it man guys any question number two uh any uh 1p instagram they
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posted a real uh a couple of days ago uh that said the heaviest things in life aren't iron and gold
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but unmade decisions the reason you are stressed is that you have decisions to make but you're not
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making them this really hit home for me as a logical critical thinker who over analyzes way too many
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decisions i end up pushing things off uh to some future date or just not doing anything productive
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and falling into negative habits assuming at some future point i will just fall into place which i know
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is false thinking um i also know andy talks a lot about doing the things you know you need to do
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but aren't doing but focusing uh more on the decision side of things versus action i actually
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completed 75 hard phase one and two uh because of all the actions are laid out but for other items
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in my life where it's 100 up to me to make the decision i i just struggle to have that same drive
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to make or do things and i feel like life is passing me by how does someone end up in a decision
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paralysis mode uh more times than not get out of that train of thought and become more decisive
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in a positive manner you are wasting your life you are letting your life pass by because you lack
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the courage to make the decisions that you know you need to make you got to be real about that if you
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don't make the decisions that you know you need to make time is continuing to go which means everybody
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else is getting better and you're staying the same which by default means you're getting worse
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and in terms of these unmade decisions being heavy there's a podcast i did a long time ago i can't
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remember what number it was but where i talk about slaying the monster okay the monster is all your
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unmade decisions it's all the things you know you need to do the work you need to do that you letting
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pass by you got it 119 119 on real af yes sir okay it's 119 on real af go listen to it i answer this
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entire question but the point is is that when we don't make decisions that we know we need to make
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it causes anxiety it causes depression and in reality it causes not to progress so that's extremely
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stressful and extremely anxiety inducing and this is why i tell you most of the anxiety that you feel
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isn't because you just are anxious it's because you're not taking the action that you know needs
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to be taken to get where you're wanting to go and it's making you feel that anxious feeling it's
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actually a very strong indicator that you need to go and then once you go you will be unburdened by
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these unmade decisions and it won't feel as heavy it won't feel as anxious and you'll be proud of
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yourself because you're moving and you know you're moving you can see it so make a list of the
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decisions that you know you need to make the ones you you are afraid to make a lot of times these
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are this is about money a lot of times this is about relationships a lot of times this is about
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your physical health but the fact of the matter is make a list of these decisions and start executing
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on the decisions make them part of your power list if you don't know what the power list is go
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listen to episode 16 on real af it gives you the entire plan for for literally never losing in life
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okay so plug them into your power list make sure the decisions get made you're going to feel lighter
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you're going to move faster and everything in your life is going to start to materialize but if you
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don't make those decisions nothing's going to change except everybody else is going to progress and
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you're going to stay the same which like i said by default means you're moving backwards so uh
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yeah man that's that's pretty much it this almost sounds like i like when i was reading through this
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again it it almost sounds like an awareness issue too right because i think it you know for most
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people it's easy to say oh well i don't really know you know what to do or what what sure you do
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it's an awareness thing you're choosing not to see it right right and you've said before i think also
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people pretend to be ignorant to the awareness yeah yeah you know yeah i don't know what i need
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to do okay open your bank account that's right yeah you don't know what you need to do go step on a
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scale yeah you know what i'm saying like yeah it's a it's an easy thing uh it's easier i think
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it is easier uh to do than just to say it but it's just a click of the awareness part how do you build
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that i mean look man uh this person if they've already completed 75 hard the right way you have
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the skills to make the decisions dude you know what you know what i figured out man a lot of people's
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lack of success comes from a lack of courage when we look at what happened over the last four years
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and how many people were pissed off and how many people were frustrated with what was going on in
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the world and didn't say shit okay and those same people are always complaining about their income
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they're complaining about their business they're complaining about their job they're complaining
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about their significant other you know why your life sucks bro because you're a pussy that's it
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okay being successful in real life takes courage and part of the courage the biggest part of the courage
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is to make decisions stand on those decisions when really nobody else is in your corner you've got
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to make those decisions for you and that takes courage and when you don't have courage and you
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don't make decisions you become one of these npc people in the world who just kind of floats
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through life and ends up being bitter and pissed and frustrated because they're not able to create
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anything all right and i think that most people the reason that they lack success in their life
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especially from a financial aspect is that they lack the courage to make the decisions that need
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to be made to put them in the position that they want to be in and i really think that's a big part
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of it and i never really thought about it until i watched everybody dm me and email me and text me
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and say i'm so proud of you for speaking up and then watch them not do shit and then when i took
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inventory of who those people are all of them are struggling so i started correlating it together
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whoa these people are they don't have courage and they suffer in life and so i think the courage
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to make the decisions that you already know need to be made that your anxiety is telling you need to
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be made is one of the biggest things that has to happen for you to be successful and most people are
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just not courageous enough to make the decisions that they know they need to be made and because of
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that they fucking don't get anything they don't get any money they don't get in shape they don't get
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a good partner they're pissed off at the world they think the world's screwing them over when in
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reality it's their inaction their lack of courage is screwing them over if we would have had 50 million
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people speak up the way that you and i have spoke up the last four years we wouldn't even be here
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we didn't be in this situation but so many people were afraid they were afraid because their their aunt
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who's you know a crazy person is going to blast them on facebook or they're going to get yelled at
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by their uh you know person at work or whoever right they won't get invited to thanksgiving yeah
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you don't want to go to those anyway yeah like dude you you when was the last time you truly stood on
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your own fucking business when was the last time when was the last time you didn't just go along to go
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along when was the last time you made a hard decision that you knew was going to push you forward
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if you can't name that then your lack of courage is the problem that's the problem and that's why
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you're suffering so pull out your fucking balls make the decisions that you know you need to be made
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and start moving down the path you're going to feel good and if you don't you're going to feel bad
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and it's that simple guys uh andy let's get to our third and final question here guys any question
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number three uh andy so i'm 23 i work at a small company doing paintless dent repair
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uh just starting to finally get good to where i'm about to start seeing major results my question
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to you is how do you balance putting in the work of hours trying to get better and sacrifice going
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out drinking with the boys and doing things like vacations because sometimes i feel like social
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media makes a person feel like they're missing out on just living life to the fullest but i know
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if i make these sacrifices now the future i'm setting myself up for what will be incredible
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but i do find it hard at times seeing people travel and doing things uh while i'm working on trying to
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better myself and career how do you keep yourself happy and motivated during that period
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first of all the internet's full of bunch of liars okay all these people that go out there and they
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take all these dramatic photos you know in front of the sunset or the sunrise or this or that
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i'm so at peace blah blah blah yeah they're at peace until they gotta go fucking eat or they gotta buy a
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new car or they got a problem at their house or or or or or their family gets sick right like it's real
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easy to go out and take some sunset photos and pretend like your motherfucking buddha all right
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in in the internet and that's what we're dealing with here we're dealing with a whole bunch of people
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that pretend to be happy pretend to be enlightened pretend to you know appreciate life experiences which
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you should by the way because they don't have anything else going for them they're not making
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any money they're not making any uh career moves they're not doing well in any other area and those photos
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are fucking free bro you could go out tonight and make take a photo of the sunset and write some
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fucking bullshit and there's going to be people who are out here building their life who are going to
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be like god i wish i could do that but see here's the thing that you don't see you don't see them 10
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years down the road you don't see them 15 years down the road you don't see them when they're 45 years
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old and they got to work at fucking wendy's you don't see that shit how's that sunrise look now
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motherfucker it looks pretty shitty doesn't it because you're fucked off on your whole 20s and
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your whole 30s and the reality of life is setting in which the reality is this nobody's coming to take
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care of you nobody's here to save you and if you don't invest the time up front to build a real
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skill set you're going to have problems in life real shit okay and then on top of it what kind of
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vacations do you want do you want to take a road trip to uh you know the lake an hour away or do you
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want to go to fucking greece okay do you want to do you want to um you know fly southwest to to
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disneyland on the discount fucking ticket or do you want to fucking fly first class and and take the
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disney vip experience what the fuck do you want what do you want for you and your family do you want
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to drive that rested out piece of shit ford focus or do you want to drive a new mercedes or a
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fucking new brand new truck what do you want okay because what you're investing now is going to
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determine what you get later and that's reality i'm going to tell you this all those dudes that
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you drink beer with when you're what he says 23 23 all them dudes that you drink beer with at 23
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are going to lose in life period they're going to grow up very few of them will ever snap out of
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alcohol culture and by the time they're 40 they're going to look like they're 60 they're going to be
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broke and you're going to be somewhere else and they're going to be looking at you being like
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oh man i'm so proud of you you know except you know when you were staying at home working on your
00:28:43.020
dent removal by the way there's a ton of money in that by the way a ton of money in painless dent
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removal but they're gonna be looking at you thinking like you know oh he changed your own
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no it's called being a grown-up it's called investing your time and your energy knowing
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that there's going to be a payoff it doesn't mean you can't have a good time it doesn't mean you can't
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go to a barbecue once in a while it doesn't mean you can't day drink on sunday once in a while with
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your boys watching football but what it does mean is you can't do that every thursday friday saturday
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sunday for 15 years and think that you're going to fucking win it's not going to happen all right
00:29:15.680
so um at the end of the day bro you got to choose what you want do you want to win or do you want to
00:29:21.660
lose do you want to be comfortable do you want to be uncomfortable do you want to do you want to be
00:29:25.560
fun now or do you want to be fun later all right and that doesn't always pay off look at kobe bryant
00:29:31.280
kobe bryant worked his ass off built a fucking amazing career uh hall of fame one of the best
00:29:37.620
players in any sport ever he retires gonna spend time with his family what happens to him he dies
00:29:44.360
in a helicopter crash so there's no guarantee either way so just so you know and and and you
00:29:50.120
know soft people who want to have fun now they will justify their life yolo i'm only just now
00:29:56.820
look dude it's not this or that it's it's deciding what you want doing what's required to get where you
00:30:04.660
want and where you want to go is going to be different than where i want to go or anybody else
00:30:08.680
wants to go so it's an individual decision but you can't be fooled by all these knuckleheads on the
00:30:13.860
internet who don't have shit going on for them pretending like they're fucking buddha and yoda mixed
00:30:19.260
together you know and live in this carefree life you know we see all these people dude and
00:30:25.540
if you really think about what they show you what else could they show you what else could they show
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you they don't have anything else to show you or they'd show it you see what i'm saying so they
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live in a shitty they have a shitty life they have a shitty fucking bank account and they take the free
00:30:42.860
shit and by the way some of the free shit is the best shit i'm not here to say that but what i am here
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to say is that you shouldn't feel bad or be made to feel bad by internet yodas who tell you you know
00:30:54.060
peace harmony and fucking rubbing the finger whatever dude crystal in them yeah all this weird
00:31:00.740
shit these people that's all they got dude that's all they got and so you can't let them make you
00:31:07.120
feel bad and if they continue down that path until they're 40 45 years old they ain't gonna they're
00:31:12.040
gonna have less than they have now because they don't understand that when you're youthful that's
00:31:17.280
your opportunity to set the foundation for the rest of your life you are likely to be alive if you
00:31:22.840
were 20 years old to be over 100 years old based on the technology that's happening how the fuck are you
00:31:29.040
gonna pay for that how what kind of life are you gonna live past 40 or 50 you're gonna be in poverty
00:31:35.340
what are you what are you gonna do like people don't even think about this i don't even see people
00:31:39.680
thinking about this like they used to when i grew up dude it was very much understood like if you didn't
00:31:44.840
handle your shit life was going to be very difficult later in this generation of kids 20 to 35 years old
00:31:51.500
in my opinion bro they they're fucking they're in for a rude awakening because they've been
00:31:57.560
indoctrinated by this uh this cultural philosophy that you don't have to really be effective you don't
00:32:03.840
have to win uh in fact having too much money is bad and it's a morally bad thing why do you think
00:32:10.580
they tell you that why do you think they tell you having too much money is greedy and uh materialistic
00:32:16.840
and i'll tell you why they tell you that they tell you that because they want you to struggle
00:32:21.060
and they want you to be dependent on their systems all right and by sitting there you know thinking
00:32:26.220
that you're the internet buddha uh you know you're you're deferring your ability to build something
00:32:32.940
that matters that you're proud of that provides for you and your family um probably forever you're
00:32:39.480
probably never going to get it so i wouldn't let these people fuck with your mind i wouldn't let these
00:32:45.020
people make you feel like you're missing out you're not missing out if you've been out three or four
00:32:49.320
times and you drank beer it's the same thing every time is it not the same conversation it's the same
00:32:55.080
shit bro you drink some beers you look at some girls you fucking go home you feel like shit that's what
00:33:00.940
the fuck it's about it doesn't ever change you got to realize it's not a sacrifice dude it's an
00:33:06.020
investment all right and delay gratification is the number one understanding of successful people they
00:33:14.840
understand that if i invest now my time my energy my effort into building a skill set that skill set
00:33:21.620
will produce income when i have that income that opens up other opportunities for me to develop new
00:33:27.540
skills or scale out my life in a bigger way so you got to start somewhere you got to start somewhere
00:33:32.360
where you can bring some money in and then once you get some money coming in you have more decisions
00:33:38.260
and then you can make another decision that is you can continue to level up as long as you want to go
00:33:43.840
all right so it just depends on where you want to go dude i'm not here to tell you what level you want
00:33:49.720
to play at i know what level i want to play at and it takes a lot more than what most people want to
00:33:55.700
put in but i'm okay with that because i know what i'm trying to do here and most people don't most
00:34:00.660
people put more time and energy and plans into what they're going to do on friday night or saturday
00:34:05.520
night or sunday than they do planning their whole life and career and your friends who are making you feel
00:34:10.460
guilty for not hanging with them when you're working on your skill set and you you're trying
00:34:14.860
to become the best paintless dent removal person in your area so that you could make good money and
00:34:20.260
pay for a life those people are going to be coming to you saying hey man uh can i get 500 bucks can i
00:34:26.980
get a thousand bucks bro i'm a little short this week and that's what's going to be and you're going
00:34:30.880
to you know that's a whole nother conversation because you're going to have to learn to say no
00:34:34.120
um but yeah man you know it's it's hard to see when you're young when you're my age it's very easy
00:34:44.220
to see because a lot of the people who live that life that you call your friends are suffering now
00:34:50.500
they're they're in hard times now they're not kicking ass they're not building their dreams and
00:34:55.920
honestly they're very regretful they didn't put the time in earlier so don't be one of them and and you
00:35:01.500
have to trust me because you can't have the perspective when you're 23 that someone would
00:35:05.660
have in their 40s in the 40s it's very easy to look back and be like oh yeah that guy did this
00:35:10.160
oh yeah that guy did that oh yeah that guy did this and then you could see them where they are now
00:35:14.680
now they look 60 now they're fucking they don't have any money now they're living a shitty life
00:35:19.980
you know you see what i'm saying went to the same bar yeah and you could go find them at the same
00:35:24.320
places dude so that's that's it man you have to be willing to know where you want
00:35:31.480
to go and you have to be willing to make the investment and you have to be willing to trust
00:35:35.740
people like me when they tell you that those people who are trying to dog you out and make
00:35:40.240
you feel stupid and drag you along their path they end up becoming nothing and i'm going to tell you
00:35:45.500
dude you don't want to be that you don't want to be one of those people because when they're in
00:35:48.900
their 40s now they have way less options how are they going to outside of creating their own
00:35:54.000
business and spending 20 years 10 years to put some in their 50s or 60s how are they going to get an
00:35:59.460
opportunity nobody's nobody's hiring 45 year old people to come in and fucking you know be a key
00:36:06.440
part of an organization when that person drank for the last 25 years it's not it doesn't happen dude
00:36:12.340
so we got to be real about the way things work and here's the way things work if you put in time when
00:36:18.280
you're young and you put in hard work when you're young life gets easier later if you fuck off when
00:36:23.360
you're young life gets harder later it's one or the other so you get to choose which hard you want do
00:36:28.100
you want it hard now or do you want it hard later do you want to fucking have fun now or do you want
00:36:33.040
to have fun later and you can have a little bit of fun now but you just can't let it affect what
00:36:38.300
you're trying to build and um yeah that's it dude it's a very simple choice from the perspective of
00:36:45.820
where i sit um but i can understand why you know someone who's 23 can't see that yeah man i love it
00:36:51.560
i love it guys andy that was three yep all right guys we'll see you tomorrow with cti don't be a
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went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stole counted millions
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in the cold bad bitch booted slow got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case
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