REAL AF with Andy Frisella - October 14, 2024


795. Q&AF： Overcoming Rejection And Jealousy, Becoming Decisive & Keeping Yourself Happy And Motivated


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On this episode of the Realists, the guys talk about their weekends and what they did to prepare for the upcoming weekend. Q&A is a great way to get to know your hosts and find out what they are up to!

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00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies 0.98
00:00:20.980 the thickness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today
00:00:25.540 as always we have q and af that's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers now you
00:00:31.320 can submit your questions a few different ways the first way is guys email these questions into
00:00:36.240 ask andy at andy for seller.com or you go on youtube and the q and af episodes drop your
00:00:41.560 question in the comments and we'll choose some from there as well now if you're new uh we have
00:00:46.080 shows within the show it's not q and af every single day throughout the week we're going to
00:00:50.480 have different formats tomorrow we're going to have what's called cti that stands for cruise the
00:00:55.260 internet that's where we put topics of the day up on the screen we speculate on what's true and
00:00:59.940 what's not true and then we talk about how we the people have to solve these problems going on in
00:01:03.920 the world it's it's a current events show uh with a little bit of comedy then we have real talk real
00:01:09.860 talk is just five to 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk and then we have 75 hard verses
00:01:14.920 that's where someone who has completed the 75 hard program comes on the show talks about how their
00:01:19.780 life was before how their life is now and how they use 75 hard to recalibrate their mental state and
00:01:27.340 become the people that you see here on the show okay if you're unfamiliar with 75 hard it is the
00:01:32.700 initial phase of the live hard program which is the world's most popular mental transformation program
00:01:38.020 you can get it for free at episode 208 on the audio feed only again that's 208 on the audio feed only
00:01:45.700 and it is free there's also a book available for purchase that is not free you can get that
00:01:51.080 at andy for seller.com it's called the book on mental toughness it includes uh the entire live
00:01:56.020 hard program the ins and outs the nuts and bolts uh and then plus a whole bunch of chapters on mental
00:02:01.240 toughness why it's important why you need to incorporate it and how you can use it to become the
00:02:05.700 best version of yourself also has a number of case studies as well uh again that's andy for seller.com
00:02:11.560 now something that we do different than any other show of this size in the world is we don't run ads
00:02:17.960 the reason we don't run ads is because i like to keep it real with you guys uh and because of that
00:02:22.880 we're constantly dealing with censorship shadow bans uh traffic throttling and you know if we ran ads
00:02:29.860 we'd be listening to people cry about what i say on the show and i'm not doing that so i make a little
00:02:34.600 deal with you you help us get the word out and we're not going to fill your ears with 30 minutes of 0.83
00:02:40.360 bullshit i think that's a pretty good deal all right so uh if the show makes you think if it
00:02:44.900 makes you laugh it's good information if it changed your perspective if you think it needs to be heard 0.99
00:02:49.340 do us a favor and share the show okay we got this little thing that we like to say here it's uh
00:02:54.380 don't be a hoe share the show all right what's up man what's going on man oh not much monday 0.98
00:02:59.220 morning yeah got some battle scores there on you yeah yeah i do man i got the uh what happened
00:03:05.980 well i rode a four-wheeler through a thorn bush a couple of them uh you did as well i don't think
00:03:14.360 you got as bad as me i wasn't as depressed no i made it out okay yeah uh you're welcome because
00:03:22.440 i ran them over for you took all the yeah right yeah right but yeah we went uh dj and i went riding
00:03:27.100 four-wheelers on saturday and uh yeah it was awesome it was a good time yeah i was surprised
00:03:34.900 dude you did well i mean how'd you think i was gonna do shitty yeah it's an engine man it's wheels
00:03:42.560 i can drive it you did good i mean that one vertical ledge we went up i was i was more i was
00:03:47.540 wondering how you were gonna do you did all right yeah no pointers or anything no i followed you i'm
00:03:52.300 like all right yeah yeah what's good i can do you know that's right and uh we made it work yeah we 0.94
00:03:57.460 did it was a good time though man yeah well uh fucking thorns did get me though they got you pretty 0.99
00:04:01.880 bad yeah i did feel bad shit i'm like look look at this man taking all bro it ripped my fucking arm 0.99
00:04:07.400 off the handlebars when we were coming up out of the creek yeah that dude it those those ones got me 0.96
00:04:12.220 so bad it ripped my arm off i'm used to like rosebush thorns i don't know no i don't know what those
00:04:16.880 were either bro like vines i never seen those before they're like two inch daggers yeah and then when we
00:04:21.440 pulled out they were all stuck in me yeah it wasn't any fun oh cool man well a little weekend
00:04:28.620 mental break yeah cool yeah we need to do some more four wheels i'm down soon i am down yeah that was
00:04:35.160 fun i'm down well uh guys it's monday it's uh it is q a so let's uh let's get better today yeah and
00:04:42.540 let's do that because i got three good ones for you all right cool knock these out guys any question
00:04:46.240 number one hey andy and dj six years ago i helped build something incredible at my old company which
00:04:55.500 has since become a massive success after laying the groundwork i left to be a stay-at-home mom
00:05:01.600 now that my child is in school i reached out to my former boss about returning to the work field
00:05:07.260 but he straight up ignored me um how do i overcome the feeling of rejection and jealousy
00:05:13.620 from being part of something so successful i think you got to be a realist okay um you chose to leave
00:05:21.320 something that you put immense work into and now it has moved on and that's what happens so you guys
00:05:28.320 have to realize this is the real world and it's very unforgiving uh it's not very loyal even if you're
00:05:35.100 loyal and this this is a problem for a lot of people because a lot of people have good hearts
00:05:39.820 and they're loyal type people but they're loyal when they want loyalty right like when when you left
00:05:46.420 how do you think they felt they probably felt like you weren't being very loyal all right and now you're
00:05:51.600 getting a taste of what that felt like and you don't like it so my advice to anybody out here who's in
00:05:56.580 this position is that you got to understand man there's two sides to every coin and just because you put 0.88
00:06:02.980 some work in six years ago uh and it became a success doesn't mean shit it just doesn't okay and 0.77
00:06:11.100 the fact that you went to raise a family that's admirable but that was your decision and that was
00:06:16.320 your choice and the company that you worked for continued to move and i'm sure you do wish that you
00:06:22.680 could get back in once it's somewhere that it wasn't six years ago i i mean who doesn't want to do
00:06:28.500 that right like uh i'm part of university of alabama and you know i helped them start to win
00:06:35.680 and six years later they're winning national i want to be on the team again how's that sound right 0.89
00:06:40.520 sounds pretty stupid doesn't it okay well that's what you sound like all right so we got to be realist
00:06:45.880 about about decisions that we make in real life and when you are a part of something special i think 0.99
00:06:52.660 it's important for you to recognize that you are a part of something special
00:06:56.320 and instead of thinking that everything out there is something special you should come to the
00:07:01.120 realization that there's very few special things out there where we get to invest our time our energy
00:07:06.240 our skill set into a meaningful project and that matters it matters a hell of a lot more than just
00:07:12.260 a paycheck you take home all right so if you you guys are out there and i'm talking to everybody
00:07:17.940 if you're out there and you're a part of something that's growing that's you know uh part of a good
00:07:24.160 mission it's something that you enjoy it's something that you feel like you know you should
00:07:29.280 be a part of and it starts to get monotonous and it starts to get tiring and it starts to get bored
00:07:34.280 you should make some you should do some real slow and clear reflection on are you just a little bit
00:07:45.060 worn out or do you really need to make a change because i'm going to tell you dude there's not that 0.62
00:07:50.720 many places that give a fuck about their people and there's not that many places that are actively
00:07:54.640 trying to grow people's careers they say they do but they don't and if you're in one of these places 0.84
00:08:00.380 where you get to have input and you get to create and you get to build it's very important that you
00:08:04.760 need to back up and say hey uh it's not like that everywhere and and you know that's an unfortunate
00:08:10.160 reality you know a lot of times when people fall into something especially in the younger years of their
00:08:16.860 life that's really good they don't have the perspective of what it's like everywhere else
00:08:20.740 so when they do get tired they say oh i don't like this this isn't for me but then they go out and they
00:08:26.520 experience all these other things that are like the real world so to speak where you know they don't
00:08:32.020 give a shit about you at all they don't care if you build a career they don't care if you want a 0.93
00:08:37.200 family all they care about is that you show up and you do your job and you take your money home 0.99
00:08:41.800 and you don't cause any fucking problems and that's not a fulfilling rewarding career for most 0.97
00:08:47.960 people most people want to create most people whether they believe that they are or not 0.98
00:08:52.640 are team players they are creators they are builders and they want to contribute to something that
00:08:59.780 matters and if you're part of that you should think very hard and long before you make a decision
00:09:06.160 that's going to abandon that because the reality is it's just very rare so how do i
00:09:11.680 not feel jealous or how do i not feel bitter or i mean you got to be realist you know like you
00:09:18.140 you don't have the standing to be jealous or bitter because you left all right so it's an
00:09:26.280 interesting question about just even with value alone right like does value have an expiration date
00:09:31.600 like how long can somebody hold on to the value input that they put in like how long does that
00:09:36.520 one day last one day one day when you when you go when you go uh when you play baseball
00:09:44.560 and you hit four for four on monday and you go zero for four on tuesday how good are you you're as
00:09:52.360 good as your last game that's the reality dude and that might be that's a that's a harsh example
00:09:58.560 but that's also a real example the minute you stop contributing the the things you've done in
00:10:04.900 the past don't necessarily matter and i know people are going to get upset about that and they
00:10:10.180 don't like to hear that but that's reality dude and that's even more so like if you're in a place
00:10:14.840 where they give you credit for the things you've contributed and they value that and they're willing
00:10:20.020 to work with you in your low times and then you know help you get back to the high times that's
00:10:24.500 someplace you don't want to leave you know what i mean so it's just rare um but the reality is is you
00:10:31.340 know i think that people have like to me but how i feel is not the same as everybody else for sure
00:10:40.660 okay like i mean how you when people make investments with me it's a unique thing i remember that yeah
00:10:45.960 you know what i mean and they go through a down time i i could say okay they're going through a
00:10:49.700 down time but they've invested this much of their life they've done all these things let's work
00:10:54.360 through it right you know now if it's a unethical something that's a different story but when people
00:11:00.780 have invested that matters to me but it doesn't matter to everybody right and because it matters
00:11:05.060 to you you think that it should matter to everybody and the reality is is most places are not uh people
00:11:12.060 friendly they say they are but they're not the minute your production goes down the minute you start
00:11:16.280 coasting the minute you start fall off your value expires and they don't care to bring it back
00:11:21.680 you know what i mean they don't they don't care about most places that's right they don't care
00:11:25.300 about sitting you down and saying hey what's wrong how do we fix this how do we develop this skill set
00:11:29.960 how do we pull you out of this little mental funk you got going on in your life but the fact that
00:11:35.720 when you do that the right way you develop an amazing culture you do like a lot of people come
00:11:41.020 into our companies and they're like how do you do this well i don't know we don't tell people to 0.84
00:11:44.660 fuck off the minute they make a mistake right you know what i mean but the reality is and most people do 0.87
00:11:48.900 that so we have to be honest about it um and you know i think people in general put the way that 0.99
00:11:57.300 they feel onto other people not realizing that other people don't feel that way you know like in this
00:12:02.760 example this person saying man i built this i helped build this this is look how good it's doing and they
00:12:10.300 feel like they still have a part of it in time entitlement almost well i mean they i think if that person
00:12:17.120 was running a company they would probably say yeah uh stacy had a big part of building this let's let's 0.64
00:12:24.380 talk to her but that's not how everybody is and you can't expect everybody to be like you and in
00:12:29.800 business it is very cutthroat and it's very harsh and it's not always quote unquote what you want to
00:12:36.720 think is fair but if you flip the coin over and you look at how they felt when you left hey stacy left in
00:12:42.960 the middle of this project when it was going you know and we made it work the reason they're ignoring
00:12:47.720 you is probably because they think that you quit on them you know like yeah we made the stacy had a 0.88
00:12:53.480 couple hands in the beginning but when she quit she fucked us and we made it work anyway and so they 1.00
00:12:58.780 might be thinking hey fuck stacy she quit on us you see what i'm saying so we gotta we gotta be real 0.99
00:13:05.320 about the decisions that we make and that's why uh you know we don't want to burn bridges we don't 0.99
00:13:12.240 we don't want because you don't want to burn bridges you might have to cross again right so maybe had
00:13:16.400 you known that you were going to come back you would have handled that situation a little bit
00:13:20.360 differently maybe you would have said hey i'll do what i can from home hey let me do this or let me do
00:13:24.980 that or hey let me take a step back and do this just to stay involved in what's going on but it doesn't
00:13:29.920 sound like that's what you did it sounds like you left and you came back six years later
00:13:33.900 six years in a company is a fucking lifetime dude you know what i mean most companies don't make it 0.93
00:13:39.020 six years so you know you got to be a realist you don't have it you don't have a standing to be 0.97
00:13:44.540 upset i think that's an important piece too man because you've had plenty of employees who
00:13:48.520 have left yeah and come back yeah you know i'm saying and like in those situations
00:13:53.760 there there's still an honest conversation yeah about the bridge that's still remaining for sure it
00:13:59.740 has to be well that's because those people that leave they were always contributing
00:14:03.540 they were always doing good they got in a situation where you know they felt like they
00:14:08.260 needed to go down a different path and my hope is always that if they decide to go down a different 0.96
00:14:12.660 path they look back here and they say fuck i learned everything i needed to know there i mean 0.95
00:14:16.280 these i wouldn't be where i'm at right but there are people that go down that path and they realize 0.93
00:14:20.920 that it's not what they actually wanted and they they call back and they say hey man you know i i really
00:14:24.900 miss it i want to be a part of it and usually when those people come back they're fucking amazing 0.83
00:14:29.780 because they don't take it for granted anymore um but you know that that comes with no bridge 0.92
00:14:37.080 burning that comes with no shit talking that comes with no issues there's that's a conditional 0.97
00:14:41.640 fucking agreement right right like and and i'm just a big believer dude life is long you don't know 0.98
00:14:47.760 when you're gonna need someone or when you're gonna want to fix a bridge or when you're gonna run 0.99
00:14:53.800 into someone in a restaurant and it's gonna be real awkward because you were a fuck right you see 0.90
00:14:57.880 what i'm saying like the world's small and life is long and it's a good idea to maintain relationships 0.98
00:15:02.760 and had this person maintained a relationship that whole time uh you know i bet you wouldn't be
00:15:10.000 getting ignored right so you have any recommendations on how she should move forward with this
00:15:14.740 i mean if you're dead set on on trying to get back in with that company i would uh i would force
00:15:24.880 yourself into in in front of the decision maker's face whether that be waiting outside whether that
00:15:30.520 be writing a letter whether that be sending 50 emails um and if you want to move on you know you
00:15:39.000 move on with you might have to move on you move on with the attitude of okay i'm not going to make
00:15:43.820 that mistake again i'm going to get into something i care about i'm going to try to build it
00:15:47.320 and uh i'm not going to you know just abandon whatever it is because i want to go do this
00:15:54.300 and and dude a lot of people do feel entitled to that they feel like you know yeah but i was going 0.99
00:16:00.460 to start a family okay lots of people start families bro you ain't the first motherfucker in 0.97
00:16:05.260 the history of earth to have kids right that doesn't mean you get all these special treatments and you 0.92
00:16:09.500 get to come and go as you please you see what i'm saying so you know we got to be real dude and a lot
00:16:15.360 of times people think that you know the company the companies have to do all these things because 0.71
00:16:22.820 they have to and the reality is they don't have to do shit you know that that that manager or that 0.94
00:16:28.680 owner that worked for you you don't they don't have to do anything with you not to call you back 0.99
00:16:32.120 they don't owe you shit you quit on them you quit on them when i quit to start a family it doesn't 0.94
00:16:37.720 matter okay maybe you should have handled it differently but like the truth of the matter is i just don't 0.99
00:16:43.960 think you have a position to be pissed and a lot of times when people get in this position they start
00:16:48.240 talking shit on the company you you did that they didn't do that you did that and i think it's for 0.87
00:16:54.500 you in this situation you have to own the responsibility and maybe you get in front of 0.99
00:16:59.000 the decision maker say hey look dude i know i handled that poorly but here's the thing
00:17:02.060 i love this place i want to be a part of it i want to contribute to it i know i can here's how i can 0.78
00:17:06.820 and uh let's fucking do this and if they say no you don't have a choice you got to go do it 0.85
00:17:11.240 somewhere else yeah yeah i love it man it's a it's listen don't burn bridges that you might have 0.97
00:17:17.200 to cross bro like life is long life is long okay and um you never know when you're going to need
00:17:26.060 someone i love it yeah i love it man guys any question number two uh any uh 1p instagram they
00:17:34.020 posted a real uh a couple of days ago uh that said the heaviest things in life aren't iron and gold
00:17:39.880 but unmade decisions the reason you are stressed is that you have decisions to make but you're not
00:17:45.120 making them this really hit home for me as a logical critical thinker who over analyzes way too many
00:17:50.920 decisions i end up pushing things off uh to some future date or just not doing anything productive
00:17:57.200 and falling into negative habits assuming at some future point i will just fall into place which i know
00:18:02.680 is false thinking um i also know andy talks a lot about doing the things you know you need to do
00:18:08.120 but aren't doing but focusing uh more on the decision side of things versus action i actually
00:18:14.540 completed 75 hard phase one and two uh because of all the actions are laid out but for other items
00:18:20.580 in my life where it's 100 up to me to make the decision i i just struggle to have that same drive
00:18:27.100 to make or do things and i feel like life is passing me by how does someone end up in a decision
00:18:33.500 paralysis mode uh more times than not get out of that train of thought and become more decisive
00:18:40.000 in a positive manner you are wasting your life you are letting your life pass by because you lack
00:18:46.240 the courage to make the decisions that you know you need to make you got to be real about that if you
00:18:51.720 don't make the decisions that you know you need to make time is continuing to go which means everybody
00:18:56.680 else is getting better and you're staying the same which by default means you're getting worse
00:19:01.080 and in terms of these unmade decisions being heavy there's a podcast i did a long time ago i can't
00:19:08.860 remember what number it was but where i talk about slaying the monster okay the monster is all your
00:19:14.460 unmade decisions it's all the things you know you need to do the work you need to do that you letting
00:19:19.760 pass by you got it 119 119 on real af yes sir okay it's 119 on real af go listen to it i answer this
00:19:26.500 entire question but the point is is that when we don't make decisions that we know we need to make
00:19:33.000 it causes anxiety it causes depression and in reality it causes not to progress so that's extremely
00:19:40.960 stressful and extremely anxiety inducing and this is why i tell you most of the anxiety that you feel
00:19:47.180 isn't because you just are anxious it's because you're not taking the action that you know needs
00:19:54.240 to be taken to get where you're wanting to go and it's making you feel that anxious feeling it's
00:20:00.180 actually a very strong indicator that you need to go and then once you go you will be unburdened by
00:20:06.520 these unmade decisions and it won't feel as heavy it won't feel as anxious and you'll be proud of
00:20:11.880 yourself because you're moving and you know you're moving you can see it so make a list of the
00:20:17.160 decisions that you know you need to make the ones you you are afraid to make a lot of times these
00:20:21.700 are this is about money a lot of times this is about relationships a lot of times this is about
00:20:26.180 your physical health but the fact of the matter is make a list of these decisions and start executing
00:20:32.700 on the decisions make them part of your power list if you don't know what the power list is go
00:20:37.300 listen to episode 16 on real af it gives you the entire plan for for literally never losing in life
00:20:46.300 okay so plug them into your power list make sure the decisions get made you're going to feel lighter
00:20:52.380 you're going to move faster and everything in your life is going to start to materialize but if you
00:20:56.140 don't make those decisions nothing's going to change except everybody else is going to progress and
00:21:00.540 you're going to stay the same which like i said by default means you're moving backwards so uh
00:21:05.980 yeah man that's that's pretty much it this almost sounds like i like when i was reading through this
00:21:11.980 again it it almost sounds like an awareness issue too right because i think it you know for most
00:21:16.520 people it's easy to say oh well i don't really know you know what to do or what what sure you do
00:21:20.540 it's an awareness thing you're choosing not to see it right right and you've said before i think also
00:21:25.400 people pretend to be ignorant to the awareness yeah yeah you know yeah i don't know what i need
00:21:31.360 to do okay open your bank account that's right yeah you don't know what you need to do go step on a
00:21:35.440 scale yeah you know what i'm saying like yeah it's a it's an easy thing uh it's easier i think
00:21:40.560 it is easier uh to do than just to say it but it's just a click of the awareness part how do you build
00:21:46.320 that i mean look man uh this person if they've already completed 75 hard the right way you have
00:21:52.100 the skills to make the decisions dude you know what you know what i figured out man a lot of people's
00:21:57.900 lack of success comes from a lack of courage when we look at what happened over the last four years
00:22:02.980 and how many people were pissed off and how many people were frustrated with what was going on in
00:22:07.720 the world and didn't say shit okay and those same people are always complaining about their income 0.98
00:22:14.060 they're complaining about their business they're complaining about their job they're complaining 1.00
00:22:17.920 about their significant other you know why your life sucks bro because you're a pussy that's it 1.00
00:22:22.940 okay being successful in real life takes courage and part of the courage the biggest part of the courage 1.00
00:22:29.480 is to make decisions stand on those decisions when really nobody else is in your corner you've got
00:22:35.740 to make those decisions for you and that takes courage and when you don't have courage and you
00:22:40.580 don't make decisions you become one of these npc people in the world who just kind of floats
00:22:46.080 through life and ends up being bitter and pissed and frustrated because they're not able to create
00:22:50.980 anything all right and i think that most people the reason that they lack success in their life
00:22:58.320 especially from a financial aspect is that they lack the courage to make the decisions that need
00:23:03.880 to be made to put them in the position that they want to be in and i really think that's a big part
00:23:08.140 of it and i never really thought about it until i watched everybody dm me and email me and text me
00:23:13.820 and say i'm so proud of you for speaking up and then watch them not do shit and then when i took 0.75
00:23:19.280 inventory of who those people are all of them are struggling so i started correlating it together 0.61
00:23:24.820 whoa these people are they don't have courage and they suffer in life and so i think the courage
00:23:32.000 to make the decisions that you already know need to be made that your anxiety is telling you need to
00:23:36.660 be made is one of the biggest things that has to happen for you to be successful and most people are
00:23:41.800 just not courageous enough to make the decisions that they know they need to be made and because of 0.91
00:23:46.020 that they fucking don't get anything they don't get any money they don't get in shape they don't get 0.98
00:23:49.880 a good partner they're pissed off at the world they think the world's screwing them over when in 1.00
00:23:53.980 reality it's their inaction their lack of courage is screwing them over if we would have had 50 million
00:24:00.380 people speak up the way that you and i have spoke up the last four years we wouldn't even be here
00:24:05.200 we didn't be in this situation but so many people were afraid they were afraid because their their aunt
00:24:12.440 who's you know a crazy person is going to blast them on facebook or they're going to get yelled at
00:24:18.200 by their uh you know person at work or whoever right they won't get invited to thanksgiving yeah
00:24:24.340 you don't want to go to those anyway yeah like dude you you when was the last time you truly stood on 0.80
00:24:29.920 your own fucking business when was the last time when was the last time you didn't just go along to go 0.94
00:24:35.900 along when was the last time you made a hard decision that you knew was going to push you forward 1.00
00:24:40.280 if you can't name that then your lack of courage is the problem that's the problem and that's why 1.00
00:24:46.080 you're suffering so pull out your fucking balls make the decisions that you know you need to be made 1.00
00:24:51.660 and start moving down the path you're going to feel good and if you don't you're going to feel bad 1.00
00:24:55.740 and it's that simple guys uh andy let's get to our third and final question here guys any question
00:25:02.900 number three uh andy so i'm 23 i work at a small company doing paintless dent repair
00:25:09.620 uh just starting to finally get good to where i'm about to start seeing major results my question
00:25:15.580 to you is how do you balance putting in the work of hours trying to get better and sacrifice going
00:25:24.720 out drinking with the boys and doing things like vacations because sometimes i feel like social
00:25:31.140 media makes a person feel like they're missing out on just living life to the fullest but i know
00:25:36.380 if i make these sacrifices now the future i'm setting myself up for what will be incredible
00:25:43.780 but i do find it hard at times seeing people travel and doing things uh while i'm working on trying to
00:25:50.540 better myself and career how do you keep yourself happy and motivated during that period
00:25:54.440 first of all the internet's full of bunch of liars okay all these people that go out there and they
00:26:02.340 take all these dramatic photos you know in front of the sunset or the sunrise or this or that 1.00
00:26:08.620 i'm so at peace blah blah blah yeah they're at peace until they gotta go fucking eat or they gotta buy a 0.96
00:26:15.380 new car or they got a problem at their house or or or or or their family gets sick right like it's real 0.99
00:26:22.780 easy to go out and take some sunset photos and pretend like your motherfucking buddha all right 0.97
00:26:28.620 in in the internet and that's what we're dealing with here we're dealing with a whole bunch of people 0.97
00:26:34.060 that pretend to be happy pretend to be enlightened pretend to you know appreciate life experiences which
00:26:43.120 you should by the way because they don't have anything else going for them they're not making
00:26:47.800 any money they're not making any uh career moves they're not doing well in any other area and those photos
00:26:53.500 are fucking free bro you could go out tonight and make take a photo of the sunset and write some 0.99
00:26:58.760 fucking bullshit and there's going to be people who are out here building their life who are going to 1.00
00:27:03.780 be like god i wish i could do that but see here's the thing that you don't see you don't see them 10 1.00
00:27:09.920 years down the road you don't see them 15 years down the road you don't see them when they're 45 years 0.99
00:27:15.140 old and they got to work at fucking wendy's you don't see that shit how's that sunrise look now 1.00
00:27:19.560 motherfucker it looks pretty shitty doesn't it because you're fucked off on your whole 20s and 1.00
00:27:24.360 your whole 30s and the reality of life is setting in which the reality is this nobody's coming to take 1.00
00:27:29.440 care of you nobody's here to save you and if you don't invest the time up front to build a real
00:27:34.560 skill set you're going to have problems in life real shit okay and then on top of it what kind of 0.82
00:27:40.480 vacations do you want do you want to take a road trip to uh you know the lake an hour away or do you 0.98
00:27:45.840 want to go to fucking greece okay do you want to do you want to um you know fly southwest to to 0.98
00:27:53.420 disneyland on the discount fucking ticket or do you want to fucking fly first class and and take the 1.00
00:28:00.300 disney vip experience what the fuck do you want what do you want for you and your family do you want 1.00
00:28:04.660 to drive that rested out piece of shit ford focus or do you want to drive a new mercedes or a 1.00
00:28:09.160 fucking new brand new truck what do you want okay because what you're investing now is going to 0.99
00:28:14.660 determine what you get later and that's reality i'm going to tell you this all those dudes that 0.99
00:28:19.100 you drink beer with when you're what he says 23 23 all them dudes that you drink beer with at 23
00:28:24.980 are going to lose in life period they're going to grow up very few of them will ever snap out of
00:28:31.020 alcohol culture and by the time they're 40 they're going to look like they're 60 they're going to be
00:28:35.240 broke and you're going to be somewhere else and they're going to be looking at you being like
00:28:38.540 oh man i'm so proud of you you know except you know when you were staying at home working on your
00:28:43.020 dent removal by the way there's a ton of money in that by the way a ton of money in painless dent
00:28:47.560 removal but they're gonna be looking at you thinking like you know oh he changed your own
00:28:53.600 no it's called being a grown-up it's called investing your time and your energy knowing
00:28:57.680 that there's going to be a payoff it doesn't mean you can't have a good time it doesn't mean you can't
00:29:02.360 go to a barbecue once in a while it doesn't mean you can't day drink on sunday once in a while with
00:29:07.040 your boys watching football but what it does mean is you can't do that every thursday friday saturday 0.77
00:29:11.400 sunday for 15 years and think that you're going to fucking win it's not going to happen all right 0.90
00:29:15.680 so um at the end of the day bro you got to choose what you want do you want to win or do you want to 0.97
00:29:21.660 lose do you want to be comfortable do you want to be uncomfortable do you want to do you want to be
00:29:25.560 fun now or do you want to be fun later all right and that doesn't always pay off look at kobe bryant 0.87
00:29:31.280 kobe bryant worked his ass off built a fucking amazing career uh hall of fame one of the best 0.88
00:29:37.620 players in any sport ever he retires gonna spend time with his family what happens to him he dies 0.94
00:29:44.360 in a helicopter crash so there's no guarantee either way so just so you know and and and you
00:29:50.120 know soft people who want to have fun now they will justify their life yolo i'm only just now
00:29:56.820 look dude it's not this or that it's it's deciding what you want doing what's required to get where you
00:30:04.660 want and where you want to go is going to be different than where i want to go or anybody else
00:30:08.680 wants to go so it's an individual decision but you can't be fooled by all these knuckleheads on the 0.99
00:30:13.860 internet who don't have shit going on for them pretending like they're fucking buddha and yoda mixed 0.99
00:30:19.260 together you know and live in this carefree life you know we see all these people dude and 0.99
00:30:25.540 if you really think about what they show you what else could they show you what else could they show
00:30:32.120 you they don't have anything else to show you or they'd show it you see what i'm saying so they 1.00
00:30:38.040 live in a shitty they have a shitty life they have a shitty fucking bank account and they take the free 1.00
00:30:42.860 shit and by the way some of the free shit is the best shit i'm not here to say that but what i am here 1.00
00:30:48.140 to say is that you shouldn't feel bad or be made to feel bad by internet yodas who tell you you know 1.00
00:30:54.060 peace harmony and fucking rubbing the finger whatever dude crystal in them yeah all this weird 0.98
00:31:00.740 shit these people that's all they got dude that's all they got and so you can't let them make you 0.99
00:31:07.120 feel bad and if they continue down that path until they're 40 45 years old they ain't gonna they're 0.69
00:31:12.040 gonna have less than they have now because they don't understand that when you're youthful that's
00:31:17.280 your opportunity to set the foundation for the rest of your life you are likely to be alive if you 0.98
00:31:22.840 were 20 years old to be over 100 years old based on the technology that's happening how the fuck are you 0.79
00:31:29.040 gonna pay for that how what kind of life are you gonna live past 40 or 50 you're gonna be in poverty
00:31:35.340 what are you what are you gonna do like people don't even think about this i don't even see people
00:31:39.680 thinking about this like they used to when i grew up dude it was very much understood like if you didn't 0.99
00:31:44.840 handle your shit life was going to be very difficult later in this generation of kids 20 to 35 years old 1.00
00:31:51.500 in my opinion bro they they're fucking they're in for a rude awakening because they've been 1.00
00:31:57.560 indoctrinated by this uh this cultural philosophy that you don't have to really be effective you don't 0.99
00:32:03.840 have to win uh in fact having too much money is bad and it's a morally bad thing why do you think
00:32:10.580 they tell you that why do you think they tell you having too much money is greedy and uh materialistic
00:32:16.840 and i'll tell you why they tell you that they tell you that because they want you to struggle
00:32:21.060 and they want you to be dependent on their systems all right and by sitting there you know thinking
00:32:26.220 that you're the internet buddha uh you know you're you're deferring your ability to build something
00:32:32.940 that matters that you're proud of that provides for you and your family um probably forever you're 0.98
00:32:39.480 probably never going to get it so i wouldn't let these people fuck with your mind i wouldn't let these 0.98
00:32:45.020 people make you feel like you're missing out you're not missing out if you've been out three or four 0.97
00:32:49.320 times and you drank beer it's the same thing every time is it not the same conversation it's the same 1.00
00:32:55.080 shit bro you drink some beers you look at some girls you fucking go home you feel like shit that's what 1.00
00:33:00.940 the fuck it's about it doesn't ever change you got to realize it's not a sacrifice dude it's an 1.00
00:33:06.020 investment all right and delay gratification is the number one understanding of successful people they 0.99
00:33:14.840 understand that if i invest now my time my energy my effort into building a skill set that skill set
00:33:21.620 will produce income when i have that income that opens up other opportunities for me to develop new
00:33:27.540 skills or scale out my life in a bigger way so you got to start somewhere you got to start somewhere
00:33:32.360 where you can bring some money in and then once you get some money coming in you have more decisions
00:33:38.260 and then you can make another decision that is you can continue to level up as long as you want to go
00:33:43.840 all right so it just depends on where you want to go dude i'm not here to tell you what level you want
00:33:49.720 to play at i know what level i want to play at and it takes a lot more than what most people want to
00:33:55.700 put in but i'm okay with that because i know what i'm trying to do here and most people don't most
00:34:00.660 people put more time and energy and plans into what they're going to do on friday night or saturday
00:34:05.520 night or sunday than they do planning their whole life and career and your friends who are making you feel
00:34:10.460 guilty for not hanging with them when you're working on your skill set and you you're trying
00:34:14.860 to become the best paintless dent removal person in your area so that you could make good money and
00:34:20.260 pay for a life those people are going to be coming to you saying hey man uh can i get 500 bucks can i
00:34:26.980 get a thousand bucks bro i'm a little short this week and that's what's going to be and you're going
00:34:30.880 to you know that's a whole nother conversation because you're going to have to learn to say no
00:34:34.120 um but yeah man you know it's it's hard to see when you're young when you're my age it's very easy
00:34:44.220 to see because a lot of the people who live that life that you call your friends are suffering now
00:34:50.500 they're they're in hard times now they're not kicking ass they're not building their dreams and 0.54
00:34:55.920 honestly they're very regretful they didn't put the time in earlier so don't be one of them and and you
00:35:01.500 have to trust me because you can't have the perspective when you're 23 that someone would
00:35:05.660 have in their 40s in the 40s it's very easy to look back and be like oh yeah that guy did this
00:35:10.160 oh yeah that guy did that oh yeah that guy did this and then you could see them where they are now 0.99
00:35:14.680 now they look 60 now they're fucking they don't have any money now they're living a shitty life 0.98
00:35:19.980 you know you see what i'm saying went to the same bar yeah and you could go find them at the same 0.99
00:35:24.320 places dude so that's that's it man you have to be willing to know where you want
00:35:31.480 to go and you have to be willing to make the investment and you have to be willing to trust
00:35:35.740 people like me when they tell you that those people who are trying to dog you out and make 0.71
00:35:40.240 you feel stupid and drag you along their path they end up becoming nothing and i'm going to tell you 0.88
00:35:45.500 dude you don't want to be that you don't want to be one of those people because when they're in 0.99
00:35:48.900 their 40s now they have way less options how are they going to outside of creating their own
00:35:54.000 business and spending 20 years 10 years to put some in their 50s or 60s how are they going to get an 0.98
00:35:59.460 opportunity nobody's nobody's hiring 45 year old people to come in and fucking you know be a key 0.97
00:36:06.440 part of an organization when that person drank for the last 25 years it's not it doesn't happen dude 0.86
00:36:12.340 so we got to be real about the way things work and here's the way things work if you put in time when 1.00
00:36:18.280 you're young and you put in hard work when you're young life gets easier later if you fuck off when 0.97
00:36:23.360 you're young life gets harder later it's one or the other so you get to choose which hard you want do 1.00
00:36:28.100 you want it hard now or do you want it hard later do you want to fucking have fun now or do you want 0.98
00:36:33.040 to have fun later and you can have a little bit of fun now but you just can't let it affect what
00:36:38.300 you're trying to build and um yeah that's it dude it's a very simple choice from the perspective of
00:36:45.820 where i sit um but i can understand why you know someone who's 23 can't see that yeah man i love it
00:36:51.560 i love it guys andy that was three yep all right guys we'll see you tomorrow with cti don't be a
00:36:57.660 hoe share the show 1.00
00:36:58.660 went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stole counted millions 1.00
00:37:05.500 in the cold bad bitch booted slow got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case 1.00
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