80. #LIVEHARD： In Pursuit Of Your Own Full Potential
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In this episode, we re talking about our own reality and how we can develop the skills that will help us become successful at whatever it is you decide to do now. In order to become mentally tough, we need to develop the skill set of confidence, grit, self-belief fortitude, endurance, perseverance, and the ability to persevere the things that we seem to think are traits that certain people have or don t have.
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told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living
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spoke it till existence mo changed to 50 got mo cost than did i only weigh 180 but my watch
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cost 250 what's up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to
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the lies the fakeness and delusions modern society and welcome motherfucking reality
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guys today we're gonna talk about a lot of reality um and this reality is a little bit
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different than what we've been talking about where we talk about um you know what's going on in the
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world the main reality that you have to worry about that i have to worry about that we collectively
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need to be worried about is our own reality and how we take control of that reality this show is
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called real af um because i'm a realist all right i don't deny facts i look at facts i draw conclusions
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based on the facts i make decisions based on those conclusions that lead me to an ideal outcome
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pretty much the opposite of what's going on in the world right now which is scream and cry and throw
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a tantrum until we get our way that's not how we operate here that's not what i'm about if you're
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about that and that's what you're about you're not going to like the show i'm just going to tell you
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that up front um now today we're going to talk about reality our own reality and as you guys may or
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may not know i have a program that is very popular called 75 hard now if you're unfamiliar with 75
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hard what you're going to want to do is you're going to want to go back and listen to episode
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number 14 then you're going to want to come back and listen to this so if you're unfamiliar with uh you
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know the 75 hard it's your first time hearing about it uh we're not going to get into the x's and
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knows too much of 75 hard what we're going to talk about today is the live hard program all right
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the live hard program as some of you know is the year-long mental development program
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that 75 hard is a part of okay and what i want you to think about a lot of people think this program
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is a fitness program or they think it's uh you know a lose weight program that's not what this is
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will you lose weight it depends on what diet you follow will you get more fit yeah you should if
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you have the proper guidance to pick the proper diet on this program um but the way most people
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should think about this is a program that's going to help you develop the skill set of confidence
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grit self-belief fortitude endurance the ability to persevere the things that we seem to think are
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traits that certain people have or don't have you know i went my whole life thinking that i didn't
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have any of these traits until i figured out that they aren't traits they're actually skills that we
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develop and that's what this program is designed to do it's designed to help you develop the skills
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that will then help you become successful at whatever it else is you decide to do now the reason
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this is important is because most programs give you the map right if we go on google right now and we
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look at personal development programs or money-making programs or relationship programs or fitness
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programs there is an innumerable amount okay and most people spend their whole lives going from
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program to program to program to program trying to find the right one and that's really not the way
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it's supposed to be okay that's not why these programs don't work the reason these programs don't work
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is because we lack the discipline we lack the mental toughness we lack the capacity and the skill set
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to see them through how many programs have you invested thousands of dollars in only to get minimal
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results in return now if you're honest with yourself i bet that you know deep down inside that you didn't
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give the program the right effort the right consistency the right dedication it needed to actually produce the
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result and instead of go back and actually give it those things we decided to look for a new program
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this become an epidemic amongst society we're looking for the new thing that's going to fit us that's going
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to be ideal for us that is right for us when in reality what we need to learn is how to execute
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regardless of how we feel we need to learn how to become mentally tough and the skills that i just
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mentioned before like confidence grit self-belief fortitude endurance perseverance all of these
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skills are what make up the concept of mental toughness and when you can develop into a human
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that has mental toughness now you're in a position to succeed at whatever path you choose so how i would
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say most people should be thinking about this is sort of think of it like this it's an iron man except for
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your brain all right it's going to get you in tune it's going to get you in a mental place where you're
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capable to execute and you believe that you can execute which is going to lead to massive amounts
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of confidence and fulfillment and happiness in your life all right but before we get into what we're
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going to talk about today which is the live hard program you have to understand the part that's gone
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extremely viral that everybody's talking about is 75 hard but 75 hard guys is just the beginning it is
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the boot camp so to speak in this year-long program that we call live hard all right so i'm going to pick
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up right where the 75 hard program leaves off i'm going to give a brief summary of the program but then
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i'm going to get into detail about the rest of the aspects of the live hard program so assuming you've
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completed the 75 hard boot camp program you're probably exhausted uh but you're probably feeling
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good you might have uh you know some blisters on your feet uh you might be sore you're definitely
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probably in better shape uh i know you're going to be more confident if you did the program right
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you're smarter because you've been developing personally you're feeling very good you have a lot of
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momentum but the thing is this with that momentum there's a there's an inkling a craving so to speak
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that only people who have succeeded at this program will begin to feel they're going to start to want
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to be tested more they're going to start to want things to be a little harder okay they're going to
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start to want more of a challenge and that's how you know you've really done something with this program
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because you're going to crave more all right so once you finish 75 hard and you're wondering well
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where do i go from here well this is what we're going to talk about today all right so what is the
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live hard program the live hard program is a one-year program it's comprised of four parts one the first
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part is 75 hard which you're all familiar with because you went back and listened to episode 14
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the second part is phase one the third part is phase two and the final part is phase three now
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phase one two and three are all 30-day programs that are designed to be completed within one calendar
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year so when you start 75 hard on january 1st you have to complete all three phases by december 31st
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of the same year right so that's rule number one now we're going to get into the specific phases
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right away all right so we've gone through uh 75 hard you know you understand the concept of
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picking a diet and sticking to it okay you understand the concept of drinking a gallon of water you
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understand the concept of two workouts every day one of them has to be outdoor regardless of what's going
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on outside we understand the concept of 10 pages of reading an actual book okay and we understand
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the concept of taking a progress picture every day so that is the foundation for all three of the phases
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after 75 hard as well those elements do not ever change what does change is the additional elements and
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that's what i'm going to talk about right now so we're going to start with phase one phase one
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can be completed consecutively with 75 hard now many people will take a break the first time i did
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live hard program i took a three-day break after my 75 hard because i have blisters on my feet that were
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so bad i couldn't do cardio so i thought that if i waited for a couple days that they would get better
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they didn't get better uh and i just went on with phase one all right and i worked through it
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but you can do phase one on day 76 and a lot of people do that because they have the momentum
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they're feeling strong they want to continue so they go right into it i feel like that is best um
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but it's up to you okay there's no rules regarding this so uh let's talk about phase one now phase one
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like i said has the elements of 75 hard pick a diet stick to it one gallon of water no cheats no alcohol
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uh two workouts every day 10 pages of reading um non-fiction book personal development book
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and a progress pick every day now what is in addition to that okay first first off in addition
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phase one has three extra aspects the first extra aspect is the extra three critical tasks okay those
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of you who have listened to my original mfceo podcast uh on 75 hard will probably remember
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my recommendation for the power list which if you're unfamiliar with the power list go back and
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listen to episode number 16 in the real af feed it'll go through this in depth and it'll explain
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the power list but basically the power list is a small notebook or journal that is set up that's
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going to allow you to write your five critical tasks for the day so you know what the goals are for
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your day for that day to be determined a win or a loss and if you manage to knock them out you get a win
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if you did it you get a loss it's real simple now in the power list you write down these five critical
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tasks these tasks are something that you can accomplish within the day that are required for you
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to move forward all right don't confuse this with life goals or long-term goals your task shouldn't be
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you know become a millionaire so don't confuse this uh with habits either if you make your bed every
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morning that's a habit that's not much of an achievement or even a challenge if you include
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the things that you're already doing on a regular basis using the power list through phase one you
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should be writing down an additional three tasks every single day in addition to the usual five which
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you've been doing unknowingly by completing the task of 75 hard for 75 days okay you're going to add
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three more tasks on top of that of your choosing that are going to move you forward towards what your
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ultimate goals are now that's the first extra step in phase one of the live hard program the second
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aspect that's extra above the 75 hard requirements for phase one is 10 minutes of active visualization
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visualization now most people don't know the difference between a dream and a goal in their
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minds they treat things as dreams you know as something they never attempt to go after these
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are the type of people that kind of walk by a nice home and say wow it's a beautiful home must be nice to
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live there and you can tell by the way they speak you know not only to themselves but you know verbally
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so you can hear them uh that they can't really see themselves obtaining these kind of goals someone who
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understands goals would walk by that same house and imagine themselves in it instead of saying it
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must be nice to live there they'd say something like i'm going to live in a house like that one day
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all right they that's that's where we're trying to get you to be okay they see themselves drinking a
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cup of coffee on the balcony in the morning and grilling on the patio with their friends in the
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evening all right with active visualization you are meant to turn your dreams into actual reality
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that's what this part of the program is designed and geared towards making you improve it helps you
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see the vision for yourself at the highest levels of success in your life and forcing you to push
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towards that vision because guys the reason most people never get anywhere in life isn't because
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they're scared of the work it's because they never make a decision about where they're going to be
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so the techniques used for this task are going to be different for a lot of you some of you have a
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more visual mind and some of you don't it's not that easy for everybody myself included in fact
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most people blow this off as like a super easy task only discover it the minute they sit down
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they either can't think of anything at all or their mind is instantly clouded with a hundred other
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things and instead of focusing on that single vision 30 seconds into it they're seeing a picture
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of their ex-girlfriend or they start thinking about you know that doctor's appointment they need to go to
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tomorrow or that that run they got to make to home depot okay if that's you that's important to start
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over at that point where you get distracted and start focusing again all right these 10 minutes
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should be completely focused on the vision for your life if you find yourself struggling there's a tool
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that i use called a vision board it's very simple a lot of you guys have heard of this before
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and you can create one on corkboard or in a notebook or even a document on your computer okay
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i prefer to make this a physical board that you can see at your desk at all times a lot of people
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put this on their computer they close that file they never see it again that's the hard part about
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doing on your computer all right but basically it's this find some images online from a magazine
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uh they of things that you like and put them on your board this gives you something tangible to look
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at and this tends to be a lot easier for those who are less visual and it's much easier to focus on
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okay things that will go on this board all right um your dream house all right the qualities of your
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ideal spouse maybe a picture of someone with uh the body you'd like to have uh maybe something that
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represents your dream job uh maybe some cars maybe a plane maybe uh you know who knows what it is
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maybe a picture of happy families maybe it's picture of destinations you want to go to everyone's
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priorities are different so make sure that you can really see yourself in this life okay i've had
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pictures of all of those things that i mentioned above and all of those pictures have helped me achieve
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that in reality that is my real life now okay so regardless of what it is i want you to be true
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and be real and be sure to be able to see yourself inside of this life and whatever that life is we're
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going to dedicate 10 full minutes every single day to envisioning yourself there right now i do this
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before i go to bed now i'm going to warn you if you wait before you go to bed to do this and it's not
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something that you are consciously doing it's easy to forget about so make sure you set an alarm make sure
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you do what you need to do to not forget it otherwise we got to start over on day one
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of phase one now that's another thing about this that i want to cover is anytime you screw up
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during any of the phases including 75 hard you go back to the beginning of that phase so if you
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fail on day 72 of 75 hard you go back to day one if you fail on day 17 of phase one you go back to day
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one of phase one you don't go back to day one of 75 hard okay now the only exception to that is phase three
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and you're going to find out why in a minute you can't go back to day one of phase three
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if you fail in phase three you fail the whole year of live hard i'm going to talk about that in a minute
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but so the first two aspects of phase one are the three extra critical powerless tasks and then the
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10 minutes of visualization so the third aspect of phase one is a five minute cold shower now i'm not
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going to lie this is really hard for a lot of people at first it was really hard for me um i thought
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that i would hate it the truth is is after about a week of it i started to like it and it's something
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that i try to incorporate on a regular basis uh even when i'm not doing the program because it really
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does provide me a lot of benefits it helps me recover it helps me sleep better if i do it before
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bed uh it helps me wake up better if i do it first thing in the morning um but here's the deal
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five minute cold shower every single day now you don't have to just jump in right uh and have it
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on cold a lot of people think you have to make it as cold as possible and jump in and flail around
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try to catch your breath uh you don't have to do that all right um what i do is i take a regular
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shower and then i turn the shower all the way to cold after i'm done washing my hair and doing all my
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stuff and i get in the shower for five minutes after i've done that okay so go ahead and take
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your regular shower but at the end of it turn the temperature all the way down it needs to be cold
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not kind of cold it needs to be uncomfortably cold um i turn it all the way to cold all right as far
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as it'll go um and standing there with like your foot in the water that doesn't count all right so
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get underneath the water let it get your breath and you're going to start to acclimate you're going
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to start to control your breathing all right and you're going to start to go somewhere mentally
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and a lot of times you can go to a really good visualization place during this time that's something
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that i do a lot now it doesn't count towards my 10 minutes of visualization but um anytime you can
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see yourself in a better reality i think it's good for you so uh you know there's really no way
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that it's easy to do this this is it's a hard thing to do and most people aren't going to like it
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but mental toughness is born and fostered in trials like this okay you cannot become mentally
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tough by doing comfortable things so five minutes cold shower you're going to come out focused you're
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going to come out energized and the best thing about the cold shower is that everything else will seem
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easy all right so that's phase one guys everything from 75 hard with the critical tasks the active
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visualization and the cold shower to top it off all right for 30 days now we're going to talk about
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phase two now phase two is actually exactly the same as 75 hard only it's compressed into 30 days
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stick to a diet no alcohol no cheap meals a gallon of water two workouts a day one has to be
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outdoor for 45 minutes each 10 pages of required reading every single day personal development book
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non-fiction and take a progress pick every day it's exactly the same but here's the difference
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okay this is what makes it different you are required to wait 30 days between ending phase one
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and starting phase two all right i told you earlier there's no time requirement between 75 hard
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and phase one the 30 day rest period between phase one and phase two is mandatory now it doesn't mean
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that not to work out it means it doesn't count all right and people will bitch and moan about this
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and that's the point they want to attack the next program they want to jump in while they have the
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momentum they want to jump in while they have the structure and they have everything rolling but
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what they don't realize is that this rest period is going to do something to you
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and for some of you it's going to break you at first you're still going to be doing all your stuff
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but then you know you kind of start to let the small stuff slide and because you aren't on the
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program the rules you have a few drinks a few nights out a week a couple of cheap meals here and there
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maybe drop the second workout maybe take a few days off in between you see what i'm getting at here
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guys this is how the slide happens and our goal is to learn how to recognize the slide and be able to get
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back on track this whole program is designed to build mental toughness because some people most
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people guys honestly are wired this way where they can kick ass when they have a program to follow
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but then the moment they've got to decide what to do on their own and they don't have someone or a
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program rigidly outlining their day-to-day life and they have no regulations what do they do
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they implode man they go off the rails okay in other words if you handled running for 45 minutes
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but the minute i take away the rules you can't handle yourself that doesn't sound like a very
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mentally tough person to me does it i know it doesn't to you either okay so the real factor that
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we're working at here is turning this from a program that you feel you need to complete into a lifestyle
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where you have the skills to push through whether you're guided by regulations or not it becomes self
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accountable all right so that's it that's phase two it's real simple all right finish phase one you
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wait 30 days you start phase two you can wait 60 days you can wait 90 days it doesn't matter it just
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has to be completed within one calendar year all right but i'm going to tell you most people will
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agree with me here phase two is actually the hardest phase because of this small little break that we're
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required to take but you'll also gain the most out of it because it creates the strength needed to
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redirect when you're off the rails all right because that's what mentally tough people do mentally tough
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people hold themselves accountable recognize when they're off the rails and have the power to get
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right back on and that's what phase two is designed to teach you among a bunch of other things as well if
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you want to know what else is designed to teach you i've got a whole book coming out on this it's going to
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come out uh early 2021 so we talked about 75 hard being the boot camp for the live hard program we
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talked about phase one we talked about phase two all right now we're going to talk about phase three now
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phase three is a lot different because if you fail during phase three you fail the entire year okay here's
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the kicker about phase three it has to be completed the last 30 days leading up to your anniversary date of
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when you started 75 hard so if you started 75 hard on march 5th 2020 the soonest you could start phase
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three would be february 5th 2021 okay now moving into phase three you know you're going to see a lot of
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the benefits that the live hard program has helped you cultivate uh you're going to see your confidence
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you're going to see your grit you're going to see your fortitude your perseverance your self-belief
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uh your your self-esteem all of these things are going to have you feeling really good okay you're
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learning to actively visualize your goals all right you may not be excited for the showers but you
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realize the purpose they serve and the purpose they serve is more beneficial than the pain they cause
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so what can we possibly add to this program to make it more intense you know a lot of people think
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oh an extra workout no uh five extra minutes in the cold shower no uh five more pages no uh these final
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editions guys are going to be a little different and they're going to bring you out of your comfort zone
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uh very very quickly and immediately and consistently over 30 days okay so the first one in phase three
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which encompasses all of the five elements of 75 hard and then also the cold shower of phase one
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now we're going to add something called the random act of kindness now i love this one uh because until
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now it's been all about us right but with this task you're going to have to really think out of the box
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and do some good every single day and i want you to journal this and keep your experiences under your
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power list write down the random act of kindness you perform for that day now there's plenty of
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things you can do to get your random act of kindness in for the day they don't have to be
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these massive gestures i want them to have a positive effect on you but this isn't a moment for a humble
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brag right this isn't about posting on instagram about how good a person you are this is about
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actually making it about the other person okay now here's some examples of what a random act of
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kindness would be uh things like donating things like volunteering um some of the things that i've
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done through this is like take a trash bag along my my cardio route for the outside workout and clean
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up all right this one's great because you can get two birds with one stone all right these things don't
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have to be crazy or time consuming either be paying for someone's meal or paying for someone's coffee
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uh picking up an extra meal and dropping it off to a homeless person uh tutoring someone helping
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someone that you wouldn't normally make the time to help uh there's no end to the possibilities here
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but this task should start to open your eyes and it will start to open your eyes to a very important
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concept that mentally tough people have which is gratitude okay you're going to be cultivating
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gratitude and passing it on to those around you some of the people who have done this before
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they volunteer at dog shelters why not play with some puppies while knocking out a task okay
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there's lots of things you can do here guys but the general guideline is this get creative mix it up
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and do good shit don't do the same thing over and over again you're not challenging yourself
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to think beyond the one or two things you pick okay so and for those of you with financial means
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buying a coffee for someone behind you to drive through every day isn't going to teach you anything
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okay it's easy to do that for some of us that's not the point of this don't just write a check take
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action all right the random act of kindness is to teach you gratitude and the power of putting out
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positive and receiving positive all right this is a huge universal law and i want you to take the
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opportunity of this program to ingrain it into you all right the second aspect of phase three
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is talk to a stranger now in my experience and most people's experience this seems to be the
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hardest task for everyone to complete even with the addition of the random act of kindness people find
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a way to keep to themselves all right and this forces you out of your comfort zone you can't live in
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this bubble forever all right this has to go beyond a greeting when you meet someone full-on
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conversation and dialogue guys not just hey how you doing as you pass through the grocery store
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now a lot of you guys are terrified right now because you're thinking well gosh i'm an introvert
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you know i fuck i can't do that no look i'm an introvert too on the surface i understand i may seem
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like the world's most outgoing guy but i'm just like you okay this is something i had to teach myself
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this is a skill and eventually it becomes second nature and i want this to become second nature for you
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too because it forces you to build confidence and use it most of the time the initial greeting guys
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the anxiety of approach is the hardest part and while people won't admit it it's usually pretty nice
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to talk to someone so both you and the person you engage with will walk away thinking uh you know
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man that was a nice conversation as you walk away okay i bet they go home and they tell someone
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about it hopefully you learn something from it so the next time you jump in an uber leave your phone
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in your pocket ask your driver about themselves where are they from they do anything else any hobbies
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a family okay some of you have spent your whole adult lives in your house keeping to yourselves you
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talk to your neighbors when you see them out in the yard but not really and a lot of you guys are
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probably thinking where how the fuck does this fit in like how does this fit in i'm gonna tell you how it
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fits in so in business and this is just a little thing i'll tell you that we're gonna explain more
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in the book in business you have to be able to introduce yourself to people okay in life if you
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want to find a mate if you want to find a spouse if you want to have friends guess what you've got to
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at least be somewhat functional at talking to people now i was really bad at this this is something
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i struggled with for a long long time and the way that i got over it and the way that i fixed
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this in myself and developed this into a skill of being outgoing versus a personality trait was i
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forced myself to go to the local grocery store and talk to three new people every single day
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now in this program all you have to do is talk to one but i did this for about a year where i would go
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to the grocery store every single day and i made it part of my power list where i had to talk to three
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new people and i could tell you guys that one exercise has made a world of difference for me
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it's made a world of difference in my relationships it's made a world of difference in my friendships
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it's made a world of difference in my business it's earned me millions and millions and millions of
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dollars all right so as hard as it seems for some of you guys who are introverts this is a
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tremendously valuable exercise for you to master all right so real quick i'm going to run down the
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live hard program point by point okay 75 hard 75 days of these tasks one pick a diet and stick to it
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okay no cheap meals no alcohol two drink a gallon of water every single day three two workouts of at
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least 45 minutes each per day not back to back one of them must be outdoors both can be outdoors but
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one must be 10 pages of reading every day non-fiction not 50 shades of bullshit we're talking
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about things that can actually help you improve and then a progress picture every day those are the
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five basic components of 75 hard then we're going to move into phase one and you can move into phase
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one either immediately or you can wait all right and phase one is going to take the first
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five aspects of 75 hard and for 30 days we're going to add more we're going to add three extra
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critical power list tasks which if you're unfamiliar with the power list again go back to episode number
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16 of the real af and you can learn all about the power list the next aspect of phase one is 10 minutes
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of active visualization okay and the next aspect of phase one is a cold shower for five minutes
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okay then we have a minimum of a 30 day break and then after the 30 days whether it can be 60 days
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or 90 days it's up to you you can then start phase two now phase two is the same exact program as 75
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hard with none of the additional tasks that we added in phase one okay the hard part here is actually
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the break and you're going to find that out then after you complete phase two then we move into phase
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three now phase three includes two of the previous tasks from phase one those two are the three
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critical power list tasks in addition to the five original like we spoke about if you need to go back
00:32:16.260
and listen it's episode 16 on real af it'll explain to you what the power list tasks do and how to use
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them with addition the cold shower then the random act of kindness then talk to a stranger meet a new
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person every single day so that's phase three now the thing about phase three is it leads up to the
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anniversary of the day that you started 75 hard so it's actually the last 30 days up to the first day
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you started 75 hard this is a year-long program and phase three is super important because if you fail
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it you fail the entire year all right now live hard should be seen as a program that helps keep you
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sharp i've made a commitment to do the live hard program every single year because i know if i do
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the live hard program every single year i'm going to be operating at my maximum potential which i'm
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committed to do okay so this is a program that i intend on doing every year and i hope you do as well
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it's something that we can do and we can keep our game at the top we can keep getting better and keep
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pushing the limits now a couple notes that i want you guys to uh get around your head all right if you
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come to a point where you don't know what to do and you find yourself pondering a decision and that
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decision is a b c decision the answer is always going to be the hardest part okay whatever whatever path
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ends up being the hard one is the one you should take on this program this program is about getting
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you to develop the mental skills necessary to win in life consistently whenever you decide to win at
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life at anything okay you can't do that by taking the easy path you've done that your whole life anyway
00:34:07.180
it's time to get serious get your shit together and realize the only way you're going to ever become
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that person that you want to become is by picking the hardest path possible consistently
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especially in this program all right and here's the other thing a lot of people like to you know
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hem and haw and you know wonder if this counts or if that counts or does this count on the program
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or does that count on the program let me ask let me tell you something right now if you have to ask
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it doesn't count that's the rule okay so if you even have to ask if it counts it doesn't count
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so if you wanted to count i wouldn't ask i would just do what you know needs to be done
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okay now don't forget we have a number of tools that will help you with this program
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we have the 75 hard app uh it's an itunes store on android it's one of the top paid fitness apps it's
00:34:56.360
five bucks it'll track everything for you to help remind you to stay on track all right i think it's
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five bucks well spent um on instagram uh facebook use the hashtag 75 hard live hard hashtag 100 to
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zero those are hashtags i personally go through every single day that will help you stay connected
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to the community these people who are bettering themselves which is more important than ever in
00:35:20.660
today's world we have a situation where not everybody is bought into being better versions
00:35:24.880
of themselves by willing to put in the work all right it's becoming an endangered species but
00:35:29.460
for us those of you who are willing to put in the work in order to produce the result
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those hashtags are very valuable again 75 hard live hard and 100 to zero okay i love seeing the
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progress everyone is making and i love to interact and talk to you guys um and lastly uh there's the
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book okay there's the 75 hard book which basically covers the 75 hard uh the guts of it but why behind
00:35:54.680
it it's going to answer a lot of questions you know some people uh they don't do well blindly following
00:36:00.740
a set of rules without knowing why they actually have to do the set of rules now there's two schools of
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thought here first off you can do 75 hard for free without spending a dollar you can go listen to
00:36:12.600
the podcast it doesn't you're not required to buy anything and you can discover what this program is
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going to do for you or you can buy the book you can read the book and it'll tell you what it's going
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to do for you and then you can be amazed at how accurate it actually is all right so you get to choose
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which experience you want to have there is no right or wrong experience however most people who i've
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talked to enjoyed reading the book uh even after they did the program because they were surprised
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at how well it aligns with what they experience so the book can be found on my website andyfrusella.com
00:36:46.840
under the 75 hard tab in the shop as well so that's it guys so we have 75 hard and then we have live
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hard 75 hard is a part of live hard followed by phase one two and three each of which are 30 days
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and this entire program is one year and you should look at this program as an iron man for your brain
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people who complete this program are going to be stronger mentally they're going to be more
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disciplined they're going to have developed the skills of confidence grit self-belief fortitude
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endurance perseverance okay all of these things they look and see that other people have and can't figure
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out why they don't have it well the reason you don't have it is because you haven't cultivated it yet
00:37:30.220
people are not born with these skills they're not born with these quote-unquote gifts in fact
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they're not gifts they're skills all right so let's get to work
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told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living down spoke it till
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existed while i i'm from where you can't trust so welcome